July 24, 2024 • 11 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hey it's Delilah.
Every night on my radio show, we share something called
(00:24):
a Delilah dilemma, where you write to me or you
call me with yours situation and I try to help
you come up with the right solution. Today, we're going
to listen to some of those on this podcast. Tonight's
Delilah's Dilemma, says Hi, Delilah. I have a dilemma. I
have Usher syndrome type two, a genetic condition that causes
(00:48):
deafness and now blindness. Since birth, I've lost seventy percent
of my hearing. I've been wearing hearing aids since the
age of six. At eighteen, I was diagnosed with a
deterioration of vision called retinitis pigmentosa. At the age of
thirty three, I've never been more scared of the future
(01:09):
than I am right now, with my vision deteriorating even further.
I try to keep my faith, but I don't know
that I will have my vision much longer, and that
is scary, and I am experiencing depression. I worry I'm
going to be forgotten and excluded by friends and family.
(01:30):
I find it so much harder to put myself out
there to find mister Wright. I have always been an
independent woman, but lately I have been feeling so very vulnerable,
so lonely and hopeless. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you so much, From an anonymous long time listener.
(01:52):
All right, miss anonymous, that I don't think I have
any advice, but I do have love, and I will
share that now. Next tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from a
listener who has a genetic condition that is causing her
to lose both her hearing and now her vision. She
(02:16):
says that she is going through depression and does not
have an inner to put herself out there to find
mister Wright. I don't have any words of advice because
I can't imagine facing what you're facing. That said, I
do know this, your value, your worth as a human
(02:37):
as a person, has absolutely nothing to do with whether
or not you are cited or can hear. Your value
as a human being has everything to do with your
good heart. And from the sounds of your letter, you
have an incredibly tender heart, a tender and sensitive and
(03:00):
kind heart filled with compassion. And that is why you're
feeling scared, because you are very sensitive and very tender hearted,
and the thought of facing the future without your five
senses is daunting. Your five senses or your two senses,
(03:21):
that you are losing of your five don't determine your worth.
They don't. Your worth has to do with your spirit
and your soul and your heart. So instead of focusing
on your senses that are diminished or diminishing, focus on
(03:43):
your heart, on your goodness. Get involved, Find programs, find
support groups for people that suffer with your disability, that
are hearing impaired or vision impaired. Get involved with those
programs other people who are facing similar struggles, and figure
(04:04):
out how you can be a blessing to them. Everybody
I know that has face challenges, myself included great loss
or great challenges. When I turn my attitude around and
choose joy, choose gratitude, and choose to figure out how
I can be a blessing to others, that depression lifts
(04:26):
at least for me. So good luck and God bless you, Antoinette,
writes Hie to Lilah, I have the sweetest, most amazing fiancee.
We have been engaged for four years now, but I
(04:47):
have to leave him. My daughter and grandchildren have relocated
to Vermont and I belong there with them. My significant
other does not want to leave New Jersey, so though
I love him, I have made up my mind to
go with my daughter. We intend to have a long
distance relationship, with each of us visiting the other for
(05:10):
a few months at a time. Neither one of us
wants to date other people. Delilah, do you think a
long distance relationship can actually work? Thank you for any
advice from Antoinette. Antoinette, I don't think, at least to
my knowledge, there is not another radio personality that you
could have written to to answer this question that would
(05:33):
have had the same experience that I have. So I'm
glad you wrote to me, and I'll share that experience
and my words of advice. Coming up next, Tonight's Delilah's
(05:53):
dilemma is from Antoinette, whose family, daughter and grandchildren are
moving out of state and she is going with them.
I'm assuming because you probably watch your grandchildren for your
daughter or help out assist, and you want to continue
in that role, but her fiance doesn't want to leave
the state they're in. Now, the good news is, Antoinette,
(06:17):
you wrote to a woman who has spent the last
sixteen years of my life being involved with a man
married to a man that lives in another state. With
the exception of a year during COVID, we have never
lived in the same state. We have had a long
distance relationship since two thousand and nine, and we have
(06:43):
not only maintained a long distance relationship but married and
have a family. How do we do it? Because modern
technology is a beautiful thing. FaceTime is a beautiful thing.
We have date nights where we watch the same movie
together over devices, and then we see each other at
least once a month, and it works very well because
(07:08):
we're committed to each other. We're not out looking for
love and all the wrong places. We're not out seeing
other people or cheating on each other. And it's worked
out very, very very well for us. For other people
maybe not, but because we were older when we met,
we had already raised families, and we just make it
(07:31):
work by staying connected. So if you love him and
he loves you, and you want to stay connected, you'll
make it work. You will, and you'll have a wonderful relationship,
and you'll text each other one hundred times a day,
and you'll call each other morning, noon, and night, and
you will keep that love alive until the day that
(07:53):
you can be back together. So it's up to you.
