I CONGRATULATED my uncle’s ex-wife on her remarriage… now my family is furious! - r/charlottedobreyoutube | Reddit Stories | EP2020 - ok storytime

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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to help this show stay alive. I congratulated my uncle's
ex wife on her remarriage. Now my family's furious. I mean,
what just about you just congratulating.

Speaker 4 (00:29):
First things first, sorry for the spelling mistakes. English is
not my first language. And this is gonna be a
little long because it's a little messy. We like MESSI So,
my uncle Adam thirty eight and his ex wife, Bianca
thirty six got married twelve years ago. I'm twenty three now,
so I don't remember much because I was really young
back then. But what I remember is it was a
complete shock for us. We live eight hours away from them,

(00:52):
so we weren't really in on events. When I was young,
we used to visit my grandma for like ten days
and a year, and as far as I know, Adam
want a complete playboy.

Speaker 1 (01:02):
Oh wow.

Speaker 4 (01:03):
By the way, this comes from Say Say Wait on
the Okay story times I've printed Adam always had girls
in his life.

Speaker 1 (01:12):
I remember meeting countless girlfriends of his. I even remember
one that was really rich and wanted to marry him
and support him for all of his life. And another
one that is super sweet, but a single mom. Adam
broke up with her just because her kid called him
dad one time. Dang, I mean, low key. I mean
that's a pretty big responsibility. If I'm not ready to
be in that relationship like that and the kid starts

(01:33):
calling me dad and be like it's over, I'm so hard.
But I feel like.

Speaker 4 (01:37):
You have to take a minute before you get into
relationship with a single mom and be like, am I true?
Or maybe just like be really mean to the kid. Okay, no,
don't do that, goud. It was a joke, so he
would fool around a lout. One day, Grandma called us
and let us know that he was getting married. We
were shocked, as far as I learned later on, Adam
and Bianca met in their workplace. Bianca was an accountant

(01:59):
and was a driver. She was actually engaged when they
first met, but when Adam heard this, he just said,
no problem, I can break them up.

Speaker 1 (02:06):
Day Adam with the frick and he really managed to
do so. Adam how hot is Adam.

Speaker 4 (02:14):
Gotta be really hot. But when Beyonca's family heard about this,
they were furious, and my grandpa was also furious, so
they demanded.

Speaker 1 (02:22):
They get married.

Speaker 4 (02:23):
My uncle resisted a little bit, but finally said yes,
even though it was never his intention to marry her.
When we first met Bianca, I loved her. She was funny, beautiful,
and she loved me. You should marry her. This was
pretty much enough for me because my father's side didn't
used to love me very much. That's sad do to
me being the second child and a girl. My grandma
loves boys and she thinks second children are unnecessary day

(02:46):
day grandma, so I felt like I had found my
ally in that side of the family. Finally, when they
were getting married, they moved to the apartment just under
my grandparents. It was also theirs, and they didn't want
to pay rent and thought this was a good decision.

Speaker 1 (03:00):
Big mistake.

Speaker 4 (03:02):
My grandma was horrific to Bianca because she thought she didn't.

Speaker 1 (03:05):
Deserve her precious little boy.

Speaker 4 (03:07):
And he could have done so much better than her.
The wedding was chaotic. Nobody helped them get settled, because
my grandma told everyone they did not want to get disturbed.
She had an opinion about everything in the wedding, et cetera, etcetera.

Speaker 1 (03:20):
Oh God, shut up, grandma, go goodside, take a time out,
touch the grass, grandma.

Speaker 4 (03:29):
Three months after the wedding, we learned Bianca is pregnant.
It was a little early for it, but anyways, ten
months later, my first cousin was born, a beautiful baby girl.
After this, my grandma was even more horrific because.

Speaker 1 (03:43):
She hates girls. No, why does grandma hate girls?

Speaker 4 (03:46):
Bianca later told me that she would never take care
of her, even when she does need to handle an
errand or something. She would always watch them from the
balcony because they live right below her, tracking everywhere they
go and every visitor.

Speaker 1 (03:58):
They as lord of these children, as the matriarch of
the family, and I refuse to lift a finger. I
watched them fall in ice Nika to myself, dynasty's fall
at my hats. And then she thinks she's like Caesar.
She's up there just like with the thumb going. No,

(04:21):
I let you run into.

Speaker 4 (04:22):
Traffic, try to eavesdrop from the floor, and more and more.
She even caught her trying to cast a religious spell
on them for them to break up.

Speaker 1 (04:32):
Religious spells don't exist. That's called uh oh, it's a
witch's curse.

Speaker 4 (04:37):
But whatever she tried to confront at him, he always
took his mama's side. This started to really get the
relationship on the edge. They started to fight a lot,
and Grandma started to call us and tell us about
it all the time. Another thing about Grandma, she always
thinks she's an angel sent from above. So she said
she never understands why they fight, and Bianca's just trying
to pick fights.

Speaker 1 (04:58):
Excuse me, ma'am, you cast did a spell to break
them ball, that's you, spellcaster.

Speaker 4 (05:06):
Years have passed like this and we were actually expecting
when they will divorce. But they have made the dumbest
decision I ever heard in my life. They did the
second child to save their marriage. A classic second child
to save your marriage.

Speaker 1 (05:20):
Move classic. I We'll have another pass and will make
them fix it. It only made things worse.

Speaker 4 (05:27):
My second cousin, Miranda, is also a girl, and just
after having Miranda in forty days, Beyonca's mother and father
passed away just.

Speaker 1 (05:34):
Two weeks apart. That is so hard so she.

Speaker 4 (05:38):
Was postpartum and lost both of her parents in a heartbeat.
This made everything worse and their fights became even worse.
When Miranda was three, they noticed she's on the autism spectrum.
This made everything harder, and Bianca told Adam if they
don't move out, they're getting a divorce because all this
time they're still living under the grandma, right, who hates girls.

Speaker 1 (05:58):
And also it sounds like grandma did cast the spell
and the spell worked. Hello, yeah, you lost both of
your parents. Your grandma just cast it, an unliven spell
on your parents. Beyonca that you should get out of there.
Well you can't, uh, and that again witch, that's a witch,

(06:18):
an evil witch. So they did move out for six months.
Then they couldn't handle the rent, so they came back.
Later we learned that they actually got divorced on these days,
but continued to live together, and this actually made the
relationship a little better. On to the last It was
like a little bit better, just a little splash of divorce,
you can actually make the relationship flourished.

Speaker 4 (06:38):
They got I didn't really understand that line. They got divorced,
and they were like, actually kind of help them.

Speaker 1 (06:44):
Maybe they mean that they separated. Yeah, because horse is
a lot more final than that.

Speaker 4 (06:50):
Later we learned that they actually got divorced on these days,
but continued to live together.

Speaker 1 (06:54):
I don't know.

Speaker 4 (06:55):
On to the last year, Bianca and Adam had a
huge fight, played for shack. Children were afraid that kind
of fight. Bianca left home and rented herself a place.
She took Miranda with her, and my other cousin was
with Adam. But after eight months she returned.

Speaker 1 (07:09):
What happened with the other girl, and she took Miranda.
She took Miranda, but not her other kid.

Speaker 4 (07:13):
Oh no, no, sorry, my other cousin, meaning her other daughter.

Speaker 1 (07:17):
Oh yes, was with Adam. So they split the kids up. Yes,
And I don't know about that.

Speaker 4 (07:22):
On this August I went to my grandma's place alone.
It was my dad's idea, but because I really couldn't
get along with my grandma, I spent most of my
time at Adam and Bianca's place. Let me tell you
it was horrible. You don't say, I can't imagine it
probably would be. They fought all the time. Bianca later
told me that Adam never helped her during this eight

(07:43):
months because moving out was her choice. With Miranda being
in the spectrum and having special needs, she couldn't afford
both Rent and her with her minimum wage job, so
she had to come back on the condition that they
cannot be anything more than friends anymore, but Adam constantly
tried to get back together. Bianca also showed me some
videos a friend of her scent of Adam dancing intimately

(08:04):
with a group of women from her workplace. She said
he cheated on her constantly and she doesn't want to
go back.

Speaker 1 (08:10):
Don't go back. Yeah, but don't do that. Don't do it.

Speaker 4 (08:13):
Also, for the time I was there, Adam was horrific.
One day, we went out to get a couple of
beers in a local pub and he was making remarks
like I can get whoever I want, but I just
don't want to, or point out to a couple and
say that guy's too good for her, she's probably keeping
him with spicy sleep. Or I could get any girl,
but there's no good women left over the age of
twenty five and is just too young for me.

Speaker 1 (08:35):
Blah blah blah. Yeah, this guy sounds so cool.

Speaker 4 (08:38):
He's like, I could get literally any woman I want,
but I don't want any of them.

Speaker 1 (08:43):
Yeah. Honestly, every girl on the earth under the age
of twenty five has been ruined. But all the girls
over the age of twenty five are too old for me,
so so I can't do it for you. I'll tell
you that. I also made a joke the other day.
Everyone stood up and clapped. Everyone in the whole room clap,
and then they may be the king. They may meet
king of the room. And I turned it down.

Speaker 4 (09:03):
I said, I don't want to be king because I'm
too humble to be the king. Apparently he was wasted.
They had a fight. He prepared her luggage and kicked
her out with Miranda at three m kicked his own
daughter out.

Speaker 1 (09:16):
What a monster.

Speaker 4 (09:17):
Bianca has no family in the city, so she went
and stayed at a friend's house for the night.

Speaker 1 (09:22):
By the way, you can always stay with.

Speaker 4 (09:23):
Us every weekday on YouTube, Facebook and TikTok. Just top
her profile and join us live. Do that and there
is a little bit left. But what are your thoughts
this sch This guy is clearly not good. No, he's
a horrible person, and he's actively been a horrible person

(09:44):
all of a peace life.

Speaker 1 (09:45):
So I think that the move is like you gotta
you gotta leave. This guy gotta leave and you gotta
stay gone, which I think has already been done. But
now it's more like a trying to like make it
work in like a friend's only type. But like I think,
you just gotta get this guy out of your life
and have him like legally support you.

Speaker 4 (10:07):
In another way, I get the child's support if you
can have presence.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
Because he's just a nightmare. But there's a little bit left.

Speaker 4 (10:15):
One week has passed and my mom told me that
Bianca is getting married tomorrow.

Speaker 1 (10:20):
No, one week since he kicked her out.

Speaker 4 (10:23):
I mean they were already divorced, but one week since
she got kicked out of her home.

Speaker 1 (10:27):
Oh who was she married?

