January 8, 2020 • 42 mins
Eric and Roselyn reveal their VERY intimate New Years resolutions.
Shockingly, they are on the same page but in their own opposing way.
Eric's love language is physical touch. He wants more connection, affection, and kisses in 2020.
Roselyn responds with her resolution that should please Eric immensely.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
This is he said with Eric Winter and Robalin Santez. Wow,
it's nice to hear that little jingle again. I know, happy, happy,
we are back. It feels good crazy yeah. I mean
I didn't really have much of a break. I feel
(00:22):
like we want to go on vacation again. It's good
to be back at work actually because it feels like
it's a good break from the break. Where are you
taking me? Actually? Because I do need a little vacation
after the crazies. Where am I taking you? Where are
you taking me? I'm taking you nowhere. I want to
know where you're taking to me. I'm the one that
needs a vacation. Why because my parents are the one
that gave into town. No, I love your parents. I
(00:42):
mean I would never say that, but you would say that,
and then I have to hear it from you. What
are you talking about? You get complain, complain, complain, complain
and everything. You know. What happens is that somebody's family
comes in town and I'm like, I'm actually really cool
and close with her with her family, but she gets
super over overwhelmed taking care of her family, and then
that brushes off onto me. And then, of course if
(01:06):
you're overwhelmed. Now I'm overwhelmed, and everything goes like it's
an inferno. It wasn't an inferno. That's a little dramatic. No,
you're an inferno. But it's what happened. It turns everything
into an inferno. No, it wasn't. Listen, guys, this is
what happened. My mom and my dad and I'm brother.
But Franco just came for three days. Franco Caine. You
want to tell everybody why Franco came for three days
(01:27):
because this is something that I rescued a dog in
Puerto Rico name Archie for my parents. I was super
excited to see Archie and my parents over the holidays.
They went to the airport in Puerto Rico. Archie didn't
make the flight because the person kept saying that they
are playing the type of aircraft on the first class
cabin but getting accept dogs interet. So I flew my
(01:50):
brother the following day to bring Archie. It was a
priority to me. An Archie made it. I guess what,
Archie come home Because common sense would say if Archie
didn't make the flight, it's okay, they're back in a week,
or Archie has family that he can watch him in
Puerto Rico, but no rosalind the day before Christmas disrupts
(02:10):
her brother's holiday, flies him in on super cheap flights
the day before Christmas and the dog Archie in and
then her parents left and said, we don't feel comfortable
traveling back with Archie. Can you bring him back when
you come back to Puerto Rico. So now Aren'tie who
they were going to see for a week. They are
going to see for three or four months. So the
(02:32):
logic to all of this, no one can explain it.
It doesn't make logic to a winter. It makes logic
to logic to anyone. Sante's Winter Rodriguez. Guys, my parents
are eighty years old. Love them. Their mind is sharp. Well, wow,
(02:52):
I'm sorry I didn't say that, she laughed. My mom
has a problem with her ankle, soo, her wrist, her knee,
she has a lot of health issues. And going in
and out of my my truck was a problem for
ten days. So her body was beat. And she said, listen,
it's a lot to fly for almost twelve hours to
Puerto Rico carrying a dog. Do you mind if you
(03:13):
can keep the dog until like until you come back
to Puerto Rico and said, absolutely, what am I gonna say? No, Eric, normal,
I can do that. But he realized the dog could
have stayed just for a week and a half in
Puerto Rico and they would have saw the dog in
a week and a half. Now it's four months. I
promise Archie when I read for sure, this is what
Eric doesn't understand. I have a very unweave talk. We've
talked about. I have a very special connection with animals.
(03:36):
This dog is very dear to my heart. When I
left Puerto Rico during the summer after those I am,
I said, I'm going to see you very soon, and
that soon was Christmas because I know my parents were
going to come for Christmas. She definitely knows what Christmas
is for sure. Well he knows, he knows now, he
knows now, he knows something Studio City, California, and he's
not in Puerto Rico where he's at right now. My god, Archie,
(03:59):
I'm very so know. So it was, yeah, you know,
you you kind of have look it's great scene. Family.
Family is always fun to be around. But it was, yeah,
we need a vacation from vacation, so where are you
taking me. Yeah, you have Dave and Sabella, Mom and Dad, Hi,
Mom and Dada. I loved having you guys here. No,
(04:23):
it was awesome having them. It was awesome. And I
don't know how long they're going to be able to
fly like long flights like that, so having them this
year was a beautiful thing. Here's a great, great story
of taking care of her parents. So, I mean, Rosin
is the one that's really having to do all this.
But we're at Disneyland with you know, Sabella and the kid,
Isabella and Dala and our friends, and and Rosin's like
going nuts because she's on the phone the whole time
(04:43):
trying to help her parents work the television because they're
pushed every button on both remotes and like basically shut
down the entire system. So Roslin goes to the next
day and calls me from FaceTime so I can tell
you what buttons to push to get the TV back on.
And now they're so stressed out about the TV that
they decided just to leave the TV on Fern and
higher week and then for ten days and just mute
(05:04):
it when they went to sleep, and I mute it
when they woke up in the morning, so they never
had to deal with the television. So for ten days
the TV was running twenty four. I kept asking Erica,
it's it was a rental. I rented this place on
Irby and Irby n B. And I kept asking eric
is that, like, is it going to be a problem
with the TV A We're going to break this? Oh
(05:24):
my god, I'm sorry not that. But we took care
of that place incredibly. Yeah, just ran the electricity. Is
just what I do with when when when we go
on location and we have to stay out of place,
I actually leave the place better and cleaner than how
we actually got it. I'm like a lunatic, Like, so
that's what That's what happened, you know, that's true. Yeah. Anyways,
(05:45):
so I'm gonna take you too back to Puerto Rico.
You want to go to Puerto Rica? Sure, I mean
a real vacation, like we're talking the two of US
vacation Big Puerto Rico is never a vacation here. That's
that's basically where they're every day visiting family and friends,
(06:05):
which is awesome, but it's not a vacation. It's just
like being in l A. What happened to the thing
that you were doing. You were looking at places to
go just a two of us. What happened with that?
I went out the one though, Oh wow, thank you.
I appreciate it. Wow to come back to that, Uh,
maybe one we'll go on vacation. It's going to be
that long. But for now we're in. And m are
(06:26):
you big with resolutions? Because we talked about this, like
you know New Year's resolutions? Is that? Is that something
that's big for you? It was before. I used to
have a list, and I will keep it for a
year and the one I will burn it, and then
I will do the grapes and I'll do the whole thing. Grapes, Yeah,
you eat twelve grapes or something like that? What I
(06:48):
don't even remember. I've never heard this in what Yeah
you eat twelve grapes? This is all prior to did
you just make up? This is a Puerto Rican thing? No?
Have any of you heard of this? Yeah you have? Yeah,
now you have it? Okay, so I don't feel have
you heard of it? All right? So we're two for
three on this. You have twelve grades. If the two
Latinas in the room are the one to know about
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it and the rest. The three green goes in here
and know nothing about it. Twelve grades at midnight on
New Years on New Year's Eve is both a tradition
and superstition in Spain, no wonder the two Latinas knows
something about this three nothing and you never did the
writing something, And then on the thirty first you burn it,
like everything everything that you want to gway. You don't
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even remember what you write in your organizer. How the
heck are you can remember when you wrote for your
resolution the start of a year, you write something you organizer,
the week before you forget. Yeah, and so what's the
point I have it? At that moment I thought about it.
It stays in my subconscious. That's nonsense. So you may Okay,
so you made resolutions this year, I would love to hear.
(07:51):
I don't usually do it because I'm always like it
just puts pressure on trying to maintain something, to think
about it. It makes you have goals. I think every
day you can plant goals, and doesn't matter about New
Year's Everybody put so much pressure on study. And like
every year you dressed in this red dress. This is
how crazy rise on us New Year's Eve? She thinks,
she got food poisoning, which maybe she did because she
(08:11):
eats something that was like a fish or something. It
wasn't severe, but it was bad enough to put her
in some pain and discomfort. We had to go to
a friend's house for a New Year's Eve party. I said, look,
if you don't feel good, we just don't go. There's
gonna be another New Year's It's fine. No, no, I
have to go. I made this. I'm obligated. I helped planet.
I gotta be there. She's dying every year in the past.
She's always red lipstick, red dress. I'm like, just go comfortable,
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like if you don't feel well, cut too. I've been waiting,
ready to go. She is in full like seven inch heels,
red dress, hair up in a bun, full face of makeup,
red lips, wanting to die. It makes no sense to receive.
I'm not going to receive the year looking like like
s h. I t there's no way. So yeah, I
(08:55):
was very sick and you look like a million bucks
under assent, and that makes sense. Yes, it makes sense
to me. The picture was beautiful and it was the way. No,
I didn't I would have thrown thrown up. But we
had to leave the earlier the party early. My parents
were very very sad because they actually were enjoying themselves.
