Conversations About Passport Bros

Glasses Malone joined by the cousins, Aja and Britt discuss the latest trend, a traveling community called Passport Bros. They dissect the concept of pursuing women in other countries because of the narrative that American women are harder catch. Tune in and join the conversation in the socials below.

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Watch up and welcome back to another episode and No
Sillers podcast with your host Now funk that with your
low glasses malone time and I'm like fun Now, I'm like, yeah,

(00:24):
I'll be having to leave little backups in the car.
And why do you got to leave the car? Because
I might need it? You see how I don't have
no weed today, but I had some weed in the car.
That's why I got it now, So backup. It's like
an Asia bag. All my friends used to have Asia bags.
Nobody got Asia backs. No more because Asia sold up.

(00:49):
She's living up well. Back to the point, I was, ha,
that's the thing. Like women really connor will find themselves
in bad positions, Like she feel like I got to
clean up, Like she really don't want to clean up.
So in order for her to move into that space
right of a wife, there are things that people expect

(01:10):
of a wife. She do want to clean up. But yeah,
you know what I'm saying, she's I think it's more
so pressure now for her because it's like she wants,
you know, she wants all these things that she wants
a husband, and so she's trying to do all these
things that I don't know because she does clean, she
does take care of children. She's she just he you know.

(01:32):
The thing is that he go to work all day
and you know, she makes her money and she ain't
got to work like that, you know, So he like
which I told her, I said, look, he's going to
work all day and when he come home, because she
like when he wants me home? I said, you should
be home when he come home, like you know, and
you home all day, the house should be clean. I

(01:55):
told her that, like it should you're not working, you're
not you know. So he's like, well where are you at?
Well what are you doing? You know? And the thing
is with her, like she's just very she's just used to.
She takes she does things. She's like what Jamaican. So

(02:16):
he wants her there when he gets home from work?
Why does he want her there? You know what? I
can ask a woman why that? Because I would I
don't know, because men really probably has I want to
know why most men do want you home when they
come home. I mean, unlet you ask work. You know,
if you're working, that's different from what's what I'm saying,

(02:37):
Like what else? Like where else would she be? Exactly?
But I get it. I don't. I don't quite note. No,
I'm because I'm really trying to figure out because she
go be, she's gonna be everywhere. She just be everywhere,
like she just harand she might need to do or
she's the type of she's the type of check where

(03:00):
she wake up in the morning, she's gonna get dressed,
and she goes to eat breakfast every day, would like
say a certain person and she goes to get her
coffee and like she just she's there. And I told her,
it's funny because it feels like she would be compromising
herself to really be with somebody. Yeah, she's just Yeah,

(03:26):
I think like I told you, I think she was.
She's setting her ways and now she's looking at it
like she went through it. And I think that's what
anybody g I think anybody that anybody that has been
single for a long time, male or female, you have
to grow accustomed to dealing with someone else in your life,

(03:51):
especially if you've been single for years for a long time.
But it was an easy transition, don't lie. Yeah, I mean,
what do you mean, Trance, You were single, But that's
why I said, I think it's the kind of person
you are like, so, yeah, I've been I was single forever,
but I've never been single, like I never conduct myself

(04:14):
like a truly single person. Like probably the worst thing
that I did. I used to work all the time,
Like I would work into the night, like I don't
even care. So that's kind of what I did. But
as far as broad like, I wasn't never really ho
hopping hard like that. That just ain't really my style.
I really think I'm pretty valuable in my mind. I

(04:35):
think it's different stuff like um checking in, you know,
like if but but this is my thing, right, so
real checking in? Right, So relationship check in and like
hip hop check in is the same type of checking in,
so right, it just depends on the mentality of the person.

(04:56):
So when I check in, like right, when I check again,
if I go to another nigga town, I really want
to hang out with the niggas towns that I'm in.
So if I go to New York, I'm gonna hit
my nigga wink all, my Flatbush partners, I'm gonna hit
Trade Pizzy next time I go, I'm gonna see Tray
Pizzy and them in the Bronx. Feel me, I'm here,
my partnering queens, my potler stat nil and hit my

(05:19):
people because I really want to function with my people's
while i'm here. So what somebody else may feel as
a burden of fellowshipping with a loved ones, I don't
see it that way. So even as a marriage, as
a maryor as a married person, I don't see it
as a burden. Yeah, it's like, I want to talk
to this motherfucker and never had a problem. I didn't

(05:41):
feel like it was a burden. But I'm saying for me,
I did have to remind myself, like it's you in
a relationship. You need to make sure that okay, Like example,
this is the ship that I used to do, and
I had to check myself. Um, I'll make plans. I
ain't told this man nothing. The day comes for the

(06:03):
plans and I'm like, oh, I'm going with woo here.
Oh you didn't say that. You didn't. You didn't say
anything to me about that, And I would get like
why the woman? I mean, like, I just I made plans.
I'm sorry, but I'm telling you right now like that
I'm going here like I'm not hiding it. I'm not.
It's not I'm not you know, and it was it

(06:25):
was like, why would you you knew? How long you
knew about this? And I'm like, oh, probably a couple
of days, okay, and you're just telling me today and
I'm just like, I didn't get I didn't know if
that's about being single, why is that? Well, I don't
know what it is. It's about moving the way you
want to move, right, But I think so it depends,
right if you like you may not just be a

(06:46):
trustworthy person. Oh my god, I'm a I'm a very
trustful What does that have to do with me? I'm
a very trustworthy person. What are you talking about? Okay,
that's not the right way. Let me that's wracked up.
Let me empty that burrito back out of reaping. Okay.

