Yo Cualquier Cosa

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is he said a vijo with Eric Winter and
Rosalind Fantees. All right here we are sinco de mayo
undo an accent. So you did sinco sinco mayo potos

(00:26):
in el camera. We're in the middle of again. You know,
this is closet podcasting where we get the best sound
we can escape from the kids. But it's constantly a
battle of can you see my wardrobe or my shoes?
You see my hat today? Look, guys, I'm wearing I
had that says what say without an accent, without an accent,

(00:50):
say like a like a true Puerto Rico Puerto Rico.
Was Yeah, that wasn't Puerto Rico. That was whether not
you said, say it without an accent, Puerto Rico, Puerto Rico.
All love me and I hope everybody's good. I just
saw a funny thing that I had sent to my
boy Mario Lopez Ni and he already had posted it
playing enough, but I was like, it's single to Mio.

(01:11):
Somebody sent this this little meme to me, and it says,
imagine a world where single to Mayo falls on Taco Tuesday,
only to be ruined by a virus named after a
Mexican beer Corona? How does that happen? How do you
get Taco Tuesday single to Mayo? And nobody can celebrate
together because we're in quarantine and everybody's scared to drink

(01:32):
of Corona because they think it's affiliated or associated with
the viruslous. Nobody thinks that. People a people think that.
I don't think that I would love Corona. Right now,
you're gonna have our core, No, you can because you're
on the medication. Guys. So two things. We're having Taco
Tuesday tonight because the kids requested salmon tacos, so we're
gonna do that. And number two, you can't drink any

(01:52):
Corona's because you know you're in the medication. Tell them no. No.
I had a little at a small little back proceed
your last week. That's what we took the week off. Um,
off the pain meds. I don't like to deal with
pain meds. They mess you up. Some off pain meds,
so I can officially have a beer. Um. I guess

(02:13):
one thing that changed last week is Sabella had her
substitute home teacher, which was kind of show, but only
because I had to set everything up. I mean I
had to set up the entire schedule. Even as I
was going to the doctor, I was getting texted by

(02:34):
the substitute teacher about how do you do X, Y
or Z. As soon as I'm done with that procedure,
I'm being asked, why doesn't this work? What do I
have to do? So it was kind of a ship show,
but we got through it. Let me tell you something, guys, um,
when Eric is doing the homeschooling, Um, Sabella, it's four
thirt in the afternoon and she's still dealing with homeschooling.
When Rosa Sanchez was a teacher, by two she was done.

(02:58):
I was very excited. Everything let me finish my PI.
I was very excited. There was no math involved. For
whatever reason, that day she didn't get any math because
I was petrified about having to deal with math. But
you know what, we did a project with the photography
with the pe It was one of the easiest days
of homeschooling. It was awesome on the schedule, which was

(03:18):
why we were so lucky. I printed everything out in advance,
gave her complete tutorial on how to navigate the site,
the zooms, everything. Thank you. That's that's the first thank
you I've heard in an entire week, So everybody's a
part of that thing. Eric has been a little touch
lately because he's he's under medication zero, So like that's

(03:41):
onever well. I think that's whenever I saw one of
our fan questions, what are your thoughts on Los Angeles
starting to reopen businesses? Okay, I think our governor has
been pretty spectacular with taking a lot of precautions. So
I'm following the lead. You know, as long as people
are following all the orders, doing what theyre supposed to
be doing. I'm trusting in the decisions that they're going

(04:03):
to make. I mean, we're gonna have to listen and
trust someone. We can't eventually just sit here and live
in a panic bubble. However, if they if the governor
deems it's safe to open a little by little with
a ton of restrictions, and I think are completely I
don't think he feels that we're truly ready. But I
think the pressure um from the government. I'm pressure from

(04:26):
a lot of people saying when you need to start
reopening this country and the city. I think it's getting
it's getting to him. I don't think anybody truly believes
that we're ready to reopen, like everything is back to normal.
I think a lot of people truly believe that. Well,
they're out of their freaking minds. Yesterday was the deadliest
day when it comes to deaths, because you think lives
on what do you call it? Def Con five six,

(04:50):
seven ten. She's constantly on a heightened state of paranoia
because more chill and sunder volument. All the precaution is necessary,
But I'm not going to live in fear. I want
out as much as everybody wants out, because this has
been a little brutal, especially for people that we're used

(05:10):
to working and being active. So this has been a really,
really interesting experience. But at the same time, I don't
know that we're fully ready, and you know, if we
if we don't take the all the precautions necessary, and
unfortunately have of society won't do it because people that
people are like being told what to do. So you watch,

(05:31):
we're going to go back to having a second phase
of this starting all over again. I hope. I'm okay, doctor,
say so people please, even though we're gonna open a
little bit little, it's gonna be four different stages of reopening.
Let's just be mindful and be respectful. I use your masks,
I use your gloves and sanities, and just stay away.
I would just want to talk. She always wants wake

(05:55):
up every day. Done with covid it okay. So this
is going to be a fun episode, guys, because we
took a lot of questions from you guys. We said
ask anything, and you guys are asking about everything. So
low podcast is dedicated to listener questions from Instagram. So

(06:16):
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(06:37):
the reviews are so positive and it makes us want
to cry. It's so beautiful. Thank you, Thank you, guys.
It makes us very makes me very happy, you know,
because we're sticking our next dramatic. It's not romatic. We
talk about our lives and very very personal stuff and
we're very private and we're just opening up and and
the fact that people laugh and people relate and people
love it. It means a lot. Weals encourage you, tell

