Minisode: Not Interested in Being Exclusive with Chelsea + Catherine

Chelsea and Catherine cover Chelsea’s modern technology woes, and deal with a listener’s Tesla troubles.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, Catherine.

Speaker 2 (00:01):
Oh, hello Chelsea. It's come to my attention that you
need a primer on substack.

Speaker 3 (00:07):
Well, yeah, I came to your attention because I told you, Catherine,
so that I'm glad that I that it came to
your attention.

Speaker 1 (00:12):
I do need a primer on substack.

Speaker 2 (00:14):
So I would imagine a lot.

Speaker 1 (00:15):
I have a lot of my friends.

Speaker 3 (00:16):
Yeah, yes, yes, and somehow I'm getting updates from subsack,
but I don't remember ever, like joining, I like to
limit my email intake, do you know what I mean?
It's too many emails from too many places that I
don't even I never signed up for.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
And all I do is unsubscribe, unsubscribed.

Speaker 2 (00:30):
Oh we have to have Carlos going and like unsubscribe
from everything. Well, so substack is basically just like a
fancy word for a newsletter. It's like a program where
people can have stuff behind a paywall. So like they
might have a free newsletter they send out, but you
pay to get their podcasts or that sort of thing.
It's I mean, it's.

Speaker 3 (00:46):
So you can put a podcast on there that that's
not available anywhere else, correct, correct, Yeah, and so you
can sign up for like updates.

Speaker 2 (00:53):
It's sort of like a new cool version of a
newsletter that's salesy.

Speaker 1 (00:57):
But but why is our platform for that?

Speaker 2 (00:58):
I don't know.

Speaker 3 (00:59):
Okay, okay, I don't understand anything. I'm losing my grip
on reality. Yeah, that's okay.

Speaker 4 (01:06):
You know what.

Speaker 2 (01:06):
We're just here to help you out with technology. I
have an update from an episode that was a long
time ago, so she wrote in. This is Alisa. She
wrote in on our Heather Gay episode, So this is
a while ago. She says, Hey, there, I was reminded
today that I was on an episode in May twenty
twenty three and wanted to give you an update. My

(01:27):
question was how do I have casual sex when I
can't make the first move? I shared that I was
taking myself out on dates, sitting at the bar with
a glass of wine and reading my book. I love
Happy Hour and I love my own company. Well, I
got asked out by a bartender. Lol. He's a massage
therapist that works a couple shifts a week at the
bar because he likes the social aspect of that work.

(01:47):
We dated for a year and ended up breaking up
because I wanted to know where things were going and
he wasn't ready to think about a future with me.
A year passed and I accepted a job offer in
another province of Canada, big move to prepare for. While
I was packing, my bartender declared his regrets and love
for me. While cautious, I chose to give him a
second chance, and we're currently in a committed long distance relationship.

(02:09):
I love him very much, and he is, as he
says quote, accepting the suffering of the consequences of his
choices as he should. We'll figure out how we can
be together after I finish a contract of two years.
Will I last that long? I don't know. I've never
felt this way for someone, and I'm so comfortable with
him for now. There are parts of living alone in
the city that I love, and I shared with you
before that I have a really good vibrator, so I'm

(02:32):
good until we can figure it out. You are my community.
Much love, Alisa.

Speaker 1 (02:36):
What was the advice? This is like a journal entry?

Speaker 2 (02:39):
I mean, I know, but well, hey, at least she
doesn't have to go out and have casual sex anymore,
although maybe she wants to while she's got this boyfriend
back home.

Speaker 3 (02:47):
Did I tell her to go after it, to go
get this guy did I tell her to have sex?

Speaker 2 (02:51):
I think we told her to like like make the
person move more. Oh but then he did.

Speaker 3 (02:56):
Oh okay, yeah, okay, okay, so another okay, great, Well
this is very anti climactic, Catherine, very anti climactic.

Speaker 2 (03:03):
Alisa, let us know what happens in two years.

Speaker 3 (03:06):
Yeah, we'll talk to you and be specific about what
the actual advice was. I don't remember what I fucking
said to her. That was twenty twenty three, twenty twenty three,
aren't we.

Speaker 5 (03:13):
Just think the advice was about dating yourself. I think
that's what you told her to do.

