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Speaker 4 (00:14):
My sister has always been the golden child. Our parents
only care about her achievements.

Speaker 1 (00:19):
She's just better.

Speaker 4 (00:20):
She's just better. I have five siblings, an older brother thirty,
two older sisters twenty seven and twenty two, a younger
sister twenty and a younger brother eighteen. My second oldest sister,
I'll call her Biebie is a year apart from me
and has always been the golden child. Not to say
that the rest of us were skitcoats. By the way,
this comes from Naikuku on the Okay Storytime Separate. So

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Bibe did everything. She kept straight a's through school, was
always MVP or champion on her sports and academic teams.
Our parents kept a bunch of shells for her trophies
and medals, and it was always filled. They kept having
to add more space. Since the rest of my siblings
and I also did athletics and such. We all also
got shelves for our trophies, but they were never as
filled and never as successful as Bebees. Dang. She was

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competitive and always a winner. The only sport we ever
equals in was soccer because we played on the same team,
but she always got MVP. There was a little resentment, yeah,
but I knew it had to be benched Bhebe didn't
have an ego or anything. She was just good at
what she did and it wasn't her fault that our
parents recognized it.

Speaker 5 (01:23):
We got along really well.

Speaker 4 (01:25):
We both go to school near to our parents' place,
but they've been in the process of moving houses and
doing remodels, so neither of us have been able to visit.
I know that Beebe continues to do sports, and actually
is most of her college paid for by sports scholarships.
Oh wow, our parents remodels were finished, and we both
came down to celebrate. They gave us the tour and
in the living room they have a huge shelf of trophies.

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I figured they had consolidated all the trophies, but later
on I went down while everyone was out on the
deck and read the name plates. They are all bbs.
I could understand if my parents had maybe gotten rid
of my older sisters. Most of her were we're participation.
He's like, who cares if they got rid of her
my sister, Yeah, but mine, that's where I draw the line.

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But my brother was really successful with the cross and
I did good at soccer and swimming. My younger sister
had numerous academic accolades. My younger brother is a really
talented weightlifter and wrestler. The fact that they got rid
of all of our trophies for bebies is insulting.

Speaker 1 (02:22):
That is kind of crazy.

Speaker 4 (02:23):
That's crazy.

Speaker 1 (02:24):
Yeah, you could like they got trophies too, You had shelves,
You got five shelves, you got five kids. Boom boom
boom boom boom.

Speaker 4 (02:31):
Everyone gets one shelf and if you can't fit it
all on one shelf, then goes to storage.

Speaker 1 (02:35):
Yep, but that's crazy, BBeB. Maybe you better be in
the Olympics. I would do this for my kids. They
were in the Olympics. Yeah, and then we sold our
house and went to a museum and they got to
see that show.

Speaker 4 (02:47):
I saw there was this one like parent of an
olympian who posted kind of just like a oh I
love my children post on Instagram, and the first post
was like, I'm so proud of my children. I can't
remember which olympian was, but it was like, I'm so
out of my daughter, she's a gold medalist Olympian. And
then I'm so proud of my son he graduated seventh grade.

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Oh my gosh, I'm assuming ours are either in storage
or the garbage because they're not up anywhere else in
the house. Our parents have never treated us any differently.
They love and appreciate us equally, but I guess not.
I just feel insulted. I was always vocal about how
much I love soccer and how important it was to me,
and when I moved on to college, I kept with it.
Sure I was never the best, but I was good

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and I got trophies and medals. They just got rid
of them all for Beebe. I don't know how to feel.
Am I just being petty? What could I even say
to my parents right now? All I want to say
is screw you guys, But I feel like that's unreasonable
for a twenty one year old. Is there anything I
can say to them? Seriously? Is this just me being petty?

Speaker 1 (03:46):
Nah?

Speaker 4 (03:47):
Better, you just need to go harder at these sports.

Speaker 1 (03:51):
Yeah, it seems like you're just a failure. But I
have to live with that for the rest of your life.

Speaker 4 (03:54):
Yeah, no, I think you're I think you could have
a conversation with your parents and either say like, hey,
can I where did you put my medals? Can I
have them? Or just like, hey, it seems like you
guys are really only focusing on BB and the rest
of us are feeling a little left out. And also
talk to your siblings about it, see how they're feeling.

Speaker 1 (04:09):
Talk to BB to BB, what do you think about this?
Maybe B and then use that against your parents and
she gives you if they're like, oh, I think it's
all fair. I think it's all equal. M m, maybe
you're crazy. It's not.

Speaker 4 (04:19):
No, get all of the siblings united, and then go
after the parents.

Speaker 1 (04:23):
Here's the knife. Yeah, in between the ribs, you get BB,
you say it's unfair.

Speaker 4 (04:27):
Mm hmm. You say yeah, you all go up to
the parents, and then Bbe steps up as you're representative
and says, hey, I've noticed that I've been getting a
lot of attention and that's not all fair. And they're like, oh, Bybee,
that's so nice of you. We should make it an even
bigger shelf for you. There's an update. So I spoke
to Bbe the night I wrote my post. I pointed
out that it was only her trophies on the shelf
and it wasn't my favorite interaction. I think being away

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from her for so long definitely changed my perception of her,
and I didn't really notice that she had changed, especially
her ego.

Speaker 5 (04:57):
Babe nuts, she's a monster.

Speaker 4 (05:00):
What's much? I showed her each trophy and name plate,
and she went, well, of course, through my trophies. When
was the last time you got better than a bronze
bb bb BB? I asked her if it didn't upset
or that the rest of ours were basically hidden, even
though we've had a lot of dedication to our activities,

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and she said, no, dedication doesn't make you a winner.
Bbe told me I was wasting her time, told me
to grow up and get over myself. Then she went
to go hang out with our parents, and I think
I finally got it. She was the golden child and
we were the scapegoats. The entire time I've been there,
they'd been hanging out with Bebe, and I was there too.
I felt so upset, and admittedly I self imploded. Having
my own sister that I looked up to and admired

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treat me like that was just a slap in the face.
Our older siblings were so far in age from us
that we really got close and relying on each other. Later,
I got my parents separated from Beebee and asked. They
pretty much echoed her, telling me I hadn't earned my
spot on the shelf and that my trophies had gone
in the garbage because they didn't impress any anybody the
way that Bebe's did, and said that I was an
adult and I should basically just suck it up. I've

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never been more hurt by anything.

Speaker 1 (06:07):
Oh my gosh, your parents and BB sucked low contact, literally.

Speaker 4 (06:13):
Low condoct maybe no conduct until they freaking figure out
that they were monsters. I don't think I fully realized
the scope of it when I was younger, but it
clicks now. My game was on the same day as Bebe's.
They went to hers. They brought snacks to Bbe's competition,
but not mine. Everything for BB was hosted at our house,
but nothing for the rest of us. I pushed so
much of it aside and called all my suspicions jealousy

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because my relationship with my sister was more important, but
it didn't matter half as much to her. Her ego
had gotten stroke for years and years, and they finally
let it come out and rear its ugly head. I
was just flat out offended, especially that they thought everything
out as though we didn't matter as much as Bebe.
They'd thrown it all out. I was just so mad
that I ended up leaving and my parents yelled at

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me for causing drama.

Speaker 1 (06:57):
What your parents, SOB, You madeb Be sad?

