June 12, 2025 • 40 mins
Over the past decade chastity has become one of the most popular fetishes in the queer community. But how and why can locking up your dong enhance sexual pleasure? In this episode we explore every angle of the cage craze in an interview with Peter Cage, a lifestyle submissive who just wants to be a good boy, and Jasper Reid, a dominant content creator who calls himself Peter’s master and “keyholder”. Then, Chris stops Peter’s “Locked” party at NYC’s Rockbar to hear cruising confessions from other chastity enthusiasts.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, viewers, Sniffy's Cruising Confessions is an explicit podcast about
queer sex. Filter dirty words and unfiltered descriptions of sexual activities.
If hearing about orgies, anonymous sex, kink, fetish, and more
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
Put Jo, pussy put your put JR.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Pussy up.
Speaker 4 (00:24):
Put Jo pussy put put Jo bus.
Speaker 5 (00:27):
Welcome to Sniffy's Cruising Confessions. I'm Gabe Gonzalez and I'm
Christattison Rosso.
Speaker 6 (00:31):
Each week we explore the sublime world of queer sex, cruising,
and relationships.
Speaker 5 (00:35):
We talk to queer folks of all kinds.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
We'll ask some questions, swap sex stories, share intimate revelations,
and provide practical advice that you can use at home.
Jo put joust job good, Put job put Jo. Welcome
back to Cruising Confessions. We are here for season two
and we're so excited about it. We've got a brand
new set. You might recognize these faces and these voices,
(01:00):
but these glory holes behind us are.
Speaker 6 (01:01):
Absolutely brand new, and honestly, things are hotter than they've
ever been.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Yes, we used all of them, all of them. Chris,
I'm curious, have you ever been put into chastity? Have
you ever been locked?
Speaker 6 (01:12):
Not seriously I have, I don't want to say dabbled,
But my friends are like, I'm getting rid of this cage.
Speaker 5 (01:18):
Do you want it?
Speaker 6 (01:19):
And I go over and try it on and it
doesn't fit, so like, no, I've never been caged. Obviously,
in the last like ten years, it has just become
more and more and more pervasive.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Yeah, it seems like it's gained popularity. I was not
familiar with the sort of like lingo surrounding it, So
for a long time on the apps, I would see
people with like the locks on it, like the locked lock,
and I was like, Oh, they're in a closed relationship.
Speaker 5 (01:42):
They're just tiered to.
Speaker 6 (01:43):
Chat, you know what I mean, Like I don't know
idea what it meant.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
And the first time I hooked up with somebody who
was wearing a cockage was actually a couple and one
of them was wearing like a necklace with a key
on it, and they always wearing a necklace with a lock,
and I was like, Oh, these like trendy faggots just
like wearing their giant necklaces.
Speaker 5 (01:59):
I had no idea.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
So we start getting a dressed and he's fully wearing
a cockage, and I kind of like stopped the hook up,
and I was like, wait, can I ask you about that?
Speaker 5 (02:07):
Like, I was so curious. I was like, how do
you pee?
Speaker 7 (02:09):
What do you get out of it? Does it make
you feel good?
Speaker 5 (02:12):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:12):
And I swear to God I saw him come with
the cockage on, which is great. Like, I've never seen
a soft dick challenging the laws of physics, as I
know that cockages are are magical and mysterious to me.
So I'm like, I'm coming into this episode as a novice. Yeah,
very fully and vulnerably admitting that right now. All right, Well,
in case you haven't guessed this episode, we were talking
(02:34):
all about chastity and why so many folks are going
crazy for it.
Speaker 6 (02:38):
Over the past decade, chastity has become one of the
most popular fetishes in the gay community, with cockage is
becoming a must have for even the most casual kinkster.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
But we do some questions ken locking up your cock
or your lovers actually enhance sexual pleasure.
Speaker 6 (02:51):
We'll find out and offer chastity tips for first times
or experience sub.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Let's welcome our guests. Our first guest is Peter Cage,
an artist, filmmaker, content creator, and lifestyle submissive who's been
interested in chastity for over two decades. Cage also hosts
kink events in New York City, including Locked, the monthly
chastity social at Rock Bar, which Chris will be heading
up later in the show.
Speaker 6 (03:13):
With Peter is his sir and keyholder, Jasper Reid, a
king enthusiast and content creator focused on rubber, fitness and
power dynamics.
Speaker 5 (03:20):
His journey with chastity has.
Speaker 6 (03:21):
Evolved from personal exploration to a tool for connection, discipline,
and growth, and easier to share what he's learned along
the way. Welcome to Snippy's Cruising Confessions. Peter Cage and
Jasper read.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
I feel like we should have taken wardrobe tips from
Mule for this episode. For sure, we're getting for those
of you who cannot see, you might be listening, We're
getting a gear.
Speaker 7 (03:40):
We're getting leather.
Speaker 5 (03:41):
What are you wearing rubber?
Speaker 7 (03:43):
Yes, we're getting rubber.
Speaker 5 (03:45):
We're getting rubber. When did you first discover chastity and cockcages?
Speaker 8 (03:48):
Oh gosh, it was when I was fifteen, and that
was twenty five years ago. I had tryed to figure
out that I was gay, and my parents made the
mistake of putting a computer in a basement room.
Speaker 9 (03:58):
With a door that had a lock on.
Speaker 8 (04:02):
So I got pretty free rein to explore and I
found a blog by someone named Lord Chiranan on blogspot
dot com.
Speaker 9 (04:11):
And this is before there was like chastity porn.
Speaker 8 (04:14):
No porn stars were wearing cottages, but that wasn't available,
so he was literally taking vanilla porn and photoshopping chastity
cages onto these guys sticks. But I thought it was
like the hottest thing in the universe. I thought it
was so cool, but I also felt really lonely about it.
I was in the closet, I was young, I didn't
have a family. He was super accepting, and I imagined
(04:36):
at that time that this was like a kink that
I would never be able to share with a single
other human like ever, cut to when I'm in college eighteen,
I ordered my first chastity cage. I think was a
CB three thousand, which I hope you've never heard of,
a terrible, terrible chastity cage that no one should ever wear. Okay,
(04:57):
But I remember I got it in the mail and
I just it was so hot. I just like took
out of the package and held it and I was
so hard that I just jerked off and came holding
it in my hand. And then once I came, I
was like, I don't want to put that on, and
in my deskter. It took me like three days to
even try to put.
Speaker 9 (05:14):
It on my body.
Speaker 6 (05:16):
When you first saw those images of this cages like,
did you understand what it was or did you just
like see this thing? Was immediately turned on by it.
Speaker 5 (05:23):
To a degree.
Speaker 9 (05:24):
I mean, I think you know.
Speaker 8 (05:25):
One of the weird things about chastity is there's this
kind of default narrative of like the submissive, locked bottom
who's usually like a skinny, hairless twink, which, like those
of you who can't see me, I'm six foot six,
very hairy, so I'm not a skinny hairless twink. My
understanding was that was sort of the way it worked,
(05:45):
and so I had a lot of like insecurity and
dysmorphia issues because I wanted to fit into this ideal
that was sort of part of this world, part of
this vibe that I knew just based on. My height
was just not ever going to be attainable, so there
was a lot of similarliness. But I did understand that
this was about domination and submission, and you know, I'm
a lifestyle submissive. At the age of forty, I have
(06:07):
still never topped or penetrated anybody, so that part has
sort of been very clear to me. You know, from
when I was a young kid that I knew that
I was I wanted to be at bottom. I knew
that I wanted to be a subesper.
Speaker 7 (06:20):
I'm curious about your story as well.
Speaker 5 (06:23):
It was probably three four years ago. I just was
scrolling social media. I kept seeing all these boys in
their cockages and I was like, this is weird, SORR.
I talked to one of my friends, Pop Finn, and
he was like, you should just like buy one off
of a third party website and just try it out
literally and siddenly. When I put it on, I was
(06:43):
completely transformed, But it wasn't like in a submissive way,
like I felt very powerful when I had it on.
I kind of like always like associated myself with being
submissive because like I don't have a big dick. You know,
I'm a black man who grew up in the South,
and if it's not larger than average, than it's small.
But when I put on the cage, it kind of
(07:04):
was like this opportunity to take that power back. And
now it was like I am more than just the
size of my deck. I am still strong, confident, beautiful
and muscular, And just because I don't have, you know,
a ten inch dick doesn't mean that like I can't
still domb you. Ever since, like my domb side has
gotten better and better. I still cage pretty often, and
(07:26):
I still feel more dumb when I'm in a cage
than out of it. Yeah, are you caged now?
Speaker 7 (07:31):
I am, yes, very amazing.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
I'm gonna see you all are blowing my mind because
I think for a very long time I thought of
being caged as sort of a very straightforward dom sub dynamic. Right.
So I heard Peter was caged, and I was like, Okay,
obviously we have the keyholder Jasper in the house who
is not, but you both are, which leads me to
like a who watches the Watchman kind of.
Speaker 7 (07:50):
Question, like the keyholder's keyholder.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
I'm fascinated, but it seems like you are interested in
switching in these dom sub roles, and Peter, you're maybe
more excited sexually staying in the submissive role.
Speaker 7 (08:07):
So how do you all sort of navigate that right?
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Like, how do you, specifically, Jasper navigate sort of being
caged but also being a keyholder, Like.
Speaker 5 (08:14):
There are plenty of ways to like have sex without
using your dick. I have a really great strap on,
a great strap on with like probably ten to fifteen
different attachments, so spector gadgets, I will fuck you in
that way. But like even still, like I still use
my dick. I'm a great top. I'm really into power exchange.
(08:36):
So I do find that like dickless with a big dick,
any type of dick, like you can still be their
dom or sub It doesn't really matter. Peter, have you
ever been a keyholder or you strictly lucked.
Speaker 8 (08:48):
Maybe in like the role of like a big brother,
stepped into a kind of a you know, a mentor
a teacher kind of way. But the truth is, the
minute some hot dominant man comes and begins bossing me around,
I forget about the course of I have age because
in my heart of hearts, I'm a submissive and I
(09:08):
just want to be a good boy and do as
I'm totally really obedient, like.
Speaker 5 (09:11):
Sorry, I lost your key, You're locked forever. Yeah.
Speaker 9 (09:14):
Someone's like what about me, and I'm like, oh, I
don't good luck.
Speaker 7 (09:17):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Do either of you know much about the history of
chastity devices from eras past and maybe how they kind
of entered the mainstream as fetish objects.
Speaker 9 (09:28):
My understanding is that most of that is a myth.