Speaker 4 (03:17):
Hold on, straight man, chiming in, Brad on the hold on,
Brad is on the scene. Do you remember that Brad
Cather is having it Catherine Cather, that's your name now, Caathra.
Catherine is having an inner interoffice and inner office affair
with her husband.

Speaker 3 (03:33):
Brad, who is our sound engineer. And that's his voice
that you're hearing. Thank you Brad for remembering. Yes, that
sounds like it tracks Brad that I told her to
date herself.

Speaker 2 (03:46):
We're we're at a studio where we've been coming for,
you know, the last several weeks, and I gave him
a a noodle here in the office, and I was like, wait,
did the other people here know that we're married or
do they think we just carpl we're married? In case
you guys did not know. Okay, So I have another
follow up. This is from a more recent episode with OTSCO.
This was about a gal who her sister in law
was like icing her out. There was like a B

(04:08):
day party mishap where she didn't get invited to the
niece's birthday party sort of thing. So she says, Hi,
Chelsea for this. Yeah. Yeah, since we last spoke, I
took your advice and had a conversation with my sister
in law about what it was that had led her
to cutting me off. The fact I should have mentioned
from the start is that she is on the Orange team,
if you know what I mean. Oh that took me

(04:30):
a second on the Orange team, if you know what
I mean. So the thought of having the conversation was
extra daunting, knowing I would probably not be met where
I was at. It turns out the reason she cut
me off was because I didn't wait until I saw
her in person to discuss the birthday issue, causing my
sister in law to get defensive of her daughter. I
still can't believe this is the reason for the cutoff. Wow.

(04:52):
I ended the conversation amicably by saying I love her
and her daughter and only want to be in their lives.
I've seen her at events since this converse station, and
things have been awkward, to say the least. I feel
I've done all that I can, and I certainly appreciate
the advice to confront the issue head on despite the
weird ending to the story. If this was any other relationship,
I would have been done with it all. But as
Chelsea said, we're family, so hoping things will someday improve,

(05:15):
but for now, I think we're at a standstill. Thank
you for everything, Sarah.

Speaker 3 (05:19):
Yeah, well now you have to employ mel Robbins let them, Yes,
let her do her thing and let you do your thing.
And it's not your problem. You stepped up to the plate.
You did what you're supposed to do. There's nothing else
you could.

Speaker 2 (05:30):
Do, right, And like, if that's her reasoning for being
up to that.

Speaker 1 (05:33):
With you, it's good.

Speaker 3 (05:35):
Yeah, when you're dealing with people like that are holding
onto very small, petty things, there is no it's like
it is like dealing with the terrorist on the other
end of the spectrum.

Speaker 2 (05:43):
Yes, yes, and you can only like you know, like
Chelsea said, you can only be irresponsible for how you're
showing up, like show up with light and love and
you know, if she wants to make grumpy, let her
be grumpy. And that's fine.

Speaker 1 (05:53):
Exactly exactly. I concur Catherine, I can cur Catherine, I
concur excellent.

Speaker 2 (06:02):
We just have a couple of quickies today. So our
first question comes from.

Speaker 1 (06:06):
Mag mag mag Maga Great.

Speaker 3 (06:10):
There's another MAGA now and Make America Gavin again. Gavin Newsom,
how do you feel about Gavin Newsom? I'm into it
good time. Yeah, yeah, you have to fight fire with fire.
All these fucking idiots tiptoeing around going we're crying and
doing now he's doing something and JB.

Speaker 1 (06:28):
Pritzker is that his name?

Speaker 2 (06:29):
JB.

Speaker 3 (06:29):
Pritzker, the governor of Illinois and Wes Moore, all these
guys need to fucking do this.

Speaker 5 (06:35):
You know.

Speaker 2 (06:35):
It's like Donald train back real hard.

Speaker 1 (06:37):
They need to really go after him.

Speaker 3 (06:39):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (06:40):
So it's nice to see somebody fighting the fight.

Speaker 2 (06:42):
I agree. I think like the last few years, especially journalists,
and it's like everyone's being so polite and like respectful
and like disagreeing, but in this really respectful way.

Speaker 3 (06:52):
And it's like you just I know, you can't respect
somebody who behaves this way and treats people in this way.

Speaker 1 (06:56):
It's disgusting, right well, mag.

