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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Sam here og host.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
We're gonna get back to these stories, but here's three
minutes fads from our sponsors. First, I caught my girlfriend
sending inappropriate photos to a friend. Oh no, they say
he's just a friend, but maybe not. For some context,
we have been going through a rough patch in our
relationship for the past five months. That's these amount of
time long.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Patch, that's almost a whole whole garden.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Right, But the stress of college and work life things
have been strenuous. She's in a nursing program, I'm in
a criminology course. Both of our schedules are pretty much full. Yeah,
and the spare time we do normally have spent is
watching TV shows or playing games we both enjoy. By
the way, this comes from guest one four two, one, two, six, six,
(00:46):
three seven two eights and if you submit your own stories,
go to the r slash Okay storytime subreddits. So our
relationship has been going on for five years and a
long distance. I've always had doubts about the possibility of
hurt cheating, but nevertheless trusted her wholeheartedly.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
I mean nursing.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
I'm not saying it is the discipline where people cheap most,
but everyone else is.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
I am just pointing to the number statistics. Statistics statistically
nurses cheap.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Most as Riley loves that one.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
With the occasional fights happening over small, seemingly insignificant situations,
we have had a strained last few months. I knew
about her male friend strat What a name, that's cool,
who she met online through one of the games they
played together.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
That's an awesome name. Yeah, I'm pretty high strat game player,
big strat man, big strat Man.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
I had my worries, but nevertheless I trusted her. In
April of this year, we had a large, fright fight
about my brother's girlfriend. I'm currently sharing a house with
my brother and his girlfriend is living with us too.
I tried to avoid speaking with her, not because of
any issue I have with her, but more so than
I am too busy and have my attention elsewhere with
school and work. I have no interest in having any
(02:07):
type of friendly relationship with my brother's girlfriend of three months.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
I mean, all right, sure, I.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Guess, bro, you know, I mean, you don't need to
convince us. Yeah, I swear I'm not into my brother's
girl for next square. Oh okay, that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
That makes sense.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
I thought he was just saying, like, I'm so busy,
I don't got it time. I'll have the time to
be friendly say hello. I could have used that half
second to, you know.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Do some more. Gosh, Dan's criminology. Come on, I don't
stop and I don't stops. You think these criminals are
taking time to say hello. No, they're getting right to
the straight straight to stabbing. Oh man.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
So, however, my fiance has been adamant that I have
some sort of feelings for her.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Ah see, there we go for Sam, what's right?
Speaker 3 (02:54):
This whole argument lasted two days and ended us with
us not speaking for roughly one month and long distance
at bat.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
And how long have they been dating? Uh? Oh, what
was it again? I think it was five months? Yeah,
I think five months.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
You're right, brof of your relationship you haven't been talking?
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Is crazy? I don't know, man, this is not stable ground.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Well this was because I told her I do not
want to continue an argument with her that's going nowhere
near conclusion. That solves the problem. So she's like, great,
we won't argue.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
That's hilarious.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
We both had finals coming up and needed to study
and focus on what's important for our future rather than.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Bickering over something so small.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
Well, yesterday I found out that during the last five
months of our relationship she has been seeking emotional support
from this guy Stratch, not five months, big, the whole relation.
Five months Yep, big, strap and strat, Strap and strad.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
I mean he knows, he knows the strat, he knows
all the moves to get your girl.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
He's a strapping young man. He has a strap on
with a young man.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Oh god, he's strapped on all his emotional intelligence, his
heart and not only that, but also financial support.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
I e. She asked him for money and he gave
it to her. That's weird. This was definitely hurtful to hear.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
But as it turns out, she also took time spent
apart after a fight to push their relationship to a
more spicy related side. He was consoling her over a
fresh fight, and she felt a self proclaimed emotional connection
with him simply because he sent her a video of
him playing the guitar.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Babe, this one's cold, Wonderwall. Riddle me this what is
the worst?
Speaker 3 (04:46):
A spicy pick or a video of him singing Wonderwall
to her?
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (04:50):
What is he saying back, you're my wonderwall Oh that
one that one game over.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
Game over, it's a marriage.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
She claims to not remember much of what happened, even
though it was a month ago, but did remember that
she sent him new dy photographs of herself. Wait what Yep,
she remembered that, and that's what she did. She sent
him spicy photos.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
During during during the month off during during the month
where they didn't talk because he was like, I don't
want to argue without a conclusion, so she said bet
and they didn't say anything to each other during that month.
I like to think that like nothing nothing was actually
like they were like, no, it's not worth taking a
break for a month.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
It was just who was gonna not talk for long? Yeah?
Game of chicken? Yeah, game that That's that's truly all lost.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
Oh man, she initiated this spicy related encounter, and he
was hesitant to reciprocate. As she told me, man, she's
I mean, I got it. Seems like she's being honesty.
She's the play by play. She's like, yeah, I was
just about and he's like I don't know, and I'm like,
here's here. How about thirty more than that?
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Change your mind down his pant he was wearing box
their briefs, like, well, if you can't took that little
you know, like the little hole they have in the
front and rip that open.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Oh man, right underneath groundhog Day is here.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
I am crushed and hurt that she would sit there
and accuse me of having feelings for another woman when
I was fully devoted to her and put her in
a position where she was the only woman in my
life I would speak to outside of work for work
reasons and classes for group projects, projecting class.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
You're like, you didn't talk for a month.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
Though It's it's true, but it's also like I think,
I think what he should have done is like, hey,
like where are we?
Speaker 1 (06:37):
What are we? Like? Yeah, I know, I think I
think she she she definitely did.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Wrong, but I get a few days. Yeah, not talking
for a month is crazy.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
But like a month is like I would think after
a week you'd be like, hey, like are you okay?
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Like can we can we like just figure out what's
going on?
Speaker 3 (06:53):
Like what are you feeling? Yeah? Also, can we put
up a pole? Because I'm just too curious underwall or dpic?
The poll is up, so let me know I'm very curious.
I gave a considerable portion of my time and money
in order to try and make things work, despite the distance,
going as far as to pay for all of her
(07:13):
trips for us to meet Wow. This totaled roughly ten
thousand dollars for all expenses accounted for dates, plane tickets,
eating out, et cetera, et cetera.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Yeah, flying, flying dates, that's a lot. That is cot
that's a lot.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
That's you know, it's money. Not to mention the ring
I gave her when I proposed I thought it would
be a good idea to use my great grandmother's engagement
ring that was passed down to my mom. I asked
my parents' permission and used around seven thousand dollars to
redesign it while staying true to the original ring. This
money is not included in the trip expenses, so seventeen
(07:48):
k total.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
We're in the hole here.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
This money was used to resize the ring and to
have a large one carrot diamond sent set in the
ring as a center stone, using the previous significantly smaller diamonds.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
To line the edges of the ring.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
She was so happy and ecstatic to have been proposed
to I think this is the first time I realizing
they were engaged. Yeah, dude, And it felt as if
this was the woman of my dreams. She wanted to
be with me and I am with her. I would
lay awake at night thinking of possibilities for a wedding
or honeymoon, our future everything.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Let it all.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Came crashing down, All came crashing down. After finding out
how she so easily showed her entire body to another
man ruined my view of her. When I asked her
for more details, and during the course of our fight
over the situation, she told me she did not regret
doing it and that she was unsure if she made
the right decision choosing me over him.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I mean, I mean, do you need another Like.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Why are we here? Why are we in this relationship?
Do you need another reason to stay?
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (09:01):
I at this point, I feel like at first I
was like, oh, wow, she's being so honest about the pictures.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
Now I feel like she's like kind of goating him
into Yeah. I feel like she almost wants him to
break up with her. You can go back with.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Strat strassh always with the strat Strat's like old straddle
strap a ringer on your finger.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Oh yeah, you will yet here I got you, baby, Sophia.
Could you ponder for someone to.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Get a go go juice of some juice, any type
of go go juice will do.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Indeed, we might be irrations might be low. Or coffee
of any sort of coffee.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
She was genuinely considering leaving me for another man after
all I have done for her. She's not remorseful about
her actions, and it makes me think that she would
do it again. She has told me that despite her
thoughts and feelings, she still chose me, as if I
should be grateful.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Yeah, that's whack dang dang dang.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
Well, I am torn on whether or not I should
put in the effort to continue the relationship. I still
love her and honestly feel like I always will, but
I'm worried if it's even.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
Able to be saved.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
She says she wants our relationship to continue, but I'm
unsure if it's possible. Yes, it was just nudy photographs,
but I can't help but wonder if it was anything more.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Were there other guys?
Speaker 3 (10:17):
And hey, Opie, even just you know, nudy photographs. It's
okay if you like that that is that's not perfectly,
that is enough, that is perfectly okay.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
If you're like, hey, this is.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
Not it for me, all of my greatest fears are
coming to fruition, and my thoughts formed while overthinking, are
clouding my head with nihilism.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
I would greatly.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
Appreciate any form of advice from anyone out there. Thank
you for taking the time to read my story gratefully.
S Z twenty three mail, ooh when we have an
update that just caused the phone to explode out of
my hand so hot and juicy.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Yeah, I mean, I feel like she's trying to hurt him.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
It feels like if this is not a good relationship
or has become a bad relationship. They've been together for
five years, rough patch for five months, dude, and then
a no talking for one month, and she was emotionally
talk like like using this guy's emotional support for five
months and sending newdie picks four or five months, four
(11:19):
or just the.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
One during the one month. We don't know if it's
a whole month, but during the one month window.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
Yeah, I mean the one month window maybe is like
I don't know if they had like an actual break
or something.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
It doesn't sound like they've talked about it at all.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Yeah, like maybe that's a little bit of a gray area,
but the whole like talking for five months, it feels
like Stratt is the guy that started the rough patch
of anything.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Oh yeah, from from only the context we have available
at us available for us. They had no discussion about it.
They just stopped talking and to me because it wasn't established.
It's like, hey, you like and you know, Op is
being I feel like pretty cool, but he's like, oh,
I know.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
It's just like the nude the nude photos.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
But it's like, hey, dude, like you know, she kind
of did that without you know, being like hey I
want to break Yeah, which I mean.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
But I do think they both have room to grow
in terms of being good partners to each other.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
Yeah yeah, why didn't he reach out in the month
and be like, hey, what are like, I you know,
what's going on?
Speaker 1 (12:17):
A thing you should do? But are we ready to
get into this update? Let's do it. Let's do it.
Sorry for the delayed update. No delay over here.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
I did have to go to work today and I'm
just now getting home to write this update. So enjoy
the ride to answer some questions and maybe provide some
more clarity. I will respond to a couple of people
as well as be copying and pasting the entire text
story from after our fight, in addition to what we
talked about over the phone when I found out. So
I guess the first thing to address is people asking
how I found out, or if I knew about it
(12:48):
prior to proposing, or if I knew the relationship was,
if I knew their relationship before this transpired, et cetera.
So yes, I proposed to her a little before they
met a little less than a year ago, a year
prior at this point. Thankfully, I do in fact have
the ring, So to all of you saying get the
ring back, etc.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Don't worry.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
I can keep my family heirloom without ever seeing her again.
This is because I jumped the peep you a bit
on the proposal and it was sort of out of
the blue moment rather than something planned. So I guess
he kind of just like it kind of just came
out of him, and he didn't have the ring or
the set up or anything, which.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
I guess is good now. Sometimes you have so much
love that you gotta gotta throw out there.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
However, it didn't fit, which I already knew. I guess
the ring, and I was in the process of speaking
with jewelers on how to go about designing it. The
moment was too perfect to pass up. Won't be speaking
on it as I don't want to think about it
either way. She gave me the ring in December twenty
twenty two when she came to visit for Christmas, and
I asked for the ring back, telling her it was
a surprise for her. I was planning to give it
(13:50):
to her again for a year anniversary of being engaged
at the same spot. I proposed her that would have
been cute as far as I knew the guy existed.
As far as if I knew the guy existed.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Yes, I did. His strat was to be known.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
I even expressed my discomfort to her multiple times, as
well as calling her out for suspicious behavior. So before
the messages, we would normally sleep call every night on FaceTime.
While watching a TV show, she said she wanted to
go shower and was gone for upwards of an hour
an hour and a half.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
It took a long time to get cleaned, getting dirty Sudsey.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
Following are some messages word for word from the time
I called her out. I am Sean and she is
Elizabeth Opie. Tell me the truth or leave me alone.
Don't BS me. I'm not cheating on you. Look at
what I sent you on TikTok okay, OPI, yeah, I
saw it. It's bs. I'm not effing stupid. There's another guy,
so tell me the truth. There's no other guy. I
(14:54):
was pissed last night, and I was sure that you
were going to look at what I posted on TikTok
a of course, so you make me think you're cheating
on me. Good idea dot dot dot. You weren't saying
anything to me, like what the f me question marks
per question mark, So let's make sure I'm understanding this correctly.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
Yesterday starts. Everything is fine.
Speaker 3 (15:15):
I even come home from work on my break to
watch a show with you, during which time Matt, my brother,
came in to ask me what I think about a
meal that he cooked. He says that Elena, his girlfriend,
liked the one made before better, and I agreed because
the pasta was overcooked this time. And just because of
the comment that short minute of insignificant conversation, you were
upset at me. For the rest of the night, not
(15:37):
even saying I love you back when I said it
to you. Clearly you were still upset. I went to
lay in bed, and you took two hours to call
me and never talk to me while you were watching
the show, continue to not say I love you when
I would say so. Obviously I did something wrong to
upset you, but I don't see it that way. So
I hung up, and you thought, you know what, let
me make this TikTok talk about something another guy did
(15:57):
for you that I've never done for you, And you're
saying that doing that making me think you're cheating is
a good idea.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
So basically this is so toxic.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Yeah, yes, the tiding each other on social media publicly
is so lame.
