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I was recently on a date and she said call
me mommy, and I was like, you're not my mom,
and I'm gonna do the DNA test.

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To prove it.

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Yeah, and you know, there might be people coming in
your life saying call me daddy, call me mommy, But
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That's right, many many dating communities, people flippically calling people
mommies and daddies, you know, and it stops here.

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I the a hole for wanting to divorce my husband
for demanding a DNA test after giving birth to our twin?

(01:13):
This guys from playing Top sixty five eighty two, who
says my husband thirty three Mail and I twenty three
Beemal have been together for almost seven years.

Speaker 2 (01:21):
And he is slash was the love of my life.

Speaker 1 (01:24):
We met when I was sixteen, brush out of high
school going to college. He met my family when I
was eighteen. I was a virgin and we couldn't be
intimate without getting married. We're Muslim by the way. He
proposed when I was twenty and we got married when
I was twenty two, right after graduating from Raz school.

Speaker 2 (01:41):
OPI.

Speaker 3 (01:41):
He's finishing everything super early. She's speed running a life.
I never wanted to be a stay at home mom
or wife. Before we even began to date. He was
aware of my expectations from twenty seventeen to the end
of twenty twenty four. My husband was loving, caring, supportive,
and handsome. He was my best friend. My mentor is
an engineer and I work in finance. We mostly him

(02:03):
built a house from the ground up.

Speaker 2 (02:04):
Together. We have a garden where we don't have to
buy fruits or veggies. I was this princess.

Speaker 1 (02:08):
On November twenty twenty three, I saw my face was
getting swollen and my belly became longer than usual. I
didn't really pay attention because I was blooded. Six days later,
I ended up in the hospital because I wasn't feeling normal.
The doctor told me that I was pregnant. My husband
was so happy. I didn't know how to feel it
because I was happy just because he was. He took

(02:29):
great care of me. He went above and beyond to
make sure I was happy, especially when he found out
that I was carrying.

Speaker 2 (02:35):
A pair of babies.

Speaker 1 (02:36):
This relationship was not perfect, but we always find a
solution or a way to make things work between us.
Until February of twenty twenty four, out of nowhere, my
husband started to give me an ultimatum to choose between
my career or my family, and he also started commenting
and complaining about my look, the length of my belly,
and he spent an entire week making nasty comments about

(02:57):
my body, and he kept saying how my belly occupied
more than half the bed. Dude, she has two people
in her and after delivering the baby, my next stop
should be the gym instead of home because they looked funny.

Speaker 2 (03:09):
Now.

Speaker 1 (03:10):
Those comments hurt me still now, and he could see
the pain in my eyes. He didn't want to go
to work or outside, and he told me the way
I looked will make him look bad. He got mad
at the simplest things and causes, and he would yell
at me. My husband knew that for the past seven years,
we had a completely different tone. He made me cry
every day for the last two months straight. But I

(03:31):
was still holding on because I thought it was a
phase and everything will go back to being okay. And
I refuse to believe it until a week before my
due date. My husband told me that in order for
him to sign the birth certificate, a DNA test is required.
Innocent looking girls are always the biggest oars and proceeded
to tell me, who knows you might have one of
those work husbands. I was so hurt, exhausted, and mad.

(03:54):
The only word that came out of my mouth was okay,
and that was my last.

Speaker 4 (03:58):
Word with him.

Speaker 1 (03:59):
On the delivery, I took all the stuff that I
packed for our babies and I took an uber to
the hospital.

Speaker 2 (04:05):
I was meeting up with my best friend.

Speaker 1 (04:06):
Per husband is a lawyer specializing in divorce, who is
there with me during the delivery. And God, my husband
knew the delivery day but didn't have the address of
the hospital. I give my babies the name with my
grandfather's last name. I told the nurses that I am
the mom and dad. My husband showed up the next
day after I gave birth and still demanded the DNA
test and was complaining on the type of wife that

(04:28):
I am.

Speaker 2 (04:29):
Again I ignored. I went home with my babies.

Speaker 1 (04:31):
I was exhausted because he didn't help me with them
at all, to a point that I moved to my
best friend's house and she was the only one who
helped me with them. He called all his family members
saying that I am cheating on him and the twins
aren't his. They are calling me every single day, calling
me names. I am tired, depressed and fed up. I
contacted my husband and told him that I agreed to

(04:53):
do the DNA test, but expect a divorce soon and
I am not going to change their names. The baby
names we did, and he was the father. All of
his family were calling to apologize and wanted to meet
the babies.

Speaker 2 (05:05):
Get wrecked too late.

Speaker 1 (05:07):
All of his family were calling and apologizing and wanted
to meet the babies, including the dad, begging me to
come back. I said no, and that was my final decision.
All his family began texting me and threatening me for
not letting them see the kids and divorcing their boy am.
I've a whole and there's a very quick edit to
close this out. Sorry for the long text typos. In
any confusion, I haven't said anything about my family because

(05:27):
I am an orphan. My mom and dad passed away
in the car crash when I was eight years old,
and I was living with my grandparents until twenty twenty.

Speaker 2 (05:34):
In COVID. Oh, he is awesome? Is OpEd? No?

Speaker 5 (05:39):
My boyfriend revealed that he has two kids and that
he's still supporting their mother. I mid twenties females started
dating my boyfriend late twenties mail two months ago. We
hit it off great in every aspect. Three weeks ago,
we confessed our love for each other and he asked
me to move in with him. Luckily I haven't yet.
I was so ecstatic that I found someone like him.

(06:00):
By the way, this comes from MIA's Tempest, and if
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story time Separate it.

Speaker 6 (06:05):
So.

Speaker 5 (06:06):
I live in a pretty conservative household, and I told
him the only way I could move out is if
I talked to my father. He told me that he
would propose if he had to. We talked about our
future and our wedding day. He visited me every day
after work, even though he worked crazy hours and was
probably exhausted, he always brought me gifts. He told me
that he would love for me to stop working and
provide for me and our family. We told each other

(06:28):
we were crazy for thinking about these things so early
in the relationship. Well, we just laughed it off. You
are crazy. After all of that, he said that before
things got more serious, he needed to confess something to me.
He admitted that he has two kids and provides for
one hundred percent of the finances for them and their mother.

(06:49):
And there it is there's the red flag.

Speaker 4 (06:52):
That's where I'm heta was coming. I am going to
stop off of this. Stop please.

Speaker 5 (06:56):
He's like, I have children. They've been here all the
whole time. So I had them when they were in
high school, and although they both graduated, he has dedicated
his life to providing for his family. However, because of
many difficulties, he and the mother of his kids decided
to never marry and have been separated for a while.
I feel like the rug has been pulled out from
under my feet. I feel like after all of that,

(07:17):
there was a whole other side of him that I
didn't know. Why would he wait so long to tell me?
Don't you mention kids right away? I told him that
kids are not a deal breaker. I have a very
motherly relationship with my younger sister since our mom passed
away when we were little, and I was very clear
that I would never abandon her. I am very proud
of the young adult that she's becoming. Is he not

(07:37):
proud of his kids? This isn't giving me the confidence
to have a family with him. If this is the
type of father he will become to them, not to mention.
Apparently his baby mama had never worked much and has
been financially dependent on him all of these years. If
she finds out about me, won't she think of me
as a threat to her and her kids well being?
Right now, my feelings are fluctuating. I think of him
and I remember all the happy feelings he has made

(07:59):
me feel until this point. He has been the most
loving partner I've ever had, and I really don't want
to lose him. On the other hand, I feel like
a fool for trusting him so much when he had
actually so much to hide. Also, how is it that
when he was promising a future with me, he didn't
once think about how I would feel after dropping this
bombshell on me?

Speaker 4 (08:17):
One thing? Go back like two slides.

Speaker 5 (08:20):
I'm going back two slides.

Speaker 4 (08:23):
Most loving partner I've ever had, and I don't want
to lose. That's the root row I'm seeing. Yeah, sure,
he may be the most loving partner you've ever had,
but that doesn't mean there are more out there there.
Arm More doesn't mean you can't do better than this guy, exactly.

Speaker 5 (08:38):
It's also three months. It's been three months. Cut your losses,
but let's keep going right now, He says he's scared
of losing me, but that I have the right to
make the decision to leave him or stay. I just
feel like I'm being torn apart. I'm seeing him tomorrow
and I think I'm going to break up with him.
After a week of feeling like this, I decided that
for my health, I have to put an end to this. Yes,

(08:58):
you do. This stress is distract me from my responsibilities.
I feel like I can't take it anymore. Heartbreak is
truly awful and edit. He never visited me at home
because they live with my family. My dad, grandma, and
siblings depend on me financially. I own a business and
he would visit me there after he was done with work.
He is also a workaholic. I guess now I know why.
But he said that he would gladly pay for an

(09:19):
apartment for the both of us so that we can
spend more time together. I've never had to pay for
anything when we go out on dates. When I'm with him.
He always spends money at my business because he says
it brings him pride to provide for me. Sy I'm
down bad and there are some comments and I'm sure
an update, but uh any any thoughts.

Speaker 7 (09:37):
Yeah, it's just move on, move on.

Speaker 5 (09:40):
This is what three months, three months is when you
I feel like I've said this before, but it goes
of when you find out more about a person, it's
like three months and then a year, and then like.

Speaker 7 (09:49):
Two years plus moving in together.

Speaker 5 (09:52):
That's a huge step.

Speaker 8 (09:53):
Crazy at three months.

Speaker 7 (09:54):
I was gonna say when Riley said, oh, three months
is like the mark when you aret realizing who you're dating,
I'm like, no, when you move in together, that's the
monster you you realize you're dating.

