February 17, 2022 • 37 mins
It’s the Super Bowl for How Men Think. NFL stud, Rashad Jennings is in the hot seat. He knows the game… football and life!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This
is how Men Thick and I heard radio podcast. Yo, Yo,
what's up everybody? This is just Rashad Jennings. I am
a former NFL running back, season twenty four Dancer with
the Stars champion and New York Time best selling author
in the book title The If in Life. If you
haven't ready to go check it out, I'm happy today
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to be hosting How Men Think. I'm gonna be answering
some questions and try to help you understand exactly that
how Men Think. But first let's get into the eleven questions.
What are you known for? And tell us a little
bit about yourself. What am I known for? It depends
on who you ask. UM, I've from a lot of people.
I'm known for planning in the NFL for eight years,
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for with the Jacksonville Jaguars, one with the Oakland Raiders,
and three with the New York Giants. UM. Some people
may say they know me as a dancer as a
one season twenty four Dancers with the Stars. My partner
was in a slater and we had a all. UM.
Some may know me because I am a New York
Time bestselling author, titled the book title. By the title
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of the book, the if in life to plan words,
we spell out the word life if it's in the middle,
and I went through fifteen chapters exploring how pivotal and
interesting that one word is to the success and failures
of our life. Um some people know me because I'm
philanthropically driven. I have a Rashot Jenny's foundation. We've put
on reading, education and literacy, UM and health and fitness.
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UM so may know me as a good friend. UM
as I try to live with the idea of if
you you should be better off having met me in
life than not if I come across you. My job,
it seems to um be, is to inspire you. And
there's a difference between being inspired and being motivated. Motivated
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is to me, I look at it as a drill sergeant,
that somebody can motivate you to do a hundred push
us because they're physically in your face yelling at you.
But when you're inspired, nobody's around and that person is
still motivating. And that's what that's what an inspiration is.
So I'm known as an inspiration, known as a great son,
I'm known as a I'm known as a goof. I'm
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an auder to that. I'm addicted to learning. I mean,
everyday guy. Nothing especial about me, just a position I'm in. Um,
who are you in your personal life? Uh so? My
personal life legitimately is the same as my known life.
There's no difference legitimately. I think. The only difference between
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and everybody will tell you this, the only difference between
my personal life being when the cameras are not around, right,
and when the cameras are around, is that I will
cuss in my personal life, not maliciously. Is just something
about what I'm on TV. It's to promise that I
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had with my mom that I never well use profanity
and and and on on TV. So any radio show
and podcasts, any TV. I've never been seen in the
last in all of sixteen years of being like a
public figure, I've never that once heard saying the cuts work. Um.
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I think that's the only difference. Everything else is what
you see is what you get. There's a quote that
I live by. No, I take that back. There's a
quote that has written in such a way that and
somebody was to shadow my life. I want to live
a life that would cause them to write these words
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by shadowing, and it's the master and art of living
shows a little distinction between his work and his play,
his labor and his leisure, his love and his religion.
He simply pursues everything he does with excellence, leaving others
to decide is he working or is he playing? But
to him, he's always doing both. And that's how I
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lived my life. Um, three shows you're binge watching? Three
shows that I'm binge watching. You know what I can't
I've stopped watching you You Okay, I really I really
got caught up in you. I think that was a
great show. Um, I did bene watch um all American? Uh.
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Shout out to Spencer He's he was one of my
teammates that based on the True Store. I know the
actual guy himself. We played football together. Um. And Third,
let me see, I don't know, I get. I have
to watch I have to watch all the Bachelor Bachelorettes.
I just do. It's kind of I end not finding
myself having to watch it. U. What is your favorite food?
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That's easy? My favorite food by as far as sushi.
You want to make me happy, give me some sushi
and gluten free cookies and dairy free and we'll have
a good time. Tell us about your career. UM. So
career a getting played in the NFL. UM long journey
to get there started off in high school with a
point six g P a fifth string running back in
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high school football. So it was an unlikely role. No
red carpets over here, no best UM player, five star
rating at all, barely slithered through everything, through the skin
of my teeth with a lot of work ethic, I
had it. It was a one eight in my life.
It was a point where I was lazy and I
took a one. And so my career led me to football, UM,
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which then led me to entrepreneurship, which then led me
to all the many things that I'm doing currently and today,
writing shows, producing, UM executive producing, acting, hosting, TV commentating, writing. UM.
I could just bore you, but my hands are in
a lot UM and I and I always claim myself
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to be a novice. That's something I am at I don't.
I'm not both. I'm not proudful, I'm always willing to learn. UM.
That's part of my career. What's your biggest fear in life?
My biggest fear in life is too not utilize all
my skill sets and talents, And that's a fear, and
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a fear of not telling somebody that I really care
about how I feel about them and then not wake
up the next day. That's another fear. So I try
to do both of those as much as I possibly can,
utilize all my skill set as a prayer that I
have always God, please teach me how to utilize my
skill set and talents UM to bring more people to
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know who you are. So my fear is not doing that. Uh,
what's your biggest pet peeve? My biggest pet peeve? If
it's people that get piste off quick, so annoying? Um?
What makes you the most happy when people don't get
piste off quick? Now? Seriously, what makes me the happiest?
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All I need is good food and good people. I
figured out the rest man. I'm easy. I'm from Forest, Virginia.
I'm a little country boy, grew up around horses, um, farm,
farm land. And you know, this world ain't got too
much to offer me, to be honest with you, it
just don't. But good food, good people makes me happy.
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What is your ideal Saturday morning? Waking up a little
bit late, rolling out of bed, playing with my dog.
I have a German shepherd. Um. Making some waffles and
uh egg whites. Not I probably go with an omelet,
you know, and uh a protein shake, running a mile,
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coming back, showering, exploring a little bit of the day
and let the rest be. I'm I'm it doesn't take
much to you know, to please me. I'm super simple.
It's so I'm so simple that it might it may
be confusing. Um, but yeah, I said, are you more
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of an athlete or an armchair quarterback? I am an athlete,
so I would say I'm more of an athlete than
somebody that is an armchair quarterback. UM. I get my
hands dirty and everything that I do. UM, my own
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my own agent. Um. I'm a rarity in in in
a lot of aspects there where people will say I'm
stupid for doing it. But I represent myself in so
many ways. If anybody sees Rashad Jennings, it's because of
by the hands of the people that I that I
put in place to work directly. Uh for myself. There
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isn't anything signed that isn't approved by me. There isn't
any contract that hasn't been read over a dent by me.
I don't. I don't put my trust in you know,
a whole bunch of people. So, um, I'm definitely an
athlete physically and uh mentally too, so I'm not an armchair.
