April 14, 2022 • 41 mins
90's heartthrob David Lascher is telling you "How Men Think". If you had a crush on the Sabrina the Teenage Witch/Blossom/Hey Dude Hunk, wait until he answers all your dating and relationship "need to knows".
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This
is How Men Thick and I heard radio podcast. Hi everybody,
I'm David Lasher. I'm very excited to be hosting How
Men Think. Um, I'm honored to be here. Uh. You
may know me as a longtime actor from shows like
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Sabrina the Teenage which Blossom, Beverly Hills nine O two
and oh, and if you were between the ages of
eight and twelve, in might know the Nickelodeon show Hey Dude,
which has a surprisingly loyal fan base. Um, and also
feature films like Ridley Scott's White Squall Um. But more recently,
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I'm a writer, producer, director, and I'm really happy to
be here. I'm gonna be answering all your questions and
I will try and help you understand how Men Think?
Uh if I even understand it myself. But first, here's
a list of eleven questions. Let's get into it. What
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are you known for? Tell us about yourself? Uh, I
guess you know. Uh. Not to repeat myself, but I
was an actor for many, many years. I started when
I was in high school. My first show was the
Nickelodeon series Hey Dude, where I played Ted and it
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was a lot of like physical comedy. Um, My first
real networks had come aside from pilots and stuff like that.
That that was a hit show was called Blossom, where
I played uh Blossom's boyfriend Vinny for three seasons. UM.
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I had a nice little run on Beverly Hills nine
O two one oh the original playing Kyle um and uh,
like I said, many TV movies, films like White Squall
for Ridley Scott and uh. More recently, I'm a writer, producer, director.
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I I co wrote and directed a film that's very
personal to personal to me called Sister, starring Grace Kaufman
and Read Scott and Barbara Hershey. Um that we premiered
at Tribeca Film Festival and we sold to the Showtime
Networks for two years and is currently on Apple TV.
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UM and uh, I like to also be known for being, uh,
you know, a husband and a dad. I have three
kids and I've been married since uh, so that those
roles to me are uh most important. Mm hmm. Who
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are you in your personal life? My personal life? Like
I said, I'm a husband, I'm a dad, I'm a
tennis player, I'm a hiker. I'm a skier. I'm a
very active person. Um, but in my personal life, there's
nothing I would rather be doing than hanging with my
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kids and my wife. Um. Three shows you are binge watching? Uh,
my wife and I just finished inventing Anna, and wow,
I can't believe that's a true story. And the girl
who plays Anna, who's also in Ozark, is off the
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charts amazing. What is your favorite food? By far? It's
sushi and specifically sugarfish here in l A where chef
nos Aware where O g s from his original Um,
and the fish and the rice and the seaweed and
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there was sabi are not to be matched anywhere. Tell
us about your career. So yeah, like I said, acting
went very smoothly for like twenty years, and then I
found myself coming up kind of young to play my
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own age, you know, the lawyer, the dad, the cop um.
So at some point, uh, you know, a number of
years ago, I started writing and directing, and uh wrote
a feature film based on ideas and characters from my
life called Sister, Uh, like I said, which we were
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lucky enough to get into Tribeca, and people like Jane
Rosenthal and Robert de ni are really championed it UM
and more recently, I've been doing UM work for Group
nine Media, a company that lets me tell stories with
brands attached that are organically integrated into the stories. UM
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also have a feature film script that I finished the
rewrite yesterday that I'm very excited about. What's your biggest
fear in life? My children's safety. UM. I have a
daughter that's in college in New Orleans at two Lane.
I have a junior in high school, my son, who
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they both drive, and UH, I gotta tell you, when
your kids start driving, it's like always on your mind,
and it never leaves my mind when he is on
his way to Magic Mountain and he's driving his friends
until I get a text from him that he got
there safely. I it's it's it's my biggest worry, my
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biggest pet peeve. Okay. One thing I really dislike, for
some strange reason is when someone calls you and you
don't pick up and they call you right back immediately.
I just don't get that, did they think you didn't
see the first call? Is it an emergency because it
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usually isn't. It's usually a friend that just needs UH
to talk to you. And it bugs the hell out
of me. Um, what makes you the most happy? Honestly,
I don't know. I despite sounding cliche, there are moments
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where my kids and I are on the beach or
we're all skiing together, which we just got back from
all five of us, and I'm just so grateful for
the moment of peace together, safety together. And I it's
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never lost on me two to be with my kids
and my wife, uh, somewhere that we love, whether it's
the beach or skiing or you know, doing something um
that makes us all happy together. H is really is
what makes me the most happy. What is your ideal
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Saturday morning? Well, that depends if it's football season or not.
Because my son, Casey and I have our own fantasy
football teams. We share a fantasy football team. Um, and
I'll go get bagels. I actually go to one place
for bagels, uh, separate place for the locks and the
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tuna salad um, and another place for coffee. And then
we come back and we watch you know, the direct
TV uh package and just scrolled from game to game. Um. Otherwise,
I love to hike by my house this this high
called Framing Canyon. I love going to my kids uh
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uh athletic games. My my daughter Chelsea is a soccer player,
My son Casey is uh captain of his varsity basketball team,
and I, I mean, I really I look forward to
their games because they're at an asia now where they're
really exciting. Tan. Are you more of the athlete or
the armshare quarterback? Well, I played with my kids all
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different sports from tennis, football, soccer when they were younger,
But now I think I'm more of an armchair quarterback
because they've outgrown me and they have real coaches. So
I'm in my you know, my little foldable armchair watching
them and trying to think, you know, how any notes
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I could give them, while also being encouraging and telling
them how much fun it was just to watch them.
But I'm definitely now more of an armchair quarterback. But
I do play tennis twice a week. What keeps you motivated?
What keeps you more? You know? What I think keeps
me motivated, Aside from my wife and my family and
I want them to be proud of me and always
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moving forward and trying new things and taking risks, is
also my friends and my community and surrounding myself with
people that are doing interesting things. And inspire me and
bring out the best in me. UM. So I think
the people you surround yourself in your life or can
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be a great motivating factor. Okay, so those were the
eleven questions, and We're gonna take a quick break and
I'll come back and answer some of your q and
a s. Hi Jennifer, Hi, how's it going good? How
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are you good? I have a question about my husband. UM.
