May 15, 2025 • 31 mins
Feel like you're drifting through life with no direction or deeper purpose?
You're not the only one. So many of us are stuck—not because we’re lazy or broken—but because we haven’t been taught how to find what we’re truly made for.
In this episode of Made For This Mountain, host Joshua Rosa shares 5 powerful, soul-revealing questions to help you:
- Regain emotional clarity
- Understand how your struggle can point toward your calling
- Break free from societal expectations
- Recognize what fear is really telling you
- What to do when passion feels out of reach
You weren’t made to live stuck. You were made for more.
Let’s uncover what that really means—together.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
There's not a single person that is going to die
your death. There's not a single person that's gonna pick
up your bills and pay them. There's not a single
person that's going to pay your tax. So if there's
not a single person that's going to do those things,
why do you think that you have to live for
a single person to be pleased with you? Why do
you think that the things that you have to do
have to be aimed and oriented towards those people. The
reason that people are walking around depressed and without purpose
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is because they're not living in their purpose for themselves
or living in other people's purpose. This is made for
this mountain with Josh Rosa or were turning pain into purpose.
So for a lot of us, we feel stuck like
we're in this rud this routine, this thing that we
keep doing over and over again, and we don't know why.
And I think that for a lot of people, they
go through this moment where it feels like they're in
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depression or they feel like they hate themselves, they hate
the life they're in. And I need to ask yourself
this question, are you depressed or are you just unhappy
with the place you're in? And I know that's gonna
sound conflating and I'm gonna sound confusing because sometimes we think, oh, well,
that is depression, right, me not being happy in the
place I'm in, that's notion. I need to understand that
that the depression is a clinical and psychological thing. That's explained, right,
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that we know that depression it's actually can even be chemical.
That there's a response in our body that doesn't allow
us inhibity certain things and it doesn't allow us to
see joy in anything. But I need to ask yourself
this question, are you depressed or are you just in
a place that you know you shouldn't be? Like, are
you in something that isn't the most joyful thing for you?
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Not because again not because of depression, not because of
that stuff, but because you're not doing the thing that's
actually serving the purpose in your life. And this episode
is about that. It's actually about finding purpose. It's about
knowing that there are things that you can change and
do that are going to grow you and make you better.
Because for a lot of us, we have been conflated.
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We have been conflicted with a lot of things in
our life. But we can conflain it's just a position
in what we're told we're supposed to be. And I
need to understand again, this is something that you might
hear a billion times over that so many people say,
but there's so much value in understanding that you have
the power to change everything, like today, like this very moment,
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like after this episode, during this episode, you have the
authority to say, I'm not gonna do that thing again.
I'm not gonna stay in something because I've been told
I have to be in there. I'm not going to
continue to do the thing that hurts me just because
I think it's the best thing for everyone else. I'm
not going to continue to please people or to serve people,
to be in something for other people that just kills me.
It doesn't make me feel like I'm worth it or
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valuable or good. There's a lot of people that are
walking around this place, this world, thinking that they're depressed
when they're just out of purpose. That's why you feel
like you don't have things together. And I know, I know,
especially culturally, I know that that our backgrounds come and
we think that we have to do certain things or
be certain people, live up certain things because from a
young age, this is a very cultural thing and I'm
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sure a lot of people suffer with this, but from
a very young age, I'm a second first generation born
in American, right, so my family's Dominican. Everyone's with a
maker public. I speak fluent Spanish, compet them into and
fluent English. But that that became a problem when there
were peepers, like everyone has dealt with that I had
to translate. There are certain things that's being the first
born son and also being the fluent between both languages.
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That there was a lot of things that from a
young age I had to mitigate between. So let's let's
just get to the point where we go with this.
There's a standard that happens that we think that we
need to live up to certain things or look like
certain things so that we can make our parents products,
so we can make our family profits, we can make
the people around this product. So what happens is there's
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actually a syndrome called the older sister syndrome. Obviously I'm
an older brother, but older sister syndrome is that you
tend to take the role of defending and protecting and
doing everything in your family. You tend to be the
one that everything has to go through. And what happens
is that no one ever notices when you aren't happy,
Like I never noticed when you aren't, you don't have
everything together, when you are broken, when you're hurt, because
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why because there's an image of you that has been
portrayed that you have to be the one that fixes everything,
that has every solution, that has every problem. Now, to
be clear, your family might not be the ones to
see you that way. It might be you. You might
see yourself in that light that you think that you
can't treat yourself, that you can't love you because you
have been so conditioned to do that. You've been so
conditioned to be the one that has to have all
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the solutions and all the answers. And this is the
life you live. And I know again sometimes it is
the family. Sometimes people see you in that light and
you think that you have to consistently be strong and
be this thing and live up to the thing that
they imagine. But I need you to understand that in
this world, family, romantic relationships, platonic relationships, all these things
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in this world, there is not a single person that
is going to live life for you. There's not a
single person that is going to die your death there's
not a single person that's going to pick up your
bills and pay them. There's not a single person that's
going to pay your tax. So if there's not a
single person that's going to do those things, why do
you think that you have to live for a single
person to be pleased with you? Why do you think
that the things that you have to do have to
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be aimed and oriented towards those people. The reason that
people are walking around depressed and without purpose is because
they're not living in their purpose for themselves. They're living
in other people's purpose. They're doing the things that their
lives need, they're gravitating around that they're helping and serving them.
And I need you to understand that until you put
you first again, it doesn't mean you're selfish, doesn't mean
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that you don't care about anyone else, doesn't mean that
you don't love anyone else. Is until you start prioritizing you,
until you start putting you in the forefront, you will
continue to live behind other people. You'll continue to be
the person that continues to pour into them and to
give in to them. And it's okay to pour into people.
I want you to be to understand this that it's
okay to love and supportant to people, but you cannot
pour from a place that's empty. You cannot pour from
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a place that you don't have joy in your life.
You cannot say that I'm gonna give to these people
and give, give, give, but there's nothing for you to
give from. So what happens is that you're not giving
from a surplus. You're giving from everything you have left.
And that is one of the worst ways to live life.
That's why again, you might not be depressed, you might
just not know what your purpose is. So before you
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give up, I'm gonna give you five questions, five things
that I need you to ask yourself, Five things that
I need you to address in your life that it
can be the catalyst as to why you do what
you do. And it's not that we don't want more.
It's not that we don't know how to get it.
It's just that we have been conditioned to thinking that
this is it. You have a conditioned to living in
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a place that doesn't actually serve us, and that's not
a good way to live life. I know, addressing those
things kind of hurt sometimes and it really causes some problems.
But if you are able to sit down and really say, Okay,
this is me, this is who I am, this is
who I want to be, and this is what I'm
doing or what I'm living through. You're gonna be able
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to really just just give the full version of you.
You're gonna give the best version of you, because the
best version of you is this healed version that doesn't
have to please people. It doesn't have to do what
people ask for or say. You're not gonna sit here
and beg people to choose you, because you're already chosen you.
