November 4, 2025 • 53 mins
todays episode is a little different and special, i have my handsome kind guest, alan, slaying the kitchen for me!! while he makes me spam fried rice, he talks about his life long journey of mental health, being hurt by the church, how he met his lovely husband, and going viral on tiktok for being himself!
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Welcome back to the Overcome for podcast. I am your host,
Jenna Lopez. Thank you guys so much for choosing to
listen and watch this episode. Wherever you guys are at.
You guys have seen the title, you have seen the description.
We have the one and only Alan or how do
you say it? Like very Spanish Mexican, but you say.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
A lot Alon. I know every time somebody sees my
name that like Alan, I was like, I mean, you
could call me by both, but Alon is like fancy,
not a.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Little sprinkled einkle. Yes, so happy to have you. The
way I connected with him was, obviously, if you guys
haven't known him, seen him very viral on TikTok on
social media for his very wonderful, very charismatic reviews of
food cravings, all these things, and I want to know
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the man behind all of that. I'm very excited. We're
gonna plug in all your stuff after yes, but obviously
we're gonna, you know, introduce you to people that don't
know you, anything about you, anything that you do. And
by the way, today we are making kimchi spam fried
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rice requested by Mua himself because yeah, he wanted it.
I've never made it in my life. I made fred
Rice okay, but definitely like I I was like spam Kimchi.
I'm like period, easy peasy, I got this like whatever. Anyways,
I'm gonna get this stuff. But please introduce yourself, tell
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us about what you do, who you are, et cetera.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
Yeah, oh my god, so much questions. There's so many
cameras read it to you. Yes, someone names Alan some
more Jackson the third and I'm just kidding. I'm kidding,
no fun fact. I say that in my YouTube intros.
And I just found out that I actually am the third.
Like I was just messing around. I'm the third Moteo
on my family, my grandpa and my uncle. Then me,
(02:05):
I was like, what the I just surprised myself with
a fun fact.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Wait, your middle name or your my.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Full first name?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Full name? Okay?
Speaker 2 (02:11):
So my mom and my dad have this thing where
they wanted us all to have two first names. So
my first legal name is Altimoteo. Okay, ahead, So yeah,
you know me, I'd be on the internet doing six ways,
sixteen six ways, all that stuff. I love to cook
growing up, loving to cook. Fun fact. In high school,
I was in culinary arts, and I ended up getting
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dropped because I didn't know that part of culinary arts
is like writing your own ingredients book, like writing everything down,
you know, like a what do you call like a
cookbook on this Yeah, I was a girl. I thought
we were gonna cook and that was it. But no,
there's there's a lot more to than to be in
a cheft and just cooking, right. But yeah, that's that's
a little bit about me. I'd just be having fun
on the internet cooking and I'm roasting my audience, and
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that's pretty much it.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Where's your family from?
Speaker 2 (02:55):
My family from like originally or like right now, like
where they're currently residing, so you can I'm just kidding
that half Filipinos. So my dad's from Ilocros mom, while.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
My brother in law is Filipino and Mexican.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Tako.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Yes, you have a spam. I am a lover of spam.
I don't know if you guys are or aren't. If
you aren't, I'm sorry about it.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
You know what I always say, If you don't love
spam or hate spam, what's spam? Backwards? Maps? You can
take a map out of my life?
Speaker 1 (03:29):
Yes, Annie, Yes, okay, so have you always like dreamed
of like cooking and like all of that since you
were a kid.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
No, Actually, like I know, you can watch grow up
watching my mom cook, and I think when I I
was actually vegetarian for four years, that's what I fell
in love with cooking even more because I was, like, girl,
I grew up in a Filipino Mexican household, nobody's eating
vegetarian food. So I had to kind of like force
myself to learn how to cook vegetarian food. So I
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did that, and within that I found a love for cooking.
And my parents, oh God, bless you guys, but they
were my guinea pigs to see how my feet tasted.
And one thing about me, they always keep it a buck,
so if they didn't like it, they would tell me.
But that's kind of where I fell in love with cooking.
And then yeah, just that's where that's where it all
rooted from.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Okay, and then how did like everything happened for you
on TikTok and stuff?
Speaker 2 (04:19):
So I've been actually I've been making TikTok since twenty
twenty two. I just started off with a couple of
comedy with my husband, just traveling having fun. We were
celebrating our one year anniversary of being married. So we're
traveling all over the world and then one you guys,
some of you may know the backstory about one TikTok.
We went on a hot air balloon ride.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
Okay, and.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Before you go on hot air balloon, right, you have
to feel out like how much way all that stuff? Well, girl,
I put all was one fifty, knowing damn well it's
not one fifty when drivers, Yeah, I was like, girl,
my driver's license is one fifty, honey, don't play with me.
And we get to there.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
And they weigh you.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
They pulled out a scared Oh they pulled out a
freaking scale and they're like, honey, you ain't no one fifties,
like so we have to pay extra. So from that
I just kind of like picked up the camera and
filmed our reaction.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Sorry, reminds me of like when you're going to the
airport and you're hoping that the luggage is under.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Fifty very much that, very much that. And then from
there like that just blew up and people wanted to
know more about us, and so that's kind of how
we started. Then I ended up wanted to go like
my own route so I started doing cooking reviews, I
mean food reviews, cooking videos, all that stuff, and then
that just kind of like were bloss on.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
It took off.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Yeah, that started like end of last year.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
Okay, how long have you guys been married?
Speaker 2 (05:42):
We boy just celebrated our four year marriage. Congrats, thank you.
We love it like we've been living our best life.
I still feel like we're on our honeymoon phase. Like
it's good.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
A lot of people feel like once you get married,
it loses like the the and so I'm glad that
you guys still.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Feel together of course. Yeah. Yeah. Every time we meet somebody,
they're like, wow, you guys are like exactly how you
are online, but also like how long have you guys
been married, because it seems like you're in your honeymoon years.
I'm like, oh, well, we've known each other for nine
years already married before Like what the heck?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
So he said, you have seen each other the good, about,
the ugly, like everything.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
And then the between he has, girl, yes, everything in between.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Can I ask? Because I just love and I'm nosy
for pure nature? How what was your coming out story? So?
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Actually I didn't come out. I was like, well, I
guess I didn't didn't, so obviously my parents me like, girl,
like we've been in New honey, Like they never questioned it.
But then once I started, like because I came out
at twenty one, so I started like dating guys, bringing
guys over the house. I'm saying guys like as if
it's like multiple. It was only like one to thirty,
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not that many. And I'm just kidding. I'm like, So
I started bringing guys over to my house and then
my parents were just like, h like, are those his friends?
Like it doesn't have a lot of guy friends, Like
who are they? So one day, my mom and I
went to Chipotle to get food for the family, and
then before we went in, and my mom was like, hey,
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quick question, like the guys that you're bringing over, like
are you dating any of them? And I was like, yeah,
just a couple, not a couple, just I'm seeing one.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Seriously, you hadn't said anything.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Oh no, I hadn't said anything. And then like, Okay,
let's go get Chipotle. So that was kind of it.
You never said so the one I was more worried
about because my dad was like, you know, like more
of the world. My mom grew up very religious, so
very very religious, grew up in the Catholic Church, then
converted into Christianity. So I grew up like very like
I wasn't really scared of her, but like scared of
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what she thought. But I was more like she just
kind of like very much that. Yeah, so she was
very accepting, very and she's like, okay, let's go get
a burrito, and then that was it. She's in love
with Ruben like absolutely. Sometimes I think she loves him
more than me. So that's how it goes. Yeah, that
was my coming out story.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Yea. So it wasn't ever like a struggle, like even
you with your relationship with your dad never changed or anything.
Do you have more siblings?
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Yes? I have three brothers, two sisters, okay, yeah, all
very the only gay one. I'm the only gay one. Okay,
but both of my brothers and best friends are gay,
so like they're they're not like they're best friends. So
there wasn't very very.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
Much then, like like oh that's good, love that for
you and I love about I love that about your
mom like that. She was just accepting and loving and
like never changed with you, because some people unfortunately aren't,
you know, lucky enough in that area.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
So I'm very happy. I love. Yeah, I feel I
feel honestly like very blessed to have very accepting parents
and support us and like anything that we do in
our future. Like, so it was very because I know
some people's stories there aren't as smooth selling, right, So
I'm very fortunate and blessed to have parents who love me,
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love my has been, don't judge my lifestyle or anything
like that.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
So yeah, because this is really really tough out there
right now. It is like at this point, it's twenty
twenty five, Like it's kind.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Of like girl, and I just feel like, come out,
don't come out and live your life. But also if
you're bullying others for their sexual orientation or anything like that, girl,
bullying is so ghetto, it's so old, Like get over it.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
In general, I don't even have to be as like
gay or not gay exactly anything in general. Like it's
just it's just I'm always big on like it doesn't
hurt too much to be kind, Like it doesn't cost
anything exactly nice, just be a human exactly. You know,
if you're like alone roasting people, then that's fine.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Hey, but I grew up in a very well obviously,
I have a lot of siblings. Oh you have a
lot of siblings too, huh. Yes, yeah, so you kind
of know like roast attitudes, Yes, are sometimes a form
of love.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Yeah, it's a yes, tough love. It's like you know,
but then sometimes you know, summer a little sense like
they can't handle it? Is that? Do you want more
kim chi?
Speaker 2 (10:00):
That's fine? So the way I make it, however you
make it, some people actually like to put it in.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
That's what I'm thinking.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
I like to kind of like garnish it on top
of my front. But let me know if we can
try it like that, see how it works, or we
can garnish it on top totally up to you.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
Hold on, let me think. Okay, my little thought process.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
We can try it. I've never tried it like that.
Just do it, oh right, you know me, girl, I'm
all about being experimental, like I'll be trying different things.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Honestly, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
How you do it.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
I've seen your videos and I've seen like, you know,
has there been anything that you're just like absolutely not
ever trying again? Obviously, there's like some things I feel
like the sweet and salty ones like like I'm like,
absolutely not, I don't care who right ties me to
do it, like I'm not doing it.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
There have been some funky ones that I'm like because
I also do like weird cravings, trying people's cravings so.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Pregnant, the pregnancy ones, I'm like, yo, crazy.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Yeah, a lot of people who are a lot of
women who are pregnant love pickles. So like my most
request is always pickles. If you always see me during
pickles is because liken of my comments or pickles, pickles, this, pickle, that,
pickle this, And I'm like, okay, so but I think
it was some of the weird ones like I got
a honey bun and I dipped it in ranch. Absolutely not,
that's exactly what I said. Absolutely. And then there's one
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coming out tonight that I did where it was vanilla
ice cream, mustard and pickles.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
No, that's a pregnancy Yes, who thinks that that's okay?
Speaker 2 (11:29):
Like like no, absolutely, I was like absolutely that was foul,
Like I would never do that one again. So there
have been somewhere I'm.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
Like, oh my god, all right, well let's move yes,
let me get it. We should cook that separate right,
you can cook it in there, cook it in there.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Yeah, so we'll cook this. We'll cook the spam first.
Let it crisp pup. Do you have soy sauce by chumps? Yes?
Speaker 1 (11:49):
I do?
Speaker 2 (11:50):
Okay, So I crisped up with soy sauce okay, mistick
and just sawt that in there. Girl, I'm in my element, honey, like,
I love it.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Please please?
Speaker 2 (12:00):
And also fun fact, whenever you scoop stuff and say,
always use the back of the blade because you dull
the fun. Did you know that? Because I just learned that, girl.
So I'm trying to like pass knowledge.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Times I forget. Sometimes I'm just like yes, like and
then I'll figure out how to, like, yes, sharpen my
own blade.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Like, girl, this is a big old Oh yeah, I
love it. I love it. Get that.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
So I want to know you growing up with how
many brothers and sisters?
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Three brothers, three brothers, two sisters.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Wow, so six six of us period. I'm a family
of five, So I get it. How was it growing up?
What was your childhood?
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Like? My childhood was pretty amazing, Like, I was so
blessed to have very hard working parents. They did the
best that they could at you know, at their age
or whatever. But I mean, obviously nobody's parents are perfect,
but they did the best, and I'm honestly truly honored
that I got blessed with such amazing parents. Our relationship
wasn't always very close, but I felt like as a as.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
A you know, as a why sorry if you don't
want me asking.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Why did I feel like our relationship wasn't I just
felt like I obviously I was a little bit different.
So I always had like some thing different that was
like not. I don't know if it was my parents
kind of like, oh, we obviously know, you know, he's gay.
I don't know, it's something that back then maybe it
wasn't as accepted as it is today. So kind of
like dealing with my emotions, dealing with this, trying to
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do the best, you know, obviously I won't get bullied
in school to toughen me up, like my dad put
me in martial arts to like to know how to
protect myself in case I got bullied. And now looking
back at that, like I always thought like, damn, dad,
why do you want me to do karate or muti kickboxing?
