MAKING CHANGES: For a better life!

If your behavior is causing issues in your relationships... it's a problem. It takes real courage to make healthy changes. ~ Delilah

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hello there, how
are you? I'm about to ask you a very difficult question,

(00:27):
and hopefully it'll be okay that I ask it. Since
I'm not your mother, I'm not your stepmom, I'm not
your your sister, I'm not your partner. I'm just that
disembodied voice that woman on the radio. Has anyone ever
told you that you have a problem, a drinking problem,

(00:51):
a drugging problem, a getting high problem, a gambling problem,
a cheating problem. Has anyone ever said, you need help
with your temper, with your anger, with your addiction to
fill in the blank, whatever it is. Maybe it's something
as simple as video gaming that can be a huge

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addiction if it takes a priority over your relationships. Has
anybody ever said, you know what, I'm not sticking around
if you don't make these changes, or you are hurting me,
You are hurting your kids, you are hurting the people
that love you. And you say, mind your own business.

(01:38):
I'm not going to change for you. You can't make
me do that. There's not a problem. You're the problem
or whatever it is. In just a moment, I am
going to talk with a young woman who's significant other
hit that wall and is making choices to get healthy.

(02:04):
We will share that story coming up next. Hello, good evening,
Welcome to the Delilah Show. Who's with me tonight? On
the phone? Who is this? Hi?

Speaker 2 (02:16):
This is Missy?

Speaker 1 (02:17):
What can I do for you? Missy?

Speaker 2 (02:20):
I would like to send a shout out to my boyfriend.
He's gone away for about three months. He has to
take care of himself for three months. Is something taken
care of But I just want him to know that
I love him, and then I'm thinking of him and
I can't wait to tell he hims home.

Speaker 1 (02:40):
So gone away for three months to take care of
things tells me that he's not off at school, but
he is learning some very valuable lessons.

Speaker 2 (02:51):
Yeah, he's had a very bad life and he got
into some things that he wasn't supposed to get into.

Speaker 1 (02:56):
And he is he making changes so that he doesn't
repeat that pattern because all of us make really bad choices.

Speaker 2 (03:05):
That's exactly what he's doing. He's actually making changes, is clean,
and he's just making better choices now. And I love
this man. With all my heart. And I know he's
very respectful, and he's been through some terrible things in
his life, and so have I. And I think we're

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meant to be together. And I've stood beside him while
he's gone through these rough patches, and this is one
thing that he has to get through in order for
us to say together. So and he's doing it. He's
got about a month and a half left before he
comes home.

Speaker 1 (03:41):
But he is taking the steps, not because you're telling
him or somebody else is telling him. He's taking the steps,
usually twelve of them, necessary to live a better life.

Speaker 2 (03:53):
Yeah. I told him he has to do it for himself.
He can't do it for me. He can't do it
for anybody else but himself. So he's absolutely taking the
steps and making changes.

Speaker 1 (04:03):
Good for him, good for him there but for the
grace of God. Go I Have you ever heard that expression?

Speaker 2 (04:12):
Yes, yes I have.

Speaker 1 (04:13):
If I sat down with you and with your boyfriend
and told you they're really bad choices that I've made
in my life and behind my own addictive behavior, you
would be shocked, but you would understand how amazing God's
grace is.

Speaker 2 (04:32):
Absolutely, God is good all the time, and something is
drawing me to this man and hasn't let me let
go of him. I think God knows that we belong together,
and I've just been patient and I know he can
get through this. And the job that I do on
a daily basis is helping people do exactly what he's

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doing right now. So I'm a helper. I love to
help people and that's what I'm doing and he's I
love this man and I know he can do what
he's got to do for himself, so we can be together.

Speaker 1 (05:09):
And are you working your own program, because it sounds
like Ms Cody Pendant you could use a little a
little support as well. Absolutely good for.

Speaker 2 (05:20):
You, Absolutely absolutely. I'm taking care of myself in the process.
I take care of my parents full time and I
work a full time job, so I do a lot
of self care.

Speaker 1 (05:32):
All right, you go take care of you. I will
play a song for your boyfriend and everybody else that
is taking a different path, walking a very difficult walk
and making choices to be a blessing in people's lives.

Speaker 2 (05:49):
All right, thank you so much.

Speaker 1 (05:51):
All Right, good night, honey, good night Tony. What can
I do for you tonight?