Speaker 4 (10:28):
I was shocked, but learned after Adam kicked her out,
she returned to her hometown. A guy there wanted to
marry her even before she met Adam and was also
divorced and still wanted.

Speaker 1 (10:38):
To marry her.

Speaker 4 (10:39):
Oh WHOA She declined before, but after the latest events,
she told him fine, and they got married.

Speaker 1 (10:44):
Bianca, girl, that's a rebound marriage. Bianca, you don't do that.
A rebound marriage. That's not that is not healthy. This
all happened a month ago and Bianca posted the photos
of the wedding on Insta. I DMed her and congratulated her. God,
I mean, I just I think the most telling thing
is the way that she wrote that. She was like,

(11:07):
he was like, I still want to marry you, and
she was like, I guess, I mean, I'm fine.

Speaker 4 (11:12):
You're here, You're the only one here. She was always
on my side, did very good things for me. So
I wished her a beautiful new start and told her
that I'm here if she needs me. Now, all my
family is furious with me. What apparently Adam is furious
with Bianca for getting married this quick.

Speaker 1 (11:31):
I mean I would be kind of shocked. Yeah, I
mean you can be shocked, but hello, you don't get
to decide that anymore. Well, go dance with another group
of ladies.

Speaker 4 (11:39):
Literally, and all of the family thinks everything is Bianca's fault,
and I'm betraying my uncle by congratulating her.

Speaker 1 (11:45):
So am I the a whole Sorry.

Speaker 4 (11:47):
I wasn't expecting it to be this long, even though
I summarized it many times.

Speaker 1 (11:51):
And that's the end of that story. Why is your
faan like this is already so messed up?

Speaker 4 (11:56):
Yeah, like your uncle's behavior is just terrible, and your
family's seems to all be signing with him.

Speaker 1 (12:01):
Yeah, which I don't understand why. I don't care. I
don't think there's even any need to like choose sides
in this situation. It's just like, it is what it is.
You reached out to somebody just to say congratulations.

Speaker 4 (12:13):
You know though, so this is like on Instagram, this
is not you know, they'd meet up for coffee. Opie
wasn't like I hate my uncle and I support you phrase.
It was just like dingratulations.

Speaker 1 (12:24):
Yeah, it's crazy. Why is your family so toxic? Your
family's crazy.

Speaker 4 (12:28):
But that's the end of that story, so we'll see
you next time.

Speaker 1 (12:32):
On the next one. I needed space to recover after
giving birth, but my family said I made them feel
not welcome.

Speaker 4 (12:41):
Well, it's your birth, so they need to ghet over.

Speaker 1 (12:45):
Sorry, I just pushed the baby out of myself. Give
me a break. I twenty four female, and my partner,
twenty four male, moved to another state after college, eight
hours away from my family. We are blessed enough to
both have great jobs that allowed us to purchase a
home and start a family. Blessings on blessings uh In
less In February, we found out we were having a baby.

(13:07):
By the way, this comes from user material exciting forty
four to sixty on the r slash Okay storytime subreddit.
So his family and my family were both so supportive
throughout the pregnancy, throwing us two baby showers and spending
time helping us get everything ready. We literally didn't have
to buy a single item in preparation for our baby's arrival,
so we are extremely blessed. That's great. Yeah, you could

(13:29):
say that again, that's great. Didn't even have to buy diapers. Yeah,
you just start like pitching. You're like, hey, guys, just whoever,
you know if we need some help, and everyone shows
up and gives you everything. Once it was time for
her to arrive this month, my family really wanted to
be here. My partner only got two weeks off of work,
so we really wanted to spend the time alone to
bond with the baby and figure out how to be

(13:51):
parents for the first time. But we didn't want to
take away the experience of our families having their first grandchild. Therefore,
we agreed to let my mom, his mom, and my
aunt stay for a week. My mom and his mom
slept in our house while my aunt stayed at my
partner's dad's house. My birth was not what I expected.
Ain't that the truth? It ever winds up how you expected.

(14:14):
It never quite does does. It never lives up to
the expectations. I was in labor from nine am Tuesday
to ten pm on Wednesday? Is it a quick thirty
six hour laborers? No big deal? Oh? Sorry, thirty seven hours. Well,

(14:34):
and that'll teach you guys to eat those apples. You
shouldn't eating that apple. You shouldn't.

Speaker 5 (14:40):
All you had to do was not eat the apple,
and apparently God would have let you have That is
the story. Just the butt eating the apple? Was the
eve have a painful.

Speaker 1 (14:51):
Is a painful birth? Labor? Is he? Yep? Make an
apple away keeps the doctor away. Yeah, an apple a
day gives you massive amounts of pain. Yeah, apparently life
one apple thousands years ago gives every woman on the
planet labor. Oh man, yeah, don't believe. I don't believe that.
By the way, Yeah, he just to be clear, to

(15:15):
be clear. That's that's Can you imagine if he was
that petty? Yeah? Or she let's have that discussion. God
is a woman, then she was the one who did
that to y'all, like, messye, messy. My epidural failed and
I felt everything. This is terrifying. Okay, expects me not

(15:38):
want to be pregnant. Yeah, I pushed for three hours
and I got second degree tears from my eight pound,
twelve ounce baby. Big babies not even that big. Yeah,
pump those numbers up. That's a small baby. I was
absolutely exhausted from screaming in pain for hours on end
and being stitched up with no pain meds. I couldn't
even do skin to skin right away because of how

(16:00):
exhausted I was, so my partner did it for me.
I'm terrifying. Wow, yeah, that's I'm so sorry. I'm probably
the most brutal pregnancy like labor I've heard on this
store on the show for the commend you so much,
because to go through all of that is what a
what a yeah? Just what a thirty seven hours of

(16:20):
labor through a failed epidural makes you think. Once I
was more coherent, my partner asked if I wanted visitors.
I was not ready, so I asked him to let
everyone in the waiting room know that the baby was healthy.
But I wasn't ready for visitors until the next day. Valid. Yeah, hello,
thirty seven hours of labor. The next day, we had

(16:40):
visitors from morning until night. I was in so much
pain and exhausted, but still wanted everybody to be able
to meet the baby. I was discharged two days later
and came home to a clean house full of groceries
and meals. The next few days, my family stayed with
us and helped clean and cook. They held the baby,
and I tried to make sure everyone got equal time
holding her. Although I was stressed about having people stay

(17:02):
with us, I ended up appreciating having them there to
help with chores so we could focus on our baby. Yeah,
that's nice. Yes, that's what I should. I think if
you're gonna come over after a baby's born, you can't.
It can't be for like, oh, I'm wanting to see
the baby, you know it. It's like I'm here to help. Yeah,
I'm here to help, and then while I'm not helping,
I can see the baby. Yes, exactly, you're here to

(17:22):
do stuff. You're going to work. I had thirty seven
hours of labor. You can labor over a peanut butter
and jelly sand which, for God's sake, they'll catch at
My mom asked if she could come back in less
than a month, and I told her that it would
be too much. We were planning on going to visit
them in December anyway, for a weekend. Fast forward a
week they've traveled back, and I get a call from

(17:44):
my mom. She's sobbing, saying I made her feel unwelcomed
and that she feels like I don't want to have
a relationship with her. My relationship with my family has
been rocky in the past, and we've all been through
a lot, so that had some part in why she
felt that way. She said, my sister and my aunt
told her thing that made her think that way, and
I was a mess. I thought everything went great when

(18:05):
they were here, and I'm one week postpartum feeling extremely
guilty for making my mom feel that way. She said,
me not wanting her to come in November and only
wanting to stay a weekend in December made her think
I didn't want to be around them. I mean, honestly,
I think there's just misumunigation. This is on here.

Speaker 4 (18:20):
She feels I think secure and other people are whispering
in her ear and they're like, oh, your daughter doesn't
want you here, and she's like feeling that, and then
her daughter like, Ope, didn't want to come, and you know.

Speaker 1 (18:31):
You just try shortened things one sentence. Yeah, thirty seven
hours of labor. Yeah, hello.

Speaker 4 (18:37):
I literally think that Opie could just be yeah, say hey,
went through really hard labor. It's not that I don't
want to see you. I just need a second to
you know, I need some time to need practically.

Speaker 1 (18:46):
Baby, I need approximately a month.

Speaker 4 (18:48):
In an approximately a month. This has nothing to deal
with you, but I think I think totally could just
be miscommunication here.

Speaker 1 (18:54):
I got off the phone and texted my sister and
aunt to stop telling my mom negative things that puts
me in an comfortable situation. This is when I found
out that everyone thinks they have to walk on eggshells
around me, and that I took away from their experience
with our baby.

Speaker 4 (19:09):
You took away from their experience with your baby boy.

Speaker 1 (19:13):
It's my baby girl.

Speaker 4 (19:16):
They're like, your thirty seven hour labor really put a
dapper on things.

Speaker 1 (19:21):
Yeah, I'll give you thirty seven hours to get over
it and then let us spend with your baby. Give
me your bamy. My aunt said that she waited in
the hospital for two days, and when she found out
I didn't want visitors the night I gave birth, she
was going to go hang out with my partner's family
and drink wine because she wasn't going to waste her
paid time off. Will you go, Auntie? Yeah, they all

(19:42):
making about themselves. Yeah, this is like I waited in
the I waited in a room with air conditioning, and
I was just sitting there for like, minding my own business,
my kindle literally earth shatteringly painful labor for thirty seven hours,
but it's my day, as I wanted to see the baby. Yeah,

(20:04):
I felt pretty inconvenienced by that. She also said she
felt unwelcomed when they were here, and she only stayed
to support my mom. Shut up, dude. I was so
confused because I thought the week went great. This also
made me extremely mad because I felt like everyone was
making me out to be the bad guy after going
through a traumatic birth. So I replied, quote, I'm sorry

(20:27):
if me being in labor for two days and pushing
for three hours with no pain meds ruined your pto
nice nice rubing their faces, slam dung or something along
those lines. Anyway, she didn't respond and hasn't spoken to
me since. My sister said they feel like I don't
put enough effort in to have a relationship with them
because I only want to come for a weekend and

(20:47):
haven't spent a lot of time with them since moving States.
So am I the a hole for being unwelcoming after
giving birth? No? No, obviously, you know what. We'll always
welcome you guys to join us when we go live
on Facebook, YouTube and TikTok and twitch. Just top a

(21:08):
profile every weekday three pmpst. Just have our profile and
we're probably live right now. You can check anyway. Yeah, yeah,
you're definitely not a Hello. Your family's making it all
about themselves. Whatever happened in the past with your family
situation clearly is influencing their sort of perspective on you,

(21:35):
because from everything we read, it sounded like you went
through uh yeah, a traumatic birth experience and still gritted
your teeth and was like, I will let these people
spend a week with us.