Speaker 5 (10:05):
Well, I think there are levels to realizing who you're dating.

Speaker 7 (10:08):
Yea, the level here is, uh, there's no honesty at
the very beginning.

Speaker 5 (10:14):
Well, we're gonna go into the comments while Riley tries
to remember this thought. Comment one, he lied to you
the whole time he knew you, so that you developed
strong feelings and be less likely to run away when
he fessed up, he love bombed you and asked you
to move in after dating for weeks, which is ridiculously fast,
and still hasn't told you he's a liar and a manipulator,
and you'd be foolish to trust anything else he says,

(10:35):
or to stay with him. So I'm glad you're choosing
to end it agreed in the future, be wary of
a guy being that intense and moving so quickly early on,
and Opie says, thank you right now, I really need
to hear this hard truth so that I can feel
strong when I confront him tomorrow.

Speaker 2 (10:50):
Okay.

Speaker 4 (10:51):
Another point found it, yes, is whenever he broke the
news to op yea OPI got stress stressed out? Did
it feel like super good about it? I feel like
it's the way he also broke the news. I hope
he may have not been in a position to I
don't know, be not like a side piece, but like
in the middle of all the family things going on.
So that's another point is that does that make sense?

Speaker 5 (11:12):
I didn't fully understand the point the.

Speaker 4 (11:13):
Way he broke the news of I have three kids,
I have two kids and a wife, unsettled.

Speaker 7 (11:18):
Wife, no wife, it's just like.

Speaker 5 (11:20):
No ex well ex baby mama.

Speaker 4 (11:22):
Ex baby w mama. Yeah, yeah, that's what I meant.

Speaker 5 (11:24):
But broke it poorly.

Speaker 2 (11:26):
Yeah, he broke it poorly.

Speaker 4 (11:27):
Yeah, because if it came from like certain people, people
probably be like, oh okay, yeah, I see where you're
coming from. But maybe the way he did it, it
may have not been.

Speaker 5 (11:34):
Maybe he just freaking sucks. Yeah, comment to gently. I
think that your current situation and how you've been raised
is making it harder for you to see the red
flag with guys like this who are looking to take
advantage of you. You live in a conservative household where
you need to ask your father's permission to move out,
but you are financially supporting your father and the entire
house you're already being taken advantage of. If you're adult

(11:57):
enough to support not only yourself but the family, then
you you are duld enough to be making your own
decisions about your life. Your father should not be dictating
the rules to your life when he is dependent on you.
Two months is too early for most couples to be
considering cooptation. At two months, you're still getting to know
each other. You don't know the real him yet. It
is definitely a red flag that he asked you to
move in with him and said he'd be willing to

(12:19):
get engaged before telling you about the existence of his children,
and that he tried to convince you to quit your
job and become financially dependent on him at only two months,
Also before he bothered to tell you about something as
important as I have children?

Speaker 4 (12:32):
Is he just trying to get awards? Like the more
baby mamas I have, the better at life from doing,
He's gonna get a participation award. Comment three, you've only
been with him for two months.

Speaker 5 (12:41):
You don't know him. It sounds like he's lining you
up to be baby mama number two or three or four.
You don't know. Listen to your gut and ignore his
empty words and promises. He professes his love too much,
too early, So beware, you deserve and will find better.
Good luck. And Opie says, I sure don't know how
many baby mamas he's got, And I feel loved when
I'm with him, but insecure when I'm not. What could

(13:03):
he possibly be doing when I'm not looking? I hate
that I let myself think about him this much and
there is an update. But girl, you're not you know
you're not the only one out there. Ah Man, I
feel like he's I don't know. I feel like he's
a cheat. Or two. I feel like my ICU cheating.

Speaker 4 (13:21):
The fact that he was able to like hide kids
for three months.

Speaker 5 (13:24):
Yeah, what else is he hiding? Is he a spy
of some sorts?

Speaker 4 (13:28):
That's hard too, because you got pictures of kids, you
got in the car, you got car seats, you got toys.

Speaker 7 (13:34):
Yeah, it kind of shows that he's like maybe a
little ashamed of his family.

Speaker 5 (13:38):
That's actually a great point because like, if he doesn't
have is was he even seeing his kids in the
three months? Because clearly, I'm clearly not a lot if
if OPI didn't even know about them, So I'm like,
how much of a how much of a father is
he actually.

Speaker 7 (13:53):
Being if he can't even say within maybe in the
first week or like first couple of dates, that hey,
I have a family, or at least I have two kids.

Speaker 2 (14:00):
I don't like it. I think just a fly man.

Speaker 5 (14:03):
I think just the fact that it's not glaringly obvious
that he has kids shows that he's not, you know,
being a parent. But there is an update. Hey y'all,
I'll probably delete this soon, but I thought I owed
you guys an update. So the day came when I
was going to break up with him, I told him
that I was feeling overwhelmed by this situation, and he
told me that the night before he went to visit

(14:23):
his kids, his baby mama told him that she knew
he had a girlfriend me and that she was fine
with it, but then she got all emotional, cried and
told him that she could never move on and that
she would always take him back. I'm not gonna lie
and say that this didn't completely shatter my heart, and
I told him that this confirmed my fears. I told
him that if he chose her, I hope they stayed

(14:44):
a happy family. When I said that, not my proudest moment,
I just started bawling my eyes out. He hugged me,
oh no, and told me that he wouldn't go back
to her because he doesn't love her and that it
wouldn't be fair to her. But seeing me cry doesn't
make him want to be with me because he feels
like a butt for hurting me. He says that I
deserved much better and that he was just going to
focus on his career and kids if this was going

(15:05):
to be the end of us, because he doesn't want
to hurt anyone else. Before I could say goodbye, I
asked him if what we had was even love for me? Well,
I kind of feel underappreciated by my family, whom I've
dedicated my life to, and he made me feel listened
to and understood He told me that for him, he
felt like he wanted to make someone happy since his
family isolated him after the breakup with his kid's mom.
And by the way, we would never isolate you because

(15:28):
you can listen to full episodes with stories just like this.
Just go to Apple podcast, Spotify or your favorite podcast
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a little bit left.

Speaker 2 (15:37):
Dude.

Speaker 4 (15:39):
I don't like this little peace out he did, the
way he peaced out, like nonchalantly.

Speaker 2 (15:45):
He's like, I love you, miss.

Speaker 5 (15:49):
I'm not getting back with my girlfriend, my ex, but
I also don't want to get back with you Bill.

Speaker 7 (15:56):
Babe, she's not the one for me.

Speaker 2 (15:57):
You are. But I mean, I don't have to care.

Speaker 7 (16:00):
It's okay, Yeah.

Speaker 5 (16:01):
I just don't love the You don't deserve to have
to get back together with.

Speaker 7 (16:05):
Me, babe, you get eighty percent of my love. But
that's okay.

Speaker 5 (16:09):
Yeah, Like, yes, he's right, but also I don't like
you know, I don't like how he said it. I
just don't like him. I just don't like him. I know.
Like ninety five percent of the comments are telling me
that he loved Bomby and that he deceived me into
relationship and I agree that what he did was not ideal,
but I don't believe he's a bad person. We just

(16:29):
got caught up in each other at the right place,
at the right time. I told him that he has
a lot of stuff to think about, and so do I.
I propose that we take a two week break to
see if we still have feelings for each other, and
that I needed to make sure I don't lose myself
because I feel like I have developed an unhealthy obsession
with him. He agreed to respect my wishes. Dang man, ah, girl,

(16:50):
just leave. It's three months. I feel I don't know
if you could do a break after three months.

Speaker 2 (16:56):
That's weird.

Speaker 5 (16:56):
I feel like if you're already at like, let's take
a break at three months maybe just like you know, yuh,
that seems like excess. I feel like breaks. I feel
like you could take a break maybe a year into relationship.

Speaker 4 (17:09):
My boyfriend confessed he stole from me right before I
was going back to school.

Speaker 5 (17:15):
Stole your heart.

Speaker 2 (17:16):
I don't think so.

Speaker 4 (17:18):
My thirty three female boyfriend thirty four male and I
have been together for over twelve years now. I first
met him in high school and we were friends for
a few years. We lost touch after he graduated, but
ended up reconnecting when I was in college. We've been
together since. By the way, this comes from Objective Peak
eighty three and if you want to submit your own stories,

(17:39):
go to our such Okay story Tom Subright. And so
about seven years ago, we were at a crossroads. His
friend had passed away suddenly in an accident, and he
proceeded to spiral, and he started trying substances, staying out
all night, engaging in a very reckless behavior, and it
truly scared me. I tried everything to pull him out
of it. It took a lot of work and me

(18:00):
almost leaving him to start putting his life together. A
little backstory. I worked for my family's business. I have
worked for the family business since I was eighteen years old,
and honestly, it would be great if I didn't have
to work with the same people I see on the holidays.
My family could be, in a word, toxic. There was
a lot of infighting and drama. Working with them is

(18:23):
similar to our personal lives, stressful and chaotic. When my
grandmother passed away about three years ago, I was willed
some liquid assets that had belonged to her and my
grandfather gem's jewelry, precious metals, cash, et cetera, and their
house they had since the sixties. And honestly, this was
a blessing. With that inheritance, I finally felt like I

(18:44):
could pull free from my family and get out of
the family business and take time to go back to
school and do something I was passionate about. However, I
had no savings at the time and wanted to get
a decent amount saved before I quit. At this time,
opportunity opened up at work. The pay was way higher,
but required four to seven months of travel time a year.