The food was phenomenal. Um, the party was popping. It
(09:16):
was great. But I felt sick. But there's no way
that I was going to send that sign, that message
to the universe that I didn't feel good. So at
least from the outside, sent that message every two minutes,
so the universe definitely got wind of that. That's too
you know, the universe. I'm definitely not your universe. No,
you are. You are, but not on thety one, on
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the thirty one. The universe is the universe, and I
wanted to look presentable, so so I have a memory
the following year of oh wow, this was a great year.
You will never understand. You're like a dude. I think
there's way too much pressure on these resolutions. However, she's
talked me into doing it. And before we get into
our resolutions, though, I really please if people could email
I actually want to hear what our fans have done
(10:00):
for resolutions. Email us at Eric and Roz at i
heeart radio dot com, leave comments on our Instagram at
he said a DHO podcast, and we will come back
to our resolutions, but please let us know what yours are.
I want to try and learn something. Okay, let's take
a break, all right, Resolution time. I can't wait to
(10:30):
hear we're starting with mine. Yes, please, ridiculous, Okay, my
these are so I something different that you also came
up with is these are my resolutions for me. But
I'm gonna give you something that I'm hoping you will
do or work on in the new year, and hopefully
(10:51):
you have one for me. But my resolutions are and
I do say this to myself all the time. It's
not even a New Year's thing, but patience. Every really
want to work on my patients, with my family, with
my kids, like kids can really test your patients, with life,
with everything, So patients is one. And in doing that,
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I've tied in another resolution, which is trying to work
on more breathing. And I'm not saying like full meditation,
but I don't know. I mean, I always hear people
talk about meditation, how it's good for you, so maybe
I would try to learn something more about that and
trying to incorporate that in my life. I don't know
if I could sit still and sit in silence for
that long. So that's actually a good test. No, you can't.
You're probably right, but it's worth trying. Uh. My other
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resolution is I want to take more time, uh, taking
care of my body. I've been going through a lot
of just you know, different stuff, health stuff, trying to
you know, I'm with working out and aches and you
know issues, and I want to get my body right.
So more gym, more stretching, more just physical therapy, just
getting things working the best they can be. You do
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that every single day of your life. How are you
gonna do more? I don't do it every day. I
want to do it different. Works out every single day,
he has physical therapy three or four times a week,
he's always having surgeries. I don't know how I want
to do it differently. I want I've I've always been
obsessed with doing things a certain way. I want to
try and change it up and work through in a
slower manner. More yoga, more things that are stretching and
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adding the longevity in my body. Um, I really want
to do this, like more family activities with the kids,
like creating more just you know, you get a holiday break,
so you get these long weekends, and so we just
end up at the park or just hanging out. And
it's hard because you have a lot, we have a
lot going on. But I want to do more events,
more things that the kids can go experience and enjoy.
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And my last thing is I want to focus this
kind of ties in with patients and breathing. I want
to focus on worrying less. Tend to be a little
bit of a warrior. Okay, that's it. I'm so glad
that you recognize all these things. So what is the
thing that well, okay that those are your your five
and then we're going to go to the one you
want to We'll come back to you after a break.
But the thing I want you I think to focus
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on in the new year. You know, there never can
be enough physical touch. I feel like physical touch is
an important thing, going back to the five love languages.
I think that's something that in the new year seven
and then I think, uh, compromise. That would be the
other thing, the other big things it's really working on. Compromise,
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the world of Rossland Sanchez, compromising Okay, silence, long thought process, Okay,
I know why the compromise, I know right, I know
where the compromise is coming. From and I, Yeah, I'm
going to make um pledge. Is that correct? I'm making
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a resolution. I'm making a resolution that you know, I
just have. You just have to listen to my five
um God resolutions, and you know what, it's going to
be very interesting. A lot of things that you mentioned
I actually mentioned. So we're connected, believe it or not,
even though right now we are, we're very disconnected. It
because we had a little bit of an issue that
(14:02):
we can talk about it a different podcast. And that's
the reason why he's bringing the word compromise because he
wants me to compromise. But anyways, so what are you doing?
What are you like he's actually having He's having this
whole conversation listening. I'm listening. I'm shocked that we have
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something that's similar on the resolution side. So do two things?
Actually two things out five? I mean one, I just
have to tell you my eat less sweets. It sounds
like something simple, but every year, because sugar is not
good for anybody, but it's it's it's very bad for
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me for inflammation. I just love love sweets and my
baby deal and love sweets because of because of mommy.
And even though I'm super healthy, and I look healthy.
I just I recognize that I have to try to
eat less sugar. I just love sugar. Why why are
you looking like? Why? Why? Why? No? No No, go ahead,
I'll do it. Less sugar, sugar, vegetables, more vegetables. I'm
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doing that. Not I am okay only because of them.
The vitamins is amazing. Eric, thank you're absolutely right. I
let the world, he laughed at. I love it. Number two.
Not have such a potty mouth, and I do that
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every single year. You know what, you know what's funny.
It's like I revealed. No, that's not the revolt rebelled
against my parents because when I was growing up, I
wasn't allowed to use dirty words like ever. I'm a
house my mom. I never heard my mom ever saying
about word, so I wasn't allowed to say about the words.
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So when I left my house and I moved to
the stage by myself, it was like like freedom. And
even though people that know me, what do they think?
Do they think that I that I used? I don't
think you have a trucker trucker around? I mean I
have a way worse. No, you don't. I swear all
the time. Really, I think it's fun. I love a
good swear conversation. It's just really I just do it
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a lot, and I don't think it's necessary and I
don't want Sabella um hearing that, you know, copying behavior.
I agree with that. You be definitely careful around the kids,
because even we just saw Jumanji over the break and
Sabella was so excited that they said she loves it.
She loves Oh my god, they said these bad words
she That was so funny, you know what to swear less.
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Seby has the thing now that she loves changing Dylan's diapers, um,
and she is so into it right now and he
loves it. And you see her like if she practiced
so much with her dolls, then now with Dylan, she's
actually doing a really good job. But she was cleaning
the little butt hole right and she was listened to
it like perfectly right, and I'm like teaching it and
I said, no, you have to clean the and I said, right,
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why would you say I don't know? Because I wanted
it to be very graphic. They and She's like, I'm
just said a bad word. Oh there you go. Why
would you say that? I don't know? I did. But
then I told don't don't say that word. It's not
just can I say a whole? And I'm going you know,
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she can't know. You can't say a hold. You go
around school saying you're an a hole. She can't. Kids.
This is another problem that you cannot talk to an
eight year old like they are a forty howld you
forty something year old. You can't talk to an eight
year old and think they're on the same level as you.
They won't register in the same Sometimes I feel like
she is. You can give them a mature conversation, but
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you can't expect them to rationalize like you doing. And
good number three, all your parents out there, please write
in about that to sur rouse and can read it
because I know I am right on this one. Okay,
go on, okay. Next one, volunteer at a duck shelter
in Los Angeles at least once a month with my daughter.
That's a great one. I would like to be a
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part of that. I would do that too. Okay, that's
great and Dylan's great, So I want to do that
at least because I do a lot of work with dogs,
as you know in Puerto Rico. Blah blah, blah blah.
But I think I live here, so I should be
doing that type of work in Los Angeles. So I
want to do it at least once a month and
we go and we um walk the dogs, or we
just clean some kennels and we just do That's number four.
(18:24):
Spend more quality time with close friends. Eric always says
that I live like in a bubble, but I'm always
I'm very private. I guess so. And I do have
a lot of boring. Now you're boring. We have established
us in the very beginning. The square boring one is
you're like, the girls are going out, I really don't
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want to go. I just want to stay in bed
and beyond Instagram, Oh my god. Anyways, So I have
a lot of I have a circle of friends that
are like my sisters, and they're wonderful people. And I
see them a lot and we and we speak a lot.
But I think it's nice for a woman and two
once in a while just have a little date night
with her girlfriends. And I just should have good that
(19:06):
you need those good friendships. That's good. That's a good
I do have great friend no, but like to nurture them,
to build them, you know, it's good to have your
friends close to you. But by the way, I want
to jump in your You're on number four and not
one thing is overlap. You said we had two things
that overlap, the next to they're really supposed to do? Five? No,
because and then the six is the one that I'm one. Oh,
(19:28):
so the one that overlaps is one that you want
me to do. Listen, listen. So I haven't written, I
haven't written right here. It's not the point. So I
have proved that I actually said, give Eric more sex. Whoa,
we went straight with the word. I was saying physical
touch because you're just trying to hide into the hoage. Okay,
so I have it right here. Read it. Do you
(19:48):
believe me? You're very much more sex. But you were
talking about physical and intimacy, like like hogs and kisses.
That's better for me. I was like the sex, but
you wrote it. I did it. Okay, I'll be more less,
I'll give you massages, I will rob your feet, yeah,
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I will kiss you more. You're making me uncomfortable, so
you know what I actually thought about that? Okay? And
what's the other one that overlaps that you expect me
to do? That because you said that you want to
you wanna be able to not stress as much, right,
and you want to be more patient. So my advice
(20:33):
or my resolution for you, says Eric blind not being
such a stress case and heavy all the time. You
are like a warrior. Eric has one speed and that's speedy. Gonzales. Eric.
