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Glasses Malone discusses traditional concepts in relationships. Can you be a good woman if you don't know how to cook? Can a man be considered a provider if he's proving the same things as his partner? Tune in a listen to the perspectives of the No Ceilings crew and join the conversation in the socials below.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Watch up and welcome back to another episode and No
Sillers Podcast with your host, not funk that with your
low glasses, Malone. I just don't. I'm really just I
don't like to cook. I cook, but it's not like.

(00:22):
Some people really like to go in the kitchen. It's
very therapeutic to them. They really like it. Like me,
I just don't do it. It's not about cooking, right,
It's about feeding your family. That's why I do it. Yeah,
but how don't you like that? Then? I didn't say
I don't like to feed my family. I said I
don't like to cook. Then how do you expect to

(00:43):
feed your family if you don't love the thing I
feed your I don't like to cook, but I do
like to feed my family. I don't like to pay
bills that I have to pay bills. No, that's different.
That's like a man saying he don't like to pay
Else imagine says you want you should want to like.

(01:03):
How don't you desire that? That's like the truth. I don't.
I'm sorry, I don't like to cook. I don't like
to cook. I don't. I just don't like. I'm not like,
I don't like to cook. I just I don't know.
It's like a guy like I don't want to protect you.
I don't like to protect. They like it. It's good.

(01:25):
I just I don't like to protector. I don't want
to take care. I don't. I don't. I really don't
get whatever lack of that energy. I really just don't.
I'm not saying it. I just don't get it. Sorry,
G I just don't like to cook. I get it.
I just I just don't. You get three meals a day.
I could get probably eight meals a day. Eight meals

(01:47):
a day if that's what I was eating. Okay, I'm
sure he gets about five, at least five. That's what
I definitely don't eat that much. Eat three. You got three.
You get your three meals, and your tooth smacks snap.
Many males, you know, it's funny. I never thought that
that was not something people would like to do. I
thought all Niggers like to take care of their family,

(02:09):
and all women like to nurture their family. I never
in my life thought I would meet human beings. You
are a lie. You are a lot. That's like, there's
a lot of women that don't even know how to cook,
but how they can't even I totally understand that because
they are not women yet. No, there's some grown as women. Know,

(02:30):
there are some grown ass females. The essence as a nurture.
How the fund could you have kids and you don't
know how to prepare a meal? Oh I didn't say
they had kids, what do you? That's my point? Then
they're not even them as girls still because they don't
have kids. Know, I'm saying, they don't have a reason
to grow up, Like, how don't you want to nurture
other human beings as like your mother kids? But you're

(02:53):
earth like. But I'm still a protector, the provider. I
can never think to myself like, oh I don't like
to protect. Nobody said that. You just see it. You like,
I don't like to cook. I like to take care
of my family, like my kids. You don't want to
nurture that. I don't want to would how would do cook?
I just don't like soap? Okay, So if he's like

(03:15):
they go out to dinner, let's go, how to funk
are you dinner? So you want him to do that too?
You want him to take care of the house and
fucking take you to dinner, out to dinner that makes
you more excited than cooking. Yeah, you are understand why

(03:36):
they are going thousands and thousands and thousands and thousands
of mind whatever. They're going thousand thousands of mouth because
don't nobody wants to cook them. No, it's not because
don't nobody wants to cook them. That's why. That is why.
That's why. And they are ridiculous because they just making

(03:57):
black women look bad, like, oh and three meals a
day and they're making black women. You just literally said
you would prefer say that I don't do it. That's
not the ploy. That's not how don't you like it?
I don't like it. It's some meals that I do

(04:18):
like to cook. I like to don't know how you
don't like to listen. I do like to cook Mexican food,
but I don't like to cook if I just don't
like to cook it or not. Dang, food is there,
sucking the ship is there and all the time, and
it's breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks, baby food, making baby food

(04:42):
from scratch right now, you feel me, Dang, I can't
express to you. I don't be telling my nigger like
I trust me because no, she just called him, and
so your food is ready, that ship ain't because no,
she did it with love. She got up this morning,

(05:03):
put the roast on and everything like she did it
with love. Give us a break. There are times, you
know what, I give y'all a break like these niggas
a break. Times when I'm likes I hate a gros
and these ory okay, like put in no category. She's

(05:27):
not like me. She liked to do all that type
of stuff. I don't even know why why you should
have been married way, but I could have been married. Girl.
I told you what happened to me. Girl. Can you
know the microphone is picking up you, slapping the table,
bouncing that lighter everything so people will be there? Like,
what the fun is going on? That is Red putting
her foot down about the fact that she's upset. Sorry,

(05:51):
but yeah, no, you know I'm a good woman. What
the fuck? Just because I don't like to cook, don't
mean I'm not good. Don't mean you're not gonna have
a meal. Don't mean you're not gonna have a meal.
It just means I don't like having a good example. Right,

(06:13):
You don't like to work out, but you still work out.
I love to work out. Who loves Oh, it is
a lot of people that love to work out. Working
out its fucking excellent. Boy, you're just lazy if you
don't like it. If you don't like it, Okay, yeah,
I guess that's it. It's not fun. Of course it's fun.

(06:36):
It's not fun. It's not Why would working out be fun?
Is it fun to you? Let's keep it one hundred?
Is it fun? Listen? The only time I have results
is fun? No, no, the only time I have working
out when I did the boxing? How are the results?