(19:07):
I talked it over with my boyfriend and we decided
that we only needed two years to save up what
we needed. I took the job and prepared to leave
for two months for training at the main branch. Okay,
it is a little scary four to seven months with
your boyfriend having issues that he had.

Speaker 5 (19:24):
Yeah, that is scary. But I mean I'm wondering what
his job is and if he can kind of travel
with Opie, you know.

Speaker 4 (19:30):
Yeah, I don't you have to be doing what we
do to be able to travel.

Speaker 5 (19:33):
Yeah, well, I mean he could have a remote job.

Speaker 4 (19:36):
You could if you're a computer guy, but you got
to be a computer person to have a remote job.
About a month into my training, my boyfriend suddenly quit
his job with no explanation other than I had to
I can't work there anymore. I was concerned about our
financial goals because of this, but he swore up and
down that he would get a new one shortly and
that he wouldn't need any help with his personal bills. Well,

(19:57):
a year after that went by. Yeah, I had only
taken up gig work and some temporary jobs.

Speaker 2 (20:03):
Ooh.

Speaker 5 (20:05):
A year of that when you're trying to do all
that work to save up for a place and stuff. Yeah,
e ooh.

Speaker 4 (20:12):
I wasn't happy as I was having to travel all
the time and was having to really be frugal in
order to get our joint bills paid, also putting money
into savings. Oh no, he was managing to pay his
own bills, so I let it slide since he tossed
in what he could to the pile joint as well.
Now I'm sitting here about to complete my two years

(20:35):
and my boyfriend has decided to come clean to me.

Speaker 5 (20:38):
Uh okay, and so just to again, op had said
that there she was only going to work at this
place for two years, and that would have given them enough.
Had he also been working, I'm sure to stop, like
to move in together and do all of that. And
now I'm guess I'll have got a nice U. He's
spent all his money or something, or he's cheating or

(20:59):
both both.

Speaker 2 (21:00):
I was gonna say, you can both.

Speaker 4 (21:01):
He sold the jewels, poor Caleb. He stole the jewels,
any liquid assets, he sold them all. I think that's
how he was able to pay for everything. That's my
thought process. For the past two years. WILL have been
working at a job that has been soul crushing and
has had me away from home for weeks to months
at a time. I've missed birthdays, weddings, friends, baby showers,

(21:22):
et cetera. I sacrificed the last two years of my
life to make enough to be able to live my
life the way I want to. And he tells me
last week that he's been paying his personal bills by
selling the things my grandparents.

Speaker 2 (21:37):
Had willed to be that I had left it a
safe that was hidden in the house.

Speaker 5 (21:41):
Despicable, despicable, No, no, no, mm mmm mm mmm leave leave.

Speaker 4 (21:50):
It's been seven years.

Speaker 5 (21:51):
I think it's been twelve years seven right now, they've
been around seven. Yeah, so they keep going until twelve.
I would have made him give that money back, and
then I would.

Speaker 4 (21:59):
Like, yeah, you could you It's either you get the
money back or you get everything he's old.

Speaker 5 (22:05):
Yeah, something like that.

Speaker 4 (22:06):
I say, if he had only had access to because
the the pew pew was in there, and I thought,
you know, he wouldn't do that to me. I'm honestly
in shock. It was a subcustantial amount and it makes
me nauseous to even try to quantify it right now.
How much do you think at least six figures it's got, Yeah.

Speaker 5 (22:27):
Gotta be. If it was a bunch of jewels and stuff.

Speaker 7 (22:29):
Yeah, everyone's saying call the cops.

Speaker 5 (22:31):
I mean I think I think first only because of
the seven years, I would go. I would be like,
you need to give me that money now, or get
all my stuff back. And then if he was like no,
I'd be like, Okay, I'm going ops.

Speaker 4 (22:45):
Yeah, I've already set in motion quitting my job and
I've given a notice and now I have so much
less than I thought I did. He only told me
because he had figured out a way to pay me back,
and I had gotten a stable job and was planning
when he was doing most of his paycheck to give
to me until I was made. Oh but this just
honestly disgusts me. I feel so violated. More than that,

(23:06):
I wonder if this is his go to pattern. Now
life is stressful, a lot of change is happening, and
he just self destructs after what he put me through
seven years ago, I don't know if I can look
past this. Yes, he came clean to me, but I
just can't seem to get past this feeling. I look
at him and just feel nothing right now. It's breaking

(23:27):
my heart because I really care for him, and yet
I just can't see anything changing. I feel so conflicted.
We've been together for so long and even have all
the same friends and share our life together. Well, we'll
be able to come back from this or is this
what falling out of love feels like? And we got
an update?

Speaker 5 (23:43):
Don't go back to him. The only question here is
cops or or get your money back? Yeah, I get
your money back first. I want to That's the only question.
It's not It's not like do I do I stay
with him? Or do I break up? The answer is
obviously break up.

Speaker 7 (23:58):
I was gonna say, how much of the money do
you think that he stole or what have you he
used it for? Op like oh I got her a
fancy jewelry or fancy like it's like, oh, yeah, this
is my gift to you, but like in reality, it's.

Speaker 8 (24:12):
Like it's a gift to yourself.

Speaker 4 (24:14):
I think she didn't say anything. She probably would have
mentioned that we might be getting that mentioned pretty soon.

Speaker 5 (24:21):
But what all of that money was spent on, because
I think some of it was spent on the bills
that they had.

Speaker 4 (24:25):
Mainly bills and probably him just getting by. Yeah, I
don't think it was anything. Yeah, you need a break
up with him, But that would have sucked though, like
oh this nice dress, I didn't know it costs my
grandma's third precious.

Speaker 5 (24:37):
Jewel Its messed up. Man.

Speaker 4 (24:40):
Update in my life, I was learned that the best
way to answer other sincerity is about being sincere myself.
So I'd like to try here. I have a very
small circle of people. I would say two most important
people to me in the past fifteen years I've been
my boyfriend and my little sister. The only two people
I talked to nearly every day and do most of
my every day life with a little over a year ago,

(25:02):
I almost lost my little sister when she was when
she oweded on prescription medicine and attempted to self exit.
I was the only one who found her after the
fact and spent the next three weeks by her side
in the ICU. The whole ordeal could be its own
personal post. Really, now, the only person that had been
my best friend from my whole life has me blocked

(25:25):
in every aspect of her life for reasons I still
do not know, and I still wonder if she blames
me for leaving that night as much as I blame
myself and my grief. I lashed out at my toxic
family for not listening to me when I said I
was concerned about her, for not doing more, for not
even being at the hospital when she needed them, for
expecting me to be the only one to tend to

(25:46):
her while she was in rehab, and because I lashed
out at them, I was ostracized. The only time my
family talks to me now is if it has to
do with work. My birthday came and went along without
a single one of them reaching out.

Speaker 5 (26:00):
Ah, Oh, your family's your boyfriends.

Speaker 4 (26:05):
It is why I was compelled to quit, as the
silence and isolation was slowly driving me into a depression.
During all of this, I have been clinging to my boyfriend.
It would have been too difficult to go through without him,
and I guess it is the main reason why I
didn't immediately put him out when he came clean to me.
I have lost my best friend and any support from family.

(26:26):
When I gave my notice, only one person asked me
to reconsider. The rest said good riddance. It's her family,
and even if my family is toxic and awful to
each other, it still hurts to be cast out so thoroughly.
So when my boyfriend came clean to me, I just
went numb.

Speaker 5 (26:45):
Like everyone in her life has like betrayed her or
just not been there for her.

Speaker 4 (26:51):
Bro moved to BALI. Yeah, just like got the car over,
find yourself and turn over it works.

Speaker 5 (26:58):
Say it? Leave you? I mean you. You just said
you finished the two years at that company. Go somewhere else. Yeah,
you gotta go somewhere else. Got enough experience to probably
get another solid job. Yeah, go to like I don't know,
go live on a farm in Scotland.

Speaker 4 (27:12):
I feel like I had lost what little fight I
had left in me. It feels like the fabric of
my life is coming unwoven and I'm falling apart. I'm
still deeply mourning the loss of my sister in my
life and grieving a family I have given up on.
I have lost a lot in the past year, and
this is just the last thing I thought I had
to worry about. As many of you stated, it sounded

(27:33):
like the substances. I didn't get him to divulge exactly
what he was doing with the money, but I pieced
it enough together. Regular users has once again taken him.
My boyfriend is a sweet, dotting and genuinely funny person,
but seven years ago he also became someone I didn't know.
His substance use was deep and unrelenting. It was a monumental,

(27:58):
uphill battle for him to get clean and stay sober.
But I told him I would only stick it out
with him once more, and if he ever started back
down that road, I would leave. So I guess he
got smart about hiding in and me being the gone
six ish months out of the year really helped him
with that. I know some of you were very upset
at me for losing sentimental items, But my grandma's jewelry

(28:21):
is all there.

Speaker 2 (28:21):
Okay.

Speaker 4 (28:22):
He sold my grandpa's collection of let's say, precious metals.
As my grandpa was a child of depression and never
had faith in banks, he stored most of his assets
as such. Okay, so we probably had a ton of
silver Indie.

Speaker 5 (28:36):
Yeah, yeah, it still sucks though.

Speaker 4 (28:39):
Yeah, my grandpa gave me my grant. Grandpa get me
a ton of is over when I was little.

Speaker 5 (28:42):
Do you still have it?

Speaker 4 (28:43):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (28:44):
Where is it?

Speaker 5 (28:45):
Where'd you put it?

Speaker 4 (28:46):
It's in a safe somewhere in North Carolina?

