May 8, 2025 • 30 mins
You’re tired of the cycle. The relationship patterns. The financial stress.
The emotional weight.
You’re moving, but not growing—and it’s exhausting.
In this intro episode of Made For This Mountain, host Joshua Rosa invites you to stop and ask:
What’s the mountain in your life that refuses to move?
With wisdom rooted in faith, personal storytelling, and powerful reflection, this episode explores the emotional, spiritual, and practical weight of being stuck—and what it takes to finally shift.
- The difference between motion and movement
- The hidden strength in mustard seed faith
- Why naming your mountain is the first step to freedom
- What Dominican grandmas and neuroscience have in common (yep, really)
This isn’t just a podcast. It’s your guide for climbing what feels impossible.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So what happens is that now you create this barrier
of who you authentically are to be this person that
you think you need to be, to be the shell
of the best version of you. And what happens and
the deeper, deeper part of that that you start to
resent you because it's impossible for you to be the
most authentic you. It's impossible for you to love you
fully if all you're doing is living to please people.
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This is made for this mountain with Josh Rosa or
we're turning pain into purpose. If I were to ask you,
what's that mountain in your life, like, what's that thing
that you seem to never be able to move, that
thing that you seem to never get over, the thing
that has become an identifying factor as to why you
do the things you do, or worst, the identifying factor
as so why you don't do the things that you
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can do the things that you want to do. It's
the relationship cycles that we keep repeating the same type
of people, the same type of thing in the same
type of person, and we blame that mountain. We say, well,
somebody did this to me at one point in my life,
and I'm never going to trust a person because of
the type of relationship I was in. To tie that
in to our finances, right, we never say that we
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can do the next thing because we have been taught
terrible things in our lives. So the way that we
look at our finances is a mountain. We say, I
can't get out of this hole because I've become so
used to this particular thing. The way I live my life,
the thing that I created, a part of my habits
or my cultural life, these things are things that stay
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in that reality and we don't move because it becomes
a mountain. We say I can't get through this because
I've become.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
So used to it.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
It could be a career. Right, You've dug yourself into
a hole so long that you think that this is
the only thing that you will ever know. You think
that this is the only place that you'll ever grow
out of, and that's become your mountain. Whatever that particular
thing is, whatever the stage. The goal here in this
podcast is to want to identify that because you can't heal,
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you will never be able to change or grow through
the thing that you refuse to identify, the thing that
you refuse to say, hey, this is my mountain. This
is the struggle. This is the thing that's in front
of me. You can't make that mountain move without actually
diving into that, without actually identifying it, without actually saying, Look,
you are here and I'm commanding you to move.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
This is why you're tired. This is why you feel stuck.
This is why you're going through all these things.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
It's not that you're lazy, it's not that you're broken,
it's not that you don't have it in you. It's
just that you've allowed this mountain in your life to
be so prevalent that it controls every aspect of it. Now,
for me, this is tied into a faith thing, right
because again grum Dominicans. I grew up in a Dominican
household then and my grandmother always look at the things
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that you do in faith, when you act in faith,
and whether you are coming from a faith based background
or not, there's so much authority in that.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
There's so much power.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
In knowing that when I move in faith, I trust
that the thing that i'm moving into that I'm doing
the work.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Because that's also tie off.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
We think that when we move in faith, or we
move and trust that the things have to happen to us.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
They're not going to happen.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
To you or for you. You have to do the
work right. That's actually the biggest part of faith is
trusting that I do the work and the thing is
going to come towards me. I do the healing, I
go through the process, and that thing that identified as
a mountain comes for me. It works for me and
my behalf and for me, that's again a faith based thing,
but it doesn't have to necessarily be for you. If
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that's not something that you're aligned with, that's okay. Understanding
that moving in faith is yes, again for me, for God.
But it could also be this reality that I trust
the things that I've done, the work that I've done,
that I've trust, healing that I've gone through, that I've
identified this mountain, that I've told it to move, and
I trusted that it moved. Knowing that this thing here
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is able to be a catalyst as a part of
the story that so many of us are scared to share.
So many of us are afraid to actually identify. And
let's be honest, it's scary to confront them my mountain
in front of you. It's scary to say this thing
that I've been stuck with, this thing that's become a
part of my life, this wound that I've been dealing
with for so long. It's scary to say that I
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need to face it till that it can leave. It's
scary to think that this next process of you is
going to.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Require you to do the scary thing.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
It's going to require you to be in this and
our invitation with this right, and I know this first
episode and we're just kind of introducing this mountain and
what healing looks like, and what mental health looks like,
and what addressing these things look like. And we're going
to have these amazing conversations with people who have lived
through mountains and have these amazing success stories. I have
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some amazing friends that have done just things that I'm
just always in awe and shock of. But first, before
any of that, we need to be able to expand
and understand us, like what is our mountain?
Speaker 2 (04:52):
What is that thing?
Speaker 1 (04:52):
And I know everyone, every person, every human person that
lives has something. There is an existence a reality of
a mountain that's some one is going through. Whether you're
the most perfect person ever, right, you have no.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Struggles, that's amazing. That's good for you.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
But every human has something at some core, whether you
want to admit it or not, there is something that
stops us from being the fullness of us. And this
is the scary part to this. I think it's a
good part, but it's also a scary part. Scary reality
that even when you identify a mountain.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
There's another one.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
But the process becomes easier, right because now I've been
able to identify this, and I've been able to pinpoint
this and grow and use this to expand and to
become the best version of me. So this next thing
that I'm going to confront, it doesn't seem like a challenge,
that actually seems exciting. It changes the perspective of how
we see things because a lot of a struggle with
pain because we haven't turned it into purpose. We haven't
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been able to identify the thing that's killing us and
then use it for our own catalysts. We haven't been
able to see the thing that has been terrible in
our lives and then used it to promote and to
grow the good things in our lives. So being able
to understand what you mountain is or what your mountains
are and identifying those things to grow through them. We
need to know who we need to become to climate
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because this is the process of this, right, identifying who
I authentically am now who I've been told to be.
