September 30, 2025 • 42 mins
Its my birthday week!! and like every year we have my sister back on to motivate me, guide me, and what to expect leading up to my 30s! you can find the recipe for the brownies on my instagram!
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Welcome back to the Overcome podcast. I'm your host, Jennaka Lopez.
Thank you guys so much for choosing to listen and
to watch to today's episode. This is a fun week
because it is my birthday week, and per usual, every
year I have a very special important guest that means
so much to me in my life. Every year we
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do this little episode with my beautiful sister today today,
I'm going to be twenty eight sister.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
So last year we talked about where you were at
twenty seven. Oh my gosh, yes, I think that's when
mom passed away for you.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Right, yes, at that eight seven. That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
So now we're turning twenty eight. But if we're I
was going to do a cake. I was to do something,
but you know, that just doesn't work out well for me.
So something that we both like and I know that
her husband's gonna like because she's gonna take it to
him are brownies. We're gonna be making brownies. So as always,
the recipe is gonna be inside the description box in
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the info little area so that you guys can cook
it with us while you watch the episode, and we're
just gonna be chit chatting away, that's true. I look
at yeah cool. Okay, So, yes, we're just gonna get
into it, because where was I twenty seven? I feel like, Okay,
as you get older, sister, do you feel like every
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year changes for you? Yes?
Speaker 3 (01:39):
Okay, Yes, I feel like something major happens each year. Yes,
that makes me like catapult to the next level of
my life.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Okay, what do you think happened for you twenty seven
and twenty eight? Obviously mom was one of them, right,
but is there anything that like led you?
Speaker 2 (02:03):
What where did you catapult?
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Two from there?
Speaker 3 (02:07):
I was in a very toxic relationship, so I don't
know if I was necessarily like, did I catapult? Catapuled it?
What's the word again? That word?
Speaker 2 (02:19):
I feel like I bounced a little bit.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
I was just bouncing around, you know, because I was
in a situation that I wanted it to work.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
It was because moms didn't want it for me so much.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
Oh, you wanted to rebel that I wanted to rebel
because I was very angry during that time twenty eight years.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
I was very upset. I wasn't in a good place emotionally, Okay.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
I was just kind of like on survival mode, on
kind of like autopilot, like taking care of you guys, and.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Like just doing what I needed to do to survive.
Speaker 4 (02:47):
You know.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
So it was a very there's a blur there. Twenty
nine was just tough you.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
For me, it was okay, it you're getting alphabet what
the what the it's toughy No, I get that, And
I remember that time because it was just it was
a lot. I think emotionally too now that I like,
I feel like I'm a lot older in my head.
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So when I say I'm turning twenty, I'm like, wow, barely,
Like I feel like I've.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Lived a lot already mature, Yes that I.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Just feel like, but do I is it normal to
feel like I need to like be younger because I
feel like I'm old.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
You know what it is? Your you are an old soul.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
You've always been very mature, a lot wiser than your
age since I can remember. I mean, that's why you
wanted to move out at eighteen. You were like that,
you had a plan. I do feel that you should
live a little. What does that mean? Travel?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Don't go be a hoe. I'm not saying that, but like, but.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
I feel like, okay, can you tell them I've never
had like a hoe I don't think I've had a hope.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
They never have. But you're not that what did I
tell you the other day?
Speaker 3 (03:57):
You're not that type of girl like God is waiting
to send you the right man that you deserve because you.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Have worked so hard to get here.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
So you're not a girl like to go like I
had to make a lot of mistakes to learn.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
You don't have to do that.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
But what I do want you to do is just
like go and travel it and like, you know, show
your tits a little, like just a little like a
little bit. You don't have to be hooch because you're
not a Hucci either, But it's just like I do
feel like you're very responsible and you're a great aunt,
you're a great sister, you're a great friend. So I
think sometimes you always take care of everyone else and
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I'm like, okay, is Jennica doing like? But you also
take care of yourself though, because you're on your body
girl like look.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
And that's what I feel like I learned in this
year specifically, uh huh. I feel like this year like
I learned to trust the process m cause like I
was very hard myself physically even after like my surgeries
and stuff like, it was just very hard on myself,
like trust with the process in my body. I think
trusting God's timing too, what exactly that means, because that's
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really hard, like God's timing, like when you're putting your
faith into something that you can't see and it's like
you're just waiting.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Yeah, and that's faith you don't see it.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Yeah. And then just like I think I learned it
from you too, Like I feel like I just learned
a lot from my older sisters, well, my sibling, my
older people in general, Like like I feel like I've
learned to prioritize my rest because if I saw you
burnt out so much, yep. And like even when you said,
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like at twenty seven twenty eight, like you were like peak,
you're already gonna go into your career and like do
all this stuff, and you were already burnt out prior
to that.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Yeah, So it was just like okay.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Like I've seen what it's done to you, and I
don't want to feel or live that either.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
Absolutely, And I'm very proud of you for that. Rest
is part of your job. If you don't rest, you're
your body, your soul if you don't give yourself that time.
It says it even visited in the Bible, like you
need a day, like there's a sabbath, you need that,
we need to replenish.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
So yes, dude, I did that.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
I did an episode on that. Yeah, I was like,
what was it when it was motivation and burnout or
something like that, when you have motivation or your something
one of those. But I was just like, yeah, it's biblical. Rest.
Rest is biblical. You're meant to just like chill out.
So that was definitely one of them. Yeah, and I
think definitely my sister's been a victim of this. I
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would say of my boundaries, like setting boundaries general, like
I'm good at setting boundaries, but I think this year
where I was just like, okay, like if I'm gonna
move forward into my life, like I need to set
more specific boundaries, not to like hurt a person's feelings
or anything like that, but it's like I think I've
learned to prioritize myself because yeah, like I do. I
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feel like I have taken care of everybody and like
their feelings and whatever.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
You know, I yeah, I totally get it. That's and
I understand that. I see that absolutely same. I'm barely
learning that.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
But people differently, like at different times, at like different ages,
and there's nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
Right, Trust the process, trust your progress as it's different,
you know, So yes, you know, some people just learn faster.
And I think it also helped that you had older
siblings and you watched us fall on our face and
and you know, get back up and and like the
goal of an older sister of a mother, because I've
been kind of like a second mom is kind of
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like I want you to be better and it makes
me proud to be like she's better.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Like that's that's that's the freaking.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
But then like I feel a little bit guilty though.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
Is just not brown yet? No, that's still okay, all right?
Why do you feel guilty?
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Because like I just still part of me is still
so attached to like taking care of like what you
guys are going through and what you guys are feeling,
and because we've all been so close and like attached
and like we're all kind of like dispersing a little bit,
which is okay. Yeah, Like I just feel like, oh,
like I still need a hold on a little bit
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kind of like how you've been going through it, like
even like when you got married the first time.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Yeah, but now even the first time manga married your
times ye.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
True yeah no but yeah no, but like how you
were feeling in that time and then even more this
second time, Like I feel like it was like harder
for you to like let go. So I feel like
I'm learning to.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
Do that or feel that as well, and it's finding
the balance. I think it's not necessarily like letting go
is just giving an allowing space, yes, and not taking
things personally like it's okay if people are busy and
have their own desires and their own wants and needs,
and you know, like, yes, I totally get it. I
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think it was more of like, oh, I don't want
them to feel like I'm forgetting about them, you know.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
Like mm hmm.
Speaker 3 (08:55):
So I did feel guilty for a little while. Now
I feel better about it, but it takes time. It's
just you know, oh is this brown now?
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Yes, that's brown.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Okay, let's place this right here. All cool a little bit,
Let's let it cool. Oh my gosh, I'll do it.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
Hold on melted buttersemells so good. Like the movie theater
It's like, is it theater or theater?
Speaker 2 (09:17):
See? Why do you do that? Dude? Is it? I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
I'm learning these new things and I want to make
sure I'm enunciating things correctly.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Anyway, measure with your heart put that in there.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Yeah, and I'm going to say here we go because
I want to.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
I'm in.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
How has marriage this time around? Oh? Period? Okay, cool,
that's time. That's normal.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
Okay, what happened marriage?
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Oh it's great. Yeah, yeah, I mean it's not perfect.
There are things.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
I mean, you you're you're you're coming together with someone
that has their own thoughts, their own feelings. They're like right,
but it's it's it's amazing, like I think because I
learned from the first round and I I knew what
I wanted it didn't want, And I know now I
vocalize what doesn't make me happy. I used to just
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internalize it because I didn't want to, Like in God
like go you know, ruffle any feathers, But I don't
have that.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Dude, I'm a ruffle.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
She likes to ruffle.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Yeah, just a little, you know.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Okay, But when you were at my age, right, did
you think that that was going to be the one.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
M I Okay, yes, I did think not until later
I realized I'm like, oh, this isn't this isn't fitting right.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
But I did want it because I wanted.
Speaker 3 (10:38):
What I wanted was to prove yes and to be
different from what I had seen growing up, like I
want to make this work. I want to have one
relationship like I've always been a monogamous type of person.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
I like being in relationships. But yeah, I mean after that, Dan, Yeah,
but I did think I did.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Okay, but I want Okay, that's good though, But okay,
I'm gonna say this, but I don't want to take
I don't want to say it. I don't want you
to take it because I don't want to say it
in the wrong way, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Just say it, Okay, come on, man, I look, I
grew one. It's it's nice.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
And okay obviously, look you know my relationship life or.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Whatever this oh wow black, oh nice? Uh huh?
Speaker 1 (11:28):
If you want actually, can you put this in the
three fourths line? Yes, of course, and then dump that
in there and then whisk that right. Okay, So obviously
you know, like my situation, my relationship status, there's no, situationship.
