June 5, 2025 • 30 mins
In this episode Joshua Rosa talks about the brutal cycle of start → stop → start again and how to finally break free with focused consistency. You’ll learn why fear is often an illusion, how limiting beliefs disguise themselves as facts, and why “I can’t because…” is the most dangerous sentence you keep saying.
No one is coming to rescue you and that’s not a bad thing.
It means the power to change everything… is already in your hands.
In this episode, we’re diving deep into:
- The real fears that hold us back from starting
- Why building momentum is harder than it looks—but not impossible
- The myth of “waiting until you’re ready”
- How to develop self-trust in a world full of doubt
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So that's saying that no one is going to come
and save your life for you, like no one's going
to come and change anything for you. Is very true,
but it's not in the sense that people are cruel.
It's in the reality that you have the power to
change anything and everything, but no one else can force
you to do that. No one else can force you
into this change that you need to make. This is
made for this mountain with Josh Rosa or turning pain
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into purpose. So if you want to stop being afraid,
this is what you need to do. These are the
steps that you need to take. And first of all,
I understand that this is kind of a nuanced thing
or because for a lot of us there's a whole
empowerment concept or change concept or self growth has been
stifled for so long because we think that we either
have to have the perfect hand that have to be
dealt the perfect hand life, or that things have to
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kind of just fall into our laps, or that we
just need to like be born into something good. And
I need you to understand there are people who have
created amazing things in this world, who have done amazing,
amazing things that come from the worst of the worst
circumstances like the situations that they were in, the things
that they've done, the places they've been, those things. For
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a lot of people, they would look at that adversity
and that would be the mountain that would stop them
from doing anything else. And I think that fear is
the biggest lie that we struggle with, the thing that
we have created all of our life problems around comes
down to fear and permission to do the things that
you need to do. The reason that a lot of
us don't move or don't act is because the authority
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that we have, we've given it to the lie. So
the thing that has happened to us, or the belief
that we're not capable or this fallacy that says that
you aren't able because of something else, is the reason
that you become frozen, that you become afraid. So if
you want to stop being afraid, what you need to
do is become aware and informed. And this is the
hard part, right, because we don't want to be able
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to identify the things we mentioned this like in the
first episode, right, being able to boldly proclaim what our
mountain is. And the hard part about this is not
so much that we know that there's something that's hindering us.
It's not so much that we know that there's a roadblock,
it's not so much that we know that there's a
difficulty in our life, our mountain in our life, but
it's that we have to be bold and honest with
ourselves because a lot of times, the biggest problem isn't
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the things that have been done to us, is us.
It's a decision that we've come into in this acceptance
of all of those lies, We've made that the pinnacle
of our life. And the reason again, the mountain that
we're in that we don't change, that we don't move,
is because we haven't given ourselves permission to be honest
with ourselves. So what happens is that we create this
lie in us that we don't trust us. It's hard
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to trust me when I've lied to me so much.
No one in this world lies to you as much
as you would. Because if you're not willing to confront
the thing, you're not willing to name the mountain, if
you're not willing to give yourself permission to heal through
it and to grow through it and to let go
of it, you're going to continue to blame you for
that change, whether consciously or subconsciously. And for a lot
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of us, we're afraid because we haven't been able to
be real and honest with ourselves, Like we haven't look
at our flaws and look at our circumstances and say, no,
this is a byproduct of me. And I'm not saying
that naming the problem today is going to fix it tomorrow,
but being aware and conscious and constantly reminding yourself are
these decisions aligning with what I'm doing. And this is
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a realization for me in the last couple of months
that I need to make choices that are going to
benefit and be in line with the person that I
desire to be. And I mentioned this in previous episodes,
right that this is all tied in because when we
talk about self growth and self love and self worth
and all these things, these are all self right and
no one else can control or dictate what you do next.
So permission to give yourself first of all, is to
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be able to confront and be real with yourself, like
you have to be honest with you. Are you doing
the things that are beneficient or are you doing or
are you doing the things that are just in survival?
Because for a lot of us, we've created again this mountain,
this barrier, where we've created these things thinking that they're
supposed to help us. We've created borders or barriers with
people or things or lifestyles, thinking that this barrier is
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going to keep that thing away. But all you did
was that you created a jail cell for yourself. You
created walls around you and not barriers around others. So
understanding that we need to be honest with ourselves. If
you want to stop being afraid, you need to be
real with you. You need to call you out more
than anyone else calls you out. Because again, this is
the beauty of like like coaches right, Like again, I'm
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working on this, this fit, this journey. I'm trying to
get into all this and get back into this routine,
which is actually one of our points here, but we'll
come back to that later. But being able to do
that thing and come back to it, you need people
that are going to keep you accountable. This is where
like trainers come into to play right, or or people
that are coaches that that specifically are year towards like
fitness and all these things. Why are they important? Is not?
Again even this podcast This is the funny thing is
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that even this podcast itself, the nature of it is
that is accountability. It's not necessarily saying that I can
do it for you, but I can tell you the
things that we all need to hear, whether imperfect or
perfect people, which there is no such thing as perfect people,
but people that might have had a little more figured
out the most. Even that is a sense of accountability. Again,
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the messenger is not the important person the messages. Being
able to understand that there's something important there doesn't mean
that the other person has to have it all figured
out and be perfect, but it is a part of
that reality. So being able to be accountable in any way,
that's what we need. And the person that's going to
keep you accountable the most is not the podcast you're
listening to. It's not the trainer in your gym. It's
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it's not the life code. It's not the other person
that is over you. It's you. You are the person
that you need to be honest with and accountable with.
If you want to stop being afraid, you need to
understand that fear is an illusion, like the emotion you
get while you're sleeping or having a nightmare. I always
equated to this reality because if you let's again pretend
you are having a nightmare, You've had a nightmare and
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you woke up in this code sweat and your your
cortosol levels arising, so your stress or hormones are through
the roof, and you were just going through this, all
these emotions, all these feelings, but then you realize that
that wasn't real. It was an emotional response to something
that was happening in my brain. So what if fear
doesn't exist? What if the illusion of fear is that
we've created something that it's an emotional response to a
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thought or theory or a possibility, but not an action,
but not something that's tangible. We've created this, this fear response,
and we now made this illusion bigger than what it is.
I need you to understand that, yes, things are bad
and situations happen, but your respond to them should be
from a place of stability and not a place of fear,
because when we respond in fear, we cause more problems
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than anything else. If you want to stop being afraid,
you need to understand that a lot of times the
things that we are afraid of our illusions. There are
things are figments of our imagination. There are things that
we have given too much rope, and it ran with
being able to challenge that. Challenging that mountain and challenging
limited beliefs and are the realistic first steps of all this. Right,
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it's not just what you're doing or in it or
how you got in it, but what can you do next?