Speaker 2 (06:59):
Says, Hey, Chelsea, as a twenty something who's just starting
to dive into the dating pool, I wanted to know
if you have any advice on dating multiple med at once?

Speaker 5 (07:07):
Do it?

Speaker 2 (07:08):
She says. Is this a bitch move?

Speaker 5 (07:10):
Now?

Speaker 2 (07:11):
If not, why do I feel bad about it? Meg?

Speaker 1 (07:13):
Yeah, no, date people only, do it? Absolutely.

Speaker 2 (07:15):
I was dating multiple people when I'm at Brad.

Speaker 1 (07:17):
Yeah, exactly. What's wrong with dating multiple people as.

Speaker 2 (07:20):
Long as everybody knows you're in the clear. Yeah, Like,
we're not not exclusive, not interested in being exclusive right now,
and then if one grows on you like Brad did,
then you know.

Speaker 3 (07:30):
Exactly, then you can eliminate the other gentleman callers. But
I absolutely do not, like there's nothing wrong with that.

Speaker 2 (07:36):
Also, like, who's got time to date one person at
a time anymore? No, keep it coming, keep it coming.

Speaker 1 (07:42):
Fresh meat, every hour on the hour, and that way you.

Speaker 2 (07:45):
Don't feel like, Okay, I just sunk two months into
this guy and he ghosted me or whatever. You know,
got people in the back burner. Our next question comes
from LC, So I know you ditched your tesla, so
this is about ditching her tesla. Dear Chelsea, As a
fellow Tesla owner, I'm feeling deeply conflicted these days, not
because my car is judging me, but because my subconscious

(08:08):
won't shut up about it. Given the current political climate
and the ongoing elon Trump saga, should I ditch my
tesla or are we just supposed to drive around pretending
it's an ultra fast self driving moral dilemma. Would love
to hear your take, Elsie.

Speaker 1 (08:22):
I'm all for ditching the Tesla.

Speaker 2 (08:23):
Yeah, because you ditched yours.

Speaker 1 (08:24):
R I ditched mine.

Speaker 3 (08:25):
My sister's waiting for her lease to be up, so
she's not ditching hers.

Speaker 1 (08:29):
And I have judgment towards that.

Speaker 3 (08:31):
I feel like you have to stand on principles, like
I'm sorry, Like you have to have principles and you
have to follow through with them.

Speaker 1 (08:36):
And this he doesn't deserve your money.

Speaker 2 (08:39):
No, agreed. And I mean I do think with some
people who maybe haven't given those back, they have that sticker.

Speaker 1 (08:44):
This is like first of all the truck, the fiber truck. Yeah,
I thought those all got recalled. Why do I keep
seeing that?

Speaker 2 (08:50):
That's what I thought too. I mean there was some
some part at least that got recalled, and all of them,
Brad will know.

Speaker 1 (08:55):
Yeah, Well, Brad, Brad, where are you a straight man?

Speaker 5 (08:58):
You talking about the cyber truck?

Speaker 2 (08:59):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (09:00):
If we got recalled, well.

Speaker 5 (09:02):
I think they just have an excess of inventory. I
think they just have like one hundred thousand vehicles that
they can't sell, so they're just sitting in parking lots everywhere.

Speaker 2 (09:09):
Well, wasn't there like like some.

Speaker 1 (09:11):
But there was an issue where they had to recall them.

Speaker 5 (09:14):
I'm sure there's tons of recalls.

Speaker 2 (09:16):
Why do we know about this and you don't you're
a car guy?

Speaker 5 (09:18):
Well, because it's a Tesla's.

Speaker 3 (09:22):
Way to miss, way to misrepresent yourself and this podcast.

Speaker 2 (09:26):
Brad, what a disappointment. All right, good bye, Brad tried. Sorry, Well,
on that note, we can go ahead and wrap up.

Speaker 3 (09:33):
Okay, Well, don't buy a Tesla and if you have one,
return ite. I just announced all my tour dates. They
just went on sale. It's called the High and Mighty Tour.
I will be starting in February of next year, so
I will be touring from February through June. So go
get your tickets now if you want good seats and
you want to come see me perform, I will be

(09:55):
on the High and Mighty tour.

Speaker 2 (09:58):
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