Everything is fast, fast, fast, fast fast. He walks fast,
he eats fast, he cooks fast. Everything Eric does is fast.
(20:55):
And I think in life it serves you really well
for many many things. But there's all the moments that
you just I just need you to chill. And just so,
if you've ever seen the movies Utopia, I'm the fast one.
She's that sloth that was at the d m V.
But I'm not because I accomplish everything I want to do.
You're absolutely wrong. I just haven't been a year. No,
(21:15):
I don't, Eric, look at my life, dude, really google
my name. Let me know. If I don't accomplish it,
that took you years. My point is I accomplished everything
within a day. You accoplish everything within a week. No,
But you know what, but I don't go to bed
shaking because he's like, I'm going to give an example
of something that this is Eric behavior. Eric is so
(21:36):
concerned that something is going to embarrass him or the
kids are not perfect. So started, my kids aren't perfect,
and it started. He's preschool for the first time yesterday,
meaning not the mommy and me, the one that you
actually have to leave them there twice a week and
their parents are gone. He's only two years old. We
took him. It's a circus. All these kids are crying,
(21:56):
all all the kids are anxious, their parents are there.
So of is Dylan. We woke him up from his
nap early. He cried the entire way to the preschool
when he realized there's a lot of people here. I
don't know. There's the teachers are like that, I mean
all oud. He was like, I'm not having it. So
he gets very anxious and he wanted mummy. So I'm
sitting down. I'm sitting down with Dylan, trying to control
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him and trying to deviate his attention. So he stopped whatever.
And Eric is so stressed out because Dylan is acting up,
and he's like, gross, stand up, stand up. If you
send up is better stand up? Moving you're taking out
of It's not about and I just want you to breathe.
That's not about embarrassment. That's about Dylan was doing really
well at times. But Dylan is so different than Sabella,
(22:40):
and it's very It's always blows my mind because I'm
an only child. But when you see siblings, same everything, upbringing,
you know, parents, everything, blah blah blah, and they are
so different, just born different personalities. And uh, you know,
he he takes a long time to warm up to people,
and every time he'd settle in, someone would feel the
need to try and deal it and he lose his mind.
(23:03):
And I find and even when you know our nanny
was there as well, because we all you know, we're
there just going to say how the first day would go.
I find that if you just kind of get him
engaged in something and step away and let him do
his thing, he tends to ease out of the clean
is faster. And I wasn't trying to tell you not
to be next to him. I was just like, every
time he would stop crying, stand up and step away
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and let him get back into the routine. Don't try
to keep giving him that. I will stand up, he
will start asking, but then you can come back down
I'm just saying the more I just feel like, the
more you walk away from and give him space, he
tends to, you know, get wrapped up in his activity
and it gets better just to just to clear the air.
That wasn't because I was anxious, but I do recognize. Yes,
(23:48):
she's right, I get very anxious. I don't expect my
kids to be perfect. But I'm the guy that if
I'm at a table and everybody's you know, hanging out
with a group, and there's one loud laugher in my group,
I can't enjoy the dinner. He wants to leave. I
freak out if we fly, like he hates flying with
the kids because if one of them, if Dylan starts crying,
it ruins the strip. You start sweating, like because I
(24:10):
worry about everybody else's experience. I get it. I get it.
If everybody has people have kids, they know that that's
going to happen. All right, I'm gonna wear you lest
their kids can lose their on the plane. That'd be great,
would be great. So yeah, that's what That's what I
want for you to just to just breathe. So I'm
glad that you are going to start taking meditation and
(24:31):
yoga and pilaris and things that will just um kids.
But the kids when tabella meaning just bring it down
a nudge, you bring it like lose two or three lines.
But okay, let's take a break, do so, Eric, I
(25:04):
want to talk about um, what happened to us this um,
this little break that we had we honey? What about honey? Honey? Honey?
The turtle you guys know about Honey? Did we ever
talk about honey on the previous podcast? So um Gwen,
which is Eric's mom, um said les grandma gifted her
(25:26):
was it for her birthday or something of the last Christmas?
A little turtle. We name her honey. We don't even
know if he's a boy or a girl, but the
name is honey. And she was this tiny little thing
and now she grew a lot. And I complained at
the beginning, oh my god, it's disgusting. She smells making.
But then I grew to love this turtle and I
(25:46):
will clean them the tank kind of WI feed. And
I realized that she loves romaine let us and bottle
let us doesn't love kale as much. She loves dandelion.
So I became really close to this turtle and we
had to move on from her. She's still alive, everybody,
It's not happened. Nothing happened, Honey. And I try to
(26:07):
convince Eric we can actually find a little place for
her outside and let's just build a little environment for
her to thrive, because they can live many, many years,
and there's spiritual beings and they're actually good for you.
This is one thing that runs. But Eric decided to
just give her. Whoa, whoa. I didn't decide. Now, this
is one thing Rosin doesn't understand. Okay, this was This
(26:29):
is Honey, not a turtle. She's a tortoise. So she
is atoise, a desert tortoise, and we were giving her.
She's actually an endangered tortoise that somebody who helps, you know,
raise these tortoises to get him back out in the wild.
We were, in essence, trying to help I want to
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call it foster Honey. We we knew Honey was going
to get very big. We were keeping taking great care
of her until she got to a point to where
we would be able to figure out if we could
keep her or not. That You never never said to me,
we're just gonna foster I've never had a turtle. I
don't know how big Honey was want to I have
a beginning to end well and I and I get that,
I get that. But Honey was getting big very fast.
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She you know, when you keep a tortoise outside houses
that can allow that have you know, dirt yards where
they can dig up and and tortoises tend to create
little tunnels and holes and they go hibernate in there,
and they need this space. They live out in the desert.
So we got to the point where Honey was just
getting too big. She was knocking over her a little.
You know. Then all the time we had no room
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to put that big of a tank. That would have
to be the next size up. And I told her
it's time that Honey moves on and goes back to
the to the guy who who raised her and can
now transition her into going back and populating in the wild.
You know who has a turtle, a big turtle, Ben,
he probably has a yard where a tortle, the tortoise
can live. I'm guessing you could. We can reach out
(27:58):
to beneats you when each other. Let's talk to me
about your So she was, you know, up in arms
about this tortoise all break and I'm like, she's speaking
of the tortoise, and of course trying to think the
tortoises communicating with her. And now she we had a
fun guy. Remember we talked about that that I had
to come to a function, said the tortoise, tortoise, keep
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them there, good energy, keep her here. I said, well,
we want to give her away, and he's like, keep
her here. So that's screwed Rosin all up. So now
basically we have bad fun sue, because we had to
send Honey back out into the wild so she could
be all grows up and go be a big girl
or boy and you know, help the population. What if
she doesn't make it because she's gonna said a little
tag not knowing how to defend her, or she we
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don't know, is a stud gonna make it super healthy.
We did a great job, but she's got to go
back into the wild. We have no space for her.
And again here we go with the practical rational side
of our relationship. Me talking to the dreamer animal whisperer.
But it's not a dream because I will make it happening.
It was if I was by myself, I would have
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built a whole thing for her outside. You keep making
you can. Don't tell me you can space to file.
I have this place. I know that I identify this
place and everything. You just didn't want to. One day
Honey is attacked by and then we have a problem
because Honey no longer can live in the mountains with
the coyotes and deers have stepped on her. The environment
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against coyotes and deers and things like that. With Honey
the turtle, no, I would build it properly. We will
call Walter the hand the band, and Walter would have
built something good. Anyways, Funny, we love you, We give
you a great life, and shout Tony, and we hope
that you keep hustling. Honey good out in the wild, baby,
go populate, mate, get some physical touch. That says a lot.
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They're solitary animals. I don't like to live with other turtles, tortoises.
You don't know that. I wish you know with me. No,
they're solitary, and say they can't live with other tortoises.
He'll go get some and then he'll move on. So
and then so Honey's gone. Marocca, my my dog. It's
very sick o guy. So if you follow me on
Instagram or Twitter, you you probably you've seen posts that, Um,
(30:10):
it was a very sad holiday for me because we're
dealing with Maracca's issues. She's actually back to walking, but
the cancer is there and it's massive and we just
have to take it one day at a time, and
an animal transitioning period, it's often. Then Honey had to go,
and then Honey had to go, and then we're taking
care of Archie, my parents dog, and we're debating what's
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what's what with Archie and I love. We're not debating
anything Archie. We're taking care of Archie right now for
her parents. He's a cute dog. We're taking care of
Archie for her parents. And Archie is just awesome. Came
with a lot of issues. Archie was really abused, but
he's thriving and doing better every single day. So we
have emails. We have emails that our listeners sent to us,
(30:55):
and some good emails. Actually not that I'm surprised that
our listeners would send good emails, let me correct that,
but these two. I took a look at him and
I was like, Wow, these are some good questions, Like
some good food for thought. So the first one is
I guess directed towards me because my parents are divorced.
But this is from anonymous coping with divorce. I am
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twenty eight and still live with my parents, and after
thirty six years of marriage, they are calling it quits.