And again, these are things that tie into so many
aspects cultural, social, or organizational, all these things. Right, we
grew up in certain classes that told us, especially for me,
right again, this is this is a Latino based thing,
and for me, I'm always going to touch based on
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that because our culture is a huge indication of the
things that we think that we can do, the things
that we can't do. Like growing up, my grandfather would
go to work at like five in the morning to
go and support this family of his, and the way
that he showed love, the way he showed his actually cares,
asking siquel miste if you ate something, if there is
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food in the fridge, and identify those things. So culturally,
for a lot of Latinos, at least, we think that
the way that we show our success, our love, our
growth is through working to the point of burnout. So
working to the point where I think that the only
way I can show you that I love you is
not necessarily by saying it, but it's by doing certain
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things that are out of the way and obscure but
beneficial to the whole family. Culturally, for a lot of us,
we've limited our actions and our growth based on the
things that are in that environment. Socially, we think that
the way that we need to be interacted with or
seeing has to be through this lens of success, social success,
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what does that look like? And looking at things that
people are doing in this world and thinking that we
need to identify ourselves with that.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
We'll be right back after this quick commercial break.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
So what happens is that now you create this barrier
of who you authentically are to be this person that
you think you need to be, to be the shell
of the best version of you. And what happens and
the deeper, deeper part of that that you start to
resent you because it's impossible for you to be the
most authentic you. It's impossible for you to love you
fully if all you're doing is living to please people.
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Your mountain in that case is that is the identity
of loving yourself only through the eyes and the lens
of other people and their approval in their love and
to be honest. That's a huge one for a lot
of us. I don't think there's a person in this world.
I mean, okay, let's reframe that. The few people in
this world who have done the work to heal and
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to grow and consistently do the work because healing is
a lifelong process. It's not something that we're gonna sit
here through a podcast episode and walk out of this
completely healed and fixed and there's no problem. No, they're
always gonna have to remind yourself. You're going to have
to rewire your brain. You're gonna have to grow through
these things that you're going through so that you can
actually authentically heal. There's few people that would be in
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this process and have this all figured out. We see
ourselves through the lens of how we've allowed other people
to love us. We see ourselves through the things that
we've allowed people to say and to create in us.
Since for a lot of us is not necessarily the
things that we have to overcome, but it's in our
mind at least, it's the lens of the way that
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we've seen people see us. And I need you to
understand that people struggle to love themselves like other people
struggle to love themselves. What makes you think that their
love and validation is going to make you love you more.
If you're mountain is that if you're mounted, is the
perception of how people see you. It's the lack of
understanding of that You're going to struggle. We're going to
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stay in this so being able to identify one that
that I don't need other people to love me, that
I'm good the way I am, that that the things
in me were intrinsically good, that it was made for purpose,
and that there's something beautiful in that allows us to
authentically be the real us. And when we talk about
addressing the mountains, the first the little mountain in front
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of you right now, because this is a reality. Right
I'm not going to spend too much time on this
because we have so many other episodes that we'll be
able to really really spend on, like just the mind alone,
just the brain alone. But there's something called neuroplasticity in
your brain that your brain is wired literally to survive.
So what happens is that you reframe that by your
frame of thought and your frame of work, your brain
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starts to learn what it was made for. Why I
call this a small mountain in this process because This
is actually one of the easiest things for you to overcome.
It's a process of identifying what's real and what's not
and saying to yourself, is this something that's actually worth
weight in my life? Or is this something that I'm
just repeating because I've been conditioned, because my brain is
conditioned to repeat this. Neuroplasticity is rewiring of your brain.
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It's rewiring of the things that you do, or the
exercises that you create, or the instruments that you play,
but also the words that you believe. What you constantly
say in your life is the one thing that's going
to stick. And if every day you are looking to
please someone else, and I promise you the only way
you're going to live your life is trying to please
them because you've conditioned it, that little mountain in front
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of you, this is an easy one. And then this
is the start to all this. But being able to
speak to yourself accordingly, like not speaking to yourself from
a stage of what you think people want to see
or say, but being able to identify who you are
despite those people, despite that aspect. That's your first mountain.
So things that we need to expand on here, like
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as we dive through this. That's just like just this
intrinsic portion is that there's a difference between motion and movement.
Like a lot of people are doing a lot of
things and getting nowhere. You can run back and forth
in a straight line side to side and not move anywhere.
You can do all these things and nothing is going
to change because just because you're lowed, it doesn't mean
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that you're healed. Just because you seem to have motion
doesn't mean that you're actually moving. There's nothing actually changing,
and you can do a lot and be tired and
nothing changed. This is why a lot of people are stuck,
right because they're doing all these things, and like I
said before, they're in burnout or they're doing all these things.
They're running around, they have all these actions. They're trying
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to seem as if they are together or healed and
trying to convince to themselves of it, but not actually
doing anything. When we understand, we identify this reality that
I need to move in progress and progress could be slow.
I need you to understand that there is no actual race.
Life is ending regardless, right, You're gonna the one thing
we're guaranteed to quote Benjamin Franklin is deaf, and taxes.
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Those are the things that you're guaranteed in this world.
Life is moving, so you're not in a race with anyone,
you're not in competition with anyone.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
You don't have to have.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
It all figured out before they do, but you do
need to have some level of motion.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
Slow motion is.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Okay, it's a process. It's one of those things that
using this mountain analogy again that eventually is going to
pick up speed and roll down this mountain. But being
able to understand that we need forward motion, not lateral motion,
or we don't need to move to the side, we
need to move forward, right. It's changing and picking the
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things that I know are going to be small changes
but are going to have a huge impact. They're going
to have this change in my life that are going
to identify everything else. And sometimes this is going to
hurt to hear, but sometimes it's simply removing yourself from
the environment you're in, Like moving yourself from this position
of being around certain people or being around certain things
that you feel like you have to be different to
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be loved in that you have to act differently, or
change your perspective or change how you say or do
things because you think that you are going to offend
people around you. I need you to understand that you
would never you would never, ever, ever ever be the
most authentic you pretending to be anything else. And if
you have to pretend, then at some point you're going
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to have to learn to hate you so that you
can remain in places where you're quote unquote loved, staying
in places where people are seeing you as something else.
The reality is that for a lot of us, we're
not moving we're not moving forward because we think that
doing a lot in a small space is changing anything,
but it's not. It's doing a little bit as you
move forward. That's what's gonna make the total difference. This
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is what's gonna make this catalyst between this mountain that
you're in and the movement that you progressed through it.
And again, it doesn't have to be perfect. You don't
have to listen to this podcast today and tomorrow have
it all figured out. That's not how this works. And
I also think that's a very toxic culture that we think,
especially with social media, we think that we can just
work our way through our problems when sometimes we need
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to sit down with them.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
We need to unpack them.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
We need to really be able to identify them before
we say anything else, because we can't. We can't change
what we don't identify. We will never be able to
change the thing. So if we're moving, we're doing all
these things, and nothing is progressing, then we need to understand.
