August 3, 2022 • 35 mins
Have you ever wondered:
- Who (or what?) is your baby smiling at, especially when they sleep?
- Are orbs always spirits, and if not, how can you tell the difference?
- What happens when a baby's spirit is released in utero or shortly post-birth
- How does growing up with a non-biological family impact your earth-school experience?
- What's the most accessible way to meditate upon these questions and more?
Today we answer our listeners' questions above, which all center around the theme of family.
You'll discover why children can see and feel spirits without even trying, how pre-birth contracts apply to every birthing choice, and why meditation is such a powerful yet gentle tool to help you navigate your family situation. As always, we are forever thankful and inspired by the questions you—our Other Side family—send us.
Because Earth School is hard without the loving touch and guidance from our Spirit and Earth-bound family.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Insider's Guide to the Other Side, a production
of My Heart Radio. Hi y'all, I'm Julie. Hi there,
I'm Brenda. Welcome to Insider's Guide to the Other Side.
Now you all need to know that we are obsessed
with everything on the other side. Yes we are, because
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once you learn to navigate the energetic, or to some
the invisible world, life is going to be more fun
and much more serene. Heck, yes it can, because let's
be honest, Brian, Earth school is hard. In fact, you
taught me that let's crush Earth School together. Well, hello,
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my witchy pooh. We have some listeners that want to
hear from mainly you. I'm not sure that's true, but hello,
my dear alf, how are you do great? Thank you?
Are you usually doing great? I have that days, don't
get me wrong, but I'm usually doing well. I did
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start a new zombie show. I will say, I'm getting
ready for the apocalypse. That's all I'm going to tell
you. You You know, our friend Carry is just gonna be
so happy to hear that. That's one of her jams. Oh,
i'm um, I love Walking Dead. I've already made it
through all eleven seasons, um, and I started one not
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as good, but it's interesting and it's called um oh shit,
it's called and it's another zombie one by the way,
with like I didn't that funny came to what's called now?
It ran on USA Network for a while, and so
I'm watching it on Netflix. And so I have another
zombie show, which I really like my zombie shows. No
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matter what's happening in the world, what's it, what's the
baddest things may feel in the world, what's happening on
the screen, And a post apocalyptic zombie world is work.
Good to know it has served its purpose. Hilarious. Okay,
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So I'm great because I love zombies. Um today, well
we have questions from our listeners. I have to tell
you I would do these episodes every single day, like
you're so fun. I really do. I love them so
much because I mean, not for nothing, and really encourage
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y'all keep sending stuff to us. How whatever method you
want to smoke signal it so empathetically if you got it,
whatever it takes, because you ask stuff that we don't
always think about. And let me tell you, for a
long time with Brenda, I'm her pedestrian. It's like people
love to hear about this X, Y and Z subject.
She's like, really what and we need people to say
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what's on your mind? What do you want to know?
And we'll do our best, so you bring it. It's awesome,
Oh my god, the best, the best like notes ever. Okay,
so are you ready to start with number one? You
got it has nothing to do with zombies, unfortunately, asking
the zombie questions so I can ask Brenda the answer,
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but yes you can, please, I think it's possible. But um,
so this is from Janet. We love Janet. Um She says, Hi, well,
hi back, sister. I have questions for the next podcast.
She says. My seven week old smiles at space and
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I'm sure it's either my dad or grandma. Okay, I
love that seven week old right, so beautiful, She adds.
When I see activity in her room, it's just orbs
and what form do they present themselves? Question mark? Is
it full sixth cents? Question mark? Funny? Orbs? Question mark?
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I also felt a hand on my back that let
me know we're here for you on one of the
worst nights. I love that you. I'm gonna keep going
to question and we'll go back to the so okay,
and then she adds, also, do they talk about how
cool it is to fly? Okay, Janet, I love you
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so much. I agree, by the way, totally. I want
to know those things when it's like yeah, because flying
is great because she knows how. She knows how to
make herself invisible. She knows how to make herself fly.
Go ahead to show off, Brenda. So we'll eventually get
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through the question. But then she adds, lastly, my guides
protected me from expending energy by connecting while I was
pregnant because it was such a terrible pregnancy guides. But
now the switches back on and there are people knocking.
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I'm not great at independent meditation and was wondering if
there was one y'all recommended to get connected. Um, I
know I have to practice. Thank you all. Producers included
Joey that you baby, you got a shout out? Are unsung?
Hey row Okay, so let's just go back and break
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this down for Janet. So, okay, we're going back to
orbs and what form do they present themselves as? One
question and that one you can you can easily speak to,
you can photographed them all and totally. So what I
have found is every orb is different, every orb is
like um. And that's the beauty of the photography part
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is because I can take a picture and I can
really zoom in to see what's in, to see what's
there and what it looks like. And you know, I
have found and many occasions images and eyed the orbs. Um.
I saw a little elephant one time. I remember, I
still have the picture, a little elephant um, right, And
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I wouldn't keep a little elephant orb. I've seen faces,
I've seen all sorts of things. And actually, one of
one of the fun things that I used to do
as a hobby, and I actually have taken that hobby
back up now that I'm out in the world is
anytime you see photography. And I've seen it at hotels,
which is weird because I think they go for the
cheap photography and it's when they take a nighttime shot
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of like city lights forget you can look and those
and you can find a whole like party going on there.
I've also seen the same thing in old photographs, which
I think I get a really kick out. We see
some orbs and people don't see them. It's so funny
how our eyes are. We're training to ignore things I
think that are unfamiliar, and so people just don't see them.
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And I'm trained to see everything that is abnormal, and
i don't see the normal things. And I think a
lot of people are like, oh, that's just like bouncing
off as something else. Like you justify things in your
mind because it's so much more comfortable than oh yeah,
somebody's moving in for sure. I mean it's like Suzanne
will try to show me a picture and um, I'm
zooming in on all the like margins and I'm looking
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to see where those orbs are goes and She's like, Honey,
I just wanted to see my nieces picture. It's like,
it is that hard, and I'm like, as a matter
of fact, it is. So anyway to answer the question is, um, yes, absolutely,
orbs show up. We have a video of orbs. It's
actually I think it is on our Instagram from a
year or two ago. They were dancing in the front door.
