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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Welcome back to the Overcomer podcast. I'm your host, Jennaa Lopez.
Thank you guys so much for choosing to listen to
this episode today. Today we are going into a advice
you guys sent me questions on my Instagram or topics
that you guys needed advice on. So we're going to
get into weight loss, advice, relationship, friendship, mental health, all
(00:30):
that good stuff. So let's get started. I'm going to
keep everybody anonymous and just kind of keep it more generalized,
so protecting the privacy of everybody. But I'm excited because
a lot of you guys are asking for very valid, valid,
(00:52):
valid things. I also want to preface and start by
saying that your feelings are valid and every situation, whatever
you guys are going through, whether it be losing weight
or in a relationship where you're just questioning yourself about
you know, certain feelings you're gaslighting yourself, Your feelings are valid,
(01:13):
My loves, do not ever, ever, ever question the way
that you feel. Sometimes we just need to process it
and understand where those feelings are coming from. Okay, so
let's get started setting boundaries while still glorifying God, specifically
one sided friendships it's draining. I feel you, I hear you.
(01:35):
I have been in those positions as well. And any relationship,
any friendship in general, there should be healthy boundaries placed.
But also it's the way that you communicate those boundaries
on how you want. How are those boundaries going to
benefit you both in that friendship, relationship, etc. You have
to communicate that correctly. And if we're talking spiritually, still
(02:00):
glorifying God, it doesn't mean that you're not glorifying God.
If you set these boundaries, boundaries are healthy. I don't
want to be mistaken, but I do believe that Jesus
did have boundaries himself. They're healthy, they're meant for a reason,
they're created. If we're talking about friendships one sided friendships,
look at your circle. How are these people bringing value
and substance into my life? Are they leading me closer
(02:23):
to God? Or they're pulling me away? And that's the
question for every little thing, every relationship that you're in.
Are these people benefiting me? Are we getting closer to
God together? Or am I being stripped away of that relationship?
How much energy are we putting into these friendships? How
much energy are we putting into these relationships? And I
think you'll find your answer and at the end of
(02:43):
the day, take it to God, my love, take it
to God and pray and see what relationships are for
you and not for you. Yes, it shouldn't be one
sided a friendship, a relationship. It takes two. Both have
to put in the work and understand each other and
have those healthy boundaries. This is another thing we're gonna
(03:04):
stay on the boundaries topic. You guys, how do you
go about cutting off family without creating more drama? If
this is between you and your husband, If you guys
are equally deciding in unity that you guys are gonna
cut off these family members, then there shouldn't be such
a huge problem. If it's for toxic reasons, I've done
it before. I've cut off family. It's not the prettiest
(03:25):
I'm not gonna lie. But if we're talking about you know,
husband's family or your wife's family, again, it's about the
way that you communicate it and how you say it,
the message that you're delivering. How are you saying that
like the hurt that they caused you and in the
most mature and respectful way. You're not calling them out
like you know, fuck you this, this, and that, Like, no,
(03:47):
this is in respect for my family and if you
have kids, to protect my kids and their future and
their relationships. I need healthy, healthy and valuable relationships around
myself and my kids, and I don't think that you
guys are doing that for me. So with all due respect,
I'm gonna have to just cut it off, etc. Etc.
(04:08):
It's the way that you say things, think about the
message that you're gonna be delivering, and always come in
with peace and very very mature and very confident in
what you're saying. But it should it. I'm not gonna
say it's not gonna cause more drama because a lot
of people don't understand. People won't understand your boundaries or
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the why. But as long as you understand and you
communicate effectively and it's benefiting you in the long run,
then I'm sorry, but you're gonna have to do it,
you know, like it's gonna have to be like sorry, guys,
like this is gonna be better for me and my family,
because at the end of the day, that's what it is.
It's not about his family, your husband's family, or your
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wife's family. It's about the family that you guys are
creating in your own home. Any advice on friendship breakups,
we also work in the same department. All right, Friendship
breakups are not the easiest I've been through them. I
feel like it hurts more than a actual relationship because
that person also knows you like the back of your hand,
(05:15):
and that connection is very special. So I'm so sorry
that you're going through that. I feel you. But sometimes
they are healthy. Sometimes friendships are seasonal. Sometimes they aren't
meant to be part of our lives forever, and maybe
they are, but in different times, you need allow space
(05:37):
for both of you to grow and to come back together,
to come back and realize and value that friendship that
you guys had. Again, if it's it's toxic, or it's
like it's just back and forth and you guys aren't
understanding each other, take a break and that's okay. Whether
it can be, how long it needs to be, you
guys are in control of it. And again, it's all
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about communicating effectively and talking maturely. Like you guys have
to consider be a little bit selfish. At the end
of the day. You have to be selfish about who
you want in your life. And again, who's gonna benefit
benefit me in the long run. How can I improve
as a person? How can I improve better as a person?
