March 11, 2023 • 12 mins
One positive thought at a time is the only way to win the game of life. Hopefully, it is a game we are all playing for a very long time, so don’t be in too much of a rush.
To get the best results, you need to start playing with a clear head. You wouldn’t expect to win a game of tennis or even cards when you’re feeling down, negative, and exhausted. So how do you expect to win the most important game you will ever play without clarity?
Instead, be your solution and start thinking about winning, not losing.
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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Hello, Hello, Welcome to the special weekend edition of The
Naughty but Nice Show. I'm your host, Rob Shooter, and
you probably know me as a gossip columnist and entertainment
reporter a level the tea or the dish on celebrities.
But I'm also a best selling author and one of
the world's most respected experts on change, on happiness, on habits,
(00:38):
and so for ten minutes each weekend, we put out
these special bonus podcasts, and we don't talk about celebrities.
In fact, we don't even focus on them, not one
little bit. What we do is talk about and focus
on you. Today's topic is it's smart to think about winning,
(00:59):
not losing. One positive thought at a time is the
only way to win the game of life. Hopefully, it's
a game we're all playing for a very long time,
so don't be in too much of a rush. In fact,
I want you all to slow down, to take a
(01:20):
breath and live each moment to its fullest while learning
the rules you're going to need to know if you
are going to win. To get the best results, you
need to play with a clear head. You wouldn't expect
to win a game of tennis or even can't if
(01:41):
you are feeling down, negative, and exhausted. So how can
you expect to win the most important game you will
ever play, the game of life without clarity. I have
played it both ways. I've played it with a negative
mindset and also a positive mental game, and trust me,
(02:06):
trust me, the latter is much much better. We all
know what it's like to be in a bad place,
a place where it is hard to believe that things
are ever going to get better, and they won't if
you are waiting for somebody to come and save you. Instead,
(02:28):
be the solution and start thinking about winning, not losing.
Barack Obama said the following quote. Change will not come
if we wait for some other person or some other time.
We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are
the change that we seek. I know this to be
(02:51):
true because I've failed at the game of life for
a really long time. I knew I needed to make
big change. I knew that nobody was coming to save me,
but I didn't know what those changes should be. That is,
until I allowed myself to start thinking about winning, not losing.
(03:16):
Playing a bad hand can be made better if you
make good choices, reject the negative voice, inside your head.
You know the one, that nasty voice that plants horrible
for it's nasty, lies, overstays, it's welcome, and never shuts up.
You know that voice. Arm yourself with a positive mental
(03:39):
game so that the moment you hear those negative voices
come in, you slam the door shut on them right away. Hey,
close the windows too, because negativity is all around us
all the time, and we have to protect ourselves. In fact,
it's so sneaky and so devious that you won't even
(03:59):
know it's there until you start to think about winning.
Then you will discover that, like all those horror movies,
the most dangerous voices are coming from inside the house.
Alicia Keys said the following quote, No one will take
care of you if you don't take care of yourself. Amen,
(04:21):
get into the habit of what I like to call
the positive mind game, a game that I play all
day long. The rules are simple. You need to challenge
yourself to be more positive in every aspect of your
life by considering the endless solutions rather than the mounting problems.