We'll be right back after this quick commercial break. You're
not gonna sit here and say, okay, well, this is
what I bring to the table, and this is what
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I offer. In fact, you'll walk away from tables that
don't value what you bring because you've learned to love you.
So you've created this dichotomy with who you are and
what people see that you don't sit here and beg
for attention. People who are hurt will beg for attention.
It doesn't matter what that attention looks like. They're gonna
beg for it. Why Because they're hurt and they desire
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to be seen and to be loved. People who are
firm and confident and full of who they are and
their purpose don't beg for attention. They live and accept
and invite. But if I'm not wanted, I'm not there
because I'm not choosing you, I'm choosing me. Learning to
be firm and who you are is going to free
you from so much. It's gonna free you from needing
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to be approved of or be loved, to be liked.
It's gonna free you from that lie that you are
not worth it. It's gonna free you from that life that
you have to perform, or you have to act, or
you have to be. It allows you to simply be,
and that is one of the most powerful things you
will do in this world. Simply exist knowing that you're
worth it because you're worth it, not because you have
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to do something, not because you have to impress someone,
not because they liked you because you were different. It's
because you're fully you. It's our first question here, who
actually has control over your emotions? Not to be clear,
it's okay to have emotions, it's okay to respond and react,
it's okay to have those things. I need to understand
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that emotions are good. You are human. It is a
part of who you are. But how you respond and
sitting with time and being able to respond from a
genuine place is a huge difference. It's what changes from
you choosing to respond to them controlling your response. Emotions
are something that, again are chemical, They're in our body.
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You can have a chemical response to something and not
know why or how, but you can also mitigate that.
You can also talk to yourself and be conditioned and
teach yourself to not always respond that of emotion like
This is something that you see often when people who
go to anger management, right, because they don't know how
to respond from a healed place. They only respond from
their hurt. So when they respond from their hurt, it
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causes more problems. And this is something that a lot
of people need to go to their before because you
see people who respond that out of that wounded place
and they hurt other people. That whole phrase hurt people,
hurt people, right, They want other people to suffer with them.
But here's the question. The more healed you become, the
better better identifying that you become, the better you look
at those things and don't respond to them. You don't
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allow people who are trying to hurt you from their
hurt place to continue to hurt you, and a lot
of us are letting other people control our emotions because
these are things. There's so many categories. And I use
this word very loosely because this has become like a
fun thing to say at this point. Is that a
trigger word like narcissists? Right, we call everyone a narcists.
If they don't agree with you, you call them a narcist.
Doesn't mean they're narcissistic. Be clear, There is an actual
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psychological disorder that is diagnosed that is narcissism, So not
everyone is a narcist. However, there are people that have
narcissistic tendencies. There are people that are walking around undiagnosed. Right,
there are all these things that we're dealing with, So
I want to be clear. I use that very loosely.
But in the playbook of a narcissis is one of
the main things that they do. And for them, it's
again an emotional thing because they want control, so they
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want to make you angry. Right, making you angry is
not about them just making you angry just for the
sake of making you angry. It's about them actually having
control enough over you that they can incite in emotion.
So they want an emotion out of you. They want
you to be upset. Why because yeah, you might not
love me, but if you're upset with me, I know
I still control something in you. So this is again
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a tendency that follows within that category. It's not always
the same, it's not always necessarily just for those people,
but it is a tendency that falls in that place.
And if you're allowing people to control your emotions, then
this is also why you're not happy and walking in
purpose because who actually controls it? Like? Is it you? Like?
Are you responding from a place that so healed that
you don't allow people to make you mad, You don't
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allow them to incite arguments. And this is actually something
I learned as I grew over social media. And this
is gonna sound dumb, but there's a lot of perspective
when you understand these things. One thing that people want
we've heard of trolls, right, those people that go when
they common things and they just want to make you
angry and they want to get an emotion out of
you and they want to incite that. Why Because they
are so miserable with themselves. That the only way that
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they get a response, and they get joys by getting
you angry, by knowing that I was able to take
you from a happy place and put you in a
mad place. I now translate that to the real world,
to outside of the social platforms, to the life that
we're in. These people find joy in knowing that they're
able to control this in you, that they're able to
incite an emotion. And if you are not firm in you,
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what's going to happen is that you're going to respond.
You're going to fall into that trap. You're going to
allow them to do what they want to do or
say what they want to say, because because that's the
response they wanted, and you just wanted to fight or win,
or you were so hurt by what they said that
you thought that it merited a response. But why why
would those people deserve a response like what in them
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actually is enough for you to say, Oh, I'm going
to respond to their anger with my anger. There's nothing
like there's nothing in that emotional response that would actually
mitigate that that needs you to say, oh, oh, I'm
going to respond to this. So translate that into the
people around you into the life you're in. I need
you to understand that you don't have to respond to everything.
You don't have to respond to everyone. You don't have
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to response to hurt people that desire for you to
actually be hurt with them. You don't have to respond
to people who don't pay your bills. Like if someone
is paying your rents and your bills, okay, maybe you
have to have a conversation here and there. But if
people are not paying anything, they're not taking care of
anything for you. Why do you think, Why do you
feel the need to respond to them, Why do you
feel the need to give them power, Why do you
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feel the need to say, hey, it's okay. We need
to get to a point in our lives where we
become so healed emotionally that our emotions are controlled by
our logic. We do the whole step back and breathe
thing where you take a second, think about the logical
response to this emotion, and then respond from a place
of logic, not from a place of impulse or whim.
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This is why we get in so much trouble. This
is why we say things that we shouldn't say, why
we're get in so many arguments because we say things
from a place of impulse, and I know as a
dominic command, which is really hard to do sometimes to
sit there and just analyze what I'm saying. Because we're
very passionate, we respond from passion, but unfortunate passion isn't
always good. It's not meant for those situations. So if
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we know that we have control, we learn to control
our emotions. We rob people from the power that they
have over us and inciting them. We don't allow people
to continue to make us feel some type of way
because they have control over it. We don't allow people
to guilt trip us, which is a big one. We
don't allow people to make us feel like we're bad
people for doing what's right for us. I need you
to understand that you choosing was right for you is
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not bad. You are not a villain for choosing peace
over people. You are not a terrible person for sitting
here and saying, I do not like what you said
to me or did to me. So I'm going to
step away from misposition. We have in conditioned to thinking
that we are bad because we don't respond to people
who are responding poorly to us. We think that because
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of our relationship with them, because we love them, quote unquote,
because we care for them, that we need to respond
to them how they want us to respond. You do
not need to do that. I need you to understand
you are free from that thought that you need to
respond to people how they want you to respond to them. It's,
first of all, again responding from logic. We're stepping back
and saying is this true? Is real? Is this something
that I'm responding correctly? But then when you know that
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you don't need to respond to them how they want
you to respond to them, It's okay to tell people
I don't like what you said or did, and I'm
not going to give you that power. It's okay to
step away from people and walk away for your own
self being, your own good. Who has your emotion? Like?
Who controls what you think or what you're saying? Who
controls the way you feel about you? That whole concept
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of self esteem is literally self the esteem of you.
Why are you giving people so much power to control
your emotions just because you want them to be present
to you? What is your struggle revealed about your purpose?
