May 2, 2023 • 11 mins
It’s usually Bethenny pointing out others missteps… But find out what happened that left her on the receiving end of a lesson and feeling humbled and even embarrassed!
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Speaker 1 (00:11):
Oh, did I fucking fuck up the snacks? So for sports,
like my daughter has lacrosse and they email you and
they ask, like if someone wants to be like snack
mom or team mom, and like that's the correspondence mom.
And I wanted to be like in the snack rotation,
and I don't think I can own snacks. Snacks is
(00:32):
probably something that many people want, but I got my
fucking shot at snacks and I choked. And the reason
I choked is that, like I've seen that they eat
pizza or donuts and they've just done sports, and I thought,
after sports, you'd want a Gatorade. Like I thought that
was a lead. A gatory could be like two three
dollars or you know, and just thirty kids. So I
(00:54):
was gonna bring thirty Gatorades and a cond bar because
I thought, you've just worked out, you has a donuts
good and I know that's what a kid's gonna want.
But like, I just got the combo between kind bars
and gatorade would would endear me to the parents and
be fine with the kids. So a couple of things happen.
You got to know when to walk over you're on
a la crossfield which is gigantic, like it's like a
(01:14):
football field, and you don't want to be like the
dork mom. It's like carrying all the snacks going across
the field, and I already am like a no, I'm
already a known person, and my daughter's friends are kind
of fans and they know that. So I don't want
to be the dork mom walking across, but there's sort
of no other way to do it, and I just don't.
I'm not incognito. And so I got to the game
(01:38):
a little late last time, and Brinn didn't want the
snack at the beginning anyway, because they're getting ready to play,
so it's like you're playing double Dutch trying to figure
out when to come in. So I walked across and
brought them over there midway through, but like I didn't
have it in a nice, cooler field with ice. It
was just gatorades that were cold. I had had them
in the freezer I prepared all day and they were
then in this big like cooler zip you know, toe bag.
But those kids are kind of intimidating by me and
(02:00):
I at the end of the game, I was standing
there and I was like, do you want to and
I was embarrassing her. I'm sure I just wanted to
sell my Gatorades and coind bars and I got fucking caught,
and only and the first person took once I got excited,
only three people took the Gatorades, and like nobody took
a kind bar. But everybody was kind of dispersed already.
So at the end of the game, like you need
something that's going to attract them. It's not like the
(02:22):
middle of the game where they're sort of just hydrating
and bored and just taking something or it's on each
of their chairs. It's something people have to walk over
to fight each other for and like grab out of
a bag. And it's like a psychology of things that
are intimidating. And it happens at a Super Bowl buffet,
or it happens at a barbecue. Like if you give
(02:42):
people a certain food and it's the only thing they
get and they're just standing there, they'll eat it. But
if you're competing with other snacks, they're not going to
go for your thing. So I choked. So I was
talking to my assistant and she was like, you should
you know we were in high school. They brought Clementines.
I'm like, oh my god, I'll be canceled if I
bring clemen. First of all, they're touching dirty lacrosse sticks,
(03:02):
and then they're gonna fucking touch the skins and like
touch put it in their mouth. I don't know. I
don't like that touch, touch the fruit itself, put in
their mouth. I don't like the Clementine vibe. And I
guess the kind bar is that too. Everything you're gonna
touch with your hands. So I guess now I gotta
give them hand sanitizer and then they're gonna touch it.
So then she suggested chicken nuggets. That's like so cool,
and I thought, well, yeah, I love chicken nuggets, and
so well they but what are we doing, Like, I'm
(03:24):
they're gonna be cold chicken nuggets. I'm not gonna be
out of like Schaefer trays to or like a fucking
air fryer on the side. So I was wanted to
be like cool snack mom, and I choked. So what
I decided, And I don't want any other moms to
copy me on this, And I know this will be
a fail because I think I'm changing my mind as
I'm saying it. I went to Cinnabon and I saw
they have individual little mini cinnabuns, like you're pulling them apart.
(03:47):
And that also feels like gross, like they're gonna have
dirty lacrosse hands touching those. So now as I'm talking
to you about it, I think, like a bake by Melissa,
it's at least dryer. It's like not a sticky like
mix with dirt, and those are small or like treat
it's individual rice Krispy Tree, it's mini cupcakes. I don't know.
I think I might do cinnamon be cinnamon because it's
(04:07):
from you know, Cinnabon, and those are so popular and
everyone always loves them and that's so unique and different,
and they make mini ones. So I'll get back to you.