But it was honestly to deal with my emotions and
honestly to toughen me up in case and to know
how to protect myself whatever gets thrown my own way.
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But then obviously, like growing up, I always thought like,
you know, I was a little different or whatever, but
I've always been very like independent, Like I felt like
I didn't need my parents. I've always kind of like
did been like on my own. And then I would
say like during COVID was what really brought.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Close together I think everybody in general.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
Yeah, yeah, And I kind of learned more like about
my parents, and I got to learn more about like
why they were they were they why they were the
way that they were like, and I just kind of like,
because every I always believe that every reaction has an
action to it, or if you actually has a reaction, yeah,
like why instead of being like a lot of people
are like mommy did this? Dad?
Speaker 1 (14:20):
You did this?
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Mom? Like why why are they like that? Like work
in the top, where can the conversation begin?
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (14:26):
So I feel like one I have more understanding exactly.
So I felt like during that time where we're kind
of forced to all be together, I got to learn
more about their story and I felt like I got
to know my mom, got to know my dad a
little bit better and build a relationship that turned into
a friendship. And I love them now.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
Because you like, yeah, because sometimes you grow up in
resentment and like feeling a certain way exactly. And what
about your siblings, Like were you always close with them
or you weren't.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
No, me and my siblings aren't very Like we're close,
but not like to the point where we're like, hey,
you want to come over and like, you know, go
shopping together. We weren't that close. I feel like the
only one I'm pretty close tot probably my little sister,
just because I raised her, so I felt like that's
the only one to have a strong bond with. And
you know, she kind of knows like the true me
and all that stuff. So I feel like that's the
only one I have like a really close bond with.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
I love that. I'm glad. I'm glad that, Like you,
did you ever experience anything maybe like in school that
was like maybe taught you something that you're like, oh yeah,
led you to be a better person or any way
like defined who you are today?
Speaker 2 (15:35):
Like not really, girl, Like I didn't get bullied or
anything like that, or I wasn't because I've always been
quick witted, So I was like, girl, if you want to,
you know, come for me, you better be ready to
go Burke and for Burke and girl, because I don't play.
I'm quick witted. All my families, I'm a cancer.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
Oh I could see it. I'm like I feel I
feel like my sister, like my older sister, vis like
my mom to like quick with the words, quick with
the actions. I see it. So you'd like always do
like you knew you could stand for yourself, stand for
your own exactly. How does how does this work in
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your marriage?
Speaker 2 (16:15):
I'm basy. My husband is the most calmst most patients. Yes,
so definitely when they say opposites do a tract on
their officers, definitely do a track Like my husband is
like polar opposite. When I first met him, he didn't
know anything about social media. He was not into pop
culture anything like that. So I was like, well, honey, welcome.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
To my Okay, tell me the story. How did you
guys meet?
Speaker 2 (16:40):
We met online? So we met online and then it's
so crazy how the red stream theory goes. You know
about the red they so pretty much like two people
go throughout their life and there's but there's always a
red stream attached to them.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
So no matter where, like invisible invisible string, there we go.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
It's called the invisible string.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
Why does give me a little freaky?
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Maybe? So I met him online because I had just
got out of a relationship. I was like, I'm not
looking for anything serious. I just want to start getting
my life together. And so I was like, you know what,
let me have some fun, girl, Like, I have n't
been single for a while. Let me have some fun.
So one day he was going to Disneyland and he
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passed by my house on the way to Disneyland. Okay,
and obviously he has to pass my city. So we
ended up matching at the same time online. So we
just got to know each other. We exchanged numbers, we
keep keyed, and then when he went to go pick
me up the first time for our first date, he
was like what the hell? I was like, what, He's like,
do you know that I grew up down the street
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from here?
Speaker 1 (17:43):
I was like, what is like the start of the series.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Yes, he was like, I was like practically your neighbor.
And I was like, what the hell? Like, literally I
could walk to his house. Okay, that's how close we were,
and then just like how he was so fascinated to
learn about my world. I was so fascinated to learn
about his world. Like we got each other up, like dude,
we're like each other's biggest fans. Like that's one thing
that I actually take fright in is our relationship because obviously,
like no relationship is perfect, but we definitely learned how
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to communicate. We've definitely grown with each other. You know,
he's always been there for me, and I just felt
like it's my best friend, Like I love doing life
with him. So that's that's kind of how we met.
And yeah, okay, so then he's behind the scenes like
you're doing Gray, sweetie.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
You better say that. Okay. So then you guys ended
up getting married.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
Yes, we ended up getting married. We got married into
Mecula's beautiful, beautiful wedding, and it was the perfect wedding
because it was exactly what I envisioned our wedding to be,
like just because you know, when you get married, like
invite your THEA, invite your neighbor, invite the guy at
State of Brothers, I just whoever, your dentist, everybody. So
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when we had our wedding was only eight people. It
was just close family, close friends who actually know our story,
who actually took the time to be like I, who
know Ruben, who knows exactly. So it was beautiful, beautiful wedding.
Loved it. We got married in August and into Mecula.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
Oh, you guys are crazy.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
But let me tell you how great God is so
leading up to the days of our wedding. So we
got married on a Saturday, So Thursday one hundred and
ten degrees, Friday one hundred and twenty degrees up there
into Mecula. You know how much it was on Saturday,
seventy seven degrees way, seventy seven degrees.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
I was there. That's beautiful.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
We woke up, we opened up our windows, like the
hot air balloons were going above us.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
Oh that's magical. Yeah, okay, it was. It was like
a love story. It was oh my gosh. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
And then literally the next day back to one hundred
and nine. But hey, I was blessed for our one
day total.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Are you a believer?
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Oh God, yeah, I'm a very strong believer.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
I love that. So, like I would like to know
like your because yeah, you know a lot of people
and please forgive me. You could say no, you could please.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
I'm going I'm in my element. I'm telling you love it.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
Okay. So the rice and the egg is here.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
We have garlic, onion, salt, pepper. Yes, love that, and
so Roger, if you want to extra spice okay. I've
always been like intrigued to ask, do you okay? So
you said your mom converted to Christianity. Did she ever
press that on you? Guys?
Speaker 2 (20:34):
Yes, she did, And we've had talks about this. I
think I have it online somewhere talking about it with
her as well too. But growing up, like the reason
why there was a while where I left the church
was because of that, like a lot, and I feel
like I grew up in church. I grew up in church. Yeah,
I grew up Christian, grew up in the church. But
as I got older, there was just some things that
like the pastor were saying that I didn't online or
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didn't make me feel comfortable there anymore. Obviously. One of
the big thing was being home sexual kind of really
pressed that on us. Like it was bad, it was bad,
it was bad, it was bad, and I just felt
like so uncomfortable, like I'm not even out, like if
the pastor is thinking this, my mom's believing this, Like
I wonder if that's how she's gonna view me if
I was supposed to if I were.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
To come out, so I push you away more.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
So I ended up leaving the church. I ended up
just you know, I still I've always had a strong
faith though, always no matter what, always had a strong though, like.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
It didn't push you away from God and anyway or
did No, it didn't.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
It pushed me away from the church, but it did
never push me away from God because everything that I
felt like I have today was because of God. All
my wins, I give up to God, all my even
my loss, I give up to God. Like it wasn't
my timing. It was not my timing. So I ended
up leaving the church, and my mom was obviously like, well,
you're not going to church anymore, this and that. And
then as as time passed and through that time of
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like I so said that, I started becoming friends with
my mom. I think she got more of a revelation
of like, oh, I get his mindset of like how
that can be perceived, like how he's seen it. I
only see it because this is all I've known my
whole life. Go to the church. That's how he proved
I know, you're a good person, and this and that.
But a lot of the things that the pastor were saying,
I was like, there's no way God created me to
go to Hell. Obviously, there's no way that He created me.
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Like everybody's a sinner, No siner is greater than the other.
But there's no way that I'm a mistake to God,
like absolutely not. So yeah, but then you know, I
still go to church here and there, but I'm I'm
not like involved as much in the church as I
was as I was growing up. Let me put the
kimchi next.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
Okay, but you still like that is like your main Well, yeah,
that's like that's your pillar. That's like your cornerstone. That's
like what's kept you where you're at today. Yes, And
have you ever like, has anybody ever approached you because
(22:51):
you are gay and Christian say in a bad way?
Speaker 2 (22:57):
I would say, I would say no, I don't think
I ever like nobody's ever been like, how could you
be Christian if you're getting like, no, I've never had
that come across Thank God, Like I never had it
but yeah, and that's never happened to me.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
That's good though, because I've always like I've seen people
and obviously it's like a challenging question and it's like,
oh my God, this is and that, and I've talked
about it like in different podcast episodes and situations and
it's like, which I love that you mentioned that it
was more of the church than it was God, because
the church paints God to be a different picture than
(23:35):
who he really is. Yes, And it's like, realistically, all
you got to do is like read the Bible and
know exactly who God is to understand who you are
and how to be a better person. And then it's
like I'm not saying like you know, not to go
to church or not to like participate or you know whatever,
Like I do believe that it's like a source, Like
(23:58):
it's a like a good like a little freshirt like
during the like one time a week, like Okay, this
is the start of my week. I gotta go, thank
God whatever whatever's to come. And if you don't, that's fine.
Your story and the way that you found or you
knew that, it's like, okay, it was the church not God.
I think it's beautiful to me, and I love that
(24:18):
you always have kept that in the way and in
the plant as you're focused. Because people lose sight, and
people get church hurt, and people lose like that desire
and believe that God is a bad person. Did you ever, like,
did that ever cross your mind at any point?
Speaker 2 (24:32):
There was a There was actually a point in my
life during I was freshly out of COVID that I
was questioning, like because I went into a really I
don't know, I think I've talked about this online, but
I went into like a really bad mental headspace where
you know, when you're I'm a really big advocate for
mental health as well too, but you know, when people
are dealing with mental health, their mind goes crazy. Your
(24:54):
mind is more powerful than people think. Like, so there
was a point where, you know, I I just bought
my house, i just landed my dream job. I'm you know,
making good money, I'm about to get married to my husband,
and all of a sudden, like just like the walls
felt like they were closing in and everything was going bad.
I gained one hundred pounds. I always say a quarantine girl.
(25:14):
I gained the quarantine honey, Like I gained a lot
of weight, and you know, my friendships were dying like
I was because I moved an hour away from where
I grew up. And I'm just like telling God, like, God,
like You've given me everything, Like why am I not happy?
I'm losing friendships my family. I feel like my family
was going to shambles. My friendships were despairing and started
(25:38):
taking a toll on the thing that I take pride
in the most, which was my relationship with my husband.
Once I started tackling that, I was like, God, what
are you doing? Like, what are you doing? What is
going on? And I always say that that was the
best thing I had ever happened to me. Because I
went I got worse. It got really worse. I ended
up getting diagnosed with well. I didn't even go to
the doctors. The doctors told me over the phone because
(25:58):
it was still fresh out of COVID, You're diagnosed with
a mood disorder. You have anxiety depression. Here's all this medication.
Medication made me ten times worse, to the point where
I stopped talking. I stopped talking for about a month
and I didn't I was like, dude, everything is going
down here. And I was praying to God, like God, like,
if you get me out of this, I will praise
you at my high and my low, like any if
(26:19):
you get me out of this. And I got the
help from a holistic doctor that my mom introduced me to.
He saved my life. He saved my life, and I
became I honestly felt like I died and I became
a better version of myself. And after that, I was like,
there's no way God's not real.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Yeah, first of all, like I've never really been diagnosed
with it, but obviously, like I know, and I've always
knew in my head, like I do not want to
get to the point where I'm taking medication. Yep, why one?
Because it's man created and I just don't truly I don't.
(26:53):
I don't believe in it, like I believe like natural
holistic healp your things, like it's given to us, it's
grown into the earth, God planted it for a reason,
like it's here as our source, like you know, so
I do believe, like I do believe in that, and
sometimes like I like, okay, I want to know your thoughts,
(27:15):
you know, to switch it up really quick. Do you
think that they have found the cure for cancer or
do you think that the cure of cancer is in
our foods and all that?
Speaker 2 (27:24):
Of course, I feel like cancer like is in everything
in our cell phones, yes, and everything. And I do
feel like they do ha, I do know. I do
feel like they have the care, right I do. There's
no way with all this technology, with all this curing
other ailments, Like there's no way, there's no way to
have to But you know why they'll never say, of
course because.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
The money exactly, it's the money. It's you know, Okay, And.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
That's why I also like I turned away from like
I don't go to anybody but my holistic doctor, doctor
Modo in Riverside. You're that girl because he saved like
so many people's lives.
Speaker 1 (27:58):
And okay, and like going back to like the whole
COVID situation, like also like now all of a sudden,
it's not contagious and you could be around and this
is and that, like so it's just you know, interesting
little things like just people need to like wake up
just a little bit, yes, and like take advantage of
the opportunities of like that's why I'm like like so
(28:20):
huge on like my diet, Like I'm healthy eating, like
how I take care of myself, like whole foods. It's
like it's there's no need to add the extra nests.
