November 8, 2023 • 52 mins
Do you ever feel lost and uncertain in your career? Do you struggle with feeling like you’re running out of time? Do you wonder how to find your true calling?
In this episode, Amanda chats with her client, Greg, about finding support when going through a growth spurt, feeling lost in your career, and connecting with your purpose in life.
Topics discussed:
- How to get comfortable with uncertainty and use it to tap into our imagination to find clarity and resilience
- Finding your passions and feeling seen and recognized in what you do
- The importance of having a community of people who share your interests and goals
- Filling your cup up outside of work
- Finding someone to hold space for you during growth & connecting with people on a deeper level
- The importance of celebrating your wins or walking through the struggles with the right people in your life
- Engaging with the people, places, and things that light us up
This episode is for you if you ask yourself:
- Where am I supposed to be?
- Am I letting my soul down?
- Am I missing my purpose?
- What have I accomplished?
- Am I enough?
- Am I making people proud?
If you’re struggling, remember we can always reach up and give our problems to God, Spirit and the Universe to help troubleshoot them for us!
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
Hi, everyone, It's Amanda Rieger Green. Welcome to Soul Sessions.
I am thrilled to introduce my guest today, Greg Fozzio.
He is a friend, a client, and he happens to
be my executive producer, Elizabeth's brother. And the cool thing
about that for me is oftentimes I get the ability
(00:32):
to connect with multiple people in a family and do
sessions and hold space, get to know them, read for them,
and it's amazing the synergies, energies, lessons that come through.
And it was very divine when we connected. Greg, and
I remember when we first met, we just had this
(00:52):
kindred energy. Yet you also really reminded me of your sister,
and it was like all the divine puzzle pieces and
the human puzzle pieces we're coming together.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
So welcome Greg.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Thank you for having me. It's seriously a pleasure to
be here. And you know, since I met you and
you kind of came into my life the Elizabeth and
listening to your podcast, I just really feel like things
have just been slowly but surely like going in a
better direction in my life. And I just want to
say how grateful I am here.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
So thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
I'm looking at Greg on the screen right now, and
I just keep seeing his sister Elizabeth, because they totally
resemble each other, and I'm just getting some dea ja vus.
So they have these amazing smiles and just really bright spirits.
One of the things Greg and I were talking about
as we were setting up and prepping for the podcast
(01:46):
is questioning where we're supposed to be and when we
have a passion in our heart, when we're searching and
seeking for our meaning, our purpose, and everything in life
may feel either out of whack or alignment or contrary
to our purpose, like being in a job because yes,
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we need to pay the bills, we have responsibilities, but
there are other dreams that are seated in our heart
and we can't just jump off the deep end and
fulfill those because we have practical responsibilities.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Do you want to speak a little bit to that
to start out?
Speaker 3 (02:24):
I think you nail on the head, Like a lot
of times I feel like I'm stuck in the position
that I'm in, and you know, my job is one
hundred percent commission and I have the stressors of paying
the bills, paying my mortgage, putting food on the table,
but also having this like deep sense of feeling like
I'm meant for something more and not really knowing where
to go. Talking to friends, family, that sort of thing
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can help, but just kind of figuring out in my
own mind where I can go to find a deeper
sense of purpose or you know, is it a completely
different job. I don't know, you know, and it's kind
of hard to find my way.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Thank you for sharing because it resonates with me certainly.
And I think back personally to when I was in
healthcare years ago and some of my intuitive gifts were
coming through, and I had this deep passion and purpose
that was growing within me, this call, this call of
the soul. And I was starting to feel not right sized,
(03:22):
you know, in my job. And it wasn't that I
wasn't doing a good job or putting my heart and soul,
but there was a discomfort because I felt like, gosh,
am I letting myself down? Am I letting my soul down?
Am I not fulfilling my God given talents? So instead
of me just being hard on myself, like we all
can be super self critical and hard on ourself, it
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was like, wait a minute, am I letting my soul down?
Am I missing my purpose? So it goes and when
I hear you talking, that's what I feel in you.
Is not just the judgmental, self critical stuff, the chatter
in the head, the mind, but like this feeling in
your heart that something is empty or unfulfilled and you
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have to figure it out and you have to figure
it out now or else you're running out of time.
So it's urgency, and it's urgency combined with what's on
your plate today? Does that resonate?
Speaker 3 (04:19):
I feel like the mindless chatter that's going on, and
like the you know, negative self talk, it tends to
want leave me, to want to escape, and whether it's
scrolling social media or Netflix or whatever it may be,
it's just breeding this kind of like mind mus chatter.