(07:08):
So maybe part of the reasons I do what I
do because I know who I am, Like, I know
who I am as a person, and I know how
other people see what I can be. So then I know,
motherfucker's be worried. Right, So, like, I don't quite know.
I mean, would I be offended if a woman if

(07:30):
somebody didn't tell me what their plans were. I mean,
I probably wouldn't be offended, but I probably would be
like damn that was or maybe not. I guess it
just depends, like wait a minute, we talking about in
the middle of the day, like are you telling me
you're going to the at so short? Because because even then,
like I think the natural insecurity is one thing, right,

(07:53):
you have a natural insecurity. But for the most part,
I'm glad when I'm by myself sometimes, like I'm glad
when she's around. I'm glad when I'm by myself. Like
I'm pretty much a glad person the whole experience. But um,
I don't know. I just I just think that's weird,
Like I don't know quite like what does that mean? Like,
but she didn't used to complain. She's like, that's the

(08:14):
probably this single so long, And I'm like, what am
I doing that makes you? Like? What what a part
of this makes you feel like it's a single move?
Maybe not like she said, like, um, were you like
not checking into maybe you weren't doing something like that.
But I'm always kind of I tell her so she knows,

(08:37):
like I want to tell her, got you no, But
I did too. I'm just saying when I first it
was it was just weird because I was just used
to getting up and just going and doing what I
needed to do or whatever. So yeah, and didn't sometimes
it didn't dawn on me. It wasn't that I was
doing anything or trying to hide something or it wasn't
nothing like that. So I do see why you're saying that.

(08:58):
Maybe it was like some trustworthy stuff, but no, it
wasn't like that. He just wanted to. He was like,
you should be. Why wouldn't I know that? Well? He? Um,
so the homegirl, you know, dude, he's saying that she
don't call him all day how many times? See but that,
But me and you talked about this before that sometimes

(09:21):
the way we've been loved was the wrong way, and
then we make that the way that we understand love
because we really think that. So we started comparing everything
somebody else did. That's why it's bad, Like like, um,
when you compare things to the past, like if somebody
did this this way and this person don't do it
this way, you will find yourself in the fun up position.

(09:41):
And like I always say, well, if I compared to that,
that didn't work. So I hope this motherfucker not doing that.
And I'm not saying that you could have liked that
part of the relationship, right that you liked this that
the third because but that don't mean it really was
good for you. Like me and Red was talking about
some ship. Me and my sister was talking about some
same type of ship when she was like, oh, well,

(10:03):
you know, I want this dude to sleep with me
all the time. And I'm like why, well, who else
he's sleeping with? And I'm like this was recently. I'm like, damn,
I just had this conversation on a podcast and I'm like,
they don't get the intimacy changes. And we've talked about
the intimacy changes and it becomes way, but what if

(10:26):
both parties in the relationship have never really experienced real intimacy,
how do they like, like cope with that ship because
they both of them don't know gratitude. The key is
gratitude the kids to stop overlooking the simple things like
they're nothing. These are still things you're not doing with
everybody else. There's certain things you do with the motherfucking

(10:48):
really funk with that you just don't do with all
the nig and those are the intimate things that you
just overlooked, and you go to the things that a
stranger does to you to show you they like you,
and you're like, well, I need the stranger type of
approval where it's like, you know when when guys usually
like me, they sleep with me, and it's like no,
but then somebody like you, they take care of you.

(11:09):
So but no sailings, jail handing, read bro stuff, shout
out to he came by here, I missed too. Yeah,
I'm to put a mailbox out this motherfucker so you
can drop it off. Bread was heading driving family. Ain't
no criminal right now, right now, So know what I

(11:32):
was stripping off of. Did y'all look at any of
the YouTube videos I sent you? So this movement that's
going down called the Passport Bros. Where it's a bunch
of brothers, And I called him early. I saw, you know,
one of the main guys Zoom to Thailand, Richie Mac.
I saw him probably about a year or two. Yeah,

(11:54):
So I saw him and he was just making these videos.
And I remember seeing the first video where he was like,
you know, he was like, she makes me breakfast, she
folds my clothes, and I was like, and he was
talking in the video about how he was having problems
in the States meeting women to do that, and I'm like,

(12:15):
I never met a woman who didn't cook breakfast or
fold clothes. But I started listening to I started going
down that rabbit hole of passport bros, like going down
that rabbit hole falling, and I'm listening to the dudes
talk about like these foreign women and comparing them to
the you know, the sisters here American women, and I

(12:37):
just was thinking to myself, like, damn, women ain't doing
this simple shift for y'all. Like they was like, yeah,
she's so pretty. And I'm like, I ain't never bust
no bad looking at as women in the States. They
ain't never had no women. The women in the States
they want to get over a year, so they're gonna
talk to this is the women here in America. But

(13:00):
the women that she's meeting that they're meeting, the foreign
women they want to come, want to come here, they
want to get married and come here. So they're gonna
talk to a negative look like you gotta also remember
what did you just say that? But I say, I
like said she said it, and it sound when the

(13:22):
man said. But I was thinking to myself, like, yeah,
maybe as these dudes look strange or they're strange guys
or something. No. I have a friend that Um. I
make jokes with him all the time, like Nigga, I
know you're going to the Philippines to get you a
pride that ship all the time, like why are you
doing over there? Because he go over there by himself

