Soft Life, Strong Voice with Drea

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It gets no better than this.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
You are now in June to perspectives with big bang.

Speaker 1 (00:10):
Let's get straight to it. Never shrink yourself to make
others feel comfortable on your magic. Welcome to perspective Bank Today,
I got my dog in the building, Drell. What's up, Quinn?

Speaker 3 (00:22):
What's up? Bank?

Speaker 1 (00:23):
How you feeling?

Speaker 3 (00:24):
I'm good? How are you?

Speaker 1 (00:25):
First? I want to congratulations on everything. Y'all killing it, thank.

Speaker 3 (00:28):
You, killing it, thank you. I feel like you know
you've seen us since the beginning stage.

Speaker 1 (00:32):
For sure, y'all killing it. Man you Uh, But I
like to check on your mental first though. Where you're at, you,
where you at mentally?

Speaker 3 (00:41):
M I'm good. Mentally, I'm good.

Speaker 4 (00:44):
I just think as things change and you grow, you
have to like roll with the punches. So I think
in a lot of ways, when poor minds were smaller,
it was easier, you know, Now that things are getting bigger,
Sometimes it's just a lie, you know, having to deal

(01:06):
with like people's opinions and all of that typical stuff.
But other than that, I'm good. I feel very blessed.
I feel very blessed, highly favored, you know. Sometimes yeah,
because it's hard not to do you not read them
at all at all, So you just have people handle
that for you.

Speaker 1 (01:27):
Nah, I just don't read, just read. I just don't
read them because I know at the end of the
day it can affect me because I care.

Speaker 4 (01:34):
Oh And it's like when I was younger, I didn't care.
Now it's I'm getting older. I'm like, oh my god,
am I becoming more empathetic more sympathetic, Like I really
be caring sometimes people be saying and I feel like
I still try to respond, same thing with lex because
we want to always seem personable. But it's like, realistically,
when you get to a certain point, it's hard to

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respond to everybody.

Speaker 1 (01:56):
Anyway, like interacting and gay.

Speaker 4 (01:58):
Like interacting keeping up the game, and you want to
see personable make people feel like, oh, she responded to me.

Speaker 3 (02:03):
She cared about what I said.

Speaker 4 (02:05):
But on the downside, you see the bad communis too,
because obviously it's more good than bad.

Speaker 1 (02:10):
But but we as people will respond to the bad
before we respond to the good.

Speaker 3 (02:16):
And now why are we like that?

Speaker 1 (02:17):
I don't know, why are we like that?

Speaker 4 (02:20):
Like you go go to that one bad community, you
will see ninety other good ones, but that's the one
that they get.

Speaker 1 (02:25):
You going, that's crazy. Background. Where are you from? How
you come? Where you going?

Speaker 4 (02:32):
I'm from Houston, Texas, Okay, I'm born and raised. I
lived there until I was twenty five. Then I moved
to Atlanta. So yeah, that's where I'm from. I love Houston.
I still go back home all the time. My whole
family still lived there, all of my friends. Well, I
did live in Nakadochi's, Texas for four years where it's

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like a real, real.

Speaker 3 (02:55):
Country It's a real country town.

Speaker 4 (02:58):
It's like two hours outside of Houston, and I went
to college there.

Speaker 1 (03:03):
But that's crazy everybody moving to Houston. You moved to Atlanta.

Speaker 4 (03:07):
But you know what, I feel like, I moved to
Atlanta before the big boom of everybody moving to Houston. Yeah,
because I feel like that's happening right now.

Speaker 3 (03:14):
You know, I've been in.

Speaker 4 (03:17):
I've been in Atlanta since twenty sixteen, so I'm almost
a big oh.

Speaker 1 (03:20):
Yeah nah twenty sixteen one more. Yeah. Yeah, you got
your peach exactly peach. Yeah. So what's some things that
like growing up in Houston that you just took along
with you on your journey, like like your morals, like
what influenced you morally from Houston.

Speaker 4 (03:38):
I think growing up in the South in general, it
just teached you to have good manners, you know, and
in that Southern hospitality that's a real thing. I feel
like I carry that no matter where I'm going. No
matter where I go, I feel like I'm super gracious,
I'm super nice no matter what. It's so funny because
I always meet people and they're like, you so down
to earthing, you so humble. I feel like I'm gonna
always be that way because I'm low key. I mean,

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I'm from the country, like Houston is coming up now,
but I mean when I was growing up it was
very much country. So I feel like just being down
to ears, having good manners, caring about people, all things.

Speaker 1 (04:14):
That I grew up. So what was I asked Lexus
to what was your dream to be as a child? Like,
did you dream to be an entertainer? What was your dream?

Speaker 5 (04:27):
No?

Speaker 4 (04:27):
I didn't, actually, Like I wanted to be a psychiatrist
at one point, and then I also wanted to be
a lawyer growing up. I feel like entertainment came later
down the line, if I'm really keeping it one honey
with you. When I went to college, that was my
major psychology, and I was like, oh, these shits too hard.

Speaker 3 (04:44):
Actually, I'm about to.

Speaker 4 (04:45):
Get into entertain because I would always run into people
and they would be like, you have such a great personality,
and I'm like, you know what, let me tap into
that and switch my major over the mass communication.

Speaker 3 (04:54):
So that's what I did.

Speaker 1 (04:55):
But you're still doing it though you're still doing psychology.
Like even though you know, yeah, even though y'all have fun,
people are still growing with y'all, you know what I'm saying, Like,
especially the girls that watch y'all. The people that watch y'all,
they singing and they learning too at the same time,
like because they learned from our our mishaps. You know

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what I'm saying. If somebody wants to start a podcast.
Even when you said by you just saying that just
because you went to school for one thing, your destion
was to do this, to.

Speaker 3 (05:24):
Do something else, Yeah, that's true.

Speaker 1 (05:25):
Yep. How so you say basically your journey just took you.

Speaker 4 (05:33):
Well, you know, I changed my major when I was
in college, so it was psychology yet first, and I
had actually already had like college credits when I went
to college, so it actually pushed me back when I
changed it to mass communication because I was like, Okay,
I think I want to get into.

Speaker 3 (05:47):
Entertainment, but I don't know what yet. I thought. I
used to think I wanted to do radio.

Speaker 4 (05:52):
So when I graduated from college, I actually interned at
the radio station. I don't know if you heard it
in ninety seven nine bucks, it's pretty popular.

Speaker 1 (05:59):
Well here's yeah. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (06:00):
So I interned there for a little bit with this
radio personality out there. His name is Kiyat. He let
me shadow him for like two months, and I was like, mm,
I don't really think radio is my thing. So when
I moved to Atlanta, I knew I wanted to do
something in entertainment, but I just wasn't sure exactly what
it was. And then when Lex ended up moving out
here a year after I was living here and we

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started our YouTube channel and then we turned it into
the podcast, I was like, Okay, I found my niche.

Speaker 1 (06:27):
Yeah, So did you have any moments where You're like, man, fuck,
ain't for me?

Speaker 4 (06:32):
Hell yeah, Because I'm an instant gratification type of person,
and if I'm really keeping it real with you, I
need to see the money.

Speaker 3 (06:39):
Where's the money? Where's the residual.

Speaker 1 (06:43):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (06:43):
So like with podcasting, you know, I think, especially now,
people see how lucrative it is. They see how many
people that are doing podcasts, that are making so much money,
and everybody want to get into it.

Speaker 5 (06:53):
Now.

Speaker 4 (06:54):
When we started podcasting, it really wasn't that many people
doing it, and it was a slow grind to make money.
I mean, it's still a slow grind to make money,
but it was a real slow grind back then. So
for the first two years that we were doing pour.

Speaker 3 (07:06):
Minds, we ain't make no money.

Speaker 4 (07:08):
And then I remember we finally got our first eighty
six dollar check.

Speaker 3 (07:12):
How much eighty six dollars? But you couldn't tell me shit.

Speaker 4 (07:15):
I was like, okay, we all, yes, we finally getting somewhere.
So we had got our first eighty six dollars check
from this ad company that we was working with, and
they ended up firing us two months later because we
was putting the ads in the wrong areas.

Speaker 3 (07:29):
But it was dope. I was like, Okay, now we
owned something.

Speaker 4 (07:32):
But I wanted to cite fucking back then and the
times were licks and I had our rough spots in
our friendship too.

Speaker 1 (07:39):
But yeah, that's why about to ask like, how do
y'all keep that? Like, how do y'all I heard what
she said, but how do y'all keep that balance?

Speaker 3 (07:45):
Though a boy staying friends?

Speaker 1 (07:47):
Yeah, just staying friends and in business Number one.

Speaker 4 (07:51):
I think you have to really love your friend, you
know what I mean, because it's gonna be times where
y'all don't see out of eye, but you have to
look at them for who they are, not the stuff
that they do, and understand that y'all gonna go through
rough passes.

Speaker 3 (08:05):
And it's a part of growing. Like me and Lex
been knowing.

Speaker 4 (08:07):
You sure to since twenty fifteen, it's twenty twenty five,
that's ten years. Neither one of us are the same
people that we were back when we first met. So
you have to understand people are gonna grow and people
are gonna change. And I think it also help when
you have a common goal. One thing about her and
I we both know where we want to go in life,
and we both know that poor minds is a great
catalyst to get us to where we're trying to go.

Speaker 3 (08:28):
So with that in mind, no matter what we go.

Speaker 4 (08:31):
Through, we always keep it between us and we work
through it because we know what the goaliem.

Speaker 1 (08:36):
So what you think the what you think the balance
is what she bring that you don't bring, and what
you bring and she don't bring to the whole dynamic. Hmm.

Speaker 4 (08:45):
What I think Lex bring is like she's that friend
that you can go to and no matter what you're
going through, and like she's gonna make you laugh, Like
she gonna make it a lighthearty, silly moment. You could
be going through the worst shit ever, but like you
have a conversation with her, you gonna forget about your problems.
And I feel like she does. She's always doing that
for me personally. But I love the fact that she

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can shine her light on the world in the world
can see that because I feel like she does that
for a lot of people that she doesn't even know.
She toushes them in that way because they could be
having the worst day ever. They watch poor minds now
they not even thinking about, you know, whatever it is
that happened five minutes ago. For me personally, I think
I bring a lot of real perspectives.

Speaker 3 (09:24):
Perspectives.

Speaker 4 (09:28):
Yeah, I feel like I bring a lot of real
sheet to the show. Like I say, a lot of
the things that most people be thinking. They just the
phraise to say because of the back lash that they
think that they gonna get. But everybody be thinking that shit.
But it all balance, They're all balanced out. And then
I think we both have our moments, like I think
lex is more outwardly silly, but I think I'm pretty
funny too and I'm witty, So I think it works

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and their balances.

