December 2, 2022 • 66 mins
Glasses Malone discusses misconceptions and the societal struggle to put realistic expectations on the concept of marriage. Joining this vibrant conversation is the usual suspects Aja, Britt and featuring hip hop historian Tony Nario, founder of L.A. Battlegroundz.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Watch up and welcome back to another episode and No
Sinners podcast with your host now funk that with your
low blastes Malone. Please read your Facebook post that you
(00:23):
posted all right, so I said, Hey Facebook, fam, so sad.
Today I was talking to one of my co workers
and she was saying her and her husband rarely make love.
He rarely initiates, and sometimes this month before their intimate again,
she asked me if he could be cheating and what
should she do? I don't know, should she initiate? So?
(00:48):
Why the fuck? How did she come up with he's cheating? Well,
she asked me, like, do you think he could be cheating? Why?
Because they're not intimate? She said that. She said that
she even did like a whole thing where she laid
out like some little candles for him and everything, and
(01:08):
he was happy, like, oh this is sweet. But she
said that he was tired and he went he fell asleep.
What the fund does women do all the time? Women
doing all the time go to sleep to sleep? How
in that equation doesn't equal another woman? Well, because she
(01:32):
said that they hardly ever rarely, because she's so hot,
how could somebody possibly not want to sleep with her?
Right now? I don't think that can be that that
maybe they maybe they did get down before, like a lot,
and maybe it just switched up, you know, maybe she
felt some type of way like maybe it's not the same.
I don't know, maybe they were, maybe their sex life
(01:54):
was better, maybe she was having sex a lot or whatever,
and then that it's like non existent basically. So I
feel like, Okay, you're not having sex with your husband
or your your husband. You guys aren't being intimate. He's
not loving on you, and he's not loving on you.
(02:16):
So that's what fucking loving on you? No is loving
That is loving on me? Is it? So all these
niggas that you slept with the past was loving on
you know, we're talking about my husband, we're talking about
all of the other husbandly things because we're just talking
(02:37):
about this, we're talking about sex. So they don't ever
mentioning on you because it's not. But you're not. You
cut me off. I was gonna say, and she loving
on him, and he living on anybody? You fuck for nothing.
You funk without love all the time. It's happening in
your life multiple times. But so don't try to make
it like so you love each other so you're loving
(03:00):
on each other, loving each other is the fact that
I thought it was nice and I fucking came home.
That's loving on you, loving on and you was eating
the food, paying the meals. No, that not that too,
because this is the one thing that they make of
that was just fucking you wasn't doing That's what. That's
what And this is what kills me about marriage. Why
are you so mad? It's crazy that Read the message again.
(03:22):
Read the message again. This is why I'm upset because
he rarely initiates the whole message, read again, said Hey,
Facebook fans, so sad. Today I was talking to one
of my co workers and she was saying her and
her husband rarely make love. He rarely initiates, and sometimes
(03:45):
it's months months before they're intimate again. She asked me
if he could be cheating and what she should do.
I don't know, should she initiate? So this is the problem.
I'm gonna tell you my flaws and that lame ash
it and this is my issue at times with the
concept of marriage and women. Right, nothing about that says
(04:10):
he has to be with another woman too. Intimacy is
so much more than what you've been getting from them
other niggas all the time. Every nigga will suck you
for free. Intimacy really stands for closeness. Fucking has never
bought you closer to anybody you fucked. It actually runs
motherfucker's away. I am totally in understanding that that is
(04:32):
a personal conquest of that woman by herself questioning who
she is. Am I not hot anymore? I think that
would bring in security um into her mind, like damn,
like he's not, does he not? Because you're treating him
like you're treating every single nigga in your life. That
wanted to say, but but listen. So she said that
(04:52):
he told her that he's attracted to her and he's
not attracted to her body. Oh ship, Well that's another
He had a conversation with him why they're not having sex.
He said, that's not the main' not even gonna bring
(05:12):
that part into it. That's back out. That's back out
of that part because this doesn't make it right. But
let's focus on the beginning. This focus on the beginning.
Why is it when somebody's not sucking you, they have
to be So let me ask you a question. Do
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you think it's possible for a man to get his
dig hard for two people in the same day to
seven is possible, So why the fund would it be
she's cheating? Why couldn't come another bit and then fun
his wife? What you mean how did that just equate
to notice? And this is my problem when you're missing
the point. What she's saying is he cheating because she's
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not sleeping with her, that's what she's equated with. He's
not getting this pussy. He got to be getting some pussy. Well, really,
that's stupid because we can get all the pussy dollar
bill stuck up. Okay, it's still you still going out
and getting pussy. It don't matter. What does it have
to do with me not fucking you? What does that
have to do with him not loving her? I don't
(06:18):
even get into that now. I don't, I don't, I don't,
I don't even What does it have to do with
me not fucking you? You're not because you're sucking someone else,
So we can't suck people in the same day. Who
said that? And then what the funk are you talking about?
That's cheating? You're missing the point. I am back up.
Let's let's go over the gains. Please put the training.
(06:42):
I don't understand, she said in the message, because that
he has to be cheating. Do you think he's cheating
because he's not fucking me? Why would you not think that? Though?
So my question to you is, could he not fuck
you and somebody else in the same day? That's cheating? Why?
(07:05):
Why are why is my cheating? Well why you're not
even listening, y'all just hearing, But why is my husband
sleeping with another woman the same day? No? The thing is,
the thing is, the whole point is that he could
still be attracted to her. He could go have sex
with another one does with you as his wife does.
(07:26):
It doesn't need to be that one or the other.
He can be doing both so in the same day.
So okay, So and then it's it doesn't have to
be the one, but he's not having sex with her,
So what does it have to do with cheating? Um, well,
if your man is not having sex with you, then
we say cheating because he's sleeping with someone else, regardless,
(07:49):
because because he's not having sex with you, I mean,
so we just got to have sex, That's what it is.
That's what you fucking think of us, of men, We
just gotta funk somebody. Yeah, everybody, what are you talking
about to? Or we can? You can, but for the
most now, I don't try to spend this ship hold on,
(08:11):
hold half wait, no, y'all niggas be out. They're doing ship.
It don't matter. It could be a woman too, don't matter.
If you're not having questions, you had your point. No,
if y'all having sex, if you're if you if I'm
married to you, and all of a sudden you just
stopped sucking on me. We're not nothing. And we're not
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even communicating this. I'm not even saying it's not I'm
not even saying it's not her father or his father
or whatever. The whole point is, no one's communicating, and
I'm you're now you're feeling like, damn, like what is
going on? You're going to question everything. That's just one thing.
It could be normous of things. Why not because you're
doin somewhere else? Let me, she's thinking, he is? I mean,
so let me get this right. So you think if
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you're married for somebody four years, you're gonna sunk like
the first day. No, so the funk are you? So
let me ask you a question? What is that I'm
going to ask you. I'm going to ask you more questions.
Why is it? How am I a man? And I
understand intimacy is way more than sex, So fucking is
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a serviceable port, like it's a serviceable purpose. There's a
reason why we're fucking. Our mind could be the reason
why we want to feel special. It could be a
hard penis a thousand things. What happens as you get older,
your penis don't get hard as much. That's why I
start taking peels. This problem But in regardless of whatever
is fucking problem is, why is it? The why is
(09:38):
the bitch did not take her to get Why he
didn't take her to get it? Let me take it
to the doctor because maybe you did not working? Why
is the first thing? It's another woman? Well, like I
said ahead, I was gonna say, I'm sorry, no sellings
(09:59):
glasses Malone read what's up, hey, Red? What's up? I
got my man host hip hop historian and and the
host of Los Angeles Battleground, my man Tony Nadio, And
this is not with some tone? What's up? Man? What
(10:19):
I was gonna get to? What Red? Right? You know?
I think you interjected that other part to it kind
of after the reason why it's an issue, because he's
not the reason why she's thinking that, because I'm trying
to listen to everybody. I think the reason why she's
thinking he's cheating is because the conversation happened about her body. Now,
even though that's a whole another conversation, it's not the company.
(10:40):
That's not fair. But she interjected that, and I was
wondering why, Like I was gonna ask her, what did
you ask her if she talked to him about it,
because you can't just assume some ship. Now, if you're
just assuming that's wrong, I don't make no sense that
at that point, you're just saying a man is just
shallow and all he that's what they're saying. No, that's
not what she's not. She's saying, don't lie. No, I'm
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not saying you don't think men are shallow. I don't
think men are shallow. But you're gonna lie from all
one point. I did, at one point just think that
men that they all want to have sex. They do,
they do, but that's not that that's not but no,
(11:28):
but what's wrong with wanting to have sex? Though? Let
me ask you a question trash. Let me ask you
a questions. Yeah, I'm confused. Men do want to have sex,
but it's not like that's not all we're doing. But
because that's because men don't always want to have sex,
that's a whole different, that's a whole that's what she says.
So when she's saying that to you, she's saying, that's
all we think about. Okay, look, no, of course not.
(11:50):
How is he gonna tell you what what I'm thinking
that because because I'm like, so, let me get this right.
If he not fun and you he fucking somebody, they
don't ness it, then why would that be eventually eventually? Why?
Because he's gonna want to have sex? I feel like eventually,
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so what if he rolls over seven? And I'm not
saying like, of course because if you're older and stuff
like that, you know you may not be getting past.
That's a that's a whole another conversation right there. To
man women to think that the same pussies like every
time Valentine's Day, you've been there for twenty five years,
(12:36):
a great birthday, birthday, birthdays? Not everyone make it funny. No,
I'm gonna tell you what makes it funny? I'm gonna
tell you why that's funny. And this is same day.
We never use you for your birthdays. We never be
for yourthday. What are you talking about. I'm gonna get
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everything because I'm a requests because we're not. You will
try to present that old dress, it up that dress
all the time. We don't want the same drug all
the time. That's not yes, it is, it's the same
missing the point. See what you're doing is you're not
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listening to you. You're not. Yes, I am. We have
never ever gave you dick as a present. You know
that's not because like what I'm saying that I did
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never heard that. I never I never heard that. But
I've never been like that either. And if she and
if she did, you not your photo to see that
same us present. And I'm not just putting it's not
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it's not to say that you're not a magnificent woman.
That I'm far pressed from saying that, Olivia. That's not
what I'm saying. I know you do. And what I'm
saying to you is what I'm saying to you is
somehow you like if this nigga is not getting this pussy,
he gotta be getting pussy from somewhere. The first thing
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that y'all think when somebody not fucking you in a
marriage is that they are sleeping with someone else. And
it's not true. It's not the first thing. It's not.
It depends on it's not true their patterns. You know,
what you're doing is you're manipulating how you think they
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are as a person and trying to size them up.
You're not thinking about their health, you're not thinking about
everything about their mind that makes them. First of fucking
is not just a physical thing, it's not. It's a
mental thing. So motherfucker could be going through a all
the things and his mind ain't. Don't suck it. And
that don't mean that he sucked somebody else. That could
be a freedom of sucking somebody else. But the fact
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that when you read that message, right, she didn't mention
anything specifically about oh, he could be not attracted. It
literally was like, well, if he's not sucking me, he
must be cheating. Or she asked her that. She said, no, no,
this is not She didn't put that in the message.
She didn't put that in the message. See the thing
(15:28):
she said after she didn't put the message. So we're
not even gonna that ship didn't happen. That's probably a
lie to say the message why why would he have
to be She's basically asking, like what should she do?
She did the whole candle thing, like the whole um
romantic thing or whatever, you know, to try to, I
(15:49):
guess initiate because I'm like, well, his dick lighting candles
ever been needed? I don't I think that. I'm okay.
I might agree with that. Most man, you're missing the
point of what this whole conversation is when it comes
to marriage, and you should know you're an expert. You
went to I was married for eight years, so feel me.