I shouldn't have said that, but yeah, you don't you know,
I don't have that.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Would you want to or no?
Speaker 1 (11:47):
Situationship? Absolutely situationship.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
No, ask three fourths right, three fourths.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Yeah, I've been single whatever the pressures of that, Like
I'm already hitting thirty. I'm getting to thirty, so sisure
I'm going there? Yeah, dude, is that like did that
cross your mind?
Speaker 2 (12:07):
No, because you were like I did. Eve't go through that.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
No, I didn't feel like, oh I'm thirty, Like I
don't know, like I that's the thing.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
I've always felt younger.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
You know what You're gnat a lot of hope though,
because like you got married, like yeah, like for thirty nine,
thirty eight, No, married, yeah, thirty nine.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
Thirty nine, yeah, thirty thirty nine. Yeah, you see, and
it was great and he's seven years younger than me. Shoot,
hey girl, okay, whiskey right. Yeah. But what was the
question though, because there was.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Something like those thoughts didn't cross through your mind? Because
I feel like in my generation, like there's a lot
of people getting married, there's a lot of people having babies,
Like you see my friends having babies, They're getting engaged,
they're younger than me.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Here's the thing, though, it's it's okay. In my personal experience,
I feel like your twenties are for you to get
to know yourself, are for you to adjust, to give
yourself that grace. And in your thirties you start having
like you just know, you walk around with this crazy
ass confidence of like I know who I am.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Like I don't know.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
I think you're gonna be You're gonna flourish so much
in your thirties, and I think that's when you will
find like I.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Don't be in a rush for that.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
No, I'm not, you know, because but I feel like
the surroundings like around me. And then I think that
because it's been a long time, like I just feel
like I've built myself up to this point. I keep
you know, I've worked on myself. There's I've done a
lot of healing, which I'm glad that I never really
had to bring anyone along through that healing because I
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don't like the person that I was before, so I
don't want to hurt people's feelings. So I'm glad that
I was single in that time. But now that I'm like, okay,
like you know, you when the time like I like,
I've told you, like I'm tired of like showing up
to Thanksgiving and then everybody else has their partner and
then I don't you know what I mean, it gets frustrating.
Then I'm the thea, I'm the Nina.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
Okay, but let me ask you this question. Would you
rather have someone next to you? I would have someone
that's exactly so you wait for that, you wait for
God's timing.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
I know you want to talk about God's timing.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Yay, exactly, let's do it about the baby. Yeah, yeah,
I know. I'm waiting for God's timing. That's what he said.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
It's frustrating though.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
Not what I'm saying, but because I think I think
you have a lot to give. So whoever's gonna end
up with you is like they need to be worth
it like I need to. I'm gonna check everything about
Hold up boy, where you coming because you're not about
to come over here and try to hurt her.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
I have never taken anyone like I don't think I've
taken anyone home, like like to show or introduce my family.
I never really like.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
No, mm hmm, the thoughts.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
But you've been working like you're you've dude, You're so
much better than I was at your age, you know.
So that's why I feel like it's perfect. You are
working on yourself, you're becoming your becoming the best version
of yourself. And again, you guys, we've all and we
grow and we change. That's part of life. But I
feel like when I look back and I think twenty eight,
like you're in a way better place. You have a
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lot more stability, and I think you had to do
with your therapy and you set in your boundaries and
you know, and working on yourself, like you're so freaking disciplined.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
All right, you guys, We're gonna go on a quick
break and we'll be right back. Welcome back, you guys.
I'm hopeful, though, I'm hopeful for like twenty eight. I'm hopeful,
like I feel like because twenty seven was such a
good year for me, Like even everything that I learned
emotionally like was just like wow, Like I'm glad that
I'm just I'm learning more about myself than I ever
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have before.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
So it's just like whooh.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
So it's just like you know, like I can't wait
for what it does have, And like I feel whole.
I feel like I feel better, you know, I don't.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
Know seeing that's good.
Speaker 3 (15:54):
When you feel that, that's when the right person comes.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
I feel me. You met me, he was twenty eight,
So that dude really twenty when you met me. Yeah,
we met each other.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
What's like? Cooler life Like, cooler life is great.
Speaker 3 (16:12):
And I'm gonna tell you why because he's like So
what that means is like he keeps me.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Young and fresh, uh huh.
Speaker 3 (16:19):
And because I've always felt very young, so I feel
I thought I wanted an older guy, but now that
I'm my age, now I feel like everything happened the
way it had to because he we do a.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Lot of the same things. If we have fun.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
He's very mature, but then he's also very old soul too, exactly,
so it feels her.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Very old, very old soul.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Hey, you can mix that in there, actually can put
in here. Yeah, I'm hopeful. I think that this year
I just want to embrace like new opportunities, new relationships,
like not romantically, but just like the people that I
have around me, like learn and grow together, and that
I feel like my mind has been on this like inspire.
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Like I told you the other day, like I'm ready
to start new things.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Yes, like I feel like do I mix this?
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Yes? Fold it here? Okay, fold it like I want
to Like I don't know, like I told you, like
I want to start multiple businesses and just like yes.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
Mave me.
Speaker 1 (17:20):
I don't know. Maybe I don't know. Maybe that's why
the person that God has for me, like it has
to match that or like has to do with that.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
Maybe I think so I personally that's what I told
you the other day. I was like, dude, I just
I know. I know that God is protecting you. And
if things haven't flourished, and maybe people that you were
talking to or whatever, I think it's because they've.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Learned something from those situations. You've learned and you've grown,
and that's what it's about. Yeah for sure.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
Yeah all right, let me throw this in there, okay, flower, Yes,
one lesson that you learned in twenty seven. One lesson
that you learned, and then one recommendation like what do
you expect? What do you expect as my second mom
going into twenty eight?
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Actually, so what did I learn?
Speaker 1 (18:13):
What did you learn?
Speaker 3 (18:13):
Uh huh okay, So yeah, first seven, So at twenty
seven I'm not sure if I said this on the
last pot, but it's something that like, it's it's very
prominent when I think of twenty seven is not depending
on anyone other than myself and my faith that God
is going to get me through anything and everything, and
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that's what I need to focus on. And it was,
it was a process. It was, it was It's a
lot easier said than done. But I do remember that
specifically because I had lost mom and everything and I
was kind of like trying to like get back on
my feet.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
As far as twenty eight. What do I expect for you?
Speaker 4 (18:51):
Mm hm?
Speaker 1 (18:53):
So mind you we talk every day, yes, Like she
knows a lot of what I'm feeling, a lot of
what I'm going through, Like she's one of the first
people to know. So I'm a little nervous actually because
that's like because like you know, I'm really good at
not like meeting people like at their expectations. But it's
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different when it's like you.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
Yeah, or like you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
To be honest, Jenny, like I think you're in a
very good place. And even if it's like when we
talked about boundaries earlier, like even if it's made some
of us uncomfortable, and I conclude myself like because I'm like,
what the heck, Like, you're my baby, you know, and
you're growing up and you're coming into your own and
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for someone on this end, it's kind of like damn.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
But then it's also so beautiful to watch.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
So when I think of you and you turning twenty eight,
I'm like, she's got it together like I And that
makes me so freaking proud of I'm my mom is
really really proud. I just I want you.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
To like really.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
Take that leap of faith when it comes, like take
the chance on yourself with with your businesses. Oh yeah,
you know, like I want you to just not think
about is it gonna work or not?
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Like you have passion behind this, and I want you
to just freaking.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
Go like this, you know, yeah, And I want to.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
Yeah, So I yeah, And that's what I don't know.
I see that for you, and I expect I mean.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
You to continue with like are those chocolate chips?
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Yeah, oh my gosh, Oh my gosh, I'm gonna have one.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
Yeah. I love.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Yeah, you've been sharing Bible verses and reading your Bible publicly.
I think that's great. I love that I think the
world needs more of that, and I care and I
love that you don't care what people may think or whatever,
Like you're very true to that, and I love that.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
I respect it.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
Thanks. I think like that's like one of my top
experiences that happened with me this year is like we've
grew We grew up in the church basically, but it's
very different when it's like you've been church heard, when
you've seen different things and experienced different things, when you've
experienced trauma, death, and it's like but why me, or
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like is this really the Christian way or the.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
Example of Jesus?
Speaker 1 (21:29):
And it's like no, And that's what I've realized like
this time around where it was like I feel like
I'm constantly surrendering to God and understanding, like really when
I'm reading my Bible, like I understand Him more, to
understand myself more, and I feel like it really just
draws me closer, like just to Him and then to
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myself and then ultimately like I want to be a
better example than the way that we grew up. Yeah,
or like that we watched and that we witnessed, because
it's like the way that other people are living obviously
is not quote unquote the Jesus wave everybody sends. Everybody
has their own convictions, everybody, you know, ultimately, like before
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Jesus died on the Cross, his ultimate message was just
to love one another, to not judge one another, and
to just it's simply, what's just love. So it's like, yes,
aside from everything else, it's like, literally, it's not that
hard just to love and be kind to people. And
then from there it's like, that's just what the example is.
Speaker 4 (22:32):
Yes, you know they'll be good intent literally bro, yes,
hold on, and I don't One thing I will tell
you is like I don't want you like I want
you to to.