Then maybe our movement.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Is just that, it's just motion.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
It's not actual progressive movements. We're not actually changing. And
sometimes again, the environment that you're in is too toxic
for you to grow, it's too unhealed for you to grow.
It's okay to remove yourself from places where you are
not valued and where you're not growing, where you're not
being fed, because you can move a lot, but nothing
is gonna change. There's hidden strength in the seated faith
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in the little things that you do. Like again, for me,
faith is a faith, faith based thing. It's understanding that
there's there's there's a God in my life that I
trust fully and that I do the things knowing that
he's gonna act. But here's here's the thing. This is
one of the things that annoys me. Again, whether you're
coming from a faith based position or not, this is
just a thing that we need to understand there is
a lie that is culturally understood and and in the
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Christian world understood and just again social dynamics understood.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
There is this lie that we believe that.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
If something was meant for us, that it's guaranteed for us.
No matter what you do, that thing is guaranteed. I
need you to understand that that's a lie. Yes, it
could be meant for you, but if you do not
do the work that's disciplined and required to keep it,
that thing that's quote unquote meant for you is not
meant for you because you are not doing the things
that are sustainable for You can't say that you desire
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a mansion, but you refuse to do the work that's
gonna cost you to at least pay off the taxes.
Speaker 2 (16:12):
Right.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
You can't say that you want a brand new car,
but you refuse to learn how to drive. You can't
say you want these things but you're not doing the
little things. Again, there's a pattern here, if you haven't
noticed it, and hopefully you will at some point, that
the little things are significant. We can't say that we
want things, that things are meant for us, but we
refuse to become the people that are deserving of it.
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You cannot say again, I'm in the gym, I'm working,
I'm trying. We're coming back. We're making a season of
comeback here. Watch by the end of the season, you
know we're gonna have a different, whole, different build over here.
Maybe a pack, not a six pack, but something, something's
gonna happen. But I can't say that I desire to
lose weight and to get fit and to be healthy,
but refuse to go to the gym. Yes, it's meant
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for me. The best version of me is that person.
The best version of me is is the person that
have regularly guest stays in that routine, doesn't break it
after a couple of months of other things. But it's
a person that remains in that thing. Why Because yes,
it's meant for me, but I'm meant to be a
part of it. I can't say something is meant for
me and I refuse to work on it. And this
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ties into everything that's like marriages or relationships.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
I can't say I.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Want a healthy marriage, but I'm not doing the work
to upkeep that. I can't say I want a healthy
career life, but I'm not showing up for work. Yes,
it's meant for you. I want to be clear. Things
goodness is meant for you. There are great things that
are meant for you. But just because it's meant for
you doesn't mean that you're not meant to work in it.
Doesn't mean that you're not meant to be a part
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of it. All blessings, all gifting, all faith, everything comes
by a fruit of work. You can't say the seed
of faith that it is meant for you, but you
did implant it. You cannot expect these things to happen
where there is no work. Yes, it's meant for you,
but it doesn't relinquish you from the work that's required
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to be a part of it. And that's actually the
beauty that the things that are meant for you, the
things that are going to grow, the things that you're
going to expand on this next stage.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
Of your life.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
The beauty is actually found in the effort that you put,
the work that you do, the reality that you were
meant to be a part of this.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
But you have to do the work. You can't expect it.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
So that's a big takeaway for a lot of us
that we've conditioned ourselves or if we've allowed the societal
norms to condition us to think that if it was
meant for you, that it's going to happen. Yeah, it's
meant for you, but it's not going to happen without you.
I mentioned this before, and I think this is a
huge portion of this, and maybe this is an exercise
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that you can do today on your own. But naming
the mountain is the first step to the freedom of it.
Like being able to identify the thing that is in
front of me, the thing that I'm struggling with, that thing,
knowing its name, calling it out by its name, and
knowing that I'm going to defeat this thing. That's the
biggest step. Knowing that this mountain that you're in, it's
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the thing that you are able to step into and
destroy because you know it, because you saw it, because
you can name it. And when you can name something,
this is why. First of all, the name is so important.
There's so much power in a name. But when you're
able to name something, you can also name its origin.
You can name the root of where it's coming from,
the cause of the problem. You're able to name why
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you're stuck in this thing. Knowing this particular thing, being
able to say this is my mountain, this is my struggle.
Now allows you to say, but why where does this
come from? What wound is this in my life? Where
is this that I need to address and change? And
knowing that now you can change that thing by knowing
where it started. Going back to that point, because we
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need to understand that healing does not mean that you
return to the wound, but it means that you learn.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
To grow and build out of it.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
It means that you've used the thing that was meant
to kill you and you create that thing into the
best part of the story. You're saying that this thing
that was a mountain in my life is now the
reason why I'm at the mountaintop because I was able
to stand on it, I was able to grow from it.
And I think that a lot of us struggle with
this particular portion of our lives. We struggle with moving
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past things, We struggle with healing, we struggle with that
progress because we've created this almost glass ceiling that we
say that, yes, I can do all these amazing things
that I have, all this gifting and all this purpose
until I get to this point. We'll be right back
after this quick commercial break, until this childhood wound comes up,
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until this breakup comes up, until this identity crisis comes up,
until this part of me that I can't heal, that
I feel hurt, and until that part comes up, that's
my limit. That's where I can't do anything else. And
I need you to understand that that is a lie.
That is one of the greatest lies that a lot
of us have believed. We believe that our limits are
limited by our wounds. We think that the things that
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we're in, that the progress that we're making or lack thereof,
is only identified by the things that have been done
to me, by the person that I've been told I
have to be. You have this amazing freedom. There's so
much gifting and understanding that you are not limited to
your wounds and being able to work through these Identifying
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that thing and saying it, calling White's name, is being
able to know that this woundedness, this thing that I've
been stuck with.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
Is not me.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
It's not who I am, it's not the place that
I'm in. Knowing that I'm able to identify that wound
and now I'm able to grow and heal and grow
through it, because again, it's not about changing it where
we can't change the past. You can't keep dwelling on
the things that have happened and expect to be happy today.
You can't keep reliving the same pain and then getting
mad at the fact that you're living it now. You're
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going back to that thing and it's become a stumbling
block for a lot of us. It's become the biggest
mountain that we have because we keep going into the
base of the mountain and staring at how huge this
thing is. And I'm a very big person on imagery,
and I do want you to imagine that that that
this is a reality, that we go to the base
of this where it happened and we look up and
we say wow. Because of this, I can't get over this,
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this mountain that I mean, it's never going to change
because of that one time that the thing was said
to me, or the multiple times that that thing was
said to me, and the thing that I'm stuck in
that this thing stops me from being the best me.