And challenging that mountain of giving your self permission is
first understanding that fear is a part of it, but
it shouldn't be what drives you. It shouldn't be the
thing that is the driver's seat in his car is
the head of the table. And we'll talk a little
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bit more about this after this commercial break. So diving
right back into this, the hardest thing isn't starting. It's
starting and stopping and starting and stopping again. And I
mentioned early on right that this is something I equate
with like the gym, because again I love that that
component of it. But there's always the excuses. And I'm
gonna give you my own excuses so that you can
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feel like it's not just you, because it's not. There's
all these people that are going through all these things
that I've been making the excuse for a very long
time that my schedule is insane, and it is true.
There is validity to that. I don't want to diminish
your schedule or my schedule, right, there is validity. There
is true that my schedule is insane. My lifestyle is
very busy because I'm trying to do all these things
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and there's so many things that were thrown on my
plate that I have to solve and fix and I
need to do those things established what I need to
do next. And that's that's a reality. It's the truth.
But there is also the truth that we align with
the things that we make priorities, like the things that
will fit into our schedule, we will make priorities with
I can sit here and watch a basketball game for
two hours, but did I make that a priority to
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go to the gym to start to start the thing
that I need to do? Well, is that I make
that a priority. And if we don't make things a priority,
we can't complain when they're not actual and literal things
in our life. We can't We can't sit here and say, well,
why isn't this happening when I've done nothing to make
it happen. So giving yourself permission is not just to
go back into this routine, but to stay in it.
I give yourself admission to to be the person you
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desire to be. And again I use the gym because
that's an easy analogy. That's something I'm working on right,
that's my current mountain. But it's something that we need
to understand that we are not doing things consistently because
we're not creating a lifestyle of consistency or desire. We
want the things, but we're not willing to do the
things that are required to change. I need you to
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give yourself permission, not just to start, but to stay.
And this all comes down again accountability. That word is
a tough one and we're gonna keep replaying and keep
rehearing it. But we mentioned the very beginning. Accountability is
the biggest proponent of how you do the things you
do and the way you do them and how a
reason why you do them. If you're holding yourself accountable,
it's not just starting whatever it is and this is everything. Right,
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you want to start a podcast right Stetistically speaking, most
people don't go past episode three. Right. The reason that
I can't expect success in something that I'm only willing
to do when I'm being cheered for clap four and
you're gonna hear this actually in the next episode. The
next episode that you're gonna hear is actually with the
friend of mine. We talked about this specific thing, and
I'm gonna kind of go off of this a little bit.
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Why and again I'm kind of pre foreshadowing I shouldn't
have done done that, or maybe should. But the reason
I mentioned that is because these couple of episodes, like
I mentioned before, are intentional. I intentionally wanted this just
us time, kind of just dissect the is that you're
in the things that people are going through. But one
big thing that I talk about often, and we spoke
about that in depth in that episode, was the reality
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that you have to do what you have to do
for you, and not only when people are clapping or
cheering or around you, not when people are validating your actions,
but even when people are making them invalid or are
trying to say that you're this or that or throwing
shade or whatever. You need to do what you need
to do because you are accountable for you, not because
anyone else has anything to say, or not because they're
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approving or loving I need you to give yourself permission
to be in this thing. And again I said the podcasting,
most people will give up before that. You can't expect
to be successful in something you've done once. Yeah, you
might be good at it, it might be a natural talent,
it might be a natural inclination from your heart to
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do the thing. But you can't expect that you're going
to be happy and successful by just doing something once.
If I did a push up doesn't mean that I'm
super strong. It just means I was able to start.
But the problem is that most people start and they
stop right away. They're creating life that they desire, but
it isn't consistent. So they start the reality of what
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they want, but they won't stay in the thing. You
have to decide what this season is about and make
sure that that's all where your energy goes to. And
this is a hard one. I know that we want
to do everything again, that's me right, I'm doing all
these things. And this is a realization that I had
the other day, especially with like the growth of like
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my social platforms and podcasts, all these things. I had
to really sit down so story quick time. I started
teaching recently, right it became a teacher because I was
doing social media, and I got really scared with the
whole like TikTok band thing, because a very high level
of my income was coming from social media, and even
to this day it still is. But I decided that
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I was going to do all this work on the background,
which if anyone follows me on those platforms, they see that,
they see the reality that I am doing a lot
of work. I'm doing a lot of things, but because
of that, my background is in biology. I have a
degree in biology. So I said, you know what, I'm
just going to go back to teaching. I just coincidentally
saw a post that was looking for a teacher and
I decided. I was like, well, if this is going
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to go, I need a job. I just decide I
needed one, especially with like in that timeframe. Also like
this is like a typical story that needs to happen
that I probably make like a cinematic thing about. But
my son was about to be born, so I'm like,
I can't do this. I can't have a child on
the way and not have income. I had just recently
got fired from the parish. I was at working at
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a church and they said my persiser wasn't necessary, so
they'd let me go. And I had this this small
timeframe that I had to create, either create something out
of it or go back to another workforce. And as
I'm doing this thing, I was let go. And then
I started my platform as it was actually flourishing, and
I took that as well, this is what I need
to do. I took that as this is the thing
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that I was pushed into even when I didn't want to.
But then we came back to this point where social media,
specifically TikTok was getting removed, and I thought to myself, well,
I need to make money. There's no the way. Yes
I'm doing Okay and other platforms, and yes I have
hopes and aspirations, but I'm afraid of doing the thing.
So I took a job teaching. Now what happened in
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the course of that time, like extremely close to me
accepting that job. I was offered this, I was offered
this podcast. I was off for this thing, and the
other day I'm sitting with this reality where I can't
do everything, Like I can't juggle a full time teaching schedule,
I can't juggle a full time creative because it's not
just creating. It's not just the storyline. It's also the
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whole production component of it's also the I wish people
understood how much work goes into this, Like, it's not
just I put a camera and I set up a
microphone and I talk. No, it's hours of scripting, hours
of marketing, hours of sending things out. It's connecting, it's growing,
it's building a base, a fan base, is building all
these things. There's so much work that goes behind it.
So me thinking well, I can do both, I was
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getting to the point of burnout already. So I sat
down with myself, right and again, manage there is another
episode if you want to go. If you haven't heard
those I strongly suggested to you. But I sat down,
I said, do you really want to do this thing?