(13:43):
a quick trip Like okay, what you doing over there? Right?
We cloud him all the time about that. What's crazy
is in two thousand and fifteen, right fourteen and fifteen,
I was planning to move to South Africa, really but
I was gonna move there in two thousand and sixteen,
and uh, I was gonna buy uh my boy c

(14:04):
Will Rock Slanger from from over g Do Solid super
rep Um. He was showing me all these bomb mass
places in South Africa and I was looking at these,
like these condos on the beach for like seventy eight
thousand on the beach, and I'm like, yo, I could
move here. The internet is popping. I could do my
stuff from there and record music and meet African women

(14:27):
and chill and go to the African places, just be
a crip in Africa. I had this start like I
can go be a cripp in Africa. I mean all
my Western African homies to my Nigerian homies. They was like, yo,
South Africans don't really funk with other Africans. Like they
was like, really, tell me about how prejudice it was. Man,
it's crip like, you know, this criping is good everywhere.

(14:48):
So I was planning to go there, and I guess
I didn't think about the women as a primary thing.
I started living on the beach in Africa would be
solid for somebody of African descent. You feel you can
make some dope music, like I had it planned out,
But I never thought the women was my thought of

(15:10):
moving anywhere. And as I start falling down the whole
of all of these people that are talking about traveling,
you know what I mean, they was like married. The
thing was called like okay, I'm not gonna deny cost
of living was important, but the women, Yeah, that's like Brazil. Mary.
I heard, you know people will go to Brazil. The

(15:32):
go to Brazil because the women is going down downs everywhere. Yeah,
but I guess I don't know. We're gonna say. I
can't speak for them. They must be a little easier
to crack. I just think that it's a mutual situation.
They wanted that's going to do? You know what I mean,
what they want or whatnot? What could they want? That's

(15:53):
so crazy? Like what am I missing that? Sisters here
don't do. I'm gonna be honest with you right now.
Have a voice. I was about to say that, but
a lot of sisters are like they got a voice.
They really they depended. They're gonna say, yeah, they really independent.
They're not them saying the foreigners they're not gonna speak
up too much. Oh yeah, they're not because they want
they they're gonna do whatever. They're gonna say, yes, yes,

(16:16):
Do y'all think that's more feminine? What do you mean
like because that is considered submission? Do y'all feel like
that's more feminine? Like foreign women would be more feminine
to y'all because you'll always have something to say? Does
that represent all of us? Have there's a lot of
submissive That's what I'm saying in here. So no, but
I'm so am I they don't have because they don't have,

(16:39):
but they're they're not looking for um citizenship. Yeah, but
so you think the foreign women are acting right because
they hope if you marry them, and yes, why wouldn't
they of course, yes, So you don't think they genuinely
just like these guys. No, No, they don't say maybe

(17:01):
they grow into I think maybe they can grow in
love with them. For her actually did that with his wife.
With his wife, his wife is um, she's Chinese, I believe.
I'm sorry if she's not, just to say Asian. Um.
And they met when she was I don't know. I'm

(17:25):
not trying to. I can't remember this, says okay, whatever,
that's the most racist way to say, because you have
orient It's like you got an Oriental rug. But it
was really I don't know, but I just know that
I could tell by their interaction and everything and um,

(17:46):
how he was telling me how they met and stuff.
I'm like, oh, like, it was just really weird. And
she's very yes, sure, would you need me to get
this for you? And but it's also a culture of
how they raised That might have been her culture, because
I know my my sister in law, she always says
that she was raised to do a cater to you

(18:09):
know what I mean, or a man in the house.
In the house. That's not how all women are raised. No,
that's not how all women are raised. You never your
mom when your dad would come around, would never be
like get this for your dad. Oh yeah, But I remember.
It's so funny because I remember when I was younger,
I used to tell my uncle's and all them like,

(18:31):
I'm not getting a man like you, cause you'll just
I'm not about to be Um. It's so funny because
I'm not about to be making plays and cooking dinner
and go do this. And I was younger, why because
I felt like they were just bossing them around, like
telling them what to do. You know what I'm saying,

(18:51):
I'm young. I'm not understanding like, Okay, this is a
a partnership, you know, a benefit or whatever. My into
like he would be in the studio or like in
the back where his boys and all this, and my
aunt I would see her like doing all this stuff,
or he'll be like calling her like can't weary, this
can't bear that. And I'm like, I'm not kidding though, man,

(19:13):
he's a laugh. When I get older, I don't want
a man like you. But you know what, though, my
you know, I think y'all was both raised to do
the same for men, especially like your father and my grandmother,
and um, so what went wrong went wrong? What we're
wrong to where you feel like because I don't think

(19:35):
that I should. I don't have a problem with one
of those things. But we were talking about the past
more bros. How they said they're not able to meet
women that will do this, this, this and that. Well
he was like, she cooks me breakfast. He ain't going
in the right, he ain't looking right. I mean, you got.