How can I feel more confident in myself? Thank you
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so much for that question. I'm going to be completely
honest with you. It is a journey. It is a
long journey of self realization, becoming self aware about what
you're feeling, what makes you feel good, and staying true
to yourself is most important. If there's anything that I
can can say or speak into this is that being
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true to yourself and not what others want for you
is going to make you more confident than actually doing
the stuff that people are telling you to do. Why
Because it's what you want, It's how you want to
live your life. If this is what you're looking for
and you want to better yourself, focus on your mental health,
focus on your on your spirituality, if you believe in God,
(07:05):
if you go to church or whatever, tap more into
your Bible, get connected. If you're having difficulty understanding yourself, look,
I promise you, and I've been practicing you for the
last couple of months. Understanding God is better at understanding yourself,
and that's how you become a better person. If we're
talking about friendships. If you need to get better and
your friendships, you got to find the root as to
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where each emotion is coming from. If you're upset, if
you lash out on your friends, why, if you are disconnecting,
or if you are put isolating yourself why. Everybody's goal,
no matter what, is to be a better person. Practice kindness,
show grace to yourself, Love yourself, love others, and that
(07:51):
I promise will give you the most confident All right,
you guys, we're gonna want a quick break and we'll
be right back. Welcome back, you guys. I'm struggling keeping
a good relationship with God. I feel I keep pulling away.
I think we've all been there, spiritual warfare. I feel
like it's not the easiest. Walking with God isn't the easiest.
And I just learned this in church the other day
(08:12):
about having doubt in God and self doubt, and it's biblical.
It's normal to you know, we're gonna be doubting. It's fine,
and that's what pulls us away. But you cannot let yourself.
That is letting the enemy, the devil win, That is
giving him exactly what he needs in order to bring
you back and for you to just lose your life,
(08:36):
stay locked in, stay focused. My favorite Bible verses John
thirteen seven and then that specific chapter, it's talking about
Jesus washing his disciples feet and one of the disciples ask, oh,
why why are you doing this? Like, don't stop doing this.
I'm not gonna I'm paraphrasing, of course, but in John
(08:59):
thirteen seven specifically, and it's my favorite verse, and it's
the one that's in my bio, it's the one that's
tattooed on me. You may not understand what I'm doing now,
but soon you will. And I apply this in every
area of my life. Maybe we don't understand what God
is doing right now, but he makes our mistakes our
perfect will, and later on down the line, we're going
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to see that while this was always his plan and
it was always for the better of the good and
for ourselves. How to separate yourself from the world when
trying to walk with God and be christ like, Well, again,
that isn't the easiest. It's also not separating yourselves. We're
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meant to be a light in the darkness. If you
are obviously struggling with sin or whatever. Also, again, have
grace with yourself, because that is what's given to us,
is grace and love. It's also learning from those sins
and loving God more so much that you don't want
to sin. And that doesn't mean to walk away from
the world. It's also it means to be a light
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in the world. It means to just let your relationship
with God be a reflection into the darkness that is
surrounded around us. If that makes sense. Being christ Like again,
I would tap into knowing the Word, knowing what God
wants us to be, like understanding the fruits of the spirit,
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knowing Jesus Again. We're not meant to be these perfect,
perfect people. We were designed to sin and that's that's
who we are. But we could be better and make
better choices and always keep in mind to love like Jesus.
How to get over uncomfortable confrontations with someone after calling
them out ooh ooh. I always get like uncomfortable and
(10:44):
weird when I'm like expressing my feelings and then that
other person doesn't receive them well and it just gets
weird and awkward, And especially if like your friends or whatever,
I feel that uncomfortableness isn't the best feeling, but it
also helps us grow. And if you're having uncomfortable confrontations,
have another talk. Just be like, hey, are we on
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the same page? Did I say something in the last
talk that you didn't like or et cetera, et cetera. Again,
communicate like what is it? If it matters that much
to you, communicate and figure it out so that way
you guys can move forward together and you guys don't
have to be awkward. I'm trying to lose weight, but
it finds it so hard to get motivated and what
motivated you, To be honest, I hated the gym growing up.