And if this thing is beneficial and it's new and
it's something that a lot of people want to do
but don't have access to, then you need to be
real with yourself and that's where your energy needs to go.
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That's where at least in this season. And again this
is for anyone that's listening that needs to hear this,
but for me also in this season, if the thing
you desire to do. You need to go all in
and it needs to be where all of your energy goes. Yes,
other things are around it, but at least eighty percent
of it needs to be the factor. Again, this is
not like saying you give up everything else you love
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and all in your family and your friends. I'm not
saying that, but I am saying that you need to,
in the words of our current youth, lock in. You
need to make this thing the center point of where
your energy goes. You need to give yourself permission to
start and not stop. You need to give yourself permission
to be successful in something because a lot of us
aren't successful in the things that our hearts desire, not
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because we don't have the talent. I need you to
hear me on this. It's not because you don't have
the gifting. It's not because you don't have the talent.
It's not even because you don't have the time. It's
because you've lied to yourself enough that you don't believe
you can start and be consistent. You think that just
starting and if it fails in the first day or
the first week or the first month, that that's it.
That was a sign you needed not to do it.
I need you to understand and give yourself freedom to
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say yes to something that you love and then be
consistently in it. Not just start and stop and start
and stop, but say I'm going to start and I'm
going to stay until the whales fall off. Because a
lot of us don't change, we don't grow, because this
mountain of stopping and starting is making it harder for
us to be consistent. It's making it the hardest for
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us to actually want to do the things that our
heart desires. We limit the permission we give ourselves because
we base that freedom on our wounds and was hurt.
Because a lot of people will say things like this,
I can't because statement like they'll say I can't do
this because of this. They'll give authority and power to
things that have been said or done to them because
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they think that those things still control them. They think
that the wounds that they've encountered, the hurt that they've
been through, it's the thing that stops them from living.
I need you to understand that these things only have
power depending on how much authority you give it, Like
the moment you strip it of his authority, the moment
that you say that I'm not going to allow these
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things to continue to hold weight in my life. It
loses all its power. Yes, I'm not saying that the
wounds are gone. I'm not saying that the hurt wasn't real.
I'm saying that the authority the hurt has over you
is out. You can't say that you want to live
in the current place of your life or in the
future place of your life while you're staying in the past.
You've been stuck in something for so long that has
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become a cornerstone of your life that you don't allow
yourself to move. And we see this so often like relationships,
not just like romantic Glasia every kind, but a lot
of the relationships that we have in the future stem
from the hurt that we had in the past. So
we don't allow ourselves to do things that are good, healthy,
and healed because we've become contingent on what's been done
to us. We hold on so much that it becomes
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the biggest factor of everything. You were not made to
be this broken, hurt and unhealed version of you. You
were not made to live in something that is just
not good for you. I need you to give yourself
permission to live in what you were made for and
live in what you were called for. Be this person
that you can authentically be, and not need to make
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your wound escapegoat, not need to use that as an
excuse as to why you didn't do it. I can't
because that's a lie. That is one of the biggest
lies that we will ever tell us. I can't because
someone said, I can't because someone did, I can't because
someone broke. Do you realize that the only person in
this factor that matters is not them, It's you and
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you choosing to do what's gonna be beneficial for you.
At the end of the day, our wounds are not
meant to be the entire story. They're meant to be
a part of it. They're not meant to be the
whole thing as to why I didn't do Our mountain
of our wounds is not meant to be the only
thing that I stay in. And the beauty of this
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is that when we're able like to hark our wonderful
slogans returning pain into purpose, when we are able to
identify those things, we not just strip it of its power,
but we actually use it as a catalyst it becomes
now a tool in our hands because we give ourselves
permission to heal, We give ourselves permission to move, We
give ourselves permission to understand that this thing that was
said or done to me is not the thing that
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stops me from being who I need to be a
lot of us don't give ourselves permission because we're afraid,
like of tomorrow, we're afraid of the next move. Tomorrow
won't stop coming just because you're afraid, Like the next
day won't stop being the next day because you're afraid
of it. The reality is that you either have to
live in regret or live in the thing you did. Like,
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I think one of the biggest hurts that will ever faced,
one of the biggest pains that we ever faced, is
the pain of what could have been, Like the hurt
of knowing that this thing could have existed if I
had tried, knowing that this thing could have been if
I If you give it the minimallest effort, And I'm
not saying that it makes it better, because if it
doesn't work, what if you fail flat in your face,
what if you fall short? Okay, but at the very
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least you know that you could have you know that
you did? You know that you made the effort, and
if it didn't become the thing that you thought it
could have been, if it didn't actually flow out the
way you wanted it to, at the very least tomorrow,
the next month, next year, you could look back and say,
you know what, but I made the effort, so I
know the outcome. It is terrible to live and without
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knowing the possibility. And we'll talk a little bit more
about this just commercial break. There's a study, or my study,
a theory. It's called Schrodinger's Cat, and I'm sure a
lot of people have heard of it, but it's this
thought where the cat cat is put in a box, right,
and the box filled the poison, and we can both
assume that the cat is alive and the cat is
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dead in that box because we don't know. We haven't
opened the box. So we take this assumption. That's what
we're getting out here, that we don't know the possibility.
It's not until we take the lid off that we
know what's actually happened. Then you can't sit here in
your life and regret things because you were too afraid
to give yourself permission to take the next step, to
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take the next step, to start to do the thing,
to ask the question, to be bold, to proclaim. You
can't say that you made every effort if you didn't
make any you can't say that this thing that you
were changing in you is going to be beneficial because
you didn't try. And I get it. It's it's scary.
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I'm not invalidating fear, like I understand fear is a thing.
But if we don't take the step in we can't
We will never know what we were capable of. We
will live in the shell version of what we could
have been because we were too afraid to start, because
we never gave ourself permission to be bold, because we
never said it's okay to us to heal, because we
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never allowed ourselves to take the next thing. I need
you to just do it, to just be That was
one of the greatest company logos ever, our slogans ever.
Just do it, that Nike brand right, because the reality
is that that you have this ability to just start
and it doesn't have to be perfect. I think the
biggest lie that a lot of people have been fed
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is perfection. I think they've equated things that other people
have done with the things that they're doing, and they think, well,
I'm not at that level, but listen, they've started two
three years ago. You can't compare your day one to
someone's there day ten or year ten. You can't compare
the things that you're doing. And this is the worst
part of this, that we stop things because we're comparing
that the lie of comparison, comparison to the thief of joy.
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That we sit here and we look at what people
are saying, or doing or growing, and we think that
our lives need to look like theirs. They don't. You.