And this is a big one. I don't think we
realize as often. Let's take me for example, right, Because
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I only know me, I can only give you this.
I know, and I've always known that I have an
ability and a gifting to create. I know that I'm
a very good orator. I can speak well, I travel
as a speaker. I do all these things. But I've
struggled often with imposter syndrome. And as I grew in
social media and all these things were happening for me,
I looked at that perspective and I was like, yeah,
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but I don't live the best life like I make
so many mistakes. And I come also from a very
faith based background, so I desire to make God happy
and to do all those things to live that kind
of life that it's like good and wholesome and holy.
But I'm also human. And I was sitting with this
the other day, and I think, I really hope that
as you hear this, is this frees you from this.
I was sitting with this the other day, and is
I rather people see an imperfect me that did amazing
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things than a perfect me that pretends to be perfect
and did all these other things and think that it's
unachievable because they only see a false image of me
and that who I authentically am. I need you to understand,
even in your mess, even in your brokenness, even in
the hot mess that you are in this world, your
struggles were always aligned or want aligned with the purpose
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that you're supposed to be in. If you're doing things
that are feeling heavy and taxing and then not purpose
right now, that doesn't mean that dismisses work, because work
is a huge component. Even if you're amazingly good at
what you do and is natural for you, it still
should require some level of work. The next stage that
you're in is going to require work from you, because
that is a natural part of just living being a human.
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But the thing that you're in right now, it's not
aligned with your purpose in life. If it's not only
the best thing for you, you're gonna feel like it's heavy.
Why because you have to do double the work to
pull it. It's not just the normal work that you're doing.
You're doing extra work that's outside of the realm of
what you need to do. For me, I felt like
I needed to be perfect. I felt like there's this
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imposter syndrome. Why do all these people want to connect
with me and follow me, what words can I possibly say?
And what happens the moment that I make a big mistake,
what happens in the moment that I failed or fought
and then I freed myself from that thought. The reality
is that none of those people again it comes back
to our first point, but none of those people have
control over the things that I do. And if they
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are with me, it's not because of my perfection, but
it's because I offer something to them, and I offer
something to me. I offer some value that people are
capable of seeing of that, But I don't need to
pretend to be anything else. And there's this freeing reality
when you know that it's okay to be you, it's
okay to be open, because what's gonna happen is that
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people who love you will value you. You don't have
to pretend to keep the people that want to be there.
You will have to pretend to keep the people that
don't want to be there. And if you have to
pretend to be better than what you are, that you're again,
and this is everyone because you have a lot of
people who are liars, like there is no person in
this world that's perfect. If they're acting like they're better
than you. They're lying to you. They are so wounded
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that they need to project this image of perfection. There
is no person in this world that is perfect, and
a person that projects to be perfect they're lying because
they're so hurt in their woundedness that they want you
to see that and act like, oh wow, look, how
amazing your I will be the first person to tell
you I am not perfect. I'm broken on flawed, I
make mistakes. But there's a difference between a person that's
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able to stand up and identify and a person that
sits there and lies. I'm able to look at those
things to say, look, I messed up and I made mistakes,
and this is what I'm telling you. I hope that
gives you freedom and gives you this ability to live
and struggle in purpose and not struggle in everything else.
It's to sit there and identify that you are not perfect,
and you are gonna make mistakes, and that's absolutely okay.
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It's okay to say I didn't do the perfect thing today,
but tomorrow I'm gonna work ten times. Is harder to
make sure that I'm on track with what I deserve
and not what I think I need. To look like
you need to serve and live and work in that reality,
and the struggle that you're in is gonna review that
purpose to you. For me, again, the struggle was knowing
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that I was doing all these other things that I
wanted to do or that I thought I wanted to do,
but never the thing that I felt most comfortable doing.
Like for me, this is joyful for me creating things
that I know someone is going to receive something from.
Because again, I don't know where you're coming from, right,
Maybe you just stumbled upon this podcast. I Heeart put
the promo out and you saw the promo and you
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stumbled upon it and you're here and you're here and
listening to this, or you follow me on social media
and you saw and you see the things that I said.
But for me, that was a big one. What people
were writing in the comment sections of people DM and me,
you're still writing, You're still damn me. What people were
saying to me was the biggest portion of it, because
I saw the value of me doing this. And even
when I felt like I was like, man, I'm a
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mess I'm a mess up. I've done all these things
that I that I would I hope no one else
would do. And I'm sitting in this and I'm like,
but look at all these people, Like even in my
imposter syndrome, there were people that were receiving. So for me,
that was the biggest, biggest portion. I need you to understand,
and I hope that freeze you that you do not
need to be perfect. You just need to be willing.
You don't have to have a home run every single day.
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You just can. You can strike out today, you can
strike out a couple of times, but as long as
you come back up, as long as you get back
at this bat and you keep trying and making that
effort and doing the thing that you know is going
to serve you, not the thing that you think you
need to do. But knowing that you're working towards the best,
joyful version of you, that's gonna help you reveal what
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that struggle is. It's gonna help you live and struggle
in purpose and not struggle outside of it. We'll be
right back after this quick commercial break. For a lot
of people, they're miserable and they're depressed because they're outside
of purpose they're doing. There's tired and labored doing so
much work that is in progressing anything. And if you
heard episode one, if not, if I write you to
go listen to it. But I spoke about motion and movement.
There's a lot of people that are doing a lot
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of things and not going anywhere because they're they're they're
just spinning their tires. That mud in the tire analogy, right,
They're just spinning and spinning but not moving. Of course
you're tired. You've done all these things and nothing's changed.
But there needs to be something that's gonna align with that.
So leading as to a third question, are you moving
forward or are you just moving? We can't say that
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we want to change and we want to live a happier,
more purposeful life. Or we can't say, well, I'm depressed,
but I've done nothing to change that. We can't sit
here in this this false narrative of our lives and
then not be joyful about it because we did nothing
for it. We did we didn't change. So I need
you to ask yourself that question, what have I actually
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done to make anything different? Like for me again? Again,
I use me because I'm here. I'll give myself analogy.
When we have episodes, we have other people. I'm gonna
grow them with these questions. I'm just a sidebar. I
really wanted to be intentional about these first few episodes.
Why because I wanted it to be something that we've
built this relationship before we brought in anyone else in
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right There are gonna be questions I'm gonna I have
already that I'm facing with other people, and then I'm
taking in through messages into DMS and things that I
feel like are gonna help and be fruitful for the
people that are listening. But for right now, I really
wanted to set this foundation with you are listening. I
wanted you to be able to understand that there's so
much purpose in in you, and this is that core
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statement of anything else and everything else that we touch
on and we grow upon. That's gonna be amazing and beautiful.
But first you your purpose, where you are, what you
stand for, the things that you need to heal from,
and moving through that mountain and moving this to this
reality that we know that we're gonna change. So keep
keep with me here. Before we ask other people these questions,
we need to ask ourselves this, are we changing things?
