December 24, 2024 • 14 mins
Motivation to make the new year 2025 is hard to find, but outlining and following step by step the little changes that will make a world of difference can be easy. Start the new year right.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
There's a saying, right, there's a lot of people that
have motion but no movement. They're doing a lot, they're
moving around there, they have big fan fare and all
these things, but nothing is changing. There is no progress
in their life. They have a lot of motion but
no movement.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
There is no change.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
If you can't manage your time, if you can't manage
what's worth investing into. And this is even deeper than
just like you know, the aspects of self well for
self goodness or self love, all these things which are important,
but it's even the so I think the whole goal
should always be to improve, like every year, like that
whole new year in new media.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
I think that's the real thing.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
I think we should authentically look at this coming year
as something different, and that's the only way we ever
create the person we want to be and do the
things that we have to be that person.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
But this is the biggest trick, This is the trade off.
This is what people fail to ignore, that you don't.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Have to change absolutely everything and be this absolute different person.
There's just small changes, these little things that we're gonna
talk about, the little shifts that you make that will
make you the best possible version of you, like being
able to just sit and just change little things that
you know are going to create a huge trajectory change
for you.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
That's all that matters.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
And before we start into that, I need you to
focus on this is what I'm trying to focus on
these twenty twenty four Where did I mess up? Like?
We're the things that I was not happy about? What
were the things that I failed that? What are the
things that I thought were going to be terrible that
weren't that bad? Like, I think that's another factor to
that that we don't realize it. Yes, sometimes we mess up.
Sometimes things are bad in that moment, but the outcome
(01:26):
of it, the later on thing isn't as bad as
we thought it was going to be, and we fixate
on that particular thing being the culmination of everything we've done. Well,
in this case, you can see it. You can look
back right and reflect on it. So what is something
in that timeframe that you're going to change that you
would have changed, you would have done differently. What are
situations that you put yourself in or the relationships that
(01:48):
you were in, What are mistakes that you made? Whatever
those things are that you were in twenty twenty four,
that aren't coming in with you into.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
This coming year, that aren't changing things this coming year
that aren't different.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
And I think that we struggle to change is because
we struggle to reflect. Like it's hard to become something
new when you don't see the mistakes you've made before,
where you don't look at the past and you don't
accept the fact that those things happen, that it's real,
that it was a part of your life, and don't
make those the center point of everything you do. So
before we talk about progress and growing in twenty twenty four,
(02:20):
you need to twenty five. You need to identify the
things in twenty four that you didn't do, the things
that were mistake, things you could have done better, and
then be able to say, okay, well this was a
landing point, something I grew from, something that I'm no
longer in. So let's dive into that. You have to
get smart. You have to have actual goals. There's that
whole saying those that failed to plan plan fail Like
if you don't have an actual goal, if you don't know,
(02:42):
and again, it doesn't have to be huge, it could
be something small, it could be something I want to
get done. In the next three months example, and we
break up our time frame that way, so we know
that I need to do this particular thing for my
own good, for my progress, for my change, and you
feel so much better. You unlock you release endorphins in
your boat. When you establish goals and achieve them, even
(03:03):
if they're small goals.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
It's not about perfection. It's about just getting these little things.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Done because you're going to feel better and your body
is actually going to be focused towards completing other goals
other tasks. Is how you make yourself motivated. This is
how you grow to be the best version of you.
This is what pushes you to actually be this version
that you can envision that you know what you can be.
But if you don't have things set, you're gonna make
sure that you never reach those things. So authentically, sit
(03:27):
down and make achievable relevant goals, like things that you
can actually get to. I often do as myself or
I have little goals that I'll make a little sustainable,
easy goals to reach, and then one like super difficult,
out of the way goal that it's a dream that
can work towards. But you know, I understand that it's
probably not gonna happen, but I'm gonna still make the
work to try to get there. Why Because it becomes
(03:48):
a lot easier to build a routine to be towards
that thing. And the easiest attainable ones are the ones
that are gonna, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Make me feel good. A're gonna release those endorphins in me.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
So set up those goals in a way that it's attainable,
things that you know are genuine, and we need to
be able to just put that down somewhere somewhere you
see it often. Why Because it's gonna be what motivates you.