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It was just like a place that I just hated
because my mom would wake me up at five in
the morning and I had to go go exercise and
it just wasn't I had an unhemply relationship with the gym.
But then I started, obviously seeing the results. I'm the
type of person that when I put my mind to it,
I'm going to get it done and I'm going to
perfect it. I'm a perfection This is so bad, but
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maybe that's not the best advice. But when you like
when you start doing something like and you see like, okay,
the challenge. I like a challenge, like what it does
to my mind and what it does to my body.
It stimulates my brain and it's like, Okay, I'm not
doing this right I'm gonna do it right now. And
losing weight isn't the easiest. It's an up and down
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roller coaster cycle. Trust me, you guys. It is so hard.
But if there's anything that's gonna help you is to
understand also your body. What helps your body, what kind
of foods does your body like? How does my body
react to this? Like it's not the easiest, but what
motivated me was also just being very unhappy. I know
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that sounds so cliche and just probably not the most helpful,
but I was so unhappy with where my body was
at that I needed to make that change for my
mental health because it was such a big part of
my life. And obviously being in social media and stuff
like it was such a big part of me. And
I'm ashamed to say that social media was a huge
part of it. But I'm also happy because I'm so
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grateful at where my body is at now. Obviously I've
got two surgeries, I have taken medication. I said, like
a couple episodes ago that I have done ozebic. If
it works for you, great, If it doesn't, then okay,
I am not against I'm not shaming anybody that does
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any of these things. You do what works for your body.
And there's like a lot of questions too about about
how to stay consistent about eating habits, et cetera. You
have to do what works for your body. Try things out,
trial an error, try it out. If it doesn't work,
it doesn't work, let's move on to the next thing.
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I highly recommend getting a trainer to start. They are
very motivational and they help guide you, especially in the
gym and with nutrition and just motivation, especially from someone
that you don't know. I think it's better because they're
non biased. Then they can just help guide you correctly.
How can I stop guarding my heart? I feel like
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I've been hurt so much. My heart is stone. I
feel that. I feel that because I feel like i've
I was very misunderstood and people would just use my
heart and take advantage of it. So I've been in
that position before, and it's not about guarding your heart.
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It's not that you want to stop, it's what you want.
You got to see things and see, Okay, how much
access am I going to allow this person or this
situation into my heart? You really have to think, is
this gonna hurt me? Proverbs four twenty three says, above
all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows
from it. Our heart is the core of us. It's
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who we are. If we're receiving toxic relationships, if we're
taking crap from this person or our work, or if
this isn't if this isn't making my heart better and
it's only making a heart, then maybe I shouldn't be
allowing it in the first place. Guard your heart, it's
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not The purpose isn't to stop it. It's to be
aware and to be intentional of what goes in and out.
Your heart is the source of your thoughts, your beliefs,
your attitudes, your actions. It's vital to your emotional and
spiritual health. And I, at least for me, what feeds
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my heart and helps me guard it as well is
also God. It has a significant impact with God. Be
aware of what you allow into your mind, such even
as such as movies, music, the people you spend time with.
You have to be intentional about what you focus on
and bring to your mind and just be aware about
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your own secret thoughts and feelings and such as like anger, resentment, pride, jealousy, etc.
Because that is exactly how we flow. Don't stop guarding
your heart, but just be intentional and be aware because
that is how we just live. Our heart is meant
to live, is to help us live. Okay, you guys,
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we're gonna wrap it up almost, but this one's a
good one. How do you begin to heal the things
you never talk about? Oh? I feel like I've been
through and seen a lot of things that have hurt me,
and I've silently held it in and it's damaged to
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me more than it has been good. So I think
the first process, and the first step is the first
step to the process is to actually talk about it.
Maybe if you're uncomfortable talking about it with family or friends,
find a therapist or someone maybe out your church, or
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if you do have a close friend, talk about it
even if they may not understand a lot of time
I spent talking about my grief with people that wouldn't
understand me, but it just helped me release it say
it out loud. Another thing is also healing begins with God.
