October 21, 2025 • 21 mins
halloween is a touchy topic especially for those that follow God so here is a little clarity and my personal take. also a little preparation for the holidays as is comes around and how i prepare to go through the waves of grief.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Welcome back to the Overcomfort podcast. I'm your houset Jennica Lopez.
Thank you guys so much for choosing to listen and
watch to today's episode. If you guys saw the title
and the description, we are going to be talking about
my views on Halloween, how do I feel about it,
and grief during the holidays as they come up. And
(00:26):
as you guys know, I have experience grief. I know
what grief is like and the shift and help manage
through it. And yeah, also going to be talking about
the little These are things that are celebrated in my culture,
things that I necessarily don't celebrate myself. So I want
(00:49):
to be able to talk about that with you guys.
And today we're going to be making pumpkin chocolate chip
cookies because it is the season. It is fall, and
it's one of my favorite seasons of the year. And
give my honest views or someone that follows God as
a Christian, let's say, let's get started. So I, as
(01:16):
I was preparing for today's episode, I was looking into
the actual facts about Halloween. First of all, one, let
me give a preface of just in general, I am
not a person that likes horror anything scary. I don't
like scary movies. I don't like any I like thrillers,
but nothing like actual spiritual like paranormal activity. What's that
(01:41):
other one? It started insidious? All those movies terrifying me,
Like just in general as a person, aside from like
the spiritual aspect of it is just something that I
don't personally like. But I wanted to look into why
people tie it with the devil and christian and all that,
(02:02):
so I looked it up. Historically, Halloween comes from the
Celtic festival as sam Payne, marking the end of a
harvest and the start of winter. Okay, people believe that
night blurred the line between the living and the dead,
so they'd light bonfires and wear costumes to protect themselves
from spirits. And when Christianity started going into the early Church,
(02:25):
the church made all day Saints on November first, which
I think is the other little mort ghost if I'm
not mistaken, to honor saints, and October thirty first became
Hollow's Eve, which is Halloween. So those are little fun
little facts that I didn't even realize that I didn't
even know myself. So in case that you didn't know.
(02:46):
There you go as well, But I read that a
lot of Christians reject Halloween because of what it represents.
It represents a lot of darkness, witchcraft could be very demonic,
and those are all the things that the Bible tells
us not to engage with. And as I'm explaining this
to you guys, I'm also learning as well because therese
(03:08):
are a lot of things that I didn't know. I
obviously knew that it was between right and wrong, and obviously, again,
the Bible also tells us to not mess with spiritual things,
opening doors like that, fortune telling, false gods, calling on
the dead, even if we just see it as just
(03:30):
for fun, and I know that for a lot of us,
it's for me at least. I don't even want to
come off as judgmental. Again, this is this is my perspective,
and I'm not judging you for it or anything. Like
I said before, we're all learning this together, and I
(03:54):
just want to give you guys my idea and how
I feel about it and what I plan to do.
And I started thinking about it, I'm like, how would
I how would I raise my kids? How would I
choose to do it? Because, yeah, it's something fun. Kids
don't know about it until kids don't know about it
until you actually explain it to them, and also when
(04:16):
they get older and they start realizing things for themselves.
But for example, for me, like I don't want to
have my kid be the only kid at school that
doesn't get to dress up or miss out on trick
or treating or experiences like that. I do think that
it is an opportunity to redeem versus reject the entire holiday.
(04:39):
So for me for this year, for example, I'm a
very homely person. I love being able to make people smile,
and I don't go out on Halloween in general. I've
only gone to one Halloween party that wasn't even on Halloween,
and I dressed up. I was also in a very
bad time at that time, and it was just, you know,
(05:01):
no excuses, but I just felt like I wasn't all
in my right senses. But anyways, I generally don't go
out on Halloween in general, but I am someone that
likes to if kids come to the house, I'm not
going to completely have the lights off and not offer candy.