(06:57):
How are the results fun? Because there's out of fun
things that the results well, so attention see that's see.
This is my point. And this is what I was
saying about people seeing you because you worked out, and
I was supposed to be talking about my man like mega, please,

(07:21):
it's fun? What's fun? Like? Okay, say you work out
and then um, you know you're getting the results that
you want, and you're starting to feel a little more sexier,
more confident, and you know, you guys are having a
little bit more like um intimacy and it gets fun

(07:41):
because you're is that what you really think? Do you
really think that's how it worked? Well? I haven't really
worked out, so I was just asking her where she
got that. She tried to flip some bush. I mean,
I don't think I don't like working out. I don't
know what I like. I don't like working out. I
don't like cooking. I put it this way. When I

(08:03):
first started working out, I did not enjoy it, because
of course you're sore and all that achey and all
that crap. But um, once I got into a routine,
I did enjoy it. It was like, Okay, I have
to get up and do it. I felt good at
but when I was doing it, certain ones, but not
everything exactly. Yeah, not everything you like. I hate doing

(08:25):
the core and I hate that, but I do it.
I like boxing, you like it all, you like everything anything.
That's just what it is. So that's what intellectually you
think I would be like. That's just want to disagree
for what what would be the purpose of that? I

(08:45):
don't know. That's just ridiculous. I'm genuinely flabbergasted. What are
you flabbergast that you don't want to do like? I
didn't say I don't like. I didn't say I didn't
want Some dudes, listen, some dudes every man wants to

(09:06):
take care of their woman, even the ones who lie
like oh she lived here too, and want you to
pay rent bills. They want to, they just aren't able to.
So then what they do is they find a way
to pacify you know what I mean, their lack of
and whatever they feel is wrong, and say, okay, So
I'm then the man in this because this seems acceptable.

(09:27):
But I don't know a man breathing air that don't
want to take care of his old lady. And what
I'm saying, I mean, pay the mortgage right, pay the bills.
I don't know a man who doesn't want to do
that or doesn't or doesn't like to. Now if they
can't afford to is different. That's where they start to

(09:49):
make excuses and reason. And we have problems. M Well,
because I don't like to cook. I don't like to cook.
Let me. I like to make tacos. She said, tacos?
You do make good? Do I make good Mexican food?

(10:10):
Passive saying that tacos is fine? Look, no seilings, Jim
Red's happening. Look, I don't have much to say. What
you mean, you don't have much to say? I really
don't have much to say about it, because it's like,

(10:31):
at the end of the day, it's like, what can
I really say? Like and you know, like, I don't
know how you could consider yourself a good woman if
you don't like to cook. I didn't say that I
don't cook that woman. Okay, she she doesn't like to
cook or whatever, but she always makes sure that you're

(10:52):
fed and it's good food. It doesn't matter that she
didn't cook. What if she didn't know how to cook?
And why would you not learn how? Like how could
you walk to I was gonna say, if you didn't
know how to cut, you shouldn't learn how to click.
If you have to feed, that means you just didn't
fucking learn. There are so many opportunities to learn how.
And that's specifically not but get what you're saying. Look,

(11:14):
I was My mother had me in the kitchen that
like you or my grandma had me picking like green
beans and stuff when I was a kid, like learning
how to do stuff like that. And so I mean
some people they do teach you. How do y'all feel
about rent splitters? Dude that want to split the rent
with you? Honestly, I know y'all in a deep bond

(11:34):
because you like saying I don't like to cook or don't,
but don't answer from that because it would really be
tacky and everybody gonna smell that you lying. So I
need you to find a space to be honest, even
if you think it's going to sound weird. How do
you feel about that? Do you feel like you know
what I'm saying? Like you can marry a man who
you split the rent with yea for the rest of

(11:58):
your life. I mean, why not we in it together?
I don't. I don't know what do you respect about man?
I was like, okay, what I respect about man? Of
course a man I could take care of his family?
I mean, but really taking care of his family if
if y'all I believe so, he's able to provide something.

(12:19):
It's not like he's coming in there and not providing anything.
But wouldn't it be y'all taking care of the family
at that point? I mean, yeah, true, But that doesn't
mean that he's not providing anything. I'd be different if
he came he can't can't. Um, do you consider that
person a provider if they only provide what you're providing? Like,
wouldn't that make your providers will, Yeah, that would make

(12:40):
me a provider as well. But do you really I
wouldn't knock that. I wouldn't knocked that. I mean, okay,
I only live I only live with one guy. And
the guy that I lived with, he did take care
of the rent, but I took care of the bills
and then I, um, you know, I bought the groceries
and stuff like that. But so but he wanted to

(13:02):
make sure that I want to finished school and stuff
like that. But I was thinking a little different. What
if he was like, yo, we lived together, you live
here too, so we should split ittift? Oh no, I'll
probably be like, dang, why I gotta pay rent? But me,
I don't know. I've never been that situation. I wouldn't

(13:25):
want I wouldn't want it, Like what do you Okay?
So if he had it, but yeah, no, like you
know where we we go, Dutch, I'm gonna cook you
gonna last show. I just told you I I would
want a man to take care of me like I
would would love it. But I'm not saying that that's

(13:45):
all I would need, like I would be okay. But
if if I had that, I'll be good too. I
don't know ship because that never really I just think
there's a problem like where we That's probably not true.
Why do you think that what you respect about me
and is rooted? Like let's say if a dude was
giving you ship right and he couse was bullying like

(14:08):
he was on you, and then your nigga tried to
fight him, and then your nigga got mopped up and
he kept working with you, and your nigga was beat up,
knocked out? What you mean sucking with me? He just
like flirting with you or being a little inappropriate touching you,
and your nigga try to fade him, and then your
nigga get mopped up. Okay, that's different though, that's a