But anyways, that was a little side note, but I
want to go back into like your depression and your
anxiety and all that, Like how was that for you?
Did you ever feel like I mean I felt it,
(28:42):
and I'm sure you probably have, but did you ever
feel like, okay, like I'm done, like there's there's no
end to this.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Yeah I did. Oh, I don't want to get emotion,
but there was a point where like I was so depressed.
I'm not even kidding, Like I was so so sad
that I called my husband. On my last day, I
called my husband and I told him and he heard
it in my voice. I was just like, I just
want to let you know that I love you so
much and don't ever think that in this lifetime, like
(29:10):
I never stopped loving you because I just like, He's like,
what's going on? Are you okay? It's like I'm having
a good day, but usually like you want to cover
it up, and I just could not stop crying. And
then something tell me, pick up the phone, call your mom.
So I called my mom and she because my mom
prior to that, had went through really bad mental break down.
That's how I know about the holistic doctor. So she
saw it on my face. She's like, no, I know.
(29:31):
He's like I need you to stay. I need you
to stay, like like one more day, like just stay.
And yeah, I booked the appointment with the doctor and
he saved my life. And that doctor I love and
hate him because he is You cannot bullshit him because
you know how other doctors are like, oh yeah, that's fine.
He was like, I can tell right now you're lying
to me. Don't lie to me. Like so I went
and did. I told him everything. He's like, I need
(29:52):
to know everything that's wrong with you. Tell me everything.
If you have bad breath, if you have yellow to nails,
like whatever, tell me everything. And I he ended up
doing like a whole month of like diagnosis. I did
a food allergy, he did blood work, he did a
neurology test where I had to spit in a tube
every four hours to see what's going on. Four weeks later,
he hit me up and he was like, so, like,
(30:15):
I'm not surprised that what you're feeling, you're feeling, you're
pre diabetic. You have a fatty liver. He was like,
you have the worst gut health, Like the serotonin in
your head is so low that I'm surprised that you
don't feel anything.
Speaker 1 (30:27):
Was this before, No, this was after you gained the
pounds exactly exactly.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
So he was like, he was like, think of yourself
as like a marrin or the little dolls with the string.
They have five strings. You only have two of them
working right now. He's like, I can tell you exactly
the time that you get out of bed. It's at
two o'clock on And I was like, yes, because 'ben
gets home at three, so I want to get up
and like wash my face and act like everything's okay.
So he was like, you get up every day. Your
brain starts working at two o'clock every day. I was like,
(30:53):
what the hell. Yeah, he was like, you have a
gluten allergy. You have this, this, this, this, he was like.
So he put me on like an eight week diet,
and he put me on medication for mental health, get
my family livered down all of that stuff, and like,
little by little, like I just saw like the better
version of me evolving, and it was like the best
thing I ever did. Yeah, So that's why I like,
I don't really like when I go to the doctors.
(31:14):
I go to him and not like I don't care
about to pay a pretty penny my life. I only
get one life. It's worth it.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
Of course. Absolutely, I saw on your I think it's pinned.
You got surgery?
Speaker 2 (31:24):
Yeah, what did you do? I got the gash? Sleep?
Speaker 1 (31:27):
Okay, talk to me, how was that?
Speaker 2 (31:29):
Like?
Speaker 1 (31:31):
What was that experience for you?
Speaker 2 (31:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (31:33):
I want to know when did you get it? Because
there's people that have gone there, people that are interested.
I got it when I was fourteen.
Speaker 2 (31:38):
Oh oh wow, girl, that was young.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
Was like when it first became a thing. So everyone's ye.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
So prior to me getting the surgery, my husband got it.
So I saw him go through it and he just
seeing the color come back into his face was like
everything to me. He became more. He's always been confident,
both of us, but just seeing him like in the
mirror and like loving what he sees even more was
everything to me. So he got it one year and
(32:08):
then I didn't qualify for it. So I didn't qualify
for it, and I think I was a pretty good
candidate for it. They said my BMI was too high
or whatever, too low, too high, something like that that
I didn't qualify for it. So I was like, you
know what, maybe it's God telling me give it one
more shot. So I ended up. For the next year,
I worked out, I you know, stopped drinking. I was
(32:31):
you know, on my supplements, like making sure like my
body was a one. I couldn't drop the weight. But
you know what, in that year that I spent, I
thought it was like not a year well, not a
year spent, but a year well learned. I guess where.
I learned better eating habits and fell in love with
a gym again. So then I was like, we were
on our three year anniversary. We're on a cruise and
I couldn't get out of bed. I was like, there
(32:53):
was so many girl, Why are there so many stairs
and cruises?
Speaker 1 (32:55):
Girl?
Speaker 2 (32:56):
I did not know was that the equinox? Oh my god?
Speaker 1 (33:00):
Both should have somebody else.
Speaker 2 (33:02):
Literally and then what do we call it? Oh? Yeah,
so we're going up and downstairs. I just felt like
he has so much energy and I couldn't last and
I was just out of breath and I just felt
so bad. I was like, I want to like keep
up with him so on that Literally the last day
of our of our trip, I told I'm thinking about
(33:23):
it the surgery, and he was like what, He's like,
you serious? And I was like yeah, He's like, well
you didn't qualify. I was like, honey, I'm gonna take
my ass to Mexico getting sure. Yes, I'll take some love.
So I got it. I went to TJ doctor Savante. Hey,
I'm plugging everybody, girl, But I got treated like a
king out there. Girl. It was amazing. I was out
(33:44):
there for four days. They all take treated treating me
so well, and it was the best experience. And I
just felt like, how much have you lost? I'm down
ninety pounds that yeah, and how long has that been?
I gonna be I just passed my year this Saturday,
September sixth. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
Period. So now you and Hobby are both.
Speaker 2 (34:03):
Like on our gym rat games. Well, we're kind of
like Jim Rodents right now. We're trying.
Speaker 1 (34:07):
We're trying to work up to the rats, you know, honestly,
And that's what I always say, like, if you have
to get the surgery for you to like find that
motivation and like build that confidence, then do it. I
don't see anything wrong with it, Like there's so many
haters that like, oh oh but he got the gas strik,
Like it doesn't like, don't discredit what I've been through,
(34:30):
Like I and that's what I that's what I hate.
It's like I spent the money for it. I literally
starved myself. You been starting for a whole year. Yeah,
and it's like, you know, everybody has their own journey
the whole, their own experiences. Like I think it's I
think it's something helpful in it. I'm sure your mental
health even went up.
Speaker 2 (34:50):
Oh my god, it was already, yes, because now because before,
like my energy levels were like so low that I
was drinking like three bangs a day, like the energy drinks.
Speaker 1 (34:58):
Oh how like heart I have.
Speaker 2 (35:02):
Girl, I'm trying to figure that out. But yeah, my
energy levels, my my mental health well being is at
its buyingess honey, Like I love it. Okay.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
Any recommendations if you for people that are considering maybe
getting it, So if.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
You're worried about like the vanity purposes, because that was
some of people's like biggest flaws of like why not
to get it? Like, if you're worried about like the
loose skin, the hair loss. Girl, don't worry because the
way you're gonna feel is gonna be ten times better
than you know, the loose skin of the hair or
anything like that. Like I did not worry about that.
I was just like, woo, girl, this time's trying to
get away. I was just more worried about like, girl,
(35:40):
I'm tired of feeling tired, Like I want to feel better.
Speaker 1 (35:43):
Like it's more like for your actual health and like.
Speaker 2 (35:46):
You know, so I would give it up. So what
I would say is like if you if you're thinking
about doing you're on the right track, honey. Like there's
nothing better than prioritizing your life.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
Exactly. I heard somebody I had somebody a friend who
also got it to it saved their life because they
couldn't make it to the bathroom. They were going up
the stairs and I just couldn't make it to the bathroom.
It was like a lot of stairs or whatever. So
it's like, yeah, it's like and if you're worried about
like the vanity or like the loose skin and all that,
it's like you're gonna have loose skin even if you
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go to the gym and you start dropping that weight like,
I like, it's it's gonna be there. You either drop
the weight faster with the gas trick, or you take
forever in the gym, which is still amazing, you know,
and still have loose skin.
Speaker 2 (36:33):
Yea. Everybody, Yeah, everybody has their own story, you know,
of course, everybody.
Speaker 1 (36:36):
I'm an advocate.
Speaker 2 (36:37):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (36:38):
If you want to get surgery at bibes, go get surgery,
like it doesn't matter. If you want a baby, I'll
go go to BBL.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
Like here, why not?
Speaker 1 (36:45):
You know, he almost burnt my house down already. He
turned on the he backed it up on the stove
and the stove turned on.
Speaker 2 (36:52):
I was like, yes, some bb allegations that are heading
the internet right now.
Speaker 1 (36:58):
Our food is ready. We made sam kinchi fried rice courtesy,
and mom I barely helped, which is like refreshing, Like
sometimes I don't feel like cooking. Girl having a whole
podcast about cooking.
Speaker 2 (37:13):
I love to cook. So you got the right, guess it?
Speaker 1 (37:15):
Okay, thank you God for the food. Thank you. What's
the thing you say, may come out smooth the way.
Speaker 2 (37:24):
It came in, Let's do it. Thank you large for
let it come out the way comes in smooth amen.
I literally had somebody come up to me the other day.
They're like, oh my god, can you do the little prayer?
I'm like, girl, we're at a Walmart right now.
Speaker 1 (37:39):
Okahead, Oh.
Speaker 2 (37:44):
That's good.
Speaker 1 (37:44):
Absolutely. Adding the kim chin was a good little tanky taste.
Speaker 2 (37:51):
Would you you like him chi? Right? Okay? Because people
love it or hate it, there's no in between.
Speaker 1 (37:55):
What's not your favorite cuisine?
Speaker 2 (37:57):
I used to love Italian I used to, I mean,
I love it, but now I'm more of like a
Mariscos like I love whether it's like Mariscos like that
you get at, like you know, a spot, or like
a seafood boil. Girl, I love a seafood boil.
Speaker 1 (38:13):
Right now, I'm really into Japanese. I had my little
Korean moment, you know, I had a Korean barbecue like weekly.
But I'm really into sushi right now, like I'm trying
different fish, like changing the palette.
Speaker 2 (38:27):
Up a little bit. What's your favorite sushi.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Sushi spot or sushiatur peace.
Speaker 2 (38:32):
Yeah, I guess both. So I can learn some of
these pots because I'm a sushi lover myself.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
Really, Look, I'm a little basic. I'm not gonna lie.
I used to live in and I love State Brothers. No,
but have you had sugar fish? No, sugar fish is amazing.
Katsu Ya love katsu Ya. Whole Foods has really bombed sushi,
(38:58):
like you know the grocery store. Whole Foods is like
mine ship right there. Okay, what's your favorite?
Speaker 2 (39:09):
My favorite? It's an i E thing. It's called sushi
Miguel style. Have you had it? Oh? Have you had it?
Speaker 1 (39:15):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (39:15):
My god? Oh it's insane. So it's basically Mexican and
few sushi, but it's not like Lucca Town. So pretty
much it's any sushi that you want. And then on
the on the little oh you can eat paper you
put ms, which is Miguel's style. So they give you
any sushi with these grilled like pickled onions on top
of it, with like this like chili like this Mexican chili,
and fusee sauce. It is insane. But if the one
(39:37):
that my personal favorite is the one in Colton, shout out, damn,
hold on, all these people on payroll now, hold on,
blur them out. I'll tell you all my invoices. But
that is insane. It is so good. But the one
in Cultu is my favorite. But it is always jam
packed in there. It's always popping in there. It's it's tiny.
It's probably like smaller than the living room. It's small,
(39:58):
but it's good.
Speaker 1 (39:58):
But those places are best. Like hole in the wall situation,
like who.
Speaker 2 (40:02):
Cares if you have to wait forty eight hours to
get in. It's totally worse to be there. I'll be there.
Speaker 1 (40:06):
You're having your husband stay the night there, like when.
Speaker 2 (40:10):
People used to do when people like when people used
to do the iPhones, like they'll wait outside.
Speaker 1 (40:13):
Yeah, oh my gosh, I know I thought about that.
I'm like, because they released their you know, the the
y phones today or whatever, or the what's it called
the Kino Oh yeah, talking about it, I'm like, the
hype really died down. No one really waits anymore, like
you know, like spending money on the phone every year.
(40:35):
It is crazy, it's ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (40:36):
I used to work for Apple really yeah oh well
yeah two years ago. I used to work there, and
how was that? I love the day Apple? Like invoice
you too, hold on, I don't really get an invoice.
