March 3, 2020 • 49 mins
Eric and Roselyn have been watching Netflix hit, Love is Blind... and they do not see eye to eye. Would you marry someone you have never seen?
Roselyn: It’s about the mind.
Eric: Hell, no.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is he said, jo with Eric Winter and Rosalind
fantasm che No, don't say that woman, No, but that
sounds weird. You know, it's so weird. You know Mexican
(00:23):
people like do that, they say, and I don't know
what's weird to me? Why is that weird? You know?
Why did you feel like I'm being dominating? Yes, oh
you're my woman. It feels like I own you. But
that sounds like you had a personal issue with that.
Nothing to do with me owning you. The Lord knows that,
do not open you. I'm so glad you're clear about
(00:44):
that one. That is awesome. It's looking for trouble, looking
for trouble. So I have a question for you. I
discovered this um Netflix show and I saw clips of it.
I saw parts of it this morning, and I'm like,
you know what, that's a great topic for he said,
ajah on because you're so opinionated about everything. I want
(01:06):
to ask you, what do you ever get engaged Mary
a woman that you have never seen before? Hell no,
number one. Number two. I know you're talking about You're
talking about Love is Blind because it comes up on
the Netflix screen like they're pushing the hell out of
the show. It's a big hit for Netflix. You know,
Ni and Vanessa, they're hosting it. Yeah, they're hosting it.
(01:27):
They're really great. We like them all. They're good people. Know.
And I've seen a little bit about this show as well,
and just looking at a trailer because like I said,
it's on the Netflix screen every time I turn it on.
There is no way. I don't care what anybody says.
And I have this, I've had this debate with so
many people. No, you're not gonna marry someone you've never seen.
People say, looks don't matter, don't nonsense. Guy got engaged
(01:50):
after five A couple got engaged after five days just talking.
But then the way the show goes on and carries on,
my understanding is now they get to see how they
really do when they come together. And I guarantee you,
I don't care how in love you were with that
person behind closed doors. If that door opens and you're like,
I didn't see what you're missing their point you're missing.
(02:12):
You're missing if there's no attraction, they're not gonna make
you know. There's there's mind, there's intellectual attraction. That's the
whole point. And I telling you the physicality doesn't really
matter because everybody grows old and everybody it's about your
mind and your soul. My mindset has always been I
think looks matter to a degree. No, it's truth. Here's
(02:36):
the thing. I don't care what anybody says. They could
be like, oh my god, I fell in love with
the personality. Okay. Often when you see that happened, that
personality also came with a lot of money. So the
money is what helps that personality. That doesn't help the looks.
But you, I think personality matters incredibly in sustainability of
(02:56):
a relationship. So you have never been attracted to a
girl that after you meet her for months and you
became become friends and you guys, um, I spent some
time together gender and you know what I actually I
think even though you can make someone more attractive, but
they you will not. I don't believe someone's just attracted
(03:18):
to a personality. If you're not physically attracted to the
person to some degree, I don't think it's sustainable. I
don't think it's uh gonna work with you. Really, you
have to be physically attracted to something. You can't just
all be intellectual and and oh they're so smart to
make me laugh. I find them repulsive when I look
at them, but I really am willing to overlott. But
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that's the basics. That's a bottom line. You have to
have some sort of an attraction physically. I think everybody
that fell in love behind that screen, if they see
the person, they're like, oh, there's no way physically I'm
attracted to that person falls apart. Then the connection wasn't
The connection was real when you were lined, and then
the connection started dissipates when they see the person face
(04:04):
to face, like it won't. You won't build off of
the connection, is my point. So what happens is, you know,
I think number one, I think it's more of like
I think I'm right if you talk no, I think
if you talk to two females, if if you talk
to women, we might have a different perspective because I
think I believe that women have the capability of finding
somebody mentally attractive enough to be able to be like,
(04:26):
you know what, I can I can date that person
even though and that person is broke. I'm not talking
about money, no, I'm trying to find that. I'm talking
about a mental, a spiritual connection. I'm talking about money,
but I still think the person finds that the woman
would find that man somewhat physically attractive if the guy
has money. No, I'm saying if they don't have money
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and they do have this great emotional mental connection, I
believe there's also a physical connection. That is what's making
it be sustainable. I don't think they just there if
they are unattracted to the person and only emotionally and
mentally stimulated by them, but there's no physical attraction, there
has to be something else that compensates for that. Maybe
(05:09):
they're good in bed. Maybe would they let themselves get
in bed with somebody they're not physically attracted to. They
will for money if the person is spoiling them. And
I'm not saying that's only women. I think men do
that too. Men have sugar mama's and all that stuff
to Okay, so you meet a girl and then you
have a great connection with the girl, and then you
(05:32):
open the door and she is not repulsive, she's just
kind of cute. She's not really your type. But it's doable.
And there was the key word. There was the key word,
it's doable. If the person was doable, and I loved
their mind, and I got to know their personality. I'm like, okay,
there is a physical I have somewhat of a physical attraction.
(05:52):
Their personality made them even more attractive. Have you ever
dated somebody ugly? Well that's relative, right, Like it's people.
If I attractive, I don't. I don't consider anybody ugly.
It's like if I'm attracted, attracted, know if I'm attracted.
If I'm not attracted. I will tell you a true story.
This is really funny one time, and this is random,
super random. I don't know. I am going to be
annoying story. I am not gonna be annoying. When I
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was in high school, I was with a buddy and
we were like prank calling. But I was so stupid,
but we're prank calling people. And I prank called a
girl randomly, just like getting prank call girl andres like woo,
cute boys. And we played off this prank call for
a while, which turned into like a three hour phone
conversation with this girl. She was in high school at
(06:36):
another divond bar high school. I was at in high
school Las Autos, right neighboring high schools. We spoke for
like three hours. Hung up, knew nothing about each other,
actually agreed to call again, got in contact, had three
or four phone calls, like we were kind of into Yeah,
I ended up meeting her and she was cute and yeah,
(07:00):
but there was a so I kind of played this game,
this Netflix game. I kind of did it over a phone.
I mean, we didn't get married. I can you guys,
who wasn't even that cute? Cute enough? Like I said,
the personality made the doable even better? You know so basically,
but you're telling me you if if if a guy
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was not attractive to you at all, you know what,
You're attracted to all different levels of attractiveness physically, right,
you have zero physical attraction to somebody, but they stimulate
your mind, they make you laugh, and they are financially Okay,
you're cool. Yeah, there's no way you're marrying the person.
(07:48):
I'm not saying I'm going to marry the person, but
you're gonna have You're gonna sleep with it. You're not
physically attracted to them, well, but I'm I'm mindfully is
that correct? Mindfully attracted to them? My? Sure? Mindfully? What
if they're super smart and you look up to them?
Because when they open their mouth. They're very very smart.
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I do think no, So I do think that that
plays out in a case where somebody has some sort
of celebrity, right, and that celebrity maybe they're not the
most attractive person in the world, but they there's a
gravitas and this power within the female or male whatever
it is, right, and they're super intelligent and charismatic, and
you look up to them and you admire them, so
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you start to fall in love with that idea of
a person. It's not even about physical at that point.
It's about everything that they're giving off. And I think
at that point you could overlook the physical because you
fall in love with something else. But again, it's it's
a celebrity in a sense. I'm not saying in the
typical form of like, oh they're an actor or they're
a musician, but there is they could be a public speaker,
(08:51):
they could be whatever you're attracted to there or of
who they are and what they give off. And I
think that can be can be made, can override the
physicality and something. So the bottom line is you will
never marry somebody somebody that you haven't seen Mary getting crazy.
This is a gifick. This is the science. This is
a study. It is the scientific. It is a social experiment.
(09:12):
But it's the social experiment to see if people will
basically try and build a reality TV career and go
off and personalities. Funny because we like to watch people sitting.
It's test subjects. I have another question for you. Have
you ever dated a girl that says to you, I
am a virgin, I'm not going to have sex until
(09:33):
i'm married. Yes, and what, well, we didn't last very long.
We know, we went we actually did it for a
long Okay, we went on for a while. We went
on for a while, and then what do you do it?
You're just full around. But yeah, it's like you play
a little game with just the tip with the wedding crashers.
Oh my god, that's from that's from wedding crashers. Come on,
(09:57):
I didn't just make that. It's been fun. No one.
Wilson's a great movie. I don't care. It was just
the tip. But I think if the tip, if the
tip touches, the tip is going in, who can stop?
Who can be like? No, don't continue. You'd be surprised.
You'd be surprised. But no, I think you fool around
it that but that's that's people say that like, oh,
(10:18):
I'm a version, I want to do anything before marriage,
and generally that gets looped into or lumped into sex.
But they're doing everything else but sex, And what's every point?
It's like there's been sexually because that is how they
draw that line. I don't know enough people that have
been completely like have only kissed essentially before? I don't know,
(10:43):
But I mean if you're truly, you know, practicing, I
mean again, abstinence is not having sex, right, but then
if you're gonna break it down to oral sex or
other types of sex. And so the Bachelor has um
this girl that I think she's making it. She made
it to the top to the last four right, does
a deal? Her name is Madison the last three three
sorry and her name, and she is not having it
(11:04):
that he was intimate. I saw, yeah, I saw a
clips like I can't do this with you? With you?
She has a point. She went on The Bachelor first
of all, how many seasons has this damn show been
around that you don't know that that dude, he's a
guy and he has a bunch of the girls. Viye
for his love and they're all willing to go sleep
with him. Huh's on the I'm not saying she should
(11:25):
sleep with him. I'm saying that's good for her to
have her. But you're on the Bachelor, Like, what part
of her thought that this guy at this stage was
not going to be screwing around with other contestants. You've
seen the show? Do you think they all do? Do
you think every single Bachelor onel have us unless you
come out the gate and they say this bachelor is
a virgin and there, yeah, right, there was. So if
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he's that guy and you're gonna go on that episode
and that's what you're practicing as well, then perfect. And
I think any girl that's out there going I'm gonna
make sure this guy breaks on the Bachelor, that sucks.
I think any matter woman that wants to abstain before marriage,
more power toomb. I think that's wonderful. But I think
if you're show, you will not take a girl seriously.
If he tells you, um, I'm not gonna have sex, No,
(12:12):
I would unless you marry me. No, I would fully
respect that. I respect that choice. Interesting, Yeah, you wouldn't
respect that if a guy said that to you. What
that I don't want to have sex before marriage. No,
I'll be fine. Yeah, I'd be shocked, like, sweet, you're
right knowing me. I'll be like, that is perfect, Like
(12:36):
can you give it any year we get married, that'll
be great. Oh my god, that is too funny. Yeah. No,
I think it's a great thing. And I wish, you know,
I wish a lot of young kids today, especially as
having having two kids, I wish that would be in
practiced more. You know, I was like abstinence. Yeah, I
think as long as they can hold out. But it's
(12:56):
the way it is nowadays. You know, things are worth
eight and she's already talking about I'm going to marry
someone still from school. I'm going it's about your eight.