Speaker 3 (22:42):
You know, have if you ever want to have kids
want I want it to be quote unquote the right way,
which is I want you to get married and I
want you to enjoy that and everything.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
I think I want to wait until marriage because I'm
not a virgin anymore.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
You know, you're not to me, she's still a richin no,
because I'm not. But yeah, I wasn't gonna say hold on,
oh my god, this is so good, but I do.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
I think I had an episode about this last season
where I was like, I'm obstinate, Like I just I
realized the importance of soul ties yep, and the dark
place that the last one took me to. Mm hmm,
that was just like I don't I don't ever want
to feel that again. Like I don't want to be
in that situation or that experience. So it's just like,
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why put myself through it? And the person that really
loves me and is on the same page and path
with me.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
You're gonna meet him at church? I don't know, dude, Well,
I don't know. I think.
Speaker 3 (23:49):
I mean, I pray about it all the time because
I'm like, I don't want you to get hurt. I
don't want you to go through unnecessary heartbreak. It's just
it's unnecessary. You've you've done the work, you know, I
really see that for you.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
And yes, guys, I.
Speaker 3 (24:02):
Have noticed that there's more people being being abstinate, being
celibate and not sharing their body like they're getting younger
and younger, and I think that's freaking amazing because there's
a lot there's a lot of power in that. That's
a ritual, like you're you're really coming together with someone.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
This is so good.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Is good. And I also got ice cream and hotfage.
You're crazy just to like do one little mm hmm,
you know what I mean, and then you can take
the ones for your husband.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Okay, I'm nice, I'll.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Put thays in him. But yeah, dude, honestly, I've I've
always I've like wanted to just keep it for myself,
like good. I think it's so sacred.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
It's power.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Yeah, Like it's not cute to be like at least
I don't even I don't. I don't know. I just
don't think it's cute. Yeah, to just be sleeping around.
Speaker 2 (24:53):
I don't.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
Not only does it like mess up your vagina and
make it look ugly if you do it too much,
but like it's like someone needs to earn that and
not just anyone can have that, Like that's that's your power,
that's you know, it's like you said, it's sacred. So anyway,
don't be giving your KOUCHI just anyone guys, even guys,
though guys should Okay, isn't.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
It true though, Like they like discriminate more on women
than on men, Like they're able to go have so
many bodies on their list, but when a girl says
like she has more than like I don't know.
Speaker 3 (25:23):
Five, Like, she's nasty exactly, and that's not cool, that's
not I mean, yeah, because we're held at a different
standard I think women.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
You know, but still I just don't think I like and.
Speaker 3 (25:37):
If you want to be a whole do it like Honestly,
I'm at that point where I don't want to again.
We don't want to be judgmental, like do your thing,
but it is something that down the line will affect you.
I have a friend who just has like random casual
sex and she's always so unhappy and depressed, and I'm like,
you're having random casual sex and like, that's not Okay.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Yeah, we're gonna put these in the oven, and while
they we're gonna answer some of your guys's questions when
we come back from the break. All right, you guys,
we're gonna go on a quick break and we'll be
right back. Welcome back, you guys. Okay, these have nothing
to do with age. These are just people that want
to know and have been inspired by you, and which
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I have been inspired by my sister multiple times as well,
so I can understand why these questions.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
Thank you, Penny. Okay, all right.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Questions from the listeners. Okay, how do you stay motivated when.
Speaker 4 (26:28):
Life gets busy?
Speaker 3 (26:31):
Routine's huge for me, but when you're busy, it's hard
to stay on there. So when I can't work out,
when I can't meditate, I even if it's quick, I'll
get on my knees. There's some power of like just
humbling yourself before the like before the Lord and before
the higher power. That just I'm like, God, I don't
know what to say right now. I'm really busy and
I'm so sorry, Please help me, and I just kind
of and I just breathe. I breathe a lot, guys,
(26:54):
Intentional breathing. Obviously, I'm breathing right now, right, but intentional
breathing means this.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Like when you're focused on it, Okay.
Speaker 3 (27:01):
I'm gonna release, I'm gonna release these negative thoughts that
I'm thinking, like, you gotta shake it off. And that
keeps me and it helps me continue to stay motivated.
And I do that a lot lately, especially because I've been.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
A little stress and overwhelmed.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
Right, and then I was gone and then I came
back and I was off my routine and just you know,
threw me off a little bit.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
But gotta keep it, you know.
Speaker 3 (27:20):
And then I also read a lot of like my boss,
these their comments and stuff. They make me feel like, okay,
they reinspire me.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
Nice. Yeah, okay, what advice for building confidence in your age?
My sister just turned.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Forward you guys, even though you guys didn't know. I know,
I don't look at it.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
She's giving thirty two.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
My gosh, I know, I can't say twenty eight because
you're twenty eight. I'm like, okay, fine, thirty one ish.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
No, But this it was a little like it was
a tough little moment. It was. It was just like
it would be just fine. So how are you building
that confidence now? How are you feeling?
Speaker 3 (27:55):
I'm okay, so I'm doing my best in Okay, Now
I feel better about it, right, I feel better about it.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
I feel I feel good.
Speaker 3 (28:03):
You know what it was, I was like I was
thinking about the wrong things instead of thinking of I'm forty,
I've accomplished.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
So much, I've survived so much.
Speaker 3 (28:11):
Now it's my time to thrive, you know, not just
all survival survival, survival, more work work work.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
Now I'm like, I want to enjoy life.
Speaker 3 (28:17):
And I feel like I feel better than I ever
have in my whole life, And I think, what's keeping
me like motivating that aspect of like, Okay, I'm forty,
it's not a big deal. It's taking care of myself physically, emotionally, watching.
Speaker 2 (28:34):
What I eat.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
I just had some Han Cheetos off camera, Like I
still like and I don't. I do my best not
to do that, but still I'll taste some. But it's
not an everyday thing. I don't allow it to be
every daybit right. I have it because I want to
feel good more than anything. Yes, I want to look good,
but I want to feel good and again, like it
just I just freaking watched Shakiro last night.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
She's freaking forty eight. She looks great like that mode.
Speaker 3 (28:55):
I'm like, oh dang, Like she's dancing moving her hips
and I'm like, it's all right. Age is just a number.
It's how you feel and how young you keep your spirit.
And my young is like twenty nine something like that.
She's okay, fine, thirty thirty one.
Speaker 1 (29:15):
How do you deal with social media comparisons?
Speaker 2 (29:18):
M I don't even pay attention to them anymore.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
Yeah, she's not really on social media, Like as much
as people.
Speaker 3 (29:25):
Think I'm not you guys. I've done this thing of
like to protect my inner piece. I post and I
get out. It's very rare when I read comments. I
just I have come to accept that people some people
aren't just gonna they're not gonna like me.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
And that's okay. And it could be envy.
Speaker 3 (29:42):
It could be because I ages are like my personality,
whatever it is, that's their opinion. The opinion that's the
most important is the opinion that I have of myself.
And and that's it. But I don't even I don't.
I don't pay it any mind anymore.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
I don't. I really don't.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Yeah, I think that's been like one of like the
I let that go like last year too. I'm just like,
this doesn't really matter. You're still gonna be mad at
me anyways. I'm still probably gonna get canceled, Like yeah,
it's really not that big of a deal, no anymore,
Like no, it's just not.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
Yeah, like we can't give people that much power. No,
you know, it's it's no.
Speaker 1 (30:21):
Okay, what's one thing you were grateful for at twenty seven?
Speaker 3 (30:27):
One thing I was grateful for at twenty seven was
having you guys, Johnny and Jenica well, all my siblings
really because they kept me afloat, but you guys were
the ones that really helped me stay afloat and I
because if not, I wouldn't be here, to be honest.
So I'm very grateful that God did what he did
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how he did it. Obviously, not that my mom's gone,
because of course I miss her and I wish she
was there, but the fact that I could focus on
you guys really help me get through. And I'm also
grateful that Mom taught me everything she taught me and
prepared me. Because I was twenty seven and I was like,
what the little f like, what's happening? But then I
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remembered everything she had taught me. I was like, she
was preparing me my entire life.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (31:15):
Yeah, dude, that's intense.
Speaker 2 (31:17):
Yeah, But if.
Speaker 1 (31:18):
You think about it, like at twenty seven, like you
already at fifteen or whatever, like maybe a little late
than that, you already knew.
Speaker 3 (31:25):
How to run a business because she threw me in
literally that leap of faith that I was talking about earlier.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
I was like, I'm just gonna do it. I'm gonna
figure it out.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
My first business didn't work out, as you know, but
like Mom taught me to take risks, do it.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
Finish what you start, like just freaking do it. And
I'm so grateful for that.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
You're gonna start something, do it right.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
Uh huh, do it right and do your best to
finish it.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
Okay. Last one kind of goes with how you stay motivated.
How do you balance career, faith, social media, and family.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
I do my best. Again, this word is very important
to me. Inten It's like live with intent. Okay.
Speaker 3 (32:03):
So I try to find time for everything, the things
that are important to me. I have a priority, you know,
my priority. Every time, guys, there's a thing I have
to work. God is in the center of everything for me,
and everything else works and revolves around that. When I
don't do that and I try to fit God into
my schedule, everything goes wrong. So once I feel like
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I have God and I've prayed and I've centered myself
in the morning and I'm like, Okay, I have a
much better day and I'm able to have more energy
mental emotional space and energy to like have a little
bit of time for everything and for my like you know,
like you guys are important, My siblings, my nieces and nephews. Like,
I do work a lot, and I'm trying my best,
and that's what I was supposed to do this year,
is to like really try to spend more time intentionally.
Speaker 2 (32:47):
Yeah, because it's tough.
Speaker 1 (32:49):
Though, that's oh yes, I feel like that's one thing
that I want to more implement this year. I'm intentional,
but I know that I can even be a little
bit better at the same Yep. It's like there's always
for progress. Where we do today, we could be one
percent better tomorrow, you know. And yeah, dude, those are great. Yeah,
(33:11):
thanks guys for answering.