What keeps you motivated? Look, we talked about, Uh, what
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keeps me motivated is what I am inspired by. We
discussed a little bit earlier as the difference between motivation
and inspiration. Um, I'm inspired, which motivates me? What am
I inspired to do? I'm inspired to lead my family
from the grave. Sounds crazy. I think about death quite often,
and not in a morbid way, but as a matter
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of fact, where we all gonna die. If you can
hear my voice, you're gonna die one day. And I
want to be the leader of for my family from
the grave. And the only way possible to do that
is to be very conscientious of the decisions I make
while I'm here. And um, so that's my inspiration. Is
what keeps me motivated? All right, guys, that was me
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wrapping up eleven questions and we're gonna take a quick
break and come back and answer some questions. Remember you
with for shots in and some men think, ye, hey, Megan,
how are you doing? Hey? Hey, I'm in a little
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bit of a dilemma right now. But how are you.
I'm good, I'm good. Hopefully, uh, hopefully it's not too
bad of a dilemma. Well, so, my boyfriend and I
have been officially dating for only about two months now, um,
but he just got offered a position for his dream
job across the country, and so I'm not sure what
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to do as far as like, it's so early if
we do long distance now, I don't think we're going
to make that work. But is it also too early
for me to offer to move with him? And then
would it be too soon to like move in with him.
I'm just I'm not sure what to do. So I
always tell people I'm not one to tell you what
to do. I will always try to evaluate scenario. So
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y'all have been talking for now too months? You said, Well,
we dated for maybe a couple of months, but we've
been officially like boyfriend girlfriend for two months now, been
exclused to for two months. Yeah. OK. And there is
an opportunity, a dream job for him to move across
the country to chase a dream and has he offered
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you to come along or is that kind of something
that you gotta. I would have to like bring that up.
He hasn't necessarily offered, But I also don't know if
he thinks that. It's like maybe he's too scared to
say come with me because it's too soon. I'll say
this though, as a guy, right, this is how many
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So when I played in the NFL, um there were
I was in a Jackson. Then there was an opportunity
that was gonna arise through free agency, and I had
no idea where I was gonna go. And then through
that free agency again I had no idea why I
was gonna go. So I will say this, it's tough
for a man to invite a woman to travel the
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world with him unless he has given a ring or
a staple commitment to that that this is going to
be my woman. The reason why is because if he brings,
if he has a heart, it's gonna be hard for
him to make that ass because if he brings you
out there and things don't work, he is going to
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feel that weight of responsibility that he has to now
provide or take care of you. Um, and so that
is gonna be tough. So I would suggest to you
truly to bring it, bring up the conversation in a way,
in a merriment. Maybe you' all going out to eat,
and maybe you're you're celebrating him as you're bringing the
conversation of Hey, baby, I'm so excited for you talk
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about it and say so. I know it's early in
our relationship, and you know I'm not trust me. I'm
not putting any pressure. I just want to know what
are your thoughts on long distance relationship, so farth and
so on traveling? What about? I mean, do what can
you can you find? Is there a job in his city?
Um that is applicable to your career as well? Finding
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a way, not to put pressure on him to figure
out the answer, but working it together and you will
hear more of where his heart is. If you put
pressure on him, Odds are he's gonna break because his focus, right,
a man's focus is to build the ship. Then bring
your woman aboard. He's found a career, he's found an
opportunity to build his ship. It sounds like right, So
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until he's built it, until he's there working, knows his schedule,
knows his ins and outs, knows where the grocery store,
like knows his ship. You know, if you will it's
until then it's hard to find a way to bring
the woman aboard when a man is chasing a dream. Absolutely,
I actually wasn't expecting you to say all that, and
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it makes so much sense, and it's making me hopeful
that like we could continue to build it, maybe even
distance forward. You know, absolutely they don't if that that's
the guy, trust me. Um, long distance may suck, but
it will be well worth it and you'll see that
in a couple of months. Yeah, absolutely, thank you, Absolutely,
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I'm here for it. Thanks. Hey, But now the people,
what's on your mind? So I have my eye on
this guy and I really want to catch his attention. Um,
but he's like really into movies, like the history of movies. Um,
is it weird if I like do my research to
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talk to him about movies, Like I just I can't
tell if it's if that's like I catch me enough,
Like will he will he like that? Or do that?
Or do you? Guys usually like I don't know, like
girls that have opposite interests to them, So depending on
the got I mean, everybody likes to add more value
to life. So you bringing in perspective and bringing in perspective,
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maybe he likes outdoors, maybe like indoors, and then it works, right,
But when when it comes to an interest, people love
people that have similarities and interests. So by you listen,
I um, I met uh. This is a funny story, right,
So me meet a girl that likes if I if
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I want to, if I'm interested in a girl, right
and she likes country music and I hate country music,
I would go listen to country music and a few
artists just to be able to find out what are
the popular songs and country what are the what are
the most popular artists in countries, So that way in
a dialogue we have something to relate to. It's gonna
make her happy. Now is that wrong or right? I
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can't tell you, but I'm gonna tell you what it's.
The outcome of that is that you're going to be
more connected. It's smart, and I can tell that you
care if you're already considering studying some it's or buff
acts in order to connect with them. So I would
suggest do it, um and even in a playful way,
you know, to let him know, hey listen, I depending
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depending on the vibe, even telling him that you did
that may even show him that like one of the
most beautiful things. Again, this is how men think. One
of the most attractive things to a man is a
woman's willingness. Like the fact that you're willing to go
to a football game. Nobody's expecting you to understand it,
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you know what I mean. This is a different but
you do great. But the willingness to go, the willingness
just and I'm I'm assuming I can't speak for women,
but I'm assuming it's probably the same for a woman,
Like the willingness to set down and watch a you know,
romantic comedy. The willingness to do it is what's connective
and attractive. So I would say, keep yourself fun, open
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and willing and go study that history. I will thank
you so much. That was very helpful. Have a good one,
take care. And by the way, I like country music.
It's great. Hey, Lisa, how you doing? You want a
hot line or how man? Thank you for Sean Jenens.
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Hey there, Hi, how you doing. I'm amazing, I'm amazing.
What's on your mind? Okay? Well, all right, here's the deal.
My husband, we've been married a long time and he's
been a really good career and um, he's actually it's
kind of exciting he's able to retire at a pretty
young age. And um, there's one thing. Last night he
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was expressing to me that he feels kind of like
a little bit, um, like he's feeling lonely or he's
afraid he's gonna feel kind of lost without his career.
He had a really big career and um, you know,
when he retires, he doesn't know what he's gonna do
with himself, you know what I mean. And so he
was kind of expressing me the sense of loss or
or feeling alone. And and I want to know. I
want to know from you because I think are so great.
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I want to know, um, you know a great smile too.
I want to know, um, what I can do to
help him, like encourage him. I've always been kind of
a supporter and a cheerleader. But you know, I'm just
trying to think of a way, you know, how to
help him in this change in his life. Is there
anything special I could do for him? What do you suggest? Yeah,
I appreciate that, Lisa, And Um, I would say that
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transition in a man's life could be tough. At Tom's,
especially that the career change, Um, a man feels the
innate draw to lead and provide. And I will say
that there is there's respect. Um. A woman's job is
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to respect a man, right and and this is my opinion,
right um. And a man's job is to love a woman. Right.