Speaker 4 (21:48):
Yeah, And then they're like, oh, well, we want more,
we want this birth to be fun for us, and
you're like, guys, I'm just trying to take a minute.

Speaker 1 (21:55):
Why is it that when people do this about weddings
and babies. They try to make it about them. How
about you instead of the person having the wedding and
having the baby. Exactly get over yourself.

Speaker 4 (22:07):
No, literally, like if you came out, Let's say you
came out, I don't know, you got time off of
work or something to go see your family member having
a baby, and then it turns out.

Speaker 1 (22:17):
That you can't be in the room or something. Yeah,
you just gotta deal with that. Oh well, yeah, I'm
gonna go. I guess I'm just gonna go hang out
with these people because I'm not gonna waste my paid
time off. It's like, you idiot, you're getting paid for
time off. None of it's wasted. Stupid, so silly? What
so silly? I hope this story ends with the baby
developing superpowers and laser beaming all of these annoying family members.

(22:40):
So you try to make my mother feel bad? Oh
I would just venge. Yeah. I was thinking more of
like baby Jackjack from the Incredibles, where it's more just
like he's just got a lot of baby powers.

Speaker 4 (22:52):
Yeah, oh no, I was thinking of really super It's
like you want to spend time with the kid, baby, Sure,
spend time with the kid you're thinking of.

Speaker 1 (22:59):
Like Dewey Griffin being like hmm, okay, So here's the update.
First off, I want to thank everyone so much for
your kind words and validation. I'm definitely a people pleaser,
so knowing that I wasn't in the wrong from a
large majority makes me feel better. We're still going to Christmas.
They spent eight hundred dollars on our flights, but I'm
going to go to a therapist to prepare to set

(23:20):
firmer boundaries and let them know how hurt I was
by them making everything about them. I'll update with how
that conversation went, which may be a while. My heart
is with all of the moms on here who have
gone through something similar. Mom guilt is so real, and
family dynamics are hard to navigate. So my love goes
out to all of you. And that is the end

(23:42):
of that story. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (23:44):
My final advice is I think that you can have
a conversation with your mom and clear up some miscommunication
and you'll be chill with her.

Speaker 1 (23:50):
Yeah, but you're aunt and your sister kind of suck.
My daughter excluded me from a college tour, so I'm
thinking of excluding her from something too like her tuition
or maybe the will Okay, I'll try to make a
long story short, but it may take a bit, so.

Speaker 2 (24:04):
Buckle up, just keep it long. It's fine.

Speaker 1 (24:06):
I thirty eight female, found out when I was nineteen
that I was going to have a surprise blessing with
my boyfriend. We decided to do the right thing and
got married about four months before I gave birth to
a beautiful baby girl. Eighteen months later, I gave birth
to another gorgeous baby girl, and my husband and I
finally learned how to use contraceptives. Sarcasm ah. By the way,

(24:27):
this comes from user dependent two fifty to fifty nine
on the r slash. Okay, storytime, so I read it.

Speaker 2 (24:32):
What's that contraceptims?

Speaker 1 (24:34):
Contraceptoms?

Speaker 2 (24:35):
Yeah, I don't know. Is it never heard that word before?

Speaker 1 (24:38):
Your little Willie jackets. Oh buddy, after this, I'm gonna
have the I'm gonna talk to you about the birds
and the bees. When the girls were about five slash
seven years old, their father and I separated and got
a divorce. It was not a very pretty split. We
are on better friendlier terms now. What made me feel

(24:58):
the worse about it is that I couldn't keep our
family together for my daughters, and it made me feel
guilty ever since. I moved us back to my hometown
and lived with my parents until I met my now
husband and we purchased our own home nice. I moved
back to my hometown because I have a lot of
family there who have been a great support for me
as a single mom, and I had a great childhood
growing up there, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, my parents, and

(25:22):
my sister, my only sibling, so the whole family squad
is there in the hometown. My sister has never been married,
she is the smart one and has no children of
her own. Ever since the girls were born, she has
been a great and loving aunt, and I have always
encouraged her as a mom like figure in their lives,
even getting her cards, gifts, and celebrating her on Mother's Day.

(25:44):
As a single parent, moving back home and essentially starting
everything in my life all over, I worked a lot.
I started working in retail until I was able to
get a job with a great company, and I worked
my way up to the top level of management, working
directly under the owner, making big moves op. It has
been long hours and even having to do some work

(26:04):
at home, like taking calls and sending emails. I have
never been a perfect mother. I've missed some things. I
was unable to get some things done for them, but
I always did what I could to fix it or
make it up to them. My daughters were my drive,
my motivation to work harder, to be able to give
them more and that they wouldn't want for anything. I
started putting money away as soon as I could for

(26:25):
their college fund, and I recently took on a second
job so I can add more to their accounts. I
just don't want my girls to have debt and to
be able to study and learn whatever they want and
find their career that they're going to be happy with.
And they have been my whole world. I signed up
to be involved with anything I could, volunteering to help
work fundraisers with them, being a substitute coach when they

(26:47):
needed one, to go to games for volleyball or cheer,
taking them to fun events at the library their school,
going to at least one MLB game per year, and
seeing at least one family Broadway show in the city
around the holidays.

Speaker 2 (26:59):
Oh my gosh.

Speaker 1 (27:00):
So yeah, it sounds like you're really trying to, you know,
make some memories with the girls.

Speaker 2 (27:04):
That was a great childhood to be short.

Speaker 1 (27:06):
My time was devoted to them, and if it was
something I couldn't take my daughters with me or that
they would enjoy, I wouldn't go to or do it.
Fast forward to more recent times. My now husband and
I got our house together in twenty twenty one and
we lived there with my daughters until last year when
my daughter got a job and took some college credit
classes that it made more sense for them to move

(27:27):
back in with my parents. We're twenty minutes away. I
don't see them daily like I used to, but I
talked to them daily. I communicate and try to stay
involved with everything. My oldest daughter is eighteen, and ever
since she was about fifteen, she has had the itch
to be independent. I mean they all do, right, Yeah,
we all get the itch when we become teenagers and

(27:47):
high schoolers. We want that independence. I encourage both her
and her sister to put some fiscal responsibility on what
they want, just to help them understand the value of
a dollar and take care of things they helped purchase.
For example, we got them cell phones when they were
ten or eleven but flip phones, and I would not
get them smartphones until they could pay for half of it.

Speaker 2 (28:05):
Nice.

Speaker 1 (28:06):
That's a good life to parenting, very good. I have
to work for stuff what we did the same thing
for their first car and other large purchases. My oldest
got her first and current job at a pharmacy when
she was two weeks away from turning sixteen. Well that's early, dang. Well,
I guess it's not that early, but it's the beginning
of when you'd get employment.

Speaker 3 (28:26):
I started working at sawmon when I was seven years old.

Speaker 1 (28:29):
Yeah, half that age. Don't don't don't rat on them,
you're breaking labor laws.

Speaker 2 (28:34):
No, this was on the weekend because of firewood, he said.

Speaker 1 (28:37):
No, I volunteered to do all that work.

Speaker 2 (28:39):
Well, I started working out the axle sawmill at sixteen.

Speaker 1 (28:43):
Yeah. Wink, wink, nod nod, yeah, yeah yeah. Over the summer,
she studied hard and passed her pharmacy text certification. She
is that driven, always having a's on a report card,
not accepting anything but the best from herself, et cetera.
I've always questioned myself if I was pushing her to
feel like I was expecting affection from her, but from
multiple conversations with her, she assured me that her drive

(29:04):
for perfection is just who she is and not me
pushing her to be so. One thing me and my husband,
her dad, and even my sister have noticed about my
oldest over the past couple of years is that she's
developed a tendency to only reach out to us when
she wants something.

Speaker 2 (29:19):
I did that.

Speaker 1 (29:20):
Everybody does that college. Oh.

Speaker 2 (29:22):
I definitely did that when my parents before I went
to college.

Speaker 1 (29:24):
Everybody does that when they reach a certain age. The
only thing you want to talk to your parents about
is like, yeah, it's cool, can you can you pay
for my gas? Please? Can you pay this?

Speaker 3 (29:36):
That you don't realize how important they are and how
much you want a relationship with them until after you
leave home.

Speaker 1 (29:42):
I mean that's when I realized it's the vast majority
of people I would say yes.

Speaker 2 (29:45):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (29:46):
It started after she began dating her boyfriend back when
she was fifteen. And to provide context, I don't feel
her boyfriend is the cause of this change exactly. He's
always been willing to do anything with our family, always
kind and respectful to her and to us. I've come
to ca care about him. I have come to care
about him as what I call some of her friends,
as one of my part time kids now. I went

(30:08):
to a university near where we used to live when
her dad and I were married, where he still lives.
I have always talked about my alma mater with the
girls when we talked about going to college and if
they ever wanted to go look around. As they got
older to let me know. We had a junior high
track meet there, and after the event was over, I
took them around the grounds and buildings and just talked
about how great the school was, singing all its praises,

(30:30):
et cetera. I even periodically took the girls with me
when they were little to a class because their sitter
couldn't watch them. So there is a little sentimental history
there for us as well. I also need to add
my sister went to the same university, so there's a
little bit of history, a little bit of family history
at the university. My oldest daughter is now eighteen and
a senior. A requirement from her school is she has

(30:51):
to do a couple of campus tours during her senior year.
Last month, she told me that she's scheduled to do
a tour of my alma mater this Friday, all right.
I got so excited and I told her I would
take time off of work to go with her, and
I would love to look around with her, et cetera,
et cetera.

Speaker 3 (31:08):
Dude, this is such a great chance to bond with
your daughter about memories you had and then like it
would be so fun to do that.

Speaker 1 (31:14):
Yeah, I sure hope the title of the story doesn't
get in the way of all that. She then says
she's only allowed one person to go with her on
the tour, and she asked her boyfriend to go with her. Boo,
come on, just spend some time with her mom. But honestly,

(31:34):
she's hyped about it.

Speaker 3 (31:36):
I understand the boyfriend, you know, important person in someone's life.
They went there, that's they're all the mater.

Speaker 1 (31:42):
He didn't even go there. She's an alumni.

Speaker 3 (31:45):
Come on, don't you want to go whenever you're touring,
to go to whatever you're touring. Wouldn't you like to
know all the ins and outs, not just from the
tour and all the fun stuff, all the all the
secret spots, all the best taco places. Yes, not like
this is dorm room, this is office, This is classroom.