It's important that I get back to you and let
you know. And I'm a fucking around with drinks. They
could drink water, and I should get them many little
cheap o waters that they have at the drug store
because the big gatorad you know, it's a lot of
waste too. It's not being green. I just feel like
(04:28):
there are a lot of things I have to think through.
I actually think a juice box, but then are they
gonna think it's too babyish and they're like above juice
boxes because they're very hydrating and they're functional. I don't know.
I gotta go back and it's tomorrow, so I gotta
get organized about my snacking. Oh well, I'm not even
snack mom tomorrow, but I want to, like I want
to make up for my bad snack thing and be
like cool snacks. And my assistant was like, no, you're
(04:50):
not snack mom tomorrow. So now I'm gonna be the
one like showing up the other mom. And that's okay
because I fucked up last time and I don't want
anyone to know. I don't want anyone to copy me,
So let me know what you guys think. Because I
thought come bars were dry and that was positive, like
not bad dry, but like not sticky, like not chocolate
all over your uniforms. So that's why cinnabuns are a
little flawed. But like Treathouse is only one place in
(05:12):
a city, and then I'm causing a problem, like I
just want to get something it's easy and accessible, so
it's like supermarket individual cupcakes. Mini donuts seem like a
good idea too, you know how they like the but
then the powders everywhere and the chocolate's everywhere, Like what
the fuck am I gonna do? And would you show
up the other moms? Like what would you do? There's
not a group of moms. I'm just saying, like I
want to redeem myself. And I guess cold pizza is
(05:34):
good too, Like what do I do? What's the one
thing I could do to be different and unique that
I'm willing to do to just like redeem myself and
be cool snack mom? And they'll be like, oh my god, yay,
Brin's mom brought like I just want to do that
(06:00):
sports thing. They went from being little babies in a
carriage to being like real athletes and like I thought
if my daughter didn't play a lot, like that's the
kind of thing. They're at the age where you could
say sending to the coach like yeah, like can she
play more? Like this is not where we are. We're
at like competitive level sports. Some of the kids on
her team for volleyball and basketball on lacrosse, they're not
(06:21):
fucking around. They're like gazelles running down the field checking
people like they're not they're serious athletes. So the game
started catching up with me really quickly, no pun intended,
where like I just didn't know that I had to
have like extra credit sports. We're trying to do a
tutor sometimes for school to keep up with that, but
now we need like a sports tutor. And it can't
(06:43):
just be like someone to come over with her and
fuck around once in a while. It needs to be
a league and camps. Because her friends are all in
competitive leagues when they're not playing at school, so they're
playing soccer, but they're playing soccer after school, and they're
playing in a league after school, and they all are
playing together, So like Britna doesn't look as close to
the school as everybody else, so she's not caught up,
and I just felt One day I had a breakdown.
(07:05):
I was going to Florida for U for a trip,
and she went to go to this after school sort
of half bullshit volleyball thing. But I thought I was good,
like I was doing extra credit getting her in a
volleyball thing, but it's like not at the level. I
now realized that I had her in spoiled volleyball, not intentionally.
It was just like a normal place, but like it
(07:25):
wasn't competitive fucking cutthroat volleyball. So she went over one
day and the other kids didn't show up on that day,
and she was crying because it was like an hour
away because she was committed, and she's sometimes doing this
till nine o'clock at night. She doesn't get home till
ten o'clock at night, my twelve year old. So that
night she was crying. She was like, now I missed.
It was a nice day and I didn't get it,
(07:47):
and everyone's ahead of me, and she was having anxiety
because she's middle of the pack good, she's not the
best and she's not the worst, but like other people
are fucking on the case. So now I was gasping
for air because we were behind, and I just didn't
have it organized, like I didn't know it needed to
be organized, like my business. So one night I got organized.
My assistant. We were both like crying. My assistant was crying.
(08:10):
I was crying. We felt like we were behind because
we're in so sweet and we don't want her to
feel bad and behind, and she's so nice and she's
willing to do anything and she'll work hard and she
doesn't care. But we weren't organized. We weren't treating it
like a business. So I was more concerned with that
than the appearance I was doing. And I got very
fucking tight and right, and now I can't even breathe.
Now she's like, now we're on the case. And what
(08:34):
happens is during that sport, they're focused on that sport.
So we were in basketball season and she realized that
she wasn't good and she was freaking out, and she
was like, I'm not good and I felt bad, and
I found a place, and I found a place that
weekend in Boston where she could at least go play
with like older kids. But that's not her main sport
that she cares about. So during basketball, all she was
(08:54):
thinking about was basketball, but she wasn't playing ahead and
thinking about what was gonna happen in the spring for lacrosse.