Speaker 4 (07:00):
You maybe be sad?

Speaker 3 (07:01):
Please?

Speaker 1 (07:02):
Bbe won't eat anything. Now it's your fault.

Speaker 4 (07:04):
Byby's like, I'm so upset that p would be so
jealous of my accomplishments and her parents like, baby, no, Bybe,
what you did to b B. Look what you did
to Bebe?

Speaker 5 (07:14):
Apologize to BB.

Speaker 4 (07:16):
But you know what always has drama us. You can
join us live every week to have through PMPSD on YouTube,
Facebook and TikTok to see all of that juicy juicy drama.
Just tap her profile and there is a little bit left.
But uh dang dang, BBeB fell from grace. She was
so cool, she had it all. She was nice. She
was talented and now she's just a monster.

Speaker 1 (07:38):
I wouldn't know what it's like to be a golden child.

Speaker 4 (07:39):
I don't know, no, but it is, you know what.
It is really annoying when like, people who are really
good at stuff are horrible, Oh horrible people.

Speaker 2 (07:46):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (07:47):
I'm like, oh, why are you so talented? You know?
And they know they're talented too.

Speaker 1 (07:52):
I'm not humble about it. It's like rub it in
your face.

Speaker 4 (07:54):
They're like, yeah, I'm talented. I deserve this.

Speaker 1 (07:56):
I having a good sportsmanship.

Speaker 4 (07:58):
If you're not humble, what are you doing?

Speaker 1 (08:00):
Exactly?

Speaker 4 (08:00):
But uh, there is a little bit left to this.
I told my siblings about what had happened because I
thought they had a right to know that their trophies
got removed, and I did try to sound unbiased. It
didn't really work, because my whole family is in a
dramatic sinkhole. My younger brother called her parents sobbing. My
oldest sister has been playing passive aggressive and just flat
out aggressive phone tag with Biebe, and my little sister

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was so upset she just called me bawling. All I've
been trying to do damage control, but everyone else is
just mad. For what's happened. We all got a text
from Biebe that basically read like, I'm sorry, I'm better
than you, but I deserve our parents love more than you. Bybe,
You're crazy, which naturally got everyone riled up again and
just caused more problems. This has been basically the worst

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week of my life and I hate it. So, yeah,
there's my update. My family won't speak to one another
and we're all in a big dramatic mess something.

Speaker 1 (08:49):
Like Iron Calls.

Speaker 4 (08:50):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (08:51):
Also, I found out the sad part about Iron.

Speaker 4 (08:53):
Cole that it's even sadder and that more siblings passed away.

Speaker 1 (08:56):
Yeah, they had like another sibling passed away.

Speaker 4 (08:58):
That movie is devastating.

Speaker 1 (08:59):
Yeah, but dude, yeah, this is modern the modern modernization
of ironclore. H.

Speaker 4 (09:04):
This is sad. This is sad. Bybe, You're you're stupid. Yeah, Opie,
I think you just stick with your other siblings and
you let BB pass you by. Maybe can have your
parents and you can have all of your other siblings.
And it sucks, but maybe that's the way it needs
to be for some time.

Speaker 1 (09:20):
Bacs backs Fax Facs.

Speaker 4 (09:21):
But that is the end of that story.

Speaker 1 (09:24):
My daughter is upset with me because I paid for
her sister's weddings.

Speaker 4 (09:28):
And not hers.

Speaker 1 (09:29):
Maybe there's a double standard here. Am I the a
hole for only paying for one of my daughter's weddings
and down payment? So I fifty mail have three kids,
Sarah thirty five female, Jessica twenty five female, and Ben
twenty three mail. My wife and I had Sarah when
we were both sixteen. It wasn't easy, but with our parents' support,
we could finish college while we raised her. By the way,

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this comes from practice complete one on the r slash
Okay story Tom subur So. When it was time for
her to go to college, we didn't have money to
help her, so she took out loans and paid for
them herself. We learned from our mistakes and started saving
for other siblings Jessica unbin, who got around a one
hundred K fund for college and had no debt. Through
all of this, Sarah never complained. She finished her education,

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got a fantastic job, and could repay the loans in
just three years, while staying with us to save as
much as possible. She has also helped us a lot
with babysitting her younger siblings and has always been selfless
and helped out in any way she could, maybe even
to a fault.

Speaker 4 (10:29):
Wow, that's crazy.

Speaker 1 (10:33):
So when she told me five years ago she was
getting married, I talked to my wife and told her
how bad I felt that we never did anything for her,
and that I wanted to give her the inheritance I
got from my grandmother, which was around fifty K, to
help her pay for the wedding and down payment on
the house. Luckily, my wife agreed, and even though she
didn't really need it, I know it meant a lot time.

Speaker 4 (10:53):
Okay. I was so worried that the title meant like, oh,
he was going to pay for the younger daughter and
not for this older daughter's wedding. But this makes so
much more sense than I think. That's very fair.

Speaker 1 (11:03):
So right now, Yeah, Sarah has gotten a fifty k
for wedding and house.

Speaker 4 (11:07):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (11:07):
And Jessica and Ben have gotten one hundred k each
for the college.

Speaker 4 (11:11):
Yeah and yeah, and Sarah had to spend all of
her money on college, had.

Speaker 1 (11:15):
Paid it off and saved a lot.

Speaker 4 (11:17):
And yeah.

Speaker 1 (11:17):
The issue is this, Jessica is getting married next year
and had assumed we would plan a similar gift for her,
which she was quite surprised when I told her we
never discussed such plans and even if we wanted to,
we didn't have the budget for her. She just told
us it wasn't fair that we paid for her sister
but would not do the same for her. I tried

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to explain the situation, telling her that in the long run,
we spent twice as much on her and her brother
as we ever did on Sarah. However, she insisted that
Sarah was already well off, noting that Sarah and her
husband had paid off the house and were doing extremely
well financially. I told her that this had nothing to
do with how much money her sister had. This was

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us finally being able to do something for her oldest child,
who had to sacrifice so much because we had her
at such a young age. She didn't take it well,
left angry and won't speak to us. My wife thinks
we should maybe take out a small loan and give
her the money, because she isn't used to not talking
to her kids and is sad she is left out

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of wedding preparations. She is even afraid of us not
getting invited to the wedding. But I have to put
my foot down and won't budge because she is not
entitled to our money. Yeah, yeah, agreed.

Speaker 4 (12:34):
No, I think I think you could have a conversation
with her and say, hey, like, if you're having money troubles,
let's try, Like, let's try, and I will help you
try and figure out a budget, or will help you
try and get your own loan. But like, we can't,
we can't give you that money now.

Speaker 1 (12:48):
Even Sarah is saying that this is getting out of
hand and even offered to pay half because of the money.
But personally, I'm at a point where I'd rather burn
the fifty k than give it to her. Sarah and
my wife think that it is not worth destroying our
family over, but I think that giving in will only
make her more entitled in the long I think so.

Speaker 5 (13:08):
I think.

Speaker 4 (13:09):
So Sarah's got nothing, and Sarah's doing the same thing
that she's done her whole life, which is giving up
stuff to help her family out, being selfless, being selfless,
And if Jessica can't realize that, then that's her own problem.