Speaker 1 (09:49):
So do you were you ever shot or first in
the beginning of the show.

Speaker 4 (09:53):
Like, yeah, out of me and her, for sure, I
was a little more. I wouldn't stay shy, just private,
Like I was uncomfortable talking about myself and talking about
my business publicly online. That was just never something I
really saw myself doing. Even when I thought about myself
being in media, I never thought about me talking about

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me or it being about like.

Speaker 3 (10:17):
My life and focused on my life.

Speaker 4 (10:18):
I thought, maybe more so I'm gonna be interviewing people,
I'm gonna be talking to them about themselves.

Speaker 3 (10:23):
So I think I had to.

Speaker 4 (10:24):
Get acclimated to being on camera, and then eventually I
got more comfortable because I'm doing it with my friend
and she makes me comfortable. But it took some time.
Like if you go back and you look at the
old episodes. I definitely have grown a lot.

Speaker 1 (10:38):
Oh not for sure. That's the name of the game.
Did you ever see yourself reaching, like you know how
people be reaching, like trying let me try this just
to see if this working. Let me try this. You
know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (10:48):
Hell yeah, not necessarily in media, but I'm one of
them people. I've tried everything I went to I took
last classes. I thought I wanted to do last years.
At one point, I went to real estate school in Houston,
and I thought I wanted to be a realtor. Like
I said, I have my bachelor's degree in mass communications.

Speaker 3 (11:05):
I used to work in the clubs.

Speaker 4 (11:08):
I think I took a nail class or something before.

Speaker 3 (11:11):
Like, I literally have just done everything.

Speaker 4 (11:13):
I've always been a person where the money head Like
if it's if it's a good idea and it's gonna
make me some money, let me go ahead and try
it out.

Speaker 1 (11:19):
So you feel like it's your purpose now what you're doing.

Speaker 4 (11:22):
I definitely think it's my purpose, but I feel like
I stumbled on it on accident.

Speaker 3 (11:26):
And sometimes that's how it is.

Speaker 1 (11:27):
And like most of the time, because it's a journey,
it ain't your plan.

Speaker 3 (11:30):
It's not God's.

Speaker 1 (11:34):
Let me see what else we got.

Speaker 4 (11:36):
But that's why I feel like when things get rough,
you always have to keep that in mind, that it
is God's playing in our chores.

Speaker 1 (11:42):
Fact. Oh that's why I always tell people like, bro,
if you ain't you can't worry and have faith at
the same time.

Speaker 3 (11:55):
You don't go together.

Speaker 1 (11:55):
It don't go together. So if you believe something gonna happen,
why is you worried about it? Now? It's always good strategizing,
playing out you know what I'm saying. But whatever for
you gonna be for you for sure.

Speaker 3 (12:05):
Faith and fear don't live in the same house.

Speaker 1 (12:08):
Big facts. Let me see what's behind the scenes. I
ain't right these questions behind the scenes. Oh yeah, yeah,
what's some some shit that behind the scenes, Like if
somebody was trying to get into a podcast that they
wouldn't know goals on, like just being a podcast, just
being in media.

Speaker 3 (12:28):
Period, something that goes on behind the scenes.

Speaker 1 (12:31):
Like that people wouldn't even know, like you know, good
or bad, like.

Speaker 4 (12:36):
Wo just meeting a lot of different people with a
lot of different personalities and just always feeling like you
have to make everybody feel comfortable. I think that's something
that looks and I do really well. We make people
whenever they come on to college, people from all different
walks of life, just feeling comfortable no matter what your
personality is, because you're going to meet people that you're
necessarily not gonna always align with or get along with.

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But as a professional, you still have to do your
job and you still have to sit there and make
your work and not let the audience know what's going on.

Speaker 3 (13:07):
So just for meeting.

Speaker 4 (13:08):
People who you might not always miss week, because we
definitely did that before.

Speaker 1 (13:13):
Did you not for sure, did y'all ever did you
ever wanna speak to your person Did you ever have
like a somebody that you looked to like a mentor,
or you just y'all just did it on a whim.

Speaker 4 (13:24):
No, yeah, we just did it on a whim because,
like I said, at the time, when we started Poor Minds,
this was like twenty eighteen, cause we had a YouTube
channel first and then we switched over and changed it
to a podcast. And at the time, it really wasn't
anybody that was doing podcasts that I just looked up to.
But I will say Horrible Decisions was a really really

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good podcast and then we were cool with Mandy and
Weezy and they inspired us to start touring. They're actually
going to inspire us to start touring them. In eighty
five South.

Speaker 1 (13:54):
Y'all kill to Shit, thank you first show. I remember
y'all first show, I said, ate this ship and it go.
The first live show I think y'all did in Houston,
first run.

Speaker 4 (14:05):
No, we actually did our first show in Nashville, Okay,
then we did it here in Atlanta, then.

Speaker 1 (14:10):
We went to Houston.

Speaker 3 (14:12):
Crazy he was It was fun. It was a good time.

Speaker 4 (14:16):
But yeah, they definitely influenced us a lot when it
came to torn because I feel like before eighty five
South and Horrible Podcast wasn't really touring, Like that's like
a new thing.

Speaker 1 (14:29):
So it gotta feel good just to get paid, just
to be yourself, huh.

Speaker 3 (14:32):
It does it. It was amazing.

Speaker 1 (14:34):
But people look at the ship that we do, is
it like it's not work?

Speaker 3 (14:38):
Yeah, But then I always say to that I would
like to see you do.

Speaker 1 (14:40):
It that it is work, hard work, can you because
like you said, you gotta make everybody feel comfortable. You
gotta be on time, you gotta It's just a lot
come with the ship that you. People will never understand
there talking. Yeah, but Ben gotta be handled the business.

Speaker 4 (14:54):
And that's another thing. So it's so much business. They
get handled behind the scenes. Like especially if you fully
one hundred run your business and you have legal rights
to it, you have to be im meetings. You need
to know what's going on with the finances. You need
to make sure the paperwork is in order as far
as like your elc's and all of that stuff. People
don't think about that. They, like you said, they just

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think we just sitting here talking on camera. But it's
so much more.

Speaker 1 (15:19):
If if you said it was time that you felt
like you want, if you would have quit, what you
think you would have did.

Speaker 3 (15:25):
If I would have quit, I don't know, probably been
like a housewife or something.

Speaker 4 (15:30):
To be honest, I mean, I'm not even gonna lie
to you. That's why I felt like this shit gotta work.
Like when it comes to port minds, it wasn't no
playing because I was like, this shit gotta work.

Speaker 1 (15:45):
Because I I.

Speaker 4 (15:47):
Have never liked having jobs, Like I've either quit every
job I've ever had or I got laid off. I
got laid off one time, but other than that, I
ended up quitting every job I ever had.

Speaker 3 (15:56):
I don't feel like I do well with authority.

Speaker 4 (15:59):
I don't really do with having to be somewhere every
single day at a set time, sitting in a cubicle,
having to do things that I don't.

Speaker 3 (16:07):
Want to do. You know why you said, you.

Speaker 1 (16:09):
Know, you know you don't like nobody tell you what
to do.

Speaker 3 (16:14):
Yeah, I don't. I don't like none of that shit.

Speaker 1 (16:17):
So everything folk doing is just why y'all doing it
this way? We could do it this way. Going to
a billion dollar corporation doing this shit for eighty years,
and the way these folks do it is dumb to
certain people, like tourists, like you know what I'm saying,
It's like whatever they're doing, it's like, that's just dumb.
You could do It's an easier way, right.

Speaker 4 (16:34):
And you're working all this time making them richer when
you could be working on your own and making yourself
richer in fact. So, yeah, I just always knew I
was gonna be an entrepreneur in some type of way.

Speaker 3 (16:46):
I didn't really know what I was gonna do. Oh,
that's what I forgot to say too.

Speaker 4 (16:49):
I used to have a clothing line back in the day, like,
I really have done everything.

Speaker 3 (16:53):
I knew it was gonna be something.

Speaker 4 (16:54):
I always had that shit in me when it came
to being an entrepreneur, I just had to find what
my thing was gonna be.

Speaker 1 (17:01):
Like, how do you deal with the nays the people
that doubted you and hon of Like how you dealt
with that? I don't don't even see them.

Speaker 4 (17:08):
I don't really feel like I deal with them, because like,
when it comes to people like that, it was so
many people who definitely used to doubt poor minds. And
I used to be like, oh they won trick ponies,
They not smart. They be talking about the same shit
every week. That relations to those relationship topics and all
of that stuff is gonna get old. They probably gonna
be relevant for another year and not go nowhere. There
was a lot of people who was definitely saying all

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of that shit. But to that, I just be like,
you know, you see what the food going on?

Speaker 1 (17:36):
What about when it be somebody you care about them
and you see that they don't you how you deal
with that?

Speaker 3 (17:42):
How a lot of people like that you have to.

Speaker 4 (17:48):
Love them from a distance, But then also understand that
a lot of things be projection. And I think that
comes from not just family members and people who love you,
that also come from like strangers.

Speaker 3 (18:00):
Shit just be projection.

Speaker 4 (18:01):
Like, people have so many negative things to say because
they wish that they had the courage to change their
own dreams and do the things that they want to do.
So when they see somebody else doing it, especially in
the beginning stages, it's easy to say, oh, that ain't
gonna be she, But then as it gets bigger and bigger,
it makes you be like, damn, if I would have
started five years ago, I probably could have been there too.

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So a lot of the time I think it's projection
and you just shouldn't take it personally because people a
lot of the time are inspired and that's why they
say the things that they say.

Speaker 1 (18:31):
No for sure, cause they said Tessa won't gonna be shipped.

Speaker 3 (18:34):
Okay, look at that she now exactly.

Speaker 1 (18:37):
So what's your knowing negotiables period in life.

Speaker 3 (18:43):
For myself or like when it's period.

Speaker 1 (18:45):
Like when it comes down to your boundaries, like none
negotiate with people. They don't have to be relationships people period.

Speaker 2 (18:51):
MM.

Speaker 4 (18:54):
I don't really like dealing with negative people. I'm a
very optimistic person. So if you're a person who's very pessive.
Me steak all the time, and you always looking at
the glass it's half empty instead of half full. I
can't really be around people like that because it just
drains my energy. So that's definitely a non negotiable for me.
I would also say people who just don't have no

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work etheque or who don't want more in life. Like
a lot of times, this is something and I'm saying
is because this is something that I'm currently a listen
that I'm learning right now in life.

Speaker 3 (19:24):
So maybe these like help somebody.

Speaker 4 (19:26):
But a lot of time, as you grow and you
become more and more successful in life, you think that
you have to bring everybody with you, especially the people
that were with you for like ten years, fifteen years.
But it's hard to do that when you're changing every
day mentally and you're evolving and people are not.