It's gonna be what motivates you to be different this year.
It's going to be motivate you to grow this year,
to hit those next goals, to hit that thing you
need to hit, because if you don't see it, you
won't remember it, you won't believe it. Yes, it's easy
(04:17):
to do that when you're motivated, but those things are
going to keep you consistent. So developing actual attainable goals
and putting that together and being able to reflect on it,
this is going to change how you live this next year.
Because if if you're doing this, if you really want
to change, you're going to be on top of it.
It's gonna be the one thing that's going to push
you to consistently reach that goal. And again, little small
(04:38):
goals doesn't have to be huge, but it's just things
that help your body develop. It helps you change, and
we have to be able to dive into that. And
this leads into the next port, which is develop a
growth mindset. So here's the thing that so many people
struggle with. We struggle with this negative cognitive bias that
we have for ourselves, that we think that we are
the worst version of us, that we're this bad thing,
(04:58):
that we're horrible, because it's so easy easy to talk
negatively about yourself. In fact, it actually is scientifically proven
that your brain is more receptive to negative, negative thoughts,
or negative conversations or negative actions opposed it to the positive.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Why because positive requires.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
You to go against what's commonly known in society, what's
commonly pushed society. To think about it, society is not
push positivity. It doesn't push growth, doesn't push change. It
always pushes the worst of the worst version of anything
and of everyone, because it pushes this whole competition thing.
And again, competition is not bad. I don't want to
disclaim that because it is good. It's something that is
a catalyst that pushes us. But unfortunately it also causes
(05:35):
this ripple where people want to bash and destroy other
people so that they can feel some way better about themselves.
The truth is that happy people don't do that. Like
genuinely joyful people who have positive mindsets that are in
this growth mindset, They're not looking to hurt other people,
but just they know that they're good. They know that
they're not the mess of this world, that they are,
(05:55):
the goodness that they are, so they focus on that.
So developing a growth mindset is this year. Every time
you have to speak negative to yourself, every time you
want to tell yourself how bad you are, or how
much of a mess you are, or how much of
a mistake you are, give yourself grace. Give yourself the
space to say, Okay, I messed up somewhere and that's okay,
but I'm no longer there, I'm not that person, I'm
not in that same place, and then reduce something out
(06:16):
of that, because what happens is that your brain is
now conditioned to understand that yo, I messed up, I
made a mistake, but I'm not that thing. So you're
not going to stay grounded in something that's horrible, but
in fact, you're going to plant yourself somewhere else where
you're going to grow and flourish. So building this mindset
that allows you to understand that you're not your mistakes,
but you're everything good that you are made to be,
(06:36):
changing how you perceive things from going from a commonly
placed negative mindset to this positive reality of saying, Okay,
I made a mistake, I messed up, but I'm no
longer there. Allowing yourself to have this growth mindset is
going to foster resilience and continuous self improvement because you
are not looking to destroy or to kill. You're looking
to grow and to build, and that's the difference. Being
(06:58):
able to be genuinely good helps you change that. And
then whoever's the next point where it's prioritizing health and
well being And there is a struggle for a lot
of us, myself included, right, I've been trying really hard
to be consistent and have a good sleep schedule and
eat well and go to the gym posicily and I
had a good, a good run and I fell off But.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Why because I didn't have a plan, right.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
I ideally said, Okay, well I was just gonna do
this and that's it, and I'm going to just show
up and wake up whatever and be in the gym.
That that it didn't work that way, right, because there
wasn't a plan. There wasn't anything that was consistent, there
wasn't anything attainable goals. It was over the top trying
to hit home runs. Always creating something that that builds
a healthy lifestyle is going to change how you feel
(07:39):
about you. Like literally, like the happy the more you
work out, the better you eat, the better you sleep.
All these things are are things that actually help you
feel better. The hormones that you're released in your body,
the doorphins is actually the same thing, and we're working out,
is what's going to make you feel joyful, right, It's
going to help you have this this natural chemical balance.
