May 9, 2024 • 28 mins
Ros and Eric sit down with your questions, which seem to have become a source for interesting topics that spark unexpected conversations. This week these two talk about everything from roles they wish they had acted in, who communicates and listens better, what they do when they need to shut off from their busy lives, and how far a hug really goes.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is he said a Yadiho with Eric Winter and
Rodalind Fantaz. Hey, Debbie O. Listeners, welcome back to another
episode of Madness.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Wow, he said, a madness, he said, your madness. Listen.
These are some of my favorite episodes. Now that we're
doing these questions from listeners, Uh, it's a lot of
fun for me to be able to communicate directly with
our listeners and answer their questions. Yeah, it kind of
drives the show. It's a new new segment. We're going
to segment, new episode we're gonna start doing. Now, let's
(00:36):
jump right into some listener questions at Rachel Smith, I'll
direct this to you. Is there a role you wish
you played?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Hundreds hundreds. I happen to think that I'm right for everything,
and then I realized I quickly realized that I guess
I'm not right for everything, because you know, don't cast me.
So there's there's one role in particular that I really
really wanted many years ago, and I think it's the
first movie that Penelope Cruz ever did in English. The
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name of the movie was All the Pretty Horses, and
I tested for that as well as she did, and
I was obsessed because it was Matt Damon and I thought,
you know what, this is going to be my ticket.
I think it was before Rochower, before Rochower too, and
I was like, this is the kind of material that
I like. It's dramas, it's deep, and I'm perfect, and
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they really really liked me. And I remember putting candles
and I worked so hard to get that thing and
I didn't. Yeah, I would like candles and I will
pray on it, and I'm going, this is mine, this
is mine, this is going to change my life. And
Penelope got it. And then Penelope took off and had
an amazing career.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Because we make plans and God last.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Yeah, he left on me big time because at the
end of the day, I don't think I had a chance.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
The path. Your path is your path, and you need
to live with it. But as actor, I'm going to
tell you we all want every role. I mean, I've
been asked so many times, what's your dream role, what's
the role you want to play. I'm like, the next
one that sounds fun to me, that's gonna make me
some money and give me a great career, I'm in.
I mean, I feel like as an actor. We can
play anything. We want to be versatile. It's just with
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the people on the other side see it that way.
So it's like you always want the chance, but there's
so many people fighting for the same thing.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
This is interesting. I was up for this thing. It's
an Apples show that again is one of those that
it's great caliber people and we'll move the needle forward.
And I was so excited, and I was like, I
should get an offer, but of course they make me
go through the process and I haven't. I haven't gone
through this process for years. Guys that I have to
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self tape and put myself on tape for somebody, and
you know, it's a little bit of a humble pie
type of situation. So I goes, you know what, I'm
going to see it as, I'm going to just play
and you know, do what I love, which is I
love to act. So I'm going to put myself on
tape and I enjoy myself acting because this is what
I do for a living and I love it. So
I did it twice, right, because it was twice and
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I did really good work and I was very proud
of it and submitted it and producers love you. Casting
director loves you. They even put me on hold and
a veil. They're asking for my availability. They want to
make sure that I am available from May to September.
So it's looking really really positive. I'm going, oh my god,
this is amazing. So let's see what happens. Fast forward
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to everybody loves you. But the directors is a couple directors.
The directors, they just they just see it in a
different way.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
It's all it takes in our business that people don't
understand one person in power, and I can change.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
My manager is best friends with the producer. My lawyer
represents the star that is the lead. I do a
fantastic job. Everybody loves me, so everything is working on
my favor, and then the directors go, we just see
it a different way. Can I put myself on taping
on tape again?
Speaker 2 (03:56):
Guys?
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Can they give me direction because maybe if they don't
see it based on my read, I can do something
very possible. It's very possible that the look had something to.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Do with it. There are so many factors, but it's crazy.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
It's crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
It's very difficult to accept as an actor. Anybody that's
trying to start out to accept your fate is in
somebody else's hands. That's the bottom line, and it takes
one person.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
And I keep telling Eric, I always promise myself that
I was not gonna be fifty and still having to
prove myself or do the song and dance that entails
being part of this business. And I was like, and
I actually never thought that I was going to be
in this position. You know, I'm very blessed. I work
all the time. It's amazing. But I I turned fifty
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one and the fact that I have to go through
it and then get the feedback that you get when
you're twenty, I was, I'm like, you know, it's those
are the moments that I did just go. I don't
know how much longer I have it in me to
continue the puzzle and allowing somebody to basic dictate your future, Yeah,
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it's really really difficult. I'm going I am I am
too old.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
And that's why we need everybody buying ras at Ross
because we are going to try to shift the narrative
for her career. So that is her.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Listen, my fine, listen, I'm gonna work out having a problem. Listen.
It's still saying I want to I want Rosaline to
self tape for something. I'll be like, yes, mister steel
bad Stave, it's Bielberg. What do you want me to do?
You want me to do tap dancing?
Speaker 2 (05:28):
She's very use of this business. You can't take it personally.
We talk about all the time.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
I take a personal baby. Yeah, you know what, I
take personal too. No, I have to say I'm gonna
do a parenthesis again. The last podcast that we did,
we talk about how people are just some people suck
me included. I'm I'm a person as well. But it's funny.
I do this campaign for Genesis and and you know
it's my fault. You just tell me Ross, don't recomment.
I do this beautiful, beautiful campaign for this car called
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It's a brand Genesis. I go to Puerto Rico. Is
a local campaign stunning the car. Actually I don't drive Genesis,
but I will because Genesis is a beautiful car. Anyways,
I do this video that has like three point five
million clicks, like it went huge, Right, and I'm just
feeling cute, and I am recording myself while I'm driving, right,
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and I'm kind of like and I'm showing people behind
the scenes, right, the walkie talk is on, I'm getting
directions from the director.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Anyway has happened.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
And I even write on the text of the post,
just full disclosure. This set. It was a closed set.
The street is locked for production. There's no traffic, there's nobody,
there's no cars. It's only me and the truck in
front of me recording me. So it's perfectly safe, because
I knew people are gonna be like, why are you're driving?
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And that's what people die. You're responsible, So so let
me write it down so people know that this is
a closed set, that I have a whole mile of
not one car coming. That's what I'm comfortable recording myself.