Speaker 3 (19:45):
So that's another non negotiable.

Speaker 4 (19:47):
I can't be around people that aren't constantly evolving and
trying to better themselves.

Speaker 3 (19:51):
Do n't want to be a better version of theyself.

Speaker 4 (19:53):
Some people are really cool with being where they are,
and that's okay, but that's where you have to leave
them where.

Speaker 1 (19:58):
They at fact. I I started looking at my life
like I'm driving a bus and everybody got to stop.

Speaker 3 (20:05):
No, you've changed so much.

Speaker 1 (20:07):
Everybody got to stop. Get off. Nigga, you ain't got
to ring the bell. I'm putting your ass off the book. Everybody,
thank you. Everybody got to stop. Man, you can't. You can't.
You can't regret it, you can't be mad at it.
It's just what it is. Yeah, I think I think
we put ourselves in depression and all that ship by
thinking about ship that don't matter.

Speaker 4 (20:25):
It don't matter, right, Yeah, for sure, I agree. And
I want to ask you a question. So like when
you decided to start focusing more on your health than
going on your health journey, and so did that affect
any of your relationships and your friends.

Speaker 1 (20:38):
All of them?

Speaker 3 (20:39):
Really?

Speaker 1 (20:39):
Yeah? It is what it is.

Speaker 3 (20:42):
Like in what way they was like, nigga, what you're
doing bruh?

Speaker 1 (20:45):
You know, because you know when you're trying to evolve
and change, really gotta change for sure, Like you can't
just change one thing. You can't just say. And then
I was just doing it for health reasons, trying to
get right right. As you lose the weight, you go
losing all type of shit and you start eating, needing
all that shit. Some shit just go like you tap

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in spiritually right right, So people are just not even
gonna be able to deal with you. You're gonna become
a problem to them, yep, because you holding up a
mirror to them. You get what I'm saying. Once people
start seeing you being your best version, now it's like.

Speaker 3 (21:19):
If you don't have that consistency, I don't have that decently.

Speaker 1 (21:22):
So now you so, now we got to make you
out to be a fuckinginger like you going, Hollywood? Are
you changing? Because I can got the courage, like you said,
I ain't got the courage to start poor minds and
get and get an eighty six dollars check and be
happy about it. I ain't got their courage. I ain't
got the courage to got them feel like I can evolve.
I'm feeling like it's like what you said, it's projections.
I'm feeling like it's it's impossible to do. So, motherfucker

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get mad at you and try to take you out
of character. But sure, I ain't doing it. I ain't
going I just sit yo, stop is here. I ain't
mad at you.

Speaker 3 (21:53):
I love you that's fair.

Speaker 4 (21:56):
I feel the same way because I'm really into health
and feed me too, Like I work out and stuff like.

Speaker 1 (22:00):
Y'all ain't been on my hikes yet? No, I do.

Speaker 4 (22:02):
But see that's the thing. I don't know about outdoor workouts.

Speaker 3 (22:07):
I'm more of an indoor really. Give me some a C.

Speaker 4 (22:10):
Yeah, I need to be a little cool while I'm
working out. Working out outside stresses me out.

Speaker 3 (22:15):
Just walking just walking in sweetend.

Speaker 2 (22:22):
I do.

Speaker 3 (22:22):
But in the a C.

Speaker 1 (22:23):
And oh yeah, ain't no bugs. So what you say
you're like a girly girl.

Speaker 3 (22:33):
Yeah, I would say so. I think I'm a girly girl, like.

Speaker 1 (22:37):
You know, like no tomboys hit at No.

Speaker 3 (22:39):
But that's what I was gonna say.

Speaker 4 (22:41):
I mean, I definitely have that ship in me though,
because when I go on vacation, I'm very adventurous, Like
I want to go zip line, I want to go kayaking.
I don't mind doing outdoor activities, but like on a normal,
consistent basis, that's where I draw the line.

Speaker 3 (22:56):
Give me once in a while.

Speaker 1 (22:57):
You know, Hey, so what's the uh what's the show about?

Speaker 3 (23:02):
Travel Queens?

Speaker 4 (23:02):
Yeah, so basically it's a travel show. It's about Lex
and I going to different countries, different states, different cities
in the US, and we're showing people all of the
black cultural things that you can do in these different cities,
because it's cities and countries that typically you would assume
don't have a lot of black culture. So like we

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went to Kardaina, Columbia, for example, and then we went
to this really small town they're called Polenka, which is
two hours away from Kardayina, and it was the first
free black city in the Americas. And like literally as
soon as you step into Polenka, you would think that
you're in Ghana or Nigeria somewhere in Africa because it's
so many black people there and it's so much culture there,

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and they're proud to be black, you know. Like we
talked about this when we went on Ario Leisure. I
think a lot of the time, when we think about
Afro Latinas, they get this bad rep for like not
wanting to be associated with being black. But when we
went to Polinka, they was black and proud. They had
they pro black signs up, they had their T shirts
for like you know about George Floyd and all types

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of stuff. Like they're very aware, they know what's going on,
and they're proud to be black.

Speaker 1 (24:12):
So do you think what you what you think? What
was the best city that you visit? Was that the
best city you visit?

Speaker 3 (24:16):
Mexicico City was our favorite. It was me favor Realm.

Speaker 4 (24:20):
Yeah, because it's a lot of black expats from the
United States that are moving there just because the cost
of living is cheaper and it's not that far from
North America. I mean not the North America, but it's
not that far from the United States. So it's a
lot of black expats that are moving there. They have
black R and B nights there, the food is really
really good, and it's also just a really safe place
for black women to move to if you're thinking about

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moving abroad.

Speaker 1 (24:43):
So would you ever move out of the country?

Speaker 3 (24:45):
I would.

Speaker 4 (24:46):
I would Actually a part of me would love to
live in Europe for like a year. When we went
to London, I really really like seek and then I
always hear Paris is really nice, Like I wouldn't mind
living in Europe for a year.

Speaker 1 (24:58):
So I'm in difference. Well, how many different countries did
y'all visit on the show?

Speaker 3 (25:05):
Just one?

Speaker 4 (25:05):
We only went to South America. Let's see everything else
was here in North America, because we went to Charleston,
South Carolina, which is here in the States. We went
to Key West, Florida, which is here in the States.
Then we went to Mexico, cit which is you know,
still North America.

Speaker 1 (25:18):
Okay, Okay, that's dope. And it's already out everything.

Speaker 4 (25:23):
It came out a month ago and all four episodes
are out, So you could watch it everywhere. You could
watch it on bees he Her, you could watch it
on BS dot com, you could watch it on Hulu
with the BC hert add on Felo with the BC
heart add on YouTube TV, and right now we just
you know, trying to see if we're gonna get a
second season.

Speaker 3 (25:42):
Fingers crossed.

Speaker 1 (25:44):
It's a crazy question. If you could switch lines with
a celebrity, who would it be for one day?

Speaker 3 (25:49):
Beyonce?

Speaker 1 (25:51):
Real?

Speaker 3 (25:51):
I love Beyonce.

Speaker 4 (25:52):
Maybe it's a Houston thing, but that's literally the only
celebrity that I would say I'm a stand for, like
I love me some Beyonce. Absolutely, I would love to
switch lives to Beyonce for a day.

Speaker 1 (26:03):
What city you gonna go to, What city you gonna
go to the concert?

Speaker 3 (26:06):
Then both I'm going Houston in.

Speaker 1 (26:09):
Here, Houston gonna be crazy.

Speaker 4 (26:10):
Houston is gonna be crazy anytime she going to where
I always have to go in Houston.

Speaker 1 (26:15):
Real mm hmm. Every song switch Live. So what's what's
what you think? Maye beyonceay so dope? Besides her being
from Houston.

Speaker 4 (26:24):
Besides her being from Houston, I feel like she's always
authentically been herself, and I really respect and love how
she's been able to create a sense of normalcy in
her life despite how unnormal it is. Like, I love
the fact that she keeps her personal life privy and
she protect the people that she care about, Like her
and JZ have done a really good job of cultivating

(26:45):
a very private life in such a public city.

Speaker 1 (26:49):
I just like about them two both that they just
seem just so.

Speaker 3 (26:52):
Unbothered that too.

Speaker 1 (26:53):
Yeah, you know what I'm saying, Like, man, y'all supposed
to be talking about us, right and.

Speaker 3 (27:00):
Then they'll they The only time they ever addressed it
is in the music.

Speaker 1 (27:05):
Issue.

Speaker 4 (27:06):
Yeah, the only time they ever addressed haters, ever addressed
the comments anything in the music I love that I
aspire to be that unbothered one d because right now I'm.

Speaker 1 (27:17):
A little bothered. Why you think so?

Speaker 3 (27:20):
Why? Because I just think that's human nature.

Speaker 4 (27:24):
And I think when I was younger, I people like
to say, oh, you always have acted like you don't
give a fuck.

Speaker 3 (27:29):
I feel like when I was younger, I really didn't
give a fuck.

Speaker 4 (27:32):
It has come with growth and maturity and going to therapy,
tapping into my emotions and stuff more. I think it's
just human nature. You're going to care sometimes what people say.
It's about how you respond. Though some people don't respond,
and I want to get to that level. I don't
have to, but sometimes depending on what people say, I

(27:54):
will respond to ya as, but I will gather you quickly.
I'm not one of them. Don't ever think I'm too
good to not cut your ass out, because I would
cush you out quickly.

Speaker 1 (28:05):
What's the weirdest shit a fan Une did?

Speaker 4 (28:07):
Though, Oh my god, it's this lady. It's a woman,
big fan of the show. She came to the New
Orleans show. I probably shouldn't even She probably gonna be
excited that I'd even to talk about these. She came
to the New Orleans show. She was in a wheelchair.
I think she's paralyzed or something. A huge fan of

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the show. She has like a crush on me. She
was so excited to see me. She stayed until after
the show. She wouldn't leave, so like literally security has
to walk me through a whole different exit out of
the door because she wouldn't leave. Like they were trying
to get her to leave, she would not leave. And
then we ended up blocking her from Patreon, which you

(28:49):
know is serious, cause why we.

Speaker 3 (28:50):
Gonna block you from paying your money?

Speaker 1 (28:52):
What she be doing on us?

Speaker 3 (28:53):
She would leave, She.

Speaker 4 (28:55):
Would leave all type of crazy, disgusting comments about like
fucking me and like just yes, like all type of
crazy stuff, and so we ignored it for a while,
but then after a while it just got to be
too much, so we ended up blocking her from Patreon.
We blocked her from our Instagram pages, literally everything.

Speaker 3 (29:15):
Now she be emailing me. I had to block up from.