Speaker 7 (28:48):
All right, chat, we know where to go.

Speaker 5 (28:49):
It's in a safe somewhere North Carolina. You're going to
receive a map in the mail and we're gonna hunt
it down.

Speaker 4 (28:55):
All of his kids and grandkids were even given portions
of that. They weren't sentimental as much as a safety
net I had every intention on using if needed.

Speaker 5 (29:05):
Okay, Well, I mean still obviously still sucks, but this
is good news because it means you know, she's tore
up about it. What doesn't seem like she's super tore up.
But it's also if it's just like let's say it's
silver gold, then this is stuff that he can pay
back like she lost it, but it's not sentimental value stuff.

Speaker 4 (29:22):
Give me back in bitcoin. Yeah, there was a comment
that was a few paragraphs that kind of left me shaken.
Bund denial was pointed out, but also the fact that
I had already knew what I needed to do, but
I was looking for a way, any reason, any logic,
something not to have to lose everything or anyone else
right now. But I can't escape reality as much as

(29:43):
I try. Some of you asked how I could even
contemplate staying. The easy answer is I was slash am
still scared, scared to face this world alone, terrified. Really,
I have told him we have no more future together
and we are working on how to best separate. It
is amicable. I will not be reporting him or suing him.

(30:04):
I've talked to his mom and dad about it. They
told me that they would pay me back one way
or another, and he has promised as much. I know
a lot of you will be disappointed in that outcome,
but I just have nothing left in me. I'm exhausted
and I don't even have the energy to get angry
at anyone right now. Maybe once I have time to
process everything, that might change, but right now I need peace.

(30:26):
For now, I can only focus on the present and
try to take it one day as at a time. I
didn't ever think I would be this alone, and the
pain of losing the people I love the most in
this world is poignant heartache I will be grappling with
for a good time to come. Thank you, kind strangers
for letting me feel less alone in this. Thank you
for your anger on my behalf. Thank you for taking

(30:48):
time to read my post, give me violidation to my heartbreak.
And if you don't want to be heartbroken, you can
go to your favorite podcast platform and join us there
reading stories just like this. Search up Oka Storytown and
we will be there.

Speaker 5 (31:02):
We'll be right there.

Speaker 4 (31:03):
Wow, I have not read in a while. Sorry about that, guys.

Speaker 5 (31:06):
That was just like we're getting back into it.

Speaker 2 (31:08):
Oh wow.

Speaker 8 (31:09):
Oh man.

Speaker 4 (31:11):
Yeah, I feel like what happened on this second update.
He came clean, she processed it, found a plan in
his leaving him.

Speaker 7 (31:19):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (31:19):
I feel like that first one where she was like
I don't know if I should leave him and was
just kind of the shock. And again she's been with
him for like twelve years.

Speaker 4 (31:26):
So at the seven year mark or seven years ago,
that's whenever he turned to the.

Speaker 5 (31:32):
Yes and then a bottle twelve years yeah, but they're
at twelve years now.

Speaker 4 (31:35):
They're a twelve years now yeah. Yah, So that's why
I was. I thought they were together for seven years
and you know what I mean.

Speaker 8 (31:42):
Yeah.

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Speaker 5 (31:48):
My girlfriend is jealous of my brother's girlfriend. She lashed out.
So the key players in this story are me twenty
five mail, my girlfriend Anna twenty five female, my brother
Bill twenty eight male, and my brother's girlfriend Callie twenty
three female, who have been dating for three years and
live together. Also relevant are my other brothers, Dan twenty

(32:09):
four male and Eli nine mail. By the way, this
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So I've been dating Anna for about six months. She's
really awesome and I see a future with her for sure.
We met on Tinder and have pretty much been inseparable since.
We fight some, but no more than most couples. I'd
say this is definitely our biggest issue, and I'm worried

(32:32):
it's going to spell the end of us. Anna is
really jealous of Callie, weirdly jealous about things that I
think are completely unreasonable. Anna, Bill, Cally, and I all
live in the same city, so we see Bill and
Cally a lot. Until about a year ago. Bill and
I live together, but now I live on my own
and he lives with his girlfriend. Bill and Cally are

(32:53):
both big nerds. He's a botanist, and she's pursuing her
PhD in some sort of physics thing that has to
do with space. She's crazy smart.

Speaker 8 (33:01):
He's a botanist.

Speaker 5 (33:02):
That's sick. Oh, dude, sick.

Speaker 4 (33:04):
I was kind of a bitanis a little bit in
my life.

Speaker 2 (33:06):
I would be a botanist.

Speaker 4 (33:08):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (33:08):
I really love Anna, but I don't think she's ever
been someone to get along with other women very well.
I knew from the start that she didn't like Callie,
and I don't really feel like she's making much of
an attempt to hide that fact. Whatever. I can't force
her to like my brother's girlfriend. She thinks Callie is
stuck up, shallow and titled. Arrogant, causes drama, whatever. I
don't agree with her, but I can chalk all of

(33:30):
that up to an opinion about her personality, which I
feel like will change if she gets to know Calli better.
It's the specific things that I don't know how to
react to. Really quick. I think, oh, yeah, I think
if Op's girlfriend has other female friends and she, you know,
she gets along with them, well, then maybe Opie's brother's
girlfriend is the problem.

Speaker 4 (33:50):
It's Callie's a problem. Yeah.

Speaker 5 (33:51):
Interesting, But but if if Opie's girlfriend has no other
female friends, she's a problem or.

Speaker 4 (33:58):
These female friends could be toxic.

Speaker 5 (34:00):
Four months ago, my grandmother passed away. The funeral was
on the other side of the country, so we all
packed up and flew there for the funeral and to
visit family. Calli was invited, Anna was not, and Anna
was pissed. I'm still hearing about it to this day.
And while it seems like she understands that Calli has
met my grandmother and known her for many years and

(34:20):
should have been invited, she doesn't get one. My dad
didn't just go ahead and spring for another plane ticket
for Anna to make it fair. I feel like we've
spent months talking circles about it, and at this point
I wish she would just forget about it. You know,
if I had known it was going to be a
big deal, I would have just bought her a ticket myself.
Two weeks ago was my dad's birthday. My brothers, Anna, Calli,

(34:40):
and I all went to visit for his birthday. Calli
and Bill were allowed to sleep in the same room,
but my dad asked that Anna sleep in the guest room.
His reasoning is that he wants to keep things as
appropriate as possible for my youngest brother. I agree with
Anna that this is kind of unfair. But on the
other hand, Calli and Bill lived together and Elia stayed
with them for the weekend before. No, I don't like that. Yeah,

(35:01):
that's that's weird. I mean, like, it's one thing if
you have parents who are like, oh, you can't if
you guys aren't married, you can't you know, sleep in
the same room, can't be lived together, blah blah blah.
But we already know that they're letting the other couple
who is unmarried, like sleep in the same room.

Speaker 4 (35:18):
I think should be a married thing or not.

Speaker 5 (35:20):
Yeah, you can't. You can't do like a middle ground
because that's just silly.

Speaker 4 (35:23):
So is there a little bit of favoritism?

Speaker 5 (35:25):
Because I have so I think they just don't like Anna.

Speaker 4 (35:27):
I have seen in families before where they were going
to have a family vacation but they didn't because of
one of the partners certificate other Yeah, if that makes sense.

Speaker 5 (35:36):
Yeah, like they yeah, they're like, oh, I don't want
to have to deal with her something.

Speaker 4 (35:39):
Yeah, exactly, So that I just really don't.

Speaker 5 (35:42):
Like Anna, which maybe maybe Anna is causing a lot
of this, or maybe they're all being haters. You know.
I tried to explain to Anna that in a year
or so, my dad wouldn't mind Callie slept in the
guest room the first several times she visited. But for
now he's just trying to look out for his kid,
and it's his house, his rules. So we fight about
these two things all the time. She accuses my family

(36:04):
of liking Calli Moore, which I fed up and told her, well, yeah,
they've known her longer, we love Callie idiot, and that
it accuses me of liking Calli Moore and of not
being serious about her, et cetera. I don't know how
to handle this because I've never really expected to have
a girl friend be jealous of someone who's basically my
sister in law, speaking of which I know Bill is
planning on proposing soon with my grandmother's ring, And I

(36:25):
really regret telling Anna because already it's well, that's selfish.
What if you or Dan wanted to propose with that ring.
She shouldn't just take it all for herself, as if
it were Callie's decision and not something Bill wanted to do.
And even if I try to explain that we talked
about it and decided that Callie actually knew our grandmother
so it was appropriate, Anna just doesn't want to hear it.

(36:46):
I feel like we're building to a big blow up here.
Every day she's hinting that she wants to move into
my apartment, hinting that she wants to get engaged or whatever,
but it all comes off as her wanting to one
up Callie. It's frustrating because I feel like this isn't
really who she is. Usually she's very laid back and
kind and open to talking through her problems. But the
minute Callie's involved, somehow it all turns into a total

(37:09):
crap show. What should I say to her? Where do
I even.

Speaker 4 (37:12):
Start, Dude, I think we might be missing something. Yeah,
Anna does not have a lot going for her here,
chicken tinders.

Speaker 5 (37:18):
She's not a botanist. She's not a botanist. Well builds
the botonan Okay, well she's not.

Speaker 2 (37:23):
She's peak.

Speaker 4 (37:24):
Yeah, she doesn't work in space, and she doesn't have
a lot of female friends. Yeah, Callie may have bullied
her in schooled theom and this is why Anna. Maybe
we don't know they're around the same age. We don't
they're around the same age. This probably is why cat
Anna and so gets CALLI because Anna's life is the
way it is because Cally made it that way.