It's up to you and him. If you really want
to make it work, you can. You'll miss each other.
By thank God for technology, you'll still be able to
stay connected. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Andy. He says,
(08:18):
I've been following your show for a very long time.
I hear the advice you give your listeners, and I'm
hoping you might have some words for me. I'm having
a very hard time. Today would have been my twenty
fourth anniversary with my late wife, Kathy. I lost her
a year and a half ago at the young age
of forty six due to kidney failure and related issues.
(08:44):
I find myself lost and so lonely. I look for
her every day I come home. I miss her Shenanigans.
She was my first love, my best friend. When is
it time to look for a new best friend? Will
I ever find one? Could anyone ever be as wonderful
(09:05):
as she? Was. I don't know when or how to
even begin looking? Do you please help from Andy? Andy?
I will have my words of advice coming up next.
(09:27):
Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from a man who not only
lost his wife Kathy, he lost half of himself. They
were together twenty four years. You were together over half
your life, and she was, as you said, your best friend.
(09:48):
You miss her heart, and you miss her laugh, you
miss her shenanigans. So right now you are grieving the
loss of half of your life, your dreams, your future
that you would planned together. Could anyone ever be as
wonderful as she was? Yes? And no. Yes there are
(10:11):
lots of wonderful people out there, but no, there will
not be anyone like her. Does that mean you can't
love again? Of course not. But right now your heart
needs to heal, and the best way for that to
happen is for you to fully engage in your life.
(10:32):
Not to meet someone else, but to engage in your life.
What are the things you loved to do? What are
the things that you might have put on hold because
she was sick. Whatever your hobbies, your passions are, do
those things. Do them with passion, and in doing them.
Your heart will begin to heal, and you will be
(10:58):
much more likely to meet somebody who will contribute to
your life instead of somebody who's just needy and desperate
and looking for a husband. You don't want that. You
want somebody that you can share the rest of your
life with. So if you will go get involved in
(11:21):
your life, doing the things you love to do, I
promise you you will meet wonderful people. I so hope
you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I
enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with you
each weekday on Hey It's Delilah to
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hey it's Delilah.
Every night on my radio show, we share something called
(00:24):
a Delilah dilemma, where you write to me or you
call me with yours situation and I try to help
you come up with the right solution. Today, we're going
to listen to some of those on this podcast. Tonight's
Delilah's Dilemma, says Hi, Delilah. I have a dilemma. I
have Usher syndrome type two, a genetic condition that causes
(00:48):
deafness and now blindness. Since birth, I've lost seventy percent
of my hearing. I've been wearing hearing aids since the
age of six. At eighteen, I was diagnosed with a
deterioration of vision called retinitis pigmentosa. At the age of
thirty three, I've never been more scared of the future
(01:09):
than I am right now, with my vision deteriorating even further.
I try to keep my faith, but I don't know
that I will have my vision much longer, and that
is scary, and I am experiencing depression. I worry I'm
going to be forgotten and excluded by friends and family.
(01:30):
I find it so much harder to put myself out
there to find mister Wright. I have always been an
independent woman, but lately I have been feeling so very vulnerable,
so lonely and hopeless. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you so much, From an anonymous long time listener.
(01:52):
All right, miss anonymous, that I don't think I have
any advice, but I do have love, and I will
share that now. Next tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from a
listener who has a genetic condition that is causing her
to lose both her hearing and now her vision. She
(02:16):
says that she is going through depression and does not
have an inner to put herself out there to find
mister Wright. I don't have any words of advice because
I can't imagine facing what you're facing. That said, I
do know this, your value, your worth as a human
(02:37):
as a person, has absolutely nothing to do with whether
or not you are cited or can hear. Your value
as a human being has everything to do with your
good heart. And from the sounds of your letter, you
have an incredibly tender heart, a tender and sensitive and
(03:00):
kind heart filled with compassion. And that is why you're
feeling scared, because you are very sensitive and very tender hearted,
and the thought of facing the future without your five
senses is daunting. Your five senses or your two senses,
(03:21):
that you are losing of your five don't determine your worth.