And of course the thousands of comments, ninety nine of
them very supportive and beautiful messages. I was like, oh
my god, this is so sweet. Everybody's so sweet. But
then of course you have the ones yeah, trashing you
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because you're responsible, You're going to cause an accident, and
but why do people feel the need of doing that
is social media.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
If you're gonna read the comments, you have to take
the good with the bad.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Annoying people, don't be annoying.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Fiber bullying is too easy.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Don't be a bully, like, don't don't complain.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
If you're reading the comments, you know, I look at it.
Gosh I Bret Michael said, next, that wasn't directed to you,
you're the next question, do you have any advice for
someone who wants to start a podcast and are there
any dream interviews you'd want to have on yours?
Speaker 1 (07:41):
The advice if you want to do a podcast, grab
a mic, record yourself, find an outlet, and just make
sure that you have a point of view.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Yeah, that's well said.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Yeah, as well said, don't just do a podcast for
the sake of lie just going to grab a mic.
And because I have the power and the capability, I
just want to say whatever, and no, you don't do it.
If it's your passion and if you have actually something
productive to say, do it. It's awesome.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
And as far as dream guests, listen, there's so many
people we'd love to have on the show, and it's
it's really just a matter of if they have something
great to talk about and we want to know about
their their their lives and their journey. We love to
have mind. I don't know if there's any certain persons
we don't really care. We're very open to all types
of guests.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
You know.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
And the good thing about he said a Yadio is
that I believe that, like, we have guests for different reasons.
You know, some of them are very educational, some of
them are very entertaining. Some of them happen to be
current because there's a specific conflict that they're involved with,
you know, so we just open it up to everything.
We've had really serious guests, you know that they're teaching
us about things that are even uncomfortable to to discuss.
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And we've had people that that they're hot at the
moment because they're like causing trouble and whatever reality TV
shows and some that are hustling, and some people that
is more motivational podcast. You know, we do. We cover
everything because I think it's important for our audience to
listen to everything.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
This is this is actually an interesting question from at
MARSHIXA mar Hello from France. Awesome. Do you ever regret
choosing a profession that puts you in the public eye.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
No, I love it. I love it.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
I love the public eye. There's good and bad to
be in the public eye. We are obviously at a
level in the public eye that I think for both
of us is maintainable and comfortable. We don't feel danger
or threatened or any danger around us. We don't feel
uncomfortable very often. It's it's flattering, right, We're at a
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very nice level. I don't know what it would be
like to be at the level of let's say, a
Lebron James or a Beyonce or a Taylor Swift, where
you can't or the rock going somewhere would cause a
commotion beyond I mean, you cannot just go to the mall.
You cannot just go somewhere publicly without security surrounding. It
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would be crazy. So I don't know what that feels like.
But our level of public eye is I think, welcomed
and comfortable, and we I say it all the time.
I love any fans or anybody that support what I'm doing,
because I wouldn't be where I'm at without that fan support.
So I truly embrace fans. Correct at the curl chick
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or hik. Between the two of you, who has the
hardest time communicating and who tends to be a better listener.
It's a great question, m great question.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
What do you think what I thought you was gonna
be like?
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Easy?
Speaker 3 (10:40):
Well?
Speaker 2 (10:40):
Who do you think is the better listener and better communicator?
I'm better at both. Yeah, all right, sure I'm a
better communicator and better listener. Wow, I'll take that as
a compliment today. That's really lovely. I didn't expect it
to go this move.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
You say it.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
Well, I do think I'm a pretty good communicator. I
do think I'm a pretty good listener. I think you
were getting better at times. Yeah, okay, she's making a
lot of weird looks at me. Well even at that,
But I guess I'm the better one.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
You are very good at communicating and listening.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
I try, sometimes I don't.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Sometimes I don't want to communicate or listen because I
just want to be left alone. That's my love language.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
You know.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
I was talking to a like, why are you looking
at my forehead? Why are you looking at? Can you
get it out?
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Be sing? Then?
Speaker 3 (11:28):
Is that?
Speaker 1 (11:28):
What's funny is I don't have to be single. It's
just like somebody asked me what is your love your
love language? And I said, I want to be left alone.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Wow, that's okay. I love you. I won't bother you.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
No, I love you. I like love, love love, and
I love Yeah, but there's moments that I just want
to be left alone.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
We all do, because we all have moments when be
left alone. Why do you struggle with communication?
Speaker 1 (11:51):
I don't think I struggle with communication. I'm actually a
great communicator. That's what I am. Very good on stage
and not.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
On stage in light in relationships.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
Probably my upbringing nobody communicated.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Where are you a bad listener? Do you think you're
we just.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Want to listen because there was nothing to talk about.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
So you're blaming your upbringing. Well, but don't you think
at your wise age of fifty one.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
That's why I have changed so much, unevolved and breaking cycles.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Maybe keep changing more.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
I have no problem evolving, so it's just a low evolution.
I'm a work in progress.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
Slow evolution. Okay, great question. Next one at Belinda Hugh.
How would you say.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
That, Belinda? We though.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
Spanish?
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Belinda, I say the questions are isolat voice through podcast
and Espanol. Hi, I would love to listen to your
podcast in Spanish. How can I do that?
Speaker 2 (12:55):
It's the question for the producers.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
It's Panglish. Yeah, unless we start putting subtidets, it's more English.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
But I think aren't there some Is there some technology.
Now that's actually changing your you can fully like like
a voice over, like a dub.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Yeah, past is major maintaining glez amos. But thank you
for listening. As a good chat. It's dot juju hello
(13:33):
from me Europe and I am Swiss and Hungarian. I
wanted to know if Eric is ever uncomfortable filming Chin
four scenes.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
No, I don't think we get you know, as actors
in general, have you ever have you ever been uncomfortable
filming any scenes with a partner?
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Yes, you have, of course.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Oh you've told me stories. Yeah, yeah, she's had I
think in my career and this would speak to Chen
for teens or any scenes in general. I've never been
in a position where scenes that made me uncomfortable. My
co stars have always been respectable, respectful, They've always been kind.
I'm not even not even like in a mean way.
Like I've never worked with anybody as a direct co
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star that's been just an a hole or just a
bat not a good seat. But you've had it a
number of times, haven't you.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Yeah, just just people that I don't I have no
desire kids kissing or like doing it because I don't.
