April 3, 2024 • 10 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey It's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast, Hey It's Delilah.
Every night on my radio show, I have a feature
called Delilah's Dilemmas. Or Folks call me or write me
(00:26):
and share a sticky situation they're in and I try
to help them figure out the best course of action. Today,
We're going to listen to some of those unique situations
right here on Hey It's Delilah. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
from a young man named Drew, who says, I'm thirty
(00:46):
years old living in the fine city of Pittsburgh. I
have searched Hi and I have searched low for years
for the love of my life. I recently had the
opportunity to meet a girl, Sarah, that my roommate introduced
me to hit it off. We have been on a
couple of dates and had a very special and wonderful time.
(01:07):
My dilemma occurred last evening when a girl from my
past suddenly and without provocation, grabbed me at a party
and kissed me. It was one of the most passionate
moments of my life, and she may have well kissed
my heart. She is fresh out of a relationship, and
I do not know if this kiss will develop into
(01:27):
a relationship, but I think it's too soon to tell.
I don't want to break Sarah's heart. She's such a
sweet girl. I don't want to play games with this,
but I don't want to miss out on a true
opportunity for love. Any help would be greatly appreciated. With
love from Drew. Whoo oh, Drew, I will give my
(01:47):
best mama, Delilah advice to you, coming next time. Tonight's
Delilah's Dilemma is from a thirty year old man who
recently started dating a sweet girl named Sarah that he enjoys,
enjoys spending time with. Then, out of the blue, he
was at a party and an ex who is just
(02:10):
out of a relationship, grabbed him and kissed him, and
now he doesn't know what to do. Here's the thing, Drew,
there's a reason she's your ex. Yes, And if she
is fresh out of a relationship, what she's doing is rebounding.
She's hurting. She's feeling like she was spurned or shunned
(02:32):
or not good enough. Probably, and so what is she
going to do to make her heart feel better? She's
going to get validation from you. So she kissed you,
and it made your spine tangle and then your head
stopped thinking. Sometimes, Drew, people do crazy things for a
(02:58):
number of reasons. If she had started talking to you,
developed a friendship with you again, made amends for the past,
talk things through, you went for a walk, and on
that walk you tenderly kissed and you felt feelings. That
would be one thing. But seeing you at a party
(03:20):
and grabbing you and putting you on atle liplock, that
doesn't sound very meaningful to me. So put that in perspective.
Now back to Sarah, the girl you met. Do you
like her? Is she sweet? Is she tender? Is she kind?
Is she funny? Is she smart? Does she make you
feel comfortable in your skin? If the answer is yes,
(03:41):
why would you blow that up over somebody that you
already found out in the past wasn't going to work.
These are my thoughts because I was an idiot like you,
and I thought one kiss meant something that it truly didn't. Okay,
don't make the same mistake on it. He drew and
blow up your life. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemmas from Somebody says,
(04:10):
I'd like to dedicate a song to a friend who
seems to be going through a midlife crisis. He's entertaining
another woman while he's married and has two children. He's
been a longtime friend, and I'm concerned as he is
selfishly cheating on his wife. I know it for a fact. However,
I'm caught in the middle, as our kids are very
(04:32):
close and our families are close in general. My question
is should I confront him directly or should I tell
his wife about my concerns. Problem is that the woman
in question is someone he works with, and it gets
very complicated. I'm quite sure the wife knows, but is
in denial. Do I stick my nose in his affair
(04:53):
or do I turn a blind eye? Not sure why
I even bother to care, but there's so much his
story in our families. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks from Meddling Mary, not her real name, Meddling Mary.
I will have my words for you coming up next.
(05:21):
Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from somebody I have named Meddling Mary,
who is close friends with a family and has discovered
that the husband in this family is having an affair.
She says, I know it for a fact. He's selfishly
cheating on his wife. Meddling Mary, You have no clue
why he's cheating. If he's cheating, unless you're in the
(05:43):
bedroom there with them, you don't know what's going on,
and it's not for you to judge his motives or
his behavior. If you are truly a friend and you
are concerned, you don't confront him and stick your nose
in his affair. You say to him, friend, I care
about you. I love you, I love your family. I
(06:05):
love your wife and your children, and I think that
you're making choices that could hurt you and hurt them.
And I know it's none of my business, but if
you ever need to talk about it or get honest
with somebody, I'm here for you. If you feel that
you have this information and then it could help to
(06:26):
save his family, then you talk to him in love,
not in holier than thou shove, and you do not,
under any circumstances do anything that would hurt his precious wife.
She's already hurt enough. If you truly care, then you
talk to him in love. Otherwise, you keep your mouth
(06:49):
shut and let God deal with it. Tonight's Ellilah. This
dilemma is from deb who said, I heard you talking
recently about losing your son Sammy a couple of years ago.