Speaker 5 (37:43):
It all it's all a huge conspiracy theory and Callie's
at the.

Speaker 4 (37:47):
Root of it.

Speaker 2 (37:48):
Oh yeah, it's all coming together now.

Speaker 5 (37:51):
Yeah, I don't know. I think that it just seems
kind of like on one side, I do think that
the family is definitely showing the favoritism, but also it
seems like Anna sucks a little bit.

Speaker 4 (38:02):
Yeah, but there is an edit.

Speaker 5 (38:04):
Well it only took about an hour's worth of comments,
but you guys basically confirmed what I kind of knew already.
I love my family and Callie is a part of
my family. I'm going to tell Anna that she needs
to cut us out, that Callie is my family and
that she can't expect to have the same relationship with
my family as someone who has been around six times
as long. If she doesn't cut it out, well, I'm

(38:24):
guessing that that'll be Splitsville for us, which is but
better now than a year from now. Right, and there
is an update, so we're gonna freaking jump into it first.
Thanks everyone for your advice and support. It helps to
know that there are a lot of people out there
to confirm what I was kind of already feeling about
my relationship. I'm not sure if anyone actually cares about
an update we freaking dow, but figured i'd post one anyway.

(38:47):
I do want to say that my last post wasn't
very flattering towards Anna. That's because it was a post
about a problem between us. If it were a post
about all the things about her that I love, it
would have been much longer and much more flattering. I
just wanted to say that because Anna isn't a bad person,
and I think a lot of you got an unfair
impression of her based on my perspective. Of a problem
we have that said, long story short, we broke up.

(39:11):
So this buss isn't very flattering either. That's so funny.
Oh he's like, no, no, no, like I don't want you
guys to think that she's a bad person, or like
you know that I don't like her. But also we
broke up, and.

Speaker 4 (39:22):
Even though we didn't get a lot about Anna, you
could probably wrote in a way, Yeah, this seemed favorable.

Speaker 5 (39:28):
You know, I wanted to talk to her and see
if I could get to the root of her problem
with Calli and with my family, and it seemed to
boil down to this. Anna feels like because my parents
have four boys, they embraced Callie as a story good daughter,
but now that role has been filled and there isn't
room left for Anna. Girl. You just said that they
have four boys, they're allowed to have two daughters.

Speaker 4 (39:48):
Whoa this story is hitting home, not really, but I
have like four I have like three siblings and they're
all boys.

Speaker 5 (39:55):
Yeah, like this might happen to me one day, Andie's
the only one allowed or taste girl him. She got
to battle it out. They had more together for about
three years, and we've been together tameing uh oh. She
talked a lot about how Callie has the advantage and
that Anna hasn't really been given an opportunity to prove herself.
She explained that that's part of what upset her about
not being able to come to California for my grandmother's funeral.

(40:17):
Not the funeral, but afterwards, when we all cleaned out
Grandma's house and everything. She said she wanted to be
there to show that she was helpful, dedicated, caring, whatever.
I felt really weird about all of that because it
seemed like she was viewing everything as an opportunity to
make herself look good. I don't know if I can
explain it well, but she was explaining it in this
really calculating way, and it seemed like she didn't genuinely

(40:38):
care about us, just about making herself look good. I
tried to explain to her that I think the only
advantage Callie has is that she's been around longer. I
pointed out that Anna is the same religion as my family, Catholic.
Kind of a big deal to my mom that she's
from the same region Northeast, that she and my mom
share a profession teaching and a bunch of other little things.
She wasn't hearing it, so I suggested we take a

(41:00):
break to think things over, because Callie is about to
be my family in a very real way, and if
she can't stand that, then maybe the relationship isn't working out.
Anna told me that she doesn't do breaks, so I
told her, fine, it's a breakup, but if you change
your mind in the next few weeks, I'd love to
talk to you. That was Thursday, so that's where we
were until Sunday evening. I was at Bill and Cally's

(41:21):
watching football, getting a little wasted, feeling sorry for myself,
but also feeling pretty good because the Patriots won. Callie's
a Panther's fan, so she's been having a pretty good
season also, and all three of us were having a
good day overall. And then Callie started getting Facebook messages
from Anna, a lot of them. I don't know if
she was wasted or just pissed off, but it was
just message after message of I hope you feel good

(41:42):
about yourself. I think it's disgusting how you consider all
our last names your territory. Oh Pie's Mamaly tolerates your
pathetic redneck blah, blah blah, because she thinks she'll be
able to support her when she's old. People after their
cousins where you're from. I bet I can find a
story or two about you. I hope you enjoy that ring.
It's probably the nicest thing you've ever touched. Congrats on
marrying up in social class. All the kids at the

(42:04):
watering Hole and whatever podunk Bs village spawned, you sure
will be imppressed. How will you even get the news
out smoke signal? I didn't think they got electricity there yet.
I bet you're pregnant and making him propose to save
face for your beast, your baby. Damn girl, you are
a walking red flag. This is why you have no

(42:24):
friends cause you damn Ope.

Speaker 7 (42:28):
I'm not gonna lie. Those insults were like going on
a tangent like that. I gotta give some props of that.
That's kind of crazy.

Speaker 5 (42:35):
Um wow, this girl sucks. These aren't direct quotes, but
sort of the gist of it. Basically just a lot
of really mean stuff about how Callie is from the South,
grew up poor, her parents are Mennonites, et cetera, also
accusing her of feeling threatened by Anna and forcing me
to break up with her not nice stuff. Callie was
pretty upset and had to deactivate her Facebook. Yeah block

(42:57):
this girl.

Speaker 6 (42:58):
Man.

Speaker 5 (42:58):
Bill's pissed. I'm pissed, but there's nothing good that could
come for me confronting Anna. I feel like such an
a hole for even bringing Anna around in the first place,
because none of it was worth all of this bs.
Callie blames it on the fact that Anna grew up
in an only child in a wealthy family. I don't
know if that's true or if Anna is just mean spirited.
Maybe it, you know, could be kind of a both things. Yeah,

(43:20):
either way, I feel really guilty for being the source
of all of this for CALLI. By the way, you
should never feel guilty for listening to full episodes with
stories just like this. Just go to Apple Podcasts, Spotify,
or your favorite podcast staff and search up Okay storytime
and there is a little bit left of the story.

Speaker 4 (43:37):
Good Riddensen is out of there.

Speaker 5 (43:39):
Yeah, get Anna.

Speaker 4 (43:40):
No one so confused why Anna doesn't like callie animosity.

Speaker 7 (43:45):
There's so much animosity.

Speaker 5 (43:46):
I don't because cat though, because Callie seems like so
much cooler.

Speaker 7 (43:51):
This is probably what she does. What she does, You
just like, oh, let me all right, I have to
pick out things I hate about you.

Speaker 5 (43:56):
Yeah. The thing is like I feel like or just
a person who is just incredibly jealous and angry and
can't get along with other people. They will see someone
who is well liked and just is very you know,
good at things, and maybe he's pretty and just like
has all of these great qualities and just have to

(44:17):
crap on them as much as pops on them. I see,
because it makes them feel better about themselves.

Speaker 4 (44:23):
Got it.

Speaker 5 (44:24):
But there is a little bit more to the story. Also,
the Facebook messages spoil that Bill was going to propose,
so that's a bummer.

Speaker 8 (44:32):
That sucks.

Speaker 5 (44:35):
Ooh dude, Calli's dad is a jeweler and is resizing
the rings so he can't even give it to her yet.
He was going to do it at Christmas, but I
think he's going to do it at Thanksgiving instead, So
there is a bit of a happy ending there. This
got really long. I apologize, and there is no more
to the story. That's it.

Speaker 4 (44:52):
Could you check, man? I feel like if there's another update,
you're gonna have to get a restraining order against Anne.

Speaker 5 (44:59):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (45:00):
Yeah, I feel like with everything you don't think so.
I feel like, just like blocking, do.

Speaker 4 (45:03):
You think Anna just wanted to get her rocks off
doing that?

Speaker 8 (45:07):
And that's find a probably.

Speaker 5 (45:08):
Troll on Facebook and that's it and that.

Speaker 2 (45:11):
Was all that.

Speaker 7 (45:11):
You see that stuff and you're like, you know what
I can do? Yeah block locker check.

Speaker 8 (45:18):
My fiance's boss's wife is Alayah.

Speaker 2 (45:20):
I refuse to have her at my wedding. Oh, cheating involved.

Speaker 8 (45:24):
There's boss's wife.

Speaker 1 (45:25):
Oh no, me female and my fiance twenty nine male
got engaged in July of this year. We immediately started
planning booked avenue and are slowly getting things into place.
We're pretty mutual on the guest list, as we have
both met each other's friends and family are the extended
family of mine because it's basically the size.

Speaker 2 (45:43):
Of a medium army.

Speaker 1 (45:45):
By the way, this comes from winni friend on the
r slash okay story time stat about it. So the
conversation has brought up a few times of work colleagues
coming to the wedding. He's met a fair few of
mine through small events and after work drinks, and I've
met a few of his and similar situations, including his
managing director. I have never met his MD's wife, but
I know she also works at his business. She's head

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of accounting, but seems to think she's a chief operating
officer despite that, not me in her position.

Speaker 8 (46:14):
Yeah, go back to your numbers book, lady, No your place.

Speaker 1 (46:18):
That so what I'll be saying. I've heard things about her.
From what I gather, she's not the nicest woman. And
it's not because she's a tough boss. She's very much
a person that is do as I say, not as
I do.

