December 1, 2019 • 38 mins
Eric and Roselyn discuss parenting roles.
There are definitely times when Eric insists on his Mr. Mom persona.
Because Eric is Type A and overly organized, the other moms like to schedule play dates and parties with him. How does Roselyn feel about this?
Plus, it's a debate as old as time...the mattress! She laid down in the first bed, but it was too hard. He laid down in the second bed, but it was too soft. How do you agree on a bed that is... just right.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is he said with Eric Winter and Rosalind Fantas.
Welcome back, Welcome back. Now when I've been in Mexico,
I know if we are Mexico, are working so hard
on the beaches of Puerto Vayana. It is so difficult.
(00:21):
I am working hard, Eric, except me, I have long
days on the beach. I'm still shooting and working, and
I'm taking care of two kids. I mean, I have help,
but still want to And you wanted to be a daddy,
do mob being a daddy? But then don't call me
going Oh, I'm so busy, I'm so tired, I'm exhausted.
There are two different types of work in this world.
There is work work, which I get it, we all
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do it, and then there are raising kids work that
is another level of work. And I have so much
appreciation for people who are stay at home moms or dads.
Are you a Mr Mom? Hell? Yeah, where all my
Mr mom's at? Where are they're out in the yard,
(01:02):
up in the yard. Oh my god, No, you are
a Mr Mom? You know. I tell people to listen.
I tell people all the time that, yeah, Eric is
such a good daddy that he believes that he delivered
my kids like you in your mind and your delusion,
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and you think that that you actually think you did
take white in push him. I did catch them, I
did help them out, both kids. I'm very hands on
and I'm very proud of being Mr Mom. It's amazing.
And I missed you guys like crazy, and we miss
you too. But there's something that happens when a spouse
comes back from being out of town, and it's stick.
You're happy to see them, of course, but you know,
(01:43):
it's one thing raising kids, but it's another thing raising
kids with someone else because you have somebody else's all
the different opinions and things that come in with what
do we do about the kid for dinner? Wanted to
be I don't want you to go home. I don't
want to be a single dad. I'm just saying welcome back.
But my routine has been shattered for the kid. Yeah,
because rust and his routine comes in and it's so
(02:04):
much more difficult. Not why because mine so regimented in
like bad bamn, kids do this? Kids do that. Everybody's listening.
I got this ready that righty, and then come in.
It's kind of like because you're too much, you're very
square everything is like one plus one is too textbook.
The book says that if they have a cold and
they're getting sick, they need to get one point millimeters
(02:25):
of let me call the doctor. I'm like, like, wait,
my mama said, if I just go get this powder
and this little take it from my yard down, I
put it on the jar and shake it around with
something like in the morning, and I mix it with
some guy yane. And then the kids are like, what say,
you must see the hat hours and it cures everything,
like something as simple as listen, I'm gonna do an announcement.
You know, vis bappa d vapor rub vix. Heures everything
(02:50):
but vix. And then that you said that the vis
on the little feet, you put socks on, you put
a little vis bappa up in the little chest. They
breathe that. And we all wonder about this point because
it has been proven that all it does is dilate,
like the nasal passage, make you breathe good for like
a moment, and then everything constricts even tighter. It makes
it hard to breathe again. You're making that up. Vis
(03:13):
babba doo. Nobody knows what that is. See what they
had as vapor rub. That sounds like you're saying, and
it was, Mr Mom, So how was it this week?
I'm going to leave again, by the way, By the way,
I came for Lesdon twenty five hours. I just came,
um and I have to go back for another week
(03:34):
because you're a good mom. So it's it's great that
you're you know, you were able to do that, come
see the kids for a little bit, and you have
some other stuff to to also take care of, putting
together a baby shower for a friend. So that's all good.
But you listen, it was It's always eventful, but it
was smooth sailing. It was great. Kids were listening to me.
Everything in super great. There were no tangions, no one
throwing fit, no one trying to pin mom against dad.
(03:57):
So you were saying that I woke in on his
chaos kind of. They were happy to see me, by
the way they are. They were, But then I called
them on FaceTime at all times and my my daughter
gets all piste off, which was like, yeah, Mom, I'm
going you're not happy to see me, And she's like, wow,
I'm going savvy, I miss you, I miss This is
what intense that happens. I want to hear. I mean,
(04:17):
I please, I hope our listeners right us, because I
want to hear what some of the mr mom's out
there have to say about taking care of the household.
And then mom comes back in, spouse comes in, or
partner whoever comes in and changes everything you've worked to
put together. It ain't easy because when you get things
into a good working order, the other person's opinion. Somebody's
just gotta stay quiet because too many opinions make it complicated.
(04:39):
That's the problem. I'm never gonna stay quiet, So what
are you going to do about it? That is true?
He was like the other day we talked about making
food for the kids, and I was like, all right,
let's just have this, this, this, And then you threw
a curveball and like, Sabella's having pasta for the fourth
night in the row, and I'm like, why pasta again?
You got to change it up? Okay, ladies, ladies, I
cooked Sabella. I'm wonderful. Um right, pasta set in the
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microwave because it was already cooked. Can you stop. I'm
not talking about that. I cooked her at a wonderful
You know what. Kids have issues sometimes with eating um
meat because she's a little finicky. I wish he wouldn't,
but Eric wants her to eat some chicken. So I
cooked the chicken in very little pieces and I mixed
it with the spaghetti so it becomes like the flavor
of the spaghetti sauce. And she doesn't complain that she's
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actually eating chicken. So I did that. I was very
proud of it. She loved it. I had a little
bit of leftovers for Dylan for his play day the
next day. Dylan didn't eat it, so I told Nanny,
I don't want to throw it away. I'll give it
to Sabella tonight. So I was a responsible mother. I
didn't talk about it doesn't matter. So Eric wants her
to have chicken nuggets, sucker, and she said, and I
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can I have some? She's never gonna have Kendy Rice. Anyways,
I said, Sabella, I can give you a little bit
of chicken nuggets, but I have some leftover pasta. I
don't want to throw it away. Do you want some?
And I'm talking It was like three little noodles. That's
how she was left. And he took a fit. I
already decided that she was ill. We decided that she
was gonna have chickens. I have no problem with positive.
When you have three nights in a row, it's all right.
(06:09):
You don't believe, so let me ask you this. When
you're out of town and this happens to me, and
I'm I also again one here from the listeners on this,
but it is you know, I want to travel and
I leave the kids with you. I feel a little guilty.
You know, I haven't seen them and I miss them.
I also feel like I'm missing that. It feels like
everything in the world happens that week that I'm gone,
Like I don't know why, but more things in the
ordinary happen at school or the play dates or whatever
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is going on. And I feel a little guilty. But
then at the same time, did it feel a little
nice to have a break and sleep in? Well, I
was able to sleep in. No, you know what happens, Eric,
We're so conditioned, We're so used to getting up at
six because they land gets up really early. So unless
I take uh unison or I take a pail, I
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wake up at six. I it's just my my timer
goes off, my organic timer goes off. So it's not
like a really. The rest My intention is Okay, I
don't work on my call time is ten a m.
I can't get up at eight. I always get up.
But there's a part of you that feels pretty good
to be able to have a night yourself. And well,
what's nice is that crazy and back dinner. After I wrap,
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I can just go back to the hotel. And I
don't have to do with giving them showers and blah
blah blah blah. I'm putting them too bad. Yeah, sometimes
it's it's a little break that as a parent is
much needed. What ends up happening when I'm in a
town is I don't get a break because she's calling me,
going Eric, okay, what Isabella having her schedule? Because and
I said, Rose, I put it in the family calendar
on the phones, and then every time I put something
in the family calendar calendar, she gets mad at the notification,
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so she deletes it from the family calendar so she
doesn't know. And this is true, Like I had five
things putting the calendar for a month, and all of
a sudden, I get all these notifications like coming back
at me on my phone, and I'm like, what, why
do I have notifications and I look and it basically
says Rosalind has deleted this from the calendar. And I'm like,
why is she deleting everything I've put into the calendar? Eric, Okay,
(07:57):
is it really necessary? We know that's about that takes
jazz for Fridays at right, every single Friday at five
fifteen she has jazz? Do I need to have on
my calendar every single Friday? Said jazz class. I know already.
I don't want to see that little dot on a Friday.
I'm gonna be asked on this because at the moment
(08:19):
that we kitch, like, Eric, what time is sebis piano?
Again at two pm on Fridays? What time is your tennis? Well,
it depends because we change it. It's four times a week,
so I don't really know that's what happens all the time.
You still end up reaching out to me saying, hey,
what time does this happen at? So I put in
the cab and its no, this is this is factual.
So I basically take care of I'm like the designated mom. Uh.