You aren't living their life, you're living yours. And if
you are going to stop living because you think that
it needs to look like someone else or it needs
to be at this level, you will never do anything.
I remember a while ago when I started social media,
I had I had friends that would tell me, or
at least one that would tell me, don't post things
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unless they're perfect. And I absolutely did not follow that advice.
That I understand the premise like you should want to
have things that are high quality as you create, because
you know, but the reality is that my high quality
today won't be my high quality next year. I might
next year me is going to look back at this audio,
at this videos, at the things that created the things
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I wrote, and I'm gonna look back and I'm gonna
say hill like that wasn't good. Like compared to what
I am now, at the level that I'm at now,
that thing isn't It was good for that beginner, but
not for me. I need you to understand that you,
even you are going to outdo you, but you can't
be afraid to do the thing because you think it
needs to look a certain way. You need to give
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yourself permission to fail, and not just fail fail loudly,
like you need to give yourself permission to be so
involved in what you're doing that this thing just happens
and flows out that it doesn't have to be this
cookie cutter perfection that everyone else is looking for. You
need to be joyful and good in you, and everything
else everything else just gravitates towards that. I need you
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to realize that truth that the you, who is authentically you,
who is not afraid to step in, who has given
themselves permission to be to be bold, to be loud,
to fail, to feel loudly, this person is going to
receive everything they need, not because they are quote unquote
deserving of it, but because they are bold enough to
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be present to it. A lot of us don't have
the things we want, don't have the things we need
because we are not accessible to them. We've put ourselves
in positions where we don't allow ourselves to move forward,
to move on, so we don't have those things. Can't
get mad that the thing that you wanted wasn't given
to you when you weren't in the place to receive it.
Like you can't say the thing you were asking for
was never in your hands or in your grasps if
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you made sure that you were so afraid that you
were too distant to it to get it. A lot
of us are struggling with this, and this is a
different mindset that people who are extremely successful have. They
will make sure that they are present to the thing
that they want because they did the thing that they
had to, or they gave themselves permission to be bold,
to be vulnerable, to be available, and because they were there,
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they got it. You need to start giving yourself enough
permission to be in these things now. Again, I don't
want to invalidate and I mentioned this over and over again,
because I understand that some people will look at this
or hear this and say, well, what do I do
when the things have happened to me are so loud
and so bold. I get it. Listen, I understand. I'm
not saying that these things don't exist. I'm not saying
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that they don't hurt. I'm not saying that fear is
not an emotion that there's powerful and in fact one
of the most powerful emotions you will ever feel. Fear
in love, the two most powerful ones. But I am
saying that when you give yourself permission, you allow yourself
to stand up and check this again. Check the illusion
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of fear, check the root of it, check the thing
that has been at the door knocking. You are able
to sit here and say, this thing is real, but
it shouldn't be powerful. It shouldn't be controlling, identifying it
and growing through it. So in this season, again, I
don't know where you're listening from, I don't know what
you're going through. I don't know the process or the
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place that you're in right now, but in this season
of growth, and I really hope and I do hope
that everyone is going through seasons of growth and then
seasons of change and seasons of things just being different,
because if you're not, if you're not growing, you're dying. Like,
if there isn't something that you're looking to be better at,
something you want to grow, something you want to be
this best version of you in you're not in that
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you need to work to be. You need to start
sitting down and really identifying what is it that you
want to grow. And again, I always have to say
this one because I feel like sometimes we hear podcasts,
or we hear social media videos or YouTube videos, and
we think that we have to hit a home run
every day. There are it's okay to have days where
you just do nothing, where you give yourself permission to
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just be present, when you give yourself permission to just
unpack and just unwind and settle down, like that's that's
absolutely not just okay that that's what you should do.
But in that same breath, we should have things that
we are working towards aspirations goals. Why not not so
much because I want you to be the most successful
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person in the world. That meant awesome. I hope that
for everybody, and I hope that you're listening that' to you,
But not just that. It's because when we have goals,
when we have things that we are attaching ourselves to,
we give ourself purpose. Why do you think this world
so purposeless? Like this is the thought that I sit
with often, work with young people often and statistically speaking,
and they have the highest self of depression and anxiety
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and all these things. Why because there is no purpose.
There isn't a set goal or goals that they've set
that they're working towards and achieving towards and moving towards.
It's just kind of I'm walking aimlessly in this world.
So of course you're going to feel like you don't
have a purpose. Of Course you're not going to feel
validated or good or happy. Of Course you're going to
feel like you're doing nothing because there isn't something that
you're working towards. As humans, we were actually designed. When
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God made us, he made us in a way where
work was a natural inclination for us, right that there
was something that's natural for us to be a part of.
Now again, we make all the jokes that we hate work.
Can we hate our jobs? Well, okay, that's actually gooding.
We don't hate work, We hate the jobs we hate
the things that we're doing that aren't purposeful for us.
But work is natural and good and it's something that
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we want. It's something that we naturally desire. So the
reason people are feel like they have no purpose is
not because they have no purpose. It's because they haven't
aligned the things they are doing to the person they
want to be. They haven't align themselves to this reality
where they are capable and being pulled towards something. And
that reason is the reason for a lot of us
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to do things to be in the season of growth.
So I need you to understand that your purpose, your
your work, your your push, your drive, these things are
all going to be attached and connected to your full desire.
And when you find something that you're you want to
work in, when you're when you're in the season of
developing this, it's going to help you feel like you're motivated.
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It's gonna help you feel like you need to grow.
So again, towards the end of this episode, so we're
not gonna go to a super longpuel on this, but
I want you to find something. If this is you right,
give yourself permission to do something that you would be
afraid to do. Give yourself permission to be real with yourself,
give yourself permission to be in something that is going
to be beneficial and good for you. And give yourself
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permission to align to a goal or to to a purpose,
or to something that you need to grow in or
change or develop. And again, these goals don't have to
be like, you know, make a million dollars, I mean
awesome that that sounds like a great goal, but it
shouldn't be. It doesn't have to be something like that.
It could genuinely be this year, this month, whatever, or
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these next couple of months. I want to run a
half marathon. I don't know this next couple of month,
I want to save five thousand dollars, whatever it is.
Give yourself something to work towards, give yourself permission to
do the things. And I really hope that the things
you give yourself permission for are things that are valuable
to your heart, are things that are serving you and
going to make you the best version of you. You
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have to give yourself permission, and this mountain of permission,
of fear of allowing yourself to just stop waiting and
to do the thing that's what's going to change everything
so thank you again for being a part of this episode,
thank you for listening, thank you for just your fidelity.
