April 17, 2024 • 11 mins
Some interesting dilemmas. What should they do? ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hey it's Delilah.
Come on in and make yourself at home as we
(00:22):
share some of the most interesting dilemmas. Delilah's dilemmas when
people get themselves into a bind, into a mess, and
need a little wisdom to find their way out. Stay
tuned for that coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
from a young man named Paul, who says, I'm twenty
(00:43):
five years old and currently going through a bad breakup.
My ex and I were together for four years. Last year,
I proposed to her in Paris and she said yes.
I was so excited to start our new life together
in a new state. She moved on ahead of me
(01:04):
as I wrapped things up where we used to live.
Two months later, I packed my whole life and followed
her several thousand miles. I got settled in I was
due to start a new job the following week when
she dropped a bombshell she didn't love me anymore. I
(01:26):
was in such shock. While I was gathering everything back
into the pod. It had just come out of I
learned she had met someone in the two month intervals.
She was in Florida and I was up in Buffalo,
and she was now in a relationship with him. I'm
currently living with my parents. I have good days and
(01:47):
bad days. I wonder how she's doing. I wonder what
I did wrong, and if I will be alone forever.
I don't know how to move on. Thank you Delilah
for taking the time to read my story and give
me some of your Mama Delilah advice from a young
man named Paul. Paul, I will have my Mama Delilah
(02:08):
advice for you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
from a young man been dating a girl for four years,
proposed last year in Paris, and they decided to start
their life together in another state, and when he got there,
(02:30):
he found out she had already started a life together
with someone else. Paul, I know you're not going to
receive this now, and I know you're not going to
be able to hear this now, but she did you
a favor, dude. She did you a favor because had
you gone ahead and had the wedding and married her,
(02:53):
she still would have betrayed you because she clearly did
not love you in the same way, to the same degree,
with the same dreams that you loved her with. Has
nothing to do with you and everything to do with her.
You did nothing wrong, she just isn't your person. So
(03:14):
your ex did you a huge favor to untangle the
mess before you walked down the aisle and then had
all these legal complications on top of the heartbreak. I
know it doesn't feel like that now, but she did
you a favor. She freed you up to find the
person who does belong with you by your side, the
(03:36):
person whose soul will fit perfectly with yours. She won't
be perfect, but you will fit together and she will
feel as committed to you. That person will feel as
committed to you as in love with you as you
are with them. This was clearly a one way street,
(03:57):
and thank god she let you know that she was
taking an exit off that street and going a different direction.
Because you deserve to be loved completely, So cry your tears,
roll up your car windows, and scream your lungs out
because it hurts so bad, and then put your shoulders
(04:19):
back and move forward in life. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma reads, Delilah,
I have been married for twenty three years. My wife
and I settled down in her hometown up North. Last
year we made a change and moved to the area
(04:41):
I grew up in down South. From week one, it's
been nothing but discord. She's so unhappy and even though
we made this decision together, she's going back on her word.
I think she's going to leave me. I love her
with all my heart and try every day to make
her happy. And I've cried myself to sleep over this.
(05:04):
I really don't know what to do. Do you from Russ? Yes,
yes I do, Russ, and I will tell you that.
Coming up next, Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from a guy
(05:25):
named Russ who lived for twenty three years with his
wife in a community and then they decided to move
to the area he grew up in. He says, she's
so unhappy and even though we made this decision together,
she's going back on her word. I think she's going
to leave me. I love her with all my heart.
(05:46):
No you don't, Russ, No, you don't, she's going back
on her word. Are you serious? Are you kidding me.
She is going to leave you because you don't love her.
You don't cherish her. If you did, you would see
that her heart does not feel at home in your
old hometown. You would see that leaving her community, leaving
(06:09):
her friends, leaving her family to make you happy is
killing her. You have uprooted a plant from the garden
bed where it was happy. You've shoved it in dirt
in a completely different environment, and you're expecting it to thrive,
and it's wilting before your very eyes. If you loved
that plant, you would quickly gather it up, put it
(06:32):
in a pot with water, and rush it back to
the garden that it belongs in and get it settled
back in, hoping that you haven't done so much damage
that you killed it. Why would you be so selfish
after twenty three years to have her move someplace that
you know she didn't want to go in the first place.
(06:52):
And now that you see how broken she is and
sad she is, you are expecting her heart to just
change to make you ha. That's not love, that's control,
that's manipulation, that's a lot of things, but that is
not love. If you love her, take care of her
heart and do the right thing. If you want your
(07:12):
marriage to last, then love her and honor her, and
stop power tripping with her and take her back where
she is happy and rebuild your life there. Or stay
where you want and the a bachelor again. Tonight's Delilah's
(07:34):
Dilemma is from a gentleman named Robert, who says, we
live in a close knit town where traditions are deeply rooted.