You can't tell me who I'm gonna mirr years I
will tell you who you're gonna marry. It's crazy, but no,
I just think when anytime you see I think this
is great reality TV TV when they spin this and
(13:17):
make it such a big topic that she can't believe
he was falling around with other people. Again, you've seen
the show. It's not episode one, season one of the Bachelor.
I don't you know what you're getting into. Um, let
me ask you something is I don't know if I'm
making this up. You make a lot of stuff. I
don't Maybe it was a dream. Is it? Is it
(13:38):
true that the Bachelor is going to do a version
of old people? Yeah, well that is true. That's what
they're working on right now. Yeah. No, I love that idea.
By the way, however, but what what is the eight
range like? Could you don't tell me forty to something?
Could you watch like some seven year olds going and throating,
throwing down in the year overnight really tells speaking funny?
(14:01):
It'll be so funny over six five, over sixty five.
You send your mom. I am going to send. I
will submit. When winter everybody knows, ABC will we're finding
you out. It will be fun for us. You get,
(14:26):
she gets to travel, meet some people, gonna work. It
is gonna work. I think it might work at first
because people are gonna be like, I gotta see how
this even plays out. But once they start getting intimate
and you're watching making out on the beach and rolling
around in bikinis, you don't think your father was getting
it on with his fiance and he's what are you saying? Names?
Beat that out? Old people do. But is that what
(14:52):
you want to watch on network television? Kind of story.
Funny story. So my parents, Um, as long as I
can remember, they don't sleep in the same bedroom. It's
really interesting, right, So they have separate bedrooms. So this
day and maybe ten years ago, I went to visit.
I wanted to put a requ my brother. I have
three brothers and the youngest one of the only girl.
(15:13):
My brother, one of my brothers says to me, Oh
my god, you're not gonna believe. Um. I came home
because I wanted my mom to make me some some lunch,
and I'm looking for them everywhere and I couldn't find them,
and that my dad was in my mom's bedroom and
the door was locked. We were like and we were
(15:34):
laughing about it because I would think that they haven't
had sex in sixty years. And so you're about to
watch that on national television. No, but it's not my parents.
It's fine. On the I love for your mom to
be dating somebody, be awesome. Ye, she's gonna I'm sure,
really fine, gentleman will join the show. They have grandkids.
(15:56):
They were entrepreneurs, you know, now they're there. There's the
second chapter in life. They want to find a beautiful
lady to spend the rest of the life with. It's beautiful.
Maybe the widows one does really well on the ratings
and then it starts to dip. They won't You know
how many old people are home watching TV and they're
gonna feel represented and he speaks to them. It's awesome, Okay,
(16:17):
it's gonna it's Chris's gonna be the host. No, somebody else,
Susan Summers, Susanne Summers, Jack and it Smith something. Yeah,
because they're beautiful and they're available. Because they're beautiful and
old and they're available. As what you're trying to say,
they'll be great at that. You know how our host
(16:41):
did ABC just call me. I'll have a I'll have
a super laugh. Well, here's the topic I want to
talk about because this I read this, and you know,
I'm a huge Shark Tank fan, huge in the irony
of a shark being taken by an email scam blows
my mind. As smart as these people are in business now,
(17:02):
it wasn't like she herself made the mistake, but she
got taken by a faulty or a false email chain.
Essentially a hacker that hacked in looped her assistant and
with an accountant, and she invested close to four hundred
thousand dollars into a renovation project that was all fake.
(17:23):
I know, how would you feel about that? Um, I'll
be so pissed you haven't. I feel like that was
what our whole house renovation was. Like, No, what are
you talking about the process of being taken? Nope, But
I just think this is in This is insane for
you have a heart attack. A heart attack. This just
(17:46):
brings me back to the point of when you tried
to make me get an apple and white roses off
of an email. How you thought that was somehow Okay?
What are you talking about? This is completely she got
taken by an email scam. I didn't get taken by
no email. You don't know, Emil. Some people did, and
I'm sure they received beautiful angels into the home. They
(18:07):
didn't because they left their door wide open. In our
first episode, we talked about the time when she got
an email chain from a friend of hers about getting
a white, white roses and a red apple and leaving
it out and leaving the doors wide open at midnight
so good spirits could come in because it was supposed
to be great for our homes, beautiful lagging candles. I said,
(18:29):
who gave you this information? She goes, it was an
email from from Clark. He forwarded it to me and
it was a giant email chain and everybody to do this.
And she kept calling me a dream popper because I
don't believe dream because I don't believes. But literally does
she know? It was a freaking chain email. But it
doesn't mean that it's a scam. What do you know
you're letting into your house? Oh my god, good spirits.
Have you ever been scammed? Scammed? Not knowingly? I mean,
(18:55):
have you scammed me and anything? But I'm plotting it. Listen,
I'm gonna tell the story. Oh my god, to this day,
I'm so mad. I was. This is many years ago
I have about my first UM Mercedes convertible. I thought
I was like it right, you still think, but by
(19:17):
then you imagine just a young girl single that buys
her first car. It was a big deal to me.
A week into it, boom, I have an accident. Now
I don't care about the car anymore. You know, when
once you get the first scratch, you're like, it's not
the same anymore. The love is gone, and it was
like that the right side, the front, right side was
all smashed. It was terrible. So I was like, I
(19:38):
don't want to spend the money, but I have to
fix it. So I am going to you know, Laura Canyon,
the post office that we go to a Laura Canyon
student city. I'll never forget. So I'm pulling in with
my Carl, looking all ugly, and these two kids, Latino kids,
funny enough, look at me. I go in their way
from me, I come outside and they said, you know what, um,
we can fix that. It's gonna be so expensive if
(19:59):
you go to the body show, especially if we go
to Mercedes. My father owns a body shop, but we
we know how to fix that. It's five cash and
and we'll leave it as Brandon's new I'm going, oh
my god, Okay, that's just this is what I always
tell you. What when when whenever you go for cheap,
you end up paying more? Right? So I was like, really, no,
I know, no problem. To make this story short, I
(20:20):
call her Man, my friend her Man. I said, her Man,
I have these two guys and they want to fix
my car. But I don't want to go and bring
into my house, because they're saying, just give me a
garage and we'll do it at the garage. We have
all the tools in our car. Whatever. So I said,
I'm gonna go to your place, do you mind? And
this guy's are following me like a lunatic. So they
followed me. I went to her man. Her Man comes
out and they start, didn't want the car. I'm banging
(20:42):
the car and making all these little holes. It was
three hours later. It looks it was like a sitcom.
It was worse than the way it was before. So
when I think, this doesn't that doesn't make any sense.
You know, it's late, we're starving. Can we finish tomorrow?
This is my number. Call on me and I'll come
back so we can finish. But they wanted the money.
(21:02):
I already. I went to the A T. M. And
I go, oh my god, I gave this fall. I
don't know. To this day, I'm like, I wish I
was at those I know I was young. Wow, I know,
I never You're lucky. You did nothing worse happen not
And then I remember calling the number the next day
and people that hello, yeah, it's it's ratherling. I'm calling
(21:25):
and they hang out with the phone. They actually gave
you a number that led to them. I know, but
I think and at some point the phone got disconnected
because I called for like three days. I had all
my friends calling. I'm gonna, I'm gonna get to them.
It was so sad. It was so sad. So I know, Barbara,
I know how it feels. You just have to move on.
Very similar feelings. I'm giving you an example. Oh my god,
(21:51):
we empathized with and it was I empathized to this day.
I think about those two little freaking the heat those
Oh my god, because looking, hey, you gotta forgive. Remember
we were at church last week and you had trouble
just forgiving the person that was in front of you.
Now you gotta forgive these guys. You can move on.
I haven't been able to forgive them. I need to
work on or the person that I was sitting in
front of you. Listen, we go to church last week.
(22:14):
Rosin is practicing all these New Year's Resolution things. Right
we get there, she's like, I really want to go
to church to day. There's a great message going on
that doing this amazing thing about dreams and and setting
you up for success in this new year. So she
rushed out. We get to church. We get there and
it says clear as day on the sign when you
walk in, no food or drink inside. Rosin walks in
(22:36):
with a full drink of juice and a protein box.
That pause, do you have do you have like a
little bell of something? Like I go, we need to
get a buzzer, like to Mario, listen to me. Did
we went to the promis Martin? Thank you so much.
It's my it's my turn. We went to the farmer's market.
I go to Jews. I had inside my purse, okay,
(22:57):
and the protein bar was inside my purson. Okay, didn't
go into the church. Nobody knows. I'm allowed. I can
have whatever I wanted. It says, do not bring food.
Do you honestly think that nobody there had a protein
bar or a gum or water inside the gum. But
I'm not. I'm not concerned about everybody else. I'm concerned
(23:17):
about my wife walking in with a food or drink.
Nobody had anything. Okay, cut to We sit down and
she puts her juice on the floor outside the purse
darkly it's not there. Then she takes out it's super quiet,
the speed the services going on. She takes out the
protein bar wrapper in here and I look at like
a ras, stop, they're gonna somebody's gonna hear you. That's fine,
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And this lady turns back and goes, ma'am, ma'am, you
cannot eat in here. It was zero to sixty offended.
You ever say that to me again? I ever say
it to me again? Watch what happens. I'm like, first
of all, we're in church. What's good? She wait, church
for telling you to the rules. Why don't you Why
(24:04):
don't you tell them that? So let's just say it
destroys annoying point because she was loud and rude on
a phase of ann And when ROS gets loud and rude,
she just speaks louder so that the person can like
possibly hear her, which of course she's gonna hear her,
because she's like, well, if the girl just stopped looking
at me, I'm like, well, you say it so that
(24:24):
the whole church knows what you're talking about. Stop being
so like chill it was about. But then the book, hello,
why don't you skip to the next part? So then
the ROS reaches and okay, the next part was you
reach back into your purse broke off the because you
couldn't put the protein bar back in the package. You
decided to turn your head towards me every time you
take a bite so that she may not see it.
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So you already know you're doing wrong because you're still
eating in the church but trying to turn away from
the girl. Then you try to gracefully get your glasses
out of the purse, it bumps the protein bar wrapper
and the lady looks and Rod goes, what, what is
there a problem? I didn't. I didn't. I did not
do that. I just looked at her. That's all I did.