Speaker 2 (46:29):
Gotta love those kind of people.

Speaker 1 (46:30):
On top of this, I have never once had a
conversation with her, And even at one point I saw
my fiance in town and said hi, and she was
there and she didn't even acknowledge me. He says, it's
because she didn't know who I was. But the fact
that I walked out to him and kissed him should
have been a big enough hint.

Speaker 6 (46:47):
Yeah, that's not even a hint. That's like a big
flashing sign.

Speaker 5 (46:51):
Hey.

Speaker 2 (46:51):
Maybe she was like, oh, that's a mistress I'm gonna disrespect.

Speaker 1 (46:54):
Could be now for the story that has made me
point blank not want her as the around the pandemic
times after the second lockdown, my fiance was asked to
go out and meet some clients. One of his clients
were based in my hometown, so I asked if I
could go with them so I could visit my mom.
We were driving around to get some breakfast from unnamed

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fast food place and I got caught on around about
when we went to pull off, we got stuck in
fifth gear, so we had to call a mechanic to
come grab the car as the gear select.

Speaker 2 (47:23):
Their cable had broken.

Speaker 1 (47:24):
He called his bosses to let them know that he
wasn't going to be able to drive out that day.
His CEO was fine with it because you know, if
these things happened, and let him take the day off.
Whilst we were waiting for the toe vehicle, his CEO
must have told his wife what had happened. I think
for some reason, she didn't believe my fiance, so not
long after that he got a call from her and

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she was asking where exactly he was. My fiance, very confused,
told her and asked her why, of which she had
no reason to call, and then hung up. We were
both so puzzled, but didn't think much of it. Fast forward,
the jovan came and he dropped us and the car
back to our house. Not even fifteen minutes after being

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in this house, the CEO called and asked him to
go into the office because they needed.

Speaker 2 (48:11):
Him in work.

Speaker 1 (48:11):
Again, this is weird, but my fiance caught the tram
into work and left me confused as to what was
going on. Hour or so later, he called me up
and I could tell he was raging. He told me
that his boss and his wife called him into a
meeting to interrogate him because they didn't believe his car
wasn't drivable. He was so insulted, rightfully, rightfully so that

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he asked why they'd ever think that he'd lie about that.

Speaker 2 (48:35):
We were in a time where.

Speaker 1 (48:36):
People would use having the sickness of the pandemic as
a gain out of jail card for work so often
that if he really wanted to, he'd just have to
call in and say that if he didn't want to work,
he told me the managing director's wife told him that
she walked from their house with their dogs to our
exact spot where we'd broken down and didn't see us,

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so she knew he was lying. Wow, literally took her
dogs to walk to the spot where his card broken
down and was like, actually, I hated do there so
like you're like a totally like a liarn I got you, Like.

Speaker 8 (49:11):
If your car's not working, why aren't you in it?

Speaker 6 (49:14):
I mean, am I wrong? Is that not what she's saying?
Is your refrigerator running?

Speaker 4 (49:17):
Yeah?

Speaker 8 (49:19):
Good, that's what they always say.

Speaker 2 (49:21):
Good.

Speaker 1 (49:22):
It was at this point I heard his voice crack,
and I knew he was a whole new level of angry.
I then started to get angry because they'd pushed him
to that, and he then went on to tell me
they threatened to fire him if they found out he
was lying, and then sent him off.

Speaker 2 (49:39):
His way to work for the rest of the day. Wow, now, ladies, I.

Speaker 1 (49:44):
Know you can relate when I tell you, there's no
feeling that matches the maternal rage of wanting to protect
a loved one that's been hurt. In that moment, I
was ready to go into his office and throw hands
with his bee, but I reframed. I spoke with him
and calmed him down because they really weren't worth rising to.
I made him put in riding that he won't be
going out to visit clients free of charge anymore, and

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he is to be paid additional by the mile, and
they would have to supplement for the business expense of
the car insurance, of which I think they threw him
a bit because he was their only sales runner, but
they did agree. Fast forward again, my fiance and his
MD talked things out after he realized that he was
telling the truth, and his boss apologized. You think his
wife would apologized, But did she, Dakota, Do we think.

Speaker 2 (50:29):
The wife, who after the CEO said it.

Speaker 1 (50:32):
Was fine, was like, no, no, no, no, no, we need
to torture you.

Speaker 2 (50:35):
You're a liar.

Speaker 1 (50:36):
Do you think she's going to be like, you know what,
my bad. You were totally in the right and that
was totally my fault.

Speaker 8 (50:41):
No, because she's going to be like, oh, I walked
past your car.

Speaker 2 (50:43):
It looked fine.

Speaker 8 (50:44):
I've seen your car. It looks drivable.

Speaker 1 (50:46):
You're not only lying in front of God, you're lying
in front of my dogs.

Speaker 4 (50:53):
Not the dog.

Speaker 8 (50:53):
Those are my dogs. How the dogs dare you?

Speaker 2 (50:57):
No? Not at all.

Speaker 1 (50:58):
I got curious as to how she saw us, and
after going to his EMB's house once I decided to
bring up Google maps how long it would take to
walk from their house to the spot we broke down.
We're doing some some uh investigation over here, giving me
some high school math problems where it's like if the
distance between point A and point B is relative to

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blah blah blah. It's been a long time, I don't remember.

Speaker 7 (51:23):
It's like I'm like, oh, who would do that in
a math equation? And like, oh, now I'm the person
in the math equation.

Speaker 6 (51:28):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (51:28):
Right.

Speaker 2 (51:29):
And guess how long it was to Goda. I don't know,
two hours.

Speaker 1 (51:31):
It would take two hours. And you'll want to know
how long we were waiting for recovery, folks, forty five minutes.
There was no way she walked to us, not unless
she's the bloody flash. After I found out she lied,
I despised her for having the audacity to call my
man a liar when she stood there made him feel
like crap, all whilst lying herself. So now you know

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the backstory, you can understand why I don't want her
near my wedding. I told my I didn't want her
there based on that story, the fact that she's never apologized,
and the fact that I've never spoken to her, and
that she's a horrible you. And he told me that
he just wants me to suck it. Up because basically
he wants his boss there and she won't let him
come if she isn't invited.

Speaker 2 (52:14):
But is the bosses?

Speaker 6 (52:15):
Why why do you want your boss there? Be let's
be real, why do you want your boss at your wedding?
I have no desire for any of my boss I mean,
well except for with some exception.

Speaker 8 (52:27):
Yeah wait maybe, wait, maybe with some exception. Now, Actually,
now I can think there's only there's three.

Speaker 2 (52:32):
Okay.

Speaker 6 (52:33):
I guess I'm not a good sample size all day,
but not a good sample for this because now bosses, yes,
technically yes.

Speaker 1 (52:42):
Well what's what's what's the percentage though? How many total
bosses are we talking?

Speaker 6 (52:45):
Oh that's like not even that's like maybe ten percent
of my boss Okay.

Speaker 2 (52:48):
So only passing right, Yeah, that's that's still, you know.

Speaker 1 (52:52):
Pretty low. Opie said, that's stupid. He's a grown man
who can do what he wants. Oh and if either
of them need an explanation, they are welcome to talk
to me about that. My fiance then got mad and
told me he wouldn't be able to invite anyone from
his work if they didn't come. I asked why, and
he said it would be awkward In work afterwards. I
told him if it's awkward, then that's down to his

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boss's wife, not us, and that she shouldn't be such
an ahole. And do you know what, ladies and gentlemen,
you shouldn't be an a whole because you can listen
to full episodes with stories like this. Just go to Spotify,
Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast player and search.

Speaker 2 (53:26):
Okay, storytime. Don't be an ahole. Guys, it's all you
gotta do.

Speaker 8 (53:29):
Don't do it, and then you get the no a
hole seal of approval.

Speaker 2 (53:33):
Everyone wants that.

Speaker 1 (53:34):
John himself, let's talk about the story here, Dakota, I'm
thinking everyone sucks here.

Speaker 2 (53:40):
Do you agree? Because fiance was like, I can invite
whoever I want.

Speaker 1 (53:44):
I'm gonna bet my boss and everyone will be awkward
if I don't invite everyone.

Speaker 6 (53:47):
I do kind of get that where it's like it
could be awkward. It depends on the company, depends on
what kind of job it is. We don't really know
anyth about it.

Speaker 8 (53:55):
He's in sales, very clicky.

Speaker 1 (53:58):
Like I was just gonna say, uh, hey, this is
your wedding, do we need to use it for it?
Sounds like he's like politicking with it with the company,
and it's like, you know what, just enjoy the day.

Speaker 4 (54:08):
Maybe yeah, it's.

Speaker 6 (54:09):
Like, but then if you do have friends that you
want from your job, that you're like that you would
want there, then it does make it hard because if
you don't want the boss feeling like you don't like him,
because then he's not gonna like You's just like, it's
a fact you never want your boss to not like
you because it's gonna make your job more miserable. Like
that's just the way of the that's the natural order
of things. But I don't think necessarily the problem here

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isn't even the boss.

Speaker 2 (54:32):
It's his wife.

Speaker 6 (54:33):
So if you can find I have a contingency that
somehow keeps the wife from like becoming like the coo
of the wedding, or should I say the fake coo
of the wedding, She's like, I have some numbers to
crunch here. Let's really crunch the numbers on your wedding.

Speaker 2 (54:47):
You know what, She's the CFO. She fake officer.

Speaker 8 (54:50):
Yeah, she fake CFO.

Speaker 2 (54:53):
She fake officer, chief, fake officer.