What happens is for a lot of us that we
(08:00):
have chemical imbalances.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Right.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Sometimes it's not just that you speak negative to yourself,
but also because of the unhealthy life that you've been living,
it actually causes you to go through depression, to have
fear and anxiety, cause all these things.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Why, Because your body needs to.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Be regulated, and when it's not regulated or actually believe
or not dehydration.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
I this is one of my goals.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Right sixty four ounces. I'm trying to drink at least
once every day, right sixty four ounces of water and
actually dehydration. If you're dehydrated again, if you're not in
a healthy state, you're deregulated. Dehydration causes depression. A lot
of people don't realize this, but their body is looking
for something and then what it has its just releases
whatever chemicals it can in efforts to try to get
you to solve the problem. Unfortunately, we don't always know
(08:41):
what the problem is. But if we do the best
thing we can to create this healthy lifestyle, or to
drink more water.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
To work out, to sleep better, to eat better.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
When we do these things, you're you're giving yourself a
fighting chance to be able to identify where.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
The problem is and change it.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
To have to have the most motivated you, the most
the best, the best version of you. And twenty twenty five,
it's going to require for you to stop giving up
all these places, all these little battle grounds that you have,
and start facing them, start being real with it. And
then ultimately this is my favorite point, right, it's investing
enhancing your time management skills because for me, I'm very punctual.
(09:16):
One thing I'm good at is time management and oh
well in certain places, right, but being able to identify
where time managements necessary, what is actually real right now,
and what is something that I'm just creating busy work.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
There's a saying, right, there's a lot of people that
have motion but no movement.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
They're doing a lot, they're moving around there, they have
big fan fare and all these things, but nothing is changing.
There is no progress in their life. They have a
lot of motion but no movement. There is no change.
If you can't manage your time, if you can't manage
what's worth investing into.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
And this is even deeper than just like you.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
Know, the aspects of self well for self goodness or
self love, all these things which are important, but it's
even the relationships we have people. Right, we invest too
much time and people that don't deserve that much time.
We are willing to give up our in places to
serve people that don't serve us back, and then we
realize why we don't have anything. There's no reciprocity. There's
no energy being distributed there because we've poured so much
(10:09):
into We invested time into things that have shown us
that they do not require request our time. If you
don't have time management, you don't know what's worth pushing
into and what's not.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
If you're not cautious with you, you're gonna be moving a lot.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
You're gonna be jumping and tired and exhausted because there's
a lot of motion, but no movement. You jumped up
and down, but you didn't go forward. And what we
need to understand is that where we invest our time
is where we invest our life. The thing that we
have consistently pushed into, that's the thing that's going to
take a chunk of your whatever that is. It might
be a passion and hopefully it's your family or stuff
like that. Whatever you're investing your time into, that thing
(10:45):
is what you're investing your life into because this is
where you are.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
For the chunk of it.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
So choosing to have good time management it's not just
about getting jobs or tasks done on time. Yes, that's
a huge part, but it's also about the things that
you've actually invested your life into the thing that you
have made the most important and pinnacle part of what
you do because you've created this, this life around that
where your time is, your life is what you've invested
(11:10):
so much into. That's the thing that will be the
indicator of your life. That's the thing that you're going
to say, Okay, this is this is where I was
and this next year, that's that's gonna be a huge
factor because what where is your life.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Going to be.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Is it going to be in things that are useless
and not helping you grow, or in things that are
serving you and pushing you towards being the best version
of yourself. And this is least to that point or
last point here is to invest in learning and development.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
You have to be willing to grow through things.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
You will never know everything, but this year could be
a year that you learn a lot more, right, because
you've created and set yourself up in a way where
you're able to invest in you to grow and to
learn what you need to to be something that's self
relying or self sustaining.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
And actually I lie.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
The other last point is here is practice gratitude and mindfulness.