You said to me, you could have a look at
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me one more time. I haven't looked at me more time.
Anything my face because I don't. I can't hide anything.
My face said, what's one more thing? And I'm going
to smack you? But I didn't say a church anyways.
I didn't say that. But then fast forward, fast forward,
the message becomes about forgiveness and moving on talking about that.
What happened afterwards? You're talking about that. I am sitting
(25:28):
down and what do I see? The little bit? Koa
a drink right a tea. She has a ta mug
which could be water inside. We don't know. That's that's
I don't care. It's no food to drink. And she
starts drinking from her tea and then die And what
does rosin do? Oh? You can drink? She can drink
(25:51):
super loud while a service is going on, like the
guy is speaking about for goodness, don't drink that. There's
ways and I understand it does say no food to
drink and listen. I was starving. That's what I made you.
We we got there late because I was so hungry.
I said, I need you to stop about the farmer's
markets so I can get out of the car rush
and get dis used. And then we go to church.
(26:12):
What if I'm diabetic? What what if I have a headache?
But she doesn't excuse me before in the middle of church,
you have the nerve to turn around with an attitude
and say, ma'am, you cannot drink over here. Why don't
you just take a beat and just be quiet? Are
you diabetic? No, don't say anything or just be quiet.
And then when we leave, said, you know a man,
(26:33):
can you do me a favor next time? Don't bring food?
Is not allowed. I don't be Oh my god, my apologies.
You're absolutely right because you speak like that with everybody.
I am very I'm very polite and I have good manners.
I will never just be in church even if I work.
They're saying, excuse me, you cannot eat here? Heck? Is that? Well?
Am I wrong? You didn't learn anything from the service
(26:53):
because you haven't forgiven. I didn't. My whole ed, but
it was about forgiving us and moving on. And I'll
get moving towards your dreams. I know. Sorry, Rick Warre,
and I think you're amazing and I will forgive just that.
I'm yeah, it bucked me. Take a break here. So
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this coronavirus, Eric, what do you feel? Really good? Transition
after a commercial break? So this thing killing everyone? I know,
let's talk about that. It's no, it really is. What
are we going to do because we have a lot
of traveling coming up? What what do we do? I
feel like I'm just canceled. Just read about the first
case that was in I think San Francisco. The first
case that was that nobody knew was here, and she
(27:46):
had had been carrying the virus for at least a
few days before being detected because the symptoms didn't meet
the CDC standards, so no one assumed she had coronavirus.
That's the first person that actually just came here, was
here and got and had it, versus being flown in
and put in quarantine. I think there was one other
ladies she came from. Where Where Where did she get it?
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She doesn't know. I don't think they. I don't think
she had traveled. I don't think she actually had traveled.
She just had the virus, so she got it from
being exposed to somebody. I guess, you know. I was
talking to carl a front of mine, um. That is,
she's a doctor, and she was telling me that the
issue is she said, you know, kids and and we's
not a problem. It's it's mainly it's elders and babies.
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Elders that already have a weak immuse immune system. Those
are the ones that it's very danger young kids because
the thing is young kids are exposed to viruses over
and over and over. It's something with vaccines, so they
have they build up a tolerance and immunity to it
that they can fight. Their body can feel. The symptoms
are like a flu, but there's no flu vact there's
(28:48):
no They don't know if tama flu works. They don't
know if anything can be given to the body to
help aid in the battle against it. So when you're
little and you don't have any very very many antibodies,
you don't you can't fight the fight as strongly as somebody.
But what are we gonna do about all these traveling
that we have coming up? Well, I learned something else
about which freaks me because I was thinking, oh, we
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could just wear a mask. And then I went to
the doctor for something else the other day and I said, Hey,
I'm going to visit my dad. He's actually in the
hospital and I go see him for something. Can I
get a mask? And I thought about just viruses in general,
and we start talking about coronavirus, and he said, well,
these masks don't really help. None of the coronavirus is
so small unless you're wearing one of these professional masks
that you see them using when they come onto a
plane where everything is sealed off, and it's quite uncomfortable
(29:31):
and massive. All these masks people are wearing, the virus
just goes in every little crack, So you would have
to be suction to your face, so the virus couldn't
get in through any side opening or else. The mask
does absolutely nothing. You're gonna still get it if it's
in realm of you know, in reach of being exposed to.
What are we gonna do with all the traveling, especially
(29:52):
with the kids because we have an upcoming a trip
planned that they're both coming. I think these are one
of these a part of the world that it's actually unfortunately, yeah,
but that's not really We're not going over seized that far.
But I don't think you can do much other than
live your life and try to stay you know, typical,
(30:13):
wash your hands, stay clean, you know, avoid being around
people that are sick. And you can't go into hiding,
not yet, not until you're you know, you're in a
city where you get put into quarantine, then you have
no choice, like in Italy cases, and they've been shutting
down schools, shutting down public transportation, a lot of that.
I think one thing about being in l A. Is
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it's not a big public transportation type of a city,
so you're you're not thrown into these big crowds readily,
you know, I a little bit. I wasn't even thinking
about it, and then this morning, because we have we
have to travel, I'm going is it smart to do that?
Especially with the kids? And it is this you know,
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At the beginning, to be honest, I thought it was
a lot of racial profiling, you know what I mean.
It was like, we are so concern about this thing
in China, And then I was I was like, is
this for real? That even economic base right, like the
government hyping something up to shut down and break the
Chinese economy, And now it's for real. So yeah, it's
(31:15):
like one. You know, if we have any doctors that
are listening to the podcast that have knowledge on this,
I would love you to write us and give us advice.
I think we could read it to everyone else. I
think it's it's something that we're all just sort of
fishing through trying to get information, whether it's from the newspaper,
watching the news, but anybody who's uh, in these regular conversations,
I would love to know. It's almost like we're it's
(31:36):
not like a movie, you know, like I would break,
you know, like we it's those times right now. Yeah,
it's it's. Bill Gates predicted that what are you talking about?
A documentary on Netflix? And he predicted that a virus
was going to wipe out a big chunk of the
world's population at some point. Yeah, I have to find
the clip. But yeah, he said that. He said, we're
(31:57):
not going to be ready to fight the virus. And
it's like this, like they're scrambling to find a vaccine
and it takes a minimum my guests, of like six
months to get a vaccine. Oh my god, it's crazy.
So that's why you know, this is a complete side step.
But this is why this is a huge side step
you're going to talk about. This is why I don't
(32:18):
but I can't even tie this head naturally. Why are
you gonna say, stop giving an archie lunch meating? Okay,
coronavirus bias. They're causing him to crap everywhere. I agreed
to adopt this dog, and this is again, this is
a weird transition for coronavirus. But I want to get
off the topic. But seriously, he's got an obsessed stomach.
(32:41):
You're giving him things that he shouldn't be eating, which
is how the coronavirus started, by the way, eating things
that probably I'm not giving him a bat guys. Anyways, pause,
where's the buzzer. I did my own buzzer. There you go.
Let me tell you something, guys, let me tell you something.
So you don't know a dogs stop. I had a
(33:04):
dog Mota the last or twenty years and user last
at nineteen. For a whole year, I cooked for these
dogs ground beef. Let me finish ground beef, broccoli. You know.
I had two different menus to enter its one with chicken,
one with ground beef. Every single cook for your family.
No I don't. I cook for my dogs, not for
my family. I don't even get food like that. No,
you don't anyways. So I was given them human food,
(33:29):
like people food, because it was good for their liver
and their kid. But it was I did. Yeah, when
you go to Whole Foods and you get the most
basic turkey breast with no nitrogens and blah blah blah blah,
so I'm actually given them nitrates whatever, giving them clean
pieces of whoa whoa whoa lunch meat are not clean
pieces of meat when you give it to your child
(33:50):
every single freaking day. So what we're talking about the well,
but you were like, so our chicken have it, But
he's talking about My point is with arch, Yes, My
point is, stopped giving him people food. You're like sitting
on the floor. You like, I worry about the kids eating,
and you're on the floor trying to force feed a dog.
(34:11):
Going here. If I just put in there, I sit
Archie still trying to eat when he wants to eat,
and don't give him people food. Okay, we're trying to
figure out, at least I'm trying to figure out, um,
who Archie is. You know, this dog is a rescue,
He's been through a lot. He doesn't need to be
eating people food that has nothing I'm not giving him.
Personality has nothing to do with people food. So if
(34:33):
I want to sit down, I'm being nice to my
dog because I noticed that he didn't eat in the
morning and it's been twelve day, twelve hours of not eating.
And if I want to sit next to Archie as Archie,
come over here, let me help you eat. What is
the big dogs? Some dogs don't eat two meals a day.
That's a fact we don't know. Well, that's what we're
finding out. Some dogs are grazers. Some dogs will eat
(34:53):
just one nice There's a company called food Just for Dogs, right,
which is just just just for dogs for dogs food anyway,
So they're phenomenal. It's basically home cooked meals. They cook
it right in front of you. They have turkey, have pasta.
They okay, So I give them that, just food for dogs.
I've been doing it forever. That's why I do that,
(35:15):
and I'm good with that. And then don't go buy
to but if I want to, because it makes it
more tasty and they like it eating in front of him.
But he eat something, then he has diarrhea all over
the house. I don't think it's because of but we
don't know right because I'm not trying. But anyway, it's
not that big of a deal if I wanted diarrhea
(35:36):
all over the house. It's not all over the house.
What are you talking about? Where was he yesterday outside?
And then where was the other one outside? The other
one outside by the dining room table, okay, one that
was dripped over a couple of different spots. No, it's
not all over the house. Oh my god, Archie, can
you tell this dude to adopt Archie? And then now
(35:59):
we're arguing about not giving the people food. I'm going
to talk to the vet. If the vet says it's no,
you have at Yeah, but you're not talking to the vet.
And it's been a month because I have given my
dogs home cooked meals a lot. Lunch meat is not
a home cooked meal. I'm gonna buy some turkey. I'm
gonna cook the turkey. That's gonna make you feel better.
You already bought food for dogs and it's got turkey
(36:21):
in it, but they don't gravitate to it as much
as me, and you start catering to them and then
it becomes that much more challenging just to feed the
dog in the morning. Eric, do you know that Jessica
from Love is Blind, your favorite show, was spotted. I
guess there's a picture of her given wine to her dog.
You're complaining about a little piece of turkey drinking companion
(36:45):
and you're fine with that. Not fine with it. I'm joking, Jessica.
I think he wants to day even though he's never
seen you. I have never seen her. It sounds like
a wild woman. Um no, that's crazy. What are you
doing giving a dog wine? That's ridiculous. You know you
probably do it if it helped the dog eat, no help,
But this is a true story, so you know. Um
Manta was my last apsode I have for twenty years.