I want to give it an opportunity to make kids
smile and to be able to teach them, like to
(05:23):
be a light in the darkness. And I know how
cliche that sounds, but it's true. And I know that
God Jesus didn't avoid dark spaces. He entered them to
bring light. He met people where they were not to conform,
but to transform them. And I want to be able
to do the same and have that opportunity. So I
(05:44):
thought of a cute idea this year for Halloween, and
I think I will be giving out candy. I don't
have my house decorated. I mean I have it like
fall decorated, to have pumpkins and stuff, but nothing like
spooky or like anything like that ghost or whatever. Like
(06:06):
I said, I would like to keep it like neutral,
just also because of Thanksgiving, like I don't want to
have to switch it out anyways. But I think this
year for Halloween, I want to be able to give
out counting but have the opportunity to give something with it.
So my sister did a couple of years ago, like
little Bible versus or simply just giving like a little
(06:28):
small word or And I don't know if I'll dress
up or if I want to be anything that is
like obviously I don't I wouldn't be like the devil.
I wouldn't be like an angel even or any witch
or anything like that. Something funny, something cute, appropriate. But
(06:49):
I do want to seek it as an opportunity to
go if I light, to show light, to show love,
most importantly, because I also don't want to be that
neighbor on the street that they look at like, oh,
they're born, they don't celebrate Halloween because they're Christian or whatever. No,
I want it for them to be as an opportunity like, oh,
like she's cool, like she's still Christian and gives out candy,
(07:13):
but in a beautiful way like again, like an opportunity
to be a light in the darkness. And when it
comes to like the kids, when I want to raise
my kids, and I think it'll be the same the
same way. I want to have that experience for them
and for them to be able to go to school
and just like But it not in just that area.
(07:37):
But I think it's important about how we raise them
in general, the importance of just being kind and loving
and still being quote unquote cool or whatever. Again, it's
about how you raise them and what they believe in
and knowing the difference and why sometimes it's not okay
and sometimes it is like in certain ways if I'm
(07:59):
making sense. So then the next holiday after that is Diatos.
And you guys, I know it is very heavy and
Hispanic Latin culture. It is celebrating day of the dead.
It can be sensitive to some and I want to
(08:21):
be very careful because I'll again, if you celebrate it,
I totally respect you, but understand why I personally don't.
First of all, in general, I never celebrated it growing up.
It just wasn't something that was made accustomed to me
or that was as important as some people feel it
is for them. Again all respect, it is a holiday
(08:48):
that's tied to love, remembrance and honoring the family members
who have passed away. And obviously you guys know my
mom uh and my dad have passed away. I think
in that holiday they also taken as an opportunity to
invite them to communicate, which I don't necessarily believe in.
(09:10):
And I do think that it's okay to honor and
remember said past ones in our daily lives and what
I do normally. I also looked it up. It's a
tradition rooted in the belief that the spirits of the
dead returned to visit the living. During that day, people
build alters, food and talk to them. Even if it's cultural,
(09:33):
it does connect to spiritual practices and that invites the
communication with the dead. And also Biblically, we're told not
to do that. Once our soul passes, it's at rest,
it doesn't come back. It is with God, it is
in heaven. It is you know, a whole different scenario situation.
(09:53):
And for me, remembering someone doesn't have to be on
that specific day. It is also just again, like I've
said before, we can honor them and have the opportunity
to yell out. I say, I guess because I know
that I can't communicate with my mom. I know that
that sounds crazy, and butterflies always remind me of her,
(10:14):
but I know that that's not her in a butterfly form.
I know that God has her next to her and
she's resting, and it sometimes it's hard for people to
understand that. I believe that, but that is something that
I do. But I celebrate her legacy. I celebrate who
she is all year long. The same thing with my
dad and his own in my own way, things that
(10:37):
I remember him by, and I know that I don't
need an altar or ritual to keep their memory alive.
And yeah, I think that to each their own. I
deeply respect everybody that does the beautiful culture of it.
(10:59):
I think we have amazing celebrations, but I think, again,
to each their own. And this is the way that
I choose to live my life and how I view things.