Speaker 1 (32:04):
I was a little disappointed at first, but I understood
she's very close to him and it makes sense for
him to go if he is also considering going to
the school. I asked if I could just be there
and hang around campus with them after their tour. She
said sure, and I requested the day off over this
past weekend. I made a comment about how we need
to talk about a game plan for this Friday, and
she made a comment of Mom, you can't be on

(32:27):
the tour with me. I mean, you could set up
your own terror appointment, but I'm only allowed to.

Speaker 3 (32:32):
You said one earlier, you said.

Speaker 1 (32:35):
I think she said she's only allowed two tours. Hmmm,
went right. Alumni, Oh you're an alumni. Great, Yeah, come on.
I feel like this really wouldn't be that big of
a deal. If she was just like, can my mom
also come, they'd be like, oh, yeah, sure, we don't care. Yeah,
It's like there's no This is like one of those
fake rules that doesn't really exist.

Speaker 2 (32:53):
Also, like going with your boyfriend's kind of name.

Speaker 1 (32:56):
I mean, not if they're like trying to go to
the same school.

Speaker 2 (32:58):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (32:58):
True, but you can schedule appointment. You know, you might
not want to staying with your boyfriend after you realized
that there's seven billion people out there that didn't go
to your high school, Like just low key okay. I
thought it could only be her and her boyfriend. I
kept saying that, well, we can just walk around campus
after your tour, like we did the last time we

(33:19):
talked about this trip, but she just seemed so annoyed
that I was trying to go. Last night, I was
with my mother and sister at our book club when
my daughter came by to get my signature on a
form from me. I noticed that she had some form
and parking passes for my alma mater, and she handed
my sister similar forms. My gut was like, okay, her
aunt got a tour set up with the school. Weird

(33:40):
that neither one mentioned that to me. But then I
realized her aunt was going on the tour with her
and her boyfriend allowed to. That's the second Oh, so
the aunt's going instead of mom. Oh no, the cool
aunt took your spot. So I asked her straight up,
So that thing you just handed your aunt is that
for going on the tour with you? Friday, my daughter

(34:03):
tried to make a little joke about it we do
use humor a lot in our family and basically said yes.
I clearly got aggravated, but I only said in response,
I will see you on Friday. I saw red. We
all parted ways, and I wanted to cool off before
I said anything more about it. When I am mad,
I need to cool off before I talk about it,
or I get very mean and hurtful. It's something I

(34:24):
have been trying to get better at. So I finally
sent my daughter a text because I just knew if
I talked, I would go off. I told her. I
was owed an explanation as to why she made me
believe I couldn't go on the tour with her, and
why she thought I wouldn't find out her aunt went
with her. Did her aunt even know I wanted to go,
or about the deceit. She replied that she just wanted
to spend time with her aunt, that she initially misunderstood

(34:45):
what the tour limits were about how many guests she
could have with her. I'm still not sure if that's
exactly the truth, and that her aunt explained in conversation
with her that she could have two other people with
her on the tour and she just really wanted her
aunt to go. I was just hurt so right here.

Speaker 3 (35:02):
I remember whenever I was going to college, I was
button heads so hard with my mom. Oh yeah, like
me and her. That was probably like the worst part
of our relationship. There's been like two bad parts with
my mom and I's relationship. That one was like one
of the bad ones.

Speaker 1 (35:16):
Like that she wanted to go somewhere else and she no, we.

Speaker 3 (35:19):
Agreed on that, but just like going up, I was
ready to leave the house and we were just button
heads with everything. Also clocking the humor thing, I think
that ope, like she'll probably like say something in a
humor like clean your room, oh, clean your dirty like
clean your dirty room, you rascal, but like in a
mean way. And she did say that she gets mean
at times when like it's a part of confrontation. So

(35:41):
I think that, Ope, that your child here is just
kind of like ready to leave, and she's she just
sees you as like.

Speaker 1 (35:51):
I don't want to be around her. I'm ready to leave.

Speaker 3 (35:53):
This is just annoying because that's how I felt, and
I have seen people families were like they use humor
to like kind of get at one another. Yeah, dude,
it gets so toxic, so quick, because there's no humor
in it. It's just like in a laughing manner, but
it's just like a jab yeah.

Speaker 1 (36:09):
And then everyone's like, oh, okay, so how do I
How am I supposed to feel about that?

Speaker 3 (36:13):
I think or ope, I'm sorry if this like horror
is hard and I probably don't know you. There might
be some layers you need to figure out with your
communication skills, because it seems like your daughter is not
really receiving that, and that's why there's a disconnect between
you two.

Speaker 1 (36:26):
Very nice, very deep, thank you. Her aunt and I
work at the same company, and I got a little curious.
I looked at when I requested Friday off versus when
her aunt requested it off. I requested it off immediately
after my daughter and I talked about the tour on
October twenty fifth. My sister requested it off November twelfth.
I pointed that out to my daughter. She again explained

(36:47):
her misunderstanding of the guest limit and she wanted her
aunt to go. I asked her why she didn't tell
me anything about it. Though I've always been approachable and
they know they can talk to me about anything, and
they have low key though, Well, maybe this is just
how you're getting about this one context of like the
college trip. But I feel like if this is like

(37:09):
how meticulous you're kind of looking into this situation, that
might cue us into as to why she didn't want you.

Speaker 3 (37:17):
To, because let's look at other situations, how did you
handle those and how did your daughter feel after you
handle them that way?

Speaker 1 (37:24):
And it really could be just as simple as like,
we're wrong about both of those things, and it's just
an eighteen year old who wants to feel independence, yeah,
and would feel like going on a college tour with
my mom, Yeah, would not make me feel very independent.
So it could just be that it really could just
be her being eighteen. They told me the first time

(37:45):
that they tried booze or experimented with substances, and I
never once even got upset or even punished them my
stance and my daughters have always known this. Teenagers are
going to feel tempted to try that stuff no matter
what I say or do, and I taught them what
would happen if they try that stuff. But I want
them to always come to me if they are in
a situation of being too wasted to drive or not

(38:05):
having a sober driver available, or whatever it might be.
And I would never get upset with them. I would
rather know and be involved and encourage them to contact
me instead of making bad decisions in order to avoid
getting into trouble. And it's worked really well. They've told
me about every time they were ever offered or tried something,
and I would ask some questions, we would talk about it,
and they came to the conclusions on their own to

(38:27):
avoid doing that stuff again because of how they felt afterwards.
I feel like hangovers are the best teachers of why
it's a bad idea to get wasted. So it just
perplexed me that she didn't feel like talking to me
about this whole mess. I felt so cut out of
her life. Since then, she knew that I really wanted
to go, but she didn't feel that she could talk
to me about what she wanted, especially how her whole life.

(38:50):
I've worked, I've given and tried to be there for
her and her sister. I told her that she is
not going to cancel on her boyfriend or her aunt
for this tour because it is what it is, and
I don't want her disappointing them. But it'll never disappoint us.
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Speaker 2 (39:18):
I think he feels the portrayed.

Speaker 1 (39:21):
Oh, p's got feelings, and feelings are sometimes feelings are messy.
It's like, this is your alma mater. A lot of
stuff is mixed up about it, about how you feel
about it. I don't think your daughter really fully understands
how important this clearly was to you. Yeah, you know,
it was like, oh my mom's just being a dork
about you know, like the alma mater. But it's like

(39:43):
it really sounds like it was kind of a super
meaningful thing to you. I don't think she ever understood.

Speaker 3 (39:49):
I don't think she will until after she's out to
college to understand that. Because when you're that close to
your family and you want, you were striving, you were
begging for that independence.

Speaker 1 (39:59):
Yeah. I mean from everything that was described about the daughter,
like the oldest daughter, how she was, you know, she'd
been wanting to feel that independence for like three years.
Jesus already dating her boyfriend, which you know that'll do
it to you. But a part of me thinks even
if she did know how important this was to Opie,

(40:20):
she probably still wouldn't have want her to go.

Speaker 2 (40:21):
No, it's that independence borough.

Speaker 1 (40:23):
She wants to taste that sweet, juicy independence.

Speaker 3 (40:25):
Did I remember the first night I got to college,
I went to cook out and I was like, I
don't need to tell anyone wanting to get it back.
This is amazing. I love this.

Speaker 2 (40:36):
Freedom.

Speaker 1 (40:38):
I could do whatever I want now, amazing. All right,
let's see how this ends. My frustrated and hurt nature
wants to go do something she wanted to do with
me without her. Oh, don't get petty, mom, Come on,
don't get petty. Go to the local Christmas market with
my husband and her sister without her, or do some
holiday shopping with the ladies of the family but without her.
Just paint a picture of what cutting me out of

(40:59):
her life is really like. Okay, but I am her mom.
I want to be there for her. I will always
be here for her, and I don't want her to
ever feel like I'm not here for her. But would
I be the a hole if I did one of
those things without her, just to put it bluntly, to
show her how it feels. Yeah, you would be the
a hole because that's not putting it bluntly. That's putting it, like,
you know, discreetly, by excluding her from a family event

(41:21):
and using that as a pretext to what teacher a lesson. Yeah,
you're not actually explicitly teaching her, do you. I don't
even think you just want to be petty? I can
tell Yeah, yeah, I think you're not putting spiraling.

Speaker 3 (41:34):
Just take a moment, take take a breath, and you'll
be good to go.

Speaker 1 (41:37):
Yeah, your daughter's growing up. You got to reckon with it. Yep, sucks,
but hey, maybe you can have this experience with your
younger daughter. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (41:44):
Yeah, And I mean you're.

Speaker 1 (41:45):
At some point you're gonna spend time with her on campus.
It doesn't have to be during the tour. Yeah. Right,
you're gonna see her at some point.

Speaker 2 (41:52):
Maybe I don't know, give her some time.

Speaker 1 (41:54):
She'll probably start missing it.

Speaker 3 (41:55):
Daughter might go low contact. If if this isn't like
I think there's just a there's an issue between you
and your daughter's communication. Yeah, and I would go to
therapy to figure that out. Yeah, Cynthian.

Speaker 1 (42:07):
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Speaker 4 (42:14):
My pregnant sister in law is afraid I'll steal the
spotlight from her.

Speaker 1 (42:19):
Now she's treating me like absolute garbage. You can't steal
my spot I know if you're in the dumbst My boyfriend.