(06:59):
a friend, spread the word, continue to follow on Instagram.
We love being as active as as we can with
you guys, so thank you. The first question, first question
during this quarantine, what is saving your relationship? There's a
bad day to ask that question because we had a
We actually have had a pretty smooth quarantine. I would

(07:23):
say until maybe last week, maybe a couple of days ago.
A bit of an eruption, a little bit of a
nice argument took place, and it's been kimming over for
a few days. There's no excuse. Well, I realize I'm
not a good nurse. She's not another very compassionate person

(07:45):
when it comes to uh, your husband, everybody else, everybody else,
super compassionate for people who need super compassionate. Our daughter
just walked into the closet as we're trying to record
a podcast is in Spanish. Okay, book, this is what
it's like the homeschool, while your podcast she has a
different book. Her book is written in spin. It's okay.

(08:08):
You were reading a book in Spanish, as I wonder, Okay,
let's go to book the podcast right now? There? Can
you say, hi, don't be rude. Okay, turned out that hello, okay,

(08:31):
by closed the door, please we have privacy that sorry.
So so anyway, so yeah, I'm not a great nurse.
That's that's the bottom line, guys. But she was so
happy to brag about it before going like, oh my god,
I'm gonna tell everybody, wow and double this is so difficult.
I'm gonna be a nurse. I'm gonna take care of you.
I'm prepping for it. You know what happening At zero.

(08:51):
Eric said to me, I have this back surgery that's
possibly life the threatening, so I'm going to be out
of commission for three weeks. And it was all very intense,
you know, he was out. He had a lot of
anxiety because of the surgery. So I prepped myself for
a husband that was going to come home and be
in bed like a vegetable, and I was going to
do everything. So I was ready to go wartime. I
was like a vegeta. You're having for me to be dead?

(09:13):
You no, like, like, you have freaking back surgery. So
it was me because I know that I have zero
tolerance from pain, and if I had back surgery, I'll
be in bed all day long. So to my surprise,
Eric walks in and he is like not perfectly fine.
He was being like walking slow, but this guy walked
a mile the next day. He's cooking for himself, he's
he's doing homeschooling, he's doing everything like a hero, like

(09:35):
nothing is going on. So to me, I was like, oh, okay,
zero support and love and pat on the back, and
was about me. You'd be doing that anyway, that's something
you had to do. Any I've been busting my ass
zero like crazy compassion for her husband. So I was
gonna show compassion if you were going to bed, but

(09:57):
you were being a hero. Okay, Well anyway, So what's
saving our relationship? Not this last week? Um, outside of
the outside of this last week, it's been fantastic. This
last week. A lot of blind spots were revealed. And
this is this thing is that people need to work
on because at the end of the day, everybody's got

(10:17):
their things. And she always says our daughter lacks a
little compassion ship sometimes, well we know who she got
that from. I wish you got a on the Sansche
society is very possible. You know what's funny, guys, I
was telling our friend around hand of the day. So Eric,
this is what's funny with Eric. And that's why I
also get like meet you, because Eric is, like I said,
he was carrying on, like making phone calls and dealing

(10:38):
with spectrum and because I have to, somebody has to, Yeah,
you have to, but this is Eric. So Eric is
talking to somebody on the phone, so some person, right,
perfectly fine. The tone of his voice is perfectly fine.
He's in charge, even though he's medicated. He's sharp, incredible, right,
And then hangs up the phone. And then when he
talks to me, he goes, Eric, I can hear you.

(10:59):
It's been guys, I'm annoyed with her, not because I'm
going You were talking on the phone perfectly fun and
you talked to me like dying, kind of like when
you complain, oh my cramps as are bad, I'm so miserable,
my my my body so blur. You feel horrific. But
when you're with your girlfriends, you're on your phone, you're
on your meeting calls, you're out with anybody else, put

(11:21):
your husband, you're like baa left come home, miserable, doesn't
want to talk, doesn't want to be touched. And I
said what's up? You were fine two seconds, so yeah,
because I had to the same thing. Thank you very much. Okay.
Next questioned one trade about your partner that you would
change and why perfect would be right and the same
thing more compassion. That's what I would change. Okay, one

(11:45):
trade about your partner that you would change and why
Eric can be very controlling. He doesn't know he's controlling,
but he's like, he's so, he's so m I'm not.
I don't want to see the word off. He's so.
I am. I'm very type and I like to do things.

(12:10):
Can you can you? Can you move this thing over here? Yeah,
I'll get to it. Can you move it? Do you
remember to move it? Did you move it? And he
will ask you two or five times and he's like, dude,
I am going to move it when I want to
move it. So a lot of controlling. Other than that,
it's perfect ross. Have you ever wanted to good ride
of your accent? Lord? How do you answer that? For

(12:33):
all the people that are Puerto Rican that support you
and love you and love their accent, how do you answer?
How do you think about I think I think this
is what I think. I think accents are sexy as hell.
I think they're beautiful. I don't think she should ever
lose her accent, do I think Rosin would love to
be able to drop her accent and do an American
accent when it comes to work if that was required, yes,

(12:57):
in everyday life. No, Yeah, you're absolutely right. He nailed it.
So I don't think that I wanted, but I would accent.
I well, when I started in the business as a human,
as a person, you should never want to lose your accents.
I love my accent, or I learned to love to
fall in love with my accent. Because I'm not gonna lie. Um,