So those two seemingly are the same, but they have
different intentionalities and details. Um. I would say, if he
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feels the support in respect from you, rightly, I think
naturally it would help him transition. Um. You know, going
from one career to another. It's difficult, and he's going
to have these I maybe even identities of of crisis
of what do I do what I show for how
to approve myself? I am a worthy it's self, not
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even necessarily to you. He might be battling the man
in the mirror, um, for his own proof to himself
that he's a leader in all these things. So I
would just encourage him to um, whatever he brings up
that he wants to do, encourage him to do it
um truly, and in trying not to question him through
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the process, because he When you ask somebody a question
that they do not have the answers to, they get
really piste when they feel they're supposed to answer it, right,
and so like in a relationship, if if you don't,
if you know he doesn't know the answer, don't ask
him because it becomes very frustrating. If if if you
say you're opposed to cook dinner, I'm like, hey, what's
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for dinner? And you don't know what you're gonna cook,
that's when you get frustrated. But if you have a plan, Hey,
well we're gonna cook. I got this. This, this it
feels better. So I tell women, and I suggested women
don't ask a man a question. That's that's sincere if
he doesn't if you don't think he has that plan yet, right,
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you know, I remember one time, um a therapist told me,
you know, when you're suffering, you need to make a plan.
So you're you're really spot on on this. I mean,
I think because without a plan, you you do feel lost, right,
I mean, you know, you feel like you're you have
nowhere to go and what to do, and and you know,
I just I know sometimes I don't want him just
moping around, So I'm gonna try and you know, use
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my enthusiasm that I already have and and to try
to like you know, make things. So I think you
really reagered something me about this having a plan kind
of thing and and helping him find kind of a
way to have a you know, a plan maybe travel
or something like that, you know, or or even write
a book maybe right right, Hey, writing a book is
is therapeutic. And I would also encourage you through that
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transition to um give time. Um. You know, transition is
not one of them things that are very simple. Um.
And it doesn't happen overnight, especially you know, for me,
I told you I played in the NFL for a
total of eight years, but I've been playing since I
was six, and that's pretty much what I want to accomplish.
And when I had to transition, it was easier for
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me because I never thought I was a football player.
I just happened to do it, so it was different
and my identity wasn't in it. Actually into your point
when you said it sounds like something that a counselor said.
I'm actually studied to be a premier to merit the
counselor because I love love. I think it's the best
item of clothing anybody could ever wear. Um. People illuminate
once it's on them. So if I could help people
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wear a love I try, um, and so I do
encourage you to keep the idea of whatever it is
I'm saying or asking him, is it in a respectful way?
And it will help him so much throughout this time,
well at least I look forward to hopefully we'll come
back with some good news. Yes, I'd love to talk
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to you again. All right, take care? Thanks? Bye? Hey Colleen, Hi,
how are you good? How are you good? So you're on?
How man? Think here? We're for shot, Jennis. I want
to see what's on your mind before you actually say anything.
Your name? I had to ask. Somebody told me that
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Colleen is calling? I said, Colleen Calleen is Colleen? Has
have you ever heard that joke? Yes? All right, I
feel better. I feel better. Well, what's on your mind? Um?
So I'm single, but I'm having like a hard time
finding a genuine connect shin. I just feel like really
underwhelmed by the dating apps because no one ever wants
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like follow through and meet in person. You spend like
a few days chatting, but then like nothing, you never
hear from them again. So my question is, um, is
there a way to send a message to get someone
to meet in person without sounding like super desperate. UM
to that, I would say, there isn't a singular message
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because everybody is an individual and things and absorbs the
information different, So it wouldn't be one message that will
work for all. UM. And with that in mind, you
know and I understand, like, so how the dating app works?
It seems that you know it's what's interesting me right
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this second, And it's really it's funny when you look
at the data app. UM, for a lot of guys,
it's about who can you can back with? Not necessarily
who can you get to know? Um, it's it's the
allure is who I connected with her? Let me see
who else I can connect with? Oh I connect with her?
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Let me see who else I can connect with? Oh
I matched with her? Who else can I match with?
That's the fun of the dating app more than it
is Okay, I connected with her, let me get to nohere.
It's odd. It's really an odd thing. And so but
you also can meet people too through it that are
on your same wavelength. UM. But I would consider are
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are there are the guys that you're connecting with? Are
they at least or in the same city? Would it
have to be travel to connect with them, or how
how is that working? Oh, I do people within like
thirty to forty miles from me, so at the most.
But yeah, everyone's pretty much in the same city night,
so you can actually meet them face to face at
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some point. Yeah. Now with that in mind, I would
put that out Have you put that out there that
you have desire to meet them? Yeah? Tell them and
then like they'll be like, oh yeah, I'll text you,
and then you don't hear from them, or they just
they don't even respond. Yeah, that sounds that sounds like
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dating napps, um, because everybody is looking for the next thing,
like and and if Tru watched this, what's funny is
that you know, you think it's just happening to you.
You probably inspired a guy so much that he probably
dissed the other girl. And then what happened is somebody
else inspired him now that he dissed you, and so
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forth and so on. Like if one person only can
be at one place at a time, and all the
connections that they're having, they're dissing more than they are
seeing anyone, right, and so I wouldn't personally, Um, I
would look at if if like if I had a daughter, right,
I would tell I would, I would, I would if
she's on a data mapp, I wouldn't simply say, do
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not expect to connect with anyone. And the reason why
it's because it's it's about what's next? Um And even
on the date there's a lot about well, what can
you do for me? Um? Hm. The genuineness is a
little harder on the dating apps. And this is how
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men think right now. I'm not I don't know how
women think through it, you know, but a guy is
always looking for Okay, what's fun, what's next? Okay? I cool?
I connected with her. Let me screenshot this, show my buddy. Hey,
look look at this. Let me show this group. Hey,
look who I connect with her? Look what she said?
As screenshots all over the place. It's just like it's
just a hey man, I want to show off? Right,
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people Guys make faith accounts just to have fun and
show off. Right. There's there's so much ingenuineness in the
social media world itself. Right, people post on Instagram only
one side of themselves, their best. You know, at least
Instagram shows you what your page says to me, what
you want me to think of you, not who you are,
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but what you want me to think of you, um,
and and it can be misleading from here's what you
want me to think, but here's who you are. It's
two different things, right, So hopefully they hopefully they started
to merge to become the same. But I will say
to answer your question, there isn't one specific thing that
you can say to anybody to make them show up. However,
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as long as you're being up front and very genuine
of letting them know your interests, um, then all I
can say is there is a guy out there that's
going to see it and and have the same desire
that you do. Awesome, Well, thank you. I appreciate that.
It's very helpful. Absolutely absolutely right. Thank you Richards calling them?