So then she started lacrosse, and she's doing lacrosse, but
like off season, people are still playing lacrosse, so and
next year they'll be ahead of where she is. But
it moves fast because now we're into volleyball and so
it's very hard to know how to like be good
(09:16):
at all of it. So she doesn't feel left out.
And I think the answer is like you got to
pick one or two things that you want to be
good at because God doesn't give you everything, and you
can't be good at everything. So we have to decide
we're gonna suck at some things and play for fun,
and some things we're gonna focus on. And that's really
hard because when it comes to the season of sucking,
you feel insecure and bad about yourself because the other
people are good. So it's like it's very hard to
(09:39):
manage playing chess and checkers with this sports shit. So
right now, she's not in volleyball season, and she's doing
volleyball on days that she's not playing lacrosse, and then
so hopefully in the fall she'll be better at volleyball
when they're playing volleyball, and all summer, I'm trying to manage,
like playing all of it so we could just keep
up with the joe Is and basketball is gonna be
(10:04):
some sort of occasional thing and we're gonna sort of
suck at basketball, but try to keep up and not
cry because we suck, and then try during basketball season
to keep up with lacrosse for next spring. I don't
fucking know. This is insane, That's what I wanted to
say overall, I want to talk about tween rules in
(10:27):
an uber. I'm not comfortable with their Like many adults
now after school they walk to get boba. We walked
to We mean walk to get boba? And what do
you mean you went to Target in New York City
by yourself, Like you're twelve years old almost she's thirteen
years old in two weeks. But like, these kids are
all going to the mall and doing things, and I
know I'm helicoptering, but it's just like it's New York
City and I don't like it and I feel uncomfortable.
(10:49):
And so I have the Life three sixty track you
kid on the phone, which I feel comfortable about, and
it talk. It tells you how fast a car is
going and all that. And Paul, my fiance, actually gave
her rules for an uber, which I thought was amazing.
When you get in, you take the uber's name, you
take the information, and you call a parent and you
tell them who you're in the uber with, and you
(11:10):
tell the uber person that you're just gonna call the
parent and can you get their name and information. You
basically let the uber driver know that you're calling your
parent and letting them know that you're in the car
and how long will it take to get to the
next place. So if you don't get to the next
place on time, the parent knows that it's because of
the uber that you're in, Like it's just effectively communicating
(11:31):
so you feel safe, so the uber person knows you're
alert and just that was sort of how Paul told
it to her. She could explain it better because just
a lot this between age who
Oh, did I fucking fuck up the snacks? So for sports,
like my daughter has lacrosse and they email you and
they ask, like if someone wants to be like snack
mom or team mom, and like that's the correspondence mom.
And I wanted to be like in the snack rotation,
and I don't think I can own snacks. Snacks is
(00:32):
probably something that many people want, but I got my
fucking shot at snacks and I choked. And the reason
I choked is that, like I've seen that they eat
pizza or donuts and they've just done sports, and I thought,
after sports, you'd want a Gatorade. Like I thought that
was a lead. A gatory could be like two three
dollars or you know, and just thirty kids. So I
(00:54):
was gonna bring thirty Gatorades and a cond bar because
I thought, you've just worked out, you has a donuts
good and I know that's what a kid's gonna want.
But like, I just got the combo between kind bars
and gatorade would would endear me to the parents and
be fine with the kids. So a couple of things happen.
You got to know when to walk over you're on
a la crossfield which is gigantic, like it's like a
(01:14):
football field, and you don't want to be like the
dork mom. It's like carrying all the snacks going across
the field, and I already am like a no, I'm
already a known person, and my daughter's friends are kind
of fans and they know that. So I don't want
to be the dork mom walking across, but there's sort
of no other way to do it, and I just don't.
I'm not incognito. And so I got to the game
(01:38):
a little late last time, and Brinn didn't want the
snack at the beginning anyway, because they're getting ready to play,
so it's like you're playing double Dutch trying to figure
out when to come in. So I walked across and
brought them over there midway through, but like I didn't
have it in a nice, cooler field with ice. It
was just gatorades that were cold. I had had them
in the freezer I prepared all day and they were
then in this big like cooler zip you know, toe bag.
But those kids are kind of intimidating by me and
(02:00):
I at the end of the game, I was standing
there and I was like, do you want to and
I was embarrassing her. I'm sure I just wanted to
sell my Gatorades and coind bars and I got fucking caught,
and only and the first person took once I got excited,
only three people took the Gatorades, and like nobody took
a kind bar. But everybody was kind of dispersed already.