(13:20):
because of what I do for a living, I'm an actress.
It's been superlimitings. Okay, maybe we have no listeners that
they don't know who I am anyways, listen an actress,
kind of actress anyways, So I'm not gonna lie. Uh.
It's been very limiting, and I believe, I truly believe

(13:40):
that my career would be in a completely different place.
Um if I didn't have this accent that I cannot
get rid of. Um. For whatever reason, you know, I
moved to the stage when I was already an adult,
an adult and it's been proven to be able to.
I learned the language very late in life, so it's difficult.
So there was a part of me at some point
going that I was like, I can't stand it. I

(14:02):
will walk into auditions and apologize for my accent before
even studying the audition. It was just brutal, the way
I was sabotaging myself of the one day I realized
it is what it is. What it is, It's who
I am. It makes me unique, and everybody can just
suck it, you know. But it's been it's been difficult.
I have spent thousands and thousands of dollars trying to

(14:23):
two get rid of it when I when when I
have to, and I just don't have the ear or
of the ability. But you would ever want to lose
it as yourself. It's who I am, and I love
my accent and I love in Puerto Rican. Yes, all right,
what's one thing you've had to adjust from your partner's culture. Huh? Well, honestly,

(14:48):
for me, I've had I'm so proud of my partner's
culture and I'm I'm just I actually love it. I
try and push it on our children and let's be honest,
I you can argue and get mad and get embarrassed.
I push our children to speak Spanish even harder than

(15:10):
Rosalind does. If it was me, they would only speak
Spanish in our household to Rosa because you not understand anything.
I don't care if they don't if I don't understand
what they're talking to you. To me, they talk in English.
To you, they talk in Spanish. So as far as
my partner's culture, I love it. I fully embrace it.
I'm all about it, thank you so much. The compassionship

(15:32):
is not a cultural thing. That's Sanchez so that I
haven't embraced. She needed to work on that one. So
what would you about my culture? Compatrick almost I know
he's upset that we can buy Jordan's every single days.

(15:54):
But if by a purse, you freak up. Anyways, So
what is the question? What's you? What's one thing you've
You've do it just from your partner's culture. Is my
family too loving for you? Because my family is very loving.
My family is very loving, very your family must must
think that. But I'm an ascid. It was like, you know,

(16:18):
it's so amazing. You know what's amazing? So when Eric's mom.
Everybody knows when because we talked about when in every
single podcast. So when is here? She was the compassionate
one taking care of me. Oh my god, oh my god,
you're making me look horrific. And I've been taking care
of the home while you were in the treadmill. My
home a big surgery. Listen anyway, So so when is

(16:41):
here helping us? Um in the afternoon after the nanny leaves,
right so weekend, just because he's been and you're with
this surgery. So she's helping, and then she's gonna say
goodbye and blow drying Sabella's hair, and she gives Sabella
a kiss, good night, I love your mommy, and then
said good night to me. I don't know is And
it's so funny because she knows, like one knows that

(17:04):
I'm a bit of an I just I don't think that.
I don't think it was funny. I respect that I
know it's me. She will love to hug me on
That had nothing to do with that, most likely a
when we all as adults say quick kid and buys.
We see her all the time, so it's kind of
just like Okay, bye, see you later. It's it's quick.
Do you think it's a grandkid, Because it's a grandkid.

(17:25):
I think it's just like say, even my mom and
I don't always every single time. Usually we do also
right now, but because of the COVID situation, even though
she is coming in our house, I've still been super
heightened and afraid of getting too close with her because
I don't want, you know, anything at all that happened her,
I would die. So I'm constantly aware of that, and

(17:46):
I think she's aware of that. With us two as
adults that we are keeping, I beg in general, my
family is extremely functioning, of course, and that's probably go
for you. Yeah, it's just I mean, I'm learning to
embrace it. And I've been with you for what more
than four fifteen years? Well, I'm still out an ascid.

(18:06):
But my family is my oldest brother and Georgie actually
my brother's Actually yeah, i think I'm the one that
is the most asset. But because I'm like mom and dad. Sorry,
that's what I'm learned, Okay, um learning learning on the job,

(18:29):
all right. Does Eric know all of the Boriqua curse
words to defend himself during a fight. Yes, I know
them all. Every single one of them. It's so literating. Guys.
When you said that's one of my favorite stories about

(18:49):
Dad is when we're one of my first trips to
Puerto Rico, we were driving by one of her sister
in law's big she's a big ranch, big chicken farm,
and her ad turned to me and said, Eric, do
you know what that is? And I said no, no no, no,
what is it? And he goes a lot of chickens.

(19:10):
That was one of my first memories of her. Dad
taught me one of my favorite sentences in Spanish. Oh
my god, Yeah he knows, but you don't use them
in context, like you don't fight with me. And then
you say Spanish cours work. You don't know how to
do that, how to do the up start? I'll crack
up laughing. If you do that, I'll be like laughing.
Fights faster. And who gets the most jealous We talked

(19:31):
about this, Eric, Yeah that's probably me. I mean, Rosalind
can't act jealous free. She definitely has a jealous chip
in her, But I'm probably the one that's a little
bit more jealous. Neither one of us are extremely jealous,
which is good. We're not like I don't think either
of us are super over each other's shoulders at all times.
But have you ere tipped the scale? Probably a little

(19:52):
bit more towards me, I observe, I observe. I don't
say anything. Have you ever been jealous over your significant
other being with another co star in a movie, TV show?
I mean you have you have? Like I'm not. I