Speaker 1 (13:21):
I want to see more red flags. I want to
see what else in this world has happened. Yeah, we
have an update. Thank you all for the fantastic comments.
Blah blah blah blah. I haveter reading the comments, I
feel even more convinced that I was in the riot.
So I sat down with my wife to talk. Following
many of your suggestions, I showed her the posts and
asked her to read it. She wasn't happy, especially when

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she saw how many people had read it, but she
was also really curious. This has been on her mind
a lot lately, and she wanted to know while all
of you were thinking, she had a few issues with
my comments. She believes that when I said I would
rather burn the money, it indicates that I need to
change my approach to problem solving. While it might be
easy for people on the internet to suggest that parents

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cut off contact with their child, she is not ready
to lose her little girl. Additionally, she thinks my statement
of doing my duty and wanting to take care of
her myself comes across as selfish and not something as
a parent should say.

Speaker 4 (14:17):
I think that if they keep acquiescing to what you
know when Jessica wants, then she's just going to keep
demanding more and more.

Speaker 1 (14:24):
Yeah, and then there.

Speaker 4 (14:25):
Is going to come a time when she's like, well,
you don't do this, I'm going to cut you off,
and she's going to keep using that as an excuse
to get you guys to come back and do what
she wants.

Speaker 1 (14:33):
She believes there is a reasonable compromise. Instead of giving
her the full fifty K, we can offer for half
of the wedding. This way, she can cover most of
the expenses from our savings, borrow the rest from Sarah
if needed, and pay her back within a year. I
told her right away that I am not going to
do that. I told her that we could separate our
finances and that she could return to full time work

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to help Jessica pay for the wedding. However, made it
clear I was done as selfish as it may seem.
I didn't feel obligated to Jessica anymore, and I want
to enjoy my life while I still can. She replied,
as she always does, that I'm stubborn and that she
would need to take that step if it meant keeping
the family together. I told her it was fine, but

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not to come to me complaining about her health. When
she went back to work full time a couple of
days ago, she came to me and said that she
agreed with my proposal. We made a plan to open
a joint bank account where we would deposit our monthly expenses.
After that we can use our personal money however we like.
We decided on an amount to keep our savings account

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for emergencies and agreed to split the remaining funds fifty
to fifty. I even agreed to cover sixty percent of
the money needed for our joint expenses. This is the
first time we will have more than one bank account,
so I am a bit nervous about how it will
turn out. I also believe she mentioned talking to her
boss about working more hours, but I want to avoid

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getting involved in that discussion. But we have discussion every
weekday at three pm PSD. We need to join us
live on YouTube, Facebook and TikTok. Come along, Tap a profile,
tap it. The wife believes, yes, making her daughter happy
is for her to work, and yeah, just her to
work a full time job, but to work over time.

Speaker 4 (16:16):
Apparently yeah, And apparently her daughter's totally fine with that,
which is so so.

Speaker 1 (16:20):
Oh my gosh. Did you see that TikTok trend of
the guy The girl was like, hey, paye, I can't
pay the mortgage for this month, and the guy's like, Billy,
She's like, yeah, I can't. He's like, well, can you
work over your time on the weekend. It's crazy, Like
I don't want to work. I don't want to have
to work a job. But it was fake. It was fake. Yeah,
So like that was like, oh my gosh.

Speaker 4 (16:37):
Yeah, there's rage bait things.

Speaker 1 (16:39):
Yeah, but that's what's happening here.

Speaker 6 (16:41):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (16:41):
I can't imagine asking my parents to work hard like now,
not when I you know, different, When I was a child,
I didn't know about that. But now, as in a
you know, new adult, I guess to ask them to
work more hours to pay for something in my life.
That's crazy, That is crazy absurd. Yeah, no, this is ridiculous.

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I do, however, think that it is a good decision
to have a separate account, because it is.

Speaker 6 (17:09):
It is.

Speaker 4 (17:09):
I mean, it's kind of unfair for regardless of whether
I think it's a good decision or not, Op's wife
is allowed to make certain monetary decisions for herself, even
if they're bad ones, and so I think that having
their separate accounts for them to make whatever decision they
want is a good idea because then it just it
won't breed resentment where one party is like, well I

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don't want to use that money that way, and the
other person's like, I don't want to use that money
that way. Now you both have your own accounts, you
can do whatever you want with them.

Speaker 1 (17:36):
I spoke with Sarah and express my concerns about giving
Jessica any money, which I believe is a bad idea. However,
Sarah insists that she wants to help. She mentioned that
while she agrees with my viewpoint, she doesn't want their
mom to return to work full time. She clarified that
her decision to help was aimed at supporting their mom

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and not Jessica. I told her that this was her
money and she could do as she pleased, but like
her mom, I wouldn't involve myself in the situation any further.
Right before I wrote this post, I sent an email
to Jessica expressing my feelings for her. I clarified where
I stood and mentioned that she could decide how involved
I would be in her wedding. I don't expect to reply,

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but now I have to wait and see what happens.

Speaker 4 (18:19):
We got neded, what does Jessica get to say?

Speaker 1 (18:21):
Jessica's definitely going no contact. Yeah, no, I.

Speaker 4 (18:26):
Didn't want to see you. And you're not invited to
my wedding anymore. Too bad. No one cares. Sarah's Wedding's
going to be better than yours.

Speaker 1 (18:32):
Oh yeah, oh yeah, and you're gonna be mad and
sad about that.

Speaker 5 (18:35):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (18:35):
I realize now that I didn't explain something clearly. My
wife wants to pay twenty five K for the wedding,
which she and Sarah have agreed to split. She believes
this is a reasonable compromise, but I disagree with her.

Speaker 4 (18:50):
Uh freakin' Jessica gets what she wants because she's a
little brat.

Speaker 1 (18:55):
Just because twenty five What is Jessica doing? Imagine me
complaining to my parents about you want.

Speaker 4 (18:59):
To get married? Can you give me money?

Speaker 7 (19:02):
Moon?

Speaker 1 (19:03):
I that's so unfair. Also, the fiance of Jessica, Oh
my god.

Speaker 4 (19:07):
Yeah, what are you thinking? Is can his family pay
or they just make it pay?

Speaker 1 (19:12):
Yeah? I'd like to understand that situation. And what would
he do if he knew about this information?

Speaker 4 (19:16):
Yeah?

Speaker 5 (19:17):
I would in Is he part of this?

Speaker 8 (19:20):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (19:20):
Oh it's the back of the hand. Thank you appreciate it.

Speaker 1 (19:22):
That's the end of that story.

Speaker 4 (19:25):
My monster mother said, I'm too impure to wear white
at my wedding. She's no longer invited. You can wear
red cause you're the freaking devil. Thirty female. I got
engaged a few weeks ago. I am incredibly excited. We're
excited for you too. We actually already have a beautiful, happy,
and inquisitive four year old daughter together. We've been living
together since my daughter was born and have been together

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for seven years now, so it already feels like we're married,
but we want to make it official before we start
trying for a second. By the way, this comes from
Environmental Legal seventy eight on the OK storytime Separate.

Speaker 5 (19:57):
So.