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Are we moving forward? Are things progressing? Or am I
just doing the same thing over and over again and
calling it life like? Am I actually making a change
even if it's the most minute Again, it doesn't have
to be a home run. It could be a small
little change. Am I making the smallest change today? That's saying, okay,
something is different at the very least I could build
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on something different. Small changes meaning the biggest thing, the
biggest significance, I would say, is often a little bit
to work create the dream. The little thing you're doing
is working towards that thing that you desire. So are
you actually moving forward or are you just moving are
just flaring your arms up and down? Or is there
something that's actually changing? And I know this is hard,
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and I want you to think about that as you
hear this is identify that thing. What did I do
today that was small? Even if I struck out, but
I made the effort that was small enough to be
a part of that change. Did I do anything? Or
am I just in the same routine. Am I in
my car right now driving to work to do the
same thing I've done for the last two years of
my life every single day, to repeat the cycle over
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and over again. Or did I do something that's going
to help me change that if your dream is to
make content or to be a podcast, or to do
all these things. So the things that drive your passion
that is natural to you, did you make any effort,
did you try you, did you buy the microphone? Did
did you set up the camera? Did you make anything
possible for you to say that I've made some change?
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Or did you do the same thing over and over again?
You can't ask yourself if you're depressed and you've done
nothing to challenge that, because that's different. Now you're saying, well, yeah,
I'm depressed, but I don't want to do anything to
move anything. I'm not living my purpose, but I don't
want to do anything to do anything. I haven't been
happy in my life, but I haven't done anything to
do anything. Are you passionate or performing for someone else?
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It's our fourth question there, and that's such a big one.
Do you actually have passion for what you're doing? Like?
Is it something that you genuinely love? Is it something
that stems and flows naturally out of you, or is
something that you are trying to do because you think
that this is the most financially secure thing you could do,
Or is it the thing that you're doing because you
think that people are gonna love you more for it
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is the thing that you're doing because you want the
applause from the crowd. There's a saying that I sit
with often. I say often is if I live for
the applause of the crowd, I will die for the
lack thereof. If I live for people liking me and
approving of me when the moment that they choose not to,
that's it. That's my life. That's over because I have
lived and created a life that revolves around other people
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saying I approve of you, and not a life that
says I will live despite you. I will live despite
your approval. I'm in purpose, even if you don't like it.
I need you to understand that serving your passion, yes,
it might be hard, it might be difficult, which again
ties it if you notice, ties it perfectly to everything
I just said. Serving your passion might be difficult, it
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might be hard, but it's going to be the most
joyful thing you will ever do because it allows you
to be in something that is going to serve not
just your mind and your heart, but your life. It's
gonna be something that you wake up every day and
don't mind doing I love what I do. I passionately
love what I do. And I mentioned before that I
love it because I could serve and help people, but
I love it also because I get to be creative.
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I get to do what I naturally have in me,
what I do every day with everyone, people like meet
in conversations I have. I do this all the time,
and it's not tedious to me because it's something that
I genuinely love. So if you're serving your passion, you
don't feel performative. You don't feel like you have to
sit here and act like anything else or anyone else,
for anyone else. You are living in what you were
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made for, what God has already ordained in your heart.
You're living in that thing that is passion, not performance,
and you're not begging anyone to choose you or to
love you. You are so firm and confident in what
you're doing because it is your passion. It isn't a
part of anything else. It's a part of who you
actually are. And I think for a lot of us
that's our struggle. Right. We're living in performance, in that passion.
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And if you're for me, constantly you're going to get
very tired. It's going to be hard to live a
purposeful life because that's just what you're doing. You're you're
you're living in in performance and not purpose. You're living
in performance and not passion. You're living in performance and
now who you authentically were made to be. So of
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course you don't feel like you're happy because you're not you.
You're doing what everyone else's desires you do. And this
is our last last question here that you need to
ask yourself. And I worried it as a me thing.
How do I respond when fear is in front of me? Like?
What is my response to to the to this this possibility,
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this life that I desire to live? What is my
response so to the thing that I'm scared to do
in it? And I so I've read so many self
help books. I read all these like really popular books
or some of them. I have just heard podcast you know,
or audiobooks, and I've heard so many of these things
and they all come back to the same thing. And
it's called it a coin. They call it what you Want.
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This podcast is based on it at Matthew seventeen or
the Faith If You Tell, If You Tell, the mountains
and you have faith the grain of a muster seed.
You tell the mountain to move into the sea, We'll
move into the sea. All these self help books are
actually based on this thing. Faith is believing the thing
is possible. And and like literally I joke you knife
if you have time, if you have a book around there,
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go read, go read one of them. Like these like
self help books that are like about changing your whole
life and becoming the richest version of you and the
happiest version of you, and all these every single self
help book. Again no coincidence that this this podcast itself
is also based on this reality. Faith moves mountains. We
talk about being in the mountain and the mountains in
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the front of you when you have faith, when you
have something that you look at and you're saying and again,
how I read a couple of self help books that say,
oh yeah from not from a religious stamp, but whatever,
I'm not going to sit here and tell you what
to believe or not to believe. You're welcome, they invited.
I hope that one day I help you see what
I see. But if you don't, that's not that's not
what I'm doing here. That's not the question here. They
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all say, oh, it's not from a religious standpoint, you
can use that point whatever. But it was say, faith
is knowing that this thing is not just possible, it's probable,
like knowing that it exists, and then it's there, and
I have enough faith to say to this thing to exist,
that huld move or to do or to happen, and
knowing that I have enough faith in me to make
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this thing happen. And we hear this analogy often was
with faith is burning the boat. Right, we hear it
with Alexander the Great, or we hear it with countless people.
There's there's different stories about this one, but as in
the Grason one more famous one where where they were
outnumbered completely and their soldiers were really scared. So what
they did is that they took the boats. Well, he
took the boats while they were sleeping, and he burned
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all the boats. And now they had only one choice win.
They had to They had to succeed. They had no
other choice but to succeed. That was the only reality
for them. It wasn't could I run away or could
I could I leave? I have to do this, I can,
I must, I will I have to make this happen.
Knowing that there's faith in the fact that that thing
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can happen changes everything, changes the perspective, It changes how
you react, how you live, how you move. So my
question for you is, as we end this episode comes
to the end of it, what do you have faith in? Like?
Do you believe that you can, you must, you will?
Do you believe that it's possible? Do you believe that
you can change your life? That the mountain in front
of you is not meant to be what kills you,
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but it's meant to be a part of the story.
Are you turning pain into purpose? Are you really saying
that this thing that was in front of me is
part of my story. Yes, faith can be seen from
so many perspectives. But I need you to understand that
if you don't have faith in you, you don't have
anything right. Because if you knew what you were capable
of doing and you did it, you would have an
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amazing story that comes out of this. So I just
want to thank you for being here, for listening to
this episode, and I hope these questions actually just just
bring some level of perspective. It doesn't like it doesn't
have to change your entire life today, but it can
change your perspective if you ask yourself these things, what
is it doing? How am I living this? Are you
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actually authentically what you want to be? Are you just
moving around or moving forward? Knowing that these things were
meant for you is going to change the perspective. And
I'm really excited for the next episode. And i know
everyone should always say that because it brings and prompts
other people, but it's just this reality of us knowing
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what our passion is and what we were actually built
and how it's found. I'm excited for that because I'm
a very big advocate of people living in their passion
and we'll be diving into that. So thank you for
being here and I'll catch up with you the next one.