Speaker 8 (09:30):
We had this idea of the medieval night locking his
wife in chastity, so when he goes off to the war,
you know, her virtue is protected from the evil other
men who are around. There's not a lot of comprehensive
or reliable history about this. Most people seem to agree
that these kind of metal, draconian, welded devices that we
sort of imagine in museums are mostly inventions of the
(09:52):
nineteenth century, and we're there to satirize or stereotype some
idea of protecting the virtue of these damn I think
what's interesting about that idea is that it's not really
about the denial of pleasure. It's about the protection of
virtue correct and I think that's still an operational sort
of concept in the chastity world. Today, it's not so
(10:13):
much about I mean, it's about denying pleasure, but it's
also about building up the sub or helping, you know,
helping the sub become the best version of themselves, which
seems like it has roots in that myth, even though
I don't think the history.
Speaker 6 (10:23):
Is really Yeah, and I guess it sort of like
leads me to my next question, like, what is the
difference between like chastity and like come denial?
Speaker 5 (10:30):
Can you do one without having the other or vice versa.
Speaker 8 (10:33):
I've been locked in chastity. This is day fifty not
wearing my cage, and it's only come off about once
a week to shave and clean. In that fifty days,
Sir Jasper has allowed me four orgasms I think three.
Speaker 5 (10:49):
You're like, I'm not that permission that generous.
Speaker 9 (10:54):
So for us, it's definitely both.
Speaker 8 (10:56):
I'm required to wear the cage and get permission to
lock the cage for any reason, but I'm also required
to get permission to come. And every time I have
come in that time, it has been the feat that
I think you mentioned in the intro, that has been
in the cage.
Speaker 5 (11:12):
Yeah, that's wild to me. It's like magic. You both
have a different cities.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
So how did you two find each other, start your relationship,
and then how do you manage this keyholder locked sub dynamic.
Speaker 5 (11:25):
Initially, I was just coming to New York to film
some content. I saw that he was kind of a
pillar in the cage community. So I was like, let's
do something, and we instantly hit it off, had a
great session. We were done with our session and he
was using his vibe and he's like, I don't think
i'll come with somebody present. I've never done that before.
And I was like, well, let's just try.
Speaker 8 (11:46):
And he came so like instantly, like it took me
like ninety seconds, Jasper, like rubbing my cheek gently and
holding a vibelind on my cage, and like I had
an insane orgasm that was like so powerful.
Speaker 7 (12:01):
Yeah, what does chastity do for each of you sexually.
Speaker 9 (12:05):
In a sort of subcontext.
Speaker 8 (12:08):
There's this idea of like my pleasure is irrelevant, or
like I'm just a hole to be used. That's a
very compelling idea is as submissive, there's a lot of
comfort in being controlled. But then of course it also
refocuses your attention. Right, So when my cock is locked
in a cage. Then all of a sudden, all these
other parts of my body. You know, I don't think
I ever would have gone into fisting or chugging piss,
(12:30):
or long term bondage or diapers or all these other
great kinks that I'm super into if I could just
sort of jerk off and get the fantasy out of
my mind. So as you get more and more pent up,
I get more and more piggy, I get more and
more eager, I get more and more depraved, and more
and more submissive and sort of hungry for you know,
more extreme sexual scenarios.
Speaker 5 (12:49):
The cage was sort of the gateway.
Speaker 9 (12:51):
It is a gateway.
Speaker 5 (12:52):
King.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
How about you, Jasper, do you feel that same kind
of like pent up sexual energy when you are locked?
And then what does it feel like from the other perspective.
Speaker 5 (12:59):
So the first time I got into chastity, it was
my first October, which is thirty one days, and I
was like, I'm really into this. I'm just going to
keep it going. So I stayed locked for seventy nine days,
and in that time I was really into stretching my
hole and it was really all because of the cage.
It just made me like so horny and I did
that for the purpose of achieving a hands free orgasm.
(13:22):
But even from the other side, I do think that
as a dom it is really fun to see us
beg to have your dick and it's locked up. It's like,
all right, well do X, Y and Z and I'll
unlock in fuck you.
Speaker 7 (13:34):
So it's the same device but being used to a
different end as like a tool of denial.
Speaker 8 (13:39):
I always used the metaphor of like the parent who
like won't let the kid like unlock the cookie jar
unless the cookie jar. Yeah, So it's like, I gotta
be a really really good boy if I want to
second dick.
Speaker 5 (13:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (13:52):
Why do you think chastity is really blown up in
like the last ten years, Like I think Cosmopoulitan.
Speaker 5 (13:58):
Just think chastitis or fetish of the year? Wow, Like,
first of all, what Cosmo found out about that we're
doing something wrong of Cosmo or maybe we're doing something right.
Speaker 8 (14:09):
I mean, I have a bunch of theories about it.
Part of it is just the technology that now we
have these three D printed cages that production value. They
can be really smooth. If a chastity cage has even
a tiny imperfection in the plastic or something. You wear
it for days at a time, as you're getting hard,
it will chafe and rub, raw and blister, and it
will be also a PSA. If that happens to you,
(14:30):
take your cage off right away.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Don't.
Speaker 8 (14:31):
Don't try and power through like that is just not
the way to do that. I also think that it's
not so much about your worthless and you, you know,
belong in a cage. It can also be we lock
you up because you're precious and valuable and we want
to protect you.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
You know.
Speaker 8 (14:45):
It can have a daddy vibe, It can have an
ABDL vibe, It can have a puppy play vibe. But
these are all kinks that involve a dom who is
expressing affection and care for their submissive rather than just
kind of stern punishment and degradation. And then I also
think there's a gender can into this too, that the
mitigation of the phallus and the sort of removal of
the erection and the erect penis make some folks, whether
(15:07):
their trans or not, feel like their gender identity is
sort of able to flourish in the bedroom in a
more comfortable way.
Speaker 5 (15:13):
Yeah, do you think COVID played a huge part in this. Absolutely,
people just sitting at home, sitting at home. What am
I gonna do? How am I going to get myself
off in a different way? I can't go and hook up?
It makes complete sense.
Speaker 8 (15:26):
Yeah, yeah, I mean covid is when I started my
Twitter account for real, and that is the thing that
basically allowed me to start the party, because you can't
really start a party if you don't know who's gonna
come exactly, who's.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
Gonna nobody, nobody, nobody. Don't tell the straight people.
Speaker 5 (15:48):
There was a massive misunderstanding of October. I believe.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Everything to what happened is straight men got a hold
of October. Yeah, and he took the name and tried
to make it mean that they were locking in for
the month and like only eating healthy, like locking in.
Speaker 5 (16:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (16:09):
I started seeing October on some accounts, so I did
not expect.
Speaker 3 (16:12):
To see that.
Speaker 5 (16:12):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 6 (16:14):
My boyfriend is a high school teacher, and his kids
were coming in talking about being locked in for October.
Speaker 8 (16:21):
I wonder if that comes from no fab if there's
also this kind of like orgasm denial component of that
browness And there was some bleed over there.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Oh yeah, this whole like manisphere, protect your essence by
not coming kind of yeah, yeah, yeah, it's like it's.
Speaker 5 (16:33):
Weird how like the right wing gets so gay sometimes.
Speaker 9 (16:36):
Yeah, honestly, I used to jerk off to no Fap.
I thought it was so hot. It's so.
Speaker 5 (16:44):
It makes sense right there, right was encouraging.
Speaker 9 (16:49):
Each other not to come.
Speaker 5 (16:50):
Oh my gosh. I do want to say though, that
I do kind of feel like the essence is correct.
October is a good time for anyone to achieve any
type of goals that they have, And I do think
that chastity is a device where we can explore our
own self discipline, what motivates us, what triggers us, all
that stuff, And so if the street bros want to
(17:12):
walk in, walk in, maybe the bros are just some things.
Speaker 7 (17:18):
You talked about how.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Racial dynamics played a role in your interest or maybe
hesitancy when engaging with chastity in cages. Could you talk
to us a little bit more about that again, growing
up in the South, like that was just something that
there's not a lot of gay media, there's not a
lot of gay representation, and the representation that is there
is all white muscle men. The only time you see
(17:40):
a different race is when they are playing into some
type of stereotype. Sure I didn't fit that stereotype. As
I've been more public, I have gotten so many messages
from black men saying like, thank you for just not
being toxic about like having a BBC.
Speaker 5 (17:58):
You know what I mean. There are so many black
men who are in chastity now, and I think it's
fucking gorgeous. I think it's absolutely beautiful. So many men
that are like way more open about their holes, being bottoms,
being submissive, like all these things that we're told as
black men, like this is not how men are supposed
(18:19):
to act. That's another reason why I like chastity because
it just like subverts expectations. It's like, after you take
away like the stereotypes, who who am I? What kind
of sex do I want to have? What I want?
What do I want? I was just playing into whatever
someone told me. When someone told me your dick is
it big enough to be a top? I became a bottom.
(18:41):
And then when I was like, oh, I don't have
to follow what you said I should do. I can
do whatever the fuck I want to. Now I have
this one.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
When we come back after the break we're gonna hear
tips that first timers can use to safely explore chastity
with a partner or by themselves.
Speaker 5 (18:57):
So we'll see that.
Speaker 10 (19:02):
Now.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
If you got excited listening to the first part of
our show, chastity might be the fetish for you. Maybe
you can go online and buy a cage and calm
wall holding it and you'll figure it out. But we're
left with a few questions still that we would love
to answer in the second half. How should newbies get started?
What are some things to watch out for when you're
trying out cockages for the first time.
Speaker 6 (19:20):
In this act, Peter and Jasper will offer how to
on chastity, cockages.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
And everything in between, and we mean everything in between.
Peter and Jasper, let's start off with some of these cages,
and we have some here from our friends at Kink
three D. We're talking a bit about three D printed
cockages and kind of the advantage of that. So what
should someone who's curious do to figure out if they
are actually turned on by being put in a cockcage?
Speaker 5 (19:41):
Do you make the purchase, do you do some research?
What's your best advice?
Speaker 8 (19:44):
I think if you're just starting off and you're curious, whatever,
the shortest path between being curious and trying a cage
on is the best thing. And for people who are
in bigger cities or who have connections within the kink
or a queer sexual world, you can borrow one from
a friend and that's.
Speaker 9 (20:00):
A great way to start.
Speaker 6 (20:01):
Yeah, I mean I definitely try it on a friend's
cage once before. I mean, it did not fit in
any shape or form, but it was sort of like
an entry. It was like, all right, I could potentially
be into this if.