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Also like that is where the source of our healing
and our pain, I mean the source of our healing
and our happiness comes from. Because he's just love. All
he wants is just to give love and to be
a light. And if you don't have any specific person,
then just take it to prayer. Like, look, God, I
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ask you today that you just come into my life
and you heal the certain parts of me that only
you know that you've seen, and that you can understand,
that you can help me understand why I feel this way,
and that I can just let this pain or this
hurt go so that I can move on with my life,
so I don't build up or hold resentment and any situation.
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And if anything, I do want to say, like a
little prayer over your guys, over your guys's journeys. I
do want to say that I'm proud of you, Of
every single person that's listening to this episode today, I'm
proud of you. I know that God's proud of you.
I know that it's been getting very spiritual here in
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these last couple of weeks, but I just feel like
it is so evident and it's so important that you
guys connect and feel and hear your heart and feed
your spiritual life, and that is it's the best way
to start any healing, to have your answers to the
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questions that you have about anything you know. It's not easy. Again,
I want you to know that you have a person
here that wants to be a light and to be
able to give the best advice and guide you guys correctly.
So I do want to say and speak a little
life and prayer over you guys, that if you're in
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this moment right now, I ask you God that for
any person that is in pain or that is struggling
with toxic relationships or friendships and need a way out,
that they may draw closer to you and your light
and who you are because you are the source of love,
You're the source of grace, and only you can and
only you can, provide that healing that we all need. Lord,
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I diminish any anxiety, any depression, that anything that is
not doing good into our heart, into our brains, that
it doesn't reach to our hearts. That we are fed
good things, that we're fed good thoughts, That you speak
to our minds so that we can reach our hearts. God,
that you teach us to guard our hearts and to
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protect it, and that you could bless us on this
journey not only today but every single day, that we
learn things about ourselves and to have grace with ourselves,
an understanding that it is okay not to be okay,
but that you're always gonna be with us, and every
single part of that journey. Hey man, thank you guys
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so much for listening to this episode. I pray that
you guys got some answers. We're gonna do a part two.
We're gonna do like a relationship series, like an actual
dating dating, dating one so that we can figure out
what we're doing in this dating life. It's twenty twenty five.
We're gonna, we're gonna we're gonna talk about it. Make
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sure you guys leave our review, like comment, subscribe, and
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Welcome back to the Overcomer podcast. I'm your host, Jennaa Lopez.
Thank you guys so much for choosing to listen to
this episode today. Today we are going into a advice
you guys sent me questions on my Instagram or topics
that you guys needed advice on. So we're going to
get into weight loss, advice, relationship, friendship, mental health, all
(00:30):
that good stuff. So let's get started. I'm going to
keep everybody anonymous and just kind of keep it more generalized,
so protecting the privacy of everybody. But I'm excited because
a lot of you guys are asking for very valid, valid,
(00:52):
valid things. I also want to preface and start by
saying that your feelings are valid and every situation, whatever
you guys are going through, whether it be losing weight
or in a relationship where you're just questioning yourself about
you know, certain feelings you're gaslighting yourself, Your feelings are valid,
(01:13):
My loves, do not ever, ever, ever question the way
that you feel. Sometimes we just need to process it
and understand where those feelings are coming from. Okay, so
let's get started setting boundaries while still glorifying God, specifically
one sided friendships it's draining. I feel you, I hear you.
(01:35):
I have been in those positions as well. And any relationship,
any friendship in general, there should be healthy boundaries placed.
But also it's the way that you communicate those boundaries
on how you want. How are those boundaries going to
benefit you both in that friendship, relationship, etc. You have
to communicate that correctly. And if we're talking spiritually, still
(02:00):
glorifying God, it doesn't mean that you're not glorifying God.
If you set these boundaries, boundaries are healthy. I don't
want to be mistaken, but I do believe that Jesus
did have boundaries himself. They're healthy, they're meant for a reason,
they're created. If we're talking about friendships one sided friendships,
look at your circle. How are these people bringing value
and substance into my life? Are they leading me closer
(02:23):
to God? Or they're pulling me away? And that's the
question for every little thing, every relationship that you're in.
Are these people benefiting me? Are we getting closer to
God together? Or am I being stripped away of that relationship?