(14:29):
little bit different, is it? Like he tried, he stood
up to try to protect and he got knocked out,
damn like mocked up, and then nigga was on you.
I wouldn't even I wouldn't. I couldn't that dude, not
the guy, but not my dude. But I couldn't work
with that guy that was flirting with me. But probably

(14:51):
how do you feel about you? Let me shut up,
but how do you feel about your dude at that point? Dang?
I wouldn't. I gonna be honest with you all, probably Damn, damn,
you just funked up. That's like I remember that time
I went to it. I can't even say this on
this aird right now, Yes, you can't say it. I
went to this um this concert with this guy. I

(15:13):
didn't go with him, but we end up seeing each
other there. And I actually saw this nigga get like
picked up, like damn near picked up and moved to
the side, and I was like, oh, ship, you just
let it, just literally took him by dollar and moved.
This was somebody was dating. It was somebody that I

(15:34):
was there together and I was with you. I've seen
him there. What concert was it? You see? That's why
I didn't want to bring it up to you. See,
just you can say it. And we signed and I'm
gonna that. I was like, damn, I couldn't. I couldn't.
Did I see? I just literally watched. You didn't see it.

(15:55):
I told you you was there. Oh damn good you
didn't see that because you have been clowning the whole time.
But you to ask your question, I don't I don't think.
I don't think I could listen. I mean, look, you
ain't gonna win every you know, every fight, you know,
but I understand. Let's say every time you'll get stood up,

(16:17):
that's what every time, every time you try to protect you,
you just get can protect me? So good enough? Still
is he's still like you're like, you know what, I'm
sticking with you because you have a penis that makes
you a man and you don't have to protect me
because he has a penis, right, so that can make
him protector? Like in what since do we look at

(16:42):
these gender roles and when do we actually say okay?
Is it only like uh, like we're saying this today
it's a new day. That that expression when you just
you list a new day, how much of a new
day is it? Is? It? Is it a new day enough?
Where um, you don't care if your man is a
protector for some women it is. I think everybody's lying

(17:06):
when they try to act like they want to evolve.
I think obviously women, right, they want to have as
little accountability as possible. I don't mean that negatively, just honestly,
it's just kind of how it is. But I still
think you want a man to be accountable completely. And
I'll just be thinking about that sometimes. Um so if you,

(17:29):
if you're a girl is cooking, you're getting all your meals,
but she doesn't necessarily like to cook. Are you gonna
feel something like I'd be pretty devastated. What if she
just didn't tell you? Well, then that's smart. Yeah. I

(17:52):
would just wouldn't tell him that, Like like I wasn't
tell him that, like I don't want to come. I
just couldn't imagine I don't like him. I just but
I just couldn't imagine not liking to be I'm telling
y'all that I don't like to cook. My dude, probably
he don't know I don't like to cook. I'm sure
he knows. You know this show he's been new. You

(18:12):
could tell when somebody don't like to cook. But I
don't know. It's a joy if you've been if you
likes to cook, it's a joy about it. I agree
with that because I like when I cook, and that's

(18:33):
what I like about cooking. When I see everybody like, oh,
this is good, like you put, I'll be like, thank you,
I did that, and I like that. I like that
you're happy and you fool I would think that that's
like the ship. But I don't know, man, I'll get confused.
Valentine's Day right and coming up, and I just think

(18:53):
to myself, just like, man, I don't know what's gonna
happen to the future. What about they have to do?
What does that have to do. I'm probably gonna be
laid out. I don't know what be doing, if I
even be, you know, hopefully I'll be doing whatever. But um,

(19:15):
I just was thinking about it, and it's been on
my mind a lot. But the last podcast and different
podcasts and listen to people talking like and I just like,
I have no hope for the future, Like, no hope.
I'm not lying, I have no hopes. I feel like
we're going into a weird space where human beings are

(19:37):
becoming less human, they're becoming more like animals. That the animals,
the dogs are more protected than other human beings. You
have people that really don't like to exemplify, you know,
what we on this earth for? Like, how do you
not like some of these things? That's just crazy to me.
I love it. Do you think that you're on this

(19:57):
earth to have a baby? I think that was definitely
what my situation is unique, y'all? What is it unique?
You haven't had no kids, But it doesn't make you
less than you don't want to have kids? Why? How

(20:18):
could you not be a man and not want to
have kids? How could you not want to leave? How
could you not want to leave your what? How I
can't even have kids? Who said that I can't get pregnant?
You know what? You know what? I can't have kids?
You know what? I'm just saying. What's today? I'm done

(20:41):
with you? How could you be a man and not
want to put your leave your seed? Because I meet
women now who don't want to cook, but you were
put here. That's not too now? So how is it not? So?
Why don't you have How could you be on this
earth and not because for a long time I met

(21:05):
women who didn't like to cook. That's so damn So
that made you not want to have a damn kid?
Who gonna feed my chip? No glasses? You used to
say that you wanted to have a kid, you want
to walk him to school and all that. Yes, because
I thought I was gonna meet a wife, right, women
who liked to cook, but you and be nurturers. And
what I'm not I'm not meeting that. I'm meeting more

(21:27):
women I'm not saying they are not exceeding at being
a parent. I'm saying I'm meeting more women that I
care about selfish and personal things. So if you having
kids is probably the most selfish decision we make in
our life, right, and then it makes you the most
selfless motherfucker. Every reason people have a kid is selfish?
What makes me think I'm so great that I should

(21:50):
leave myself on this earth that you got to be?
I just want to leave a little bit of me left, bitch.
You wasn't that special. But that's what we're here for.
We're here to pass information. So when when you have
a kid, right, your sales pass information to a child.
I'm passing y'all information and the world information. Excuse me,

(22:11):
When you get married, you our intimate it's to have children? Right? No,
what do you mean? No, it's not. That's not what
I'm doing it for. Is that what it's supposed to
be generals for? That? That's so what are you doing?