Speaker 1 (54:56):
So Opie says, he then switched on me and said
it was my fault and that I was being too
stubborn and I should just let her come to the wedding.
I've held my ground and said no, but now I
feel bad because, just like me, he's stubborn. He said
he won't invite anyone from his work who who we
actually would want there, because I don't want his boss's
wife there and I don't want him to do that.

Speaker 2 (55:16):
I don't know what to do.

Speaker 1 (55:17):
Because he does have some lovely colleagues, but I can't
stand his boss's wife.

Speaker 2 (55:21):
Am I the a hole? Actually everyone sucks about Ope,
That's what I meant to say earlier.

Speaker 6 (55:25):
I don't know why is OP so concerned about it,
like the boss. I mean, it's not even OP doesn't
work there. Op didn't have to go into the office
and be accused of being a liar. Ope's just caught
up on the fact that the wife hasn't apologized, which
who cares her apology would be meaningless because she probably
wouldn't even mean it.

Speaker 1 (55:45):
True to play devil's advocate, I would say, it's like, hey,
you don't want someone, you don't like her, you feel
brings negative energy to you at your wedding. Well, let's
see we've got we got a little bit on the
story left or some relevant commentaris I might say, who might.

Speaker 2 (56:00):
Have their own take Comment number one.

Speaker 1 (56:02):
Inviting someone who is consistently cold and rude to your
fiance to your wedding may have unintended consequences. Think about
how their behavior could impact your fiance's work environment and
relationships with colleagues, including the MD, in the long run.

Speaker 2 (56:14):
That's so funny.

Speaker 1 (56:15):
I thought they were saying the opposite, Like, think about
how it might make you know, like ope feel to
have someone at their wedding, But they're like, no, think
about fiance's work life, like being ruined for the rest
of his Yeah, you care that.

Speaker 6 (56:27):
The money you can't mess the money up, can't mess
the money up over because then this person's winning. All
this goes back to like there's this weird like circles
all the way back around, and if you like make
all these decisions over one person who you don't want
to be around.

Speaker 2 (56:42):
They're actually they're still winning.

Speaker 6 (56:43):
They're still they're they're impacting your life so much that
now you're making decisions just based upon their existence.

Speaker 2 (56:50):
This like this is impossible for me.

Speaker 1 (56:52):
Commenter says, it's possible that you may not even interact
with the MD's wife during the wedding, and she may
not even attend the ceremony. So ask yourself, is stay
on inviting her really worth potentially jeopardizing your fiance's work
life and causing him undue stress and anxiety. Consider what's
more important to you being right or ensuring your fiance's
happiness and well being. Do you want him to be

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calling you every week anxious and upset because of the
uncomfortable work environment you've created. Take a step back and
think about the potential long term effects of your decision.
Is inviting someone who is route to your fiance really
worth the risk? I understand your reason, and my petty
self would would call her lieout, But him having a
job is worth more than calling her out. I'm still undecided,
but it's convincing argument. But we're gonna get into comment

(57:34):
to number two. Hmmm, if your fiance won't stand up
and have a firm professional boundary with these people, I don't.

Speaker 2 (57:41):
Think you should be fighting that battle. This is sticky.
I do understand where you're coming from. Nice I did
the effort to go to NICE.

Speaker 1 (57:49):
I wouldn't want them to be there either. Why is
your fiance hell bent on having them there image slash
promo seems like too much, so we've got kind of
like one take from each side.

Speaker 6 (58:00):
I can answer that, and it's it's because it's not
in a vacuum. It's like he because if you invite
everyone but your boss, your boss can find out your
boss is gonna and then that impacts your work. I
don't even think it's about like making it himself look
good or getting a promotion. It's literally just if we
don't invite him, we can't invite the rest of my

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friends from work, who I would assume you'd want to
be at your wedding.

Speaker 1 (58:24):
Comment number three, invite them and put them at a table,
buy the kitchen at reception. Comment number four, man for
your fiance psych invite the troll. When she tries to
congratulate you, look her up and down and walk off.
But I'm just a petty biatch.

Speaker 8 (58:40):
Yeah, just give her the look at luger. Yeah, I'd
be proud of me too.

Speaker 2 (58:48):
See you and that's it. Goodbye, see you.

Speaker 1 (58:52):
Hey, it's John here og host of the show. We're
gonna get back to these juicy stories. But here's a
quick three minutes of ads from our sponsors. My husband
forgot to r SCP to a cousin's wedding. Now he's
blaming me. Hey you, my secretary. No, no, you might cousin.

Speaker 2 (59:05):
Look in the mirror.

Speaker 1 (59:06):
My thirty three female husband's thirty five male cousin is
getting married and we received our invitations about three months ago.
The invite was addressed to our entire family, and when
you go online to RCVP, it lists each of our
names individually.

Speaker 2 (59:18):
You can check off who you are rsvping for.

Speaker 1 (59:22):
By the way, this comes from rsv pissed off on
the r slash Okay story Times sub reddit. As soon
as I received the invite, I went online to RSVP.
There was a section four advice to the couple and
another four song request smart idea. I checked all our
names and filled everything out immediately. However, my husband said
he needed time to think about the advice he wanted

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to give and the songs he wanted to request. We
can't just RSVP now. We got to really think about
these extra boxes, the optional boxes we got to fill in, right.

Speaker 4 (59:53):
Yeah, don't.

Speaker 8 (59:54):
I don't want to answer wrong?

Speaker 1 (59:55):
All right, No big deal. I'll wait for him to
figure it out. But later that night I wanted to
ask if we could finish the RSVP together, but he
got frustrated and snapped at me, like, God, no.

Speaker 2 (01:00:03):
I haven't had time to think about it. Please don't
rush me.

Speaker 5 (01:00:06):
I need time.

Speaker 2 (01:00:08):
I need time. I have a lot of thoughts.

Speaker 8 (01:00:10):
I need time for these thoughts.

Speaker 1 (01:00:14):
I decided to leave it alone because since he can
be dramatic sometimes.

Speaker 2 (01:00:17):
And to pick your battles and whatnot.

Speaker 1 (01:00:18):
Three weeks have passed by, and I started to feel
stressed because the rs VP the response to.

Speaker 2 (01:00:24):
Deadline was approaching. Rub Yeah John.

Speaker 1 (01:00:28):
Every time I asked about him, he still wasn't ready,
saying that he hadn't had time.

Speaker 2 (01:00:32):
To really sit down and finger about it yet.

Speaker 1 (01:00:34):
Eventually, I told him I was going to r VP
for myself and the kids, and he could do his
whenever he was ready. I hated the feeling of nagging
him about it, and I didn't want to do it anymore.
He agreed and said that he would.

Speaker 2 (01:00:44):
Take care of it.

Speaker 8 (01:00:45):
Well he meant it in like the New York Tony
soprano way.

Speaker 6 (01:00:50):
Yeah, yeah, he's just doing a gap the penguin, Hey
damn it. Yeah, actually, yeah, kind of a little bit
two weeks went by and the deadline passed. I was
at his cousin's bridal shower when she said I'm so
sorry that your husband isn't coming to the wedding. I
immediately realized he had forgotten RSVP.

Speaker 1 (01:01:09):
No to respond, SI play response. I sighed and told
her he probably just forgot. She looked at me a
bit strangely and confused as to why I did an
RSVP for him along with the kids. I explained the situation,
but it felt like she didn't really believe me.

Speaker 2 (01:01:25):
Yeah.

Speaker 6 (01:01:26):
Imagine trying to turn because that would be crazy. Yeah,
and everyone thinks that she's Oh god, she's lying about it.

Speaker 2 (01:01:34):
Well.

Speaker 1 (01:01:34):
Later that night, my husband got a message from his
cousin the bride, asking if what I told her at
the bridal shower was true.

Speaker 2 (01:01:41):
He admitted that he had forgotten to RSVP.

Speaker 1 (01:01:44):
She said that she hadn't realized it was just an
oversight and assumed that he genuinely couldn't come because of
his job, which sometimes requires him to travel on weekends
when her wedding is She then mentioned that since it
had been over a week since the deadline, they had
already submitted the numbers to the caterer and signed the compra.

Speaker 8 (01:02:00):
Okay, but that's not a big deal. I that's honestly
not a big deal. No, you bring a lunch.

Speaker 2 (01:02:05):
Well, what about your seat? Are you bringing you? Are
you bringing your lawn chair? Bring a lunch?

Speaker 8 (01:02:09):
I guarantee you that they can bring one more chair.

Speaker 1 (01:02:12):
She also said she hadn't made the seating chart yet,
but couldn't guarantee they could adjust the dinner arrangements. At
this point, I told my husband not to make her
go through all that trouble because he forgot to RSCP.
He insisted that he wasn't gonna miss his cousin's wedding
and asked why I just didn't RSVP for him if
I knew he was going to miss the deadline.

Speaker 8 (01:02:30):
Du No, ways, you know I'm missing competent. Why did
you let me do that? Why did you let me?
You put me in charge of mail?

Speaker 2 (01:02:37):
Oh boy?

Speaker 1 (01:02:38):
I told him I didn't realize he had forgotten until
his cousin mentioned it at the bridal shower, and by
then it was too late. He still thinks I should
have reminded him more, and then I'm purposely being an
a hole to prove my point, bro, you said, like
you kept getting like, oh.

Speaker 2 (01:02:54):
Please stop reminding me, please.

Speaker 1 (01:02:57):
But now he's worried he'll look stupid if I go
to the wedding with our kids and without him. People
start asking why he couldn't make it. So am I
the a hole? We have an update? Can we really
quickly answer? Is OP the a hole or not? If
she goes to the wedding?