Speaker 2 (33:12):
Yeah, thank you guys.
Speaker 1 (33:13):
No, no, thank you for answering. Thanks to you guys
for asking. Are you ready to have some brownies?
Speaker 2 (33:17):
All right?
Speaker 1 (33:18):
Let me cut it up? Pulled on you know how
last you're on your season. We talked about daddy issues, Yes,
daddy issues, mommy issues. Okay, do you feel like now
in this relationship or in general, do you feel like
you've uncovered, healed or noticed anything anymore?
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Maybe? Absolutely.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
Before I was looking for a father and a mother
in relationships, really it was too much of a responsibility
on my past relationships and it wasn't fair to.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
Them, right, and now I've learned that. It's like I'm
an individual. I need to work on myself.
Speaker 3 (33:49):
He needs to work on himself, and then we come
together and make our own culture. But I really do
feel like I don't I'm not looking for that anymore.
It's I found it within myself.
Speaker 1 (34:03):
I've never thought about finding that mother and father figure
in a person.
Speaker 2 (34:08):
Yeah, I would do it.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
I realize that's like.
Speaker 3 (34:13):
My lesbian space too. No, I'm serious. You know that's
why like now I now I can accept it.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
You know, are habits mm hmm.
Speaker 1 (34:25):
That you're working towards. Like I'm really trying not to
curse me more. But that's really really.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
Hard, and I've been trying to do that for a
long time.
Speaker 3 (34:32):
I really that's a great one. I really really want
to be better with that. Also, I don't consider myself
a liar, but there are times when white lies, exactly
white lives are gist is bad, and it also messes
with your integrity.
Speaker 2 (34:50):
So I want to be better.
Speaker 3 (34:51):
Like, if I don't want to go somewhere, I'm not
gonna make excuses and say I gotta do this, I
gotta do that.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
It's either the.
Speaker 3 (34:56):
Truth or Hey, the truth is I don't want to go,
you know, basically, but not try to make up excuses
to you give me you geet what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (35:07):
Yeah, like it's I really, that's yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:09):
Like when I'm texting, I'm like, Okay, that's my opportunity
to tell the truth.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
I can get caught up exactly. Yes, And I'm like,
uh huh. So the cursing thing too, that's one thing. Also,
I was doing really good with being better with with cannabis,
for instance, So that's another thing, Like I want to
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slow down or to the point where maybe just completely.
Speaker 2 (35:39):
Stop really, but I also it's way better the drinking
that for sure. Boom.
Speaker 3 (35:45):
I got buzzed, not even buzzed the other day and
I was like, I'm not I don't like how makes
me feel like like I just it's not my thing anymore,
you know. It's good once in a while, yeah, but
not to the point like the other day.
Speaker 2 (35:57):
So yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1 (35:59):
I feel like alcohol to me now, I have to
be strategic with when I'm drinking with when I'm like.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
Yes, there's no there's no need to do too too much,
you know.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
Hold on, don't don't do anything with it yet.
Speaker 3 (36:14):
Oh I know, it's because it's falling. Very freaking delicious, dude.
It was like the perfect consistency. It's not too hard,
it's perfect, very nice.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
Wow, I love brownies. I would rather have a brownie
than a cake. But I love cake too. You know
it's not mine.
Speaker 3 (36:41):
Here she goes girl, cake, ice cream, brownies go from
the best to the least that you.
Speaker 1 (36:49):
Like brownie's ice cream cake. Remember Millia got mad at
me because I said cake one time.
Speaker 2 (36:56):
He wouldn't let it go. It was like a two weeks.
Speaker 1 (36:57):
I cannot believe you would choose cake, cookies or I
don't know what like, bro.
Speaker 2 (37:01):
It's really not that mean for sure.
Speaker 1 (37:04):
Since we're unning it on a sweet note, no pun intended.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
Uh huh.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
We're gonna do rapid fire questions, all right, Okay, whatever
comes to your head, just answer. Okay, okay, that's your fun. Okay,
first thing that comes to mind. What's your favorite ice
cream flavor?
Speaker 2 (37:25):
I'm wan chocolate chip.
Speaker 1 (37:27):
If you could be any animal for a day, what
would it be.
Speaker 2 (37:32):
An eagle?
Speaker 1 (37:33):
An eagle?
Speaker 2 (37:34):
Is that an animal?
Speaker 1 (37:35):
Yes, that's a bird.
Speaker 3 (37:37):
If it's called like a reptile, no, reptiles are different.
Speaker 1 (37:41):
If that's an animal though.
Speaker 2 (37:44):
Way, Okay, see, I would I want a sore? I
want to fly? Right, I think? Yeah, I want to
be a bird. Okay, they're the closest thing to dinosaurs.
Speaker 1 (37:54):
By the way, I know the answer to this. But
what's your go to dance move? Hm?
Speaker 2 (38:01):
What is it?
Speaker 1 (38:02):
Go? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (38:05):
And my tongue. My brother hates when I take up
pops like one hip. It's all because I can't do it.
Speaker 1 (38:11):
On the other side, I know my sisters all right,
coffee or tea?
Speaker 2 (38:16):
Tea?
Speaker 1 (38:18):
What's your guilty pleasure TV?
Speaker 3 (38:19):
Show?
Speaker 2 (38:22):
Really?
Speaker 3 (38:25):
I love watching like the Resort and like like it's
all like, I really like it.
Speaker 1 (38:31):
Okay, if you could have any superpower, what would it be?
Speaker 2 (38:33):
I would like to fly? Okay? Yeah, favorite childhood cartoon?
Speaker 1 (38:38):
This is hard?
Speaker 2 (38:39):
Oh my god, to be long stalking hundred right now? Dude,
she just because mom loves.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
I love Okay, your best snack to binge watch with
your binge, watching a show, your binge watching ninety day fiance?
Speaker 2 (38:56):
What are you eating?
Speaker 1 (38:57):
Dude? Honestly, they door dash everything they eat, Taco Bell can.
Speaker 3 (39:02):
Nowhere better No, no, no, okay, e medio Licanta. He
loves fast food, but honestly, Okay. If I was watching,
i'd like Blaze pizza really love it.
Speaker 1 (39:11):
Yes, all right. What's one thing that's always in your bag?
Speaker 2 (39:15):
Baby wipes? You bring baby wipes everywhere? Yes, I have
baby wipes everywhere because I need I need them.
Speaker 1 (39:22):
You need your ass, I need them.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
So if I'm gonna pump gass, I get a bity
wipe everything I need? Baby all right?
Speaker 1 (39:28):
Last song you played on repeat?
Speaker 2 (39:32):
Oh it's this trendy TikTok song. I don't know that.
I just heard it. Hold on, I've been listening to
it over and over.
Speaker 1 (39:42):
How's it go?
Speaker 2 (39:43):
Oh, Orlando showed it to me. Actually, hold on? Hold on? Okay,
this one? Shake it? Shake it to the max. Oh no, no, no, no,
that one nice? Okay?
Speaker 4 (40:02):
It a lot.
Speaker 1 (40:03):
Last one. If you can ask God one thing and
receive a quick answer, what are you asking?
Speaker 2 (40:10):
Am I meant to have a baby right now? I
would ask the Lord.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
He's gonna tell you, Yes, your designed, that's what your
body's for. Yes, absolutely, it's just his timing.
Speaker 3 (40:21):
Yes, I would be like God, am I meant to
have a baby? And then I hopefully you can text
me right away.
Speaker 1 (40:26):
Yes, So that is one of his promises.
Speaker 2 (40:29):
Yeah, oh I love this. This was great, sister.
Speaker 1 (40:33):
Thank you so much for joining me. Thank you for
doing this every year with me. I love it. I
cannot wait to do when I'm thirty. I think that
one's gonna be fun.
Speaker 2 (40:42):
Yes, oh my god, that one's gonna be cool.
Speaker 1 (40:45):
But I'm excited. I'm excited for twenty eight. I'm excited
for where life has me. I'm grateful that I have
a beautiful example in my life my other sisters. Well, yes,
I've learned, I've catched on. I'm I'm a sponge. I
absorb and I.
Speaker 2 (41:01):
See and I watch. I'm really great at observing. Yes
you are.
Speaker 1 (41:04):
But I'm grateful. I thank God for another beautiful year,
for this podcast, for you guys for watching, for the
love and support that you give not only me, but
to my sister as well, and her podcast. She has
cheeks and chill. She has your cheeky she has what
was the Jane one?
Speaker 2 (41:21):
Sincerely, yarely Jane?
Speaker 1 (41:22):
Which other one? There's another one?
Speaker 2 (41:24):
No? No, no, okay.
Speaker 1 (41:26):
She also has a cheeky s she has foody on
the girl. She's just a woman of all traits. She's
just a lot going on as it's a tiny person.
I don't know how she does it, but the Lord
please please watch listen to her podcast as well. Let
us know what topics, what recipes you guys want to
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see next time, and we will see you in the
next episode.
Speaker 2 (41:49):
I love that. Bye guys.
Speaker 1 (41:50):
Oh wait, my Bible verse of the day. Oh yes, sorry,
I almost I always forget the Bible. I don't always forget.
I almost forgot. The Bible Verse of the day today
is Philippians one six. Be confident of this that He
who began a good work in you will carry it
on to completion until the day of Jesus. This verse
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encourages us to trust God's on working work in our lives.
As I celebrate my birthday, as my sister is ready
for her baby, we have to remember that God started
something good in us, and he will complete it and
let it flourish, and He is faithful to complete it
all the time. So anyways, with that being said, thank
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you guys so much for watching, and we'll see you
guys next week.
Speaker 2 (42:37):
It's Approxima
Welcome back to the Overcome podcast. I'm your host, Jennaka Lopez.