How much energy are we putting into these friendships? How
much energy are we putting into these relationships? And I
think you'll find your answer and at the end of
(02:43):
the day, take it to God, my love, take it
to God and pray and see what relationships are for
you and not for you. Yes, it shouldn't be one
sided a friendship, a relationship. It takes two. Both have
to put in the work and understand each other and
have those healthy boundaries. This is another thing we're gonna
(03:04):
stay on the boundaries topic. You guys, how do you
go about cutting off family without creating more drama? If
this is between you and your husband, If you guys
are equally deciding in unity that you guys are gonna
cut off these family members, then there shouldn't be such
a huge problem. If it's for toxic reasons, I've done
it before. I've cut off family. It's not the prettiest
(03:25):
I'm not gonna lie. But if we're talking about you know,
husband's family or your wife's family, again, it's about the
way that you communicate it and how you say it,
the message that you're delivering. How are you saying that
like the hurt that they caused you and in the
most mature and respectful way. You're not calling them out
like you know, fuck you this, this, and that, Like, no,
(03:47):
this is in respect for my family and if you
have kids, to protect my kids and their future and
their relationships. I need healthy, healthy and valuable relationships around
myself and my kids, and I don't think that you
guys are doing that for me. So with all due respect,
I'm gonna have to just cut it off, etc. Etc.
(04:08):
It's the way that you say things, think about the
message that you're gonna be delivering, and always come in
with peace and very very mature and very confident in
what you're saying. But it should it. I'm not gonna
say it's not gonna cause more drama because a lot
of people don't understand. People won't understand your boundaries or
(04:30):
the why. But as long as you understand and you
communicate effectively and it's benefiting you in the long run,
then I'm sorry, but you're gonna have to do it,
you know, like it's gonna have to be like sorry, guys,
like this is gonna be better for me and my family,
because at the end of the day, that's what it is.
It's not about his family, your husband's family, or your
(04:53):
wife's family. It's about the family that you guys are
creating in your own home. Any advice on friendship breakups,
we also work in the same department. All right, Friendship
breakups are not the easiest I've been through them. I
feel like it hurts more than a actual relationship because
that person also knows you like the back of your hand,
(05:15):
and that connection is very special. So I'm so sorry
that you're going through that. I feel you. But sometimes
they are healthy. Sometimes friendships are seasonal. Sometimes they aren't
meant to be part of our lives forever, and maybe
they are, but in different times, you need allow space
(05:37):
for both of you to grow and to come back together,
to come back and realize and value that friendship that
you guys had. Again, if it's it's toxic, or it's
like it's just back and forth and you guys aren't
understanding each other, take a break and that's okay. Whether
it can be, how long it needs to be, you
guys are in control of it. And again, it's all
(05:59):
about communicating effectively and talking maturely. Like you guys have
to consider be a little bit selfish. At the end
of the day. You have to be selfish about who
you want in your life. And again, who's gonna benefit
benefit me in the long run. How can I improve
as a person? How can I improve better as a person?
How can I feel more confident in myself? Thank you
(06:22):
so much for that question. I'm going to be completely
honest with you. It is a journey. It is a
long journey of self realization, becoming self aware about what
you're feeling, what makes you feel good, and staying true
to yourself is most important. If there's anything that I
can can say or speak into this is that being
(06:44):
true to yourself and not what others want for you
is going to make you more confident than actually doing
the stuff that people are telling you to do. Why
Because it's what you want, It's how you want to
live your life. If this is what you're looking for
and you want to better yourself, focus on your mental health,
focus on your on your spirituality, if you believe in God,
(07:05):
if you go to church or whatever, tap more into
your Bible, get connected. If you're having difficulty understanding yourself, look,
I promise you, and I've been practicing you for the
last couple of months. Understanding God is better at understanding yourself,
and that's how you become a better person. If we're
talking about friendships. If you need to get better and
your friendships, you got to find the root as to
(07:29):
where each emotion is coming from. If you're upset, if
you lash out on your friends, why, if you are disconnecting,
or if you are put isolating yourself why. Everybody's goal,
no matter what, is to be a better person. Practice kindness,
show grace to yourself, Love yourself, love others, and that
(07:51):
I promise will give you the most confident All right,
you guys, we're gonna want a quick break and we'll
be right back. Welcome back, you guys. I'm struggling keeping
a good relationship with God. I feel I keep pulling away.
I think we've all been there, spiritual warfare. I feel
like it's not the easiest. Walking with God isn't the easiest.
And I just learned this in church the other day
(08:12):
about having doubt in God and self doubt, and it's biblical.
It's normal to you know, we're gonna be doubting. It's fine,
and that's what pulls us away. But you cannot let yourself.