(20:12):
don't get jealous of the coastar. I get jealous of
if I see behavior and in the way that Rossland
tends to have And this has happened many times even
outside of coastners. This well, let's call it naive chip,
But I know she's not. I think she's smarter than that.
So you can claim naive. But when a co star

(20:33):
is doing something that's inappropriate, it's very safe and easy
to play the naive car and be like, oh, I
didn't realize that's what he was doing. And us as guys,
and you say this about women too. I can tell
what men are all about, you can tell women are
all about. So if I see something and I see
you with a naive card saying oh, I didn't realize
he was doing that, then I get a little bit

(20:54):
upset and I get more worked out, and then its
in snowball because I tend to get a little bit
more heightened in that situation. Sometimes it is hard to
read for sure if intentions are what they are by
a co star. And sometimes it's very challenging because we're
in a very tricky business and rocking the boat in
the wrong way, which is not so bad anymore since
the me too movement, but rocking the boat in the

(21:16):
wrong way can change the entire dynamic of a job,
especially for a woman. Right, Yeah, it's very tricky. That's it.
Short answers. Yeah, I don't have a lot to say
other than that, other than he's the you've done it, Yeah,
you've done it. I'm with me. I I have never
given your problems. I just observed, observed, observe everything. I

(21:38):
grew up with three men in my house. I have
three brothers, remember that anyways, And I do know that
women can be very tricky, So I observed Ross. What
is your next project as a director producer? Um I am.

(22:01):
I was about to shoot a movie in Puerto Rico. Guys,
it's going to start ding fifteenth called Get Gomez. And
there's this this whole COVID thing happens, and it's been postponed,
but we're in the middle of casting. It's a big comedy.
Is my first time directing a full feature after Settles,
my short film that it was my directorial debut, so
I'm super excited. I I am being excited about that.

(22:23):
And then I'm also this COVID nineteen situation. The quarantine
has made me very creative, I guess, so I am
pouring all this, these stories that I have in my
head into the script that I'm writing about four women,
and it's a comedy and it's coming along. I mean,
at least I think maybe somebody as were read it

(22:44):
and I think it's it's terrible, but I think that
it is so good. And I'm meg excited too to
raise finance and and get going with this project after
Get Gomes, because I think it's going to be a
phenomenal film. That's what's happening with me. And then of
course I will I want to go back to TV.
I'm supposed to be in this movie too. Suppose if
she gives me I'm both movies. You have a role

(23:06):
in Get Goals and you have a role in the
other one isn't Spanish so everything's gonna be speaking in
Spanish for this he plays a green goal, but he
I wanted to speak Spanish. So it's going to be
all these ladies that love you from Puto ric are
going to be so excited that you're gonna be speaking Spanish. Well,
we'll see if she gives me the part. I don't
know if she's a tough gonna have your addition, but yeah,

(23:27):
I can't give you give the part and then Eric
it says any word on the Rookie season three. You know, honestly,
we are all waiting, just like um, all of our fans.
The good thing is our ratings have been spectacular. I know,
I truly believe the show is really good, and the
network is very happy with how the episodes are turning out.

(23:48):
I feel incredibly optimistic. But no, unfortunately, I do not
have a straight up answer yet. But I think in
the next few weeks we will all hear. And I'm
gonna keep sending out those good thoughts and I think
we're in good Would I ever go back to days
of our lives? You know they at one point they
had talked to me about coming back for something I
wasn't available. Yeah, sure if something came up and it was,

(24:11):
you know, for for some kind of a short stint,
to reignite a story or something for fun, I would
love to see everybody there. I had some of my
best experiences working on that show, and um, it's such
a loving environment and great people. So sure I would
love to you know, pop in and say hey and
do something fun with them. So the answer is yes, Wow,

(24:31):
she tuned. We're sitting not even not even six inches apart,
not even six inches apart, crammed in a closeted out
for a second. That is my life, people, That is
my life. I was thinking about something sower. I don't know.
Listen to the damn podcast to the podcast that was funny.

(24:54):
If you were actors, what do you think you will
be doing? I think I've said this before too. I
think my dream job at one point was to be
a doctor, then a true story Right before getting Days
of Our Lives, I had already been studying acting and
I was doing different things. But I also I'm always
like having more irons in the fire, and I was

(25:15):
almost done with the process of the l a f
D Hiring Fire Academy. I was like two steps away
from joining the fire academy. So I would have loved
to have been a fire fire paramedic, even though funny enough,
Tim Bradford and the Rookie can't stand firefighters or makes
fun of them, so that's kind of funny. And I
have a lot of firefighters in my family, so I

(25:36):
would have probably been a paramedic. You um, if I
wasn't an actress, I have no idea. I always said
that I would like to pop pimple, so I would
be a consitation, but not that. But I love doctor
and I would be probably a manager or a producer,
a manager, a manager. I don't think she knows what

(26:03):
she wasn't an actress. She's always a performer, always a performer.
Rosal Line Sanchez like, Okay, this is a loaded question.
Have you ever had a fight that you thought could
end your marriage? M hmm, do you remembers? Here's the

(26:27):
thing I mean, let me answer this. We've had some
really great, knock down, drag out arguments that have lasted
and strung out for you know, this week, a week,
sometimes two weeks. I'm a big you know again, I
have a psychologist degree. I'm a big fan of therapy.
We've done and met with therapists over things. We've both

(26:48):
have been married and divorced. In this marriage two kids,
we vowed to each other to fight through thick and thin.
I don't think in our heart of hearts we've ever
sat there and said, Okay, this fight could end the marriage.
There's definitely been fights where I think we both would
have been like, can I just go stay at a