So at the end of the game, like you need
something that's going to attract them. It's not like the
(02:22):
middle of the game where they're sort of just hydrating
and bored and just taking something or it's on each
of their chairs. It's something people have to walk over
to fight each other for and like grab out of
a bag. And it's like a psychology of things that
are intimidating. And it happens at a Super Bowl buffet,
or it happens at a barbecue. Like if you give
(02:42):
people a certain food and it's the only thing they
get and they're just standing there, they'll eat it. But
if you're competing with other snacks, they're not going to
go for your thing. So I choked. So I was
talking to my assistant and she was like, you should
you know we were in high school. They brought Clementines.
I'm like, oh my god, I'll be canceled if I
bring clemen. First of all, they're touching dirty lacrosse sticks,
(03:02):
and then they're gonna fucking touch the skins and like
touch put it in their mouth. I don't know. I
don't like that touch, touch the fruit itself, put in
their mouth. I don't like the Clementine vibe. And I
guess the kind bar is that too. Everything you're gonna
touch with your hands. So I guess now I gotta
give them hand sanitizer and then they're gonna touch it.
So then she suggested chicken nuggets. That's like so cool,
and I thought, well, yeah, I love chicken nuggets, and
so well they but what are we doing, Like, I'm
(03:24):
they're gonna be cold chicken nuggets. I'm not gonna be
out of like Schaefer trays to or like a fucking
air fryer on the side. So I was wanted to
be like cool snack mom, and I choked. So what
I decided, And I don't want any other moms to
copy me on this, And I know this will be
a fail because I think I'm changing my mind as
I'm saying it. I went to Cinnabon and I saw
they have individual little mini cinnabuns, like you're pulling them apart.
(03:47):
And that also feels like gross, like they're gonna have
dirty lacrosse hands touching those. So now as I'm talking
to you about it, I think, like a bake by Melissa,
it's at least dryer. It's like not a sticky like
mix with dirt, and those are small or like treat
it's individual rice Krispy Tree, it's mini cupcakes. I don't know.
I think I might do cinnamon be cinnamon because it's
(04:07):
from you know, Cinnabon, and those are so popular and
everyone always loves them and that's so unique and different,
and they make mini ones. So I'll get back to you.
It's important that I get back to you and let
you know. And I'm a fucking around with drinks. They
could drink water, and I should get them many little
cheap o waters that they have at the drug store
because the big gatorad you know, it's a lot of
waste too. It's not being green. I just feel like
(04:28):
there are a lot of things I have to think through.
I actually think a juice box, but then are they
gonna think it's too babyish and they're like above juice
boxes because they're very hydrating and they're functional. I don't know.
I gotta go back and it's tomorrow, so I gotta
get organized about my snacking. Oh well, I'm not even
snack mom tomorrow, but I want to, like I want
to make up for my bad snack thing and be
like cool snacks. And my assistant was like, no, you're
(04:50):
not snack mom tomorrow. So now I'm gonna be the
one like showing up the other mom. And that's okay
because I fucked up last time and I don't want
anyone to know. I don't want anyone to copy me,
So let me know what you guys think. Because I
thought come bars were dry and that was positive, like
not bad dry, but like not sticky, like not chocolate
all over your uniforms. So that's why cinnabuns are a
little flawed. But like Treathouse is only one place in
(05:12):
a city, and then I'm causing a problem, like I
just want to get something it's easy and accessible, so
it's like supermarket individual cupcakes. Mini donuts seem like a
good idea too, you know how they like the but
then the powders everywhere and the chocolate's everywhere, Like what
the fuck am I gonna do? And would you show
up the other moms? Like what would you do? There's
not a group of moms. I'm just saying, like I
want to redeem myself. And I guess cold pizza is
(05:34):
good too, Like what do I do? What's the one
thing I could do to be different and unique that
I'm willing to do to just like redeem myself and
be cool snack mom? And they'll be like, oh my god, yay,
Brin's mom brought like I just want to do that
(06:00):
sports thing. They went from being little babies in a
carriage to being like real athletes and like I thought
if my daughter didn't play a lot, like that's the
kind of thing. They're at the age where you could
say sending to the coach like yeah, like can she
play more? Like this is not where we are. We're
at like competitive level sports. Some of the kids on
her team for volleyball and basketball on lacrosse, they're not
(06:21):
fucking around. They're like gazelles running down the field checking
people like they're not they're serious athletes. So the game
started catching up with me really quickly, no pun intended,
where like I just didn't know that I had to
have like extra credit sports. We're trying to do a
tutor sometimes for school to keep up with that, but
now we need like a sports tutor. And it can't
(06:43):
just be like someone to come over with her and
fuck around once in a while. It needs to be
a league and camps. Because her friends are all in
competitive leagues when they're not playing at school, so they're
playing soccer, but they're playing soccer after school, and they're
playing in a league after school, and they all are
playing together, So like Britna doesn't look as close to
the school as everybody else, so she's not caught up,
and I just felt One day I had a breakdown.