(22:33):
I'm not Where is the little g? Where is the
little g? You saw many little Jesus? No, no, no, Jack,
where is the where you don't see these niggas? Jack?
In my style? Now you're not knowing what you're supposed
to do. I'm disappointed in you. But the difference is,
I'm not saying I like it too. You said I

(22:55):
don't want to have it. I'm telling you, how do you?
How do you like these? You have a wild when women?
How are you in a relationship and you don't have
no kids and you're having you know, technically your woman
becomes your child. Listen here, you gotta get excited when
you take them to dinner like kids. They want to

(23:16):
tanch you like kids. You gotta watch them like kids.
When you really get your kid, you get it. But
it really is, where is the little g and the
little get man to some of these niggas wrapped? I'm
doing a fantastic job of passing information. But the difference
is it's not because you're It's not about not wanting to.

(23:38):
It's a not desire to. Of course, when I was
when I was twenty No, no, no, you don't that
it's not. But it's not a question of desire. It's
not a question of desire. Is it doesn't make sense
for you to have a kid, but you're supposed to.
Why That's why you bust a nut right is to

(23:58):
have a kid. Sure, so then that person didn't get pregnant.
Mm hmm, it's not my fault. I can't get pregnant
when I was, when I was, when I all the
way until I was twenty three, I just knew that

(24:19):
I was gonna be married with children at really it
was supposed to be. That was my only dream. My
only dream was to be a pharmacist. Go to Zuosa
Pacific and a degree in pharmacy, work at a pharmacy,
open my own pharmacy, have a house in Lakewood Race car,
a wife, a couple of kids. That was my dream. Sick,

(24:41):
that's how compact and small and reasons I had a
house in Lakewood. But the point I'm saying to you
is when you start meeting the opposite sex, that's where
you started being like, your how realistic is this going
to be? How do you well when you meet that?

(25:05):
When you meet the one and you guys, tie the knot.
Now it's time to have a kid, because that's what
you're supposed to Everybody having kids without trying to not
when you gotta go that far, and it's a whole
bunch of women that don't know how to cook and
I feel that. That's my point. That's why they ain't
got no business getting bregnant. It's not just about not

(25:27):
knowing how like I get it if you just don't know,
But how don't you want to learn? Every Man should
learn how to change all your agree with. Every Man
should know how to change the type. Every man should
know how to change the light book, and they should
love it. It's the reason why you exist. Every Man
should take up some level of fisticuffs to know how

(25:49):
to defend your your family. Every man should, especially in America,
you own a pistol if you legally can, and know
how to shoot it, just in case that day comes
when you have to defend your family. These are part
of what make a man a man. Yeah, every man,
I don't get how you don't like to. You know
what's funny? I like to fight. Now. That don't mean

(26:11):
I walk around starting fights. I enjoy it. It worked
out for me, and I know some guys who don't,
but that's because they don't understand. So you got a
couple of different kind of fighters. You've got guys who
can fight that blackout. They want to stomp your head
in the ground and acting donkey, and they don't even
have control themselves. Like you win in the fight that

(26:31):
they're on the ground, don't not finish, stomp your head.
I already won. Whatever I couldn't explain through verbals, I
explained through these fits. So you got people don't like
to fight because they don't know how or they're not
control their selves. But a standard fistic cover match is
not really a big deal. It's it's conversations outside of
verbal sometimes it becomes physical. I need to explain this

(26:52):
to you, nigger, and the words are not working for me.
Understanding the words that are coming out they know and
then so understand the words that's coming out of my fist.
So I truly enjoy being a man. I don't. There's
nothing about being a man I don't enjoy. Now I'm

(27:14):
not saying there's nothing wrong with the parts of that
you don't enjoy. Yeah, I'm not. You don't want to
have kids, that's not part of being a man. Why
it's just not being a father. Well, that's being a father.
I'm not a father. That don't mean I'm not a man.
But in order for you to be here, mean to

(27:35):
be here, we had to have a father so it
is a part fantastic. That's really a woman, right, so
he not really a man? No? No, no, no, no.
First off, I can't have a baby. No, but you
said that a woman. I'm saying, you're saying that for
a woman can't cook? And I said, I said that,
how do they feed their kids? I said, what they

(27:56):
haven't had You said, what they haven't had kids yet?
I said, well, then they don't have a reason to
become a woman. Mm hmmm, because they are. So you
can play around like you could, which I don't know
why you're not preparing. You know, maybe you you know,
you hear people like I'm having fun, It's like, well,
you're just being a hoar? What is having fun outside
of being a hor for women? Wow? It sounds a

(28:19):
little harsh, but I mean, if you're not in Nigga's
face and getting drinks at the clubs and parties and
meeting different guys, what are you really doing? What's fun
about being a woman? At that point it just becomes
regular human being. Ship Like, if you ain't going to
the parties getting free ja, what are you doing? What
do you mean what's fun for a woman? When people
say like you don't need to get so serious. You
need to go out and have fun. What does that

(28:39):
mean not have any responsibilities? In which world does that
seem like fun? To avoid responsibility? Look how we even
raise people? Well, I'm saying responsible for someone else, But
that's the point of it. Like literally, and you're not married,
and you don't have the husband or the detector, the

(29:00):
whole family. Just keep meeting guys. And you know what
I'm saying. That's like I'm not telling my daughter in general.
It's like my daughter she's in college right now. No,
you don't have need to have children. You need to
focus on that, you know what I say. I'm not
telling her go out and party, but no, you don't
need to have children right now. Like you got other

(29:21):
things that you need to worry about. You can't even
take your of yourself children, not right now? Why so,
because she she's barely taking care of herself having another
child in this we're not in in um, you know,
but what do they call it? Ancient times? Where like

(29:44):
it was different, you know, where women couldn't work, or
women couldn't go to school, or women couldn't be educated,
or you know, they just wanted to have them. You know,
they were just have children in yeah to taking care.