Speaker 4 (19:58):
I met my fiance Joey thirty three male my first
year of law school. We started dating, and in the
fall of my last year of law school, I found
out I was pregnant. I was only twenty five at
the time, was getting ready to start my career, and
wasn't married or engaged, so it was a terrifying experience. Luckily,
Joey was supportive of me. He said he'd respect whatever

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decision I made and that he'd support me no matter what.
His parents were terrified and definitely thought I should terminate
when we first told them, but they were also kind
and understanding. Initially, I was going to terminate the pregnancy
and went to the clinic twice, but I couldn't go
through with it. I come from an ultra conservative Christian family,
and my mom especially doesn't think people should have spicy
sleep before marriage. My two older sisters got married in

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their early twenties and are now stay at home moms.
I'm the only sister who graduated from college, is no
longer religious, and has career goals. When I told them
I was pregnant, my parents were devastated. My mom cried,
called me used goods and asked how I could allow
this to happen. They said Joey and I needed to
get married since we were having a child together, and

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I explained that we didn't want to rush into that.
My mom called me selfish and said neither of us
were putting our baby first. They didn't speak to me
until my baby girl was born because they were so
upset that I got pregnant out of wedlock and then
didn't marry Joey before the baby arrived. I see them
a few times a year, and they certainly love my daughter,
but I'm definitely a huge disappointment to them. Your family

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freaking sucks. I'm sorry. My future in laws, on the
other hand, were extremely kind and helpful during the pregnancy.
They helped cover my medical care and even rented an
apartment for me and Joey to live in after the
baby was born. Since we didn't start working for a
few months.

Speaker 5 (21:36):
After we graduated.

Speaker 4 (21:38):
While I was studying for the bar exam, Joey's mom
did a ton of babysitting and was always there to
help if I needed a few hours to myself. I'm
so grateful to them, and feel even closer to Joey's
mom than to my own at this point. When we
told Joey's parents about the engagement, his mom cried and
said how happy she was for us and our daughter.

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She also said she was so proud of us because
we stuck together and made the most of things when
life didn't go as we planned. She offered to help
with the wedding, but we said we wanted to pay
for it ourselves. We want a very small ceremony with
our immediate families, a few close friends, and our daughter.
We really wanted to be about celebrating our family and
our little girl and don't need a huge ceremony. I

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told my parents the news last night since we got
into town for Thanksgiving and they didn't seem excited. Of
course they're not. Of course they won't be. This is
your parents, they saw.

Speaker 1 (22:28):
Yeah, they're gonna flip flop, flip flop, flip flop.

Speaker 4 (22:30):
Yeah, which is crazy because that's the whole like, that's
exactly what they wanted. My mom asked if we were
having a religious ceremony, and I said no. I explained
that we want a small, low key wedding and now
we're just getting eager to get married and make it official.
My mom then turned to my fiance and said he
clearly wasn't too eager since he got me pregnant and
lived with me for four years before asking me to

(22:51):
marry him. Joey explained that he's known he wanted to
marry me for years, but we were focused on our daughter,
our careers and getting out loans paid off, and have
been treading waters since we graduated from school. They didn't
have to to get married.

Speaker 1 (23:04):
Yeah, they were so freaking busy that they were getting
that sauce in the education.

Speaker 4 (23:08):
My mom then told him that she's ruined her dreams
of her daughter getting married since the event has been
spoiled now that we've been living together and already have
a child.

Speaker 3 (23:16):
Dou dang bad.

Speaker 1 (23:17):
There are your dreams in the first place.

Speaker 5 (23:19):
Dude're literally not your dreams.

Speaker 4 (23:20):
You have other kids who are fulfilling your dreams.

Speaker 1 (23:23):
Yeah, done twice.

Speaker 4 (23:25):
Yeah. She told me I can't in conscious wear white
to my wedding since I'm not a virgin and have
continued to sacrifice my purity.

Speaker 1 (23:34):
No, guess what, you were not invited to the wedding.

Speaker 4 (23:38):
You don't have to wear anything to our wedding because
you're not gonna be there.

Speaker 1 (23:41):
Yeah, exactly.

Speaker 4 (23:42):
Yeah, don't invite these people.

Speaker 1 (23:44):
Yeah, especially in law. I think the dad's just in
the corner, like in his rocking chair, like mm.

Speaker 4 (23:49):
The mom is like, don't you agree?

Speaker 5 (23:50):
How to you?

Speaker 4 (23:50):
And he's like yep, And she's like, and you shouldn't
wear white to the wedding, don't you agree? And he's
like muh. Typically I laugh off my mom's comments, but
I started crying. I told my mom that I've tried
my best in life and don't need her constant judgments.
My mom said, I'm clearly ashamed of my life choices,
and that's why I'm crying. Oh boy, maybe she's crying
because they were freaking telling her that she's not pure
enough to wear white to her wedding. I asked how

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anyone could be ashamed of my life choices when I
have such a beautiful little girl. My mom said that
we should have gotten married years ago for our child,
and that we're clearly not committed to her or each other.
I told my mom that I no longer want her
at my wedding because she's been nothing but cruel since
I got pregnant, and I only want people who love
and support us at the celebration. My dad said he
wasn't going if my mom wasn't included, and I said

(24:33):
that's fine with me. I cried myself to sleep, and
Joey was furious that my mother was treating me so terribly.
He also told me that he called and asked my
dad's permission before he proposed, and my dad was rude.
He said that he say no if it weren't for
the fact that we have a child together. He also
accused Joey of using me for spicy sleep and not
stepping up for our daughter and marrying me sooner. Joey

(24:54):
didn't want to upset me, but he thought it was
relevant in light of the fact that my parents clearly
aren't warming up to the situation. Needless to say, he
doesn't blame me for not wanting them at the wedding,
and he feels uncomfortable having them there too after all
the comments they've made. Oh my gosh, Yeah, I mean
this is they're also casting a judgment on him as
much as they.

Speaker 1 (25:12):
Are not being man enough for not being a good person, a.

Speaker 4 (25:15):
Good parent, a good partner. I wouldn't want them there either,
But I do want you guys to join us live
every weekday at three pmpst on YouTube, Facebook, and TikTok.
Just top our profile. But there is a little bit
left to the story. But do you have any final thoughts?

Speaker 1 (25:28):
Coming from a conservative Christian family household, this is not
how to handle the situation. No, even if you don't
agree with someone's morals and like the choices you make,
you still gotta love them.

Speaker 4 (25:38):
Especially Yeah, it's like, this is your child who has
their own child, and you're gonna keep paid this.

Speaker 1 (25:44):
And also op is doing the best they can in life.
It's not like they got pregnant and then gave up. No,
they are working hard. They are being consistent and like
trying to provide for, trying to be a good parent,
trying to be a good parent, going to law school. Like,
come on, that's not easy, oh.

Speaker 4 (26:00):
Especially with a child. This morning, I got a call
from one of my older sisters. She told me I
broke our mother's heart again.

Speaker 1 (26:07):
Oh my gosh.

Speaker 4 (26:08):
Now the sisters are like, you wrote mama's heart and
I'd be cruel not to include her in the wedding.
She also said Mom has loved and supported me and
my daughter, even though she strongly disagrees with my life choices.
My sister says, I've made my own choices and I
can't expect everyone to like and agree with them. But
family is family, and I should include my mother. She
also said that if my parents are included, she won't
be there either. Am I the able boy?

Speaker 1 (26:29):
You might as well call the other sister and say, hey,
you're non invited.