Thank you guys so much for choosing to listen and
to watch to today's episode. This is a fun week
because it is my birthday week, and per usual, every
year I have a very special important guest that means
so much to me in my life. Every year we
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do this little episode with my beautiful sister today today,
I'm going to be twenty eight sister.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
So last year we talked about where you were at
twenty seven. Oh my gosh, yes, I think that's when
mom passed away for you.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Right, yes, at that eight seven. That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
So now we're turning twenty eight. But if we're I
was going to do a cake. I was to do something,
but you know, that just doesn't work out well for me.
So something that we both like and I know that
her husband's gonna like because she's gonna take it to
him are brownies. We're gonna be making brownies. So as always,
the recipe is gonna be inside the description box in
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the info little area so that you guys can cook
it with us while you watch the episode, and we're
just gonna be chit chatting away, that's true. I look
at yeah cool. Okay, So, yes, we're just gonna get
into it, because where was I twenty seven? I feel like, Okay,
as you get older, sister, do you feel like every
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year changes for you? Yes?
Speaker 3 (01:39):
Okay, Yes, I feel like something major happens each year. Yes,
that makes me like catapult to the next level of
my life.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Okay, what do you think happened for you twenty seven
and twenty eight? Obviously mom was one of them, right,
but is there anything that like led you?
Speaker 2 (02:03):
What where did you catapult?
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Two from there?
Speaker 3 (02:07):
I was in a very toxic relationship, so I don't
know if I was necessarily like, did I catapult? Catapuled it?
What's the word again? That word?
Speaker 2 (02:19):
I feel like I bounced a little bit.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
I was just bouncing around, you know, because I was
in a situation that I wanted it to work.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
It was because moms didn't want it for me so much.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
Oh, you wanted to rebel that I wanted to rebel
because I was very angry during that time twenty eight years.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
I was very upset. I wasn't in a good place emotionally, Okay.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
I was just kind of like on survival mode, on
kind of like autopilot, like taking care of you guys, and.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Like just doing what I needed to do to survive.
Speaker 4 (02:47):
You know.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
So it was a very there's a blur there. Twenty
nine was just tough you.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
For me, it was okay, it you're getting alphabet what
the what the it's toughy No, I get that, And
I remember that time because it was just it was
a lot. I think emotionally too now that I like,
I feel like I'm a lot older in my head.
(03:12):
So when I say I'm turning twenty, I'm like, wow, barely,
Like I feel like I've.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Lived a lot already mature, Yes that I.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Just feel like, but do I is it normal to
feel like I need to like be younger because I
feel like I'm old.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
You know what it is? Your you are an old soul.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
You've always been very mature, a lot wiser than your
age since I can remember. I mean, that's why you
wanted to move out at eighteen. You were like that,
you had a plan. I do feel that you should
live a little. What does that mean? Travel?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Don't go be a hoe. I'm not saying that, but like, but.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
I feel like, okay, can you tell them I've never
had like a hoe I don't think I've had a hope.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
They never have. But you're not that what did I
tell you the other day?
Speaker 3 (03:57):
You're not that type of girl like God is waiting
to send you the right man that you deserve because you.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Have worked so hard to get here.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
So you're not a girl like to go like I
had to make a lot of mistakes to learn.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
You don't have to do that.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
But what I do want you to do is just
like go and travel it and like, you know, show
your tits a little, like just a little like a
little bit. You don't have to be hooch because you're
not a Hucci either, But it's just like I do
feel like you're very responsible and you're a great aunt,
you're a great sister, you're a great friend. So I
think sometimes you always take care of everyone else and
(04:36):
I'm like, okay, is Jennica doing like? But you also
take care of yourself though, because you're on your body
girl like look.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
And that's what I feel like I learned in this
year specifically, uh huh. I feel like this year like
I learned to trust the process m cause like I
was very hard myself physically even after like my surgeries
and stuff like, it was just very hard on myself,
like trust with the process in my body. I think
trusting God's timing too, what exactly that means, because that's
(05:06):
really hard, like God's timing, like when you're putting your
faith into something that you can't see and it's like
you're just waiting.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Yeah, and that's faith you don't see it.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Yeah. And then just like I think I learned it
from you too, Like I feel like I just learned
a lot from my older sisters, well, my sibling, my
older people in general, Like like I feel like I've
learned to prioritize my rest because if I saw you
burnt out so much, yep. And like even when you said,
(05:40):
like at twenty seven twenty eight, like you were like peak,
you're already gonna go into your career and like do
all this stuff, and you were already burnt out prior
to that.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Yeah, So it was just like okay.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Like I've seen what it's done to you, and I
don't want to feel or live that either.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
Absolutely, And I'm very proud of you for that. Rest
is part of your job. If you don't rest, you're
your body, your soul if you don't give yourself that time.
It says it even visited in the Bible, like you
need a day, like there's a sabbath, you need that,
we need to replenish.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
So yes, dude, I did that.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
I did an episode on that. Yeah, I was like,
what was it when it was motivation and burnout or
something like that, when you have motivation or your something
one of those. But I was just like, yeah, it's biblical. Rest.
Rest is biblical. You're meant to just like chill out.
So that was definitely one of them. Yeah, and I
think definitely my sister's been a victim of this. I
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would say of my boundaries, like setting boundaries general, like
I'm good at setting boundaries, but I think this year
where I was just like, okay, like if I'm gonna
move forward into my life, like I need to set
more specific boundaries, not to like hurt a person's feelings
or anything like that, but it's like I think I've
learned to prioritize myself because yeah, like I do. I
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feel like I have taken care of everybody and like
their feelings and whatever.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
You know, I yeah, I totally get it. That's and
I understand that. I see that absolutely same. I'm barely
learning that.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
But people differently, like at different times, at like different ages,
and there's nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
Right, Trust the process, trust your progress as it's different,
you know, So yes, you know, some people just learn faster.
And I think it also helped that you had older
siblings and you watched us fall on our face and
and you know, get back up and and like the
goal of an older sister of a mother, because I've
been kind of like a second mom is kind of
(07:31):
like I want you to be better and it makes
me proud to be like she's better.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Like that's that's that's the freaking.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
But then like I feel a little bit guilty though.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
Is just not brown yet? No, that's still okay, all right?
Why do you feel guilty?
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Because like I just still part of me is still
so attached to like taking care of like what you
guys are going through and what you guys are feeling,
and because we've all been so close and like attached
and like we're all kind of like dispersing a little bit,
which is okay. Yeah, Like I just feel like, oh,
like I still need a hold on a little bit
(08:05):
kind of like how you've been going through it, like
even like when you got married the first time.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Yeah, but now even the first time manga married your
times ye.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
True yeah no but yeah no, but like how you
were feeling in that time and then even more this
second time, Like I feel like it was like harder
for you to like let go. So I feel like
I'm learning to.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
Do that or feel that as well, and it's finding
the balance. I think it's not necessarily like letting go
is just giving an allowing space, yes, and not taking
things personally like it's okay if people are busy and
have their own desires and their own wants and needs,
and you know, like, yes, I totally get it. I
(08:50):
think it was more of like, oh, I don't want
them to feel like I'm forgetting about them, you know.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
Like mm hmm.
Speaker 3 (08:55):
So I did feel guilty for a little while. Now
I feel better about it, but it takes time. It's
just you know, oh is this brown now?
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Yes, that's brown.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Okay, let's place this right here. All cool a little bit,
Let's let it cool. Oh my gosh, I'll do it.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
Hold on melted buttersemells so good. Like the movie theater
It's like, is it theater or theater?
Speaker 2 (09:17):
See? Why do you do that? Dude? Is it? I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
I'm learning these new things and I want to make
sure I'm enunciating things correctly.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Anyway, measure with your heart put that in there.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Yeah, and I'm going to say here we go because
I want to.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
I'm in.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
How has marriage this time around? Oh? Period? Okay, cool,
that's time. That's normal.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
Okay, what happened marriage?
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Oh it's great. Yeah, yeah, I mean it's not perfect.
There are things.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
I mean, you you're you're you're coming together with someone
that has their own thoughts, their own feelings. They're like right,
but it's it's it's amazing, like I think because I
learned from the first round and I I knew what
I wanted it didn't want, And I know now I
vocalize what doesn't make me happy. I used to just
(10:05):
internalize it because I didn't want to, Like in God
like go you know, ruffle any feathers, But I don't
have that.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Dude, I'm a ruffle.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
She likes to ruffle.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Yeah, just a little, you know.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Okay, But when you were at my age, right, did
you think that that was going to be the one.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
M I Okay, yes, I did think not until later
I realized I'm like, oh, this isn't this isn't fitting right.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
But I did want it because I wanted.
Speaker 3 (10:38):
What I wanted was to prove yes and to be
different from what I had seen growing up, like I
want to make this work. I want to have one
relationship like I've always been a monogamous type of person.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
I like being in relationships. But yeah, I mean after that, Dan, Yeah,
but I did think I did.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Okay, but I want Okay, that's good though, But okay,
I'm gonna say this, but I don't want to take
I don't want to say it. I don't want you
to take it because I don't want to say it
in the wrong way, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Just say it, Okay, come on, man, I look, I
grew one. It's it's nice.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
And okay obviously, look you know my relationship life or.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Whatever this oh wow black, oh nice? Uh huh?
Speaker 1 (11:28):
If you want actually, can you put this in the
three fourths line? Yes, of course, and then dump that
in there and then whisk that right. Okay, So obviously
you know, like my situation, my relationship status, there's no, situationship.
I shouldn't have said that, but yeah, you don't you know,
I don't have that.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Would you want to or no?