Speaker 4 (42:26):
Male thirty and I female twenty five had just gotten
married in May of this year after being together for
five years. Dying for context, My now husband's family has
an interesting history and dynamic. I describe them as very
multicultural and diverse. By the way, this comes from CB
fifteen seventy on the Okay storytime Separate It. My father

(42:47):
in law is black slash Arab mixed and my mother
in law is white slash Persian mixed. As a result,
their extended families are spread around the world. My husband
has three more siblings, an elder brother and two younger brothers.
I'm not sure if this is important, but I'm Asian.
So my husband was studying in my home country, which
is how we met. He has also lived and worked

(43:09):
in my country for the past four years. It's safe
to say he's made his permanent home here. Because of
the dynamics of his family, I rarely get to meet
them because they all live in different countries. During our
five year relationship, I barely met his parents two to
three times and never met his older brother and his wife.

(43:29):
That is, I mean, I guess that makes sense if
they're all in different countries.

Speaker 1 (43:32):
Yeah, if you're that spread out that it's like it's
going to be difficult.

Speaker 4 (43:36):
On the other hand, I see his younger brothers frequently
because they are currently studying in my native country, and
we're really close.

Speaker 1 (43:43):
That's lovely.

Speaker 4 (43:44):
Fast forward to May of this year, when my now
husband and I chose to get married in my home country.
All of his family flew here to attend the wedding,
and I met my husband's older brother and his.

Speaker 1 (43:55):
Wife for the first time.

Speaker 4 (43:58):
The first awkward incident with my son mister in law
occurred when I went to the airport with my husband
to pick her and my brother in law up a
few days before our wedding. When we first met, I
extended my hand for handshake, expecting a full strong handshake
to my sister in law and she literally just used
the tip of her fingers to touch my hands.

Speaker 1 (44:19):
Oh no, it's like, oh, oh, that's so sweet of you. Thanks. Oh.
I don't know how to describe it, but it's like
when you don't really want to touch someone's hand during
a handshake. Oh, I can describe it right now. It's
like if the queen was like trying to shake a
peasant's hand and she goes ugh.

Speaker 4 (44:35):
Following that, she walked right past me and hugged my
husband on the other sand. On the other side, my
brother in law is really welcoming and thrilled to finally
meet me. He hugged me and said, it's great to
finally meet you. His warmth made me forget about my
sister in law's rudeness and we moved on. In the
days leading up to the wedding, my sister in law

(44:56):
meets subtle remarks about the wedding, criticizing every element we choose,
from the flowers to my wedding dress. For everyone's information.
I come from a financially secure family that owns a business.
My parents supported half of the wedding costs, while the
other half was covered by myself and my husband. My
husband is a doctor and I work as an engineer.

(45:18):
One thing that frustrates me is how my sister in
law keeps telling me how fortunate I am to have
a wealthy family to mooch off from. And I'm sure,
and I'm surely throwing a lot of tantrums at my parents,
given how enormous and luxurious the wedding is. That's such
a weird thing to say, Like, isn't it nice that
you get to mooch off all their money?

Speaker 1 (45:37):
Yeah, it's that's like the most backhand. That's even a compliment.
You're insulting. That's just straight up insult And then you're like,
and you must be throwing so many tantrums to be
getting this big, you know, this expensive wedding.

Speaker 4 (45:51):
But it's always so subtle that it wouldn't start a fight,
but enough to make me uncomfortable. For background, my brother
in law and sister in law are also both financially
well off. My husband's family was similarly financially comfortable to
begin with. My brother in law is an accountant, and
my sister in law occupies a management position in a company.
She is also a lifestyle influencer with quite a large

(46:14):
following on Instagram and they live in Dubai. You know
how expensive?

Speaker 1 (46:19):
Oh, she's living in Dubai, rich throwing shots at you
about your rich family in Dubai. That's crazy.

Speaker 4 (46:28):
Fast forward to September of this year, my husband and
I received an invitation from my brother in law and
sister in law for a gender reveal party and baby
shower in October, which occurred a few days ago. We
were ecstatic and decided to book our flights to Dubai
immediately after receiving the invitation. For your information, there will

(46:49):
be two separate offense a gender reveal party for brother
in law, sister in law and their respective families acquaintances,
and a baby shower for my sister in law and
her female family members an acquaintance and acquaintances the following day. Okay,
so there's the gender reveal party for the whole family
and then the baby shower just for sister in law
and the family, the female friends and family members. I

(47:12):
was invited to both parties, and I was supposed to
attend the baby shower without my husband, which I believe
was a nice opportunity to bond with my sister in law.
One would think But then my sister in law contacted
my husband one day before the gender reveal party and
informed him that I was not invited.

Speaker 1 (47:32):
To the baby shower. How are you going to uninvite
someone the day before because you're petty? Because you're so petty?
This is crazy? Way what is it with sister? Like
sometimes the sisters just like hate the bride. I don't
get it, Like, yeah, like would you hate? Like what
has has Sam ever had like a girlfriend that you
just like hated?

Speaker 4 (47:52):
No, But I also don't really like There's not a
lot of people that I like hate to the point
where I would like actively fair enough.

Speaker 1 (47:58):
You know, you're not hate person. You're just a Harvard
medical just a Harvard I'm a Harvard girl. For all
the people listening, we're saying a joke because Sophia is
wearing a Harvard Harvard School sweater, which is one of
several different Ivy League institution sweaters that she has. What
can I say, I've lived a long life.

Speaker 4 (48:21):
The reason is that she does not want me to
draw attention away from her during the events. My husband
and I were plainly perplexed as to how and why
I would be diverting attention away from her, and her
reason is that no one knows or has ever met me,
so they will ask, and she does not want to spend.

Speaker 1 (48:39):
Time explaining who I am to her guests. She's like,
she noody knows you, So why is she going to
steal my spotlight?

Speaker 3 (48:47):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (48:48):
Because she exists? How am I supposed to explain that
to everybody? I have to introduce her? No?

Speaker 4 (48:55):
No, I'm only I'm only being like the only people
invited are like, they have to know each other.

Speaker 1 (49:02):
Everyone has to know each other, have to know me
and no one else.

Speaker 4 (49:05):
No, it seems like she's saying they all they also
have to know everyone else at the party.

Speaker 1 (49:10):
Actually, yeah, I was, so I was on opposite. You're
on the opposite, I think, Yeah, Well that's because it's
just a ridiculous thing.

Speaker 4 (49:16):
It's ridiculous because my husband and I do not want
to cause unnecessary drama. We just agreed that I will
only attend the gender reveal party with him. On the
day of the gender reveal party, I went with my
husband and my sister in law did not speak with
me at all or even recognize my presence.

Speaker 1 (49:35):
That's a very that what a what an emotionally mature,
classy move.

Speaker 4 (49:40):
She sounds like a nightmare. I tried to make small
chat to congratulate her, but she just blew me off
every time. My brother in law, on the other end,
is as friendly as effort.

Speaker 1 (49:51):
Thankfully. Why is he married to this woman? I don't know?
Is maybe she's really hot. Maybe she's really hot. When
the party appeared to be the that's always are operating,
it's like, why are they with this terrible person? Oh?
Oh they're hot, they're probably really hot hot.

Speaker 4 (50:09):
When the party appeared to be coming to an end,
I went out to the car to get the gift
I had purchased, apparently for the baby shower, but because
I would not be attending the baby shower the next day,
I decided to give it to her that day. During
that time, the guests began to leave, and when I
handed her to the gift, she screamed at me loudly.
The first thing she said was don't you have matters?

(50:31):
What I was clearly taken aback and bewildered. She then
accused me of attempting to assert dominance by flaunting my
flaunting my wealth and rubbing it in her face, as
well as looking down at her projection.

Speaker 1 (50:44):
You'rel you live in Dubai. You live in Dubai. You
live in the city that's like, hey, richest city, and
you have money. You have to if you live here,
you have you either have money here or we take
your documents and we turn you into an indentured servant
and you have to live here for years and through
free labor. That's by the way. Oh man, don't don't

(51:04):
mess around. If you go to Dubai, have money, don't
mess around, follow their rules.

Speaker 6 (51:09):
They will take your paperwork. Oh my god, they straight
up will. So be careful for those who are curious
about the present I bought. I purchased a baby blanket
and sleeping bag from dere and the present they have
baby blank they have deor baby blankets.

Speaker 1 (51:23):
Okay, yeah, actually, come on, that's actually kind of crazy.
Red Dash don't do that. And that is gross actually,
and the present is in the door shopping bag. Don't
buy your baby's designer stuff. People, Why are we buying babies?
They're bay it's bab I's a baby. That's a baby.

Speaker 4 (51:44):
I felt humiliated after being screamed at, and my blood
was boiling at the time. I mean, I get to
be fair like or to be clear, crazy reaction on
the sister and the lost part, but also crazy present.
I yelled back in rage, asking her what I did
wrong to deserve to be treated so disrespectfully by her.
I said that her insecurities were not my responsibility, and
that if she despised me that much, she should not

(52:07):
have invited me in the first place.

Speaker 1 (52:09):
That's true, not wrong.

Speaker 4 (52:10):
She appears stunned by my words and begins crying. Both
my husband and brother in law rushed towards us to
calmed out. My husband suggested that we leave, as well,
as some guests had already begun to leave. It happened
three days ago, and since then everything has been quiet.
Nobody said anything, And now I feel horrible for yelling
at a pregnant woman.

Speaker 1 (52:30):
And there is an update. Oh, could it be just hormones? Hormones?
I don't like, that's just crazy amount. It can't be
all of these.

Speaker 4 (52:40):
There's ought to be some other thing that she feels
offended by because she never talked.

Speaker 1 (52:43):
Ope, I don't know. I'm gonna say, it's like a
weird thing with your brother. Yeah, it's like you're taking
our brother or you took him a whoa, oh, or
you took this is her because she's married. So it's
the brother in law and sister.

Speaker 3 (52:56):
No.

Speaker 1 (52:56):
No, I'm saying that the sister in law is mad
at ope are taking No, but that's not her brother.
It's her husband's brother. To my knowledge, dang. And I
have no idea what did this person do? Crazy? Not
a clue, not a clue. The way to go about this,
in my opinion, is it's like if you're you know,

(53:17):
if you never see these people and you're just out
there visiting them, and it's like you're already planning on
getting married to your you know, your boyfriend. You guys
are getting more serious, like just do what you can to, Like,
you gotta be the grease in the situation. You got to.
You gotta be the one who goes high. You got
they're going she's going low. You gotta gotta go hi
for your own life, own well being.