I know you might get some people who are completely new,
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and I'm grateful that you're here and our hope that
we can grow together, and we just want you to
see that mountain in your life and face it and
just know that it has no power over you or
has no power that you haven't given to it. Thank
you for being in this episode and we'll see you
in the next one.
So that's saying that no one is going to come
and save your life for you, like no one's going
to come and change anything for you. Is very true,
but it's not in the sense that people are cruel.
It's in the reality that you have the power to
change anything and everything, but no one else can force
you to do that. No one else can force you
into this change that you need to make. This is
made for this mountain with Josh Rosa or turning pain
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into purpose. So if you want to stop being afraid,
this is what you need to do. These are the
steps that you need to take. And first of all,
I understand that this is kind of a nuanced thing
or because for a lot of us there's a whole
empowerment concept or change concept or self growth has been
stifled for so long because we think that we either
have to have the perfect hand that have to be
dealt the perfect hand life, or that things have to
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kind of just fall into our laps, or that we
just need to like be born into something good. And
I need you to understand there are people who have
created amazing things in this world, who have done amazing,
amazing things that come from the worst of the worst
circumstances like the situations that they were in, the things
that they've done, the places they've been, those things. For
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a lot of people, they would look at that adversity
and that would be the mountain that would stop them
from doing anything else. And I think that fear is
the biggest lie that we struggle with, the thing that
we have created all of our life problems around comes
down to fear and permission to do the things that
you need to do. The reason that a lot of
us don't move or don't act is because the authority
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that we have, we've given it to the lie. So
the thing that has happened to us, or the belief
that we're not capable or this fallacy that says that
you aren't able because of something else, is the reason
that you become frozen, that you become afraid. So if
you want to stop being afraid, what you need to
do is become aware and informed. And this is the
hard part, right, because we don't want to be able
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to identify the things we mentioned this like in the
first episode, right, being able to boldly proclaim what our
mountain is. And the hard part about this is not
so much that we know that there's something that's hindering us.
It's not so much that we know that there's a roadblock,
it's not so much that we know that there's a
difficulty in our life, our mountain in our life, but
it's that we have to be bold and honest with
ourselves because a lot of times, the biggest problem isn't
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the things that have been done to us, is us.
It's a decision that we've come into in this acceptance
of all of those lies, We've made that the pinnacle
of our life. And the reason again, the mountain that
we're in that we don't change, that we don't move,
is because we haven't given ourselves permission to be honest
with ourselves. So what happens is that we create this
lie in us that we don't trust us. It's hard
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to trust me when I've lied to me so much.
No one in this world lies to you as much
as you would. Because if you're not willing to confront
the thing, you're not willing to name the mountain, if
you're not willing to give yourself permission to heal through
it and to grow through it and to let go
of it, you're going to continue to blame you for
that change, whether consciously or subconsciously. And for a lot
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of us, we're afraid because we haven't been able to
be real and honest with ourselves, Like we haven't look
at our flaws and look at our circumstances and say, no,
this is a byproduct of me. And I'm not saying
that naming the problem today is going to fix it tomorrow,
but being aware and conscious and constantly reminding yourself are
these decisions aligning with what I'm doing. And this is
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a realization for me in the last couple of months
that I need to make choices that are going to
benefit and be in line with the person that I
desire to be. And I mentioned this in previous episodes,
right that this is all tied in because when we
talk about self growth and self love and self worth
and all these things, these are all self right and
no one else can control or dictate what you do next.
So permission to give yourself first of all, is to
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be able to confront and be real with yourself, like
you have to be honest with you. Are you doing
the things that are beneficient or are you doing or
are you doing the things that are just in survival?
Because for a lot of us, we've created again this mountain,
this barrier, where we've created these things thinking that they're
supposed to help us. We've created borders or barriers with
people or things or lifestyles, thinking that this barrier is
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going to keep that thing away. But all you did
was that you created a jail cell for yourself. You
created walls around you and not barriers around others. So
understanding that we need to be honest with ourselves. If
you want to stop being afraid, you need to be
real with you. You need to call you out more
than anyone else calls you out. Because again, this is
the beauty of like like coaches right, Like again, I'm
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working on this, this fit, this journey. I'm trying to
get into all this and get back into this routine,
which is actually one of our points here, but we'll
come back to that later. But being able to do
that thing and come back to it, you need people
that are going to keep you accountable. This is where
like trainers come into to play right, or or people
that are coaches that that specifically are year towards like
fitness and all these things. Why are they important? Is not?
Again even this podcast This is the funny thing is
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that even this podcast itself, the nature of it is
that is accountability. It's not necessarily saying that I can
do it for you, but I can tell you the
things that we all need to hear, whether imperfect or
perfect people, which there is no such thing as perfect people,
but people that might have had a little more figured
out the most. Even that is a sense of accountability. Again,
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the messenger is not the important person the messages. Being
able to understand that there's something important there doesn't mean
that the other person has to have it all figured
out and be perfect, but it is a part of
that reality. So being able to be accountable in any way,
that's what we need. And the person that's going to
keep you accountable the most is not the podcast you're
listening to. It's not the trainer in your gym. It's
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it's not the life code. It's not the other person
that is over you. It's you. You are the person
that you need to be honest with and accountable with.
If you want to stop being afraid, you need to
understand that fear is an illusion, like the emotion you
get while you're sleeping or having a nightmare. I always
equated to this reality because if you let's again pretend
you are having a nightmare, You've had a nightmare and
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you woke up in this code sweat and your your
cortosol levels arising, so your stress or hormones are through
the roof, and you were just going through this, all
these emotions, all these feelings, but then you realize that
that wasn't real. It was an emotional response to something
that was happening in my brain. So what if fear
doesn't exist? What if the illusion of fear is that
we've created something that it's an emotional response to a
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thought or theory or a possibility, but not an action,
but not something that's tangible. We've created this, this fear response,
and we now made this illusion bigger than what it is.
I need you to understand that, yes, things are bad
and situations happen, but your respond to them should be
from a place of stability and not a place of fear,
because when we respond in fear, we cause more problems
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than anything else. If you want to stop being afraid,
you need to understand that a lot of times the
things that we are afraid of our illusions. There are
things are figments of our imagination. There are things that
we have given too much rope, and it ran with
being able to challenge that. Challenging that mountain and challenging
limited beliefs and are the realistic first steps of all this. Right,
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it's not just what you're doing or in it or
how you got in it, but what can you do next?