But Apple they really choose to employs really well, like
they're really big on mental health. They're really big on
work life balance, Like, girl, I called out like forty
eight times in like one month, and it's not even
(40:57):
forty eight days in a month, and they're like, oh,
we understand, like work life balance. But even the launches,
like they made it so smooth with employees and a
lot of times there's still is lines, but it's not
as crazy as it was before because everything's online order now. Yeah,
so that's why.
Speaker 1 (41:12):
There's a different like people you know, store selling it
best by the actual companies, the phone lines and all that.
Speaking of mental health, and I love that you're an
advocate and believing in God and everything all together. What
is some tips and tricks that you would give to
people maybe struggling with their mental health and situations like that.
Speaker 2 (41:36):
So I would just say take it one day at
a time, honestly, just give yourself a chance to stop
being so hard on yourself. Like that is the biggest
tip I can give anybody, is stop being hard on yourself.
Like you are so loved, you only get one life.
You are the chosen one of the billion little ferms,
like you were the one girl. So if that doesn't
prove that you're worth being here, I don't know. What does.
So just prioritize yourself and communicate a lot of times
(41:59):
people shut off. Communicate with your loved ones. Com communicate
in a safe space where you feel obviously safe and
who cares if it sounds like a broken record. Those
people who love for your ride for you, will be
there for you. So that's what I say. Find a
little community, ask for help. If you feel like you're crazy,
I promise you or not, there's millions of people that
feel the same way. You're not alone.
Speaker 1 (42:19):
Have you had Have you done therapy?
Speaker 2 (42:21):
Yes? I have?
Speaker 1 (42:22):
Are you a full believer of it? Because I feel
like there's people that are like you know, I've done therapy.
I think it works, wonders. I think it's amazing. I
recommend it. Do you.
Speaker 2 (42:32):
Yes, I'm a full believer of therapy. I actually want
to get back at the therapy because therapy is not
only for when you're feeling sad, but even when you're happy.
I'm a true believer in that. But yes, I'm a
big believer in therapy, like I feel like it has
helped me along my mental health journey. And I advocate
anybody who is feeling off or you know, maybe just
need somebody to talk to that's non biased aside from
like your loved ones. Yes, go and talk to a
(42:55):
random person. And it's like they'll because they're not gonna
have these opinions because they have no idea who you are,
so they're gonna have an insight that maybe you can
take away that's going to help you.
Speaker 1 (43:02):
No, and you're just they literally just sit there and listen,
like they're not talking back or like until you're done talking.
Literally Like so I'm I've always said it, like I
answer my own questions, like when I'm in therapy, like
I'm like when I say it out loud, I'm like,
actually I don't need you anymore, Like I get it now,
Like I know, I'm I got this now. But anyways,
(43:25):
I a thousand percent agree. I think that therapy is beautiful,
it works wonders, and I think that people also have
it like they feel like it's a little contradicted because
of Christianity and going to church and and it's it's
it's really not. It doesn't say in the Bible not
to doesn't say anything against it obviously, Like it's just
if you need that help, get it, and like it's
(43:48):
better for you and it will just make you a
better person and like healthier in every aspect and in
every way. Okay, So to lighten up the mood, we
have rapid fire questions. Yes, you have to answer your quick, easy.
Speaker 2 (44:03):
Quick, easy, and yeah, okay, I'm ready for it.
Speaker 1 (44:08):
Favorite ice cream flavor pistashio.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
Girl, don't play on me.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
Really, everyone hates pistashi yeah, girl love.
Speaker 2 (44:17):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (44:17):
If you could be an animal for if you could
be an animal for a day, what would you be?
Speaker 2 (44:21):
Chicken? Why don't know, don't ask me why. I've always
been fascinated with chickens. Maybecause I like die chickenney hold
be like top dog chicken.
Speaker 1 (44:34):
Have you seen the people on TikTok with farms and
they have chickens and then they're like, oh, making chicken
Offreido today, and then they grab the chicken shut up, yes,
and they do the whole thing on TikTok.
Speaker 2 (44:44):
Oh my god, I have not seen it. I do
not want to see. I'm a big animal.
Speaker 1 (44:48):
Lover, so like, no, those those are like farm raised, Like.
Speaker 2 (44:54):
That's like fresh chicken right there, honey, that's fresh chicken.
Speaker 1 (44:56):
It's all the comments, Oh you mean chicken all for real? Okay,
what's your guilty pleasure TV show?
Speaker 2 (45:03):
Oh? Oh god, I'm not a big TV person, but
I just finished Over Compensated. Have you seen it? It's
really really good and I want to be on season two.
I don't know how, but I'm gonna manifest. I'm gonna
be on that. But yeah, I also love that a
lot of them are former creators, so it kind of
like breaks that space of like that taboo of like
creators that are meant to be only online. I want
(45:23):
to see him on big screen. I'm like, yes, honey,
get it. What is it on? It's on Prime? Oh
nice to everybodys getting invoiced.
Speaker 1 (45:34):
If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
Speaker 2 (45:37):
Flying?
Speaker 1 (45:37):
Really? Just transport everywhere?
Speaker 2 (45:40):
Eashi transported? Yeah? Maybe transport?
Speaker 1 (45:43):
Is that? My sister said, bird, if she could be
an animal, she would be a bird because she would
like to fly. And so I'm like, okay, I get it,
Like flying would be just like you know, the breeze
under my arm.
Speaker 2 (45:54):
Wait, hold on, hold on, girl, because I what is
your If you could be any animal, what would you.
Speaker 1 (45:58):
Be, say like a panda? You can sleep all dame.
Speaker 2 (46:04):
I love that, you know, I love that that's such
a good But then.
Speaker 1 (46:09):
Like they're a little spicy, like if you mess with them.
Speaker 2 (46:11):
Much, don't worry. This chicken got your back.
Speaker 1 (46:16):
Okay. Favorite childhood cartoon.
Speaker 2 (46:19):
Oh oh I'm thinking too fast on spongeboblem What the hell?
Sponge a grip on sponge Bob?
Speaker 1 (46:28):
Yes? Okay, best snack to binge watch with.
Speaker 2 (46:32):
It's gonna be a weird concoction, can I yes, do
have time? Not popcorn with hot cheetosos And aside of
not your cheese.
Speaker 1 (46:40):
You're my type of person. I love popcorn cheese.
Speaker 2 (46:45):
Do you puts one of the movie theaters? I don't know,
but like yeah, oh, just sneak them in, honey, I'm good.
Speaker 1 (46:50):
But then you know, sometimes like you forget it's like, oh,
like you have to stop a store that's true chips
and stuff. Yeah, yeah, I feel like I've seen that.
Speaker 2 (47:00):
But yeah, my girl for a tiny bag. It's like
six bucks. Don't play on me.
Speaker 1 (47:03):
That's what's one thing that's always in your bag or
with you?
Speaker 2 (47:09):
My probably my lip bumb Oh and I know eos Honey, Yeah,
I'm a us girly advice everybody.
Speaker 1 (47:19):
Last song you played on repeat?
Speaker 2 (47:21):
Oh that new one by Olivia.
Speaker 1 (47:22):
What is it?
Speaker 2 (47:23):
Man? I need Have you heard it? No, it's pretty good.
It's been popping out over TikTok okay.
Speaker 1 (47:28):
Last one. If you can ask God one thing and
receive an answer like this, what are you asking?
Speaker 2 (47:35):
How did you make no mistakes with me? I'm just kidding.
If I could ask him one thing, Oh my god,
I don't. I don't think I would ask him any
I would be scared and god like, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (47:46):
I always say like, right now, you know to your mine,
I'm a lady, you are too, you would get it.
Speaker 2 (47:53):
I got a girl.
Speaker 1 (47:56):
The time of month?
Speaker 2 (47:57):
Why hmm?
Speaker 1 (47:58):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (48:01):
If I can down to take away, I'll take that
away from you. Everybody.
Speaker 1 (48:04):
Why you know little things like that as a woman exactly.
Speaker 2 (48:07):
Like can people just like fall in love and then
like the bird comes like and drops off the baby,
Like it'd be so much easier.
Speaker 1 (48:12):
Exactly do you want to have kids? You guys want
to babies.
Speaker 2 (48:15):
So when we first started dating, girl has nobody asked
for a backstory, But when we first started dating, we did.
He wanted kids, and I was like, I don't know
if I want kids because I still had like a
lot of childhood trauma and all that stuff. So as
time progressed, I've you know, I worked on myself and
I'm like, dude, like having like a little Alan or
a little Ruben running around would be so iconic. Like
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imagine he's all like, let me do six bottles six ways,
and I'm just kidding. But now I feel like, are
both of our lives are crazy? Like I'm in a
crazy industry. He's a realtor, so he's in a crazy industry. Yeah,
so even having time, like even for our dogs is
like crazy. Like, so now we're trying to really prioritize
(48:59):
our work life balance. It could happen in the future.
It's not off the it's not off the table, but
as of right now that it's like a no for
us right now.
Speaker 1 (49:05):
Okay, how would you guys if that time comes, or
when that time comes, adoption or having a surrogate.
Speaker 2 (49:14):
I'm a big, big believer in an adoption love even more.
Speaker 1 (49:18):
Yes, I love it. I believe in it too. I
always say, Okay, I kind of switched it up, but
I do want My first thing was I want to
adopt first and then have one on my own. But
then now I can switch it up because like I
want to have one on my own. Whatever I get there,
I'll adopt the opposite, you know what I mean. So
say I get a boy, I'm going to adopt a girl.
Speaker 2 (49:37):
There we go, so I can just have to we
have the best of both the worlds right there.
Speaker 1 (49:40):
Yeah, so you would adopt.
Speaker 2 (49:43):
I love that. Yeah, I would definitely adopt. That's always
been my belief since like there's so many kids that
need homes, I need love, and fuck I adopt them all.
I would.
Speaker 1 (49:52):
It's weird people think, you know, No, it's not. I
just I also have a Hertford Like I just think
about I'm like, there's already kids here, like why, like
you know, make them feel like they have a family.
Speaker 2 (50:04):
Exactly?
Speaker 1 (50:04):
Would you adopt from like baby baby or like what age?
Speaker 2 (50:07):
Oh girl? No, I don't know if I have on
any born. I mean I can handle it like that
saying that I can't, right, but I would adopt probably
like maybe like four four three or four not three
or four babies? Girl, Yeah, because they get path a
terrible too. They're like pretty much on the borderline of
getting pontly trained.
Speaker 1 (50:29):
You already get it already, does everything everything.
Speaker 2 (50:31):
Come and then like you know, a year with them
and then go to school.
Speaker 1 (50:35):
When when well, I absolutely loved it. You killed it here.
I'm obsessed. I love spam. Whoever is a spam hater, like, oh,
is your heaviest spam hater?
Speaker 2 (50:49):
He was, and I converted him, and he also a
pickle hater, and I inverted him to.
Speaker 1 (50:53):
Find the right love of your life.
Speaker 2 (50:55):
Here you go, put you on the exactly I always say,
it's it's maybe you didn't like that spot because you
don't like the way it was prepared. Honey, you haven't
had my exactly magical hands.
Speaker 1 (51:04):
I loved it. I'm gonna leave the recipe in the
description box so that way you guys can make it
out home too. Alan, thank you so much for me
your heart, such a good time, great conversation, great vibes,
your husband too. Thank you guys so much for driving
out here. We're gonna end with the Bible overs of
the day, and I always do little Bible verse, So.
Speaker 2 (51:28):
Here we go.
Speaker 1 (51:30):
Is it amost or almost one of those in Spanish?
It's almost? I believe five fourteen to fifteen, Seek devote,
and seek good, not evil, so that you may live.
Then the Lord, God Almighty will be with you just
as you say he is. Hate what is evil, love
what is right, and let justice prevail in the course.
Speaker 2 (51:51):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (51:52):
So always seek good, Always seek kindness, Remember to put
God first in your hearts and your minds, and remember
that it doesn't hurt too much or costs anything to
be kind and loving to those around you. Please plug
yourself in after plugging all those people, where can they
find you?
Speaker 2 (52:14):
What?
Speaker 1 (52:14):
He also has YouTube? Yes, we're you know YouTube fans
over here, so please share all that information so that
way they can keep up with you.
Speaker 2 (52:22):
Okay, you can find me on YouTube, but every everything
across my platformstel v, TikTok, snapchat, YouTube, Instagram, everything you
name it, I do it, honey, like trust.
Speaker 1 (52:31):
Me six ways?
Speaker 2 (52:32):
Yes everything?
Speaker 1 (52:34):
Hey, what's the V stand for? That's your that's my
last name, you're married last name?
Speaker 2 (52:41):
My very married last name is do have a long name?
All right? Well? Cool?
Speaker 1 (52:47):
Thank you guys so much for listening watching. Please go
follow him, subscribe to him, shout him out, support him.
Make sure you guys like, comment, subscribe this video and
review if you're listening, and I will see you guys
next Tuesday.