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So you can see orbs do that. And that's the
fun part by this. So if you're actually watching them
with your naked eye, Janet um the way to really
understand if it's truly, an orb is that if it
defies gravity. And that is what I tell everybody, because
sometimes you can see a little piece of something and
if it's just floating up that it's you know, lighter
than air, and it doesn't come back down, then it's
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probably not an orb. If you see something that has
like a motion of its own, like its own propellant
um that it can go up down sideways and kind
of dance, that is likely an ORB. If you look
to have a photograph of it, you can look into
it and see if it has like a little surprise,
kind of like a twots your role pop just like
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that without the ingesting. I'm trying not to laugh out loud.
It's so good, it's so good. And I remember, so
this is way back in the day when Maggy was
a puppy, right, this is long before I knew you.
And you know, of course I took pictures of her
in this lifetime, in this lifetime, yes, so I would
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take pictures of her when she was a puppy, and
she and you know this is back old school developing, right,
not not camera that iPhone pictures, and she would and
orbs would show up in in the hard copy and
she be playing with them. Now, I didn't see them
when I was taking the picture. That's not why. I
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just thought, oh, she's being so cute because I remember
her like looking like she was playing with angels, right,
and she was playing with orbes so when I got
the picture. But yeah, I love that. It's like, um uh,
like mama, like puppy. Because I'm pretty sure you've played
with orbs when you were a youngster too. I definitely did.
I definitely did. She learned it from you from the best.
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I have one very very quick thing. I know this
is not what Janet was asking for her question, But
too bad, Janet, it sound good. This is a bonus photo.
There was an old photograph that was taken and it
was weird because it was in a friend's scrapbook and
it was from the seventies and it was this guy
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who had like a resale shop kind of thing. It
had like it eve had some crystals and it's just like,
you know, junk shop kind of thing. And he was
in the newspaper. And I see this in the you know,
in the crappy newsprint with how the pictures look. Right,
it is ghost town and there are orbs of rama
is all sorts of ship coming out of these things.
I'm like, how much fun. So the old school pictures
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are actually my favorite because those are the ones that
you can be like, yeah, I didn't take it. If
you think I'm a fraud. Yeah, it's right here, folks.
So the answer to your question, Janet is yes, um,
they can present themselves as orbs and the forms depends
upon them. Yeah. And when you talk about you know,
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it's in full sixth sense. I'm not exactly sure what
you mean by that, but what I would say is,
because you know, children under the age of six don't
have filters on their chakras, they can interact so easily
with spirit that it's not hard work for them to
see this energy form in its full whatever impression where
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we just see orbs. So it could be you know,
the lineage of parents and grandparents, and it could be that.
It could be spirit guides, it could be angels, it
could be you know, just passing through spirits going oh
my God, aren't you the most beautiful being? Thanks for
coming to planet Art. You know, it could be any
of those. I mean, I get just very quickly. I
just wanted to look at it. I got that what
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her child is playing with is actually a guide. I
don't get that it's actually a descendant. I would agree, Yeah,
that's that's why it's offering it. That's why I don't
get ancestor from. But I will say ancestors do check
in on the little girl, especially at night, so I
don't know if she has trouble sleeping. Um, I know
you said, you know, during one one bad night, but
that's like that's just parenthood, right, But I feel like this,
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this may not be right. I clearly don't have children,
so seven months, but I feel like sometimes she gets
bored because you know, I's playing with her at night,
and that's when particularly the grandfather moves in, you know,
the father, father, Sorry sorry, father, that's hilarious. Get bored. Yeah,
she gets a little bored, like instead in weeks. If
you're bored at seven weeks, you're going to have a
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ride ahead, and you just let her set the pace
and try and keep up. That's what i'd say. I
would say, hydrate. That's all you got on your side
right now? Is she came ready to play? Right? Oh
my god, I love it. I think the sixth sense
I have a feeling. What she was asking is that
a clairvoyance gift is my is my guest. When I
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first read it was that like the movie movie. Yeah,
I think it was like because you speak movie, that's right,
I speak pedestrian and movie, which is to the same.
I think, and and and the hand on the back
love that. So I love that so much. So I
think we need to take a break and then we'll wait. No,
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we have one more thing. Okay, well we have a
couple more questions. No, but these are hold on questions,
and hold on, everybody, just hold the phone. Okay. Think
the answer was for questions. I just want to make
sure we're complete for so we're a team player here.
We're going to take a break. We'll be right back
now we will okay, okay, everybody, We're back. And we
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weren't done. And because she was asking, do they talk
about how cool it is to fly? Because that would
be cool? He totally is cool to fly. Yeah, And
I've actually asked here it's that before and it's cool. Yes.
And another really cool thing too, is that learning a
little bit about remote viewing, you can kind of like
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do a little exercise that you can fly over and
see what's going on. I've done that. That is cool.
It's not the same as flying though it's not shot.
To me, my moment with the hell I'm flying as cool.
It's called full stop. Okay, next, next, and as far
as my tation goes, you can come to Spirit class.
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I know you have seven seven week old, so that's
not going to happen. But if you come to Spiritkayed
class at SLAN, you'll be You'll be in and out
of meditation the whole week and it'll be so in
your bones when you leave. It'd be super easy. So
to saying throwing it out there, I'm going by the way.
I want to be out of my body for a week.
(14:24):
Is that on the menu? Yeah, September twelve, sixteenth. I'm
reserving my place to leave my body. Yeah, that's all.
I just want to drop it off, pick it up
at the end, and I want to drop it off
at the commissary and then and then I'll come get
it later. That's nice. Ideally five pounds lighter. Okay, so
I didn't this is not a weight loss camp, but
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never first so our next question is from um Johanna,
who we also love, so we would love our regulars,
and also those that haven't written right in and if
you've written a thousand times right in a thousand and
one world. Um, okay this one, um meek, okay, here's
what we'll do. Okay, we will not make this political.
(15:08):
I'm gonna say it up front because the question goes.
This whole Row versus Wade thing has made me want
to ask something. I've always thought about what happens to
people that have their lives stopped before they are born
VI an abortion or an accident or maternal failure. I've
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never seen those two words put together that. Yeah, I
think I would you say miscarriage? Yeah, miscarriage is what
I would say. Um, is it different? It's hard enough
to be aborted. You know I'm saying right exactly. We
don't need to call anybody a failure. Um. Is it different?
But good try though, Johannah, but we got your sister.
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Is it different for an aborted person? I'm a thousand
percent not being political. It's just always it just always
seemed unfair to me, how some moves are not only short,
but not even a breath. It's heavy, I know. And
then she adds, I think it suppost to be some
lives lives. Sorry, yeah, all right, she corrected me on that.
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She well, she corrected me before I even made a mistake. Um,
and she continues, I've had psychic I've had friends that
have chosen to not stop the pregnancy and gave birth
to a baby that breathed and lived for a few hours.