Speaker 5 (20:13):
The shoe fits. The shoes just don't extraally fit. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
But I would also say that, like fit makes all
the difference, sometimes you do kind of have to make
that leap and just be like, I'm just gonna get
fitted for it and just get an actual cage. Because
when I first got mine, like, the fit wasn't great,
(20:35):
but I knew that I liked it, and so it
did take me some time to try to figure out
what my size is. It wasn't until recently that I
got fit by King three D and night and day,
Like I can wear it for hours, days and I
don't even realize that it's on. So fit makes all
the difference.
Speaker 8 (20:55):
Just to sort of describe what that is a cockcage'
what are we looking at.
Speaker 9 (21:01):
Let's let's let's break this down.
Speaker 8 (21:03):
The back part is essentially a cock ring, and it's
got these two sort of grooves in it where the
cage can click into place, and then there's the sort
of locking mechanism at the top. And they're designed to
be modular, so you can choose the size of the
ring that you need and then it will fit with
any size of the cage that goes onto the ring,
(21:24):
So you sort of have to get sized in at
least two different dementias.
Speaker 5 (21:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 8 (21:29):
And then these cages that we're looking at are by
a company called Kink three D, and they're sort of
what I would consider the gold standard of contemporary chastity cage.
There are many more expensive, sort of custom options that
tend to be metal. I'm wearing a custom titanium cage
right now, but.
Speaker 5 (21:48):
Look at you in the building.
Speaker 9 (21:54):
I can wear it through metal detector. You can tum
non farrest metal.
Speaker 7 (21:58):
Yeah, okay, so you're not being while you Yeah.
Speaker 8 (22:01):
And then the cage itself clicks in place, and so
to put it on, typically I would put the cage
on with no lube because otherwise I can't get my
balls through it because they're a luby and crazy. And
then I would lube up my shaft and the head
of my deck so it could sort of slip into
the cage. You got to be real careful that your
skin doesn't get pinched when you short of put these
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things together. Then the locking cylinder clicks into place here
and is inserted, and then you hand your key to jasper.
Speaker 5 (22:34):
Necklace.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
So usually if you are not your own keyholder, you
will trust someone else with your key. And I'm assuming
that finding a partner who is willing to be your
keyholder or your locked sub can be a challenge, right.
You got to feel out that dynamic and that trust.
So how do you recommend people go about it if
they're engaging with this alone or with a partner for
the first time.
Speaker 9 (22:55):
You know, it's a relationship.
Speaker 8 (22:57):
I was going to say like any other relationship, but
of course it's not like any relationship.
Speaker 9 (23:00):
But it's a relationship.
Speaker 8 (23:02):
You have to know that person, you have to trust
that person, and you have to be turned on by
the idea of giving up control to that person or
from the other side. You have to be turned on
by the idea of taking control away from somebody or it's.
Speaker 5 (23:12):
Not going to last.
Speaker 8 (23:13):
And I think also there's a lot of consistency in
this dynamic. If you're going to do what Sir Jasper
and I do, which is push this this kink. You know,
I'm on day fifty. I have to know that if
I send a cage check picture when I wake up
in the morning, that I'm sending it to someone who
cares that he receives it right.
Speaker 9 (23:30):
Otherwise I start to feel like, what am I even
doing this for? Who am I doing this for?
Speaker 8 (23:34):
So it requires a lot of commitment from both people,
and I think people often imagine that it's like your
neighbor has an extra key to your apartment across the
street and they just hold on to it.
Speaker 7 (23:42):
Yeah, but that's not what it is.
Speaker 9 (23:44):
Because that person is not only holding the key physically.
Speaker 8 (23:47):
You really have to want that kind of constant connection,
that kind of constant communication with that person.
Speaker 5 (23:52):
I think at the end of the day, like chastity
is really a practice in discipline. It's important to have
a sub who is disciplined and in their own life
or wants to become more disciplined before I decide I'm
going to take your key. I don't check in with
any of my boys first. They are responsible for sending
me a picture first thing in the morning. If I
don't get a text by like ten o'clock for this one,
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I know something's up. Oh wow, then maybe I have
to check in on them. I've never had to check
in on Peter.
Speaker 7 (24:19):
Yeah, I was gonna say something tells me you Peter
has never missed it dead.
Speaker 11 (24:23):
Never.
Speaker 5 (24:24):
As a dom taking care of subs is a lot.
I'm talking to a boy now who is interested in
me holding his key, and although he's very eager for
me to have his key, I want to make sure
that they are dedicated to actually pursuing this and that
is not just a fad or a trend for them.
Speaker 8 (24:41):
Yeah, it does put a lot of strain on a
relationship too sometimes. I mean, my current partner began as
my keyholder and my dumb Over the years, you know,
we fell in love, we've moved in and it's really
hard to be like, I needed an organism. I'm so
horny I could die. Also, honey, don't forget the car payment.
Speaker 11 (24:58):
You know, like.
Speaker 8 (25:00):
Sometimes having some separation or having the domestic side of
the relationship can interfere with the sort of power exchange
of a dom sub dynamic. And you know, I think
for us, we're friends and we have a relationship that's
not totally restricted to sex and domination and submission, but
the primary dynamic and interaction that we have it's about
(25:23):
you know, me being your boy and you being my.
Speaker 7 (25:25):
Master, the words every girl wants to hear.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
For a lot of people, it seems like that durational
aspect of being cage is part of the turn on.
How do you suggest first timers kind of approach thinking
about duration with chastity, I.
Speaker 5 (25:39):
Say, don't think about that to start. Your body is
going to take a second to adjust to having a
cage on period, So let's work on that part first.
So what I like to do is I'll have you
put it on at noon, take it off at eight
Did you say eight eighty eight hours? That's not then
if it's the right size, you want even feel I
was like, minute sounds lovely, but yeah, girls in yeah,
(26:04):
but like once you get into that and you're like, okay, cool,
I'm comfortable with like having the cage on and my
body feels fine, I'm not in pain, I'm not constantly straining,
which some straining is is good. Then we'll start like
to play with time duration, like let's do a week,
let's do two weeks. And I find that like a
lot of my subs don't really need to have an
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orgasm that often, so like that doesn't really come into
play until like we start hitting like two weeks and
they're like begging to come.
Speaker 8 (26:35):
Duration is a really tricky one because for so many people,
I think that kind of is what's hot, right, and
this idea of like what if it's three days, what
if it's five days, what if it's a week, what
if it's five weeks, you know, And I sort of
like there's this escalation of like it gets hotter the.
Speaker 9 (26:49):
Longer it goes. And then of course there's this difference
between fantasy and reality, right that.
Speaker 8 (26:53):
In reality, for me, if I hit a month without
having an orgasm, I get kind of crazy. I Mean,
I'm like crawling in my skin, I can't focus, Like
every little text message, I'm like, is it jasper? So
I do think that people sometimes get too hung up
on the durational element of this. I also know so
many people who are like, oh, they are a fisting
(27:14):
bottom when they like to put on a cage for
a scene for an afternoon, just to sort of focus
more on their whole. But it's not about the duration
for those folks. And that's still a great way to
use a chastity cage.
Speaker 9 (27:23):
In some ways.
Speaker 8 (27:24):
I feel like this kink would be even more widespread
if chastity Twitter could like drop the duration obsession and.
Speaker 9 (27:31):
It's let people enjoy wearing a cage right afternoon, you know.
Speaker 8 (27:34):
But on the flip side of that, the durational part
can be so fucking hot. One of the hottest experiences
I ever had in my life was this is with
my current partner, but this is a few years ago
when he was my keyholder. He's like a multi coomer,
and he told me in the morning that he was
going to keep me locked up for a week for
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each load he gave me that day, and I could
beg for as many loads as I wanted to.
Speaker 7 (28:01):
And how did that end up?
Speaker 11 (28:02):
Going?
Speaker 5 (28:03):
Shit?
Speaker 8 (28:04):
You put thirteen loads in me in one day, ma'am,
and I was like everyone, I was like begging for more,
and then he rubbed it in my face for the
next thirteen weeks that I was the one who had
asked for it.
Speaker 7 (28:18):
It's very willy Wonka pay the price.
Speaker 5 (28:20):
For being greedy. You wanted the blueberries?
Speaker 7 (28:22):
Yeah, you wanted the blueberries violet.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Yeah, if you'll indulge me for a moment. How do
you pee with a cage on? Is there ever a
moment where you're peeing and you missed the whole? Like?
Speaker 7 (28:31):
What should we look out for if we're trying to
pee with a cage on?
Speaker 1 (28:34):
Uh?
Speaker 5 (28:35):
It depends on how skilled of a chastity boy you are, okay,
wor yes?
Speaker 1 (28:38):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (28:39):
And the cage right, So that's why we have the snudger.
So when you put on the cage, you adjust your
dick to make sure that the slit is where it's
supposed to be, so you can essentially stand. But for
the most part, for me, I just sit. I don't know.
Speaker 8 (28:55):
Maybe it sprays a little and I go drop a
piss on my jeans and then I'm like, oh, I'm
a pity today.
Speaker 5 (29:00):
And sometimes.
Speaker 8 (29:05):
I also do have a Prince Albert piercing, so those
things can interact in funny ways.
Speaker 5 (29:12):
Are you wearing the Prince Albert and the cage?
Speaker 3 (29:14):
Yeah?
Speaker 8 (29:15):
And actually I got my piercing for chastity security. You
can generally pull your dick out the back of the
cage if you really want to. Dicks are pretty squishy
when they're not when they're not hard. But if you
have a Prince Albert piercing and it's locked through the
bottom ring of the cage, then there is no way
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physically without access to to removing the piercing that you
could even get your dick out out the back of
the cage.
Speaker 9 (29:43):
But it does complicate peeing for sure.
Speaker 8 (29:45):
But you know, I love going to like animal and
like standing at the trough and like and like having
other guys like everyone's like cruising dicks and then they
look over and I've got my like pierced chastity cage dick,
and it's like spraying pissed and I'm like grinning at
them frequently.
Speaker 5 (30:00):
When did you decide to host your own party? The
lack social It.
Speaker 8 (30:03):
Actually started because I was a guest on the Chastity
Pod podcast talking about butt plugs, because at the time
I was plug twenty four to seven.
Speaker 7 (30:15):
Question episode we have to do now?
Speaker 8 (30:20):
Okay, At the end of that episode the Chastity Pod,
they said, what do you want to see more of
in the chastity world. And I sort of said, oh,
I think there should be more community, more people supporting
each other, lifting each other up.
Speaker 9 (30:32):
And they said, what are you going to do to
help make that happen?
Speaker 11 (30:35):
Oh?