(30:04):
So we are in and I'm not telling my daughter
who's nineteen, yes, go and have a child. No, I
would want her to meet her husband and so have
a child. So what if she got married next year
in college? I mean, if she got married next year
in college, then she gets married next year, I want

(30:26):
a kid. Okay, that's I felt that too, because because
you're trying to hold your points so cold, but you
just realize it was soonestly, I listen, it's not time
for her to have children. What's the time? Not now?

(30:48):
What is the time? A different time than definitely not
give me a time. Because when you're saying, why can't
I wait till I'm tifty, wait till you fifty? Who you? Yeah?
What's wrong with that? Because because is at the time,
because you everything, everybody's your situation is already I'm still

(31:13):
literally doing what your daughter is doing. I'm literally running
a business. Hold up, because because you understand his mom,
and this is what you don't want for your daughter,
because she's learning, you know, she's trying to figure out
life and stuff. Right, that's what you're saying. Right, you
said you don't want her to have that because blah
blah blah. So what about glasses malone, who was trying
to let me, let me make my point to Rodge

(31:35):
and enterprise business. I'm trying to get no selings off
the ground. I got all this work I gotta do.
I gotta put my whole cow. I got so much
stuff to do. Like your daughter, I don't have time
for a child. But how could you be a man
and not want to have a family. That of course
I want a family. I've always wanted a family. That
don't mean that it's time you said you're You're not.

(31:58):
You don't it's not. It wasn't about this high year.
What I told you. What happened was I kept meeting women,
but were talking about now. So now put my business
like your daughters and treatment. You see the different No difference,
It is a difference. No, it's a differently because you
were like, no, that I'm not having kids. I literally

(32:22):
said that after meeting women who didn't really want to
be a family. But that's it's done. You have a
this way deeper than that. I meet women who don't
want to be a family. So he's just saying in general,
like it, just you don't like you like they don't.
I don't like. Think about women. Think about that little
piece of me and me that died when you said

(32:43):
you don't like something. He probably here the like in
the room. Think about that little piece of me that
just died when you said you don't like cooking. A
little piece of me died, like when this man said
he had to fly three thousand miles, not even three thousands,
three thousand bad. Listen, listen. Just because I don't like

(33:05):
to cook, don't mean that my man is not fed exactly.
It's definitely fed. He is. Yeah, I don't know how
you could not another thing though, I ain't talking. I'm
just saying some people, which is sad. I get it
about to say some people have sex they don't like
to have sex. But that's not You only supposed to
have sex for one reason. We just missus everything. We

(33:28):
have sex for white. Yeah, for one thing. What is
that to have children? And why you don't have no children?
Because I'm miss used it like everybody else. The difference
is I don't like to I frown it myself for
getting pussy the way I've been in pussy my life.
I frowned him. Might be like, you ain't had no kids,
you to suck all these holes? Man, what are you
doing with your life? Or you have met some pretty

(33:48):
decent women? And then I always be like man, and
she said she ain't gonna cook man, and like they're
not proud of it, and it's like they don't really
desire to be that type of thing. If you want,
and I'm not saying women are just cooking, right, women
can provide companionship a thousand other things. But then are
you really good at these things? Yes, excellent? Don't be

(34:14):
doing don't don't don't. I didn't even say anything, you know,
I didn't say ship. What the fuck? I didn't do nothing. Listen,
y'all need to stop. I didn't do nothing. Damn might

(34:35):
even say nothing y'all all my as my name said
ship because you always over here talking about what we
ain't got going on the same way, why you don't
have no kids? And where's like I said, I've been
a part of raising other people's children. I'm doing my part,
and I enjoyed it. I didn't like. I didn't like

(34:58):
it if I had get kids up from squatting back.
I don't like picking kids up from school. I just
never felt that way. It's not like I don't like
the idea of being a parent. I don't like the
idea of co parenting with somebody who doesn't want to
truly like being a parent. If you don't like, like,
if you don't like let's say, if a woman didn't

(35:19):
like cooking or cleaning, it's like that's like devastating. It's
like we have to be a parent unit together, and
it all means you're not gonna be a parent unit.
It's just they don't like to do it, but they're
gonna do it. But they don't like. You know, people
don't like to go to school, but they go to school.
How don't you like to learn? There's a lot of

(35:40):
people that don't like to learn. I can't really that's
again like that said, that's a malfunction. There's gonna but
there's a people I mean, yeah, not grown ups, not adults,
not you know, they definitely you're they like learning. That's
why they're going to school, you know, But that's not true.
They may not like. They just going because they need to.

(36:03):
It's a reason like they gotta get, you know, might
be something, Yeah, you want to go sit in a
class where whatever. A lot of people. I like it.
I love I like certain courses. Listen. I'm not look,
this comes across a little he man, but it's really not.