Speaker 3 (16:12):
So to spell out what's what's happened here, it seems
that she made a TikTok talking about Stratt and how
Stratt I think like helped her out financially.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
It was like, oh my god, what a great guy.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Whatever to what I believe in response was to him
talking to his brother's girlfriend and being like, oh yeah,
like I like this other meal better, like very very
like neutral, like super.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Platonic, like pasta talk you know, yikes, yeah, big, yikes,
this is this is a super big yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:47):
I don't I don't know if this relationship is the
one to continue with.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
But well, let's see the story. I don't know what's
going I'm still too hot. I don't know what's going
on with.
Speaker 4 (16:57):
Expressing gratitude multiple times is a heartful way to I
say thank you for their helping?
Speaker 3 (17:02):
Why?
Speaker 1 (17:02):
Yeah? What is til darbot? Who are you listening to?
Dingis bot? AnyWho?
Speaker 3 (17:07):
And that it's a result of me not responding to
you last night, even though you were the one not responding.
I don't buy it. I'm positive you are cheating on
me with someone else. Don't don't me. Just tell me
that thing truth, am telling that thing.
Speaker 1 (17:20):
Truth.
Speaker 3 (17:20):
You didn't talk to me last night. You sent me
that video as if it is something. I waited for
you to call me when I got out of the
shower and went to lay on my bed, and you
decided to leave the call and didn't even try to
talk to me afterwards, And I literally saw you got
on TikTok. I made a whole thing literally yesterday telling
you how I felt.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
You reassured me by.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
Telling me that it was an insignificant, insignificant fing convo.
And yet for me, I saw it differently, and I
know you do like her, So don't pretend you only
talked to Elena brother's girlfriend when I'm not around, and
that's pretty obvious. Oh this is exhausting. This is so exhausting.
I do not like this one bit, Obie says. At
twelve thirty, we finished the episode. I said, Okay, bedtime, babe.
(18:01):
You said, I'm not tired. Bro, I'll get in bed
to watch another episode with you right before a shower.
I waited for you to do that. I waited for
you to do that and your night routine, which normally
takes fifteen to thirty minutes. Then you finally join again
after two hours. You weren't talking to me at all.
Halfway through the show. I went to the bathroom and
came back, and you weren't responding even after I said
hello for five minutes, so I left the call. I think, fallatside,
(18:22):
it took you so long, and then I think realized
you have being left, Like what did you expect me
to just disappear from my phone?
Speaker 5 (18:29):
What?
Speaker 1 (18:30):
I didn't even mute myself. Any person, even you would
have known I was sleeping.
Speaker 3 (18:35):
Oh my god, I'm not sure when the whole TikTok
video comes to this. Anyways, regardless, you never even showed remorse.
All you had to say was that it's your fault
that you posted that comment. And now I'm letting you
know that all I wanted was some sort of apology
or explanation. You'll say, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't mean it,
I love you, blah blah blah blah. But it doesn't matter.
Now you're only saying it because I asked you to.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
Don't worry. I'll let you get the last word in,
but afterwards you should go study. I'm gonna go to Betterly.
I have to get up at seven tomorrow for a
doctor's appointment. Are you clicking through? Oh my god? What
is it? More of this conversation. There's a lot more.
Speaker 3 (19:15):
It's still okay, it's basically just this until the end
of the story.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Is it interesting?
Speaker 3 (19:22):
Let's close out, and I think this is just a
conversation they've already had.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
So by the way, if.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
You love listening to us, Oh boy, do I have
some news for you, go to Apple, Spotify or heart
Radio and search. Okay, story time and Binge to your
heart skin two thousand episodes. That's a lot of good
to listen to. But we have the finale of the
story here, so I am invested. I want to know
what happens at the end of this story. Here we go,
(19:50):
so this will probably be the end of my story.
Thank you all for coming along this crap show ride
with me, and.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
Thanks for the advice.
Speaker 3 (19:57):
It helps me kind of justify what I've already been
telling myself. If you want another update with like every
single message she sent me during those fights, oh my god,
I cannot.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
No no, no, no, no, please to God know and you know what,
there isn't another update, so the people probably have spoken
of these fights.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
I can do so, but not tonight. I'm tired from
work and exhausted from what happened. I'm exhausted from just
reading your text. I also feel like the update more
than answered some of your questions. So thanks again for
reading and have a good life all who stopped by.
Best regards at s Z twenty three mail.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
Twenty three year olds to be in love and to
be twenty three again.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
You know that's a beautiful thing.
Speaker 3 (20:40):
Your girlfriend making tiktoks about handsome men paying their bills
and looking strapping.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
Yep, don't we love it? Don't don't we love it?
But that's the end of that story.
Speaker 3 (20:51):
Hey, y'all, it's John og Host here. We're gonna get
back to the stories. But here's a quick three minute
break from ask for more sponsors.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
We got another one coming right up. We got another one,
come right up. My girlfriend said she quit smoking, but
I know she's lying. Okay, maybe you have.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
A smoking gun. So my girlfriend twenty four female and
I twenty four non binary, have been together for two
and a half years.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
We both met.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
We both vaped pretty consistently. I, however, since childhood, have
had a few complications with my lungs. I know, not wise,
but I was stupid, and after a few years of
doing it, on New Years of twenty twenty three, I
decided that I wanted to quit. Hey, let's go. I
personally really wanted to stop because I knew it wasn't
doing me any favors. By the way, this comes from
(21:36):
Unique Hero one one two. If you want us smit
your own stories, go to our slash Okay storytime stubrette it. So,
my girlfriend Leyla fake name, I continued to vape after
I quit, and honestly, I really didn't care if she
did or not. She's an adult and until she decided
she wanted to quit, then that was a choice that
(21:56):
she could continue with. Oh, he's quit and vapor but
doesn't expect her girlfriend to do so, can't control or
their girlfriend to do so. Then in April of this year,
twenty twenty four, I was hospitalized and admitted for five
days due to a flare up in my lungs.
Speaker 4 (22:13):
WHOA.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
I was really cautious for a few weeks about things
like vape smoke getting near me because of how reactive
my lungs had been. And Layla was incredibly respectful, loving
and awesome during that time and actively made it her
mission to not vape in front of me. Very good,
which I know is the bare minimum, but also it
was nice to know she was actively being mindful. In June,
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Lailah sat me down and told me that she really
wanted to quit vaping because she feared for my health
and didn't want to contribute to my lung problem in
the long run.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
That is sweet. Yes, I love that.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
She didn't talk about her quitting journey much, which was
fair because I didn't either when I was going through it.
To help with the cravings, though, she was chewing on
nicotine gum, which seemed to do her good. The longer
time passed, the more I noticed she didn't need it.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
Okay, So I feel like she's wean and off. This
seems great.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
I was so proud of her and try to make
sure she knew it all the time.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
In July confessed that she was struggling pretty hard mentally.
She then had a large breakdown. Oh.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
I spent the weekend comforting and making sure she was okay.
But after that, unfortunately a lot of things started happening,
so we couldn't see one another for more than a
day or two each week. It was hard, but we managed.
Then fast forward till last night. It was the first
time in a while we had been able to hang out,
and we were going to be together all weekend. We
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were sitting on the couch and I noticed a new
pack of one hundred and fifty nicotine gums on the
coffee table. Oh, that's a solid back. Seems like a lot,
But also I don't know so how.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
Many how many nicotine gums does one go through in
a day? Let us know Chess.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
I asked her about it because it seemed like one
hundred and fifty was a little excessive.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
Okay, there we go.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
She'd been doing really well, or at least that's what
I thought. She took a moment for confessing that she
had been smoking SIGs every day since her breakdown. She
had been showering every day, washing her hair and all
her clothes regularly, and actively hiding it from me. I
was so shocked. I asked if she would have ever
told me, and she said that the only questions I'd.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Been asking her were about vaping. What she had not done,
not smoking. Ah, the old pole, the old loophole.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Oh, I mean, which is worse vaping her cigarettes?
Speaker 3 (24:31):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (24:32):
Obviously cigarettes.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
Yeah. I feel it's like it.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
It feels like, hey, like, babe, I really don't think
you should be like watching any corn anymore. Like all right,
all right, babe, I won't. And then you just start
hooking up with prostitutes.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
They're like, I'm not watching porn anymore. I said I would,
said I wouldn't know. You didn't say nothing to do this.
Speaker 6 (24:53):
Come on, she's a professional, a working woman, she has
a family, call and if I had asked, she would
have told me, but I had no idea.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
We had a long talk last night about it. She
said that it has been just for me and something
that I didn't need to be clued in on, and
she likinged it to me reading smut. I don't tell
her what I'm reading all the time, but I do
tell her and that has to amount to something, right.
She talked about how she wanted to quit hence the gum,
because it made her feel gross, but she had just
bought a new packet and she wasn't hurting anyone but herself,
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so she didn't think it was relevant to bring up.
But it isn't the smoking that I am still reeling about.
It's the line, which again, like I think in any
relationship that's actually what matters. Yea, yea, I think like
this is, you know, it would be great if she
didn't smoke around Opie and all that because of the
health reasons.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
But that's like Opie never never asked her to quit smoking.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
She like said it of her own volition, and then
spun up this whole lie about like pretending someone who
she's not.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
Yeah, well and correct me if I'm wrong.
Speaker 3 (26:02):
It seemed like she was like doing good, was off it,
but then she had kind of like a like a break,
like an emotional breakdown, as she said, and then that's
when she just started like kind of like binging cigarettes
excee themes for that.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
But yeah, yeah, it's it's still the lying. Yeah, No,
for sure, for sure.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
I mean like I was gonna say, like maybe she
just felt like she like let her down or disappointed
her with everything, but it doesn't.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Never, it never justifies it. No, it doesn't. It doesn't.
Speaker 3 (26:28):
Yeah, and it's like, why especially about something that she
It's not like she it was an expectation.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
I think again, like it's a trust and a partner
is so important. If you start to realize they're lying
about small things, you're.
Speaker 1 (26:41):
Like, what else are you lying about? It? It erodes
at the trust foundation of everything. At a situation short, okay, storytime.
At a situation that happened. I've told you this story,
you know, the story about tragic I it is a good,
good one to hear.
Speaker 6 (26:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
I mean I was dating this girl and I'm like, oh,
you should buy this like skirt I saw. I think
it was looked cute on you and she's like, okay,
I'll buy it, and she's like I just bought it.
I'm like okay, cool. And then a week later, I'm like,
do you buy the skirt? And she's like, oh, it's coming,
it's in the mail. And a week later, I'm like.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Did you ever buy that skirt?
Speaker 2 (27:09):
And she's like, uh, yeah, I did. It's like coming.
It's like you said it was coming like a while ago.
And she's like, well it didn't come, Like did you act?
I don't know if I believe you bought the skirt.
And then later that night she sends me a photo
at badly photoshopped picture of her like buying the skirt
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and like the dates changed when she bought it, and
like like but she used like comic sands and instead
of like comics again.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
What the I was?
Speaker 2 (27:42):
I was so surprised that she would lie about something
so silly that literally meant nothing, and she I'm like, hey, like,
I don't think we could keep seeing each other because
she had like this was a relationship that where she
can kind of had lied before. And she's like, you're
gonna break up over something so small and I'm like, well,
it's not the fact that you didn't buy. I don't
care if you bought a skirt. I just cared that
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you lied about it for weeks.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
Yeah, and honestly, that you would lie about something that
small that it lends us to believe that there's a
lot of other things that could be lies.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
That's what there was, oh dear. Anyway, actively, So it's
not about this vaping. It's the lying actively hiding something
this big for me when she knew that I didn't
care that she had vaped for a majority of our relationship.
I'm still at her place while she is at work,
and I don't know what to do about this. I
want to confront her properly about my feelings, but I
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don't want to impose on her choices. How do I
confront her about this without making her feel shameful or guilty?
Speaker 1 (28:43):
What should I do?
Speaker 2 (28:44):
I love her so much and it hurts knowing she
kept something like this so secret. We have some comments,
we have some updates, but I would love to know
from from chat and from John, like what do you
think about the situation?
Speaker 1 (28:58):
Is this breakup worthy? Is this? You know? Talk about it? Like? What? What?
What do you think should be done? Here?
Speaker 6 (29:04):
Again?
Speaker 3 (29:04):
The one thing I'll give her is maybe she felt
a lot of shame with uh, you know, with the
lung health issues she had, and you know also like
I guess, being in an emotional breakdown, like not being
in the right headspace.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
So I think it's a sit down.
Speaker 3 (29:21):
But basically be like, hey, like we need trust to
be the foundation of our relationship. Like it's again, it's
not it's not about the the smoking. It's about the lying.
And I want to make sure that like we're on
the same page. And like I do think they're any
any any time a lie is said, you know, it
puts into it can put things into questions. So as
Taylor at the Law at the Lost Toy says in chat,
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a lie is a lie.