(37:06):
Mota um. When I used travel, if I had to
travel to do a movie or whatever, Nino, one of
my good friends, Nino will take care of of Mota
right pet sit her or Clark. One is my makeup
artist and another one is a dear friend of mine.
Um and they will not a friend. One the makeup artist,
not my friend. The other one's a good dear friend
of like. It's also friends like like like their family
(37:29):
to me, so that one I would I would trust
them with my life. They love dogs. But they both
smoke weed, and it was the funniest thing. I would
be like in Germany shooting. And then Nina will send
me a picture of Monta because she's at the apartment
with him. I guess he's smoking weed and she will
get all high and she will send me a picture
of Mota Mota's eyes like in peking Like she was like,
oh hi, it was the funniest thing everout. So they
(37:49):
it does affect the maybe give them drunk. And the
weirdest part about that entire story is Mota's name. Mota
is slang for weed in some Spanish, like this, okay,
this is a true story. Mota in Puerto Rico Mota,
and there's even books about um. A little white dog
or Mota. Mota in Puerto Rico is like a powder puff.
It's like what you used for makeup, like a white
(38:11):
powder puff. So when I got mother, she was a
white less apps and mother looked like a powder puff.
I'm going, oh, my gosh, she looks like a Mota.
And her name is Mota. Like seven months later, she's
still a puppy. I am. I used to live in
Beechwood Canyon, so I'm taking her for a little hike
and I'm with Marta and I can said Mata Mota.
And this old man that looked like a hippie, like
a homeless I don't know who he was, comes over
(38:31):
and said, do you have some Mota? And I was
excuse me, a mota mota. I'm going to excuse me.
And I know Monta, my my, my little dog, Mota.
And he starts laughing. He goes, no, mota, monta weed
and I'm like, no, no, no, sir, no, no, I
don't no. I'm so sorry. I don't know what you're
talking about. And then they explain to me. In Mexico,
mota is what we call motto, a little motto. It
is like a little like sabried So everybody, for no,
(38:55):
I didn't I name it after a powder puff. You
want to take a break because we have some else
that we are going to answer. Then we'll come back. Okay.
So first email is from Terry and it goes like this,
(39:17):
My husband and I are getting married in June. When
you get married, so many people tell me that when
you get married, it is totally different and everything changes
total Gambia. But what changes? But okay, Gambia, los do?
We both want kids and we want to have them.
Now I'm twenty two. I'm going to be thirty three
in August and my husband is thirty four. So what
(39:39):
changes are I'm gonna be thirty three in August. Now
said is thirty two, but she's turning thirty three in
August and her husband is thirty four? Eric Winter, what changes?
When you say I do everything? Really? No, I think, um, look,
(40:00):
I don't think much changes. I think you just have to.
They're thirty two, thirty three. I mean they're in that
age of where kids are sounding to be pretty good.
But I always tell friends that ask my opinion. I
don't try to pose my opinion on them. But it's like,
if you get married, try to enjoy being married for
a little bit, you know, enjoy a year or two
of just you time and even though maybe you've been
together for a long time, it's now official and it's
(40:21):
your life partner. You know, ideally, enjoy being married a
bit because once kids come into the mix, that's when
it really changes. That's when it becomes all about those
little beans and often so much less about the couple.
And that's when I think people can get in trouble. Yeah,
I don't. I don't think things change. Um, when you
say I do, I think. I think things change when
(40:43):
you have when you add to Maybe some people feel
a sense of pressure when they say I do, Like
there's I have. I have friends that have been together
twenty something years and just don't want to get married
because they're like, everything's great. Why why fix it? If
it's not broke, but it can continue being great, it
doesn't have to. Maybe there was a pressure that it
comes with it that once you make it legally binding,
even though it kind of becomes legally binding anyways, when
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you're twenty something years into something exactly. It's the same thing. Yeah,
I don't. I say, go for it, get married, don't
worry about the changes. So you advise enjoy marriage. You're
advising them to just at least for two years or
one year, just try whatever whatever they can afford to
do before they feel the you know, time crunch of
having having babies. Enjoy each other. Okay, So that's the
(41:26):
otherwise you're gonna be scheduling time to enjoy each other
and that's a lot of fun. But she's she's gonna
be thirty three years, thirty four, and you know my advice,
don't don't start trying to have kids after a thirty five.
So if you can do it at thirty five, just
do it. Okay. So next day from Dina, I love
your podcast. I would like you to talk about how
it was meeting both families for the first time. When
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Eric brought a Puerto Rican girl to his dad and
his mom and when Rosan brought a green go to
her Puerto Rican family, must have been hilarious. I'm Puerto
Rican and my family is super loud, but we always
have a great time when my American friends here to
hear hear them talking to me, they think we are fighting.
What happens that even happens with Sabella so utimes we're
just talking, even though you know Latino, we're talking things
(42:08):
that we're having an art because we talked very loud
because you think you're Latino. That's the thing with I
think with my family, there was zero shock that I
brought a Latina home because I grew up in La
Puente and I dated all Mexican girls my whole life
pretty much. How it maybe I had like one white
(42:29):
girl I dated in night school, maybe two, and then
my first wife was white, which was she was from
Thousand Oaks, and I remember going there and I was like,
I felt uncomfortable. I was like, oh my god, there's
no diversity here. This is so weird. This is coming
from the whitest person in the world and white on
the outside and brown on the inside. I guess because
I was so confused I was there, it was like
surfer skater and I was like, what is going on?
(42:50):
I mean, there was a lot of that where I
grew up too, But needless to say, I don't think
my family was that surprised. They you know, they're like, awesome,
You're happy or in love. Was your family super? Is
that you h very family? My family was over the moon.
They were very happy. That's nice because of my my
(43:11):
my mom, that's all you wished for. She wanted me
to marry blonde with blue eyes and tall and wide
like like a kin like you are like a Kendle.
You are like a dream coming true. I think my
mom will do come into my life. My father could
care less. My father doesn't care. My father just wants
me to be happy. And remember he hugged me. You
(43:33):
always said, she always get wording me. Oh, my dad's
gonna have this talk with you. He's always had this
talk with every guy we've ever dated. And get ready
for that talk. And I remember he came in town.
They came in town for the holidays, and we were
with them, and that is very drunk, good three weeks
or something, and we laughed, we all joked around, and
then when it came down to take him to the airport,
I got him out of the car and he gave
me a big hug and just said take care of her.
(43:54):
I said, okay. I was like, I think I got this,
and she was like, he just hugged you. He doesn't
hug I Aboudy. I was very shocked. He loves you,
my father and things are great, so I think that Yeah,
there was a lot. Yeah, my my my family was
very happy. My family was. I asked for everybody's permission.
I asked for your brother's permission to marry you. As
for here, Yeah, I asked for everybody, three older brothers
and dad. I got clearance from everybody, and everybody was
(44:16):
on board. Um, so it was pretty smooth on our side,
I mean outside of our family's meeting. I think seeing
a bunch of loud Puerto Ricans was funny. We've talked
about that, like with brandas and all those sorts of things,
like there is a difference. But I also have a
big family that's very loud too. I have a large No,
it's a different kind of loud. Yeah, yeah, it's different.
(44:36):
So it wasn't. Yeah, we didn't have that. It was great.
It was good. It was They were very happy. And
then from Kim just wanted to talk a debate dilemma
your way. My husband and I have been together for
ten years. We went to college together and have always
been open about career aspirations and supporting each other through
that I became a teacher and he just finished met school.
He's now applying for residency positions across the country. Prior
(44:57):
to getting married with the Cuss plans, and I said
I will move with him for his residency. The dilemma
now is whether or not it would be fair for
me to change my mind about moving. What do you
think you want to answer? First? I mean, Kim, you
(45:17):
you made this agreement that you would move. I don't
I don't think there's backing out of that. I think
he's been in med school and uh, he's got to
go find a giant but a lot of years of
schooling in and he's got to go find a job
as a doctor, and you agreed to do that. So
I think pulling out of that decision now really complicates things.
(45:39):
You have the right to do it, but I get
his position if he has an issue with that, because
he did everything knowing he had your blessing and that
this was going to go that you were going to
be supportive of that of that shift. My brother, my
oldest brother, Carlos Ivan, we call him pet which is
funny Peto in Mexico. I think is Willie Peo. My
(46:02):
oldest brother is a doctor because every time people his
name is Dack. I no, no anyway. So Peto Carlos
Carlosio scientist UM. He um lived in lived in Puerto Rico,
and he met his wife in Puerto Rico. She was
a nurse, he was a doctor. UM. They're both still
(46:25):
that um. And he got a great position at a
veteran's hospital in El Passo, Texas. And they went through
this because she was like, I don't know if I
want to leave my family, and she's very family oriented
to go to a Passo, Texas, which is really far
away from Puerto Rico. And at the end of the day,
she was like, you know what, he's a red winner
(46:46):
of the family and he's my husband, and if whatever
it's good for the family and whatever makes him happy,
I guess I'm just gonna go on and I'm going
to build a new life in a Passo, Texas. And
they did, and they are thriving and they're doing incredible.
She missus parto incredible. They both do. But in this case,
I think that you do what's best for the union
and for the family unless you have an incredible position
(47:09):
and you're like, you know, you're asking me to leave
my career, and you're missing the point of her question.
She already said that she would move with him. She
agreed because but you also have the right to change
your mind. Eric thinks can change No, I know, but
you can understand why he would not be pumped about that.
I understand his point of view, but he also needs
to understand what I mean. He needs to sit down
with Kim and tell her what what what? What's what's
(47:32):
exactly going on? Why? Why are you changing your mind?
Give me three very solid logical reasons, and then we
can have a conversation that. By the way, why are
we talking like that when we're having a dispute. That
was perfect because that's how it goes. I'm great. Yeah,
I'm great. I give an advices of me. I'm gonna
when it come we have a dispute, I'm gonna say, Okay, Ron,
(47:52):
give me three reasons. It's great. Oh, I'll come up
with the three I think. I don't want to talk
about most like I'm going to be I don't want
to talk about it. I have just leave me a
little Kim. Listen, if it is a great job opportunity,
and if you have no kids, and can you find
it in your heart to just support your husband and
then and and and do what And if it doesn't
(48:14):
work and you're very unhappy, you can always go back
to where you came from, you know, but I always
break them. I'm joking now anyway, So that's our advice,
because we're so good, give you advice. Yeah, Kim, you
know what to do. You got this still, follow your husband, Kim,
you know what to do to keep it simple? Oh
(48:37):
my god. Anyways, what else? Eric, you have any funny?