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I was married to so feel me. But see, this
is different. Women do things. No, I'm not disrespected, it
is different. It's different. Is this a racial thing? Again?
This is one of the few times I'm not being racist.
(16:32):
I'm racist all the other So why is it difference?
So what I'm saying is women in the space, especially
in the marriage, tend to make well before marriage, even
but especially the marriage. It has to be about me.
Women turned into serious me monsters. So it's like, he's
not exactly That's what I say. It's not fair for
(16:53):
me to say terms because they really be. It's not.
This is a message. Every woman is a stuff, every
single woman who because why would the fuck this because
why in the funk would you think, well, he not
sucking me, he must be sucking somebody because I don't
know how he could not intimate And then they tried
(17:14):
to make it with them like pretty words intimate, man,
this nigga probably help me and watch TV and talk
to her about this day and all the intimate moment
she just well I had I went through that before myself.
I could imagine, but again personally, and I felt I
felt like because I called you and I was like, okay,
well you know we're not like vibe and we're not
(17:34):
being but but you were like, well, do you'll watch TV?
Do you do this intimate all the all the other
intimate things. But I'm this is the problem when you
marry a woman who's had sex before y'all were married. Ship.
I agree, it matters. I agree, huh. I tell you,
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I really do. Right. Didn't get God getting some ship right?
It's like God is like good money, bro. God will
say some ship and it will make perfect sense. And
the reason he's saying you shouldn't be sucking before you married,
and so you don't be compared to that shallow compared
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to the shallow ship you married. So a woman could
sleep with some nigga, I just want to fucker. Really
think that nigga lover. He don't got to do nothing,
He just gotta want to funk her all the time.
They'd be like this, nigga really love me? No he don't.
He loves sucking you again, because no, you don't. But
it's no, definitely. I think it's because you guys want
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to have sex and that, but that's not And this
is the tricky part. So there's a two part question.
So there is a physical thing trash, right, there's a
physical demand for men that six that change as you
get older. Right, your body picks on how healthy you are,
depends blood, blood, pumpy, add thousands of things. As I
get older, I realized I have to take care of
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myself because really controls my sex drive like that matters.
M Part two is the mental part for men, it's
the personal conquest of somebody. I've told you this a
thousand times. Where we tend to value vagina like it's
special because we really feel like especial when you're giving
it to us because we like, she chose me, so
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that's okay. So if you think that it's special though, no,
I'm just saying those a lot of women that it's
not special. That's the problem. Just listen and it niggas realized.
And see I've realized none of them are special. It's
just your turn. You maybe you you may get the
last term, but it's still just your turn. Right. But
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it's important right that you know the difference because like
what you're about to say right now, because we see
it that way. When you get married, that's when you
really realize it is not as special as you thought
it was. Vagina, when you get married, because you because
it's the one person. It's just the one. It's not that,
it's not that it's just serviceable. It's there, and you're
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not conquering a person. Mentally, this person has already been conquered.
So the mental part of you feeling special that she
gave you some pussy goes out the door now because
now it becomes a job for her to give you pussy.
And no matter what people say, marry people funk like
it's a job. Yeah, they're not that you're not always
(20:26):
sucking the dick. When you first meet and you're sucking
his dick and doing backflips and flips, and ship you
get married them head become a special occasion would do
when they first sucked the dick, and especially they're coming
off this is the greatest dick I've ever seen they do.
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And then if you get into a relationship or you
marry that person, that head is gonna go away. It's
the whole point of what made it Excitedly, you're not
because you're not because it becomes the ladies. It's not
it's a serviceable job, I don't think, and it's not
it's again again again, I think we're missing the point.
It's not so much about that. It's the fact that
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over time those things changing that that's not the most
important thing that's holding it together, actually, because the least
important thing it does because what happens is I told
read this a while ago. I said, look, when you
become an adult and you really bond with somebody, intimacy
is for real now. So you only think of intom
(21:32):
me as intimacy as sex. When you ignorant and you
just fucking and you get a boyfriend and you think
we're this is how we get close when you really
get with somebody in a marriage per se. So I've
been single now going on five years. I've been selling
a bit about two purposely. I've been dating to get
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to know women. I realized when I take out the sex, mhm,
like you don't really like them. I don't, Damn I don't.
And it's like, but I've met something that are cool
and I liked you. But but to me, I'm like,
when you take out the sex, when you really get
to know who she is, where her head is at,
and then also expressed I'm about to tell him, yes,
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I agree with him because two weeks ago, No, I
never said I didn't agree with you. I'm sorry, my
bad because he because the way you probably said was
yelling at me. No. No, but I do really like
I feel I don't know, maybe because I'm getting older,
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Like I really like sex. Sex is like the last
fucking thing I'm thinking of, Like I literally want to
like enjoy that person. I want to like have conversations,
meanful ship, like do some ship, Like I feel like
once you start sucking ship, yeah, it just comes, don't know,
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it's just weird. This is the thing also about sex,
and I think you mentioned that in one of the
other podcast might have heard it today actually, where you said,
if you want to, if they want to see how
a man what his true colors are, give him some
pussy first day. It's true, and you know it's crazy
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about that. It's kind of true because you guys would
get learned so much about that if you I know,
sounds crazy, right, just give him the pussy. But when
you give the man the pussy, you'll see right there
if if he really funk with you, if he really
funk with you, he's gonna call you and he gonna
and it's not even gonna be at that point once
he says, oh the pussy's good, she's cool. Hey, you
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want to go to a movie, you want to go
have dinner. Now, as far as how many nigs gonna do,
that's gonna down. Ye. That's why I recommend don't because
it's really your only power play because outside of that,
you don't do nothing. When you dating the nigga or
engaged to a nigga on the way to marriage but
cost him money, you provide no benefit. Think about it.
(24:11):
The nagua gonna take you out, You're gonna buy you stuff.
He's trying to woo you. It's just costing him money
in time. But I was I was watching something, a
clip of something recently, uh, and that that lady was talking.
White lady from like she talks to these people from
like London. I mean she's a white lady though, and
(24:32):
she always talks to black people, but she's a white lady.
But she talks about marriage and she has people on
the show. But she statistically said eight percent of men today,
modern day men are not getting married because there is
no value. There's nothing in value of it to us,
Like there's no there's really no incentive to get married
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if the woman is not really like understanding what it
is to be a wife. Because too many women nowadays,
it's like and you know, and I don't even say
all women. I think it's a lot more younger women.
And it's sad that there's older women that look up
to the younger women. That's crazy. Men do the same ship.
But where was that going with this? I got lost
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right now when I was cooking. Yeah, I just got completed. Yeah,
I'm trying to remember where I was. For men to
get married. What's the incentive because you don't necessarily like
if you get if you're gonna get married, Like, what
do you get from women? Don't know how to beat
women today? That's what I was getting a lot of them,
(25:37):
not you guys. A lot of young women don't know
how to be a wife. But it's not women a wife.
I'm gonna tell you why that change. So sixty years
ago you had to get married to get pussy. So
to have at home pussy, m hm, we special. Seventy
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years ago, eighty years ago to have at home pussy
on demand was special because it wasn't the culture of
being what they say, a free or slept like slept walks.
That wasn't a popular culture then. A whore wasn't popular.
You just didn't sleep with men because you want to
sleep with men. You really made them earn your body.
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They had to earn your body. Now it's like women,
I feel like I'm making a choice. You're gonna make
a bad decision. So it wasn't about I don't know
if women even then were super great at being wives.
They learned, but I think they had that specialty of
the pussy. So now today, but they were younger, so
they actually had time to be nurtured into being wives
(26:41):
to or the perfect wife of that person. But but
if you really look at it today, you can get
somebody to fuck you all the time without marrying them. Yeah, well,
I mean but that but you know what, I don't
even put that. Uh well, obviously you gotta put the
men and women right, But I think that ship has
to do a lot with society. Bro. Like, it's just
(27:03):
how people look at you. It's too everything is too
in this free space, you know, you know, taking it
back to the anti semitism, and you can't say this,
and if you don't and if you don't agree with
my lifestyle, then you're homophobic or your this and that,
and it's like all these different things that just get
it just so funked up and intertwined. And I'm gonna
(27:24):
tell you something. Social media definitely sucked it up a
lot too, because now your woman got a thousand your
your husband or the wife has a thousand more things
to compare you, and and and it's fucked up because
you're never getting the reality of the situation. Social media
is like ESPN for regular people. It's just the highlights
(27:45):
of their life. It's the highlights of their life. They'll
never show you when they're looking fucked up like people
back no filter would be wearing makeup facts. Yeah, that's
the first filter. So again it's a weird place. But
I thought that messaging was really important. That that's on
is Facebook because it really goes into this weird ego
(28:09):
thing women have developed to where it's like, oh, well
the man told you it was nice, he was tired.
The first thing they imagine is he has to be
sleeping with somebody if he's not sleeping with me. I mean,
after a while, I don't think it's something where it's
like I'm saying, I'm saying that it's a thought at all.
That's crazy to me because because it makes because it
(28:31):
makes you, because it makes you become you don't realize
how messed up in your mind, like the last but
I feel like you talk. I feel like you're saying
if that's the initial uh emotional respect a month. I
mean she said it months at a time, months at
a time. If it's months at a time, I mean
(28:52):
that you gotta when you're in the married you'd be like, yo,
know what's going on? You? You? You wonder what's going
on you? Will you find somebody else? Is she? Is
you fucking with her? Is she sucking? Wait a minute, No,
I don't. That's not true. Right. The point I'm saying
(29:12):
to you is, are they turning you down? That's different?
Are they rejecting you as different? Was he rejecting her?
So what she's saying is she made this bullshit ass
thing that was more cater to her than him. Did
she just pull out his dick? And she didn't. She
didn't say that. She the only time that she said
that or whatnot. She made this romantic when she did that.
(29:36):
But know what she did tell me that how long
have they been married? Um, it's been like seventeen years?
There it is there, Lucy, Lucy and Ricky was staying
a separate bad at that point, you're missing the point.
Plus is old. There's no spice. There's no that can't
be spice. It's not supposed to be spice. There's couple
(30:00):
of that all the time. I've been together for two
three years and they're going through this. Sorry, I'm just saying,
if they were going through that again, we have a
different conversation. This is another thing. There's no spice to fucking.
No spice to fucking that's a cultural thing. I don't know,
(30:22):
my nigger, I was racist. I'm just saying. I just know.
I'm just saying, you know, you know, you know Mexicans,
but we got lots of kids. That's just where that's
because they get pricked every time they're very first, she
needs to give it a Mexican problem. The problem is
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do you really care about so now you just want
to get sucked off, that's your problem because all that
wonderful thing was doing his life the old school, like
you know, like like grandmothers and stuff, grandfather's. It was
literally that they would just get fun because there was
It wasn't a holding hands. If he was just sucking
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her and not kissing her, she would complain if she
was not, if he was sucking her not kissing her,
she'd be complaining if he was like he he don't
kiss me. Women broke in a marriage is going to
find a problem. Now, let me just stop saying. Women
human beings in marriages start to find things to complain about. Absolutely,
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because expectation is the enemy of gratitude. See how she
thinks it's supposed to go. It's fucking up with what's
going on instead of her being grateful for this wonderful marriage,
This nigga might be handling this business, chilling with watching
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TV with her. You know they're chilling watching movies. Whatever.
Everything he does, he holds her hand, kissing on the chief,
brings the food. It's not the point. It's not the
pointing if if they were had something like if there,
if they had something going on before, and think things
have what you think has happened in seventeen years, I
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don't know some people still be fucking man, everybody, don't.