Speaker 4 (29:19):
The email because I guess because it's in our bido
and stuff.

Speaker 3 (29:24):
But she just don't she just don't stop. It's a
little scary.

Speaker 1 (29:31):
Stud.

Speaker 3 (29:31):
She a stud daddy. Yes, she is all one too.
She an all boyedel gul.

Speaker 1 (29:41):
Coming.

Speaker 3 (29:44):
You have to steal too, child.

Speaker 4 (29:49):
But yes, that's probably the strangest encounter that I've had
this far, I've had a lot of really great encounters
because now I feel like I'm at a point where
no matter where I go, I always run into somebody
that listening to Poor Minds. Like I could be out
to eat and I always run into somebody. But one
of the best encounters that we had we had a
Detroit show, our last tour in twenty twenty three, and

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it was this guy that was there and he did
a testimony. He said how he had been watching our
show for a really long time. He had found out
he had prostate cancer and while he was going through chemo,
he would watch Poor Minds every week while he was
doing his chemo, and we really helped get him through
that roof patch in his life.

Speaker 3 (30:31):
And it was like really touching to me, she said.

Speaker 4 (30:34):
She said, y'all, twins, we got that telepathy for real.

Speaker 1 (30:39):
We really do it.

Speaker 3 (30:41):
We real best friends for real.

Speaker 4 (30:43):
But yeah, like because I feel like it was just
such a touching moment. I think for both of us,
it was a pivotal point that showed U's like, not
only are we making people laugh, but we really out
here changing life, like helping people get through roough shit
and that's what life is about. Because some people don't
have somebody in real life that they can lean on.
So that's why they like to watch these shows. That's

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why it makes them feel like they know us personally,
because we make them feel like we're there for them
in real life.

Speaker 1 (31:11):
So you don't got no kids neither, right? No?

Speaker 3 (31:13):
Not yet?

Speaker 1 (31:14):
Why not? You know?

Speaker 3 (31:17):
Having a baby ain't just like a button you can push.

Speaker 1 (31:20):
He's on my Why not.

Speaker 3 (31:25):
For me? I feel like it needs to be.

Speaker 1 (31:31):
For me.

Speaker 3 (31:32):
I feel like it needs to be with the right
person at the right time.

Speaker 4 (31:36):
Like I'm not gonna see, hear and act like I
haven't had opportunities to in the past, but I wanted
to be.

Speaker 3 (31:43):
With the right person.

Speaker 4 (31:44):
And I feel like I've worked too hard in my
life and came too far to just become a baby
mama at this day, Like you could get up more
of a pass for that.

Speaker 3 (31:52):
I think when you're younger.

Speaker 4 (31:53):
I'm thirty four, Like what I look like just becoming
a baby mama just because I wouldn't want to if
I have a choice.

Speaker 1 (32:01):
In So, how do you like when it all when
the camera's off? You know what I'm saying? You chilling?
What a day like that look like for you.

Speaker 4 (32:09):
When the camera's off, I love to work out, so
I'm all, I'm gonna be at the gym for sure.

Speaker 1 (32:15):
You been going hard too.

Speaker 3 (32:16):
I've been going hard.

Speaker 4 (32:17):
You saying I did seventy five hard. Actually I did
it earlier this year. Okay, but yeah, I'm gonna be
at the gym. I actually just got in today trading.
So when I wake up every morning, first thing I
do is I check my Yahoo Finance app. I'm looking
at the stock market. I'm nine times out of teen
gonna go somewhere to eat, or I might cook me

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a little something, might do a little shopping.

Speaker 3 (32:41):
I love to read as well.

Speaker 4 (32:44):
But I really just be chilling, like I'm so normal
off camera, I be chilling, Yeah, on a day to
day basis, no makeup, sweatpants, workout clothes.

Speaker 1 (32:55):
What's some shit like misconception that people got to you,
that that you fucked up, like they got me fucked
up and they think that.

Speaker 4 (33:04):
You know what, people always think that I'm bougie and
like stuck up in real life, like they always assume
I'm gonna be stuck up.

Speaker 3 (33:14):
People think I'm really bougie. They think I'm like super
materialistic to the point like that that's all that I
care about. I think people think I'm gonna be mean
when they meet me, and then they're always really shocked
at how down to earth and cool I am. So yeah,
I feel like those are misconceptions that people have also
just because of how I look. I think people think
I'm not that smart.

Speaker 1 (33:36):
What you mean, like you don't have brains?

Speaker 3 (33:39):
Yeah, in the early stages of poor minds.

Speaker 4 (33:42):
Even still to this day, those are comments that we
get all the time.

Speaker 3 (33:46):
Like, I think people think that we not that smart.

Speaker 4 (33:48):
But then I'm always like, I counter that with you
don't build something like these not being that.

Speaker 1 (33:53):
Smart facts facts a Dumby would quit long time ago. Yeah,
they wouldn't even they wouldn't even try.

Speaker 3 (34:01):
They wouldn't even try.

Speaker 4 (34:02):
But yeah, And I think people mistake my confidence for
cocky news or errigans. But I feel like I'm just
very confident. I'm not cocky.

Speaker 1 (34:13):
It's a thin line between that though, because people that
like you said, and people that are projecting they don't
know the difference. But you know, I mean, what do
you think, I think you're cool as fuck? Y'all be
lit too, you see, I feel I'll just tell you
remember what was in LA I said, look at it,

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but turn the whole ship up on y'all. Nobody else. Everybody,
y'all have your own part of.

Speaker 3 (34:38):
Having a time. We're a good time.

Speaker 4 (34:40):
But I think people expect that from Licks based off
of our personalities on the show. I feel like they
don't expect that as much from me.

Speaker 1 (34:47):
Do you think she triggered that for you though? Do
you think she kind of me kind of bring bring
certain ship out of you that you would be chilling,
but don't let my girl that's turn up.

Speaker 3 (34:56):
No, I'm just like that. But that's what she always like.

Speaker 4 (35:00):
When we first started the podcast, so many people was like,
why are you starting a podcast with Drea?

Speaker 3 (35:04):
She be chilling, Like does she even have a personality?
Does she even be talking?

Speaker 4 (35:08):
And she was like, y'all don't know Drea the way
I know her, Like she cool, its fuck and she
be turning up, she'd be having a good time. So
Lex always knew me on a different level, I think
because we started working in the club together and so
she's seen me in like an unorthodox city, so she
already knew how.

Speaker 3 (35:24):
It was gonna be. So yeah, I don't think she
I think she makes.

Speaker 4 (35:28):
Me more comfortable, but I be turning up when I'm
not with her. I'm a little more extroverted than her.

Speaker 1 (35:33):
Crazy enough, Oh yeah, you said you. So you say
you're a little bit more like.

Speaker 3 (35:39):
I'll be outside and stuff more.

Speaker 1 (35:40):
Yeah, because I don't never see les out now that's
crazy you right?

Speaker 3 (35:47):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (35:49):
So what's what's red flags for you? Just not even
in relationship, just in people.

Speaker 4 (35:55):
Mmm, when people say stuff in a joking way, because
a lot of the time.

Speaker 3 (36:01):
It don't be a joke. Yeah, like you dead ass serious.

Speaker 4 (36:05):
Like if people always saying something specific all the time,
but then they try to act like they joking, Like, nah,
you're not joking. You you really feel that way. So
I feel like you gotta watch out for that. People
who talk about their friends to you, that's a real
fleg because if you're talking about them, you will talk
about me. Fact, So I don't ever trust that. People

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who don't take accountability, they always the big flim.

Speaker 1 (36:31):
That's number one.

Speaker 3 (36:32):
That's that's number one for you.

Speaker 4 (36:34):
Yeah, yeah, playing big flim Because sometimes life be dealing
people shitty cards. I can acknowledge that, or sometimes people
are doing you wrong. But then you also have to
look in the mirror and be like, Okay, what did
I do to play a role in me? Why is
this situation turning out this way? And I think a
lot of people just lack accountability.

Speaker 1 (36:54):
Yeah, because I ain't never met a mother fucking at
everybody like you.

Speaker 3 (36:58):
Just come on now, if everybody's saying, it's some truth.

Speaker 1 (37:01):
To everybody, didn't done you wrong? Everybody? Nah? Man? But
most of the time, but that most of the time.
I hate to say this because it's a room for
the women, but most of the time, be the women.

Speaker 4 (37:13):
Not see here you go with that ship having We've
been having a good bank, we've been having a good time.

Speaker 1 (37:21):
Being one hundred bro.

Speaker 4 (37:23):
What do you mean men are like that too?

Speaker 1 (37:28):
Oh yeah, I know a lot of them. I know personally,
both saying most of the time, it's the women, like
you never heard of woman's it's rare. I ain't gonna
say never that you have a woman saying I just
won ship in the relationship. It's always the nigga one ship.

Speaker 3 (37:46):
But that's because niggas don't be shore hold on.

Speaker 1 (37:48):
Hold on, I get it, I get it, I get it,
I get it. But then when you talking to your friend,
you'll tell her your real friend, like, come on, bitch,
you one ship, so why come on now, stop playing victam.
You'll tell your real friend. If you're a real friend,
you'll be like, come on, girl, stop ating hurt.

Speaker 3 (38:06):
Yeah I will. But the thing that men be feeling
to realize is a lot of the time.

Speaker 4 (38:12):
Women maneuver because of how y'all are maneuvering, Like you're
the man, You're the leader, So yeah, are you not?

Speaker 3 (38:20):
You the man? You're the leader.

Speaker 1 (38:22):
I'm the leader when it comes to the bullshit, but
I can't lead you to some other shit. That's how
she means you're leading.

Speaker 4 (38:29):
You're determining how this whole shit about to go. You
get what I'm saying, Like it's based off of you
because you tried to court me nine times out of ten.

Speaker 3 (38:40):
That's the way that it go.

Speaker 6 (38:41):
Right.

Speaker 4 (38:42):
You see a girl, she look cute, You like, okay,
I want to see what's up with her? You make
the first move, now y'all talking okay, depending on how
you're maneuvering, how you're taking her on days, how you're
treating her, how the relationship and the communication is going
a lot of the time. That's the determining factor on
how she gonna She's trying to see how you moving okay,

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So then if you start being on bullshit, she gonna
start being on bullshit. But men and a lot of
the time have the expectation that y'all could be on
bullshit and a woman is still supposed to be a
good woman to you, and that's not the case. Can
you start being on bullshit? Why do I still gotta
live up to this time?

Speaker 1 (39:20):
You don't? When we gotta understand it, just don't come
in acting like that. Just let it know. Hey, I
match your energy. Niggas can respect.

Speaker 4 (39:26):
Why do I gotta let you know that when you
ain't let me know you was coming in on bullshit.