There's not a single person that is going to die
your death. There's not a single person that's gonna pick
up your bills and pay them. There's not a single
person that's going to pay your tax. So if there's
not a single person that's going to do those things,
why do you think that you have to live for
a single person to be pleased with you? Why do
you think that the things that you have to do
have to be aimed and oriented towards those people. The
reason that people are walking around depressed and without purpose
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is because they're not living in their purpose for themselves
or living in other people's purpose. This is made for
this mountain with Josh Rosa or were turning pain into purpose.
So for a lot of us, we feel stuck like
we're in this rud this routine, this thing that we
keep doing over and over again, and we don't know why.
And I think that for a lot of people, they
go through this moment where it feels like they're in
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depression or they feel like they hate themselves, they hate
the life they're in. And I need to ask yourself
this question, are you depressed or are you just unhappy
with the place you're in? And I know that's gonna
sound conflating and I'm gonna sound confusing because sometimes we think, oh, well,
that is depression, right, me not being happy in the
place I'm in, that's notion. I need to understand that
that the depression is a clinical and psychological thing. That's explained, right,
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that we know that depression it's actually can even be chemical.
That there's a response in our body that doesn't allow
us inhibity certain things and it doesn't allow us to
see joy in anything. But I need to ask yourself
this question, are you depressed or are you just in
a place that you know you shouldn't be? Like, are
you in something that isn't the most joyful thing for you?
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Not because again not because of depression, not because of
that stuff, but because you're not doing the thing that's
actually serving the purpose in your life. And this episode
is about that. It's actually about finding purpose. It's about
knowing that there are things that you can change and
do that are going to grow you and make you better.
Because for a lot of us, we have been conflated.
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We have been conflicted with a lot of things in
our life. But we can conflain it's just a position
in what we're told we're supposed to be. And I
need to understand again, this is something that you might
hear a billion times over that so many people say,
but there's so much value in understanding that you have
the power to change everything, like today, like this very moment,
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like after this episode, during this episode, you have the
authority to say, I'm not gonna do that thing again.
I'm not gonna stay in something because I've been told
I have to be in there. I'm not going to
continue to do the thing that hurts me just because
I think it's the best thing for everyone else. I'm
not going to continue to please people or to serve people,
to be in something for other people that just kills me.
It doesn't make me feel like I'm worth it or
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valuable or good. There's a lot of people that are
walking around this place, this world, thinking that they're depressed
when they're just out of purpose. That's why you feel
like you don't have things together. And I know, I know,
especially culturally, I know that that our backgrounds come and
we think that we have to do certain things or
be certain people, live up certain things because from a
young age, this is a very cultural thing and I'm
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sure a lot of people suffer with this, but from
a very young age, I'm a second first generation born
in American, right, so my family's Dominican. Everyone's with a
maker public. I speak fluent Spanish, compet them into and
fluent English. But that that became a problem when there
were peepers, like everyone has dealt with that I had
to translate. There are certain things that's being the first
born son and also being the fluent between both languages.
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That there was a lot of things that from a
young age I had to mitigate between. So let's let's
just get to the point where we go with this.
There's a standard that happens that we think that we
need to live up to certain things or look like
certain things so that we can make our parents products,
so we can make our family profits, we can make
the people around this product. So what happens is there's
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actually a syndrome called the older sister syndrome. Obviously I'm
an older brother, but older sister syndrome is that you
tend to take the role of defending and protecting and
doing everything in your family. You tend to be the
one that everything has to go through. And what happens
is that no one ever notices when you aren't happy,
Like I never noticed when you aren't, you don't have
everything together, when you are broken, when you're hurt, because
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why because there's an image of you that has been
portrayed that you have to be the one that fixes everything,
that has every solution, that has every problem. Now, to
be clear, your family might not be the ones to
see you that way. It might be you. You might
see yourself in that light that you think that you
can't treat yourself, that you can't love you because you
have been so conditioned to do that. You've been so
conditioned to be the one that has to have all
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the solutions and all the answers. And this is the
life you live. And I know again sometimes it is
the family. Sometimes people see you in that light and
you think that you have to consistently be strong and
be this thing and live up to the thing that
they imagine. But I need you to understand that in
this world, family, romantic relationships, platonic relationships, all these things
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in this world, there is not a single person that
is going to live life for you. There's not a
single person that is going to die your death there's
not a single person that's going to pick up your
bills and pay them. There's not a single person that's
going to pay your tax. So if there's not a
single person that's going to do those things, why do
you think that you have to live for a single
person to be pleased with you? Why do you think
that the things that you have to do have to
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be aimed and oriented towards those people. The reason that
people are walking around depressed and without purpose is because
they're not living in their purpose for themselves. They're living
in other people's purpose. They're doing the things that their
lives need, they're gravitating around that they're helping and serving them.
And I need you to understand that until you put
you first again, it doesn't mean you're selfish, doesn't mean
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that you don't care about anyone else, doesn't mean that
you don't love anyone else. Is until you start prioritizing you,
until you start putting you in the forefront, you will
continue to live behind other people. You'll continue to be
the person that continues to pour into them and to
give in to them. And it's okay to pour into people.
I want you to be to understand this that it's
okay to love and supportant to people, but you cannot
pour from a place that's empty. You cannot pour from
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a place that you don't have joy in your life.
You cannot say that I'm gonna give to these people
and give, give, give, but there's nothing for you to
give from. So what happens is that you're not giving
from a surplus. You're giving from everything you have left.
And that is one of the worst ways to live life.
That's why again, you might not be depressed, you might
just not know what your purpose is. So before you
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give up, I'm gonna give you five questions, five things
that I need you to ask yourself, Five things that
I need you to address in your life that it
can be the catalyst as to why you do what
you do. And it's not that we don't want more.
It's not that we don't know how to get it.
It's just that we have been conditioned to thinking that
this is it. You have a conditioned to living in
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a place that doesn't actually serve us, and that's not
a good way to live life. I know, addressing those
things kind of hurt sometimes and it really causes some problems.
But if you are able to sit down and really say, Okay,
this is me, this is who I am, this is
who I want to be, and this is what I'm
doing or what I'm living through. You're gonna be able
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to really just just give the full version of you.
You're gonna give the best version of you, because the
best version of you is this healed version that doesn't
have to please people. It doesn't have to do what
people ask for or say. You're not gonna sit here
and beg people to choose you, because you're already chosen you.
We'll be right back after this quick commercial break. You're
not gonna sit here and say, okay, well, this is
what I bring to the table, and this is what
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I offer. In fact, you'll walk away from tables that
don't value what you bring because you've learned to love you.
So you've created this dichotomy with who you are and
what people see that you don't sit here and beg
for attention. People who are hurt will beg for attention.