(36:25):
It's just like I enjoyed being a man, and that's good.
I'm happy that you do enjoy that. Are being a man,
being a father I said. I didn't say I enjoy
being a father. Being a man A part of being
a father, a part of being a man. It's not
like being a being a woman. Don't have to be
being a mother. But nurturing is a natural thing, like

(36:49):
protecting is a natural thing. I don't have to just
protect my kid, right, I protect other people? Can I
show other people kids how to fight? M So I'm
literally a protector and provider for earth, not just personal.
Like if a little kid was walking down the street,
and you know, if the one who was walking down
street and the nigger for the kicker ass almost hey

(37:10):
bro chill, I mean, like, relax now, if it's his woman,
I'm back up. But if like let's say it's a
stranger man messing with this woman, messing with a woman
he just owner and he hey bro, relax, if it's
a kid at the park shooting jump shots and he
don't got a good form. Amen, tuck you elbo. I'm
gonna show him. I think that I like it, though,

(37:32):
I think that I would probably like to cook more
if I was just a homemaker. That don't even make sense.
I think I would enjoy it more. But because I
have so many different things going on, it's just sometimes
just like, man, I don't want to cook this. I

(37:55):
cook it, but I just I don't want to change that.
You have to get you more excited about being a nurturer.
It's an awesome thing, awesome dog, It's so awesome. It's
one of the most attractive traits for women. I mean,
they enjoy that. Look, I get it. Um. I meet

(38:16):
some women that I never I met women in my
life I should have never opened the door for they
was like the worst type of women. If I opened
the door for this motherfucker, I'm tripping. But I opened
the door because I enjoyed being a man. It's not
necessarily representation of my responsibility or how many crappy women
I meet. Like if I made a crappy woman in
the past, that don't mean y'all deserve to be crappy.

(38:38):
So my circumstances don't change the man that I am. Right.
So that's like I know that I enjoyed. No, no, no, no,
I enjoy it. That's the cornerstone of everything. You know.
And I'm not saying you know it's wrong that you
don't like to. I think that's just where we had
in time, A little piece of you died. It was

(39:00):
like little pieces gown. So what's your plans for Valentine's Day?
I don't have any plans right now. You don't have
a Valentine's Day. I don't know what I'm gonna do
for Valentine's Day. Valentine's probably not what you mean. You
don't have a Valentine. I don't know what what she got?

(39:24):
Some ship? Damn, we gotta talk. I don't know what
I'm gonna do. Probably, what's your plans for Valentine? What's yours?
You're gonna cook something? I mean, you probably want to
go out. I need to be off today, even the
day of all loves like, I need to be off today.

(39:46):
I think we might be going to see Mike Epps.
I think we might go to Vegas. You know, I
probably won't cook one actual Valentine's Day. I'll be home
and I am gonna cook what kind of meal is
a Valentine's Day meal? So it's gonna be whatever like
his favorite. So he likes steak lamb. Probably do like

(40:10):
his favorite type of steak. He likes lamb better, so um,
I probably do like a Hebrew rab. He just started
eating lamb when he got with me because we don't
eat pork like I didn't grow up, even pork chops.
We always eat lamb chops or Lamb shanks or stuff
like that. So now he every Sunday it's like we

(40:31):
always have like lamb. So if I was to do
a steak like today, I made a ribby roast. Um.
So yeah, I probably do like one of his favorite meals,
which is gonna be lamb, And I probably do like
a rack a lamb or Lamb shanks, and then probably
like some um jasmine rice and maybe like some grill

(40:57):
vegetables or something like that. On getting I don't know.
You know, honestly, I never felt like me is supposed to.
I'm wrong, but I agree. I never felt that my

(41:19):
ex I was annoyed because he really felt like, yeah,
like he expected remember that he expected a Valentine's and
that was the first. We're all wrong, but I mean
me and you are wrong, but I do agree slipping
like because I think I've always started Valentine's Day as

(41:41):
a woman's day. I think it is too I think so,
But I like my He was really like, I'm like,
because what did I get him? Oh? I got him
some um some floor mats. His new car he got

(42:02):
he had a new car. I've been decided about that.
But but but I'm a gift of purpose type of person.
I'm a man's man. Gifts that like screwdrivers, right, I
get you got me like that? That's why he's in
ex man now. He would love anythough thing for the car.

(42:27):
It's like for me, I would do something. I don't know.
I just put together like special gifts. I don't really
you feel like you're supposed to get laid on Valentine's Day? Yeah, yeah,
you're supposed to get laid, or you're supposed to get laid,
or you're supposed to do the lane like you're supposed to. Like, hey,
we could do Is that a gift? I love that?

(42:51):
Are you giving him? Are you? Are you wrapping up
and giving it like, oh that ship like one time
and he's and ship crotchless panties. Yeah, I didn't understand
that the girl walked into crosses panty. I would cry,
like why no he he say, he say, you've never
seen I'm not why, But I agree because I just

(43:14):
didn't say. I didn't understand what was the purpose of
the pantis. But it's supposed to be I guess probably
looks sexy. It's like a whole little thing. It literally
just what is it there for? The one thing? So
what is it like? It literally this is all open,
like it literally just covers the back of your like

(43:36):
but in you're like your your giant. Everything's open, like
there's nothing there in the middle. I had to be weird.
It was weird. So it's probably like to have like
the brawn a whole little like sexy thing. That's probably
why it's like that. I think I heard, you know,
maybe like some edible panties. Edible panties is fine like that. No,

(44:01):
it's I'm not into that though. That's not I'm not
because I'm not into I'm not a super romantic person
I believe in like I'm not I'm not like a
that kind of person, like I'm more of a Yeah,