We've been together for four years now and UM, we
have two kids, two young babies three months and six months,
so you can imagine how tired where we are. UM,
and I just feel like we're both were we are
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like a great team together and everything and everything is
seems like it's going well except for you know, our
intimate life. Do you know what I mean? Uh, we're
both just very tired. And every time we do go
to bed, he just rolls over, which I understand. UM.
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And you know, I've asked him about a date night
and we don't really have the time, and I feel
like he doesn't make the time, but I would really
like to explore that. And I just I need help
finding the spark again with him, and I'm not really
sure what to do. Well, first, of all, give yourselves
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a break because you're in you're in the weeds right
now as far as the ages of your kids, so
that everything you're looking for, I promise you will come back.
So the first thing I would say is give yourself
a break and accept that there's gonna be a lull.
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But as far as a date night or intimacy, you know,
maybe you take the initiative and say we're doing this.
We're gonna go, you know, like I got tickets to
go see Eddie Vetter or the other you know a
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few months a month ago or two months ago, you know,
because of COVID, we hadn't gone, we hadn't seen music
in years, and I just said, we're going to do this. Well,
you know, the kids will be fine. We're gonna go
see Eddie Vetter at YouTube Theater and uh, we're gonna
have dinner first. And UM, I think at least if
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if one of you makes it a priority, Um, the
other person should you know, be grateful. I think, um,
but it takes an effort, and then you know, maybe
you could push him next time to you know what,
come come up with something for me. Doesn't have to
be tomorrow, doesn't have to be next week, but just
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surprised me with something. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And like I said,
enjoy these times because the kids grow up so fast
and it takes away from your from your relationship and
your intimacy. But there there are really special times about
what you're going through. And just know that you guys
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will have each other in the coming years. It will
all come back, I promise. Oh I hope. So thank
you so much. I um, I'm just worried about him
saying he's too tired to go, but I guess in
that case, I just say, nope, we're doing this for us.
I insist. Yeah, if you make a gesture, he's got
to go. Yeah, all right, well I will do that,
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all right. Good luck, Emily, thanks for calling. Thank you
so much. Bye, Hi Sarah. Hi. Um. So recently a
co worker of mine has been super flirty and giving
me a lot of attention at work, and he even
sometimes sends me flirty texts after work hour. And you know,
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I've been married for fifteen years and I have to
admit that this new attention feels good. And I just
wonder am I in the wrong to flirt back? As
long as nothing happens physically. Oh, I don't like this
guy already. I'll tell you that right now. Why Because
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he's flirting and he knows I'm married. Yeah. Yeah, it
takes a certain kind of guy to do that. That's
to me, that's a red flag about him. But I
get it. I get it. I've been married for some
twenty two years. M h. And I think one thing
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that's been a pillar of our marriage, uh is the
trust issue. M hm. You know my wife goes on
girls trips. I go. We you know, we separate and
we have separate lives because we know there's no no
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cause for jealousy or any of that type of stuff.
And when you start playing with that fire, you know,
you could say nothing's happening. But if he found out,
would it upset him? Maybe that's the question. I don't know.
I think it probably would. I think you're right. I mean,
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I wouldn't like it if somebody was doing that with
him exactly exactly. I know it feels good and maybe
it's flattering. I mean I have to admit it. Yeah, alright,
so now you you know you're still got it, you
know you're still attractive. Now, yeah, let your let your
husband enjoy that. Yeah. I think that's that's good advice.
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Thank you. Yeah, thanks for calling. I'll try. Thank you. Hi, Alex, Hi,
what's on your mind? Okay? Um, So the thing is
my husband and his sister are really close, but there's
this thing that like keeps happening. So I'll suggest a
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show to him, like a show to watch or a
restaurant to try, and he'll always be like, oh, that's
not for me, or I won't like it, and then
his sister will like tell him about the show or
like name the same restaurant that I already told him about,
and then he'll like, oh, I've never heard of that.
That sounds great. I'll try it right away. And it
just kind of drives me crazy that like he'll value his,
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like her opinion more than mine. And I just don't
know if I'm overreacting or if I'm not. How do
I approach this, because like he'll get protective of his
sister and I just don't know what to do. That's
so funny because I I, my wife and I have
the same sort of conversations about my sister, who you know,
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it's like my best friend and she's two years younger
than me, and My wife always say, why, how come
when Lauren suggests this, you take it to heart and
you overlook it when I when I suggest it, Um,
I think it's you know, it's pretty normal, you know,
the the sibling bond is like something that's unique, and
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his sister probably you know, you know, knows his taste
and they have like a short form communication. But I, yeah,
I wouldn't be jealous of of a sibling relationship because
I know just how how rare the that is. You know,
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to to really have a strong relationship with a with
a sibling, it can only it only be a positive. Um. Well,
I'm I'm gonna only child, so I don't really know
what that's like. But I just think when you're married,
that's like when you choose your family as so shouldn't
my opinion matter more? Now if your opinions being completely overlooked, Yes, absolutely, Um,
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But I I would just I would steer clear of
being trying not to be jealous of your husband's relationship
with his sister because it's no threat to you. Um,
but if he's disregarding you, know, your opinions and your thoughts,
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that's a separate issue. Yeah, it's hard to tell whether
I'm like just taking it personally or or if it's
like valid. I don't know, but you're you're saying it's
something to worry about. Yeah, I think there's there are
two separate issues. I think you need to uh allow
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him his relationship with his sister, which is no threat
to you, and maybe you know he they have similar
tastes and TV or whatever whatever it is. But if
he's if he's disregarding you know, your thoughts and your
opinions on things, that's a separate issue that I would
not attach to any jealousy to his relationship with his sister,
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because you're not gonna look good and there's really no
leg to stand on for that, you know, you know
what I mean, Like, let him have a close relationship
with his sister and then deal with you know, if
he happens to be pushing you aside and your thoughts
and your opinions aside, deal with that on its own. Okay, Yeah,
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I guess I'll try. I'll try to separate the two things.
You got a good luck with it, thank you. I
shall be Hi. What's up? Uh? So my fiance and
I are getting married in December and he won't set
up and help with the planning. Um, my friends think
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that this is like a dream scenario, But I really
need his help and I'm super busy with traveling for work.
And uh we already lost our favorite photographer because he
never sent our deposit, which is really frustrating. So I
guess how do I get him to set up, like
to step up and help. Oh boy, if you do
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start to delegate uh decisions to him, I'm warning you
now it might not be the wedding that you're expecting.