Speaker 1 (11:47):
Situationship? Absolutely situationship.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
No, ask three fourths right, three fourths.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Yeah, I've been single whatever the pressures of that, Like
I'm already hitting thirty. I'm getting to thirty, so sisure
I'm going there? Yeah, dude, is that like did that
cross your mind?
Speaker 2 (12:07):
No, because you were like I did. Eve't go through that.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
No, I didn't feel like, oh I'm thirty, Like I
don't know, like I that's the thing.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
I've always felt younger.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
You know what You're gnat a lot of hope though,
because like you got married, like yeah, like for thirty nine,
thirty eight, No, married, yeah, thirty nine.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
Thirty nine, yeah, thirty thirty nine. Yeah, you see, and
it was great and he's seven years younger than me. Shoot,
hey girl, okay, whiskey right. Yeah. But what was the
question though, because there was.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Something like those thoughts didn't cross through your mind? Because
I feel like in my generation, like there's a lot
of people getting married, there's a lot of people having babies,
Like you see my friends having babies, They're getting engaged,
they're younger than me.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Here's the thing, though, it's it's okay. In my personal experience,
I feel like your twenties are for you to get
to know yourself, are for you to adjust, to give
yourself that grace. And in your thirties you start having
like you just know, you walk around with this crazy
ass confidence of like I know who I am.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Like I don't know.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
I think you're gonna be You're gonna flourish so much
in your thirties, and I think that's when you will
find like I.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Don't be in a rush for that.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
No, I'm not, you know, because but I feel like
the surroundings like around me. And then I think that
because it's been a long time, like I just feel
like I've built myself up to this point. I keep
you know, I've worked on myself. There's I've done a
lot of healing, which I'm glad that I never really
had to bring anyone along through that healing because I
(13:40):
don't like the person that I was before, so I
don't want to hurt people's feelings. So I'm glad that
I was single in that time. But now that I'm like, okay,
like you know, you when the time like I like,
I've told you, like I'm tired of like showing up
to Thanksgiving and then everybody else has their partner and
then I don't you know what I mean, it gets frustrating.
Then I'm the thea, I'm the Nina.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
Okay, but let me ask you this question. Would you
rather have someone next to you? I would have someone
that's exactly so you wait for that, you wait for
God's timing.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
I know you want to talk about God's timing.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Yay, exactly, let's do it about the baby. Yeah, yeah,
I know. I'm waiting for God's timing. That's what he said.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
It's frustrating though.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
Not what I'm saying, but because I think I think
you have a lot to give. So whoever's gonna end
up with you is like they need to be worth
it like I need to. I'm gonna check everything about
Hold up boy, where you coming because you're not about
to come over here and try to hurt her.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
I have never taken anyone like I don't think I've
taken anyone home, like like to show or introduce my family.
I never really like.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
No, mm hmm, the thoughts.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
But you've been working like you're you've dude, You're so
much better than I was at your age, you know.
So that's why I feel like it's perfect. You are
working on yourself, you're becoming your becoming the best version
of yourself. And again, you guys, we've all and we
grow and we change. That's part of life. But I
feel like when I look back and I think twenty eight,
like you're in a way better place. You have a
(15:12):
lot more stability, and I think you had to do
with your therapy and you set in your boundaries and
you know, and working on yourself, like you're so freaking disciplined.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
All right, you guys, We're gonna go on a quick
break and we'll be right back. Welcome back, you guys.
I'm hopeful, though, I'm hopeful for like twenty eight. I'm hopeful,
like I feel like because twenty seven was such a
good year for me, Like even everything that I learned
emotionally like was just like wow, Like I'm glad that
I'm just I'm learning more about myself than I ever
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have before.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
So it's just like whooh.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
So it's just like you know, like I can't wait
for what it does have, And like I feel whole.
I feel like I feel better, you know, I don't.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
Know seeing that's good.
Speaker 3 (15:54):
When you feel that, that's when the right person comes.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
I feel me. You met me, he was twenty eight,
So that dude really twenty when you met me. Yeah,
we met each other.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
What's like? Cooler life Like, cooler life is great.
Speaker 3 (16:12):
And I'm gonna tell you why because he's like So
what that means is like he keeps me.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Young and fresh, uh huh.
Speaker 3 (16:19):
And because I've always felt very young, so I feel
I thought I wanted an older guy, but now that
I'm my age, now I feel like everything happened the
way it had to because he we do a.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Lot of the same things. If we have fun.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
He's very mature, but then he's also very old soul too, exactly,
so it feels her.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Very old, very old soul.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Hey, you can mix that in there, actually can put
in here. Yeah, I'm hopeful. I think that this year
I just want to embrace like new opportunities, new relationships,
like not romantically, but just like the people that I
have around me, like learn and grow together, and that
I feel like my mind has been on this like inspire.
(17:02):
Like I told you the other day, like I'm ready
to start new things.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Yes, like I feel like do I mix this?
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Yes? Fold it here? Okay, fold it like I want
to Like I don't know, like I told you, like
I want to start multiple businesses and just like yes.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
Mave me.
Speaker 1 (17:20):
I don't know. Maybe I don't know. Maybe that's why
the person that God has for me, like it has
to match that or like has to do with that.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
Maybe I think so I personally that's what I told
you the other day. I was like, dude, I just
I know. I know that God is protecting you. And
if things haven't flourished, and maybe people that you were
talking to or whatever, I think it's because they've.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Learned something from those situations. You've learned and you've grown,
and that's what it's about. Yeah for sure.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
Yeah all right, let me throw this in there, okay, flower, Yes,
one lesson that you learned in twenty seven. One lesson
that you learned, and then one recommendation like what do
you expect? What do you expect as my second mom
going into twenty eight?
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Actually, so what did I learn?
Speaker 1 (18:13):
What did you learn?
Speaker 3 (18:13):
Uh huh okay, So yeah, first seven, So at twenty
seven I'm not sure if I said this on the
last pot, but it's something that like, it's it's very
prominent when I think of twenty seven is not depending
on anyone other than myself and my faith that God
is going to get me through anything and everything, and
(18:35):
that's what I need to focus on. And it was,
it was a process. It was, it was It's a
lot easier said than done. But I do remember that
specifically because I had lost mom and everything and I
was kind of like trying to like get back on
my feet.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
As far as twenty eight. What do I expect for you?
Speaker 4 (18:51):
Mm hm?
Speaker 1 (18:53):
So mind you we talk every day, yes, Like she
knows a lot of what I'm feeling, a lot of
what I'm going through, Like she's one of the first
people to know. So I'm a little nervous actually because
that's like because like you know, I'm really good at
not like meeting people like at their expectations. But it's
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different when it's like you.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
Yeah, or like you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
To be honest, Jenny, like I think you're in a
very good place. And even if it's like when we
talked about boundaries earlier, like even if it's made some
of us uncomfortable, and I conclude myself like because I'm like,
what the heck, Like, you're my baby, you know, and
you're growing up and you're coming into your own and
(19:40):
for someone on this end, it's kind of like damn.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
But then it's also so beautiful to watch.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
So when I think of you and you turning twenty eight,
I'm like, she's got it together like I And that
makes me so freaking proud of I'm my mom is
really really proud. I just I want you.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
To like really.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
Take that leap of faith when it comes, like take
the chance on yourself with with your businesses. Oh yeah,
you know, like I want you to just not think
about is it gonna work or not?
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Like you have passion behind this, and I want you
to just freaking.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
Go like this, you know, yeah, And I want to.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
Yeah, So I yeah, And that's what I don't know.
I see that for you, and I expect I mean.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
You to continue with like are those chocolate chips?
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Yeah, oh my gosh, Oh my gosh, I'm gonna have one.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
Yeah. I love.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Yeah, you've been sharing Bible verses and reading your Bible publicly.
I think that's great. I love that I think the
world needs more of that, and I care and I
love that you don't care what people may think or whatever,
Like you're very true to that, and I love that.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
I respect it.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
Thanks. I think like that's like one of my top
experiences that happened with me this year is like we've
grew We grew up in the church basically, but it's
very different when it's like you've been church heard, when
you've seen different things and experienced different things, when you've
experienced trauma, death, and it's like but why me, or
(21:26):
like is this really the Christian way or the.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
Example of Jesus?
Speaker 1 (21:29):
And it's like no, And that's what I've realized like
this time around where it was like I feel like
I'm constantly surrendering to God and understanding, like really when
I'm reading my Bible, like I understand Him more, to
understand myself more, and I feel like it really just
draws me closer, like just to Him and then to
(21:50):
myself and then ultimately like I want to be a
better example than the way that we grew up. Yeah,
or like that we watched and that we witnessed, because
it's like the way that other people are living obviously
is not quote unquote the Jesus wave everybody sends. Everybody
has their own convictions, everybody, you know, ultimately, like before
(22:12):
Jesus died on the Cross, his ultimate message was just
to love one another, to not judge one another, and
to just it's simply, what's just love. So it's like, yes,
aside from everything else, it's like, literally, it's not that
hard just to love and be kind to people. And
then from there it's like, that's just what the example is.
Speaker 4 (22:32):
Yes, you know they'll be good intent literally bro, yes,
hold on, and I don't One thing I will tell
you is like I don't want you like I want
you to to.
Speaker 3 (22:42):
You know, have if you ever want to have kids
want I want it to be quote unquote the right way,
which is I want you to get married and I
want you to enjoy that and everything.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
I think I want to wait until marriage because I'm
not a virgin anymore.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
You know, you're not to me, she's still a richin no,
because I'm not. But yeah, I wasn't gonna say hold on,
oh my god, this is so good, but I do.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
I think I had an episode about this last season
where I was like, I'm obstinate, Like I just I
realized the importance of soul ties yep, and the dark
place that the last one took me to. Mm hmm,
that was just like I don't I don't ever want
to feel that again. Like I don't want to be
in that situation or that experience. So it's just like,
(23:37):
why put myself through it? And the person that really
loves me and is on the same page and path
with me.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
You're gonna meet him at church? I don't know, dude, Well,
I don't know. I think.