(04:44):
For example, my little adorable doggy Dorby Wolf Wolf Wolf
needs to go for a walk every morning. Get six
thirty am. Now I moved his dinner back, and how
I pushed it back an hour. So now this walk
is at seven thirty am, which is still an hour
before Daddy likes to get out of bed. However, after
months of moaning that there is no snooze button on
(05:05):
a dog, I started to play the positive mind game
and transformed the negative into a positive. Let me explain now,
in the morning, at seven point thirty, when I walk
down twenty fourth Street as the city starts to come alive,
wake up and stretch, it's actually kind of amazing. I've
(05:27):
got to meet people in my building who I have
never met before, and I've ended up actually becoming really
friendly with one of my morning neighbors and his beautiful
standard poodle, Hello Lola. Plus, I get an extra hour
each morning now to focus on myself before my phone
starts to blow up with all the breaking celebrity news
(05:48):
pouring in from around the world. It was during those
sixty extra minutes I now get every day that I
finally got to finish my book the forward answer it
would never have had. And if Darby hadn't got me
up in the morning to take him outside, I've come
to see my mornings now as a blessing living in
(06:10):
a city I adore knowing unconditional love from my little
boy Derby. I'm even slightly embarrassed to admit that, after
all these years of thinking otherwise, I'm actually a morning
person who knew and it's all because I chose to
look at doing exactly the same task in a totally different,
(06:33):
positive way. Change the way you think, and you will
change your life. Oscar Wilde said the following quote. The
optimist sees the doughnut, the pessimist sees the whole. See
the doughnut, my friends, And if you can't change your situation,
you can change your mind, which is exactly what I
(06:56):
did just a few weeks ago, jumping into a tank
car early one morning after walking Derby, feeling grumpy, tired,
and overworked. I was heading to Good Day New York
to talk with one of my favorite people in the morning,
Rosanna Scatto, about last night's Grammy Awards. There was literally
(07:17):
nothing wrong with this picture except my attitude. As we
shot up Eighth Avenue in a chauffeur driven card that
the show had provided, I put down the notes and
I looked out of the window it was a beautiful
day outside and I was about to ruin it. I
(07:37):
caught myself, and just like that, I stopped. I refocused,
and I thought about winning. Of all the entertainment experts
in the world, New York's Top morning show wanted me,
what was my problem with that. You can be angry
when you get the wrong order at Starbucks, or you
(07:58):
can be grateful you can afford a cup of coffee
that's six seven dollars. You can snap back when someone
pushes in front of you at the supermarket, or you
can shake it off and think about the delicious treats
you're going to have for dinner. The point is, smart
people understand that in a world where circumstances are out
(08:18):
of your control, you get to control the way you react.
Realize that the small decisions you make every moment add
up to define who you are in the big picture.
Stop getting in the way of your story and start
(08:39):
enjoying what is outside of your window. Henry Matisse said
the following, I love this quote. There are always flowers
for those who want to see them. I want to
see the flowers. I want to be that person. Here's
an exercise you can do that will help see if
you can go an entire without complaining. I know from
(09:03):
experience it's actually a lot harder than it sounds. Write
down every single time you can plain in the next
twenty four hours, and I promise you that by the
time you go to bed, you will complain one more time.
About how long the list is. Mine was over one
hundred and that was on a day that I considered
to be a pretty good day. Think about it. If
(09:26):
every complaint you have is just sixty seconds long, when
you complain one hundred times a day, one hour and
forty minutes is wasted on evading responsibility and finding a solution.
Jessica Simpson said the following quote, You don't have a
problem if the problem can be solved by doing something
(09:49):
about it. I would argue most of our problems can
go away if we do something about it. I remember
being invited to this really fancy book party David Zizenko.
It was at the Dream Hotel. You know him. He's
made a career out of writing those eat this, not
that books, Eat this, not that it's a franchise. He's
(10:09):
got so many of those books out that he has
created a little empire. We knew each other a little
bit professionally from being on the same daytime TV circuit,
but we weren't close friends. I had a lovely time,
and later that evening I found myself standing alone in
the bathroom, holding his book in one hand and the
(10:30):
secret of his success in the other. Dave was successful
not because he was telling people what they should and
should indeed, but rather because he was identifying a problem
and offering a solution. Replacing the bad with the good
was a brilliant idea. Inspired I realized that is exactly
(10:54):
what we need to be doing with the way we think.
The next time you have a bad, negative thought, replace
it with a good positive one. Pull that sucker out
that negative thought like it's a weed before it takes root,
and just as importantly, fill the hole it leaves behind
(11:15):
with a rose. It's not enough to just get rid
of the bad. We need to replace it with something good.
Think this not that. Think winning not losing. When she
replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start seeing positive results. Hey,
(11:42):
thank you so much for listening. I love doing these
short podcasts on the weekend. The response has been overwhelming
Because of this podcast. I was back on Gma talking
about the forward answer. We got back into the top
fifty bugs. It's amazing, so thank you everybody. I'm gonna
keep doing this podcast as long as you keep listening.