I mean, I get it. It's really genuinely think people
be together for with her for eight I'm sorry, married
to her for a with her for twelve every year,
but she didn't. She didn't say, you mean to tell
me you wasn't every day for a year. That was
a whole another thing. I remember, I had told myself
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accountable for a lot of ship. That made her start
thinking other ship. I agree that, I agree, but now
he wasn't. And she definitely thought that that, like, oh
you must be and sometimes not. And the reason she
didn't have a reason not sometimes I just didn't want to.
Just bottom line, I had moments where I've cheated, right,
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But that's not why he didn't want to welcome her.
But what I'm saying, what I'm trying to I see, no, not.
What I'm trying to express is that there were times
where she was still attractive to me, and I knocked
her down when I want to, And there were times
where I just want to watch TV, sit down next
to me, let me rub on your feet, rub on
my feet or whatever, and let's chill. You know what
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I'm saying that. And I wasn't out doing nothing. I
wasn't thinking about it. Yes, but yeah, yeah, because lord knows,
if you turned me down, that's just because of the pattern.
And it's not just like the whole thing we say,
having sex before marriage, you have that experience. So she
had the experience of him stepping out before. So of
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course she's gonna it's not of course, that's it, Yes,
it is. That's how it will play in her hand.
She shouldn't be. It shouldn't because if you, if you
take him back, then that should just be a y'all
was supposed to start off with clean slate. But if
I had what he had done, then there would be
no reason for her to think that's a lie. The
reason she think that that's not true. The reason she
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thinks that is because he exists. It has nothing to
do with it's because he no, because because you guys
are kind of like he's basically saying, even if I
had not been a cheater and I just decided not
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to sleep with her, chances are nine out of ten
times at some point that's going to be a thought
when reality, if I'm not cheating and I've never cheated,
why are you even having that thought. I've never done anything,
So like maybe I just am not feeling like doing
that right now. That's it, because what happens is but
I wouldn't reject her, but you can't but reject her
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is different. And let's see what happens is they'll do
something like being naked. Bro. It's years now, bro, Like
come on now, if she's naked, So like, if she
gets in the bed and she's naked, Um, she can't
just expect like, oh, we're not nine any We're not
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nineteen anymore, not nineteen anymore. I mean maybe it just
depends on what you do when you have a low
rider for ten years and when you have a low rider.
You have a low rider for ten years. You don't
always have to hit the switch, stupid. You don't always
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got to hit switch. You know, you know you have hydraulics.
You're not always trying to show everybody you got hydraulics.
You have them, you have them. Yeah, I see the comparison.
I see the analogy. And what really changes, honestly, is intimacy.
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I had this conversation with this conversation with my sister,
my cousin. What changes for men is intimacy. Men are
the last. I'm starting to not believe that. I'm thinking
women is. But I used to always think men were
the last to learn true intimacy, they were the last.
But I'm starting to believe that's not true. You know
what it also is, like you said, society where we
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are now, the things that the young women are, ladies
that are taught growing up now, don't they don't know
the intimacy because they aren't spending that time. But I
think also the understanding of intimacy is where the lions
get cross also like no, but yeah, but that's like
so simple, closest, that's the exact definition. Right. What women
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like to do is make their own rules and so
a woman's intimacy. No, that's not true. Most women like
that is yeah, because but that's not that's what he said,
like technically by the words, it's literally as spending time
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time together. But they like no, because you're not doing
in the house. It's intimacy, but just not all you
know what I'm saying, because you want other people to
see because historically you have created this thing where other
people have to be involved in your life. We need
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to go out on the date. Do you understand why
people go out on dates to get No, that's not
why you that's going to the movie. It's not why
you go out on date. To the day is so
you can But that's not kicking it in because for me,
I didn't have people come to my house like I
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would want to go out with them or you know,
but do you understand what a date? Do you understand
what a date is? For a date is to get
to money? But you know why the funk will be dating?
If I'm married to you after ten years, why am
I dating you eight years? Like you go out you
might hang out. Hey, let's go he's talking out. Just
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call it a day. He's talking on a technical term, ladies,
like he's just he's trying. He's just using the word
like in other words, I get what you're saying, and
you guys are basically saying like, now we can still
go out and have fun. He's saying, cool, that's not
a day anymore. We're literally they don't want to be
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pursued like the first day. Yeah, that's why they're like
Rihanna saying like I'm the only one in the world
one of those, but I'm the only They're not honest.
They're not being honest in these conversations, and that's why
we don't ever come to a mutual meeting ground because
we could never help them work out that issue. The
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issue is they want to be pursued and treated like
it's the first day. That's what they're talking about. Spice,
the first time you met me, how excited you was
to see me. Now it's not like that. Now I
see who you really are. So it's either going to
be a deeper love or you also can see some
ship you don't like. But that's the other part. Two.
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If a man's well, maybe not every situation, but but
for the most part, if a man sticks around and
he's staying around. He funk with you. No, man's like
if you give him, if you give him the vagina
and he and he really don't funk with you. Oh oh,
man ain't ship. But no, you just didn't see the
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signs he didn't want because he was looking at his
physical appearance and minus the signs. That's the thing that
they have in their power. So when somebody shows strength
to reject it and towards to not be the grand
stand and then there's guys who in their d MS
like can I get that thing that that guy doesn't
want but he wants you? That's my problem, that's my
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problem with the initial message. This nigga is coming home
working thousand things, probably with her watching TV with her.
All of these signs of intimacy, right, all of these
amazing and signs of intimacy are being ignored because he's
not doing it. I'm gonna put her business out there
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and I'm gonna just say so, although I wasn't a
horrible husband. I had my moments, but I wasn't a
bad husband, you know what I mean. She had her house,
she had her two cars, she had a lot of ship. Right,
that's just materialistic. I married her, but she wanted a
certain for me, like almost traditional. I've never been traditional,
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working under five, come home and that's it, you know.
Even now I have my little side hustle as a
courier business, and then inside of that come fuck with glasses.
The dude she's been with now, who she met two years,
I'm assuming he was possibly in the picture already because
she got with him like two years after we divorced.
She's been with now for eight years, living in his house. Right,
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dude ain't married her? Yeah? Who didin't married her? I
gave her everything that she wanted, and what he's not
giving her she'll just take because hey, fuck it. But
you missing the point of why that is. Okay, tell
me why you can't never give a woman everything she
wants because she don't know what she want. That's going
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to change. But she went over there thinking that that's
everything she wanted. As my point, but that that's not
what they go to think. See what they think is
they can make whatever they want. That again, it goes
back into that same because y'all, for sure, I think
y'all can change it. Yeah, that's the thing you definitely
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used to think that you definitely listen to this ship
because I guess I'm just a whole, totally different breed.
Never try to change. I've never tried to change the
name Can't get Right, and I left that alone. Can
Getting Right. No, it wasn't that that was his nickname
because she was there for whatever the purpose was at
that time. I never tried to change him. That was
his name, Can't get Right, and I fun with him,
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and so I didn't want too with that again. I
like you say about trying to change sense of power,
that they're controlling the same power. It was never about powers.
That's why I wanted to date at the time, like
you had faith and believe that that could be something.
I literally didn't you have faith that could be something.
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She's lying, She says, No, Okay, okay, here's when I
knew when I called him can't get Right. I knew
that wasn't if I give you a fucking nickname, that's
what you are and and that's it. You didn't so
you didn't see a future, but you continue to see
the guy I'm asking because I was. I was. Yeah,
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we were hanging out, but I knew I knew what
it was. Well, yeah, okay, I like because I liked.
But at one point before he wasn't getting right when
you were when we first Okay, listen when when when
we first met, he had just moved out here. He's
not from here. We first met, everything was cool. We
were just you know, it wasn't nothing like. It was
just no. We weren't even working at the time. We
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didn't start working for years later, so we didn't. We
were just hanging out. No, that wasn't even either. I
was just literally, I mean, you don't have everybody you date,
you don't have to fund glasses, Like, what are you
talking about? You can literally he was actually able to
spend time with me and not to get But I
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know he said that now I've never but I never.
I don't know how did I start just doing podcast
because where I'll be looping Nato. No, it's not no bullshit.
We're not talking. I'm not married, don't have hot sex. Listen,
I'm listening. I'll tell you about my damn story. I
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was turning it into the I'm sorry, but I was
turning it into the fact day I wanted to know,
you know, where what you know, what is the point
of keeping him around. If you're not trying to change him,
what were you doing? Oh yeah, no, I was just
hanging out with him for what is that? I was
having fun at that time? Were you having sex by
that time? By that time? I was so he was
just having sex? You had kept him around for just sex? Okay,
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let me tell you why I calm can't get right.
It wasn't about because what he did to me A
question though, Did you keep him around just for sex
at that point? At that point? Yeah, keeping the one
Like I'm serious, that's what it was. We had a
good time. I'm not lying. No, don't tell me I'm lying.
I'm not lying. I promise you are lying. But the
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reason why I called him can't get right, It wasn't
because of how he was treating me. I was calling
can't be right because all the stupid ship that he
was doing. I was like, he couldn't in his life
that okay, But that's so that's what I didn't get right.
I said he was just through the through the sex.
Were you doing it because you felt intimacy? Like he
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made you feel special at least in those moments? I mean, yeah, yeah, yeah,
we did. We had we had that friendship. We had
a good friendship, have a friendship. No, we were friends,
not if he's sucking you. I mean the guys get
friends on you, they get friends zone, and that just
because just because the dude is sucking on you, like
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if y'all, y'all can still be friends like guys do
it too. It's not women don't just friends zone. We
were fraid if you're still having sex with them or
had sex. Well we've had sex still, most most men
are not gonna friend zone you unless you friend zone yourself.
Like you know, if where he for women, there is
no great area. So it's friends or relationship. So that's
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why it's they considered friends on if we not together,
if I don't have a title, I'm your friend. So
that's why they say it's friend z. That's what I
meant by that. I wasn't meaning yeah, but this is
my point though, back to that point, it's it's it's
crazy how we're able to look back around to guys
could actually date you when not fuck you. The point
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I'm saying because you just went through a whole spill
saying that this married man who pretty much been with
his wife and being an honorable man and ship like that.
Because he hasn't sucked her, he has to be doing
something wrong. I don't know he's an honorable man. Though
we don't know anything about this man she didn't have.
No can not specify what type of man she has.
She just said, So why can I not judge him
on the up? So why you imagine I'm saying you
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wouldn't have stopped me. His old raggedy ass ain't sucking
you to like who? I referred to him as an
honorable husband. I referred to him as an honorable husband
because I would imagine he's doing everything else and he's saying, hey,
I'm a blah blah blah and I'm coming home. He
had to be there to see he's not saying he's
not there. I want women to initiate more. Said again,
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you want women to initiate more. Well, I think I
think that women need to understand that you guys need
to initiate more like. It shouldn't always just be a
man like a man. I know me, I would want
my woman to come give me that dick like cool. Yeah,
I agree with you. I'm just saying I think there's
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nothing wrong with it. Especially if it's your other. I've
said this apple times because why are let me ask
you a question as a single man. The reason I
pursue pussy is it makes me feel good about myself.
I feel special if a woman when you know, when
I was running the streets and hanging out and young nigga,
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and it made me feel special when accomplished. When a
woman gave me pussy, I was like, I have to
be special. She chose me me. There's always that moment
when she's taking off her drawers and I'm like, how
can I believe she about to give me the pus?
And then when you do it, that's the conquering part
because you have from so the point I'm saying to
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you is why do you guys do it before you're married?
What do you gain? Do you feel accomplished that he's
gonna give me the dick? I must be special. I
think they just have. They just have. We're not gonna
We're not gonna answer that because that's what we get it.