But I understand you need some help with your Your
time is valuable. Do you have family members, mom's, mother
in law's, anyone else that could Yeah? I do, and
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they've been helping too. But I mean, I would like
the person I'm marrying to have a say and to
be part of the you know, the experience, and and
give me some anything, I guess, you know, um, and
not do things like uh, lose the photographer because he
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didn't send the deposit, like the one thing that he did. Um,
and just be a little bit more interested, I guess,
and proactive and in the journey. Yeah, I mean, honestly,
I I've been married for over twenty years. And that
sounds like something I might have done back when I
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was engaged. And it has nothing to do with my
love for my wife or the commitment we're making, or
the profoundness of what you know of what our marriage means.
It's I just didn't really care what the flowers look
like or who was taking the pictures. The guest list
I was very involved with, but like all the details,
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I I was just like, whatever you want, and like
I said, we're still married. And my uh not disinterest,
but my my, my, my lack of concern for all
the details of the actual party had nothing to do
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with my love for my wife longevity of our marriage.
It was really as long as our family and friends
are there with us, I don't care where we are,
Like I'll, you know, we'll we'll say our vows in
front of the people that mean the most to us.
And uh, I'm sorry if I don't care about who's
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the photographer, who what flowers or what meal is being served,
I just, you know, I would leave that up to
my wife. But if I'm just saying it, I wouldn't
make more of it than that, because I'm you know,
married for twenty years and I was pretty disinterested in
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the details of our wedding. Well, I guess that is
inadvertently sweet if you think about it. Yeah, you know,
it's to me, it's like the marriage. You're making a
lifelong commitment, and so much stress and decision making and
time goes into these details of a three hour party. It.
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I don't know, it's just I get it. And I've
been to a lot of what beautiful weddings, and our
wedding was amazing, but and I appreciated all the work
that my wife did, but the important thing to me
was the guest list who was there to witness us
making our vows and then to party and celebrate with us. Uh,
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and what the tables of Like, I just didn't care.
And yeah, you know what I'm saying. Yeah, I get it.
So the solution, um, I guess would be too kind
of just allow my my family and I to plan
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a little bit more. And and I guess I could
ask him as well what parts he does care about
and uh, and kind of go from there. I guess
would be it would be a good way to approach it. Yeah,
I mean, if you present him Okay, here's the table settings,
here's the menu here's here's the band setlist, and then
he perks up on what music is going to be played.
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Maybe he'll jump in and start, you know, jotting down
songs for the band or the DJ. You know, like
there's got to be something that perks his interest. But uh,
I'm sure he's most focused on, you know, the step
that you guys are taking together and that you're surrounded
by people that love you, and that's really to me,
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that's that's what the night is about. Yeah for sure. Okay, Yeah,
so it seems more like a like a more of
a i don't know, like a negotiation, trying to feel
out what he is interested in doing and not kind
of making him do what I think needs to be done. Yeah.
Like I said, if he's a guy that you love
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and you want to commit your life too, don't fight
over play settings or his disinterest in that. It's just
it doesn't make sense, you know, like think of the
bigger picture and is this you know, this is the
man you want to marry. You know, throw things in
his way and give ask his opinion, and if he does,
if he says it's up to you, don't do not
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get in a fight over that, before your wedding. Okay,
well that's great advice. Alright, cool, good luck and congratulations,
thank you so much. I the other how are you
over good? How are you? I am very good, having
a nice hour with this podcast. Awesome. Well, UM, I
would love your advice on something. Um. I it's just
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a little bit of background and started three years old.
And UM, my boyfriend he wants to buy this new
set of golf clubs, which I did not realize how
expensive golf clubs were. Um, this set is costing. Yeah,
I had no idea the set costs around six thousand
dollars and UM, you know, you know it's his money
until I find Um. But we've been together for eight
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years now and I'm just dying for him to propose.
And I just it's been a long time, and I
worry that if he spends you know, that money on
golf clubs, that means that a proposal in the rain
or just even further away for me. Um. And you know,
it's hard because I can't really tell him what to do.
But at the same time, like it's been eight years, um,
and I don't want him to feel pressured. But I
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also don't know how much longer I can wait. Um,
And my my question is how do I how do
I bring this up to him? How do I tell
him that he should put that money towards the ring instead? Wow,
that's a tricky situation. First of all six thousand dollar
golf clubs. Is he a very good golfer? He is
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really really good? Okay, that's kind of things that really
turns me out about him. I just don't know. I
just don't. I didn't. I guess I don't realize how
expensive the sport was. Um, And normally I wouldn't care,
but I would love to have that ring on my finger. Yeah. Okay.
So the first thing is if golf is an outlet
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for him and makes him happy, he's going to be
a better partner for you. So you do get something
out of it, you know. Um? But man, I remember
my wife. I met her in New York and I
lived in l A. We were a long distance for
a year. She moved to l A after a year,
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and then I think after two years of living here,
she asked me when we were getting get engaged, and
I said, well, not anytime soon, and she burst into tears.
And I remember when she kind of let go of
that issue. Within six months, I became ready and proposed,
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but I didn't want her. I didn't want her to
make me buy a ring, you know what I mean? Yeah,
And that's what I worry about because I don't want
to be you know that that girl that's like, you know,
breathing down his neck of you know, when of your proposed.
I want to get married, like he knows I want
to get married. We talk about it. Obviously, we've begn
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for you know, eight years now, um, but you know,
it's been a long time, and I don't know when
it's going to happen. And you know, I just I
worry that if he's putting his money towards that, that
it's just going to be maybe it's just not even
top of mind for him. It might be you might
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be miss misinterpreting it, but I wouldn't. I would separate
the golf clubs from the issue of eight year relationship
and where it's going. Don't don't don't say it's the
golf clubs or me, you know, um, because that, yeah,
that that's gonna convolute everything. But yeah, after eight years together,
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you have every right to tell him what you know,
what you want out of life. And I don't know
if you want to have kids or not or um
start a family, but yeah, those are things that should
be talked about at this point after eight years, and
you have every right to bring it up and just
ask him what he wants, what he wants out of life,
what he wants out of this relationship and uh, and
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you know, it's it's getting to the point where you
should start making decisions. And I'll tell you, men put
off decisions like this for as long as they can um,
and they like, they like when it's their decision. So
if there's any way you can softly talk to him
about what you want and what you're ready for, and
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you know, say it. Let's I hope it aligns with
what you want and what you're ready for, and may
maybe even make him think that you're not gonna wait
much longer. But but I wouldn't give ultimatums. I wouldn't.