It doesn't matter what that attention looks like. They're gonna
beg for it. Why Because they're hurt and they desire
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to be seen and to be loved. People who are
firm and confident and full of who they are and
their purpose don't beg for attention. They live and accept
and invite. But if I'm not wanted, I'm not there
because I'm not choosing you, I'm choosing me. Learning to
be firm and who you are is going to free
you from so much. It's gonna free you from needing
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to be approved of or be loved, to be liked.
It's gonna free you from that lie that you are
not worth it. It's gonna free you from that life that
you have to perform, or you have to act, or
you have to be. It allows you to simply be,
and that is one of the most powerful things you
will do in this world. Simply exist knowing that you're
worth it because you're worth it, not because you have
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to do something, not because you have to impress someone,
not because they liked you because you were different. It's
because you're fully you. It's our first question here, who
actually has control over your emotions? Not to be clear,
it's okay to have emotions, it's okay to respond and react,
it's okay to have those things. I need to understand
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that emotions are good. You are human. It is a
part of who you are. But how you respond and
sitting with time and being able to respond from a
genuine place is a huge difference. It's what changes from
you choosing to respond to them controlling your response. Emotions
are something that, again are chemical, They're in our body.
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You can have a chemical response to something and not
know why or how, but you can also mitigate that.
You can also talk to yourself and be conditioned and
teach yourself to not always respond that of emotion like
This is something that you see often when people who
go to anger management, right, because they don't know how
to respond from a healed place. They only respond from
their hurt. So when they respond from their hurt, it
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causes more problems. And this is something that a lot
of people need to go to their before because you
see people who respond that out of that wounded place
and they hurt other people. That whole phrase hurt people,
hurt people, right, They want other people to suffer with them.
But here's the question. The more healed you become, the
better better identifying that you become, the better you look
at those things and don't respond to them. You don't
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allow people who are trying to hurt you from their
hurt place to continue to hurt you, and a lot
of us are letting other people control our emotions because
these are things. There's so many categories. And I use
this word very loosely because this has become like a
fun thing to say at this point. Is that a
trigger word like narcissists? Right, we call everyone a narcists.
If they don't agree with you, you call them a narcist.
Doesn't mean they're narcissistic. Be clear, There is an actual
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psychological disorder that is diagnosed that is narcissism, So not
everyone is a narcist. However, there are people that have
narcissistic tendencies. There are people that are walking around undiagnosed. Right,
there are all these things that we're dealing with, So
I want to be clear. I use that very loosely.
But in the playbook of a narcissis is one of
the main things that they do. And for them, it's
again an emotional thing because they want control, so they
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want to make you angry. Right, making you angry is
not about them just making you angry just for the
sake of making you angry. It's about them actually having
control enough over you that they can incite in emotion.
So they want an emotion out of you. They want
you to be upset. Why because yeah, you might not
love me, but if you're upset with me, I know
I still control something in you. So this is again
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a tendency that follows within that category. It's not always
the same, it's not always necessarily just for those people,
but it is a tendency that falls in that place.
And if you're allowing people to control your emotions, then
this is also why you're not happy and walking in
purpose because who actually controls it? Like? Is it you? Like?
Are you responding from a place that so healed that
you don't allow people to make you mad, You don't
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allow them to incite arguments. And this is actually something
I learned as I grew over social media. And this
is gonna sound dumb, but there's a lot of perspective
when you understand these things. One thing that people want
we've heard of trolls, right, those people that go when
they common things and they just want to make you
angry and they want to get an emotion out of
you and they want to incite that. Why Because they
are so miserable with themselves. That the only way that
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they get a response, and they get joys by getting
you angry, by knowing that I was able to take
you from a happy place and put you in a
mad place. I now translate that to the real world,
to outside of the social platforms, to the life that
we're in. These people find joy in knowing that they're
able to control this in you, that they're able to
incite an emotion. And if you are not firm in you,
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what's going to happen is that you're going to respond.
You're going to fall into that trap. You're going to
allow them to do what they want to do or
say what they want to say, because because that's the
response they wanted, and you just wanted to fight or win,
or you were so hurt by what they said that
you thought that it merited a response. But why why
would those people deserve a response like what in them
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actually is enough for you to say, Oh, I'm going
to respond to their anger with my anger. There's nothing
like there's nothing in that emotional response that would actually
mitigate that that needs you to say, oh, oh, I'm
going to respond to this. So translate that into the
people around you into the life you're in. I need
you to understand that you don't have to respond to everything.
You don't have to respond to everyone. You don't have
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to response to hurt people that desire for you to
actually be hurt with them. You don't have to respond
to people who don't pay your bills. Like if someone
is paying your rents and your bills, okay, maybe you
have to have a conversation here and there. But if
people are not paying anything, they're not taking care of
anything for you. Why do you think, Why do you
feel the need to respond to them, Why do you
feel the need to give them power, Why do you
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feel the need to say, hey, it's okay. We need
to get to a point in our lives where we
become so healed emotionally that our emotions are controlled by
our logic. We do the whole step back and breathe
thing where you take a second, think about the logical
response to this emotion, and then respond from a place
of logic, not from a place of impulse or whim.
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This is why we get in so much trouble. This
is why we say things that we shouldn't say, why
we're get in so many arguments because we say things
from a place of impulse, and I know as a
dominic command, which is really hard to do sometimes to
sit there and just analyze what I'm saying. Because we're
very passionate, we respond from passion, but unfortunate passion isn't
always good. It's not meant for those situations. So if
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we know that we have control, we learn to control
our emotions. We rob people from the power that they
have over us and inciting them. We don't allow people
to continue to make us feel some type of way
because they have control over it. We don't allow people
to guilt trip us, which is a big one. We
don't allow people to make us feel like we're bad
people for doing what's right for us. I need you
to understand that you choosing was right for you is
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not bad. You are not a villain for choosing peace
over people. You are not a terrible person for sitting
here and saying, I do not like what you said
to me or did to me. So I'm going to
step away from misposition. We have in conditioned to thinking
that we are bad because we don't respond to people
who are responding poorly to us. We think that because
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of our relationship with them, because we love them, quote unquote,
because we care for them, that we need to respond
to them how they want us to respond. You do
not need to do that. I need you to understand
you are free from that thought that you need to
respond to people how they want you to respond to them. It's,
first of all, again responding from logic. We're stepping back
and saying is this true? Is real? Is this something
that I'm responding correctly? But then when you know that
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you don't need to respond to them how they want
you to respond to them, It's okay to tell people
I don't like what you said or did, and I'm
not going to give you that power. It's okay to
step away from people and walk away for your own
self being, your own good. Who has your emotion? Like?
Who controls what you think or what you're saying? Who
controls the way you feel about you? That whole concept
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of self esteem is literally self the esteem of you.
Why are you giving people so much power to control
your emotions just because you want them to be present
to you? What is your struggle revealed about your purpose?
And this is a big one. I don't think we
realize as often. Let's take me for example, right, Because
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I only know me, I can only give you this.