Speaker 1 (29:44):
Yeah, So I think, yeah, need.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
To talk about that, And I think I think there's
a couple of ways to go about it. It's one
is like, is this lying deep into the relationship? You
find If it's like deep and it comes out in
multiple ways in the relationship, then maybe it's not a
relationship that you can build up upon. But if it's
just this one thing and it's coming maybe from like
guilt and shame, which it sounds like it is Yeah,
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there might be a path forward where oh, P can
basically be like, hey, like, I know it's hard to quit,
and I know you went through this tough time and
just know like for these things, I'm not going to
judge you for this. I but I will I will
judge if you lie to me. Yeah, but I will
never judge you for telling well never, But I like it,
like I I will always appreciate the truth rather than
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a lie. Yes, you can work with the truth, yeah, exactly, exactly,
we can build a relationship upon truth. Yes, and so
uh maybe that is like like maybe you can assuage
some of the guilt feelings that this person is feeling
that's causing the line.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
Yeah, but it's also just like how how deep this
is the lot do? Let's go indeed, but we got
some comments. Oh oh we got some updates. Oh Babby
cakes McGee, let's get into the comments.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
So common one, she needs to want to quit for
her self, not anybody else. To me, that is just
a white lie. And she just didn't want you to
be disappointed in her. If you truly love her like
you say you, Uh, it shouldn't be that big of
a deal too. Your girlfriend is struggling with being a
regular user and the substance use in a time of crisis.
If that's something that's unacceptable to you, then you'll have
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to remove yourself from the situation. But in my opinion,
this is a health episode which demands empathy and teamwork,
not finger pointing. I advise you to stay in her
corner on our journey back to better health and hope
he responds, thanks for this. I do want to be
in her corner and support her, but I also think
I have some residual fears about my health since the
incident happened earlier this year. But I am reeling a
bit from the shock of it as well, I think,
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And here's the update.
Speaker 1 (31:42):
Oh, I do think there should be grace given, Like
I think I think so personally, especially if it's not
you know, the lies haven't worked their way into all
of the relationship. If it's this one segmented like like
we said, like, I think we could build it up,
but I think you're just like you know, closer and
now and work on the relationship is needed.
Speaker 3 (32:02):
The example you shared it kind of makes you put
everything into question. This one was like, Oh, I see why,
I can see how the guilt and shame and the
emotional breakdown, like what led you to you know, do
this wrong? And to me, if I was OP, it
would put me in less of a headspace of like,
oh is everything.
Speaker 1 (32:18):
Other a ton of other lives.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
Yeah, agreed, but we got an up day we go.
So firstly, thank you to everyone who commented on my post.
Some were harsh, but the criticism of my thoughts and
actions was a really good wake up call. Reading the
comments that talked about how this is a sign of
a true regular user and that I needed to just
approach this with sympathy and patience were helpful because I
won't lie. I was pretty shocked and a little hurt
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when I found out she had been actively hiding her
smoking for me. I resonated with the comments so much.
We sat with a Kappa and had a long chat
the night I made the post. It was actually really
nice and I felt good knowing how she felt. The
night falling was Saturday and I had my house roaring
party for my new apartment. My friends and both my
roommate's friends were coming over. I was super excited, and
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Layla fake name came over to mine early to help
me set up the party to help to keep setting up,
and then we got ready together. The party started off awesome,
with about twenty five people squashed my little apartment. That
was until nine thirty when Leayla went out for smoke
with another girl. I had told Layla prior if she
wanted to smoke, she'd need to walk out to the
side street next to my apartment because there are some
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pretty strict smoking rules, but I told her to go ahead.
I didn't know the other girl. I'd assumed it was
a friend of one of my roommates and gave Layla
a kiss goodbye before she left.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
Do we have an icu icee us?
Speaker 3 (33:38):
They might be popping up ladies and gentlemen. Are we
putting that in the chat?
Speaker 2 (33:41):
Oh obay granted. Everyone at this point was a good
amount of tipsy, including myself. Laila was gone for forty
five minutes. Started to miss her and a little wasted
I was, and sent her a bunch of texts asking
when she was coming back. I got no response, so
I went into my room and from the vantage point
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of my bedroom window I can see on the end
of my small street. Sure enough, I could clearly see
Layla and this girl making out against a brick wall.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
Oh the lie lies, the lies, they keep coming. Oh
oh oh man.
Speaker 2 (34:23):
Okay, Like I see what people were saying in the
Reddit comments, where it's like, all right, you know, the
substance users, it's a common habit to lie about the
substance because it's a hard thing to get over. And
I understand that, like that, yes, that that like or
I don't understand it, but like theoretically, I I get that.
But if someone's in that position, are they ready for
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like to come together in a relationship that's supposed to
be built on integrity and trust or do they really
just need to focus on themselves and like figure it out,
Like maybe they need to do that, not in the
context of the relationship, ye, or in the content of themselves,
maybe with support from a distance.
Speaker 3 (35:03):
Totally could be yeah, yeah, it's like and it gave
me the benefit of the doubt.
Speaker 1 (35:09):
And then here we are, here, we are, here, we
are Yeah.
Speaker 6 (35:13):
I know.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
I also like I feel like the comments last one
were turning Opie's thoughts. You know, they're like, oh, maybe
I should give another chance, and then here we are.
Hannah says, Okay, I thought cheating, but wasn't sure. Yeah,
Taylor at the loss says, see if she could lie small,
she could.
Speaker 1 (35:30):
Lie big, and that was a big one.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
It's a big one. That's a big one. So I
shut down and locked myself in the bathroom. I don't
know how long it was in there, but when I
got out, Laylah was back with the other girl. A
part of me wanted to cry and scream, but another
part of me wanted to deny it ever happened, and
so I did that. I drank heaps, party hard, and
then everyone left at one am, but Layla stayed over
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so she didn't have to drive, and obviously she's my girlfriend, right,
I won't lie.
Speaker 1 (35:58):
I was wasted.
Speaker 2 (35:58):
We had spicy sleep at the party, and when we finish,
I told her what I'd seen. She said she had
a feelia I'd found out because I'd been acting weird,
and said that she'd been seeing Zara fake name for
three and a half weeks. They met through a mutual friend,
and Zara took my girlfriend to the smoker's area of
the bar the night after Lailah's breakdown, and they seem
to click. Lailah has been seeing her since sh I
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felt numb I can't believe I didn't see the signs
and yet I let Laylah sleep over, but when I
woke up, she was gone.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
The next morning.
Speaker 2 (36:30):
Oh it's been a few days since and she hasn't
said a single thing, no text, no calls, and I
have no clue what the heck to do. After two
and a half years in this relationship, this is the
first time I felt so alone.
Speaker 1 (36:43):
Wow, are we over?
Speaker 2 (36:44):
Why did she walk out on me when she's been
cheating on me? I know I should break up with her,
but I love her so much. Nothing feels real at
the moment. But I thought I would update, and we
got some comments and we got some responses from Ope.
Speaker 1 (37:00):
John, I mean, what do you think breakup? Or Nah?
Speaker 3 (37:04):
I feel like this is breakup because it's like again
first thing, we were like, okay, you know, maybe you know,
maybe this isn't indicative of other things. This is clearly
like it feels like there's just no care. There's just
no care here, like we're concerned for like Op's well
emotional well being or anything like that.
Speaker 1 (37:22):
Yeah. I just super whack whack.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
Whack, And we gave we gave her the benefit that
someone asked, what as the gender of op op is
don binary.
Speaker 1 (37:33):
Yes, so whack, dude, so whack.
Speaker 2 (37:36):
I do think our our thought process was sound, Yes,
where it's like, hey, you know, this could just be
one lie, one moment. But I think this combined with
this smooth chin.
Speaker 3 (37:51):
Oh yeah, it's it's so clear. It's so clear you
will just lie, you will just relationship.
Speaker 1 (37:57):
And there can be no trust. It ain't there.
Speaker 2 (38:00):
It ain't there. So we got some comments. Comment one,
she obviously doesn't care about you or the relationship. Even
when she hid smoking, she didn't come off as trustworthy.
I feel like you should end the relationship and move on.
I agree. I feel like at this point she kind
of already did this by not reaching out to you.
Sounds like she's been done with the relationship for a minute.
I'm sorry you have to go through this. You deserve
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someone who will actually be upfront and honest about things.
If this affects you mentally, I think you should see
a therapist. I hope the best for you. And that
is where this story ends.
Speaker 1 (38:32):
Hey y'all, it's John og Host here.
Speaker 3 (38:33):
We're gonna get back to the stories, but here's a
quick three minute break from ASP For more sponsors.
Speaker 1 (38:37):
Oh wowno Benito.
Speaker 3 (38:39):
Hopefully hopefully indeed he went through that and just you know,
focus on yourself.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
I hope so.
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Speaker 1 (38:58):
Booh bomh yeah wow wow wow wow big one. But
we got we got more in store.
Speaker 3 (39:05):
Ooh, your my girlfriend accused me of cheating because of
what my building security told her.
Speaker 1 (39:12):
Oh, man building a security exposing people.
Speaker 3 (39:16):
Maybe they said you're cheating. Basically, my girlfriend and I
have been dating for two and a half years. We
met at a party and hit it off extremely well.
We were friends for a bit, but clearly had feelings
for one another, so we ended up dating. She gets
a bit jealous whenever I talk to girls because she
has quote unquote firsthand experience with how flirtatious I am,
so naturally she's a bit iffy about me hanging out
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with girls. By the way, this comes from deleted And
if you want to submit your own stories, go to
the r slash Okay Storytime so about it. So, the
thing is, I'm a naturally flirtatious guy. I don't do
this intentionally, but I am told that I am very
attentative and that makes girls go head over heels for me.
Speaker 1 (39:52):
Okay, subtle, okay.
Speaker 3 (39:57):
So a lot of times I learned later ter on
that my friends have been trying to get with me.
Usually I brush it off and establish strong boundaries in
our friendship through my actions. I make sure not to
let anything happen. I also want to emphasize that when
I commit to a relationship, I mean it quite frankly.
I think cheaters are pathetic and cowardly. If I wanted
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to date multiple women, I would. However, I love my
girlfriend and absolutely enjoy committing my time and love to her. Anyways,
on to the issue. I bring my girlfriend to my
place often to hang out and whatever. Therefore, my concierge
is quite familiar with her. The thing is, recently, my
really good friend moved to my city and we've been
catching up quite a bit. I usually don't have my
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friends over at my place, but since we are close,
I didn't mind hanging out with her at mine. Of Course,
I let my girlfriend know whenever she's over. However, thirty
minutes ago, my girlfriend stormed into my place and started
going crazy, accusing me of cheating and the sorts. I
have no clue what's up because last I checked, I
wasn't cheating.
Speaker 1 (41:00):
I don't know, man, is there evidence? Let's see it.
I I really want to know what the security guard has.
All right, let's see. You're curious.
Speaker 3 (41:09):
I'm imagining it's like a like a sitcom scenario where
he's like, oh hey, let me grab this coat, and
she's like in front of the coat hanger and there's
a security camera in the worst position possible, and it
looks like he's like reaching around her to grab her
and like bring her in and smooch, but really he's
like just looking for his coat.
Speaker 1 (41:28):
Yeah, yeah, it was. It was the angles.
Speaker 3 (41:31):
It was the angle totally, you know, like friends side
Felds type type stitch. Anyway, she goes off about how
the concierge told her everything and how I am apparently
effing my friend, and on and on about whatever.
Speaker 1 (41:44):
She ended up leaving and.
Speaker 3 (41:45):
Said we're done. Oh relationship over? Oh done?
Speaker 1 (41:52):
Dang, that was that was quick. That was quick. So
what do you think about that story?
Speaker 2 (41:56):
I think just kidding is that it it's not over
and over. I could get my two cents. We have
more to the story, Laser gentlemen, although the relationship may
be over. To be honest, I was quite shocked and
didn't know what to do, and I was really curious
about why she thought I was cheating, despite me explicitly
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telling her all the times that my friends was going
to be over. So I go downstairs and confront the concierge.
He tells me that apparently he saw me and my
friend being flirty, and that when I came down to
drop her to her uber, she was giggling, laughing and
being touchy.
Speaker 5 (42:32):
I didn't realize laughing was a crime. Lock me up, officer, Papa.
Laughter is illegal, so he felt something was off. These
were his exact words, by the way, So naturally I
got pissed off and I told him that it was
none of his business, and then he crossed a huge line. Now,
the reason that I'm writing this here is because I
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have no clue what to do. There are so many
things racing in my mind, and I'm honestly confused. How
should I speak to even speak to my girlfriend? How
should what should I do about the concierge any advice
and we haven't edit, But really quick, how should we
talk to a girlfriend in concierge.
Speaker 2 (43:09):
Well, concierge is like definitely overstepping a little of bit.
Yeah crazy, Yeah, that's where was it? A honey b
eighty five says concierge is probably trying to shoot his
shot with his girl.
Speaker 1 (43:20):
Dude, ooh, I think that could be it.
Speaker 2 (43:24):
I mean, but it also it's like, is this girl
flirting hella back with him? And also how far is
this flirting going with this girl he's dropping off in
an uber? Yeah, maybe maybe the girlfriend already had some
like feelings about this girl, and the fact that the
concierge said something just confirmed it.
Speaker 1 (43:40):
And all of a sudden she's like kind of jealous.
Speaker 2 (43:43):
Well yeah, when this guy is being flirty with every
like when he's dropping off girl and us and being
hella flirty with a bunch of people, I would understand
being jealous. Yeah, but the concierge's definitely being a little nosy.
I feel like that like violates concierge protocol.
Speaker 1 (44:00):
I think it probably does. It's like priest protocol.
Speaker 2 (44:03):
It's like priest, Yeah, exactly, you know, you confess your
sins and uh nothing, nothing, nothing happens.
Speaker 3 (44:08):
There was no there was no booth when he was
dropping her off from Uber. He dropped her off at
a door.