I wouldn't tie it to his golf clubs and say,
if you buy these golf clubs, it means you're not
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committed to me. I wouldn't. I wouldn't do any of that, Okay,
so yes, and I would just have an honest conversation
with him. I mean, he's you know, he's your friend too, Like,
just talk to him about what you're feeling and say, I,
I don't want to force you into anything. I want
this to be your decision as much as mine. Just
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let me know honestly what you're thinking. Because it's been
eight years. Yeah, yeah, Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna try. How.
I'm really anxious about it because you know, like you said,
it is, it has been a long time, and I
get fearful of what that how that conversation is going
to go. But I know I have to have it. Yeah,
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if you're honest and you're gentle with it, you know,
not like accusatory with ultimatums, it can't go wrong. Okay, Well,
thank you so much, David. I appreciate it. All right, Taylor,
good luck. All right. I want to thank everybody who
called in. There were some really thoughtful questions and discussions.
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Um and uh, We're gonna go to a quick break
and then I'll come back and answer some of the
written questions. M h okay, So let's get into some
of these written questions. Wow, uh, really interesting stuff here
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when talking about love there is the saying when you know,
you know, do you believe this? What if there is
no specific moment you feel this. That's a really great question.
You know. People talk about love at first sight and
when when I you know, I when I first met
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him I knew, or when I first met her, I
just knew that was the woman I was gonna marry.
I don't. I don't believe in that. And I think
that's a lot of pressure to put on young couples
that they're supposed to be blown away by the person
the first time they see them. That's not the start
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of any anything lasting or real. To me, Um, I look,
there has to be um an attraction. There has to
be uh things in common conversation. I mean, I remember
speaking to my wife on the phone for hours that
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to me, you know, said everything. Um. But my love
for her has grown and grown and grown into you know,
I mean, I'm not only still attracted to her. She's
the coolest girl I know still to this day. But
she's the mother of my kids and she's still parties
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the right amount, loves live music and traveling, and like,
we have grown into a much more meaningful love than
anything somebody in like a fairy tale could say was
the first time I saw her? This is what it was?
Is so I I do not believe in that. I
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believe that you have starting points that are important, Like
I said, a physical attraction, things in common. If you
can speak long conversations together and laugh together, there's your
building blocks, and then that can grow into something. Uh
that this this uh person with the question is talking
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about when you know you know? No, I think it
grows and grows. So recognize those building blocks, those things
in common, the attraction um and uh, and don't hold
yourself to some you know princess movie where you're supposed
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to be like, you know, shop with a cupid arrow
the second you see someone that doesn't exist in my mind?
What advice do you give your daughter about guys? Oh? Boy?
Do you warn her about anything in today's dating world?
You learn for yourself when you were younger. Who Um,
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my oldest daughter, Hannah is she's now a freshman in college.
But she her first boyfriend, uh was I guess the
end of her junior year in high school. And the
boy was kind, respectful, very smart, hard working. Um. I
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I respect my daughter's judgment and if there comes a
time where it strays or I don't I no longer
trust it. I will have to think about this question
more carefully. But I feel like you know, when you
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raise a child, you raise them to know a good
person when they see a good person, to have good
judgment when it comes to relationships and friendships. And if
they're going astray, UM, I would have to, you know,
jump in and give my opinion. But uh, I really
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trust the woman that she is, and if she likes
a guy, I'm most likely going to like him as well.
To this point, this may change at a later date.
When men are quieter than usual, is this a sign
something is wrong and they are just not telling us?
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M Quiet? Quiet can mean many different things. UM. I
tend to get quiet in in a passive aggressive way
to show my wife that I'm a set and it's terrible.
It's a terrible sort of gaslighting of someone. It's so
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much healthier to just get your issues out there, deal
with them, and move on. Um. But there are also
guys that are just shy. So I don't know if
you're in a if this is a longer term relationship
and a guy who's usually outgoing and friendly suddenly becomes
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quieter than usual. It probably is something he's not telling you. Um,
if it's someone you just started dating and he's just
kind of quiet and shy, I wouldn't read into it
as much. David, what was the hardest part of shooting
into stardom at a young age? How did this affect
your dating life? So? I think being an actor in
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my teens kind of sped up my dating life, if
that makes sense. Because I met my wife when I
was twenty three, and I had been living in l
A since I graduated high school since seventeen, and I
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was by at at age twenty three, I was so
ready to meet like the right kind of girl for me,
you know. Not. I was over flings and whatever comes
with being on a hit show at the time. I
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was over all of it after five or six years
living in l A on my own. So I met
my wife at twenty three, not because I was looking
for marriage or any of that stuff. And I and
I feel grateful that I met my wife at a
time where I wasn't looking for it. I wasn't like
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desperate for it. I met her and just didn't want
to be without her, and I was ready for something
real and I feel like, you know, uh, having success
as an actor at an early age got me to
that point at an early age, which you know has
led to you know, my beautiful family. And I'm I'm
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still somewhat of a young dad with kids that uh
that are like my my buddies now. UM, So I
think whatever it's called, shooting into stardom whatever at a
young age kind of spread everything up for me. And
at twenty three, I was ready to really find something,
something meaningful, um, which I'm I'm really grateful for. I
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got like all that stuff out of my system between
seventeen and twenty three. UM, and I've had a really
beautiful relationship with my wife ever since. All Right, you
you beautiful listeners, Thank you so much for for having
me as your guest host on How Men Think. Um.
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The questions were incredibly thoughtful, uh and the conversations were
really interesting to me. UM. You can follow me on
Instagram or Twitter at at David Lasher. Um. You could
follow our family at the Lasher family on TikTok, which
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is a family account, but my youngest daughter, Chelsea is
the creative mastermind behind our TikTok account. At the Lasher family. UM,
I have a comedy series on a new streaming service
called the Fiicto app. It's called Cruisers and Shakers. And
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I have a film that has recently been launched on
Apple TV called Sister, starring Grace Kaufman, who's also in
Apple TV's new movie The Sky Is Everywhere. She's amazing,
So check that out and check Sister out on Apple tv,
and thank you again for having me. This is how
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men think. An I Heart Radio London audio production. Listen
each Thursday on the I Heart Radio app, Apple podcast
or wherever you get your podcasts.