Is there a difference? It confuses me so much. Um, Okay,
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for before you answer, because you're going to have the
best answer. UM is I just want to say thank
you for asking that question, and thank you for asking
it in such a inquisitive way and not a political way,
because we actually heartfelt, very heartfelt stealing into these situations
and and it did Brenda favor because she has to
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try to make me not political because it's not what
the show. But I love it because I think this
is a far more important question. So thank you for that.
So where did you hit his sister? Well, just continuing,
you know, with our our kids, right. So the truth is,
the spirit is assigned usually after like there's a there's
a blueprint. My my experience that there is a blueprint
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for like you know when your boss comes to you
and go, hey, we really we're thinking about you for
this promotion, would you be interested? Like, that's kind of
what happens at conception, but you don't get assigned. You
get potentially assigned, and then you know, after the first
trimester is when they're like, okay, so I think this
is you know, this is gonna be a good thing
for you. You know, and I'm not saying you are
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in competition with some other souls, but maybe you know,
like I don't know how it goes really, But but
then after the first trimester, when the um is about
when the spirit starts coming in and out literally in
and out of the eidis, right, so it's coming in
and out testing a little bit, but it's not really
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assigned until well into the third trime, like not a
stationery in there and well until the third trimester, if
that makes sense. So you've got this this spirit, like, okay,
this is you know, this looks like a good runway
for you. This is where you'll be promoted, This is
where you know what your your career trajectory looks like
in the first trimester, so you know, you may have
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the impression of a spirit during that first trimester and
have an experience of perhaps a gender assignment at birth.
You know, choices can be made after that, but like that,
you may even have that experience like you know, she
told me or he told me. And then during the
second trimester it starts getting stronger, and then in the
third trimester obviously much stronger. So that's sort of the
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trajectory now. Having said that, when but the spirit still
is experiencing what is happening in the body um from
that first trime uster and so they have experiences even
though they're not assigned full time to the fetus, right,
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But that doesn't mean they don't experience it energetically, emotionally
and physically, right, So they they're still experiencing, they're still
having some Earth school lesson, they're having some expansion of
their spiritual experience. So that's what's happening. The difference between
you know, a boarding at I don't know how many
weeks um that that happens, like, that's not my quest.
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I think it's a little longer, but I don't know.
And and it's you know, we'll call it, we'll call
it twelve versus delivering full time that took two breaths.
It is a longer experience, but it's not. It's it's
so there are more tangible experiences. Obviously, coming to the planet,
even for a few breaths is a full intensity of
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Earth School, right, I mean being Earth, which is one
of the most intense things you'll do. You know, definitely
for the mom it's a very different experience, right, Um.
But but that's what i'd say, like, this is how
you you would think about that progression. But that's like saying,
what's the difference between if if a spirit goes to
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the change called death between twelve years old and fourteen
years old? Right? Like it's it's a nuanced difference. Is
it a difference, Yes, but it's a giant difference. I
mean the twelve versus seventy two, that's that's a significant difference.
But a twelve or fourteen is not a significant difference,
um in in their Earth School lesson. I mean, obviously
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it's very significant for everyone around them do not have
those two more years, But from an Earth like how
their soul progressed is not that significant between twelve and fourteen. Um.
And I'm not saying, you know, six months difference is
a two year different and says if you're fully embodied,
so are you still have the soul still matures from
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a soul level. But just because it didn't mature physically,
it doesn't mean they didn't there wasn't some experience gained.
And definitely for the mom, there's there's experience gained too,
And for the dad, um, definitely of course. And right,
and if you look at I'm gonna if you don't mind,
I'm gonna throw in another you know, example of how
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I kind of see it. Another analogy is think about
a car on on the line, right, They start putting
the body together, they start, you know, putting a roof
on it, and then their seats and all this kind
of stuff. But it's not a car until there's an engine,
and that's really the last thing that goes in. It's
kind of how I didn't know that I looked at it. Well,
but I look at like just like a line, right,
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like an assembly line, and it's like the engine goest
like all those things go in at the end. You
don't put that. You don't start with an engine and
work around. You build the body first and put the
engine in. And um, no idea, And okay, well, clearly
I should be on a road and track show a
car show and not this one because that was my analogy.
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But that's how I that's how I kind of look
at them from an analogorism and analglogists whatever. Say it, right,
will you? I don't know the word, well, it's the analogy,
but it's the goose words. Somebody correct If I can't
do it three times, I'm putting everybody else's hands to
correct me. When my other point I was going to
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make is that you know, um, if you people subscribe
to the idea that we are, you know, a soul
that lives a thousand lives, you know this is a blip.
Right Yeah, It's all a blip, and odds are we
all haven't made it every time we've given it a shot,
right Um. Again, not to take away from the is
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that are trying to bring that child into the world
or those that love that child wild in the world,
that is not what that is. It's completely traumatic. Yeah,
and there's no question I'm just saying from the perspective
of the soul level of it, the high level. It's
like if you've got a thousand turns at bat, Yeah,
you might strike out a few times, and it's okay
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because you know, might need to go sit on the
bench and rest a little bit longer. Yeah yeah, without it.
But I only say that from that level, so nobody
please misinterpret with that. Man. Yeah, so there's that. There's that,
and uh so enjoy your your engine for as long
as you have it the point, drive the wheel, drive
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the tires off that car. So just um, yeah, it's
I love the perspective that from a soul level, this
is you know, it's it's given your best shot and
sometimes it lands. Sometimes it doesn't. Even though traumatic as
as it can be, from a soul level, it's it's
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everyone checks that box at some point, I would think.
So it's kind of like playing the odds, right, playing
the odds. Haven't we all gone? Like if there's a
million ways to die, we're just you know, only a
part way through that lists like big listen to cover people.
You can get you a creative never know. Although I
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think you know, falling off a cliffs from selfies, which
happens on the regular, we know this happens. I think
that's kind of a new way. They were falling off
the cliff with a selfie. I completely agree. And that's
a lot you're going to have to relive because that
was a pretty stupid way to go. That's my no judgment.
You give given points for creativity. I don't know they
give points were it was pretty dumb. It's very morbid humor.
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You guys with you, I mean us, we better take
a freak. I think we should too. Okay, we're kind
of back everybody. Um, I really hope fuck, I really
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hope Johanna that we answered your question. Okay, we're just
not gonna stop. She has a church giggles that we
identified at the break. She's getting trouble for giggling in church,
and I was playing her mom and saying, no, Brenda,
church is not a comedy. Oh shit, I don't know.