I know that it's tough sometimes to address, and that's
the goal with this podcast, right being able to to yes,
we're not going to fix it today, or maybe it
might be a good start today, but being able to
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work through this, to know one that you're not alone,
that there's people that we're going to talk to that
have struggled through amazing things and have made amazing things
out of it. That there's a lot of ways to
work through this, that there's other ways that maybe we
haven't tried before, but we know that that a consistent
effort is what changes this thing. Because another analogy that
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I use often whenever I talk about mountain this is
not the first time I've talked about mountains. I'm an
avid hiker. I love hiking, I love being outdoors. And
I remember that I was in these mountains in Arizona,
and as I'm hiking through, no one was there. Right,
the complete camp was like abandoned because it was like
forest fires. But I came all the way here to hike,
so I drove around the cones like an idiot. And
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I remember I was hiking and it was one hundred
and twelve degrees and I was at this point, I
was exhausted and drained, and I really wanted to find
this trail, and I started hiking up the mountain. I
jumped the side of one and my leg kind of
missed the ledge and I began to fall down the
side of this mountain. My whole stomach was just cut
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up and bleeding, and like my chin was bleeding and
all these things, and I what happened was that I
hit a branch, and the branch wedged in between two
rocks and stopped me from dying. Yes, I found the trail.
Yes I'm alive. Because obviously, if I was a ghost,
this would be really weird. But I remember in that
moment just thinking of the fact that I nearly died
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because I was trying to find the easy route. I
was trying to find a shortcut to the thing. I
need you to understand that sometimes there is no shortcut.
That the only way we heal, the only way we grow,
the only way we get to that amazing trail, despite
the difficulties, is by taking the long path, and there
is so much beauty in being able to see everything
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that that path has to offer. For some people, we
think that there needs to be a quick fix. We
think that this this healing stage is this mountain of mine,
that there is an easy trail. And sometimes you know,
depending on the mountain and the things, that the person
and the things that they've gone through. Sometimes, yeah, we
can say that there is quote unquote an easy trail
for them, but there's still things and other mountains that
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we have to start at the base and go the
long route and enjoy the sceneic review. So our goal
here is that our coast said be able to identify
that mountain, being able to know that you don't have
to have it all figured out today, Then it doesn't
have to be perfect, That there is no need for
you to feel like everything is just exactly how it
should be. That it's okay to live in the chaos sometimes,
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that it's okay to be able to unpack those things
and understand that, yes, chaos is a part of the story.
We need to know that just because we're doing a
bunch of things doesn't mean we're changing everything. And being
able to identify that mountain is what's going to help
us and as we unpack this series, First of all,
thank you for even listening to this episode, for being
a part of this. But as we unpack this series,
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as we go through all this, we need to be
able to just identify the mountain and grow through it
and identify multiple Again, there are multiple mountains that we'll see.
And if sometimes you just need to start with the
little one, the one right in front of you, the
simple one that seems conquerable, then start with that one.
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But if you feel like you need to start with
the biggest one, start with it. We'll have people who
have lived every aspect and every experience and be able
to help us and tell us those things. But being
able to identify that is always going to be the
biggest thing we do. Knowing that movements is only going
to come from effort, knowing that change is only going
to come from the things that I do, and knowing
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that my work is a part of my gifting. Like
the thing is that our quote unquote meant for me. Again,
all these things come from that aspect. Now, I know
for a lot of us, we're coming from different backgrounds.
If you're listening here, you're you might be coming because
you've met me on like social media or stuff like that,
or maybe you just stumbled upon this podcast. And if
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you came from that aspect, you know that one big
thing that I often say, and if you haven't come,
you're going to learn from me often is this reality
that we have so much authority over our lives and
and but this this is the tricky part. That you
have so much authority over your life, but you also
have authority as to who you give authority. So what
happens is that for a lot of us, we've given
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the reins to the parts of our lives that different
different people or different problems. We've given the rains different people,
because again we go back to this nature of woundedness.
Speaker 2 (27:04):
What we desire to please.
Speaker 1 (27:05):
We desire to have somebody see us and identify the
beautiful part about us. Right, we have this false dichotomy
that we think that if somebody approves of me, that
I then approve of me to or again give the
reins to our problems, and we let that drive, We
let that be the factor as to why I do
or don't do the next thing in our lives. I
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need you first before any of this, before we say
we're addressing those mountains, before we speak about them, before
we bring up different episodes that challenge those things that
challenge your limited pliefs, before we do any of that,
I need you to be able to first identify what
have you given power to. This will be like your
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homework before we get into our next episode, What have
you given power to what? What in your life or
who in your life controls the way you see you
or do things that you're doing. What is that again,
that mountain, the little mountain that we're looking at. What
part of that is the thing that you have been
just so stuck in that you keep repeating that you
keep going back to because you want this person or
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thing to approve of you, or to love you, or
to choose you.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
What thing is still there?
Speaker 1 (28:16):
And when we're able to first identify that, we're able
to identify that that first wound again naming it. We're
naming that particular thing and coming back to it. And
as again as we dive through this, we as we
live through this mountain together, as we you know, are
guided through this, we are able to to not let
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this thing continue to stay where it's at.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
You're invited into something.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
Beautiful, right, this is your life and for a lot
of us, we don't realize that life is almost over.
This is such a scary thought to think that it's
a very limited and finite life that I'm living in.
And I leave you with that question, right, that last
question there, life is ending? So are you actually are
you living it or are you just casually staying in it?
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Are you being dragged along orre you walking through? Are
you in something right now that is just you being
in it and not you living in it. The very
limited and finite time you have in this world was
not made for you to please people. You have such
a limited time that it was meant for you to
love people. It's meant for you to grow with people.
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It's meant for you to be something authentically present. But
it's not meant or made for you to make people
love you or like you. It's a very limited time.
So if that mountain for you is through the lens
of how people see you, then maybe the one thing
that we need to divest here, that we need to
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grow through is that is that you don't need to
be liked or loved by anyone except yourself. And then
when you learn to love you so much, people around
you learn to love you equally, so you're invited into that.
But hearting what that mountain is, naming it, being able
to be open to it, being able to know that
you don't need to earn anything from anyone, that you
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are simply loved, and how you should be for.