We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This
is How Men Thick and I heard radio podcast. Hi everybody,
I'm David Lasher. I'm very excited to be hosting How
Men Think. Um, I'm honored to be here. Uh. You
may know me as a longtime actor from shows like
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Sabrina the Teenage which Blossom, Beverly Hills nine O two
and oh, and if you were between the ages of
eight and twelve, in might know the Nickelodeon show Hey Dude,
which has a surprisingly loyal fan base. Um, and also
feature films like Ridley Scott's White Squall Um. But more recently,
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I'm a writer, producer, director, and I'm really happy to
be here. I'm gonna be answering all your questions and
I will try and help you understand how Men Think?
Uh if I even understand it myself. But first, here's
a list of eleven questions. Let's get into it. What
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are you known for? Tell us about yourself? Uh, I
guess you know. Uh. Not to repeat myself, but I
was an actor for many, many years. I started when
I was in high school. My first show was the
Nickelodeon series Hey Dude, where I played Ted and it
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was a lot of like physical comedy. Um, My first
real networks had come aside from pilots and stuff like that.
That that was a hit show was called Blossom, where
I played uh Blossom's boyfriend Vinny for three seasons. UM.
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I had a nice little run on Beverly Hills nine
O two one oh the original playing Kyle um and uh,
like I said, many TV movies, films like White Squall
for Ridley Scott and uh. More recently, I'm a writer, producer, director.
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I I co wrote and directed a film that's very
personal to personal to me called Sister, starring Grace Kaufman
and Read Scott and Barbara Hershey. Um that we premiered
at Tribeca Film Festival and we sold to the Showtime
Networks for two years and is currently on Apple TV.
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UM and uh, I like to also be known for being, uh,
you know, a husband and a dad. I have three
kids and I've been married since uh, so that those
roles to me are uh most important. Mm hmm. Who
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are you in your personal life? My personal life? Like
I said, I'm a husband, I'm a dad, I'm a
tennis player, I'm a hiker. I'm a skier. I'm a
very active person. Um, but in my personal life, there's
nothing I would rather be doing than hanging with my
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kids and my wife. Um. Three shows you are binge watching? Uh,
my wife and I just finished inventing Anna, and wow,
I can't believe that's a true story. And the girl
who plays Anna, who's also in Ozark, is off the
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charts amazing. What is your favorite food? By far? It's
sushi and specifically sugarfish here in l A where chef
nos Aware where O g s from his original Um,
and the fish and the rice and the seaweed and
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there was sabi are not to be matched anywhere. Tell
us about your career. So yeah, like I said, acting
went very smoothly for like twenty years, and then I
found myself coming up kind of young to play my
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own age, you know, the lawyer, the dad, the cop um.
So at some point, uh, you know, a number of
years ago, I started writing and directing, and uh wrote
a feature film based on ideas and characters from my
life called Sister, Uh, like I said, which we were
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lucky enough to get into Tribeca, and people like Jane
Rosenthal and Robert de ni are really championed it UM
and more recently, I've been doing UM work for Group
nine Media, a company that lets me tell stories with
brands attached that are organically integrated into the stories. UM
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also have a feature film script that I finished the
rewrite yesterday that I'm very excited about. What's your biggest
fear in life? My children's safety. UM. I have a
daughter that's in college in New Orleans at two Lane.
I have a junior in high school, my son, who
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they both drive, and UH, I gotta tell you, when
your kids start driving, it's like always on your mind,
and it never leaves my mind when he is on
his way to Magic Mountain and he's driving his friends
until I get a text from him that he got
there safely. I it's it's it's my biggest worry, my
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biggest pet peeve. Okay. One thing I really dislike, for
some strange reason is when someone calls you and you
don't pick up and they call you right back immediately.
I just don't get that, did they think you didn't
see the first call? Is it an emergency because it
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usually isn't. It's usually a friend that just needs UH
to talk to you. And it bugs the hell out
of me. Um, what makes you the most happy? Honestly,
I don't know. I despite sounding cliche, there are moments
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where my kids and I are on the beach or
we're all skiing together, which we just got back from
all five of us, and I'm just so grateful for
the moment of peace together, safety together. And I it's
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never lost on me two to be with my kids
and my wife, uh, somewhere that we love, whether it's
the beach or skiing or you know, doing something um
that makes us all happy together. H is really is
what makes me the most happy. What is your ideal
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Saturday morning? Well, that depends if it's football season or not.
Because my son, Casey and I have our own fantasy
football teams. We share a fantasy football team. Um, and
I'll go get bagels. I actually go to one place
for bagels, uh, separate place for the locks and the
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tuna salad um, and another place for coffee. And then
we come back and we watch you know, the direct
TV uh package and just scrolled from game to game. Um. Otherwise,
I love to hike by my house this this high
called Framing Canyon. I love going to my kids uh
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uh athletic games. My my daughter Chelsea is a soccer player,
My son Casey is uh captain of his varsity basketball team,
and I, I mean, I really I look forward to
their games because they're at an asia now where they're
really exciting. Tan. Are you more of the athlete or
the armshare quarterback? Well, I played with my kids all
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different sports from tennis, football, soccer when they were younger,
But now I think I'm more of an armchair quarterback
because they've outgrown me and they have real coaches. So
I'm in my you know, my little foldable armchair watching
them and trying to think, you know, how any notes
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I could give them, while also being encouraging and telling
them how much fun it was just to watch them.
But I'm definitely now more of an armchair quarterback. But
I do play tennis twice a week. What keeps you motivated?
What keeps you more? You know? What I think keeps
me motivated, Aside from my wife and my family and
I want them to be proud of me and always
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moving forward and trying new things and taking risks, is
also my friends and my community and surrounding myself with
people that are doing interesting things. And inspire me and
bring out the best in me. UM. So I think
the people you surround yourself in your life or can
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be a great motivating factor. Okay, so those were the
eleven questions, and We're gonna take a quick break and
I'll come back and answer some of your q and
a s. Hi Jennifer, Hi, how's it going good? How
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are you good? I have a question about my husband. UM.
We've been together for four years now and UM, we
have two kids, two young babies three months and six months,
so you can imagine how tired where we are. UM,
and I just feel like we're both were we are
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like a great team together and everything and everything is
seems like it's going well except for you know, our
intimate life. Do you know what I mean? Uh, we're
both just very tired. And every time we do go
to bed, he just rolls over, which I understand. UM.