I feel good and you board with yourself. Kim's issue
and I feel good. End on a high note. Kim,
can you write us back at um Eric and Ross
at I heeart radio dot com. Kim, can you give me?
Can you rather three reasons, the valid logical reasons why
(48:58):
you want to stay and we can talk about that
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fantasm che No, don't say that woman, No, but that
sounds weird. You know, it's so weird. You know Mexican
(00:23):
people like do that, they say, and I don't know
what's weird to me? Why is that weird? You know?
Why did you feel like I'm being dominating? Yes, oh
you're my woman. It feels like I own you. But
that sounds like you had a personal issue with that.
Nothing to do with me owning you. The Lord knows that,
do not open you. I'm so glad you're clear about
(00:44):
that one. That is awesome. It's looking for trouble, looking
for trouble. So I have a question for you. I
discovered this um Netflix show and I saw clips of it.
I saw parts of it this morning, and I'm like,
you know what, that's a great topic for he said,
ajah on because you're so opinionated about everything. I want
(01:06):
to ask you, what do you ever get engaged Mary
a woman that you have never seen before? Hell no,
number one. Number two. I know you're talking about You're
talking about Love is Blind because it comes up on
the Netflix screen like they're pushing the hell out of
the show. It's a big hit for Netflix. You know,
Ni and Vanessa, they're hosting it. Yeah, they're hosting it.
(01:27):
They're really great. We like them all. They're good people. Know.
And I've seen a little bit about this show as well,
and just looking at a trailer because like I said,
it's on the Netflix screen every time I turn it on.
There is no way. I don't care what anybody says.
And I have this, I've had this debate with so
many people. No, you're not gonna marry someone you've never seen.
People say, looks don't matter, don't nonsense. Guy got engaged
(01:50):
after five A couple got engaged after five days just talking.
But then the way the show goes on and carries on,
my understanding is now they get to see how they
really do when they come together. And I guarantee you,
I don't care how in love you were with that
person behind closed doors. If that door opens and you're like,
I didn't see what you're missing their point you're missing.
(02:12):
You're missing if there's no attraction, they're not gonna make
you know. There's there's mind, there's intellectual attraction. That's the
whole point. And I telling you the physicality doesn't really
matter because everybody grows old and everybody it's about your
mind and your soul. My mindset has always been I
think looks matter to a degree. No, it's truth. Here's
(02:36):
the thing. I don't care what anybody says. They could
be like, oh my god, I fell in love with
the personality. Okay. Often when you see that happened, that
personality also came with a lot of money. So the
money is what helps that personality. That doesn't help the looks.
But you, I think personality matters incredibly in sustainability of
(02:56):
a relationship. So you have never been attracted to a
girl that after you meet her for months and you
became become friends and you guys, um, I spent some
time together gender and you know what I actually I
think even though you can make someone more attractive, but
they you will not. I don't believe someone's just attracted
(03:18):
to a personality. If you're not physically attracted to the
person to some degree, I don't think it's sustainable. I
don't think it's uh gonna work with you. Really, you
have to be physically attracted to something. You can't just
all be intellectual and and oh they're so smart to
make me laugh. I find them repulsive when I look
at them, but I really am willing to overlott. But
(03:42):
that's the basics. That's a bottom line. You have to
have some sort of an attraction physically. I think everybody
that fell in love behind that screen, if they see
the person, they're like, oh, there's no way physically I'm
attracted to that person falls apart. Then the connection wasn't
The connection was real when you were lined, and then
the connection started dissipates when they see the person face
(04:04):
to face, like it won't. You won't build off of
the connection, is my point. So what happens is, you know,
I think number one, I think it's more of like
I think I'm right if you talk no, I think
if you talk to two females, if if you talk
to women, we might have a different perspective because I
think I believe that women have the capability of finding
somebody mentally attractive enough to be able to be like,
(04:26):
you know what, I can I can date that person
even though and that person is broke. I'm not talking
about money, no, I'm trying to find that. I'm talking
about a mental, a spiritual connection. I'm talking about money,
but I still think the person finds that the woman
would find that man somewhat physically attractive if the guy
has money. No, I'm saying if they don't have money
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and they do have this great emotional mental connection, I
believe there's also a physical connection. That is what's making
it be sustainable. I don't think they just there if
they are unattracted to the person and only emotionally and
mentally stimulated by them, but there's no physical attraction, there
has to be something else that compensates for that. Maybe
(05:09):
they're good in bed. Maybe would they let themselves get
in bed with somebody they're not physically attracted to. They
will for money if the person is spoiling them. And
I'm not saying that's only women. I think men do
that too. Men have sugar mama's and all that stuff
to Okay, so you meet a girl and then you
have a great connection with the girl, and then you
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open the door and she is not repulsive, she's just
kind of cute. She's not really your type. But it's doable.
And there was the key word. There was the key word,
it's doable. If the person was doable, and I loved
their mind, and I got to know their personality. I'm like, okay,
there is a physical I have somewhat of a physical attraction.
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Their personality made them even more attractive. Have you ever
dated somebody ugly? Well that's relative, right, Like it's people.
If I attractive, I don't. I don't consider anybody ugly.
It's like if I'm attracted, attracted, know if I'm attracted.
If I'm not attracted. I will tell you a true story.
This is really funny one time, and this is random,
super random. I don't know. I am going to be
annoying story. I am not gonna be annoying. When I
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was in high school, I was with a buddy and
we were like prank calling. But I was so stupid,
but we're prank calling people. And I prank called a
girl randomly, just like getting prank call girl andres like woo,
cute boys. And we played off this prank call for
a while, which turned into like a three hour phone
conversation with this girl. She was in high school at
(06:36):
another divond bar high school. I was at in high
school Las Autos, right neighboring high schools. We spoke for
like three hours. Hung up, knew nothing about each other,
actually agreed to call again, got in contact, had three
or four phone calls, like we were kind of into Yeah,
I ended up meeting her and she was cute and yeah,
(07:00):
but there was a so I kind of played this game,
this Netflix game. I kind of did it over a phone.
I mean, we didn't get married. I can you guys,
who wasn't even that cute? Cute enough? Like I said,
the personality made the doable even better? You know so basically,
but you're telling me you if if if a guy
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was not attractive to you at all, you know what,
You're attracted to all different levels of attractiveness physically, right,
you have zero physical attraction to somebody, but they stimulate
your mind, they make you laugh, and they are financially Okay,
you're cool. Yeah, there's no way you're marrying the person.
(07:48):
I'm not saying I'm going to marry the person, but
you're gonna have You're gonna sleep with it. You're not
physically attracted to them, well, but I'm I'm mindfully is
that correct? Mindfully attracted to them? My? Sure? Mindfully? What
if they're super smart and you look up to them?
Because when they open their mouth. They're very very smart.
(08:08):
I do think no, So I do think that that
plays out in a case where somebody has some sort
of celebrity, right, and that celebrity maybe they're not the
most attractive person in the world, but they there's a
gravitas and this power within the female or male whatever
it is, right, and they're super intelligent and charismatic, and
you look up to them and you admire them, so
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you start to fall in love with that idea of
a person. It's not even about physical at that point.
It's about everything that they're giving off. And I think
at that point you could overlook the physical because you
fall in love with something else. But again, it's it's
a celebrity in a sense. I'm not saying in the
typical form of like, oh they're an actor or they're
a musician, but there is they could be a public speaker,
(08:51):
they could be whatever you're attracted to there or of
who they are and what they give off. And I
think that can be can be made, can override the
physicality and something. So the bottom line is you will
never marry somebody somebody that you haven't seen Mary getting crazy.
This is a gifick. This is the science. This is
a study. It is the scientific. It is a social experiment.
(09:12):
But it's the social experiment to see if people will
basically try and build a reality TV career and go
off and personalities. Funny because we like to watch people sitting.
It's test subjects. I have another question for you. Have
you ever dated a girl that says to you, I
am a virgin, I'm not going to have sex until
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i'm married. Yes, and what, well, we didn't last very long.
We know, we went we actually did it for a
long Okay, we went on for a while. We went
on for a while, and then what do you do it?
You're just full around. But yeah, it's like you play
a little game with just the tip with the wedding crashers.
Oh my god, that's from that's from wedding crashers. Come on,
(09:57):
I didn't just make that. It's been fun. No one.
Wilson's a great movie. I don't care. It was just
the tip. But I think if the tip, if the
tip touches, the tip is going in, who can stop?
Who can be like? No, don't continue. You'd be surprised.
You'd be surprised. But no, I think you fool around
it that but that's that's people say that like, oh,
(10:18):
I'm a version, I want to do anything before marriage,
and generally that gets looped into or lumped into sex.
But they're doing everything else but sex, And what's every point?
It's like there's been sexually because that is how they
draw that line. I don't know enough people that have
been completely like have only kissed essentially before? I don't know,
(10:43):
But I mean if you're truly, you know, practicing, I
mean again, abstinence is not having sex, right, but then
if you're gonna break it down to oral sex or
other types of sex. And so the Bachelor has um
this girl that I think she's making it. She made
it to the top to the last four right, does
a deal? Her name is Madison the last three three
sorry and her name, and she is not having it
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that he was intimate. I saw, yeah, I saw a
clips like I can't do this with you? With you?
She has a point. She went on The Bachelor first
of all, how many seasons has this damn show been
around that you don't know that that dude, he's a
guy and he has a bunch of the girls. Viye
for his love and they're all willing to go sleep
with him. Huh's on the I'm not saying she should
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sleep with him. I'm saying that's good for her to
have her. But you're on the Bachelor, Like, what part
of her thought that this guy at this stage was
not going to be screwing around with other contestants. You've
seen the show? Do you think they all do? Do
you think every single Bachelor onel have us unless you
come out the gate and they say this bachelor is
a virgin and there, yeah, right, there was. So if
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he's that guy and you're gonna go on that episode
and that's what you're practicing as well, then perfect. And
I think any girl that's out there going I'm gonna
make sure this guy breaks on the Bachelor, that sucks.
I think any matter woman that wants to abstain before marriage,
more power toomb. I think that's wonderful. But I think
if you're show, you will not take a girl seriously.
If he tells you, um, I'm not gonna have sex, No,
(12:12):
I would unless you marry me. No, I would fully
respect that. I respect that choice. Interesting, Yeah, you wouldn't
respect that if a guy said that to you. What
that I don't want to have sex before marriage. No,
I'll be fine. Yeah, I'd be shocked, like, sweet, you're
right knowing me. I'll be like, that is perfect, Like
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can you give it any year we get married, that'll
be great. Oh my god, that is too funny. Yeah. No,
I think it's a great thing. And I wish, you know,
I wish a lot of young kids today, especially as
having having two kids, I wish that would be in
practiced more. You know, I was like abstinence. Yeah, I
think as long as they can hold out. But it's
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the way it is nowadays. You know, things are worth
eight and she's already talking about I'm going to marry
someone still from school. I'm going it's about your eight.