I don't see anything about them, not physically, but I
don't want to.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
I don't have to like that anyways. Weird in general.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
I'm not talking about physical. I just know some people
that I just go, I don't want to.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
But that's a weird. That's a word. Even if you're single,
which is fine, but if you're married and you're like, well,
I don't really, I'm not attracted to that.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
I'm not saying physically, Like you know, there's some people
that I just like, I don't. I don't want to
do that.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Listen, I don't look at it that way because I've
never been I mean, I've been in scenes with you know,
when I have brothers and sisters. I've been in scenes where, yeah,
I don't fancy I'm a straight male.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
I don't fancy that you were You're comfortable kissing this guy.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
No, it's it was the first time I've had to
do that, so it was it's it's interesting, right, It's
not like because I'm straight, heterosexual male, so it's it's, yeah,
you have to you're you're going outside your comfort.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
It was crazy, guys, I'm going to tell you something
that happened to me with Eric. This was crazy and
nothing against nothing to do with two men kissing because
most of my best friends are are they're in gay relationships.
You know they're married, you know that they're like family
to me. I love them to death. But it's interesting
because Eric did this show playing a gay character and
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he had a love interest a guy. And I've seen
him kissing other females actresses before because it's part of
our job, but this specific job the first time that
I saw him, and I'll never forget this scene that
he's like making like like he charges and then he
grabs this guy and he's making out with this guy.
I remember that. I was like, I don't want to
watch this thing. I couldn't do it. I was like,
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oh I can't, I can't. It was weird, and I'm going,
why am I like.
Speaker 3 (15:57):
What do.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
About two men kissing?
Speaker 1 (16:01):
It was just about no, never about two men kiss
and I have no problem, or two women kissing.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
I don't have a problem, no.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Zero problem. It was something about saying you and I
was like, that was so weird.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Because you knew I'm a straight male, so it took
you in a weird It was a weird thing ye
put in your you know, to see I think in
that regard.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Look now, I find it funny, but sure there are.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Plenty of times when people are acting with co stars
and they're like, oh, I'm attracted to that person. Happens,
I'm sure, constantly all the time. But in general, when
you're acting with somebody, it's you have to kiss somebody,
whether they set you up or not, whether it's your type,
whether or whatever. It's just if the person is respectful
and makes it comfortable, then you can play the character
and be comfortable in it. But if the person makes
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it uncomfortable for whatever reason, whether they are crossing the
line or they're you know, they're making more of the
situation because they actually want to make out with you,
then you cross the guy.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
I was in Toronto doing this TV show and the actor,
great actor, fantastic actor, very famous, and we have the
scene that he kisses me and I'll never forget. We
never rehears anything whatever. So actually we're doing the scene
and he's strong when all the way down to my throat,
I wanted to die. First of all, you don't do
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that when you're.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Kissing, and I mean people do it. We've seen it
in movies mallion times. Sometimes that's directed or sometimes they
say go at it, and people do it.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
To this day, I have an ingraandma and gramma's when
you like develop a phobia against something. I have an
ingramma about that moment every time. But I think it
was like a lizard. It was the longest, thinnest, most
prickly tongue I've ever from in my life. All the
way down. I was so pissed. I was so pissed.
You guys have no idea. Another instance is funny. It
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was prickly, it was awful, and then it's funny. And
another this was funny. This this want I learned my lesson.
I tell the actor I'm gonna listen. I'm gonna ask
you for a favor. When we do the love scene.
Please don't use your tongue. Yeah, you know you know
the actor. I so please don't do that. No, I
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mean you don't know him personally, but no, I think
you actually work with him. I don't know. I said, please,
I appreciate if you don't use a tongue. And he
looked at me. Oh my god, I die. I was embarrassed.
And he says, oh, what makes you think that I
want to do that?
Speaker 2 (18:17):
Oh? Before you did the scene before, but you never
he had never done it before. Never.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Oh, but I was so petriphant about my previous that
I was like, I don't want anybody putting it right.
And I said it very cool, but you know, I'm serious.
So it wasn't like, hey, listen, can I ask you
for a favor? Is it okay? You know what I mean?
I was. I was very matter of fact. I says,
I'm going to ask you for a favor. You know,
I'll be appreciated. Please don't use your tongue, you know,
And he looked at me so annoyed and like that
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is that what makes you think that I want to
do that? And I was like, oh, yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
You're right, I'm sorry previous experience, you know.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
I was like, okay, I'm sorry, I do but thank you.
I appreciate it. And it made it very uncomfortable. And
we were love interest on the show, and I knew
for a fact that that costs a bit of a
He was very pleasant, he's a very nice guy, but
I know that comment robbed him the wrong way because
maybe it's true, maybe he was not going to do that,
and the fact that I came in so strong. I
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was like, oh, I don't think I should do that again.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Let's not. I got a couple more questions before we
have to read it. But did either of you ever
from Dylan fan x X do you either of you
ever have have it? I made it moment I made it? Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
That's funny thing is I've had many I made it moments,
and I stopped listening to them because every time I've
made it, I just come crashing back down. And then
I make it again and I come crashing back down,
and that is our business. I remember the very first
pilot I ever booked, and Hugh Jackman was in the
testing room with me, and he's the one that told
me he couldn't have done it better than that I did.
He gave me a giant hug, and I was like,
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oh my god, I booked my first pilot. Hugh Jackman
gave me the best compliment ever, ran downstairs, gave me
a hug, nicest guy ever, and I was on cloud
and I was like, I I just accomplished my dream. Yeah,
And then within about three mon that dream was canceled
and I was unemployed again for months. So it's like,
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you know, I made it moments in entertainment or like this.
I think even from movie stars, because we've heard so
many stories about movie stars winning an oscar and then
the career goes down and their career goes down, they
still haven't made it.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Yeah, it's very difficult. I've had it. I don't call
it made it. I call I call it X factor
experiences in your life. I had it.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
Too.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
I game plan, you know, I've had it with devious mates.
I thought, you know what I was, I'm so good
at comedy. This is going to be life changing for me.
And still is that because you do comedy.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
It's just that's the way the business is.
Speaker 1 (20:40):
Yeah, you never know, you know, like I dance the
halftime of the Orange Bowl, seventy five thousand people me
and I was like, I look amazing, this was unbelievable,
and then nothing happens.
Speaker 3 (20:51):
You know.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
It's the nature of the beast. Yeah, Sarosi dot o B.
What motivates you to be your authentic self? That's just
I think my bringing in morals and backgrounds and I
just I don't buy into much of what we do.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
You just have to like yourself and love yourself, you know. Yeah,
when you really love yourself and you feel like you
have something, that you bring something to the table and
you're a good person. I feel like that does the job.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
And I think entertainers that buy into what they're doing
as that's who they are are no longer their authentic self.