Speaker 4 (26:32):
Yeah, think to say, okay, don't come. I don't want
you there. Yeah, this is ridiculous. You literally haven't done
anything wrong. You are just living life. Life doesn't always
turn out the way that you know other people want
you to do it exactly. But that is the end
of that story.

Speaker 3 (26:47):
Hey, it's John here.

Speaker 2 (26:48):
We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick
three minute break with Aswermar sponsors.

Speaker 6 (26:52):
My boyfriend hates my dog. He told me to get
rid of him.

Speaker 1 (26:56):
Sounds like someone I know.

Speaker 6 (26:58):
I'll try to keep this short, but I think it
will end up longer than I expect. I live in
a house with one roommate, twenty three female who is
also my best friend. Over the summer, two things happened.
Oh and by the way, this comes from a user
a dog Throwaway ninety one and if you want to
submit your stories, go to the r slash okay storytime subreddit.

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One of my family's two dogs became very ill, and
my stepfather walked out on our family two days before
my half brother sixteen male birthday.

Speaker 1 (27:28):
Wow.

Speaker 6 (27:29):
Needless to say, things got hectic, and I moved back
in with my family for a couple months to help
take care of the dog and try to provide some
stability for my brother.

Speaker 5 (27:38):
Sick dog had to be.

Speaker 6 (27:40):
Put to sleep, which was really hard. My mother also
had to find a new place and she could not
afford the old house on her salary alone. She finds
the perfect house, but the landlord did not allow pets.
My landlord does, however, and after clearing it with my roommate,
I decided to bring Galahad, seven male, home with me.

(28:02):
I've always loved Galahad, but since he's quote moved in,
we're pretty much inseparable. Nothing makes me smile like this,
You don dog. Roommates adore him and we often joke
that he is our child. My friends love him too,
and he is very cute and tends to charm everyone,
everyone except my boyfriend. It seems boyfriend was never very

(28:23):
keen on Galahad. I guess cordial is the best word
for it, if you can apply that to a relationship
with a dog. I always assumed it was because he's
a cat person. Two cats at his place. Oh there
is This never really bothered me until last weekend. I'm
planning on going to a dog Halloween party hosted by
the Humane Society. The roommate is going to this party

(28:45):
as well, and we are dressing up as medieval maidens,
and Galahad is going to be a night. I was
excitedly telling my boyfriend about these plans and showing him
our costumes.

Speaker 5 (28:55):
When he freaks out.

Speaker 6 (28:57):
He said Galahad shouldn't be around other dogs or even
range humans because of his behavioral problems. I was surprised
because Galahad gets along great with dogs and people and
has never shown aggressive behavior.

Speaker 5 (29:10):
Boyfriend ranted for a while, but here's a condensed version.

Speaker 6 (29:12):
When Galahad wants attention, like to be in someone's lap
or get pets, he'll lick your foot or leg almost always.

Speaker 3 (29:21):
Just once, John, we're gonna get back to the story.
But uh, you're old. You're as old as me now, Powell.
It might be as old as you, but I feel
like you have more wisdom.

Speaker 5 (29:30):
I've got some wisdom in this sult noga, and you've got.

Speaker 3 (29:32):
A piece of wisdom for me right now.

Speaker 8 (29:33):
Always respect, And I think the other piece of wisdom
that I've learned from John is quite okay.

Speaker 3 (29:39):
Story time member Chips, Yeah.

Speaker 4 (29:41):
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Speaker 3 (29:53):
Joint, Get it, now while I'm still alive. Now back
to the story.

Speaker 6 (29:57):
I don't mind this, but I realize not everyone feels
the same when guests are over. I tried to distract
and redirect him from this, but I let my guests
know it's okay to tell him not. When he hears no,
he will not repeat the behavior. When someone he does
not know enters the house. Galahad will bark a couple
of times. This is not an aggressive bark. It's more
like an attention bark. The only other times that he

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barks is when he needs to go outside or when
he sees me grab the treat bag.

Speaker 7 (30:21):
So Galahad and Iron like the same person.

Speaker 6 (30:23):
So Galahad sleeps on my bed on a special blanket.
Boyfriend does not like this, so when he's over for
the night, I put Galahad in his crate in my room.
One night, boyfriend insisted that the crate be placed in
another room. All right, this guy just sucks. Can we
just be make it clear, dude, boyfriend? Actually this got boyfriend.
The boyfriend sucks. How can a dude be jealous of
a dog? I complied, but Galahad hated this and cried

(30:45):
for about thirty minutes until I brought him back into
my room. He went to sleep normally then and slept
quietly the rest of the night. Galahad likes to be
watched while he eats. This started when the other dog
was put down and I noticed Galahad lost a lot
of weight and ate very little. I had to coax
and encourage him to eat, which eventually turned into me
sitting at the table next to his bowl with him

(31:07):
for about fifteen minutes while he eats. Boyfriend lists all
of these as problems, including that I'm too obsessed with Galahad,
and ending with he thinks I need to send Galahad
back to live with my family. I explain to him
why that is not an option. He said he didn't
want to come to my house anymore while Galahad is
still here. I asked him if that was an ultimatum,

(31:30):
and he told me take it.

Speaker 5 (31:31):
How I wished. This guy sucks.

Speaker 6 (31:34):
This week, our communication has been the bare minimum, and
boyfriend still seems very upset with me. Roommate is furious
about it. I just want to smooth things over. Should
I take Galahad to a dog training class train him
to do what?

Speaker 5 (31:46):
It'd be a nice.

Speaker 6 (31:47):
I don't have the money for a personal dog trainer,
and I think Galahad is just being a normal DOCS
in for the most part, am I in the wrong
and it's a DOCS and he's hating on the docs
In update number one, I've been at to update, so
here it is. I want to thank everyone who took
the time to respond. I got a couple questions asking
if I was minimizing Galahad's behavior, and I think I

(32:10):
was mainly the barking thing. Galahad only barks a couple
times at people entering the house, but he is loud
it can be startling to people who aren't familiar with him.

Speaker 5 (32:19):
Also, the wanting to be watched while eating.

Speaker 6 (32:22):
I think I downplayed it because I managed to work
it into my routine easily, and I have a lot
of guilt over him dropping so much weight. This isn't
normal behavior, though, and needs to be corrected. With all
of this in mind, I decided Galahad should be enrolled
in a dog training class and hopefully I could address
his other behaviors with a professional I planned to tell
this to boyfriend on Halloween and hopefully it would all

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work out well.

Speaker 3 (32:44):
It didn't.

Speaker 6 (32:45):
I texted boyfriend Halloween morning that I wanted to come
to his place and talk before or after the Humane
Society Halloween party. He didn't respond, so me, roommate and
Galahad got costumed up and went to the party. It
was a blast, and I could tell Galahad I enjoyed
some canine company. On the way back to the house,
boyfriend calls me and asks me to come over so
we can talk. I tell him I have to drop

(33:07):
off a roommate and Galahad first, then I would be
right over.

Speaker 5 (33:11):
He just hangs up.

Speaker 6 (33:15):
I get to his apartment and I can tell he's pierced.
He asks why I haven't gotten rid of Galahad. I
tell him I'm not getting rid of my dog, and
I tell him about taking him to classes. Boyfriend says
that's not good enough. We fight for a while, neither
of us would bend. We ended up breaking up. I
get back home and roommate until I've been crying, so

(33:36):
we spend the night watching Bill and Ted, drinking wine
and calling ex boyfriend a medieval weiener head.