You can't tell me who I'm gonna mirr years I
will tell you who you're gonna marry. It's crazy, but no,
I just think when anytime you see I think this
is great reality TV TV when they spin this and
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make it such a big topic that she can't believe
he was falling around with other people. Again, you've seen
the show. It's not episode one, season one of the Bachelor.
I don't you know what you're getting into. Um, let
me ask you something is I don't know if I'm
making this up. You make a lot of stuff. I
don't Maybe it was a dream. Is it? Is it
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true that the Bachelor is going to do a version
of old people? Yeah, well that is true. That's what
they're working on right now. Yeah. No, I love that idea.
By the way, however, but what what is the eight
range like? Could you don't tell me forty to something?
Could you watch like some seven year olds going and throating,
throwing down in the year overnight really tells speaking funny?
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It'll be so funny over six five, over sixty five.
You send your mom. I am going to send. I
will submit. When winter everybody knows, ABC will we're finding
you out. It will be fun for us. You get,
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she gets to travel, meet some people, gonna work. It
is gonna work. I think it might work at first
because people are gonna be like, I gotta see how
this even plays out. But once they start getting intimate
and you're watching making out on the beach and rolling
around in bikinis, you don't think your father was getting
it on with his fiance and he's what are you saying? Names?
Beat that out? Old people do. But is that what
(14:52):
you want to watch on network television? Kind of story.
Funny story. So my parents, Um, as long as I
can remember, they don't sleep in the same bedroom. It's
really interesting, right, So they have separate bedrooms. So this
day and maybe ten years ago, I went to visit.
I wanted to put a requ my brother. I have
three brothers and the youngest one of the only girl.
(15:13):
My brother, one of my brothers says to me, Oh
my god, you're not gonna believe. Um. I came home
because I wanted my mom to make me some some lunch,
and I'm looking for them everywhere and I couldn't find them,
and that my dad was in my mom's bedroom and
the door was locked. We were like and we were
(15:34):
laughing about it because I would think that they haven't
had sex in sixty years. And so you're about to
watch that on national television. No, but it's not my parents.
It's fine. On the I love for your mom to
be dating somebody, be awesome. Ye, she's gonna I'm sure,
really fine, gentleman will join the show. They have grandkids.
(15:56):
They were entrepreneurs, you know, now they're there. There's the
second chapter in life. They want to find a beautiful
lady to spend the rest of the life with. It's beautiful.
Maybe the widows one does really well on the ratings
and then it starts to dip. They won't You know
how many old people are home watching TV and they're
gonna feel represented and he speaks to them. It's awesome, Okay,
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it's gonna it's Chris's gonna be the host. No, somebody else,
Susan Summers, Susanne Summers, Jack and it Smith something. Yeah,
because they're beautiful and they're available. Because they're beautiful and
old and they're available. As what you're trying to say,
they'll be great at that. You know how our host
(16:41):
did ABC just call me. I'll have a I'll have
a super laugh. Well, here's the topic I want to
talk about because this I read this, and you know,
I'm a huge Shark Tank fan, huge in the irony
of a shark being taken by an email scam blows
my mind. As smart as these people are in business now,
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it wasn't like she herself made the mistake, but she
got taken by a faulty or a false email chain.
Essentially a hacker that hacked in looped her assistant and
with an accountant, and she invested close to four hundred
thousand dollars into a renovation project that was all fake.
(17:23):
I know, how would you feel about that? Um, I'll
be so pissed you haven't. I feel like that was
what our whole house renovation was. Like, No, what are
you talking about the process of being taken? Nope, But
I just think this is in This is insane for
you have a heart attack. A heart attack. This just
(17:46):
brings me back to the point of when you tried
to make me get an apple and white roses off
of an email. How you thought that was somehow Okay?
What are you talking about? This is completely she got
taken by an email scam. I didn't get taken by
no email. You don't know, Emil. Some people did, and
I'm sure they received beautiful angels into the home. They
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didn't because they left their door wide open. In our
first episode, we talked about the time when she got
an email chain from a friend of hers about getting
a white, white roses and a red apple and leaving
it out and leaving the doors wide open at midnight
so good spirits could come in because it was supposed
to be great for our homes, beautiful lagging candles. I said,
(18:29):
who gave you this information? She goes, it was an
email from from Clark. He forwarded it to me and
it was a giant email chain and everybody to do this.
And she kept calling me a dream popper because I
don't believe dream because I don't believes. But literally does
she know? It was a freaking chain email. But it
doesn't mean that it's a scam. What do you know
you're letting into your house? Oh my god, good spirits.
Have you ever been scammed? Scammed? Not knowingly? I mean,
(18:55):
have you scammed me and anything? But I'm plotting it. Listen,
I'm gonna tell the story. Oh my god, to this day,
I'm so mad. I was. This is many years ago
I have about my first UM Mercedes convertible. I thought
I was like it right, you still think, but by
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then you imagine just a young girl single that buys
her first car. It was a big deal to me.
A week into it, boom, I have an accident. Now
I don't care about the car anymore. You know, when
once you get the first scratch, you're like, it's not
the same anymore. The love is gone, and it was
like that the right side, the front, right side was
all smashed. It was terrible. So I was like, I
(19:38):
don't want to spend the money, but I have to
fix it. So I am going to you know, Laura Canyon,
the post office that we go to a Laura Canyon
student city. I'll never forget. So I'm pulling in with
my Carl, looking all ugly, and these two kids, Latino kids,
funny enough, look at me. I go in their way
from me, I come outside and they said, you know what, um,
we can fix that. It's gonna be so expensive if
(19:59):
you go to the body show, especially if we go
to Mercedes. My father owns a body shop, but we
we know how to fix that. It's five cash and
and we'll leave it as Brandon's new I'm going, oh
my god, Okay, that's just this is what I always
tell you. What when when whenever you go for cheap,
you end up paying more? Right? So I was like, really, no,
I know, no problem. To make this story short, I
(20:20):
call her Man, my friend her Man. I said, her Man,
I have these two guys and they want to fix
my car. But I don't want to go and bring
into my house, because they're saying, just give me a
garage and we'll do it at the garage. We have
all the tools in our car. Whatever. So I said,
I'm gonna go to your place, do you mind? And
this guy's are following me like a lunatic. So they
followed me. I went to her man. Her Man comes
out and they start, didn't want the car. I'm banging
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the car and making all these little holes. It was
three hours later. It looks it was like a sitcom.
It was worse than the way it was before. So
when I think, this doesn't that doesn't make any sense.
You know, it's late, we're starving. Can we finish tomorrow?
This is my number. Call on me and I'll come
back so we can finish. But they wanted the money.
(21:02):
I already. I went to the A T. M. And
I go, oh my god, I gave this fall. I
don't know. To this day, I'm like, I wish I
was at those I know I was young. Wow, I know,
I never You're lucky. You did nothing worse happen not
And then I remember calling the number the next day
and people that hello, yeah, it's it's ratherling. I'm calling
(21:25):
and they hang out with the phone. They actually gave
you a number that led to them. I know, but
I think and at some point the phone got disconnected
because I called for like three days. I had all
my friends calling. I'm gonna, I'm gonna get to them.
It was so sad. It was so sad. So I know, Barbara,
I know how it feels. You just have to move on.
Very similar feelings. I'm giving you an example. Oh my god,
(21:51):
we empathized with and it was I empathized to this day.
I think about those two little freaking the heat those
Oh my god, because looking, hey, you gotta forgive. Remember
we were at church last week and you had trouble
just forgiving the person that was in front of you.
Now you gotta forgive these guys. You can move on.
I haven't been able to forgive them. I need to
work on or the person that I was sitting in
front of you. Listen, we go to church last week.
(22:14):
Rosin is practicing all these New Year's Resolution things. Right
we get there, she's like, I really want to go
to church to day. There's a great message going on
that doing this amazing thing about dreams and and setting
you up for success in this new year. So she
rushed out. We get to church. We get there and
it says clear as day on the sign when you
walk in, no food or drink inside. Rosin walks in
(22:36):
with a full drink of juice and a protein box.
That pause, do you have do you have like a
little bell of something? Like I go, we need to
get a buzzer, like to Mario, listen to me. Did
we went to the promis Martin? Thank you so much.
It's my it's my turn. We went to the farmer's market.
I go to Jews. I had inside my purse, okay,
(22:57):
and the protein bar was inside my purson. Okay, didn't
go into the church. Nobody knows. I'm allowed. I can
have whatever I wanted. It says, do not bring food.
Do you honestly think that nobody there had a protein
bar or a gum or water inside the gum. But
I'm not. I'm not concerned about everybody else. I'm concerned
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about my wife walking in with a food or drink.
Nobody had anything. Okay, cut to We sit down and
she puts her juice on the floor outside the purse
darkly it's not there. Then she takes out it's super quiet,
the speed the services going on. She takes out the
protein bar wrapper in here and I look at like
a ras, stop, they're gonna somebody's gonna hear you. That's fine,
(23:42):
And this lady turns back and goes, ma'am, ma'am, you
cannot eat in here. It was zero to sixty offended.
You ever say that to me again? I ever say
it to me again? Watch what happens. I'm like, first
of all, we're in church. What's good? She wait, church
for telling you to the rules. Why don't you Why
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don't you tell them that? So let's just say it
destroys annoying point because she was loud and rude on
a phase of ann And when ROS gets loud and rude,
she just speaks louder so that the person can like
possibly hear her, which of course she's gonna hear her,
because she's like, well, if the girl just stopped looking
at me, I'm like, well, you say it so that
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the whole church knows what you're talking about. Stop being
so like chill it was about. But then the book, hello,
why don't you skip to the next part? So then
the ROS reaches and okay, the next part was you
reach back into your purse broke off the because you
couldn't put the protein bar back in the package. You
decided to turn your head towards me every time you
take a bite so that she may not see it.
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So you already know you're doing wrong because you're still
eating in the church but trying to turn away from
the girl. Then you try to gracefully get your glasses
out of the purse, it bumps the protein bar wrapper
and the lady looks and Rod goes, what, what is
there a problem? I didn't. I didn't. I did not
do that. I just looked at her. That's all I did.
You said to me, you could have a look at
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me one more time. I haven't looked at me more time.
Anything my face because I don't. I can't hide anything.
My face said, what's one more thing? And I'm going
to smack you? But I didn't say a church anyways.
I didn't say that. But then fast forward, fast forward,
the message becomes about forgiveness and moving on talking about that.