(27:08):
hotel for a day or two and take a break.
You have never said that to me. No. I think
in our minds we thought that, like we could take
a break from each other, but we've never I don't.
I don't believe at least you can answer differently. But
for me, I don't think in my heart of hearts
there's ever been one thing where I'm like, yep, this
could end the marriage. I think we've been through too
much in our past and in our relationship that with

(27:30):
our two kids we're right or die. Well. For me,
I've had to just kidding. No, I'm just getting no
sentimental It was beautiful. No, I'm kidding. I don't know. Never,
I think we've had problems, you know, and yeah, and
post children, I think more more loaded because you know,

(27:53):
kids bring a whole new level heights and reality for marriages.
No longer about us exactly. We've we've had some some issues,
but I have never ever been like I'm done here,
I just went out. No. Never, And honestly, the more
sex we're having, the happy are we always are. We're
having sex all the time, whenever get underworld. This is

(28:15):
the thing with with Eric. Eric, everything is resolved with sex.
Funny enough, are all men like that? Pretty much? Man?
Pretty much? Funny. I was talking to a friend of
mine and she was saying that they didn't have sex
for like a month, right, and then that night, the
night before they she's like, let me just do it,

(28:35):
and they had sex. And he's been an a hole
the entire month. And then they had sex and the
next morning he was peaches and cream. It was right funny.
It's like a joke that goes around with men were
super easy, full stomachs, empty balls. Oh, full stomach and
empty balls. That makes every man happy. That is disgusting.

(28:57):
I mean they eat, but that we are that simple,
You're out of your So what about women were like,
we're like full, yeah, not too full of the stomach
because they're gonna be bloated and crampy, and you're gonna
be miserable. I want flat stomach, empty stomach, and and

(29:21):
full mind. That's what I need from you. Yeah, that's
that's almost impossible. Every time you eat, like every time
your mind is full. No, I don't want to do
anything else. I'm too distracted. So you're gonna give me
more than that. Okay, But you always know you wanted kids?
If not, what changed? I definitely have always known that
I want to be a dad. I've always wanted kids.

(29:41):
I didn't know I was gonna have two kids. I
was an only child for the most part, so for me,
one was it. I would have been fine with one.
Um now having both, these these two little rock stars,
I love them to death. I can't imagine life without
both um. But I always knew I would be a dad,
like I have this paternal thing in me. I devote

(30:01):
my life too completely, Like it's it's the biggest thing
that I think that that completes when I feel like
I need to do accomplish in life. You know, it
was interesting I to me, it wasn't like a requirement.
I didn't know. And then I went through a many, many,
many years I think most of my life saying I'm
not gonna be able to have kids. I'm not gonna
be able to have kids. I repeated that, repeated that

(30:24):
to myself so many times. That is interesting how life
manifests itself. Because then we had a lot of issues
trying to conceive, you know, we had to use uh
fertility treatments, UM. And I wonder if part of that
was for me for years putting out in the universe
I'm not gonna have kids. We could. Had had so
many problems growing up with endometriosis, which is a condition
guys um that can cause fertility, and my periods have

(30:47):
have always been brutal um. And I was I remember
when I got pregnant with with Sabella, this dear friend
of mine, which is funny, I'm out it, said to me,
this is amazing because I remember yet that you were
convinced your entire life that you were not going to
be able to have kids. I'm going to I know,
this is such a miracle. So I wasn't sure. And
then I met Eric and then we were together for
three years, Mary for three years, and that's all I wanted.

(31:09):
You know. It got to the point that that's all
I wanted. I want to be a mom. I wanted
get pregnant and then the same thing that we had Sabella,
and then the same thing with Eric. With Dylan, he
was okay having just one. With me, it was like negotiable.
I was like, I come from a big family. I
don't want this kid to be an only child. I
need to have another kid, even though I was forty
four years old. Um, and we did, and it's been incredible,

(31:31):
So the biggest blessing in the world. Do you think
it's better to live together and not be married? And
how important is it to live together before getting married? Uh?
With my answer, and first, do I think it's better
to live together and not be You know, I don't.
I don't care on that situation. I have some very

(31:51):
close friends that have been living together and our partners
and they've been together for over twenty years, two kids,
and they have a kick ass relationship. Sure they have
ups and downs, but they have a kick ass relationship
and they don't want to get married because they feel like,
why why fix something that's not broke. So I don't care.
If I guess, if you live together and you're not married,
it's I'm fine with that. Do I think it's important

(32:14):
to live together before getting married unless you have some
major religious reason that you you know you can't or shouldn't.
I do think you learn a lot about somebody when
you live with that person and you can experience what
it's like to share space with that person. Um. I
think it's incredibly valuable. Otherwise, I think you will. It's

(32:35):
not impossible to do it after getting married, but you
will definitely. It will be I think a little bit
more of an uphill challenge. They'll learn a lot fast.
How long we lived together before we got married, Well,
we live We only lived about it. We only lived
a mile apart when we met, so we once the
relationship was serious, we were pretty much together all the time,

(33:00):
I would say for the most part. But it's still
it's different staying at someone's house, being over at someone's
house before you actually move all your items in and
you're living at someone's house. Um, I think it's a
big difference. But I would say we at least had
a year and a half, so you you will be comfortable.
If if if Sabella at whatever when she's in her