Speaker 2 (30:10):
Who you are.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
I'm just thankful that you are here. Thank you for
being a part of this and diving into this reality
of what this mountain was made for. And then our
next episode where we're going to be diving really into
what purpose and passion looks like and finding that for you.
So again, thank you for being a part of this,
thank you for listening, thank you for joining in on
this podcast.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
And I hope and I pray.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
That this is something that's truthful for you and fruitful
for everyone around you. So we'll see you on the
next episode.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
Take care,
So what happens is that now you create this barrier
of who you authentically are to be this person that
you think you need to be, to be the shell
of the best version of you. And what happens and
the deeper, deeper part of that that you start to
resent you because it's impossible for you to be the
most authentic you. It's impossible for you to love you
fully if all you're doing is living to please people.
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This is made for this mountain with Josh Rosa or
we're turning pain into purpose. If I were to ask you,
what's that mountain in your life, like, what's that thing
that you seem to never be able to move, that
thing that you seem to never get over, the thing
that has become an identifying factor as to why you
do the things you do, or worst, the identifying factor
as so why you don't do the things that you
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can do the things that you want to do. It's
the relationship cycles that we keep repeating the same type
of people, the same type of thing in the same
type of person, and we blame that mountain. We say, well,
somebody did this to me at one point in my life,
and I'm never going to trust a person because of
the type of relationship I was in. To tie that
in to our finances, right, we never say that we
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can do the next thing because we have been taught
terrible things in our lives. So the way that we
look at our finances is a mountain. We say, I
can't get out of this hole because I've become so
used to this particular thing. The way I live my life,
the thing that I created, a part of my habits
or my cultural life, these things are things that stay
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in that reality and we don't move because it becomes
a mountain. We say I can't get through this because
I've become.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
So used to it.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
It could be a career. Right, You've dug yourself into
a hole so long that you think that this is
the only thing that you will ever know. You think
that this is the only place that you'll ever grow
out of, and that's become your mountain. Whatever that particular
thing is, whatever the stage. The goal here in this
podcast is to want to identify that because you can't heal,
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you will never be able to change or grow through
the thing that you refuse to identify, the thing that
you refuse to say, hey, this is my mountain. This
is the struggle. This is the thing that's in front
of me. You can't make that mountain move without actually
diving into that, without actually identifying it, without actually saying, Look,
you are here and I'm commanding you to move.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
This is why you're tired. This is why you feel stuck.
This is why you're going through all these things.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
It's not that you're lazy, it's not that you're broken,
it's not that you don't have it in you. It's
just that you've allowed this mountain in your life to
be so prevalent that it controls every aspect of it. Now,
for me, this is tied into a faith thing, right
because again grum Dominicans. I grew up in a Dominican
household then and my grandmother always look at the things
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that you do in faith, when you act in faith,
and whether you are coming from a faith based background
or not, there's so much authority in that.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
There's so much power.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
In knowing that when I move in faith, I trust
that the thing that i'm moving into that I'm doing
the work.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Because that's also tie off.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
We think that when we move in faith, or we
move and trust that the things have to happen to us.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
They're not going to happen.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
To you or for you. You have to do the
work right. That's actually the biggest part of faith is
trusting that I do the work and the thing is
going to come towards me. I do the healing, I
go through the process, and that thing that identified as
a mountain comes for me. It works for me and
my behalf and for me, that's again a faith based thing,
but it doesn't have to necessarily be for you. If
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that's not something that you're aligned with, that's okay. Understanding
that moving in faith is yes, again for me, for God.
But it could also be this reality that I trust
the things that I've done, the work that I've done,
that I've trust, healing that I've gone through, that I've
identified this mountain, that I've told it to move, and
I trusted that it moved. Knowing that this thing here
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is able to be a catalyst as a part of
the story that so many of us are scared to share.
So many of us are afraid to actually identify. And
let's be honest, it's scary to confront them my mountain
in front of you. It's scary to say this thing
that I've been stuck with, this thing that's become a
part of my life, this wound that I've been dealing
with for so long. It's scary to say that I
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need to face it till that it can leave. It's
scary to think that this next process of you is
going to.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Require you to do the scary thing.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
It's going to require you to be in this and
our invitation with this right, and I know this first
episode and we're just kind of introducing this mountain and
what healing looks like, and what mental health looks like,
and what addressing these things look like. And we're going
to have these amazing conversations with people who have lived
through mountains and have these amazing success stories. I have
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some amazing friends that have done just things that I'm
just always in awe and shock of. But first, before
any of that, we need to be able to expand
and understand us, like what is our mountain?
Speaker 2 (04:52):
What is that thing?
Speaker 1 (04:52):
And I know everyone, every person, every human person that
lives has something. There is an existence a reality of
a mountain that's some one is going through. Whether you're
the most perfect person ever, right, you have no.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Struggles, that's amazing. That's good for you.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
But every human has something at some core, whether you
want to admit it or not, there is something that
stops us from being the fullness of us. And this
is the scary part to this. I think it's a
good part, but it's also a scary part. Scary reality
that even when you identify a mountain.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
There's another one.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
But the process becomes easier, right because now I've been
able to identify this, and I've been able to pinpoint
this and grow and use this to expand and to
become the best version of me. So this next thing
that I'm going to confront, it doesn't seem like a challenge,
that actually seems exciting. It changes the perspective of how
we see things because a lot of a struggle with
pain because we haven't turned it into purpose. We haven't
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been able to identify the thing that's killing us and
then use it for our own catalysts. We haven't been
able to see the thing that has been terrible in
our lives and then used it to promote and to
grow the good things in our lives. So being able
to understand what you mountain is or what your mountains
are and identifying those things to grow through them. We
need to know who we need to become to climate
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because this is the process of this, right, identifying who
I authentically am now who I've been told to be.
And again, these are things that tie into so many
aspects cultural, social, or organizational, all these things. Right, we
grew up in certain classes that told us, especially for me,
right again, this is this is a Latino based thing,
and for me, I'm always going to touch based on
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that because our culture is a huge indication of the
things that we think that we can do, the things
that we can't do. Like growing up, my grandfather would
go to work at like five in the morning to
go and support this family of his, and the way
that he showed love, the way he showed his actually cares,
asking siquel miste if you ate something, if there is
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food in the fridge, and identify those things. So culturally,
for a lot of Latinos, at least, we think that
the way that we show our success, our love, our
growth is through working to the point of burnout. So
working to the point where I think that the only
way I can show you that I love you is
not necessarily by saying it, but it's by doing certain
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things that are out of the way and obscure but
beneficial to the whole family. Culturally, for a lot of us,
we've limited our actions and our growth based on the
things that are in that environment. Socially, we think that
the way that we need to be interacted with or
seeing has to be through this lens of success, social success,
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what does that look like? And looking at things that
people are doing in this world and thinking that we
need to identify ourselves with that.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
We'll be right back after this quick commercial break.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
So what happens is that now you create this barrier
of who you authentically are to be this person that
you think you need to be, to be the shell
of the best version of you. And what happens and
the deeper, deeper part of that that you start to
resent you because it's impossible for you to be the
most authentic you. It's impossible for you to love you
fully if all you're doing is living to please people.