So my questions are for Eric. First question out of curiosity,
how did you cope going through divorce and after it
was finalized? How did you cope? Well, I wasn't twenty eight, um,
so that is a big difference. I was seven, um,
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and I got it was brutal. I remember, I literally
remember the exact moment in my life, and I don't.
I remember some things, don't remember a lot of things
from that young but I do remember the exact moment
my parents sat me down in the living room and
told me we're going to get a divorce. I remember
the conversation, I remember the top, I remember bawling, I
remember everybody crying. I remember it being the worst day
(32:04):
of my life, like my world collapsed. Um. So that's
how vivid. That moment was brutal thing to cope with
at that time for sure, as um now and now
the other flip to that is I have amazing parents
in the regards the way they handled the divorce. It
was not um like Rosin watched the movie A Marriage Story.
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It wasn't a disaster it was it was it was
a unique experience and that my parents shared custody of me.
Every month, I would move back and forth from my
mom's house to my dad's house, moving everything I own
from one house to the other. And I'd have one
weekend in between that i'd stay with that other parent.
And I did that until I was about sixteen when
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I could drive. So from seven to sixteen, I would
live with each parent for a month, which was amazing
in a lot of ways because I got to experience
what it was like to be with that parent for
a full period of time. Um. But then it's also
weird because you lou you you move away from your friends,
you move away from the other parents for such a
long period of time. However, they did a great job
of never bad mouthing each other, and they really put
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me first in the divorce. So I look at that
divorce now and think it was definitely the best thing
for the marriage. At the time, I'm I'm glad they
made that decision. I see them now in my through
my adult eyes, and I don't see how they could
have stayed married. So I fully get it. Um so
is something I was able to grow and mature with
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and take understanding with later um and accept. However, it's
not the same experience for everyone, UM And I think
it's got to be pretty shocking, you know, to be
twenty eight and then see your parents call it quits.
And I've heard of this happening with a lot of friends.
Actually we're parents all of a sudden just decided the
divorce so much later in life. But a lot of
times maybe they were doing that for you, for the kid,
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because they wanted you to become, you know, more of
a stable um adult and they felt like once you
were more stable, you would understand what they're going through.
It doesn't make it completely easy here, but it might
help you cope with what they're going through. So they
stayed together maybe for you to help give you a
better a better upbringing. Um So that's my opinion on that.
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I know it's I know it's a tough topic, but
I wish you all the best going through it, and
I hope your parents handle it with grace and treat
each other kindly. Um. Second question, if you had to
go through it all over again, and if it was
your choice, would you still want to go through it
as a child, or would you prefer experiencing your parents
divorced as a grown adult. That's a very tough thing
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to answer hypothetically, but I think as an adult, I
would prefer be in your position then as a seven
year old. And I say that only because I have
kids now and I look at my kids and I
if I ever had to see them go through what
I went through at seven years old, it would destroy me.
So I think as an adult would be my preference.
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What happens is I don't I don't know if I'm
talking out of line, but I it depends on the
age of your parents. But I think if you if
your parents go through a divorce as adults, then as
a child, as as a kid, you're probably thinking, oh
my god, they're separating. That family unit is gone, and
there's so many, so much baggage that comes without the house,
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the property is that then who takes care of Who's
going to take care of that? Because it's usually the
kids that want the ones that have to just take
leadership and and try to solve all the problem. Not
the parents had know that correctly. But I also think
what happens is a lot of kids I don't know
how to, don't understand what's going on, and they tend
to blame themselves sometimes as a kid. You mean, you
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feel like you're responsible. Was it something you did? Did
you that was that your feeling? You thought it was
because of something you did. I think there was moments
I went through that we're processing it and going we
did I caused the fight? You know, we've been in
you and I have gotten an arguments over something that
Sabella did or you know, it's a part of that's
Sabella's fault that we didn't handle it appropriately in front
of her. But you could see how a kid could
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feel like if I only just didn't do that, maybe
they wouldn't have fought and maybe they'd still be married.
So it's that's definitely a tough thing to pros. You
know what, I think kids nowadays they have that fear.
It's it's like a big, a big insecurity at a
big fear that they have because it's so common nowadays
to have parents that are divorced. You know, when they
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go to school. Half of the class their parents are
not divorced, So to them it it's so vivid and
it's actually possible. So they live with this fear of
if my parents are arguing, if my parents are fighting, um,
are they gonna divorce? You know, it's such a relevant
topic for kids nowadays. And when our daughters come home
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and she has a lot of friends of school that
you know, either parents are divorced or going through divorce,
and she said us, please don't get a divorce just
because she sees her friends going through it. And look
the other The flip side to it also is and
I see this as an adult. I did not see
it as a kid. But if two people cannot make
it work and it's causing so much friction intention in
(37:04):
the household, that's probably than just gracefully calling it quits
and trying to restart everybody's lives. I had the opposite experience.
My parents are together. It's my oldest brother is I believe,
so my parents have been together for like sixty years.
And I used to tell my mom, Mom, can you
please get divorced? Because no final That's why I grew
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up with parents loved each other and can't stand in
each other. It is a very interesting dynamic that me
and my brothers we will never understand. But you know
what happened to me this um, this break um, Eric,
And I was telling your mom about this um and
I think it's the first time I've seen this in
forty six years, um, because it's like they can't live
with her without each other. Right. One time you offered
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your mom to actually come live with you and divorce
your dad, and then your dad started fully courting her
and trying to win her back, and she became like
a little girl. She's like, can you believe the psychologesus? Lord?
You know, let me just not get involved anymore, because
they two clearly have something going that we don't understand.
But this time around, they were here and they think
it's really really crazy, but they talk a lot and
events even though what we see is a lot and
(38:13):
a lot of um and it must I actually think
they're best friends. I think that they get each other.
They get each other, and they whole um commonality, you know,
not compromise anyways, It doesn't the ending. So even though
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they have issues, they actually have this deep love and
and this deep friendship that they don't want to go
off because I saw it, and they will be like
in the living room by themselves talking and they're talking
a very low volume, and they talk about everything. So
I think they're used to that companionship and that that complicity.
So good for them. I guess all right, let's go.
(39:02):
Let's go to the next question from Austin. Is it
from Austin the plays or Austin is the name of
the person, do we know Austin's Okay? Hi, Austin. So
plastic containers. We had a lot of plastic containers to
store leftovers. But my wife likes the appearance of glass.
More appearance, what appearance, no appearance, appearance. I think I've
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been saying her room this whole time. So she informed
me that we were tossing out all the plastic containers.
Nothing against glass. Plastic sucks, but she drops stuff all
the time. Glass isn't practical, But here we are because
when she wants aesthetics, aesthetics, aesthetics always win. That's my lady. Austin.
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I think you might be married to my wife. Are
you have an affair? Oh? I got yeah with Austin.
Come on, come on, gus guess what. Guess what? I
have plastic. My pantry is beautiful, but it's all plastic.
I don't have glass, and I would love to have glass.
It will be more beautiful as a matter of fact,
but not practical, very practical. But the kids would drop it.
(40:10):
You would probably drop it way heavier. I mean, it
is better for the environment. But if that was if
that was your pitch, then you might have a conversation.
But the esthetics part of it is not really a
good pitch. So is it going to win this battle
or lose his battle? Well, no, she wants it. He's
already clearly lost the battle. So Austin, I feel for you.
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I've lost many of those battles, and I've been in
that position and I still lose them every day. But
you know what I think. I think I kind of
I like that she look once the stuff to look pretty.
I'm all about that. But I think that she can
find plastic um containers that actually look cute. The ones
that I have are actually very beautiful ones we got
(40:51):
with the container store. Is that right? They sell them
there or and they do look really nice, So that
could be a compromise. Some word of a day maybe
which Rossland and maybe your wife needs to do. What
is a compromise? Go, well, just go straight to the point.
What is a compromise you want me to work on.
There's a bunch of compromises. It's not the point we're
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talking about Austin right now. This isn't about us dating Austin.
I'm Austin. That's true. You are dating Austin. You're a
married Austin apparently. But I think Austin, yeah, I think,
how are you guys know that's not gonna make sense
to do, like some things in plastic and something that's
just weird, that's weird. I think you're stuck. Man. It's
gonna be glass and that's what it is. But if
he keeps dropping stuff, then you're gonna have to say, look,
(41:35):
I'm done replacing things. It's gonna go be plastic and
getta put your foot down. Austin at that point, and
then write us back and say that is not going
to work. Just write his back off to make me proud.
I know that you won. Oh my god, that's a
that's a tough one. Sorry, man, But well, thank you
for your questions, Thank you for all the questions. We
love getting them. Please send more. Would we have some more? Do?
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We haven't enough time today? We can get you know,
we can do something. We can do some more the
next time around. But thank you everyone. Happy New Year. Happy.
I hope you have it all done your resolutions and
believe in them like I'm being told I have to.
And uh I love you. Um Puerto Rico, my heart
is with you. We have we keep having these earthquakes
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and it's terrible and we just can't catch a brick
after Maria. Now earthquakes, which is a random because we
used to hurricanes. We're not used to the islands just
not built, the land just moving and shaking like that.