(33:20):
mid twenties or whatever, late twenties, says dad, I'm moving
in so I always moving on before getting married as
a dad, how you feel, I mean, if I like
the guy and that's and she feels like it's they've
been dating for a little while and they're very serious
with each other, and then I came and talk about it.
Right now, I can't think that far ahead of driving
me crazy. Um, but uh, if she was in love

(33:43):
with somebody immature enough, and she was at that point
in her life, yeah if yeah, if she felt like
this was somebody that was going to be long term,
like they were headed in the right direction, yeah, I'd
be fine. You know, I grew up very traditional in
many ways, but very non traditional in other ways because
I left my my parents, you know, when I was
very young to move to the States, and and usually

(34:05):
my generation you leave, well a little older than me,
you leave home as a daughter when you get married.
You know that wasn't my case. But when it comes
to now that that I'm a mom of a daughter,
is like, I want to go back to being traditional,
and I'd rather her just leave us when she's getting married.
But that's not gonna happen because kids nowadays, they grow
so fast and she cannot wait to be eighteens where

(34:26):
she can get the heck out of here. She says
it already, you already said I can't want to be
eighteen so I can leave. Oh my god, I want
to sew How did you know they were the one?

(34:51):
How do you know they were like? Yeah? Do you
know I was the one? Um? Because you saw me
and you're like uh, and everything went to no more.
You were the one I wanted to hook up. That's
different than wow, you're sore so romantic to be a

(35:13):
long time to hook up. I knew it time to
hit it, But I knew I wanted to hook up
the moment I saw you. That's easy. Um, before we
wanted to get before I knew I want to pop
the question, you know, I I knew within the first
year that it was getting really serious. We were together
two years before we got engaged. Yeah, we're two years engaged,

(35:37):
two years together, one year engaged, then we got married
after three years. Um, I knew I would say after
the first year that it was going in that in
that direction, that this this could definitely work. And we also,
I think dealt some heavy cards to each other up
front in the relationships so we could sort of work
through difficult times early. Like you know, some people, it's

(35:59):
all caught and candy in rainbows for the first couple
of years, and they don't really get into real topics
or real issues right away. So when they finally get
married or they get engaged, it's a fan and it's tough.
I think we had some solid disagreements and things that
came up early on that we knew we could either
work through or not. I remember having I remember having
an early discussion right from the beginning. We're both super alpha,

(36:22):
and I remember saying to you, I know you hate
the idea of what you call being controlled, but at
the end of the day, when two alpha's get together,
one of those alpha's at some point in time needs
to submit and take a side and be more passive.
I'm not saying it always has to be the same
it should never be the same one because that's gonna

(36:42):
cause problems. But you can't have two alpha's as opposite
as we are succeed in the relationship. If we're both
constantly having to be the one in control and right,
it will never work. So one alpha needs to take
a step back and submit in a situation at any
given time for it to work, and you were like me,

(37:03):
never gonna do that. It's honest. If we've done it,
we've done it to the point that some of my
friends even go like, I can't believe you're like allowing
such and such a thing, because they know me so
well and they know that. My instinct would have been
if you I'm out of here, don't talk to me
like that and don't try to contract. But if you

(37:23):
believe so, I've been able to navigate it with you
because you're worth it. Number One, if I put things
in a violence, I just go, you know what, Yeah,
he's a little bit annoying, but at the same time controlling,
but he has increased has incredible qualities that are more important.
But that's where this is what I try to explain
all the time to her. It's not about being controlling,
it's not about any of that. It's if you value

(37:46):
the person you're with and that person makes you a
better person. We have to step back and say, in
any relationship, I don't know everything. I'm not perfect, I
don't I don't have all the answers. If you trust
the person you're with and you give them enough credit
that they're doing things that could actually make you better,
then it's okay to listen, step back, submit, and let

(38:10):
them control a situation that might actually make you better.
You can learn from someone guiding you and taking control
of the situation versus always having to dictate your difficult
when you feel when you have when your truth becomes
I feel like I'm being controlled to be able to
have the consciousness and the maturity, maturity to be like

(38:31):
he's actually making me better. When you get into that
space of it's very difficult to be able to differentiate
one thing from the other. Example, really, I'm very frugal.
She calls me cheap, she's a spender, blah blah blah.
When we first met, I would say, Ros, you gotta
settle down. You don't need to have another major, you know,

(38:54):
super expensive purse. You don't need two assistance, you don't
need this, this and this. I would right to help.
I'll stop controlling me, stop telling me what I can
and can't do. At the end of the day, you're
gonna make your own decisions. But if if you if
you trust me in my opinion and you value my opinion,
you think I'm smart instead of thinking I'm controlling you
when you step back and go, maybe he's right, Maybe

(39:16):
there is benefit to learning some of these things because
he is a little more frugal and I am a
little bit more of like whatever. Maybe I can learn
from that. It's not being controlling, but if you make it,
if you're so worried about being controlled, then everything feels
like it's controlling. You can't worry about being controlled. You
can tell the difference between being controlled or being helped. Well,

(39:38):
at the beginning, it always feels like controlling, especially when
you're very you come from that damage sort of past
and feeling like everything is trying to be controlled. So
therefore you I came in with an upial battle. Sorry
about that, luc Yeah, don't let you live it. I

(40:03):
read a book about a friend of mine, um, I
don't know how to pronounce his name, that he's gonna
I don't know if you listened to the podcast, he's
not gonna appreciate this. What is Garain Jones? He's a motivation,
motivational speaker, incredible story and he writes about you need
you need to make sure that whoever you spend the

(40:24):
rest of your life with is your soul amplifier. Soul amplifier,
because that was so profound to me because I was like, wow,
that's what I want to be for Eric, and that's
what I want Eric to be for me. We're amplifying
my soul with that compassion. This week, I think you

(40:49):
stepped on my soul and oh wow, that's so sad.
So I apologize after he was like going crazy and
oh my god, it was so crazy guys at the
end when he spoke his truth and I spoke my truth.
Then we met in the middle and I said, I'm
sorry that I made you feel like that because I
don't want to do that. I was very I was.