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And you know, I've asked him about a date night
and we don't really have the time, and I feel
like he doesn't make the time, but I would really
like to explore that. And I just I need help
finding the spark again with him, and I'm not really
sure what to do. Well, first, of all, give yourselves
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a break because you're in you're in the weeds right
now as far as the ages of your kids, so
that everything you're looking for, I promise you will come back.
So the first thing I would say is give yourself
a break and accept that there's gonna be a lull.
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But as far as a date night or intimacy, you know,
maybe you take the initiative and say we're doing this.
We're gonna go, you know, like I got tickets to
go see Eddie Vetter or the other you know a
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few months a month ago or two months ago, you know,
because of COVID, we hadn't gone, we hadn't seen music
in years, and I just said, we're going to do this. Well,
you know, the kids will be fine. We're gonna go
see Eddie Vetter at YouTube Theater and uh, we're gonna
have dinner first. And UM, I think at least if
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if one of you makes it a priority, Um, the
other person should you know, be grateful. I think, um,
but it takes an effort, and then you know, maybe
you could push him next time to you know what,
come come up with something for me. Doesn't have to
be tomorrow, doesn't have to be next week, but just
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surprised me with something. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And like I said,
enjoy these times because the kids grow up so fast
and it takes away from your from your relationship and
your intimacy. But there there are really special times about
what you're going through. And just know that you guys
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will have each other in the coming years. It will
all come back, I promise. Oh I hope. So thank
you so much. I um, I'm just worried about him
saying he's too tired to go, but I guess in
that case, I just say, nope, we're doing this for us.
I insist. Yeah, if you make a gesture, he's got
to go. Yeah, all right, well I will do that,
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all right. Good luck, Emily, thanks for calling. Thank you
so much. Bye, Hi Sarah. Hi. Um. So recently a
co worker of mine has been super flirty and giving
me a lot of attention at work, and he even
sometimes sends me flirty texts after work hour. And you know,
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I've been married for fifteen years and I have to
admit that this new attention feels good. And I just
wonder am I in the wrong to flirt back? As
long as nothing happens physically. Oh, I don't like this
guy already. I'll tell you that right now. Why Because
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he's flirting and he knows I'm married. Yeah. Yeah, it
takes a certain kind of guy to do that. That's
to me, that's a red flag about him. But I
get it. I get it. I've been married for some
twenty two years. M h. And I think one thing
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that's been a pillar of our marriage, uh is the
trust issue. M hm. You know my wife goes on
girls trips. I go. We you know, we separate and
we have separate lives because we know there's no no
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cause for jealousy or any of that type of stuff.
And when you start playing with that fire, you know,
you could say nothing's happening. But if he found out,
would it upset him? Maybe that's the question. I don't know.
I think it probably would. I think you're right. I mean,
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I wouldn't like it if somebody was doing that with
him exactly exactly. I know it feels good and maybe
it's flattering. I mean I have to admit it. Yeah, alright,
so now you you know you're still got it, you
know you're still attractive. Now, yeah, let your let your
husband enjoy that. Yeah. I think that's that's good advice.
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Thank you. Yeah, thanks for calling. I'll try. Thank you. Hi, Alex, Hi,
what's on your mind? Okay? Um, So the thing is
my husband and his sister are really close, but there's
this thing that like keeps happening. So I'll suggest a
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show to him, like a show to watch or a
restaurant to try, and he'll always be like, oh, that's
not for me, or I won't like it, and then
his sister will like tell him about the show or
like name the same restaurant that I already told him about,
and then he'll like, oh, I've never heard of that.
That sounds great. I'll try it right away. And it
just kind of drives me crazy that like he'll value his,
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like her opinion more than mine. And I just don't
know if I'm overreacting or if I'm not. How do
I approach this, because like he'll get protective of his
sister and I just don't know what to do. That's
so funny because I I, my wife and I have
the same sort of conversations about my sister, who you know,
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it's like my best friend and she's two years younger
than me, and My wife always say, why, how come
when Lauren suggests this, you take it to heart and
you overlook it when I when I suggest it, Um,
I think it's you know, it's pretty normal, you know,
the the sibling bond is like something that's unique, and
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his sister probably you know, you know, knows his taste
and they have like a short form communication. But I, yeah,
I wouldn't be jealous of of a sibling relationship because
I know just how how rare the that is. You know,
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to to really have a strong relationship with a with
a sibling, it can only it only be a positive. Um. Well,
I'm I'm gonna only child, so I don't really know
what that's like. But I just think when you're married,
that's like when you choose your family as so shouldn't
my opinion matter more? Now if your opinions being completely overlooked, Yes, absolutely, Um,
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But I I would just I would steer clear of
being trying not to be jealous of your husband's relationship
with his sister because it's no threat to you. Um,
but if he's disregarding you, know, your opinions and your thoughts,
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that's a separate issue. Yeah, it's hard to tell whether
I'm like just taking it personally or or if it's
like valid. I don't know, but you're you're saying it's
something to worry about. Yeah, I think there's there are
two separate issues. I think you need to uh allow
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him his relationship with his sister, which is no threat
to you, and maybe you know he they have similar
tastes and TV or whatever whatever it is. But if
he's if he's disregarding you know, your thoughts and your
opinions on things, that's a separate issue that I would
not attach to any jealousy to his relationship with his sister,
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because you're not gonna look good and there's really no
leg to stand on for that, you know, you know
what I mean, Like, let him have a close relationship
with his sister and then deal with you know, if
he happens to be pushing you aside and your thoughts
and your opinions aside, deal with that on its own. Okay, Yeah,
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I guess I'll try. I'll try to separate the two things.
You got a good luck with it, thank you. I
shall be Hi. What's up? Uh? So my fiance and
I are getting married in December and he won't set
up and help with the planning. Um, my friends think
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that this is like a dream scenario, But I really
need his help and I'm super busy with traveling for work.
And uh we already lost our favorite photographer because he
never sent our deposit, which is really frustrating. So I
guess how do I get him to set up, like
to step up and help. Oh boy, if you do
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start to delegate uh decisions to him, I'm warning you
now it might not be the wedding that you're expecting.