What happened afterwards? You're talking about that. I am sitting
(25:28):
down and what do I see? The little bit? Koa
a drink right a tea. She has a ta mug
which could be water inside. We don't know. That's that's
I don't care. It's no food to drink. And she
starts drinking from her tea and then die And what
does rosin do? Oh? You can drink? She can drink
(25:51):
super loud while a service is going on, like the
guy is speaking about for goodness, don't drink that. There's
ways and I understand it does say no food to
drink and listen. I was starving. That's what I made you.
We we got there late because I was so hungry.
I said, I need you to stop about the farmer's
markets so I can get out of the car rush
and get dis used. And then we go to church.
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What if I'm diabetic? What what if I have a headache?
But she doesn't excuse me before in the middle of church,
you have the nerve to turn around with an attitude
and say, ma'am, you cannot drink over here. Why don't
you just take a beat and just be quiet? Are
you diabetic? No, don't say anything or just be quiet.
And then when we leave, said, you know a man,
(26:33):
can you do me a favor next time? Don't bring food?
Is not allowed. I don't be Oh my god, my apologies.
You're absolutely right because you speak like that with everybody.
I am very I'm very polite and I have good manners.
I will never just be in church even if I work.
They're saying, excuse me, you cannot eat here? Heck? Is that? Well?
Am I wrong? You didn't learn anything from the service
(26:53):
because you haven't forgiven. I didn't. My whole ed, but
it was about forgiving us and moving on. And I'll
get moving towards your dreams. I know. Sorry, Rick Warre,
and I think you're amazing and I will forgive just that.
I'm yeah, it bucked me. Take a break here. So
(27:23):
this coronavirus, Eric, what do you feel? Really good? Transition
after a commercial break? So this thing killing everyone? I know,
let's talk about that. It's no, it really is. What
are we going to do because we have a lot
of traveling coming up? What what do we do? I
feel like I'm just canceled. Just read about the first
case that was in I think San Francisco. The first
case that was that nobody knew was here, and she
(27:46):
had had been carrying the virus for at least a
few days before being detected because the symptoms didn't meet
the CDC standards, so no one assumed she had coronavirus.
That's the first person that actually just came here, was
here and got and had it, versus being flown in
and put in quarantine. I think there was one other
ladies she came from. Where Where Where did she get it?
(28:07):
She doesn't know. I don't think they. I don't think
she had traveled. I don't think she actually had traveled.
She just had the virus, so she got it from
being exposed to somebody. I guess, you know. I was
talking to carl a front of mine, um. That is,
she's a doctor, and she was telling me that the
issue is she said, you know, kids and and we's
not a problem. It's it's mainly it's elders and babies.
(28:28):
Elders that already have a weak immuse immune system. Those
are the ones that it's very danger young kids because
the thing is young kids are exposed to viruses over
and over and over. It's something with vaccines, so they
have they build up a tolerance and immunity to it
that they can fight. Their body can feel. The symptoms
are like a flu, but there's no flu vact there's
(28:48):
no They don't know if tama flu works. They don't
know if anything can be given to the body to
help aid in the battle against it. So when you're
little and you don't have any very very many antibodies,
you don't you can't fight the fight as strongly as somebody.
But what are we gonna do about all these traveling
that we have coming up? Well, I learned something else
about which freaks me because I was thinking, oh, we
(29:10):
could just wear a mask. And then I went to
the doctor for something else the other day and I said, Hey,
I'm going to visit my dad. He's actually in the
hospital and I go see him for something. Can I
get a mask? And I thought about just viruses in general,
and we start talking about coronavirus, and he said, well,
these masks don't really help. None of the coronavirus is
so small unless you're wearing one of these professional masks
that you see them using when they come onto a
plane where everything is sealed off, and it's quite uncomfortable
(29:31):
and massive. All these masks people are wearing, the virus
just goes in every little crack, So you would have
to be suction to your face, so the virus couldn't
get in through any side opening or else. The mask
does absolutely nothing. You're gonna still get it if it's
in realm of you know, in reach of being exposed to.
What are we gonna do with all the traveling, especially
(29:52):
with the kids because we have an upcoming a trip
planned that they're both coming. I think these are one
of these a part of the world that it's actually unfortunately, yeah,
but that's not really We're not going over seized that far.
But I don't think you can do much other than
live your life and try to stay you know, typical,
(30:13):
wash your hands, stay clean, you know, avoid being around
people that are sick. And you can't go into hiding,
not yet, not until you're you know, you're in a
city where you get put into quarantine, then you have
no choice, like in Italy cases, and they've been shutting
down schools, shutting down public transportation, a lot of that.
I think one thing about being in l A. Is
(30:34):
it's not a big public transportation type of a city,
so you're you're not thrown into these big crowds readily,
you know, I a little bit. I wasn't even thinking
about it, and then this morning, because we have we
have to travel, I'm going is it smart to do that?
Especially with the kids? And it is this you know,
(30:54):
At the beginning, to be honest, I thought it was
a lot of racial profiling, you know what I mean.
It was like, we are so concern about this thing
in China, And then I was I was like, is
this for real? That even economic base right, like the
government hyping something up to shut down and break the
Chinese economy, And now it's for real. So yeah, it's
(31:15):
like one. You know, if we have any doctors that
are listening to the podcast that have knowledge on this,
I would love you to write us and give us advice.
I think we could read it to everyone else. I
think it's it's something that we're all just sort of
fishing through trying to get information, whether it's from the newspaper,
watching the news, but anybody who's uh, in these regular conversations,
I would love to know. It's almost like we're it's
(31:36):
not like a movie, you know, like I would break,
you know, like we it's those times right now. Yeah,
it's it's. Bill Gates predicted that what are you talking about?
A documentary on Netflix? And he predicted that a virus
was going to wipe out a big chunk of the
world's population at some point. Yeah, I have to find
the clip. But yeah, he said that. He said, we're
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not going to be ready to fight the virus. And
it's like this, like they're scrambling to find a vaccine
and it takes a minimum my guests, of like six
months to get a vaccine. Oh my god, it's crazy.
So that's why you know, this is a complete side step.
But this is why this is a huge side step
you're going to talk about. This is why I don't
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but I can't even tie this head naturally. Why are
you gonna say, stop giving an archie lunch meating? Okay,
coronavirus bias. They're causing him to crap everywhere. I agreed
to adopt this dog, and this is again, this is
a weird transition for coronavirus. But I want to get
off the topic. But seriously, he's got an obsessed stomach.
(32:41):
You're giving him things that he shouldn't be eating, which
is how the coronavirus started, by the way, eating things
that probably I'm not giving him a bat guys. Anyways, pause,
where's the buzzer. I did my own buzzer. There you go.
Let me tell you something, guys, let me tell you something.
So you don't know a dogs stop. I had a
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dog Mota the last or twenty years and user last
at nineteen. For a whole year, I cooked for these
dogs ground beef. Let me finish ground beef, broccoli. You know.
I had two different menus to enter its one with chicken,
one with ground beef. Every single cook for your family.
No I don't. I cook for my dogs, not for
my family. I don't even get food like that. No,
you don't anyways. So I was given them human food,
(33:29):
like people food, because it was good for their liver
and their kid. But it was I did. Yeah, when
you go to Whole Foods and you get the most
basic turkey breast with no nitrogens and blah blah blah blah,
so I'm actually given them nitrates whatever, giving them clean
pieces of whoa whoa whoa lunch meat are not clean
pieces of meat when you give it to your child
(33:50):
every single freaking day. So what we're talking about the well,
but you were like, so our chicken have it, But
he's talking about My point is with arch, Yes, My
point is, stopped giving him people food. You're like sitting
on the floor. You like, I worry about the kids eating,
and you're on the floor trying to force feed a dog.
(34:11):
Going here. If I just put in there, I sit
Archie still trying to eat when he wants to eat,
and don't give him people food. Okay, we're trying to
figure out, at least I'm trying to figure out, um,
who Archie is. You know, this dog is a rescue,
He's been through a lot. He doesn't need to be
eating people food that has nothing I'm not giving him.
Personality has nothing to do with people food. So if
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I want to sit down, I'm being nice to my
dog because I noticed that he didn't eat in the
morning and it's been twelve day, twelve hours of not eating.
And if I want to sit next to Archie as Archie,
come over here, let me help you eat. What is
the big dogs? Some dogs don't eat two meals a day.
That's a fact we don't know. Well, that's what we're
finding out. Some dogs are grazers. Some dogs will eat
(34:53):
just one nice There's a company called food Just for Dogs, right,
which is just just just for dogs for dogs food anyway,
So they're phenomenal. It's basically home cooked meals. They cook
it right in front of you. They have turkey, have pasta.
They okay, So I give them that, just food for dogs.
I've been doing it forever. That's why I do that,
(35:15):
and I'm good with that. And then don't go buy
to but if I want to, because it makes it
more tasty and they like it eating in front of him.
But he eat something, then he has diarrhea all over
the house. I don't think it's because of but we
don't know right because I'm not trying. But anyway, it's
not that big of a deal if I wanted diarrhea
(35:36):
all over the house. It's not all over the house.
What are you talking about? Where was he yesterday outside?
And then where was the other one outside? The other
one outside by the dining room table, okay, one that
was dripped over a couple of different spots. No, it's
not all over the house. Oh my god, Archie, can
you tell this dude to adopt Archie? And then now
(35:59):
we're arguing about not giving the people food. I'm going
to talk to the vet. If the vet says it's no,
you have at Yeah, but you're not talking to the vet.
And it's been a month because I have given my
dogs home cooked meals a lot. Lunch meat is not
a home cooked meal. I'm gonna buy some turkey. I'm
gonna cook the turkey. That's gonna make you feel better.
You already bought food for dogs and it's got turkey
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in it, but they don't gravitate to it as much
as me, and you start catering to them and then
it becomes that much more challenging just to feed the
dog in the morning. Eric, do you know that Jessica
from Love is Blind, your favorite show, was spotted. I
guess there's a picture of her given wine to her dog.
You're complaining about a little piece of turkey drinking companion
(36:45):
and you're fine with that. Not fine with it. I'm joking, Jessica.
I think he wants to day even though he's never
seen you. I have never seen her. It sounds like
a wild woman. Um no, that's crazy. What are you
doing giving a dog wine? That's ridiculous. You know you
probably do it if it helped the dog eat, no help,
But this is a true story, so you know. Um
Manta was my last apsode I have for twenty years.
(37:06):
Mota um. When I used travel, if I had to
travel to do a movie or whatever, Nino, one of
my good friends, Nino will take care of of Mota
right pet sit her or Clark. One is my makeup
artist and another one is a dear friend of mine.