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Your mountain in that case is that is the identity
of loving yourself only through the eyes and the lens
of other people and their approval in their love and
to be honest. That's a huge one for a lot
of us. I don't think there's a person in this world.
I mean, okay, let's reframe that. The few people in
this world who have done the work to heal and
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to grow and consistently do the work because healing is
a lifelong process. It's not something that we're gonna sit
here through a podcast episode and walk out of this
completely healed and fixed and there's no problem. No, they're
always gonna have to remind yourself. You're going to have
to rewire your brain. You're gonna have to grow through
these things that you're going through so that you can
actually authentically heal. There's few people that would be in
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this process and have this all figured out. We see
ourselves through the lens of how we've allowed other people
to love us. We see ourselves through the things that
we've allowed people to say and to create in us.
Since for a lot of us is not necessarily the
things that we have to overcome, but it's in our
mind at least, it's the lens of the way that
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we've seen people see us. And I need you to
understand that people struggle to love themselves like other people
struggle to love themselves. What makes you think that their
love and validation is going to make you love you more.
If you're mountain is that if you're mounted, is the
perception of how people see you. It's the lack of
understanding of that You're going to struggle. We're going to
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stay in this so being able to identify one that
that I don't need other people to love me, that
I'm good the way I am, that that the things
in me were intrinsically good, that it was made for purpose,
and that there's something beautiful in that allows us to
authentically be the real us. And when we talk about
addressing the mountains, the first the little mountain in front
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of you right now, because this is a reality. Right
I'm not going to spend too much time on this
because we have so many other episodes that we'll be
able to really really spend on, like just the mind alone,
just the brain alone. But there's something called neuroplasticity in
your brain that your brain is wired literally to survive.
So what happens is that you reframe that by your
frame of thought and your frame of work, your brain
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starts to learn what it was made for. Why I
call this a small mountain in this process because This
is actually one of the easiest things for you to overcome.
It's a process of identifying what's real and what's not
and saying to yourself, is this something that's actually worth
weight in my life? Or is this something that I'm
just repeating because I've been conditioned, because my brain is
conditioned to repeat this. Neuroplasticity is rewiring of your brain.
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It's rewiring of the things that you do, or the
exercises that you create, or the instruments that you play,
but also the words that you believe. What you constantly
say in your life is the one thing that's going
to stick. And if every day you are looking to
please someone else, and I promise you the only way
you're going to live your life is trying to please
them because you've conditioned it, that little mountain in front
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of you, this is an easy one. And then this
is the start to all this. But being able to
speak to yourself accordingly, like not speaking to yourself from
a stage of what you think people want to see
or say, but being able to identify who you are
despite those people, despite that aspect. That's your first mountain.
So things that we need to expand on here, like
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as we dive through this. That's just like just this
intrinsic portion is that there's a difference between motion and movement.
Like a lot of people are doing a lot of
things and getting nowhere. You can run back and forth
in a straight line side to side and not move anywhere.
You can do all these things and nothing is going
to change because just because you're lowed, it doesn't mean
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that you're healed. Just because you seem to have motion
doesn't mean that you're actually moving. There's nothing actually changing,
and you can do a lot and be tired and
nothing changed. This is why a lot of people are stuck,
right because they're doing all these things, and like I
said before, they're in burnout or they're doing all these things.
They're running around, they have all these actions. They're trying
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to seem as if they are together or healed and
trying to convince to themselves of it, but not actually
doing anything. When we understand, we identify this reality that
I need to move in progress and progress could be slow.
I need you to understand that there is no actual race.
Life is ending regardless, right, You're gonna the one thing
we're guaranteed to quote Benjamin Franklin is deaf, and taxes.
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Those are the things that you're guaranteed in this world.
Life is moving, so you're not in a race with anyone,
you're not in competition with anyone.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
You don't have to have.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
It all figured out before they do, but you do
need to have some level of motion.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
Slow motion is.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Okay, it's a process. It's one of those things that
using this mountain analogy again that eventually is going to
pick up speed and roll down this mountain. But being
able to understand that we need forward motion, not lateral motion,
or we don't need to move to the side, we
need to move forward, right. It's changing and picking the
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things that I know are going to be small changes
but are going to have a huge impact. They're going
to have this change in my life that are going
to identify everything else. And sometimes this is going to
hurt to hear, but sometimes it's simply removing yourself from
the environment you're in, Like moving yourself from this position
of being around certain people or being around certain things
that you feel like you have to be different to
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be loved in that you have to act differently, or
change your perspective or change how you say or do
things because you think that you are going to offend
people around you. I need you to understand that you
would never you would never, ever, ever ever be the
most authentic you pretending to be anything else. And if
you have to pretend, then at some point you're going
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to have to learn to hate you so that you
can remain in places where you're quote unquote loved, staying
in places where people are seeing you as something else.
The reality is that for a lot of us, we're
not moving we're not moving forward because we think that
doing a lot in a small space is changing anything,
but it's not. It's doing a little bit as you
move forward. That's what's gonna make the total difference. This
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is what's gonna make this catalyst between this mountain that
you're in and the movement that you progressed through it.
And again, it doesn't have to be perfect. You don't
have to listen to this podcast today and tomorrow have
it all figured out. That's not how this works. And
I also think that's a very toxic culture that we think,
especially with social media, we think that we can just
work our way through our problems when sometimes we need
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to sit down with them.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
We need to unpack them.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
We need to really be able to identify them before
we say anything else, because we can't. We can't change
what we don't identify. We will never be able to
change the thing. So if we're moving, we're doing all
these things, and nothing is progressing, then we need to understand.
Then maybe our movement.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Is just that, it's just motion.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
It's not actual progressive movements. We're not actually changing. And
sometimes again, the environment that you're in is too toxic
for you to grow, it's too unhealed for you to grow.