(08:43):
They call me one of the moms, like a mom
club because our girl wouldn't have play dates or activities
if it wasn't for me keeping keeping tabs on their life.
So I mean, Sabella, I can't tell you any times
we've gotten like they'll send it to to to Rosalind
end up be for a birthday part and the party's
like Saturday, and Rose goes, oh, Eric, I forgot. I
(09:03):
forgot to send this to you shoot party Saturday. It's Friday,
And I'm like, did you rs ep? No, I thought
you did. I They didn't send it to me, Rose,
they sent it to you to all of Sabella's and
Dillon's friends. Um, don't send me stuff, just send it
to Eric because I'm not gonna be on top of it.
So I'm basically do you know the moms call me
like I'm one of the moms, Like that's a term.
(09:24):
They basically say, Eric is the go to. They don't. Yeah,
I'm the organizer. I schedule everything. If you don't, if
you don't believe that, we can gladly bring out some
proof like what about that? I am basically the mom?
How do you call it? The mom negotiator, the mom
contact agenda keeper, agenda keeper? For sure? First of all,
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the only reason you do it is because you love it, Okay,
and you're not gonna call anybody. Don't be silly. No,
I will call. I'll call one of our good friends,
and I will make sure that you understand how essentially
the lifeline for our kids to have a social life.
Who are you gonna go? Goes bust? You have to
wait and find out. Maybe after this break we'll have
(10:08):
a friend on the line. Oh my god, I can't
wait to get our friend on the line. It's gonna
prove a point I want. I want somebody in my
corner that I know. And I'm not saying that. I
(10:30):
guess she could maybe go against you, but I'd be
shocked if she that's what you're calling you see, Okay,
I hope she doesn't answer. Let's see, this is embarrassing.
I'm very confident about this. Oh my god. Okay, I'm
even on the mom's chain. By the way, don't answer
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because hey, it's deerk. I have ros here as well.
Hey girl, you're on a podcast right now. Just sorry,
I'm sorry, I'm very sorry. It needs you to clear something. Okay, Okay,
In our household, who is the one that keeps everything
in order? Our kids basically would not have a social
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life if it was not for this one person. Who
is it? Now? You did it? Ronnie. You're an amazing mom,
You're like my sister. But I gotta be honest. You
would never see your kids. Two days ago, Ross called
me and said, oh my god, way I get the
(11:35):
girl together there free next week? Has nothing? What did
I do? I texted Air Oh yeahs piano violence and
she's busy all week? Right, Okay, but Ronnie, I kind okay, okay,
I can't believe. Isn't it true? I'm on the mom
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text chain. I'm the basically the one to go to. Yes,
I think there was a week long text chain when
Dylan was a baby that you weren't on ros about
swaddle blankets. You're you're you know, you know what happened
the end of day, And this is true. Ronnie had
said that she had there was a text chain about
what we're doing for Halloween, and Roz was on the chain,
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and nothing got accomplished, and she and she whatever, they
couldn't get the answer they wanted from this text chain.
And I said, well, Ronnie, you didn't text me or
at your house? And Rosin goes, we're going to to
Luca Lake for Halloween I go no, I don't know
what you guys are making me look really bad. I'm
a good mom, Rannie, I'm I a good mom. I'm amazing,
(12:39):
an amazing mom, and there's so many mommy milestones. I
couldn't have got through without you by my side with
our girls. So you just wouldn't have seen our kids.
If Eric, where's the diaper bags? Very well, I gotta
be honest, kind of boils down to the calendar thing,
the dinosaur calendars. That's part of it. I don't like
to calendar like our kids. Social life is in your
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little roadrunner book that you write everything down in okay
and leave at home, that she leaves at home. But yes,
oh my god, listen to me. Give me an example
of Eric dropping the ball. Has he ever dropped the
ball when it comes to unscheduling things for Sabael or Dylan?
Say yes, dude, I who need time to answer that.
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I'm gonna tak because I can't even get too much pressure.
It's a really hard one to think of. I can't
I can't think of one. Wow, okay about the time
you dropped the ball. It's really detail oriented. If I
call Eric and say, like, hey, we should do the
girl scout sewing badge. He'll call back in five minutes
and be like, Okay, found a place in West Hollywood
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that does girls sewing and we can get the badge
and the crocheting. I mean because Eric is weird. He's
weird and he's a girl. I mean yeah, yeah, basically
he's on the mom chat, but our chat for all
the emotional birth, that's the only one I get exactly
with our girl is my soul sister and Sabella and Aliah.
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Elia has her daughter, their soul sisters. We we AC's
a good thing. I helped them get together. It's off father, Ryan,
thank you for well I knew. I knew this is
actually gonna happen. I felt really confident about you after this.
Oh I keep it real. Oh my god, you're gonna
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I'm gonna call you tonight. You're gonna hear about this one.
I thought you were going to sell him down the
river and point Eric, thanks to talk to you. Bye bye. Okay.
So basically, Rosslyn is a zero to the left. No
go that far, I mean, not that far left. I
want everybody to know that I'm a really, really good mother.
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I'm just not a great organizing just not good. Well, yeah,
you think you are, which is funny because that actually,
well I think I do things different, Eric, that's a problem.
You're like super organized with your organized things. She sees
something on the counter, she doesn't want it there, she
just takes it and puts it somewhere, and I go, ros, wait,
(15:10):
wait where was the thing that was on the couch? Guys?
I don't know because it's not important. It's not important,
but it was to me. But it's not to me.
So then you moved in. If you're a good organizer,
you would know where you moved it to. Oh, like passwords,
like any like anything? I put them on the counter,
like Ross, where'd you put my glasses? I don't know, Well, Ros,
I left him here. You moved them. If you're a
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good organizer, you would know where you moved them. I
don't know, don't don't, I don't know. Think for us
you have really bad memory. Er, No, you just it's
selective what it is? Okay, but you know it's funny.
So Ronya is probably the most organized person I would
say either of us have ever met. I mean, it's
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museum is it's so when we re renovated our house
not too long ago. Ronya first of all said, the
bar really high with an incredible pantry like I've never
seen in my life. Everything is laid out, I mean
perfect and labeled, and I mean oreos are stacked going
straight up like they came out of the bag. Everything
is perfect in the pantry. So we ran a better
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house and Ros is like, oh my god, I'm gonna
I'm gonna do this and I'm gonna do the whole
pantry over. I'm like, really, I'm going to container store.
I'm gonna buy everything. I'm buying all this stuff and
I'm gonna make this pantry run new pantry. You you
actually actually made a big pantry that we need it.
And he's beautiful. It's like it's like Disney World. So
her way of organizing is again like I said, anytime
she sees something, just throw it in the jar. It
looks clean now, it looks neat. And the other day
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I'm like, Ros, I need to make pancakes for the kids,
big pancakes for the kids. Very proud of my pantry,
and I go in there to get the pancake mix
and there's like four jars of just white powder, and
I'm like rose, which point is the pancake mix? I
don't know the one that's over there on the left,
I don't know. I put put in the jar as
it ros is it that looks like flower? That looks
(16:56):
like because Eric style, we have paleo flower plant, base
of flower gluting, free flower, um normal flower is like
all these flowers, I don't know. I put them on
a jar. Then if you're that organized, label them. Well,
I didn't go Irannia labels everything. I haven't gotten to that.
She just puts everything. And then what's crazy is I
put it in there. I have no problem leaving in
the package so I can at least see the expiration day.
(17:17):
I don't want to see packages into the pantry buck
and then you just see a bunch of stuff that
doesn't make sense. You know what it is as long
as it's esthetically beautiful, I'm fine, but it's not functional,
but it's esthetically beautiful. I want to hear from people
what's more important, functionality or beauty. I really need to
hear from the listeners on this. I personally will take
(17:38):
functional any day. Well. I need to be able to
use it. Eric, when you're asking the question, which one
is it? I didn't say, I don't know. I went
that one. The color is different. You weren't sure it was.
We had to taste it to make sure. You're like,
the color is different. I think it's that one. I
know for a fact he was nonsense, and he was nonsense.
You got lucky. I'm very organized within my this organization.
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That's actually pretty fair. Yeah, yeah, isn't. You're an organized
your your knet. You think you're neater than me. We're
both pretty clean frea. We're both clean freaks. You just
sweet my house for seven Yeah, my house is super
clean and super organized. I can't stand a mess like
you don't want to. It's one of my pet peeves
walking into my house and seeing the kitchen on the island,
you know, the counter with anything on top of it
(18:20):
that doesn't belong there, and I can't stand it. And
you're notorious for walking in jim bag freaking zip blocks
full of he takes maybe a hundred thousand vitamins and
supplements a day. You know how much I had. They're
freaking zip blocks with the vitamins and the b A
hold on, and I want you to answer this Honestly,
if you're that neat and that angry about the little
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bag I left on the counter, why is there a
dried up peanut butter spoon on your nightstand every day?