Speaker 9 (30:35):
Whoa, okay, and I'm staying there on a mic.
Speaker 7 (30:37):
And at the time, I was going to rock Bar.
Speaker 8 (30:39):
Rock Bar hosts a monthly diaper night, and I'm also
into diapers, and so I was going to the diaper
party and found the community so special and so welcoming
because that's such a stigmatized king.
Speaker 9 (30:49):
That's the thing that like no one will claim, you know.
So I was like, wait, that we should just do
a chastity party at rock Bar.
Speaker 8 (30:55):
That's the sort of perfect They already have the format,
they're already willing to sort of host the weird, kinky things.
So on the podcast, I said, Oh, I'm gonna start
a chastity party, and then I forgot I said it, oh,
and the episode dropped.
Speaker 7 (31:06):
Oh, and I began to get all these messages they like, so,
what's your chastity.
Speaker 5 (31:12):
I was like, God, damn it, Okay, I'll just start
doing this.
Speaker 7 (31:15):
You got peer pressure, you just wanted to be a
good boy exactly exactly when we come back.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
We are heading to Rock Bar in the West Village
for Peter's Locked Chastity Social to hear some cruising confessions
from other locked subs and keyholders.
Speaker 5 (31:28):
Stay locked in, folks, all.
Speaker 6 (31:30):
Right, I am here at Rock Bar in the West
Village for Lock Social tonight.
Speaker 5 (31:34):
We'll be doing some interviews with some.
Speaker 6 (31:35):
Keyholders and some lock subs and we'll be hearing some
hot cruising confessions.
Speaker 5 (31:43):
How did you get into chastity during COVID? So I
got into it during COVID when I was eighteen.
Speaker 7 (31:48):
Yeah, I took a very long time to figure out
I was gay.
Speaker 12 (31:50):
There was this guy he spanked me, he tied me up,
and it was very much about power and purely about power.
Speaker 7 (31:57):
No, No, I'm not gay.
Speaker 12 (31:58):
I'm just really kinky. So the fact that I'm only
doing this with guys, Yeah, and in fact.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
It's very important to me that I'm not sexually annoying
myself in these instances.
Speaker 5 (32:07):
That means it's not clear.
Speaker 9 (32:08):
You think of it as like something you're born with.
Speaker 10 (32:10):
Because you have a penis, you're allowed to come, yeah,
and somebody taking that away, it's it just gets me going.
Speaker 5 (32:17):
Are you a keyholder or are you locked? I am
a keyholder and how many keys? Three of them right now?
Speaker 2 (32:23):
As a keyholder, you have to make sure you put
in the time because the boys are locked and they're
not coming and they get very horny.
Speaker 10 (32:28):
The longest lockup I've ever been is about three years,
and I found myself in this near nirvana state where
after you pass a certain amount of time, you just
get super charged and you stay there when you're just
always horny and always on a bottom and bottom he
feels like so good.
Speaker 7 (32:43):
My record is three hundred and eighty seven days.
Speaker 5 (32:46):
My partner has been.
Speaker 8 (32:46):
In a psychological chastity for about ten years, and he's
been physically.
Speaker 7 (32:50):
Locked into cage permanently for about two two and a.
Speaker 5 (32:52):
Half permanently for two and a half years.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
He's caged on all the weekdays and then on the
weekends I let him out and get asked if he
has a right to such him stung?
Speaker 5 (33:02):
Why do you think it's so important for space? Is
like locked to exist?
Speaker 11 (33:05):
Before there wasn't really a space specifically for chastity. But
it isn't necessarily a play party either. It's really fun
also to just like compare cages. Yeah, oh you have
the cobra. Ye you have the King three DS.
Speaker 5 (33:16):
I do have the cobra. Thank you so much for now,
Yah know, I am wearing the cobra.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
Peter does an amazing job of making this about community
and connectings to your kink.
Speaker 2 (33:25):
It's really just to have a.
Speaker 7 (33:27):
Community and know that you're not weird.
Speaker 5 (33:29):
That's amazing for you're weird, but there's a lot of
other people that are weird me.
Speaker 4 (33:32):
There are other parties out there for other kings, and
it's nice to have our space too.
Speaker 7 (33:39):
I want to hear your craziest chastity confession.
Speaker 9 (33:42):
For my birthday, my partner had been locked for like
a while and he was very, very horny.
Speaker 5 (33:46):
Yeah, And I showed up at home and he's.
Speaker 8 (33:50):
On all fours on the bed in his little cage
and stuff, with a candle in his ass ReLit, singing
Happy birthday to me.
Speaker 5 (33:56):
Only a locked boy would do this.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
I went to unlock one of my subs because I
wanted to.
Speaker 5 (34:00):
Play with his death.
Speaker 2 (34:01):
He had changed his own lock without telling me, so
as I went to go put the key into the
lock and turn it, the key broke.
Speaker 5 (34:09):
So from that point on.
Speaker 2 (34:11):
He was permanently lopped. The next morning, I got a
message from him that it was so hot he had
like a huge wet dream.
Speaker 5 (34:17):
I wasn't in Chasty for this instance. Oh, but the
other person was.
Speaker 4 (34:21):
And I was home over Christmas break and he's like, look,
I'm horny.
Speaker 7 (34:25):
Do you know a spot?
Speaker 4 (34:26):
And I was like, well, I know a parking lot,
but you're not gonna like where it is. It was
in the parking lot of my Roman Catholic church and
I sure did fist him in the back of my
equinomic and then you know where I went the next day.
Speaker 5 (34:37):
What Christmas Mass? I said, Please forgive me.
Speaker 9 (34:41):
But it was worth it. It was worth every second
it was.
Speaker 12 (34:45):
I've watched a lot of these stippies confessions, so it's
surreal to be on one.
Speaker 6 (34:50):
Look, folks, if you dream it, it can happen. Okay,
I don't know about y'all, but that was and same.
I'm gonna thank everyone who came down and interviewed with
us here at Rockbar the Locke Social. Coming up next,
there will be more cruising confessions from our hotline.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
Stay tuned all right now for our brand new season
of Cruising Confessions. We wanted to bring our audience into
the conversation, so at the end of every episode, we
are going to listen to an actual cruising confession from
one of you.
Speaker 6 (35:23):
That's right, Sniffy set up a cruising Confessions hot line
where you just can leave voicemails about their hottest, weirdest,
or most outrageous true cruising stories, and now we're gonna
listen to them live.
Speaker 11 (35:35):
The park was hot.
Speaker 3 (35:40):
I was outside of LA and I'm on tour, so
I'm in and out of hotel. So I'm jin Sniffy
and I see that this guy is like fifty feet away.
I'm like, oh god, he must be in a hotel.
So I'm like, what's up. His profile is anonymous, and
he's like, I'm sucking dig and I was like, okay, cool.
(36:00):
I'm like, yeah, I'm down. He was in a supply
closet of the hotel she worked for the hotel.
Speaker 5 (36:07):
I walk in the lights.
Speaker 3 (36:08):
Around There's a sheet set up and literally I could
see the whole. So I stuck my dig through the
hole and.
Speaker 5 (36:16):
Still to this day, some of the best at I ever.
Speaker 3 (36:21):
That ship was so good. He was sucking my dick
so good, like it was giving like Hoover back. It
wasn't all a whole bunch of wet water blah blah blah.
It was like he was really doing his things through
the sheet dark room in the hotel. The ship was
so hot he sucked my dig and he did it
(36:42):
three more times because I was there for two weeks
and I needed that ship. Oh my god, I love Sniffy.
Speaker 5 (36:53):
Period period.
Speaker 1 (36:56):
I do really like that we either got a musician
or a drag performer because they were.
Speaker 5 (37:00):
Like I was like, yeah, you were on and then
you're living at this hotel for two weeks.
Speaker 7 (37:04):
Right, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (37:05):
Can we talk about how ingenious it is to set
up or find a place to set.
Speaker 5 (37:09):
Up a glory hole at your place of work? Yeah,
that's why hotels that have cameras everywhere. Right, Like, if
I was working in security, I'd be like, oh, what's
going on over here?
Speaker 11 (37:17):
No?
Speaker 7 (37:17):
You you would be knocking at the door. I'd be like,
is there room for another?
Speaker 3 (37:23):
Is the room for two of us in this sheet?
Speaker 1 (37:26):
Like what if you were walking around the hotel and
you just passed somebody and they were the dick sucker, Like.
Speaker 5 (37:30):
You would never know recognize your smell oh just the teeth.
I know that mouth.
Speaker 7 (37:36):
Just here quick, put this in your mouth and moan.
Speaker 6 (37:40):
Oh it is you.
Speaker 5 (37:42):
Okay, yeah, it is you. Thank you for that story.
Thank you for Thank you, Sniffy, and also thank you
for that story.
Speaker 1 (37:48):
If you want to hear your own cruising confession on
an upcoming episode of this podcast, you can call our
Cruising Confessions hotline and three h two two one nine
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gnarly stuff you leave us. So this episode was an education.
Speaker 5 (38:08):
It was an education like I was locked in.
Speaker 6 (38:11):
Yeah you literally, yeah, I feel like all the questions
I had about chastity have been answered. Going to the
social hanging out with all those folks who are sharing
their experiences with the chastity.
Speaker 5 (38:21):
Was really like lovely, I might I might be doing
this like on a regular BASI. When you said locked in,
you meant it.
Speaker 6 (38:28):
I yeah, sort of like what Jasper was talking about,
Like I'm actually more powerful when I'm locked It's just
kind of a bit of a work for me right
to sort of be like, all right, so anatomy removed,
how do I assert my dominance, how.
Speaker 5 (38:41):
Do I get people to follow my instructions?
Speaker 1 (38:46):
You know, absolutely, I've gained a new appreciation for chastity,
for what it means to kind of be locked, and
I feel like I understand it better, which is always
something I love. At the end of our episodes, when
I feel like I've learned something, I feel like I'm
a hugel. And then I'll sit down and do this
with you and I'll be like, oh, I'm dipping my
toes in.
Speaker 7 (39:04):
I'm like, you know what I mean, I'm barely can't.
Speaker 6 (39:07):
And maybe your four way can start with you being
someone's keyholder. I love that idea. You know how bad
I am about keeping tracking my things. I don't need
that kind of pressure.
Speaker 1 (39:17):
Yeah, I'm gonna put out this PSA right now as
I age and look more like a daddy. Or if
we hook up and you're like, ooh, I'm loving the dominance,
do not give me your key.
Speaker 7 (39:25):
I will lose it.
