April 4, 2024 • 10 mins
Don't confuse feelings with facts. Slow down, take a deep breath, and look at the big picture. ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast through Earlier, I
was talking with my bestie and we were talking about
(00:22):
the fact that feelings, feelings can own us for years.
Feelings are not facts. Feelings are an emotional response to
a thought process period. End of story. Feelings are an
(00:45):
emotional response to a thought process. So if you are
going through grief, if you are going through a separation,
if you are going through a transition in life, of
course you're going to have a million feelings around that.
(01:05):
But if you give those feelings permission to drive the
car that is you, you're going to go off the road,
My friend, you're going to end up in a ditch
or like I did when I was younger, I ended
up in the gutter a lot of times because I
let my dignity and my self worth take a back
(01:26):
seat to my feelings of no worth, of not being
worthy of love. Do not let your feelings control you.
It's okay to acknowledge them, it's okay to honor them,
but it's not okay to let them in the driver's seat. Always, always, always,
let your love be in the driver's seat. Let love
(01:51):
always always lead you. Hi, Richie, who's on your heart tonight?
Speaker 2 (01:57):
My boyfriend Mike. We've going through a struggle and it's
just been eating away at me for a couple months now.
But we're trying to work things out.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
What are you struggling over? What's the crux of the problem.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
His job has been requiring a lot of his time
and he hasn't been able to see me. It's been
about three weeks since we've last seen each other, and
we're trying to figure out if this is something that
we should keep on fighting for or if we should
just let it go.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
What is his job?
Speaker 2 (02:27):
He works for college's He coaches a women's basketball team,
so he's always traveling.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
So how long is this season going to last? That
he'll be so busy.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
It's one of those things that we've discussed that it's
always going to be busy, And it's one of those
things if I want to accept it and just wait,
because no matter whether he's traveling or practicing, he works
from eight am till ten at night, and then it's
just he's too tired to see me.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
So really, what he's saying is I don't have any
energy to invest in a relateationship?
Speaker 2 (03:01):
No, but it hurts because I want one, right, but
doing everything I can.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
But there's nothing you can do. If he's being honest
with you and saying I don't have any time or
energy for a relationship, that's not going to change, right,
So what is to wait for? What are you waiting for?
Speaker 2 (03:19):
I don't know. Maybe I don't know how to let
it go. How do you say goodbye?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
You don't have anyone to say goodbye too?
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Yeah, I guess you're right, because in.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Order to say goodbye, he would have to be there
connected to you, and he's not connected to you. He
is connected to his career.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
You're right.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
So it's not a matter of letting go. It's not
a matter of saying goodbye. It's a matter of accepting
what is. You're going to have to get to a
point in your life where you can say, you know what,
whether I like it or not, I need to accept
what is instead of pretending and denying what's really going on.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Thank you?
Speaker 1 (04:05):
All right, all right, Delilah, good luck? Hi you've called
the Delilah Show. Who is this? My name is Kirsten Kirsten.
I love that name. What can I do for you tonight?
Speaker 3 (04:25):
I was with this guy for two and a half
years and he left me one day saying that he
didn't love me anymore. So I've been very scared of
getting into a relationship again for fear that someone will
do that to me after being together for you know, a.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
Year or so.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
And how old are you? I'm twenty, So here's what
I will tell you. It will probably happen again. The
truth of the matter is that's what our youth is
for figuring out who we are, who we love, what
we want out of life. And kisses are not contracts.
(05:05):
And even though young people make promises to love and
be faithful forever when you're young, sometimes you are not
capable of honoring those promises. I know I wasn't. So
your heart may be broken again. But you have a choice.
You can either lock your heart away so that it
will never be hurt, but the walls that you'll build
(05:28):
around it to protect it from being hurt also keep
it from being fully alive exactly, So open your heart,
be wise, don't jump into something with somebody whose character
is not honest or trustworthy, and enjoy all the blessings
in store for you.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
Hi will all right, all right, thank.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
You, good evening. Welcome to the Delilah Show. Who was this?
Speaker 4 (06:09):
This is Brenda, Hi, Brenda I called. I'd like for
you to play a special song. I picked the guy
out of an annual fifty one years ago, and we
reconnected in April, and he came to see me a
couple of times. Now he's kind of slowed down, and
(06:33):
I would just like to let him know how much
I care.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
So he came to see you, and then what.
Speaker 4 (06:43):
And we talked on the phone for about a month
and messaged each other, and then he has slacked off.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Slacked off, like how often was he messaging you before?
And how often are you hearing from him now? Every
day and.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
Now maybe once every two weeks.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
Okay, So that's called ghosting. Have you ever heard that term?
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Now?