(44:24):
I'm not like that. I'm saying he didn't really care,
Like if you were, I don't even like lines read
you're not romantic though, No, I don't think so. I
think I'm more like I don't know the quite word,
you know what I mean, Like, um, romance just has
to a touch of corniness to me. That but you're thoughtful. Yeah,
so like that's when that's romantic. Well, I can't find

(44:47):
I think people can find romance in who I am.
But I'm not like rose petals leading up to the
world parts like okay, but you're are you more so
like you see something that made me think of you
type that's romantic and that's romantic. That is really romantic.
I'm saying based off the traditional sense of what people

(45:08):
use and all that. So you a woman, we definitely
we wouldn't see like a video where she's like, oh
my god, thank you gee because there's rose petals and
like all this that's flowers. Yeah okay, but I'm not
like rose petals made me. Uh that's just Tuesday. I

(45:33):
get you, that's just Tuesday, you know, And I'm not
My hands are really strong and funked up, so like
I'm stupid heavy and so mamassages ain't really great like
you really, I do not know that they are not
good at giving the massage. I'm not If you ask
me for a massage, that's that's that's that's my I

(45:54):
like dang like he's the same way. But I think
you guys are like manly men and there's not I
love manly men. It's just I love it, but it's
not a lot of manly man and it sucks because
I guess I'm not sound like the cook. I'm not
like a womanly woman. But they you know, but I

(46:19):
do it fine? That would be so dope. Desired. Got
to find a certain space to where you desire to
excel in the simple roles in life. Like if you
don't enjoy that, and then it's never going to be

(46:40):
done with the joy and care should be done with.
You're missing out on what makes it great. You're missing
out on everything that's awesome about it. That the nourishment
of a man, how a dude feels and how he looks.
I love that, though, how could you not like that? Like,
I'm not like, like, even if you didn't like the
concept of standing up, which I don't. That's just so

(47:02):
unny humanly, but or turning your arms to stir or
you know, watching I don't get quite what it is
because I don't know what I'm saying. But I'm saying
the desire of it all should That's just I'm always
I'm always looking for time. So I think for me, like,

(47:24):
there are meals besides taco. That was just being funny,
but there are. I'm just saying there are meals I
do like to cook. But I think because I'm just
always looking for time, it's like I don't like to
cook because I would think you don't like to work.

(47:46):
I know, I don't see now that's different. So but
that's what I'm saying. But she just said you don't
like to work or cook. That's think about it. You've
to count that, you'ven count that they were both didn't
trip off that well. But I said, you said you
would be You wouldn't mind being a homemaker, right if

(48:07):
if you weren't, Yeah, I would mind you like you know,
she says, she you would like it, right, She said
she wouldn't mind. She said that. I said last week
or a couple of weeks ago, I said, yeah, I
would love to be a homemaker, Like if I didn't
have to work and I could just But how would
you love to be homemaker if you don't love to cook,
Because I'm saying right now, I don't. It's the fact

(48:29):
that I don't really have the time. So I'm just
I'm just always running, you know what I'm saying. It's
like I don't really get to take the time to
enjoy that thing that I'm doing. Yes, I'm always running.
This is a consistent joke between like, bro, you work

(48:51):
from home. I'm not saying you're not racking your brain
and I'm not saying even though you shouldn't be stressing
at home. But but it's weird. Okay, So it's like
it's weird because I do work from home. Now this
is new, right, I haven't worked that from I've always
worked and I haven't worked from home. And I took
care of kids and they have practice and I had

(49:12):
a whole show that I went to at nine and
I was there on time, did coming all the way
from the valley all that. But now it's crazy, it's
like I'm at home, you know, I'm working, taking care
of the baby. People listening to this ship like holy ship. Whatever.
I'm working, I'm taking care of the baby, I'm cooking,

(49:35):
I'm cleaning, and you know, shopping. Sometimes I don't even
get to leave. I'll just try to like door dash
um and it's like I'm still trying to find time,
like I guess to fit me in there. Yeah, but
that's kind of the point of having children, to not

(49:56):
be able to fit you in there. Yeah, you lose
you first, And I guess because you know, I had
kids young, and then I had I tell Joey induce right.
The giants La Johns shout out to the home like
they they really fantastic rappers. They were raised to be rappers,
they were really born to be rappers. And they have
went to the college. Their father player hand put them

(50:18):
through the college of it and they are fantastic. But
they have a fucked up understanding where it's like they
feel like I need to make time to rap. No, no, See,
this is the thing about this as your career. This
is the thing about kids. Do that make it tough

(50:40):
when you're doing hip hop and when you're trying to
start this business, you have to find time to be
somebody's boyfriend. You have to find time to be somebody's father.
You have to do this. This is a commitment and
if you make it a hobby, you just about sign
you no chance opportunity. You have no chance. So you

(51:04):
have to be a wife first and everything. Find time
to be everything. And even people make disagree with this,
but literally, from the most historical ideas, you're supposed to
find time to be a mother. You're supposed to always
have time to be a wife. You find time to

(51:25):
be a mother, You find time to be a homemaker,
and you find time for your job. You always find
time for those things. The for shure thing is being
a wife. So I don't know how you don't like that,
and I think it's priorities. Yeah, and what we've learned
or seen or like, you know, because the way you

(51:47):
broke that down where it's like, okay, you are you
should you have to find time and yeah, you know,
and it's like that job. You know what I'm saying.
But you you know what I'm saying. You can't say
that job, that job, But you have to say you
have to love cooking and nourishing your family. You have

(52:09):
to love that today and hate your job. Yeah, I
mean I get that. That's like today I was like
you both. I don't hate cooking. I'm just not liking
it right now. I'm trying to like I'm trying to um,
I'm starting all over again. So this is like trying