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Thanks by Hello, Hello, hey, alectures, how you doing? Hey,
I'm doing okay? How are you good? I love that background?
Where is that up? Palm Springs, California? Nice? Nice? Nice? Nice?
Alexis what's on your mind? Um? So I could just
use your advice. UM. I'm in the mid thirties and
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my friend has a boyfriend who's in his mid twenties.
But he's emotionally mature. He's not like your typical twenty
six year old he's pretty cool, and we went out
in a group and I actually ended up connecting with
one of his friends who is also twenty six years old,
and I'm just kind of hesitant to pursue anything because
he's so young. So I guess my question is, just
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do you think the age really matters when it comes
to a genuine connection. That's a good question when it
comes to age, UM, I don't think age plays the
role as much as it does a pre requence to
the opportunity of experience that person has had. Um, your twenty,
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your thirty, you've had thirty years of an opportunity for experience.
If you're twenty, you've only had twenty years of an
opportunity of experience. So here's the difference is that that
twenty two year old could have taken more experiences, whereas
the thirty year old just had more opportunities for experience.
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So age doesn't equivalate to wisdom. Age doesn't equivalate to
uh experience. It just did. It equivalates to how much
more you have been breathing. So with that being with
that being said, I mean that's just the fact. So
with that being said, I I do not say to
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answer your question specifically, I would not say that the
age equivalates to um the connection or the possibility UM,
but it can play a factor that is true, and
the factor is the experience. So I would throw age
out of the loop and look at maturity and and
how you define a surety because I think we all
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define it differently, but it's based upon what you're wanting
and as desiring, right, um, And what does he does
this person strike you as immature or uh, strike you
as a person that doesn't have a long term goal
or play like you would want in their relationship. No,
not at all. And and if he did feel that way,
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like I wouldn't even consider him in the first place.
And then yeah, so then what you're gonna have to
deal with, right is some of how you're what your
friends think. And this is a lot of things that
I feel like personally that again, it's about how men think, well,
men think this way about women a lot of times
is that y'all are so influenced by your peers, by
your women, by what other women think and what what
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other women are gonna say and what other people are
gonna say, So you have to and and that's a
factor right. If that's true, that's a factor, right. Um,
If it's raining outside and I don't and I feel
like I'm gonna get wet, it's gonna play a factor
if I want to go out. Right, If you feel
that you're going to have to handle all these tough
questions from friends, he's so young, he's still young, and
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anytime he does anything that isn't accurate, you can't use
the excuse that he's young, because everybody makes mistakes. It
ain't about the age, Like you can't just all of
a sudden ten years later now you don't make mistakes anymore.
Um uh, So my my advice would be, well, my
question would be, can you handle your friends poking at
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dating a younger guy? Yeah? I mean the interesting thing
is my friends are dating younger guys, like that's how
it ended up meeting this guy. So I feel like
it's not going to be a problem. Nice. Then then
then I would say, just strictly go off a relationship
of not age, but who they are. How y'all relate
to each other, how y'all connect your chemistry, um, your conversations,
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things that y'all are desired for, um and agreeable rather
than age. M hmm, that's really affirming. Thank you absolutely
absolutely look forward to it in age, ain't not but
the number. That's what Eliah said anyway, Yeah, I agree,
and I'm glad to hear it. For sure. I appreciate it. Well,
thank you for having me absolutely. All Right, guys, So,
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I know some of you have written to her man
thank Instagram handle. So we're gonna take in some of
the written questions while playing in the NFL? Was it
was it hard to find time to date? Were you
worried that everyone was interested in you for the wrong reasons?
And are you dating anyone now? The so first answering
the first question, wasn't hard to find time? Um to
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day in the NFL. I'll retired five years ago while
I was playing, Was it hard to find time? Heck? Yeah, Um,
it's hard to find time to sleep sometimes much less uh,
spending time with an individual world that you do not
know if it has any value towards your day, Like
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twenty four hours in a day when you're chasing the
dream isn't enough so much less do you have time
to grow a relationship um that hasn't already been established?
So when he came, when he came to dating. I
never was a person that was worried with somebody interested
in me for the wrong reasons. Uh far as far
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as an entry, right. I always tell people that when
somebody looks at you and they talked to you, it's
for a reason. It's either because the way you look.
It's either because they've heard about you, um, through friends,
through TV, whatever it may be. Um, they're talking to
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you because they have physical thoughts, emotional thoughts, right, spiritual thoughts,
some kind of idea is the initial engagement. Maybe they
have money, um, maybe they have status. That doesn't bother me.
What bothers me is after about three hours of talking
to me, if the reason still is that you're attracted
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to me or want to talk to me because of
my status or because of my looks, of because of
whatever it is. Now, I have a problem because I'm
so much more than that, you know. And so I
if I see a pretty girl, I can't help them.
My eyeballs work, you know. I hope she's not offended
because I'm attracted to her because she looks good, but
I respect her being offended after three hours, if the
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only thing I'm interested in still, it's just because of
her looks. So you can't help the initial attraction. Um
and um, so I will, I will, which then opens
me up to to have been dating anybody? You know?
And because I like to get to know people. And
are you dating anyone? Now? I always say define dating? Um,
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but my answer but yes? Uh? What is it says?
How important is it two guys to have a girlfriend
that like sports? Is it a deal breaker some guys? Yeah,
some guys know. I'm not a deal breaker with that one. Um.
I don't really care if you like sports or not.
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It's again, it goes back to the willingness to even
go to a Super Bowl party or go to a
World Series game, or the willingness to actually be around
that environment. That's what it's about. It's not you don't
have to know the x's and ohs or baselines and
rules of the game, uh, soccer or whatever it may be.
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I'm more interested in just experiencing the connection in different environments,
and those are sports as well as music, um, as
well as TV, as well as et cetera, hiking, you
name it. The willingness is what it's all about for me.
How did it win? In Season twenty four dance with
the Stars change your life? Did you and neck right
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away with your partner and a slater? Um? Yeah, me
and me and my partner connected right away. She's uh,
she's she's outgoing. I'm out going, and you've got two
people that's trying to learn how to dance. So it
was just an easy, easy, breezy entire relationship for six months,
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six months to win a dance with the stars. That
was a blast. Um is a turnoff two men? Oh wait,
is it a turnoff to man if a woman doesn't
know how to dance or have horrible rhythm? No, it's
not a turn off to man. If a woman does
not know how to dance, it's a turnoff to men
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if a woman is unwilling to dance. I'm telling you
how men think. It goes down to a lot more
willingness than perfection, and hopefully women can start to understand that. Um,
nobody's looking for perfection, They're looking for willingness. When that
concludes how men think. By Rashad Jennis. I appreciate you'all
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tuning in. Y'all can find me on all social media
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what's up everybody? This is just Rashad Jennings. I am
a former NFL running back, season twenty four Dancer with
the Stars champion and New York Time best selling author
in the book title The If in Life. If you
haven't ready to go check it out, I'm happy today
(00:23):
to be hosting How Men Think. I'm gonna be answering
some questions and try to help you understand exactly that
how Men Think. But first let's get into the eleven questions.