Speaker 2 (53:03):
Goodbye,
Welcome back to the Overcome for podcast. I am your host,
Jenna Lopez. Thank you guys so much for choosing to
listen and watch this episode. Wherever you guys are at.
You guys have seen the title, you have seen the description.
We have the one and only Alan or how do
you say it? Like very Spanish Mexican, but you say.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
A lot Alon. I know every time somebody sees my
name that like Alan, I was like, I mean, you
could call me by both, but Alon is like fancy,
not a.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Little sprinkled einkle. Yes, so happy to have you. The
way I connected with him was, obviously, if you guys
haven't known him, seen him very viral on TikTok on
social media for his very wonderful, very charismatic reviews of
food cravings, all these things, and I want to know
(00:59):
the man behind all of that. I'm very excited. We're
gonna plug in all your stuff after yes, but obviously
we're gonna, you know, introduce you to people that don't
know you, anything about you, anything that you do. And
by the way, today we are making kimchi spam fried
(01:20):
rice requested by Mua himself because yeah, he wanted it.
I've never made it in my life. I made fred
Rice okay, but definitely like I I was like spam Kimchi.
I'm like period, easy peasy, I got this like whatever. Anyways,
I'm gonna get this stuff. But please introduce yourself, tell
(01:41):
us about what you do, who you are, et cetera.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
Yeah, oh my god, so much questions. There's so many
cameras read it to you. Yes, someone names Alan some
more Jackson the third and I'm just kidding. I'm kidding,
no fun fact. I say that in my YouTube intros.
And I just found out that I actually am the third.
Like I was just messing around. I'm the third Moteo
on my family, my grandpa and my uncle. Then me,
(02:05):
I was like, what the I just surprised myself with
a fun fact.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Wait, your middle name or your my.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Full first name?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Full name? Okay?
Speaker 2 (02:11):
So my mom and my dad have this thing where
they wanted us all to have two first names. So
my first legal name is Altimoteo. Okay, ahead, So yeah,
you know me, I'd be on the internet doing six ways,
sixteen six ways, all that stuff. I love to cook
growing up, loving to cook. Fun fact. In high school,
I was in culinary arts, and I ended up getting
(02:32):
dropped because I didn't know that part of culinary arts
is like writing your own ingredients book, like writing everything down,
you know, like a what do you call like a
cookbook on this Yeah, I was a girl. I thought
we were gonna cook and that was it. But no,
there's there's a lot more to than to be in
a cheft and just cooking, right. But yeah, that's that's
a little bit about me. I'd just be having fun
on the internet cooking and I'm roasting my audience, and
(02:53):
that's pretty much it.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Where's your family from?
Speaker 2 (02:55):
My family from like originally or like right now, like
where they're currently residing, so you can I'm just kidding
that half Filipinos. So my dad's from Ilocros mom, while.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
My brother in law is Filipino and Mexican.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Tako.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Yes, you have a spam. I am a lover of spam.
I don't know if you guys are or aren't. If
you aren't, I'm sorry about it.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
You know what I always say, If you don't love
spam or hate spam, what's spam? Backwards? Maps? You can
take a map out of my life?
Speaker 1 (03:29):
Yes, Annie, Yes, okay, so have you always like dreamed
of like cooking and like all of that since you
were a kid.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
No, Actually, like I know, you can watch grow up
watching my mom cook, and I think when I I
was actually vegetarian for four years, that's what I fell
in love with cooking even more because I was, like, girl,
I grew up in a Filipino Mexican household, nobody's eating
vegetarian food. So I had to kind of like force
myself to learn how to cook vegetarian food. So I
(03:58):
did that, and within that I found a love for cooking.
And my parents, oh God, bless you guys, but they
were my guinea pigs to see how my feet tasted.
And one thing about me, they always keep it a buck,
so if they didn't like it, they would tell me.
But that's kind of where I fell in love with cooking.
And then yeah, just that's where that's where it all
rooted from.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Okay, and then how did like everything happened for you
on TikTok and stuff?
Speaker 2 (04:19):
So I've been actually I've been making TikTok since twenty
twenty two. I just started off with a couple of
comedy with my husband, just traveling having fun. We were
celebrating our one year anniversary of being married. So we're
traveling all over the world and then one you guys,
some of you may know the backstory about one TikTok.
We went on a hot air balloon ride.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
Okay, and.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Before you go on hot air balloon, right, you have
to feel out like how much way all that stuff? Well, girl,
I put all was one fifty, knowing damn well it's
not one fifty when drivers, Yeah, I was like, girl,
my driver's license is one fifty, honey, don't play with me.
And we get to there.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
And they weigh you.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
They pulled out a scared Oh they pulled out a
freaking scale and they're like, honey, you ain't no one fifties,
like so we have to pay extra. So from that
I just kind of like picked up the camera and
filmed our reaction.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Sorry, reminds me of like when you're going to the
airport and you're hoping that the luggage is under.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Fifty very much that, very much that. And then from
there like that just blew up and people wanted to
know more about us, and so that's kind of how
we started. Then I ended up wanted to go like
my own route so I started doing cooking reviews, I
mean food reviews, cooking videos, all that stuff, and then
that just kind of like were bloss on.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
It took off.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Yeah, that started like end of last year.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
Okay, how long have you guys been married?
Speaker 2 (05:42):
We boy just celebrated our four year marriage. Congrats, thank you.
We love it like we've been living our best life.
I still feel like we're on our honeymoon phase. Like
it's good.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
A lot of people feel like once you get married,
it loses like the the and so I'm glad that
you guys still.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Feel together of course. Yeah. Yeah. Every time we meet somebody,
they're like, wow, you guys are like exactly how you
are online, but also like how long have you guys
been married, because it seems like you're in your honeymoon years.
I'm like, oh, well, we've known each other for nine
years already married before Like what the heck?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
So he said, you have seen each other the good, about,
the ugly, like everything.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
And then the between he has, girl, yes, everything in between.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Can I ask? Because I just love and I'm nosy
for pure nature? How what was your coming out story? So?
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Actually I didn't come out. I was like, well, I
guess I didn't didn't, so obviously my parents me like, girl,
like we've been in New honey, Like they never questioned it.
But then once I started, like because I came out
at twenty one, so I started like dating guys, bringing
guys over the house. I'm saying guys like as if
it's like multiple. It was only like one to thirty,
(06:52):
not that many. And I'm just kidding. I'm like, So
I started bringing guys over to my house and then
my parents were just like, h like, are those his friends?
Like it doesn't have a lot of guy friends, Like
who are they? So one day, my mom and I
went to Chipotle to get food for the family, and
then before we went in, and my mom was like, hey,
(07:12):
quick question, like the guys that you're bringing over, like
are you dating any of them? And I was like, yeah,
just a couple, not a couple, just I'm seeing one.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Seriously, you hadn't said anything.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Oh no, I hadn't said anything. And then like, Okay,
let's go get Chipotle. So that was kind of it.
You never said so the one I was more worried
about because my dad was like, you know, like more
of the world. My mom grew up very religious, so
very very religious, grew up in the Catholic Church, then
converted into Christianity. So I grew up like very like
I wasn't really scared of her, but like scared of
(07:43):
what she thought. But I was more like she just
kind of like very much that. Yeah, so she was
very accepting, very and she's like, okay, let's go get
a burrito, and then that was it. She's in love
with Ruben like absolutely. Sometimes I think she loves him
more than me. So that's how it goes. Yeah, that
was my coming out story.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Yea. So it wasn't ever like a struggle, like even
you with your relationship with your dad never changed or anything.
Do you have more siblings?
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Yes? I have three brothers, two sisters, okay, yeah, all
very the only gay one. I'm the only gay one. Okay,
but both of my brothers and best friends are gay,
so like they're they're not like they're best friends. So
there wasn't very very.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
Much then, like like oh that's good, love that for
you and I love about I love that about your
mom like that. She was just accepting and loving and
like never changed with you, because some people unfortunately aren't,
you know, lucky enough in that area.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
So I'm very happy. I love. Yeah, I feel I
feel honestly like very blessed to have very accepting parents
and support us and like anything that we do in
our future. Like, so it was very because I know
some people's stories there aren't as smooth selling, right, So
I'm very fortunate and blessed to have parents who love me,
(08:59):
love my has been, don't judge my lifestyle or anything
like that.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
So yeah, because this is really really tough out there
right now. It is like at this point, it's twenty
twenty five, Like it's kind.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Of like girl, and I just feel like, come out,
don't come out and live your life. But also if
you're bullying others for their sexual orientation or anything like that, girl,
bullying is so ghetto, it's so old, Like get over it.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
In general, I don't even have to be as like
gay or not gay exactly anything in general. Like it's
just it's just I'm always big on like it doesn't
hurt too much to be kind, Like it doesn't cost
anything exactly nice, just be a human exactly. You know,
if you're like alone roasting people, then that's fine.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Hey, but I grew up in a very well obviously,
I have a lot of siblings. Oh you have a
lot of siblings too, huh. Yes, yeah, so you kind
of know like roast attitudes, Yes, are sometimes a form
of love.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Yeah, it's a yes, tough love. It's like you know,
but then sometimes you know, summer a little sense like
they can't handle it? Is that? Do you want more
kim chi?
Speaker 2 (10:00):
That's fine? So the way I make it, however you
make it, some people actually like to put it in.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
That's what I'm thinking.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
I like to kind of like garnish it on top
of my front. But let me know if we can
try it like that, see how it works, or we
can garnish it on top totally up to you.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
Hold on, let me think. Okay, my little thought process.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
We can try it. I've never tried it like that.
Just do it, oh right, you know me, girl, I'm
all about being experimental, like I'll be trying different things.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Honestly, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
How you do it.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
I've seen your videos and I've seen like, you know,
has there been anything that you're just like absolutely not
ever trying again? Obviously, there's like some things I feel
like the sweet and salty ones like like I'm like,
absolutely not, I don't care who right ties me to
do it, like I'm not doing it.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
There have been some funky ones that I'm like because
I also do like weird cravings, trying people's cravings so.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Pregnant, the pregnancy ones, I'm like, yo, crazy.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Yeah, a lot of people who are a lot of
women who are pregnant love pickles. So like my most
request is always pickles. If you always see me during
pickles is because liken of my comments or pickles, pickles, this, pickle, that,
pickle this, And I'm like, okay, so but I think
it was some of the weird ones like I got
a honey bun and I dipped it in ranch. Absolutely not,
that's exactly what I said. Absolutely. And then there's one
(11:19):
coming out tonight that I did where it was vanilla
ice cream, mustard and pickles.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
No, that's a pregnancy Yes, who thinks that that's okay?
Speaker 2 (11:29):
Like like no, absolutely, I was like absolutely that was foul,
Like I would never do that one again. So there
have been somewhere I'm.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
Like, oh my god, all right, well let's move yes,
let me get it. We should cook that separate right,
you can cook it in there, cook it in there.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Yeah, so we'll cook this. We'll cook the spam first.
Let it crisp pup. Do you have soy sauce by chumps? Yes?
Speaker 1 (11:49):
I do?
Speaker 2 (11:50):
Okay, So I crisped up with soy sauce okay, mistick
and just sawt that in there. Girl, I'm in my element, honey, like,
I love it.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Please please?
Speaker 2 (12:00):
And also fun fact, whenever you scoop stuff and say,
always use the back of the blade because you dull
the fun. Did you know that? Because I just learned that, girl.
So I'm trying to like pass knowledge.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Times I forget. Sometimes I'm just like yes, like and
then I'll figure out how to, like, yes, sharpen my
own blade.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Like, girl, this is a big old Oh yeah, I
love it. I love it. Get that.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
So I want to know you growing up with how
many brothers and sisters?
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Three brothers, three brothers, two sisters.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Wow, so six six of us period. I'm a family
of five, So I get it. How was it growing up?
What was your childhood?
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Like? My childhood was pretty amazing, Like, I was so
blessed to have very hard working parents. They did the
best that they could at you know, at their age
or whatever. But I mean, obviously nobody's parents are perfect,
but they did the best, and I'm honestly truly honored
that I got blessed with such amazing parents. Our relationship
wasn't always very close, but I felt like as a as.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
A you know, as a why sorry if you don't
want me asking.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Why did I feel like our relationship wasn't I just
felt like I obviously I was a little bit different.
So I always had like some thing different that was
like not. I don't know if it was my parents
kind of like, oh, we obviously know, you know, he's gay.
I don't know, it's something that back then maybe it
wasn't as accepted as it is today. So kind of
like dealing with my emotions, dealing with this, trying to
(13:21):
do the best, you know, obviously I won't get bullied
in school to toughen me up, like my dad put
me in martial arts to like to know how to
protect myself in case I got bullied. And now looking
back at that, like I always thought like, damn, dad,
why do you want me to do karate or muti kickboxing?
But it was honestly to deal with my emotions and
honestly to toughen me up in case and to know
how to protect myself whatever gets thrown my own way.