And I do think that it could just be celebrated
all year long, not on a specific day. And if
I do have kids, one day, I want them to
understand that I want to understand this, not that it's
(11:23):
a rule or something that you know opposed to, but
to know actually why. And we don't celebrate things just
for fun or out of reverence, but that they could
still have fun, be creative, and participate in community with
their friends or whomever, but in ways that reflect light
(11:45):
love and not darkness. And we can remember our loved
ones not just on certain holidays or the day they're
passing or whatever, but in how we live, how we
love and continue their legacy alive. For sure, I'm very
(12:07):
excited for these cookies, you guys. These are I know
that these are gonna be delicious. So moving on, obviously
talking about remembering our loved ones and keeping their memory alive.
The holidays are coming up. They are right around the corner.
(12:32):
They're creeping up on me, and this year is going
to be thirteen years that my mom has passed away,
And honestly, if I'm being completely honest, I think I'm
getting a little bit tired of talking about it. Personally.
I feel like in the way that my growth is
right now and the way that I have healed in
(12:55):
my grief, I feel like maybe this year I'm gonna
feel really really good. And I'm not saying that the
other years I haven't, but I do feel that I
am more healed than ever when it comes to that.
(13:18):
And because obviously now that it's October, November, December coming,
my brothers and sisters are going through like a little
situation rough patch, and it's becoming a little bit difficult
to decide what we're gonna do for the holidays this year.
It is I don't know, and this is very vulnerable,
(13:41):
and I wasn't really going to talk about it, but
when you're in a situation with your families and your
siblings and going through something like it, especially around this time,
it's like, man, I kind of need you more than ever.
But I also think that we're seeking this opportunity as
growth separately because we're so dependent on each other and
our lives are just different. Now that it looks a
(14:07):
little different. As far as me, I do feel like, Okay,
I know that we're gonna be okay, and I know
that things are gonna get fixed and that everyone has
to have a mutual understanding of each other. I think
that grief during the holidays just gets a little bit.
(14:28):
It's different for me this year. I do feel a
lot more healed, but I also know that it's harder
for my siblings because of certain situations that we're going through.
So for me, I could see it like, oh, I'm good,
like you know, I'm not hurting, but I know that
they could be. And that's also like I have to
(14:48):
have grace and understanding for them and see where they're
coming from and their hearts and pray that God just
like heals whatever situation needs to be healed. So I'm
learning to prepare my heart versus like suppressing it and
you know, being afraid of you know why i'd be
(15:13):
feeling right now. Actually, later on it could change. Today.
I'm feeling great today, I'm feeling like okay, maybe I
maybe I will be hurting by the holidays. Maybe I won't.
And that's what happens when you're grieving. It comes and
waves and it sucks. It freaking sucks all the time.
Right now, I'm feeling good and I'm I said before,
(15:36):
like I'm kind of tired of talking about it because
I also don't feel like I need like a pity
party or like I don't want to say like, oh,
get over it. It's been thirteen years. But for me personally,
it's just like dude, like how long am I gonna
hold onto this? How long is it gonna be not
over my head? But just like yeah, like I'm always
(15:59):
gonna live with this and I'm always gonna feel this way,
but I know that this year, like I told myself,
I'm not going to suppress my emotions. I'm not going
to make it seem like I'm okay. May even maybe
if I'm not. And if you're also going through grief
where you're going through a similar situation, I recommend you,
(16:22):
know you to do the same, like make sure your
routine's on luck first of all. Second, as they come by.
I think that you have the opportunity to switch the perspective, like, Okay,
I'm fortunate enough to still be here, to honor them,
to honor them, to honor myself, and to just point
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blank to be alive. Give yourself grace, give yourself the
opportunity to focus on gratitude, and ultimately I would just
pray for peace. I pray for peace as they come by,
before the holidays even start, Like just think about it,
(17:09):
ask God, like you know what, Like, harder times are coming.
I wish that they were here. I wish that I
wasn't going through this by myself. Help me work through
my emotions, because you rather prepare for something than for
it to just show up and mess you up. And
(17:32):
I think that's the key. You don't really move on
from grief. You move with it. The wiz are gonna
come and you just gotta ride with it. How am
I gonna I don't want to drown in these emotions.
I don't want to drown in suffering. I don't want
to drown in depression or sadness. So how am I
gonna rise above it and be better? I'm gonna do
(17:52):
something that's gonna make me happy. I'm gonna go outside,
I'm gonna go sit at the cemetery for a little bit.