It's okay to remove yourself from places where you are
not valued and where you're not growing, where you're not
being fed, because you can move a lot, but nothing
is gonna change. There's hidden strength in the seated faith
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in the little things that you do. Like again, for me,
faith is a faith, faith based thing. It's understanding that
there's there's there's a God in my life that I
trust fully and that I do the things knowing that
he's gonna act. But here's here's the thing. This is
one of the things that annoys me. Again, whether you're
coming from a faith based position or not, this is
just a thing that we need to understand there is
a lie that is culturally understood and and in the
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Christian world understood and just again social dynamics understood.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
There is this lie that we believe that.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
If something was meant for us, that it's guaranteed for us.
No matter what you do, that thing is guaranteed. I
need you to understand that that's a lie. Yes, it
could be meant for you, but if you do not
do the work that's disciplined and required to keep it,
that thing that's quote unquote meant for you is not
meant for you because you are not doing the things
that are sustainable for You can't say that you desire
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a mansion, but you refuse to do the work that's
gonna cost you to at least pay off the taxes.
Speaker 2 (16:12):
Right.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
You can't say that you want a brand new car,
but you refuse to learn how to drive. You can't
say you want these things but you're not doing the
little things. Again, there's a pattern here, if you haven't
noticed it, and hopefully you will at some point, that
the little things are significant. We can't say that we
want things, that things are meant for us, but we
refuse to become the people that are deserving of it.
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You cannot say again, I'm in the gym, I'm working,
I'm trying. We're coming back. We're making a season of
comeback here. Watch by the end of the season, you
know we're gonna have a different, whole, different build over here.
Maybe a pack, not a six pack, but something, something's
gonna happen. But I can't say that I desire to
lose weight and to get fit and to be healthy,
but refuse to go to the gym. Yes, it's meant
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for me. The best version of me is that person.
The best version of me is is the person that
have regularly guest stays in that routine, doesn't break it
after a couple of months of other things. But it's
a person that remains in that thing. Why Because yes,
it's meant for me, but I'm meant to be a
part of it. I can't say something is meant for
me and I refuse to work on it. And this
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ties into everything that's like marriages or relationships.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
I can't say I.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Want a healthy marriage, but I'm not doing the work
to upkeep that. I can't say I want a healthy
career life, but I'm not showing up for work. Yes,
it's meant for you. I want to be clear. Things
goodness is meant for you. There are great things that
are meant for you. But just because it's meant for
you doesn't mean that you're not meant to work in it.
Doesn't mean that you're not meant to be a part
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of it. All blessings, all gifting, all faith, everything comes
by a fruit of work. You can't say the seed
of faith that it is meant for you, but you
did implant it. You cannot expect these things to happen
where there is no work. Yes, it's meant for you,
but it doesn't relinquish you from the work that's required
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to be a part of it. And that's actually the
beauty that the things that are meant for you, the
things that are going to grow, the things that you're
going to expand on this next stage.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
Of your life.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
The beauty is actually found in the effort that you put,
the work that you do, the reality that you were
meant to be a part of this.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
But you have to do the work. You can't expect it.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
So that's a big takeaway for a lot of us
that we've conditioned ourselves or if we've allowed the societal
norms to condition us to think that if it was
meant for you, that it's going to happen. Yeah, it's
meant for you, but it's not going to happen without you.
I mentioned this before, and I think this is a
huge portion of this, and maybe this is an exercise
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that you can do today on your own. But naming
the mountain is the first step to the freedom of it.
Like being able to identify the thing that is in
front of me, the thing that I'm struggling with, that thing,
knowing its name, calling it out by its name, and
knowing that I'm going to defeat this thing. That's the
biggest step. Knowing that this mountain that you're in, it's
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the thing that you are able to step into and
destroy because you know it, because you saw it, because
you can name it. And when you can name something,
this is why. First of all, the name is so important.
There's so much power in a name. But when you're
able to name something, you can also name its origin.
You can name the root of where it's coming from,
the cause of the problem. You're able to name why
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you're stuck in this thing. Knowing this particular thing, being
able to say this is my mountain, this is my struggle.
Now allows you to say, but why where does this
come from? What wound is this in my life? Where
is this that I need to address and change? And
knowing that now you can change that thing by knowing
where it started. Going back to that point, because we
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need to understand that healing does not mean that you
return to the wound, but it means that you learn.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
To grow and build out of it.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
It means that you've used the thing that was meant
to kill you and you create that thing into the
best part of the story. You're saying that this thing
that was a mountain in my life is now the
reason why I'm at the mountaintop because I was able
to stand on it, I was able to grow from it.
And I think that a lot of us struggle with
this particular portion of our lives. We struggle with moving
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past things, We struggle with healing, we struggle with that
progress because we've created this almost glass ceiling that we
say that, yes, I can do all these amazing things
that I have, all this gifting and all this purpose
until I get to this point. We'll be right back
after this quick commercial break, until this childhood wound comes up,
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until this breakup comes up, until this identity crisis comes up,
until this part of me that I can't heal, that
I feel hurt, and until that part comes up, that's
my limit. That's where I can't do anything else. And
I need you to understand that that is a lie.
That is one of the greatest lies that a lot
of us have believed. We believe that our limits are
limited by our wounds. We think that the things that
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we're in, that the progress that we're making or lack thereof,
is only identified by the things that have been done
to me, by the person that I've been told I
have to be. You have this amazing freedom. There's so
much gifting and understanding that you are not limited to
your wounds and being able to work through these Identifying
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that thing and saying it, calling White's name, is being
able to know that this woundedness, this thing that I've
been stuck with.
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Is not me.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
It's not who I am, it's not the place that
I'm in. Knowing that I'm able to identify that wound
and now I'm able to grow and heal and grow
through it, because again, it's not about changing it where
we can't change the past. You can't keep dwelling on
the things that have happened and expect to be happy today.
You can't keep reliving the same pain and then getting
mad at the fact that you're living it now. You're
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going back to that thing and it's become a stumbling
block for a lot of us. It's become the biggest
mountain that we have because we keep going into the
base of the mountain and staring at how huge this
thing is. And I'm a very big person on imagery,
and I do want you to imagine that that that
this is a reality, that we go to the base
of this where it happened and we look up and
we say wow. Because of this, I can't get over this,
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this mountain that I mean, it's never going to change
because of that one time that the thing was said
to me, or the multiple times that that thing was
said to me, and the thing that I'm stuck in
that this thing stops me from being the best me.