So um O, our hearts are with you. The same
thing with Australia. I can't even speak about Australia because
it's it just brings tears to my eye. To use
(42:39):
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This is he said with Eric Winter and Robalin Santez. Wow,
it's nice to hear that little jingle again. I know, happy, happy,
we are back. It feels good crazy yeah. I mean
I didn't really have much of a break. I feel
(00:22):
like we want to go on vacation again. It's good
to be back at work actually because it feels like
it's a good break from the break. Where are you
taking me? Actually? Because I do need a little vacation
after the crazies. Where am I taking you? Where are
you taking me? I'm taking you nowhere. I want to
know where you're taking to me. I'm the one that
needs a vacation. Why because my parents are the one
that gave into town. No, I love your parents. I
(00:42):
mean I would never say that, but you would say that,
and then I have to hear it from you. What
are you talking about? You get complain, complain, complain, complain
and everything. You know. What happens is that somebody's family
comes in town and I'm like, I'm actually really cool
and close with her with her family, but she gets
super over overwhelmed taking care of her family, and then
that brushes off onto me. And then, of course if
(01:06):
you're overwhelmed. Now I'm overwhelmed, and everything goes like it's
an inferno. It wasn't an inferno. That's a little dramatic. No,
you're an inferno. But it's what happened. It turns everything
into an inferno. No, it wasn't. Listen, guys, this is
what happened. My mom and my dad and I'm brother.
But Franco just came for three days. Franco Caine. You
want to tell everybody why Franco came for three days
(01:27):
because this is something that I rescued a dog in
Puerto Rico name Archie for my parents. I was super
excited to see Archie and my parents over the holidays.
They went to the airport in Puerto Rico. Archie didn't
make the flight because the person kept saying that they
are playing the type of aircraft on the first class
cabin but getting accept dogs interet. So I flew my
(01:50):
brother the following day to bring Archie. It was a
priority to me. An Archie made it. I guess what,
Archie come home Because common sense would say if Archie
didn't make the flight, it's okay, they're back in a week,
or Archie has family that he can watch him in
Puerto Rico, but no rosalind the day before Christmas disrupts
(02:10):
her brother's holiday, flies him in on super cheap flights
the day before Christmas and the dog Archie in and
then her parents left and said, we don't feel comfortable
traveling back with Archie. Can you bring him back when
you come back to Puerto Rico. So now Aren'tie who
they were going to see for a week. They are
going to see for three or four months. So the
(02:32):
logic to all of this, no one can explain it.
It doesn't make logic to a winter. It makes logic
to logic to anyone. Sante's Winter Rodriguez. Guys, my parents
are eighty years old. Love them. Their mind is sharp. Well, wow,
(02:52):
I'm sorry I didn't say that, she laughed. My mom
has a problem with her ankle, soo, her wrist, her knee,
she has a lot of health issues. And going in
and out of my my truck was a problem for
ten days. So her body was beat. And she said, listen,
it's a lot to fly for almost twelve hours to
Puerto Rico carrying a dog. Do you mind if you
(03:13):
can keep the dog until like until you come back
to Puerto Rico and said, absolutely, what am I gonna say? No, Eric, normal,
I can do that. But he realized the dog could
have stayed just for a week and a half in
Puerto Rico and they would have saw the dog in
a week and a half. Now it's four months. I
promise Archie when I read for sure, this is what
Eric doesn't understand. I have a very unweave talk. We've
talked about. I have a very special connection with animals.
(03:36):
This dog is very dear to my heart. When I
left Puerto Rico during the summer after those I am,
I said, I'm going to see you very soon, and
that soon was Christmas because I know my parents were
going to come for Christmas. She definitely knows what Christmas
is for sure. Well he knows, he knows now, he
knows now, he knows something Studio City, California, and he's
not in Puerto Rico where he's at right now. My god, Archie,
(03:59):
I'm very so know. So it was, yeah, you know,
you you kind of have look it's great scene. Family.
Family is always fun to be around. But it was, yeah,
we need a vacation from vacation, so where are you
taking me. Yeah, you have Dave and Sabella, Mom and Dad, Hi,
Mom and Dada. I loved having you guys here. No,
(04:23):
it was awesome having them. It was awesome. And I
don't know how long they're going to be able to
fly like long flights like that, so having them this
year was a beautiful thing. Here's a great, great story
of taking care of her parents. So, I mean, Rosin
is the one that's really having to do all this.
But we're at Disneyland with you know, Sabella and the kid,
Isabella and Dala and our friends, and and Rosin's like
going nuts because she's on the phone the whole time
(04:43):
trying to help her parents work the television because they're
pushed every button on both remotes and like basically shut
down the entire system. So Roslin goes to the next
day and calls me from FaceTime so I can tell
you what buttons to push to get the TV back on.
And now they're so stressed out about the TV that
they decided just to leave the TV on Fern and
higher week and then for ten days and just mute
(05:04):
it when they went to sleep, and I mute it
when they woke up in the morning, so they never
had to deal with the television. So for ten days
the TV was running twenty four. I kept asking Erica,
it's it was a rental. I rented this place on
Irby and Irby n B. And I kept asking eric
is that, like, is it going to be a problem
with the TV A We're going to break this? Oh
(05:24):
my god, I'm sorry not that. But we took care
of that place incredibly. Yeah, just ran the electricity. Is
just what I do with when when when we go
on location and we have to stay out of place,
I actually leave the place better and cleaner than how
we actually got it. I'm like a lunatic, Like, so
that's what That's what happened, you know, that's true. Yeah. Anyways,
(05:45):
so I'm gonna take you too back to Puerto Rico.
You want to go to Puerto Rica? Sure, I mean
a real vacation, like we're talking the two of US
vacation Big Puerto Rico is never a vacation here. That's
that's basically where they're every day visiting family and friends,
(06:05):
which is awesome, but it's not a vacation. It's just
like being in l A. What happened to the thing
that you were doing. You were looking at places to
go just a two of us. What happened with that?
I went out the one though, Oh wow, thank you.
I appreciate it. Wow to come back to that, Uh,
maybe one we'll go on vacation. It's going to be
that long. But for now we're in. And m are
(06:26):
you big with resolutions? Because we talked about this, like
you know New Year's resolutions? Is that? Is that something
that's big for you? It was before. I used to
have a list, and I will keep it for a
year and the one I will burn it, and then
I will do the grapes and I'll do the whole thing. Grapes, Yeah,
you eat twelve grapes or something like that? What I
(06:48):
don't even remember. I've never heard this in what Yeah
you eat twelve grapes? This is all prior to did
you just make up? This is a Puerto Rican thing? No?
Have any of you heard of this? Yeah you have? Yeah,
now you have it? Okay, so I don't feel have
you heard of it? All right? So we're two for
three on this. You have twelve grades. If the two
Latinas in the room are the one to know about
(07:10):
it and the rest. The three green goes in here
and know nothing about it. Twelve grades at midnight on
New Years on New Year's Eve is both a tradition
and superstition in Spain, no wonder the two Latinas knows
something about this three nothing and you never did the
writing something, And then on the thirty first you burn it,
like everything everything that you want to gway. You don't
(07:31):
even remember what you write in your organizer. How the
heck are you can remember when you wrote for your
resolution the start of a year, you write something you organizer,
the week before you forget. Yeah, and so what's the
point I have it? At that moment I thought about it.
It stays in my subconscious. That's nonsense. So you may Okay,
so you made resolutions this year, I would love to hear.
(07:51):
I don't usually do it because I'm always like it
just puts pressure on trying to maintain something, to think
about it. It makes you have goals. I think every
day you can plant goals, and doesn't matter about New
Year's Everybody put so much pressure on study. And like
every year you dressed in this red dress. This is
how crazy rise on us New Year's Eve? She thinks,
she got food poisoning, which maybe she did because she
(08:11):
eats something that was like a fish or something. It
wasn't severe, but it was bad enough to put her
in some pain and discomfort. We had to go to
a friend's house for a New Year's Eve party. I said, look,
if you don't feel good, we just don't go. There's
gonna be another New Year's It's fine. No, no, I
have to go. I made this. I'm obligated. I helped planet.
I gotta be there. She's dying every year in the past.
She's always red lipstick, red dress. I'm like, just go comfortable,
(08:35):
like if you don't feel well, cut too. I've been waiting,
ready to go. She is in full like seven inch heels,
red dress, hair up in a bun, full face of makeup,
red lips, wanting to die. It makes no sense to receive.
I'm not going to receive the year looking like like
s h. I t there's no way. So yeah, I
(08:55):
was very sick and you look like a million bucks
under assent, and that makes sense. Yes, it makes sense
to me. The picture was beautiful and it was the way. No,
I didn't I would have thrown thrown up. But we
had to leave the earlier the party early. My parents
were very very sad because they actually were enjoying themselves.