(19:56):
I mean, it's just there's there's women that I don't
I don't make my man breakfast every day. I make
him food. I do, but he's not like a breakfast person.
But I can't say every day I'm making breakfast. This woman,
she's not missing a day probably unless don't you why
do you miss a day because I might just not

(20:18):
want to feel like doing it that day, or maybe
I just I don't know, I just didn't do it.
But that's crazy because but I but I still make
sure he eats. Because I was gonna say that's like
with my like with my children, like okay, I gotta
make I gotta get up and cook them dinner and
make them breakfast. So you feel more indented to make
your children breakfast then your dude. No, I'm saying when

(20:40):
they were younger, I did that. I cooked dinner, always
make sure I cooked dinner. But I mean, I guess
maybe because I wasn't a breakfast person. And I another
reason why I didn't make breakfast because I was always
gone in the morning, Like you know what I'm saying,
I would leave, like to leave for work or you know,
now I'm home. But I don't know. I just don't

(21:02):
make it every day. I don't. I don't make breakfast
every day. On the weekends I do. I don't know.
Why would you not a lot of time? And I
think I've told you this before, and we talked about
this about making place. How don't you actually feel like
this is like why would you not want it? I
don't get that, Like I don't get why a man
don't want to take care of his old lady. I

(21:25):
don't get how you could not want to take care
of somebody I do. It's just sometimes, you know, but
it's even then, it's like that's the best time to
do it when you're tired, because it is more gratifying,
like you're like, oh I got through this, Like today,
I'm like, is it just lazy, I'm tired at that time. Yeah,

(21:48):
but I'll why am I spoiled? I'm not. I'm asking.
I'm not really accusing you. I'm really thinking about this,
Like you have the ability to make your husband breakfast
every morning, and you're like, well, I just don't do it,
and I just do it on the week. Why that
is not how? No, I said, I don't do it

(22:09):
every day, but I make his lunch in his dinner
and pack his lunch every day. Do that just he
remember he he gets up at four, I will send
I guess like I'll send a breakfast sandwich to work.

(22:29):
It's just he leaves at to thirty. He doesn't always
eat in the morning, so that you know, I wasn't
really doing breakfast. And at the same time, we've been
together a year and when we lived together, I didn't
make breakfast in the morning. I make breakfast. She made

(22:51):
breakfast on bread morning. I don't see. This is what
I don't get right, or at least a smoothie. We
want to be in these situations right where we be married,
and I think we all want to individually carve out
our own ways of doing it versus doing what needs
to be done consistently, and I don't get why, because
you're making a good point. He didn't know. I'm not

(23:12):
I'm not, no, no bullshit, I swear, because he was
saying that, like she makes me three meals. Then I'm like, well,
that's not really a big deal. That's a big deal. No,
not not a big deal for a man. I'm sure
man would be graded like is that really a big
deal for a woman to don't think I think that's
a big he had to fly tens of thousands of
miles to find a woman or anybody think about that.

(23:35):
But why do you need gays? Is she working full
time though? Or is she just taking care of it?
I think she is just take care of that. But
he was saying that was a problem here and even
America for someone not to work and to be able
to because being a homemaker, that's a job, you know what,
it's a it's a job. Yeah, I'm not gonna lie.

(23:58):
I would love to stop not work in just being
a homemaker. I love it. I don't believe that I do,
because this is why I struggle to believe that that's true.
Right now, I'm not saying I'm sure you would love
to not work. Okay, I'm sure, I'm sure, for sure
you would love to not work. Yeah, I'm sure you
don't want the pressures of working and bringing home a check.
But I don't still think you would make breakfast every morning.

(24:20):
I don't think that's nothing to do with work, and
I think it's just a desire. And I'm really trying
to understand if you know that, because you know it though,
if you know that, because there's some morning, there's those
mornings where I'll wake up and I'll be like, like
I want to get up, like make breakfast, do all that,
like I want to do it. But probably because there's

(24:40):
been times where I'm like, well, I know he don't
eat breakfast, but I'm sure he wouldn't be like so
and I don't eat breakfast, but I should start Just
when I think that's my point, I think, so just
start doing it. You're because of you, Like I don't
get what I'm saying, brit Is, And I'm not really
giving your ship. I'm really thinking because I'm thinking, why
would just need a travel ten thousand miles to me
the woman to do something that a woman right here

(25:01):
would do? And you said, like his game is whack,
And I'm thinking to myself, it's like, why would you
need game for a woman to show out as a woman.
That's what I'm saying because those type of like what
I mean is he may not even have the right conversation.
You need to have conversation for a woman to be
a woman. You want to you want, you want, you
want to say, yeah, I mean over there, But you

(25:29):
don't understand that I was just talking about this on
the record. I just did about snitching. But people keep thinking, well, yeah,
Nigga's niggas ain't staying lord nothing. You know, they're snitching.
And I'm like, oh, you know, nigga ain't here to
do time for nobody else. That's not what snitching is about.
Snitching is a personal accountability, right as you did something

(25:53):
and then you want to tell on someone else to
not be held accountable for your own ship. Right. So
it has nothing to do with loyalty. You don't got
to be loyal to your friend, be loyal to your character.
Be a man, right, just like a woman right where
you If you're saying that, right, you're like, well, he
meeting the wrong woman. What's the wrong woman? And she's
a woman like what type of what type of woman

(26:14):
you need to meet that really wants to show out
at being a nurturer. You know what I'm saying, Like,
I don't get quiet nurturer like my friend. Okay, so
my friend, that's her. She's a nurturer. Every woman is
a nurturers. Literally, your she's no, she's cooking the three

(26:36):
meals a day. This is before he even she loves
but exactly, and so she loves doing those things, like
that's just in her. But women don't want to be
that's why would you? But that's my point? Why would
you not know? That's like a man that doesn't know

(26:57):
how to take out the track? Why would you not
learn how to cook? Like? True, why would you be
my daughter? Why would you be black and not know
Billy Jean? Like why would you? Why would you exist
in certain spaces where these are pretty much cardinal ideas,
Like I'm not saying a woman shouldn't work. Let's say
a woman does want to work. I expect Oprah to

(27:18):
know how to fucking cook. I'm gonna funk how much
money she got. How the funk would you not know
how to cook? You are a bringer? You are a
bringer of life. See, Look, I don't want to I'm opposite.
I wouldn't want to be the homemaker. I'm good at
all this. I'm not even talking about being a homemaker.