Speaker 1 (39:26):
I will lose it, and you will be locked in
that cage for five weeks and then you'll be like,
what do I do?
Speaker 7 (39:31):
I'm so sorry. I'm not your keyholder.
Speaker 5 (39:33):
I can't be that girl. I'm so sorry.
Speaker 6 (39:35):
I want to thank our guest today, Peter Cage and
Jass Reid, and of course all the folks over at
Rock Bioer who was so gracious and so welcoming. Definitely
check out all the sex positive parties over there if
you are in New York City.
Speaker 5 (39:45):
Yes, thank you for joining us on the new season.
We'll see you next time. We'll see you next time.
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back to Cruising Confessions. We are here for season two
and we're so excited about it. We've got a brand
new set. You might recognize these faces and these voices,
(01:00):
but these glory holes behind us are.
Speaker 6 (01:01):
Absolutely brand new, and honestly, things are hotter than they've
ever been.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Yes, we used all of them, all of them. Chris,
I'm curious, have you ever been put into chastity? Have
you ever been locked?
Speaker 6 (01:12):
Not seriously I have, I don't want to say dabbled,
But my friends are like, I'm getting rid of this cage.
Speaker 5 (01:18):
Do you want it?
Speaker 6 (01:19):
And I go over and try it on and it
doesn't fit, so like, no, I've never been caged. Obviously,
in the last like ten years, it has just become
more and more and more pervasive.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Yeah, it seems like it's gained popularity. I was not
familiar with the sort of like lingo surrounding it, So
for a long time on the apps, I would see
people with like the locks on it, like the locked lock,
and I was like, Oh, they're in a closed relationship.
Speaker 5 (01:42):
They're just tiered to.
Speaker 6 (01:43):
Chat, you know what I mean, Like I don't know
idea what it meant.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
And the first time I hooked up with somebody who
was wearing a cockage was actually a couple and one
of them was wearing like a necklace with a key
on it, and they always wearing a necklace with a lock,
and I was like, Oh, these like trendy faggots just
like wearing their giant necklaces.
Speaker 5 (01:59):
I had no idea.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
So we start getting a dressed and he's fully wearing
a cockage, and I kind of like stopped the hook up,
and I was like, wait, can I ask you about that?
Speaker 5 (02:07):
Like, I was so curious. I was like, how do
you pee?
Speaker 7 (02:09):
What do you get out of it? Does it make
you feel good?
Speaker 5 (02:12):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:12):
And I swear to God I saw him come with
the cockage on, which is great. Like, I've never seen
a soft dick challenging the laws of physics, as I
know that cockages are are magical and mysterious to me.
So I'm like, I'm coming into this episode as a novice. Yeah,
very fully and vulnerably admitting that right now. All right, Well,
in case you haven't guessed this episode, we were talking
(02:34):
all about chastity and why so many folks are going
crazy for it.
Speaker 6 (02:38):
Over the past decade, chastity has become one of the
most popular fetishes in the gay community, with cockage is
becoming a must have for even the most casual kinkster.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
But we do some questions ken locking up your cock
or your lovers actually enhance sexual pleasure.
Speaker 6 (02:51):
We'll find out and offer chastity tips for first times
or experience sub.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Let's welcome our guests. Our first guest is Peter Cage,
an artist, filmmaker, content creator, and lifestyle submissive who's been
interested in chastity for over two decades. Cage also hosts
kink events in New York City, including Locked, the monthly
chastity social at Rock Bar, which Chris will be heading
up later in the show.
Speaker 6 (03:13):
With Peter is his sir and keyholder, Jasper Reid, a
king enthusiast and content creator focused on rubber, fitness and
power dynamics.
Speaker 5 (03:20):
His journey with chastity has.
Speaker 6 (03:21):
Evolved from personal exploration to a tool for connection, discipline,
and growth, and easier to share what he's learned along
the way. Welcome to Snippy's Cruising Confessions. Peter Cage and
Jasper read.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
I feel like we should have taken wardrobe tips from
Mule for this episode. For sure, we're getting for those
of you who cannot see, you might be listening, We're
getting a gear.
Speaker 7 (03:40):
We're getting leather.
Speaker 5 (03:41):
What are you wearing rubber?
Speaker 7 (03:43):
Yes, we're getting rubber.
Speaker 5 (03:45):
We're getting rubber. When did you first discover chastity and cockcages?
Speaker 8 (03:48):
Oh gosh, it was when I was fifteen, and that
was twenty five years ago. I had tryed to figure
out that I was gay, and my parents made the
mistake of putting a computer in a basement room.
Speaker 9 (03:58):
With a door that had a lock on.
Speaker 8 (04:02):
So I got pretty free rein to explore and I
found a blog by someone named Lord Chiranan on blogspot
dot com.
Speaker 9 (04:11):
And this is before there was like chastity porn.
Speaker 8 (04:14):
No porn stars were wearing cottages, but that wasn't available,
so he was literally taking vanilla porn and photoshopping chastity
cages onto these guys sticks. But I thought it was
like the hottest thing in the universe. I thought it
was so cool, but I also felt really lonely about it.
I was in the closet, I was young, I didn't
have a family. He was super accepting, and I imagined
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at that time that this was like a kink that
I would never be able to share with a single
other human like ever, cut to when I'm in college eighteen,
I ordered my first chastity cage. I think was a
CB three thousand, which I hope you've never heard of,
a terrible, terrible chastity cage that no one should ever wear. Okay,
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But I remember I got it in the mail and
I just it was so hot. I just like took
out of the package and held it and I was
so hard that I just jerked off and came holding
it in my hand. And then once I came, I
was like, I don't want to put that on, and
in my deskter. It took me like three days to
even try to put.
Speaker 9 (05:14):
It on my body.
Speaker 6 (05:16):
When you first saw those images of this cages like,
did you understand what it was or did you just
like see this thing? Was immediately turned on by it.
Speaker 5 (05:23):
To a degree.
Speaker 9 (05:24):
I mean, I think you know.
Speaker 8 (05:25):
One of the weird things about chastity is there's this
kind of default narrative of like the submissive, locked bottom
who's usually like a skinny, hairless twink, which, like those
of you who can't see me, I'm six foot six,
very hairy, so I'm not a skinny hairless twink. My
understanding was that was sort of the way it worked,
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and so I had a lot of like insecurity and
dysmorphia issues because I wanted to fit into this ideal
that was sort of part of this world, part of
this vibe that I knew just based on. My height
was just not ever going to be attainable, so there
was a lot of similarliness. But I did understand that
this was about domination and submission, and you know, I'm
a lifestyle submissive. At the age of forty, I have
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still never topped or penetrated anybody, so that part has
sort of been very clear to me. You know, from
when I was a young kid that I knew that
I was I wanted to be at bottom. I knew
that I wanted to be a subesper.
Speaker 7 (06:20):
I'm curious about your story as well.
Speaker 5 (06:23):
It was probably three four years ago. I just was
scrolling social media. I kept seeing all these boys in
their cockages and I was like, this is weird, SORR.
I talked to one of my friends, Pop Finn, and
he was like, you should just like buy one off
of a third party website and just try it out
literally and siddenly. When I put it on, I was
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completely transformed, But it wasn't like in a submissive way,
like I felt very powerful when I had it on.
I kind of like always like associated myself with being
submissive because like I don't have a big dick. You know,
I'm a black man who grew up in the South,
and if it's not larger than average, than it's small.
But when I put on the cage, it kind of
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was like this opportunity to take that power back. And
now it was like I am more than just the
size of my deck. I am still strong, confident, beautiful
and muscular, And just because I don't have, you know,
a ten inch dick doesn't mean that like I can't
still domb you. Ever since, like my domb side has
gotten better and better. I still cage pretty often, and
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I still feel more dumb when I'm in a cage
than out of it. Yeah, are you caged now?
Speaker 7 (07:31):
I am, yes, very amazing.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
I'm gonna see you all are blowing my mind because
I think for a very long time I thought of
being caged as sort of a very straightforward dom sub dynamic. Right.
So I heard Peter was caged, and I was like, Okay,
obviously we have the keyholder Jasper in the house who
is not, but you both are, which leads me to
like a who watches the Watchman kind of.
Speaker 7 (07:50):
Question, like the keyholder's keyholder.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
I'm fascinated, but it seems like you are interested in
switching in these dom sub roles, and Peter, you're maybe
more excited sexually staying in the submissive role.
Speaker 7 (08:07):
So how do you all sort of navigate that right?
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Like, how do you, specifically, Jasper navigate sort of being
caged but also being a keyholder, Like.
Speaker 5 (08:14):
There are plenty of ways to like have sex without
using your dick. I have a really great strap on,
a great strap on with like probably ten to fifteen
different attachments, so spector gadgets, I will fuck you in
that way. But like even still, like I still use
my dick. I'm a great top. I'm really into power exchange.
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So I do find that like dickless with a big dick,
any type of dick, like you can still be their
dom or sub It doesn't really matter. Peter, have you
ever been a keyholder or you strictly lucked.
Speaker 8 (08:48):
Maybe in like the role of like a big brother,
stepped into a kind of a you know, a mentor
a teacher kind of way. But the truth is, the
minute some hot dominant man comes and begins bossing me around,
I forget about the course of I have age because
in my heart of hearts, I'm a submissive and I
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just want to be a good boy and do as
I'm totally really obedient, like.
Speaker 5 (09:11):
Sorry, I lost your key, You're locked forever. Yeah.
Speaker 9 (09:14):
Someone's like what about me, and I'm like, oh, I
don't good luck.
Speaker 7 (09:17):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Do either of you know much about the history of
chastity devices from eras past and maybe how they kind
of entered the mainstream as fetish objects.
Speaker 9 (09:28):
My understanding is that most of that is a myth.
Speaker 8 (09:30):
We had this idea of the medieval night locking his
wife in chastity, so when he goes off to the war,
you know, her virtue is protected from the evil other
men who are around. There's not a lot of comprehensive
or reliable history about this. Most people seem to agree
that these kind of metal, draconian, welded devices that we
sort of imagine in museums are mostly inventions of the
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nineteenth century, and we're there to satirize or stereotype some
idea of protecting the virtue of these damn I think
what's interesting about that idea is that it's not really
about the denial of pleasure. It's about the protection of
virtue correct and I think that's still an operational sort
of concept in the chastity world. Today, it's not so
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much about I mean, it's about denying pleasure, but it's
also about building up the sub or helping, you know,
helping the sub become the best version of themselves, which
seems like it has roots in that myth, even though
I don't think the history.