And I think this is actually how you change your
entire life when you change your scope of how you
see things, You change the scope of how you live
through things. When you have gratitude, you are able to
look at life and say, well, Okay, this is happening,
and I can choose to see the negative in it,
but I can also.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Choose to be grateful for the good around it.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
I can choose to see the problem and make that
problem the center point of everything that I see, or
I can choose to have the problem and be grateful
that there's so many other things in my life that
I'm living with. And then I promise you, when you
change your scope of vision, when you look for gratitude
and things, you no longer remain in this wicked pain
(12:38):
struggle that we tend to stay because we tend to
glorify the problem. And that's what happens, that it becomes
the only thing in your life, and it's the only
thing that you absorb and take in, and that's the
only thing you live in. And you say, well, look
how bad my life is, and you make sure that
you speak that into your life, that you speak it
into existence in every aspect that you can, that you
are not cautious of the tongue because the power is
(12:59):
in the tongue. You are focused on speaking negativity over you,
and that's the only thing you've ever become.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Your brain is.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
That powerful, by the way, it will believe what you
tell it. So if you consistently look at things through
the scope of ungratitude, being ungrateful, then you know what's
going to happen. That your whole life is going to
gravitate around that. You are going to be focused and
geared towards that one thing. But when you start saying, Okay,
I'm going to be grateful for everything else. I have
a flat tire, but then got to have a car, right.
(13:26):
I got fired from my job, but then got to
have unemployment. It's just little things. It sounds like little
ridiculous shifts, but these little shifts have a huge impact
because now every time you have an issue, you're not
looking at the issue, You're looking at the good around it,
and those things are now magnified.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
You minimize the problem. It might still be a problem, right.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
You still have to fix it those solutions, but it
doesn't run and ruin your life because it hasn't become
the focus of everything else. When you look through the
scope of gratitude, the one thing that you are going
to make sure that your life is is grateful. You're
going to make sure that your life is good because
you're great before it. This year could be such a
huge change, and this needs to be a season of change.
This needs to be a year where that word right,
(14:07):
where you're not looking for movements, you're looking for motion.
This needs to be here where you're looking for gratitude,
where the scope of everything you do is about the
thing that you are and not the problem that's caused
towards you. It's about being able to signify that your
life is of abundance and not of the problem itself.
Because when we look through the scope of ungratefulness, we
were sitting there and looking at the problem and making
(14:28):
it the pinnacle.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
Of everything we are.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
So this next season needs to be about that. It
needs to be about change, about growth, about peace, about
actually having genuine love in your life and living a
life full of joy. Right, these are all fruits of
the spirit. So if you're living a life in that manner,
you know that it's something worth living.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
It's a good life.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
This next season twenty twenty five, it's about change. The
question is is that change is going to be positive
for you're negative
There's a saying, right, there's a lot of people that
have motion but no movement. They're doing a lot, they're
moving around there, they have big fan fare and all
these things, but nothing is changing. There is no progress
in their life. They have a lot of motion but
no movement.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
There is no change.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
If you can't manage your time, if you can't manage
what's worth investing into. And this is even deeper than
just like you know, the aspects of self well for
self goodness or self love, all these things which are important,
but it's even the so I think the whole goal
should always be to improve, like every year, like that
whole new year in new media.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
I think that's the real thing.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
I think we should authentically look at this coming year
as something different, and that's the only way we ever
create the person we want to be and do the
things that we have to be that person.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
But this is the biggest trick, This is the trade off.
This is what people fail to ignore, that you don't.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Have to change absolutely everything and be this absolute different person.
There's just small changes, these little things that we're gonna
talk about, the little shifts that you make that will
make you the best possible version of you, like being
able to just sit and just change little things that
you know are going to create a huge trajectory change
for you.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
That's all that matters.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
And before we start into that, I need you to
focus on this is what I'm trying to focus on
these twenty twenty four Where did I mess up? Like?
We're the things that I was not happy about? What
were the things that I failed that? What are the
things that I thought were going to be terrible that
weren't that bad? Like, I think that's another factor to
that that we don't realize it. Yes, sometimes we mess up.