Speaker 1 (44:12):
It's true. No walls, no walls, no walls, but we
have more because there is an edit. Wow.
Speaker 3 (44:18):
Didn't expect so many comments, and I really appreciate you
all for taking your time to give me advice. I
feel I felt quite trash last night and I decided
to sleep. I'm not sure what I'm gonna do next.
I think the effects of last night are raining down
on me because I felt quite sick to my stomach.
It all feels like an elaborate nightmare. This definitely does
feel like a fever dream. Honestly, for now, I'm going
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through the advice everyone has so kindly offered and.
Speaker 1 (44:42):
Pieced together what I should do. We have an update.
Speaker 3 (44:47):
But do you think OP should go back after her
and try to, like see if she'll s I'm.
Speaker 2 (44:57):
Like, my my suspicion is the con sierge was a
tipping point that that happened, and I feel like the
the problem that is in this relationship is way deeper
than just the concierge because OPI admitted at the beginning
he's flirtatious.
Speaker 1 (45:14):
Yep, and his girlfriend's jealous.
Speaker 2 (45:16):
Yeah, I don't know. I believe that he's flirtatious. I
believe that his girlfriend's jealous, but I feel like it
might be because the flirtatiousness is.
Speaker 1 (45:22):
A little bit overboard. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (45:24):
And also if the concierge is like roll those guys,
those guys put it in work like other people, and
girlfriend must also see that same vibe.
Speaker 3 (45:35):
Yeah, honestly, that's such a good point. If a concierge
is taking the time out of his day to go
quite frankly risk his job to tell this woman like,
it's probably really bad, it's probably really bad, probably really bad. Yeah,
and he's already acknowledged it.
Speaker 2 (45:53):
So exactly, I'm and I don't think necessarily OPI did anything. Yeah,
Like I feel like I feel like the probability of
him have actually doing something is maybe low. But if
it's so flirtatious like that, that's still looks a cross boundary.
Speaker 1 (46:12):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3 (46:12):
Like if he's just yes, schmoo's in every single girl
he sees, what kind of relationship is that?
Speaker 2 (46:16):
Well exactly, I mean, there needs to be especially if
the girlfriend's not okay with it. Right, It's like it's
like one thing or like, oh, like we have an
open flirting rule and then that's fine. But if the
girlfriend's not okay with it, then it's not.
Speaker 1 (46:27):
Something you should do. Yes, but sam ay boy, we
got an update. Ooh you know how I love those?
Speaker 2 (46:34):
Oh yes, swap it in my mouth hole, Oh, my
ear hole and my nose holes all the hole.
Speaker 1 (46:39):
Let me here speak and breathe story.
Speaker 3 (46:43):
Let's go straight through the face bones, which is how
you hear something like that.
Speaker 1 (46:47):
Anyways, updates.
Speaker 3 (46:49):
It seems like she's told a lot of our mutual
friends that I cheated on her.
Speaker 1 (46:53):
Oh oh, the word is spreading. This smear campaign has begun.
Speaker 3 (46:56):
A lot of people are messaging me, and some of
the messages are scary because they're quite hurtful. Others are
curious about my side of the story. I honestly don't
know what on earth to do. I feel like try
and explain myself will just fall flat, which like, honestly,
that is a top position to be explaining yourself. I
am panicking quite a bit. Any advice, and we have
another update. We're gonna dive right into it.
Speaker 1 (47:18):
Oo baby, Hi everyone, I have.
Speaker 3 (47:20):
A couple of questions because things have been have gotten
a lot worse since. So she blocked me on everything
after I messaged her to meet up so we can
talk about it. Then she went on to tell all
of our friends and everyone seems to know a lot
of them have messaged me with some horrible stuff and
it feels like someone gave the old one.
Speaker 1 (47:38):
Two dinny do tuma gut uh?
Speaker 3 (47:40):
I mean, for sure, I didn't even cheat, and it
makes me want to cry when people just assume that
I'm a cheater. I have always thought cheaters real the
lowest of the low, and being branded as one hurts
a lot. Nonetheless, some of my friends were curious about
my side of the story, so I decided to have
them over and tell them all about it. My friend
who was caught cheating with me is also going to
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be coming over. Any advice on how to approach this
because I don't want it to be simply my words
against hers. That is true, he does, I mean, and
I guess this is the woman he's alleged to be
cheating on with, so she has also incentive to clear
his name. But it's like she was with, you know,
the one his friend who can say like, hey, nothing
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happened or whatever. But yeah, it's just like like like
when when when someone just throws that out and you're
like trying to explain yourself.
Speaker 2 (48:32):
You're just especially with a past history of like suspicious behavior.
Speaker 1 (48:35):
Yes, yeah, one hundred percent.
Speaker 3 (48:38):
Oh baby, oh baby. Now I'm also not sure what
to do about the concierge. This dude has single handedly
ruined my life. I mean, I have lost a lot
of hope in saving my relationships and just wish this
could all end and become normal. I really don't think
getting him fired will do any justice. A few of
you have recommended suing him for slander. Oh man, I
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haven't brought the situation to my parents. Yeah, this seems
a little.
Speaker 1 (49:04):
Extreme and sent is not gonna work. It's not Yeah,
it's not worth it. You could maybe get him fired,
but I don't think you could see but that. Honestly,
even at that point, I'm like, what is that? What
does that accomplish?
Speaker 3 (49:15):
You know, I haven't brought the situation up to my parents,
but I will do that if nothing improves.
Speaker 1 (49:21):
What do y'all think?
Speaker 3 (49:22):
Also, thanks a lot to those who have been gentle
and empathetic of my situation. This would be extremely.
Speaker 1 (49:28):
Depressing to go through alone.
Speaker 3 (49:29):
I feel a lot less lonely with your support, and
it means an incredible amount to me. I will definitely
find a way to repay those few and have you
know that you have me if God forbid, anything happens
in your own lives. And we have update number two
staring us right in the face. Right, I hit it,
Let's get into it. So basically, my friends came over
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and supported me quite a bit. We agreed on some
steps that I should take.
Speaker 1 (49:54):
Next.
Speaker 3 (49:55):
Number one is block her and all our friends from
social media. All in knowledge is to avoid that. In
group number two, do not respond to any social media
posts because it'll just add fewl to the flames. Number three,
get in contact with lawyers because one of my friend's dads,
a lawyer, said that I have a strong case and
I should really sue it.
Speaker 1 (50:14):
I can't imagine that's true, but wow, I'm no lawyer.
Dang golly goobers.
Speaker 3 (50:21):
Furthermore, demand an apology letter from the concierge. I've already
spoken to my parents and they have got me in
touch with their friends who are lawyers. This is giving
Daddy's money, so I will take it from there. Number four,
move out of my building.
Speaker 1 (50:34):
Even if the.
Speaker 3 (50:35):
Concierge is fired, my at least will be ending soon,
so it's not too bad. And apart from which also
seems extreme. Apart from that, my friends just supported me
and reassured me that I didn't do anything wrong. Since
every single one of you was attacking me for being
a flirts, I asked them for their honest opinion on
me being a flirts. Apparently they said they never called
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me a flirt, but they said they just told me
that some girls can fight it in that they thought
I was being flirty, which I.
Speaker 1 (51:03):
Means maybe we're a little bit just maybe means you
were a flirt, maybe a little bit a little bit. Hey,
you know, it's like, nothing's wrong with being a flirt
unless you're in a relationship with.
Speaker 2 (51:12):
Someone who doesn't want you to flirt. Indeed, you know
which it sounds like you were in.
Speaker 1 (51:16):
That is the thing. Uh.
Speaker 3 (51:18):
They wrote that up to the girls reading into things
and not me. Nonetheless, I learned I wasn't one hundred
percent correct in the way I approached my friendships. A
few of my friends brought up some of the points
you guys mentioned in the post and said that you
guys were spot on with them. They offered me some
suggestions on how to work on these points. Hopefully I
won't have any more girlfriends leaving me because of my
concierge's actions in the future. Well now, I haven't heard
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back from my ex yet either. Her friends are just
spaming me with stuff, but I haven't replied to them.
I don't think I will, and I'll just end up
blocking them. I'd like to speak to my ex in
the future to get some closure, but it doesn't seem
like it will be anytime soon. I'm still in shock
because we've been together for nearly three years.
Speaker 1 (51:59):
That's nearly all all of my university life.
Speaker 3 (52:01):
It sounds like we're dealing with a young in here,
which is weird to think about.
Speaker 1 (52:06):
I thought we were a perfect couple, but I guess not.
Speaker 3 (52:10):
I also have to say I got quite arrogant slash
cocky in the past thread.
Speaker 1 (52:15):
I think maybe this is a reference to that all
the girls.
Speaker 3 (52:17):
Just launching themselves at him like magnets, and I'm sorry
about that. I was just ticked off and overwhelmed, but
that was my defense mechanism. I didn't mean to flex
that I've been with so many girls or whatever, but
I just got a bit annoyed by people constantly saying
that I'm intentionally flirting to get attention from them.
Speaker 1 (52:37):
It's one thing to brush off a comment or two,
but when.
Speaker 3 (52:39):
It gets to be fifty plus comments saying the same thing,
one starts to get defensive. Regardless, I should have kept
my composure and I shouldn't have reacted badly. After all,
it was my idea to seek advice from you all.
And if you want to seek some mother freaking advice.
Speaker 1 (52:55):
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Unlimited content, truly, unless you listen sixty days straight. But
we have the finale of the story Sam, any any
final thoughts before we dive into that.
Speaker 2 (53:23):
I mean, it feels like this relationship is what is
just not going to work. Yeah, just in general, even
if the concierge didn't say, yeah.
Speaker 1 (53:33):
It's something was going to happen. Yeah, and this just
happened to be this. They happened to be this. Well,
let's get into the finale here right. Last night was
a bit weird though.
Speaker 3 (53:41):
My friends and I went out to a bar and
got a bit wasted on my way home. My cheating friend,
she's going to unlive me for calling her that lmao.
Offer to sleep over there to be with me?
Speaker 1 (53:52):
You want to do that right now? Is that what
you want to do right now? Is it not makeing
you look better? This is not my friend and not
making you look better?
Speaker 3 (54:03):
Well, things have happened, oh pe.
Speaker 1 (54:08):
When one door closes, another opens, somebody opens, someone opens.
Speaker 4 (54:14):
She's just pulling a John?
Speaker 1 (54:16):
What's that?
Speaker 4 (54:17):
Because his girlfriend broke up with him, and then the
girl was She was like, hey, I'll come.
Speaker 1 (54:23):
Over, referencing my thirteen year old John.
Speaker 3 (54:31):
There we go, Yeah, referencing my thirteen year old story
of asking out a girl today she got broken up?
Speaker 1 (54:38):
Yes, okay, yes, it took me a sack to get there.
You know all the time.
Speaker 3 (54:45):
You know that happens all the time, dude, thirteen year
old John was running around.
Speaker 1 (54:49):
Yeah, dude, Oh P, I'm sorry. I feel like ohp.
Speaker 3 (54:53):
He's totally lost me at this point, because like I
think you got to say, like hey, and the relationship
just ended.
Speaker 1 (55:00):
Yeah, like okay, anyways, just just add to same. I mean,
do you feel the same. Uh.
Speaker 2 (55:06):
I think it's a little soon, yeah, a little soon
technically in the clear technically yes, technically black and white paper, yes.
Speaker 1 (55:13):
But it doesn't look good for the tabloid.
Speaker 3 (55:15):
Not good for the tabloid, said, listen the doormen and
when women are on on on the streets out there
are already.
Speaker 1 (55:21):
They're already talking. They're talking, my goodness.
Speaker 3 (55:24):
Anyways, However, I told her it was going to be
a one time thing because I don't want to rebound
into a relationship or anything. I'm thinking of living the
single life now, going to hit the gym harder than ever,
destroy school, and get into a master's program in London.
Speaker 1 (55:39):
Alpha brain, move on and just focus on me. No
more girls for a while.
Speaker 3 (55:42):
Also, I'm not sure if I will be allowed to
update you on the concierge situation since we're taking legal action.
Speaker 4 (55:48):
Oh my goodness, I'm actually crazy though that he's taking
legal action against the concierge for saying that he flirted
with the girl that he then hooked up with.
Speaker 1 (56:00):
Yeah dude, great.
Speaker 4 (56:03):
Cause, like your honor, I did not flirt with that
girl yet at that moment, sir.
Speaker 3 (56:11):
Two days later, Yeah, I didn't take up with it
on Tuesday, your honor. It was on Wednesday after the breakup.
Yeah dude, ridiculous. Should we do a doupe if I
am allowed to, though, maybe I'll post what happened. Not
too sure though, And an edit, Uh, you are right
about me being a wiener head for sleeping with my friend.
Speaker 1 (56:30):
There you go.
Speaker 3 (56:31):
I accept that it just happened and that was that.
Sorry to disappoint y'all. Edit number two, I think I've
said enough. See you on the flipsids.
Speaker 1 (56:39):
So cool and sexy and flirtatious. It can't help.
Speaker 3 (56:43):
Just every time I open my mouth, women just fall
at my feet.
Speaker 1 (56:48):
Head over heels. Oh man, But that is where that
story ends. That's it, that episode, Oh my baby. So
if you love us, make sure to subscribe of you
and see you tomorrow.