That is letting the enemy, the devil win, That is
giving him exactly what he needs in order to bring
you back and for you to just lose your life,
(08:36):
stay locked in, stay focused. My favorite Bible verses John
thirteen seven and then that specific chapter, it's talking about
Jesus washing his disciples feet and one of the disciples ask, oh,
why why are you doing this? Like, don't stop doing this.
I'm not gonna I'm paraphrasing, of course, but in John
(08:59):
thirteen seven specifically, and it's my favorite verse, and it's
the one that's in my bio, it's the one that's
tattooed on me. You may not understand what I'm doing now,
but soon you will. And I apply this in every
area of my life. Maybe we don't understand what God
is doing right now, but he makes our mistakes our
perfect will, and later on down the line, we're going
(09:19):
to see that while this was always his plan and
it was always for the better of the good and
for ourselves. How to separate yourself from the world when
trying to walk with God and be christ like, Well, again,
that isn't the easiest. It's also not separating yourselves. We're
(09:40):
meant to be a light in the darkness. If you
are obviously struggling with sin or whatever. Also, again, have
grace with yourself, because that is what's given to us,
is grace and love. It's also learning from those sins
and loving God more so much that you don't want
to sin. And that doesn't mean to walk away from
the world. It's also it means to be a light
(10:02):
in the world. It means to just let your relationship
with God be a reflection into the darkness that is
surrounded around us. If that makes sense. Being christ Like again,
I would tap into knowing the Word, knowing what God
wants us to be, like understanding the fruits of the spirit,
(10:22):
knowing Jesus Again. We're not meant to be these perfect,
perfect people. We were designed to sin and that's that's
who we are. But we could be better and make
better choices and always keep in mind to love like Jesus.
How to get over uncomfortable confrontations with someone after calling
them out ooh ooh. I always get like uncomfortable and
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weird when I'm like expressing my feelings and then that
other person doesn't receive them well and it just gets
weird and awkward, And especially if like your friends or whatever,
I feel that uncomfortableness isn't the best feeling, but it
also helps us grow. And if you're having uncomfortable confrontations,
have another talk. Just be like, hey, are we on
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the same page? Did I say something in the last
talk that you didn't like or et cetera, et cetera. Again,
communicate like what is it? If it matters that much
to you, communicate and figure it out so that way
you guys can move forward together and you guys don't
have to be awkward. I'm trying to lose weight, but
it finds it so hard to get motivated and what
motivated you, To be honest, I hated the gym growing up.
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It was just like a place that I just hated
because my mom would wake me up at five in
the morning and I had to go go exercise and
it just wasn't I had an unhemply relationship with the gym.
But then I started, obviously seeing the results. I'm the
type of person that when I put my mind to it,
I'm going to get it done and I'm going to
perfect it. I'm a perfection This is so bad, but
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maybe that's not the best advice. But when you like
when you start doing something like and you see like, okay,
the challenge. I like a challenge, like what it does
to my mind and what it does to my body.
It stimulates my brain and it's like, Okay, I'm not
doing this right I'm gonna do it right now. And
losing weight isn't the easiest. It's an up and down
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roller coaster cycle. Trust me, you guys. It is so hard.
But if there's anything that's gonna help you is to
understand also your body. What helps your body, what kind
of foods does your body like? How does my body
react to this? Like it's not the easiest, but what
motivated me was also just being very unhappy. I know
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that sounds so cliche and just probably not the most helpful,
but I was so unhappy with where my body was
at that I needed to make that change for my
mental health because it was such a big part of
my life. And obviously being in social media and stuff
like it was such a big part of me. And
I'm ashamed to say that social media was a huge
part of it. But I'm also happy because I'm so
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grateful at where my body is at now. Obviously I've
got two surgeries, I have taken medication. I said, like
a couple episodes ago that I have done ozebic. If
it works for you, great, If it doesn't, then okay,
I am not against I'm not shaming anybody that does
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any of these things. You do what works for your body.
And there's like a lot of questions too about about
how to stay consistent about eating habits, et cetera. You
have to do what works for your body. Try things out,
trial an error, try it out. If it doesn't work,
it doesn't work, let's move on to the next thing.
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I highly recommend getting a trainer to start. They are
very motivational and they help guide you, especially in the
gym and with nutrition and just motivation, especially from someone
that you don't know. I think it's better because they're
non biased. Then they can just help guide you correctly.