And challenging that mountain of giving your self permission is
first understanding that fear is a part of it, but
it shouldn't be what drives you. It shouldn't be the
thing that is the driver's seat in his car is
the head of the table. And we'll talk a little
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bit more about this after this commercial break. So diving
right back into this, the hardest thing isn't starting. It's
starting and stopping and starting and stopping again. And I
mentioned early on right that this is something I equate
with like the gym, because again I love that that
component of it. But there's always the excuses. And I'm
gonna give you my own excuses so that you can
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feel like it's not just you, because it's not. There's
all these people that are going through all these things
that I've been making the excuse for a very long
time that my schedule is insane, and it is true.
There is validity to that. I don't want to diminish
your schedule or my schedule, right, there is validity. There
is true that my schedule is insane. My lifestyle is
very busy because I'm trying to do all these things
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and there's so many things that were thrown on my
plate that I have to solve and fix and I
need to do those things established what I need to
do next. And that's that's a reality. It's the truth.
But there is also the truth that we align with
the things that we make priorities, like the things that
will fit into our schedule, we will make priorities with
I can sit here and watch a basketball game for
two hours, but did I make that a priority to
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go to the gym to start to start the thing
that I need to do? Well, is that I make
that a priority. And if we don't make things a priority,
we can't complain when they're not actual and literal things
in our life. We can't We can't sit here and say, well,
why isn't this happening when I've done nothing to make
it happen. So giving yourself permission is not just to
go back into this routine, but to stay in it.
I give yourself admission to to be the person you
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desire to be. And again I use the gym because
that's an easy analogy. That's something I'm working on right,
that's my current mountain. But it's something that we need
to understand that we are not doing things consistently because
we're not creating a lifestyle of consistency or desire. We
want the things, but we're not willing to do the
things that are required to change. I need you to
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give yourself permission, not just to start, but to stay.
And this all comes down again accountability. That word is
a tough one and we're gonna keep replaying and keep
rehearing it. But we mentioned the very beginning. Accountability is
the biggest proponent of how you do the things you
do and the way you do them and how a
reason why you do them. If you're holding yourself accountable,
it's not just starting whatever it is and this is everything. Right,
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you want to start a podcast right Stetistically speaking, most
people don't go past episode three. Right. The reason that
I can't expect success in something that I'm only willing
to do when I'm being cheered for clap four and
you're gonna hear this actually in the next episode. The
next episode that you're gonna hear is actually with the
friend of mine. We talked about this specific thing, and
I'm gonna kind of go off of this a little bit.
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Why and again I'm kind of pre foreshadowing I shouldn't
have done done that, or maybe should. But the reason
I mentioned that is because these couple of episodes, like
I mentioned before, are intentional. I intentionally wanted this just
us time, kind of just dissect the is that you're
in the things that people are going through. But one
big thing that I talk about often, and we spoke
about that in depth in that episode, was the reality
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that you have to do what you have to do
for you, and not only when people are clapping or
cheering or around you, not when people are validating your actions,
but even when people are making them invalid or are
trying to say that you're this or that or throwing
shade or whatever. You need to do what you need
to do because you are accountable for you, not because
anyone else has anything to say, or not because they're
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approving or loving I need you to give yourself permission
to be in this thing. And again I said the podcasting,
most people will give up before that. You can't expect
to be successful in something you've done once. Yeah, you
might be good at it, it might be a natural talent,
it might be a natural inclination from your heart to
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do the thing. But you can't expect that you're going
to be happy and successful by just doing something once.
If I did a push up doesn't mean that I'm
super strong. It just means I was able to start.
But the problem is that most people start and they
stop right away. They're creating life that they desire, but
it isn't consistent. So they start the reality of what
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they want, but they won't stay in the thing. You
have to decide what this season is about and make
sure that that's all where your energy goes to. And
this is a hard one. I know that we want
to do everything again, that's me right, I'm doing all
these things. And this is a realization that I had
the other day, especially with like the growth of like
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my social platforms and podcasts, all these things. I had
to really sit down so story quick time. I started
teaching recently, right it became a teacher because I was
doing social media, and I got really scared with the
whole like TikTok band thing, because a very high level
of my income was coming from social media, and even
to this day it still is. But I decided that
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I was going to do all this work on the background,
which if anyone follows me on those platforms, they see that,
they see the reality that I am doing a lot
of work. I'm doing a lot of things, but because
of that, my background is in biology. I have a
degree in biology. So I said, you know what, I'm
just going to go back to teaching. I just coincidentally
saw a post that was looking for a teacher and
I decided. I was like, well, if this is going
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to go, I need a job. I just decide I
needed one, especially with like in that timeframe. Also like
this is like a typical story that needs to happen
that I probably make like a cinematic thing about. But
my son was about to be born, so I'm like,
I can't do this. I can't have a child on
the way and not have income. I had just recently
got fired from the parish. I was at working at
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a church and they said my persiser wasn't necessary, so
they'd let me go. And I had this this small
timeframe that I had to create, either create something out
of it or go back to another workforce. And as
I'm doing this thing, I was let go. And then
I started my platform as it was actually flourishing, and
I took that as well, this is what I need
to do. I took that as this is the thing
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that I was pushed into even when I didn't want to.
But then we came back to this point where social media,
specifically TikTok was getting removed, and I thought to myself, well,
I need to make money. There's no the way. Yes
I'm doing Okay and other platforms, and yes I have
hopes and aspirations, but I'm afraid of doing the thing.
So I took a job teaching. Now what happened in
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the course of that time, like extremely close to me
accepting that job. I was offered this, I was offered
this podcast. I was off for this thing, and the
other day I'm sitting with this reality where I can't
do everything, Like I can't juggle a full time teaching schedule,
I can't juggle a full time creative because it's not
just creating. It's not just the storyline. It's also the
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whole production component of it's also the I wish people
understood how much work goes into this, Like, it's not
just I put a camera and I set up a
microphone and I talk. No, it's hours of scripting, hours
of marketing, hours of sending things out. It's connecting, it's growing,
it's building a base, a fan base, is building all
these things. There's so much work that goes behind it.
So me thinking well, I can do both, I was
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getting to the point of burnout already. So I sat
down with myself, right and again, manage there is another
episode if you want to go. If you haven't heard
those I strongly suggested to you. But I sat down,
I said, do you really want to do this thing?
And if this thing is beneficial and it's new and
it's something that a lot of people want to do
but don't have access to, then you need to be
real with yourself and that's where your energy needs to go.