Speaker 6 (10:23):
Is really Yeah, and I guess it sort of like
leads me to my next question, like, what is the
difference between like chastity and like come denial?
Speaker 5 (10:30):
Can you do one without having the other or vice versa.
Speaker 8 (10:33):
I've been locked in chastity. This is day fifty not
wearing my cage, and it's only come off about once
a week to shave and clean. In that fifty days,
Sir Jasper has allowed me four orgasms I think three.
Speaker 5 (10:49):
You're like, I'm not that permission that generous.
Speaker 9 (10:54):
So for us, it's definitely both.
Speaker 8 (10:56):
I'm required to wear the cage and get permission to
lock the cage for any reason, but I'm also required
to get permission to come. And every time I have
come in that time, it has been the feat that
I think you mentioned in the intro, that has been
in the cage.
Speaker 5 (11:12):
Yeah, that's wild to me. It's like magic. You both
have a different cities.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
So how did you two find each other, start your relationship,
and then how do you manage this keyholder locked sub dynamic.
Speaker 5 (11:25):
Initially, I was just coming to New York to film
some content. I saw that he was kind of a
pillar in the cage community. So I was like, let's
do something, and we instantly hit it off, had a
great session. We were done with our session and he
was using his vibe and he's like, I don't think
i'll come with somebody present. I've never done that before.
And I was like, well, let's just try.
Speaker 8 (11:46):
And he came so like instantly, like it took me
like ninety seconds, Jasper, like rubbing my cheek gently and
holding a vibelind on my cage, and like I had
an insane orgasm that was like so powerful.
Speaker 7 (12:01):
Yeah, what does chastity do for each of you sexually.
Speaker 9 (12:05):
In a sort of subcontext.
Speaker 8 (12:08):
There's this idea of like my pleasure is irrelevant, or
like I'm just a hole to be used. That's a
very compelling idea is as submissive, there's a lot of
comfort in being controlled. But then of course it also
refocuses your attention. Right, So when my cock is locked
in a cage. Then all of a sudden, all these
other parts of my body. You know, I don't think
I ever would have gone into fisting or chugging piss,
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or long term bondage or diapers or all these other
great kinks that I'm super into if I could just
sort of jerk off and get the fantasy out of
my mind. So as you get more and more pent up,
I get more and more piggy, I get more and
more eager, I get more and more depraved, and more
and more submissive and sort of hungry for you know,
more extreme sexual scenarios.
Speaker 5 (12:49):
The cage was sort of the gateway.
Speaker 9 (12:51):
It is a gateway.
Speaker 5 (12:52):
King.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
How about you, Jasper, do you feel that same kind
of like pent up sexual energy when you are locked?
And then what does it feel like from the other perspective.
Speaker 5 (12:59):
So the first time I got into chastity, it was
my first October, which is thirty one days, and I
was like, I'm really into this. I'm just going to
keep it going. So I stayed locked for seventy nine days,
and in that time I was really into stretching my
hole and it was really all because of the cage.
It just made me like so horny and I did
that for the purpose of achieving a hands free orgasm.
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But even from the other side, I do think that
as a dom it is really fun to see us
beg to have your dick and it's locked up. It's like,
all right, well do X, Y and Z and I'll
unlock in fuck you.
Speaker 7 (13:34):
So it's the same device but being used to a
different end as like a tool of denial.
Speaker 8 (13:39):
I always used the metaphor of like the parent who
like won't let the kid like unlock the cookie jar
unless the cookie jar. Yeah, So it's like, I gotta
be a really really good boy if I want to
second dick.
Speaker 5 (13:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (13:52):
Why do you think chastity is really blown up in
like the last ten years, Like I think Cosmopoulitan.
Speaker 5 (13:58):
Just think chastitis or fetish of the year? Wow, Like,
first of all, what Cosmo found out about that we're
doing something wrong of Cosmo or maybe we're doing something right.
Speaker 8 (14:09):
I mean, I have a bunch of theories about it.
Part of it is just the technology that now we
have these three D printed cages that production value. They
can be really smooth. If a chastity cage has even
a tiny imperfection in the plastic or something. You wear
it for days at a time, as you're getting hard,
it will chafe and rub, raw and blister, and it
will be also a PSA. If that happens to you,
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take your cage off right away.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Don't.
Speaker 8 (14:31):
Don't try and power through like that is just not
the way to do that. I also think that it's
not so much about your worthless and you, you know,
belong in a cage. It can also be we lock
you up because you're precious and valuable and we want
to protect you.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
You know.
Speaker 8 (14:45):
It can have a daddy vibe, It can have an
ABDL vibe, It can have a puppy play vibe. But
these are all kinks that involve a dom who is
expressing affection and care for their submissive rather than just
kind of stern punishment and degradation. And then I also
think there's a gender can into this too, that the
mitigation of the phallus and the sort of removal of
the erection and the erect penis make some folks, whether
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their trans or not, feel like their gender identity is
sort of able to flourish in the bedroom in a
more comfortable way.
Speaker 5 (15:13):
Yeah, do you think COVID played a huge part in this. Absolutely,
people just sitting at home, sitting at home. What am
I gonna do? How am I going to get myself
off in a different way? I can't go and hook up?
It makes complete sense.
Speaker 8 (15:26):
Yeah, yeah, I mean covid is when I started my
Twitter account for real, and that is the thing that
basically allowed me to start the party, because you can't
really start a party if you don't know who's gonna
come exactly, who's.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
Gonna nobody, nobody, nobody. Don't tell the straight people.
Speaker 5 (15:48):
There was a massive misunderstanding of October. I believe.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Everything to what happened is straight men got a hold
of October. Yeah, and he took the name and tried
to make it mean that they were locking in for
the month and like only eating healthy, like locking in.
Speaker 5 (16:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (16:09):
I started seeing October on some accounts, so I did
not expect.
Speaker 3 (16:12):
To see that.
Speaker 5 (16:12):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 6 (16:14):
My boyfriend is a high school teacher, and his kids
were coming in talking about being locked in for October.
Speaker 8 (16:21):
I wonder if that comes from no fab if there's
also this kind of like orgasm denial component of that
browness And there was some bleed over there.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Oh yeah, this whole like manisphere, protect your essence by
not coming kind of yeah, yeah, yeah, it's like it's.
Speaker 5 (16:33):
Weird how like the right wing gets so gay sometimes.
Speaker 9 (16:36):
Yeah, honestly, I used to jerk off to no Fap.
I thought it was so hot. It's so.
Speaker 5 (16:44):
It makes sense right there, right was encouraging.
Speaker 9 (16:49):
Each other not to come.
Speaker 5 (16:50):
Oh my gosh. I do want to say though, that
I do kind of feel like the essence is correct.
October is a good time for anyone to achieve any
type of goals that they have, And I do think
that chastity is a device where we can explore our
own self discipline, what motivates us, what triggers us, all
that stuff, And so if the street bros want to
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walk in, walk in, maybe the bros are just some things.
Speaker 7 (17:18):
You talked about how.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Racial dynamics played a role in your interest or maybe
hesitancy when engaging with chastity in cages. Could you talk
to us a little bit more about that again, growing
up in the South, like that was just something that
there's not a lot of gay media, there's not a
lot of gay representation, and the representation that is there
is all white muscle men. The only time you see
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a different race is when they are playing into some
type of stereotype. Sure I didn't fit that stereotype. As
I've been more public, I have gotten so many messages
from black men saying like, thank you for just not
being toxic about like having a BBC.
Speaker 5 (17:58):
You know what I mean. There are so many black
men who are in chastity now, and I think it's
fucking gorgeous. I think it's absolutely beautiful. So many men
that are like way more open about their holes, being bottoms,
being submissive, like all these things that we're told as
black men, like this is not how men are supposed
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to act. That's another reason why I like chastity because
it just like subverts expectations. It's like, after you take
away like the stereotypes, who who am I? What kind
of sex do I want to have? What I want?
What do I want? I was just playing into whatever
someone told me. When someone told me your dick is
it big enough to be a top? I became a bottom.
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And then when I was like, oh, I don't have
to follow what you said I should do. I can
do whatever the fuck I want to. Now I have
this one.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
When we come back after the break we're gonna hear
tips that first timers can use to safely explore chastity
with a partner or by themselves.
Speaker 5 (18:57):
So we'll see that.
Speaker 10 (19:02):
Now.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
If you got excited listening to the first part of
our show, chastity might be the fetish for you. Maybe
you can go online and buy a cage and calm
wall holding it and you'll figure it out. But we're
left with a few questions still that we would love
to answer in the second half. How should newbies get started?
What are some things to watch out for when you're
trying out cockages for the first time.
Speaker 6 (19:20):
In this act, Peter and Jasper will offer how to
on chastity, cockages.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
And everything in between, and we mean everything in between.
Peter and Jasper, let's start off with some of these cages,
and we have some here from our friends at Kink
three D. We're talking a bit about three D printed
cockages and kind of the advantage of that. So what
should someone who's curious do to figure out if they
are actually turned on by being put in a cockcage?
Speaker 5 (19:41):
Do you make the purchase, do you do some research?
What's your best advice?
Speaker 8 (19:44):
I think if you're just starting off and you're curious, whatever,
the shortest path between being curious and trying a cage
on is the best thing. And for people who are
in bigger cities or who have connections within the kink
or a queer sexual world, you can borrow one from
a friend and that's.
Speaker 9 (20:00):
A great way to start.
Speaker 6 (20:01):
Yeah, I mean I definitely try it on a friend's
cage once before. I mean, it did not fit in
any shape or form, but it was sort of like
an entry. It was like, all right, I could potentially
be into this if.
Speaker 5 (20:13):
The shoe fits. The shoes just don't extraally fit. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
But I would also say that, like fit makes all
the difference, sometimes you do kind of have to make
that leap and just be like, I'm just gonna get
fitted for it and just get an actual cage. Because
when I first got mine, like, the fit wasn't great,
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but I knew that I liked it, and so it
did take me some time to try to figure out
what my size is. It wasn't until recently that I
got fit by King three D and night and day,
Like I can wear it for hours, days and I
don't even realize that it's on. So fit makes all
the difference.
Speaker 8 (20:55):
Just to sort of describe what that is a cockcage'
what are we looking at.
Speaker 9 (21:01):
Let's let's let's break this down.
Speaker 8 (21:03):
The back part is essentially a cock ring, and it's
got these two sort of grooves in it where the
cage can click into place, and then there's the sort
of locking mechanism at the top. And they're designed to
be modular, so you can choose the size of the
ring that you need and then it will fit with
any size of the cage that goes onto the ring,
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So you sort of have to get sized in at
least two different dementias.