I was so sorry to hear this. Three years ago,
(07:11):
we lost a grandson, Ryan to leukemia. He passed away
just a few days before his sixth birthday. I was
blessed to be able to take time off and spend
the last months of his life supporting my son and
my daughter in law and their family. Ryan's death has
(07:32):
now torn my family apart, and I don't know how
or if it can be fixed. A year after Ryan's death,
my daughter gave birth to a little girl. She was
actually born on her cousin Ryan's birthday. This was totally unplanned.
My daughter went into labor and twenty four hours later
(07:54):
she delivered. She named her daughter Bristol Ryan. This is
what has caused the rift in my family. My son
and his wife felt that my daughter should have asked
permission before she used Ryan's name. I have been blamed
because I knew ahead of time. No amount of talking
has been able to fix this at this time. My
(08:17):
son is not talking to me, my daughter, or my
other son. I've reached out, but to no avail. What
can I do? Please help me? From a grandma whose
heart is broken, Well, deb, I will have my words
of advice for you, although they're not really for you,
they're for your son and his wife. Coming up next,
(08:42):
Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is from a grandmother who lost her grandson,
and after she lost her grandson, her daughter delivered a
baby girl on her nephew's birthday, and she named her
daughter after her nephew who passed away Bristol. Ryan and
(09:03):
the boy's parents have gotten upset about this. I hate
to say this, but in his grief and his wife's grief,
instead of being honored and blessed that his sister would
name her daughter after his son, he's somehow taking ownership
and deciding who can use his son's name. That's insane,
(09:28):
But you know what, when you lose a child, you
go insane. When my brother passed away, my mother went
crazy and she never really came back to us fully.
She was so broken hearted she was not able to
fully function after my brother passed away. So I get that,
(09:49):
and I understand that your son and his wife are
crazy in pain with grief, but your daughter should not
be punished for wanting to do something to honor her nephew.
And I am so sorry that instead of it being
seen as a blessing, it's being seen as somehow a
(10:12):
transgression or a travesty. And here's the sad thing. Dev
There's nothing you can say to fix it, so I
will say a prayer for your family. I hope that
your son and his wife stop in the midst of
their grief. They are being hurtful and that's very sad.
(10:35):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday. On Ay, It's Delilah Do
Hey It's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast, Hey It's Delilah.
Every night on my radio show, I have a feature
called Delilah's Dilemmas. Or Folks call me or write me
(00:26):
and share a sticky situation they're in and I try
to help them figure out the best course of action. Today,
We're going to listen to some of those unique situations
right here on Hey It's Delilah. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
from a young man named Drew, who says, I'm thirty
(00:46):
years old living in the fine city of Pittsburgh. I
have searched Hi and I have searched low for years
for the love of my life. I recently had the
opportunity to meet a girl, Sarah, that my roommate introduced
me to hit it off. We have been on a
couple of dates and had a very special and wonderful time.
(01:07):
My dilemma occurred last evening when a girl from my
past suddenly and without provocation, grabbed me at a party
and kissed me. It was one of the most passionate
moments of my life, and she may have well kissed
my heart. She is fresh out of a relationship, and
I do not know if this kiss will develop into
(01:27):
a relationship, but I think it's too soon to tell.
I don't want to break Sarah's heart. She's such a
sweet girl. I don't want to play games with this,
but I don't want to miss out on a true
opportunity for love. Any help would be greatly appreciated. With
love from Drew. Whoo oh, Drew, I will give my
(01:47):
best mama, Delilah advice to you, coming next time. Tonight's
Delilah's Dilemma is from a thirty year old man who
recently started dating a sweet girl named Sarah that he enjoys,
enjoys spending time with. Then, out of the blue, he
was at a party and an ex who is just
(02:10):
out of a relationship, grabbed him and kissed him, and
now he doesn't know what to do. Here's the thing, Drew,
there's a reason she's your ex. Yes, And if she
is fresh out of a relationship, what she's doing is rebounding.
She's hurting. She's feeling like she was spurned or shunned
(02:32):
or not good enough. Probably, and so what is she
going to do to make her heart feel better? She's
going to get validation from you. So she kissed you,
and it made your spine tangle and then your head
stopped thinking. Sometimes, Drew, people do crazy things for a
(02:58):
number of reasons. If she had started talking to you,
developed a friendship with you again, made amends for the past,
talk things through, you went for a walk, and on
that walk you tenderly kissed and you felt feelings. That
would be one thing. But seeing you at a party
(03:20):
and grabbing you and putting you on atle liplock, that
doesn't sound very meaningful to me. So put that in perspective.