(27:39):
I'm not saying a woman should want to be a homemaker.
I'm saying, how would you not want to know? How?
I agree with? How don't you brush up on being
a nurturer? Like I understand where we're in a space
whereas genders or gender ro but you literally can have
a baby that lets you know you may have to
be responsible for feeding somebody. How don't you prepare yourself

(28:03):
for that? That's like a man that don't got no hands.
You may in this lifetime if you have a kid,
become a protector. How are you gonna look if you
can't protect this little dude or this little lady. There's
some there's a lot of men and women there weren't
raised to understand that concept of But I don't And

(28:28):
that's what I'm saying. But I don't know if that's true. Man,
I genuinely think I don't. I think that's a very
minute few. But I think there's a not like you,
there's a natural resistance to it based off how you
view the world. But so it was how you were,
what you interpreted, how you felt what you were UM

(28:53):
taught you know what I'm saying as far as like
like you you frowned upon your auntie, right, he's look
at Monty going to get that stuff. Why is that
a frown at that time? It was for me. So
what I'm trying to get to that point at that
time because that's when they just being a little bossy
kid like, because I doubt I doubt you would feel

(29:18):
that way if a nigga ran up it was talking
crazy auntie and y'allco stepped up and knocked his ass.
I don't think, like why he gotta take her face?
She should let her take her own face. Yeah, but
I didn't see see, I didn't see a lot of um,
a lot of them like being lovy like you know,
say kissing or hugging or anything. I just seen my

(29:39):
aunt and you know, just doing all these things. You
know what I'm saying. I'm just saying, like you didn't
understand what's loving him? Yeah I didn't as a twelve
year old mind, you think loving is kissing and fucking
you still kind of not kissing her and I say no.
I did not say kissing her. I was gonna probably
say no. I was probably gonna say getting things like

(30:01):
I would see, Like I'm like dang, Like she even
on her feet all day. She we we had a
flat and she changed the tire. Not she called my uncle,
but we were on the side of around, remember because
a THEO. Anyway, it's so I'm like dang, and she
not to change of tires like girl term like what

(30:22):
like I It's just she was super woman And I
didn't see the like her reaping any like benefits, like
she wasn't getting a massage or like she wasn't able
to just kind of like you know and so and see.
And this is why I think it's incomplete. See, when

(30:42):
you truly mature as an adult, right, when you truly
hit the space, and it's hard for y'all, y'all may
not never hit it as women, right because and I'm
not talking ship, I'm really saying, your natural nature is
very insatia. It's not very insatiable. It's it's you have
a constant desire and it's going to constantly alter. That

(31:04):
sounds a bit chauvinistic, but it's not it's true. That's why, like,
what have you done for me lately? All of these
songs were made by women that are close to fourty
years old. You know what I'm saying that that pretty
much been the theme of their love, right, So when
you see it that way, right and you're like, oh, well,

(31:25):
that's him loving her, that's her loving him. Right, So
when you're saying he's not getting anything, her gift was
her loving him. She loving someone is the gift, not
being loved. That's the confusion to being love is not
the gift, because you really can't tell if somebody being loved,
like you can think loving is buying you something. And

(31:46):
then that's why a nigga could suck you over really
bad because he buying you ship and you think that's love.
Loving someone is all personal gratification truly when it's done correctly,
and I know that to be true. Like when you
love somebody, that is the gratic to buying them. The
gift is the is the present to you, not the
present they get back to you, but buying them the present.

(32:08):
You see one of those types of people and it's
not even about them receiving. I don't got to see
them happy me picking it, knowing that I'm thinking about
this person is the whole thing. Yeah, that's because I
think it's important to be like you. I like getting
to what you. I know that they you know what
you would like or what can make something better in

(32:30):
your life. But see love love like love is just weird,
like like I can't really give you love. I can
show you it. I can't give it to you because
I don't know how you were. So the showing part,
that's where I'm saying, like, that's where I like to, Okay,
give me a give me a kiss, let me like.
But but it's not about but that's the point of

(32:51):
So that's what I saw. So even like the love language, right,
people can speak to different languages. That don't mean they
can't effectively communicate. People just have to decide to a
herp with somebody else's language. And it ain't always about
somebody loving you the way you want to be loved.
It's about somebody loving you. You know what I'm saying, Like,
if you can get somebody to love you, even it

(33:12):
may not be Let's say your love languages gifts. Let's
say his love language is like what he his love
language that he shows is words of affirmation. It would
behoove you to not start to care about how somebody
is trying to love you versus and this is how
I want to be loved. Love ain't selfish, for sure.

(33:33):
Love ain't selfish, it's for sure selfless. So if you
always worried about yourself, then at that point you're not
really loving nobody. But you know, I don't even think
nobody being love at all. You actually ain't even truly
experiencing how great it is. So that I'm asking and
I'm not. I swear like I know, I give your ship.