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We're gonna finish this episode. Okay, I'm gonna read why. Okay,
I wait a minute to read Brenda, so you can
take a breath. And you muted yourself. Thank god, by
the way. Okay, so this is from Meg's. Meg's is
asking us or actually she's very sweet upfront. So I'm
gonna read her first paragraph and then we'll get to
her question. But she says, thank you for taking the
time to respond, and thank you for your thoughtful response.
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You guys always make me feel better about my progress
in Earth School. You make me feel better about uh
back steps to like dancing, right, Okay, that's cute. And
if you don't make me feel better, I have a
beautiful clearing bowl from Vibes that does the trick. That's right, sister,
that thing was made for you. Um So, here she
gets into her question is also if you think some
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of your other listeners might find value in it. The
next time you do an episode on families, et cetera,
which this this episode is very much turned into families,
would you consider touching upon how adoption or not growing
up within our biological family impacts our Earth School experience.
Thank you for sharing your gifts with us. We appreciate you.
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Purple Heart, by the way, that's somebody who was knows Brenda.
Um now you're composed and you can now answer makes question.
I'm trying such a such a sweet sweet listener. Thank you,
Thank you meg So. My experience is that when whenever
I've seen adopted children show up, and whether they've shown
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up in readings as the child or the family moving in,
you know who has taken in the child, it's there's
always a sole connection. There's always a sel connection. Now,
Having said that, because spirits are great opportunists, they don't
care what like which wound they jump in right like
they'll take any any womb they can and to get
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them where they need to go to have their school lessons,
like this is what they've signed up for and that
that's really how it goes. Having said that, if you
know people or are someone who's adopted and you know it,
there is always this kind of makes Sometimes it's very
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present upfront, sometimes it's laden in the shadow, but there's
always like m hmm, what was wrong with me? Right?
What was wrong with me? I heard a story this
weekend about someone whose mom died early in covid uh
January and found out you know what had to be No,
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it had to be in March because this is this
is when everything was shut down, right, so I had
to be marched. But she learned through text she was
the only child, and there's text with uncles and you know,
extended family as they were trying to decide who could
go and who couldn't, they told her via text, you're
not even family. You were adopted? What for real? Right?
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And she's an adult woman, thirty something, had no idea,
had no idea, right, Um, so anyhow, that's a that's
a whole different story. But the point is this is
also someone who knows very clearly she was in her
family full stop. She knew at the whole time. She
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never had any doubts she and she still feels that way.
So she's someone someone I met that didn't have that shadow.
But most people I know who are adapted have just
that shadow. Like, m interesting. They don't doubt necessarily that
they were in the quote unquote wrong family. They just
had it's usually interesting, it's interesting that I'm in this family. Like,
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they don't feel kicked out or anything or alienating that way.
But but from a spiritual standpoint, it is always they're
a conmic assignment. Yeah, so is that a lesson? Like
do we come in wanting that to happen? Just like
a someone who comes in to a birth family. It's
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the same thing. I mean, we can still have you know,
you can be in a birth family and be like, ah,
you kidding me with this? Like right, the divine has
a wicked sense of humor. I'm telling you, you know,
Like I mean that that's not solely lusive to adopted children.
UM that that happens every day, but it's always a soul.
There's always a sole lesson available and right, that's how
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you get the family. There's a karmic balancing, there's a
karmic opportunity for you served up through this different family.
You know, there's UM. I have also, UM had a
lot of experiences with people who come into blended families,
and that I think has some of the same vibes
that being adopted does, because you see, like let's say
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somebody comes from like the mom's side and there were
two kids, UM and then got remarried and there were
three other kids that come along, and they feel but alien, right,
Like obviously there are lessons and all of that. They
do their best to work through things, but there is
and there's an alien feel I think to them and
that is obviously part of what that lesson is for them.
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And feels just a little awkward like that, just a
little awkward at home, like how am I really going
to feel at home with these strangers? Right? But yeah,
it's all it's all in the mix. It is in
the mix and thing, you know, because so much of
of of how we communicate or talk to people about
their families. So just what I'm trying to get at
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is this happens to me a ton lately, and it
just happened to me on Saturday, which is, oh my god,
you look so much like Margaret, which my mother. But
I get it every time that I haven't seen somebody
in a while, it's like, oh my god, you look
so much like your mother. Well that's part of that.
That what binds us right, like that is the in
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a little bit is kind of the receipt. I'm clearly
Margaret's kid, um, So you know, I was like, I
got the receipt in my face and my and my
high arches. But anyway, that a sign short, Like I mean,
all of it is all signs of my birth, my parents.
But when you don't have that right, it feels like,
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and I've had this conversation, there's like I don't have that.
I'm never I don't know what that feels like. And
I'm like, well, I don't know what it's like to
feel to grow up with both parents in the house.
So it's like we all have our thing, but I
understand that identity right because the thing that we are
always searching for in life is who are we right?
And who do we belong to? Kind of thing, and
that's very human and um to not have that peace,
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I think is quite a it's quite a hurdle for
someone to set out to like ask themselves to go
through in this lifetime because it's such a common thing,
I think, I agreed, agreed, yeah, and it just is
one more layer of lessons. Right, It doesn't have to
be bigger than that. That's right, that's exactly right, exactly right.
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It doesn't have to be bigger than that. And it's
not to say that it's easy. But as I said
to you, it doesn't have to be hard. It doesn't
have to be this hard, is what you said. It
doesn't have to be this hard. Really, with your hand
on my back behind my heart, I will never forget
at that moment, exactly right. But that's I think that's
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really great. That's great advice though, and so like if
you can give, you know, forgiveness and compassion for yourself
and to your the family that adopted, the Birthen family,
because sometimes it's you know, both a mom and a
dad and sometimes it's just a mom that makes that decision.
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But I think like, just thank them for being part
of your soul plan is a really big forgiveness move. Yeah,
and taking for the adopted family for actually I wanted
to take you on and care for you. Yeah. Well,
and again that they wouldn't know they're already part of
your soul family, right, that's how. That's how they got
the role. You've met him, Yeah, you've picked him right. Yeah.
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Which that's actually the best way I think to end
this entire episode. Is there your soul family and you
picked him. Maybe you can't always see it all the time,
but you did. Yeah, without a doubt, without doubt, everybody,
thank you for your questions. Great and funny thing is
all your questions. You guys picked the theme and it
was very much of a family theme. You guys picked it.