Sometimes things are bad in that moment, but the outcome
(01:26):
of it, the later on thing isn't as bad as
we thought it was going to be, and we fixate
on that particular thing being the culmination of everything we've done. Well,
in this case, you can see it. You can look
back right and reflect on it. So what is something
in that timeframe that you're going to change that you
would have changed, you would have done differently. What are
situations that you put yourself in or the relationships that
(01:48):
you were in, What are mistakes that you made? Whatever
those things are that you were in twenty twenty four,
that aren't coming in with you into.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
This coming year, that aren't changing things this coming year
that aren't different.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
And I think that we struggle to change is because
we struggle to reflect. Like it's hard to become something
new when you don't see the mistakes you've made before,
where you don't look at the past and you don't
accept the fact that those things happen, that it's real,
that it was a part of your life, and don't
make those the center point of everything you do. So
before we talk about progress and growing in twenty twenty four,
(02:20):
you need to twenty five. You need to identify the
things in twenty four that you didn't do, the things
that were mistake, things you could have done better, and
then be able to say, okay, well this was a
landing point, something I grew from, something that I'm no
longer in. So let's dive into that. You have to
get smart. You have to have actual goals. There's that
whole saying those that failed to plan plan fail Like
if you don't have an actual goal, if you don't know,
(02:42):
and again, it doesn't have to be huge, it could
be something small, it could be something I want to
get done. In the next three months example, and we
break up our time frame that way, so we know
that I need to do this particular thing for my
own good, for my progress, for my change, and you
feel so much better. You unlock you release endorphins in
your boat. When you establish goals and achieve them, even
(03:03):
if they're small goals.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
It's not about perfection. It's about just getting these little things.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Done because you're going to feel better and your body
is actually going to be focused towards completing other goals
other tasks. Is how you make yourself motivated. This is
how you grow to be the best version of you.
This is what pushes you to actually be this version
that you can envision that you know what you can be.
But if you don't have things set, you're gonna make
sure that you never reach those things. So authentically, sit
(03:27):
down and make achievable relevant goals, like things that you
can actually get to. I often do as myself or
I have little goals that I'll make a little sustainable,
easy goals to reach, and then one like super difficult,
out of the way goal that it's a dream that
can work towards. But you know, I understand that it's
probably not gonna happen, but I'm gonna still make the
work to try to get there. Why Because it becomes
(03:48):
a lot easier to build a routine to be towards
that thing. And the easiest attainable ones are the ones
that are gonna, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Make me feel good. A're gonna release those endorphins in me.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
So set up those goals in a way that it's attainable,
things that you know are genuine, and we need to
be able to just put that down somewhere somewhere you
see it often. Why Because it's gonna be what motivates you.
It's gonna be what motivates you to be different this year.
It's going to be motivate you to grow this year,
to hit those next goals, to hit that thing you
need to hit, because if you don't see it, you
won't remember it, you won't believe it. Yes, it's easy
(04:17):
to do that when you're motivated, but those things are
going to keep you consistent. So developing actual attainable goals
and putting that together and being able to reflect on it,
this is going to change how you live this next year.
Because if if you're doing this, if you really want
to change, you're going to be on top of it.
It's gonna be the one thing that's going to push
you to consistently reach that goal. And again, little small
(04:38):
goals doesn't have to be huge, but it's just things
that help your body develop. It helps you change, and
we have to be able to dive into that. And
this leads into the next port, which is develop a
growth mindset. So here's the thing that so many people
struggle with. We struggle with this negative cognitive bias that
we have for ourselves, that we think that we are
the worst version of us, that we're this bad thing,
(04:58):
that we're horrible, because it's so easy easy to talk
negatively about yourself. In fact, it actually is scientifically proven
that your brain is more receptive to negative, negative thoughts,
or negative conversations or negative actions opposed it to the positive.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Why because positive requires.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
You to go against what's commonly known in society, what's
commonly pushed society. To think about it, society is not
push positivity. It doesn't push growth, doesn't push change. It
always pushes the worst of the worst version of anything
and of everyone, because it pushes this whole competition thing.
And again, competition is not bad. I don't want to
disclaim that because it is good. It's something that is
a catalyst that pushes us. But unfortunately it also causes
(05:35):
this ripple where people want to bash and destroy other
people so that they can feel some way better about themselves.
The truth is that happy people don't do that. Like
genuinely joyful people who have positive mindsets that are in
this growth mindset, They're not looking to hurt other people,
but just they know that they're good. They know that
they're not the mess of this world, that they are,
(05:55):
the goodness that they are, so they focus on that.