If I need to, I'm gonna go paint or I'm
gonna bake something. And for everybody, it's different, and I
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would recommend you just to have grace with yourself, have
grace with the people around you. If you know somebody
that has been in a situation where they're grieving and
it's really fresh and they're having a hard time, be there.
I think, more than anything, as I've learned and as
(18:37):
I've seen what happens with people in grief, I learned
to be there for somebody, even if I'm going through
the same situation. And although it may sometimes be difficult,
but I want to seek this as an opportunity to
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help and guide people that don't know. And if you're
a friend that needs a friend to be with them
and just to hear them out, you don't have to
say anything. You just be there and listen. And that's
enough for some people. And it doesn't have to be
in grief. It could be someone that's going through a
hard time. There's also it's also season where the most
(19:24):
people are depressed. The sun goes down sooner people have
a harder time coping. Be kind to all those around you,
people that are grieving, people that are going through tough times,
because again, you don't know what somebody what somebody is
going through, and you would want the same done for yourself.
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So that's my little spill. I'm gonna put these in
the oven really quick, let them bake, and we're gonna
come right back. All right, you guys. The cookies are
done and we're basically wrapped up. I'm gonna top them up,
but little seesaw and finish off with the Bible verse
of the day. It is Romans twelve twenty one. Don't
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let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.
So that means us as humans, as people being kind
to one another, loving each other, spreading light. And if
there's anything that I want for you guys to take
from this episode is that it's to be kind, to
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be loving, and to be a light. You can honor
your loved ones. You can honor your loved ones without
compromising your faith. You can participate in community without losing
your convictions, and you can still grieve and be grateful.
And if you're grieving, and if you need anything, please
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know that you are in my prayers and in my
heart and in my mind. And remember that yeah, to
always be loving, kind to yourself to those around you.
And with that, here is the delicious pumpkin cookie. I
hope and prayer you guys have a fabulous holiday season.
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I cannot wait for the holiday episodes. We have so
many good guests lined up, great recipes. We have Thanksgiving,
we have Christmas. We have all these good things coming up.
So I can't wait to enjoy the holidays most importantly
with you guys. Make sure you guys like comment, subscribe,
and I will see you guys next Tuesday.
Welcome back to the Overcomfort podcast. I'm your houset Jennica Lopez.
Thank you guys so much for choosing to listen and
watch to today's episode. If you guys saw the title
and the description, we are going to be talking about
my views on Halloween, how do I feel about it,
and grief during the holidays as they come up. And
(00:26):
as you guys know, I have experience grief. I know
what grief is like and the shift and help manage
through it. And yeah, also going to be talking about
the little These are things that are celebrated in my culture,
things that I necessarily don't celebrate myself. So I want
(00:49):
to be able to talk about that with you guys.
And today we're going to be making pumpkin chocolate chip
cookies because it is the season. It is fall, and
it's one of my favorite seasons of the year. And
give my honest views or someone that follows God as
a Christian, let's say, let's get started. So I, as
(01:16):
I was preparing for today's episode, I was looking into
the actual facts about Halloween. First of all, one, let
me give a preface of just in general, I am
not a person that likes horror anything scary. I don't
like scary movies. I don't like any I like thrillers,
but nothing like actual spiritual like paranormal activity. What's that
(01:41):
other one? It started insidious? All those movies terrifying me,
Like just in general as a person, aside from like
the spiritual aspect of it is just something that I
don't personally like. But I wanted to look into why
people tie it with the devil and christian and all that,
(02:02):
so I looked it up. Historically, Halloween comes from the
Celtic festival as sam Payne, marking the end of a
harvest and the start of winter. Okay, people believe that
night blurred the line between the living and the dead,
so they'd light bonfires and wear costumes to protect themselves
from spirits. And when Christianity started going into the early Church,
(02:25):
the church made all day Saints on November first, which
I think is the other little mort ghost if I'm
not mistaken, to honor saints, and October thirty first became
Hollow's Eve, which is Halloween. So those are little fun
little facts that I didn't even realize that I didn't
even know myself. So in case that you didn't know.