Speaker 5 (33:43):
I'm lucky to have such a great friend. So we've
done it.

Speaker 6 (33:47):
We're atys at the finish line, this is good.

Speaker 1 (33:51):
Yeah, that's this is weird. I feel if this would continue,
he would want to control other things rather than the
presence of your dog in your life. Update number two.

Speaker 6 (34:03):
I'm pretty sure this is gonna be my last update
on this subject unless something crazy happens. Thanks for all
the support in my previous posts. So last Saturday, I
got a surprise visit from X. I asked roommate to
watch Galahad in another room while I talked to X.
He actually showed up with a box of dog treats.
They were for large dogs, so they were way too

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big for Galahad, but it was a really sweet gesture.

Speaker 1 (34:27):
Do not feed those dog treats to the dog.

Speaker 6 (34:31):
We chitchat about various things for a couple minutes. Then
X apologizes, says he misses me and that he wants
me back. As much as I've played tough in my posts,
I really love this guy and breaking up has been hard.
We started to talk about how we could make it work.
He proposed that we could hang out at his apartment
and if he came over to my house, Galahad would

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be put in a different room than us.

Speaker 1 (34:55):
No, we still shoe is still about goal ahead, what
like this is I need.

Speaker 6 (35:00):
I need a clear cut reason why you literally cannot
stand my dog?

Speaker 1 (35:04):
Yeah, like, what's going on?

Speaker 7 (35:06):
The only thing I could be, like, I'll give him
it is if he's allergic, that's it.

Speaker 5 (35:10):
You're right, but no an indication of that.

Speaker 3 (35:13):
But he's not.

Speaker 6 (35:13):
I told him I needed time to think and that
I wasn't ready to jump back into official status yet,
and his demeanor completely changed. He got quiet for a
second and then said, what the earth His voice got angry,
not sure if I would say raised, and then he
went on about how I should just accept his apology,
that he was doing everything to make this relationship work

(35:35):
and I was purposefully sabotaging it. I could feel tears
welling up, and he said, and now you're gonna effing cry. Hey,
what a great what a bunch of great evidence right
there as to why you shouldn't be dating this guy.

Speaker 1 (35:48):
So you have a first fight. This is how he
fights you.

Speaker 6 (35:52):
The roommate walked into the room from the living room
to the kitchen and went to get something from the fridge.
X then took this as his cue and got up
and left without saying anything else to me. By the way,
We're gonna say a whole bunch of more stuff to you.
When you listen to full episodes with stories like this,
all you have to do is go to Spotify or
Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts right

(36:15):
and search.

Speaker 5 (36:16):
Okay, story time.

Speaker 6 (36:17):
So to pull a Taylor Swift, we are never ever
ever getting back together.

Speaker 5 (36:23):
I don't like op now.

Speaker 1 (36:28):
Him chat Pye.

Speaker 6 (36:31):
Since then, I've blocked him on social media except Instagram,
where I've been posting pictures of Galahad. It's petty, but
it makes me feel better. In other news, I've been
training Galahad to eat by himself.

Speaker 1 (36:41):
Sorry, one second, can you see if you can find
pictures of Galahad? Thank you?

Speaker 6 (36:44):
Okay, mixed success so far, but slow and stead he
wins the race.

Speaker 5 (36:50):
And that is the end of that story.

Speaker 1 (36:54):
My boyfriend revealed that he doesn't want to marry me
after stringing me along for five years?

Speaker 3 (37:00):
What do you want?

Speaker 1 (37:01):
My partner? Twenty five mel is my twenty six female
rock and I'm miss literally. He tells me that all
the time, including yesterday. We've been together for five years
and have truly a wonderful relationship, always talking, laughing, comfortable
with one another, able to communicate healthily even when we disagree.

(37:21):
After surviving abuse as a child and surviving and struggling
with unhealthy romantic relationships in the past, the fact is
that we love each other in a respectful way, secure
and profoundly healthy way is truly my biggest blessing, and
I wake up every day so happy and grateful for him.
He's an incredible man with so much drive, intelligence, kindness

(37:43):
and gifts to give to the world. By the way,
this comes from Bath Mermaid on the r slideh Owkay story.
TOMPs up about it. Abut a year and a half ago.
It came up for the first time that we saw
ourselves getting married one day. It was such a beautiful
moment and rocked my world to have been vulnerable those
words and have him say them too. Since it's only

(38:04):
been something incredibly happy that I get to hold in
my heart and look forward to. The subject has come
up sporadically since then, but I haven't wanted to push
it too far since we are young and it is
very much and eventually think both of our parents are divorced,
and this has come from money. He got a lot
of strong advice growing up to not marry young and

(38:26):
protect his assets, to see it from a more financial
view than I ever have thought of. Nevertheless, the thought
makes me happy, and we often daydream about the future
we'll build together, the little house in New Hampshire will
hope to buy, and the dogs the chickens will have.
These are conversations he participates in and brings up on

(38:48):
his own all the time. I want to be able
to talk casually about the marriage aspect too, go to
bed with the sleepy can't wait to marry you, or
love out my life. But for some reason, recently, whenever
the subject has come up, he's clammed up and made
it feel really serious. This accumulated maybe two months ago

(39:10):
with a really weird conversation in which I since he
might not have processed what marriage really means in the
way that I had, and that he wasn't ready to
be talking about this in the way that I was,
or as much as he has led on. I told
him I don't want to put a pupew to his head.

(39:31):
This is something that makes me happy to think about
and talk about. And I tell him everything I say.
I love him for him, and I'd wait as long
as he needed, but that I firmly didn't want to
bring up the subject again until he was comfortable discussing it.
I wanted to relieve the pressure on him, and I
haven't mentioned it since. Well. Yesterday we spent a really

(39:53):
lovely day getting lunch and hiking with my family. They
live far away, so we don't get to see them
very often. My stepsister and and fiance were there as well,
and of course there was a little bit of a
conversation about their upcoming wedding. My boyfriend was his usual friendly,
easy going self. I noticed he seemed quiet on the

(40:14):
way home and later that evening, so I asked if
he was worried about work, but he just said that
he was tired from a long day of traveling. I
made him a drink, kissed him on the forehead like
I always do, and promised we could do whatever he
wanted to relax. That night, just did what I normally
do when I see that he's stressed, try to show empathy,

(40:35):
take care of him. But then as I'm making dinner,
he comes over to me and drops this bomb.

Speaker 5 (40:43):
Oh god.

Speaker 1 (40:44):
He came over crying and said spending time with an
engaged couple, and even barely talking about their wedding had
sent him into a panic, and he didn't know if
he could ever see himself getting married. I try to
parse what he was saying, but it was like my
brain was stuck. Evidently, he had been locking himself in

(41:05):
his office at work all week and crying about this.

Speaker 6 (41:08):
Ah.

Speaker 5 (41:08):
See, so this is a great example of bad communication.

Speaker 1 (41:12):
I kept asking him why he would say he wanted
to marry me if he didn't. He said he was lying,
basically that he wanted to give me what he knew.
I wanted to make me happy. I could only just
stare at him, open mouthed. I kept trying to pinpoint
if he was saying to me, I don't think I'll

(41:32):
be ready to get married for a long time, or
I don't think I'll ever be ready to get married.
And I really don't think he knows himself. I don't
think he has put any kind of mature thought into
marriage at all.