A spoon of like dried peep? No nonsense, one day nonsense.
You always come in the bathroom and leave like a
peanut butter spoon or like your leftover juice cup. You
are full of it. Just saw that one day and
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that's okay. Let's call Rannie again. Ask Rannie if my
house is spotless, because we're both neat freaks, can you
call in? We are both extreme neat freaks. There's no
question about it. When it comes to that, you're not anyways,
you're out of your mind. Next topic, you are out
of your mind. Topic. Let's take a break. I need
sometimes I need to breathe from this guy. Let's take
(19:24):
a break. Okay, Well, that was interesting, very interesting. I
love being right, which you know, and I'm gonna admit
something you our latest dilemma you may have been right about.
(19:48):
And it's funny because we touched about this. You talked
about this a little bit in the last podcast about
people married couples living in different households not seeing each other.
And I know it's common a lot of people, you know,
living they sleep in different drooms, you know, they don't
they do what they gotta do in their own bed
and then they go sleep in different rooms. Well, not
too long ago, we were in the market for a mattress,
and we're back in the market now for a mattress
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because we're always complaining about the comfort of our mattress.
And we came across one that was, you know, super
great and comfortable all that, and then it had the
the base that you could raise the feet and raise
the backup on it. And I was super against the
fact of having two separate mattresses because I thought it
was like putting a divide in our relationship, Like there's
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a you can feel the seam of the mattress in
the center of the bed. And it kind of is
on that topic of does that mean anything that you
have two different mattresses that they doesn't feel like you're
dividing the bed. Let me give them a little bit
of a back story so they understand why we have
this dilemma. Um Eric has a lot of issues with
his body. You see this wonderful handsome heartthrow men. That
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is um forty three years old, the body of maybe
an eight. He has four neck surgeries, one lower back surgery.
He has problems with his elbow wrist problem. Um. So
Eric is very specific about the mattress that he needs,
which is he likes the mattress to be hard. I
(21:20):
am forty six with the body of a twenty two.
Because you're contagious anyways, I know. So I like my bed,
my mattress to be super soft like clouds. Right, So
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we have that problem. He wants it hard. I wanted soft,
and we always were a problem. Well, we always have
that that thing about we've been through maybe since we've
been together. This is like the fifth mattress that we
all a lot of money and not the last one
that won before. It was refection to me, but he
didn't like it because it was just soft that were
(22:03):
sinking in the center. You can see the dent from
like I know. So we are back at it again.
So the solution to me is, let's get one of
those mattresses that you and then also he likes to
it's better for his neck, which I completely understand. If
the upper part of the mattress goes up a little bit.
They also say it's better for your heart when you
raise your legs increases. But can't deal. I want to
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be flat and I wanted to be fluffy. So we
we bought a mattress not too long ago, and that
that does that. But the entire mattress goes up. And yeah,
and this is where I will admit she was right
on because we could have easily separated our lives by
having two different mattresses. But I was I was completely against.
I was like, no way. I mean, like, it's gonna
screw up intimacy, it's gonna're gonna feel some weird thing
on the bed. Like I don't want to have any
problems with that. And I have another excuse that you
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have your side of the bed and like hell no.
And now, because I always want to raise the mattress
up by the head of the feet, she can't stand it.
So we have this bed that goes up down that
we can't use. And so sometimes like I have to
sneak it up. I grabbed the remote and I raise
the mattress just before bed enough to where she could
maybe it could be questionable thes she'd be like Eric, Eric,
(23:06):
is the mattress up right now? Is the mattress up?
I'm like, no, it's not up. I put it down.
Look click click click, I'm putting like the wrong button.
Click click click. Mattresses down all the way and then
in the middle of the night you realize that the
mattress I'm gonna have to get up, walk all the
way to his nightstand and grab the freaking device and
put the mattress down. It's a problem, guys. So the
next mattress is going to be with a divider for sure,
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or you go sleep in a different room since you
might not have a problem. Will that put a divide
in the relationship. It's the same bed, but we are
living on two different islands. No we're not. And for intimacy,
just put like a little comforter in the middle so
you don't feel that line. M hm, think about it.
You can, you can. You can sleep sitting down basically
(23:52):
because you want to have your your your neck up
and your legs up. You'll you'll be very happy and
I'll be very happy with my fluffy flat bed. I
could definitely compromise on this, really, yeah, I definitely want
to divide I want that. I'm we're gonna take a
picture where that happens, so you guys can see the
new You're gonnaee my mattress all the way up and
hers all the way down, and then divide will be real.
(24:12):
You know what we need to come up with like
a screen or like a wall that can come up
because she's one of these people also that stays up
super late and wants to And I keep trying to
tell you can't be on your iPad of your phone
to try and fall asleep. I don't think that works.
It's bright lights. Computers are designed to keep you awake
and make you be alert. They have the opposite effect
for me. I like to browse the internet or like
(24:35):
to read on my iPad, and then it makes me
help me for the sleep. But why don't you do
that in the other room If you want to stay
up because it's my bedroom, but I'm sleeping in the bedroom,
then go do work in the other one for your
eyes with how do you call that? Okay, that's a
great again, listeners, please, I want input here. Is that
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who's who's in the right here? If it's a bedroom
and I'm supposed to be sleeping in it, and you
of work to do. Why shouldn't you go into like
an office and go do work? Why should you go
do work in the bedroom when I'm sleeping? Why don't
you build an office in our home like I have
requested many times? Okay, beside the point, you can go
get a table in the living room and be on
(25:16):
the couch and do your work. And I never have
a random table, but they put on your lap, but
tonight had My point is why do you have to
do work in the room? Um? Because I like to
be you know, I work very very hard all day
and I take a shower where the kids are sleeping,
and I like to the work in my bed. Maybe
it's wrong, but that's where I like. It's not work fair.
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Listeners chime in. You can email us at Eric and
Roz at I Heart radio dot com, or comment on
Instagram at he said a DHO podcast. Follow us there,
give us a comment. I want input on this. Who's
in the right in this situation? I can definitely compromise
a little, but like, let me ask you something. I've
trying to get a little reading light for her that
didn't work. I was a I believe you learn when
(26:01):
you had the head lamp. Remember when you had the
head lamp. It's combat. I got like a miner's head
lamp that she had to put on her head. I
got over that. It was uncomfortable talk about Maximum Hot
one miner's head lamp, my glasses, all your glasses on.
Eric loves to say that joke that I was Maxime.
What do you call it? Maxime? You were in like
(26:22):
the hot met That was the party we met him,
we first met. It wasn't a Maxim It wasn't anyways.
It was as a new product for Sony anyways. Um.
Eric loves to make that joke every time, Like my
pajamas and my hair is all like a mess and
I looked like crap, like I got. He likes to say, Wow,
(26:42):
Maxim hot went on when you come out, you came
out with the head gear on, with the head lamp
and the glasses, the mouth guard, and I'm like, keep
bringing sexy back. Yeah. Even even my daughter, even Sabella,
does that, Bob sexy like leaf me on the one
of all a person glamorous life of marriage, behind the scenes,
(27:03):
behind the scenes. Yeah. But then I go into a
shower and I'm like clean up and ba boom and
then you're like, put the bed down. It's unbelievable. Well
let's see what happens. We're gonna take a break for
a second. You know what. I'm so excited about what
(27:31):
I was driving over here to record this. And Christmas
music is in full effect. It's been in effect for
quite some time, like you know, at least I heard
it last week, even on the coast. But I mean,
Eric loves Christmas. I just love Christmas is my favorite
time of year, and I love Christmas music gets me
all in the mood. I started getting ready to do
(27:53):
those shopping because I gotta do all the Christmas shopping
for the kids. When are you going to start doing that?
Because yeah, I'm going to confess. Eric is the one
that does all the Christmas shopping. Mr Mom, Mr Mom. Again.
Sometimes the kids open the gifts wall the gifts at
Santa Bra they opened the gifts and She's like, oh,
(28:14):
what's that? No idea even bond it. I know exactly
what's actually rapping. I do that. I do all the wrapping. Um.
But I love Christmas and I know I love Christmas music.
The thing is that my Christmas music is very different
from your Christmas music. What you don't like? Our music
(28:36):
are American Christmas. I think it's beautiful to me. To me,
I'm going to be honest, that's what Felicia know. It's amazing. No,
I just find Christmas. Carl's like a little bit boring
because they don't They don't have m bungs and they wea.
They don't have the Latin flavor to it is everything.
(28:58):
He's like the Christmas and it's not like I get there.