(02:46):
There you go as well, But I read that a
lot of Christians reject Halloween because of what it represents.
It represents a lot of darkness, witchcraft could be very demonic,
and those are all the things that the Bible tells
us not to engage with. And as I'm explaining this
to you guys, I'm also learning as well because therese
(03:08):
are a lot of things that I didn't know. I
obviously knew that it was between right and wrong, and obviously, again,
the Bible also tells us to not mess with spiritual things,
opening doors like that, fortune telling, false gods, calling on
the dead, even if we just see it as just
(03:30):
for fun, and I know that for a lot of us,
it's for me at least. I don't even want to
come off as judgmental. Again, this is this is my perspective,
and I'm not judging you for it or anything. Like
I said before, we're all learning this together, and I
(03:54):
just want to give you guys my idea and how
I feel about it and what I plan to do.
And I started thinking about it, I'm like, how would
I how would I raise my kids? How would I
choose to do it? Because, yeah, it's something fun. Kids
don't know about it until kids don't know about it
until you actually explain it to them, and also when
(04:16):
they get older and they start realizing things for themselves.
But for example, for me, like I don't want to
have my kid be the only kid at school that
doesn't get to dress up or miss out on trick
or treating or experiences like that. I do think that
it is an opportunity to redeem versus reject the entire holiday.
(04:39):
So for me for this year, for example, I'm a
very homely person. I love being able to make people smile,
and I don't go out on Halloween in general. I've
only gone to one Halloween party that wasn't even on Halloween,
and I dressed up. I was also in a very
bad time at that time, and it was just, you know,
(05:01):
no excuses, but I just felt like I wasn't all
in my right senses. But anyways, I generally don't go
out on Halloween in general, but I am someone that
likes to if kids come to the house, I'm not
going to completely have the lights off and not offer candy.
I want to give it an opportunity to make kids
smile and to be able to teach them, like to
(05:23):
be a light in the darkness. And I know how
cliche that sounds, but it's true. And I know that
God Jesus didn't avoid dark spaces. He entered them to
bring light. He met people where they were not to conform,
but to transform them. And I want to be able
to do the same and have that opportunity. So I
(05:44):
thought of a cute idea this year for Halloween, and
I think I will be giving out candy. I don't
have my house decorated. I mean I have it like
fall decorated, to have pumpkins and stuff, but nothing like
spooky or like anything like that ghost or whatever. Like
(06:06):
I said, I would like to keep it like neutral,
just also because of Thanksgiving, like I don't want to
have to switch it out anyways. But I think this
year for Halloween, I want to be able to give
out counting but have the opportunity to give something with it.
So my sister did a couple of years ago, like
little Bible versus or simply just giving like a little
(06:28):
small word or And I don't know if I'll dress
up or if I want to be anything that is
like obviously I don't I wouldn't be like the devil.
I wouldn't be like an angel even or any witch
or anything like that. Something funny, something cute, appropriate. But
(06:49):
I do want to seek it as an opportunity to
go if I light, to show light, to show love,
most importantly, because I also don't want to be that
neighbor on the street that they look at like, oh,
they're born, they don't celebrate Halloween because they're Christian or whatever. No,
I want it for them to be as an opportunity like, oh,
like she's cool, like she's still Christian and gives out candy,
(07:13):
but in a beautiful way like again, like an opportunity
to be a light in the darkness. And when it
comes to like the kids, when I want to raise
my kids, and I think it'll be the same the
same way. I want to have that experience for them
and for them to be able to go to school
and just like But it not in just that area.
(07:37):
But I think it's important about how we raise them
in general, the importance of just being kind and loving
and still being quote unquote cool or whatever. Again, it's
about how you raise them and what they believe in
and knowing the difference and why sometimes it's not okay
and sometimes it is like in certain ways if I'm
(07:59):
making sense. So then the next holiday after that is Diatos.
And you guys, I know it is very heavy and
Hispanic Latin culture. It is celebrating day of the dead.
It can be sensitive to some and I want to
(08:21):
be very careful because I'll again, if you celebrate it,
I totally respect you, but understand why I personally don't.
First of all, in general, I never celebrated it growing up.