(52:30):
to find a balance. And at this age I figured
I would be I mean because I have my kids young,
so I figured I would be done. I never done
doing what raising kids? And you know what I'm saying,
not done with as far as like my marriage and
things like that are like, you know, I don't know

(52:52):
why people stop having kids that once you start having kids,
excuse me, because you don't have one. An that's why
you don't even have one. I'm not just I'm saying
that's the point. So why would you stop if you
have something, you don't have one. I'm allow, I'm letting
y'all have the space. Why would you stop? I mean,

(53:12):
first of all, you get to an age where you
have to stop. Um, Financially, it may not be feasible
for you to have children. Stop doing something of the
ship you want to do. Take some backseats. If if
you're if you're addition to the world, if your addition
to the world is going to be children. Like my
addition to the world is I'm passing information through film records.

(53:37):
This is how pass information. Any great sale, the only
single responsibility of even the most single sale is to
pass information and not do this ship all the time,
all the time to two millions of people. Right. But
if you're going to have children and you're not teaching
the world ship, you would think you would have more kids.

(54:00):
I don't know. I just think, like I said, I
honestly think the world is going to a sense of
selfishness and it's like we just kind of like, you know,
mm hmmm, I don't know. I'm like, fuck it, yeah,
this world is. It's cold world. I'm like, people care
about the dogs more than humans. Yeah. Yeah, I don't know.

(54:24):
These people be turning these dogs dogs eat your ass. Yeah,
like this is a dog my girl stuff. She leaves
her air conditioning on in the house for the dogs.
My mom leaves her teeth if you don't put them
fucking dogs outside in the doghouse. No, my mom leaves

(54:45):
a TV on. She'll leave a light on if it's
hot in the summer. YEA. What it is about white
people and dogs, black dogs, I hope not my black
grandfa in the outside and they came in, you know
what I mean that when he let him in, but

(55:06):
not they weren't there all the time getting Oh my dog?
She owed, How did your dog? She's like sixteen and
dog years, that's a hundred or something mine? Did you
did you actually prepare all that? Did you start making arrangements?
Do I need to it's happening soon? Huh? My son said,

(55:28):
it seemed dog is a hundred five. She's still very life. Actually,
your dog is a hundred hold up seven times fifteen
five three? Yeah, seven years dog years seven verse sugar

(55:50):
free verse as one dog is, it's seven dog years
for a year, followed me. I got to figure out
a hundred and sixty eight. Yeah, so how old is
my dog? Your dog is a hundred and five fifteen
times seven five three? She doing I'm really good. My
son did say that looks like she's going blind. I'm

(56:12):
sure seeing a lot of ships for a long time. Yeah,
she's been since the kids were in like elementary, they
were a little, very little. Now I'm not getting another dog,
so when it so before I leave? What is it
about work? You don't like what is about work. Um

(56:34):
actually like my job. I do like my job. I
like my position. I like my job, like helping people.
Um So I do like work. But I don't like
the fact that I have to work and I have
to take time away from my daughter. Or I can't
do the things that I want to do. I mean,
I still I can't do them right, like I can't

(56:58):
like I have to um when I'm on the clock,
somebody else's controlling what I do. Like you know what
I'm saying, I can't just okay, I gotta stop doing
this to take care of my man, like or I
gotta take care of my daughter, my daughter, you know. Like,
so I don't like the fact that I have to

(57:20):
go into work and punch a clock into work. You
got to start at least caring about some of these phrases.
I don't like that I have to go to work.
Geez leave her alone. Mentally, she's she goes into that room,
she travels. I'm not saying you're not working. You're kind

(57:41):
of using a lot of like phrases that include traffic
and after go into work, where the funk are you
going into the living room my office? I have to
go into my office and do I love working from home?

(58:03):
You use you like, go into I can't have time,
and I don't have time. You know how funked up
your ship would be if you had to drive to work.
Oh yeah, I probably would have got fired having this
baby and trying to if you actually had to go in, yeah,
I would have been like, honey, the most woman This

(58:24):
is the most womanly podcast. Like people are gonna listen
to you and be like this is crazy whatever. Man
for sure gonna be like what because You're like, I
got to go into work, and I'm like, you don't go.
What I'm saying is I can't just take care of
my daughter, my family, my man, nourish them all day

(58:44):
long because I have to work for the man. That's
not true. People used to do that and take care
of their family home. I have to work for the man.
I did it too, But so you can do both.
But it's hard. But it is difficult sometime because I
who has ever had to So you don't even like
it work unless you're self employed, but work for a

(59:10):
company and still take care of your baby at the
same time. Think that means you're saving that you can
actually get a babysitter and spend some of that money. Yeah,
I started trying to see about somebody helping on Tuesdays
and Thursday. But I'm not sending her to daycare? Why not?
So you want it all? My baby needs to be

(59:31):
with me. I need to say, I'm she's not ready
to go to daycare yet. She doesn't speak. Yeah, when
you put the babies in the bay hare when they
could turn I mean, this is a blessing for me
because my other kids I had to put had to
put them in daycare, like one, and she just turned
one and I haven't had to Actually, No, I was

(59:51):
back to work when they were babies, so they just
went to like family and stuff like that, daycare, family, friends,
to your office at home or knows. How do you
figure this out? How do you figure out the time
to do anything? It's hard, Lord knows, you're stuck in
that living room traffic, that traffic from the from the

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that traffic from that traffic from your home office to
your kitchen. Sometimes, man, you stuck at that intersection at
the couch and Ricky Lake. It's hard. Good looking out
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