(07:05):
I was going to Florida for U for a trip,
and she went to go to this after school sort
of half bullshit volleyball thing. But I thought I was good,
like I was doing extra credit getting her in a
volleyball thing, but it's like not at the level. I
now realized that I had her in spoiled volleyball, not intentionally.
It was just like a normal place, but like it
(07:25):
wasn't competitive fucking cutthroat volleyball. So she went over one
day and the other kids didn't show up on that day,
and she was crying because it was like an hour
away because she was committed, and she's sometimes doing this
till nine o'clock at night. She doesn't get home till
ten o'clock at night, my twelve year old. So that
night she was crying. She was like, now I missed.
It was a nice day and I didn't get it,
(07:47):
and everyone's ahead of me, and she was having anxiety
because she's middle of the pack good, she's not the
best and she's not the worst, but like other people
are fucking on the case. So now I was gasping
for air because we were behind, and I just didn't
have it organized, like I didn't know it needed to
be organized, like my business. So one night I got organized.
My assistant. We were both like crying. My assistant was crying.
(08:10):
I was crying. We felt like we were behind because
we're in so sweet and we don't want her to
feel bad and behind, and she's so nice and she's
willing to do anything and she'll work hard and she
doesn't care. But we weren't organized. We weren't treating it
like a business. So I was more concerned with that
than the appearance I was doing. And I got very
fucking tight and right, and now I can't even breathe.
Now she's like, now we're on the case. And what
(08:34):
happens is during that sport, they're focused on that sport.
So we were in basketball season and she realized that
she wasn't good and she was freaking out, and she
was like, I'm not good and I felt bad, and
I found a place, and I found a place that
weekend in Boston where she could at least go play
with like older kids. But that's not her main sport
that she cares about. So during basketball, all she was
(08:54):
thinking about was basketball, but she wasn't playing ahead and
thinking about what was gonna happen in the spring for lacrosse.
So then she started lacrosse, and she's doing lacrosse, but
like off season, people are still playing lacrosse, so and
next year they'll be ahead of where she is. But
it moves fast because now we're into volleyball and so
it's very hard to know how to like be good
(09:16):
at all of it. So she doesn't feel left out.
And I think the answer is like you got to
pick one or two things that you want to be
good at because God doesn't give you everything, and you
can't be good at everything. So we have to decide
we're gonna suck at some things and play for fun,
and some things we're gonna focus on. And that's really
hard because when it comes to the season of sucking,
you feel insecure and bad about yourself because the other
people are good. So it's like it's very hard to
(09:39):
manage playing chess and checkers with this sports shit. So
right now, she's not in volleyball season, and she's doing
volleyball on days that she's not playing lacrosse, and then
so hopefully in the fall she'll be better at volleyball
when they're playing volleyball, and all summer, I'm trying to manage,
like playing all of it so we could just keep
up with the joe Is and basketball is gonna be
(10:04):
some sort of occasional thing and we're gonna sort of
suck at basketball, but try to keep up and not
cry because we suck, and then try during basketball season
to keep up with lacrosse for next spring. I don't
fucking know. This is insane, That's what I wanted to
say overall, I want to talk about tween rules in
(10:27):
an uber. I'm not comfortable with their Like many adults
now after school they walk to get boba. We walked
to We mean walk to get boba? And what do
you mean you went to Target in New York City
by yourself, Like you're twelve years old almost she's thirteen
years old in two weeks. But like, these kids are
all going to the mall and doing things, and I
know I'm helicoptering, but it's just like it's New York
City and I don't like it and I feel uncomfortable.
(10:49):
And so I have the Life three sixty track you
kid on the phone, which I feel comfortable about, and
it talk. It tells you how fast a car is
going and all that. And Paul, my fiance, actually gave
her rules for an uber, which I thought was amazing.
When you get in, you take the uber's name, you
take the information, and you call a parent and you
tell them who you're in the uber with, and you
(11:10):
tell the uber person that you're just gonna call the
parent and can you get their name and information. You
basically let the uber driver know that you're calling your
parent and letting them know that you're in the car
and how long will it take to get to the
next place. So if you don't get to the next
place on time, the parent knows that it's because of
the uber that you're in, Like it's just effectively communicating
(11:31):
so you feel safe, so the uber person knows you're
alert and just that was sort of how Paul told
it to her. She could explain it better because just
a lot this between age who
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