Speaker 4 (53:40):
But there is an update. It has been a month
since my last post, and now I have the opportunity
to provide an update. Finally, first and foremost, I would
like to thank everyone who commented and supported me in
my previous post, and I apologize for not being able
to respond to each and every one of you. By
the way, my husband and I have returned safely to
our home. After a few days of silence following what

(54:02):
happened at the gender reveal party, I eventually sat down
with my husband to discuss it. We had an honest
discussion in which I expressed how mean my sister in
law had been to me, and my husband ended up
apologizing for not standing up for me while subconsciously knowing
how my sister in law treated me subconsciously, w husband,

(54:22):
I don't think you have to. I don't know if
he's it's pretty obvious to see how she was treating I.

Speaker 1 (54:27):
Think when she's screaming at you in front of the
shower party. Yeah, yeah, that's pretty clear, pretty obvious.

Speaker 4 (54:34):
As I mentioned in my previous post, my husband comes
from a household without a girl's sibling, and for the
past twelve years, sister in law has been like a
sister to him, leaving him torn between speaking out against
her and sticking up for me. You should you should
be sticking up for your partner.

Speaker 1 (54:51):
Man. My theory was kind of right, Yeah, that she
was like this is the projective syst Now it has
an even darker twist because they're not really so maybe
she's got a little I married the wrong brother. Ooh,
that'd be badoo, that'd be bad. Uh huh.

Speaker 4 (55:08):
He said he didn't expect things to go so bad
because we live in separate countries and won't see each
other much. We resolved our conversation with him promising to
have my back if something like this happened again. In
the same week, my husband and I had the opportunity
to speak with my brother in law through video call.
Sister in law was not present. I know not everyone

(55:29):
would agree with my apology, but I did apologize to
brother in law for causing a scene by yelling at
their gender reveal party. To my surprise, brother in law
was fine, and he remarked she had it coming. Okay,
so okay, so so no one's.

Speaker 1 (55:47):
Supportive of their partners. There's a little trouble in paradise
over there in Dubai.

Speaker 4 (55:52):
So following that, brother in law apologize to me on
behalf of sister in law as well as for turning
a blind eye to what have been going on between
me and sister in law.

Speaker 1 (56:03):
We discussed what might.

Speaker 4 (56:04):
Be the source of sister in law's hatred for me,
and to my surprise, it appears to be tied to
the fact that sister in law believes I am taking
over the position of daughter in law in the family
from her.

Speaker 1 (56:15):
Oh so it's okay. So it wasn't that she was
taking okay, so it was that you're stepping into what
my that's my throne. I am the sister in law
everyone loves.

Speaker 4 (56:26):
You can't have two sister in laws, no one who
like you. She has been the only sister in law
for my husband's brothers, and she believes I am taking
over the role. As I previously stated, my husband's younger
brothers have been studying in my home country since early
this year, and we have had many opportunities to spend
time together. According to brother in law, sister in law

(56:49):
believes the brothers have been pulling away from her and
becoming closer to me. For information, The brothers are twenty
two and sixteen years old. Maybe because you're nasty, yeah, man,
they don't like get a little nasty girl. Adding to
the unpredictable pregnant hormones, she believes I'm buying the brother's
love by spoiling them with materialistic items.

Speaker 1 (57:10):
Live in Dubai, you live, you live in Dubai. I said,
everyone rich here? Isn't everyone rich in the story? Yeah.

Speaker 4 (57:16):
Brother in law stated that she had mentioned her concern
to him several times previously, and he did not but
he did not expect her to take it seriously and
always dismissed it. But we would never dismiss you if
you join us live every weekday at three pmpst on YouTube, Facebook,
and TikTok just top of our profile, and there is
a little bit more.

Speaker 1 (57:36):
But what are your thoughts here? What do we do well?
First thought is that I didn't realize so many people
kept their baby blankets for so long looking at the
chat here.

Speaker 4 (57:45):
No, I think a lot of people will keep baby blankets.
But I just think it's crazy to buy a baby
a door blanket.

Speaker 1 (57:52):
Yeah, I guess. At the same time, it's like, if
you're living in Dubai, It's like, why would you have
the problem if somebody buys you the de or blanket, Right,
It's like you're kind of already, You're kind of already
in that world. Maybe I don't know.

Speaker 4 (58:04):
Cowbought as God says. I looked up a couple of
der baby blankets. They were five hundred and fifty and
five hundred and seventy dollars.

Speaker 1 (58:12):
Just buy me five future reference, if I ever have
a kid and you consider buying a your baby blanket
for them, buy me however much that cost in diapers. Honestly,
just that, But there is more to this story.

Speaker 4 (58:27):
He apologized again and stated that he will discuss it
with sister in law after feelings have been resolved. According
to brother in law, sister in law has been acting
as if nothing had happened, so he's also unsure when
it is appropriate to bring the issue to the table.
We ended the video chat on a positive note, and
I promised brother in law that I would speak with
the brothers and perhaps encourage them to contact sister in

(58:50):
law to see how she's doing so she does not
feel left out. And as for sister in law, I
haven't spoken to her yet, and to be honest, I'm
not sure I ever will. My husband and I have
decided to move on from the situation and focus on
our own lives. I believe that is all the updates
so far, and to be honest, I could use some
suggestions on how to fix my relationship with my sister

(59:12):
in law. Should I reach out to her or something
at the end of that, which is you know, your
tech your tech?

Speaker 1 (59:18):
Yeah, I think you've either one will work from the
sound of it. It's not like this is something you're
gonna have to deal with every week. No, she's you
guys are literally all over the world. Yeah, so at
some point, you guys will settle back into your own
lives and this will become a just a distance memory,
a faint thought. Here's johnio og Host here. We're gonna

(59:39):
get back to the stories, but he's a quick three
minute break of ass from our sponsors. My future mother
in law keeps misinterpreting my words, so I don't want
her at my wedding anymore.

Speaker 4 (59:50):
She's just trying to put words into your mouth and
she's got to get out.

Speaker 1 (59:54):
Yeah, yeah, exactly what she said. My twenty five feet
future husband twenty nine mail and I are getting married
next year. We had a disastrous phone call with my
future in laws last weekend. She called me a liar, passive, aggressive,
and patronize wood. By the way, this comes from user

(01:00:15):
disastrous Cream two one on the r slash Okay storytime
severed it. So why did she say all of this.
We visited them at the end of August and she
asked me if we had to paid a deposit for
our elopement company. Yet, what's that? What? What's that? Elopement?
Isn't the whole point of eloping that you don't really

(01:00:35):
have to pay anyone or anything. You just gonna go
get married. Anyway, I said that yes we had, but
I did not say that we signed a contract because
I thought that was self explanatory. This is what makes
me a liar. She scheduled a tour at a local
venue without asking us and dropped a bomb on us,
saying it was scheduled the following Monday, so we had

(01:00:57):
to stay an extra day. What we went on the
tour to avoid being rude. This makes me passive, aggressive,
and patronizing. She told us she would call our elopement
company and get us out of the contract because she
works for a law firm. We repeatedly told her we
do not want her to do this. They had offered
to let us use their yard for our after party

(01:01:19):
and mentioned being concerned about her dogs barking at guests,
so I had suggested keeping them in the large, temperature
controlled finished basement basically a small apartment with a bedroom, kitchenet,
and living area, but she acted like I wanted to
lock them in a dark cellar or something. For context,
I worked in veterinary medicine and I'm a board member

(01:01:39):
for an animal rescue. I love animals. She yelled and
berated me on the phone for this, despite not saying
anything while we were there. She just seems like a problem. Yeah, mom,
seems like a problem and a problem. Just let them elope, please.
Why are you getting involved? They found a cold company,

(01:02:00):
They've got the elutement company. It's set. We did not
get a chance to discuss the miscommunication because I hadn't
realized there was one that needed to be discussed. She
also said that she didn't want us to have the
party there anymore, but I refused to listen to her
about that. I had no idea that's what she was saying.
I thought she was talking about a problem, so I

(01:02:21):
had suggested a solution. My future husband had to end
the call because I was in tears. I was under
the impression our relationship had been good until that point,
but apparently I was wrong. My future father in law
suggested that we take a week to cool off and
have another call. So at the gist of this, the
core of the issue so far is that in regards

(01:02:44):
to like sort of planning the marriage, the elopement and
everything going around, that Op found out that her mother
in law kind of doesn't like her at all. Yeah,
the reckoning with that of like why the mother in
law is just being real nasty to Ope on the
phone while talking about you know, the eloping, the engagement, whatever,

(01:03:05):
and she's trying to control everything. She basically calling her
own liar because she's like, well, you told me this
was paid and it's not. And it's like, well it,
for all intentsive purposes, it is because that's who we're using,
so please don't sign a contract to pay. And then
she's like, ah, well you just did this because you know,
and then you signed her up for a tour like
a day after they were supposed to leave town, so
they they stayed a day so that you could go
they could go on the tour of this place that

(01:03:26):
they're probably not even going to go to, but they're
just doing it to appease you. And then you're like,
we are being patronizing. You didn't have to go to
that it's like, well, I don't know, You're just trying
to make you happy and nothing apparently can never make
you happy. Anyways, Yeah, last night we had a second
call with them, all four of us on speakerphone. My
future mother in law had taken me to look at

(01:03:47):
houses for sale in their area while we were visiting,
as we had planned to move there after the wedding.
While we were looking at homes, we were discussing future children,
as we wanted to account for bedrooms needed. On the topic,
I asked if she thought my future father in law
would be willing to smoke outside instead of in the
house when a future baby is in the picture, and
mentioned that my best friend had just had a baby

(01:04:09):
and she was suggesting vaccine protocols, so I asked her
her thoughts on that as well. Apparently that really pissed
them off. I probably wouldn't have brought that up with her.

Speaker 4 (01:04:20):
Yeah, I don't think it's just been like you're I
don't know. Later I would have told the husband, like, hey,
you died, your dad can't smoke in the house.

Speaker 1 (01:04:26):
Yeah, I think that's not like a would they consume
you don't ask her about those things? Hey, baby inside house.
You smoking outside house? Done?

Speaker 4 (01:04:36):
Not even if there's not a baby in the house.
You can just be like, don't smoke inside the house.
I don't want smokers into my house.

Speaker 1 (01:04:42):
Oh, if there's one thing about smokers, they don't mean
like told what to do where that's true, seem smoke.
I can't smoke at my house. I say, no, dog
spoke at my house. I don't want you smoking my
how house, don't smoking my I'm the baby. I don't
want you to smoke at the house. The baby says,
baby's not smoking the house. She asked about how soon
she could see our future baby, so I told her

(01:05:03):
I would only want my future husband in the delivery
room and they would be welcome to visit after the arrival.
Just so normal. Just stop ooh, don't have these conversations.