So developing a growth mindset is this year. Every time
you have to speak negative to yourself, every time you
want to tell yourself how bad you are, or how
much of a mess you are, or how much of
a mistake you are, give yourself grace. Give yourself the
space to say, Okay, I messed up somewhere and that's okay,
but I'm no longer there, I'm not that person, I'm
not in that same place, and then reduce something out
(06:16):
of that, because what happens is that your brain is
now conditioned to understand that yo, I messed up, I
made a mistake, but I'm not that thing. So you're
not going to stay grounded in something that's horrible, but
in fact, you're going to plant yourself somewhere else where
you're going to grow and flourish. So building this mindset
that allows you to understand that you're not your mistakes,
but you're everything good that you are made to be,
(06:36):
changing how you perceive things from going from a commonly
placed negative mindset to this positive reality of saying, Okay,
I made a mistake, I messed up, but I'm no
longer there. Allowing yourself to have this growth mindset is
going to foster resilience and continuous self improvement because you
are not looking to destroy or to kill. You're looking
to grow and to build, and that's the difference. Being
(06:58):
able to be genuinely good helps you change that. And
then whoever's the next point where it's prioritizing health and
well being And there is a struggle for a lot
of us, myself included, right, I've been trying really hard
to be consistent and have a good sleep schedule and
eat well and go to the gym posicily and I
had a good, a good run and I fell off But.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Why because I didn't have a plan, right.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
I ideally said, Okay, well I was just gonna do
this and that's it, and I'm going to just show
up and wake up whatever and be in the gym.
That that it didn't work that way, right, because there
wasn't a plan. There wasn't anything that was consistent, there
wasn't anything attainable goals. It was over the top trying
to hit home runs. Always creating something that that builds
a healthy lifestyle is going to change how you feel
(07:39):
about you. Like literally, like the happy the more you
work out, the better you eat, the better you sleep.
All these things are are things that actually help you
feel better. The hormones that you're released in your body,
the doorphins is actually the same thing, and we're working out,
is what's going to make you feel joyful, right, It's
going to help you have this this natural chemical balance.
What happens is for a lot of us that we
(08:00):
have chemical imbalances.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Right.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Sometimes it's not just that you speak negative to yourself,
but also because of the unhealthy life that you've been living,
it actually causes you to go through depression, to have
fear and anxiety, cause all these things.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Why, Because your body needs to.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Be regulated, and when it's not regulated or actually believe
or not dehydration.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
I this is one of my goals.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Right sixty four ounces. I'm trying to drink at least
once every day, right sixty four ounces of water and
actually dehydration. If you're dehydrated again, if you're not in
a healthy state, you're deregulated. Dehydration causes depression. A lot
of people don't realize this, but their body is looking
for something and then what it has its just releases
whatever chemicals it can in efforts to try to get
you to solve the problem. Unfortunately, we don't always know
(08:41):
what the problem is. But if we do the best
thing we can to create this healthy lifestyle, or to
drink more water.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
To work out, to sleep better, to eat better.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
When we do these things, you're you're giving yourself a
fighting chance to be able to identify where.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
The problem is and change it.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
To have to have the most motivated you, the most
the best, the best version of you. And twenty twenty five,
it's going to require for you to stop giving up
all these places, all these little battle grounds that you have,
and start facing them, start being real with it. And
then ultimately this is my favorite point, right, it's investing
enhancing your time management skills because for me, I'm very punctual.
(09:16):
One thing I'm good at is time management and oh
well in certain places, right, but being able to identify
where time managements necessary, what is actually real right now,
and what is something that I'm just creating busy work.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
There's a saying, right, there's a lot of people that
have motion but no movement.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
They're doing a lot, they're moving around there, they have
big fan fare and all these things, but nothing is changing.
There is no progress in their life. They have a
lot of motion but no movement. There is no change.
If you can't manage your time, if you can't manage
what's worth investing into.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
And this is even deeper than just like you.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
Know, the aspects of self well for self goodness or
self love, all these things which are important, but it's
even the relationships we have people. Right, we invest too
much time and people that don't deserve that much time.