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All of them were along those lines. You guys made it. Yeah,
you guys made a great episode. Thank you for being
part of our family. And remember our school is hard
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of My Heart Radio. Hi y'all, I'm Julie. Hi there,
I'm Brenda. Welcome to Insider's Guide to the Other Side.
Now you all need to know that we are obsessed
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once you learn to navigate the energetic, or to some
the invisible world, life is going to be more fun
and much more serene. Heck, yes it can, because let's
be honest, Brian, Earth school is hard. In fact, you
taught me that let's crush Earth School together. Well, hello,
(00:44):
my witchy pooh. We have some listeners that want to
hear from mainly you. I'm not sure that's true, but hello,
my dear alf, how are you do great? Thank you?
Are you usually doing great? I have that days, don't
get me wrong, but I'm usually doing well. I did
(01:07):
start a new zombie show. I will say, I'm getting
ready for the apocalypse. That's all I'm going to tell
you. You You know, our friend Carry is just gonna be
so happy to hear that. That's one of her jams. Oh,
i'm um, I love Walking Dead. I've already made it
through all eleven seasons, um, and I started one not
(01:27):
as good, but it's interesting and it's called um oh shit,
it's called and it's another zombie one by the way,
with like I didn't that funny came to what's called now?
It ran on USA Network for a while, and so
I'm watching it on Netflix. And so I have another
zombie show, which I really like my zombie shows. No
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matter what's happening in the world, what's it, what's the
baddest things may feel in the world, what's happening on
the screen, And a post apocalyptic zombie world is work.
Good to know it has served its purpose. Hilarious. Okay,
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So I'm great because I love zombies. Um today, well
we have questions from our listeners. I have to tell
you I would do these episodes every single day, like
you're so fun. I really do. I love them so
much because I mean, not for nothing, and really encourage
(02:31):
y'all keep sending stuff to us. How whatever method you
want to smoke signal it so empathetically if you got it,
whatever it takes, because you ask stuff that we don't
always think about. And let me tell you, for a
long time with Brenda, I'm her pedestrian. It's like people
love to hear about this X, Y and Z subject.
She's like, really what and we need people to say
(02:54):
what's on your mind? What do you want to know?
And we'll do our best, so you bring it. It's awesome,
Oh my god, the best, the best like notes ever. Okay,
so are you ready to start with number one? You
got it has nothing to do with zombies, unfortunately, asking
the zombie questions so I can ask Brenda the answer,
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but yes you can, please, I think it's possible. But um,
so this is from Janet. We love Janet. Um She says, Hi, well,
hi back, sister. I have questions for the next podcast.
She says. My seven week old smiles at space and
(03:40):
I'm sure it's either my dad or grandma. Okay, I
love that seven week old right, so beautiful, She adds.
When I see activity in her room, it's just orbs
and what form do they present themselves? Question mark? Is
it full sixth cents? Question mark? Funny? Orbs? Question mark?
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I also felt a hand on my back that let
me know we're here for you on one of the
worst nights. I love that you. I'm gonna keep going
to question and we'll go back to the so okay,
and then she adds, also, do they talk about how
cool it is to fly? Okay, Janet, I love you
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so much. I agree, by the way, totally. I want
to know those things when it's like yeah, because flying
is great because she knows how. She knows how to
make herself invisible. She knows how to make herself fly.
Go ahead to show off, Brenda. So we'll eventually get
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through the question. But then she adds, lastly, my guides
protected me from expending energy by connecting while I was
pregnant because it was such a terrible pregnancy guides. But
now the switches back on and there are people knocking.
(05:06):
I'm not great at independent meditation and was wondering if
there was one y'all recommended to get connected. Um, I
know I have to practice. Thank you all. Producers included
Joey that you baby, you got a shout out? Are unsung?
Hey row Okay, so let's just go back and break
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this down for Janet. So, okay, we're going back to
orbs and what form do they present themselves as? One
question and that one you can you can easily speak to,
you can photographed them all and totally. So what I
have found is every orb is different, every orb is
like um. And that's the beauty of the photography part
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is because I can take a picture and I can
really zoom in to see what's in, to see what's
there and what it looks like. And you know, I
have found and many occasions images and eyed the orbs. Um.
I saw a little elephant one time. I remember, I
still have the picture, a little elephant um, right, And
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I wouldn't keep a little elephant orb. I've seen faces,
I've seen all sorts of things. And actually, one of
one of the fun things that I used to do
as a hobby, and I actually have taken that hobby
back up now that I'm out in the world is
anytime you see photography. And I've seen it at hotels,
which is weird because I think they go for the
cheap photography and it's when they take a nighttime shot
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of like city lights forget you can look and those
and you can find a whole like party going on there.
I've also seen the same thing in old photographs, which
I think I get a really kick out. We see
some orbs and people don't see them. It's so funny
how our eyes are. We're training to ignore things I
think that are unfamiliar, and so people just don't see them.
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And I'm trained to see everything that is abnormal, and
i don't see the normal things. And I think a
lot of people are like, oh, that's just like bouncing
off as something else. Like you justify things in your
mind because it's so much more comfortable than oh yeah,
somebody's moving in for sure. I mean it's like Suzanne
will try to show me a picture and um, I'm
zooming in on all the like margins and I'm looking
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to see where those orbs are goes and She's like, Honey,
I just wanted to see my nieces picture. It's like,
it is that hard, and I'm like, as a matter
of fact, it is. So anyway to answer the question is, um, yes, absolutely,
orbs show up. We have a video of orbs. It's
actually I think it is on our Instagram from a
year or two ago. They were dancing in the front door.
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So you can see orbs do that. And that's the
fun part by this. So if you're actually watching them
with your naked eye, Janet um the way to really
understand if it's truly, an orb is that if it
defies gravity. And that is what I tell everybody, because
sometimes you can see a little piece of something and
if it's just floating up that it's you know, lighter
than air, and it doesn't come back down, then it's
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probably not an orb. If you see something that has
like a motion of its own, like its own propellant
um that it can go up down sideways and kind
of dance, that is likely an ORB. If you look
to have a photograph of it, you can look into
it and see if it has like a little surprise,
kind of like a twots your role pop just like
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that without the ingesting. I'm trying not to laugh out loud.
It's so good, it's so good. And I remember, so
this is way back in the day when Maggy was
a puppy, right, this is long before I knew you.