My lifelong friend and I find ourselves at a crossroads.
From childhood, we've shared laughter, dreams, and a passion for
sports and the outdoors. However, he's withdrawn from our friendship,
(07:58):
and his absence leaves such avoid Several months have passed
since we last saw each other, and through social media,
I've learned that he's now in a new relationship. His
lack of responses to my text and invitations have left
me feeling disheartened. I'm reaching out for advice, Delilah as
(08:18):
I contemplate whether to persist or to let go. Thank
you for your time, and I eagerly await your guidance
from Robert. Robert, I will have my Mama Delilah words
coming up for you. Next Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is from Robert,
(08:41):
who has been friends with somebody his entire life, childhood,
young adulthood, now adulthood. This person has entered into a
new relationship, like a romantic relationship, and Robert is left
out in the cold. His friend is not responding, not
engaging in their friendship. Robert, be patient. Be patient, because
(09:06):
here's what happens when we fall in love or jump
into a new relationship. At least, this is what happened
to me. My brain got really stupid and really obsessed
with my love interest, and when that happened, the rest
of my world came to a screeching halt. Like I
just back in those days, I would distance myself, not purposely,
(09:32):
but I was so wrapped up in the high of
the new relationship that I was not able to maintain
my long term friendship sometimes, and some people got really
sick of my behavior and said no more, I'm walking away,
and they had every right to. But some people knew
(09:53):
that I just needed to work through it and come
back to my senses, which I eventually did. And then
I eventually realized how immateure I was behaving. But maybe
he's caught up in that infatuation stage where he's shutting
everybody else out and just focusing on his new love.
(10:13):
Or maybe his new love is very controlling and doesn't
want him to have relationships with anyone outside of their
little circle. That could be it. Or a third possibility
is your friend is dealing with something that he does
not know how to deal with, and he is isolating
(10:34):
himself because he's going through grief, or he's going through
a health challenge, or he's going through something and he
does not know how to connect right now because he
is overwhelmed with whatever it is that he's dealing with.
If you've loved him for this long, if you've been
(10:54):
friends for this long, be patient. Don't keep pursuing him,
but be patient and let him know that whenever he's
ready to reconnect, you are ready to go hiking, to
go camping, to go to a football game, or just
to go have a cup of coffee and listen. I
so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as much
(11:17):
as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more
with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah. Do
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hey it's Delilah.
Come on in and make yourself at home as we
(00:22):
share some of the most interesting dilemmas. Delilah's dilemmas when
people get themselves into a bind, into a mess, and
need a little wisdom to find their way out. Stay
tuned for that coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
from a young man named Paul, who says, I'm twenty
(00:43):
five years old and currently going through a bad breakup.
My ex and I were together for four years. Last year,
I proposed to her in Paris and she said yes.
I was so excited to start our new life together
in a new state. She moved on ahead of me
(01:04):
as I wrapped things up where we used to live.
Two months later, I packed my whole life and followed
her several thousand miles. I got settled in I was
due to start a new job the following week when
she dropped a bombshell she didn't love me anymore. I
(01:26):
was in such shock. While I was gathering everything back
into the pod. It had just come out of I
learned she had met someone in the two month intervals.
She was in Florida and I was up in Buffalo,
and she was now in a relationship with him. I'm
currently living with my parents. I have good days and
(01:47):
bad days. I wonder how she's doing. I wonder what
I did wrong, and if I will be alone forever.
I don't know how to move on. Thank you Delilah
for taking the time to read my story and give
me some of your Mama Delilah advice from a young
man named Paul. Paul, I will have my Mama Delilah
(02:08):
advice for you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
from a young man been dating a girl for four years,
proposed last year in Paris, and they decided to start
their life together in another state, and when he got there,
(02:30):
he found out she had already started a life together
with someone else. Paul, I know you're not going to
receive this now, and I know you're not going to
be able to hear this now, but she did you
a favor, dude. She did you a favor because had
you gone ahead and had the wedding and married her,
(02:53):
she still would have betrayed you because she clearly did
not love you in the same way, to the same degree,
with the same dreams that you loved her with. Has
nothing to do with you and everything to do with her.
You did nothing wrong, she just isn't your person. So
(03:14):
your ex did you a huge favor to untangle the
mess before you walked down the aisle and then had
all these legal complications on top of the heartbreak. I
know it doesn't feel like that now, but she did
you a favor. She freed you up to find the
person who does belong with you by your side, the
(03:36):
person whose soul will fit perfectly with yours. She won't
be perfect, but you will fit together and she will
feel as committed to you. That person will feel as
committed to you as in love with you as you
are with them. This was clearly a one way street,
(03:57):
and thank god she let you know that she was
taking an exit off that street and going a different direction.