(12:02):
And let's sign off with our little signature. Remember, if
you're going to be naughty, you've got to be nice.
Have a great weekend, everybody, pip it. It's not even
nice with Rom.
Hello, Hello, Welcome to the special weekend edition of The
Naughty but Nice Show. I'm your host, Rob Shooter, and
you probably know me as a gossip columnist and entertainment
reporter a level the tea or the dish on celebrities.
But I'm also a best selling author and one of
the world's most respected experts on change, on happiness, on habits,
(00:38):
and so for ten minutes each weekend, we put out
these special bonus podcasts, and we don't talk about celebrities.
In fact, we don't even focus on them, not one
little bit. What we do is talk about and focus
on you. Today's topic is it's smart to think about winning,
(00:59):
not losing. One positive thought at a time is the
only way to win the game of life. Hopefully, it's
a game we're all playing for a very long time,
so don't be in too much of a rush. In fact,
I want you all to slow down, to take a
(01:20):
breath and live each moment to its fullest while learning
the rules you're going to need to know if you
are going to win. To get the best results, you
need to play with a clear head. You wouldn't expect
to win a game of tennis or even can't if
(01:41):
you are feeling down, negative, and exhausted. So how can
you expect to win the most important game you will
ever play, the game of life without clarity. I have
played it both ways. I've played it with a negative
mindset and also a positive mental game, and trust me,
(02:06):
trust me, the latter is much much better. We all
know what it's like to be in a bad place,
a place where it is hard to believe that things
are ever going to get better, and they won't if
you are waiting for somebody to come and save you. Instead,
(02:28):
be the solution and start thinking about winning, not losing.
Barack Obama said the following quote. Change will not come
if we wait for some other person or some other time.
We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are
the change that we seek. I know this to be
(02:51):
true because I've failed at the game of life for
a really long time. I knew I needed to make
big change. I knew that nobody was coming to save me,
but I didn't know what those changes should be. That is,
until I allowed myself to start thinking about winning, not losing.
(03:16):
Playing a bad hand can be made better if you
make good choices, reject the negative voice, inside your head.
You know the one, that nasty voice that plants horrible
for it's nasty, lies, overstays, it's welcome, and never shuts up.
You know that voice. Arm yourself with a positive mental
(03:39):
game so that the moment you hear those negative voices
come in, you slam the door shut on them right away. Hey,
close the windows too, because negativity is all around us
all the time, and we have to protect ourselves. In fact,
it's so sneaky and so devious that you won't even
(03:59):
know it's there until you start to think about winning.
Then you will discover that, like all those horror movies,
the most dangerous voices are coming from inside the house.
Alicia Keys said the following quote, No one will take
care of you if you don't take care of yourself. Amen,
(04:21):
get into the habit of what I like to call
the positive mind game, a game that I play all
day long. The rules are simple. You need to challenge
yourself to be more positive in every aspect of your
life by considering the endless solutions rather than the mounting problems.