What are you known for? And tell us a little
bit about yourself. What am I known for? It depends
on who you ask. UM, I've from a lot of people.
I'm known for planning in the NFL for eight years,
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for with the Jacksonville Jaguars, one with the Oakland Raiders,
and three with the New York Giants. UM. Some people
may say they know me as a dancer as a
one season twenty four Dancers with the Stars. My partner
was in a slater and we had a all. UM.
Some may know me because I am a New York
Time bestselling author, titled the book title. By the title
(01:07):
of the book, the if in life to plan words,
we spell out the word life if it's in the middle,
and I went through fifteen chapters exploring how pivotal and
interesting that one word is to the success and failures
of our life. Um some people know me because I'm
philanthropically driven. I have a Rashot Jenny's foundation. We've put
on reading, education and literacy, UM and health and fitness.
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UM so may know me as a good friend. UM
as I try to live with the idea of if
you you should be better off having met me in
life than not if I come across you. My job,
it seems to um be, is to inspire you. And
there's a difference between being inspired and being motivated. Motivated
(01:53):
is to me, I look at it as a drill sergeant,
that somebody can motivate you to do a hundred push
us because they're physically in your face yelling at you.
But when you're inspired, nobody's around and that person is
still motivating. And that's what that's what an inspiration is.
So I'm known as an inspiration, known as a great son,
I'm known as a I'm known as a goof. I'm
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an auder to that. I'm addicted to learning. I mean,
everyday guy. Nothing especial about me, just a position I'm in. Um,
who are you in your personal life? Uh so? My
personal life legitimately is the same as my known life.
There's no difference legitimately. I think. The only difference between
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and everybody will tell you this, the only difference between
my personal life being when the cameras are not around, right,
and when the cameras are around, is that I will
cuss in my personal life, not maliciously. Is just something
about what I'm on TV. It's to promise that I
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had with my mom that I never well use profanity
and and and on on TV. So any radio show
and podcasts, any TV. I've never been seen in the
last in all of sixteen years of being like a
public figure, I've never that once heard saying the cuts work. Um.
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I think that's the only difference. Everything else is what
you see is what you get. There's a quote that
I live by. No, I take that back. There's a
quote that has written in such a way that and
somebody was to shadow my life. I want to live
a life that would cause them to write these words
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by shadowing, and it's the master and art of living
shows a little distinction between his work and his play,
his labor and his leisure, his love and his religion.
He simply pursues everything he does with excellence, leaving others
to decide is he working or is he playing? But
to him, he's always doing both. And that's how I
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lived my life. Um, three shows you're binge watching? Three
shows that I'm binge watching. You know what I can't
I've stopped watching you You Okay, I really I really
got caught up in you. I think that was a
great show. Um, I did bene watch um all American? Uh.
(04:26):
Shout out to Spencer He's he was one of my
teammates that based on the True Store. I know the
actual guy himself. We played football together. Um. And Third,
let me see, I don't know, I get. I have
to watch I have to watch all the Bachelor Bachelorettes.
I just do. It's kind of I end not finding
myself having to watch it. U. What is your favorite food?
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That's easy? My favorite food by as far as sushi.
You want to make me happy, give me some sushi
and gluten free cookies and dairy free and we'll have
a good time. Tell us about your career. UM. So
career a getting played in the NFL. UM long journey
to get there started off in high school with a
point six g P a fifth string running back in
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high school football. So it was an unlikely role. No
red carpets over here, no best UM player, five star
rating at all, barely slithered through everything, through the skin
of my teeth with a lot of work ethic, I
had it. It was a one eight in my life.
It was a point where I was lazy and I
took a one. And so my career led me to football, UM,
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which then led me to entrepreneurship, which then led me
to all the many things that I'm doing currently and today,
writing shows, producing, UM executive producing, acting, hosting, TV commentating, writing. UM.
I could just bore you, but my hands are in
a lot UM and I and I always claim myself
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to be a novice. That's something I am at I don't.
I'm not both. I'm not proudful, I'm always willing to learn. UM.
That's part of my career. What's your biggest fear in life?
My biggest fear in life is too not utilize all
my skill sets and talents, And that's a fear, and
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a fear of not telling somebody that I really care
about how I feel about them and then not wake
up the next day. That's another fear. So I try
to do both of those as much as I possibly can,
utilize all my skill set as a prayer that I
have always God, please teach me how to utilize my
skill set and talents UM to bring more people to
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know who you are. So my fear is not doing that. Uh,
what's your biggest pet peeve? My biggest pet peeve? If
it's people that get piste off quick, so annoying? Um?
What makes you the most happy when people don't get
piste off quick? Now? Seriously, what makes me the happiest?
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All I need is good food and good people. I
figured out the rest man. I'm easy. I'm from Forest, Virginia.
I'm a little country boy, grew up around horses, um, farm,
farm land. And you know, this world ain't got too
much to offer me, to be honest with you, it
just don't. But good food, good people makes me happy.
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What is your ideal Saturday morning? Waking up a little
bit late, rolling out of bed, playing with my dog.
I have a German shepherd. Um. Making some waffles and
uh egg whites. Not I probably go with an omelet,
you know, and uh a protein shake, running a mile,
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coming back, showering, exploring a little bit of the day
and let the rest be. I'm I'm it doesn't take
much to you know, to please me. I'm super simple.
It's so I'm so simple that it might it may
be confusing. Um, but yeah, I said, are you more
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of an athlete or an armchair quarterback? I am an athlete,
so I would say I'm more of an athlete than
somebody that is an armchair quarterback. UM. I get my
hands dirty and everything that I do. UM, my own
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my own agent. Um. I'm a rarity in in in
a lot of aspects there where people will say I'm
stupid for doing it. But I represent myself in so
many ways. If anybody sees Rashad Jennings, it's because of
by the hands of the people that I that I
put in place to work directly. Uh for myself. There
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isn't anything signed that isn't approved by me. There isn't
any contract that hasn't been read over a dent by me.
I don't. I don't put my trust in you know,
a whole bunch of people. So, um, I'm definitely an
athlete physically and uh mentally too, so I'm not an armchair.
What keeps you motivated? Look, we talked about, Uh, what
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keeps me motivated is what I am inspired by. We
discussed a little bit earlier as the difference between motivation
and inspiration. Um, I'm inspired, which motivates me? What am
I inspired to do? I'm inspired to lead my family
from the grave. Sounds crazy. I think about death quite often,
and not in a morbid way, but as a matter
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of fact, where we all gonna die. If you can
hear my voice, you're gonna die one day. And I
want to be the leader of for my family from
the grave. And the only way possible to do that
is to be very conscientious of the decisions I make
while I'm here. And um, so that's my inspiration. Is
what keeps me motivated? All right, guys, that was me
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wrapping up eleven questions and we're gonna take a quick
break and come back and answer some questions. Remember you
with for shots in and some men think, ye, hey, Megan,
how are you doing? Hey? Hey, I'm in a little
(10:28):
bit of a dilemma right now. But how are you.