Try can tell you can verify bis bis. When a
girl that you've been looking at want to get some pussy,
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don't you be like, yeah, she you know I'm that
nigga like I'm happy, I'm special and I always remember
this if anyone does it to kiss on the ash,
cheek or the leg, that's to thank you, just say,
you know, I never got really my point, but I'm asking.
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That's why men, That's what propels men to have sex,
outside of the physical desire of procreation is the conquest
of feeling special. So right, there's the physical desire that
you get, the urge being hard, right, the physical desire
of the purpose of sex to procreate. Right, you have
that boom, Okay, that's one part. The other part is
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the mental the mental gratitude you feel by being chose
of being worthy of a woman's body. You feel special.
The less nigger she slept, would you feel even more special?
This bitch only chose me, or she chose me and
only him. That's it. You feel special. And that right
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there where he just said is exactly why you guys
are held to hire standards. When y'all cheat, it's even
worse than that body counting everything. So those are the
two reasons. So I agree we could physically have the
same desire right of to pro create his human beings.
You know, you you get horny like everybody else to appropriate,
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and then we figure out ways to block it, pull
out condom, purple troul, whatever you do. But that's the
physical desire pro creation right. Attraction creates procreation, right, that's
the breeds procreation right boom, we just block it. The
set reason is we feel accomplished and special, like you
gave us your body. So if you don't feel like us,
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what's your second reason? So for me, I'm like ready
to have sex with you when I've connected mentally, like
when I feel like we have like a like a
connection and not like not but not when you're ready?
What do you accomplish? What do you gain that person?
I gained that your soul is immortal combat your soul
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is have you have you ever been ever been with
a woman that almost had your soul? And you're like,
what am I thinking about? Twice? Twice? Okay, it's pretty destructive? Yeah,
it is, so what drives us? So the second accomplishment
we get is we have conquered something. We have conquered
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a challenge that other men we know are trying to conquer, right,
and we all conquer women. Right, It's like you have
to choose us. We have to be special enough for
you to give us your body, because the way it
was created it was special, not the way you guys
handle it now, but in its inception, in creation, it
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is a woman's body is a special, amazing things. It
still is. But they just mishap they're just horrible owners. Again.
That's why I say, but a lot of that ship
is going into these young girls, man, because I don't
even want to get into them little or figure out no,
but it's it's important because that's what we're seeing right now,
because that's so what is your What do you gain?
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We gain the conquest, We gained the ability I can
call trash andl She chose me. She gave me that pussy, nigger.
That's actually why we would tell each other that too.
I have those I've been selected. I'm a part of
a special play of niggas and who she wants to
give pussy to? I am the guy. So what do
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you guys get? Do you guys gonna tell that he
chose me, bitch, he gave me that dick? Do you
feel special? Do you feel special? Do you feel like
you got something that was special? I feel like, yeah,
we have a connection that's special. Like, did you feel like,
did you got it? He liked me? You know, he
loved me? Kind of what are you a hopeless shrowman?
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Tell me the truth? Are you a hopeless romantic? She
loves love man too. I feel like we had a connection.
What's your sign? Let's just sh are your birthday. I
just feel happy birthday, Thank you. That's the funniest part.
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So so you feel like you get somebody love you.
So you get that a lot of these she was
looking a corner. Boys, what do we get when we get? Okay?
(53:40):
So I agree that we share a physical desire to procreate. Right,
that's something we both share. We're attracted. The desire to
procreate propels us physically. Right, that's the hormonal system that
creates the hormones. That's why we're horny. Right, we just
figured out ways to approcreation. But that's the desire. Go,
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that's what's happening. Right. Um. The second thing men get
is accomplished. We start to feel like, oh I am special.
She chose me. This woman's body, A woman's body is amazing.
It's amazing thing. And she's like she's allowing me to
have it. She's giving herself to me. That's what we get.
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So I have that now a part of my resume.
It's like my suit and my suit case, my suit,
that's a part of my resume. Uh, BRIT's box is
now on my resume. Your box like I have it?
What is your seconds for your second? Think? What do
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you gain when you allow a men to sleep with you?
That's what we get. I get the ability to tell
trash she chose me? You do? Really? Is that the
like you do? Like you have to choose? So hold up?
If a man, so what do you get? Do you
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feel like he chose because you know better? You like
that ship ain't worth worry? I'm afraid. Come on, no,
I know most the same thing you get. It's it's
only you become a victim. Well, we know ready looking
for love. So whoever got that probably be true to
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love Red, Red, that's ready, Red, You got kids? Okay, okay, man,
that's up? Do you? I don't really know. I don't
really like his I definitely don't feel like I would
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think that you're specially yeah, that he loved me and
no ship like that like I wouldn't. I don't know, no, no,
no or not? What do you feel? What do you think,
what do you gain? Yeah? What why would you? Yeah?
What would make you have sex with me? And how
do you feel a bomblished after it's over? Because the
way again, like I'm telling you guys, right, we were satisfied, right,
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the same thing you satisfied, the hormonal system, but also
we satisfied that we're special because you chose us, You
chose me. I am the guy you chose to give
yourself to this valuable thing that can create children and
bring children into this earth. You gave that to me.
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Can't get right, what did you get set out of that?
You know? Because they don't get nothing, no that. Yeah,
but there's another reason why, the real deep reasons. It's
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because they don't understand that. That is the It's like
it's like smoking weed. They're smoking weed, right, but you're
not supposed to be smoking weed. That's not what weed
is for. That's not what the plants for having sex.
We talked about that having sex it's for appropriate like biblically,
it's for propriate that it's literally for me to have
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a baby. So because we misuse it, right, we feel
and it is because you your body is amazing. It
is the gift. So you're giving us the gift right
that keeps on giving you get nothing. That's why you
expect everything else. That's why you like a nigga better
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take me out? Well, I ain't. Never nobody was like,
I gave you that dick, she better take me out.
But not every woman feels like, oh, he better take
me out. No, you feel like he owes you something
because you know you gave it to him. There are
some women that, dude, they've I think that. I do
think there's women women that are crazy that don't think so.
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I think you have to be crazy to not think
a man owes you something once you give him some pussy.
Something is wrong with those women, not the other women.
The other women got it right. I just gave you
some pussy, nigga. This is not a fair change. As
much as I would love as y'all feel like I'm
a chauvingist, I am not. I understand pussy is more
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valuable than that. If that was the case, there be
blades where niggas walking the stroll and women pull it up.
And then let me ask you a question. Do you
think part of how a woman, when she becomes a woman,
views the way she gives her body would be dictated
by if her father's in her life actively and understanding.
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That's a huge that's a huge part of it. I
think women like that you have to treat them a
certain way. They can't. You can't. They know what it's
supposed to feel like if their father is doing a
good job. They've seen how a man should treat them, okay,
because I mean, do you know how I end with
my daughter? Man? Sometimes they don't get it right because
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but for the most part, yeah, that helps, you know,
because they know how to be They know how a
man should love them. So the ones that don't grow
up with a father and maybe some kind of traction
figure it out and I think no guidance at all,
you really trying to figure it out. But it definitely
does as a woman, just because a mother could never
show you like a father's love is the first man
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that ever loves you. So a lot of a lot
of women that come from our community before they get married,
never had their first love. Their first love was whoever
their first love was, it wasn't their father. And you know,
you got those weird situations where the father could be sick,
messed up, but a real pure father's first love is
the first man that loves you and he don't want
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nothing from you. Every other nigga you meet and the
rest of your life is gonna want something from you.
That nigga shout out to your pops because he's a
solid nigga. That nigga don't want nothing from you. That's
the first love you get from a man. And then
you meet another nigga that carries on his tradition. Okay,
you know, I'm gonna love you, but you should be
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loving him. You should be providing the same love that
his mother gave to him. I know that, and that's
looked upon as that's looked upon as some negative ship.
Why I don't think broken? Okay from what a lot
of women. A lot of women are broken. So they
be like, why I don't want to love you like
I'm not your mama? Bits you supposed that be his mama?
(01:00:35):
Why you gotta be wait what go back rewind. She
gotta do what she's supposed to be his mama, who's
supposed to be his wife, be nurturing like his mother.
That is not the same. You're supposed to love the
nigga like his mother loves him, and your your husband's
supposed to love you like the way your father loves you. Yes,
(01:00:56):
it is, it actually says it. But again, y'all such
perverse because y'alln't quick fucking into the conversation because guess what,
fucking don't got nothing to do with love. No, that's
that's why the motherfucker's who love you the most don't
fuck you. You need to get a line so we
can call that lady next time. What did you What
did you mean here? What are you saying that he's
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cheating he didn't sleep with you? Because I heard that.
I've heard this conversation a few times, a lot of times, really,
a lot of times where it's like, were he not
sucking him? Like? That? Don't mean he don't funk with you?
Y'all are sharing intimacy in multiple ways, right, So if
you want to fucking suck his dick because he's talking
about cheat when when you cheer, it doesn't mean that
(01:01:40):
you're not sucking with her, you know that. But that's
not the point I'm saying the fact that you're like, well,
he's got to sleeping with somebody else. No, because if
he fucking with you and he's fucking he can suck
y'all both. Right. There has been times in my life,
multiple people in the day that's happened to me. It's
okay saying it's pretty awesome and if he's good at
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what he does, you know that should never comes to
her something I've never told another human being except a nigger.
I've slept with four women, different women, three different times
in my life in the same day. That's Nasty's happened.
I hope you use condoms every time women develop. No,
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it wasn't. It wasn't. It wasn't like, it wasn't a desire.
It wasn't a desire. It wasn't at once. Yes, I
got chose four different times. You can't eat, can turn down?
Why that's what I listen when you out there on
the I don't know if that's when it happened, but
what I can say for my sit talking about you
(01:02:47):
out on the road. So this is prime twenty some
year old glasses at best, thirty early thirty glasses, young glasses.
So to be chose by four different women in one day,
that's pretty I needed to rise to every occasion. And
my young trooper was with the challenge. Now, it wasn't
something apart was this, So I did that before three
(01:03:11):
when that was kind of I was just champion. I
slept crazy. But so what happened was a girl spent
the night. We're talking, and so it was like at
six in the morning for she left, a girl called me.
She's like, I'm gonna stop by. I want to drop
up something. It wasn't like I was trying. I've never
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tried to a girl said she was gonna drop something off.
I was like, okay, drop it off from here. She
came sex again, Wow, and that same bit and what bad?
What was counter? Big counter? I just want to make
sure it was whatever is that the third time I
was in the streets, Wow, left and came home and
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a girl came by spend the night, and it happened.
It happened to that. That's why he's asking questions like
what do you get out of it? Because those women
came and gave it to him, and that does happen.
You do have women that come and want to give
it to you, and you do go, damn, that's special,
that she's special to give it to you, so that
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you can just her her hormonal cycles is a matter
I'm saying, But you don't get that second thing, and
that's what fox it up for you. You don't have
that second thing. You don't get to claim like if
I tell you that right now, trash right now, it's like, damn,
my nigga is a cold bars over there right now. Damn,
that's kind of player. If you said you sat with
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four girls in the same day, Y gonna be like
you little horr. She's not gonna say it out loud,
but in the back of room mind she come like
this little because that second thing that we used to
make it happen, that second thing, which is the conquest
of somebody deciding you are valuable enough to give puss
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you too? Can I tell you what I think that
they think. What's that? I'm gonna just try to speak.
You gotta sell me wrong. But I think sometimes that
they give the vagina thinking that that's gonna lock the
man in. And if they give it to him, like
you said, the expectation is now he's gonna he's mine.