Speaker 6 (01:03:09):
Honestly, if you knew your husband was that dumb, yeah
you are. No, of course you're not. No, of course
you're not.

Speaker 2 (01:03:14):
He is the one that messed up. How does he
not understand that?

Speaker 1 (01:03:17):
Cassie O'Brien says, he's an adult, right right exactly. But
there is an update where the fallout will be revealed.
Maybe so update. I didn't realize this would get so
many comments, but I've been reading through them all and
want to answer a few common questions for those saying
I would have just RSVP'd and let him fill it
out later. I didn't realize you could do that. When
we got married ten years ago, we didn't have a

(01:03:39):
wedding website or anything like that. We had people rvp
by three cards by mail. I figured that once you
submitted the RCP.

Speaker 2 (01:03:44):
That's it. You can't go back and add to it.

Speaker 1 (01:03:46):
I'm looking at the wedding website now, and whilst it
doesn't allow us to RCP anymore, it does let us
edit the information in it. But again, I genuinely had
no idea this was possible. If I had remembered that
he had an RSVP'd, I would have done it myself.
But I actually forgot because of the next point, which
is for those asking if he had ADHD, yes he does,

(01:04:09):
but so do I and both of our kids. We
met in an ADHD support group in college.

Speaker 6 (01:04:16):
So I think, uh, given that, I think I need
to clarify because I feel like it could be really
easy to interpret me saying rat brain as like a dismerchment.
It's more just like, I consider rat I have rat brain.
I'm a rat braindividual. Tuti ratitutti. Yeah no, but it's
just like it's rat brain is like you're just doing something,

(01:04:37):
then you're doing something else, and then it's like and
then you'll go over and every memory you've ever had,
and your whole life is gone. Where's the cheese because
you're busy getting cheese cheese somewhere else.

Speaker 8 (01:04:48):
As soon as you lose sight of the cheese, it's
onto the next piece of cheese.

Speaker 1 (01:04:52):
Well, the reason I was so anxious as a deadline
approach is because I know how easy it is to
forget things like RSVPs when you have ADHD and yeah
the rhyme. I reminded him every time I remembered it
was due, But after we agreed he'd be responsible for
his I eventually stopped reminding him and then forgot about
it completely. For those asking why his cousin just can't
add one more person, she definitely can, but she made

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it clear to him that it involved several extra steps
and possibly an additional fee since the deposit is based
on a percentage of the total. It's more about her
having to deal with older people and people overseas not rcping,
than adding them last minute. She's trying to ensure her parents,
the groom's parents, and immediately family members are all factored
into the equation. When she checked the RSCP lists, my

(01:05:37):
husband's RCP automatically showed up as no on her end
because he.

Speaker 2 (01:05:42):
Missed the deadline.

Speaker 1 (01:05:43):
So it's like, hey, because he didn't fill it out,
the website just has it as no.

Speaker 2 (01:05:47):
And didn't realize it was in oversight.

Speaker 1 (01:05:49):
For those saying that I should have told the cousin
exactly what happened, I did exactly as it happened, she
didn't believe me. And for those also suggesting that I
remind him that I'm not his mom, I did and
he agreed.

Speaker 2 (01:05:59):
He told me he would handle it himself.

Speaker 1 (01:06:01):
For those asking if he does this a lot or
if he has other redeeming qualities and this is just
a one off thing. He has ADHD and he is
so forgetful, but so am I. There are things he
excels at that I struggle with. For example, my ADHD
sometimes causes me to forget that I left things on
or open. It could be something simple like leaving the
microwave or a fridge door open, or something more dangerous

(01:06:22):
like leaving the stove on. This got worse for me
after having kids. There are definitely a few times when
he picks up my slack just as I pick up his.
We both understand that sometimes we can't help it and
try not to.

Speaker 2 (01:06:32):
Judge each other for it.

Speaker 1 (01:06:33):
He absolutely has redeeming qualities. So for instance, he works
from home during the week, and this is on top
of the kid's school stuff and doctor's appointments. He's the
primary parent for those responsibilities. That takes such a load
off because he's so good at it and our kids
are his everything.

Speaker 6 (01:06:49):
Wow, it's gotta be hard to do that with ADHD
when your your work life, your private life, or your
work life, or your personal life, and your family life
are all taking place in the exact same area.

Speaker 2 (01:07:00):
Yes, it's a lot, and I like the I like her.

Speaker 1 (01:07:04):
You know they're giving it up and and and it's
it's it seems like they do have a true partnership.
You know, they're helping each other, uh, with their strengths
and weaknesses.

Speaker 2 (01:07:12):
I like it. I like it. Well.

Speaker 1 (01:07:12):
When we got pregnant, we made a pack to use
all the attention we have, despite our attention deficit, every
last downs to put our kids first and ourselves last.
He's held up his end of that bargain. Unfortunately. I
love him with all my heart and he is a
good partner most of the time. Most of the time
I'm not babying him, and he's perfectly rational, But sometimes

(01:07:35):
he just has his moments.

Speaker 2 (01:07:36):
This is one of those moments.

Speaker 1 (01:07:37):
And you can have one of those moments there, I say,
a good moment when you realize that you can listen
to full, full episodes of stories just like this on
our podcast. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcast, or your
favorite podcast platform and search Okay Storytime and it'll be
right there, full episodes for you.

Speaker 8 (01:07:52):
You know, I really like the way that you're talking
right now.

Speaker 1 (01:07:55):
I like the way that you're talking. But Dakota, before
we get into we have we have more of the story.
I feel like this is a case of it is
what it is. Yeah, seems like they have a good partnership.
It was an honest mistake, he has ADHD everyone.

Speaker 2 (01:08:08):
We all have our faults.

Speaker 1 (01:08:09):
We all slip up sometimes. It just happened to be
a slip up with the wedding. What it sounds like
he was.

Speaker 6 (01:08:15):
Just wound up in that moment where it's like that
she even thinking about doing the RSVP right now is
going to make my brain explode.

Speaker 8 (01:08:22):
I can't do it.

Speaker 6 (01:08:23):
It's like, just do it right now, Like I literally
going to curl up into a ball and stop existing
if I even try to sign that rsup right now.

Speaker 1 (01:08:33):
It's trying no reason, trying to make the perfect playlist,
you know, it's trying to have the perfect advice for
a wedding.

Speaker 2 (01:08:38):
I mean, hey, that's toll over.

Speaker 6 (01:08:39):
And then the rat brain probably just took over and
he just forgot and probably thought about it at one
point where it was entirely inconvenient, and he is not
anywhere nearby the place where he could even do it.

Speaker 8 (01:08:49):
That's what when I forget stuff like that, That's how
it happens to me.

Speaker 6 (01:08:51):
It's like I'll be somewhere else and I'll be like, oh, yeah,
that thing I can do that's like on the other
side of town right now, that I forgot to do
two days ago. Like I can't do it right now
because I'm not there, Like, but I should do it later.

Speaker 2 (01:09:02):
Okay, let's finish this real quick.

Speaker 1 (01:09:03):
So for those saying I should let him go in
place with the kids and take the day for myself,
that's exactly what I'm gonna do. For those suggesting I
show him this post, I did. But even before I did,
he had already apologized for snapping at me. He was
frustrated and embarrassed and unfortunately took it out on me.
I've done the same to him before we both mess up.
But he came to the conclusion on his own that
he should have taken care of it and not blamed me.

Speaker 2 (01:09:24):
He's sorry and.

Speaker 1 (01:09:25):
Is making it up by buying me something expensive this week.
Can't wait, lil, And we have a few quick comments.
Comment number one, not the a hole. Why do women
have to bear the burden of remembering to remind their partners?
Can we task true facts on top of everything else
involved in managing a household? This typically is defined as
nagging quote unquote infuriating. Comment number two, not the a hole.
Your husband is an adult. He made a decision for himself,

(01:09:48):
despite the many reminders and nagging. If he can't attend,
it's his fault and should own up to his mistake
and not hold you accountable for it, which he did
at the end. Sorry, he's behaving like a man child.
I hope is is an isolated issue, and not that
he pushes the issue at his convenience and then blames
you for his lack of self awareness.

Speaker 2 (01:10:06):
Coming number three.

Speaker 1 (01:10:07):
Let the man maybe deal with his consequences on his
own way way way. You reminded him multiple times and
he was sniffy about it. Yours wife, not a secretary,
not his event planner. Coming number four.

Speaker 2 (01:10:18):
What are you.

Speaker 1 (01:10:18):
Supposed to have done? He told you not to do it.
This seems to be a situation where you cannot win. Sorry,
he's a booty about stuff like this. I'm sure he
has some good redeeming qualities, but this must be quite
the pain in the booty.

Speaker 2 (01:10:30):
Indeed, But look at that brilliant resolution. Though. Honestly, it's like.

Speaker 5 (01:10:36):
Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 8 (01:10:36):
He definitely was annoying, but I'm annoying too, and he
can just take it.

Speaker 6 (01:10:42):
I'll have the day to myself and he can go
to the wedding that he wants to go do way
more than me, and he'll take the kids.

Speaker 1 (01:10:46):
As long as And it seems like op wasn't like
like if op felt more strongly or feelings were more hurt,
which you know, hey, we all got feelings too, that's okay.
But I really liked the place that we ended at.
Op acknowledged his stuff. He apologized and acknowledged his stuff,
and Opie said, hey, take my place in the wedding
so you can see your cousin and.

Speaker 2 (01:11:09):
Happily ever after.

Speaker 8 (01:11:10):
Yeah, I feel like it's a great little microcosm of
like

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