The food was phenomenal. Um, the party was popping. It
(09:16):
was great. But I felt sick. But there's no way
that I was going to send that sign, that message
to the universe that I didn't feel good. So at
least from the outside, sent that message every two minutes,
so the universe definitely got wind of that. That's too
you know, the universe. I'm definitely not your universe. No,
you are. You are, but not on thety one, on
(09:37):
the thirty one. The universe is the universe, and I
wanted to look presentable, so so I have a memory
the following year of oh wow, this was a great year.
You will never understand. You're like a dude. I think
there's way too much pressure on these resolutions. However, she's
talked me into doing it. And before we get into
our resolutions, though, I really please if people could email
I actually want to hear what our fans have done
(10:00):
for resolutions. Email us at Eric and Roz at i
heeart radio dot com, leave comments on our Instagram at
he said a DHO podcast, and we will come back
to our resolutions, but please let us know what yours are.
I want to try and learn something. Okay, let's take
a break, all right, Resolution time. I can't wait to
(10:30):
hear we're starting with mine. Yes, please, ridiculous, Okay, my
these are so I something different that you also came
up with is these are my resolutions for me. But
I'm gonna give you something that I'm hoping you will
do or work on in the new year, and hopefully
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you have one for me. But my resolutions are and
I do say this to myself all the time. It's
not even a New Year's thing, but patience. Every really
want to work on my patients, with my family, with
my kids, like kids can really test your patients, with life,
with everything, So patients is one. And in doing that,
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I've tied in another resolution, which is trying to work
on more breathing. And I'm not saying like full meditation,
but I don't know. I mean, I always hear people
talk about meditation, how it's good for you, so maybe
I would try to learn something more about that and
trying to incorporate that in my life. I don't know
if I could sit still and sit in silence for
that long. So that's actually a good test. No, you can't.
You're probably right, but it's worth trying. Uh. My other
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resolution is I want to take more time, uh, taking
care of my body. I've been going through a lot
of just you know, different stuff, health stuff, trying to
you know, I'm with working out and aches and you
know issues, and I want to get my body right.
So more gym, more stretching, more just physical therapy, just
getting things working the best they can be. You do
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that every single day of your life. How are you
gonna do more? I don't do it every day. I
want to do it different. Works out every single day,
he has physical therapy three or four times a week,
he's always having surgeries. I don't know how I want
to do it differently. I want I've I've always been
obsessed with doing things a certain way. I want to
try and change it up and work through in a
slower manner. More yoga, more things that are stretching and
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adding the longevity in my body. Um, I really want
to do this, like more family activities with the kids,
like creating more just you know, you get a holiday break,
so you get these long weekends, and so we just
end up at the park or just hanging out. And
it's hard because you have a lot, we have a
lot going on. But I want to do more events,
more things that the kids can go experience and enjoy.
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And my last thing is I want to focus this
kind of ties in with patients and breathing. I want
to focus on worrying less. Tend to be a little
bit of a warrior. Okay, that's it. I'm so glad
that you recognize all these things. So what is the
thing that well, okay that those are your your five
and then we're going to go to the one you
want to We'll come back to you after a break.
But the thing I want you I think to focus
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on in the new year. You know, there never can
be enough physical touch. I feel like physical touch is
an important thing, going back to the five love languages.
I think that's something that in the new year seven
and then I think, uh, compromise. That would be the
other thing, the other big things it's really working on. Compromise,
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the world of Rossland Sanchez, compromising Okay, silence, long thought process, Okay,
I know why the compromise, I know right, I know
where the compromise is coming. From and I, Yeah, I'm
going to make um pledge. Is that correct? I'm making
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a resolution. I'm making a resolution that you know, I
just have. You just have to listen to my five
um God resolutions, and you know what, it's going to
be very interesting. A lot of things that you mentioned
I actually mentioned. So we're connected, believe it or not,
even though right now we are, we're very disconnected. It
because we had a little bit of an issue that
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we can talk about it a different podcast. And that's
the reason why he's bringing the word compromise because he
wants me to compromise. But anyways, so what are you doing?
What are you like he's actually having He's having this
whole conversation listening. I'm listening. I'm shocked that we have
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something that's similar on the resolution side. So do two things?
Actually two things out five? I mean one, I just
have to tell you my eat less sweets. It sounds
like something simple, but every year, because sugar is not
good for anybody, but it's it's it's very bad for
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me for inflammation. I just love love sweets and my
baby deal and love sweets because of because of mommy.
And even though I'm super healthy, and I look healthy.
I just I recognize that I have to try to
eat less sugar. I just love sugar. Why why are
you looking like? Why? Why? Why? No? No No, go ahead,
I'll do it. Less sugar, sugar, vegetables, more vegetables. I'm
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doing that. Not I am okay only because of them.
The vitamins is amazing. Eric, thank you're absolutely right. I
let the world, he laughed at. I love it. Number two.
Not have such a potty mouth, and I do that
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every single year. You know what, you know what's funny.
It's like I revealed. No, that's not the revolt rebelled
against my parents because when I was growing up, I
wasn't allowed to use dirty words like ever. I'm a
house my mom. I never heard my mom ever saying
about word, so I wasn't allowed to say about the words.
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So when I left my house and I moved to
the stage by myself, it was like like freedom. And
even though people that know me, what do they think?
Do they think that I that I used? I don't
think you have a trucker trucker around? I mean I
have a way worse. No, you don't. I swear all
the time. Really, I think it's fun. I love a
good swear conversation. It's just really I just do it
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a lot, and I don't think it's necessary and I
don't want Sabella um hearing that, you know, copying behavior.
I agree with that. You be definitely careful around the kids,
because even we just saw Jumanji over the break and
Sabella was so excited that they said she loves it.
She loves Oh my god, they said these bad words
she That was so funny, you know what to swear less.
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Seby has the thing now that she loves changing Dylan's diapers, um,
and she is so into it right now and he
loves it. And you see her like if she practiced
so much with her dolls, then now with Dylan, she's
actually doing a really good job. But she was cleaning
the little butt hole right and she was listened to
it like perfectly right, and I'm like teaching it and
I said, no, you have to clean the and I said, right,
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why would you say I don't know? Because I wanted
it to be very graphic. They and She's like, I'm
just said a bad word. Oh there you go. Why
would you say that? I don't know? I did. But
then I told don't don't say that word. It's not
just can I say a whole? And I'm going you know,
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she can't know. You can't say a hold. You go
around school saying you're an a hole. She can't. Kids.
This is another problem that you cannot talk to an
eight year old like they are a forty howld you
forty something year old. You can't talk to an eight
year old and think they're on the same level as you.
They won't register in the same Sometimes I feel like
she is. You can give them a mature conversation, but
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you can't expect them to rationalize like you doing. And
good number three, all your parents out there, please write
in about that to sur rouse and can read it
because I know I am right on this one. Okay,
go on, okay. Next one, volunteer at a duck shelter
in Los Angeles at least once a month with my daughter.
That's a great one. I would like to be a
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part of that. I would do that too. Okay, that's
great and Dylan's great, So I want to do that
at least because I do a lot of work with dogs,
as you know in Puerto Rico. Blah blah, blah blah.
But I think I live here, so I should be
doing that type of work in Los Angeles. So I
want to do it at least once a month and
we go and we um walk the dogs, or we
just clean some kennels and we just do That's number four.
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Spend more quality time with close friends. Eric always says
that I live like in a bubble, but I'm always
I'm very private. I guess so. And I do have
a lot of boring. Now you're boring. We have established
us in the very beginning. The square boring one is
you're like, the girls are going out, I really don't
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want to go. I just want to stay in bed
and beyond Instagram, Oh my god. Anyways, So I have
a lot of I have a circle of friends that
are like my sisters, and they're wonderful people. And I
see them a lot and we and we speak a lot.
But I think it's nice for a woman and two
once in a while just have a little date night
with her girlfriends. And I just should have good that
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you need those good friendships. That's good. That's a good
I do have great friend no, but like to nurture them,
to build them, you know, it's good to have your
friends close to you. But by the way, I want
to jump in your You're on number four and not
one thing is overlap. You said we had two things
that overlap, the next to they're really supposed to do? Five? No,
because and then the six is the one that I'm one. Oh,
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so the one that overlaps is one that you want
me to do. Listen, listen. So I haven't written, I
haven't written right here. It's not the point. So I
have proved that I actually said, give Eric more sex. Whoa,
we went straight with the word. I was saying physical
touch because you're just trying to hide into the hoage. Okay,
so I have it right here. Read it. Do you
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believe me? You're very much more sex. But you were
talking about physical and intimacy, like like hogs and kisses.
That's better for me. I was like the sex, but
you wrote it. I did it. Okay, I'll be more less,
I'll give you massages, I will rob your feet, yeah,
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I will kiss you more. You're making me uncomfortable, so
you know what I actually thought about that? Okay? And
what's the other one that overlaps that you expect me
to do? That because you said that you want to
you wanna be able to not stress as much, right,
and you want to be more patient. So my advice
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or my resolution for you, says Eric blind not being
such a stress case and heavy all the time. You
are like a warrior. Eric has one speed and that's speedy. Gonzales. Eric.
Everything is fast, fast, fast, fast fast. He walks fast,
he eats fast, he cooks fast. Everything Eric does is fast.