They want there. What just happened? That reminds me of
the first time there? Oh no, oh my god. Oh
(29:20):
not to me, Christmas is like, let's dance and I
want to hear like you know. Of course that's how
my family met your family. Oh my, that's a crazy story.
By the way, my parents are coming for Christmas this
year and we should be interesting. It's gonna be interesting.
(29:40):
So that's a whole another show. This is really funny
to do a show just on her family coming. Should
we bring my mom? At some point? You definitely gonna
bring your mom. But English is very little guy, so
it's gonna be She's gotta laugh a lot. Doesn't know
she's laughing at a lot. You know what she said
to me yesterday that she listened listen to the podcast.
She's like, you guys are very funny, and there's moment
I don't understand what you're saying, so I get a
(30:01):
little loss, but but I do sometimes and it's it's
really funny. She was so cute and also she's loving mommy.
When our families first met, just back to the paranda,
because it's really so. My family is here from from
l A and her family had all come in town.
I mean the entire family, all brothers, nieces, not brothers,
everybody came in town, parents, and then all all the
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Puerto Rican friends that are here in Los Angeles all gathered.
We had a good fifteen twenty Puerto Ricans all coming
over because my aunt threw a big Christmas dinner every
year and she said, yeah, bring them all, and they
more than The more the merrier. So this is the
first time the families are met, the first time they've
never met, and all of a sudden, there is a
I got there ahead of time because I was we
were just you know, dating, and saying you didn't tell them,
(30:44):
that can't tell anything. I don't I didn't even know
exactly what was coming um people is. In Puerto Rican tradition,
paranda is is usually late at night, like it starts
at midnight and a group of people with instruments. It
can be as as simple as pots and pa and
or it can be as um dramatic and and intricate
as trumpets and like maracas and bongoes and congas like
(31:07):
an orchestra. Basically, and you go to a house and midnight,
you wake everybody up and you goat that. So you're saying,
people wake up, they have to open their homes, offer
you food and drink and drinks, and then you grab
them and you take them to the next house. So
we can start at midnight and people do it until
the sun comes out. Everybody's drunk by the end. It
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is a lot of fun and Puerto Ricans love it.
So I thought it was gonna be funny to meet
your family for the first time. Knock on the door.
They opened the door and we go what to so
screaming in the streets of Altadina at a house so confused,
I never forget your aunt thought, I was so happy
(31:47):
that this was happening, and I thought they were going
to appreciate it, and I think it was Janie and
Janey the owner opens the door and her face is like,
what is going on? So we kept saying it. I
keep getting more and more like, oh, I don't think
this is going to well. And it was. It was interesting.
I mean, we explained to them, guys, it's a putto
(32:07):
Rican tradition. We're harmless, we're good people. Don't worry about
it as pricking as you are. Could you imagine a
bunch of put Ricans came to our house at midnight
right now and started banging to the door and singing,
I won't open the door. Shot up gets I know,
you know what happens, people getting mad, Because sometimes that happens.
Sometimes you go to a house and you sing for
(32:29):
like ten minutes and they don't turn on the light
right and you get upset. But it's your choice if
you don't want to deal with all these people coming
into your home. I get it, you know. Else we
have to stress out about, well, I have to stress
out about because I'm the one that sets this up.
And then you just get annoyed. The elf on the shelf, Oh,
Sady loves the elf on the shelf. Now, Dylan has one,
(32:51):
and it's the most It's the most fun yet stressful
thing for a parent because you feel like you have
to outdo yourself every time and it drives I love it,
and yet it drives me mad. Or I first did it.
Rosin is like, this is ridiculous. I had all the
elves and all of Sabella's dolls doing like doing yoga poses.
So it's that's one thing we have to start getting
(33:12):
ready for. I think next podcast, we should um have
it with my mom or my dad, maybe just for fun,
and then we can talk about all these Christmas stories.
And then I wanted to ask the listeners have a
question for it. Let me finish this thought, because then
I'm gonna forget. I have a short memory. Okay, So, um,
we want to bring a guest again to spend time
with us? Um, what topic and what guests? Do you
(33:36):
think it be interesting? Right? What topic? They can pick
a topic and we can talk about it. Yeah, definitely
try and get some fun. Yeah. Yeah, we get a
professional that knows what he or she's talking to be
about money, finances, should be about relationships. Should it be
about work, work, kids or anything? Just life, coach life, anything,
(33:58):
and then we can talk about it. Maybe it'll be fun. Right,
I'm in again. Email us at Eric and Roz at
our Heart radio dot com or at he said, the
whole podcast on Instagram. You can let us know. We'll
definitely definitely yeah, you know, take what you say seriously
and we appreciate all the comments. You know, we have, um,
he said, yeah, the whole podcast, the Instagram account, and
it's a lot of fun to go and visit once
(34:20):
in a while and see that you guys are laughing
with us and you guys um identify with us, and
it's it means a lot to us, So thank you.
Thank you for a lot of your listeners have shared
it with your friends and told them to tune in,
and it's it's uh, it really brings joy to us
that you guys get a kick out of our bickering.
Your mom loves it every morning, She's like, I heard
(34:40):
the podcast. It was so good. What as I say
to you, is do you in Puerto Rico? Because I
actually don't know the answer to this. Other famous like
Christmas movies or shows that come on, you know, during
the holidays in Portico, I don't know. I'm sure we
do have all the ones that the that you guys
have to watch Christmas American citizens, Um, did you watch
a Christmas Story? Did you watch elf? I don't remember.
(35:04):
Home Alone? Yeah, home Alone? I have many times say
he loves Home Alone. What is your favorite favorite Christmas movie?
Christmas Story? And not everybody loves that movie. And it's
got a lot of controversial sort of stuff nowadays that
people would probably bullying. There's all kinds of stuff that
happens in that movie. Baby Guns, which I had a
baby gun and I shot myself with it, so I understand.
I use I used to use baby guns too. This
(35:27):
is so sad to tell the story. Okay, lizards UM
to feed one of my fish when I was growing up.
His name was um people and I will, I will,
I will go boom. I still don't believe any of
this as my brothers, you know, this side of Roslin,
I do not believe ever existed about them now. Yeah,
(35:48):
for whatever reason, I caught it with my hands and
I can't be closed to a lizard. It gives me
the creeps. And I used to kill them and grab them,
not even kill them. You heard them with a little baby.
It's awful. Guys an animal activist. Why am I saying this?
But I used to do that. Then I will grab
the lizard, take it to people, and then people will
go and suck it. And then you see the little
tail hanging. And I used to love that dark What
(36:11):
do you listen to me? It was awesome for me
to see awesome, And now I cringe every time I
think about it. I just go, how is it possible
that I used to do that? I love animals, like
I'm very mad at me, you know what, Yeah, I'm
very disappointed. I want to see videos and pictures of this.
Don't You also said you were a fast runner and
you won, like the Turkey race in Puerto Rican. Show
you the medals and she ran a race and won.
(36:34):
I was a bullet, a bullet, I was that fast.
Did used to come in a little bullet? Not long distance?
I was really fast short distance and hundred meters was
my specialty, asked my dad. My dad thought I was
gonna be a runner. He wanted me to be a runner.
My mom wanted me to be a dancer. My first
ballet tea shirt. Said to my mom, she's gonna have
(36:55):
to pick because it's not good for her. A Chillas
tendon to run and dance, so I picked dancing. But
I used to be a really good runner, and he
ran for a turkey. I run from kindergarten all the
way to the sixth grade for the turkey race. And
I want every single year to the point that there
was one year the parents got together and went to
the principle saying, we don't want Rosalyn to compete. It's
not fair. I don't believe any of this. Oh my god,
(37:17):
ask my mom. I don't believe. When she comes to
the holiday, had a lot of questions. Albun to that
me saying, have you figured out what you're getting me
for Christmas? Yet? Have you started making You should make
a list just to figure out what you're gonna give me.
I have no idea what I'm gonna get you, but
(37:38):
I'm gonna get you something good. Don't worry about it.
You know that I'm really good at getting your stuff
and celebrating your birthdays. You have the best birthdays of
your life because of me. You do a pretty good
surprises there you go. Alright, Well, this was another successful
podcast of ripping each other apart. We are happy, we
(38:00):
we're very happy to going to be in our own beds,
different mattresses, maybe different rooms, maybe different house by the
end of this whole No, we won't. Don't say that
because some people are gonna be like they're gonna anyways,
the very first episode, I was joking, well and I'm serious,
and it was It's all in good fun. We love
each other. It's just we're very different. That's what it's called,
he said. But their support, there's respect. There's many things. Okay,
(38:31):
let me do subscribe to he said a VIHO on
iHeart Radio, Apple Podcasts or anywhere you get your podcasts.