Speaker 4 (01:05:14):
Yeah, stop giving her honestly, stop giving her like power
over these decisions.

Speaker 1 (01:05:18):
Yeah no, that's not her decision. She said she doesn't
like hospitals, so she would likely wait until we were home.
All normal and upbeat conversations, no mention of being offended
at all. During the call, she brought up these topics
and said, I'm already making rules to follow for a
hypothetical baby, and I uninvited them from the hospital. You

(01:05:39):
said you didn't want to be at the hospital. This
this woman sucks. Oh my gosh's exhausted. Just don't talk
to her. Yeah, oh yeah, yeah. I tried to explain
that that is certainly not what I meant, and that
I was sorry for the miscommunication. She said, it doesn't
matter what I meant. It matters how the other person
perceives what is said.

Speaker 4 (01:06:00):
It's like, what, what's crazy?

Speaker 1 (01:06:05):
That's crazy. I apologized again, and she cut me off.
She then said we aren't good at communication and said
it's because I don't have a family, so I must
not know how to behave in one whoa whoa, whoa?
Where is the husband? You are letting your mom go.

(01:06:28):
Your mom is talking a whole lot, and she should.
Your mom is going to death. Con five nuclear launch
codes happening, The missiles are flying and they're they're smacking
your wife.

Speaker 2 (01:06:42):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:06:42):
Oh. He was like, hey, what do you think? And
she was like, release oh, missus, what do you think?
And the mother in law is like, I think you're
a stupid orphan who doesn't know how to act that. Meanwhile,
the husband's like if you guys tried this dip my god. Okay,
my mother died six years ago and I do not
speak to my father, so this was offensive to say

(01:07:05):
the least. I told them I would be happy to
update them on anything related to the wedding and asked
how much detail they wanted. She said I don't have
to tell her anything because it's clear I don't want
her help. She also said they were planning to help
pay for a different venue since they felt bad about
saying the yard was no longer available due to the dogs,
but because of our actions. Because of our actions, she's

(01:07:28):
no longer offering assistance. We've never asked for it or
expected money.

Speaker 4 (01:07:34):
I was gonna say, aren't they doing like the they're
doing the elopement.

Speaker 1 (01:07:37):
Yeah, it's like, we don't want your assistance. She's like, yeah,
they're like, we don't. We don't want your backyard. Use it.
Then we'll, well, we'll do something else because we never
wanted it. Another point of contention is my father in
law's health. He's in heart failure and was worried he
couldn't participate in the elopement at a waterfall, so we

(01:07:58):
changed the location to a park that does not require
walking or hiking sick. Well, I mean, hey, well, that's
nice of you that, that's very nice of you, And
he sounds like maybe he's not quite as much of
a beast as the mother in law. It's also wheelchair accessible,
and I told them that we made this accommodation, and
my father in law, sorry my future mother in law,

(01:08:20):
continues to insist that by choosing to elope, we don't
want them there, which was never the case. We specifically
said that having them there was important to us, and
we accommodated their concerns with the ada accessible location. But
now we don't want you there. We don't want your father.
The father in law can come, Yeah, you should stay home.

(01:08:41):
Father in law with his soft heart, with his soft heart,
he can come, is lovely father in law. At this point,
I was totally fit up and said we would let
them know the location, the date and the time, and
if they would like to be there, they're welcome to come.
If they don't want to come, they don't have to.
This caused both of them to blow up and yell

(01:09:01):
at us. They also claimed that we say we're coming
to visit them, then backtrack and cancel. That has literally
never happened. The first time I met them was Thanksgiving.
We went to dinner and drove home, which we went
for dinner and drove home, which is a total of
nine hours of driving. By the way, we were a
bit late due to holiday traffic and told them that

(01:09:22):
we wouldn't be able to stay the night because we
had a sick cat at home. This apparently ruined Thanksgiving. Ah.
On Christmas, we stayed three nights, but had to leave
after lunch the last day to get home to the
cats due to the pet sitter availability. So they had
to leave a little bit early because they had to
take care of their pets. Yeah, normal, and which apparently

(01:09:44):
ruined Christmas. Christmas, Hi, you're two for two rooms. Wait
to go carefree your pets. We stayed with them again
for Easter and had a great conversation going, so we
asked if it would be okay for us to stay
a bit later than expected that day. They said of course,
and we kept chatting, but apparently we should have left

(01:10:06):
after brunch, like of course.

Speaker 4 (01:10:08):
And they're like, you ruin the East time and leave
they ruined, Thanks Skippy, they're all the sty They're ruined
Christmas and they think they can just do the trilogy.

Speaker 1 (01:10:17):
And ruin East to two. You are three for three, yes,
and we will let them do it because we don't
like to talk about the issues we have. We like
to let to let them seethe beneath the surface, and
then we bring them out at the next album. It's
convenient for us. We like to tell you about the
things that we perceive you have done wrong. Yeah, these
people are exhausting, especially the mother in law, but siring

(01:10:38):
me out, man, I don't want to hear about it.
But you know what I want to hear about. I
want to hear about you joining us when we go
live every weekday at three pm PST on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, Twitch.
All you gotta do is tap our profile and you
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(01:10:58):
and give it a check. I'm exhausted by these people.
Your your move is, here's the date, here's the time,
here's the location, show up or don't. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:11:08):
The thing is that he's been going so high and
and these people just keep going lower. Yeah, it's like, uh,
it's like one of those graphs. You guys are are like,
you're going this way, and she started, she's going that way,
and you guys are just like you met once and
then you're just you know, going in the.

Speaker 1 (01:11:27):
Opposite economic graph. Yeah, yeah, isn't that how to express
supply and demand? That's yeah, that's what's going on here,
and the blind demand meet. We want, uh, there is
no demand for you, and we would like your supply
to be zero. We want that supply demand cur to
be flat for you mother in law and father in
law at this point, because it's like you literally switched

(01:11:47):
to the venue from a waterfall to a park, which
that's a downgrade. I don't want to hear it. And you, kindly,
it was a very kind thing to do, yes, for
this soft hearted lovely for the time with the father
in law in cardiac failure. That was kind of you. Yeah,
but then he's gonna be like, actually, no, you guys suck.

(01:12:11):
But you guys are just gonna tell us where and
when to be Well, let's let's get into the tail
end of this year. Let's let's see how this happened.
My future husband was so angry, he was shaking, trying
to hold back words he might regret. So there's the
husband right there. He's shaking, shaking and anger. My future

(01:12:32):
mother in law is saying everything I've said has a
double meaning because she's an English major and she knows tone. Yo.
Shout out to all the English teachers slash majors who
are literally they invent meaning out of nothing. I remember
I watched a thing on the guy. I'm getting on
a tangent here, but it's like the you know, the author,
like being interviewed by like a professor, being like, yeah,

(01:12:54):
so I noticed that you did this and that and
this and that, and the author's just like, I didn't
do any of that. I just wrote that book. Maybe
the worst you're doing that. I have told her I've
meant everything I've said as earnestly as I had said it,
but she again circled back to saying it doesn't matter
what I meant, it matters how it was set. I said, okay,

(01:13:15):
I'm a psychology major. I don't see what our degrees
have to do with this. Yeah, cycle analyze her. This
apparently totally pissed her off, and she went off again.
I told her it would be best to end the
call here because my future husband is so upset. He's
shaking and unable to speak. She said, quote, we hope
we still get to see you at Thanksgiving, and I said,

(01:13:37):
have a good evening and hung up.

Speaker 4 (01:13:39):
Ohf he is so like pleasant, like, seems like such
the nicest person. Yeah, just to be treated this way
as well.

Speaker 1 (01:13:48):
I wish you would have just let your your husband
future husband jump in. He was shaking with rage, shaking.
You gotta let him get that out to some level. Yeah,
let him out a chihuahua. My future husband and I
are on the same page. I will not be attending
future holidays or events since it's very clear everything I

(01:14:08):
say is misinterpreted and weaponized when it's convenient for them.
He's welcome to visit for holidays if he wants to.
I don't mind. I do not want my future mother
in law at our elopement because she will just ruin
our day. We're going to be asking our elopement company
to remove her from the guest list. So Reddit, am
I the a hole? No? Nope, You've been like the

(01:14:30):
angel throughout this whole story. Yeah, literally, like every angel
baby move you could.

Speaker 4 (01:14:36):
Yeah, like if you if we placed you in all
of these other stories, you would have. You know, if
someone throughout your your wedding dress in the in the garbage,
you'd be like.

Speaker 1 (01:14:46):
Hey, like, I'm like you do that? Also, you know
you want to wear it? Yeah? She probably would have
just said that from the very beginning. Do you want
to wear it? Sure? Yeah, I'll buy it for you.

Speaker 3 (01:14:56):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:14:57):
If your sister started pulling your hair, you'd be like,
you're right. I was mean, you know what, let me
get out of the kitchen. Let me just get out
of the kitchen. It's your kitchen.

Speaker 4 (01:15:04):
Yeah, you're not the ahole, you were an angel.

Speaker 1 (01:15:08):
No, definitely. H I kicked my neglectful brother in law
out of the estate. We bought it and his family
can't do anything about it. Brother, you may not stay
here no longer. They really did hit him with that.
My thirty two male husband and I twenty nine female

(01:15:28):
purchased his grandparents estate after both grandparents passed away and
he did not inherit it. The family chose to sell
the entire estate without claiming or removing any property. By
the way, this comes from user Pigpin nine to one
on the r slash Okay storytime sebredit. So the estate

(01:15:49):
was left to the family to receive equal shares amongst
two children and four grandchildren, including my husband. The family
chose to sell and receive the money in equal shares.
My husband and I chose to purchase the estate. Dang,
good for you guys, a state owners over here. Got
that chicken money, all right, the big chicken money. My

(01:16:10):
thirty three male brother in law was living in the
house as his grandparents had agreed to help him get
on his feet after the breakup with his child's mother.
He had substance abuse issues and has been unemployed since
the birth of his child. His child's mother supported him
before they broke up a year ago. We agreed to
allow him to stay if he contributed to the monthly

(01:16:31):
bills and got up to care for his child and
his pets, rather than leaving that responsibility to whoever was
awake or home. And if no one was awake or home,
his three year old was left unattended. Oh now that's
called criminal negligence.

Speaker 3 (01:16:47):
Yeah, that's what not to do as a parent. Won
a one book. Yeah, seems like they didn't read.