I'm good, I'm good. Hopefully, uh, hopefully it's not too
bad of a dilemma. Well, so, my boyfriend and I
have been officially dating for only about two months now, um,
but he just got offered a position for his dream
job across the country, and so I'm not sure what
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to do as far as like, it's so early if
we do long distance now, I don't think we're going
to make that work. But is it also too early
for me to offer to move with him? And then
would it be too soon to like move in with him.
I'm just I'm not sure what to do. So I
always tell people I'm not one to tell you what
to do. I will always try to evaluate scenario. So
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y'all have been talking for now too months? You said, Well,
we dated for maybe a couple of months, but we've
been officially like boyfriend girlfriend for two months now, been
exclused to for two months. Yeah. OK. And there is
an opportunity, a dream job for him to move across
the country to chase a dream and has he offered
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you to come along or is that kind of something
that you gotta. I would have to like bring that up.
He hasn't necessarily offered, But I also don't know if
he thinks that. It's like maybe he's too scared to
say come with me because it's too soon. I'll say
this though, as a guy, right, this is how many
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So when I played in the NFL, um there were
I was in a Jackson. Then there was an opportunity
that was gonna arise through free agency, and I had
no idea where I was gonna go. And then through
that free agency again I had no idea why I
was gonna go. So I will say this, it's tough
for a man to invite a woman to travel the
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world with him unless he has given a ring or
a staple commitment to that that this is going to
be my woman. The reason why is because if he brings,
if he has a heart, it's gonna be hard for
him to make that ass because if he brings you
out there and things don't work, he is going to
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feel that weight of responsibility that he has to now
provide or take care of you. Um, and so that
is gonna be tough. So I would suggest to you
truly to bring it, bring up the conversation in a way,
in a merriment. Maybe you' all going out to eat,
and maybe you're you're celebrating him as you're bringing the
conversation of Hey, baby, I'm so excited for you talk
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about it and say so. I know it's early in
our relationship, and you know I'm not trust me. I'm
not putting any pressure. I just want to know what
are your thoughts on long distance relationship, so farth and
so on traveling? What about? I mean, do what can
you can you find? Is there a job in his city?
Um that is applicable to your career as well? Finding
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a way, not to put pressure on him to figure
out the answer, but working it together and you will
hear more of where his heart is. If you put
pressure on him, Odds are he's gonna break because his focus, right,
a man's focus is to build the ship. Then bring
your woman aboard. He's found a career, he's found an
opportunity to build his ship. It sounds like right, So
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until he's built it, until he's there working, knows his schedule,
knows his ins and outs, knows where the grocery store,
like knows his ship. You know, if you will it's
until then it's hard to find a way to bring
the woman aboard when a man is chasing a dream. Absolutely,
I actually wasn't expecting you to say all that, and
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it makes so much sense, and it's making me hopeful
that like we could continue to build it, maybe even
distance forward. You know, absolutely they don't if that that's
the guy, trust me. Um, long distance may suck, but
it will be well worth it and you'll see that
in a couple of months. Yeah, absolutely, thank you, Absolutely,
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I'm here for it. Thanks. Hey, But now the people,
what's on your mind? So I have my eye on
this guy and I really want to catch his attention. Um,
but he's like really into movies, like the history of movies. Um,
is it weird if I like do my research to
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talk to him about movies, Like I just I can't
tell if it's if that's like I catch me enough,
Like will he will he like that? Or do that?
Or do you? Guys usually like I don't know, like
girls that have opposite interests to them, So depending on
the got I mean, everybody likes to add more value
to life. So you bringing in perspective and bringing in perspective,
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maybe he likes outdoors, maybe like indoors, and then it works, right,
But when when it comes to an interest, people love
people that have similarities and interests. So by you listen,
I um, I met uh. This is a funny story, right,
So me meet a girl that likes if I if
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I want to, if I'm interested in a girl, right
and she likes country music and I hate country music,
I would go listen to country music and a few
artists just to be able to find out what are
the popular songs and country what are the what are
the most popular artists in countries, So that way in
a dialogue we have something to relate to. It's gonna
make her happy. Now is that wrong or right? I
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can't tell you, but I'm gonna tell you what it's.
The outcome of that is that you're going to be
more connected. It's smart, and I can tell that you
care if you're already considering studying some it's or buff
acts in order to connect with them. So I would
suggest do it, um and even in a playful way,
you know, to let him know, hey listen, I depending
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depending on the vibe, even telling him that you did
that may even show him that like one of the
most beautiful things. Again, this is how men think. One
of the most attractive things to a man is a
woman's willingness. Like the fact that you're willing to go
to a football game. Nobody's expecting you to understand it,
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you know what I mean. This is a different but
you do great. But the willingness to go, the willingness
just and I'm I'm assuming I can't speak for women,
but I'm assuming it's probably the same for a woman,
Like the willingness to set down and watch a you know,
romantic comedy. The willingness to do it is what's connective
and attractive. So I would say, keep yourself fun, open
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and willing and go study that history. I will thank
you so much. That was very helpful. Have a good one,
take care. And by the way, I like country music.
It's great. Hey, Lisa, how you doing? You want a
hot line or how man? Thank you for Sean Jenens.
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Hey there, Hi, how you doing. I'm amazing, I'm amazing.
What's on your mind? Okay? Well, all right, here's the deal.
My husband, we've been married a long time and he's
been a really good career and um, he's actually it's
kind of exciting he's able to retire at a pretty
young age. And um, there's one thing. Last night he
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was expressing to me that he feels kind of like
a little bit, um, like he's feeling lonely or he's
afraid he's gonna feel kind of lost without his career.
He had a really big career and um, you know,
when he retires, he doesn't know what he's gonna do
with himself, you know what I mean. And so he
was kind of expressing me the sense of loss or
or feeling alone. And and I want to know. I
want to know from you because I think are so great.
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I want to know, um, you know a great smile too.
I want to know, um, what I can do to
help him, like encourage him. I've always been kind of
a supporter and a cheerleader. But you know, I'm just
trying to think of a way, you know, how to
help him in this change in his life. Is there
anything special I could do for him? What do you suggest? Yeah,
I appreciate that, Lisa, And Um, I would say that
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transition in a man's life could be tough. At Tom's,
especially that the career change, Um, a man feels the
innate draw to lead and provide. And I will say
that there is there's respect. Um. A woman's job is
(18:45):
to respect a man, right and and this is my opinion,
right um. And a man's job is to love a woman. Right.