I know, and I've always known that I have an
ability and a gifting to create. I know that I'm
a very good orator. I can speak well, I travel
as a speaker. I do all these things. But I've
struggled often with imposter syndrome. And as I grew in
social media and all these things were happening for me,
I looked at that perspective and I was like, yeah,
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but I don't live the best life like I make
so many mistakes. And I come also from a very
faith based background, so I desire to make God happy
and to do all those things to live that kind
of life that it's like good and wholesome and holy.
But I'm also human. And I was sitting with this
the other day, and I think, I really hope that
as you hear this, is this frees you from this.
I was sitting with this the other day, and is
I rather people see an imperfect me that did amazing
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things than a perfect me that pretends to be perfect
and did all these other things and think that it's
unachievable because they only see a false image of me
and that who I authentically am. I need you to understand,
even in your mess, even in your brokenness, even in
the hot mess that you are in this world, your
struggles were always aligned or want aligned with the purpose
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that you're supposed to be in. If you're doing things
that are feeling heavy and taxing and then not purpose
right now, that doesn't mean that dismisses work, because work
is a huge component. Even if you're amazingly good at
what you do and is natural for you, it still
should require some level of work. The next stage that
you're in is going to require work from you, because
that is a natural part of just living being a human.
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But the thing that you're in right now, it's not
aligned with your purpose in life. If it's not only
the best thing for you, you're gonna feel like it's heavy.
Why because you have to do double the work to
pull it. It's not just the normal work that you're doing.
You're doing extra work that's outside of the realm of
what you need to do. For me, I felt like
I needed to be perfect. I felt like there's this
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imposter syndrome. Why do all these people want to connect
with me and follow me, what words can I possibly say?
And what happens the moment that I make a big mistake,
what happens in the moment that I failed or fought
and then I freed myself from that thought. The reality
is that none of those people again it comes back
to our first point, but none of those people have
control over the things that I do. And if they
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are with me, it's not because of my perfection, but
it's because I offer something to them, and I offer
something to me. I offer some value that people are
capable of seeing of that, But I don't need to
pretend to be anything else. And there's this freeing reality
when you know that it's okay to be you, it's
okay to be open, because what's gonna happen is that
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people who love you will value you. You don't have
to pretend to keep the people that want to be there.
You will have to pretend to keep the people that
don't want to be there. And if you have to
pretend to be better than what you are, that you're again,
and this is everyone because you have a lot of
people who are liars, like there is no person in
this world that's perfect. If they're acting like they're better
than you. They're lying to you. They are so wounded
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that they need to project this image of perfection. There
is no person in this world that is perfect, and
a person that projects to be perfect they're lying because
they're so hurt in their woundedness that they want you
to see that and act like, oh wow, look, how
amazing your I will be the first person to tell
you I am not perfect. I'm broken on flawed, I
make mistakes. But there's a difference between a person that's
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able to stand up and identify and a person that
sits there and lies. I'm able to look at those
things to say, look, I messed up and I made mistakes,
and this is what I'm telling you. I hope that
gives you freedom and gives you this ability to live
and struggle in purpose and not struggle in everything else.
It's to sit there and identify that you are not perfect,
and you are gonna make mistakes, and that's absolutely okay.
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It's okay to say I didn't do the perfect thing today,
but tomorrow I'm gonna work ten times. Is harder to
make sure that I'm on track with what I deserve
and not what I think I need. To look like
you need to serve and live and work in that reality,
and the struggle that you're in is gonna review that
purpose to you. For me, again, the struggle was knowing
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that I was doing all these other things that I
wanted to do or that I thought I wanted to do,
but never the thing that I felt most comfortable doing.
Like for me, this is joyful for me creating things
that I know someone is going to receive something from.
Because again, I don't know where you're coming from, right,
Maybe you just stumbled upon this podcast. I Heeart put
the promo out and you saw the promo and you
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stumbled upon it and you're here and you're here and
listening to this, or you follow me on social media
and you saw and you see the things that I said.
But for me, that was a big one. What people
were writing in the comment sections of people DM and me,
you're still writing, You're still damn me. What people were
saying to me was the biggest portion of it, because
I saw the value of me doing this. And even
when I felt like I was like, man, I'm a
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mess I'm a mess up. I've done all these things
that I that I would I hope no one else
would do. And I'm sitting in this and I'm like,
but look at all these people, Like even in my
imposter syndrome, there were people that were receiving. So for me,
that was the biggest, biggest portion. I need you to understand,
and I hope that freeze you that you do not
need to be perfect. You just need to be willing.
You don't have to have a home run every single day.
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You just can. You can strike out today, you can
strike out a couple of times, but as long as
you come back up, as long as you get back
at this bat and you keep trying and making that
effort and doing the thing that you know is going
to serve you, not the thing that you think you
need to do. But knowing that you're working towards the best,
joyful version of you, that's gonna help you reveal what
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that struggle is. It's gonna help you live and struggle
in purpose and not struggle outside of it. We'll be
right back after this quick commercial break. For a lot
of people, they're miserable and they're depressed because they're outside
of purpose they're doing. There's tired and labored doing so
much work that is in progressing anything. And if you
heard episode one, if not, if I write you to
go listen to it. But I spoke about motion and movement.
There's a lot of people that are doing a lot
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of things and not going anywhere because they're they're they're
just spinning their tires. That mud in the tire analogy, right,
They're just spinning and spinning but not moving. Of course
you're tired. You've done all these things and nothing's changed.
But there needs to be something that's gonna align with that.
So leading as to a third question, are you moving
forward or are you just moving? We can't say that
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we want to change and we want to live a happier,
more purposeful life. Or we can't say, well, I'm depressed,
but I've done nothing to change that. We can't sit
here in this this false narrative of our lives and
then not be joyful about it because we did nothing
for it. We did we didn't change. So I need
you to ask yourself that question, what have I actually
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done to make anything different? Like for me again? Again,
I use me because I'm here. I'll give myself analogy.
When we have episodes, we have other people. I'm gonna
grow them with these questions. I'm just a sidebar. I
really wanted to be intentional about these first few episodes.
Why because I wanted it to be something that we've
built this relationship before we brought in anyone else in
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right There are gonna be questions I'm gonna I have
already that I'm facing with other people, and then I'm
taking in through messages into DMS and things that I
feel like are gonna help and be fruitful for the
people that are listening. But for right now, I really
wanted to set this foundation with you are listening. I
wanted you to be able to understand that there's so
much purpose in in you, and this is that core
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statement of anything else and everything else that we touch
on and we grow upon. That's gonna be amazing and beautiful.
But first you your purpose, where you are, what you
stand for, the things that you need to heal from,
and moving through that mountain and moving this to this
reality that we know that we're gonna change. So keep
keep with me here. Before we ask other people these questions,
we need to ask ourselves this, are we changing things?