What do you mean if you're an entertainment you were
once this little kid that had dreams. You went to school,
maybe you wanted to be a star, whatever it was
that was you, right, you had a very grounded sense
of self your dreams. But you're grounded. Some that become
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megastars and have fully consumed that persona of who they
are now. I guess you could say they've transformed into
their new authentic self. Maybe a butterfly like from a
cocoon turned into a butterfly, right, Like that's their new
version of them. But I don't know if that's who
they ever were at their core. When you buy into
what you do for a living so much instead of
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just being you, like I always look at it like
I'm me. I happen to be an actor.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
I think sometimes when you have accomplished amazing things and
you work really hard, it's okay to buy into what
you have accomplished, Get that and get that, But I
don't think they're changed change. I do a lot, but
I think a lot of them there's still amazing people.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
Yeah, no, they can be, but they can also be
different than maybe who they were. They've changed, its normal change.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
If the change is for good, Okay.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Then it's fine. Okay. Connie Asberger are Oursburger? What kind
of parents are you at your kids' sports competition? Screaming
and cheering or quiet spectators? Have either of you ever
coached their teams? Neither of us have coached, but we
both think we're coaches all the time. We've been through everything,
and we've talked about this many times. We are all
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over the.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
Map, police called almost face fights, a lot of screaming
of a tennis Yeah, maybe we're shocked that we haven't
been banned out of the tournaments. Yeah, we were terrible.
We were terrible, but now we're much better. It's interesting.
Yesterday Isabella was we have a neighbor to have a
tennis court, and she's so kind to let us use
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her court now. And her daughter was a big one
to college, played tennis for college and now she's a teacher.
So Sabella went to hit with the daughter, and the lady,
the mom who owns the house, is there. She's probably
in her seventies eighties, very very lovely, and it was
so validating to understand I'm not the only one because
(23:37):
she was saying she actually got banned, she actually got
because of a daughter because she was so loud. And
so you know, when you have a kid that has
a lot of potential and you take her and she's
competing against all the kids, you know, the animosity and
the energies are all all over the place. And we
have said this many many times before every tournament, every
tennis tournament, the tennis community sucks. And then what happens
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is everybody thinks that they have the nixt Serna Williams
and the nixt Sharapova. Everybody walks around so entitled, not
realizing ninety nine point nine of these girls by the
time they're fifteen, they're gonna stop playing tennis. But you
have this desire and this hope that they're going to
be the next big thing, and you live your life
through them. So we all come in charged.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
I also truly think the tennis community sucks because of
the way the tennis world is managed with no real judging.
There are This is the issue with tennis is very quickly.
We've said it many times. There are no dedicated designated
lines callers, there's no dedicated umpires, so you have people
rotating around. You're leaving up the kids to make their
own calls. And I think if you actually just remove
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that one factor from things will be resolved. This sport
would be so much more enjoyable because parents couldn't say a.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
Word because we feel like we're they're re frees.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
Every every parent thinks their kid is the best and
never cheats, and every parent thinks that every other kid
sucks and that their kid cheats. It would be it
would eliminate so much headache. If you just could find
a way to fund that part of the of the sport,
make it cleaner, make it more.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
Dedicated to And we have never coached any teams. I
feel like said but every doesn't have time. But it
would be amazing for Eric to coach the volleyball team
and at school because there's a lot of stuff, a
lot of sports. They played football, he played volleyball, and
if you see these kids competing and it's all fun
and games and it's team sports and listen, it's a elementary.
It's not that big of a deal. But there's a
lot of times that you see them playing and.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
You're like, it's gonna change it.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
It could be so much better if they have better coaching.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
That's all all right? Germany. So many fans in Germany,
Jenny or I hello from Germany. So many fans in
Germany here. Is there anything that has happened while raising
your kids? You wish you to handle differently all the time,
all the time. I wish I wouldn't have lost my
cool so many times. I wish I wouldn't I wish
I'd be just more patient. In general, I wish I
would so many things, so many mistakes.
Speaker 1 (25:54):
It was the thing. Parenting is so hard, guys. Parenting
is a trip. I think it's actually the hardest job
in the world. And nobody It's not like a math equation.
It's not undeniable. It's not like one plus one is two.
You know, when it comes to parenting. Your kids come
in and they have something in their DNA that is,
you know, their own their their own individuals, you know,
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and they are born with all kinds of things that
you have absolutely no control of and they have a
mind of their own, so you can try. That's why
you can have a family of five, right, three siblings,
same parents, same parents, same social class, same exact upbringing,
and they're all very, very fundamentally different. Like you have
no control, people are who they are, so all you
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can do is is is your best. And sometimes we
wish there was a manual for us to be like, Okay,
in a situation like this, this is how it's handled.
But the reality is my kid might not receive the
information the same way as your kid, you know, so
we it's not like a one size fits all. It
is the hardest freaking job in the world.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
Awake a bunch of mistakes, but we do.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
But I do, I do believe that we're actually really incredible,
incredible parents.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
I think we do a great job. Last question at
Fearless Girl, what is your go to thing that you
do to calm down your busy life and just shut
off the world. Roseland goes on social media and reads
the book?
Speaker 1 (27:19):
Maybe I read a book, yeah, or watch a TV
show that I like.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
I would say probably we watch something on TV. And
I think I'm the most calm when I'm just being
loved and hugged by my wife. Okay, yeah, that that
that's happening. She loves I'm a hugger on the airplane.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
Next time you ever hugged me on the airplane. What
are you talking about?
Speaker 2 (27:43):
No, I think it's what you make me sound. No,
we do that. I don't make you say anything.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
You make me sound like I'm just awful. It made
me sound like you. You you sound like you received
no love inside your household.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
Said on the last podcast that you could not stand
someone hugging you on an airplane. It would You just
want space. And I'm saying jokingly making hold hands. I know.
I'm saying, I'm calm when you're when you're hugging on me.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
So what you're being loved on your calm?
Speaker 2 (28:11):
Yeah, okay, you too.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
I just want to be treated well.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
You see, we all it's good. And then reading books
and read books. Yeah, good, good questions guys, this is great.
Thank you again. We'll be doing this obviously more often,
so please continue to send in your questions. Uh d
m us at he said a a d or email
us at Eric and Roz at iHeartRadio dot com and
we will continue to answer listener questions till next time you.