(33:53):
Sometimes I'm really not giving your ship. I'm just trying
to say, why would this nigga have to go tends
of thousands of miles. There's a lot of I mean.
And then the other situation, Okay, another I grew up
my grandmother. She was single, she didn't remarry, she ended up,
she had a boyfriend. My grandmother worked. My grandmother like

(34:14):
she did every chance, like you know what I'm saying.
So it was no like for me, like oh I
have to sit and like wait like so I'm just
so used to that. So when I so when I
see or I felt like Okay, these men are being
like like um, like I would be like damn, like

(34:36):
they think that they like own them, like you know
what I'm saying, like this is my what I'm thinking.
You know, I'm young, and then being with um, you know,
my son's father, I'm like, okay, wow, like this is
like too much, like yeah, you know. So yeah, that's

(35:00):
the point though, the way we see it, it's probably
never the way it should go, for sure. I know
I didn't know for a while, a long while, but
but yeah, that's all I'm saying. I just don't get washing.
Brothers will travel ten thou and I'm trying to forgout now,
but that's what I'm saying. What is the right women? Apparently,

(35:22):
whatever it is that they're looking forward, they're not finding
it in here apparently. But I personally feel like I
didn't think that's what it was. That that's the point
I'm making. I just cannot But but but now listen to y'all.
I'm like, Okay, maybe I'm tripping. Maybe women here are,
but like I said, they probably don't probably no one
wants to. I mean, they probably don't like him, ain't

(35:43):
very like they not really like swaggered out to be like,
what is that? But what is? Because you keep going
to the woman because as women, we like that ship.

(36:03):
Come on, keep that ship real. We like that ship.
We like a man? What confidently? And I love myself?
That's not that's not That's not what I'm saying. What
do you mean? How do I like myself? You just
asked me about the man. We're not going into myself
now because you because you keep I'm not asking you
about the man. I'm asking you. You mean to tell
me that women only act a certain way depending on

(36:25):
the man named. That's what you just said. How do
I say that? Because you said because I'm gonna tell
you how say you just said to me? I was like,
they not mean well them type of niggas. What does
that have to do with the type of woman that
that like? A woman is a woman to a woman
is a woman. I'm the same type of nigga, no
matter what type of grill it is. That's you because

(36:46):
I'm me for real, listen to what I'm saying. I'm
not me based off the type of woman you're saying.
They're meeting certain type of men because they like me
and to be what they're meeting women, and the women
they're meeting, they're having bad experiences. So what I'm asking
you or they're not getting even the chance to In

(37:10):
the conversation, the one of them said he was married,
So you mean to tell me women or women because
that's who they are, Like, you're not the type of
woman you are, because we don't know if she maybe
he she left him. I'm not saying I'm not I'm
telling you he's complaining, right. He said he's traveled thousands
of thousands of thousands of miles to meet a woman,

(37:33):
and he's bragging about her because she cooks three times
a fucking day. I mean, like you said, why the
would you travel? And now I'm starting to luck apparently
whatever reason why, I don't know. I think it has
more to do with the what she said, them girls
getting to ship. But no, but I don't think before

(37:57):
I don't what country was that. I mean, American women
know they are going to cook three times a day.
They really that culture. They were raised to to do that.
So what were you Listen, this is what what we
and not every woman was raised to do that. What
were you raised to do? If you wasn't raised to

(38:18):
be a woman. What were you raised to do, like
to nurture. I'm just saying nurture because this is about nurturing.
I'm not even saying that gender roles are staying at home.
I'm not even that. I'm saying, how do you get? It?
Just doesn't mean they don't want to cook three times
three meals? But but how would you not? Like we
don't know, because you're American women, why would you not?

(38:41):
So maybe you were raised to be what I was
raised to be a woman. So then why the funk
would you not cook three meals a day, no matter
what the nigga is, because you might be working, might
not because they have to do those things. Now there,
she's home all day, glasses, I'm at work. That's an

(39:02):
answer class. I couldn't cook breathfast I was at work.
Uh yeah, I can make lunch. I mean we packed that.
I was at work. So but that's not what we're saying.
He's saying, Okay, so like he really that was a
flesh A lot of that sent me. The man was

(39:22):
like bragging, like this dress that the woman had on
was four dollars. Maybe showed his four dollar dress. Don't
that ship look good on her. He say she was happy,
yeah with the dress, with the dress because she wasn't materialistic. No,
but that's not how and that's how in there, And
you don't think that's a fracture at that point for
y'all that y'all materialistic if you just if it really

(39:44):
comes down to the price of an item, that is,
if you are if the dress looks good and you're
worried about the price of it, then yeah you are.
I mean it is dress like if yo if like,
y'all do best start buying you outfits? But he all
of them was nice though they were nice outfits, but
he not buying you expensive person. Is he not buying
you none of the design and stuff. He just buying

(40:04):
you clothing and they're nice. I'm a wearried you really
believe that that's what you're gonna be? What you mean?
Do you know there's you could rock and look what
you're being proud of it? Would you show it off
like how she was? No? I mean, like look my
guy got in the video. Hey, I mean I get

(40:27):
dollar dresses showing it offs different, But that now that's
just a little nah, I think na. So is there
a real conversation to be happy about y'all being kind
of like funked up and spoiled as women. I mean,
not funked up in the sun up since but like
you're so far away from the essence of actually what

(40:48):
love is and the simplest forms that you just so
driven by capitalism that the dress needs to be a
thousand dollars for you to see love you versus he
buying your address. That's just nice that he definitely not know.
So you don't cook three breaths because you don't feel
like it. No, God, you're not gonna flost this dress.
So y'all making foster dress. I was telling her about

(41:12):
how she let's me get my work done. Stop really
really like, he's like this, he has to come out
there them over there, And that's what I'm saying videos,
That's what I'm saying. No, but I'm saying, but what

(41:33):
you're saying to me, It's starting to be like, but
how wright is this naked? No man, is it? How
right are you flying? Do you need to go to glasses?
I have no idea because I never I never met
a woman that I thought wouldn't cook three meals a day. Now,

(41:53):
women what I've never I've never in my life met
a woman that I didn't think wanted to cook three
meals a day. I've never been around I'm long enough.
I first off, I've really never until recently been around
women to see if they would cook three meals a day.
I'm not used to spending twenty four hours with people.
Got you, I got you, I get what you're saying.