But I understand you need some help with your Your
time is valuable. Do you have family members, mom's, mother
in law's, anyone else that could Yeah? I do, and
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they've been helping too. But I mean, I would like
the person I'm marrying to have a say and to
be part of the you know, the experience, and and
give me some anything, I guess, you know, um, and
not do things like uh, lose the photographer because he
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didn't send the deposit, like the one thing that he did. Um,
and just be a little bit more interested, I guess,
and proactive and in the journey. Yeah, I mean, honestly,
I I've been married for over twenty years. And that
sounds like something I might have done back when I
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was engaged. And it has nothing to do with my
love for my wife or the commitment we're making, or
the profoundness of what you know of what our marriage means.
It's I just didn't really care what the flowers look
like or who was taking the pictures. The guest list
I was very involved with, but like all the details,
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I I was just like, whatever you want, and like
I said, we're still married. And my uh not disinterest,
but my my, my, my lack of concern for all
the details of the actual party had nothing to do
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with my love for my wife longevity of our marriage.
It was really as long as our family and friends
are there with us, I don't care where we are,
Like I'll, you know, we'll we'll say our vows in
front of the people that mean the most to us.
And uh, I'm sorry if I don't care about who's
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the photographer, who what flowers or what meal is being served,
I just, you know, I would leave that up to
my wife. But if I'm just saying it, I wouldn't
make more of it than that, because I'm you know,
married for twenty years and I was pretty disinterested in
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the details of our wedding. Well, I guess that is
inadvertently sweet if you think about it. Yeah, you know,
it's to me, it's like the marriage. You're making a
lifelong commitment, and so much stress and decision making and
time goes into these details of a three hour party. It.
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I don't know, it's just I get it. And I've
been to a lot of what beautiful weddings, and our
wedding was amazing, but and I appreciated all the work
that my wife did, but the important thing to me
was the guest list who was there to witness us
making our vows and then to party and celebrate with us. Uh,
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and what the tables of Like, I just didn't care.
And yeah, you know what I'm saying. Yeah, I get it.
So the solution, um, I guess would be too kind
of just allow my my family and I to plan
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a little bit more. And and I guess I could
ask him as well what parts he does care about
and uh, and kind of go from there. I guess
would be it would be a good way to approach it. Yeah,
I mean, if you present him Okay, here's the table settings,
here's the menu here's here's the band setlist, and then
he perks up on what music is going to be played.
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Maybe he'll jump in and start, you know, jotting down
songs for the band or the DJ. You know, like
there's got to be something that perks his interest. But uh,
I'm sure he's most focused on, you know, the step
that you guys are taking together and that you're surrounded
by people that love you, and that's really to me,
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that's that's what the night is about. Yeah for sure. Okay, Yeah,
so it seems more like a like a more of
a i don't know, like a negotiation, trying to feel
out what he is interested in doing and not kind
of making him do what I think needs to be done. Yeah.
Like I said, if he's a guy that you love
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and you want to commit your life too, don't fight
over play settings or his disinterest in that. It's just
it doesn't make sense, you know, like think of the
bigger picture and is this you know, this is the
man you want to marry. You know, throw things in
his way and give ask his opinion, and if he does,
if he says it's up to you, don't do not
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get in a fight over that, before your wedding. Okay,
well that's great advice. Alright, cool, good luck and congratulations,
thank you so much. I the other how are you
over good? How are you? I am very good, having
a nice hour with this podcast. Awesome. Well, UM, I
would love your advice on something. Um. I it's just
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a little bit of background and started three years old.
And UM, my boyfriend he wants to buy this new
set of golf clubs, which I did not realize how
expensive golf clubs were. Um, this set is costing. Yeah,
I had no idea the set costs around six thousand
dollars and UM, you know, you know it's his money
until I find Um. But we've been together for eight
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years now and I'm just dying for him to propose.
And I just it's been a long time, and I
worry that if he spends you know, that money on
golf clubs, that means that a proposal in the rain
or just even further away for me. Um. And you know,
it's hard because I can't really tell him what to do.
But at the same time, like it's been eight years, um,
and I don't want him to feel pressured. But I
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also don't know how much longer I can wait. Um,
And my my question is how do I how do
I bring this up to him? How do I tell
him that he should put that money towards the ring instead? Wow,
that's a tricky situation. First of all six thousand dollar
golf clubs. Is he a very good golfer? He is
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really really good? Okay, that's kind of things that really
turns me out about him. I just don't know. I
just don't. I didn't. I guess I don't realize how
expensive the sport was. Um, And normally I wouldn't care,
but I would love to have that ring on my finger. Yeah. Okay.
So the first thing is if golf is an outlet
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for him and makes him happy, he's going to be
a better partner for you. So you do get something
out of it, you know. Um? But man, I remember
my wife. I met her in New York and I
lived in l A. We were a long distance for
a year. She moved to l A after a year,
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and then I think after two years of living here,
she asked me when we were getting get engaged, and
I said, well, not anytime soon, and she burst into tears.
And I remember when she kind of let go of
that issue. Within six months, I became ready and proposed,
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but I didn't want her. I didn't want her to
make me buy a ring, you know what I mean? Yeah,
And that's what I worry about because I don't want
to be you know that that girl that's like, you know,
breathing down his neck of you know, when of your proposed.
I want to get married, like he knows I want
to get married. We talk about it. Obviously, we've begn
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for you know, eight years now, um, but you know,
it's been a long time, and I don't know when
it's going to happen. And you know, I just I
worry that if he's putting his money towards that, that
it's just going to be maybe it's just not even
top of mind for him. It might be you might
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be miss misinterpreting it, but I wouldn't. I would separate
the golf clubs from the issue of eight year relationship
and where it's going. Don't don't don't say it's the
golf clubs or me, you know, um, because that, yeah,
that that's gonna convolute everything. But yeah, after eight years together,
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you have every right to tell him what you know,
what you want out of life. And I don't know
if you want to have kids or not or um
start a family, but yeah, those are things that should
be talked about at this point after eight years, and
you have every right to bring it up and just
ask him what he wants, what he wants out of life,
what he wants out of this relationship and uh, and
(30:02):
you know, it's it's getting to the point where you
should start making decisions. And I'll tell you, men put
off decisions like this for as long as they can um,
and they like, they like when it's their decision. So
if there's any way you can softly talk to him
about what you want and what you're ready for, and
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you know, say it. Let's I hope it aligns with
what you want and what you're ready for, and may
maybe even make him think that you're not gonna wait
much longer. But but I wouldn't give ultimatums. I wouldn't.