This is he said with Eric Winter and Rosalind Fantas.
Welcome back, Welcome back. Now when I've been in Mexico,
I know if we are Mexico, are working so hard
on the beaches of Puerto Vayana. It is so difficult.
(00:21):
I am working hard, Eric, except me, I have long
days on the beach. I'm still shooting and working, and
I'm taking care of two kids. I mean, I have help,
but still want to And you wanted to be a daddy,
do mob being a daddy? But then don't call me
going Oh, I'm so busy, I'm so tired, I'm exhausted.
There are two different types of work in this world.
There is work work, which I get it, we all
(00:42):
do it, and then there are raising kids work that
is another level of work. And I have so much
appreciation for people who are stay at home moms or dads.
Are you a Mr Mom? Hell? Yeah, where all my
Mr mom's at? Where are they're out in the yard,
(01:02):
up in the yard. Oh my god, No, you are
a Mr Mom? You know. I tell people to listen.
I tell people all the time that, yeah, Eric is
such a good daddy that he believes that he delivered
my kids like you in your mind and your delusion,
(01:22):
and you think that that you actually think you did
take white in push him. I did catch them, I
did help them out, both kids. I'm very hands on
and I'm very proud of being Mr Mom. It's amazing.
And I missed you guys like crazy, and we miss
you too. But there's something that happens when a spouse
comes back from being out of town, and it's stick.
You're happy to see them, of course, but you know,
(01:43):
it's one thing raising kids, but it's another thing raising
kids with someone else because you have somebody else's all
the different opinions and things that come in with what
do we do about the kid for dinner? Wanted to
be I don't want you to go home. I don't
want to be a single dad. I'm just saying welcome back.
But my routine has been shattered for the kid. Yeah,
because rust and his routine comes in and it's so
(02:04):
much more difficult. Not why because mine so regimented in
like bad bamn, kids do this? Kids do that. Everybody's listening.
I got this ready that righty, and then come in.
It's kind of like because you're too much, you're very
square everything is like one plus one is too textbook.
The book says that if they have a cold and
they're getting sick, they need to get one point millimeters
(02:25):
of let me call the doctor. I'm like, like, wait,
my mama said, if I just go get this powder
and this little take it from my yard down, I
put it on the jar and shake it around with
something like in the morning, and I mix it with
some guy yane. And then the kids are like, what say,
you must see the hat hours and it cures everything,
like something as simple as listen, I'm gonna do an announcement.
You know, vis bappa d vapor rub vix. Heures everything
(02:50):
but vix. And then that you said that the vis
on the little feet, you put socks on, you put
a little vis bappa up in the little chest. They
breathe that. And we all wonder about this point because
it has been proven that all it does is dilate,
like the nasal passage, make you breathe good for like
a moment, and then everything constricts even tighter. It makes
it hard to breathe again. You're making that up. Vis
(03:13):
babba doo. Nobody knows what that is. See what they
had as vapor rub. That sounds like you're saying, and
it was, Mr Mom, So how was it this week?
I'm going to leave again, by the way, By the way,
I came for Lesdon twenty five hours. I just came,
um and I have to go back for another week
(03:34):
because you're a good mom. So it's it's great that
you're you know, you were able to do that, come
see the kids for a little bit, and you have
some other stuff to to also take care of, putting
together a baby shower for a friend. So that's all good.
But you listen, it was It's always eventful, but it
was smooth sailing. It was great. Kids were listening to me.
Everything in super great. There were no tangions, no one
throwing fit, no one trying to pin mom against dad.
(03:57):
So you were saying that I woke in on his
chaos kind of. They were happy to see me, by
the way they are. They were, But then I called
them on FaceTime at all times and my my daughter
gets all piste off, which was like, yeah, Mom, I'm
going you're not happy to see me, And she's like, wow,
I'm going savvy, I miss you, I miss This is
what intense that happens. I want to hear. I mean,
(04:17):
I please, I hope our listeners right us, because I
want to hear what some of the mr mom's out
there have to say about taking care of the household.
And then mom comes back in, spouse comes in, or
partner whoever comes in and changes everything you've worked to
put together. It ain't easy because when you get things
into a good working order, the other person's opinion. Somebody's
just gotta stay quiet because too many opinions make it complicated.
(04:39):
That's the problem. I'm never gonna stay quiet, So what
are you going to do about it? That is true?
He was like the other day we talked about making
food for the kids, and I was like, all right,
let's just have this, this, this, And then you threw
a curveball and like, Sabella's having pasta for the fourth
night in the row, and I'm like, why pasta again?
You got to change it up? Okay, ladies, ladies, I
cooked Sabella. I'm wonderful. Um right, pasta set in the
(05:01):
microwave because it was already cooked. Can you stop. I'm
not talking about that. I cooked her at a wonderful
You know what. Kids have issues sometimes with eating um
meat because she's a little finicky. I wish he wouldn't,
but Eric wants her to eat some chicken. So I
cooked the chicken in very little pieces and I mixed
it with the spaghetti so it becomes like the flavor
of the spaghetti sauce. And she doesn't complain that she's
(05:22):
actually eating chicken. So I did that. I was very
proud of it. She loved it. I had a little
bit of leftovers for Dylan for his play day the
next day. Dylan didn't eat it, so I told Nanny,
I don't want to throw it away. I'll give it
to Sabella tonight. So I was a responsible mother. I
didn't talk about it doesn't matter. So Eric wants her
to have chicken nuggets, sucker, and she said, and I
(05:46):
can I have some? She's never gonna have Kendy Rice. Anyways,
I said, Sabella, I can give you a little bit
of chicken nuggets, but I have some leftover pasta. I
don't want to throw it away. Do you want some?
And I'm talking It was like three little noodles. That's
how she was left. And he took a fit. I
already decided that she was ill. We decided that she
was gonna have chickens. I have no problem with positive.
When you have three nights in a row, it's all right.
(06:09):
You don't believe, so let me ask you this. When
you're out of town and this happens to me, and
I'm I also again one here from the listeners on this,
but it is you know, I want to travel and
I leave the kids with you. I feel a little guilty.
You know, I haven't seen them and I miss them.
I also feel like I'm missing that. It feels like
everything in the world happens that week that I'm gone,
Like I don't know why, but more things in the
ordinary happen at school or the play dates or whatever
(06:31):
is going on. And I feel a little guilty. But
then at the same time, did it feel a little
nice to have a break and sleep in? Well, I
was able to sleep in. No, you know what happens, Eric,
We're so conditioned, We're so used to getting up at
six because they land gets up really early. So unless
I take uh unison or I take a pail, I
(06:52):
wake up at six. I it's just my my timer
goes off, my organic timer goes off. So it's not
like a really. The rest My intention is Okay, I
don't work on my call time is ten a m.
I can't get up at eight. I always get up.
But there's a part of you that feels pretty good
to be able to have a night yourself. And well,
what's nice is that crazy and back dinner. After I wrap,
(07:14):
I can just go back to the hotel. And I
don't have to do with giving them showers and blah
blah blah blah. I'm putting them too bad. Yeah, sometimes
it's it's a little break that as a parent is
much needed. What ends up happening when I'm in a
town is I don't get a break because she's calling me,
going Eric, okay, what Isabella having her schedule? Because and
I said, Rose, I put it in the family calendar
on the phones, and then every time I put something
in the family calendar calendar, she gets mad at the notification,
(07:36):
so she deletes it from the family calendar so she
doesn't know. And this is true, Like I had five
things putting the calendar for a month, and all of
a sudden, I get all these notifications like coming back
at me on my phone, and I'm like, what, why
do I have notifications and I look and it basically
says Rosalind has deleted this from the calendar. And I'm like,
why is she deleting everything I've put into the calendar? Eric, Okay,
(07:57):
is it really necessary? We know that's about that takes
jazz for Fridays at right, every single Friday at five
fifteen she has jazz? Do I need to have on
my calendar every single Friday? Said jazz class. I know already.
I don't want to see that little dot on a Friday.
I'm gonna be asked on this because at the moment
(08:19):
that we kitch, like, Eric, what time is sebis piano?
Again at two pm on Fridays? What time is your tennis? Well,
it depends because we change it. It's four times a week,
so I don't really know that's what happens all the time.
You still end up reaching out to me saying, hey,
what time does this happen at? So I put in
the cab and its no, this is this is factual.
So I basically take care of I'm like the designated mom. Uh.
(08:43):
They call me one of the moms, like a mom
club because our girl wouldn't have play dates or activities
if it wasn't for me keeping keeping tabs on their life.