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Okay? In today's dating world, when somebody is there and
talking to you all the time and connecting with you
and then they suddenly just drop off the face of
the earth with no explanation. If they just sort of disappear,
that's called ghosting, okay. And what happens is they don't
(07:34):
ever give an explanation. They just leave you hanging and
wondering what in the world's going on? Right, you are
fabulous just the way you are. His behavior has nothing
to do with you not being pretty enough or smart enough,
or funny enough or sexy enough. It has to do
(07:55):
with him not being mature. He is selfish, self sie
centered and rude. Because a kind person would never do that.
Speaker 4 (08:05):
So I need to forget him.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
You need to not only forget him, but never let
somebody treat you like this, because you deserve better.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
All right, let me play a song for you. Hi,
good evening.
Speaker 5 (08:25):
Who's this Hi?
Speaker 1 (08:27):
This is Andre, Andre, This is Delilah. What can I
do for you?
Speaker 5 (08:31):
Oh my goodness, I've been waiting so loon to talk
to you. Really, Yeah, I actually, you know, I've been
in a relationship for about seven months now and somebody
has gotten like cold feet, like a girlfriend.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Like, how cold are the feet? Are they just a
little bit chilly or are they ice cubes? Well?
Speaker 5 (08:53):
I would say just maybe a little bit chilly.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
So maybe some nice fuzzy slippers will warm up those
cold feet, nice fuzzy slipper song.
Speaker 5 (09:02):
Yeah, we sort of, you know, agreed to take like
a little reprieve here and oh.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Wait, wait wait wait, you said they were just a
little bit cold. If she's doing the time out, yeah
that's a lot cold. Andre. Oh yeah, if she's doing that,
let's just not let's just be friends right now. Did
you get the let's be friends line?
Speaker 5 (09:20):
No? I actually didn't.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Oh good, I didn't, because when you get the let's
be friends line, that means I want to be your
friend and never kiss your face again.
Speaker 5 (09:29):
No. I actually said, let's just start over. We moved
a little bit too fast.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
So we're taking a we're just slowing it.
Speaker 5 (09:37):
Down, slowing it down, bringing it.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
And bringing the throttle down just a notch.
Speaker 5 (09:41):
Yeah, we're bringing it down just a notch.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
How many times have you talked to her today?
Speaker 5 (09:47):
I actually talked to her one time today.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Okay, that's slowing it down a notch.
Speaker 5 (09:51):
That's slowing it down.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
I will play this song and let's hope that it,
you know, gets those feet warmed up. What's her name, Andre?
Speaker 5 (09:58):
Her name is Irma. Okay, good luck, all right, Thanks, Delilah.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday. On Ay, it's Delilah do
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast through Earlier, I
was talking with my bestie and we were talking about
(00:22):
the fact that feelings, feelings can own us for years.
Feelings are not facts. Feelings are an emotional response to
a thought process period. End of story. Feelings are an
(00:45):
emotional response to a thought process. So if you are
going through grief, if you are going through a separation,
if you are going through a transition in life, of
course you're going to have a million feelings around that.
(01:05):
But if you give those feelings permission to drive the
car that is you, you're going to go off the road,
My friend, you're going to end up in a ditch
or like I did when I was younger, I ended
up in the gutter a lot of times because I
let my dignity and my self worth take a back
(01:26):
seat to my feelings of no worth, of not being
worthy of love. Do not let your feelings control you.
It's okay to acknowledge them, it's okay to honor them,
but it's not okay to let them in the driver's seat. Always, always, always,
let your love be in the driver's seat. Let love
(01:51):
always always lead you. Hi, Richie, who's on your heart tonight?
Speaker 2 (01:57):
My boyfriend Mike. We've going through a struggle and it's
just been eating away at me for a couple months now.
But we're trying to work things out.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
What are you struggling over? What's the crux of the problem.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
His job has been requiring a lot of his time
and he hasn't been able to see me. It's been
about three weeks since we've last seen each other, and
we're trying to figure out if this is something that
we should keep on fighting for or if we should
just let it go.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
What is his job?
Speaker 2 (02:27):
He works for college's He coaches a women's basketball team,
so he's always traveling.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
So how long is this season going to last? That
he'll be so busy.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
It's one of those things that we've discussed that it's
always going to be busy, And it's one of those
things if I want to accept it and just wait,
because no matter whether he's traveling or practicing, he works
from eight am till ten at night, and then it's
just he's too tired to see me.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
So really, what he's saying is I don't have any
energy to invest in a relateationship?
Speaker 2 (03:01):
No, but it hurts because I want one, right, but
doing everything I can.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
But there's nothing you can do. If he's being honest
with you and saying I don't have any time or
energy for a relationship, that's not going to change, right,
So what is to wait for? What are you waiting for?
Speaker 2 (03:19):
I don't know. Maybe I don't know how to let
it go. How do you say goodbye?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
You don't have anyone to say goodbye too?