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Thanks for listening. Don't forget to write us a review
and tell us what you think.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
If you want to follow us on Instagram, check us
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Radio's Mike Will Do That podcast network.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
See you next time by
This is he said a Yadiho with Eric Winter and
Rodalind Fantaz. Hey, Debbie O. Listeners, welcome back to another
episode of Madness.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Wow, he said, a madness, he said, your madness. Listen.
These are some of my favorite episodes. Now that we're
doing these questions from listeners, Uh, it's a lot of
fun for me to be able to communicate directly with
our listeners and answer their questions. Yeah, it kind of
drives the show. It's a new new segment. We're going
to segment, new episode we're gonna start doing. Now, let's
(00:36):
jump right into some listener questions at Rachel Smith, I'll
direct this to you. Is there a role you wish
you played?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Hundreds hundreds. I happen to think that I'm right for everything,
and then I realized I quickly realized that I guess
I'm not right for everything, because you know, don't cast me.
So there's there's one role in particular that I really
really wanted many years ago, and I think it's the
first movie that Penelope Cruz ever did in English. The
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name of the movie was All the Pretty Horses, and
I tested for that as well as she did, and
I was obsessed because it was Matt Damon and I thought,
you know what, this is going to be my ticket.
I think it was before Rochower, before Rochower too, and
I was like, this is the kind of material that
I like. It's dramas, it's deep, and I'm perfect, and
(01:30):
they really really liked me. And I remember putting candles
and I worked so hard to get that thing and
I didn't. Yeah, I would like candles and I will
pray on it, and I'm going, this is mine, this
is mine, this is going to change my life. And
Penelope got it. And then Penelope took off and had
an amazing career.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Because we make plans and God last.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Yeah, he left on me big time because at the
end of the day, I don't think I had a chance.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
The path. Your path is your path, and you need
to live with it. But as actor, I'm going to
tell you we all want every role. I mean, I've
been asked so many times, what's your dream role, what's
the role you want to play. I'm like, the next
one that sounds fun to me, that's gonna make me
some money and give me a great career, I'm in.
I mean, I feel like as an actor. We can
play anything. We want to be versatile. It's just with
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the people on the other side see it that way.
So it's like you always want the chance, but there's
so many people fighting for the same thing.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
This is interesting. I was up for this thing. It's
an Apples show that again is one of those that
it's great caliber people and we'll move the needle forward.
And I was so excited, and I was like, I
should get an offer, but of course they make me
go through the process and I haven't. I haven't gone
through this process for years. Guys that I have to
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self tape and put myself on tape for somebody, and
you know, it's a little bit of a humble pie
type of situation. So I goes, you know what, I'm
going to see it as, I'm going to just play
and you know, do what I love, which is I
love to act. So I'm going to put myself on
tape and I enjoy myself acting because this is what
I do for a living and I love it. So
I did it twice, right, because it was twice and
(03:06):
I did really good work and I was very proud
of it and submitted it and producers love you. Casting
director loves you. They even put me on hold and
a veil. They're asking for my availability. They want to
make sure that I am available from May to September.
So it's looking really really positive. I'm going, oh my god,
this is amazing. So let's see what happens. Fast forward
(03:26):
to everybody loves you. But the directors is a couple directors.
The directors, they just they just see it in a
different way.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
It's all it takes in our business that people don't
understand one person in power, and I can change.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
My manager is best friends with the producer. My lawyer
represents the star that is the lead. I do a
fantastic job. Everybody loves me, so everything is working on
my favor, and then the directors go, we just see
it a different way. Can I put myself on taping
on tape again?
Speaker 2 (03:56):
Guys?
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Can they give me direction because maybe if they don't
see it based on my read, I can do something
very possible. It's very possible that the look had something to.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Do with it. There are so many factors, but it's crazy.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
It's crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
It's very difficult to accept as an actor. Anybody that's
trying to start out to accept your fate is in
somebody else's hands. That's the bottom line, and it takes
one person.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
And I keep telling Eric, I always promise myself that
I was not gonna be fifty and still having to
prove myself or do the song and dance that entails
being part of this business. And I was like, and
I actually never thought that I was going to be
in this position. You know, I'm very blessed. I work
all the time. It's amazing. But I I turned fifty
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one and the fact that I have to go through
it and then get the feedback that you get when
you're twenty, I was, I'm like, you know, it's those
are the moments that I did just go. I don't
know how much longer I have it in me to
continue the puzzle and allowing somebody to basic dictate your future, Yeah,
(05:02):
it's really really difficult. I'm going I am I am
too old.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
And that's why we need everybody buying ras at Ross
because we are going to try to shift the narrative
for her career. So that is her.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Listen, my fine, listen, I'm gonna work out having a problem. Listen.
It's still saying I want to I want Rosaline to
self tape for something. I'll be like, yes, mister steel
bad Stave, it's Bielberg. What do you want me to do?
You want me to do tap dancing?
Speaker 2 (05:28):
She's very use of this business. You can't take it personally.
We talk about all the time.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
I take a personal baby. Yeah, you know what, I
take personal too. No, I have to say I'm gonna
do a parenthesis again. The last podcast that we did,
we talk about how people are just some people suck
me included. I'm I'm a person as well. But it's funny.
I do this campaign for Genesis and and you know
it's my fault. You just tell me Ross, don't recomment.
I do this beautiful, beautiful campaign for this car called
(05:55):
It's a brand Genesis. I go to Puerto Rico. Is
a local campaign stunning the car. Actually I don't drive Genesis,
but I will because Genesis is a beautiful car. Anyways,
I do this video that has like three point five
million clicks, like it went huge, Right, and I'm just
feeling cute, and I am recording myself while I'm driving, right,
(06:16):
and I'm kind of like and I'm showing people behind
the scenes, right, the walkie talk is on, I'm getting
directions from the director.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Anyway has happened.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
And I even write on the text of the post,
just full disclosure. This set. It was a closed set.
The street is locked for production. There's no traffic, there's nobody,
there's no cars. It's only me and the truck in
front of me recording me. So it's perfectly safe, because
I knew people are gonna be like, why are you're driving?
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And that's what people die. You're responsible, So so let
me write it down so people know that this is
a closed set, that I have a whole mile of
not one car coming. That's what I'm comfortable recording myself.
And of course the thousands of comments, ninety nine of
them very supportive and beautiful messages. I was like, oh
my god, this is so sweet. Everybody's so sweet. But
then of course you have the ones yeah, trashing you
(07:08):
because you're responsible, You're going to cause an accident, and
but why do people feel the need of doing that
is social media.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
If you're gonna read the comments, you have to take
the good with the bad.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Annoying people, don't be annoying.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Fiber bullying is too easy.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Don't be a bully, like, don't don't complain.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
If you're reading the comments, you know, I look at it.