And you know, of course I took pictures of her
in this lifetime, in this lifetime, yes, so I would
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take pictures of her when she was a puppy, and
she and you know this is back old school developing, right,
not not camera that iPhone pictures, and she would and
orbs would show up in in the hard copy and
she be playing with them. Now, I didn't see them
when I was taking the picture. That's not why. I
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just thought, oh, she's being so cute because I remember
her like looking like she was playing with angels, right,
and she was playing with orbes so when I got
the picture. But yeah, I love that. It's like, um uh,
like mama, like puppy. Because I'm pretty sure you've played
with orbs when you were a youngster too. I definitely did.
I definitely did. She learned it from you from the best.
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I have one very very quick thing. I know this
is not what Janet was asking for her question, But
too bad, Janet, it sound good. This is a bonus photo.
There was an old photograph that was taken and it
was weird because it was in a friend's scrapbook and
it was from the seventies and it was this guy
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who had like a resale shop kind of thing. It
had like it eve had some crystals and it's just like,
you know, junk shop kind of thing. And he was
in the newspaper. And I see this in the you know,
in the crappy newsprint with how the pictures look. Right,
it is ghost town and there are orbs of rama
is all sorts of ship coming out of these things.
I'm like, how much fun. So the old school pictures
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are actually my favorite because those are the ones that
you can be like, yeah, I didn't take it. If
you think I'm a fraud. Yeah, it's right here, folks.
So the answer to your question, Janet is yes, um,
they can present themselves as orbs and the forms depends
upon them. Yeah. And when you talk about you know,
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it's in full sixth sense. I'm not exactly sure what
you mean by that, but what I would say is,
because you know, children under the age of six don't
have filters on their chakras, they can interact so easily
with spirit that it's not hard work for them to
see this energy form in its full whatever impression where
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we just see orbs. So it could be you know,
the lineage of parents and grandparents, and it could be that.
It could be spirit guides, it could be angels, it
could be you know, just passing through spirits going oh
my God, aren't you the most beautiful being? Thanks for
coming to planet Art. You know, it could be any
of those. I mean, I get just very quickly. I
just wanted to look at it. I got that what
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her child is playing with is actually a guide. I
don't get that it's actually a descendant. I would agree, Yeah,
that's that's why it's offering it. That's why I don't
get ancestor from. But I will say ancestors do check
in on the little girl, especially at night, so I
don't know if she has trouble sleeping. Um, I know
you said, you know, during one one bad night, but
that's like that's just parenthood, right, But I feel like this,
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this may not be right. I clearly don't have children,
so seven months, but I feel like sometimes she gets
bored because you know, I's playing with her at night,
and that's when particularly the grandfather moves in, you know,
the father, father, Sorry sorry, father, that's hilarious. Get bored. Yeah,
she gets a little bored, like instead in weeks. If
you're bored at seven weeks, you're going to have a
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ride ahead, and you just let her set the pace
and try and keep up. That's what i'd say. I
would say, hydrate. That's all you got on your side
right now? Is she came ready to play? Right? Oh
my god, I love it. I think the sixth sense
I have a feeling. What she was asking is that
a clairvoyance gift is my is my guest. When I
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first read it was that like the movie movie. Yeah,
I think it was like because you speak movie, that's right,
I speak pedestrian and movie, which is to the same.
I think, and and and the hand on the back
love that. So I love that so much. So I
think we need to take a break and then we'll wait. No,
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we have one more thing. Okay, well we have a
couple more questions. No, but these are hold on questions,
and hold on, everybody, just hold the phone. Okay. Think
the answer was for questions. I just want to make
sure we're complete for so we're a team player here.
We're going to take a break. We'll be right back
now we will okay, okay, everybody, We're back. And we
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weren't done. And because she was asking, do they talk
about how cool it is to fly? Because that would
be cool? He totally is cool to fly. Yeah, And
I've actually asked here it's that before and it's cool. Yes.
And another really cool thing too, is that learning a
little bit about remote viewing, you can kind of like
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do a little exercise that you can fly over and
see what's going on. I've done that. That is cool.
It's not the same as flying though it's not shot.
To me, my moment with the hell I'm flying as cool.
It's called full stop. Okay, next, next, and as far
as my tation goes, you can come to Spirit class.
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I know you have seven seven week old, so that's
not going to happen. But if you come to Spiritkayed
class at SLAN, you'll be You'll be in and out
of meditation the whole week and it'll be so in
your bones when you leave. It'd be super easy. So
to saying throwing it out there, I'm going by the way.
I want to be out of my body for a week.
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Is that on the menu? Yeah, September twelve, sixteenth. I'm
reserving my place to leave my body. Yeah, that's all.
I just want to drop it off, pick it up
at the end, and I want to drop it off
at the commissary and then and then I'll come get
it later. That's nice. Ideally five pounds lighter. Okay, so
I didn't this is not a weight loss camp, but
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never first so our next question is from um Johanna,
who we also love, so we would love our regulars,
and also those that haven't written right in and if
you've written a thousand times right in a thousand and
one world. Um, okay this one, um meek, okay, here's
what we'll do. Okay, we will not make this political.
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I'm gonna say it up front because the question goes.
This whole Row versus Wade thing has made me want
to ask something. I've always thought about what happens to
people that have their lives stopped before they are born
VI an abortion or an accident or maternal failure. I've
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never seen those two words put together that. Yeah, I
think I would you say miscarriage? Yeah, miscarriage is what
I would say. Um, is it different? It's hard enough
to be aborted. You know I'm saying right exactly. We
don't need to call anybody a failure. Um. Is it different?
But good try though, Johannah, but we got your sister.
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Is it different for an aborted person? I'm a thousand
percent not being political. It's just always it just always
seemed unfair to me, how some moves are not only short,
but not even a breath. It's heavy, I know. And
then she adds, I think it suppost to be some
lives lives. Sorry, yeah, all right, she corrected me on that.
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She well, she corrected me before I even made a mistake. Um,
and she continues, I've had psychic I've had friends that
have chosen to not stop the pregnancy and gave birth
to a baby that breathed and lived for a few hours.
Is there a difference? It confuses me so much. Um, Okay,
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for before you answer, because you're going to have the
best answer. UM is I just want to say thank
you for asking that question, and thank you for asking
it in such a inquisitive way and not a political way,
because we actually heartfelt, very heartfelt stealing into these situations
and and it did Brenda favor because she has to
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try to make me not political because it's not what
the show. But I love it because I think this
is a far more important question. So thank you for that.