So those two seemingly are the same, but they have
different intentionalities and details. Um. I would say, if he
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feels the support in respect from you, rightly, I think
naturally it would help him transition. Um. You know, going
from one career to another. It's difficult, and he's going
to have these I maybe even identities of of crisis
of what do I do what I show for how
to approve myself? I am a worthy it's self, not
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even necessarily to you. He might be battling the man
in the mirror, um, for his own proof to himself
that he's a leader in all these things. So I
would just encourage him to um, whatever he brings up
that he wants to do, encourage him to do it
um truly, and in trying not to question him through
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the process, because he When you ask somebody a question
that they do not have the answers to, they get
really piste when they feel they're supposed to answer it, right,
and so like in a relationship, if if you don't,
if you know he doesn't know the answer, don't ask
him because it becomes very frustrating. If if if you
say you're opposed to cook dinner, I'm like, hey, what's
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for dinner? And you don't know what you're gonna cook,
that's when you get frustrated. But if you have a plan, Hey,
well we're gonna cook. I got this. This, this it
feels better. So I tell women, and I suggested women
don't ask a man a question. That's that's sincere if
he doesn't if you don't think he has that plan yet, right,
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you know, I remember one time, um a therapist told me,
you know, when you're suffering, you need to make a plan.
So you're you're really spot on on this. I mean,
I think because without a plan, you you do feel lost, right,
I mean, you know, you feel like you're you have
nowhere to go and what to do, and and you know,
I just I know sometimes I don't want him just
moping around, So I'm gonna try and you know, use
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my enthusiasm that I already have and and to try
to like you know, make things. So I think you
really reagered something me about this having a plan kind
of thing and and helping him find kind of a
way to have a you know, a plan maybe travel
or something like that, you know, or or even write
a book maybe right right, Hey, writing a book is
is therapeutic. And I would also encourage you through that
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transition to um give time. Um. You know, transition is
not one of them things that are very simple. Um.
And it doesn't happen overnight, especially you know, for me,
I told you I played in the NFL for a
total of eight years, but I've been playing since I
was six, and that's pretty much what I want to accomplish.
And when I had to transition, it was easier for
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me because I never thought I was a football player.
I just happened to do it, so it was different
and my identity wasn't in it. Actually into your point
when you said it sounds like something that a counselor said.
I'm actually studied to be a premier to merit the
counselor because I love love. I think it's the best
item of clothing anybody could ever wear. Um. People illuminate
once it's on them. So if I could help people
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wear a love I try, um, and so I do
encourage you to keep the idea of whatever it is
I'm saying or asking him, is it in a respectful way?
And it will help him so much throughout this time,
well at least I look forward to hopefully we'll come
back with some good news. Yes, I'd love to talk
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to you again. All right, take care? Thanks? Bye? Hey Colleen, Hi,
how are you good? How are you good? So you're on?
How man? Think here? We're for shot, Jennis. I want
to see what's on your mind before you actually say anything.
Your name? I had to ask. Somebody told me that
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Colleen is calling? I said, Colleen Calleen is Colleen? Has
have you ever heard that joke? Yes? All right, I
feel better. I feel better. Well, what's on your mind? Um?
So I'm single, but I'm having like a hard time
finding a genuine connect shin. I just feel like really
underwhelmed by the dating apps because no one ever wants
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like follow through and meet in person. You spend like
a few days chatting, but then like nothing, you never
hear from them again. So my question is, um, is
there a way to send a message to get someone
to meet in person without sounding like super desperate. UM
to that, I would say, there isn't a singular message
(23:28):
because everybody is an individual and things and absorbs the
information different, So it wouldn't be one message that will
work for all. UM. And with that in mind, you
know and I understand, like, so how the dating app works?
It seems that you know it's what's interesting me right
(23:50):
this second, And it's really it's funny when you look
at the data app. UM, for a lot of guys,
it's about who can you can back with? Not necessarily
who can you get to know? Um, it's it's the
allure is who I connected with her? Let me see
who else I can connect with? Oh I connect with her?
(24:11):
Let me see who else I can connect with? Oh
I matched with her? Who else can I match with?
That's the fun of the dating app more than it
is Okay, I connected with her, let me get to nohere.
It's odd. It's really an odd thing. And so but
you also can meet people too through it that are
on your same wavelength. UM. But I would consider are
(24:33):
are there are the guys that you're connecting with? Are
they at least or in the same city? Would it
have to be travel to connect with them, or how
how is that working? Oh, I do people within like
thirty to forty miles from me, so at the most.
But yeah, everyone's pretty much in the same city night,
so you can actually meet them face to face at
(24:53):
some point. Yeah. Now with that in mind, I would
put that out Have you put that out there that
you have desire to meet them? Yeah? Tell them and
then like they'll be like, oh yeah, I'll text you,
and then you don't hear from them, or they just
they don't even respond. Yeah, that sounds that sounds like
(25:14):
dating napps, um, because everybody is looking for the next thing,
like and and if Tru watched this, what's funny is
that you know, you think it's just happening to you.
You probably inspired a guy so much that he probably
dissed the other girl. And then what happened is somebody
else inspired him now that he dissed you, and so
(25:36):
forth and so on. Like if one person only can
be at one place at a time, and all the
connections that they're having, they're dissing more than they are
seeing anyone, right, and so I wouldn't personally, Um, I
would look at if if like if I had a daughter, right,
I would tell I would, I would, I would if
she's on a data mapp, I wouldn't simply say, do
(25:58):
not expect to connect with anyone. And the reason why
it's because it's it's about what's next? Um And even
on the date there's a lot about well, what can
you do for me? Um? Hm. The genuineness is a
little harder on the dating apps. And this is how
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men think right now. I'm not I don't know how
women think through it, you know, but a guy is
always looking for Okay, what's fun, what's next? Okay? I cool?
I connected with her. Let me screenshot this, show my buddy. Hey,
look look at this. Let me show this group. Hey,
look who I connect with her? Look what she said?
As screenshots all over the place. It's just like it's
just a hey man, I want to show off? Right,
(26:40):
people Guys make faith accounts just to have fun and
show off. Right. There's there's so much ingenuineness in the
social media world itself. Right, people post on Instagram only
one side of themselves, their best. You know, at least
Instagram shows you what your page says to me, what
you want me to think of you, not who you are,
(27:03):
but what you want me to think of you, um,
and and it can be misleading from here's what you
want me to think, but here's who you are. It's
two different things, right, So hopefully they hopefully they started
to merge to become the same. But I will say
to answer your question, there isn't one specific thing that
you can say to anybody to make them show up. However,
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as long as you're being up front and very genuine
of letting them know your interests, um, then all I
can say is there is a guy out there that's
going to see it and and have the same desire
that you do. Awesome, Well, thank you. I appreciate that.
It's very helpful. Absolutely absolutely right. Thank you Richards calling them?
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Thanks by Hello, Hello, hey, alectures, how you doing? Hey,
I'm doing okay? How are you good? I love that background?