Now back to Sarah, the girl you met. Do you
like her? Is she sweet? Is she tender? Is she kind?
Is she funny? Is she smart? Does she make you
feel comfortable in your skin? If the answer is yes,
(03:41):
why would you blow that up over somebody that you
already found out in the past wasn't going to work.
These are my thoughts because I was an idiot like you,
and I thought one kiss meant something that it truly didn't. Okay,
don't make the same mistake on it. He drew and
blow up your life. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemmas from Somebody says,
(04:10):
I'd like to dedicate a song to a friend who
seems to be going through a midlife crisis. He's entertaining
another woman while he's married and has two children. He's
been a longtime friend, and I'm concerned as he is
selfishly cheating on his wife. I know it for a fact. However,
I'm caught in the middle, as our kids are very
(04:32):
close and our families are close in general. My question
is should I confront him directly or should I tell
his wife about my concerns. Problem is that the woman
in question is someone he works with, and it gets
very complicated. I'm quite sure the wife knows, but is
in denial. Do I stick my nose in his affair
(04:53):
or do I turn a blind eye? Not sure why
I even bother to care, but there's so much his
story in our families. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks from Meddling Mary, not her real name, Meddling Mary.
I will have my words for you coming up next.
(05:21):
Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from somebody I have named Meddling Mary,
who is close friends with a family and has discovered
that the husband in this family is having an affair.
She says, I know it for a fact. He's selfishly
cheating on his wife. Meddling Mary, You have no clue
why he's cheating. If he's cheating, unless you're in the
(05:43):
bedroom there with them, you don't know what's going on,
and it's not for you to judge his motives or
his behavior. If you are truly a friend and you
are concerned, you don't confront him and stick your nose
in his affair. You say to him, friend, I care
about you. I love you, I love your family. I
(06:05):
love your wife and your children, and I think that
you're making choices that could hurt you and hurt them.
And I know it's none of my business, but if
you ever need to talk about it or get honest
with somebody, I'm here for you. If you feel that
you have this information and then it could help to
(06:26):
save his family, then you talk to him in love,
not in holier than thou shove, and you do not,
under any circumstances do anything that would hurt his precious wife.
She's already hurt enough. If you truly care, then you
talk to him in love. Otherwise, you keep your mouth
(06:49):
shut and let God deal with it. Tonight's Ellilah. This
dilemma is from deb who said, I heard you talking
recently about losing your son Sammy a couple of years ago.
I was so sorry to hear this. Three years ago,
(07:11):
we lost a grandson, Ryan to leukemia. He passed away
just a few days before his sixth birthday. I was
blessed to be able to take time off and spend
the last months of his life supporting my son and
my daughter in law and their family. Ryan's death has
(07:32):
now torn my family apart, and I don't know how
or if it can be fixed. A year after Ryan's death,
my daughter gave birth to a little girl. She was
actually born on her cousin Ryan's birthday. This was totally unplanned.
My daughter went into labor and twenty four hours later
(07:54):
she delivered. She named her daughter Bristol Ryan. This is
what has caused the rift in my family. My son
and his wife felt that my daughter should have asked
permission before she used Ryan's name. I have been blamed
because I knew ahead of time. No amount of talking
has been able to fix this at this time. My
(08:17):
son is not talking to me, my daughter, or my
other son. I've reached out, but to no avail. What
can I do? Please help me? From a grandma whose
heart is broken, Well, deb, I will have my words
of advice for you, although they're not really for you,
they're for your son and his wife. Coming up next,
(08:42):
Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is from a grandmother who lost her grandson,
and after she lost her grandson, her daughter delivered a
baby girl on her nephew's birthday, and she named her
daughter after her nephew who passed away Bristol. Ryan and
(09:03):
the boy's parents have gotten upset about this. I hate
to say this, but in his grief and his wife's grief,
instead of being honored and blessed that his sister would
name her daughter after his son, he's somehow taking ownership
and deciding who can use his son's name. That's insane,
(09:28):
But you know what, when you lose a child, you
go insane. When my brother passed away, my mother went
crazy and she never really came back to us fully.
She was so broken hearted she was not able to
fully function after my brother passed away. So I get that,
(09:49):
and I understand that your son and his wife are
crazy in pain with grief, but your daughter should not
be punished for wanting to do something to honor her nephew.
And I am so sorry that instead of it being
seen as a blessing, it's being seen as somehow a
(10:12):
transgression or a travesty. And here's the sad thing. Dev
There's nothing you can say to fix it, so I
will say a prayer for your family. I hope that
your son and his wife stop in the midst of
their grief. They are being hurtful and that's very sad.
(10:35):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday. On Ay, It's Delilah Do
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