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And I think in life it serves you really well
for many many things. But there's all the moments that
you just I just need you to chill. And just so,
if you've ever seen the movies Utopia, I'm the fast one.
She's that sloth that was at the d m V.
But I'm not because I accomplish everything I want to do.
You're absolutely wrong. I just haven't been a year. No,
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I don't, Eric, look at my life, dude, really google
my name. Let me know. If I don't accomplish it,
that took you years. My point is I accomplished everything
within a day. You accoplish everything within a week. No,
But you know what, but I don't go to bed
shaking because he's like, I'm going to give an example
of something that this is Eric behavior. Eric is so
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concerned that something is going to embarrass him or the
kids are not perfect. So started, my kids aren't perfect,
and it started. He's preschool for the first time yesterday,
meaning not the mommy and me, the one that you
actually have to leave them there twice a week and
their parents are gone. He's only two years old. We
took him. It's a circus. All these kids are crying,
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all all the kids are anxious, their parents are there.
So of is Dylan. We woke him up from his
nap early. He cried the entire way to the preschool
when he realized there's a lot of people here. I
don't know. There's the teachers are like that, I mean
all oud. He was like, I'm not having it. So
he gets very anxious and he wanted mummy. So I'm
sitting down. I'm sitting down with Dylan, trying to control
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him and trying to deviate his attention. So he stopped whatever.
And Eric is so stressed out because Dylan is acting up,
and he's like, gross, stand up, stand up. If you
send up is better stand up? Moving you're taking out
of It's not about and I just want you to breathe.
That's not about embarrassment. That's about Dylan was doing really
well at times. But Dylan is so different than Sabella,
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and it's very It's always blows my mind because I'm
an only child. But when you see siblings, same everything, upbringing,
you know, parents, everything, blah blah blah, and they are
so different, just born different personalities. And uh, you know,
he he takes a long time to warm up to people,
and every time he'd settle in, someone would feel the
need to try and deal it and he lose his mind.
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And I find and even when you know our nanny
was there as well, because we all you know, we're
there just going to say how the first day would go.
I find that if you just kind of get him
engaged in something and step away and let him do
his thing, he tends to ease out of the clean
is faster. And I wasn't trying to tell you not
to be next to him. I was just like, every
time he would stop crying, stand up and step away
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and let him get back into the routine. Don't try
to keep giving him that. I will stand up, he
will start asking, but then you can come back down
I'm just saying the more I just feel like, the
more you walk away from and give him space, he
tends to, you know, get wrapped up in his activity
and it gets better just to just to clear the air.
That wasn't because I was anxious, but I do recognize. Yes,
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she's right, I get very anxious. I don't expect my
kids to be perfect. But I'm the guy that if
I'm at a table and everybody's you know, hanging out
with a group, and there's one loud laugher in my group,
I can't enjoy the dinner. He wants to leave. I
freak out if we fly, like he hates flying with
the kids because if one of them, if Dylan starts crying,
it ruins the strip. You start sweating, like because I
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worry about everybody else's experience. I get it. I get it.
If everybody has people have kids, they know that that's
going to happen. All right, I'm gonna wear you lest
their kids can lose their on the plane. That'd be great,
would be great. So yeah, that's what That's what I
want for you to just to just breathe. So I'm
glad that you are going to start taking meditation and
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yoga and pilaris and things that will just um kids.
But the kids when tabella meaning just bring it down
a nudge, you bring it like lose two or three lines.
But okay, let's take a break, do so, Eric, I
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want to talk about um, what happened to us this um,
this little break that we had we honey? What about honey? Honey? Honey?
The turtle you guys know about Honey? Did we ever
talk about honey on the previous podcast? So um Gwen,
which is Eric's mom, um said les grandma gifted her
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was it for her birthday or something of the last Christmas?
A little turtle. We name her honey. We don't even
know if he's a boy or a girl, but the
name is honey. And she was this tiny little thing
and now she grew a lot. And I complained at
the beginning, oh my god, it's disgusting. She smells making.
But then I grew to love this turtle and I
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will clean them the tank kind of WI feed. And
I realized that she loves romaine let us and bottle
let us doesn't love kale as much. She loves dandelion.
So I became really close to this turtle and we
had to move on from her. She's still alive, everybody,
It's not happened. Nothing happened, Honey. And I try to
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convince Eric we can actually find a little place for
her outside and let's just build a little environment for
her to thrive, because they can live many, many years,
and there's spiritual beings and they're actually good for you.
This is one thing that runs. But Eric decided to
just give her. Whoa, whoa. I didn't decide. Now, this
is one thing Rosin doesn't understand. Okay, this was This
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is Honey, not a turtle. She's a tortoise. So she
is atoise, a desert tortoise, and we were giving her.
She's actually an endangered tortoise that somebody who helps, you know,
raise these tortoises to get him back out in the wild.
We were, in essence, trying to help I want to
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call it foster Honey. We we knew Honey was going
to get very big. We were keeping taking great care
of her until she got to a point to where
we would be able to figure out if we could
keep her or not. That You never never said to me,
we're just gonna foster I've never had a turtle. I
don't know how big Honey was want to I have
a beginning to end well and I and I get that,
I get that. But Honey was getting big very fast.
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She you know, when you keep a tortoise outside houses
that can allow that have you know, dirt yards where
they can dig up and and tortoises tend to create
little tunnels and holes and they go hibernate in there,
and they need this space. They live out in the desert.
So we got to the point where Honey was just
getting too big. She was knocking over her a little.
You know. Then all the time we had no room
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to put that big of a tank. That would have
to be the next size up. And I told her
it's time that Honey moves on and goes back to
the to the guy who who raised her and can
now transition her into going back and populating in the wild.
You know who has a turtle, a big turtle, Ben,
he probably has a yard where a tortle, the tortoise
can live. I'm guessing you could. We can reach out
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to beneats you when each other. Let's talk to me
about your So she was, you know, up in arms
about this tortoise all break and I'm like, she's speaking
of the tortoise, and of course trying to think the
tortoises communicating with her. And now she we had a
fun guy. Remember we talked about that that I had
to come to a function, said the tortoise, tortoise, keep
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them there, good energy, keep her here. I said, well,
we want to give her away, and he's like, keep
her here. So that's screwed Rosin all up. So now
basically we have bad fun sue, because we had to
send Honey back out into the wild so she could
be all grows up and go be a big girl
or boy and you know, help the population. What if
she doesn't make it because she's gonna said a little
tag not knowing how to defend her, or she we
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don't know, is a stud gonna make it super healthy.
We did a great job, but she's got to go
back into the wild. We have no space for her.
And again here we go with the practical rational side
of our relationship. Me talking to the dreamer animal whisperer.
But it's not a dream because I will make it happening.
It was if I was by myself, I would have
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built a whole thing for her outside. You keep making
you can. Don't tell me you can space to file.
I have this place. I know that I identify this
place and everything. You just didn't want to. One day
Honey is attacked by and then we have a problem
because Honey no longer can live in the mountains with
the coyotes and deers have stepped on her. The environment
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against coyotes and deers and things like that. With Honey
the turtle, no, I would build it properly. We will
call Walter the hand the band, and Walter would have
built something good. Anyways, Funny, we love you, We give
you a great life, and shout Tony, and we hope
that you keep hustling. Honey good out in the wild, baby,
go populate, mate, get some physical touch. That says a lot.
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They're solitary animals. I don't like to live with other turtles, tortoises.
You don't know that. I wish you know with me. No,
they're solitary, and say they can't live with other tortoises.
He'll go get some and then he'll move on. So
and then so Honey's gone. Marocca, my my dog. It's
very sick o guy. So if you follow me on
Instagram or Twitter, you you probably you've seen posts that, Um,
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it was a very sad holiday for me because we're
dealing with Maracca's issues. She's actually back to walking, but
the cancer is there and it's massive and we just
have to take it one day at a time, and
an animal transitioning period, it's often. Then Honey had to go,
and then Honey had to go, and then we're taking
care of Archie, my parents dog, and we're debating what's
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what's what with Archie and I love. We're not debating
anything Archie. We're taking care of Archie right now for
her parents. He's a cute dog. We're taking care of
Archie for her parents. And Archie is just awesome. Came
with a lot of issues. Archie was really abused, but
he's thriving and doing better every single day. So we
have emails. We have emails that our listeners sent to us,
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and some good emails. Actually not that I'm surprised that
our listeners would send good emails, let me correct that,
but these two. I took a look at him and
I was like, Wow, these are some good questions, Like
some good food for thought. So the first one is
I guess directed towards me because my parents are divorced.
But this is from anonymous coping with divorce. I am
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twenty eight and still live with my parents, and after
thirty six years of marriage, they are calling it quits.
So my questions are for Eric. First question out of curiosity,
how did you cope going through divorce and after it
was finalized? How did you cope? Well, I wasn't twenty eight, um,
so that is a big difference. I was seven, um,
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and I got it was brutal. I remember, I literally
remember the exact moment in my life, and I don't.