So where did you hit his sister? Well, just continuing,
you know, with our our kids, right. So the truth is,
the spirit is assigned usually after like there's a there's
a blueprint. My my experience that there is a blueprint
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for like you know when your boss comes to you
and go, hey, we really we're thinking about you for
this promotion, would you be interested? Like, that's kind of
what happens at conception, but you don't get assigned. You
get potentially assigned, and then you know, after the first
trimester is when they're like, okay, so I think this
is you know, this is gonna be a good thing
for you. You know, and I'm not saying you are
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in competition with some other souls, but maybe you know,
like I don't know how it goes really, But but
then after the first trimester, when the um is about
when the spirit starts coming in and out literally in
and out of the eidis, right, so it's coming in
and out testing a little bit, but it's not really
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assigned until well into the third trime, like not a
stationery in there and well until the third trimester, if
that makes sense. So you've got this this spirit, like, okay,
this is you know, this looks like a good runway
for you. This is where you'll be promoted, This is
where you know what your your career trajectory looks like
in the first trimester, so you know, you may have
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the impression of a spirit during that first trimester and
have an experience of perhaps a gender assignment at birth.
You know, choices can be made after that, but like that,
you may even have that experience like you know, she
told me or he told me. And then during the
second trimester it starts getting stronger, and then in the
third trimester obviously much stronger. So that's sort of the
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trajectory now. Having said that, when but the spirit still
is experiencing what is happening in the body um from
that first trime uster and so they have experiences even
though they're not assigned full time to the fetus, right,
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But that doesn't mean they don't experience it energetically, emotionally
and physically, right, So they they're still experiencing, they're still
having some Earth school lesson, they're having some expansion of
their spiritual experience. So that's what's happening. The difference between
you know, a boarding at I don't know how many
weeks um that that happens, like, that's not my quest.
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I think it's a little longer, but I don't know.
And and it's you know, we'll call it, we'll call
it twelve versus delivering full time that took two breaths.
It is a longer experience, but it's not. It's it's
so there are more tangible experiences. Obviously, coming to the planet,
even for a few breaths is a full intensity of
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Earth School, right, I mean being Earth, which is one
of the most intense things you'll do. You know, definitely
for the mom it's a very different experience, right, Um.
But but that's what i'd say, like, this is how
you you would think about that progression. But that's like saying,
what's the difference between if if a spirit goes to
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the change called death between twelve years old and fourteen
years old? Right? Like it's it's a nuanced difference. Is
it a difference, Yes, but it's a giant difference. I
mean the twelve versus seventy two, that's that's a significant difference.
But a twelve or fourteen is not a significant difference,
um in in their Earth School lesson. I mean, obviously
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it's very significant for everyone around them do not have
those two more years, But from an Earth like how
their soul progressed is not that significant between twelve and fourteen. Um.
And I'm not saying, you know, six months difference is
a two year different and says if you're fully embodied,
so are you still have the soul still matures from
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a soul level. But just because it didn't mature physically,
it doesn't mean they didn't there wasn't some experience gained.
And definitely for the mom, there's there's experience gained too,
And for the dad, um, definitely of course. And right,
and if you look at I'm gonna if you don't mind,
I'm gonna throw in another you know, example of how
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I kind of see it. Another analogy is think about
a car on on the line, right, They start putting
the body together, they start, you know, putting a roof
on it, and then their seats and all this kind
of stuff. But it's not a car until there's an engine,
and that's really the last thing that goes in. It's
kind of how I didn't know that I looked at it. Well,
but I look at like just like a line, right,
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like an assembly line, and it's like the engine goest
like all those things go in at the end. You
don't put that. You don't start with an engine and
work around. You build the body first and put the
engine in. And um, no idea, And okay, well, clearly
I should be on a road and track show a
car show and not this one because that was my analogy.
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But that's how I that's how I kind of look
at them from an analogorism and analglogists whatever. Say it, right,
will you? I don't know the word, well, it's the analogy,
but it's the goose words. Somebody correct If I can't
do it three times, I'm putting everybody else's hands to
correct me. When my other point I was going to
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make is that you know, um, if you people subscribe
to the idea that we are, you know, a soul
that lives a thousand lives, you know this is a blip.
Right Yeah, It's all a blip, and odds are we
all haven't made it every time we've given it a shot,
right Um. Again, not to take away from the is
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that are trying to bring that child into the world
or those that love that child wild in the world,
that is not what that is. It's completely traumatic. Yeah,
and there's no question I'm just saying from the perspective
of the soul level of it, the high level. It's
like if you've got a thousand turns at bat, Yeah,
you might strike out a few times, and it's okay
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because you know, might need to go sit on the
bench and rest a little bit longer. Yeah yeah, without it.
But I only say that from that level, so nobody
please misinterpret with that. Man. Yeah, so there's that. There's that,
and uh so enjoy your your engine for as long
as you have it the point, drive the wheel, drive
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the tires off that car. So just um, yeah, it's
I love the perspective that from a soul level, this
is you know, it's it's given your best shot and
sometimes it lands. Sometimes it doesn't. Even though traumatic as
as it can be, from a soul level, it's it's
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everyone checks that box at some point, I would think.
So it's kind of like playing the odds, right, playing
the odds. Haven't we all gone? Like if there's a
million ways to die, we're just you know, only a
part way through that lists like big listen to cover people.
You can get you a creative never know. Although I
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think you know, falling off a cliffs from selfies, which
happens on the regular, we know this happens. I think
that's kind of a new way. They were falling off
the cliff with a selfie. I completely agree. And that's
a lot you're going to have to relive because that
was a pretty stupid way to go. That's my no judgment.
You give given points for creativity. I don't know they
give points were it was pretty dumb. It's very morbid humor.
(24:50):
You guys with you, I mean us, we better take
a freak. I think we should too. Okay, we're kind
of back everybody. Um, I really hope fuck, I really
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hope Johanna that we answered your question. Okay, we're just
not gonna stop. She has a church giggles that we
identified at the break. She's getting trouble for giggling in church,
and I was playing her mom and saying, no, Brenda,
church is not a comedy. Oh shit, I don't know.
(25:39):
We're gonna finish this episode. Okay, I'm gonna read why. Okay,
I wait a minute to read Brenda, so you can
take a breath. And you muted yourself. Thank god, by
the way. Okay, so this is from Meg's. Meg's is
asking us or actually she's very sweet upfront. So I'm
gonna read her first paragraph and then we'll get to
her question. But she says, thank you for taking the
time to respond, and thank you for your thoughtful response.
