October 16, 2024 • 10 mins
New beginnings, co-parenting issues, Mr. Lonely Heart... Am I on track with my advice? ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hey it's Delilah.
Come on in and make yourself at home as we
(00:22):
share some of the most interesting dilemmas. Delilah's dilemmas when
people get themselves into a bind, into a mess, and
need a little wisdom to find their way out. Stay
tuned for that Coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemmas from
(00:43):
a listener who says school just started. I'm in high
school in a new district because my family moved over
the summer. I really struggle in social situations and I
don't know anybody. I'm terrified. I only had a couple
of friends at my old school, and now I'm going
to be all alone. I've asked my parents if I
(01:05):
can go to counseling because I'm really really scared, but
they just say everything's going to be fine. It's not fine.
What am I going to do? I will have my
words for you, Darlin. Coming up next, Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma
(01:27):
is from a teenager who moved to a new school
and is very nervous in social situations. It sounds like
you have social anxiety, and there is help you can
get for that at your school. Go talk to your
school counselor. That's why every high school has a school
(01:48):
counselor to help with grades, to help with classes, to
help with social anxiety, to help with these things. So
go talk to your high school counselor and say, I'm
really struggling. I'm new here, I don't know anyone. That's
number one. Number two, you live in a different world
girlfriend than I lived in growing up. You've got social media,
(02:10):
you've got cell phones, You've got a thousand and one
ways to stay in touch with your old friends. You've
got friends. You just don't get to see them every
day because you're at a different school, but you can
still stay in touch with them. You can still stay
connected to them. So do that. Let your friends be
(02:31):
your friends, stay in touch with them, and spend your
social time talking to them when you can, and focus
on your class work when you're in class, and finally
figure out what it is that you are interested in
and get involved in that in your new school. Most
(02:53):
schools have after school activities, they have clubs, they have organizations,
They have math programs, they have rocket clubs, they have rally,
they have basketball. What are your interests? Find a group
where you can pursue your interest and make new friends.
(03:16):
You're going to have to let the walls down just
a little bit to let somebody in. But I promise
you there are far more students struggling with social anxiety
than you could even imagine, and they would love a
friend who is as tenderhearted as you are. Tonight's Delilah's
(03:43):
dilemmas is hide Delilah. My name is Maria, and I
can't wait for your show every night. Listening to other
people's stories seems to give me better understanding of my
own life, about what is good and what is wrong
and what is bad. I was married for thirteen year.
We have two amazing kids, a twelve year old boy
(04:03):
and a five year old girl. Our relationship was always rough,
and I believe he might be a narcissist. I finally
was able to divorce him a year ago. He lives
three miles from us and sees our kids once a
week for a couple of hours. Our daughter is a
daddy's girl and loves her time with him. But our
(04:25):
son is very sensitive and doesn't like to be around dad.
My dilemma is should I push my son to spend
time with his father or honor his wishes and let
him skip these weekly visits. I appreciate your answer with
lots of affection from Maria. Maria, I will have my
(04:46):
mother Delilah words for you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's
dilemma is from Maria, whose two kids with her ex
husband are very different. The thirteen year old does not
(05:08):
want to spend time with dad. The little one, the
five year old, loves spending time with dad. You probably
don't have a say in whether they do or don't
go to their visits, Maria, In my state court ordered visits.
If one X has weekend visits, those are court ordered.
You don't have a voice in it or a vote
(05:30):
in it. Talk to your son why does he not
want to go? Why does your twelve year old not
want to go spend time with dad? Does he feel threatened? Hurt?
Is Dad unsafe? Is there something going on that you're
not aware of? Or is there another reason that he
doesn't want to go visit? You need to find out
(05:54):
the why before I can answer the question if there
is a reason, if he is being abused or it
is not safe at his father's house and he shares that,
then you need to get legal advice on whether or
not he has to go to the court ordered visit.
If it's just because he's sensitive and doesn't want to go,
(06:17):
guess what the courts have decided that Dad gets time too,
and interfering with that is called parental alienation. If you
support your son and help to establish a wedge between
him and dad, that's not okay. So you need to
(06:38):
find out and get to the bottom of why he
doesn't feel like he wants to go visit. Dad still
has rights, it's his son. Maybe talk to your ex
and say, hey, can we work together and make this smoother,
make this easier. I don't know why he's uncomfortable. Is
the key question that you need answer. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma
(07:07):
is from a gentleman who is looking for love. He says,
Hi to Delilah. I'm fifty one years old. I'm single.