(42:15):
So I'm saying I genuinely most women I've ever interacted with,
we'll cook three meals a day. I mean, let's stay
were just young. It just didn't have to cook at
that time. But it all honestly, man, come on, g like,
you know, there's plenty of good women that's after that
are about nurturing for exactly my man, they my mom

(42:39):
was making three meals, she's still making like a thing
of the pass. I just think a lot of women
are more more independent, They got more What is that?
What is that? Because trying to stop me when I'm
saying something, because I need to get what independent mean?
What does that mean? I'm saying, like they're really into
I can do it all myself and I don't need

(43:00):
to do anything or need anyone to do anything like
an adult. Why do you have a title for being
an adult? Because all adults take care of themselves. Okay,
but we're talking about Wait, because we're not talking about
a woman that's independent. You don't want to be independent
in the relationship. No, I'm just I'm just because I

(43:23):
gotta get No, I'm gonna change you. Why hold up?
Because listen, No, listen because because it's hard to move.
Sometimes we say so much bullshit and I'm not talking
about you. I'm saying the ship we say like being
an independent woman? What the funk is that? So I
can know before we move forward, because that way we
can either have a full understanding or we can stop
saying silly ship. So what is an adult? Are we

(43:46):
saying an adult woman who provides for themselves is an
independent woman? Well, because, like you just said, most people
try to equate that you have to have a husband
and so it so what so what single adult women?
Well because because because I would imagine I could see

(44:08):
if we're saying an independent woman is a woman in
a relationship, she's gonna pay half of the bills, She's
gonna pay half of the deals when they go out.
Sometimes she's gonna pay the dating bill. That's an independent woman,
and that's the woman that we're talking about. No, we're
not talking about a woman in a relationship. We're talking
about a single adult woman who provides for themselves. Yeah,
but we're can we stop using the term independent woman?

(44:29):
And that's about those men. But those men were probably
those were the women they were in the relationship. How
do we know that they're the women aren't paying the
bills and you know, doing at things that he's not doing.
It is a proud thing. So no, I don't think
most women are in a relationship proud that they're Like,
you're not proud that you have a job. I am.

(44:51):
I like my job. I didn't say that you you
wouldn't be there. I'm going to I love going to work.
If I the choice, I would still go there. I'd
be right here making music right now. I love what
but I and I want to do it. You, on
the other hand, you would not want to do it.
This job, not this job. But so you said you

(45:15):
wouldn't want him because to pay everything, that's what you're saying. No,
you don't want him to know. I don't need him. No,
I don't want to ask you need him to. I
want my man to. That's what that god damn hands.
So you mean to tell me you don't want somebody
to cover all your expenses really honestly on everything else,

(45:41):
because I know Brick gonna tell it to. So really
you don't want a man? And is it because you
fear that he thinks he controls you? Is it all
your insecurities Because you mean to tell me you don't
want as a fucking adult woman, you don't want somebody
to take care of all your ship he covers your
expenses your day, I'm not of course you do. That
would be fucking heaven for you. The only reason you

(46:04):
feel like it wouldn't because you feel like he would
have some like you have insecurities about how it would go.
In the back of your mind. Man Nick might be
trying to control me and control the money and telling
me this and that and silly ship not that. Like
if it was really just he put you at a
group account and he came and put it in, he
took care of the business, and you just did what
you did and he did what he did and it
was all him, you would not have a problem. You

(46:24):
just think it comes with other ship that's all, and
that's cool because that's kind of something is do some
niggers feel like they throw their power around like that's
not me, my power up top and it ain't really
in my pockets for me. Like that's why I say so,
I look at somebody like them, and I'm like, oh,
that would be the challenge. She's not gonna cook three times.
She's gonna be cooking three times to day. Fun with me.

(46:46):
I'm a breaker breaker like in the Dice game. Now,
I'm not gonna be you need to cook three meals
a day, but she gonna notice that. You know what,
I think this nigga might like if I cook three
meals a day. I just don't stand why she wouldn't
like that like a nigga like, I get it when
niggas can't afford to cover the mortgage or the rent.