I remember some things, don't remember a lot of things
from that young but I do remember the exact moment
my parents sat me down in the living room and
told me we're going to get a divorce. I remember
the conversation, I remember the top, I remember bawling, I
remember everybody crying. I remember it being the worst day
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of my life, like my world collapsed. Um. So that's
how vivid. That moment was brutal thing to cope with
at that time for sure, as um now and now
the other flip to that is I have amazing parents
in the regards the way they handled the divorce. It
was not um like Rosin watched the movie A Marriage Story.
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It wasn't a disaster it was it was it was
a unique experience and that my parents shared custody of me.
Every month, I would move back and forth from my
mom's house to my dad's house, moving everything I own
from one house to the other. And I'd have one
weekend in between that i'd stay with that other parent.
And I did that until I was about sixteen when
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I could drive. So from seven to sixteen, I would
live with each parent for a month, which was amazing
in a lot of ways because I got to experience
what it was like to be with that parent for
a full period of time. Um. But then it's also
weird because you lou you you move away from your friends,
you move away from the other parents for such a
long period of time. However, they did a great job
of never bad mouthing each other, and they really put
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me first in the divorce. So I look at that
divorce now and think it was definitely the best thing
for the marriage. At the time, I'm I'm glad they
made that decision. I see them now in my through
my adult eyes, and I don't see how they could
have stayed married. So I fully get it. Um so
is something I was able to grow and mature with
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and take understanding with later um and accept. However, it's
not the same experience for everyone, UM And I think
it's got to be pretty shocking, you know, to be
twenty eight and then see your parents call it quits.
And I've heard of this happening with a lot of friends.
Actually we're parents all of a sudden just decided the
divorce so much later in life. But a lot of
times maybe they were doing that for you, for the kid,
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because they wanted you to become, you know, more of
a stable um adult and they felt like once you
were more stable, you would understand what they're going through.
It doesn't make it completely easy here, but it might
help you cope with what they're going through. So they
stayed together maybe for you to help give you a
better a better upbringing. Um So that's my opinion on that.
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I know it's I know it's a tough topic, but
I wish you all the best going through it, and
I hope your parents handle it with grace and treat
each other kindly. Um. Second question, if you had to
go through it all over again, and if it was
your choice, would you still want to go through it
as a child, or would you prefer experiencing your parents
divorced as a grown adult. That's a very tough thing
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to answer hypothetically, but I think as an adult, I
would prefer be in your position then as a seven
year old. And I say that only because I have
kids now and I look at my kids and I
if I ever had to see them go through what
I went through at seven years old, it would destroy me.
So I think as an adult would be my preference.
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What happens is I don't I don't know if I'm
talking out of line, but I it depends on the
age of your parents. But I think if you if
your parents go through a divorce as adults, then as
a child, as as a kid, you're probably thinking, oh
my god, they're separating. That family unit is gone, and
there's so many, so much baggage that comes without the house,
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the property is that then who takes care of Who's
going to take care of that? Because it's usually the
kids that want the ones that have to just take
leadership and and try to solve all the problem. Not
the parents had know that correctly. But I also think
what happens is a lot of kids I don't know
how to, don't understand what's going on, and they tend
to blame themselves sometimes as a kid. You mean, you
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feel like you're responsible. Was it something you did? Did
you that was that your feeling? You thought it was
because of something you did. I think there was moments
I went through that we're processing it and going we
did I caused the fight? You know, we've been in
you and I have gotten an arguments over something that
Sabella did or you know, it's a part of that's
Sabella's fault that we didn't handle it appropriately in front
of her. But you could see how a kid could
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feel like if I only just didn't do that, maybe
they wouldn't have fought and maybe they'd still be married.
So it's that's definitely a tough thing to pros. You
know what, I think kids nowadays they have that fear.
It's it's like a big, a big insecurity at a
big fear that they have because it's so common nowadays
to have parents that are divorced. You know, when they
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go to school. Half of the class their parents are
not divorced, So to them it it's so vivid and
it's actually possible. So they live with this fear of
if my parents are arguing, if my parents are fighting, um,
are they gonna divorce? You know, it's such a relevant
topic for kids nowadays. And when our daughters come home
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and she has a lot of friends of school that
you know, either parents are divorced or going through divorce,
and she said us, please don't get a divorce just
because she sees her friends going through it. And look
the other The flip side to it also is and
I see this as an adult. I did not see
it as a kid. But if two people cannot make
it work and it's causing so much friction intention in
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the household, that's probably than just gracefully calling it quits
and trying to restart everybody's lives. I had the opposite experience.
My parents are together. It's my oldest brother is I believe,
so my parents have been together for like sixty years.
And I used to tell my mom, Mom, can you
please get divorced? Because no final That's why I grew
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up with parents loved each other and can't stand in
each other. It is a very interesting dynamic that me
and my brothers we will never understand. But you know
what happened to me this um, this break um, Eric,
And I was telling your mom about this um and
I think it's the first time I've seen this in
forty six years, um, because it's like they can't live
with her without each other. Right. One time you offered
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your mom to actually come live with you and divorce
your dad, and then your dad started fully courting her
and trying to win her back, and she became like
a little girl. She's like, can you believe the psychologesus? Lord?
You know, let me just not get involved anymore, because
they two clearly have something going that we don't understand.
But this time around, they were here and they think
it's really really crazy, but they talk a lot and
events even though what we see is a lot and
(38:13):
a lot of um and it must I actually think
they're best friends. I think that they get each other.
They get each other, and they whole um commonality, you know,
not compromise anyways, It doesn't the ending. So even though
(38:37):
they have issues, they actually have this deep love and
and this deep friendship that they don't want to go
off because I saw it, and they will be like
in the living room by themselves talking and they're talking
a very low volume, and they talk about everything. So
I think they're used to that companionship and that that complicity.
So good for them. I guess all right, let's go.
(39:02):
Let's go to the next question from Austin. Is it
from Austin the plays or Austin is the name of
the person, do we know Austin's Okay? Hi, Austin. So
plastic containers. We had a lot of plastic containers to
store leftovers. But my wife likes the appearance of glass.
More appearance, what appearance, no appearance, appearance. I think I've
(39:23):
been saying her room this whole time. So she informed
me that we were tossing out all the plastic containers.
Nothing against glass. Plastic sucks, but she drops stuff all
the time. Glass isn't practical, But here we are because
when she wants aesthetics, aesthetics, aesthetics always win. That's my lady. Austin.
(39:48):
I think you might be married to my wife. Are
you have an affair? Oh? I got yeah with Austin.
Come on, come on, gus guess what. Guess what? I
have plastic. My pantry is beautiful, but it's all plastic.
I don't have glass, and I would love to have glass.
It will be more beautiful as a matter of fact,
but not practical, very practical. But the kids would drop it.
(40:10):
You would probably drop it way heavier. I mean, it
is better for the environment. But if that was if
that was your pitch, then you might have a conversation.
But the esthetics part of it is not really a
good pitch. So is it going to win this battle
or lose his battle? Well, no, she wants it. He's
already clearly lost the battle. So Austin, I feel for you.
(40:30):
I've lost many of those battles, and I've been in
that position and I still lose them every day. But
you know what I think. I think I kind of
I like that she look once the stuff to look pretty.
I'm all about that. But I think that she can
find plastic um containers that actually look cute. The ones
that I have are actually very beautiful ones we got
(40:51):
with the container store. Is that right? They sell them
there or and they do look really nice, So that
could be a compromise. Some word of a day maybe
which Rossland and maybe your wife needs to do. What
is a compromise? Go, well, just go straight to the point.
What is a compromise you want me to work on.
There's a bunch of compromises. It's not the point we're
(41:11):
talking about Austin right now. This isn't about us dating Austin.
I'm Austin. That's true. You are dating Austin. You're a
married Austin apparently. But I think Austin, yeah, I think,
how are you guys know that's not gonna make sense
to do, like some things in plastic and something that's
just weird, that's weird. I think you're stuck. Man. It's
gonna be glass and that's what it is. But if
he keeps dropping stuff, then you're gonna have to say, look,
(41:35):
I'm done replacing things. It's gonna go be plastic and
getta put your foot down. Austin at that point, and
then write us back and say that is not going
to work. Just write his back off to make me proud.
I know that you won. Oh my god, that's a
that's a tough one. Sorry, man, But well, thank you
for your questions, Thank you for all the questions. We
love getting them. Please send more. Would we have some more? Do?
(41:58):
We haven't enough time today? We can get you know,
we can do something. We can do some more the
next time around. But thank you everyone. Happy New Year. Happy.
I hope you have it all done your resolutions and
believe in them like I'm being told I have to.
And uh I love you. Um Puerto Rico, my heart
is with you. We have we keep having these earthquakes
(42:19):
and it's terrible and we just can't catch a brick
after Maria. Now earthquakes, which is a random because we
used to hurricanes. We're not used to the islands just
not built, the land just moving and shaking like that.
So um O, our hearts are with you. The same
thing with Australia. I can't even speak about Australia because
it's it just brings tears to my eye. To use
(42:39):
to my eyes. So make sure you find a way
to support, find a way to donate, find a way
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