How can I stop guarding my heart? I feel like
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I've been hurt so much. My heart is stone. I
feel that. I feel that because I feel like i've
I was very misunderstood and people would just use my
heart and take advantage of it. So I've been in
that position before, and it's not about guarding your heart.
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It's not that you want to stop, it's what you want.
You got to see things and see, Okay, how much
access am I going to allow this person or this
situation into my heart? You really have to think, is
this gonna hurt me? Proverbs four twenty three says, above
all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows
from it. Our heart is the core of us. It's
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who we are. If we're receiving toxic relationships, if we're
taking crap from this person or our work, or if
this isn't if this isn't making my heart better and
it's only making a heart, then maybe I shouldn't be
allowing it in the first place. Guard your heart, it's
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not The purpose isn't to stop it. It's to be
aware and to be intentional of what goes in and out.
Your heart is the source of your thoughts, your beliefs,
your attitudes, your actions. It's vital to your emotional and
spiritual health. And I, at least for me, what feeds
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my heart and helps me guard it as well is
also God. It has a significant impact with God. Be
aware of what you allow into your mind, such even
as such as movies, music, the people you spend time with.
You have to be intentional about what you focus on
and bring to your mind and just be aware about
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your own secret thoughts and feelings and such as like anger, resentment, pride, jealousy, etc.
Because that is exactly how we flow. Don't stop guarding
your heart, but just be intentional and be aware because
that is how we just live. Our heart is meant
to live, is to help us live. Okay, you guys,
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we're gonna wrap it up almost, but this one's a
good one. How do you begin to heal the things
you never talk about? Oh? I feel like I've been
through and seen a lot of things that have hurt me,
and I've silently held it in and it's damaged to
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me more than it has been good. So I think
the first process, and the first step is the first
step to the process is to actually talk about it.
Maybe if you're uncomfortable talking about it with family or friends,
find a therapist or someone maybe out your church, or
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if you do have a close friend, talk about it
even if they may not understand a lot of time
I spent talking about my grief with people that wouldn't
understand me, but it just helped me release it say
it out loud. Another thing is also healing begins with God.
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Also like that is where the source of our healing
and our pain, I mean the source of our healing
and our happiness comes from. Because he's just love. All
he wants is just to give love and to be
a light. And if you don't have any specific person,
then just take it to prayer. Like, look, God, I
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ask you today that you just come into my life
and you heal the certain parts of me that only
you know that you've seen, and that you can understand,
that you can help me understand why I feel this way,
and that I can just let this pain or this
hurt go so that I can move on with my life,
so I don't build up or hold resentment and any situation.
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And if anything, I do want to say, like a
little prayer over your guys, over your guys's journeys. I
do want to say that I'm proud of you, Of
every single person that's listening to this episode today, I'm
proud of you. I know that God's proud of you.
I know that it's been getting very spiritual here in
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these last couple of weeks, but I just feel like
it is so evident and it's so important that you
guys connect and feel and hear your heart and feed
your spiritual life, and that is it's the best way
to start any healing, to have your answers to the
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questions that you have about anything you know. It's not easy. Again,
I want you to know that you have a person
here that wants to be a light and to be
able to give the best advice and guide you guys correctly.
So I do want to say and speak a little
life and prayer over you guys, that if you're in
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this moment right now, I ask you God that for
any person that is in pain or that is struggling
with toxic relationships or friendships and need a way out,
that they may draw closer to you and your light
and who you are because you are the source of love,
You're the source of grace, and only you can and
only you can, provide that healing that we all need. Lord,
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I diminish any anxiety, any depression, that anything that is
not doing good into our heart, into our brains, that
it doesn't reach to our hearts. That we are fed
good things, that we're fed good thoughts, That you speak
to our minds so that we can reach our hearts. God,
that you teach us to guard our hearts and to
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protect it, and that you could bless us on this
journey not only today but every single day, that we
learn things about ourselves and to have grace with ourselves,
an understanding that it is okay not to be okay,
but that you're always gonna be with us, and every
single part of that journey. Hey man, thank you guys
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so much for listening to this episode. I pray that
you guys got some answers. We're gonna do a part two.
We're gonna do like a relationship series, like an actual
dating dating, dating one so that we can figure out
what we're doing in this dating life. It's twenty twenty five.
We're gonna, we're gonna we're gonna talk about it. Make
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sure you guys leave our review, like comment, subscribe, and
I will see you guys next Tuesday. Bye. Overcome for
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