We are willing to give up our in places to
serve people that don't serve us back, and then we
realize why we don't have anything. There's no reciprocity. There's
no energy being distributed there because we've poured so much
(10:09):
into We invested time into things that have shown us
that they do not require request our time. If you
don't have time management, you don't know what's worth pushing
into and what's not.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
If you're not cautious with you, you're gonna be moving a lot.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
You're gonna be jumping and tired and exhausted because there's
a lot of motion, but no movement. You jumped up
and down, but you didn't go forward. And what we
need to understand is that where we invest our time
is where we invest our life. The thing that we
have consistently pushed into, that's the thing that's going to
take a chunk of your whatever that is. It might
be a passion and hopefully it's your family or stuff
like that. Whatever you're investing your time into, that thing
(10:45):
is what you're investing your life into because this is
where you are.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
For the chunk of it.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
So choosing to have good time management it's not just
about getting jobs or tasks done on time. Yes, that's
a huge part, but it's also about the things that
you've actually invested your life into the thing that you
have made the most important and pinnacle part of what
you do because you've created this, this life around that
where your time is, your life is what you've invested
(11:10):
so much into. That's the thing that will be the
indicator of your life. That's the thing that you're going
to say, Okay, this is this is where I was
and this next year, that's that's gonna be a huge
factor because what where is your life.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Going to be.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Is it going to be in things that are useless
and not helping you grow, or in things that are
serving you and pushing you towards being the best version
of yourself. And this is least to that point or
last point here is to invest in learning and development.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
You have to be willing to grow through things.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
You will never know everything, but this year could be
a year that you learn a lot more, right, because
you've created and set yourself up in a way where
you're able to invest in you to grow and to
learn what you need to to be something that's self
relying or self sustaining.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
And actually I lie.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
The other last point is here is practice gratitude and mindfulness.
And I think this is actually how you change your
entire life when you change your scope of how you
see things, You change the scope of how you live
through things. When you have gratitude, you are able to
look at life and say, well, Okay, this is happening,
and I can choose to see the negative in it,
but I can also.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Choose to be grateful for the good around it.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
I can choose to see the problem and make that
problem the center point of everything that I see, or
I can choose to have the problem and be grateful
that there's so many other things in my life that
I'm living with. And then I promise you, when you
change your scope of vision, when you look for gratitude
and things, you no longer remain in this wicked pain
(12:38):
struggle that we tend to stay because we tend to
glorify the problem. And that's what happens, that it becomes
the only thing in your life, and it's the only
thing that you absorb and take in, and that's the
only thing you live in. And you say, well, look
how bad my life is, and you make sure that
you speak that into your life, that you speak it
into existence in every aspect that you can, that you
are not cautious of the tongue because the power is
(12:59):
in the tongue. You are focused on speaking negativity over you,
and that's the only thing you've ever become.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Your brain is.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
That powerful, by the way, it will believe what you
tell it. So if you consistently look at things through
the scope of ungratitude, being ungrateful, then you know what's
going to happen. That your whole life is going to
gravitate around that. You are going to be focused and
geared towards that one thing. But when you start saying, Okay,
I'm going to be grateful for everything else. I have
a flat tire, but then got to have a car, right.
(13:26):
I got fired from my job, but then got to
have unemployment. It's just little things. It sounds like little
ridiculous shifts, but these little shifts have a huge impact
because now every time you have an issue, you're not
looking at the issue, You're looking at the good around it,
and those things are now magnified.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
You minimize the problem. It might still be a problem, right.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
You still have to fix it those solutions, but it
doesn't run and ruin your life because it hasn't become
the focus of everything else. When you look through the
scope of gratitude, the one thing that you are going
to make sure that your life is is grateful. You're
going to make sure that your life is good because
you're great before it. This year could be such a
huge change, and this needs to be a season of change.
This needs to be a year where that word right,
(14:07):
where you're not looking for movements, you're looking for motion.
This needs to be here where you're looking for gratitude,
where the scope of everything you do is about the
thing that you are and not the problem that's caused
towards you. It's about being able to signify that your
life is of abundance and not of the problem itself.
Because when we look through the scope of ungratefulness, we
were sitting there and looking at the problem and making
(14:28):
it the pinnacle.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
Of everything we are.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
So this next season needs to be about that. It
needs to be about change, about growth, about peace, about
actually having genuine love in your life and living a
life full of joy. Right, these are all fruits of
the spirit. So if you're living a life in that manner,
you know that it's something worth living.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
It's a good life.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
This next season twenty twenty five, it's about change. The
question is is that change is going to be positive
for you're negative
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