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I think so too, Yeah, he's mine. But that's what
I was saying to her. They don't say it either,
not because because then that would be defeating because they
know that's not a realistic so they don't Women don't
set unrealistic well, they have unrealistic expectations, they don't set
unrealistic goals. So they won't say make me the only
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woman in the world. They'll say, make me feel like
the only only woman in the world. Good looking out
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Watch up and welcome back to another episode and No
Sinners podcast with your host now funk that with your
low blastes Malone. Please read your Facebook post that you
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posted all right, so I said, Hey Facebook, fam, so sad.
Today I was talking to one of my co workers
and she was saying her and her husband rarely make love.
He rarely initiates, and sometimes this month before their intimate again,
she asked me if he could be cheating and what
should she do? I don't know, should she initiate? So?
(00:48):
Why the fuck? How did she come up with he's cheating? Well,
she asked me, like, do you think he could be cheating? Why?
Because they're not intimate? She said that. She said that
she even did like a whole thing where she laid
out like some little candles for him and everything, and
(01:08):
he was happy, like, oh this is sweet. But she
said that he was tired and he went he fell asleep.
What the fund does women do all the time? Women
doing all the time go to sleep to sleep? How
in that equation doesn't equal another woman? Well, because she
(01:32):
said that they hardly ever rarely, because she's so hot,
how could somebody possibly not want to sleep with her?
Right now? I don't think that can be that that
maybe they maybe they did get down before, like a lot,
and maybe it just switched up, you know, maybe she
felt some type of way like maybe it's not the same.
I don't know, maybe they were, maybe their sex life
(01:54):
was better, maybe she was having sex a lot or whatever,
and then that it's like non existent basically. So I
feel like, Okay, you're not having sex with your husband
or your your husband. You guys aren't being intimate. He's
not loving on you, and he's not loving on you.
(02:16):
So that's what fucking loving on you? No is loving
That is loving on me? Is it? So all these
niggas that you slept with the past was loving on
you know, we're talking about my husband, we're talking about
all of the other husbandly things because we're just talking
(02:37):
about this, we're talking about sex. So they don't ever
mentioning on you because it's not. But you're not. You
cut me off. I was gonna say, and she loving
on him, and he living on anybody? You fuck for nothing.
You funk without love all the time. It's happening in
your life multiple times. But so don't try to make
it like so you love each other so you're loving
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on each other, loving each other is the fact that
I thought it was nice and I fucking came home.
That's loving on you, loving on and you was eating
the food, paying the meals. No, that not that too,
because this is the one thing that they make of
that was just fucking you wasn't doing That's what. That's
what And this is what kills me about marriage. Why
are you so mad? It's crazy that Read the message again.
(03:22):
Read the message again. This is why I'm upset because
he rarely initiates the whole message, read again, said Hey,
Facebook fans, so sad. Today I was talking to one
of my co workers and she was saying her and
her husband rarely make love. He rarely initiates, and sometimes
(03:45):
it's months months before they're intimate again. She asked me
if he could be cheating and what she should do.
I don't know, should she initiate? So this is the problem.
I'm gonna tell you my flaws and that lame ash
it and this is my issue at times with the
concept of marriage and women. Right, nothing about that says
(04:10):
he has to be with another woman too. Intimacy is
so much more than what you've been getting from them
other niggas all the time. Every nigga will suck you
for free. Intimacy really stands for closeness. Fucking has never
bought you closer to anybody you fucked. It actually runs
motherfucker's away. I am totally in understanding that that is
(04:32):
a personal conquest of that woman by herself questioning who
she is. Am I not hot anymore? I think that
would bring in security um into her mind, like damn,
like he's not, does he not? Because you're treating him
like you're treating every single nigga in your life. That
wanted to say, but but listen. So she said that
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he told her that he's attracted to her and he's
not attracted to her body. Oh ship, Well that's another
He had a conversation with him why they're not having sex.
He said, that's not the main' not even gonna bring
(05:12):
that part into it. That's back out. That's back out
of that part because this doesn't make it right. But
let's focus on the beginning. This focus on the beginning.
Why is it when somebody's not sucking you, they have
to be So let me ask you a question. Do
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you think it's possible for a man to get his
dig hard for two people in the same day to
seven is possible, So why the fund would it be
she's cheating? Why couldn't come another bit and then fun
his wife? What you mean how did that just equate
to notice? And this is my problem when you're missing
the point. What she's saying is he cheating because she's
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not sleeping with her, that's what she's equated with. He's
not getting this pussy. He got to be getting some pussy. Well, really,
that's stupid because we can get all the pussy dollar
bill stuck up. Okay, it's still you still going out
and getting pussy. It don't matter. What does it have
to do with me not fucking you? What does that
have to do with him not loving her? I don't
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even get into that now. I don't, I don't, I don't,
I don't even What does it have to do with
me not fucking you? You're not because you're sucking someone else,
So we can't suck people in the same day. Who
said that? And then what the funk are you talking about?
That's cheating? You're missing the point. I am back up.
Let's let's go over the gains. Please put the training.
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I don't understand, she said in the message, because that
he has to be cheating. Do you think he's cheating
because he's not fucking me? Why would you not think that? Though?
So my question to you is, could he not fuck
you and somebody else in the same day? That's cheating? Why?
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Why are why is my cheating? Well why you're not
even listening, y'all just hearing, But why is my husband
sleeping with another woman the same day? No? The thing is,
the thing is, the whole point is that he could
still be attracted to her. He could go have sex
with another one does with you as his wife does.
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It doesn't need to be that one or the other.
He can be doing both so in the same day.
So okay, So and then it's it doesn't have to
be the one, but he's not having sex with her,
So what does it have to do with cheating? Um, well,
if your man is not having sex with you, then
we say cheating because he's sleeping with someone else, regardless,
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because because he's not having sex with you, I mean,
so we just got to have sex, That's what it is.
That's what you fucking think of us, of men, We
just gotta funk somebody. Yeah, everybody, what are you talking
about to? Or we can? You can, but for the
most now, I don't try to spend this ship hold on,
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hold half wait, no, y'all niggas be out. They're doing ship.
It don't matter. It could be a woman too, don't matter.
If you're not having questions, you had your point. No,
if y'all having sex, if you're if you if I'm
married to you, and all of a sudden you just
stopped sucking on me. We're not nothing. And we're not
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even communicating this. I'm not even saying it's not I'm
not even saying it's not her father or his father
or whatever. The whole point is, no one's communicating, and
I'm you're now you're feeling like, damn, like what is
going on? You're going to question everything. That's just one thing.
It could be normous of things. Why not because you're
doin somewhere else? Let me, she's thinking, he is? I mean,
so let me get this right. So you think if
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you're married for somebody four years, you're gonna sunk like
the first day. No, so the funk are you? So
let me ask you a question? What is that I'm
going to ask you. I'm going to ask you more questions.
Why is it? How am I a man? And I
understand intimacy is way more than sex, So fucking is
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a serviceable port, like it's a serviceable purpose. There's a
reason why we're fucking. Our mind could be the reason
why we want to feel special. It could be a
hard penis a thousand things. What happens as you get older,
your penis don't get hard as much. That's why I
start taking peels. This problem But in regardless of whatever
is fucking problem is, why is it? The why is
(09:38):
the bitch did not take her to get Why he
didn't take her to get it? Let me take it
to the doctor because maybe you did not working? Why
is the first thing? It's another woman? Well, like I
said ahead, I was gonna say, I'm sorry, no sellings
(09:59):
glasses Malone read what's up, hey, Red? What's up? I
got my man host hip hop historian and and the
host of Los Angeles Battleground, my man Tony Nadio, And
this is not with some tone? What's up? Man? What
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I was gonna get to? What Red? Right? You know?
I think you interjected that other part to it kind
of after the reason why it's an issue, because he's
not the reason why she's thinking that, because I'm trying
to listen to everybody. I think the reason why she's
thinking he's cheating is because the conversation happened about her body. Now,
even though that's a whole another conversation, it's not the company.
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That's not fair. But she interjected that, and I was
wondering why, Like I was gonna ask her, what did
you ask her if she talked to him about it,
because you can't just assume some ship. Now, if you're
just assuming that's wrong, I don't make no sense that
at that point, you're just saying a man is just
shallow and all he that's what they're saying. No, that's
not what she's not. She's saying, don't lie. No, I'm
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not saying you don't think men are shallow. I don't
think men are shallow. But you're gonna lie from all
one point. I did, at one point just think that
men that they all want to have sex. They do,
they do, but that's not that that's not but no,
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but what's wrong with wanting to have sex? Though? Let
me ask you a question trash. Let me ask you
a questions. Yeah, I'm confused. Men do want to have sex,
but it's not like that's not all we're doing. But
because that's because men don't always want to have sex,
that's a whole different, that's a whole that's what she says.
So when she's saying that to you, she's saying, that's
all we think about. Okay, look, no, of course not.
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How is he gonna tell you what what I'm thinking
that because because I'm like, so, let me get this right.
If he not fun and you he fucking somebody, they
don't ness it, then why would that be eventually eventually? Why?
Because he's gonna want to have sex? I feel like eventually,
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so what if he rolls over seven? And I'm not
saying like, of course because if you're older and stuff
like that, you know you may not be getting past.
That's a that's a whole another conversation right there. To
man women to think that the same pussies like every
time Valentine's Day, you've been there for twenty five years,
(12:36):
a great birthday, birthday, birthdays? Not everyone make it funny. No,
I'm gonna tell you what makes it funny? I'm gonna
tell you why that's funny. And this is same day.
We never use you for your birthdays. We never be
for yourthday. What are you talking about. I'm gonna get
(12:59):
everything because I'm a requests because we're not. You will
try to present that old dress, it up that dress
all the time. We don't want the same drug all
the time. That's not yes, it is, it's the same
missing the point. See what you're doing is you're not
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listening to you. You're not. Yes, I am. We have
never ever gave you dick as a present. You know
that's not because like what I'm saying that I did
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never heard that. I never I never heard that. But
I've never been like that either. And if she and
if she did, you not your photo to see that
same us present. And I'm not just putting it's not
(14:02):
it's not to say that you're not a magnificent woman.
That I'm far pressed from saying that, Olivia. That's not
what I'm saying. I know you do. And what I'm
saying to you is what I'm saying to you is
somehow you like if this nigga is not getting this pussy,
he gotta be getting pussy from somewhere. The first thing
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that y'all think when somebody not fucking you in a
marriage is that they are sleeping with someone else. And
it's not true. It's not the first thing. It's not.
It depends on it's not true their patterns. You know,
what you're doing is you're manipulating how you think they
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are as a person and trying to size them up.
You're not thinking about their health, you're not thinking about
everything about their mind that makes them. First of fucking
is not just a physical thing, it's not. It's a
mental thing. So motherfucker could be going through a all
the things and his mind ain't. Don't suck it. And
that don't mean that he sucked somebody else. That could
be a freedom of sucking somebody else. But the fact
(15:07):
that when you read that message, right, she didn't mention
anything specifically about oh, he could be not attracted. It
literally was like, well, if he's not sucking me, he
must be cheating. Or she asked her that. She said, no, no,
this is not She didn't put that in the message.
She didn't put that in the message. See the thing
(15:28):
she said after she didn't put the message. So we're
not even gonna that ship didn't happen. That's probably a
lie to say the message why why would he have
to be She's basically asking, like what should she do?
She did the whole candle thing, like the whole um
romantic thing or whatever, you know, to try to, I
(15:49):
guess initiate because I'm like, well, his dick lighting candles
ever been needed? I don't I think that. I'm okay.
I might agree with that. Most man, you're missing the
point of what this whole conversation is when it comes
to marriage, and you should know you're an expert. You
went to I was married for eight years, so feel me.
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I was married to so feel me. But see, this
is different. Women do things. No, I'm not disrespected, it
is different. It's different. Is this a racial thing? Again?
This is one of the few times I'm not being racist.