(13:43):
But then obviously, like growing up, I always thought like,
you know, I was a little different or whatever, but
I've always been very like independent, Like I felt like
I didn't need my parents. I've always kind of like
did been like on my own. And then I would
say like during COVID was what really brought.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Close together I think everybody in general.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
Yeah, yeah, And I kind of learned more like about
my parents, and I got to learn more about like
why they were they were they why they were the
way that they were like, and I just kind of like,
because every I always believe that every reaction has an
action to it, or if you actually has a reaction, yeah,
like why instead of being like a lot of people
are like mommy did this? Dad?
Speaker 1 (14:20):
You did this?
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Mom? Like why why are they like that? Like work
in the top, where can the conversation begin?
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (14:26):
So I feel like one I have more understanding exactly.
So I felt like during that time where we're kind
of forced to all be together, I got to learn
more about their story and I felt like I got
to know my mom, got to know my dad a
little bit better and build a relationship that turned into
a friendship. And I love them now.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
Because you like, yeah, because sometimes you grow up in
resentment and like feeling a certain way exactly. And what
about your siblings, Like were you always close with them
or you weren't.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
No, me and my siblings aren't very Like we're close,
but not like to the point where we're like, hey,
you want to come over and like, you know, go
shopping together. We weren't that close. I feel like the
only one I'm pretty close tot probably my little sister,
just because I raised her, so I felt like that's
the only one to have a strong bond with. And
you know, she kind of knows like the true me
and all that stuff. So I feel like that's the
only one I have like a really close bond with.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
I love that. I'm glad. I'm glad that, Like you,
did you ever experience anything maybe like in school that
was like maybe taught you something that you're like, oh yeah,
led you to be a better person or any way
like defined who you are today?
Speaker 2 (15:35):
Like not really, girl, Like I didn't get bullied or
anything like that, or I wasn't because I've always been
quick witted, So I was like, girl, if you want to,
you know, come for me, you better be ready to
go Burke and for Burke and girl, because I don't play.
I'm quick witted. All my families, I'm a cancer.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
Oh I could see it. I'm like I feel I
feel like my sister, like my older sister, vis like
my mom to like quick with the words, quick with
the actions. I see it. So you'd like always do
like you knew you could stand for yourself, stand for
your own exactly. How does how does this work in
(16:13):
your marriage?
Speaker 2 (16:15):
I'm basy. My husband is the most calmst most patients. Yes,
so definitely when they say opposites do a tract on
their officers, definitely do a track Like my husband is
like polar opposite. When I first met him, he didn't
know anything about social media. He was not into pop
culture anything like that. So I was like, well, honey, welcome.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
To my Okay, tell me the story. How did you
guys meet?
Speaker 2 (16:40):
We met online? So we met online and then it's
so crazy how the red stream theory goes. You know
about the red they so pretty much like two people
go throughout their life and there's but there's always a
red stream attached to them.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
So no matter where, like invisible invisible string, there we go.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
It's called the invisible string.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
Why does give me a little freaky?
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Maybe? So I met him online because I had just
got out of a relationship. I was like, I'm not
looking for anything serious. I just want to start getting
my life together. And so I was like, you know what,
let me have some fun, girl, Like, I have n't
been single for a while. Let me have some fun.
So one day he was going to Disneyland and he
(17:21):
passed by my house on the way to Disneyland. Okay,
and obviously he has to pass my city. So we
ended up matching at the same time online. So we
just got to know each other. We exchanged numbers, we
keep keyed, and then when he went to go pick
me up the first time for our first date, he
was like what the hell? I was like, what, He's like,
do you know that I grew up down the street
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from here?
Speaker 1 (17:43):
I was like, what is like the start of the series.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Yes, he was like, I was like practically your neighbor.
And I was like, what the hell? Like, literally I
could walk to his house. Okay, that's how close we were,
and then just like how he was so fascinated to
learn about my world. I was so fascinated to learn
about his world. Like we got each other up, like dude,
we're like each other's biggest fans. Like that's one thing
that I actually take fright in is our relationship because obviously,
like no relationship is perfect, but we definitely learned how
(18:10):
to communicate. We've definitely grown with each other. You know,
he's always been there for me, and I just felt
like it's my best friend, Like I love doing life
with him. So that's that's kind of how we met.
And yeah, okay, so then he's behind the scenes like
you're doing Gray, sweetie.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
You better say that. Okay. So then you guys ended
up getting married.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
Yes, we ended up getting married. We got married into
Mecula's beautiful, beautiful wedding, and it was the perfect wedding
because it was exactly what I envisioned our wedding to be,
like just because you know, when you get married, like
invite your THEA, invite your neighbor, invite the guy at
State of Brothers, I just whoever, your dentist, everybody. So
(18:54):
when we had our wedding was only eight people. It
was just close family, close friends who actually know our story,
who actually took the time to be like I, who
know Ruben, who knows exactly. So it was beautiful, beautiful wedding.
Loved it. We got married in August and into Mecula.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
Oh, you guys are crazy.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
But let me tell you how great God is so
leading up to the days of our wedding. So we
got married on a Saturday, So Thursday one hundred and
ten degrees, Friday one hundred and twenty degrees up there
into Mecula. You know how much it was on Saturday,
seventy seven degrees way, seventy seven degrees.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
I was there. That's beautiful.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
We woke up, we opened up our windows, like the
hot air balloons were going above us.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
Oh that's magical. Yeah, okay, it was. It was like
a love story. It was oh my gosh. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
And then literally the next day back to one hundred
and nine. But hey, I was blessed for our one
day total.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Are you a believer?
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Oh God, yeah, I'm a very strong believer.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
I love that. So, like I would like to know
like your because yeah, you know a lot of people
and please forgive me. You could say no, you could please.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
I'm going I'm in my element. I'm telling you love it.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
Okay. So the rice and the egg is here.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
We have garlic, onion, salt, pepper. Yes, love that, and
so Roger, if you want to extra spice okay. I've
always been like intrigued to ask, do you okay? So
you said your mom converted to Christianity. Did she ever
press that on you? Guys?
Speaker 2 (20:34):
Yes, she did, And we've had talks about this. I
think I have it online somewhere talking about it with
her as well too. But growing up, like the reason
why there was a while where I left the church
was because of that, like a lot, and I feel
like I grew up in church. I grew up in church. Yeah,
I grew up Christian, grew up in the church. But
as I got older, there was just some things that
like the pastor were saying that I didn't online or
(20:55):
didn't make me feel comfortable there anymore. Obviously. One of
the big thing was being home sexual kind of really
pressed that on us. Like it was bad, it was bad,
it was bad, it was bad, and I just felt
like so uncomfortable, like I'm not even out, like if
the pastor is thinking this, my mom's believing this, Like
I wonder if that's how she's gonna view me if
I was supposed to if I were.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
To come out, so I push you away more.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
So I ended up leaving the church. I ended up
just you know, I still I've always had a strong
faith though, always no matter what, always had a strong though, like.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
It didn't push you away from God and anyway or
did No, it didn't.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
It pushed me away from the church, but it did
never push me away from God because everything that I
felt like I have today was because of God. All
my wins, I give up to God, all my even
my loss, I give up to God. Like it wasn't
my timing. It was not my timing. So I ended
up leaving the church, and my mom was obviously like, well,
you're not going to church anymore, this and that. And
then as as time passed and through that time of
(21:46):
like I so said that, I started becoming friends with
my mom. I think she got more of a revelation
of like, oh, I get his mindset of like how
that can be perceived, like how he's seen it. I
only see it because this is all I've known my
whole life. Go to the church. That's how he proved
I know, you're a good person, and this and that.
But a lot of the things that the pastor were saying,
I was like, there's no way God created me to
go to Hell. Obviously, there's no way that He created me.
(22:10):
Like everybody's a sinner, No siner is greater than the other.
But there's no way that I'm a mistake to God,
like absolutely not. So yeah, but then you know, I
still go to church here and there, but I'm I'm
not like involved as much in the church as I
was as I was growing up. Let me put the
kimchi next.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
Okay, but you still like that is like your main Well, yeah,
that's like that's your pillar. That's like your cornerstone. That's
like what's kept you where you're at today. Yes, And
have you ever like, has anybody ever approached you because
(22:51):
you are gay and Christian say in a bad way?
Speaker 2 (22:57):
I would say, I would say no, I don't think
I ever like nobody's ever been like, how could you
be Christian if you're getting like, no, I've never had
that come across Thank God, Like I never had it
but yeah, and that's never happened to me.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
That's good though, because I've always like I've seen people
and obviously it's like a challenging question and it's like,
oh my God, this is and that, and I've talked
about it like in different podcast episodes and situations and
it's like, which I love that you mentioned that it
was more of the church than it was God, because
the church paints God to be a different picture than
(23:35):
who he really is. Yes, And it's like, realistically, all
you got to do is like read the Bible and
know exactly who God is to understand who you are
and how to be a better person. And then it's
like I'm not saying like you know, not to go
to church or not to like participate or you know whatever,
Like I do believe that it's like a source, Like
(23:58):
it's a like a good like a little freshirt like
during the like one time a week, like Okay, this
is the start of my week. I gotta go, thank
God whatever whatever's to come. And if you don't, that's fine.
Your story and the way that you found or you
knew that, it's like, okay, it was the church not God.
I think it's beautiful to me, and I love that
(24:18):
you always have kept that in the way and in
the plant as you're focused. Because people lose sight, and
people get church hurt, and people lose like that desire
and believe that God is a bad person. Did you ever, like,
did that ever cross your mind at any point?
Speaker 2 (24:32):
There was a There was actually a point in my
life during I was freshly out of COVID that I
was questioning, like because I went into a really I
don't know, I think I've talked about this online, but
I went into like a really bad mental headspace where
you know, when you're I'm a really big advocate for
mental health as well too, but you know, when people
are dealing with mental health, their mind goes crazy. Your
(24:54):
mind is more powerful than people think. Like, so there
was a point where, you know, I I just bought
my house, i just landed my dream job. I'm you know,
making good money, I'm about to get married to my husband,
and all of a sudden, like just like the walls
felt like they were closing in and everything was going bad.
I gained one hundred pounds. I always say a quarantine girl.
(25:14):
I gained the quarantine honey, Like I gained a lot
of weight, and you know, my friendships were dying like
I was because I moved an hour away from where
I grew up. And I'm just like telling God, like, God,
like You've given me everything, Like why am I not happy?
I'm losing friendships my family. I feel like my family
was going to shambles. My friendships were despairing and started
(25:38):
taking a toll on the thing that I take pride
in the most, which was my relationship with my husband.
Once I started tackling that, I was like, God, what
are you doing? Like, what are you doing? What is
going on? And I always say that that was the
best thing I had ever happened to me. Because I
went I got worse. It got really worse. I ended
up getting diagnosed with well. I didn't even go to
the doctors. The doctors told me over the phone because
(25:58):
it was still fresh out of COVID, You're diagnosed with
a mood disorder. You have anxiety depression. Here's all this medication.
Medication made me ten times worse, to the point where
I stopped talking. I stopped talking for about a month
and I didn't I was like, dude, everything is going
down here. And I was praying to God, like God, like,
if you get me out of this, I will praise
you at my high and my low, like any if
(26:19):
you get me out of this. And I got the
help from a holistic doctor that my mom introduced me to.
He saved my life. He saved my life, and I
became I honestly felt like I died and I became
a better version of myself. And after that, I was like,
there's no way God's not real.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Yeah, first of all, like I've never really been diagnosed
with it, but obviously, like I know, and I've always
knew in my head, like I do not want to
get to the point where I'm taking medication. Yep, why one?
Because it's man created and I just don't truly I don't.
(26:53):
I don't believe in it, like I believe like natural
holistic healp your things, like it's given to us, it's
grown into the earth, God planted it for a reason,
like it's here as our source, like you know, so
I do believe, like I do believe in that, and
sometimes like I like, okay, I want to know your thoughts,
(27:15):
you know, to switch it up really quick. Do you
think that they have found the cure for cancer or
do you think that the cure of cancer is in
our foods and all that?
Speaker 2 (27:24):
Of course, I feel like cancer like is in everything
in our cell phones, yes, and everything. And I do
feel like they do ha, I do know. I do
feel like they have the care, right I do. There's
no way with all this technology, with all this curing
other ailments, Like there's no way, there's no way to
have to But you know why they'll never say, of
course because.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
The money exactly, it's the money. It's you know, Okay, And.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
That's why I also like I turned away from like
I don't go to anybody but my holistic doctor, doctor
Modo in Riverside. You're that girl because he saved like
so many people's lives.
Speaker 1 (27:58):
And okay, and like going back to like the whole
COVID situation, like also like now all of a sudden,
it's not contagious and you could be around and this
is and that, like so it's just you know, interesting
little things like just people need to like wake up
just a little bit, yes, and like take advantage of
the opportunities of like that's why I'm like like so
(28:20):
huge on like my diet, Like I'm healthy eating, like
how I take care of myself, like whole foods. It's
like it's there's no need to add the extra nests.