Speaker 1 (39:30):
But you knew I was a bullshit that nigga when.

Speaker 4 (39:31):
You farily that's not true. Sometimes niggas be completely fooling you.
We not gonna act like me, And don't be out
here living double lives.

Speaker 3 (39:40):
What you mean some men be living double lives.

Speaker 4 (39:42):
A dude could try to come holler at you and
then you thinking that y'all really getting to know each other.
Come to find out he got a whole girlfriend, He
got a whole family. He got some whole other shit
going on that he not being real with you about
men do that type of stuff. You ain't letting me
know that shit off the rib.

Speaker 1 (40:00):
Yeah, I don't know what I'm doing. I'm in between bitches.
I'm in between bitches. I don't know what I'm doing
right now, I know what I'm doing. Yeah, that's fine.
But then when a nigga accept that and match their energy. See,
I'm glad you said that right.

Speaker 3 (40:13):
Now, we're having a real.

Speaker 1 (40:16):
Yeah, I'm glad you said that right because just say
Vincent right once, you let me once you match my energy.
Since I'm the leader and I categorize you, am I wrong?

Speaker 4 (40:32):
I don't think you're wrong because I categorize niggas personally.

Speaker 1 (40:37):
So that's but most women feel like a nigga wrong
when they do that. Right, I don't.

Speaker 3 (40:41):
Think like I don't.

Speaker 4 (40:42):
I see people for who they are, so like every
nigga ain't meant to be your husband.

Speaker 1 (40:48):
Facts.

Speaker 4 (40:50):
So at the end of the day, if you show
me who you are just as much as you could
categorize me for how you feel like, I'm moving now
where you already have in my mind, you a good
time niggas.

Speaker 1 (41:00):
I respect that now, that that real right now.

Speaker 4 (41:03):
Like I like him, it don't take away from the
fact because first of all, you're a Gemini, so I
already know how y'all be what.

Speaker 3 (41:09):
Y'all a great time a lot of the time.

Speaker 4 (41:12):
But until y'all really fall in love or fall of
that one girl, y'all just a good time. Y'all look
good because y'all be all because y'all be all over
the place.

Speaker 1 (41:23):
But I love you, niggas looking Gemini has a lot
of love.

Speaker 4 (41:27):
I agree everybody. So I love to give so much
that you want to give it to everybody.

Speaker 3 (41:38):
I get it.

Speaker 1 (41:40):
God sent me. I can't fight him, you know what.

Speaker 4 (41:46):
But I'm just saying I feel like women would do
better if they categorize me in the same way that
men categorize women. Like because just because you're having a
good time with him, and just because he fun and
y'all vibe and y'all got good chemistry, that don't mean
it's supposed to be your husband. That don't mean it's
supposed to be your baby daddy. That might just be
the dude that you're supposed to go out to eat weed,

(42:06):
maybe go on a little trip with especially if you're young,
have a good time, and then move on because he's
already shown you that it's chaoti over there. Why do
you want to say he only don't go back because
he's just gonna show you it could get worse.

Speaker 1 (42:20):
I agree, now you cracking the cold. You're cracking the cold.
But let me let me ask you something. Not you,
but have you seen women the typical Yeah, you know
what I'm saying, because you're different.

Speaker 3 (42:34):
Thank you.

Speaker 1 (42:34):
Let's put that right there. You're different. You get it.
I can't go back and forth you because you get it.
You know what I'm saying. Categorizy nigga the same way.
But what I'm saying most women don't want to be
categorized because they knowing that that drops you down your
respect level. How So, though you know what I'm saying,
it don't it don't. I'm saying that's how they feel
like I gotta play this good woman because I feel

(42:56):
like every man want a good woman. Some niggas like
women that know ship, bro, we just we just having
a good time.

Speaker 4 (43:02):
I feel like you could be that type of woman,
and that don't mean you gotta fuck everybody that's where
we just be losing the plot though true because some
girls think that that means, oh well, let me just
go fuck with every nigga to show this nigga that
like he don't matter. You don't gotta fuck these niggas.
Just let him know, like, okay, I peep what's going on?
Like you feel like you're not really sure about me.

(43:24):
I'm not sure about you neither. I'm weighing my options.
So if he asked me to go on to day,
I'm gonna go.

Speaker 3 (43:29):
That don't mean but drop you.

Speaker 1 (43:34):
Once you go on a date with another man, you
entertain another man, I can't look at you as a
top prospect.

Speaker 3 (43:42):
If we never had a conversation about exclusivity.

Speaker 1 (43:44):
No, it don't matter.

Speaker 4 (43:46):
I'm just speaking No, that's fair, that's fair because I
have other men have said that to me.

Speaker 1 (43:51):
It don't matter. It's just like, okay, just how men
think with some I ain't gonna speak for all men.
This is how some men think. Yeah, get it right,
this is how most men think. Right, you're not for
me until you show me you're for me, no matter
what you say out your mouth. So you showing me
you for me is like basically a nigga respect of

(44:14):
one more is she be like, yeah, damn, this shit
allowed us here. Niggas be like, you know what, I
can't deal with you because this is not what I want.
You know what I'm saying, I can't deal with you
because I can see you can't get give me what
I want. Niggas will respect you and then start lying
to you to make you feel because he feels like
you're for me because you ready to leave me alone

(44:35):
for me being some bullshit. But a woman that feel like, okay,
you some bullshit on some bullshit. Okay, I'm gonna keep
you too, but I know what you is. If that
makes sense what I'm saying, So that takes away to
trust because even though you might not be having sex
with these dudes, if a dude got your mind, he
got everything if he can get you on the line,
I'm just keeping it one thing.

Speaker 4 (44:56):
Oh no, No, I'm not making that face because you're wrong.
I make that face because I had that conversation with
somebody y'all was dating reasons.

Speaker 1 (45:03):
Okay, thank you, Yeah.

Speaker 3 (45:07):
No, I'm agreeing with you.

Speaker 4 (45:09):
Like men, men feel like they don't want nobody to
have no type of access, seeing nothing but where I
counter that and not in my situation because that was
my men like we were in a relationship. But where I
counter that in situations where you're not in a relationship
with somebody and y'all not exclusive, How you expect her
to be moving like she exclusive when y'all haven't had

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a conversation about that, if that's what you want to.

Speaker 1 (45:36):
Niggas feel like, if you're a woman, that's gonna be
my woman for real? You don't you're exclusive anyway. I'm
just I'm just telling you how niggas think me you
ain't how you gonna say he ain't.

Speaker 3 (45:56):
Most men are?

Speaker 4 (45:57):
Men are not being exclusive if you all haven't had
a conversation about exclusivity, because a lot of the time
they not being exclusive when you have.

Speaker 1 (46:04):
But you gotta know what exclusive meaning to me? In
though exclusive meaning to men some men is that you
the one I'm gonna do all of that extra ship
with you, the one on my gram. I agree, you
the one that can record me ship. So you should

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feel I'm just telling you how about I know.

Speaker 3 (46:31):
I get it. I agree that is time men think.

Speaker 4 (46:33):
But see for me and I think for most women
when we think of exclusivity. You're like, we're in a
monogamous relationship, being in a monogamous relationship.

Speaker 1 (46:44):
From Houston, name one from your dad, your cousin. Yeah,
how long? Think how long this ship gonna take?

Speaker 3 (46:57):
I mean, that's the point. That's where I I fear you, Aids.
I fear you.

Speaker 1 (47:04):
Because but I to agree.

Speaker 4 (47:11):
That's what kind of scares me about marriage and stuff.
Sometimes it's because I don't know if I necessarily believe
that a man can be one hundred percent faithful.

Speaker 1 (47:23):
There's some, but you WoT them. Yeah, there's some, But
do you want that character.

Speaker 3 (47:29):
The whole relationship? Like never? Because because that's another thing too.

Speaker 4 (47:32):
I feel like you have relationships where men might have
started off being on bullshie, but then they had an
epiphany or something happening and they realized, Okay, these women
really down for me.

Speaker 3 (47:42):
She's solid, I'm gonna do right by her.

Speaker 4 (47:44):
And then they change and he changes the trajectory of
the relationship.

Speaker 1 (47:48):
But but they're just changing the respect you. Yeah, nigga
still gonna do what he's gonna do.

Speaker 3 (47:53):
You feel like regardless, So but you just say you
know me and that are like.

Speaker 1 (47:57):
But them women don't be liking them.

Speaker 3 (48:02):
It's a cold world, corny niggas.

Speaker 1 (48:06):
There's a cooling in man, that's fair. It's most of
the time when a woman feels like she figured you out,
the game over.

Speaker 4 (48:13):
If you want the lead nigga, he probably not gonna
be how sally.

Speaker 1 (48:18):
One, let me sit my drink. Dang this shit fucked up.

Speaker 3 (48:24):
Man, it is.

Speaker 4 (48:25):
But that's why Mary scare me a little bit, because
I want to be in the like I want that
like I'm one of those girls. I really want to
believe in that fairy hill ending, Like I really want
to believe that it's a man out there that I
can meet and we're gonna be south madly in love,
that it's just gonna be me and him, and we're

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gonna build these empire, these legacy together there and he's
just gonna be me and him, and he's not gonna
be worried about these other girls outside.

Speaker 1 (48:53):
But let me say, let me say this.

Speaker 3 (48:55):
But that's a little delusion to me.

Speaker 1 (48:57):
He could be madly in love with you. But that
don't taking it away from you from whatever this guy does.
That don't got nothing to do with you.

Speaker 4 (49:05):
I agree, I know it has nothing to do with me.
But I'm just like, but why are men that way?
Why is it so hard for y'all to just be
with one girl? If you love her so much, like
your desire, your insatiable desire for other women is stronger
than you wanting to lose this woman that you care
so much about. Like you okay, with the fact that

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you just want to experience something new for the night
or for the time being, that's enough to make you
lose the love of your lifetime.

Speaker 1 (49:35):
If if that something like that can make her leave me,
then she's not the love of my life.

Speaker 3 (49:40):
Mm hmm.

Speaker 1 (49:44):
Corellingly Martin.

Speaker 4 (49:48):
Beyond would we don't know what she would have did
if he would have still been here.

Speaker 1 (49:53):
Eventually we see what jay Z Andbonce doing.

Speaker 3 (49:56):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (49:57):
True, but my girl definitely talked about it. She let
the world who cares?

Speaker 1 (50:03):
Not you talking? You ain't going no, motherfucker.

Speaker 4 (50:05):
Well, I just I think that this is the thing
for me. And I've said this before one time. I
don't necessarily know if I would just leave my men
if I'm married over something like that. But if it's
a habit, you a habitual cheater, like oh you do
this ship all the time?