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I'm racist all the other So why is it difference?
So what I'm saying is women in the space, especially
in the marriage, tend to make well before marriage, even
but especially the marriage. It has to be about me.
Women turned into serious me monsters. So it's like, he's
not exactly That's what I say. It's not fair for
(16:53):
me to say terms because they really be. It's not.
This is a message. Every woman is a stuff, every
single woman who because why would the fuck this because
why in the funk would you think, well, he not
sucking me, he must be sucking somebody because I don't
know how he could not intimate And then they tried
(17:14):
to make it with them like pretty words intimate, man,
this nigga probably help me and watch TV and talk
to her about this day and all the intimate moment
she just well I had I went through that before myself.
I could imagine, but again personally, and I felt I
felt like because I called you and I was like, okay,
well you know we're not like vibe and we're not
(17:34):
being but but you were like, well, do you'll watch TV?
Do you do this intimate all the all the other
intimate things. But I'm this is the problem when you
marry a woman who's had sex before y'all were married. Ship.
I agree, it matters. I agree, huh. I tell you,
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I really do. Right. Didn't get God getting some ship right?
It's like God is like good money, bro. God will
say some ship and it will make perfect sense. And
the reason he's saying you shouldn't be sucking before you married,
and so you don't be compared to that shallow compared
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to the shallow ship you married. So a woman could
sleep with some nigga, I just want to fucker. Really
think that nigga lover. He don't got to do nothing,
He just gotta want to funk her all the time.
They'd be like this, nigga really love me? No he don't.
He loves sucking you again, because no, you don't. But
it's no, definitely. I think it's because you guys want
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to have sex and that, but that's not And this
is the tricky part. So there's a two part question.
So there is a physical thing trash, right, there's a
physical demand for men that six that change as you
get older. Right, your body picks on how healthy you are,
depends blood, blood, pumpy, add thousands of things. As I
get older, I realized I have to take care of
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myself because really controls my sex drive like that matters.
M Part two is the mental part for men, it's
the personal conquest of somebody. I've told you this a
thousand times. Where we tend to value vagina like it's
special because we really feel like especial when you're giving
it to us because we like, she chose me, so
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that's okay. So if you think that it's special though, no,
I'm just saying those a lot of women that it's
not special. That's the problem. Just listen and it niggas realized.
And see I've realized none of them are special. It's
just your turn. You maybe you you may get the
last term, but it's still just your turn. Right. But
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it's important right that you know the difference because like
what you're about to say right now, because we see
it that way. When you get married, that's when you
really realize it is not as special as you thought
it was. Vagina, when you get married, because you because
it's the one person. It's just the one. It's not that,
it's not that it's just serviceable. It's there, and you're
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not conquering a person. Mentally, this person has already been conquered.
So the mental part of you feeling special that she
gave you some pussy goes out the door now because
now it becomes a job for her to give you pussy.
And no matter what people say, marry people funk like
it's a job. Yeah, they're not that you're not always
(20:26):
sucking the dick. When you first meet and you're sucking
his dick and doing backflips and flips, and ship you
get married them head become a special occasion would do
when they first sucked the dick, and especially they're coming
off this is the greatest dick I've ever seen they do.
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And then if you get into a relationship or you
marry that person, that head is gonna go away. It's
the whole point of what made it Excitedly, you're not
because you're not because it becomes the ladies. It's not
it's a serviceable job, I don't think, and it's not
it's again again again, I think we're missing the point.
It's not so much about that. It's the fact that
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over time those things changing that that's not the most
important thing that's holding it together, actually, because the least
important thing it does because what happens is I told
read this a while ago. I said, look, when you
become an adult and you really bond with somebody, intimacy
is for real now. So you only think of intom
(21:32):
me as intimacy as sex. When you ignorant and you
just fucking and you get a boyfriend and you think
we're this is how we get close when you really
get with somebody in a marriage per se. So I've
been single now going on five years. I've been selling
a bit about two purposely. I've been dating to get
(21:56):
to know women. I realized when I take out the sex, mhm,
like you don't really like them. I don't, Damn I don't.
And it's like, but I've met something that are cool
and I liked you. But but to me, I'm like,
when you take out the sex, when you really get
to know who she is, where her head is at,
and then also expressed I'm about to tell him, yes,
(22:21):
I agree with him because two weeks ago, No, I
never said I didn't agree with you. I'm sorry, my
bad because he because the way you probably said was
yelling at me. No. No, but I do really like
I feel I don't know, maybe because I'm getting older,
(22:41):
Like I really like sex. Sex is like the last
fucking thing I'm thinking of, Like I literally want to
like enjoy that person. I want to like have conversations,
meanful ship, like do some ship, Like I feel like
once you start sucking ship, yeah, it just comes, don't know,
(23:06):
it's just weird. This is the thing also about sex,
and I think you mentioned that in one of the
other podcast might have heard it today actually, where you said,
if you want to, if they want to see how
a man what his true colors are, give him some
pussy first day. It's true, and you know it's crazy
(23:27):
about that. It's kind of true because you guys would
get learned so much about that if you I know,
sounds crazy, right, just give him the pussy. But when
you give the man the pussy, you'll see right there
if if he really funk with you, if he really
funk with you, he's gonna call you and he gonna
and it's not even gonna be at that point once
he says, oh the pussy's good, she's cool. Hey, you
(23:47):
want to go to a movie, you want to go
have dinner. Now, as far as how many nigs gonna do,
that's gonna down. Ye. That's why I recommend don't because
it's really your only power play because outside of that,
you don't do nothing. When you dating the nigga or
engaged to a nigga on the way to marriage but
cost him money, you provide no benefit. Think about it.
(24:11):
The nagua gonna take you out, You're gonna buy you stuff.
He's trying to woo you. It's just costing him money
in time. But I was I was watching something, a
clip of something recently, uh, and that that lady was talking.
White lady from like she talks to these people from
like London. I mean she's a white lady though, and
(24:32):
she always talks to black people, but she's a white lady.
But she talks about marriage and she has people on
the show. But she statistically said eight percent of men today,
modern day men are not getting married because there is
no value. There's nothing in value of it to us,
Like there's no there's really no incentive to get married
(24:53):
if the woman is not really like understanding what it
is to be a wife. Because too many women nowadays,
it's like and you know, and I don't even say
all women. I think it's a lot more younger women.
And it's sad that there's older women that look up
to the younger women. That's crazy. Men do the same ship.
But where was that going with this? I got lost
(25:15):
right now when I was cooking. Yeah, I just got completed. Yeah,
I'm trying to remember where I was. For men to
get married. What's the incentive because you don't necessarily like
if you get if you're gonna get married, Like, what
do you get from women? Don't know how to beat
women today? That's what I was getting a lot of them,
(25:37):
not you guys. A lot of young women don't know
how to be a wife. But it's not women a wife.
I'm gonna tell you why that change. So sixty years
ago you had to get married to get pussy. So
to have at home pussy, m hm, we special. Seventy
(25:58):
years ago, eighty years ago to have at home pussy
on demand was special because it wasn't the culture of
being what they say, a free or slept like slept walks.
That wasn't a popular culture then. A whore wasn't popular.
You just didn't sleep with men because you want to
sleep with men. You really made them earn your body.
(26:20):
They had to earn your body. Now it's like women,
I feel like I'm making a choice. You're gonna make
a bad decision. So it wasn't about I don't know
if women even then were super great at being wives.
They learned, but I think they had that specialty of
the pussy. So now today, but they were younger, so
they actually had time to be nurtured into being wives
(26:41):
to or the perfect wife of that person. But but
if you really look at it today, you can get
somebody to fuck you all the time without marrying them. Yeah, well,
I mean but that but you know what, I don't
even put that. Uh well, obviously you gotta put the
men and women right, But I think that ship has
to do a lot with society. Bro. Like, it's just
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how people look at you. It's too everything is too
in this free space, you know, you know, taking it
back to the anti semitism, and you can't say this,
and if you don't and if you don't agree with
my lifestyle, then you're homophobic or your this and that,
and it's like all these different things that just get
it just so funked up and intertwined. And I'm gonna
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tell you something. Social media definitely sucked it up a
lot too, because now your woman got a thousand your
your husband or the wife has a thousand more things
to compare you, and and and it's fucked up because
you're never getting the reality of the situation. Social media
is like ESPN for regular people. It's just the highlights
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of their life. It's the highlights of their life. They'll
never show you when they're looking fucked up like people
back no filter would be wearing makeup facts. Yeah, that's
the first filter. So again it's a weird place. But
I thought that messaging was really important. That that's on
is Facebook because it really goes into this weird ego
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thing women have developed to where it's like, oh, well
the man told you it was nice, he was tired.
The first thing they imagine is he has to be
sleeping with somebody if he's not sleeping with me. I mean,
after a while, I don't think it's something where it's
like I'm saying, I'm saying that it's a thought at all.
That's crazy to me because because it makes because it
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makes you, because it makes you become you don't realize
how messed up in your mind, like the last but
I feel like you talk. I feel like you're saying
if that's the initial uh emotional respect a month. I
mean she said it months at a time, months at
a time. If it's months at a time, I mean
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that you gotta when you're in the married you'd be like, yo,
know what's going on? You? You? You wonder what's going
on you? Will you find somebody else? Is she? Is
you fucking with her? Is she sucking? Wait a minute, No,
I don't. That's not true. Right. The point I'm saying
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to you is, are they turning you down? That's different?
Are they rejecting you as different? Was he rejecting her?
So what she's saying is she made this bullshit ass
thing that was more cater to her than him. Did
she just pull out his dick? And she didn't. She
didn't say that. She the only time that she said
that or whatnot. She made this romantic when she did that.
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But know what she did tell me that how long
have they been married? Um, it's been like seventeen years?
There it is there, Lucy, Lucy and Ricky was staying
a separate bad at that point, you're missing the point.
Plus is old. There's no spice. There's no that can't
be spice. It's not supposed to be spice. There's couple
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of that all the time. I've been together for two
three years and they're going through this. Sorry, I'm just saying,
if they were going through that again, we have a
different conversation. This is another thing. There's no spice to fucking.
No spice to fucking that's a cultural thing. I don't know,
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my nigger, I was racist. I'm just saying. I just know.
I'm just saying, you know, you know, you know Mexicans,
but we got lots of kids. That's just where that's
because they get pricked every time they're very first, she
needs to give it a Mexican problem. The problem is
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do you really care about so now you just want
to get sucked off, that's your problem because all that
wonderful thing was doing his life the old school, like
you know, like like grandmothers and stuff, grandfather's. It was
literally that they would just get fun because there was
It wasn't a holding hands. If he was just sucking
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her and not kissing her, she would complain if she
was not, if he was sucking her not kissing her,
she'd be complaining if he was like he he don't
kiss me. Women broke in a marriage is going to
find a problem. Now, let me just stop saying. Women
human beings in marriages start to find things to complain about. Absolutely,
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because expectation is the enemy of gratitude. See how she
thinks it's supposed to go. It's fucking up with what's
going on instead of her being grateful for this wonderful marriage,
This nigga might be handling this business, chilling with watching
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TV with her. You know they're chilling watching movies. Whatever.
Everything he does, he holds her hand, kissing on the chief,
brings the food. It's not the point. It's not the
pointing if if they were had something like if there,
if they had something going on before, and think things
have what you think has happened in seventeen years, I
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don't know some people still be fucking man, everybody, don't.
I mean, I get it. It's really genuinely think people
be together for with her for eight I'm sorry, married
to her for a with her for twelve every year,
but she didn't. She didn't say, you mean to tell
me you wasn't every day for a year. That was
a whole another thing. I remember, I had told myself
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accountable for a lot of ship. That made her start
thinking other ship. I agree that, I agree, but now
he wasn't. And she definitely thought that that, like, oh
you must be and sometimes not. And the reason she
didn't have a reason not sometimes I just didn't want to.