(26:01):
You guys always make me feel better about my progress
in Earth School. You make me feel better about uh
back steps to like dancing, right, Okay, that's cute. And
if you don't make me feel better, I have a
beautiful clearing bowl from Vibes that does the trick. That's right, sister,
that thing was made for you. Um So, here she
gets into her question is also if you think some
(26:25):
of your other listeners might find value in it. The
next time you do an episode on families, et cetera,
which this this episode is very much turned into families,
would you consider touching upon how adoption or not growing
up within our biological family impacts our Earth School experience.
Thank you for sharing your gifts with us. We appreciate you.
(26:45):
Purple Heart, by the way, that's somebody who was knows Brenda.
Um now you're composed and you can now answer makes question.
I'm trying such a such a sweet sweet listener. Thank you,
Thank you meg So. My experience is that when whenever
I've seen adopted children show up, and whether they've shown
(27:10):
up in readings as the child or the family moving in,
you know who has taken in the child, it's there's
always a sole connection. There's always a sel connection. Now,
Having said that, because spirits are great opportunists, they don't
care what like which wound they jump in right like
they'll take any any womb they can and to get
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them where they need to go to have their school lessons,
like this is what they've signed up for and that
that's really how it goes. Having said that, if you
know people or are someone who's adopted and you know it,
there is always this kind of makes Sometimes it's very
(27:52):
present upfront, sometimes it's laden in the shadow, but there's
always like m hmm, what was wrong with me? Right?
What was wrong with me? I heard a story this
weekend about someone whose mom died early in covid uh
January and found out you know what had to be No,
(28:13):
it had to be in March because this is this
is when everything was shut down, right, so I had
to be marched. But she learned through text she was
the only child, and there's text with uncles and you know,
extended family as they were trying to decide who could
go and who couldn't, they told her via text, you're
not even family. You were adopted? What for real? Right?
(28:38):
And she's an adult woman, thirty something, had no idea,
had no idea, right, Um, so anyhow, that's a that's
a whole different story. But the point is this is
also someone who knows very clearly she was in her
family full stop. She knew at the whole time. She
(29:01):
never had any doubts she and she still feels that way.
So she's someone someone I met that didn't have that shadow.
But most people I know who are adapted have just
that shadow. Like, m interesting. They don't doubt necessarily that
they were in the quote unquote wrong family. They just
had it's usually interesting, it's interesting that I'm in this family. Like,
(29:23):
they don't feel kicked out or anything or alienating that way.
But but from a spiritual standpoint, it is always they're
a conmic assignment. Yeah, so is that a lesson? Like
do we come in wanting that to happen? Just like
a someone who comes in to a birth family. It's
(29:46):
the same thing. I mean, we can still have you know,
you can be in a birth family and be like, ah,
you kidding me with this? Like right, the divine has
a wicked sense of humor. I'm telling you, you know,
Like I mean that that's not solely lusive to adopted children.
UM that that happens every day, but it's always a soul.
There's always a sole lesson available and right, that's how
(30:08):
you get the family. There's a karmic balancing, there's a
karmic opportunity for you served up through this different family.
You know, there's UM. I have also, UM had a
lot of experiences with people who come into blended families,
and that I think has some of the same vibes
that being adopted does, because you see, like let's say
(30:33):
somebody comes from like the mom's side and there were
two kids, UM and then got remarried and there were
three other kids that come along, and they feel but alien, right,
Like obviously there are lessons and all of that. They
do their best to work through things, but there is
and there's an alien feel I think to them and
that is obviously part of what that lesson is for them.
(30:55):
And feels just a little awkward like that, just a
little awkward at home, like how am I really going
to feel at home with these strangers? Right? But yeah,
it's all it's all in the mix. It is in
the mix and thing, you know, because so much of
of of how we communicate or talk to people about
their families. So just what I'm trying to get at
(31:15):
is this happens to me a ton lately, and it
just happened to me on Saturday, which is, oh my god,
you look so much like Margaret, which my mother. But
I get it every time that I haven't seen somebody
in a while, it's like, oh my god, you look
so much like your mother. Well that's part of that.
That what binds us right, like that is the in
(31:36):
a little bit is kind of the receipt. I'm clearly
Margaret's kid, um, So you know, I was like, I
got the receipt in my face and my and my
high arches. But anyway, that a sign short, Like I mean,
all of it is all signs of my birth, my parents.
But when you don't have that right, it feels like,
(31:57):
and I've had this conversation, there's like I don't have that.
I'm never I don't know what that feels like. And
I'm like, well, I don't know what it's like to
feel to grow up with both parents in the house.
So it's like we all have our thing, but I
understand that identity right because the thing that we are
always searching for in life is who are we right?
And who do we belong to? Kind of thing, and
that's very human and um to not have that peace,
(32:19):
I think is quite a it's quite a hurdle for
someone to set out to like ask themselves to go
through in this lifetime because it's such a common thing,
I think, I agreed, agreed, yeah, and it just is
one more layer of lessons. Right, It doesn't have to
be bigger than that. That's right, that's exactly right, exactly right.
(32:43):
It doesn't have to be bigger than that. And it's
not to say that it's easy. But as I said
to you, it doesn't have to be hard. It doesn't
have to be this hard, is what you said. It
doesn't have to be this hard. Really, with your hand
on my back behind my heart, I will never forget
at that moment, exactly right. But that's I think that's
(33:03):
really great. That's great advice though, and so like if
you can give, you know, forgiveness and compassion for yourself
and to your the family that adopted, the Birthen family,
because sometimes it's you know, both a mom and a
dad and sometimes it's just a mom that makes that decision.
(33:24):
But I think like, just thank them for being part
of your soul plan is a really big forgiveness move. Yeah,
and taking for the adopted family for actually I wanted
to take you on and care for you. Yeah. Well,
and again that they wouldn't know they're already part of
your soul family, right, that's how. That's how they got
the role. You've met him, Yeah, you've picked him right. Yeah.
(33:47):
Which that's actually the best way I think to end
this entire episode. Is there your soul family and you
picked him. Maybe you can't always see it all the time,
but you did. Yeah, without a doubt, without doubt, everybody,
thank you for your questions. Great and funny thing is
all your questions. You guys picked the theme and it
was very much of a family theme. You guys picked it.
(34:09):
All of them were along those lines. You guys made it. Yeah,
you guys made a great episode. Thank you for being
part of our family. And remember our school is hard
without the other side and her family and and the
Witchie pooh. Okay, thanks everybody, bye bye. Thank you for
(34:33):
joining us everyone, and a special thanks to our producer
Joey pat and our executive producer Maya Cole Howard who
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