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Speaker 2 (41:46):
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Well, let's get back to the story.

Speaker 1 (42:13):
It was like talking to a scared child. He kept
saying stuff about not knowing where his career will need
or if we'll have money. He has a great job
extending network and he's definitely not poor. Neither of us are.
And I was just like, we're a partnership. You wanted
to be with me yesterday, you wanted to be with

(42:35):
me today. Do you want to be with me tomorrow?

Speaker 3 (42:38):
Yes? He said.

Speaker 1 (42:38):
I said, well that's all that matters. We have a
life we love and we'll take on the future together
when it comes. I'm devastated. He left for his mother's
house and I don't know when he'll be home. I
cannot take another sleeping pill or my heart will stop.
But I can't sleep a wink. I literally spiked a
one hundred degree fever and spent all night sweating and freezing.

(43:02):
I had no idea it was possible to be in
so much pain. It makes you physically sick. This person
is the bedrock of my life. We have always had
rock solid confidence that we can trust each other, be
vulnerable around each other, and be our full, authentic selves
without inhibition or fear of judgment. We share everything together

(43:25):
and we are best friends. He even said that over
and over as he saw that. He told me he
loved me and he didn't want to get married. Hours ago,
I had the most beautiful and solid relationship in the world.
Now I don't know if we're going to break up.
I'm reeling.

Speaker 5 (43:43):
Wait what we're talking about.

Speaker 6 (43:44):
He just said I'm through sobbing tears, that he loves
you but he can't get married. Yeah, so there's something there,
but like it's just it just seems to.

Speaker 5 (43:57):
Be talked out. I don't know, it's weird. This is weird.

Speaker 1 (44:00):
Yeah, I'm reelling. I feel like I've been stabbed in
the back by my safe space. The earth fell out
from under me, and I don't even know what to
think anymore. Well, got an update, dude. I mean, I
think a nice little couple's therapy session you those would
go a long ways here, I believe.

Speaker 7 (44:19):
Yeah, I feel like this guy has like is in
his head. It's just I got two decisions here. Yeah,
Either keep going and just like be scared, or just
break it off and I'll be okay.

Speaker 1 (44:28):
The longest short of it, he left me. I called
him the next day asking when he would come home.
He told me he needed a day to think, but
he was talking like we were broken up. I asked
him to at least tell me if we're still together.
He wouldn't. Yeah, he just torched it pretty much in
an instant. I had been leaning a lot on the

(44:49):
kind words I received from folks who reassured me that
one fights does not need to derail everything we built
over the last five years. I took the perspective that
the question of marriage was something that we need to
discuss and seriously and hopefully through therapy to arrive at
what both of us want. I had no idea that
he would just abend the table with no warning, without

(45:11):
ever expressing his feelings or giving us the chance to
address it with even a single conversation. So many of
the comments I revolved around the question, is not marrying
him a deal breaker for you? Would it be okay
with simply a long term relationship. I don't know. I
would have to search my soul for that answer. But
I didn't even get the chance. He just made the

(45:32):
choice for me five beautiful years and he just effing left.
Needless to say, there were a million better ways to
do this while honoring his fears and feelings, while still
showing me an ounce of respect as his partner and
someone who loves him. This owed a conversation, and even

(45:53):
if we still reached the same conclusion, I would understand.
But this, this is not what I deserve. Yeah, dude,
now what I am like? Speechless? I'm mad myself because
I gave this guy a chance. I was like, Okay,
this guy's hurt, he's hurt inside and he's he and
he doesn't know how to communicate, and he's gonna like
work on that. Why Why did I fall for this?

(46:15):
I did see him one night and we have been texting.
He said all of this awful stuff about how he
was just trying to tell me everything I wanted to hear,
and how I wouldn't liked the person he really is
underneath all his people pleasing, He's got a lot of this,
don't talk about it, just run in his family, including

(46:38):
his parents' relationship. My partner has always said he doesn't
respect this kind of behavior and talk to vehemently about
how his values are different, and then just did the
same thing. Although when I wrote my original post, I
wanted nothing more than continue living our happy day together.

(47:01):
But given this entire nightmare, space is the only thing
that can do anything for either of us. At this point,
he has no idea what he's feeling or how to
talk about it in a healthy way. My dad had
the simplest take and yet said it best. He's immature.
He needs to work on himself, and I hope he does.
As for me, i'd be an idiot. You still want

(47:23):
to marry him knowing this is the kind of thing
he's capable of. By the way, you can be capable
of joining us on your favorite podcast platform. Just go
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Speaker 5 (47:38):
Right in your ear holes.

Speaker 1 (47:39):
So we've got to break our least apartment hunting. While
still rilling from this one to eighty flip of my
life has been terrible. We moved to the city together
and pretty much every friend I have met is through him,
so I'm really scared. Will mean losing a lot of
other people I love too. It's going to be expensive
and miserable to live on my own, but I'm still

(48:00):
grieving my sweet love and the life I thought we
were going to have together. I gave five years of
my life and so much on myself being one half
of that partnership. I never wanted to be on my
own again, and now i am. I still love him,
but I can't wait around while he fixes himself or
pine foolishly hoping one day he'll wake up and be

(48:22):
ready for me. I don't want to stand on my
own two feet, but that's just what I'll have to do.
But that's the end of that story. Chat.

Speaker 3 (48:29):
Hey, it's Sam. We're ready to get back to these stories.
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Speaker 6 (48:34):
My boyfriend stole my necklace and gifted it to his sister.
Serious advice needed because I am lost. I email have
been with my boyfriend Adam for almost a year now.
I met Adam through my master's degree in the UK,
when I was a sophomore in college, I had a

(48:54):
long term boyfriend who I'll call Kyle, who took his
own life. We were together for three years, and I
would never wish the pain of losing someone like that
on my worst enemy. By the way, this comes from
user Danielle Kay seventy two thirty eight and you can
submit your stories on the r slash Okay storytime sub
reread it. When we started college, Kyle gifted me a
lockett with the word most engraved on the back of it.

(49:15):
It was our thing. It meant he loves me most sappy,
but it was ours. Since his passing, this has been
my most valuable possession and I do not go anywhere
without it. This is my last piece of Kyle. After
finishing my degree and struggling the entire time, I decided
that I needed to get out of the town where
everything happened and decided to study my master's degree in
the UK, which is where I met Adam. He is

(49:37):
the first person I've allowed myself to love since losing Kyle,
and I really have loved our relationship up until this.
If it's true, I will never be able to forgive him.
Adam has always been insecure of Kyle, asking hypothetical questions
like if Kyle was still alive, what I'd be with him,
and what I prefer about him over Kyle, et cetera,
et cetera. I usually just dodged the questions and never

(49:59):
give him an answer, as I don't condone these types
of questions and don't want to feed into it. We
have also had to have several conversations regarding Adam talking
badly about Kyle. He also dislikes if I post about
Kyle on his birthday or death anniversary or have hard days.
He sees this as that I don't love him and
I'm still hung up on Kyle. So no matter how

(50:19):
many years that pass and how much I love Adam,
Kyle was my first and his life was cut short.
He was also my best friend. I will warn him
and his life forever, even if I have moved on romantically.
He knows how much this necklace from Kyle means to
me and how devastated I've been the last two weeks
frantically searching our apartment for it. I took a shower

(50:39):
one day and set the necklace in the same place
I always do, and when I came out of the shower.
It was gone, and Adam swears he has no idea
where it is and it must have fallen somewhere and
got lost. I've been beside myself and I've spent nights
and tears over losing this. Adam has a sister who
we will call Jane. Jane recently celebrated her twenty first birthday.
I'm in her Snapchat private store where she posted the

(51:01):
beautiful lockett that her big brother got her for her
special day. And it was the same lockett. Yeah, what what?
I know it was the same because it had the
same engraving on the back.