(41:10):
It was severely sorry that I made back to your Pointifier,
you can be now you are you are, but we
we need to be better for we need to be
more of a soure amplifier. It's happy, dude, you think
about it so so lomplifire. It's not just going through life.
And he's my husband. I'm the wife. And we have kids,

(41:31):
and we have labs, and we work and we have
a beautiful living and and we're good at what we
do and we have sex and none of that. So amplifier.
It's it's deep. It is deep, but it's also not. Hey, Eric,
I want to buy a ranch with horses. Baby, we
can't afford that dream paper. You're not my sore amplifier.
You don't amplify. You don't you know what's what you know?

(41:58):
Alifire Ross, I love. I love your dreams. Let's work
towards that. I love. Since you're a little girl, you've
always wanted to have the Mingo, your white horse. Let's
let's work good because I believe, but I am tomorrow
if if she she wants the ranch at OHI with

(42:22):
a horror, she wants a dance studio and a bakery
by tomorrow. I can't make all that happen tomorrow. I'm
going to have it all you will. I can't make
it happen now, you know. I know. Anyways, wait, I
have to record. This is a good one. Start, yeah,
because we're going we're having a lot of one. Not really,
we're doing pretty good. Okay, have you start start again? Okay?

(42:42):
Why are we starting again? We're alive on I think,
Oh sorry, she's doing that for Instagram. Have you partty
trained your son yet? Yeah? Listen, we've been doing the
three day potty training book. It hasn't taken now, he's
been great, hasn't been as easy as it was with Sabella.
She was done within a day and a half, like

(43:03):
so easy it was embarrassing. Is doing great, hes on
the party all the time, no mistakes. Even just last night.
I think we missed the boat because we didn't hear
him call to go, or we let him sleep too long.
But I think he went three nights they dressed. Now
the poople, guys, we need some help. He is petrified

(43:23):
of going pop in the party. He hates it. He
screams and he's fine with people, but not with the poople.
So we need some advice because it's been a weekend
the change and it's been crazy and he doesn't like
but literally perfect something. But seriously all day long, pean
on the party, perfection even through the night. Pretty much

(43:45):
partty trained. He mean, we don't have dipers anymore. Everything
is gorown away. He's just under. He's just an unders.
But um, I would say the only thing is that
the poop. Yeah, he wants to go in the corner
and hiding. Any advice that we're able to potty train
the boys because clearly the boys are more difficult. Got
it in two days? Help us here, because he is, um, yeah,

(44:10):
I'm impressed. Okay, are there any measurable noticeable differences in
your ages now that ten years have passed? Way? What
do you mean? Any measurable nos? Like in our ages,
like the way we behavior, in the way any differences. No,
because I'm a little older than you. Oh like differences
in our ages since ten years? Because she Yeah, I

(44:32):
guess you were a little bit more spunky when you
were in your thirties, and that was in my twenties.
You had a little bit more pep in your step.
You weren't. You weren't as you were as like throw
the mouth guard in, some the glasses on and getting
pajamas in bed and just be like, you're a little

(44:53):
bit more spunky when you were in your thirties, kids,
two kids, and a difficult husband, differ cool husband. Wow.
Actually had this craziest mouth card, the blocks of half
her alph. I'm gonna he took a picture. You know
what's fund I'm gonna post it your teeth again because
I keep grinding. Yes, it was awful, and anyways, I'm
using this humongous guard that you guys have seen because

(45:16):
we did a whole Instagram live with it. And he
took a picture of me when I was writing and
my hair was wet and I had glasses and I
had my my guard, and he thought he was gonna
embarrass me, embarrassed me by taking this picture. That this
is what you, this is who you really are. And
I look pretty cute in the actually in the picture.
I'm gonna post it. Good good to you, but um
ugly Betty, but cute anyway, what a well you become

(45:43):
more and more mature, immature, good good, that's good. I
think that's a complement. I bet you A lot of
people love the immature for three year old who likes
to goof around and stay young and look good for you, Okay,
I don't notice any difference the same. What personality trait

(46:05):
of your partner do you wish you had more of?
He's what do you wish you had more of? Of?
My personality? I wish you had your pain tolerance? Really,
not my congeniality, Mr Congenius, none of that, none of that.
Oh you're you're very no, not at all, um and

(46:25):
you're very organized. I guess like a no, No, that's annoying. Yeah,
but I don't want to be like that, you have
to disorganized. I wish I had your pain tolerance because
I have zero, and you're like a like a human,
like a superhero when it comes to pain. Wow, Okay,
I wish I had her drive that when I wanted to,

(46:48):
when she wants to put her mind to something, she doesn't,
and I have a lot of respect and admiration for that.
I wish that I had that same drive that when I,
you know, just said Hey, I'm gonna start writing a script,
I could just do that like she. She can put
the battles in the middle quick. For me, I tend
to lollygang around it for a while. So I wish
I had that, so I'll complify your soul, you see apparently, Okay.