Sam here og host.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
We're gonna get back to these stories, but here's three
minutes fads from our sponsors. First, I caught my girlfriend
sending inappropriate photos to a friend. Oh no, they say
he's just a friend, but maybe not. For some context,
we have been going through a rough patch in our
relationship for the past five months. That's these amount of
time long.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Patch, that's almost a whole whole garden.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Right, But the stress of college and work life things
have been strenuous. She's in a nursing program, I'm in
a criminology course. Both of our schedules are pretty much full. Yeah,
and the spare time we do normally have spent is
watching TV shows or playing games we both enjoy. By
the way, this comes from guest one four two, one, two, six, six,
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three seven two eights and if you submit your own stories,
go to the r slash Okay storytime subreddits. So our
relationship has been going on for five years and a
long distance. I've always had doubts about the possibility of
hurt cheating, but nevertheless trusted her wholeheartedly.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
I mean nursing.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
I'm not saying it is the discipline where people cheap most,
but everyone else is.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
I am just pointing to the number statistics. Statistics statistically
nurses cheap.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Most as Riley loves that one.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
With the occasional fights happening over small, seemingly insignificant situations,
we have had a strained last few months. I knew
about her male friend strat What a name, that's cool,
who she met online through one of the games they
played together.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
That's an awesome name. Yeah, I'm pretty high strat game player,
big strat man, big strat Man.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
I had my worries, but nevertheless I trusted her. In
April of this year, we had a large, fright fight
about my brother's girlfriend. I'm currently sharing a house with
my brother and his girlfriend is living with us too.
I tried to avoid speaking with her, not because of
any issue I have with her, but more so than
I am too busy and have my attention elsewhere with
school and work. I have no interest in having any
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type of friendly relationship with my brother's girlfriend of three months.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
I mean, all right, sure, I.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Guess, bro, you know, I mean, you don't need to
convince us. Yeah, I swear I'm not into my brother's
girl for next square. Oh okay, that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
That makes sense.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
I thought he was just saying, like, I'm so busy,
I don't got it time. I'll have the time to
be friendly say hello. I could have used that half
second to, you know.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Do some more. Gosh, Dan's criminology. Come on, I don't
stop and I don't stops. You think these criminals are
taking time to say hello. No, they're getting right to
the straight straight to stabbing. Oh man.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
So, however, my fiance has been adamant that I have
some sort of feelings for her.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Ah see, there we go for Sam, what's right?
Speaker 3 (02:54):
This whole argument lasted two days and ended us with
us not speaking for roughly one month and long distance
at bat.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
And how long have they been dating? Uh? Oh, what
was it again? I think it was five months? Yeah,
I think five months.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
You're right, brof of your relationship you haven't been talking?
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Is crazy? I don't know, man, this is not stable ground.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Well this was because I told her I do not
want to continue an argument with her that's going nowhere
near conclusion. That solves the problem. So she's like, great,
we won't argue.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
That's hilarious.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
We both had finals coming up and needed to study
and focus on what's important for our future rather than.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Bickering over something so small.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
Well, yesterday I found out that during the last five
months of our relationship she has been seeking emotional support
from this guy Stratch, not five months, big, the whole relation.
Five months Yep, big, strap and strat, Strap and strad.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
I mean he knows, he knows the strat, he knows
all the moves to get your girl.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
He's a strapping young man. He has a strap on
with a young man.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Oh god, he's strapped on all his emotional intelligence, his
heart and not only that, but also financial support.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
I e. She asked him for money and he gave
it to her. That's weird. This was definitely hurtful to hear.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
But as it turns out, she also took time spent
apart after a fight to push their relationship to a
more spicy related side. He was consoling her over a
fresh fight, and she felt a self proclaimed emotional connection
with him simply because he sent her a video of
him playing the guitar.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Babe, this one's cold, Wonderwall. Riddle me this what is
the worst?
Speaker 3 (04:46):
A spicy pick or a video of him singing Wonderwall
to her?
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (04:50):
What is he saying back, you're my wonderwall Oh that
one that one game over.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
Game over, it's a marriage.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
She claims to not remember much of what happened, even
though it was a month ago, but did remember that
she sent him new dy photographs of herself. Wait what Yep,
she remembered that, and that's what she did. She sent
him spicy photos.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
During during during the month off during during the month
where they didn't talk because he was like, I don't
want to argue without a conclusion, so she said bet
and they didn't say anything to each other during that month.
I like to think that like nothing nothing was actually
like they were like, no, it's not worth taking a
break for a month.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
It was just who was gonna not talk for long? Yeah?
Game of chicken? Yeah, game that That's that's truly all lost.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
Oh man, she initiated this spicy related encounter, and he
was hesitant to reciprocate. As she told me, man, she's
I mean, I got it. Seems like she's being honesty.
She's the play by play. She's like, yeah, I was
just about and he's like I don't know, and I'm like,
here's here. How about thirty more than that?
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Change your mind down his pant he was wearing box
their briefs, like, well, if you can't took that little
you know, like the little hole they have in the
front and rip that open.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Oh man, right underneath groundhog Day is here.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
I am crushed and hurt that she would sit there
and accuse me of having feelings for another woman when
I was fully devoted to her and put her in
a position where she was the only woman in my
life I would speak to outside of work for work
reasons and classes for group projects, projecting class.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
You're like, you didn't talk for a month.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
Though It's it's true, but it's also like I think,
I think what he should have done is like, hey,
like where are we?
Speaker 1 (06:37):
What are we? Like? Yeah, I know, I think I
think she she she definitely did.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Wrong, but I get a few days. Yeah, not talking
for a month is crazy.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
But like a month is like I would think after
a week you'd be like, hey, like are you okay?
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Like can we can we like just figure out what's
going on?
Speaker 3 (06:53):
Like what are you feeling? Yeah? Also, can we put
up a pole? Because I'm just too curious underwall or dpic?
The poll is up, so let me know I'm very curious.
I gave a considerable portion of my time and money
in order to try and make things work, despite the distance,
going as far as to pay for all of her
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trips for us to meet Wow. This totaled roughly ten
thousand dollars for all expenses accounted for dates, plane tickets,
eating out, et cetera, et cetera.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Yeah, flying, flying dates, that's a lot. That is cot
that's a lot.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
That's you know, it's money. Not to mention the ring
I gave her when I proposed I thought it would
be a good idea to use my great grandmother's engagement
ring that was passed down to my mom. I asked
my parents' permission and used around seven thousand dollars to
redesign it while staying true to the original ring. This
money is not included in the trip expenses, so seventeen
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k total.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
We're in the hole here.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
This money was used to resize the ring and to
have a large one carrot diamond sent set in the
ring as a center stone, using the previous significantly smaller diamonds.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
To line the edges of the ring.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
She was so happy and ecstatic to have been proposed
to I think this is the first time I realizing
they were engaged. Yeah, dude, And it felt as if
this was the woman of my dreams. She wanted to
be with me and I am with her. I would
lay awake at night thinking of possibilities for a wedding
or honeymoon, our future everything.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Let it all.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Came crashing down, All came crashing down. After finding out
how she so easily showed her entire body to another
man ruined my view of her. When I asked her
for more details, and during the course of our fight
over the situation, she told me she did not regret
doing it and that she was unsure if she made
the right decision choosing me over him.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I mean, I mean, do you need another Like.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Why are we here? Why are we in this relationship?
Do you need another reason to stay?
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (09:01):
I at this point, I feel like at first I
was like, oh, wow, she's being so honest about the pictures.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
Now I feel like she's like kind of goating him
into Yeah. I feel like she almost wants him to
break up with her. You can go back with.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Strat strassh always with the strat Strat's like old straddle
strap a ringer on your finger.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Oh yeah, you will yet here I got you, baby, Sophia.
Could you ponder for someone to.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Get a go go juice of some juice, any type
of go go juice will do.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Indeed, we might be irrations might be low. Or coffee
of any sort of coffee.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
She was genuinely considering leaving me for another man after
all I have done for her. She's not remorseful about
her actions, and it makes me think that she would
do it again. She has told me that despite her
thoughts and feelings, she still chose me, as if I
should be grateful.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Yeah, that's whack dang dang dang.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
Well, I am torn on whether or not I should
put in the effort to continue the relationship. I still
love her and honestly feel like I always will, but
I'm worried if it's even.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
Able to be saved.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
She says she wants our relationship to continue, but I'm
unsure if it's possible. Yes, it was just nudy photographs,
but I can't help but wonder if it was anything more.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Were there other guys?
Speaker 3 (10:17):
And hey, Opie, even just you know, nudy photographs. It's
okay if you like that that is that's not perfectly,
that is enough, that is perfectly okay.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
If you're like, hey, this is.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
Not it for me, all of my greatest fears are
coming to fruition, and my thoughts formed while overthinking, are
clouding my head with nihilism.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
I would greatly.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
Appreciate any form of advice from anyone out there. Thank
you for taking the time to read my story gratefully.
S Z twenty three mail, ooh when we have an
update that just caused the phone to explode out of
my hand so hot and juicy.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Yeah, I mean, I feel like she's trying to hurt him.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
It feels like if this is not a good relationship
or has become a bad relationship. They've been together for
five years, rough patch for five months, dude, and then
a no talking for one month, and she was emotionally
talk like like using this guy's emotional support for five
months and sending newdie picks four or five months, four
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or just the.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
One during the one month. We don't know if it's
a whole month, but during the one month window.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
Yeah, I mean the one month window maybe is like
I don't know if they had like an actual break
or something.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
It doesn't sound like they've talked about it at all.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Yeah, like maybe that's a little bit of a gray area,
but the whole like talking for five months, it feels
like Stratt is the guy that started the rough patch
of anything.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Oh yeah, from from only the context we have available
at us available for us. They had no discussion about it.
They just stopped talking and to me because it wasn't established.
It's like, hey, you like and you know, Op is
being I feel like pretty cool, but he's like, oh,
I know.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
It's just like the nude the nude photos.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
But it's like, hey, dude, like you know, she kind
of did that without you know, being like hey I
want to break Yeah, which I mean.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
But I do think they both have room to grow
in terms of being good partners to each other.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
Yeah yeah, why didn't he reach out in the month
and be like, hey, what are like, I you know,
what's going on?
Speaker 1 (12:17):
A thing you should do? But are we ready to
get into this update? Let's do it. Let's do it.
Sorry for the delayed update. No delay over here.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
I did have to go to work today and I'm
just now getting home to write this update. So enjoy
the ride to answer some questions and maybe provide some
more clarity. I will respond to a couple of people
as well as be copying and pasting the entire text
story from after our fight, in addition to what we
talked about over the phone when I found out. So
I guess the first thing to address is people asking
how I found out, or if I knew about it
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prior to proposing, or if I knew the relationship was,
if I knew their relationship before this transpired, et cetera.
So yes, I proposed to her a little before they
met a little less than a year ago, a year
prior at this point. Thankfully, I do in fact have
the ring, So to all of you saying get the
ring back, etc.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Don't worry.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
I can keep my family heirloom without ever seeing her again.
This is because I jumped the peep you a bit
on the proposal and it was sort of out of
the blue moment rather than something planned. So I guess
he kind of just like it kind of just came
out of him, and he didn't have the ring or
the set up or anything, which.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
I guess is good now. Sometimes you have so much
love that you gotta gotta throw out there.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
However, it didn't fit, which I already knew. I guess
the ring, and I was in the process of speaking
with jewelers on how to go about designing it. The
moment was too perfect to pass up. Won't be speaking
on it as I don't want to think about it
either way. She gave me the ring in December twenty
twenty two when she came to visit for Christmas, and
I asked for the ring back, telling her it was
a surprise for her. I was planning to give it
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to her again for a year anniversary of being engaged
at the same spot. I proposed her that would have
been cute as far as I knew the guy existed.
As far as if I knew the guy existed.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Yes, I did. His strat was to be known.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
I even expressed my discomfort to her multiple times, as
well as calling her out for suspicious behavior. So before
the messages, we would normally sleep call every night on FaceTime.
While watching a TV show, she said she wanted to
go shower and was gone for upwards of an hour
an hour and a half.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
It took a long time to get cleaned, getting dirty Sudsey.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
Following are some messages word for word from the time
I called her out. I am Sean and she is
Elizabeth Opie. Tell me the truth or leave me alone.
Don't BS me. I'm not cheating on you. Look at
what I sent you on TikTok okay, OPI, yeah, I
saw it. It's bs. I'm not effing stupid. There's another guy,
so tell me the truth. There's no other guy. I
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was pissed last night, and I was sure that you
were going to look at what I posted on TikTok
a of course, so you make me think you're cheating
on me. Good idea dot dot dot. You weren't saying
anything to me, like what the f me question marks
per question mark, So let's make sure I'm understanding this correctly.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
Yesterday starts. Everything is fine.
Speaker 3 (15:15):
I even come home from work on my break to
watch a show with you, during which time Matt, my brother,
came in to ask me what I think about a
meal that he cooked. He says that Elena, his girlfriend,
liked the one made before better, and I agreed because
the pasta was overcooked this time. And just because of
the comment that short minute of insignificant conversation, you were
upset at me. For the rest of the night, not
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even saying I love you back when I said it
to you. Clearly you were still upset. I went to
lay in bed, and you took two hours to call
me and never talk to me while you were watching
the show, continue to not say I love you when
I would say so. Obviously I did something wrong to
upset you, but I don't see it that way. So
I hung up, and you thought, you know what, let
me make this TikTok talk about something another guy did
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for you that I've never done for you, And you're
saying that doing that making me think you're cheating is
a good idea.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
So basically this is so toxic.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Yeah, yes, the tiding each other on social media publicly
is so lame.