I know that it's tough sometimes to address, and that's
the goal with this podcast, right being able to to yes,
we're not going to fix it today, or maybe it
might be a good start today, but being able to
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work through this, to know one that you're not alone,
that there's people that we're going to talk to that
have struggled through amazing things and have made amazing things
out of it. That there's a lot of ways to
work through this, that there's other ways that maybe we
haven't tried before, but we know that that a consistent
effort is what changes this thing. Because another analogy that
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I use often whenever I talk about mountain this is
not the first time I've talked about mountains. I'm an
avid hiker. I love hiking, I love being outdoors. And
I remember that I was in these mountains in Arizona,
and as I'm hiking through, no one was there. Right,
the complete camp was like abandoned because it was like
forest fires. But I came all the way here to hike,
so I drove around the cones like an idiot. And
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I remember I was hiking and it was one hundred
and twelve degrees and I was at this point, I
was exhausted and drained, and I really wanted to find
this trail, and I started hiking up the mountain. I
jumped the side of one and my leg kind of
missed the ledge and I began to fall down the
side of this mountain. My whole stomach was just cut
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up and bleeding, and like my chin was bleeding and
all these things, and I what happened was that I
hit a branch, and the branch wedged in between two
rocks and stopped me from dying. Yes, I found the trail.
Yes I'm alive. Because obviously, if I was a ghost,
this would be really weird. But I remember in that
moment just thinking of the fact that I nearly died
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because I was trying to find the easy route. I
was trying to find a shortcut to the thing. I
need you to understand that sometimes there is no shortcut.
That the only way we heal, the only way we grow,
the only way we get to that amazing trail, despite
the difficulties, is by taking the long path, and there
is so much beauty in being able to see everything
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that that path has to offer. For some people, we
think that there needs to be a quick fix. We
think that this this healing stage is this mountain of mine,
that there is an easy trail. And sometimes you know,
depending on the mountain and the things, that the person
and the things that they've gone through. Sometimes, yeah, we
can say that there is quote unquote an easy trail
for them, but there's still things and other mountains that
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we have to start at the base and go the
long route and enjoy the sceneic review. So our goal
here is that our coast said be able to identify
that mountain, being able to know that you don't have
to have it all figured out today, Then it doesn't
have to be perfect, That there is no need for
you to feel like everything is just exactly how it
should be. That it's okay to live in the chaos sometimes,
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that it's okay to be able to unpack those things
and understand that, yes, chaos is a part of the story.
We need to know that just because we're doing a
bunch of things doesn't mean we're changing everything. And being
able to identify that mountain is what's going to help
us and as we unpack this series, First of all,
thank you for even listening to this episode, for being
a part of this. But as we unpack this series,
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as we go through all this, we need to be
able to just identify the mountain and grow through it
and identify multiple Again, there are multiple mountains that we'll see.
And if sometimes you just need to start with the
little one, the one right in front of you, the
simple one that seems conquerable, then start with that one.
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But if you feel like you need to start with
the biggest one, start with it. We'll have people who
have lived every aspect and every experience and be able
to help us and tell us those things. But being
able to identify that is always going to be the
biggest thing we do. Knowing that movements is only going
to come from effort, knowing that change is only going
to come from the things that I do, and knowing
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that my work is a part of my gifting. Like
the thing is that our quote unquote meant for me. Again,
all these things come from that aspect. Now, I know
for a lot of us, we're coming from different backgrounds.
If you're listening here, you're you might be coming because
you've met me on like social media or stuff like that,
or maybe you just stumbled upon this podcast. And if
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you came from that aspect, you know that one big
thing that I often say, and if you haven't come,
you're going to learn from me often is this reality
that we have so much authority over our lives and
and but this this is the tricky part. That you
have so much authority over your life, but you also
have authority as to who you give authority. So what
happens is that for a lot of us, we've given
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the reins to the parts of our lives that different
different people or different problems. We've given the rains different people,
because again we go back to this nature of woundedness.
Speaker 2 (27:04):
What we desire to please.
Speaker 1 (27:05):
We desire to have somebody see us and identify the
beautiful part about us. Right, we have this false dichotomy
that we think that if somebody approves of me, that
I then approve of me to or again give the
reins to our problems, and we let that drive, We
let that be the factor as to why I do
or don't do the next thing in our lives. I
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need you first before any of this, before we say
we're addressing those mountains, before we speak about them, before
we bring up different episodes that challenge those things that
challenge your limited pliefs, before we do any of that,
I need you to be able to first identify what
have you given power to. This will be like your
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homework before we get into our next episode, What have
you given power to what? What in your life or
who in your life controls the way you see you
or do things that you're doing. What is that again,
that mountain, the little mountain that we're looking at. What
part of that is the thing that you have been
just so stuck in that you keep repeating that you
keep going back to because you want this person or
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thing to approve of you, or to love you, or
to choose you.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
What thing is still there?
Speaker 1 (28:16):
And when we're able to first identify that, we're able
to identify that that first wound again naming it. We're
naming that particular thing and coming back to it. And
as again as we dive through this, we as we
live through this mountain together, as we you know, are
guided through this, we are able to to not let
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this thing continue to stay where it's at.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
You're invited into something.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
Beautiful, right, this is your life and for a lot
of us, we don't realize that life is almost over.
This is such a scary thought to think that it's
a very limited and finite life that I'm living in.
And I leave you with that question, right, that last
question there, life is ending? So are you actually are
you living it or are you just casually staying in it?
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Are you being dragged along orre you walking through? Are
you in something right now that is just you being
in it and not you living in it. The very
limited and finite time you have in this world was
not made for you to please people. You have such
a limited time that it was meant for you to
love people. It's meant for you to grow with people.
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It's meant for you to be something authentically present. But
it's not meant or made for you to make people
love you or like you. It's a very limited time.
So if that mountain for you is through the lens
of how people see you, then maybe the one thing
that we need to divest here, that we need to
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grow through is that is that you don't need to
be liked or loved by anyone except yourself. And then
when you learn to love you so much, people around
you learn to love you equally, so you're invited into that.
But hearting what that mountain is, naming it, being able
to be open to it, being able to know that
you don't need to earn anything from anyone, that you
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are simply loved, and how you should be for.
Speaker 2 (30:10):
Who you are.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
I'm just thankful that you are here. Thank you for
being a part of this and diving into this reality
of what this mountain was made for. And then our
next episode where we're going to be diving really into
what purpose and passion looks like and finding that for you.
So again, thank you for being a part of this,
thank you for listening, thank you for joining in on
this podcast.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
And I hope and I pray.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
That this is something that's truthful for you and fruitful
for everyone around you. So we'll see you on the
next episode.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
Take care,
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