Speaker 3 (51:16):
No.

Speaker 6 (51:16):
No, I don't know how Adam explained that one, but
he must have somehow. Me and Jane are not particularly close,
and this isn't something I feel I can just confront
her about casually. Oh but that's you can. You can, though,
you can. I also feel silly bringing it up to
Adam in case it isn't the same lockett, and I
am just going insane or looking for excuses because I

(51:37):
was careless and lost it. I don't see where else
Adam would have got this lockett, as it was made
for me by a small business back in the state
She was local to Kyle and I and her work
has always been my favorite advice on how to ask
Adam about this. I know if I do, he'll deny
it either way, and this lockett means the world to me.

Speaker 5 (51:51):
I need it back update.

Speaker 6 (51:53):
A day or two after the initial post, I confronted
Adam about the locket. He claimed he did not know
what I was talking about. He couldn't believe I could
be as cold as to accuse him of this.

Speaker 4 (52:03):
What a psycho.

Speaker 6 (52:04):
When asked for receipts or any proof that the locket
was not the same as mine, he couldn't produce any
and got angry and stormed out of our apartment.

Speaker 5 (52:11):
He came back that night and tried to.

Speaker 6 (52:14):
Gaslight me into believing I was the one who created
a problem out of nothing, and even that the necklace
he got his sister had no engraving whatsoever. Unlucky for him,
I had contacted his mom while he was away.

Speaker 5 (52:24):
I just remembered a very sad, tragic tale.

Speaker 2 (52:27):
I remember when a young Samuel Donner he wanted to
join the cool kids. But instead of labeling you as
one of the cool kids, they.

Speaker 3 (52:34):
Called me salad boy because I ate nothing but salads.
I did not trade my lunch for a lunch.

Speaker 6 (52:40):
He's tally.

Speaker 1 (52:41):
You know what.

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Community will always welcome you with open arms, Sam, and make.

Speaker 3 (52:45):
You feel like a cool kid.

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Speaker 6 (53:02):
Now back to the story, Chom Chom stated that I
had misplaced my locket and was wondering if it had
accidentally been taken home by Adam when he was visiting.
She got back to me pretty quickly, saying that she
had found my necklace on her daughter Jane's present pile,
stacked away in a corner. She said that she would
return the necklace to me as soon as possible, and
that herself or Jane must have mistaken it for one
of her presents and put it back in the pile.

(53:24):
So she promised me that she would keep a hold
of it in her room until she got the chance
to return it. Immediately after, I had confirmation that Adam's
mom had the locket. I booked the cheapest flight home
I could find and asked his mom for a lift
to the airport that way she could return the necklace.
She agreed, and after that I sat planning exactly how
I would tell Adam that we were breaking up.

Speaker 5 (53:44):
I think you should tell him when you're already on
the plane.

Speaker 1 (53:46):
Yep. Yeah.

Speaker 6 (53:47):
I didn't need him to admit to stealing the necklace.
The fact that I had enough doubt in my mind
that I knew he had taken it was enough for
me to know that this relationship was going nowhere.

Speaker 5 (53:58):
Way to go.

Speaker 6 (53:58):
Ope, God, I love that crystallization in your brain. I
just wanted my necklace back. I stayed with Adam until
my flight, which was about a week ago. I let
him and his mom drive me to the airport and
I left the note breaking up with him, telling him
that my friends would be by to pick up my
stuff and move it between their flats. I took a
leave of absence from university until I work out where

(54:21):
I'm going to stay when I get back to the UK,
and have contacted my landlord about taking my name off
the lease. When Adam's mom gave me back my necklace,
his face was priceless. He looked like a deer in
the headlights. He was so angry, but he couldn't show
it in front of his mom. Is that, now that
I'm thinking about it, maybe that does make him look
like a deer in the headlights, Like try to be
angry but you can't show it.

Speaker 1 (54:42):
Yeah, just uh yeah. I would also leave a note
for the mom so he can't twist the words.

Speaker 3 (54:52):
Yeah.

Speaker 6 (54:52):
I wouldn't even involved Adham at all. I would have
had Adam not there, just the mom.

Speaker 1 (54:57):
Yeah.

Speaker 6 (54:57):
His sister Jane hasn't once questioned the missing necklace, and
it's been around two weeks now.

Speaker 5 (55:02):
I doubt she will ever notice. She is rather spoiled.

Speaker 6 (55:05):
And by the way, you can be spoiled too if
you want full episodes with stories like this boil Boy,
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Speaker 5 (55:19):
A jillion of them.

Speaker 6 (55:21):
And there is a little bit of an update here,
I mean, before before we finish.

Speaker 1 (55:25):
It, execute it perfectly, I'd say, I don't think i'd
do anything else differently yet getting out pretty quick got
the necklace back.

Speaker 7 (55:35):
I think would we confront him like, all right, cats
out of the bag, stop lying, where do we go
from here?

Speaker 5 (55:43):
Or we just like it's done well. I think they
did it and it was like there was nothing came
of it.

Speaker 6 (55:49):
He just was like, I can't what, I can't believe
that you do so ridiculous, saying you just like got
mad and left. Yeah. So I think it's more of like,
if you need the Catharsis, you should just like call
him and like tell him how trash he is and
that you know and you know that you don't need
the reassurance or the confirmation because you literally have it
in your hand. Yeah, And it was yeah, so you're trash.

(56:13):
You need to get off your chest and then move
on with your life. Put him in the review because
that guy's and let that be a lesson if anyone
is like insecure about the fact that you've had previous
relationships to the point where they're.

Speaker 1 (56:27):
Like, what do you did you like that guy? Yeah?

Speaker 5 (56:30):
Why do you like me?

Speaker 1 (56:31):
Do you still like that guy who's better at me
or him?

Speaker 7 (56:37):
Why do you bring that up?

Speaker 1 (56:38):
Huh? I don't know, so now we're all insecure. Riley. No, well,
I'm just saying, don't ask those questions.

Speaker 7 (56:44):
Why are you asking the question?

Speaker 1 (56:45):
I didn't. I just give you an example of what
questions and not to ask.

Speaker 6 (56:49):
Anyways, let's go ahead, and let's go ahead, and let's
go ahead and keep going.

Speaker 5 (56:55):
Let's go, let's go bust out the rulers. Yes, oh yes,
uh no, let's let's finished the story.

Speaker 6 (57:02):
I am glad to update that I am safe. I
am back home with my necklace from Kyle. I am
just home from visiting his grave, telling him this entire
story and laughing about it. It reminded me that I
should update and probably hold higher standards in men for
myself Dan. And that is a tragic yet uplifting end

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