So I mean, Sabella, I can't tell you any times
we've gotten like they'll send it to to to Rosalind
end up be for a birthday part and the party's
like Saturday, and Rose goes, oh, Eric, I forgot. I
(09:03):
forgot to send this to you shoot party Saturday. It's Friday,
And I'm like, did you rs ep? No, I thought
you did. I They didn't send it to me, Rose,
they sent it to you to all of Sabella's and
Dillon's friends. Um, don't send me stuff, just send it
to Eric because I'm not gonna be on top of it.
So I'm basically do you know the moms call me
like I'm one of the moms, Like that's a term.
(09:24):
They basically say, Eric is the go to. They don't. Yeah,
I'm the organizer. I schedule everything. If you don't, if
you don't believe that, we can gladly bring out some
proof like what about that? I am basically the mom?
How do you call it? The mom negotiator, the mom
contact agenda keeper, agenda keeper? For sure? First of all,
(09:47):
the only reason you do it is because you love it, Okay,
and you're not gonna call anybody. Don't be silly. No,
I will call. I'll call one of our good friends,
and I will make sure that you understand how essentially
the lifeline for our kids to have a social life.
Who are you gonna go? Goes bust? You have to
wait and find out. Maybe after this break we'll have
(10:08):
a friend on the line. Oh my god, I can't
wait to get our friend on the line. It's gonna
prove a point I want. I want somebody in my
corner that I know. And I'm not saying that. I
(10:30):
guess she could maybe go against you, but I'd be
shocked if she that's what you're calling you see, Okay,
I hope she doesn't answer. Let's see, this is embarrassing.
I'm very confident about this. Oh my god. Okay, I'm
even on the mom's chain. By the way, don't answer
(10:52):
because hey, it's deerk. I have ros here as well.
Hey girl, you're on a podcast right now. Just sorry,
I'm sorry, I'm very sorry. It needs you to clear something. Okay, Okay,
In our household, who is the one that keeps everything
in order? Our kids basically would not have a social
(11:14):
life if it was not for this one person. Who
is it? Now? You did it? Ronnie. You're an amazing mom,
You're like my sister. But I gotta be honest. You
would never see your kids. Two days ago, Ross called
me and said, oh my god, way I get the
(11:35):
girl together there free next week? Has nothing? What did
I do? I texted Air Oh yeahs piano violence and
she's busy all week? Right, Okay, but Ronnie, I kind okay, okay,
I can't believe. Isn't it true? I'm on the mom
(11:56):
text chain. I'm the basically the one to go to. Yes,
I think there was a week long text chain when
Dylan was a baby that you weren't on ros about
swaddle blankets. You're you're you know, you know what happened
the end of day, And this is true. Ronnie had
said that she had there was a text chain about
what we're doing for Halloween, and Roz was on the chain,
(12:18):
and nothing got accomplished, and she and she whatever, they
couldn't get the answer they wanted from this text chain.
And I said, well, Ronnie, you didn't text me or
at your house? And Rosin goes, we're going to to
Luca Lake for Halloween I go no, I don't know
what you guys are making me look really bad. I'm
a good mom, Rannie, I'm I a good mom. I'm amazing,
(12:39):
an amazing mom, and there's so many mommy milestones. I
couldn't have got through without you by my side with
our girls. So you just wouldn't have seen our kids.
If Eric, where's the diaper bags? Very well, I gotta
be honest, kind of boils down to the calendar thing,
the dinosaur calendars. That's part of it. I don't like
to calendar like our kids. Social life is in your
(13:01):
little roadrunner book that you write everything down in okay
and leave at home, that she leaves at home. But yes,
oh my god, listen to me. Give me an example
of Eric dropping the ball. Has he ever dropped the
ball when it comes to unscheduling things for Sabael or Dylan?
Say yes, dude, I who need time to answer that.
(13:22):
I'm gonna tak because I can't even get too much pressure.
It's a really hard one to think of. I can't
I can't think of one. Wow, okay about the time
you dropped the ball. It's really detail oriented. If I
call Eric and say, like, hey, we should do the
girl scout sewing badge. He'll call back in five minutes
and be like, Okay, found a place in West Hollywood
(13:43):
that does girls sewing and we can get the badge
and the crocheting. I mean because Eric is weird. He's
weird and he's a girl. I mean yeah, yeah, basically
he's on the mom chat, but our chat for all
the emotional birth, that's the only one I get exactly
with our girl is my soul sister and Sabella and Aliah.
(14:07):
Elia has her daughter, their soul sisters. We we AC's
a good thing. I helped them get together. It's off father, Ryan,
thank you for well I knew. I knew this is
actually gonna happen. I felt really confident about you after this.
Oh I keep it real. Oh my god, you're gonna
(14:27):
I'm gonna call you tonight. You're gonna hear about this one.
I thought you were going to sell him down the
river and point Eric, thanks to talk to you. Bye bye. Okay.
So basically, Rosslyn is a zero to the left. No
go that far, I mean, not that far left. I
want everybody to know that I'm a really, really good mother.
(14:49):
I'm just not a great organizing just not good. Well, yeah,
you think you are, which is funny because that actually,
well I think I do things different, Eric, that's a problem.
You're like super organized with your organized things. She sees
something on the counter, she doesn't want it there, she
just takes it and puts it somewhere, and I go, ros, wait,
(15:10):
wait where was the thing that was on the couch? Guys?
I don't know because it's not important. It's not important,
but it was to me. But it's not to me.
So then you moved in. If you're a good organizer,
you would know where you moved it to. Oh, like passwords,
like any like anything? I put them on the counter,
like Ross, where'd you put my glasses? I don't know, Well, Ros,
I left him here. You moved them. If you're a
(15:30):
good organizer, you would know where you moved them. I
don't know, don't don't, I don't know. Think for us
you have really bad memory. Er, No, you just it's
selective what it is? Okay, but you know it's funny.
So Ronya is probably the most organized person I would
say either of us have ever met. I mean, it's
(15:50):
museum is it's so when we re renovated our house
not too long ago. Ronya first of all said, the
bar really high with an incredible pantry like I've never
seen in my life. Everything is laid out, I mean
perfect and labeled, and I mean oreos are stacked going
straight up like they came out of the bag. Everything
is perfect in the pantry. So we ran a better
(16:13):
house and Ros is like, oh my god, I'm gonna
I'm gonna do this and I'm gonna do the whole
pantry over. I'm like, really, I'm going to container store.
I'm gonna buy everything. I'm buying all this stuff and
I'm gonna make this pantry run new pantry. You you
actually actually made a big pantry that we need it.
And he's beautiful. It's like it's like Disney World. So
her way of organizing is again like I said, anytime
she sees something, just throw it in the jar. It
looks clean now, it looks neat. And the other day
(16:35):
I'm like, Ros, I need to make pancakes for the kids,
big pancakes for the kids. Very proud of my pantry,
and I go in there to get the pancake mix
and there's like four jars of just white powder, and
I'm like rose, which point is the pancake mix? I
don't know the one that's over there on the left,
I don't know. I put put in the jar as
it ros is it that looks like flower? That looks
(16:56):
like because Eric style, we have paleo flower plant, base
of flower gluting, free flower, um normal flower is like
all these flowers, I don't know. I put them on
a jar. Then if you're that organized, label them. Well,
I didn't go Irannia labels everything. I haven't gotten to that.
She just puts everything. And then what's crazy is I
put it in there. I have no problem leaving in
the package so I can at least see the expiration day.
(17:17):
I don't want to see packages into the pantry buck
and then you just see a bunch of stuff that
doesn't make sense. You know what it is as long
as it's esthetically beautiful, I'm fine, but it's not functional,
but it's esthetically beautiful. I want to hear from people
what's more important, functionality or beauty. I really need to
hear from the listeners on this. I personally will take
(17:38):
functional any day. Well. I need to be able to
use it. Eric, when you're asking the question, which one
is it? I didn't say, I don't know. I went
that one. The color is different. You weren't sure it was.
We had to taste it to make sure. You're like,
the color is different. I think it's that one. I
know for a fact he was nonsense, and he was nonsense.
You got lucky. I'm very organized within my this organization.
(17:59):
That's actually pretty fair. Yeah, yeah, isn't. You're an organized
your your knet. You think you're neater than me. We're
both pretty clean frea. We're both clean freaks. You just
sweet my house for seven Yeah, my house is super
clean and super organized. I can't stand a mess like
you don't want to. It's one of my pet peeves
walking into my house and seeing the kitchen on the island,
you know, the counter with anything on top of it
(18:20):
that doesn't belong there, and I can't stand it. And
you're notorious for walking in jim bag freaking zip blocks
full of he takes maybe a hundred thousand vitamins and
supplements a day. You know how much I had. They're
freaking zip blocks with the vitamins and the b A
hold on, and I want you to answer this Honestly,
if you're that neat and that angry about the little
(18:42):
bag I left on the counter, why is there a
dried up peanut butter spoon on your nightstand every day?