I've never been married, and i haven't been in a
real relationship since college. I've tried dating organically as well
as online. No luck, I can't seem to meet anyone
(07:27):
that I click with. At my age, the dating pool
is pretty small. Marriage and fatherhood have probably passed me by,
but I still long for a companion to do this
life with. I'm looking for some guidance, some words of wisdom.
Can you help me? Thanks so much from Rich, Rich,
(07:48):
I can't help you, and I will share my words
for you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Rich,
who is fifty one, single, wants a family, wants to
be married, but he says, at my age, the dating
pool is pretty small. He also said I can't seem
(08:12):
to meet anyone that I click with. That sentence right there,
Rich tells me that a little counseling might do a
lot of good. You need to find out why your
heart is not clicking with anyone, Why you are not
making an emotional connection with anyone. Why do you have
(08:36):
or do you have walls around your heart that are
preventing you from making emotional connections. I would strongly urge
you to talk to a counselor who can help you
sort through this missing piece of clicking an emotional connection
with somebody. Because there are so many women between forty
(09:01):
and sixty who call me every night. There aren't thousands
of women who write to me online. I promise you,
as soon as I share this Delilah dilemma, my phones
are going to ring NonStop for days from women who
will say, give me his phone number, please give me
his contact information. And I can't. By law, I can't
do that. I can't play matchmaker. But there is no
(09:24):
shortage of women out there who very much want a partner,
who very much want children, who would love to have
you step parent their children or adopt children with you.
Trust me, Rich when I tell you, I know they're
all my listeners. There are some that have gone on
to be crazy cat ladies that have given up on
finding a guy like you and are happy with their
(09:45):
two or three or four seven cats, And that's okay,
But there are a lot of them that have said no,
no to the cat lady. Yet I still think there's
a guy out there who's single who wants to be
in a relationship. You are him, rich, but you're not
clicking with them for a reason. So figure that out.
Figure out why you have walls around your heart or
(10:09):
what is making you emotionally disconnected and then go and
be blessed. Okay, good luck, God bless you. I so
hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as
I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with
you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hey it's Delilah.
Come on in and make yourself at home as we
(00:22):
share some of the most interesting dilemmas. Delilah's dilemmas when
people get themselves into a bind, into a mess, and
need a little wisdom to find their way out. Stay
tuned for that Coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemmas from
(00:43):
a listener who says school just started. I'm in high
school in a new district because my family moved over
the summer. I really struggle in social situations and I
don't know anybody. I'm terrified. I only had a couple
of friends at my old school, and now I'm going
to be all alone. I've asked my parents if I
(01:05):
can go to counseling because I'm really really scared, but
they just say everything's going to be fine. It's not fine.
What am I going to do? I will have my
words for you, Darlin. Coming up next, Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma
(01:27):
is from a teenager who moved to a new school
and is very nervous in social situations. It sounds like
you have social anxiety, and there is help you can
get for that at your school. Go talk to your
school counselor. That's why every high school has a school
(01:48):
counselor to help with grades, to help with classes, to
help with social anxiety, to help with these things. So
go talk to your high school counselor and say, I'm
really struggling. I'm new here, I don't know anyone. That's
number one. Number two, you live in a different world
girlfriend than I lived in growing up. You've got social media,
(02:10):
you've got cell phones, You've got a thousand and one
ways to stay in touch with your old friends. You've
got friends. You just don't get to see them every
day because you're at a different school, but you can
still stay in touch with them. You can still stay
connected to them. So do that. Let your friends be
(02:31):
your friends, stay in touch with them, and spend your
social time talking to them when you can, and focus
on your class work when you're in class, and finally
figure out what it is that you are interested in
and get involved in that in your new school. Most
(02:53):
schools have after school activities, they have clubs, they have organizations,
They have math programs, they have rocket clubs, they have rally,
they have basketball. What are your interests? Find a group
where you can pursue your interest and make new friends.
(03:16):
You're going to have to let the walls down just
a little bit to let somebody in. But I promise
you there are far more students struggling with social anxiety
than you could even imagine, and they would love a
friend who is as tenderhearted as you are. Tonight's Delilah's
(03:43):
dilemmas is hide Delilah. My name is Maria, and I
can't wait for your show every night. Listening to other
people's stories seems to give me better understanding of my
own life, about what is good and what is wrong
and what is bad. I was married for thirteen year.