Gosh I Bret Michael said, next, that wasn't directed to you,
you're the next question, do you have any advice for
someone who wants to start a podcast and are there
any dream interviews you'd want to have on yours?
Speaker 1 (07:41):
The advice if you want to do a podcast, grab
a mic, record yourself, find an outlet, and just make
sure that you have a point of view.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Yeah, that's well said.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Yeah, as well said, don't just do a podcast for
the sake of lie just going to grab a mic.
And because I have the power and the capability, I
just want to say whatever, and no, you don't do it.
If it's your passion and if you have actually something
productive to say, do it. It's awesome.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
And as far as dream guests, listen, there's so many
people we'd love to have on the show, and it's
it's really just a matter of if they have something
great to talk about and we want to know about
their their their lives and their journey. We love to
have mind. I don't know if there's any certain persons
we don't really care. We're very open to all types
of guests.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
You know.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
And the good thing about he said a Yadio is
that I believe that, like, we have guests for different reasons.
You know, some of them are very educational, some of
them are very entertaining. Some of them happen to be
current because there's a specific conflict that they're involved with,
you know, so we just open it up to everything.
We've had really serious guests, you know that they're teaching
us about things that are even uncomfortable to to discuss.
(08:43):
And we've had people that that they're hot at the
moment because they're like causing trouble and whatever reality TV
shows and some that are hustling, and some people that
is more motivational podcast. You know, we do. We cover
everything because I think it's important for our audience to
listen to everything.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
This is this is actually an interesting question from at
MARSHIXA mar Hello from France. Awesome. Do you ever regret
choosing a profession that puts you in the public eye.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
No, I love it. I love it.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
I love the public eye. There's good and bad to
be in the public eye. We are obviously at a
level in the public eye that I think for both
of us is maintainable and comfortable. We don't feel danger
or threatened or any danger around us. We don't feel
uncomfortable very often. It's it's flattering, right, We're at a
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very nice level. I don't know what it would be
like to be at the level of let's say, a
Lebron James or a Beyonce or a Taylor Swift, where
you can't or the rock going somewhere would cause a
commotion beyond I mean, you cannot just go to the mall.
You cannot just go somewhere publicly without security surrounding. It
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would be crazy. So I don't know what that feels like.
But our level of public eye is I think, welcomed
and comfortable, and we I say it all the time.
I love any fans or anybody that support what I'm doing,
because I wouldn't be where I'm at without that fan support.
So I truly embrace fans. Correct at the curl chick
(10:24):
or hik. Between the two of you, who has the
hardest time communicating and who tends to be a better listener.
It's a great question, m great question.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
What do you think what I thought you was gonna
be like?
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Easy?
Speaker 3 (10:40):
Well?
Speaker 2 (10:40):
Who do you think is the better listener and better communicator?
I'm better at both. Yeah, all right, sure I'm a
better communicator and better listener. Wow, I'll take that as
a compliment today. That's really lovely. I didn't expect it
to go this move.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
You say it.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
Well, I do think I'm a pretty good communicator. I
do think I'm a pretty good listener. I think you
were getting better at times. Yeah, okay, she's making a
lot of weird looks at me. Well even at that,
But I guess I'm the better one.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
You are very good at communicating and listening.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
I try, sometimes I don't.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Sometimes I don't want to communicate or listen because I
just want to be left alone. That's my love language.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
You know.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
I was talking to a like, why are you looking
at my forehead? Why are you looking at? Can you
get it out?
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Be sing? Then?
Speaker 3 (11:28):
Is that?
Speaker 1 (11:28):
What's funny is I don't have to be single. It's
just like somebody asked me what is your love your
love language? And I said, I want to be left alone.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Wow, that's okay. I love you. I won't bother you.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
No, I love you. I like love, love love, and
I love Yeah, but there's moments that I just want
to be left alone.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
We all do, because we all have moments when be
left alone. Why do you struggle with communication?
Speaker 1 (11:51):
I don't think I struggle with communication. I'm actually a
great communicator. That's what I am. Very good on stage
and not.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
On stage in light in relationships.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
Probably my upbringing nobody communicated.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Where are you a bad listener? Do you think you're
we just.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Want to listen because there was nothing to talk about.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
So you're blaming your upbringing. Well, but don't you think
at your wise age of fifty one.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
That's why I have changed so much, unevolved and breaking cycles.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Maybe keep changing more.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
I have no problem evolving, so it's just a low evolution.
I'm a work in progress.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
Slow evolution. Okay, great question. Next one at Belinda Hugh.
How would you say.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
That, Belinda? We though.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
Spanish?
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Belinda, I say the questions are isolat voice through podcast
and Espanol. Hi, I would love to listen to your
podcast in Spanish. How can I do that?
Speaker 2 (12:55):
It's the question for the producers.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
It's Panglish. Yeah, unless we start putting subtidets, it's more English.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
But I think aren't there some Is there some technology.
Now that's actually changing your you can fully like like
a voice over, like a dub.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Yeah, past is major maintaining glez amos. But thank you
for listening. As a good chat. It's dot juju hello
(13:33):
from me Europe and I am Swiss and Hungarian. I
wanted to know if Eric is ever uncomfortable filming Chin
four scenes.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
No, I don't think we get you know, as actors
in general, have you ever have you ever been uncomfortable
filming any scenes with a partner?
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Yes, you have, of course.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Oh you've told me stories. Yeah, yeah, she's had I
think in my career and this would speak to Chen
for teens or any scenes in general. I've never been
in a position where scenes that made me uncomfortable. My
co stars have always been respectable, respectful, They've always been kind.
I'm not even not even like in a mean way.
Like I've never worked with anybody as a direct co
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star that's been just an a hole or just a
bat not a good seat. But you've had it a
number of times, haven't you.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Yeah, just just people that I don't I have no
desire kids kissing or like doing it because I don't.