Speaker 3 (23:49):
I mean, I pray about it all the time because
I'm like, I don't want you to get hurt. I
don't want you to go through unnecessary heartbreak. It's just
it's unnecessary. You've you've done the work, you know, I
really see that for you.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
And yes, guys, I.
Speaker 3 (24:02):
Have noticed that there's more people being being abstinate, being
celibate and not sharing their body like they're getting younger
and younger, and I think that's freaking amazing because there's
a lot there's a lot of power in that. That's
a ritual, like you're you're really coming together with someone.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
This is so good.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Is good. And I also got ice cream and hotfage.
You're crazy just to like do one little mm hmm,
you know what I mean, and then you can take
the ones for your husband.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Okay, I'm nice, I'll.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Put thays in him. But yeah, dude, honestly, I've I've
always I've like wanted to just keep it for myself,
like good. I think it's so sacred.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
It's power.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Yeah, Like it's not cute to be like at least
I don't even I don't. I don't know. I just
don't think it's cute. Yeah, to just be sleeping around.
Speaker 2 (24:53):
I don't.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
Not only does it like mess up your vagina and
make it look ugly if you do it too much,
but like it's like someone needs to earn that and
not just anyone can have that, Like that's that's your power,
that's you know, it's like you said, it's sacred. So anyway,
don't be giving your KOUCHI just anyone guys, even guys,
though guys should Okay, isn't.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
It true though, Like they like discriminate more on women
than on men, Like they're able to go have so
many bodies on their list, but when a girl says
like she has more than like I don't know.
Speaker 3 (25:23):
Five, Like, she's nasty exactly, and that's not cool, that's
not I mean, yeah, because we're held at a different
standard I think women.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
You know, but still I just don't think I like and.
Speaker 3 (25:37):
If you want to be a whole do it like Honestly,
I'm at that point where I don't want to again.
We don't want to be judgmental, like do your thing,
but it is something that down the line will affect you.
I have a friend who just has like random casual
sex and she's always so unhappy and depressed, and I'm like,
you're having random casual sex and like, that's not Okay.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Yeah, we're gonna put these in the oven, and while
they we're gonna answer some of your guys's questions when
we come back from the break. All right, you guys,
we're gonna go on a quick break and we'll be
right back. Welcome back, you guys. Okay, these have nothing
to do with age. These are just people that want
to know and have been inspired by you, and which
(26:17):
I have been inspired by my sister multiple times as well,
so I can understand why these questions.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
Thank you, Penny. Okay, all right.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Questions from the listeners. Okay, how do you stay motivated when.
Speaker 4 (26:28):
Life gets busy?
Speaker 3 (26:31):
Routine's huge for me, but when you're busy, it's hard
to stay on there. So when I can't work out,
when I can't meditate, I even if it's quick, I'll
get on my knees. There's some power of like just
humbling yourself before the like before the Lord and before
the higher power. That just I'm like, God, I don't
know what to say right now. I'm really busy and
I'm so sorry, Please help me, and I just kind
of and I just breathe. I breathe a lot, guys,
(26:54):
Intentional breathing. Obviously, I'm breathing right now, right, but intentional
breathing means this.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Like when you're focused on it, Okay.
Speaker 3 (27:01):
I'm gonna release, I'm gonna release these negative thoughts that
I'm thinking, like, you gotta shake it off. And that
keeps me and it helps me continue to stay motivated.
And I do that a lot lately, especially because I've been.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
A little stress and overwhelmed.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
Right, and then I was gone and then I came
back and I was off my routine and just you know,
threw me off a little bit.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
But gotta keep it, you know.
Speaker 3 (27:20):
And then I also read a lot of like my boss,
these their comments and stuff. They make me feel like, okay,
they reinspire me.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
Nice. Yeah, okay, what advice for building confidence in your age?
My sister just turned.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Forward you guys, even though you guys didn't know. I know,
I don't look at it.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
She's giving thirty two.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
My gosh, I know, I can't say twenty eight because
you're twenty eight. I'm like, okay, fine, thirty one ish.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
No, But this it was a little like it was
a tough little moment. It was. It was just like
it would be just fine. So how are you building
that confidence now? How are you feeling?
Speaker 3 (27:55):
I'm okay, so I'm doing my best in Okay, Now
I feel better about it, right, I feel better about it.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
I feel I feel good.
Speaker 3 (28:03):
You know what it was, I was like I was
thinking about the wrong things instead of thinking of I'm forty,
I've accomplished.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
So much, I've survived so much.
Speaker 3 (28:11):
Now it's my time to thrive, you know, not just
all survival survival, survival, more work work work.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
Now I'm like, I want to enjoy life.
Speaker 3 (28:17):
And I feel like I feel better than I ever
have in my whole life, And I think, what's keeping
me like motivating that aspect of like, Okay, I'm forty,
it's not a big deal. It's taking care of myself physically, emotionally, watching.
Speaker 2 (28:34):
What I eat.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
I just had some Han Cheetos off camera, Like I
still like and I don't. I do my best not
to do that, but still I'll taste some. But it's
not an everyday thing. I don't allow it to be
every daybit right. I have it because I want to
feel good more than anything. Yes, I want to look good,
but I want to feel good and again, like it
just I just freaking watched Shakiro last night.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
She's freaking forty eight. She looks great like that mode.
Speaker 3 (28:55):
I'm like, oh dang, Like she's dancing moving her hips
and I'm like, it's all right. Age is just a number.
It's how you feel and how young you keep your spirit.
And my young is like twenty nine something like that.
She's okay, fine, thirty thirty one.
Speaker 1 (29:15):
How do you deal with social media comparisons?
Speaker 2 (29:18):
M I don't even pay attention to them anymore.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
Yeah, she's not really on social media, Like as much
as people.
Speaker 3 (29:25):
Think I'm not you guys. I've done this thing of
like to protect my inner piece. I post and I
get out. It's very rare when I read comments. I
just I have come to accept that people some people
aren't just gonna they're not gonna like me.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
And that's okay. And it could be envy.
Speaker 3 (29:42):
It could be because I ages are like my personality,
whatever it is, that's their opinion. The opinion that's the
most important is the opinion that I have of myself.
And and that's it. But I don't even I don't.
I don't pay it any mind anymore.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
I don't. I really don't.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Yeah, I think that's been like one of like the
I let that go like last year too. I'm just like,
this doesn't really matter. You're still gonna be mad at
me anyways. I'm still probably gonna get canceled, Like yeah,
it's really not that big of a deal, no anymore,
Like no, it's just not.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
Yeah, like we can't give people that much power. No,
you know, it's it's no.
Speaker 1 (30:21):
Okay, what's one thing you were grateful for at twenty seven?
Speaker 3 (30:27):
One thing I was grateful for at twenty seven was
having you guys, Johnny and Jenica well, all my siblings
really because they kept me afloat, but you guys were
the ones that really helped me stay afloat and I
because if not, I wouldn't be here, to be honest.
So I'm very grateful that God did what he did
(30:48):
how he did it. Obviously, not that my mom's gone,
because of course I miss her and I wish she
was there, but the fact that I could focus on
you guys really help me get through. And I'm also
grateful that Mom taught me everything she taught me and
prepared me. Because I was twenty seven and I was like,
what the little f like, what's happening? But then I
(31:10):
remembered everything she had taught me. I was like, she
was preparing me my entire life.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (31:15):
Yeah, dude, that's intense.
Speaker 2 (31:17):
Yeah, But if.
Speaker 1 (31:18):
You think about it, like at twenty seven, like you
already at fifteen or whatever, like maybe a little late
than that, you already knew.
Speaker 3 (31:25):
How to run a business because she threw me in
literally that leap of faith that I was talking about earlier.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
I was like, I'm just gonna do it. I'm gonna
figure it out.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
My first business didn't work out, as you know, but
like Mom taught me to take risks, do it.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
Finish what you start, like just freaking do it. And
I'm so grateful for that.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
You're gonna start something, do it right.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
Uh huh, do it right and do your best to
finish it.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
Okay. Last one kind of goes with how you stay motivated.
How do you balance career, faith, social media, and family.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
I do my best. Again, this word is very important
to me. Inten It's like live with intent. Okay.
Speaker 3 (32:03):
So I try to find time for everything, the things
that are important to me. I have a priority, you know,
my priority. Every time, guys, there's a thing I have
to work. God is in the center of everything for me,
and everything else works and revolves around that. When I
don't do that and I try to fit God into
my schedule, everything goes wrong. So once I feel like
(32:25):
I have God and I've prayed and I've centered myself
in the morning and I'm like, Okay, I have a
much better day and I'm able to have more energy
mental emotional space and energy to like have a little
bit of time for everything and for my like you know,
like you guys are important, My siblings, my nieces and nephews. Like,
I do work a lot, and I'm trying my best,
and that's what I was supposed to do this year,
is to like really try to spend more time intentionally.
Speaker 2 (32:47):
Yeah, because it's tough.
Speaker 1 (32:49):
Though, that's oh yes, I feel like that's one thing
that I want to more implement this year. I'm intentional,
but I know that I can even be a little
bit better at the same Yep. It's like there's always
for progress. Where we do today, we could be one
percent better tomorrow, you know. And yeah, dude, those are great. Yeah,
(33:11):
thanks guys for answering.