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Are we moving forward? Are things progressing? Or am I
just doing the same thing over and over again and
calling it life like? Am I actually making a change
even if it's the most minute Again, it doesn't have
to be a home run. It could be a small
little change. Am I making the smallest change today? That's saying, okay,
something is different at the very least I could build
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on something different. Small changes meaning the biggest thing, the
biggest significance, I would say, is often a little bit
to work create the dream. The little thing you're doing
is working towards that thing that you desire. So are
you actually moving forward or are you just moving are
just flaring your arms up and down? Or is there
something that's actually changing? And I know this is hard,
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and I want you to think about that as you
hear this is identify that thing. What did I do
today that was small? Even if I struck out, but
I made the effort that was small enough to be
a part of that change. Did I do anything? Or
am I just in the same routine. Am I in
my car right now driving to work to do the
same thing I've done for the last two years of
my life every single day, to repeat the cycle over
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and over again. Or did I do something that's going
to help me change that if your dream is to
make content or to be a podcast, or to do
all these things. So the things that drive your passion
that is natural to you, did you make any effort,
did you try you, did you buy the microphone? Did
did you set up the camera? Did you make anything
possible for you to say that I've made some change?
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Or did you do the same thing over and over again?
You can't ask yourself if you're depressed and you've done
nothing to challenge that, because that's different. Now you're saying, well, yeah,
I'm depressed, but I don't want to do anything to
move anything. I'm not living my purpose, but I don't
want to do anything to do anything. I haven't been
happy in my life, but I haven't done anything to
do anything. Are you passionate or performing for someone else?
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It's our fourth question there, and that's such a big one.
Do you actually have passion for what you're doing? Like?
Is it something that you genuinely love? Is it something
that stems and flows naturally out of you, or is
something that you are trying to do because you think
that this is the most financially secure thing you could do,
Or is it the thing that you're doing because you
think that people are gonna love you more for it
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is the thing that you're doing because you want the
applause from the crowd. There's a saying that I sit
with often. I say often is if I live for
the applause of the crowd, I will die for the
lack thereof. If I live for people liking me and
approving of me when the moment that they choose not to,
that's it. That's my life. That's over because I have
lived and created a life that revolves around other people
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saying I approve of you, and not a life that
says I will live despite you. I will live despite
your approval. I'm in purpose, even if you don't like it.
I need you to understand that serving your passion, yes,
it might be hard, it might be difficult, which again
ties it if you notice, ties it perfectly to everything
I just said. Serving your passion might be difficult, it
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might be hard, but it's going to be the most
joyful thing you will ever do because it allows you
to be in something that is going to serve not
just your mind and your heart, but your life. It's
gonna be something that you wake up every day and
don't mind doing I love what I do. I passionately
love what I do. And I mentioned before that I
love it because I could serve and help people, but
I love it also because I get to be creative.
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I get to do what I naturally have in me,
what I do every day with everyone, people like meet
in conversations I have. I do this all the time,
and it's not tedious to me because it's something that
I genuinely love. So if you're serving your passion, you
don't feel performative. You don't feel like you have to
sit here and act like anything else or anyone else,
for anyone else. You are living in what you were
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made for, what God has already ordained in your heart.
You're living in that thing that is passion, not performance,
and you're not begging anyone to choose you or to
love you. You are so firm and confident in what
you're doing because it is your passion. It isn't a
part of anything else. It's a part of who you
actually are. And I think for a lot of us
that's our struggle. Right. We're living in performance, in that passion.
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And if you're for me, constantly you're going to get
very tired. It's going to be hard to live a
purposeful life because that's just what you're doing. You're you're
you're living in in performance and not purpose. You're living
in performance and not passion. You're living in performance and
now who you authentically were made to be. So of
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course you don't feel like you're happy because you're not you.
You're doing what everyone else's desires you do. And this
is our last last question here that you need to
ask yourself. And I worried it as a me thing.
How do I respond when fear is in front of me? Like?
What is my response to to the to this this possibility,
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this life that I desire to live? What is my
response so to the thing that I'm scared to do
in it? And I so I've read so many self
help books. I read all these like really popular books
or some of them. I have just heard podcast you know,
or audiobooks, and I've heard so many of these things
and they all come back to the same thing. And
it's called it a coin. They call it what you Want.
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This podcast is based on it at Matthew seventeen or
the Faith If You Tell, If You Tell, the mountains
and you have faith the grain of a muster seed.
You tell the mountain to move into the sea, We'll
move into the sea. All these self help books are
actually based on this thing. Faith is believing the thing
is possible. And and like literally I joke you knife
if you have time, if you have a book around there,
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go read, go read one of them. Like these like
self help books that are like about changing your whole
life and becoming the richest version of you and the
happiest version of you, and all these every single self
help book. Again no coincidence that this this podcast itself
is also based on this reality. Faith moves mountains. We
talk about being in the mountain and the mountains in
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the front of you when you have faith, when you
have something that you look at and you're saying and again,
how I read a couple of self help books that say,
oh yeah from not from a religious stamp, but whatever,
I'm not going to sit here and tell you what
to believe or not to believe. You're welcome, they invited.
I hope that one day I help you see what
I see. But if you don't, that's not that's not
what I'm doing here. That's not the question here. They
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all say, oh, it's not from a religious standpoint, you
can use that point whatever. But it was say, faith
is knowing that this thing is not just possible, it's probable,
like knowing that it exists, and then it's there, and
I have enough faith to say to this thing to exist,
that huld move or to do or to happen, and
knowing that I have enough faith in me to make
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this thing happen. And we hear this analogy often was
with faith is burning the boat. Right, we hear it
with Alexander the Great, or we hear it with countless people.
There's there's different stories about this one, but as in
the Grason one more famous one where where they were
outnumbered completely and their soldiers were really scared. So what
they did is that they took the boats. Well, he
took the boats while they were sleeping, and he burned
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all the boats. And now they had only one choice win.
They had to They had to succeed. They had no
other choice but to succeed. That was the only reality
for them. It wasn't could I run away or could
I could I leave? I have to do this, I can,
I must, I will I have to make this happen.
Knowing that there's faith in the fact that that thing
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can happen changes everything, changes the perspective, It changes how
you react, how you live, how you move. So my
question for you is, as we end this episode comes
to the end of it, what do you have faith in? Like?
Do you believe that you can, you must, you will?
Do you believe that it's possible? Do you believe that
you can change your life? That the mountain in front
of you is not meant to be what kills you,
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but it's meant to be a part of the story.
Are you turning pain into purpose? Are you really saying
that this thing that was in front of me is
part of my story. Yes, faith can be seen from
so many perspectives. But I need you to understand that
if you don't have faith in you, you don't have
anything right. Because if you knew what you were capable
of doing and you did it, you would have an
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amazing story that comes out of this. So I just
want to thank you for being here, for listening to
this episode, and I hope these questions actually just just
bring some level of perspective. It doesn't like it doesn't
have to change your entire life today, but it can
change your perspective if you ask yourself these things, what
is it doing? How am I living this? Are you
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actually authentically what you want to be? Are you just
moving around or moving forward? Knowing that these things were
meant for you is going to change the perspective. And
I'm really excited for the next episode. And i know
everyone should always say that because it brings and prompts
other people, but it's just this reality of us knowing
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what our passion is and what we were actually built
and how it's found. I'm excited for that because I'm
a very big advocate of people living in their passion
and we'll be diving into that. So thank you for
being here and I'll catch up with you the next one.
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