We have two amazing kids, a twelve year old boy
(04:03):
and a five year old girl. Our relationship was always rough,
and I believe he might be a narcissist. I finally
was able to divorce him a year ago. He lives
three miles from us and sees our kids once a
week for a couple of hours. Our daughter is a
daddy's girl and loves her time with him. But our
(04:25):
son is very sensitive and doesn't like to be around dad.
My dilemma is should I push my son to spend
time with his father or honor his wishes and let
him skip these weekly visits. I appreciate your answer with
lots of affection from Maria. Maria, I will have my
(04:46):
mother Delilah words for you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's
dilemma is from Maria, whose two kids with her ex
husband are very different. The thirteen year old does not
(05:08):
want to spend time with dad. The little one, the
five year old, loves spending time with dad. You probably
don't have a say in whether they do or don't
go to their visits, Maria, In my state court ordered visits.
If one X has weekend visits, those are court ordered.
You don't have a voice in it or a vote
(05:30):
in it. Talk to your son why does he not
want to go? Why does your twelve year old not
want to go spend time with dad? Does he feel threatened? Hurt?
Is Dad unsafe? Is there something going on that you're
not aware of? Or is there another reason that he
doesn't want to go visit? You need to find out
(05:54):
the why before I can answer the question if there
is a reason, if he is being abused or it
is not safe at his father's house and he shares that,
then you need to get legal advice on whether or
not he has to go to the court ordered visit.
If it's just because he's sensitive and doesn't want to go,
(06:17):
guess what the courts have decided that Dad gets time too,
and interfering with that is called parental alienation. If you
support your son and help to establish a wedge between
him and dad, that's not okay. So you need to
(06:38):
find out and get to the bottom of why he
doesn't feel like he wants to go visit. Dad still
has rights, it's his son. Maybe talk to your ex
and say, hey, can we work together and make this smoother,
make this easier. I don't know why he's uncomfortable. Is
the key question that you need answer. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma
(07:07):
is from a gentleman who is looking for love. He says,
Hi to Delilah. I'm fifty one years old. I'm single.
I've never been married, and i haven't been in a
real relationship since college. I've tried dating organically as well
as online. No luck, I can't seem to meet anyone
(07:27):
that I click with. At my age, the dating pool
is pretty small. Marriage and fatherhood have probably passed me by,
but I still long for a companion to do this
life with. I'm looking for some guidance, some words of wisdom.
Can you help me? Thanks so much from Rich, Rich,
(07:48):
I can't help you, and I will share my words
for you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Rich,
who is fifty one, single, wants a family, wants to
be married, but he says, at my age, the dating
pool is pretty small. He also said I can't seem
(08:12):
to meet anyone that I click with. That sentence right there,
Rich tells me that a little counseling might do a
lot of good. You need to find out why your
heart is not clicking with anyone, Why you are not
making an emotional connection with anyone. Why do you have
(08:36):
or do you have walls around your heart that are
preventing you from making emotional connections. I would strongly urge
you to talk to a counselor who can help you
sort through this missing piece of clicking an emotional connection
with somebody. Because there are so many women between forty
(09:01):
and sixty who call me every night. There aren't thousands
of women who write to me online. I promise you,
as soon as I share this Delilah dilemma, my phones
are going to ring NonStop for days from women who
will say, give me his phone number, please give me
his contact information. And I can't. By law, I can't
do that. I can't play matchmaker. But there is no
(09:24):
shortage of women out there who very much want a partner,
who very much want children, who would love to have
you step parent their children or adopt children with you.
Trust me, Rich when I tell you, I know they're
all my listeners. There are some that have gone on
to be crazy cat ladies that have given up on
finding a guy like you and are happy with their
(09:45):
two or three or four seven cats, And that's okay,
But there are a lot of them that have said no,
no to the cat lady. Yet I still think there's
a guy out there who's single who wants to be
in a relationship. You are him, rich, but you're not
clicking with them for a reason. So figure that out.
Figure out why you have walls around your heart or
(10:09):
what is making you emotionally disconnected and then go and
be blessed. Okay, good luck, God bless you. I so
hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as
I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with
you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah
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