I wouldn't tie it to his golf clubs and say,
if you buy these golf clubs, it means you're not
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committed to me. I wouldn't. I wouldn't do any of that, Okay,
so yes, and I would just have an honest conversation
with him. I mean, he's you know, he's your friend too, Like,
just talk to him about what you're feeling and say, I,
I don't want to force you into anything. I want
this to be your decision as much as mine. Just
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let me know honestly what you're thinking. Because it's been
eight years. Yeah, yeah, Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna try. How.
I'm really anxious about it because you know, like you said,
it is, it has been a long time, and I
get fearful of what that how that conversation is going
to go. But I know I have to have it. Yeah,
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if you're honest and you're gentle with it, you know,
not like accusatory with ultimatums, it can't go wrong. Okay, Well,
thank you so much, David. I appreciate it. All right, Taylor,
good luck. All right. I want to thank everybody who
called in. There were some really thoughtful questions and discussions.
(31:51):
Um and uh, We're gonna go to a quick break
and then I'll come back and answer some of the
written questions. M h okay, So let's get into some
of these written questions. Wow, uh, really interesting stuff here
(32:15):
when talking about love there is the saying when you know,
you know, do you believe this? What if there is
no specific moment you feel this. That's a really great question.
You know. People talk about love at first sight and
when when I you know, I when I first met
(32:37):
him I knew, or when I first met her, I
just knew that was the woman I was gonna marry.
I don't. I don't believe in that. And I think
that's a lot of pressure to put on young couples
that they're supposed to be blown away by the person
the first time they see them. That's not the start
(32:59):
of any anything lasting or real. To me, Um, I look,
there has to be um an attraction. There has to
be uh things in common conversation. I mean, I remember
speaking to my wife on the phone for hours that
(33:20):
to me, you know, said everything. Um. But my love
for her has grown and grown and grown into you know,
I mean, I'm not only still attracted to her. She's
the coolest girl I know still to this day. But
she's the mother of my kids and she's still parties
(33:42):
the right amount, loves live music and traveling, and like,
we have grown into a much more meaningful love than
anything somebody in like a fairy tale could say was
the first time I saw her? This is what it was?
Is so I I do not believe in that. I
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believe that you have starting points that are important, Like
I said, a physical attraction, things in common. If you
can speak long conversations together and laugh together, there's your
building blocks, and then that can grow into something. Uh
that this this uh person with the question is talking
(34:26):
about when you know you know? No, I think it
grows and grows. So recognize those building blocks, those things
in common, the attraction um and uh, and don't hold
yourself to some you know princess movie where you're supposed
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to be like, you know, shop with a cupid arrow
the second you see someone that doesn't exist in my mind?
What advice do you give your daughter about guys? Oh? Boy?
Do you warn her about anything in today's dating world?
You learn for yourself when you were younger. Who Um,
(35:11):
my oldest daughter, Hannah is she's now a freshman in college.
But she her first boyfriend, uh was I guess the
end of her junior year in high school. And the
boy was kind, respectful, very smart, hard working. Um. I
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I respect my daughter's judgment and if there comes a
time where it strays or I don't I no longer
trust it. I will have to think about this question
more carefully. But I feel like you know, when you
(35:58):
raise a child, you raise them to know a good
person when they see a good person, to have good
judgment when it comes to relationships and friendships. And if
they're going astray, UM, I would have to, you know,
jump in and give my opinion. But uh, I really
(36:21):
trust the woman that she is, and if she likes
a guy, I'm most likely going to like him as well.
To this point, this may change at a later date.
When men are quieter than usual, is this a sign
something is wrong and they are just not telling us?
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M Quiet? Quiet can mean many different things. UM. I
tend to get quiet in in a passive aggressive way
to show my wife that I'm a set and it's terrible.
It's a terrible sort of gaslighting of someone. It's so
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much healthier to just get your issues out there, deal
with them, and move on. Um. But there are also
guys that are just shy. So I don't know if
you're in a if this is a longer term relationship
and a guy who's usually outgoing and friendly suddenly becomes
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quieter than usual. It probably is something he's not telling you. Um,
if it's someone you just started dating and he's just
kind of quiet and shy, I wouldn't read into it
as much. David, what was the hardest part of shooting
into stardom at a young age? How did this affect
your dating life? So? I think being an actor in
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my teens kind of sped up my dating life, if
that makes sense. Because I met my wife when I
was twenty three, and I had been living in l
A since I graduated high school since seventeen, and I
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was by at at age twenty three, I was so
ready to meet like the right kind of girl for me,
you know. Not. I was over flings and whatever comes
with being on a hit show at the time. I
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was over all of it after five or six years
living in l A on my own. So I met
my wife at twenty three, not because I was looking
for marriage or any of that stuff. And I and
I feel grateful that I met my wife at a
time where I wasn't looking for it. I wasn't like
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desperate for it. I met her and just didn't want
to be without her, and I was ready for something
real and I feel like, you know, uh, having success
as an actor at an early age got me to
that point at an early age, which you know has
led to you know, my beautiful family. And I'm I'm
(39:28):
still somewhat of a young dad with kids that uh
that are like my my buddies now. UM, So I
think whatever it's called, shooting into stardom whatever at a
young age kind of spread everything up for me. And
at twenty three, I was ready to really find something,
something meaningful, um, which I'm I'm really grateful for. I
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got like all that stuff out of my system between
seventeen and twenty three. UM, and I've had a really
beautiful relationship with my wife ever since. All Right, you
you beautiful listeners, Thank you so much for for having
me as your guest host on How Men Think. Um.
(40:12):
The questions were incredibly thoughtful, uh and the conversations were
really interesting to me. UM. You can follow me on
Instagram or Twitter at at David Lasher. Um. You could
follow our family at the Lasher family on TikTok, which
(40:33):
is a family account, but my youngest daughter, Chelsea is
the creative mastermind behind our TikTok account. At the Lasher family. UM,
I have a comedy series on a new streaming service
called the Fiicto app. It's called Cruisers and Shakers. And
(40:54):
I have a film that has recently been launched on
Apple TV called Sister, starring Grace Kaufman, who's also in
Apple TV's new movie The Sky Is Everywhere. She's amazing,
So check that out and check Sister out on Apple tv,
and thank you again for having me. This is how
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