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Yeah, I guess you're right, because in.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Order to say goodbye, he would have to be there
connected to you, and he's not connected to you. He
is connected to his career.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
You're right.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
So it's not a matter of letting go. It's not
a matter of saying goodbye. It's a matter of accepting
what is. You're going to have to get to a
point in your life where you can say, you know what,
whether I like it or not, I need to accept
what is instead of pretending and denying what's really going on.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Thank you?
Speaker 1 (04:05):
All right, all right, Delilah, good luck? Hi you've called
the Delilah Show. Who is this? My name is Kirsten Kirsten.
I love that name. What can I do for you tonight?
Speaker 3 (04:25):
I was with this guy for two and a half
years and he left me one day saying that he
didn't love me anymore. So I've been very scared of
getting into a relationship again for fear that someone will
do that to me after being together for you know, a.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
Year or so.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
And how old are you? I'm twenty, So here's what
I will tell you. It will probably happen again. The
truth of the matter is that's what our youth is
for figuring out who we are, who we love, what
we want out of life. And kisses are not contracts.
(05:05):
And even though young people make promises to love and
be faithful forever when you're young, sometimes you are not
capable of honoring those promises. I know I wasn't. So
your heart may be broken again. But you have a choice.
You can either lock your heart away so that it
will never be hurt, but the walls that you'll build
(05:28):
around it to protect it from being hurt also keep
it from being fully alive exactly, So open your heart,
be wise, don't jump into something with somebody whose character
is not honest or trustworthy, and enjoy all the blessings
in store for you.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
Hi will all right, all right, thank.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
You, good evening. Welcome to the Delilah Show. Who was this?
Speaker 4 (06:09):
This is Brenda, Hi, Brenda I called. I'd like for
you to play a special song. I picked the guy
out of an annual fifty one years ago, and we
reconnected in April, and he came to see me a
couple of times. Now he's kind of slowed down, and
(06:33):
I would just like to let him know how much
I care.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
So he came to see you, and then what.
Speaker 4 (06:43):
And we talked on the phone for about a month
and messaged each other, and then he has slacked off.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Slacked off, like how often was he messaging you before?
And how often are you hearing from him now? Every
day and.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
Now maybe once every two weeks.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
Okay, So that's called ghosting. Have you ever heard that term?
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Now?
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Okay? In today's dating world, when somebody is there and
talking to you all the time and connecting with you
and then they suddenly just drop off the face of
the earth with no explanation. If they just sort of disappear,
that's called ghosting, okay. And what happens is they don't
(07:34):
ever give an explanation. They just leave you hanging and
wondering what in the world's going on? Right, you are
fabulous just the way you are. His behavior has nothing
to do with you not being pretty enough or smart enough,
or funny enough or sexy enough. It has to do
(07:55):
with him not being mature. He is selfish, self sie
centered and rude. Because a kind person would never do that.
Speaker 4 (08:05):
So I need to forget him.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
You need to not only forget him, but never let
somebody treat you like this, because you deserve better.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
All right, let me play a song for you. Hi,
good evening.
Speaker 5 (08:25):
Who's this Hi?
Speaker 1 (08:27):
This is Andre, Andre, This is Delilah. What can I
do for you?
Speaker 5 (08:31):
Oh my goodness, I've been waiting so loon to talk
to you. Really, Yeah, I actually, you know, I've been
in a relationship for about seven months now and somebody
has gotten like cold feet, like a girlfriend.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Like, how cold are the feet? Are they just a
little bit chilly or are they ice cubes? Well?
Speaker 5 (08:53):
I would say just maybe a little bit chilly.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
So maybe some nice fuzzy slippers will warm up those
cold feet, nice fuzzy slipper song.
Speaker 5 (09:02):
Yeah, we sort of, you know, agreed to take like
a little reprieve here and oh.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Wait, wait wait wait, you said they were just a
little bit cold. If she's doing the time out, yeah
that's a lot cold. Andre. Oh yeah, if she's doing that,
let's just not let's just be friends right now. Did
you get the let's be friends line?
Speaker 5 (09:20):
No? I actually didn't.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Oh good, I didn't, because when you get the let's
be friends line, that means I want to be your
friend and never kiss your face again.
Speaker 5 (09:29):
No. I actually said, let's just start over. We moved
a little bit too fast.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
So we're taking a we're just slowing it.
Speaker 5 (09:37):
Down, slowing it down, bringing it.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
And bringing the throttle down just a notch.
Speaker 5 (09:41):
Yeah, we're bringing it down just a notch.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
How many times have you talked to her today?
Speaker 5 (09:47):
I actually talked to her one time today.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Okay, that's slowing it down a notch.
Speaker 5 (09:51):
That's slowing it down.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
I will play this song and let's hope that it,
you know, gets those feet warmed up. What's her name, Andre?
Speaker 5 (09:58):
Her name is Irma. Okay, good luck, all right, Thanks, Delilah.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday. On Ay, it's Delilah do
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