But anyways, that was a little side note, but I
want to go back into like your depression and your
anxiety and all that, Like how was that for you?
Did you ever feel like I mean I felt it,
(28:42):
and I'm sure you probably have, but did you ever
feel like, okay, like I'm done, like there's there's no
end to this.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Yeah I did. Oh, I don't want to get emotion,
but there was a point where like I was so depressed.
I'm not even kidding, Like I was so so sad
that I called my husband. On my last day, I
called my husband and I told him and he heard
it in my voice. I was just like, I just
want to let you know that I love you so
much and don't ever think that in this lifetime, like
(29:10):
I never stopped loving you because I just like, He's like,
what's going on? Are you okay? It's like I'm having
a good day, but usually like you want to cover
it up, and I just could not stop crying. And
then something tell me, pick up the phone, call your mom.
So I called my mom and she because my mom
prior to that, had went through really bad mental break down.
That's how I know about the holistic doctor. So she
saw it on my face. She's like, no, I know.
(29:31):
He's like I need you to stay. I need you
to stay, like like one more day, like just stay.
And yeah, I booked the appointment with the doctor and
he saved my life. And that doctor I love and
hate him because he is You cannot bullshit him because
you know how other doctors are like, oh yeah, that's fine.
He was like, I can tell right now you're lying
to me. Don't lie to me. Like so I went
and did. I told him everything. He's like, I need
(29:52):
to know everything that's wrong with you. Tell me everything.
If you have bad breath, if you have yellow to nails,
like whatever, tell me everything. And I he ended up
doing like a whole month of like diagnosis. I did
a food allergy, he did blood work, he did a
neurology test where I had to spit in a tube
every four hours to see what's going on. Four weeks later,
he hit me up and he was like, so, like,
(30:15):
I'm not surprised that what you're feeling, you're feeling, you're
pre diabetic. You have a fatty liver. He was like,
you have the worst gut health, Like the serotonin in
your head is so low that I'm surprised that you
don't feel anything.
Speaker 1 (30:27):
Was this before, No, this was after you gained the
pounds exactly exactly.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
So he was like, he was like, think of yourself
as like a marrin or the little dolls with the string.
They have five strings. You only have two of them
working right now. He's like, I can tell you exactly
the time that you get out of bed. It's at
two o'clock on And I was like, yes, because 'ben
gets home at three, so I want to get up
and like wash my face and act like everything's okay.
So he was like, you get up every day. Your
brain starts working at two o'clock every day. I was like,
(30:53):
what the hell. Yeah, he was like, you have a
gluten allergy. You have this, this, this, this, he was like.
So he put me on like an eight week diet,
and he put me on medication for mental health, get
my family livered down all of that stuff, and like,
little by little, like I just saw like the better
version of me evolving, and it was like the best
thing I ever did. Yeah, So that's why I like,
I don't really like when I go to the doctors.
(31:14):
I go to him and not like I don't care
about to pay a pretty penny my life. I only
get one life. It's worth it.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
Of course. Absolutely, I saw on your I think it's pinned.
You got surgery?
Speaker 2 (31:24):
Yeah, what did you do? I got the gash? Sleep?
Speaker 1 (31:27):
Okay, talk to me, how was that?
Speaker 2 (31:29):
Like?
Speaker 1 (31:31):
What was that experience for you?
Speaker 2 (31:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (31:33):
I want to know when did you get it? Because
there's people that have gone there, people that are interested.
I got it when I was fourteen.
Speaker 2 (31:38):
Oh oh wow, girl, that was young.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
Was like when it first became a thing. So everyone's ye.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
So prior to me getting the surgery, my husband got it.
So I saw him go through it and he just
seeing the color come back into his face was like
everything to me. He became more. He's always been confident,
both of us, but just seeing him like in the
mirror and like loving what he sees even more was
everything to me. So he got it one year and
(32:08):
then I didn't qualify for it. So I didn't qualify
for it, and I think I was a pretty good
candidate for it. They said my BMI was too high
or whatever, too low, too high, something like that that
I didn't qualify for it. So I was like, you
know what, maybe it's God telling me give it one
more shot. So I ended up. For the next year,
I worked out, I you know, stopped drinking. I was
(32:31):
you know, on my supplements, like making sure like my
body was a one. I couldn't drop the weight. But
you know what, in that year that I spent, I
thought it was like not a year well, not a
year spent, but a year well learned. I guess where.
I learned better eating habits and fell in love with
a gym again. So then I was like, we were
on our three year anniversary. We're on a cruise and
I couldn't get out of bed. I was like, there
(32:53):
was so many girl, Why are there so many stairs
and cruises?
Speaker 1 (32:55):
Girl?
Speaker 2 (32:56):
I did not know was that the equinox? Oh my god?
Speaker 1 (33:00):
Both should have somebody else.
Speaker 2 (33:02):
Literally and then what do we call it? Oh? Yeah,
so we're going up and downstairs. I just felt like
he has so much energy and I couldn't last and
I was just out of breath and I just felt
so bad. I was like, I want to like keep
up with him so on that Literally the last day
of our of our trip, I told I'm thinking about
(33:23):
it the surgery, and he was like what, He's like,
you serious? And I was like yeah, He's like, well
you didn't qualify. I was like, honey, I'm gonna take
my ass to Mexico getting sure. Yes, I'll take some love.
So I got it. I went to TJ doctor Savante. Hey,
I'm plugging everybody, girl, But I got treated like a
king out there. Girl. It was amazing. I was out
(33:44):
there for four days. They all take treated treating me
so well, and it was the best experience. And I
just felt like, how much have you lost? I'm down
ninety pounds that yeah, and how long has that been?
I gonna be I just passed my year this Saturday,
September sixth. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
Period. So now you and Hobby are both.
Speaker 2 (34:03):
Like on our gym rat games. Well, we're kind of
like Jim Rodents right now. We're trying.
Speaker 1 (34:07):
We're trying to work up to the rats, you know, honestly,
And that's what I always say, like, if you have
to get the surgery for you to like find that
motivation and like build that confidence, then do it. I
don't see anything wrong with it, Like there's so many
haters that like, oh oh but he got the gas strik,
Like it doesn't like, don't discredit what I've been through,
(34:30):
Like I and that's what I that's what I hate.
It's like I spent the money for it. I literally
starved myself. You been starting for a whole year. Yeah,
and it's like, you know, everybody has their own journey
the whole, their own experiences. Like I think it's I
think it's something helpful in it. I'm sure your mental
health even went up.
Speaker 2 (34:50):
Oh my god, it was already, yes, because now because before,
like my energy levels were like so low that I
was drinking like three bangs a day, like the energy drinks.
Speaker 1 (34:58):
Oh how like heart I have.
Speaker 2 (35:02):
Girl, I'm trying to figure that out. But yeah, my
energy levels, my my mental health well being is at
its buyingess honey, Like I love it. Okay.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
Any recommendations if you for people that are considering maybe
getting it, So if.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
You're worried about like the vanity purposes, because that was
some of people's like biggest flaws of like why not
to get it? Like, if you're worried about like the
loose skin, the hair loss. Girl, don't worry because the
way you're gonna feel is gonna be ten times better
than you know, the loose skin of the hair or
anything like that. Like I did not worry about that.
I was just like, woo, girl, this time's trying to
get away. I was just more worried about like, girl,
(35:40):
I'm tired of feeling tired, Like I want to feel better.
Speaker 1 (35:43):
Like it's more like for your actual health and like.
Speaker 2 (35:46):
You know, so I would give it up. So what
I would say is like if you if you're thinking
about doing you're on the right track, honey. Like there's
nothing better than prioritizing your life.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
Exactly. I heard somebody I had somebody a friend who
also got it to it saved their life because they
couldn't make it to the bathroom. They were going up
the stairs and I just couldn't make it to the bathroom.
It was like a lot of stairs or whatever. So
it's like, yeah, it's like and if you're worried about
like the vanity or like the loose skin and all that,
it's like you're gonna have loose skin even if you
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go to the gym and you start dropping that weight like,
I like, it's it's gonna be there. You either drop
the weight faster with the gas trick, or you take
forever in the gym, which is still amazing, you know,
and still have loose skin.
Speaker 2 (36:33):
Yea. Everybody, Yeah, everybody has their own story, you know,
of course, everybody.
Speaker 1 (36:36):
I'm an advocate.
Speaker 2 (36:37):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (36:38):
If you want to get surgery at bibes, go get surgery,
like it doesn't matter. If you want a baby, I'll
go go to BBL.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
Like here, why not?
Speaker 1 (36:45):
You know, he almost burnt my house down already. He
turned on the he backed it up on the stove
and the stove turned on.
Speaker 2 (36:52):
I was like, yes, some bb allegations that are heading
the internet right now.
Speaker 1 (36:58):
Our food is ready. We made sam kinchi fried rice courtesy,
and mom I barely helped, which is like refreshing, Like
sometimes I don't feel like cooking. Girl having a whole
podcast about cooking.
Speaker 2 (37:13):
I love to cook. So you got the right, guess it?
Speaker 1 (37:15):
Okay, thank you God for the food. Thank you. What's
the thing you say, may come out smooth the way.
Speaker 2 (37:24):
It came in, Let's do it. Thank you large for
let it come out the way comes in smooth amen.
I literally had somebody come up to me the other day.
They're like, oh my god, can you do the little prayer?
I'm like, girl, we're at a Walmart right now.
Speaker 1 (37:39):
Okahead, Oh.
Speaker 2 (37:44):
That's good.
Speaker 1 (37:44):
Absolutely. Adding the kim chin was a good little tanky taste.
Speaker 2 (37:51):
Would you you like him chi? Right? Okay? Because people
love it or hate it, there's no in between.
Speaker 1 (37:55):
What's not your favorite cuisine?
Speaker 2 (37:57):
I used to love Italian I used to, I mean,
I love it, but now I'm more of like a
Mariscos like I love whether it's like Mariscos like that
you get at, like you know, a spot, or like
a seafood boil. Girl, I love a seafood boil.
Speaker 1 (38:13):
Right now, I'm really into Japanese. I had my little
Korean moment, you know, I had a Korean barbecue like weekly.
But I'm really into sushi right now, like I'm trying
different fish, like changing the palette.
Speaker 2 (38:27):
Up a little bit. What's your favorite sushi.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Sushi spot or sushiatur peace.
Speaker 2 (38:32):
Yeah, I guess both. So I can learn some of
these pots because I'm a sushi lover myself.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
Really, Look, I'm a little basic. I'm not gonna lie.
I used to live in and I love State Brothers. No,
but have you had sugar fish? No, sugar fish is amazing.
Katsu Ya love katsu Ya. Whole Foods has really bombed sushi,
(38:58):
like you know the grocery store. Whole Foods is like
mine ship right there. Okay, what's your favorite?
Speaker 2 (39:09):
My favorite? It's an i E thing. It's called sushi
Miguel style. Have you had it? Oh? Have you had it?
Speaker 1 (39:15):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (39:15):
My god? Oh it's insane. So it's basically Mexican and
few sushi, but it's not like Lucca Town. So pretty
much it's any sushi that you want. And then on
the on the little oh you can eat paper you
put ms, which is Miguel's style. So they give you
any sushi with these grilled like pickled onions on top
of it, with like this like chili like this Mexican chili,
and fusee sauce. It is insane. But if the one
(39:37):
that my personal favorite is the one in Colton, shout out, damn,
hold on, all these people on payroll now, hold on,
blur them out. I'll tell you all my invoices. But
that is insane. It is so good. But the one
in Cultu is my favorite. But it is always jam
packed in there. It's always popping in there. It's it's tiny.
It's probably like smaller than the living room. It's small,
(39:58):
but it's good.
Speaker 1 (39:58):
But those places are best. Like hole in the wall situation,
like who.
Speaker 2 (40:02):
Cares if you have to wait forty eight hours to
get in. It's totally worse to be there. I'll be there.
Speaker 1 (40:06):
You're having your husband stay the night there, like when.
Speaker 2 (40:10):
People used to do when people like when people used
to do the iPhones, like they'll wait outside.
Speaker 1 (40:13):
Yeah, oh my gosh, I know I thought about that.
I'm like, because they released their you know, the the
y phones today or whatever, or the what's it called
the Kino Oh yeah, talking about it, I'm like, the
hype really died down. No one really waits anymore, like
you know, like spending money on the phone every year.
(40:35):
It is crazy, it's ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (40:36):
I used to work for Apple really yeah oh well
yeah two years ago. I used to work there, and
how was that? I love the day Apple? Like invoice
you too, hold on, I don't really get an invoice.