A spoon of like dried peep? No nonsense, one day nonsense.
You always come in the bathroom and leave like a
peanut butter spoon or like your leftover juice cup. You
are full of it. Just saw that one day and
(19:03):
that's okay. Let's call Rannie again. Ask Rannie if my
house is spotless, because we're both neat freaks, can you
call in? We are both extreme neat freaks. There's no
question about it. When it comes to that, you're not anyways,
you're out of your mind. Next topic, you are out
of your mind. Topic. Let's take a break. I need
sometimes I need to breathe from this guy. Let's take
(19:24):
a break. Okay, Well, that was interesting, very interesting. I
love being right, which you know, and I'm gonna admit
something you our latest dilemma you may have been right about.
(19:48):
And it's funny because we touched about this. You talked
about this a little bit in the last podcast about
people married couples living in different households not seeing each other.
And I know it's common a lot of people, you know,
living they sleep in different drooms, you know, they don't
they do what they gotta do in their own bed
and then they go sleep in different rooms. Well, not
too long ago, we were in the market for a mattress,
and we're back in the market now for a mattress
(20:10):
because we're always complaining about the comfort of our mattress.
And we came across one that was, you know, super
great and comfortable all that, and then it had the
the base that you could raise the feet and raise
the backup on it. And I was super against the
fact of having two separate mattresses because I thought it
was like putting a divide in our relationship, Like there's
(20:32):
a you can feel the seam of the mattress in
the center of the bed. And it kind of is
on that topic of does that mean anything that you
have two different mattresses that they doesn't feel like you're
dividing the bed. Let me give them a little bit
of a back story so they understand why we have
this dilemma. Um Eric has a lot of issues with
his body. You see this wonderful handsome heartthrow men. That
(20:57):
is um forty three years old, the body of maybe
an eight. He has four neck surgeries, one lower back surgery.
He has problems with his elbow wrist problem. Um. So
Eric is very specific about the mattress that he needs,
which is he likes the mattress to be hard. I
(21:20):
am forty six with the body of a twenty two.
Because you're contagious anyways, I know. So I like my bed,
my mattress to be super soft like clouds. Right, So
(21:41):
we have that problem. He wants it hard. I wanted soft,
and we always were a problem. Well, we always have
that that thing about we've been through maybe since we've
been together. This is like the fifth mattress that we
all a lot of money and not the last one
that won before. It was refection to me, but he
didn't like it because it was just soft that were
(22:03):
sinking in the center. You can see the dent from
like I know. So we are back at it again.
So the solution to me is, let's get one of
those mattresses that you and then also he likes to
it's better for his neck, which I completely understand. If
the upper part of the mattress goes up a little bit.
They also say it's better for your heart when you
raise your legs increases. But can't deal. I want to
(22:23):
be flat and I wanted to be fluffy. So we
we bought a mattress not too long ago, and that
that does that. But the entire mattress goes up. And yeah,
and this is where I will admit she was right
on because we could have easily separated our lives by
having two different mattresses. But I was I was completely against.
I was like, no way. I mean, like, it's gonna
screw up intimacy, it's gonna're gonna feel some weird thing
on the bed. Like I don't want to have any
problems with that. And I have another excuse that you
(22:45):
have your side of the bed and like hell no.
And now, because I always want to raise the mattress
up by the head of the feet, she can't stand it.
So we have this bed that goes up down that
we can't use. And so sometimes like I have to
sneak it up. I grabbed the remote and I raise
the mattress just before bed enough to where she could
maybe it could be questionable thes she'd be like Eric, Eric,
(23:06):
is the mattress up right now? Is the mattress up?
I'm like, no, it's not up. I put it down.
Look click click click, I'm putting like the wrong button.
Click click click. Mattresses down all the way and then
in the middle of the night you realize that the
mattress I'm gonna have to get up, walk all the
way to his nightstand and grab the freaking device and
put the mattress down. It's a problem, guys. So the
next mattress is going to be with a divider for sure,
(23:29):
or you go sleep in a different room since you
might not have a problem. Will that put a divide
in the relationship. It's the same bed, but we are
living on two different islands. No we're not. And for intimacy,
just put like a little comforter in the middle so
you don't feel that line. M hm, think about it.
You can, you can. You can sleep sitting down basically
(23:52):
because you want to have your your your neck up
and your legs up. You'll you'll be very happy and
I'll be very happy with my fluffy flat bed. I
could definitely compromise on this, really, yeah, I definitely want
to divide I want that. I'm we're gonna take a
picture where that happens, so you guys can see the
new You're gonnaee my mattress all the way up and
hers all the way down, and then divide will be real.
(24:12):
You know what we need to come up with like
a screen or like a wall that can come up
because she's one of these people also that stays up
super late and wants to And I keep trying to
tell you can't be on your iPad of your phone
to try and fall asleep. I don't think that works.
It's bright lights. Computers are designed to keep you awake
and make you be alert. They have the opposite effect
for me. I like to browse the internet or like
(24:35):
to read on my iPad, and then it makes me
help me for the sleep. But why don't you do
that in the other room If you want to stay
up because it's my bedroom, but I'm sleeping in the bedroom,
then go do work in the other one for your
eyes with how do you call that? Okay, that's a
great again, listeners, please, I want input here. Is that
(24:55):
who's who's in the right here? If it's a bedroom
and I'm supposed to be sleeping in it, and you
of work to do. Why shouldn't you go into like
an office and go do work? Why should you go
do work in the bedroom when I'm sleeping? Why don't
you build an office in our home like I have
requested many times? Okay, beside the point, you can go
get a table in the living room and be on
(25:16):
the couch and do your work. And I never have
a random table, but they put on your lap, but
tonight had My point is why do you have to
do work in the room? Um? Because I like to
be you know, I work very very hard all day
and I take a shower where the kids are sleeping,
and I like to the work in my bed. Maybe
it's wrong, but that's where I like. It's not work fair.
(25:39):
Listeners chime in. You can email us at Eric and
Roz at I Heart radio dot com, or comment on
Instagram at he said a DHO podcast. Follow us there,
give us a comment. I want input on this. Who's
in the right in this situation? I can definitely compromise
a little, but like, let me ask you something. I've
trying to get a little reading light for her that
didn't work. I was a I believe you learn when
(26:01):
you had the head lamp. Remember when you had the
head lamp. It's combat. I got like a miner's head
lamp that she had to put on her head. I
got over that. It was uncomfortable talk about Maximum Hot
one miner's head lamp, my glasses, all your glasses on.
Eric loves to say that joke that I was Maxime.
What do you call it? Maxime? You were in like
(26:22):
the hot met That was the party we met him,
we first met. It wasn't a Maxim It wasn't anyways.
It was as a new product for Sony anyways. Um.
Eric loves to make that joke every time, Like my
pajamas and my hair is all like a mess and
I looked like crap, like I got. He likes to say, Wow,
(26:42):
Maxim hot went on when you come out, you came
out with the head gear on, with the head lamp
and the glasses, the mouth guard, and I'm like, keep
bringing sexy back. Yeah. Even even my daughter, even Sabella,
does that, Bob sexy like leaf me on the one
of all a person glamorous life of marriage, behind the scenes,
(27:03):
behind the scenes. Yeah. But then I go into a
shower and I'm like clean up and ba boom and
then you're like, put the bed down. It's unbelievable. Well
let's see what happens. We're gonna take a break for
a second. You know what. I'm so excited about what
(27:31):
I was driving over here to record this. And Christmas
music is in full effect. It's been in effect for
quite some time, like you know, at least I heard
it last week, even on the coast. But I mean,
Eric loves Christmas. I just love Christmas is my favorite
time of year, and I love Christmas music gets me
all in the mood. I started getting ready to do
(27:53):
those shopping because I gotta do all the Christmas shopping
for the kids. When are you going to start doing that?
Because yeah, I'm going to confess. Eric is the one
that does all the Christmas shopping. Mr Mom, Mr Mom. Again.
Sometimes the kids open the gifts wall the gifts at
Santa Bra they opened the gifts and She's like, oh,
(28:14):
what's that? No idea even bond it. I know exactly
what's actually rapping. I do that. I do all the wrapping. Um.
But I love Christmas and I know I love Christmas music.
The thing is that my Christmas music is very different
from your Christmas music. What you don't like? Our music
(28:36):
are American Christmas. I think it's beautiful to me. To me,
I'm going to be honest, that's what Felicia know. It's amazing. No,
I just find Christmas. Carl's like a little bit boring
because they don't They don't have m bungs and they wea.
They don't have the Latin flavor to it is everything.