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That's where at least in this season. And again this
is for anyone that's listening that needs to hear this,
but for me also in this season, if the thing
you desire to do. You need to go all in
and it needs to be where all of your energy goes. Yes,
other things are around it, but at least eighty percent
of it needs to be the factor. Again, this is
not like saying you give up everything else you love
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and all in your family and your friends. I'm not
saying that, but I am saying that you need to,
in the words of our current youth, lock in. You
need to make this thing the center point of where
your energy goes. You need to give yourself permission to
start and not stop. You need to give yourself permission
to be successful in something because a lot of us
aren't successful in the things that our hearts desire, not
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because we don't have the talent. I need you to
hear me on this. It's not because you don't have
the gifting. It's not because you don't have the talent.
It's not even because you don't have the time. It's
because you've lied to yourself enough that you don't believe
you can start and be consistent. You think that just
starting and if it fails in the first day or
the first week or the first month, that that's it.
That was a sign you needed not to do it.
I need you to understand and give yourself freedom to
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say yes to something that you love and then be
consistently in it. Not just start and stop and start
and stop, but say I'm going to start and I'm
going to stay until the whales fall off. Because a
lot of us don't change, we don't grow, because this
mountain of stopping and starting is making it harder for
us to be consistent. It's making it the hardest for
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us to actually want to do the things that our
heart desires. We limit the permission we give ourselves because
we base that freedom on our wounds and was hurt.
Because a lot of people will say things like this,
I can't because statement like they'll say I can't do
this because of this. They'll give authority and power to
things that have been said or done to them because
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they think that those things still control them. They think
that the wounds that they've encountered, the hurt that they've
been through, it's the thing that stops them from living.
I need you to understand that these things only have
power depending on how much authority you give it, Like
the moment you strip it of his authority, the moment
that you say that I'm not going to allow these
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things to continue to hold weight in my life. It
loses all its power. Yes, I'm not saying that the
wounds are gone. I'm not saying that the hurt wasn't real.
I'm saying that the authority the hurt has over you
is out. You can't say that you want to live
in the current place of your life or in the
future place of your life while you're staying in the past.
You've been stuck in something for so long that has
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become a cornerstone of your life that you don't allow
yourself to move. And we see this so often like relationships,
not just like romantic Glasia every kind, but a lot
of the relationships that we have in the future stem
from the hurt that we had in the past. So
we don't allow ourselves to do things that are good, healthy,
and healed because we've become contingent on what's been done
to us. We hold on so much that it becomes
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the biggest factor of everything. You were not made to
be this broken, hurt and unhealed version of you. You
were not made to live in something that is just
not good for you. I need you to give yourself
permission to live in what you were made for and
live in what you were called for. Be this person
that you can authentically be, and not need to make
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your wound escapegoat, not need to use that as an
excuse as to why you didn't do it. I can't
because that's a lie. That is one of the biggest
lies that we will ever tell us. I can't because
someone said, I can't because someone did, I can't because
someone broke. Do you realize that the only person in
this factor that matters is not them, It's you and
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you choosing to do what's gonna be beneficial for you.
At the end of the day, our wounds are not
meant to be the entire story. They're meant to be
a part of it. They're not meant to be the
whole thing as to why I didn't do Our mountain
of our wounds is not meant to be the only
thing that I stay in. And the beauty of this
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is that when we're able like to hark our wonderful
slogans returning pain into purpose, when we are able to
identify those things, we not just strip it of its power,
but we actually use it as a catalyst it becomes
now a tool in our hands because we give ourselves
permission to heal, We give ourselves permission to move, We
give ourselves permission to understand that this thing that was
said or done to me is not the thing that
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stops me from being who I need to be a
lot of us don't give ourselves permission because we're afraid,
like of tomorrow, we're afraid of the next move. Tomorrow
won't stop coming just because you're afraid, Like the next
day won't stop being the next day because you're afraid
of it. The reality is that you either have to
live in regret or live in the thing you did. Like,
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I think one of the biggest hurts that will ever faced,
one of the biggest pains that we ever faced, is
the pain of what could have been, Like the hurt
of knowing that this thing could have existed if I
had tried, knowing that this thing could have been if
I If you give it the minimallest effort, And I'm
not saying that it makes it better, because if it
doesn't work, what if you fail flat in your face,
what if you fall short? Okay, but at the very
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least you know that you could have you know that
you did? You know that you made the effort, and
if it didn't become the thing that you thought it
could have been, if it didn't actually flow out the
way you wanted it to, at the very least tomorrow,
the next month, next year, you could look back and say,
you know what, but I made the effort, so I
know the outcome. It is terrible to live and without
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knowing the possibility. And we'll talk a little bit more
about this just commercial break. There's a study, or my study,
a theory. It's called Schrodinger's Cat, and I'm sure a
lot of people have heard of it, but it's this
thought where the cat cat is put in a box, right,
and the box filled the poison, and we can both
assume that the cat is alive and the cat is
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dead in that box because we don't know. We haven't
opened the box. So we take this assumption. That's what
we're getting out here, that we don't know the possibility.
It's not until we take the lid off that we
know what's actually happened. Then you can't sit here in
your life and regret things because you were too afraid
to give yourself permission to take the next step, to
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take the next step, to start to do the thing,
to ask the question, to be bold, to proclaim. You
can't say that you made every effort if you didn't
make any you can't say that this thing that you
were changing in you is going to be beneficial because
you didn't try. And I get it. It's it's scary.
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I'm not invalidating fear, like I understand fear is a thing.
But if we don't take the step in we can't
We will never know what we were capable of. We
will live in the shell version of what we could
have been because we were too afraid to start, because
we never gave ourself permission to be bold, because we
never said it's okay to us to heal, because we
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never allowed ourselves to take the next thing. I need
you to just do it, to just be That was
one of the greatest company logos ever, our slogans ever.
Just do it, that Nike brand right, because the reality
is that that you have this ability to just start
and it doesn't have to be perfect. I think the
biggest lie that a lot of people have been fed
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is perfection. I think they've equated things that other people
have done with the things that they're doing, and they think, well,
I'm not at that level, but listen, they've started two
three years ago. You can't compare your day one to
someone's there day ten or year ten. You can't compare
the things that you're doing. And this is the worst
part of this, that we stop things because we're comparing
that the lie of comparison, comparison to the thief of joy.
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That we sit here and we look at what people
are saying, or doing or growing, and we think that
our lives need to look like theirs. They don't. You.
You aren't living their life, you're living yours. And if
you are going to stop living because you think that
it needs to look like someone else or it needs
to be at this level, you will never do anything.
I remember a while ago when I started social media,
I had I had friends that would tell me, or
at least one that would tell me, don't post things
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unless they're perfect. And I absolutely did not follow that advice.