(47:13):
Is it more important for a couple to have great conversations,
lots of laughs or great sex? Is it more important?
I think all three? That's tough. Great conversations is more important.
If I had to put these to me, the laughs
and great sex amazing more than great conversations. Great conversations too,

(47:38):
I think all three of these. Honestly, I don't know
if there's an importance. I think all three of these
things are keys to a great marriage. But if you
have to do an order, why would it be if
I had to do an order? Great sex, lots of
laughs and then conversations. Um, just like that, great conversations,

(48:02):
lots of loves and great sex. You know, it doesn't
work a lot of laughs during great sex because this
one always seems to find it like it stand up
comedy before we're going to have sex, and it ruins
the moment. The best time that I have with Eric
is for whatever reason, I have this tendency that we're
about to have sex. I just start thinking about this

(48:24):
random but they're funny and we start laughing, hysterical and
but you we actually enjoy and we laughed for like
fifteen minutes. And then he's like, well, I'm a limb.
You gonna have to work out because I'm like, come on, sexy,
but we laugh. I don't know why sexy. This is
the best leaves we've ever had. End up comedy. Our
thoughts on accidentally farting in the middle of s No,

(48:47):
I'm definitely trying to avoid that that would that would
drop that would drop me. I didn't wanted to he
wanted to that. I can tell you I can't. I
can't make she's She says, Oh good. I don't like

(49:07):
talking about this, Tom, I don't like talking about that.
I don't like talking about the muffs. Your best give
you ever received from your partner? What's the best GIF
you have ever received from your partner? Um, you surprised me.
I forgot what birthday that was maybe my She flew

(49:30):
me to San Francisco, one of my favorite cities, and
we went to a restaurant for dinner and I had
no idea, but she flew in like fifteen of my
closest friends that all were at the restaurant to surprise
me for my dinner and a weekend in San Francisco.
It was banana. That was incredible. I'll never forget your
face because you opened the door and you started like

(49:52):
tearing up and you what about you? Um, well you
did something. You did something like that for a surprise
party and that was amazing at what is the restaurant?
And on top of the Hollywood heals, that was stunning. Um,
I love love, love love. That birthday was beautiful. And

(50:13):
also I think that the not the painting is it
an illustration that you did the family with the dogs. Yeah,
Brooke um Hagel, we did that. She's a great illustrator
her Vogue and all these magazines. And I did an
illustration of our engagement photo. But I did it. This

(50:35):
is actually for our wedding. That was our tenure wedding
anniversary for ten years later. I included all the dogs
we've had that are alive and have passed with both
kids included in this drawing um watercolor paint recreating what
we've accomplished in ten years. Yeah, but you also said
as far as birthday, you said funny enough that best gift,
so that that that counts okay? And then I saw

(50:58):
ross I said that you have curly hair? Is your
hair relaxed? Perm? I have curly, curly current. I have
done a lot of straining through my entire life and
Brazilian kraten and all kinds of things that when that's
why my my curly is not the same anymore. But yes,
I am naturally curly kinky hair girl. Um yeah, I

(51:20):
I do. I blow dried and I flat iron my
hair and people ask me how can we leave it
curly more often? And I say I'm so used to
my hair being straight, and my curl is not like
my curl from before. But yeah, I grew people that
know me from Puerto Rico that grew up that I
grew up with all through high school. Um, my hair
was curly on the way all the way down to
my waist. It was amazing. Once she thought leaving the

(51:40):
carroteen in for twenty four hours was a great idea
because it for eight days, and then she brushed her
hair in like wads of hair film, and I started screaming,
screaming for Eric. I thought I was gonna die. I've
been through so much with my hair, but my hair
is very talented. Listening at my hair curry, kinky, curly, wavy, beaky, straight,
I can do whatever I want with my hair, so

(52:01):
I'm very good. So I'm looking for a hair sponsor
for the podcast because the can mess with you. And
they started ros do you think? Do you think in
Spanish English or do you think in Spanglish? Ah, you
know what I think Spanish now. I used to think
in Spanish and then translate. I don't think I think
in English. I think Spanish most likely. Yeah, And if

(52:25):
I'm fighting, I get all tongue twisted, and I'm definitely
thinking in Spanish, so it takes me a while too
to respond coherently because it's difficult for me to translate
immediately while on fighting. Okay, and then what TV show
are you're binging right now? Guys? It's all about secession, succession, succession.

(52:48):
It's all about secession? Did succession? Succession? Did you go
my accent right there? You said? I wish I would
have known all about succession. We are fully obsessed with
that show. However, I keep falling asleep. It only happened
to you yet last night, and I gotta catch I
gotta catch about that. But we're like two episodes away
from finishing. Season is juicy is heavy, is very heavy,

(53:08):
but the acting is exquisite. You watch a show like
that and you got you go like, how could I
be part often ensemble like that? Why do I don't
get material like that? It's because it's so freaking good,
and that's all you aspire to be and to do
when you get into this business. You want to be
on a show like that that is well written, WorldCast,
wherever they travel the world is visually starting is creative,

(53:30):
It's everything. So how you say succession, it's phenomenal, acting, phenomenal,
she said everything she says, it's it's the dream. It's
like a dream job. I would it's a dream job
obsessed with. Like I said, we're two episodes away from finishing.
Season two will be caught up, so you have to

(53:51):
be that to me, is next that you come in
the second season it's starting? Yes, I canna wait anyway, Hi, everybody,
this was fun. I'm glad we got to do this.
This was pretty cool. Um again, you know, we always
tell everybody if you have any questions or comments, please

(54:11):
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(54:33):
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