Speaker 5 (21:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 8 (21:29):
And then these cages that we're looking at are by
a company called Kink three D, and they're sort of
what I would consider the gold standard of contemporary chastity cage.
There are many more expensive, sort of custom options that
tend to be metal. I'm wearing a custom titanium cage
right now, but.
Speaker 5 (21:48):
Look at you in the building.
Speaker 9 (21:54):
I can wear it through metal detector. You can tum
non farrest metal.
Speaker 7 (21:58):
Yeah, okay, so you're not being while you Yeah.
Speaker 8 (22:01):
And then the cage itself clicks in place, and so
to put it on, typically I would put the cage
on with no lube because otherwise I can't get my
balls through it because they're a luby and crazy. And
then I would lube up my shaft and the head
of my deck so it could sort of slip into
the cage. You got to be real careful that your
skin doesn't get pinched when you short of put these
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things together. Then the locking cylinder clicks into place here
and is inserted, and then you hand your key to jasper.
Speaker 5 (22:34):
Necklace.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
So usually if you are not your own keyholder, you
will trust someone else with your key. And I'm assuming
that finding a partner who is willing to be your
keyholder or your locked sub can be a challenge, right.
You got to feel out that dynamic and that trust.
So how do you recommend people go about it if
they're engaging with this alone or with a partner for
the first time.
Speaker 9 (22:55):
You know, it's a relationship.
Speaker 8 (22:57):
I was going to say like any other relationship, but
of course it's not like any relationship.
Speaker 9 (23:00):
But it's a relationship.
Speaker 8 (23:02):
You have to know that person, you have to trust
that person, and you have to be turned on by
the idea of giving up control to that person or
from the other side. You have to be turned on
by the idea of taking control away from somebody or it's.
Speaker 5 (23:12):
Not going to last.
Speaker 8 (23:13):
And I think also there's a lot of consistency in
this dynamic. If you're going to do what Sir Jasper
and I do, which is push this this kink. You know,
I'm on day fifty. I have to know that if
I send a cage check picture when I wake up
in the morning, that I'm sending it to someone who
cares that he receives it right.
Speaker 9 (23:30):
Otherwise I start to feel like, what am I even
doing this for? Who am I doing this for?
Speaker 8 (23:34):
So it requires a lot of commitment from both people,
and I think people often imagine that it's like your
neighbor has an extra key to your apartment across the
street and they just hold on to it.
Speaker 7 (23:42):
Yeah, but that's not what it is.
Speaker 9 (23:44):
Because that person is not only holding the key physically.
Speaker 8 (23:47):
You really have to want that kind of constant connection,
that kind of constant communication with that person.
Speaker 5 (23:52):
I think at the end of the day, like chastity
is really a practice in discipline. It's important to have
a sub who is disciplined and in their own life
or wants to become more disciplined before I decide I'm
going to take your key. I don't check in with
any of my boys first. They are responsible for sending
me a picture first thing in the morning. If I
don't get a text by like ten o'clock for this one,
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I know something's up. Oh wow, then maybe I have
to check in on them. I've never had to check
in on Peter.
Speaker 7 (24:19):
Yeah, I was gonna say something tells me you Peter
has never missed it dead.
Speaker 11 (24:23):
Never.
Speaker 5 (24:24):
As a dom taking care of subs is a lot.
I'm talking to a boy now who is interested in
me holding his key, and although he's very eager for
me to have his key, I want to make sure
that they are dedicated to actually pursuing this and that
is not just a fad or a trend for them.
Speaker 8 (24:41):
Yeah, it does put a lot of strain on a
relationship too sometimes. I mean, my current partner began as
my keyholder and my dumb Over the years, you know,
we fell in love, we've moved in and it's really
hard to be like, I needed an organism. I'm so
horny I could die. Also, honey, don't forget the car payment.
Speaker 11 (24:58):
You know, like.
Speaker 8 (25:00):
Sometimes having some separation or having the domestic side of
the relationship can interfere with the sort of power exchange
of a dom sub dynamic. And you know, I think
for us, we're friends and we have a relationship that's
not totally restricted to sex and domination and submission, but
the primary dynamic and interaction that we have it's about
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you know, me being your boy and you being my.
Speaker 7 (25:25):
Master, the words every girl wants to hear.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
For a lot of people, it seems like that durational
aspect of being cage is part of the turn on.
How do you suggest first timers kind of approach thinking
about duration with chastity, I.
Speaker 5 (25:39):
Say, don't think about that to start. Your body is
going to take a second to adjust to having a
cage on period, So let's work on that part first.
So what I like to do is I'll have you
put it on at noon, take it off at eight
Did you say eight eighty eight hours? That's not then
if it's the right size, you want even feel I
was like, minute sounds lovely, but yeah, girls in yeah,
(26:04):
but like once you get into that and you're like, okay, cool,
I'm comfortable with like having the cage on and my
body feels fine, I'm not in pain, I'm not constantly straining,
which some straining is is good. Then we'll start like
to play with time duration, like let's do a week,
let's do two weeks. And I find that like a
lot of my subs don't really need to have an
(26:26):
orgasm that often, so like that doesn't really come into
play until like we start hitting like two weeks and
they're like begging to come.
Speaker 8 (26:35):
Duration is a really tricky one because for so many people,
I think that kind of is what's hot, right, and
this idea of like what if it's three days, what
if it's five days, what if it's a week, what
if it's five weeks, you know, And I sort of
like there's this escalation of like it gets hotter the.
Speaker 9 (26:49):
Longer it goes. And then of course there's this difference
between fantasy and reality, right that.
Speaker 8 (26:53):
In reality, for me, if I hit a month without
having an orgasm, I get kind of crazy. I Mean,
I'm like crawling in my skin, I can't focus, Like
every little text message, I'm like, is it jasper? So
I do think that people sometimes get too hung up
on the durational element of this. I also know so
many people who are like, oh, they are a fisting
(27:14):
bottom when they like to put on a cage for
a scene for an afternoon, just to sort of focus
more on their whole. But it's not about the duration
for those folks. And that's still a great way to
use a chastity cage.
Speaker 9 (27:23):
In some ways.
Speaker 8 (27:24):
I feel like this kink would be even more widespread
if chastity Twitter could like drop the duration obsession and.
Speaker 9 (27:31):
It's let people enjoy wearing a cage right afternoon, you know.
Speaker 8 (27:34):
But on the flip side of that, the durational part
can be so fucking hot. One of the hottest experiences
I ever had in my life was this is with
my current partner, but this is a few years ago
when he was my keyholder. He's like a multi coomer,
and he told me in the morning that he was
going to keep me locked up for a week for
(27:55):
each load he gave me that day, and I could
beg for as many loads as I wanted to.
Speaker 7 (28:01):
And how did that end up?
Speaker 11 (28:02):
Going?
Speaker 5 (28:03):
Shit?
Speaker 8 (28:04):
You put thirteen loads in me in one day, ma'am,
and I was like everyone, I was like begging for more,
and then he rubbed it in my face for the
next thirteen weeks that I was the one who had
asked for it.
Speaker 7 (28:18):
It's very willy Wonka pay the price.
Speaker 5 (28:20):
For being greedy. You wanted the blueberries?
Speaker 7 (28:22):
Yeah, you wanted the blueberries violet.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Yeah, if you'll indulge me for a moment. How do
you pee with a cage on? Is there ever a
moment where you're peeing and you missed the whole? Like?
Speaker 7 (28:31):
What should we look out for if we're trying to
pee with a cage on?
Speaker 1 (28:34):
Uh?
Speaker 5 (28:35):
It depends on how skilled of a chastity boy you are, okay,
wor yes?
Speaker 1 (28:38):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (28:39):
And the cage right, So that's why we have the snudger.
So when you put on the cage, you adjust your
dick to make sure that the slit is where it's
supposed to be, so you can essentially stand. But for
the most part, for me, I just sit. I don't know.
Speaker 8 (28:55):
Maybe it sprays a little and I go drop a
piss on my jeans and then I'm like, oh, I'm
a pity today.
Speaker 5 (29:00):
And sometimes.
Speaker 8 (29:05):
I also do have a Prince Albert piercing, so those
things can interact in funny ways.
Speaker 5 (29:12):
Are you wearing the Prince Albert and the cage?
Speaker 3 (29:14):
Yeah?
Speaker 8 (29:15):
And actually I got my piercing for chastity security. You
can generally pull your dick out the back of the
cage if you really want to. Dicks are pretty squishy
when they're not when they're not hard. But if you
have a Prince Albert piercing and it's locked through the
bottom ring of the cage, then there is no way
(29:36):
physically without access to to removing the piercing that you
could even get your dick out out the back of
the cage.
Speaker 9 (29:43):
But it does complicate peeing for sure.
Speaker 8 (29:45):
But you know, I love going to like animal and
like standing at the trough and like and like having
other guys like everyone's like cruising dicks and then they
look over and I've got my like pierced chastity cage dick,
and it's like spraying pissed and I'm like grinning at
them frequently.
Speaker 5 (30:00):
When did you decide to host your own party? The
lack social It.
Speaker 8 (30:03):
Actually started because I was a guest on the Chastity
Pod podcast talking about butt plugs, because at the time
I was plug twenty four to seven.
Speaker 7 (30:15):
Question episode we have to do now?
Speaker 8 (30:20):
Okay, At the end of that episode the Chastity Pod,
they said, what do you want to see more of
in the chastity world. And I sort of said, oh,
I think there should be more community, more people supporting
each other, lifting each other up.
Speaker 9 (30:32):
And they said, what are you going to do to
help make that happen?
Speaker 11 (30:35):
Oh?
Speaker 9 (30:35):
Whoa, okay, and I'm staying there on a mic.
Speaker 7 (30:37):
And at the time, I was going to rock Bar.
Speaker 8 (30:39):
Rock Bar hosts a monthly diaper night, and I'm also
into diapers, and so I was going to the diaper
party and found the community so special and so welcoming
because that's such a stigmatized king.
Speaker 9 (30:49):
That's the thing that like no one will claim, you know.
So I was like, wait, that we should just do
a chastity party at rock Bar.
Speaker 8 (30:55):
That's the sort of perfect They already have the format,
they're already willing to sort of host the weird, kinky things.
So on the podcast, I said, Oh, I'm gonna start
a chastity party, and then I forgot I said it, oh,
and the episode dropped.
Speaker 7 (31:06):
Oh, and I began to get all these messages they like, so,
what's your chastity.
Speaker 5 (31:12):
I was like, God, damn it, Okay, I'll just start
doing this.