It just wasn't something that was made accustomed to me
or that was as important as some people feel it
is for them. Again all respect, it is a holiday
(08:48):
that's tied to love, remembrance and honoring the family members
who have passed away. And obviously you guys know my
mom uh and my dad have passed away. I think
in that holiday they also taken as an opportunity to
invite them to communicate, which I don't necessarily believe in.
(09:10):
And I do think that it's okay to honor and
remember said past ones in our daily lives and what
I do normally. I also looked it up. It's a
tradition rooted in the belief that the spirits of the
dead returned to visit the living. During that day, people
build alters, food and talk to them. Even if it's cultural,
(09:33):
it does connect to spiritual practices and that invites the
communication with the dead. And also Biblically, we're told not
to do that. Once our soul passes, it's at rest,
it doesn't come back. It is with God, it is
in heaven. It is you know, a whole different scenario situation.
(09:53):
And for me, remembering someone doesn't have to be on
that specific day. It is also just again, like I've
said before, we can honor them and have the opportunity
to yell out. I say, I guess because I know
that I can't communicate with my mom. I know that
that sounds crazy, and butterflies always remind me of her,
(10:14):
but I know that that's not her in a butterfly form.
I know that God has her next to her and
she's resting, and it sometimes it's hard for people to
understand that. I believe that, but that is something that
I do. But I celebrate her legacy. I celebrate who
she is all year long. The same thing with my
dad and his own in my own way, things that
(10:37):
I remember him by, and I know that I don't
need an altar or ritual to keep their memory alive.
And yeah, I think that to each their own. I
deeply respect everybody that does the beautiful culture of it.
(10:59):
I think we have amazing celebrations, but I think, again,
to each their own. And this is the way that
I choose to live my life and how I view things.
And I do think that it could just be celebrated
all year long, not on a specific day. And if
I do have kids, one day, I want them to
understand that I want to understand this, not that it's
(11:23):
a rule or something that you know opposed to, but
to know actually why. And we don't celebrate things just
for fun or out of reverence, but that they could
still have fun, be creative, and participate in community with
their friends or whomever, but in ways that reflect light
(11:45):
love and not darkness. And we can remember our loved
ones not just on certain holidays or the day they're
passing or whatever, but in how we live, how we
love and continue their legacy alive. For sure, I'm very
(12:07):
excited for these cookies, you guys. These are I know
that these are gonna be delicious. So moving on, obviously
talking about remembering our loved ones and keeping their memory alive.
The holidays are coming up. They are right around the corner.
(12:32):
They're creeping up on me, and this year is going
to be thirteen years that my mom has passed away,
And honestly, if I'm being completely honest, I think I'm
getting a little bit tired of talking about it. Personally.
I feel like in the way that my growth is
right now and the way that I have healed in
(12:55):
my grief, I feel like maybe this year I'm gonna
feel really really good. And I'm not saying that the
other years I haven't, but I do feel that I
am more healed than ever when it comes to that.
(13:18):
And because obviously now that it's October, November, December coming,
my brothers and sisters are going through like a little
situation rough patch, and it's becoming a little bit difficult
to decide what we're gonna do for the holidays this year.
It is I don't know, and this is very vulnerable,
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and I wasn't really going to talk about it, but
when you're in a situation with your families and your
siblings and going through something like it, especially around this time,
it's like, man, I kind of need you more than ever.
But I also think that we're seeking this opportunity as
growth separately because we're so dependent on each other and
our lives are just different. Now that it looks a
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little different. As far as me, I do feel like, Okay,
I know that we're gonna be okay, and I know
that things are gonna get fixed and that everyone has
to have a mutual understanding of each other. I think
that grief during the holidays just gets a little bit.
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It's different for me this year. I do feel a
lot more healed, but I also know that it's harder
for my siblings because of certain situations that we're going through.
So for me, I could see it like, oh, I'm good,
like you know, I'm not hurting, but I know that
they could be. And that's also like I have to
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have grace and understanding for them and see where they're
coming from and their hearts and pray that God just
like heals whatever situation needs to be healed. So I'm
learning to prepare my heart versus like suppressing it and
you know, being afraid of you know why i'd be
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feeling right now. Actually, later on it could change. Today.