Speaker 1 (50:25):
Fuck? No, absolutely not habitual cheating, habitually getting caught because
he's gonna do it. You're saying, like, is he messy
once you get caught. That's the only time your cheat
is when you get caught.

Speaker 4 (50:38):
That's what I don't know if I want to believe that,
bank Like, I just be like, damn, it ain't.

Speaker 3 (50:42):
No unreleased niggas that don't be cheating.

Speaker 1 (50:55):
You God, I got drop of. But it's some women
that ain't letting them niggas go.

Speaker 4 (51:06):
You mean to tell me you don't think it's not
one nigga out there they just don't cheat.

Speaker 1 (51:12):
Let me tell you something. It is. It's some niggas,
but the women turn them cold. This one I'm saying, Now,
you got these niggas. I know some guys like I
don't want to call my boy name. He the truth.
He ain't never cheat on this girl or nothing. This
nigga the truth. He's a real good dude. You know
what I'm saying. They broke up. She said, I said,

(51:34):
why y'all broke up?

Speaker 6 (51:35):
Bro?

Speaker 1 (51:35):
He said, because she said, I'm not a fixtion enough.
But he's never cheated on her. He's never nothing. He
loves her. He loves her to death, but she like
he lack emotions or whatever. It's always something. Now she
don't turn them cold. So it's like, you know what,
fuck the bitches, bro. You gotta think every nigga that
feels like fuck the bitching had his heart broke by
a woman first. When the nigga first jump out, the

(51:59):
womd his first girlfriend, he wasn't cheating on. Yeah, I
saw the bitch kissing in the bathroom in junior school,
in junior high. Now you know what this shit gonna
follow me for other man. Damn you bitch. It's the women.
It's the women.

Speaker 3 (52:21):
It's just an innate thing in men, though.

Speaker 4 (52:23):
Nah, I feel like men just have that urge like
y'all just always down for the chase. Y'all always want
something new and exciting. Like like you said, you could
really love the fuck out of your woman. You could
be like, this is my woman. I love her so much.
I know she the best thing that ever happened to me.
She holds the house down, she holds the kids down.

(52:44):
I know she's not gonna be out here moving reckless.
I know she ain't cheating on me, whatever the case
may be. But then you are to the club and
you see this young fine girl, you just gonna want
to know what's up with.

Speaker 1 (52:55):
That, But you never know if she's cheating them. You
don't because thank you, bro, one thing about a woman.
When you find out she cheated, she don't want you
no more women. You'll never know she cheating. So in
the back of a nigga mine, once a nigga doesn't
been cheating with somebody else's girl, he ain't gonna never
trust women because once you show me how sneaking y'all

(53:18):
can be, it's like, oh, man out for that. It's
a fucked up words. It's twenty twenty five Instagram, like
you got everybody's phone number. Just think about it now
you just dm wo yo O sener Goddamn nigga said,
Nigga center center t send what it the toast? What

(53:38):
that means, bitch all I get to see it, what
it means, she don't want to do it? Whatever you
get what I'm saying. It's like life. Just I don't
I think like you said, man, if you can't get
somebody to build an empire with, is know thing vought?
Because because trying to put the monogamy shit on it
first build something that I don't want to risk. I

(53:59):
don't get it. Damn about your pussing, you saying you
love me, that's saying, now we build some shit that
I ain't trying to tat this down. I mean it
BEI got fifty fift on one hundred million, two hundred
million dollars. I'm finna. I'm gonna do enough to keep this.
But if all I'm losing this what you're saying you
love me, and I'm not really losing.

Speaker 3 (54:24):
Shit, Yeah for sure.

Speaker 4 (54:26):
I mean that's how we preach that a lot on
the show now, you know, like because I feel like
when I was younger, I used to always be like, oh,
you need to get you get you a man with money,
like you need to day up. But now I don't
really say that on the show anymore. Lex don't say
that either, cause I feel like I hate I hate
to be the one that says this, cause I know

(54:48):
the girls is gonna be mad.

Speaker 3 (54:49):
But like sometimes it is like, but what do you do?
What do you guys?

Speaker 1 (54:55):
It's like, what am I losing? Headache?

Speaker 3 (54:57):
It's not enough, Like Kuchi itself ain't enough.

Speaker 1 (55:00):
That ship. You can get that ship before you get
for sure, you get that ship.

Speaker 3 (55:06):
I say that all the time. It's going for nothing
these days.

Speaker 1 (55:09):
But you know a lot of women thinking that that
ship is magical. Most women think that they coochie is magical.

Speaker 3 (55:18):
They do. I feel like every woman feels that way.

Speaker 4 (55:22):
Yeah, that's where I'd be like, if everybody cootch you good,
who is the ones that got the trash?

Speaker 1 (55:26):
Cuchi? And then when.

Speaker 4 (55:31):
When dudes be saying that, he'd be like, if everybody
puts you good, who is the ones that got the trash?

Speaker 1 (55:37):
I think it's all the same. It's just how you
feel about that person better. Like if I if I
love you, it's gonna be better. M But if we
just fucking it's just a fun, it's the same. The
emotions make it feel better, That makes sense.

Speaker 4 (55:56):
I just yeah, I think you have to be able
to offer more than it though. That's so we don't
live in them times anymore. People love to talk about
back in the day, men with one hundred percent providers.
I do agree with that, but also back in the day,
let's chat about it. Our grandmothers and our aunties and

(56:16):
our even some of our parents. They was okay with
turning the blind eyes to the fact that our dads
and our grandfathers had other families on the other side
of town, they had other shit going on because them niggas.

Speaker 3 (56:26):
Were solely providing.

Speaker 4 (56:28):
Now we live in a day and age where like
women are getting our own money too, So you have
to realize, like, if you want that man, it's just
gonna be a provider and you don't want to have
to do anything.

Speaker 3 (56:40):
It's a lot of bullshit that come with it.

Speaker 1 (56:41):
A lot of bullshit come with that shit.

Speaker 3 (56:43):
That's why I prefer to like me and my men
can be with something together.

Speaker 1 (56:48):
At this point, I agree with that because.

Speaker 3 (56:50):
It unfortunately from what you don't say, he's still gonna cheat.
So what do it really matter?

Speaker 1 (56:57):
I ain't saying it depends on what kind of nigga like,
cause y'all don't be liking them kind of niggas.

Speaker 3 (57:02):
What kind of niggas? No, I like bussies. I ain't
gonna lie, you're like, what bussis?

Speaker 1 (57:08):
That's what I'm saying. And them niggas, you know, it's
a thousand and one to them niggas it is.

Speaker 4 (57:14):
But what about mean you the one I'm a boss tool,
but me and don't y'all don't care about that. I
was talking to my friend about that earlier me And
don't care how many degrees you got. They don't care
how much money you made. They don't care about Alio accomplishments.
They don't care about.

Speaker 3 (57:27):
Any of this shites.

Speaker 1 (57:27):
No that shit. Because a nigga feel a nigga.

Speaker 3 (57:29):
Who they just want somebody who does.

Speaker 4 (57:31):
Nah.

Speaker 3 (57:32):
Yeah, you're about to.

Speaker 1 (57:32):
Say, nah, nigga, just feel like at the end of
the day, no matter what you got, baby, I can
the nigga that I am. I can go make a
bitch have the same thing right now. I sent her
to school, make it pretty. I can do whatever I want.
You can build. A bitch can't build, no nigga. If
you do, you ain't gonna want. You can build. You
can take a bitch from nothing and turn tomorrow standing

(57:54):
beside you. She different. She matches my cadence. Now, she's different.
Everything you have maybey put her right, like come up, baby, hey,
wash up. And you know what I'm saying. Babies bitch,
and you know, take them to the shop and bring
out like a brand new car.

Speaker 3 (58:10):
Yeah easy.

Speaker 1 (58:14):
So that's what the value. And it's fucked up for
the women that are valuable. The value of women just
has dropped because it's like, bro, you can create one.
All I need a bitch to do is listen. You
gonna listen. I got you.

Speaker 3 (58:31):
But do you also feel like it's just because of
the fact that.

Speaker 4 (58:36):
Everybody used tow materially stick these days too, I kind
of feel like that's where the value of women have dropped,
because women will do anything just to be seen next
to somebody who is somebody. They don't even have to
be getting nothing from me. But it's just about the look,
like the fact that I can even say I used

(58:56):
to talk to these sneaker, I used to fuck with
these nager so they be going for anything just to
be in proximity. And another thing because of materialism is
because of like aesthetics and how shit looks.

Speaker 3 (59:08):
Everybody cares about this.

Speaker 1 (59:09):
That's a great social media. That's a great point in
knowing and by niggas knowing that, Like you just sat
there and said, most of the time women be saying
I ain't fucking who, ain't got them no motion, he
ain't got going, he got no money, We ain't talking
with them, right, So every nigga that I've been that nigga
that didn't have no motion. So once I got motion, bitch,
I'm gonna fuck with you like a nigga that got motion,
because you wouldn't fuck with me if I didn't have none.

(59:32):
I'm wrong. Basically, you only fuck with me because I'm
this nigga. But I've have been this nigga before I
knew how that felt when I wanted you.

Speaker 4 (59:42):
I feel like men's money is women's looks. It's the
same thing. Like you wouldn't fuck with me if I
didn't look the way.

Speaker 1 (59:49):
But all these women look good now not everybody, damn
in Atlanta. Eighty percent of the bitch you look good.
That's fair though you can't even like you remember back
in the day, you.

Speaker 3 (59:59):
Can't everybody look alike. Everybody got the same Aestiti, it's
no individual.

Speaker 1 (01:00:06):
He'll finally got that. You ain't heard a nigga say
God damn and for so long, cause.

Speaker 3 (01:00:12):
It's a goddamn around every corner.

Speaker 1 (01:00:16):
Nigga ain't saying that ship't either, Like.

Speaker 3 (01:00:22):
It's so funny.

Speaker 4 (01:00:23):
It's so funny that you said that ship because even
like looking back to when I moved to Atlanta, like
I said, I've been here for a minute now, so
like twenty sixteen, and when I moved here, I had
my boobs done already. But like when I was working
in the club, it was like just me and maybe
like one other girl that had like her boobs and

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her had work done and whatever.

Speaker 3 (01:00:45):
Back then.

Speaker 4 (01:00:46):
Now everybody got fake boobs, everybody got the butt shots,
everybody got to bbl like, everybody got the same hair.

Speaker 1 (01:00:56):
They sh look good.

Speaker 3 (01:00:58):
Because at one point when it was first starting off a.

Speaker 1 (01:01:02):
Little question, it's like, what do you do? Bro?

Speaker 3 (01:01:06):
You right? Everybody do this? Fear?

Speaker 4 (01:01:08):
Eighty percent of women in Atlanta, Houston, New York, Miami,
all of the big CDs.