That I understand the premise like you should want to
have things that are high quality as you create, because
you know, but the reality is that my high quality
today won't be my high quality next year. I might
next year me is going to look back at this audio,
at this videos, at the things that created the things
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I wrote, and I'm gonna look back and I'm gonna
say hill like that wasn't good. Like compared to what
I am now, at the level that I'm at now,
that thing isn't It was good for that beginner, but
not for me. I need you to understand that you,
even you are going to outdo you, but you can't
be afraid to do the thing because you think it
needs to look a certain way. You need to give
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yourself permission to fail, and not just fail fail loudly,
like you need to give yourself permission to be so
involved in what you're doing that this thing just happens
and flows out that it doesn't have to be this
cookie cutter perfection that everyone else is looking for. You
need to be joyful and good in you, and everything
else everything else just gravitates towards that. I need you
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to realize that truth that the you, who is authentically you,
who is not afraid to step in, who has given
themselves permission to be to be bold, to be loud,
to fail, to feel loudly, this person is going to
receive everything they need, not because they are quote unquote
deserving of it, but because they are bold enough to
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be present to it. A lot of us don't have
the things we want, don't have the things we need
because we are not accessible to them. We've put ourselves
in positions where we don't allow ourselves to move forward,
to move on, so we don't have those things. Can't
get mad that the thing that you wanted wasn't given
to you when you weren't in the place to receive it.
Like you can't say the thing you were asking for
was never in your hands or in your grasps if
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you made sure that you were so afraid that you
were too distant to it to get it. A lot
of us are struggling with this, and this is a
different mindset that people who are extremely successful have. They
will make sure that they are present to the thing
that they want because they did the thing that they
had to, or they gave themselves permission to be bold,
to be vulnerable, to be available, and because they were there,
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they got it. You need to start giving yourself enough
permission to be in these things now. Again, I don't
want to invalidate and I mentioned this over and over again,
because I understand that some people will look at this
or hear this and say, well, what do I do
when the things have happened to me are so loud
and so bold. I get it. Listen, I understand. I'm
not saying that these things don't exist. I'm not saying
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that they don't hurt. I'm not saying that fear is
not an emotion that there's powerful and in fact one
of the most powerful emotions you will ever feel. Fear
in love, the two most powerful ones. But I am
saying that when you give yourself permission, you allow yourself
to stand up and check this again. Check the illusion
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of fear, check the root of it, check the thing
that has been at the door knocking. You are able
to sit here and say, this thing is real, but
it shouldn't be powerful. It shouldn't be controlling, identifying it
and growing through it. So in this season, again, I
don't know where you're listening from, I don't know what
you're going through. I don't know the process or the
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place that you're in right now, but in this season
of growth, and I really hope and I do hope
that everyone is going through seasons of growth and then
seasons of change and seasons of things just being different,
because if you're not, if you're not growing, you're dying. Like,
if there isn't something that you're looking to be better at,
something you want to grow, something you want to be
this best version of you in you're not in that
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you need to work to be. You need to start
sitting down and really identifying what is it that you
want to grow. And again, I always have to say
this one because I feel like sometimes we hear podcasts,
or we hear social media videos or YouTube videos, and
we think that we have to hit a home run
every day. There are it's okay to have days where
you just do nothing, where you give yourself permission to
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just be present, when you give yourself permission to just
unpack and just unwind and settle down, like that's that's
absolutely not just okay that that's what you should do.
But in that same breath, we should have things that
we are working towards aspirations goals. Why not not so
much because I want you to be the most successful
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person in the world. That meant awesome. I hope that
for everybody, and I hope that you're listening that' to you,
But not just that. It's because when we have goals,
when we have things that we are attaching ourselves to,
we give ourself purpose. Why do you think this world
so purposeless? Like this is the thought that I sit
with often, work with young people often and statistically speaking,
and they have the highest self of depression and anxiety
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and all these things. Why because there is no purpose.
There isn't a set goal or goals that they've set
that they're working towards and achieving towards and moving towards.
It's just kind of I'm walking aimlessly in this world.
So of course you're going to feel like you don't
have a purpose. Of Course you're not going to feel
validated or good or happy. Of Course you're going to
feel like you're doing nothing because there isn't something that
you're working towards. As humans, we were actually designed. When
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God made us, he made us in a way where
work was a natural inclination for us, right that there
was something that's natural for us to be a part of.
Now again, we make all the jokes that we hate work.
Can we hate our jobs? Well, okay, that's actually gooding.
We don't hate work, We hate the jobs we hate
the things that we're doing that aren't purposeful for us.
But work is natural and good and it's something that
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we want. It's something that we naturally desire. So the
reason people are feel like they have no purpose is
not because they have no purpose. It's because they haven't
aligned the things they are doing to the person they
want to be. They haven't align themselves to this reality
where they are capable and being pulled towards something. And
that reason is the reason for a lot of us
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to do things to be in the season of growth.
So I need you to understand that your purpose, your
your work, your your push, your drive, these things are
all going to be attached and connected to your full desire.
And when you find something that you're you want to
work in, when you're when you're in the season of
developing this, it's going to help you feel like you're motivated.
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It's gonna help you feel like you need to grow.
So again, towards the end of this episode, so we're
not gonna go to a super longpuel on this, but
I want you to find something. If this is you right,
give yourself permission to do something that you would be
afraid to do. Give yourself permission to be real with yourself,
give yourself permission to be in something that is going
to be beneficial and good for you. And give yourself
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permission to align to a goal or to to a purpose,
or to something that you need to grow in or
change or develop. And again, these goals don't have to
be like, you know, make a million dollars, I mean
awesome that that sounds like a great goal, but it
shouldn't be. It doesn't have to be something like that.
It could genuinely be this year, this month, whatever, or
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these next couple of months. I want to run a
half marathon. I don't know this next couple of month,
I want to save five thousand dollars, whatever it is.
Give yourself something to work towards, give yourself permission to
do the things. And I really hope that the things
you give yourself permission for are things that are valuable
to your heart, are things that are serving you and
going to make you the best version of you. You
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have to give yourself permission, and this mountain of permission,
of fear of allowing yourself to just stop waiting and
to do the thing that's what's going to change everything
so thank you again for being a part of this episode,
thank you for listening, thank you for just your fidelity.
I know you might get some people who are completely new,
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and I'm grateful that you're here and our hope that
we can grow together, and we just want you to
see that mountain in your life and face it and
just know that it has no power over you or
has no power that you haven't given to it. Thank
you for being in this episode and we'll see you
in the next one.
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