Because you deserve to be loved completely, So cry your tears,
roll up your car windows, and scream your lungs out
because it hurts so bad, and then put your shoulders
(04:19):
back and move forward in life. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma reads, Delilah,
I have been married for twenty three years. My wife
and I settled down in her hometown up North. Last
year we made a change and moved to the area
(04:41):
I grew up in down South. From week one, it's
been nothing but discord. She's so unhappy and even though
we made this decision together, she's going back on her word.
I think she's going to leave me. I love her
with all my heart and try every day to make
her happy. And I've cried myself to sleep over this.
(05:04):
I really don't know what to do. Do you from Russ? Yes,
yes I do, Russ, and I will tell you that.
Coming up next, Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from a guy
(05:25):
named Russ who lived for twenty three years with his
wife in a community and then they decided to move
to the area he grew up in. He says, she's
so unhappy and even though we made this decision together,
she's going back on her word. I think she's going
to leave me. I love her with all my heart.
(05:46):
No you don't, Russ, No, you don't, she's going back
on her word. Are you serious? Are you kidding me.
She is going to leave you because you don't love her.
You don't cherish her. If you did, you would see
that her heart does not feel at home in your
old hometown. You would see that leaving her community, leaving
(06:09):
her friends, leaving her family to make you happy is
killing her. You have uprooted a plant from the garden
bed where it was happy. You've shoved it in dirt
in a completely different environment, and you're expecting it to thrive,
and it's wilting before your very eyes. If you loved
that plant, you would quickly gather it up, put it
(06:32):
in a pot with water, and rush it back to
the garden that it belongs in and get it settled
back in, hoping that you haven't done so much damage
that you killed it. Why would you be so selfish
after twenty three years to have her move someplace that
you know she didn't want to go in the first place.
(06:52):
And now that you see how broken she is and
sad she is, you are expecting her heart to just
change to make you ha. That's not love, that's control,
that's manipulation, that's a lot of things, but that is
not love. If you love her, take care of her
heart and do the right thing. If you want your
(07:12):
marriage to last, then love her and honor her, and
stop power tripping with her and take her back where
she is happy and rebuild your life there. Or stay
where you want and the a bachelor again. Tonight's Delilah's
(07:34):
Dilemma is from a gentleman named Robert, who says, we
live in a close knit town where traditions are deeply rooted.
My lifelong friend and I find ourselves at a crossroads.
From childhood, we've shared laughter, dreams, and a passion for
sports and the outdoors. However, he's withdrawn from our friendship,
(07:58):
and his absence leaves such avoid Several months have passed
since we last saw each other, and through social media,
I've learned that he's now in a new relationship. His
lack of responses to my text and invitations have left
me feeling disheartened. I'm reaching out for advice, Delilah as
(08:18):
I contemplate whether to persist or to let go. Thank
you for your time, and I eagerly await your guidance
from Robert. Robert, I will have my Mama Delilah words
coming up for you. Next Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is from Robert,
(08:41):
who has been friends with somebody his entire life, childhood,
young adulthood, now adulthood. This person has entered into a
new relationship, like a romantic relationship, and Robert is left
out in the cold. His friend is not responding, not
engaging in their friendship. Robert, be patient. Be patient, because
(09:06):
here's what happens when we fall in love or jump
into a new relationship. At least, this is what happened
to me. My brain got really stupid and really obsessed
with my love interest, and when that happened, the rest
of my world came to a screeching halt. Like I
just back in those days, I would distance myself, not purposely,
(09:32):
but I was so wrapped up in the high of
the new relationship that I was not able to maintain
my long term friendship sometimes, and some people got really
sick of my behavior and said no more, I'm walking away,
and they had every right to. But some people knew
(09:53):
that I just needed to work through it and come
back to my senses, which I eventually did. And then
I eventually realized how immateure I was behaving. But maybe
he's caught up in that infatuation stage where he's shutting
everybody else out and just focusing on his new love.
(10:13):
Or maybe his new love is very controlling and doesn't
want him to have relationships with anyone outside of their
little circle. That could be it. Or a third possibility
is your friend is dealing with something that he does
not know how to deal with, and he is isolating
(10:34):
himself because he's going through grief, or he's going through
a health challenge, or he's going through something and he
does not know how to connect right now because he
is overwhelmed with whatever it is that he's dealing with.
If you've loved him for this long, if you've been
(10:54):
friends for this long, be patient. Don't keep pursuing him,
but be patient and let him know that whenever he's
ready to reconnect, you are ready to go hiking, to
go camping, to go to a football game, or just
to go have a cup of coffee and listen. I
so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as much
(11:17):
as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more
with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah. Do
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