Speaker 1 (01:16:52):
It, he refused. Oh wow, you just outright was like, nah,
I'll better myself as a person or father. No, I
don't think I'll be doing that. I told him he
needed to move out, and he refused to move out.
I made it clear that it was not an option.
I packed all of his and his child's things oh no,

(01:17:14):
and moved them out of the bedroom he was staying
in to the garage. Maybe you don't kick the kid.

Speaker 2 (01:17:20):
Out though, Yeah, that's a tough one.

Speaker 1 (01:17:23):
I don't know. My husband's family then informed me that
was not my place and I have no right. His
mother showed up unannounced to our house to find I
had cleaned out his other uh cleaned out other rooms
in the house, and she and two other family members
informed me I would not be going through moving or
getting rid of anything in the home as it belongs
to their parents slash grandparents and it was not my place. Uh,

(01:17:47):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:17:47):
Did you check the deed of the house?

Speaker 1 (01:17:49):
Yeahs when I go that's funny because I feel like
I bought the place. Oh my gosh, whose name is
ahead mine? Remember how you guys all had the ability
to literally pick and choose whatever in the estate would
belong to who, But y'all all decided on getting rid
of the whole thing and taking the cash. So the

(01:18:12):
one who gave you the cash. That was us.

Speaker 2 (01:18:14):
It was me and my husband, But it seems like
that forgot that.

Speaker 1 (01:18:17):
So we kind of own everything in the estate now
because we paid you for it. Remember. I responded by
saying they were welcome to ask for anything specific that
they regret selling with the estate, but this is my
home and I will do whatever I want. They asked
that I give them the time to come and go

(01:18:39):
through things themselves, to which I said, no, if it's
not garbage, it will be placed in storage until everything
has been gone through and my husband has kept what
he wants and the rest will be sold or donated.
At that time, they are free to go through things.
I explained that they would not be contacting any other
person who purchased the estate, and it is ridiculous that

(01:19:01):
they feel comfortable contacting me with demands. Yeah, basically being
like if it wasn't if it wasn't us and your son,
or like, if we weren't the ones who bought the estate,
would you be calling whoever bought it? Being like, actually,
you guys aren't allowed to touch anything, and that's all
our stuff. It's like, no, no, you would have done that.
After I refuse to acknowledge their feelings. Quote unquote, they

(01:19:23):
attempted to have my husband confront me and for him
to stop allowing me to be so disrespectful. My husband's response,
I cannot control her, and this is our home. So
am I the a hole? I mean no, I think
that there is a way where it's like, I think

(01:19:46):
we might be missing a little key piece of information here,
and I think it might have been an unexpected thing
for them to buy the estate outright, right, I think
the whole estate got sold them included yeah right, and
then they went after that later and we're like, I
mean it's like, I mean, we're just I don't know
how that works. I've never been in a position to

(01:20:07):
buy or sell in the state. I'm not really familiar
with how the process works. But I got to assume
that it was a surprise that they bought it, or
they would have gone through all that stuff and been like,
we want to keep this, we want to get rid
of that, yeah right, Or I don't know. All I
can think about is missing here.

Speaker 3 (01:20:24):
Give the husband the Award of the Year because dude,
that comment, Oh my gosh, I cannot control her.

Speaker 2 (01:20:31):
This is our home.

Speaker 1 (01:20:32):
Dude.

Speaker 3 (01:20:32):
Yeah, dude to his own family. Come on, w husband,
I see him, I see him in the comments. I'm
not going to be like, yeah, he really did. That
was the most perfect statement he would have said. I'm
not telling her how to be. It's our house. She
can be however she wants. It's our house. Brother in
law is on state assistance. Oh wait, oh my god,

(01:20:54):
the whole brother in law is. She completely left my brain.

Speaker 1 (01:20:58):
Brother in law is on state assistance, so the Department
of Family Services is already aware of their situation. All
involved grandparents, brother in law's mother, and the child's mother's
parents are aware of the situation as well. When the
child's mother spoke with us, she stated, she works and
the baby has always been with dad, and dad has custody,
so what is she supposed to do? I guess that's fair.

(01:21:22):
The child's mother has also had substance abuse issues. Both
parents are booziks and to use THHC substances, which are
legal in this state. We cannot confirm the use of
other substances. Brother in law moved in about three months
prior to grandparents both being gone. The estate was in

(01:21:43):
probate and on the market. For nine months, and we
paid market price, no family discount. My husband lived with
his grandparents from seven years old until he was twenty
seven years old when we moved in together. One day
a week we had dinner with his grandparents at their
home to check on them and spend some time with them.

(01:22:03):
The rest of the family live in other towns thirty
minutes to an hour away. My husband works outside of
the home and I work at home. We also have
three children, my twelve year old male child from a
previous relationship, and they all have to have their own
space in our home.

Speaker 3 (01:22:20):
Okay, okay, noted, So you were closer to the grandparents
than the other family members. Yeah, we got some contact
with the brother. Yeah, and it seems like brother in
law the.

Speaker 1 (01:22:30):
Other brother in law just moved in here out of convenience.
At the tail end of the yeah, things were not
going right. Yeah, and they're like, we'll let you get
on your feet here. We have another edit. We kept
brother in law's pets as he is unable to care
for them, and offered to have the child stay with
us while the parents decide what to do. Both parents said, no,

(01:22:51):
I do not agree with the family dynamics. Of my
husband's family. That's not to say that I don't like them,
but they enable one another and their child, my husband included,
to act irresponsibly and irrationally. They had nine months to
claim items they wanted, and after we purchased, they had
forty five days to go through things again. Anything that

(01:23:11):
is not literally garbage or unusable or in need of
extensive repair is in storage to be gone through for
sale and donation. And we have now an.

Speaker 3 (01:23:22):
Update, and the family it's just kind of like, ah,
he's fine, let him do what he wants.

Speaker 1 (01:23:29):
Yeah, enabling it. Yeah, They're like, don't you don't have
the right, And it's like, actually, as the homeowner, I
do have the right to decide who gets to stay
in my house.

Speaker 3 (01:23:40):
Yeah. I honestly might be talking to the husband about
going low contact with his family because it doesn't seem
like they're tight in the first place. Yeah, and they're
allowing this kind of like behavior to go on.

Speaker 1 (01:23:54):
I mean, look, I get like, there's we all have
our ups and downs, our peaks and valleys, and it's like,
clearly the brother in law is not in a peak
right now, He's in a valley, But you gave him
the opportunity to stay there. You said, here's a B
and C what needs to happen. We need you to
pay your way a little bit, we need you to

(01:24:15):
try to get a job. We need you to make
active steps to coming out of this valley. And he
straight up said, no, that is a hard no from me.
So they're saying, Okay, if that's a hard no from you,
you have to leave.

Speaker 3 (01:24:28):
Yeah, because they're not going to be like his family
and enable it. They're gonna be like be a person.

Speaker 1 (01:24:34):
Like all right, you got to now figure it out.
Then I guess if you're not gonna figure it out here,
go figure out somewhere else, because you're not gonna stay here.
My husband contacted the estate attorney, and I contacted the
sales attorney. It was a lot of attorney talk. We
purchased the estate anonymously to avoid this situation. Okay, So
I was right. They didn't know that this was happening. Yeah,
And now that they realized that the estate was purchased,

(01:24:57):
they're saying, actually, wait, no, we want to look through
all that stuff, and we want to do that. So
they're trying to take advantage of the situation. They're trying
to strong armor. She's saying not today anyway. We purchased
the estate anonymously to avoid this situation. I was unaware
of that the family has no legal right to any property,

(01:25:18):
and was informed of that when we purchased the property.
So the family sold all property without the knowledge that
we purchased it, and they could potentially reclaim anything. They
have continued to demand I not go through or remove
any property, and I have continued to throw trash out
and place other items in storage. I have taken the
advice of many commenters to sell back the items the

(01:25:41):
family is asking or demanding back. We paid for the
property and items. They can purchase the items back with
the money we paid for said items they want okay
upon purchase. We did not continue the rent free agreement
for brother in law, and he was quote evicted prior
to purchase the agreement to allow him to stay after

(01:26:02):
we purchased and required a rental agreement for utilities and
the understanding he would be responsible for his child and
pets when he refused the new agreement. No eviction was
needed as it was a property sale with more than
a thirty day notice, so they are legally completely in
the green here and legally, I think all of you
would be in the green as well if you join

(01:26:24):
us every weekday when we go live on YouTube, on Facebook,
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is tap our profile. We might even be live right now.
If you're watching this in the.

Speaker 3 (01:26:36):
Future, God to see if we're live right now. Yeah,
the ducks are in the row. There's nothing they can do.

Speaker 1 (01:26:42):
But what would your position be on on future steps
to take in regards to communications with the family.

Speaker 3 (01:26:48):
I feel like they did every single step that they could.
They offered to take the kid in, they offered the
brother in law to do what they could. I think
they got everything figured out here.

Speaker 1 (01:27:00):
Let's finish this story off. Let's see it. Let's see
how greedy it gets. Oh goodness, Okay, last edit and update.
We purchased the estate for four hundred thousand dollars rounding down,
so yes, it did cost us. He did receive one
sixth of the four hundred thousand, which was given directly
back to the bank for the loan, along with additional

(01:27:21):
funds we saved over the nine months to purchase either
this estate or another home. Brother in law was given
the option to contribute to the cost of utilities and
his child's uh and his child and his pets' living costs,
get out of bed and care for his child and
pets at the time of purchase. When he refused that option,
no eviction was required because he was legally required to

(01:27:44):
vacate when we purchased the estate. And that's the end
of the stories that they're like, yep, and we and
we didn't even have to go through an eviction process
because he was already legally required to leave. Yeah, at
the time that we bought it.

Speaker 3 (01:27:56):
Those families whack whack lootle do I mean, I guess
a smart move trying to buy it anonymously, But also like, oh,
it turned out it was impossible to.

Speaker 1 (01:28:09):
You shouldn't have done it anonymously, and then it would
have avoided all of this because they would have just
done it immediately and would have been like, you know,
but I guess you had to do it anonymously, because
if you didn't, then it would have definitely been way
more of a mess up. Oh yeah, and the like
this imagine from what am I saying? It's so smart

(01:28:29):
that you do this anonymously because now that you have
everything legally lined up, there's nothing they can do but like,
you know, cry and complain about it. Before they would
have been able to like twist your arm about it
in a very more real way. But if you're now
that you've bought the whole estate, it's like there we go.

Speaker 2 (01:28:47):
I can't say nothing.

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