(28:58):
He's like the Christmas and it's not like I get there.
They want there. What just happened? That reminds me of
the first time there? Oh no, oh my god. Oh
(29:20):
not to me, Christmas is like, let's dance and I
want to hear like you know. Of course that's how
my family met your family. Oh my, that's a crazy story.
By the way, my parents are coming for Christmas this
year and we should be interesting. It's gonna be interesting.
(29:40):
So that's a whole another show. This is really funny
to do a show just on her family coming. Should
we bring my mom? At some point? You definitely gonna
bring your mom. But English is very little guy, so
it's gonna be She's gotta laugh a lot. Doesn't know
she's laughing at a lot. You know what she said
to me yesterday that she listened listen to the podcast.
She's like, you guys are very funny, and there's moment
I don't understand what you're saying, so I get a
(30:01):
little loss, but but I do sometimes and it's it's
really funny. She was so cute and also she's loving mommy.
When our families first met, just back to the paranda,
because it's really so. My family is here from from
l A and her family had all come in town.
I mean the entire family, all brothers, nieces, not brothers,
everybody came in town, parents, and then all all the
(30:23):
Puerto Rican friends that are here in Los Angeles all gathered.
We had a good fifteen twenty Puerto Ricans all coming
over because my aunt threw a big Christmas dinner every
year and she said, yeah, bring them all, and they
more than The more the merrier. So this is the
first time the families are met, the first time they've
never met, and all of a sudden, there is a
I got there ahead of time because I was we
were just you know, dating, and saying you didn't tell them,
(30:44):
that can't tell anything. I don't I didn't even know
exactly what was coming um people is. In Puerto Rican tradition,
paranda is is usually late at night, like it starts
at midnight and a group of people with instruments. It
can be as as simple as pots and pa and
or it can be as um dramatic and and intricate
as trumpets and like maracas and bongoes and congas like
(31:07):
an orchestra. Basically, and you go to a house and midnight,
you wake everybody up and you goat that. So you're saying,
people wake up, they have to open their homes, offer
you food and drink and drinks, and then you grab
them and you take them to the next house. So
we can start at midnight and people do it until
the sun comes out. Everybody's drunk by the end. It
(31:27):
is a lot of fun and Puerto Ricans love it.
So I thought it was gonna be funny to meet
your family for the first time. Knock on the door.
They opened the door and we go what to so
screaming in the streets of Altadina at a house so confused,
I never forget your aunt thought, I was so happy
(31:47):
that this was happening, and I thought they were going
to appreciate it, and I think it was Janie and
Janey the owner opens the door and her face is like,
what is going on? So we kept saying it. I
keep getting more and more like, oh, I don't think
this is going to well. And it was. It was interesting.
I mean, we explained to them, guys, it's a putto
(32:07):
Rican tradition. We're harmless, we're good people. Don't worry about
it as pricking as you are. Could you imagine a
bunch of put Ricans came to our house at midnight
right now and started banging to the door and singing,
I won't open the door. Shot up gets I know,
you know what happens, people getting mad, Because sometimes that happens.
Sometimes you go to a house and you sing for
(32:29):
like ten minutes and they don't turn on the light
right and you get upset. But it's your choice if
you don't want to deal with all these people coming
into your home. I get it, you know. Else we
have to stress out about, well, I have to stress
out about because I'm the one that sets this up.
And then you just get annoyed. The elf on the shelf, Oh,
Sady loves the elf on the shelf. Now, Dylan has one,
(32:51):
and it's the most It's the most fun yet stressful
thing for a parent because you feel like you have
to outdo yourself every time and it drives I love it,
and yet it drives me mad. Or I first did it.
Rosin is like, this is ridiculous. I had all the
elves and all of Sabella's dolls doing like doing yoga poses.
So it's that's one thing we have to start getting
(33:12):
ready for. I think next podcast, we should um have
it with my mom or my dad, maybe just for fun,
and then we can talk about all these Christmas stories.
And then I wanted to ask the listeners have a
question for it. Let me finish this thought, because then
I'm gonna forget. I have a short memory. Okay, So, um,
we want to bring a guest again to spend time
with us? Um, what topic and what guests? Do you
(33:36):
think it be interesting? Right? What topic? They can pick
a topic and we can talk about it. Yeah, definitely
try and get some fun. Yeah. Yeah, we get a
professional that knows what he or she's talking to be
about money, finances, should be about relationships. Should it be
about work, work, kids or anything? Just life, coach life, anything,
(33:58):
and then we can talk about it. Maybe it'll be fun. Right,
I'm in again. Email us at Eric and Roz at
our Heart radio dot com or at he said, the
whole podcast on Instagram. You can let us know. We'll
definitely definitely yeah, you know, take what you say seriously
and we appreciate all the comments. You know, we have, um,
he said, yeah, the whole podcast, the Instagram account, and
it's a lot of fun to go and visit once
(34:20):
in a while and see that you guys are laughing
with us and you guys um identify with us, and
it's it means a lot to us, So thank you.
Thank you for a lot of your listeners have shared
it with your friends and told them to tune in,
and it's it's uh, it really brings joy to us
that you guys get a kick out of our bickering.
Your mom loves it every morning, She's like, I heard
(34:40):
the podcast. It was so good. What as I say
to you, is do you in Puerto Rico? Because I
actually don't know the answer to this. Other famous like
Christmas movies or shows that come on, you know, during
the holidays in Portico, I don't know. I'm sure we
do have all the ones that the that you guys
have to watch Christmas American citizens, Um, did you watch
a Christmas Story? Did you watch elf? I don't remember.
(35:04):
Home Alone? Yeah, home Alone? I have many times say
he loves Home Alone. What is your favorite favorite Christmas movie?
Christmas Story? And not everybody loves that movie. And it's
got a lot of controversial sort of stuff nowadays that
people would probably bullying. There's all kinds of stuff that
happens in that movie. Baby Guns, which I had a
baby gun and I shot myself with it, so I understand.
I use I used to use baby guns too. This
(35:27):
is so sad to tell the story. Okay, lizards UM
to feed one of my fish when I was growing up.
His name was um people and I will, I will,
I will go boom. I still don't believe any of
this as my brothers, you know, this side of Roslin,
I do not believe ever existed about them now. Yeah,
(35:48):
for whatever reason, I caught it with my hands and
I can't be closed to a lizard. It gives me
the creeps. And I used to kill them and grab them,
not even kill them. You heard them with a little baby.
It's awful. Guys an animal activist. Why am I saying this?
But I used to do that. Then I will grab
the lizard, take it to people, and then people will
go and suck it. And then you see the little
tail hanging. And I used to love that dark What
(36:11):
do you listen to me? It was awesome for me
to see awesome, And now I cringe every time I
think about it. I just go, how is it possible
that I used to do that? I love animals, like
I'm very mad at me, you know what, Yeah, I'm
very disappointed. I want to see videos and pictures of this.
Don't You also said you were a fast runner and
you won, like the Turkey race in Puerto Rican. Show
you the medals and she ran a race and won.
(36:34):
I was a bullet, a bullet, I was that fast.
Did used to come in a little bullet? Not long distance?
I was really fast short distance and hundred meters was
my specialty, asked my dad. My dad thought I was
gonna be a runner. He wanted me to be a runner.
My mom wanted me to be a dancer. My first
ballet tea shirt. Said to my mom, she's gonna have
(36:55):
to pick because it's not good for her. A Chillas
tendon to run and dance, so I picked dancing. But
I used to be a really good runner, and he
ran for a turkey. I run from kindergarten all the
way to the sixth grade for the turkey race. And
I want every single year to the point that there
was one year the parents got together and went to
the principle saying, we don't want Rosalyn to compete. It's
not fair. I don't believe any of this. Oh my god,
(37:17):
ask my mom. I don't believe. When she comes to
the holiday, had a lot of questions. Albun to that
me saying, have you figured out what you're getting me
for Christmas? Yet? Have you started making You should make
a list just to figure out what you're gonna give me.
I have no idea what I'm gonna get you, but
(37:38):
I'm gonna get you something good. Don't worry about it.
You know that I'm really good at getting your stuff
and celebrating your birthdays. You have the best birthdays of
your life because of me. You do a pretty good
surprises there you go. Alright, Well, this was another successful
podcast of ripping each other apart. We are happy, we
(38:00):
we're very happy to going to be in our own beds,
different mattresses, maybe different rooms, maybe different house by the
end of this whole No, we won't. Don't say that
because some people are gonna be like they're gonna anyways,
the very first episode, I was joking, well and I'm serious,
and it was It's all in good fun. We love
each other. It's just we're very different. That's what it's called,
he said. But their support, there's respect. There's many things. Okay,
(38:31):
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