I don't see anything about them, not physically, but I
don't want to.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
I don't have to like that anyways. Weird in general.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
I'm not talking about physical. I just know some people
that I just go, I don't want to.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
But that's a weird. That's a word. Even if you're single,
which is fine, but if you're married and you're like, well,
I don't really, I'm not attracted to that.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
I'm not saying physically, Like you know, there's some people
that I just like, I don't. I don't want to
do that.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Listen, I don't look at it that way because I've
never been I mean, I've been in scenes with you know,
when I have brothers and sisters. I've been in scenes where, yeah,
I don't fancy I'm a straight male.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
I don't fancy that you were You're comfortable kissing this guy.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
No, it's it was the first time I've had to
do that, so it was it's it's interesting, right, It's
not like because I'm straight, heterosexual male, so it's it's, yeah,
you have to you're you're going outside your comfort.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
It was crazy, guys, I'm going to tell you something
that happened to me with Eric. This was crazy and
nothing against nothing to do with two men kissing because
most of my best friends are are they're in gay relationships.
You know they're married, you know that they're like family
to me. I love them to death. But it's interesting
because Eric did this show playing a gay character and
(15:33):
he had a love interest a guy. And I've seen
him kissing other females actresses before because it's part of
our job, but this specific job the first time that
I saw him, and I'll never forget this scene that
he's like making like like he charges and then he
grabs this guy and he's making out with this guy.
I remember that. I was like, I don't want to
watch this thing. I couldn't do it. I was like,
(15:53):
oh I can't, I can't. It was weird, and I'm going,
why am I like.
Speaker 3 (15:57):
What do.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
About two men kissing?
Speaker 1 (16:01):
It was just about no, never about two men kiss
and I have no problem, or two women kissing.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
I don't have a problem, no.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Zero problem. It was something about saying you and I
was like, that was so weird.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Because you knew I'm a straight male, so it took
you in a weird It was a weird thing ye
put in your you know, to see I think in
that regard.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Look now, I find it funny, but sure there are.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Plenty of times when people are acting with co stars
and they're like, oh, I'm attracted to that person. Happens,
I'm sure, constantly all the time. But in general, when
you're acting with somebody, it's you have to kiss somebody,
whether they set you up or not, whether it's your type,
whether or whatever. It's just if the person is respectful
and makes it comfortable, then you can play the character
and be comfortable in it. But if the person makes
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it uncomfortable for whatever reason, whether they are crossing the
line or they're you know, they're making more of the
situation because they actually want to make out with you,
then you cross the guy.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
I was in Toronto doing this TV show and the actor,
great actor, fantastic actor, very famous, and we have the
scene that he kisses me and I'll never forget. We
never rehears anything whatever. So actually we're doing the scene
and he's strong when all the way down to my throat,
I wanted to die. First of all, you don't do
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that when you're.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Kissing, and I mean people do it. We've seen it
in movies mallion times. Sometimes that's directed or sometimes they
say go at it, and people do it.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
To this day, I have an ingraandma and gramma's when
you like develop a phobia against something. I have an
ingramma about that moment every time. But I think it
was like a lizard. It was the longest, thinnest, most
prickly tongue I've ever from in my life. All the
way down. I was so pissed. I was so pissed.
You guys have no idea. Another instance is funny. It
(17:45):
was prickly, it was awful, and then it's funny. And
another this was funny. This this want I learned my lesson.
I tell the actor I'm gonna listen. I'm gonna ask
you for a favor. When we do the love scene.
Please don't use your tongue. Yeah, you know you know
the actor. I so please don't do that. No, I
(18:06):
mean you don't know him personally, but no, I think
you actually work with him. I don't know. I said, please,
I appreciate if you don't use a tongue. And he
looked at me. Oh my god, I die. I was embarrassed.
And he says, oh, what makes you think that I
want to do that?
Speaker 2 (18:17):
Oh? Before you did the scene before, but you never
he had never done it before. Never.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Oh, but I was so petriphant about my previous that
I was like, I don't want anybody putting it right.
And I said it very cool, but you know, I'm serious.
So it wasn't like, hey, listen, can I ask you
for a favor? Is it okay? You know what I mean?
I was. I was very matter of fact. I says,
I'm going to ask you for a favor. You know,
I'll be appreciated. Please don't use your tongue, you know,
And he looked at me so annoyed and like that
(18:43):
is that what makes you think that I want to
do that? And I was like, oh, yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
You're right, I'm sorry previous experience, you know.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
I was like, okay, I'm sorry, I do but thank you.
I appreciate it. And it made it very uncomfortable. And
we were love interest on the show, and I knew
for a fact that that costs a bit of a
He was very pleasant, he's a very nice guy, but
I know that comment robbed him the wrong way because
maybe it's true, maybe he was not going to do that,
and the fact that I came in so strong. I
(19:09):
was like, oh, I don't think I should do that again.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Let's not. I got a couple more questions before we
have to read it. But did either of you ever
from Dylan fan x X do you either of you
ever have have it? I made it moment I made it? Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
That's funny thing is I've had many I made it moments,
and I stopped listening to them because every time I've
made it, I just come crashing back down. And then
I make it again and I come crashing back down,
and that is our business. I remember the very first
pilot I ever booked, and Hugh Jackman was in the
testing room with me, and he's the one that told
me he couldn't have done it better than that I did.
He gave me a giant hug, and I was like,
(19:43):
oh my god, I booked my first pilot. Hugh Jackman
gave me the best compliment ever, ran downstairs, gave me
a hug, nicest guy ever, and I was on cloud
and I was like, I I just accomplished my dream. Yeah,
And then within about three mon that dream was canceled
and I was unemployed again for months. So it's like,
(20:03):
you know, I made it moments in entertainment or like this.
I think even from movie stars, because we've heard so
many stories about movie stars winning an oscar and then
the career goes down and their career goes down, they
still haven't made it.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Yeah, it's very difficult. I've had it. I don't call
it made it. I call I call it X factor
experiences in your life. I had it.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
Too.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
I game plan, you know, I've had it with devious mates.
I thought, you know what I was, I'm so good
at comedy. This is going to be life changing for me.
And still is that because you do comedy.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
It's just that's the way the business is.
Speaker 1 (20:40):
Yeah, you never know, you know, like I dance the
halftime of the Orange Bowl, seventy five thousand people me
and I was like, I look amazing, this was unbelievable,
and then nothing happens.
Speaker 3 (20:51):
You know.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
It's the nature of the beast. Yeah, Sarosi dot o B.
What motivates you to be your authentic self? That's just
I think my bringing in morals and backgrounds and I
just I don't buy into much of what we do.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
You just have to like yourself and love yourself, you know. Yeah,
when you really love yourself and you feel like you
have something, that you bring something to the table and
you're a good person. I feel like that does the job.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
And I think entertainers that buy into what they're doing
as that's who they are are no longer their authentic self.