Um and they will not a friend. One the makeup artist,
not my friend. The other one's a good dear friend
of like. It's also friends like like like their family
(37:29):
to me, so that one I would I would trust
them with my life. They love dogs. But they both
smoke weed, and it was the funniest thing. I would
be like in Germany shooting. And then Nina will send
me a picture of Monta because she's at the apartment
with him. I guess he's smoking weed and she will
get all high and she will send me a picture
of Mota Mota's eyes like in peking Like she was like,
oh hi, it was the funniest thing everout. So they
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it does affect the maybe give them drunk. And the
weirdest part about that entire story is Mota's name. Mota
is slang for weed in some Spanish, like this, okay,
this is a true story. Mota in Puerto Rico Mota,
and there's even books about um. A little white dog
or Mota. Mota in Puerto Rico is like a powder puff.
It's like what you used for makeup, like a white
(38:11):
powder puff. So when I got mother, she was a
white less apps and mother looked like a powder puff.
I'm going, oh, my gosh, she looks like a Mota.
And her name is Mota. Like seven months later, she's
still a puppy. I am. I used to live in
Beechwood Canyon, so I'm taking her for a little hike
and I'm with Marta and I can said Mata Mota.
And this old man that looked like a hippie, like
a homeless I don't know who he was, comes over
(38:31):
and said, do you have some Mota? And I was
excuse me, a mota mota. I'm going to excuse me.
And I know Monta, my my, my little dog, Mota.
And he starts laughing. He goes, no, mota, monta weed
and I'm like, no, no, no, sir, no, no, I
don't no. I'm so sorry. I don't know what you're
talking about. And then they explain to me. In Mexico,
mota is what we call motto, a little motto. It
is like a little like sabried So everybody, for no,
(38:55):
I didn't I name it after a powder puff. You
want to take a break because we have some else
that we are going to answer. Then we'll come back. Okay.
So first email is from Terry and it goes like this,
(39:17):
My husband and I are getting married in June. When
you get married, so many people tell me that when
you get married, it is totally different and everything changes
total Gambia. But what changes? But okay, Gambia, los do?
We both want kids and we want to have them.
Now I'm twenty two. I'm going to be thirty three
in August and my husband is thirty four. So what
(39:39):
changes are I'm gonna be thirty three in August. Now
said is thirty two, but she's turning thirty three in
August and her husband is thirty four? Eric Winter, what changes?
When you say I do everything? Really? No, I think, um, look,
(40:00):
I don't think much changes. I think you just have to.
They're thirty two, thirty three. I mean they're in that
age of where kids are sounding to be pretty good.
But I always tell friends that ask my opinion. I
don't try to pose my opinion on them. But it's like,
if you get married, try to enjoy being married for
a little bit, you know, enjoy a year or two
of just you time and even though maybe you've been
together for a long time, it's now official and it's
(40:21):
your life partner. You know, ideally, enjoy being married a
bit because once kids come into the mix, that's when
it really changes. That's when it becomes all about those
little beans and often so much less about the couple.
And that's when I think people can get in trouble. Yeah,
I don't. I don't think things change. Um, when you
say I do, I think. I think things change when
(40:43):
you have when you add to Maybe some people feel
a sense of pressure when they say I do, Like
there's I have. I have friends that have been together
twenty something years and just don't want to get married
because they're like, everything's great. Why why fix it? If
it's not broke, but it can continue being great, it
doesn't have to. Maybe there was a pressure that it
comes with it that once you make it legally binding,
even though it kind of becomes legally binding anyways, when
(41:04):
you're twenty something years into something exactly. It's the same thing. Yeah,
I don't. I say, go for it, get married, don't
worry about the changes. So you advise enjoy marriage. You're
advising them to just at least for two years or
one year, just try whatever whatever they can afford to
do before they feel the you know, time crunch of
having having babies. Enjoy each other. Okay, So that's the
(41:26):
otherwise you're gonna be scheduling time to enjoy each other
and that's a lot of fun. But she's she's gonna
be thirty three years, thirty four, and you know my advice,
don't don't start trying to have kids after a thirty five.
So if you can do it at thirty five, just
do it. Okay. So next day from Dina, I love
your podcast. I would like you to talk about how
it was meeting both families for the first time. When
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Eric brought a Puerto Rican girl to his dad and
his mom and when Rosan brought a green go to
her Puerto Rican family, must have been hilarious. I'm Puerto
Rican and my family is super loud, but we always
have a great time when my American friends here to
hear hear them talking to me, they think we are fighting.
What happens that even happens with Sabella so utimes we're
just talking, even though you know Latino, we're talking things
(42:08):
that we're having an art because we talked very loud
because you think you're Latino. That's the thing with I
think with my family, there was zero shock that I
brought a Latina home because I grew up in La
Puente and I dated all Mexican girls my whole life
pretty much. How it maybe I had like one white
(42:29):
girl I dated in night school, maybe two, and then
my first wife was white, which was she was from
Thousand Oaks, and I remember going there and I was like,
I felt uncomfortable. I was like, oh my god, there's
no diversity here. This is so weird. This is coming
from the whitest person in the world and white on
the outside and brown on the inside. I guess because
I was so confused I was there, it was like
surfer skater and I was like, what is going on?
(42:50):
I mean, there was a lot of that where I
grew up too, But needless to say, I don't think
my family was that surprised. They you know, they're like, awesome,
You're happy or in love. Was your family super? Is
that you h very family? My family was over the moon.
They were very happy. That's nice because of my my
(43:11):
my mom, that's all you wished for. She wanted me
to marry blonde with blue eyes and tall and wide
like like a kin like you are like a Kendle.
You are like a dream coming true. I think my
mom will do come into my life. My father could
care less. My father doesn't care. My father just wants
me to be happy. And remember he hugged me. You
(43:33):
always said, she always get wording me. Oh, my dad's
gonna have this talk with you. He's always had this
talk with every guy we've ever dated. And get ready
for that talk. And I remember he came in town.
They came in town for the holidays, and we were
with them, and that is very drunk, good three weeks
or something, and we laughed, we all joked around, and
then when it came down to take him to the airport,
I got him out of the car and he gave
me a big hug and just said take care of her.
(43:54):
I said, okay. I was like, I think I got this,
and she was like, he just hugged you. He doesn't
hug I Aboudy. I was very shocked. He loves you,
my father and things are great, so I think that Yeah,
there was a lot. Yeah, my my my family was
very happy. My family was. I asked for everybody's permission.
I asked for your brother's permission to marry you. As
for here, Yeah, I asked for everybody, three older brothers
and dad. I got clearance from everybody, and everybody was
(44:16):
on board. Um, so it was pretty smooth on our side,
I mean outside of our family's meeting. I think seeing
a bunch of loud Puerto Ricans was funny. We've talked
about that, like with brandas and all those sorts of things,
like there is a difference. But I also have a
big family that's very loud too. I have a large No,
it's a different kind of loud. Yeah, yeah, it's different.
(44:36):
So it wasn't. Yeah, we didn't have that. It was great.
It was good. It was They were very happy. And
then from Kim just wanted to talk a debate dilemma
your way. My husband and I have been together for
ten years. We went to college together and have always
been open about career aspirations and supporting each other through
that I became a teacher and he just finished met school.
He's now applying for residency positions across the country. Prior
(44:57):
to getting married with the Cuss plans, and I said
I will move with him for his residency. The dilemma
now is whether or not it would be fair for
me to change my mind about moving. What do you
think you want to answer? First? I mean, Kim, you
(45:17):
you made this agreement that you would move. I don't
I don't think there's backing out of that. I think
he's been in med school and uh, he's got to
go find a giant but a lot of years of
schooling in and he's got to go find a job
as a doctor, and you agreed to do that. So
I think pulling out of that decision now really complicates things.
(45:39):
You have the right to do it, but I get
his position if he has an issue with that, because
he did everything knowing he had your blessing and that
this was going to go that you were going to
be supportive of that of that shift. My brother, my
oldest brother, Carlos Ivan, we call him pet which is
funny Peto in Mexico. I think is Willie Peo. My
(46:02):
oldest brother is a doctor because every time people his
name is Dack. I no, no anyway. So Peto Carlos
Carlosio scientist UM. He um lived in lived in Puerto Rico,
and he met his wife in Puerto Rico. She was
a nurse, he was a doctor. UM. They're both still
(46:25):
that um. And he got a great position at a
veteran's hospital in El Passo, Texas. And they went through
this because she was like, I don't know if I
want to leave my family, and she's very family oriented
to go to a Passo, Texas, which is really far
away from Puerto Rico. And at the end of the day,
she was like, you know what, he's a red winner
(46:46):
of the family and he's my husband, and if whatever
it's good for the family and whatever makes him happy,
I guess I'm just gonna go on and I'm going
to build a new life in a Passo, Texas. And
they did, and they are thriving and they're doing incredible.
She missus parto incredible. They both do. But in this case,
I think that you do what's best for the union
and for the family unless you have an incredible position
(47:09):
and you're like, you know, you're asking me to leave
my career, and you're missing the point of her question.
She already said that she would move with him. She
agreed because but you also have the right to change
your mind. Eric thinks can change No, I know, but
you can understand why he would not be pumped about that.
I understand his point of view, but he also needs
to understand what I mean. He needs to sit down
with Kim and tell her what what what? What's what's
(47:32):
exactly going on? Why? Why are you changing your mind?
Give me three very solid logical reasons, and then we
can have a conversation that. By the way, why are
we talking like that when we're having a dispute. That
was perfect because that's how it goes. I'm great. Yeah,
I'm great. I give an advices of me. I'm gonna
when it come we have a dispute, I'm gonna say, Okay, Ron,
(47:52):
give me three reasons. It's great. Oh, I'll come up
with the three I think. I don't want to talk
about most like I'm going to be I don't want
to talk about it. I have just leave me a
little Kim. Listen, if it is a great job opportunity,
and if you have no kids, and can you find
it in your heart to just support your husband and
then and and and do what And if it doesn't
(48:14):
work and you're very unhappy, you can always go back
to where you came from, you know, but I always
break them. I'm joking now anyway, So that's our advice,
because we're so good, give you advice. Yeah, Kim, you
know what to do. You got this still, follow your husband, Kim,
you know what to do to keep it simple? Oh
(48:37):
my god. Anyways, what else? Eric, you have any funny?
I feel good and you board with yourself. Kim's issue
and I feel good. End on a high note. Kim,
can you write us back at um Eric and Ross
at I heeart radio dot com. Kim, can you give me?
Can you rather three reasons, the valid logical reasons why
(48:58):
you want to stay and we can talk about that
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