Speaker 3 (01:01:14):
Everybody look good.

Speaker 1 (01:01:15):
That's what I'm saying. It's like, man, what to do?
What do you do?

Speaker 4 (01:01:20):
But that's where you have to But that's where personality
and mindset and character and morals played should come into play.
And I feel like you don't for men because they
just be looking at it like, oh well, all y'all
look alike. Y'all interchangeable. But the heart in the mind
and the soul ain't interchanged.

Speaker 1 (01:01:36):
But how we gonna get past that when I'm already
categorizing you?

Speaker 3 (01:01:39):
But how you look by getting to know her and
not putting her in their box.

Speaker 1 (01:01:42):
I ain't got time getting to know you, babycause you
ain't even fuck me if I was fucked up. That's
in my mind. So I'm here for a good time only, baby,
I only got time for all that because you look
like a heartbreaker.

Speaker 3 (01:01:53):
But you, but you wouldn't fuck with her if she
didn't look how she looked. That's what I'm saying. I mean, no,
how is it different?

Speaker 4 (01:02:01):
Yes, you would not as an Okay, we're not talking
about a man on the come up. Were talking about
one who already nigga will I don't say a long time.

Speaker 1 (01:02:09):
Nigga whil man, the niggas, the niggas long nigga birth
and bitches. I can see up under that that dust
the ship, bitch, you can eat something niggas like that,
like I can see what you can be. How many
niggas don't built bitches though, augh, no real ship. Just
think about how many niggas now took bitches and got
got got them all the ship that they need and

(01:02:30):
nick she don't fuck with them no more like at
one point in time in all of the day, the bitch,
bitch firs day like I'm trying. I'm trying to get
I'm trying to get his done. I'm trying to nigga
do it. This ain't even now. It's another nigga. Baby Mama,
now you you built up for another niggah. So niggas
knowing and that ship don't call ship nigga like ship.
I just got the bit well she won't got now, h.

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Mammy makeo. I got the bitch of mommy Mako. She
looked good and now she's working out there. This bitches,
she look good. It's easy a nigga will pull a
bitch out to wind this drive through like hey, quit this.

Speaker 4 (01:03:07):
I feel like that was back in the day before
everybody started looking good. Now, I feel like niggas want
you to come as you are. They want you to
come build.

Speaker 1 (01:03:16):
Some niggas do some niggas. Some niggas don't care because
them niggas already it's a project. Just like you go
to the go to the junkyard and by old school
up in there. Take this ship off the frame and
rebuild it.

Speaker 3 (01:03:26):
M h.

Speaker 7 (01:03:29):
I want me to put a nice past. I can
see what this's gonna be. There's still a sixty nine cheven.

Speaker 3 (01:03:34):
She just needs a little buffy, that's it.

Speaker 1 (01:03:36):
She just needed get put a hell cat molde in
this bitch man for real. But a woman ain't doing that.
You gotta come already ready. You have to have manners.
You gotta be faithful, gotta be a provider, gotta be a.

Speaker 3 (01:03:57):
Warrior like you got gotta be a warrior.

Speaker 1 (01:04:01):
You gotta be you gotta be. I'm trying. A nigga
got to be everything. Jesus, Well, you better come as Jesus.
If not, he just don't do it for men. Like
my friend conversation, you just don't do good God.

Speaker 4 (01:04:23):
I mean, he cool, but like I don't know, girl,
it's something about him.

Speaker 3 (01:04:27):
I just can't get with you for nothing.

Speaker 1 (01:04:30):
This nigga, the nigga you prayed for, Like women gotta
stop praying for ship.

Speaker 3 (01:04:35):
And then don't want it, And.

Speaker 1 (01:04:37):
No, they'll pray for a good man. God will send
you a good man. He'd be like, he's just boring. Though.

Speaker 3 (01:04:45):
Now I will say this.

Speaker 4 (01:04:46):
I was having a conversation with my homeboy the other
day and he was telling me about some one of
his friends or whatever, and I was like, but he
just though corny.

Speaker 3 (01:04:53):
He talk about what what? What is corny?

Speaker 1 (01:04:56):
That's fucked up? Man, this man could be but now
he corny.

Speaker 3 (01:05:02):
I just don't want know corny me and all bad.

Speaker 1 (01:05:05):
But you don't want the nigga who got them? He
the one like so so you want see I think.

Speaker 4 (01:05:12):
That not corny to me, I don't care about societal
standards when it comes to corny.

Speaker 3 (01:05:17):
Me's like, you just can't be corny to me?

Speaker 1 (01:05:18):
What's corny?

Speaker 4 (01:05:21):
I don't want no dude, who be gossiping? That's corny,
that's that's that's feminine. Yeah that I'm saying, like, that's
corny to me? Like why you always gossiping? Why you
always know?

Speaker 3 (01:05:34):
Tea?

Speaker 1 (01:05:34):
I don't like I'm saying, like in the physical form,
what's corny out in the physical form?

Speaker 3 (01:05:42):
Nothing really to be.

Speaker 1 (01:05:44):
I heard women say, man, his shoes, like I just
didn't like the shoes he had on?

Speaker 3 (01:05:48):
Okay, why well yeah what what the show?

Speaker 1 (01:05:51):
Shit fucked up?

Speaker 3 (01:05:52):
But no, I was gonna say, but the shoes.

Speaker 4 (01:05:53):
We can switch it up, like I could buy you
some new shoes, Like we can get you together in
the shoe department.

Speaker 3 (01:05:58):
That's fine for me. And this isn't corny a arthotics.

Speaker 1 (01:06:09):
Well I love be treated, but no.

Speaker 4 (01:06:12):
See this Okay, so this isn't this isn't corny. It's
just a non negotiable for me. I'm a teeth girl.
I'm a mouth girl. Like that's the first thing I'm
gonna look at when I meet you. So like if
your teeth is fucked up, if you got a whole
much of No, but it's not it's to me, it's

(01:06:32):
not about that.

Speaker 3 (01:06:33):
It's deeper than that. If you have like plaque on
your teeth, that means you don't flaws. That means you
never flaws because you ever because you let that ship
build up.

Speaker 4 (01:06:43):
Like, so you don't take care of your mouth. Your
mouth is literally the portal to your whole body. In fact,
it carries so much diseases and so much bacteria, like
so many things because you don't take care of your
mouth could go wrong in other areas for your body.
So that means you don't take care of your if
you don't care about health and wellness, that's just very
important to me.

Speaker 3 (01:07:03):
And then also aesthetically, who wants to look at somebody
and you talking to them and.

Speaker 1 (01:07:07):
It's buttery but the same way. But but this man
got everything else cept teth, sept some teeth, everything else
that you say on your list, tell you where you
buy a nigga shoe. You can show them how to
brush your teeth.

Speaker 3 (01:07:19):
No, I can't showed you. I ain't hanging now your
other girlfriend.

Speaker 4 (01:07:32):
I just feel like I always think it so personally.
I think if a man has money, like as soon
as you start getting some money, even if your teeth
is fucked up, that should be the.

Speaker 3 (01:07:42):
First thing you feel.

Speaker 7 (01:07:43):
But we're just talking about that. We're just talking about that.
Like but them kid will go home with my teeth,
like funk around, not my teeth. All I got money
to do is pay the rent. We finished sleep outside
with new teeth in my.

Speaker 4 (01:07:52):
Mouth, Like your teeth should be the first thing and
like first thing that should be fixed. Like I got
bene years like three years ago, and I never even
had like messed up teeth.

Speaker 3 (01:08:03):
My normal teeth was nice.

Speaker 4 (01:08:05):
I just didn't want to have to keep whiten in
my teeth because it was like my gums are really sensitive.

Speaker 1 (01:08:10):
So I was like my mouth, my shit fucked up?

Speaker 3 (01:08:12):
Yeah you did used to have yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:08:15):
I should have never got them shit pull my g
had to get goddamn Rooke clails on all the ones
at the top. Yeah, six, My shit was fucked up.

Speaker 4 (01:08:23):
See for me, I had braces when I was younger.
But then when I wouldn't wear my retainer, my gap
because I used to have a gap, it used to
try to come back whenever I wouldn't wear the retainer,
and then my gums were sensitive when I would always
get my teeth white, and so I'm like, I want
something a little more permanent. But either way, as soon
as I started getting some money for real, I was like,
you know what, I'm about to go get veneers. I'm
about to invest in my smile, in my teeth. That

(01:08:43):
should be the number one thing you do. So if
you walk around and you got everything that I need.

Speaker 3 (01:08:48):
But you ain't got your teeth fixed.

Speaker 1 (01:08:50):
But you got the money, get my teeth fixed. No,
you got the money, We got the money, Show me
why to get.

Speaker 3 (01:08:55):
My teef You didn't care enough?

Speaker 1 (01:08:57):
Neither do I. It's your teeth show team. We're trying
to be a team.

Speaker 3 (01:09:05):
We bank.

Speaker 4 (01:09:06):
We talk about first encounter. We talking about I meet
you a Linx walking through the mall. You're like, Hey,
what's up? You're trying to talk to me, and I
first thing I see is your mouth while we're talking. No,
we're not dealing in us. Actually we can't even get today, damn,
because nine times out of ten, I'm not even believing
you got what you say you got.

Speaker 1 (01:09:27):
It's another one, though, what's the other one? Come on?
Keep going teeth next.

Speaker 3 (01:09:32):
One for me? Honestly, it's it's just it's teeth. It's hygiene.
Hygiene is important too, So.

Speaker 1 (01:09:39):
The man got good tea, good hygiene.

Speaker 4 (01:09:45):
I don't mind, hey, because I'm short myself, like I'm okay,
but being shorter than me.

Speaker 3 (01:09:51):
Leg you are legal magie. If you're shorten than me,
you're legally imigie.

Speaker 1 (01:09:57):
Niggas just ain't got no.

Speaker 4 (01:09:58):
I don't know if I could, you know, I mean,
we would have a handicap stickle though it's work, y'all.
Might be some parks to it, now that we think
about it, y'all.

Speaker 3 (01:10:14):
Anywhere we go, I mean, I don't know. That don't
sound too shabby.

Speaker 4 (01:10:17):
Actually, but I'm five too, so anybody shorter than me
is you know, pretty short.

Speaker 1 (01:10:23):
I just don't understand. I don't understand me personally. I'm
not trying to be fun. I just don't understand what
satisfies a woman.

Speaker 3 (01:10:35):
Like be more specific.

Speaker 1 (01:10:37):
Okay, if you get a guy that checks off all
those boxes, well not you, We're gonna take it. We're
gonna unpersonalize this. Have you ever met a friend. Have
you ever had a friend and you'd be like, it's
a good dude, but she always got something else to say.