Speaker 2 (33:12):
Yeah, thank you guys.
Speaker 1 (33:13):
No, no, thank you for answering. Thanks to you guys
for asking. Are you ready to have some brownies?
Speaker 2 (33:17):
All right?
Speaker 1 (33:18):
Let me cut it up? Pulled on you know how
last you're on your season. We talked about daddy issues, Yes,
daddy issues, mommy issues. Okay, do you feel like now
in this relationship or in general, do you feel like
you've uncovered, healed or noticed anything anymore?
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Maybe? Absolutely.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
Before I was looking for a father and a mother
in relationships, really it was too much of a responsibility
on my past relationships and it wasn't fair to.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
Them, right, and now I've learned that. It's like I'm
an individual. I need to work on myself.
Speaker 3 (33:49):
He needs to work on himself, and then we come
together and make our own culture. But I really do
feel like I don't I'm not looking for that anymore.
It's I found it within myself.
Speaker 1 (34:03):
I've never thought about finding that mother and father figure
in a person.
Speaker 2 (34:08):
Yeah, I would do it.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
I realize that's like.
Speaker 3 (34:13):
My lesbian space too. No, I'm serious. You know that's
why like now I now I can accept it.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
You know, are habits mm hmm.
Speaker 1 (34:25):
That you're working towards. Like I'm really trying not to
curse me more. But that's really really.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
Hard, and I've been trying to do that for a
long time.
Speaker 3 (34:32):
I really that's a great one. I really really want
to be better with that. Also, I don't consider myself
a liar, but there are times when white lies, exactly
white lives are gist is bad, and it also messes
with your integrity.
Speaker 2 (34:50):
So I want to be better.
Speaker 3 (34:51):
Like, if I don't want to go somewhere, I'm not
gonna make excuses and say I gotta do this, I
gotta do that.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
It's either the.
Speaker 3 (34:56):
Truth or Hey, the truth is I don't want to go,
you know, basically, but not try to make up excuses
to you give me you geet what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (35:07):
Yeah, like it's I really, that's yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:09):
Like when I'm texting, I'm like, Okay, that's my opportunity
to tell the truth.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
I can get caught up exactly. Yes, And I'm like,
uh huh. So the cursing thing too, that's one thing. Also,
I was doing really good with being better with with cannabis,
for instance, So that's another thing, Like I want to
(35:36):
slow down or to the point where maybe just completely.
Speaker 2 (35:39):
Stop really, but I also it's way better the drinking
that for sure. Boom.
Speaker 3 (35:45):
I got buzzed, not even buzzed the other day and
I was like, I'm not I don't like how makes
me feel like like I just it's not my thing anymore,
you know. It's good once in a while, yeah, but
not to the point like the other day.
Speaker 2 (35:57):
So yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1 (35:59):
I feel like alcohol to me now, I have to
be strategic with when I'm drinking with when I'm like.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
Yes, there's no there's no need to do too too much,
you know.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
Hold on, don't don't do anything with it yet.
Speaker 3 (36:14):
Oh I know, it's because it's falling. Very freaking delicious, dude.
It was like the perfect consistency. It's not too hard,
it's perfect, very nice.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
Wow, I love brownies. I would rather have a brownie
than a cake. But I love cake too. You know
it's not mine.
Speaker 3 (36:41):
Here she goes girl, cake, ice cream, brownies go from
the best to the least that you.
Speaker 1 (36:49):
Like brownie's ice cream cake. Remember Millia got mad at
me because I said cake one time.
Speaker 2 (36:56):
He wouldn't let it go. It was like a two weeks.
Speaker 1 (36:57):
I cannot believe you would choose cake, cookies or I
don't know what like, bro.
Speaker 2 (37:01):
It's really not that mean for sure.
Speaker 1 (37:04):
Since we're unning it on a sweet note, no pun intended.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
Uh huh.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
We're gonna do rapid fire questions, all right, Okay, whatever
comes to your head, just answer. Okay, okay, that's your fun. Okay,
first thing that comes to mind. What's your favorite ice
cream flavor?
Speaker 2 (37:25):
I'm wan chocolate chip.
Speaker 1 (37:27):
If you could be any animal for a day, what
would it be.
Speaker 2 (37:32):
An eagle?
Speaker 1 (37:33):
An eagle?
Speaker 2 (37:34):
Is that an animal?
Speaker 1 (37:35):
Yes, that's a bird.
Speaker 3 (37:37):
If it's called like a reptile, no, reptiles are different.
Speaker 1 (37:41):
If that's an animal though.
Speaker 2 (37:44):
Way, Okay, see, I would I want a sore? I
want to fly? Right, I think? Yeah, I want to
be a bird. Okay, they're the closest thing to dinosaurs.
Speaker 1 (37:54):
By the way, I know the answer to this. But
what's your go to dance move? Hm?
Speaker 2 (38:01):
What is it?
Speaker 1 (38:02):
Go? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (38:05):
And my tongue. My brother hates when I take up
pops like one hip. It's all because I can't do it.
Speaker 1 (38:11):
On the other side, I know my sisters all right,
coffee or tea?
Speaker 2 (38:16):
Tea?
Speaker 1 (38:18):
What's your guilty pleasure TV?
Speaker 3 (38:19):
Show?
Speaker 2 (38:22):
Really?
Speaker 3 (38:25):
I love watching like the Resort and like like it's
all like, I really like it.
Speaker 1 (38:31):
Okay, if you could have any superpower, what would it be?
Speaker 2 (38:33):
I would like to fly? Okay? Yeah, favorite childhood cartoon?
Speaker 1 (38:38):
This is hard?
Speaker 2 (38:39):
Oh my god, to be long stalking hundred right now? Dude,
she just because mom loves.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
I love Okay, your best snack to binge watch with
your binge, watching a show, your binge watching ninety day fiance?
Speaker 2 (38:56):
What are you eating?
Speaker 1 (38:57):
Dude? Honestly, they door dash everything they eat, Taco Bell can.
Speaker 3 (39:02):
Nowhere better No, no, no, okay, e medio Licanta. He
loves fast food, but honestly, Okay. If I was watching,
i'd like Blaze pizza really love it.
Speaker 1 (39:11):
Yes, all right. What's one thing that's always in your bag?
Speaker 2 (39:15):
Baby wipes? You bring baby wipes everywhere? Yes, I have
baby wipes everywhere because I need I need them.
Speaker 1 (39:22):
You need your ass, I need them.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
So if I'm gonna pump gass, I get a bity
wipe everything I need? Baby all right?
Speaker 1 (39:28):
Last song you played on repeat?
Speaker 2 (39:32):
Oh it's this trendy TikTok song. I don't know that.
I just heard it. Hold on, I've been listening to
it over and over.
Speaker 1 (39:42):
How's it go?
Speaker 2 (39:43):
Oh, Orlando showed it to me. Actually, hold on? Hold on? Okay,
this one? Shake it? Shake it to the max. Oh no, no, no, no,
that one nice? Okay?
Speaker 4 (40:02):
It a lot.
Speaker 1 (40:03):
Last one. If you can ask God one thing and
receive a quick answer, what are you asking?
Speaker 2 (40:10):
Am I meant to have a baby right now? I
would ask the Lord.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
He's gonna tell you, Yes, your designed, that's what your
body's for. Yes, absolutely, it's just his timing.
Speaker 3 (40:21):
Yes, I would be like God, am I meant to
have a baby? And then I hopefully you can text
me right away.
Speaker 1 (40:26):
Yes, So that is one of his promises.
Speaker 2 (40:29):
Yeah, oh I love this. This was great, sister.
Speaker 1 (40:33):
Thank you so much for joining me. Thank you for
doing this every year with me. I love it. I
cannot wait to do when I'm thirty. I think that
one's gonna be fun.
Speaker 2 (40:42):
Yes, oh my god, that one's gonna be cool.
Speaker 1 (40:45):
But I'm excited. I'm excited for twenty eight. I'm excited
for where life has me. I'm grateful that I have
a beautiful example in my life my other sisters. Well, yes,
I've learned, I've catched on. I'm I'm a sponge. I
absorb and I.
Speaker 2 (41:01):
See and I watch. I'm really great at observing. Yes
you are.
Speaker 1 (41:04):
But I'm grateful. I thank God for another beautiful year,
for this podcast, for you guys for watching, for the
love and support that you give not only me, but
to my sister as well, and her podcast. She has
cheeks and chill. She has your cheeky she has what
was the Jane one?
Speaker 2 (41:21):
Sincerely, yarely Jane?
Speaker 1 (41:22):
Which other one? There's another one?
Speaker 2 (41:24):
No? No, no, okay.
Speaker 1 (41:26):
She also has a cheeky s she has foody on
the girl. She's just a woman of all traits. She's
just a lot going on as it's a tiny person.
I don't know how she does it, but the Lord
please please watch listen to her podcast as well. Let
us know what topics, what recipes you guys want to
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see next time, and we will see you in the
next episode.
Speaker 2 (41:49):
I love that. Bye guys.
Speaker 1 (41:50):
Oh wait, my Bible verse of the day. Oh yes, sorry,
I almost I always forget the Bible. I don't always forget.
I almost forgot. The Bible Verse of the day today
is Philippians one six. Be confident of this that He
who began a good work in you will carry it
on to completion until the day of Jesus. This verse
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encourages us to trust God's on working work in our lives.
As I celebrate my birthday, as my sister is ready
for her baby, we have to remember that God started
something good in us, and he will complete it and
let it flourish, and He is faithful to complete it
all the time. So anyways, with that being said, thank
(42:34):
you guys so much for watching, and we'll see you
guys next week.
Speaker 2 (42:37):
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