What do you mean if you're an entertainment you were
once this little kid that had dreams. You went to school,
maybe you wanted to be a star, whatever it was
that was you, right, you had a very grounded sense
of self your dreams. But you're grounded. Some that become
(21:42):
megastars and have fully consumed that persona of who they
are now. I guess you could say they've transformed into
their new authentic self. Maybe a butterfly like from a
cocoon turned into a butterfly, right, Like that's their new
version of them. But I don't know if that's who
they ever were at their core. When you buy into
what you do for a living so much instead of
(22:02):
just being you, like I always look at it like
I'm me. I happen to be an actor.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
I think sometimes when you have accomplished amazing things and
you work really hard, it's okay to buy into what
you have accomplished, Get that and get that, But I
don't think they're changed change. I do a lot, but
I think a lot of them there's still amazing people.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
Yeah, no, they can be, but they can also be
different than maybe who they were. They've changed, its normal change.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
If the change is for good, Okay.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Then it's fine. Okay. Connie Asberger are Oursburger? What kind
of parents are you at your kids' sports competition? Screaming
and cheering or quiet spectators? Have either of you ever
coached their teams? Neither of us have coached, but we
both think we're coaches all the time. We've been through everything,
and we've talked about this many times. We are all
(22:54):
over the.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
Map, police called almost face fights, a lot of screaming
of a tennis Yeah, maybe we're shocked that we haven't
been banned out of the tournaments. Yeah, we were terrible.
We were terrible, but now we're much better. It's interesting.
Yesterday Isabella was we have a neighbor to have a
tennis court, and she's so kind to let us use
(23:17):
her court now. And her daughter was a big one
to college, played tennis for college and now she's a teacher.
So Sabella went to hit with the daughter, and the lady,
the mom who owns the house, is there. She's probably
in her seventies eighties, very very lovely, and it was
so validating to understand I'm not the only one because
(23:37):
she was saying she actually got banned, she actually got
because of a daughter because she was so loud. And
so you know, when you have a kid that has
a lot of potential and you take her and she's
competing against all the kids, you know, the animosity and
the energies are all all over the place. And we
have said this many many times before every tournament, every
tennis tournament, the tennis community sucks. And then what happens
(24:00):
is everybody thinks that they have the nixt Serna Williams
and the nixt Sharapova. Everybody walks around so entitled, not
realizing ninety nine point nine of these girls by the
time they're fifteen, they're gonna stop playing tennis. But you
have this desire and this hope that they're going to
be the next big thing, and you live your life
through them. So we all come in charged.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
I also truly think the tennis community sucks because of
the way the tennis world is managed with no real judging.
There are This is the issue with tennis is very quickly.
We've said it many times. There are no dedicated designated
lines callers, there's no dedicated umpires, so you have people
rotating around. You're leaving up the kids to make their
own calls. And I think if you actually just remove
(24:42):
that one factor from things will be resolved. This sport
would be so much more enjoyable because parents couldn't say a.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
Word because we feel like we're they're re frees.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
Every every parent thinks their kid is the best and
never cheats, and every parent thinks that every other kid
sucks and that their kid cheats. It would be it
would eliminate so much headache. If you just could find
a way to fund that part of the of the sport,
make it cleaner, make it more.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
Dedicated to And we have never coached any teams. I
feel like said but every doesn't have time. But it
would be amazing for Eric to coach the volleyball team
and at school because there's a lot of stuff, a
lot of sports. They played football, he played volleyball, and
if you see these kids competing and it's all fun
and games and it's team sports and listen, it's a elementary.
It's not that big of a deal. But there's a
lot of times that you see them playing and.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
You're like, it's gonna change it.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
It could be so much better if they have better coaching.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
That's all all right? Germany. So many fans in Germany,
Jenny or I hello from Germany. So many fans in
Germany here. Is there anything that has happened while raising
your kids? You wish you to handle differently all the time,
all the time. I wish I wouldn't have lost my
cool so many times. I wish I wouldn't I wish
I'd be just more patient. In general, I wish I
would so many things, so many mistakes.
Speaker 1 (25:54):
It was the thing. Parenting is so hard, guys. Parenting
is a trip. I think it's actually the hardest job
in the world. And nobody It's not like a math equation.
It's not undeniable. It's not like one plus one is two.
You know, when it comes to parenting. Your kids come
in and they have something in their DNA that is,
you know, their own their their own individuals, you know,
(26:15):
and they are born with all kinds of things that
you have absolutely no control of and they have a
mind of their own, so you can try. That's why
you can have a family of five, right, three siblings,
same parents, same parents, same social class, same exact upbringing,
and they're all very, very fundamentally different. Like you have
no control, people are who they are, so all you
(26:37):
can do is is is your best. And sometimes we
wish there was a manual for us to be like, Okay,
in a situation like this, this is how it's handled.
But the reality is my kid might not receive the
information the same way as your kid, you know, so
we it's not like a one size fits all. It
is the hardest freaking job in the world.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
Awake a bunch of mistakes, but we do.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
But I do, I do believe that we're actually really incredible,
incredible parents.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
I think we do a great job. Last question at
Fearless Girl, what is your go to thing that you
do to calm down your busy life and just shut
off the world. Roseland goes on social media and reads
the book?
Speaker 1 (27:19):
Maybe I read a book, yeah, or watch a TV
show that I like.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
I would say probably we watch something on TV. And
I think I'm the most calm when I'm just being
loved and hugged by my wife. Okay, yeah, that that
that's happening. She loves I'm a hugger on the airplane.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
Next time you ever hugged me on the airplane. What
are you talking about?
Speaker 2 (27:43):
No, I think it's what you make me sound. No,
we do that. I don't make you say anything.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
You make me sound like I'm just awful. It made
me sound like you. You you sound like you received
no love inside your household.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
Said on the last podcast that you could not stand
someone hugging you on an airplane. It would You just
want space. And I'm saying jokingly making hold hands. I know.
I'm saying, I'm calm when you're when you're hugging on me.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
So what you're being loved on your calm?
Speaker 2 (28:11):
Yeah, okay, you too.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
I just want to be treated well.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
You see, we all it's good. And then reading books
and read books. Yeah, good, good questions guys, this is great.
Thank you again. We'll be doing this obviously more often,
so please continue to send in your questions. Uh d
m us at he said a a d or email
us at Eric and Roz at iHeartRadio dot com and
we will continue to answer listener questions till next time you.
(28:40):
Thanks for listening. Don't forget to write us a review
and tell us what you think.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
If you want to follow us on Instagram, check us
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Speaker 2 (28:56):
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