(04:44):
For example, my little adorable doggy Dorby Wolf Wolf Wolf
needs to go for a walk every morning. Get six
thirty am. Now I moved his dinner back, and how
I pushed it back an hour. So now this walk
is at seven thirty am, which is still an hour
before Daddy likes to get out of bed. However, after
months of moaning that there is no snooze button on
(05:05):
a dog, I started to play the positive mind game
and transformed the negative into a positive. Let me explain now,
in the morning, at seven point thirty, when I walk
down twenty fourth Street as the city starts to come alive,
wake up and stretch, it's actually kind of amazing. I've
(05:27):
got to meet people in my building who I have
never met before, and I've ended up actually becoming really
friendly with one of my morning neighbors and his beautiful
standard poodle, Hello Lola. Plus, I get an extra hour
each morning now to focus on myself before my phone
starts to blow up with all the breaking celebrity news
(05:48):
pouring in from around the world. It was during those
sixty extra minutes I now get every day that I
finally got to finish my book the forward answer it
would never have had. And if Darby hadn't got me
up in the morning to take him outside, I've come
to see my mornings now as a blessing living in
(06:10):
a city I adore knowing unconditional love from my little
boy Derby. I'm even slightly embarrassed to admit that, after
all these years of thinking otherwise, I'm actually a morning
person who knew and it's all because I chose to
look at doing exactly the same task in a totally different,
(06:33):
positive way. Change the way you think, and you will
change your life. Oscar Wilde said the following quote. The
optimist sees the doughnut, the pessimist sees the whole. See
the doughnut, my friends, And if you can't change your situation,
you can change your mind, which is exactly what I
(06:56):
did just a few weeks ago, jumping into a tank
car early one morning after walking Derby, feeling grumpy, tired,
and overworked. I was heading to Good Day New York
to talk with one of my favorite people in the morning,
Rosanna Scatto, about last night's Grammy Awards. There was literally
(07:17):
nothing wrong with this picture except my attitude. As we
shot up Eighth Avenue in a chauffeur driven card that
the show had provided, I put down the notes and
I looked out of the window it was a beautiful
day outside and I was about to ruin it. I
(07:37):
caught myself, and just like that, I stopped. I refocused,
and I thought about winning. Of all the entertainment experts
in the world, New York's Top morning show wanted me,
what was my problem with that. You can be angry
when you get the wrong order at Starbucks, or you
(07:58):
can be grateful you can afford a cup of coffee
that's six seven dollars. You can snap back when someone
pushes in front of you at the supermarket, or you
can shake it off and think about the delicious treats
you're going to have for dinner. The point is, smart
people understand that in a world where circumstances are out
(08:18):
of your control, you get to control the way you react.
Realize that the small decisions you make every moment add
up to define who you are in the big picture.
Stop getting in the way of your story and start
(08:39):
enjoying what is outside of your window. Henry Matisse said
the following, I love this quote. There are always flowers
for those who want to see them. I want to
see the flowers. I want to be that person. Here's
an exercise you can do that will help see if
you can go an entire without complaining. I know from
(09:03):
experience it's actually a lot harder than it sounds. Write
down every single time you can plain in the next
twenty four hours, and I promise you that by the
time you go to bed, you will complain one more time.
About how long the list is. Mine was over one
hundred and that was on a day that I considered
to be a pretty good day. Think about it. If
(09:26):
every complaint you have is just sixty seconds long, when
you complain one hundred times a day, one hour and
forty minutes is wasted on evading responsibility and finding a solution.
Jessica Simpson said the following quote, You don't have a
problem if the problem can be solved by doing something
(09:49):
about it. I would argue most of our problems can
go away if we do something about it. I remember
being invited to this really fancy book party David Zizenko.
It was at the Dream Hotel. You know him. He's
made a career out of writing those eat this, not
that books, Eat this, not that it's a franchise. He's
(10:09):
got so many of those books out that he has
created a little empire. We knew each other a little
bit professionally from being on the same daytime TV circuit,
but we weren't close friends. I had a lovely time,
and later that evening I found myself standing alone in
the bathroom, holding his book in one hand and the
(10:30):
secret of his success in the other. Dave was successful
not because he was telling people what they should and
should indeed, but rather because he was identifying a problem
and offering a solution. Replacing the bad with the good
was a brilliant idea. Inspired I realized that is exactly
(10:54):
what we need to be doing with the way we think.
The next time you have a bad, negative thought, replace
it with a good positive one. Pull that sucker out
that negative thought like it's a weed before it takes root,
and just as importantly, fill the hole it leaves behind
(11:15):
with a rose. It's not enough to just get rid
of the bad. We need to replace it with something good.
Think this not that. Think winning not losing. When she
replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start seeing positive results. Hey,
(11:42):
thank you so much for listening. I love doing these
short podcasts on the weekend. The response has been overwhelming
Because of this podcast. I was back on Gma talking
about the forward answer. We got back into the top
fifty bugs. It's amazing, so thank you everybody. I'm gonna
keep doing this podcast as long as you keep listening.
(12:02):
And let's sign off with our little signature. Remember, if
you're going to be naughty, you've got to be nice.
Have a great weekend, everybody, pip it. It's not even
nice with Rom.
Host
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