They don't. Your worth has to do with your spirit
and your soul and your heart. So instead of focusing
on your senses that are diminished or diminishing, focus on
(03:43):
your heart, on your goodness. Get involved, Find programs, find
support groups for people that suffer with your disability, that
are hearing impaired or vision impaired. Get involved with those
programs other people who are facing similar struggles, and figure
(04:04):
out how you can be a blessing to them. Everybody
I know that has face challenges, myself included great loss
or great challenges. When I turn my attitude around and
choose joy, choose gratitude, and choose to figure out how
I can be a blessing to others, that depression lifts
(04:26):
at least for me. So good luck and God bless you, Antoinette,
writes Hie to Lilah, I have the sweetest, most amazing fiancee.
We have been engaged for four years now, but I
(04:47):
have to leave him. My daughter and grandchildren have relocated
to Vermont and I belong there with them. My significant
other does not want to leave New Jersey, so though
I love him, I have made up my mind to
go with my daughter. We intend to have a long
distance relationship, with each of us visiting the other for
(05:10):
a few months at a time. Neither one of us
wants to date other people. Delilah, do you think a
long distance relationship can actually work? Thank you for any
advice from Antoinette. Antoinette, I don't think, at least to
my knowledge, there is not another radio personality that you
could have written to to answer this question that would
(05:33):
have had the same experience that I have. So I'm
glad you wrote to me, and I'll share that experience
and my words of advice. Coming up next, Tonight's Delilah's
(05:53):
dilemma is from Antoinette, whose family, daughter and grandchildren are
moving out of state and she is going with them.
I'm assuming because you probably watch your grandchildren for your
daughter or help out assist, and you want to continue
in that role, but her fiance doesn't want to leave
the state they're in. Now, the good news is, Antoinette,
(06:17):
you wrote to a woman who has spent the last
sixteen years of my life being involved with a man
married to a man that lives in another state. With
the exception of a year during COVID, we have never
lived in the same state. We have had a long
distance relationship since two thousand and nine, and we have
(06:43):
not only maintained a long distance relationship but married and
have a family. How do we do it? Because modern
technology is a beautiful thing. FaceTime is a beautiful thing.
We have date nights where we watch the same movie
together over devices, and then we see each other at
least once a month, and it works very well because
(07:08):
we're committed to each other. We're not out looking for
love and all the wrong places. We're not out seeing
other people or cheating on each other. And it's worked
out very, very very well for us. For other people
maybe not, but because we were older when we met,
we had already raised families, and we just make it
(07:31):
work by staying connected. So if you love him and
he loves you, and you want to stay connected, you'll
make it work. You will, and you'll have a wonderful relationship,
and you'll text each other one hundred times a day,
and you'll call each other morning, noon, and night, and
you will keep that love alive until the day that
(07:53):
you can be back together. So it's up to you.
It's up to you and him. If you really want
to make it work, you can. You'll miss each other.
By thank God for technology, you'll still be able to
stay connected. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Andy. He says,
(08:18):
I've been following your show for a very long time.
I hear the advice you give your listeners, and I'm
hoping you might have some words for me. I'm having
a very hard time. Today would have been my twenty
fourth anniversary with my late wife, Kathy. I lost her
a year and a half ago at the young age
of forty six due to kidney failure and related issues.
(08:44):
I find myself lost and so lonely. I look for
her every day I come home. I miss her Shenanigans.
She was my first love, my best friend. When is
it time to look for a new best friend? Will
I ever find one? Could anyone ever be as wonderful
(09:05):
as she? Was. I don't know when or how to
even begin looking? Do you please help from Andy? Andy?
I will have my words of advice coming up next.
(09:27):
Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from a man who not only
lost his wife Kathy, he lost half of himself. They
were together twenty four years. You were together over half
your life, and she was, as you said, your best friend.
(09:48):
You miss her heart, and you miss her laugh, you
miss her shenanigans. So right now you are grieving the
loss of half of your life, your dreams, your future
that you would planned together. Could anyone ever be as
wonderful as she was? Yes? And no. Yes there are
(10:11):
lots of wonderful people out there, but no, there will
not be anyone like her. Does that mean you can't
love again? Of course not. But right now your heart
needs to heal, and the best way for that to
happen is for you to fully engage in your life.
(10:32):
Not to meet someone else, but to engage in your life.
What are the things you loved to do? What are
the things that you might have put on hold because
she was sick. Whatever your hobbies, your passions are, do
those things. Do them with passion, and in doing them.
Your heart will begin to heal, and you will be
(10:58):
much more likely to meet somebody who will contribute to
your life instead of somebody who's just needy and desperate
and looking for a husband. You don't want that. You
want somebody that you can share the rest of your
life with. So if you will go get involved in
(11:21):
your life, doing the things you love to do, I
promise you you will meet wonderful people. I so hope
you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I
enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with you
each weekday on Hey It's Delilah to
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