Speaker 3 (16:12):
So to spell out what's what's happened here, it seems
that she made a TikTok talking about Stratt and how
Stratt I think like helped her out financially.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
It was like, oh my god, what a great guy.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Whatever to what I believe in response was to him
talking to his brother's girlfriend and being like, oh yeah,
like I like this other meal better, like very very
like neutral, like super.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Platonic, like pasta talk you know, yikes, yeah, big, yikes,
this is this is a super big yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:47):
I don't I don't know if this relationship is the
one to continue with.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
But well, let's see the story. I don't know what's
going I'm still too hot. I don't know what's going
on with.
Speaker 4 (16:57):
Expressing gratitude multiple times is a heartful way to I
say thank you for their helping?
Speaker 3 (17:02):
Why?
Speaker 1 (17:02):
Yeah? What is til darbot? Who are you listening to?
Dingis bot? AnyWho?
Speaker 3 (17:07):
And that it's a result of me not responding to
you last night, even though you were the one not responding.
I don't buy it. I'm positive you are cheating on
me with someone else. Don't don't me. Just tell me
that thing truth, am telling that thing.
Speaker 1 (17:20):
Truth.
Speaker 3 (17:20):
You didn't talk to me last night. You sent me
that video as if it is something. I waited for
you to call me when I got out of the
shower and went to lay on my bed, and you
decided to leave the call and didn't even try to
talk to me afterwards, And I literally saw you got
on TikTok. I made a whole thing literally yesterday telling
you how I felt.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
You reassured me by.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
Telling me that it was an insignificant, insignificant fing convo.
And yet for me, I saw it differently, and I
know you do like her, So don't pretend you only
talked to Elena brother's girlfriend when I'm not around, and
that's pretty obvious. Oh this is exhausting. This is so exhausting.
I do not like this one bit, Obie says. At
twelve thirty, we finished the episode. I said, Okay, bedtime, babe.
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You said, I'm not tired. Bro, I'll get in bed
to watch another episode with you right before a shower.
I waited for you to do that. I waited for
you to do that and your night routine, which normally
takes fifteen to thirty minutes. Then you finally join again
after two hours. You weren't talking to me at all.
Halfway through the show. I went to the bathroom and
came back, and you weren't responding even after I said
hello for five minutes, so I left the call. I think, fallatside,
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it took you so long, and then I think realized
you have being left, Like what did you expect me
to just disappear from my phone?
Speaker 5 (18:29):
What?
Speaker 1 (18:30):
I didn't even mute myself. Any person, even you would
have known I was sleeping.
Speaker 3 (18:35):
Oh my god, I'm not sure when the whole TikTok
video comes to this. Anyways, regardless, you never even showed remorse.
All you had to say was that it's your fault
that you posted that comment. And now I'm letting you
know that all I wanted was some sort of apology
or explanation. You'll say, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't mean it,
I love you, blah blah blah blah. But it doesn't matter.
Now you're only saying it because I asked you to.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
Don't worry. I'll let you get the last word in,
but afterwards you should go study. I'm gonna go to Betterly.
I have to get up at seven tomorrow for a
doctor's appointment. Are you clicking through? Oh my god? What
is it? More of this conversation. There's a lot more.
Speaker 3 (19:15):
It's still okay, it's basically just this until the end
of the story.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Is it interesting?
Speaker 3 (19:22):
Let's close out, and I think this is just a
conversation they've already had.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
So by the way, if.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
You love listening to us, Oh boy, do I have
some news for you, go to Apple, Spotify or heart
Radio and search. Okay, story time and Binge to your
heart skin two thousand episodes. That's a lot of good
to listen to. But we have the finale of the
story here, so I am invested. I want to know
what happens at the end of this story. Here we go,
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so this will probably be the end of my story.
Thank you all for coming along this crap show ride
with me, and.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
Thanks for the advice.
Speaker 3 (19:57):
It helps me kind of justify what I've already been
telling myself. If you want another update with like every
single message she sent me during those fights, oh my god,
I cannot.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
No no, no, no, no, please to God know and you know what,
there isn't another update, so the people probably have spoken
of these fights.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
I can do so, but not tonight. I'm tired from
work and exhausted from what happened. I'm exhausted from just
reading your text. I also feel like the update more
than answered some of your questions. So thanks again for
reading and have a good life all who stopped by.
Best regards at s Z twenty three mail.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
Twenty three year olds to be in love and to
be twenty three again.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
You know that's a beautiful thing.
Speaker 3 (20:40):
Your girlfriend making tiktoks about handsome men paying their bills
and looking strapping.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
Yep, don't we love it? Don't don't we love it?
But that's the end of that story.
Speaker 3 (20:51):
Hey, y'all, it's John og Host here. We're gonna get
back to the stories. But here's a quick three minute
break from ask for more sponsors.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
We got another one coming right up. We got another one,
come right up. My girlfriend said she quit smoking, but
I know she's lying. Okay, maybe you have.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
A smoking gun. So my girlfriend twenty four female and
I twenty four non binary, have been together for two
and a half years.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
We both met.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
We both vaped pretty consistently. I, however, since childhood, have
had a few complications with my lungs. I know, not wise,
but I was stupid, and after a few years of
doing it, on New Years of twenty twenty three, I
decided that I wanted to quit. Hey, let's go. I
personally really wanted to stop because I knew it wasn't
doing me any favors. By the way, this comes from
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Unique Hero one one two. If you want us smit
your own stories, go to our slash Okay storytime stubrette it. So,
my girlfriend Leyla fake name, I continued to vape after
I quit, and honestly, I really didn't care if she
did or not. She's an adult and until she decided
she wanted to quit, then that was a choice that
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she could continue with. Oh, he's quit and vapor but
doesn't expect her girlfriend to do so, can't control or
their girlfriend to do so. Then in April of this year,
twenty twenty four, I was hospitalized and admitted for five
days due to a flare up in my lungs.
Speaker 4 (22:13):
WHOA.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
I was really cautious for a few weeks about things
like vape smoke getting near me because of how reactive
my lungs had been. And Layla was incredibly respectful, loving
and awesome during that time and actively made it her
mission to not vape in front of me. Very good,
which I know is the bare minimum, but also it
was nice to know she was actively being mindful. In June,
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Lailah sat me down and told me that she really
wanted to quit vaping because she feared for my health
and didn't want to contribute to my lung problem in
the long run.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
That is sweet. Yes, I love that.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
She didn't talk about her quitting journey much, which was
fair because I didn't either when I was going through it.
To help with the cravings, though, she was chewing on
nicotine gum, which seemed to do her good. The longer
time passed, the more I noticed she didn't need it.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
Okay, So I feel like she's wean and off. This
seems great.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
I was so proud of her and try to make
sure she knew it all the time.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
In July confessed that she was struggling pretty hard mentally.
She then had a large breakdown. Oh.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
I spent the weekend comforting and making sure she was okay.
But after that, unfortunately a lot of things started happening,
so we couldn't see one another for more than a
day or two each week. It was hard, but we managed.
Then fast forward till last night. It was the first
time in a while we had been able to hang out,
and we were going to be together all weekend. We
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were sitting on the couch and I noticed a new
pack of one hundred and fifty nicotine gums on the
coffee table. Oh, that's a solid back. Seems like a lot,
But also I don't know so how.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
Many how many nicotine gums does one go through in
a day? Let us know Chess.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
I asked her about it because it seemed like one
hundred and fifty was a little excessive.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
Okay, there we go.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
She'd been doing really well, or at least that's what
I thought. She took a moment for confessing that she
had been smoking SIGs every day since her breakdown. She
had been showering every day, washing her hair and all
her clothes regularly, and actively hiding it from me. I
was so shocked. I asked if she would have ever
told me, and she said that the only questions I'd.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Been asking her were about vaping. What she had not done,
not smoking. Ah, the old pole, the old loophole.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Oh, I mean, which is worse vaping her cigarettes?
Speaker 3 (24:31):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (24:32):
Obviously cigarettes.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
Yeah. I feel it's like it.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
It feels like, hey, like, babe, I really don't think
you should be like watching any corn anymore. Like all right,
all right, babe, I won't. And then you just start
hooking up with prostitutes.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
They're like, I'm not watching porn anymore. I said I would,
said I wouldn't know. You didn't say nothing to do this.
Speaker 6 (24:53):
Come on, she's a professional, a working woman, she has
a family, call and if I had asked, she would
have told me, but I had no idea.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
We had a long talk last night about it. She
said that it has been just for me and something
that I didn't need to be clued in on, and
she likinged it to me reading smut. I don't tell
her what I'm reading all the time, but I do
tell her and that has to amount to something, right.
She talked about how she wanted to quit hence the gum,
because it made her feel gross, but she had just
bought a new packet and she wasn't hurting anyone but herself,
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so she didn't think it was relevant to bring up.
But it isn't the smoking that I am still reeling about.
It's the line, which again, like I think in any
relationship that's actually what matters. Yea, yea, I think like
this is, you know, it would be great if she
didn't smoke around Opie and all that because of the
health reasons.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
But that's like Opie never never asked her to quit smoking.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
She like said it of her own volition, and then
spun up this whole lie about like pretending someone who
she's not.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
Yeah, well and correct me if I'm wrong.
Speaker 3 (26:02):
It seemed like she was like doing good, was off it,
but then she had kind of like a like a break,
like an emotional breakdown, as she said, and then that's
when she just started like kind of like binging cigarettes
excee themes for that.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
But yeah, yeah, it's it's still the lying. Yeah, No,
for sure, for sure.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
I mean like I was gonna say, like maybe she
just felt like she like let her down or disappointed
her with everything, but it doesn't.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Never, it never justifies it. No, it doesn't. It doesn't.
Speaker 3 (26:28):
Yeah, and it's like, why especially about something that she
It's not like she it was an expectation.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
I think again, like it's a trust and a partner
is so important. If you start to realize they're lying
about small things, you're.
Speaker 1 (26:41):
Like, what else are you lying about? It? It erodes
at the trust foundation of everything. At a situation short, okay, storytime.
At a situation that happened. I've told you this story,
you know, the story about tragic I it is a good,
good one to hear.
Speaker 6 (26:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
I mean I was dating this girl and I'm like, oh,
you should buy this like skirt I saw. I think
it was looked cute on you and she's like, okay,
I'll buy it, and she's like I just bought it.
I'm like okay, cool. And then a week later, I'm like,
do you buy the skirt? And she's like, oh, it's coming,
it's in the mail. And a week later, I'm like.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Did you ever buy that skirt?
Speaker 2 (27:09):
And she's like, uh, yeah, I did. It's like coming.
It's like you said it was coming like a while ago.
And she's like, well it didn't come, Like did you act?
I don't know if I believe you bought the skirt.
And then later that night she sends me a photo
at badly photoshopped picture of her like buying the skirt
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and like the dates changed when she bought it, and
like like but she used like comic sands and instead
of like comics again.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
What the I was?
Speaker 2 (27:42):
I was so surprised that she would lie about something
so silly that literally meant nothing, and she I'm like, hey, like,
I don't think we could keep seeing each other because
she had like this was a relationship that where she
can kind of had lied before. And she's like, you're
gonna break up over something so small and I'm like, well,
it's not the fact that you didn't buy. I don't
care if you bought a skirt. I just cared that
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you lied about it for weeks.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
Yeah, and honestly, that you would lie about something that
small that it lends us to believe that there's a
lot of other things that could be lies.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
That's what there was, oh dear. Anyway, actively, So it's
not about this vaping. It's the lying actively hiding something
this big for me when she knew that I didn't
care that she had vaped for a majority of our relationship.
I'm still at her place while she is at work,
and I don't know what to do about this. I
want to confront her properly about my feelings, but I
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don't want to impose on her choices. How do I
confront her about this without making her feel shameful or guilty?
Speaker 1 (28:43):
What should I do?
Speaker 2 (28:44):
I love her so much and it hurts knowing she
kept something like this so secret. We have some comments,
we have some updates, but I would love to know
from from chat and from John, like what do you
think about the situation?
Speaker 1 (28:58):
Is this breakup worthy? Is this? You know? Talk about it? Like? What? What?
What do you think should be done? Here?
Speaker 6 (29:04):
Again?
Speaker 3 (29:04):
The one thing I'll give her is maybe she felt
a lot of shame with uh, you know, with the
lung health issues she had, and you know also like
I guess, being in an emotional breakdown, like not being
in the right headspace.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
So I think it's a sit down.
Speaker 3 (29:21):
But basically be like, hey, like we need trust to
be the foundation of our relationship. Like it's again, it's
not it's not about the the smoking. It's about the lying.
And I want to make sure that like we're on
the same page. And like I do think they're any
any any time a lie is said, you know, it
puts into it can put things into questions. So as
Taylor at the Law at the Lost Toy says in chat,
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a lie is a lie.
Speaker 1 (29:44):
Yeah, So I think, yeah, need.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
To talk about that, And I think I think there's
a couple of ways to go about it. It's one
is like, is this lying deep into the relationship? You
find If it's like deep and it comes out in
multiple ways in the relationship, then maybe it's not a
relationship that you can build up upon. But if it's
just this one thing and it's coming maybe from like
guilt and shame, which it sounds like it is Yeah,
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there might be a path forward where oh, P can
basically be like, hey, like, I know it's hard to quit,
and I know you went through this tough time and
just know like for these things, I'm not going to
judge you for this. I but I will I will
judge if you lie to me. Yeah, but I will
never judge you for telling well never, But I like it,
like I I will always appreciate the truth rather than
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a lie. Yes, you can work with the truth, yeah, exactly, exactly,
we can build a relationship upon truth. Yes, and so
uh maybe that is like like maybe you can assuage
some of the guilt feelings that this person is feeling
that's causing the line.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
Yeah, but it's also just like how how deep this
is the lot do? Let's go indeed, but we got
some comments. Oh oh we got some updates. Oh Babby
cakes McGee, let's get into the comments.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
So common one, she needs to want to quit for
her self, not anybody else. To me, that is just
a white lie. And she just didn't want you to
be disappointed in her. If you truly love her like
you say you, Uh, it shouldn't be that big of
a deal too. Your girlfriend is struggling with being a
regular user and the substance use in a time of crisis.