But Apple they really choose to employs really well, like
they're really big on mental health. They're really big on
work life balance, Like, girl, I called out like forty
eight times in like one month, and it's not even
(40:57):
forty eight days in a month, and they're like, oh,
we understand, like work life balance. But even the launches,
like they made it so smooth with employees and a
lot of times there's still is lines, but it's not
as crazy as it was before because everything's online order now. Yeah,
so that's why.
Speaker 1 (41:12):
There's a different like people you know, store selling it
best by the actual companies, the phone lines and all that.
Speaking of mental health, and I love that you're an
advocate and believing in God and everything all together. What
is some tips and tricks that you would give to
people maybe struggling with their mental health and situations like that.
Speaker 2 (41:36):
So I would just say take it one day at
a time, honestly, just give yourself a chance to stop
being so hard on yourself. Like that is the biggest
tip I can give anybody, is stop being hard on yourself.
Like you are so loved, you only get one life.
You are the chosen one of the billion little ferms,
like you were the one girl. So if that doesn't
prove that you're worth being here, I don't know. What does.
So just prioritize yourself and communicate a lot of times
(41:59):
people shut off. Communicate with your loved ones. Com communicate
in a safe space where you feel obviously safe and
who cares if it sounds like a broken record. Those
people who love for your ride for you, will be
there for you. So that's what I say. Find a
little community, ask for help. If you feel like you're crazy,
I promise you or not, there's millions of people that
feel the same way. You're not alone.
Speaker 1 (42:19):
Have you had Have you done therapy?
Speaker 2 (42:21):
Yes? I have?
Speaker 1 (42:22):
Are you a full believer of it? Because I feel
like there's people that are like you know, I've done therapy.
I think it works, wonders. I think it's amazing. I
recommend it. Do you.
Speaker 2 (42:32):
Yes, I'm a full believer of therapy. I actually want
to get back at the therapy because therapy is not
only for when you're feeling sad, but even when you're happy.
I'm a true believer in that. But yes, I'm a
big believer in therapy, like I feel like it has
helped me along my mental health journey. And I advocate
anybody who is feeling off or you know, maybe just
need somebody to talk to that's non biased aside from
like your loved ones. Yes, go and talk to a
(42:55):
random person. And it's like they'll because they're not gonna
have these opinions because they have no idea who you are,
so they're gonna have an insight that maybe you can
take away that's going to help you.
Speaker 1 (43:02):
No, and you're just they literally just sit there and listen,
like they're not talking back or like until you're done talking.
Literally Like so I'm I've always said it, like I
answer my own questions, like when I'm in therapy, like
I'm like when I say it out loud, I'm like,
actually I don't need you anymore, Like I get it now,
Like I know, I'm I got this now. But anyways,
(43:25):
I a thousand percent agree. I think that therapy is beautiful,
it works wonders, and I think that people also have
it like they feel like it's a little contradicted because
of Christianity and going to church and and it's it's
it's really not. It doesn't say in the Bible not
to doesn't say anything against it obviously, Like it's just
if you need that help, get it, and like it's
(43:48):
better for you and it will just make you a
better person and like healthier in every aspect and in
every way. Okay, So to lighten up the mood, we
have rapid fire questions. Yes, you have to answer your quick, easy.
Speaker 2 (44:03):
Quick, easy, and yeah, okay, I'm ready for it.
Speaker 1 (44:08):
Favorite ice cream flavor pistashio.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
Girl, don't play on me.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
Really, everyone hates pistashi yeah, girl love.
Speaker 2 (44:17):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (44:17):
If you could be an animal for if you could
be an animal for a day, what would you be?
Speaker 2 (44:21):
Chicken? Why don't know, don't ask me why. I've always
been fascinated with chickens. Maybecause I like die chickenney hold
be like top dog chicken.
Speaker 1 (44:34):
Have you seen the people on TikTok with farms and
they have chickens and then they're like, oh, making chicken
Offreido today, and then they grab the chicken shut up, yes,
and they do the whole thing on TikTok.
Speaker 2 (44:44):
Oh my god, I have not seen it. I do
not want to see. I'm a big animal.
Speaker 1 (44:48):
Lover, so like, no, those those are like farm raised, Like.
Speaker 2 (44:54):
That's like fresh chicken right there, honey, that's fresh chicken.
Speaker 1 (44:56):
It's all the comments, Oh you mean chicken all for real? Okay,
what's your guilty pleasure TV show?
Speaker 2 (45:03):
Oh? Oh god, I'm not a big TV person, but
I just finished Over Compensated. Have you seen it? It's
really really good and I want to be on season two.
I don't know how, but I'm gonna manifest. I'm gonna
be on that. But yeah, I also love that a
lot of them are former creators, so it kind of
like breaks that space of like that taboo of like
creators that are meant to be only online. I want
(45:23):
to see him on big screen. I'm like, yes, honey,
get it. What is it on? It's on Prime? Oh
nice to everybodys getting invoiced.
Speaker 1 (45:34):
If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
Speaker 2 (45:37):
Flying?
Speaker 1 (45:37):
Really? Just transport everywhere?
Speaker 2 (45:40):
Eashi transported? Yeah? Maybe transport?
Speaker 1 (45:43):
Is that? My sister said, bird, if she could be
an animal, she would be a bird because she would
like to fly. And so I'm like, okay, I get it,
Like flying would be just like you know, the breeze
under my arm.
Speaker 2 (45:54):
Wait, hold on, hold on, girl, because I what is
your If you could be any animal, what would you.
Speaker 1 (45:58):
Be, say like a panda? You can sleep all dame.
Speaker 2 (46:04):
I love that, you know, I love that that's such
a good But then.
Speaker 1 (46:09):
Like they're a little spicy, like if you mess with them.
Speaker 2 (46:11):
Much, don't worry. This chicken got your back.
Speaker 1 (46:16):
Okay. Favorite childhood cartoon.
Speaker 2 (46:19):
Oh oh I'm thinking too fast on spongeboblem What the hell?
Sponge a grip on sponge Bob?
Speaker 1 (46:28):
Yes? Okay, best snack to binge watch with.
Speaker 2 (46:32):
It's gonna be a weird concoction, can I yes, do
have time? Not popcorn with hot cheetosos And aside of
not your cheese.
Speaker 1 (46:40):
You're my type of person. I love popcorn cheese.
Speaker 2 (46:45):
Do you puts one of the movie theaters? I don't know,
but like yeah, oh, just sneak them in, honey, I'm good.
Speaker 1 (46:50):
But then you know, sometimes like you forget it's like, oh,
like you have to stop a store that's true chips
and stuff. Yeah, yeah, I feel like I've seen that.
Speaker 2 (47:00):
But yeah, my girl for a tiny bag. It's like
six bucks. Don't play on me.
Speaker 1 (47:03):
That's what's one thing that's always in your bag or
with you?
Speaker 2 (47:09):
My probably my lip bumb Oh and I know eos Honey, Yeah,
I'm a us girly advice everybody.
Speaker 1 (47:19):
Last song you played on repeat?
Speaker 2 (47:21):
Oh that new one by Olivia.
Speaker 1 (47:22):
What is it?
Speaker 2 (47:23):
Man? I need Have you heard it? No, it's pretty good.
It's been popping out over TikTok okay.
Speaker 1 (47:28):
Last one. If you can ask God one thing and
receive an answer like this, what are you asking?
Speaker 2 (47:35):
How did you make no mistakes with me? I'm just kidding.
If I could ask him one thing, Oh my god,
I don't. I don't think I would ask him any
I would be scared and god like, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (47:46):
I always say like, right now, you know to your mine,
I'm a lady, you are too, you would get it.
Speaker 2 (47:53):
I got a girl.
Speaker 1 (47:56):
The time of month?
Speaker 2 (47:57):
Why hmm?
Speaker 1 (47:58):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (48:01):
If I can down to take away, I'll take that
away from you. Everybody.
Speaker 1 (48:04):
Why you know little things like that as a woman exactly.
Speaker 2 (48:07):
Like can people just like fall in love and then
like the bird comes like and drops off the baby,
Like it'd be so much easier.
Speaker 1 (48:12):
Exactly do you want to have kids? You guys want
to babies.
Speaker 2 (48:15):
So when we first started dating, girl has nobody asked
for a backstory, But when we first started dating, we did.
He wanted kids, and I was like, I don't know
if I want kids because I still had like a
lot of childhood trauma and all that stuff. So as
time progressed, I've you know, I worked on myself and
I'm like, dude, like having like a little Alan or
a little Ruben running around would be so iconic. Like
(48:36):
imagine he's all like, let me do six bottles six ways,
and I'm just kidding. But now I feel like, are
both of our lives are crazy? Like I'm in a
crazy industry. He's a realtor, so he's in a crazy industry. Yeah,
so even having time, like even for our dogs is
like crazy. Like, so now we're trying to really prioritize
(48:59):
our work life balance. It could happen in the future.
It's not off the it's not off the table, but
as of right now that it's like a no for
us right now.
Speaker 1 (49:05):
Okay, how would you guys if that time comes, or
when that time comes, adoption or having a surrogate.
Speaker 2 (49:14):
I'm a big, big believer in an adoption love even more.
Speaker 1 (49:18):
Yes, I love it. I believe in it too. I
always say, Okay, I kind of switched it up, but
I do want My first thing was I want to
adopt first and then have one on my own. But
then now I can switch it up because like I
want to have one on my own. Whatever I get there,
I'll adopt the opposite, you know what I mean. So
say I get a boy, I'm going to adopt a girl.
Speaker 2 (49:37):
There we go, so I can just have to we
have the best of both the worlds right there.
Speaker 1 (49:40):
Yeah, so you would adopt.
Speaker 2 (49:43):
I love that. Yeah, I would definitely adopt. That's always
been my belief since like there's so many kids that
need homes, I need love, and fuck I adopt them all.
I would.
Speaker 1 (49:52):
It's weird people think, you know, No, it's not. I
just I also have a Hertford Like I just think
about I'm like, there's already kids here, like why, like
you know, make them feel like they have a family.
Speaker 2 (50:04):
Exactly?
Speaker 1 (50:04):
Would you adopt from like baby baby or like what age?
Speaker 2 (50:07):
Oh girl? No, I don't know if I have on
any born. I mean I can handle it like that
saying that I can't, right, but I would adopt probably
like maybe like four four three or four not three
or four babies? Girl, Yeah, because they get path a
terrible too. They're like pretty much on the borderline of
getting pontly trained.
Speaker 1 (50:29):
You already get it already, does everything everything.
Speaker 2 (50:31):
Come and then like you know, a year with them
and then go to school.
Speaker 1 (50:35):
When when well, I absolutely loved it. You killed it here.
I'm obsessed. I love spam. Whoever is a spam hater, like, oh,
is your heaviest spam hater?
Speaker 2 (50:49):
He was, and I converted him, and he also a
pickle hater, and I inverted him to.
Speaker 1 (50:53):
Find the right love of your life.
Speaker 2 (50:55):
Here you go, put you on the exactly I always say,
it's it's maybe you didn't like that spot because you
don't like the way it was prepared. Honey, you haven't
had my exactly magical hands.
Speaker 1 (51:04):
I loved it. I'm gonna leave the recipe in the
description box so that way you guys can make it
out home too. Alan, thank you so much for me
your heart, such a good time, great conversation, great vibes,
your husband too. Thank you guys so much for driving
out here. We're gonna end with the Bible overs of
the day, and I always do little Bible verse, So.
Speaker 2 (51:28):
Here we go.
Speaker 1 (51:30):
Is it amost or almost one of those in Spanish?
It's almost? I believe five fourteen to fifteen, Seek devote,
and seek good, not evil, so that you may live.
Then the Lord, God Almighty will be with you just
as you say he is. Hate what is evil, love
what is right, and let justice prevail in the course.
Speaker 2 (51:51):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (51:52):
So always seek good, Always seek kindness, Remember to put
God first in your hearts and your minds, and remember
that it doesn't hurt too much or costs anything to
be kind and loving to those around you. Please plug
yourself in after plugging all those people, where can they
find you?
Speaker 2 (52:14):
What?
Speaker 1 (52:14):
He also has YouTube? Yes, we're you know YouTube fans
over here, so please share all that information so that
way they can keep up with you.
Speaker 2 (52:22):
Okay, you can find me on YouTube, but every everything
across my platformstel v, TikTok, snapchat, YouTube, Instagram, everything you
name it, I do it, honey, like trust.
Speaker 1 (52:31):
Me six ways?
Speaker 2 (52:32):
Yes everything?
Speaker 1 (52:34):
Hey, what's the V stand for? That's your that's my
last name, you're married last name?
Speaker 2 (52:41):
My very married last name is do have a long name?
All right? Well? Cool?
Speaker 1 (52:47):
Thank you guys so much for listening watching. Please go
follow him, subscribe to him, shout him out, support him.
Make sure you guys like, comment, subscribe this video and
review if you're listening, and I will see you guys
next Tuesday.
Speaker 2 (53:03):
Goodbye,
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