Just bottom line, I had moments where I've cheated, right,
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But that's not why he didn't want to welcome her.
But what I'm saying, what I'm trying to I see, no, not.
What I'm trying to express is that there were times
where she was still attractive to me, and I knocked
her down when I want to, And there were times
where I just want to watch TV, sit down next
to me, let me rub on your feet, rub on
my feet or whatever, and let's chill. You know what
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I'm saying that. And I wasn't out doing nothing. I
wasn't thinking about it. Yes, but yeah, yeah, because lord knows,
if you turned me down, that's just because of the pattern.
And it's not just like the whole thing we say,
having sex before marriage, you have that experience. So she
had the experience of him stepping out before. So of
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course she's gonna it's not of course, that's it, Yes,
it is. That's how it will play in her hand.
She shouldn't be. It shouldn't because if you, if you
take him back, then that should just be a y'all
was supposed to start off with clean slate. But if
I had what he had done, then there would be
no reason for her to think that's a lie. The
reason she think that that's not true. The reason she
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thinks that is because he exists. It has nothing to
do with it's because he no, because because you guys
are kind of like he's basically saying, even if I
had not been a cheater and I just decided not
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to sleep with her, chances are nine out of ten
times at some point that's going to be a thought
when reality, if I'm not cheating and I've never cheated,
why are you even having that thought. I've never done anything,
So like maybe I just am not feeling like doing
that right now. That's it, because what happens is but
I wouldn't reject her, but you can't but reject her
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is different. And let's see what happens is they'll do
something like being naked. Bro. It's years now, bro, Like
come on now, if she's naked, So like, if she
gets in the bed and she's naked, Um, she can't
just expect like, oh, we're not nine any We're not
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nineteen anymore, not nineteen anymore. I mean maybe it just
depends on what you do when you have a low
rider for ten years and when you have a low rider.
You have a low rider for ten years. You don't
always have to hit the switch, stupid. You don't always
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got to hit switch. You know, you know you have hydraulics.
You're not always trying to show everybody you got hydraulics.
You have them, you have them. Yeah, I see the comparison.
I see the analogy. And what really changes, honestly, is intimacy.
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I had this conversation with this conversation with my sister,
my cousin. What changes for men is intimacy. Men are
the last. I'm starting to not believe that. I'm thinking
women is. But I used to always think men were
the last to learn true intimacy, they were the last.
But I'm starting to believe that's not true. You know
what it also is, like you said, society where we
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are now, the things that the young women are, ladies
that are taught growing up now, don't they don't know
the intimacy because they aren't spending that time. But I
think also the understanding of intimacy is where the lions
get cross also like no, but yeah, but that's like
so simple, closest, that's the exact definition. Right. What women
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like to do is make their own rules and so
a woman's intimacy. No, that's not true. Most women like
that is yeah, because but that's not that's what he said,
like technically by the words, it's literally as spending time
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time together. But they like no, because you're not doing
in the house. It's intimacy, but just not all you
know what I'm saying, because you want other people to
see because historically you have created this thing where other
people have to be involved in your life. We need
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to go out on the date. Do you understand why
people go out on dates to get No, that's not
why you that's going to the movie. It's not why
you go out on date. To the day is so
you can But that's not kicking it in because for me,
I didn't have people come to my house like I
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would want to go out with them or you know,
but do you understand what a date? Do you understand
what a date is? For a date is to get
to money? But you know why the funk will be dating?
If I'm married to you after ten years, why am
I dating you eight years? Like you go out you
might hang out. Hey, let's go he's talking out. Just
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call it a day. He's talking on a technical term, ladies,
like he's just he's trying. He's just using the word
like in other words, I get what you're saying, and
you guys are basically saying like, now we can still
go out and have fun. He's saying, cool, that's not
a day anymore. We're literally they don't want to be
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pursued like the first day. Yeah, that's why they're like
Rihanna saying like I'm the only one in the world
one of those, but I'm the only They're not honest.
They're not being honest in these conversations, and that's why
we don't ever come to a mutual meeting ground because
we could never help them work out that issue. The
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issue is they want to be pursued and treated like
it's the first day. That's what they're talking about. Spice,
the first time you met me, how excited you was
to see me. Now it's not like that. Now I
see who you really are. So it's either going to
be a deeper love or you also can see some
ship you don't like. But that's the other part. Two.
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If a man's well, maybe not every situation, but but
for the most part, if a man sticks around and
he's staying around. He funk with you. No, man's like
if you give him, if you give him the vagina
and he and he really don't funk with you. Oh oh,
man ain't ship. But no, you just didn't see the
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signs he didn't want because he was looking at his
physical appearance and minus the signs. That's the thing that
they have in their power. So when somebody shows strength
to reject it and towards to not be the grand
stand and then there's guys who in their d MS
like can I get that thing that that guy doesn't
want but he wants you? That's my problem, that's my
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problem with the initial message. This nigga is coming home
working thousand things, probably with her watching TV with her.
All of these signs of intimacy, right, all of these
amazing and signs of intimacy are being ignored because he's
not doing it. I'm gonna put her business out there
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and I'm gonna just say so, although I wasn't a
horrible husband. I had my moments, but I wasn't a
bad husband, you know what I mean. She had her house,
she had her two cars, she had a lot of ship. Right,
that's just materialistic. I married her, but she wanted a
certain for me, like almost traditional. I've never been traditional,
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working under five, come home and that's it, you know.
Even now I have my little side hustle as a
courier business, and then inside of that come fuck with glasses.
The dude she's been with now, who she met two years,
I'm assuming he was possibly in the picture already because
she got with him like two years after we divorced.
She's been with now for eight years, living in his house. Right,
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dude ain't married her? Yeah? Who didin't married her? I
gave her everything that she wanted, and what he's not
giving her she'll just take because hey, fuck it. But
you missing the point of why that is. Okay, tell
me why you can't never give a woman everything she
wants because she don't know what she want. That's going
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to change. But she went over there thinking that that's
everything she wanted. As my point, but that that's not
what they go to think. See what they think is
they can make whatever they want. That again, it goes
back into that same because y'all, for sure, I think
y'all can change it. Yeah, that's the thing you definitely
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used to think that you definitely listen to this ship
because I guess I'm just a whole, totally different breed.
Never try to change. I've never tried to change the
name Can't get Right, and I left that alone. Can
Getting Right. No, it wasn't that that was his nickname
because she was there for whatever the purpose was at
that time. I never tried to change him. That was
his name, Can't get Right, and I fun with him,
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and so I didn't want too with that again. I
like you say about trying to change sense of power,
that they're controlling the same power. It was never about powers.
That's why I wanted to date at the time, like
you had faith and believe that that could be something.
I literally didn't you have faith that could be something.
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She's lying, She says, No, Okay, okay, here's when I
knew when I called him can't get Right. I knew
that wasn't if I give you a fucking nickname, that's
what you are and and that's it. You didn't so
you didn't see a future, but you continue to see
the guy I'm asking because I was. I was. Yeah,
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we were hanging out, but I knew I knew what
it was. Well, yeah, okay, I like because I liked.
But at one point before he wasn't getting right when
you were when we first Okay, listen when when when
we first met, he had just moved out here. He's
not from here. We first met, everything was cool. We
were just you know, it wasn't nothing like. It was
just no. We weren't even working at the time. We
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didn't start working for years later, so we didn't. We
were just hanging out. No, that wasn't even either. I
was just literally, I mean, you don't have everybody you date,
you don't have to fund glasses, Like, what are you
talking about? You can literally he was actually able to
spend time with me and not to get But I
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know he said that now I've never but I never.
I don't know how did I start just doing podcast
because where I'll be looping Nato. No, it's not no bullshit.
We're not talking. I'm not married, don't have hot sex. Listen,
I'm listening. I'll tell you about my damn story. I
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was turning it into the I'm sorry, but I was
turning it into the fact day I wanted to know,
you know, where what you know, what is the point
of keeping him around. If you're not trying to change him,
what were you doing? Oh yeah, no, I was just
hanging out with him for what is that? I was
having fun at that time? Were you having sex by
that time? By that time? I was so he was
just having sex? You had kept him around for just sex? Okay,
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let me tell you why I calm can't get right.
It wasn't about because what he did to me A
question though, Did you keep him around just for sex
at that point? At that point? Yeah, keeping the one
Like I'm serious, that's what it was. We had a
good time. I'm not lying. No, don't tell me I'm lying.
I'm not lying. I promise you are lying. But the
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reason why I called him can't get right, It wasn't
because of how he was treating me. I was calling
can't be right because all the stupid ship that he
was doing. I was like, he couldn't in his life
that okay, But that's so that's what I didn't get right.
I said he was just through the through the sex.
Were you doing it because you felt intimacy? Like he
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made you feel special at least in those moments? I mean, yeah, yeah, yeah,
we did. We had we had that friendship. We had
a good friendship, have a friendship. No, we were friends,
not if he's sucking you. I mean the guys get
friends on you, they get friends zone, and that just
because just because the dude is sucking on you, like
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if y'all, y'all can still be friends like guys do
it too. It's not women don't just friends zone. We
were fraid if you're still having sex with them or
had sex. Well we've had sex still, most most men
are not gonna friend zone you unless you friend zone yourself.
Like you know, if where he for women, there is
no great area. So it's friends or relationship. So that's
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why it's they considered friends on if we not together,
if I don't have a title, I'm your friend. So
that's why they say it's friend z. That's what I
meant by that. I wasn't meaning yeah, but this is
my point though, back to that point, it's it's it's
crazy how we're able to look back around to guys
could actually date you when not fuck you. The point
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I'm saying because you just went through a whole spill
saying that this married man who pretty much been with
his wife and being an honorable man and ship like that.
Because he hasn't sucked her, he has to be doing
something wrong. I don't know he's an honorable man. Though
we don't know anything about this man she didn't have.
No can not specify what type of man she has.
She just said, So why can I not judge him
on the up? So why you imagine I'm saying you
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wouldn't have stopped me. His old raggedy ass ain't sucking
you to like who? I referred to him as an
honorable husband. I referred to him as an honorable husband
because I would imagine he's doing everything else and he's saying, hey,
I'm a blah blah blah and I'm coming home. He
had to be there to see he's not saying he's
not there. I want women to initiate more. Said again,
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you want women to initiate more. Well, I think I
think that women need to understand that you guys need
to initiate more like. It shouldn't always just be a
man like a man. I know me, I would want
my woman to come give me that dick like cool. Yeah,
I agree with you. I'm just saying I think there's
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nothing wrong with it. Especially if it's your other. I've
said this apple times because why are let me ask
you a question as a single man. The reason I
pursue pussy is it makes me feel good about myself.
I feel special if a woman when you know, when
I was running the streets and hanging out and young nigga,
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and it made me feel special when accomplished. When a
woman gave me pussy, I was like, I have to
be special. She chose me me. There's always that moment
when she's taking off her drawers and I'm like, how
can I believe she about to give me the pus?
And then when you do it, that's the conquering part
because you have from so the point I'm saying to
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you is why do you guys do it before you're married?
What do you gain? Do you feel accomplished that he's
gonna give me the dick? I must be special. I
think they just have. They just have. We're not gonna
We're not gonna answer that because that's what we get it.
Try can tell you can verify bis bis. When a
girl that you've been looking at want to get some pussy,
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don't you be like, yeah, she you know I'm that
nigga like I'm happy, I'm special and I always remember
this if anyone does it to kiss on the ash,
cheek or the leg, that's to thank you, just say,
you know, I never got really my point, but I'm asking.