If that's something that's unacceptable to you, then you'll have
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to remove yourself from the situation. But in my opinion,
this is a health episode which demands empathy and teamwork,
not finger pointing. I advise you to stay in her
corner on our journey back to better health and hope
he responds, thanks for this. I do want to be
in her corner and support her, but I also think
I have some residual fears about my health since the
incident happened earlier this year. But I am reeling a
bit from the shock of it as well, I think,
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And here's the update.
Speaker 1 (31:42):
Oh, I do think there should be grace given, Like
I think I think so personally, especially if it's not
you know, the lies haven't worked their way into all
of the relationship. If it's this one segmented like like
we said, like, I think we could build it up,
but I think you're just like you know, closer and
now and work on the relationship is needed.
Speaker 3 (32:02):
The example you shared it kind of makes you put
everything into question. This one was like, Oh, I see why,
I can see how the guilt and shame and the
emotional breakdown, like what led you to you know, do
this wrong? And to me, if I was OP, it
would put me in less of a headspace of like,
oh is everything.
Speaker 1 (32:18):
Other a ton of other lives.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
Yeah, agreed, but we got an up day we go.
So firstly, thank you to everyone who commented on my post.
Some were harsh, but the criticism of my thoughts and
actions was a really good wake up call. Reading the
comments that talked about how this is a sign of
a true regular user and that I needed to just
approach this with sympathy and patience were helpful because I
won't lie. I was pretty shocked and a little hurt
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when I found out she had been actively hiding her
smoking for me. I resonated with the comments so much.
We sat with a Kappa and had a long chat
the night I made the post. It was actually really
nice and I felt good knowing how she felt. The
night falling was Saturday and I had my house roaring
party for my new apartment. My friends and both my
roommate's friends were coming over. I was super excited, and
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Layla fake name came over to mine early to help
me set up the party to help to keep setting up,
and then we got ready together. The party started off awesome,
with about twenty five people squashed my little apartment. That
was until nine thirty when Leayla went out for smoke
with another girl. I had told Layla prior if she
wanted to smoke, she'd need to walk out to the
side street next to my apartment because there are some
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pretty strict smoking rules, but I told her to go ahead.
I didn't know the other girl. I'd assumed it was
a friend of one of my roommates and gave Layla
a kiss goodbye before she left.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
Do we have an icu icee us?
Speaker 3 (33:38):
They might be popping up ladies and gentlemen. Are we
putting that in the chat?
Speaker 2 (33:41):
Oh obay granted. Everyone at this point was a good
amount of tipsy, including myself. Laila was gone for forty
five minutes. Started to miss her and a little wasted
I was, and sent her a bunch of texts asking
when she was coming back. I got no response, so
I went into my room and from the vantage point
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of my bedroom window I can see on the end
of my small street. Sure enough, I could clearly see
Layla and this girl making out against a brick wall.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
Oh the lie lies, the lies, they keep coming. Oh
oh oh man.
Speaker 2 (34:23):
Okay, Like I see what people were saying in the
Reddit comments, where it's like, all right, you know, the
substance users, it's a common habit to lie about the
substance because it's a hard thing to get over. And
I understand that, like that, yes, that that like or
I don't understand it, but like theoretically, I I get that.
But if someone's in that position, are they ready for
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like to come together in a relationship that's supposed to
be built on integrity and trust or do they really
just need to focus on themselves and like figure it out,
Like maybe they need to do that, not in the
context of the relationship, ye, or in the content of themselves,
maybe with support from a distance.
Speaker 3 (35:03):
Totally could be yeah, yeah, it's like and it gave
me the benefit of the doubt.
Speaker 1 (35:09):
And then here we are, here, we are, here, we
are Yeah.
Speaker 6 (35:13):
I know.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
I also like I feel like the comments last one
were turning Opie's thoughts. You know, they're like, oh, maybe
I should give another chance, and then here we are.
Hannah says, Okay, I thought cheating, but wasn't sure. Yeah,
Taylor at the loss says, see if she could lie small,
she could.
Speaker 1 (35:30):
Lie big, and that was a big one.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
It's a big one. That's a big one. So I
shut down and locked myself in the bathroom. I don't
know how long it was in there, but when I
got out, Laylah was back with the other girl. A
part of me wanted to cry and scream, but another
part of me wanted to deny it ever happened, and
so I did that. I drank heaps, party hard, and
then everyone left at one am, but Layla stayed over
(35:54):
so she didn't have to drive, and obviously she's my girlfriend, right,
I won't lie.
Speaker 1 (35:58):
I was wasted.
Speaker 2 (35:58):
We had spicy sleep at the party, and when we finish,
I told her what I'd seen. She said she had
a feelia I'd found out because I'd been acting weird,
and said that she'd been seeing Zara fake name for
three and a half weeks. They met through a mutual friend,
and Zara took my girlfriend to the smoker's area of
the bar the night after Lailah's breakdown, and they seem
to click. Lailah has been seeing her since sh I
(36:22):
felt numb I can't believe I didn't see the signs
and yet I let Laylah sleep over, but when I
woke up, she was gone.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
The next morning.
Speaker 2 (36:30):
Oh it's been a few days since and she hasn't
said a single thing, no text, no calls, and I
have no clue what the heck to do. After two
and a half years in this relationship, this is the
first time I felt so alone.
Speaker 1 (36:43):
Wow, are we over?
Speaker 2 (36:44):
Why did she walk out on me when she's been
cheating on me? I know I should break up with her,
but I love her so much. Nothing feels real at
the moment. But I thought I would update, and we
got some comments and we got some responses from Ope.
Speaker 1 (37:00):
John, I mean, what do you think breakup? Or Nah?
Speaker 3 (37:04):
I feel like this is breakup because it's like again
first thing, we were like, okay, you know, maybe you know,
maybe this isn't indicative of other things. This is clearly
like it feels like there's just no care. There's just
no care here, like we're concerned for like Op's well
emotional well being or anything like that.
Speaker 1 (37:22):
Yeah. I just super whack whack.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
Whack, And we gave we gave her the benefit that
someone asked, what as the gender of op op is
don binary.
Speaker 1 (37:33):
Yes, so whack, dude, so whack.
Speaker 2 (37:36):
I do think our our thought process was sound, Yes,
where it's like, hey, you know, this could just be
one lie, one moment. But I think this combined with
this smooth chin.
Speaker 3 (37:51):
Oh yeah, it's it's so clear. It's so clear you
will just lie, you will just relationship.
Speaker 1 (37:57):
And there can be no trust. It ain't there.
Speaker 2 (38:00):
It ain't there. So we got some comments. Comment one,
she obviously doesn't care about you or the relationship. Even
when she hid smoking, she didn't come off as trustworthy.
I feel like you should end the relationship and move on.
I agree. I feel like at this point she kind
of already did this by not reaching out to you.
Sounds like she's been done with the relationship for a minute.
I'm sorry you have to go through this. You deserve
(38:22):
someone who will actually be upfront and honest about things.
If this affects you mentally, I think you should see
a therapist. I hope the best for you. And that
is where this story ends.
Speaker 1 (38:32):
Hey y'all, it's John og Host here.
Speaker 3 (38:33):
We're gonna get back to the stories, but here's a
quick three minute break from ASP For more sponsors.
Speaker 1 (38:37):
Oh wowno Benito.
Speaker 3 (38:39):
Hopefully hopefully indeed he went through that and just you know,
focus on yourself.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
I hope so.
Speaker 2 (38:44):
But man, what I also hope you go through what
watching this podcast. Wherever you get your podcasts, just search
Okay Storytime and Apple Podcasts, iHeartRadio, Spotify, wherever you get
your podcasts for more full episodes just like this.
Speaker 1 (38:58):
Booh bomh yeah wow wow wow wow big one. But
we got we got more in store.
Speaker 3 (39:05):
Ooh, your my girlfriend accused me of cheating because of
what my building security told her.
Speaker 1 (39:12):
Oh, man building a security exposing people.
Speaker 3 (39:16):
Maybe they said you're cheating. Basically, my girlfriend and I
have been dating for two and a half years. We
met at a party and hit it off extremely well.
We were friends for a bit, but clearly had feelings
for one another, so we ended up dating. She gets
a bit jealous whenever I talk to girls because she
has quote unquote firsthand experience with how flirtatious I am,
so naturally she's a bit iffy about me hanging out
(39:37):
with girls. By the way, this comes from deleted And
if you want to submit your own stories, go to
the r slash Okay Storytime so about it. So, the
thing is, I'm a naturally flirtatious guy. I don't do
this intentionally, but I am told that I am very
attentative and that makes girls go head over heels for me.
Speaker 1 (39:52):
Okay, subtle, okay.
Speaker 3 (39:57):
So a lot of times I learned later ter on
that my friends have been trying to get with me.
Usually I brush it off and establish strong boundaries in
our friendship through my actions. I make sure not to
let anything happen. I also want to emphasize that when
I commit to a relationship, I mean it quite frankly.
I think cheaters are pathetic and cowardly. If I wanted
(40:18):
to date multiple women, I would. However, I love my
girlfriend and absolutely enjoy committing my time and love to her. Anyways,
on to the issue. I bring my girlfriend to my
place often to hang out and whatever. Therefore, my concierge
is quite familiar with her. The thing is, recently, my
really good friend moved to my city and we've been
catching up quite a bit. I usually don't have my
(40:39):
friends over at my place, but since we are close,
I didn't mind hanging out with her at mine. Of Course,
I let my girlfriend know whenever she's over. However, thirty
minutes ago, my girlfriend stormed into my place and started
going crazy, accusing me of cheating and the sorts. I
have no clue what's up because last I checked, I
wasn't cheating.
Speaker 1 (41:00):
I don't know, man, is there evidence? Let's see it.
I I really want to know what the security guard has.
All right, let's see. You're curious.
Speaker 3 (41:09):
I'm imagining it's like a like a sitcom scenario where
he's like, oh hey, let me grab this coat, and
she's like in front of the coat hanger and there's
a security camera in the worst position possible, and it
looks like he's like reaching around her to grab her
and like bring her in and smooch, but really he's
like just looking for his coat.
Speaker 1 (41:28):
Yeah, yeah, it was. It was the angles.
Speaker 3 (41:31):
It was the angle totally, you know, like friends side
Felds type type stitch. Anyway, she goes off about how
the concierge told her everything and how I am apparently
effing my friend, and on and on about whatever.
Speaker 1 (41:44):
She ended up leaving and.
Speaker 3 (41:45):
Said we're done. Oh relationship over? Oh done?
Speaker 1 (41:52):
Dang, that was that was quick. That was quick. So
what do you think about that story?
Speaker 2 (41:56):
I think just kidding is that it it's not over
and over. I could get my two cents. We have
more to the story, Laser gentlemen, although the relationship may
be over. To be honest, I was quite shocked and
didn't know what to do, and I was really curious
about why she thought I was cheating, despite me explicitly
(42:16):
telling her all the times that my friends was going
to be over. So I go downstairs and confront the concierge.
He tells me that apparently he saw me and my
friend being flirty, and that when I came down to
drop her to her uber, she was giggling, laughing and
being touchy.
Speaker 5 (42:32):
I didn't realize laughing was a crime. Lock me up, officer, Papa.
Laughter is illegal, so he felt something was off. These
were his exact words, by the way, So naturally I
got pissed off and I told him that it was
none of his business, and then he crossed a huge line. Now,
the reason that I'm writing this here is because I
(42:52):
have no clue what to do. There are so many
things racing in my mind, and I'm honestly confused. How
should I speak to even speak to my girlfriend? How
should what should I do about the concierge any advice
and we haven't edit, But really quick, how should we
talk to a girlfriend in concierge.
Speaker 2 (43:09):
Well, concierge is like definitely overstepping a little of bit.
Yeah crazy, Yeah, that's where was it? A honey b
eighty five says concierge is probably trying to shoot his
shot with his girl.
Speaker 1 (43:20):
Dude, ooh, I think that could be it.
Speaker 2 (43:24):
I mean, but it also it's like, is this girl
flirting hella back with him? And also how far is
this flirting going with this girl he's dropping off in
an uber? Yeah, maybe maybe the girlfriend already had some
like feelings about this girl, and the fact that the
concierge said something just confirmed it.
Speaker 1 (43:40):
And all of a sudden she's like kind of jealous.
Speaker 2 (43:43):
Well yeah, when this guy is being flirty with every
like when he's dropping off girl and us and being
hella flirty with a bunch of people, I would understand
being jealous. Yeah, but the concierge's definitely being a little nosy.
I feel like that like violates concierge protocol.
Speaker 1 (44:00):
I think it probably does. It's like priest protocol.
Speaker 2 (44:03):
It's like priest, Yeah, exactly, you know, you confess your
sins and uh nothing, nothing, nothing happens.
Speaker 3 (44:08):
There was no there was no booth when he was
dropping her off from Uber. He dropped her off at
a door.