Where is that up? Palm Springs, California? Nice? Nice? Nice? Nice?
Alexis what's on your mind? Um? So I could just
use your advice. UM. I'm in the mid thirties and
(28:11):
my friend has a boyfriend who's in his mid twenties.
But he's emotionally mature. He's not like your typical twenty
six year old he's pretty cool, and we went out
in a group and I actually ended up connecting with
one of his friends who is also twenty six years old,
and I'm just kind of hesitant to pursue anything because
he's so young. So I guess my question is, just
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do you think the age really matters when it comes
to a genuine connection. That's a good question when it
comes to age, UM, I don't think age plays the
role as much as it does a pre requence to
the opportunity of experience that person has had. Um, your twenty,
(28:58):
your thirty, you've had thirty years of an opportunity for experience.
If you're twenty, you've only had twenty years of an
opportunity of experience. So here's the difference is that that
twenty two year old could have taken more experiences, whereas
the thirty year old just had more opportunities for experience.
(29:18):
So age doesn't equivalate to wisdom. Age doesn't equivalate to
uh experience. It just did. It equivalates to how much
more you have been breathing. So with that being with
that being said, I mean that's just the fact. So
with that being said, I I do not say to
(29:40):
answer your question specifically, I would not say that the
age equivalates to um the connection or the possibility UM,
but it can play a factor that is true, and
the factor is the experience. So I would throw age
out of the loop and look at maturity and and
how you define a surety because I think we all
(30:01):
define it differently, but it's based upon what you're wanting
and as desiring, right, um, And what does he does
this person strike you as immature or uh, strike you
as a person that doesn't have a long term goal
or play like you would want in their relationship. No,
not at all. And and if he did feel that way,
(30:21):
like I wouldn't even consider him in the first place.
And then yeah, so then what you're gonna have to
deal with, right is some of how you're what your
friends think. And this is a lot of things that
I feel like personally that again, it's about how men think, well,
men think this way about women a lot of times
is that y'all are so influenced by your peers, by
your women, by what other women think and what what
(30:44):
other women are gonna say and what other people are
gonna say, So you have to and and that's a
factor right. If that's true, that's a factor, right. Um,
If it's raining outside and I don't and I feel
like I'm gonna get wet, it's gonna play a factor
if I want to go out. Right, If you feel
that you're going to have to handle all these tough
questions from friends, he's so young, he's still young, and
(31:06):
anytime he does anything that isn't accurate, you can't use
the excuse that he's young, because everybody makes mistakes. It
ain't about the age, Like you can't just all of
a sudden ten years later now you don't make mistakes anymore.
Um uh, So my my advice would be, well, my
question would be, can you handle your friends poking at
(31:30):
dating a younger guy? Yeah? I mean the interesting thing
is my friends are dating younger guys, like that's how
it ended up meeting this guy. So I feel like
it's not going to be a problem. Nice. Then then
then I would say, just strictly go off a relationship
of not age, but who they are. How y'all relate
to each other, how y'all connect your chemistry, um, your conversations,
(31:52):
things that y'all are desired for, um and agreeable rather
than age. M hmm, that's really affirming. Thank you absolutely
absolutely look forward to it in age, ain't not but
the number. That's what Eliah said anyway, Yeah, I agree,
and I'm glad to hear it. For sure. I appreciate it. Well,
thank you for having me absolutely. All Right, guys, So,
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I know some of you have written to her man
thank Instagram handle. So we're gonna take in some of
the written questions while playing in the NFL? Was it
was it hard to find time to date? Were you
worried that everyone was interested in you for the wrong reasons?
And are you dating anyone now? The so first answering
the first question, wasn't hard to find time? Um to
(32:46):
day in the NFL. I'll retired five years ago while
I was playing, Was it hard to find time? Heck? Yeah, Um,
it's hard to find time to sleep sometimes much less uh,
spending time with an individual world that you do not
know if it has any value towards your day, Like
(33:07):
twenty four hours in a day when you're chasing the
dream isn't enough so much less do you have time
to grow a relationship um that hasn't already been established?
So when he came, when he came to dating. I
never was a person that was worried with somebody interested
in me for the wrong reasons. Uh far as far
(33:29):
as an entry, right. I always tell people that when
somebody looks at you and they talked to you, it's
for a reason. It's either because the way you look.
It's either because they've heard about you, um, through friends,
through TV, whatever it may be. Um, they're talking to
(33:50):
you because they have physical thoughts, emotional thoughts, right, spiritual thoughts,
some kind of idea is the initial engagement. Maybe they
have money, um, maybe they have status. That doesn't bother me.
What bothers me is after about three hours of talking
to me, if the reason still is that you're attracted
(34:15):
to me or want to talk to me because of
my status or because of my looks, of because of
whatever it is. Now, I have a problem because I'm
so much more than that, you know. And so I
if I see a pretty girl, I can't help them.
My eyeballs work, you know. I hope she's not offended
because I'm attracted to her because she looks good, but
I respect her being offended after three hours, if the
(34:35):
only thing I'm interested in still, it's just because of
her looks. So you can't help the initial attraction. Um
and um, so I will, I will, which then opens
me up to to have been dating anybody? You know?
And because I like to get to know people. And
are you dating anyone? Now? I always say define dating? Um,
(34:57):
but my answer but yes? Uh? What is it says?
How important is it two guys to have a girlfriend
that like sports? Is it a deal breaker some guys? Yeah,
some guys know. I'm not a deal breaker with that one. Um.
I don't really care if you like sports or not.
(35:18):
It's again, it goes back to the willingness to even
go to a Super Bowl party or go to a
World Series game, or the willingness to actually be around
that environment. That's what it's about. It's not you don't
have to know the x's and ohs or baselines and
rules of the game, uh, soccer or whatever it may be.
(35:38):
I'm more interested in just experiencing the connection in different environments,
and those are sports as well as music, um, as
well as TV, as well as et cetera, hiking, you
name it. The willingness is what it's all about for me.
How did it win? In Season twenty four dance with
the Stars change your life? Did you and neck right
(36:00):
away with your partner and a slater? Um? Yeah, me
and me and my partner connected right away. She's uh,
she's she's outgoing. I'm out going, and you've got two
people that's trying to learn how to dance. So it
was just an easy, easy, breezy entire relationship for six months,
(36:20):
six months to win a dance with the stars. That
was a blast. Um is a turnoff two men? Oh wait,
is it a turnoff to man if a woman doesn't
know how to dance or have horrible rhythm? No, it's
not a turn off to man. If a woman does
not know how to dance, it's a turnoff to men
(36:42):
if a woman is unwilling to dance. I'm telling you
how men think. It goes down to a lot more
willingness than perfection, and hopefully women can start to understand that. Um,
nobody's looking for perfection, They're looking for willingness. When that
concludes how men think. By Rashad Jennis. I appreciate you'all
(37:03):
tuning in. Y'all can find me on all social media
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