I'm feeling great today, I'm feeling like okay, maybe I
maybe I will be hurting by the holidays. Maybe I won't.
And that's what happens when you're grieving. It comes and
waves and it sucks. It freaking sucks all the time.
Right now, I'm feeling good and I'm I said before,
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like I'm kind of tired of talking about it because
I also don't feel like I need like a pity
party or like I don't want to say like, oh,
get over it. It's been thirteen years. But for me personally,
it's just like dude, like how long am I gonna
hold onto this? How long is it gonna be not
over my head? But just like yeah, like I'm always
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gonna live with this and I'm always gonna feel this way,
but I know that this year, like I told myself,
I'm not going to suppress my emotions. I'm not going
to make it seem like I'm okay. May even maybe
if I'm not. And if you're also going through grief
where you're going through a similar situation, I recommend you,
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know you to do the same, like make sure your
routine's on luck first of all. Second, as they come by.
I think that you have the opportunity to switch the perspective, like, Okay,
I'm fortunate enough to still be here, to honor them,
to honor them, to honor myself, and to just point
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blank to be alive. Give yourself grace, give yourself the
opportunity to focus on gratitude, and ultimately I would just
pray for peace. I pray for peace as they come by,
before the holidays even start, Like just think about it,
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ask God, like you know what, Like, harder times are coming.
I wish that they were here. I wish that I
wasn't going through this by myself. Help me work through
my emotions, because you rather prepare for something than for
it to just show up and mess you up. And
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I think that's the key. You don't really move on
from grief. You move with it. The wiz are gonna
come and you just gotta ride with it. How am
I gonna I don't want to drown in these emotions.
I don't want to drown in suffering. I don't want
to drown in depression or sadness. So how am I
gonna rise above it and be better? I'm gonna do
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something that's gonna make me happy. I'm gonna go outside,
I'm gonna go sit at the cemetery for a little bit.
If I need to, I'm gonna go paint or I'm
gonna bake something. And for everybody, it's different, and I
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would recommend you just to have grace with yourself, have
grace with the people around you. If you know somebody
that has been in a situation where they're grieving and
it's really fresh and they're having a hard time, be there.
I think, more than anything, as I've learned and as
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I've seen what happens with people in grief, I learned
to be there for somebody, even if I'm going through
the same situation. And although it may sometimes be difficult,
but I want to seek this as an opportunity to
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help and guide people that don't know. And if you're
a friend that needs a friend to be with them
and just to hear them out, you don't have to
say anything. You just be there and listen. And that's
enough for some people. And it doesn't have to be
in grief. It could be someone that's going through a
hard time. There's also it's also season where the most
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people are depressed. The sun goes down sooner people have
a harder time coping. Be kind to all those around you,
people that are grieving, people that are going through tough times,
because again, you don't know what somebody what somebody is
going through, and you would want the same done for yourself.
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So that's my little spill. I'm gonna put these in
the oven really quick, let them bake, and we're gonna
come right back. All right, you guys. The cookies are
done and we're basically wrapped up. I'm gonna top them up,
but little seesaw and finish off with the Bible verse
of the day. It is Romans twelve twenty one. Don't
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let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.
So that means us as humans, as people being kind
to one another, loving each other, spreading light. And if
there's anything that I want for you guys to take
from this episode is that it's to be kind, to
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be loving, and to be a light. You can honor
your loved ones. You can honor your loved ones without
compromising your faith. You can participate in community without losing
your convictions, and you can still grieve and be grateful.
And if you're grieving, and if you need anything, please
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know that you are in my prayers and in my
heart and in my mind. And remember that yeah, to
always be loving, kind to yourself to those around you.
And with that, here is the delicious pumpkin cookie. I
hope and prayer you guys have a fabulous holiday season.
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I cannot wait for the holiday episodes. We have so
many good guests lined up, great recipes. We have Thanksgiving,
we have Christmas. We have all these good things coming up.
So I can't wait to enjoy the holidays most importantly
with you guys. Make sure you guys like comment, subscribe,
and I will see you guys next Tuesday.
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Jenicka Lopez
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