(47:09):
It bothers me though, when niggas don't want to m hm.
So I don't know some nigga like she did here too,
now now I get it. See niggas also insecure, like
sometimes like girls to that point too, they say that
because they can't They just scared to say, hey, I

(47:29):
can't cover that all by myself. So it's like, well
she did here too. It's like, what I mean, you
want her to pay to split the mortgage with you?
You want her to split it with you. I'm saying that,
and that's how I feel as a woman. You mean,
you don't want to feed your nigga three times today.
Now I can see if you can't, if time permits,
blah blah blah, But you don't. That's not something you

(47:50):
you aspire to do. Like as a man, you don't
aspire to protect your old lady, Like if it's nigga
ran up and shitty somebody wanted to fail you, like,
you don't aspire to go knock that nig out in
front of your lady, Like that's not what you want
to happen. And that's my issue is where I don't
know if it's a desire anymore. And that's what I'm

(48:12):
saying about these brothers, Like I'm looking at it like
so I can't personally use me because all this ship
he talking about to me is just a challenge. I'm
not going nowhere and I'm not fine way over there
to dude, none of that. I need my sister as
black as the night. But I understand of other brothers
for me like, I don't want to challenge. I just

(48:34):
need her to fold over and do it. Because the
stuff he was talking about, we're so simple. Shout out
to Richie Matt because I really dig his content. Um.
But it was just weird. He's like, she makes me breakfast,
she makes me grits. She I was like, grits. I'm

(48:55):
teaching how to make pancakes and she fries chicken and
ties no how to and I'm like, God, but listen,
he could have found that here my brothers listen. But
if you don't, Nigga's like grids, you are fucked up.

(49:16):
I'm not. This ain't bad it, trust me, man if
Yo Nigga ain't learning how to change tires. That's a problem. Yo,
Nigga should not have to change lightbulbs tires. Feel me
put ship together or take it to Walmart to have
them do it. It's certain things as a man you

(49:36):
should aspire to be and just like a woman, you
should aspire to be every sense of a nurturer. I'm
not saying a woman who doesn't set at home, I'm not.
I don't care if you want a job, cares nobody
said you gotta be barefoot and pregnant, which I don't understand.
What's so bad about that? You ain't can't you can't
carry it yall? That's why you don't understand that. I

(49:57):
don't know, because I just doubt that I want to
do a lot of ship. If I was prayed it,
i'd be wanting to chill, like I don't want to
do nothing. You're not gonna work still, I gotta work,
that's what. So what's wrong with nik? I don't want
to go nowhere where I'm going because of that reason
right there. So I don't get the concept of barefoot

(50:17):
and pray. I don't get like I get the shot
at it. But it's like, what do you want to do?
And I think there's this weird desire that people think
being hoeing hoeing is it? So they feel like hoing,
like really going out being in people's face, over socializing,
socializing for no purpose, to drinking, not actually selling vagina,

(50:39):
but like going to the club just to be in
people face, just to get fake affirmation of desire that's temporary,
and then you just live with it. Like that's a
lot of things that we call fun that's what we
You know, you tell your kids, don't you don't want
to get into a serious relationship right now. You need
to have your fun, enjoy life. That's what that means.
Because you can do the same ship married whatever, you
can go out and do ship. You could do all

(51:01):
the same ship. The one thing you can't do is
that ship. So we think that that makes some sense
of fun. And I just didn't understand it. But back
to the point, it's like, I don't understand why my
fucker traveled three thousands of thousands of miles to be
the woman. And I was thinking this bit from the
do backflips or something. Its like she cooks me breakfast,

(51:26):
but she cooks me breakfast, she doesn't bother me. I
finished my work, I'm like, dam I'm a bit. Won't
let you finish your working Where they're stopping, he was
like showing him like, hey, we just went to this
restaurant and we only spent this much money. And it
was like like basically showing like y'all can come up
here and live like a he got a whole movement. No,

(51:47):
it's a whole movement. Come out here for all of me. Crazy.
All things look crazy, look I'm not. I'm not. I'm
not the handsomest nigga. But the Lope has got the
has a glow that makes the loaf work, said the
low No, it strimps. I'm not like you know. I mean,
I'm not but the Lope But for me, I know

(52:09):
my glow but I don't. I was looking in there, Yeah,
I was looking. They had an episode where they was
in the Motherfucker's Spot doing with Thiland and it was
just a bunch of crazy looking niggers with crazy looking
tied with him, like, oh, these bitches ain't even fine.
He looked like a weirdo. Don't do that, my boy, chie,
let me tell you. But you know with the bullshit,

(52:32):
that's what I do know. That's cool because he wasn't
make him three meals or let him finish this work
she might make. Would you make him grit? She makes
me grit. I can't believe it's going to find a brite.
I don't know how to man it was here you
to find a woman who know how to make something else.

(52:55):
We didn't get to the bottom of it yet, but
it's something else. It is continue it is into You
don't know that though, what could be. I don't change
a woman for being a woman. Oh, I'm just saying
he might because he's not here. The interest is not here.

(53:15):
When he went over there one woman because she was
like a woman did everything? Yes, but what woman don't
won't do everything? Woman don't just want to just do everything?
What are you talking about? We're talking because she went
over there. Yeah, I mean he went over there. I said,
why would a woman not want to do everything? She
probably was doing everything here, but it just didn't work out.

(53:38):
So he went over there and he said, oh, I
don't have but you said it didn't work out. See
that's not true. You see, that's my issue. He said
that he wasn't getting these things, that's why he was
who brags about it? And he was married though, so
did he have any So is he bashis off with
just this marriage? You know? He was meeting different girls
and he was like the sisters overre com playing too much.

(53:59):
And I know he was for sure talking about how
they was materialist because America does breed capitalism and he
was with a black woman. I don't know woman, that
could be true. I gotta see. This is what I'm saying,
Like we don't know we can get to the bottom
of it. If these guys are thousands of miles, I'm
not saying they like I've seen them. They are very

(54:21):
different and unique characters for sure. Like I don't what
I'm saying, but that still shouldn't stop a woman from
being a woman. Now I can see why I don't. Last,
let's stop her from talking to him. But what are
you talking about? It just depends what type of woman. Yeah,
that's true. Let's leave it there. Good looking out for

(54:44):
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