Speaker 1 (44:12):
It's true. No walls, no walls, no walls, but we
have more because there is an edit. Wow.
Speaker 3 (44:18):
Didn't expect so many comments, and I really appreciate you
all for taking your time to give me advice. I
feel I felt quite trash last night and I decided
to sleep. I'm not sure what I'm gonna do next.
I think the effects of last night are raining down
on me because I felt quite sick to my stomach.
It all feels like an elaborate nightmare. This definitely does
feel like a fever dream. Honestly, for now, I'm going
(44:39):
through the advice everyone has so kindly offered and.
Speaker 1 (44:42):
Pieced together what I should do. We have an update.
Speaker 3 (44:47):
But do you think OP should go back after her
and try to, like see if she'll s I'm.
Speaker 2 (44:57):
Like, my my suspicion is the con sierge was a
tipping point that that happened, and I feel like the
the problem that is in this relationship is way deeper
than just the concierge because OPI admitted at the beginning
he's flirtatious.
Speaker 1 (45:14):
Yep, and his girlfriend's jealous.
Speaker 2 (45:16):
Yeah, I don't know. I believe that he's flirtatious. I
believe that his girlfriend's jealous, but I feel like it
might be because the flirtatiousness is.
Speaker 1 (45:22):
A little bit overboard. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (45:24):
And also if the concierge is like roll those guys,
those guys put it in work like other people, and
girlfriend must also see that same vibe.
Speaker 3 (45:35):
Yeah, honestly, that's such a good point. If a concierge
is taking the time out of his day to go
quite frankly risk his job to tell this woman like,
it's probably really bad, it's probably really bad, probably really bad. Yeah,
and he's already acknowledged it.
Speaker 2 (45:53):
So exactly, I'm and I don't think necessarily OPI did anything. Yeah,
Like I feel like I feel like the probability of
him have actually doing something is maybe low. But if
it's so flirtatious like that, that's still looks a cross boundary.
Speaker 1 (46:12):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3 (46:12):
Like if he's just yes, schmoo's in every single girl
he sees, what kind of relationship is that?
Speaker 2 (46:16):
Well exactly, I mean, there needs to be especially if
the girlfriend's not okay with it. Right, It's like it's
like one thing or like, oh, like we have an
open flirting rule and then that's fine. But if the
girlfriend's not okay with it, then it's not.
Speaker 1 (46:27):
Something you should do. Yes, but sam ay boy, we
got an update. Ooh you know how I love those?
Speaker 2 (46:34):
Oh yes, swap it in my mouth hole, Oh, my
ear hole and my nose holes all the hole.
Speaker 1 (46:39):
Let me here speak and breathe story.
Speaker 3 (46:43):
Let's go straight through the face bones, which is how
you hear something like that.
Speaker 1 (46:47):
Anyways, updates.
Speaker 3 (46:49):
It seems like she's told a lot of our mutual
friends that I cheated on her.
Speaker 1 (46:53):
Oh oh, the word is spreading. This smear campaign has begun.
Speaker 3 (46:56):
A lot of people are messaging me, and some of
the messages are scary because they're quite hurtful. Others are
curious about my side of the story. I honestly don't
know what on earth to do. I feel like try
and explain myself will just fall flat, which like, honestly,
that is a top position to be explaining yourself. I
am panicking quite a bit. Any advice, and we have
another update. We're gonna dive right into it.
Speaker 1 (47:18):
Oo baby, Hi everyone, I have.
Speaker 3 (47:20):
A couple of questions because things have been have gotten
a lot worse since. So she blocked me on everything
after I messaged her to meet up so we can
talk about it. Then she went on to tell all
of our friends and everyone seems to know a lot
of them have messaged me with some horrible stuff and
it feels like someone gave the old one.
Speaker 1 (47:38):
Two dinny do tuma gut uh?
Speaker 3 (47:40):
I mean, for sure, I didn't even cheat, and it
makes me want to cry when people just assume that
I'm a cheater. I have always thought cheaters real the
lowest of the low, and being branded as one hurts
a lot. Nonetheless, some of my friends were curious about
my side of the story, so I decided to have
them over and tell them all about it. My friend
who was caught cheating with me is also going to
(48:02):
be coming over. Any advice on how to approach this
because I don't want it to be simply my words
against hers. That is true, he does, I mean, and
I guess this is the woman he's alleged to be
cheating on with, so she has also incentive to clear
his name. But it's like she was with, you know,
the one his friend who can say like, hey, nothing
(48:24):
happened or whatever. But yeah, it's just like like like
when when when someone just throws that out and you're
like trying to explain yourself.
Speaker 2 (48:32):
You're just especially with a past history of like suspicious behavior.
Speaker 1 (48:35):
Yes, yeah, one hundred percent.
Speaker 3 (48:38):
Oh baby, oh baby. Now I'm also not sure what
to do about the concierge. This dude has single handedly
ruined my life. I mean, I have lost a lot
of hope in saving my relationships and just wish this
could all end and become normal. I really don't think
getting him fired will do any justice. A few of
you have recommended suing him for slander. Oh man, I
(49:00):
haven't brought the situation to my parents. Yeah, this seems
a little.
Speaker 1 (49:04):
Extreme and sent is not gonna work. It's not Yeah,
it's not worth it. You could maybe get him fired,
but I don't think you could see but that. Honestly,
even at that point, I'm like, what is that? What
does that accomplish?
Speaker 3 (49:15):
You know, I haven't brought the situation up to my parents,
but I will do that if nothing improves.
Speaker 1 (49:21):
What do y'all think?
Speaker 3 (49:22):
Also, thanks a lot to those who have been gentle
and empathetic of my situation. This would be extremely.
Speaker 1 (49:28):
Depressing to go through alone.
Speaker 3 (49:29):
I feel a lot less lonely with your support, and
it means an incredible amount to me. I will definitely
find a way to repay those few and have you
know that you have me if God forbid, anything happens
in your own lives. And we have update number two
staring us right in the face. Right, I hit it,
Let's get into it. So basically, my friends came over
(49:51):
and supported me quite a bit. We agreed on some
steps that I should take.
Speaker 1 (49:54):
Next.
Speaker 3 (49:55):
Number one is block her and all our friends from
social media. All in knowledge is to avoid that. In
group number two, do not respond to any social media
posts because it'll just add fewl to the flames. Number three,
get in contact with lawyers because one of my friend's dads,
a lawyer, said that I have a strong case and
I should really sue it.
Speaker 1 (50:14):
I can't imagine that's true, but wow, I'm no lawyer.
Dang golly goobers.
Speaker 3 (50:21):
Furthermore, demand an apology letter from the concierge. I've already
spoken to my parents and they have got me in
touch with their friends who are lawyers. This is giving
Daddy's money, so I will take it from there. Number four,
move out of my building.
Speaker 1 (50:34):
Even if the.
Speaker 3 (50:35):
Concierge is fired, my at least will be ending soon,
so it's not too bad. And apart from which also
seems extreme. Apart from that, my friends just supported me
and reassured me that I didn't do anything wrong. Since
every single one of you was attacking me for being
a flirts, I asked them for their honest opinion on
me being a flirts. Apparently they said they never called
(50:56):
me a flirt, but they said they just told me
that some girls can fight it in that they thought
I was being flirty, which I.
Speaker 1 (51:03):
Means maybe we're a little bit just maybe means you
were a flirt, maybe a little bit a little bit. Hey,
you know, it's like, nothing's wrong with being a flirt
unless you're in a relationship with.
Speaker 2 (51:12):
Someone who doesn't want you to flirt. Indeed, you know
which it sounds like you were in.
Speaker 1 (51:16):
That is the thing. Uh.
Speaker 3 (51:18):
They wrote that up to the girls reading into things
and not me. Nonetheless, I learned I wasn't one hundred
percent correct in the way I approached my friendships. A
few of my friends brought up some of the points
you guys mentioned in the post and said that you
guys were spot on with them. They offered me some
suggestions on how to work on these points. Hopefully I
won't have any more girlfriends leaving me because of my
concierge's actions in the future. Well now, I haven't heard
(51:42):
back from my ex yet either. Her friends are just
spaming me with stuff, but I haven't replied to them.
I don't think I will, and I'll just end up
blocking them. I'd like to speak to my ex in
the future to get some closure, but it doesn't seem
like it will be anytime soon. I'm still in shock
because we've been together for nearly three years.
Speaker 1 (51:59):
That's nearly all all of my university life.
Speaker 3 (52:01):
It sounds like we're dealing with a young in here,
which is weird to think about.
Speaker 1 (52:06):
I thought we were a perfect couple, but I guess not.
Speaker 3 (52:10):
I also have to say I got quite arrogant slash
cocky in the past thread.
Speaker 1 (52:15):
I think maybe this is a reference to that all
the girls.
Speaker 3 (52:17):
Just launching themselves at him like magnets, and I'm sorry
about that. I was just ticked off and overwhelmed, but
that was my defense mechanism. I didn't mean to flex
that I've been with so many girls or whatever, but
I just got a bit annoyed by people constantly saying
that I'm intentionally flirting to get attention from them.
Speaker 1 (52:37):
It's one thing to brush off a comment or two,
but when.
Speaker 3 (52:39):
It gets to be fifty plus comments saying the same thing,
one starts to get defensive. Regardless, I should have kept
my composure and I shouldn't have reacted badly. After all,
it was my idea to seek advice from you all.
And if you want to seek some mother freaking advice.
Speaker 1 (52:55):
Some of the best advice on the internet, by god,
do we have the solution for you?
Speaker 3 (53:01):
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full episodes of good advice given, goofully, learnings and laughs.
Speaker 1 (53:12):
That's what we have to offer you.
Speaker 3 (53:14):
Unlimited content, truly, unless you listen sixty days straight. But
we have the finale of the story Sam, any any
final thoughts before we dive into that.
Speaker 2 (53:23):
I mean, it feels like this relationship is what is
just not going to work. Yeah, just in general, even
if the concierge didn't say, yeah.
Speaker 1 (53:33):
It's something was going to happen. Yeah, and this just
happened to be this. They happened to be this. Well,
let's get into the finale here right. Last night was
a bit weird though.
Speaker 3 (53:41):
My friends and I went out to a bar and
got a bit wasted on my way home. My cheating friend,
she's going to unlive me for calling her that lmao.
Offer to sleep over there to be with me?
Speaker 1 (53:52):
You want to do that right now? Is that what
you want to do right now? Is it not makeing
you look better? This is not my friend and not
making you look better?
Speaker 3 (54:03):
Well, things have happened, oh pe.
Speaker 1 (54:08):
When one door closes, another opens, somebody opens, someone opens.
Speaker 4 (54:14):
She's just pulling a John?
Speaker 1 (54:16):
What's that?
Speaker 4 (54:17):
Because his girlfriend broke up with him, and then the
girl was She was like, hey, I'll come.
Speaker 1 (54:23):
Over, referencing my thirteen year old John.
Speaker 3 (54:31):
There we go, Yeah, referencing my thirteen year old story
of asking out a girl today she got broken up?
Speaker 1 (54:38):
Yes, okay, yes, it took me a sack to get there.
You know all the time.
Speaker 3 (54:45):
You know that happens all the time, dude, thirteen year
old John was running around.
Speaker 1 (54:49):
Yeah, dude, Oh P, I'm sorry. I feel like ohp.
Speaker 3 (54:53):
He's totally lost me at this point, because like I
think you got to say, like hey, and the relationship
just ended.
Speaker 1 (55:00):
Yeah, like okay, anyways, just just add to same. I mean,
do you feel the same. Uh.
Speaker 2 (55:06):
I think it's a little soon, yeah, a little soon
technically in the clear technically yes, technically black and white paper, yes.
Speaker 1 (55:13):
But it doesn't look good for the tabloid.
Speaker 3 (55:15):
Not good for the tabloid, said, listen the doormen and
when women are on on on the streets out there
are already.
Speaker 1 (55:21):
They're already talking. They're talking, my goodness.
Speaker 3 (55:24):
Anyways, However, I told her it was going to be
a one time thing because I don't want to rebound
into a relationship or anything. I'm thinking of living the
single life now, going to hit the gym harder than ever,
destroy school, and get into a master's program in London.
Speaker 1 (55:39):
Alpha brain, move on and just focus on me. No
more girls for a while.
Speaker 3 (55:42):
Also, I'm not sure if I will be allowed to
update you on the concierge situation since we're taking legal action.
Speaker 4 (55:48):
Oh my goodness, I'm actually crazy though that he's taking
legal action against the concierge for saying that he flirted
with the girl that he then hooked up with.
Speaker 1 (56:00):
Yeah dude, great.
Speaker 4 (56:03):
Cause, like your honor, I did not flirt with that
girl yet at that moment, sir.
Speaker 3 (56:11):
Two days later, Yeah, I didn't take up with it
on Tuesday, your honor. It was on Wednesday after the breakup.
Yeah dude, ridiculous. Should we do a doupe if I
am allowed to, though, maybe I'll post what happened. Not
too sure though, And an edit, Uh, you are right
about me being a wiener head for sleeping with my friend.
Speaker 1 (56:30):
There you go.
Speaker 3 (56:31):
I accept that it just happened and that was that.
Sorry to disappoint y'all. Edit number two, I think I've
said enough. See you on the flipsids.
Speaker 1 (56:39):
So cool and sexy and flirtatious. It can't help.
Speaker 3 (56:43):
Just every time I open my mouth, women just fall
at my feet.
Speaker 1 (56:48):
Head over heels. Oh man, But that is where that
story ends. That's it, that episode, Oh my baby. So
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