Speaker 3 (06:06):
I have got a story that I would like to
share with people out there. I met the love of
my life on a street corner in a torrential downpour
two years ago. And unfortunately she's got some trouble with
drugs and is going to prison. But I'm going to
wait on her. She needed someone that just wouldn't give

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up on her, and I can't do that. She's special
to me.

Speaker 1 (06:30):
And how long has she been battling addictions.

Speaker 3 (06:33):
Most of her life? And I came into her life
and she finally realized that even a stranger can see
beyond the addiction and love the person that she is.
She is beautiful inside.

Speaker 1 (06:47):
And how long will she be at this institute of
higher learning?

Speaker 3 (06:52):
About a year and a half.

Speaker 1 (06:53):
Oh, that's not that long.

Speaker 4 (06:55):
No, I can wait, You can wait.

Speaker 1 (06:58):
But is she willing to do the hard work it's
necessary to change her life so that she chooses life
and love and relationships and joy over addictions.

Speaker 3 (07:08):
Well, between myself and her family, the ultimatums that she's
been given the choice of the life with drugs or
life with people that love her was given to her
in point blank. You have to choose. And I believe
that the words she says, she's chosen those of us

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that love her.

Speaker 1 (07:29):
Is she going to meetings? Is she doing what's necessary
to honor that choice?

Speaker 3 (07:33):
Yes, she is, and that is her choice.

Speaker 1 (07:36):
Good for her in that case, sir, I will play
a song. What's your girlfriend's name?

Speaker 3 (07:41):
Her name's Patricia, we call her Trisha.

Speaker 1 (07:43):
I will find a good song for her. I will
say a prayer for her. And I'm proud of you
for being supportive.

Speaker 3 (07:49):
Thank you much, Delilah, God bless you.

Speaker 1 (07:57):
Hi, good evening, Welcome to the Delilah Show. Who this?

Speaker 2 (08:01):
This is Amanda?

Speaker 1 (08:02):
Hi, Amanda? What can I do for you?

Speaker 2 (08:05):
Oh?

Speaker 4 (08:06):
Well, my husband and I got married in April. We
had been together for about a year and then he
decided that there's some things that have been going on.
He decided to leave for a regeneration program which was
about six hundred miles away, and it's a ten month
long program. And it's just it's blown me away how

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good he's doing. I'm just sitting here right now really
missing him a lot.

Speaker 1 (08:33):
So he's in a program for like rehabilitation. Is that
what you're telling me?

Speaker 4 (08:38):
Yeah, pretty much. It's you know, they really take you.
It's a hardcore program. It's a very very very intent,
very intense, and you know, it takes him back through
his childhood up until now, and along with strengthening him,
is also strengthening me and our marriage at the same time.

(08:59):
As just a blessed it is a complete blessing. Oh
it's been rough though. It's only been about four months now,
and it's really starting to hit me.

Speaker 1 (09:08):
Did you know that he had these addictions before you
married him? Oh?

Speaker 4 (09:12):
Yeah, my great, you know personality said, oh I can
fix him. And that was a joke, you know, and
and I was figuring that out now, but uh, that
was a good one.

Speaker 1 (09:22):
I just wondered because you know that that was my
pattern of behavior all my life. Oh no, that's okay,
it's really not so bad.

Speaker 4 (09:29):
I've done a great job at it too.

Speaker 1 (09:31):
Go ahead, hit me again. It's all right. Really, I
can take it, no problem. Yeah, cheat on me too
while you're at it. That feels real good.

Speaker 4 (09:41):
You guys will hit me with it all at one time.
I mean, come on, why you're at it?

Speaker 1 (09:45):
Why don't you rob me blind?

Speaker 3 (09:47):
Because I love you exactly.

Speaker 1 (09:51):
Okay, Really, you.

Speaker 4 (09:53):
Know, God has really, really really blessed me. I know
this is a man and I really believe God does
not let you go through things for no reason.

Speaker 1 (10:00):
Well, it will be for good no matter what happens,
no matter what the outcome is. You know. And I
was as optimistic as you sound right now several years ago,
and my life took a different change. But that doesn't
mean that God didn't use it to strengthen me and
make me a better person. I didn't have the outcome
that I wanted, But you know, if I could go
back and change things in my life, there's not much

(10:22):
that I would change because it's what got me to
where I am today. And today I'm in a really
good place.

Speaker 4 (10:28):
Yeah, I look forward to being in that place. One day.

Speaker 1 (10:30):
You will be hand just hanging there. Let me play
a song for you.

Speaker 4 (10:33):
Thank you.

Speaker 1 (10:37):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on eight, It's Delilah