Speaker 3 (01:10:54):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:10:56):
I've had friends who have dated really good guys and
then it's been things like communication and stuff like that basically.
But I don't think that though at the same time,
because I think that if that's something that's important to you,
like if you want to if you know for a
fact that's you're the type of woman where you need
to talk to your man every day, and you talking
to these men and he don't hit you up every day,

(01:11:18):
or he don't check in on you at least once today.
Nobody's saying, y'all got to stay on the phone all day,
but if he don't check in with you at least
once today, and that's what you need to feel secure
in the relationship.

Speaker 3 (01:11:28):
I don't think that's wrong.

Speaker 4 (01:11:30):
Everybody has different non negotiables, Like for me personally, if
I know my man is busy. We don't have to
necessarily talk, but like, you can't think you my nigga,
You ain't gonna text me all day. You better check
in and be like, hey, what's up?

Speaker 1 (01:11:44):
So what a compromise is coming in? Like what part? What?
Let me ask you some what are women willing to be? Like? Well,
you know what, I know, he ain't perfectly not good,
So I'm gonna deal with this.

Speaker 4 (01:11:56):
I think a lot of women have a hard time
drawing the line between compromising and sediling, because when do
it get more to sediling more than compromising.

Speaker 1 (01:12:11):
About your pot you cooking. I ain't gonna lie you
cooking cooks.

Speaker 3 (01:12:14):
A little bit. I guess that's why I do.

Speaker 1 (01:12:17):
This, because you shifting me basically the question I'm asking you,
shifting them back in a perfect way. What I'm saying
is let me break this, slow this ship down, and
break it down. What I'm saying is, have you ever
met a woman that just couldn't be satisfied?

Speaker 3 (01:12:38):
Yeah? Yeah, I think they still single.

Speaker 1 (01:12:42):
I'm saying that was in a relationship though, like and
you was like, I don't know, girl, like that nigga
was a good nigga.

Speaker 3 (01:12:49):
Well, yeah, you was in a relationship and now you single.

Speaker 4 (01:12:51):
Like I feel like we all have a grandmother somebody
in our family.

Speaker 3 (01:12:55):
We all have somebody like that who would never be satisfied.

Speaker 4 (01:12:58):
Matter where you think that come from, always thinking something
better out there.

Speaker 1 (01:13:06):
Damn.

Speaker 3 (01:13:07):
I think it's been that way for a long time.
Like people have.

Speaker 4 (01:13:09):
You've always had people who thought like I can always
do better. It's always something better until reality set in
and you seventy.

Speaker 1 (01:13:17):
But I know some seventy years old, we were just
talking about that. Today. My mama Jed divorced the Hud.
I'm like, you devoy the man for he's just like,
fuck that.

Speaker 3 (01:13:26):
But how many times have do you mind me asking
how many times have she been married?

Speaker 1 (01:13:30):
What one?

Speaker 5 (01:13:32):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (01:13:32):
Just to him and she just so they were married
for a really she married a.

Speaker 1 (01:13:36):
Nigga about five six years ago. Say I got married, okay, mom,
straight bulls. She's like, man, fuck that nigga. Man, Because
I feel.

Speaker 4 (01:13:47):
Like you do have the women out there who you
know they've been married like five six times. They just
feel like I love him and when he served his
purpose and he's done, it's done.

Speaker 3 (01:13:57):
I'm leaving and I'm gonna move on to the next person.

Speaker 4 (01:14:00):
I think that's a level of unsatisfaction too, though, because
I think when you meet the right person, you do
have to compromise.

Speaker 3 (01:14:06):
You gotta try to make it worse.

Speaker 1 (01:14:08):
What's the right person for you?

Speaker 3 (01:14:13):
I don't know if I met them.

Speaker 4 (01:14:15):
I dated one person where I feel like we couldn't
possibly be together.

Speaker 3 (01:14:19):
But we both just have things that we need to
work on. But for me, it's somebody.

Speaker 4 (01:14:25):
Who's a good communicator, Somebody who is honest and transparent,
Somebody that's affectionate, somebody that ain't cheat, somebody that is ambacious,
god fearing, has.

Speaker 3 (01:14:41):
A good relationship with his family, respectful. I don't know.
I got a lot of things on. At least we'll
be seeing you all day.

Speaker 1 (01:14:50):
And have you ever seen a guy like that before?

Speaker 3 (01:14:56):
No, not with all of them, but but the god
the last guy in our dady. He came close.

Speaker 1 (01:15:12):
So what was the problem with that? Close? Is good?

Speaker 5 (01:15:15):
Man?

Speaker 1 (01:15:16):
It's like throwing horses in grenade. That shit count.

Speaker 3 (01:15:19):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:15:21):
I just think we look at the world different sometimes,
and I don't know if you can always make it
work when y'all look at the world different, because it's
a mindset thing you know you, where is it where like, ohay,
I love this person, but I don't want to change

(01:15:42):
them because if I change you, then you not who
you are. So then it's like, well, maybe we just
not compatible because we don't really see things the same
or do you do you even think that that's important
because some people don't think that it's important to see
the world the same when you're two people that's trying
to come together and be a U need.

Speaker 1 (01:16:00):
No, I think you gotta be like minded to even
be aligned, like if you if you're dealing with a
person that y'all always disagree on some y'all ops.

Speaker 4 (01:16:08):
And it wasn't an always thing, but it was sometimes
on important things.

Speaker 1 (01:16:13):
But you know, on the tar is always right though
we're not.

Speaker 3 (01:16:17):
We like to believe it though.

Speaker 1 (01:16:20):
He answer word, but I can't believe.

Speaker 4 (01:16:22):
You with a Taurus. That's crazy. Geminis and taurusis no.
You know what we were getting along?

Speaker 1 (01:16:28):
We do.

Speaker 3 (01:16:28):
We understand each other a little bit when we both
I feel like I feel like we both I feel like.

Speaker 1 (01:16:34):
We're both the villains, both the villains. I take that.

Speaker 4 (01:16:38):
It's really yeah, you know, it's certain signs that people
just don't like, I feel like people don't like Gemini's,
people don't like stagritarycies, people don't like taurisis and scorpios,
scorpios and leos Leo's too.

Speaker 1 (01:16:52):
Yeah, but I think that's because it's unfiltered. Basically, like
whatever we say, we said, if how it comes off,
it ain't really no apologizing about it, Like, bro, that
just what it is. I don't know how else to
tell you. No, Well, nigga fuck with nigga regular teeth.
I don't nobody else to say that. Yeah, Hey, answer

(01:17:12):
word with a word for word, Come to your mama,
sale word and you're ready.

Speaker 3 (01:17:17):
Healing therapy, history, future.

Speaker 5 (01:17:24):
Obsession, obsession, scary, that's a little scary.

Speaker 4 (01:17:33):
Growth, transparency, that over sandy power power, hm hmmm. I
feel like him. I don't even know what word I
want to say today. It's a double edged sword. That's
not one word, but.

Speaker 3 (01:17:57):
Pre nup cool, circumstantial.

Speaker 6 (01:18:16):
You know, nah, thank you.

Speaker 4 (01:18:25):
Hustle, grind, secrets, protection, lies, Why y'all, I think that
you know what's crazy?

Speaker 3 (01:18:40):
Crazy enough? I think that's protection too.

Speaker 1 (01:18:42):
Sometimes I funk with that. I funk with that. Yeah,
forgiveness being.

Speaker 4 (01:18:50):
Humbling yourselves privacy, non negotiable, pleasure that's non negotiable too.

Speaker 1 (01:19:01):
Frustration.

Speaker 3 (01:19:03):
Mm hmm, I feel like frustration. It's like I can't
think of one word. You care too much.

Speaker 4 (01:19:13):
Situationships, hell, no, divoice, inevitable.

Speaker 2 (01:19:20):
Standards, you gotta have them, expectations, necessary, expectations, problematic, poor minds.

Speaker 4 (01:19:34):
The ship Yeah, the Bits podcast period don't play with us.

Speaker 1 (01:19:44):
So what's next? What's next with you? So?

Speaker 4 (01:19:46):
I have a few different things going on. So your
Tribal Queens is out right now on bz Herd. Like
I said, you can watch it on BT dot com,
you can watch it on Hulu, you can watch it.

Speaker 3 (01:19:57):
On YouTube TV felo.

Speaker 4 (01:20:00):
Of course, you could check out Poor Minds every Friday
seven pm. It's p o U are underscore in my
nds on all platforms. I'm probably gonna end up doing
some more stuff in media really soon. And I also
have my own cosmetics brand, mus Beauty Collections dot com.
I have lip glosses, lip liners, Matt Lick with lipsticks,

(01:20:22):
jelly blushes is all cruelty free. I just came out
with mascara and eyeliner recently. I actually have the Metscira
on right now, so yeah, I'm expanding that brand as well.
I'm probably gonna get into skincare really soon, and make
sure you follow my YouTube channel, Drey and the Call
with three E's.

Speaker 3 (01:20:40):
I drop weekly blogs now I have a lot going on.

Speaker 1 (01:20:44):
So cruelty free. Cruelty free means vegan. Okay, yeah, okay,
so like it ain't been tested on animals.

Speaker 3 (01:20:51):
Now, it hasn't been tested on all right?

Speaker 1 (01:20:52):
I love that, all right? Book of the Week? You
say what you say? You be reading a lot of books,
right what's your favorite one?

Speaker 3 (01:20:57):
Right now? I'm reading Let Them?

Speaker 1 (01:21:00):
Let Them? What it's about.

Speaker 4 (01:21:01):
It's basically just about being okay with letting people do
what they want to do as human beings, Like I
think a lot of the time, we always feel the
need to control everything. It needs so much freedom in
letting go of control and just letting people be who
they are, because if you let people be who they are,
then you will realize maybe this is a person that's okay,

(01:21:24):
that I'm okay with them being in my life, or
maybe I'm not. But I think when you try to
get people to conform and try to get them to
be who you want them to be, then do not
letting them freely be themselves. So it's like, would you
have them in your life if you weren't trying to
influence the outcome?

Speaker 1 (01:21:39):
Yeah, you're getting a fake person. You're a fake person
if you don't let they want to do. They always say,
let a motherfucker do what they want to do. So
you see exactly what they want to do. Hey, hello, man,
make sure y'all tap in with poor mind a girl
drell man. She let don't come in their motherfuck with
your tea raggedy, because you know that's the nothing that
goes it. Makes sure y'all go log into Big Fat

(01:22:03):
Network speaight toood banks the next time. I appreciate you, beautiful.

Speaker 3 (01:22:07):
Thank you.

Speaker 2 (01:22:09):
Another epic episode of Perspectives with Big Bank.

Speaker 1 (01:22:14):
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