Speaker 7 (31:15):
You got peer pressure, you just wanted to be a
good boy exactly exactly when we come back.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
We are heading to Rock Bar in the West Village
for Peter's Locked Chastity Social to hear some cruising confessions
from other locked subs and keyholders.
Speaker 5 (31:28):
Stay locked in, folks, all.
Speaker 6 (31:30):
Right, I am here at Rock Bar in the West
Village for Lock Social tonight.
Speaker 5 (31:34):
We'll be doing some interviews with some.
Speaker 6 (31:35):
Keyholders and some lock subs and we'll be hearing some
hot cruising confessions.
Speaker 5 (31:43):
How did you get into chastity during COVID? So I
got into it during COVID when I was eighteen.
Speaker 7 (31:48):
Yeah, I took a very long time to figure out
I was gay.
Speaker 12 (31:50):
There was this guy he spanked me, he tied me up,
and it was very much about power and purely about power.
Speaker 7 (31:57):
No, No, I'm not gay.
Speaker 12 (31:58):
I'm just really kinky. So the fact that I'm only
doing this with guys, Yeah, and in fact.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
It's very important to me that I'm not sexually annoying
myself in these instances.
Speaker 5 (32:07):
That means it's not clear.
Speaker 9 (32:08):
You think of it as like something you're born with.
Speaker 10 (32:10):
Because you have a penis, you're allowed to come, yeah,
and somebody taking that away, it's it just gets me going.
Speaker 5 (32:17):
Are you a keyholder or are you locked? I am
a keyholder and how many keys? Three of them right now?
Speaker 2 (32:23):
As a keyholder, you have to make sure you put
in the time because the boys are locked and they're
not coming and they get very horny.
Speaker 10 (32:28):
The longest lockup I've ever been is about three years,
and I found myself in this near nirvana state where
after you pass a certain amount of time, you just
get super charged and you stay there when you're just
always horny and always on a bottom and bottom he
feels like so good.
Speaker 7 (32:43):
My record is three hundred and eighty seven days.
Speaker 5 (32:46):
My partner has been.
Speaker 8 (32:46):
In a psychological chastity for about ten years, and he's
been physically.
Speaker 7 (32:50):
Locked into cage permanently for about two two and a.
Speaker 5 (32:52):
Half permanently for two and a half years.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
He's caged on all the weekdays and then on the
weekends I let him out and get asked if he
has a right to such him stung?
Speaker 5 (33:02):
Why do you think it's so important for space? Is
like locked to exist?
Speaker 11 (33:05):
Before there wasn't really a space specifically for chastity. But
it isn't necessarily a play party either. It's really fun
also to just like compare cages. Yeah, oh you have
the cobra. Ye you have the King three DS.
Speaker 5 (33:16):
I do have the cobra. Thank you so much for now,
Yah know, I am wearing the cobra.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
Peter does an amazing job of making this about community
and connectings to your kink.
Speaker 2 (33:25):
It's really just to have a.
Speaker 7 (33:27):
Community and know that you're not weird.
Speaker 5 (33:29):
That's amazing for you're weird, but there's a lot of
other people that are weird me.
Speaker 4 (33:32):
There are other parties out there for other kings, and
it's nice to have our space too.
Speaker 7 (33:39):
I want to hear your craziest chastity confession.
Speaker 9 (33:42):
For my birthday, my partner had been locked for like
a while and he was very, very horny.
Speaker 5 (33:46):
Yeah, And I showed up at home and he's.
Speaker 8 (33:50):
On all fours on the bed in his little cage
and stuff, with a candle in his ass ReLit, singing
Happy birthday to me.
Speaker 5 (33:56):
Only a locked boy would do this.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
I went to unlock one of my subs because I
wanted to.
Speaker 5 (34:00):
Play with his death.
Speaker 2 (34:01):
He had changed his own lock without telling me, so
as I went to go put the key into the
lock and turn it, the key broke.
Speaker 5 (34:09):
So from that point on.
Speaker 2 (34:11):
He was permanently lopped. The next morning, I got a
message from him that it was so hot he had
like a huge wet dream.
Speaker 5 (34:17):
I wasn't in Chasty for this instance. Oh, but the
other person was.
Speaker 4 (34:21):
And I was home over Christmas break and he's like, look,
I'm horny.
Speaker 7 (34:25):
Do you know a spot?
Speaker 4 (34:26):
And I was like, well, I know a parking lot,
but you're not gonna like where it is. It was
in the parking lot of my Roman Catholic church and
I sure did fist him in the back of my
equinomic and then you know where I went the next day.
Speaker 5 (34:37):
What Christmas Mass? I said, Please forgive me.
Speaker 9 (34:41):
But it was worth it. It was worth every second
it was.
Speaker 12 (34:45):
I've watched a lot of these stippies confessions, so it's
surreal to be on one.
Speaker 6 (34:50):
Look, folks, if you dream it, it can happen. Okay,
I don't know about y'all, but that was and same.
I'm gonna thank everyone who came down and interviewed with
us here at Rockbar the Locke Social. Coming up next,
there will be more cruising confessions from our hotline.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
Stay tuned all right now for our brand new season
of Cruising Confessions. We wanted to bring our audience into
the conversation, so at the end of every episode, we
are going to listen to an actual cruising confession from
one of you.
Speaker 6 (35:23):
That's right, Sniffy set up a cruising Confessions hot line
where you just can leave voicemails about their hottest, weirdest,
or most outrageous true cruising stories, and now we're gonna
listen to them live.
Speaker 11 (35:35):
The park was hot.
Speaker 3 (35:40):
I was outside of LA and I'm on tour, so
I'm in and out of hotel. So I'm jin Sniffy
and I see that this guy is like fifty feet away.
I'm like, oh god, he must be in a hotel.
So I'm like, what's up. His profile is anonymous, and
he's like, I'm sucking dig and I was like, okay, cool.
(36:00):
I'm like, yeah, I'm down. He was in a supply
closet of the hotel she worked for the hotel.
Speaker 5 (36:07):
I walk in the lights.
Speaker 3 (36:08):
Around There's a sheet set up and literally I could
see the whole. So I stuck my dig through the
hole and.
Speaker 5 (36:16):
Still to this day, some of the best at I ever.
Speaker 3 (36:21):
That ship was so good. He was sucking my dick
so good, like it was giving like Hoover back. It
wasn't all a whole bunch of wet water blah blah blah.
It was like he was really doing his things through
the sheet dark room in the hotel. The ship was
so hot he sucked my dig and he did it
(36:42):
three more times because I was there for two weeks
and I needed that ship. Oh my god, I love Sniffy.
Speaker 5 (36:53):
Period period.
Speaker 1 (36:56):
I do really like that we either got a musician
or a drag performer because they were.
Speaker 5 (37:00):
Like I was like, yeah, you were on and then
you're living at this hotel for two weeks.
Speaker 7 (37:04):
Right, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (37:05):
Can we talk about how ingenious it is to set
up or find a place to set.
Speaker 5 (37:09):
Up a glory hole at your place of work? Yeah,
that's why hotels that have cameras everywhere. Right, Like, if
I was working in security, I'd be like, oh, what's
going on over here?
Speaker 11 (37:17):
No?
Speaker 7 (37:17):
You you would be knocking at the door. I'd be like,
is there room for another?
Speaker 3 (37:23):
Is the room for two of us in this sheet?
Speaker 1 (37:26):
Like what if you were walking around the hotel and
you just passed somebody and they were the dick sucker, Like.
Speaker 5 (37:30):
You would never know recognize your smell oh just the teeth.
I know that mouth.
Speaker 7 (37:36):
Just here quick, put this in your mouth and moan.
Speaker 6 (37:40):
Oh it is you.
Speaker 5 (37:42):
Okay, yeah, it is you. Thank you for that story.
Thank you for Thank you, Sniffy, and also thank you
for that story.
Speaker 1 (37:48):
If you want to hear your own cruising confession on
an upcoming episode of this podcast, you can call our
Cruising Confessions hotline and three h two two one nine
three eight nine eight. That's three zero two two nine
three eight nine eight. I cannot wait to hear the
gnarly stuff you leave us. So this episode was an education.
Speaker 5 (38:08):
It was an education like I was locked in.
Speaker 6 (38:11):
Yeah you literally, yeah, I feel like all the questions
I had about chastity have been answered. Going to the
social hanging out with all those folks who are sharing
their experiences with the chastity.
Speaker 5 (38:21):
Was really like lovely, I might I might be doing
this like on a regular BASI. When you said locked in,
you meant it.
Speaker 6 (38:28):
I yeah, sort of like what Jasper was talking about,
Like I'm actually more powerful when I'm locked It's just
kind of a bit of a work for me right
to sort of be like, all right, so anatomy removed,
how do I assert my dominance, how.
Speaker 5 (38:41):
Do I get people to follow my instructions?
Speaker 1 (38:46):
You know, absolutely, I've gained a new appreciation for chastity,
for what it means to kind of be locked, and
I feel like I understand it better, which is always
something I love. At the end of our episodes, when
I feel like I've learned something, I feel like I'm
a hugel. And then I'll sit down and do this
with you and I'll be like, oh, I'm dipping my
toes in.
Speaker 7 (39:04):
I'm like, you know what I mean, I'm barely can't.
Speaker 6 (39:07):
And maybe your four way can start with you being
someone's keyholder. I love that idea. You know how bad
I am about keeping tracking my things. I don't need
that kind of pressure.
Speaker 1 (39:17):
Yeah, I'm gonna put out this PSA right now as
I age and look more like a daddy. Or if
we hook up and you're like, ooh, I'm loving the dominance,
do not give me your key.
Speaker 7 (39:25):
I will lose it.
Speaker 1 (39:26):
I will lose it, and you will be locked in
that cage for five weeks and then you'll be like,
what do I do?
Speaker 7 (39:31):
I'm so sorry. I'm not your keyholder.
Speaker 5 (39:33):
I can't be that girl. I'm so sorry.
Speaker 6 (39:35):
I want to thank our guest today, Peter Cage and
Jass Reid, and of course all the folks over at
Rock Bioer who was so gracious and so welcoming. Definitely
check out all the sex positive parties over there if
you are in New York City.
Speaker 5 (39:45):
Yes, thank you for joining us on the new season.
We'll see you next time. We'll see you next time.
Speaker 1 (39:49):
Sniffy's Cruising Confessions is directed by Adam Barron, produced by
Ananda Keuper and Cameron Femino, and executive produced by Eli Mark.
Speaker 6 (39:56):
Cruising Confessions is presented by Snippy's, the ultimate map based
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