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That's why men, That's what propels men to have sex,
outside of the physical desire of procreation is the conquest
of feeling special. So right, there's the physical desire that
you get, the urge being hard, right, the physical desire
of the purpose of sex to procreate. Right, you have
that boom, Okay, that's one part. The other part is
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the mental the mental gratitude you feel by being chose
of being worthy of a woman's body. You feel special.
The less nigger she slept, would you feel even more special?
This bitch only chose me, or she chose me and
only him. That's it. You feel special. And that right
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there where he just said is exactly why you guys
are held to hire standards. When y'all cheat, it's even
worse than that body counting everything. So those are the
two reasons. So I agree we could physically have the
same desire right of to pro create his human beings.
You know, you you get horny like everybody else to appropriate,
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and then we figure out ways to block it, pull
out condom, purple troul, whatever you do. But that's the
physical desire pro creation right. Attraction creates procreation, right, that's
the breeds procreation right boom, we just block it. The
set reason is we feel accomplished and special, like you
gave us your body. So if you don't feel like us,
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what's your second reason? So for me, I'm like ready
to have sex with you when I've connected mentally, like
when I feel like we have like a like a
connection and not like not but not when you're ready?
What do you accomplish? What do you gain that person?
I gained that your soul is immortal combat your soul
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is have you have you ever been ever been with
a woman that almost had your soul? And you're like,
what am I thinking about? Twice? Twice? Okay, it's pretty destructive? Yeah,
it is, so what drives us? So the second accomplishment
we get is we have conquered something. We have conquered
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a challenge that other men we know are trying to conquer, right,
and we all conquer women. Right, It's like you have
to choose us. We have to be special enough for
you to give us your body, because the way it
was created it was special, not the way you guys
handle it now, but in its inception, in creation, it
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is a woman's body is a special, amazing things. It
still is. But they just mishap they're just horrible owners. Again.
That's why I say, but a lot of that ship
is going into these young girls, man, because I don't
even want to get into them little or figure out no,
but it's it's important because that's what we're seeing right now,
because that's so what is your What do you gain?
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We gain the conquest, We gained the ability I can
call trash andl She chose me. She gave me that pussy, nigger.
That's actually why we would tell each other that too.
I have those I've been selected. I'm a part of
a special play of niggas and who she wants to
give pussy to? I am the guy. So what do
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you guys get? Do you guys gonna tell that he
chose me, bitch, he gave me that dick? Do you
feel special? Do you feel special? Do you feel like
you got something that was special? I feel like, yeah,
we have a connection that's special. Like, did you feel like,
did you got it? He liked me? You know, he
loved me? Kind of what are you a hopeless shrowman?
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Tell me the truth? Are you a hopeless romantic? She
loves love man too. I feel like we had a connection.
What's your sign? Let's just sh are your birthday. I
just feel happy birthday, Thank you. That's the funniest part.
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So so you feel like you get somebody love you.
So you get that a lot of these she was
looking a corner. Boys, what do we get when we get? Okay?
(53:40):
So I agree that we share a physical desire to procreate. Right,
that's something we both share. We're attracted. The desire to
procreate propels us physically. Right, that's the hormonal system that
creates the hormones. That's why we're horny. Right, we just
figured out ways to approcreation. But that's the desire. Go,
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that's what's happening. Right. Um. The second thing men get
is accomplished. We start to feel like, oh I am special.
She chose me. This woman's body, A woman's body is amazing.
It's amazing thing. And she's like she's allowing me to
have it. She's giving herself to me. That's what we get.
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So I have that now a part of my resume.
It's like my suit and my suit case, my suit,
that's a part of my resume. Uh, BRIT's box is
now on my resume. Your box like I have it?
What is your seconds for your second? Think? What do
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you gain when you allow a men to sleep with you?
That's what we get. I get the ability to tell
trash she chose me? You do? Really? Is that the
like you do? Like you have to choose? So hold up?
If a man, so what do you get? Do you
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feel like he chose because you know better? You like
that ship ain't worth worry? I'm afraid. Come on, no,
I know most the same thing you get. It's it's
only you become a victim. Well, we know ready looking
for love. So whoever got that probably be true to
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love Red, Red, that's ready, Red, You got kids? Okay, okay, man,
that's up? Do you? I don't really know. I don't
really like his I definitely don't feel like I would
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think that you're specially yeah, that he loved me and
no ship like that like I wouldn't. I don't know, no, no,
no or not? What do you feel? What do you think,
what do you gain? Yeah? What why would you? Yeah?
What would make you have sex with me? And how
do you feel a bomblished after it's over? Because the
way again, like I'm telling you guys, right, we were satisfied, right,
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the same thing you satisfied, the hormonal system, but also
we satisfied that we're special because you chose us, You
chose me. I am the guy you chose to give
yourself to this valuable thing that can create children and
bring children into this earth. You gave that to me.
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Can't get right, what did you get set out of that?
You know? Because they don't get nothing, no that. Yeah,
but there's another reason why, the real deep reasons. It's
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because they don't understand that. That is the It's like
it's like smoking weed. They're smoking weed, right, but you're
not supposed to be smoking weed. That's not what weed
is for. That's not what the plants for having sex.
We talked about that having sex it's for appropriate like biblically,
it's for propriate that it's literally for me to have
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a baby. So because we misuse it, right, we feel
and it is because you your body is amazing. It
is the gift. So you're giving us the gift right
that keeps on giving you get nothing. That's why you
expect everything else. That's why you like a nigga better
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take me out? Well, I ain't. Never nobody was like,
I gave you that dick, she better take me out.
But not every woman feels like, oh, he better take
me out. No, you feel like he owes you something
because you know you gave it to him. There are
some women that, dude, they've I think that. I do
think there's women women that are crazy that don't think so.
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I think you have to be crazy to not think
a man owes you something once you give him some pussy.
Something is wrong with those women, not the other women.
The other women got it right. I just gave you
some pussy, nigga. This is not a fair change. As
much as I would love as y'all feel like I'm
a chauvingist, I am not. I understand pussy is more
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valuable than that. If that was the case, there be
blades where niggas walking the stroll and women pull it up.
And then let me ask you a question. Do you
think part of how a woman, when she becomes a woman,
views the way she gives her body would be dictated
by if her father's in her life actively and understanding.
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That's a huge that's a huge part of it. I
think women like that you have to treat them a
certain way. They can't. You can't. They know what it's
supposed to feel like if their father is doing a
good job. They've seen how a man should treat them, okay,
because I mean, do you know how I end with
my daughter? Man? Sometimes they don't get it right because
(59:09):
but for the most part, yeah, that helps, you know,
because they know how to be They know how a
man should love them. So the ones that don't grow
up with a father and maybe some kind of traction
figure it out and I think no guidance at all,
you really trying to figure it out. But it definitely
does as a woman, just because a mother could never
show you like a father's love is the first man
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that ever loves you. So a lot of a lot
of women that come from our community before they get married,
never had their first love. Their first love was whoever
their first love was, it wasn't their father. And you know,
you got those weird situations where the father could be sick,
messed up, but a real pure father's first love is
the first man that loves you and he don't want
(59:51):
nothing from you. Every other nigga you meet and the
rest of your life is gonna want something from you.
That nigga shout out to your pops because he's a
solid nigga. That nigga don't want nothing from you. That's
the first love you get from a man. And then
you meet another nigga that carries on his tradition. Okay,
you know, I'm gonna love you, but you should be
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loving him. You should be providing the same love that
his mother gave to him. I know that, and that's
looked upon as that's looked upon as some negative ship.
Why I don't think broken? Okay from what a lot
of women. A lot of women are broken. So they
be like, why I don't want to love you like
I'm not your mama? Bits you supposed that be his mama?
(01:00:35):
Why you gotta be wait what go back rewind. She
gotta do what she's supposed to be his mama, who's
supposed to be his wife, be nurturing like his mother.
That is not the same. You're supposed to love the
nigga like his mother loves him, and your your husband's
supposed to love you like the way your father loves you. Yes,
(01:00:56):
it is, it actually says it. But again, y'all such
perverse because y'alln't quick fucking into the conversation because guess what,
fucking don't got nothing to do with love. No, that's
that's why the motherfucker's who love you the most don't
fuck you. You need to get a line so we
can call that lady next time. What did you What
did you mean here? What are you saying that he's
(01:01:18):
cheating he didn't sleep with you? Because I heard that.
I've heard this conversation a few times, a lot of times, really,
a lot of times where it's like, were he not
sucking him? Like? That? Don't mean he don't funk with you?
Y'all are sharing intimacy in multiple ways, right, So if
you want to fucking suck his dick because he's talking
about cheat when when you cheer, it doesn't mean that
(01:01:40):
you're not sucking with her, you know that. But that's
not the point I'm saying the fact that you're like, well,
he's got to sleeping with somebody else. No, because if
he fucking with you and he's fucking he can suck
y'all both. Right. There has been times in my life,
multiple people in the day that's happened to me. It's
okay saying it's pretty awesome and if he's good at
(01:02:02):
what he does, you know that should never comes to
her something I've never told another human being except a nigger.
I've slept with four women, different women, three different times
in my life in the same day. That's Nasty's happened.
I hope you use condoms every time women develop. No,
(01:02:27):
it wasn't. It wasn't. It wasn't like, it wasn't a desire.
It wasn't a desire. It wasn't at once. Yes, I
got chose four different times. You can't eat, can turn down?
Why that's what I listen when you out there on
the I don't know if that's when it happened, but
what I can say for my sit talking about you
(01:02:47):
out on the road. So this is prime twenty some
year old glasses at best, thirty early thirty glasses, young glasses.
So to be chose by four different women in one day,
that's pretty I needed to rise to every occasion. And
my young trooper was with the challenge. Now, it wasn't
something apart was this, So I did that before three
(01:03:11):
when that was kind of I was just champion. I
slept crazy. But so what happened was a girl spent
the night. We're talking, and so it was like at
six in the morning for she left, a girl called me.
She's like, I'm gonna stop by. I want to drop
up something. It wasn't like I was trying. I've never
(01:03:32):
tried to a girl said she was gonna drop something off.
I was like, okay, drop it off from here. She
came sex again, Wow, and that same bit and what bad?
What was counter? Big counter? I just want to make
sure it was whatever is that the third time I
was in the streets, Wow, left and came home and
(01:03:55):
a girl came by spend the night, and it happened.
It happened to that. That's why he's asking questions like
what do you get out of it? Because those women
came and gave it to him, and that does happen.
You do have women that come and want to give
it to you, and you do go, damn, that's special,
that she's special to give it to you, so that
(01:04:19):
you can just her her hormonal cycles is a matter
I'm saying, But you don't get that second thing, and
that's what fox it up for you. You don't have
that second thing. You don't get to claim like if
I tell you that right now, trash right now, it's like, damn,
my nigga is a cold bars over there right now. Damn,
that's kind of player. If you said you sat with
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four girls in the same day, Y gonna be like
you little horr. She's not gonna say it out loud,
but in the back of room mind she come like
this little because that second thing that we used to
make it happen, that second thing, which is the conquest
of somebody deciding you are valuable enough to give puss
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you too? Can I tell you what I think that
they think. What's that? I'm gonna just try to speak.
You gotta sell me wrong. But I think sometimes that
they give the vagina thinking that that's gonna lock the
man in. And if they give it to him, like
you said, the expectation is now he's gonna he's mine.
(01:05:22):
I think so too, Yeah, he's mine. But that's what
I was saying to her. They don't say it either,
not because because then that would be defeating because they
know that's not a realistic so they don't Women don't
set unrealistic well, they have unrealistic expectations, they don't set
unrealistic goals. So they won't say make me the only
(01:05:46):
woman in the world. They'll say, make me feel like
the only only woman in the world. Good looking out
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