I just feel like time's passing by, you know, and
I just I want I want to find some answers
(04:40):
and like push myself out of this right, Yeah, of
this feeling of being lost almost you know.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Yeah, thank you, because it does feel like we can
be lost or super uncertain and in the void. I
have a good friend and she calls that being in
the hallway when it's like you're in this hallway and
there's all these doors, and one of them are open yet,
but you have these hopes and wishes and dreams that
are on the other side of the doors. The door
has yet to even crack open or unlock, and it's
(05:08):
like you're pacing the hallway. And that is this place
of getting comfortable in uncertainty. And when we come into
those places where we feel stuck, one of the greatest
things that I know to do is to get really
comfortable being stuck, because there are times in life to
stand still and yes, you show up for work, Yes
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you do your job, you get the day to day
life stuff done, but when you feel that overwhelming heaviness
that is almost deep in the soul. It's kind of
an irritability or pervasive feeling which is in the unconscious
and the subconscious, but it's bubbling up. A lot of
times we feel it in our heart and evens as
I'm talking to you, it's like I've got a little heartburn,
(05:50):
and I'm like, I don't think I ate anything that
would cause that, but I can feel it in your
heart space.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Your heart feels restricted.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
And one of the things that I know about you
is you are kind, You are giving, and there is
this energy that wants to share and connect with other people.
So when our hearts feel restricted, and when our soul
feels like it is not out there to play and
free and shine, we can feel the tightness in our hearts.
(06:18):
So just to go very simply and metaphysically. When you
notice that you're feeling irritable or stuck or alone, any
of those experiences you express, take a moment and literally
use your breath. Just breathe, Just pause whatever you're doing. Breathe,
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but breathe into your like your heart and lungs. Breathe
fully and let your chest expand exhale and let the
oxygen run through. And after you do a couple of
rounds of breath and begin to settle into your body,
focusing on the heart and actually imagining that you're breathing
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through your heart. So this forces you to stop the
active mind. It begins to calm the physiological aspects of
anxiety and nerves and frustration. The emotional body balances out
a little bit. But what happens is you're tapping into
your imagination. You're tapping into another muscle, and you're focusing
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on the heart. So imagine as your chest rises and
falls that almost there is this cord of light through
the center of your chest and right into your heart.
And if you want to actually imagine what a heart
looks like, what your heart looks like beating in your chest.
We've seen enough medical shows on TV that we all
pretty much know what the heart looks like as an organ.
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So imagine the heart in whatever way it comes to you,
and imagine you are breathing through your chest space. And
you can do this pretty rapidly and it actually will
recenter you and retrain your head and your heart because
there's about eighteen inches between the head and the heart,
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and usually those two things are not interconnected. So by
breathing into the heart, you're just inviting in more space,
more clarity. But the breath is inviting in organic movement,
not you trying to get unstuck. Well, go let me
go make this phone call, let me reach out to
this person. Okay, I'll go do the laundry. You know
(08:25):
where we want to distract by being busy. I mean
I do that? Do you do that?
Speaker 3 (08:30):
Yeah? All the time.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Like, if I'm feeling not enough or stuck or uncomfortable,
my first go to is, well, let me go do
something and be productive. You know, it doesn't matter if
it is the laundry or I'm responding to an email
rather than just saying, oh shoot, I feel stuck, I
feel uncertain, I feel frustrated, and just going into it
(08:52):
for a few moments, and it's kind of amazing.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
What will happen.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Let's say you do that for one minute, and then
once you do it for one minute, you kind of
want to do it for two minutes. I will tell
you this, because it starts to actually feel really good
in the body and you start to feel lighter and
more spacious and more aware. But your imagination pulling the
imagination because right now, what's going on with you and
so many people out there, because I can see it
(09:17):
and feel it is we are using all of our
senses on overdrive, the natural senses, so our voice, our
ability to listen, our taste, our touch, you know, all
of our sensory abilities, but we forget to tap into
the imagination as this this extra sensory ability that is
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the gateway to the clarity, the intuition, the still small
voice within, and that's what you're tapping into by doing that.
So using that as a practice when you are consciously
aware that you're feeling that. And what the other thing
that that does is it brings you into conscious awareness.
It gets you very present, and then you do something
productive that is also tapping into a higher frequency. It's
(10:04):
not just something in the third dimension. You're actually tapping
into the fourth, fifth, and sixth dimensions. So the fourth
dimension being this universal consciousness, the fifth dimension being of
the heart, and the sixth dimension being that which builds
new worlds. I mean, there's there's so much to it
to think about, but that practice, the in and of itself,
(10:26):
takes you from a very grounded space, so from the
first dimension all the way to the sixth dimension, which
is revolutionary. And you're doing it through the heart, which
is your place of unconditional love, your place of peace,
which is all the things that you're not feeling when
you're in the stuck place in our human body.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. And two things
in particular, like finding the peace first and then comes
the clarity, Like those two words in my mind just
kind of length right, finding the peace through breath or
however you do it, and then comes the clarity for
you to say, Okay, now this is like where I'm
actually feeling this is where I want to go and
this is this is the next step for me to
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take right.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
So, and what you just said is so wise because
what I heard you say is finding the piece, then
comes the clarity. Well, the piece is like that quantum field,
the zero point field of anything is possible, unlimiting possibilities.
So you've automatically in a very succinct way. So this
is quality over quantity stuff, guys, in a very succinct way.
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You've reset your nervous system, You've re entrained your head
and your heart. You've moved through dimensions. You know you're
doing all. You're tapping into the imagination, the intuition. But
you've gone from this place of stuck and frustration into
peace and clarity, which opens you up to what comes next.
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And it creates that space, the infinite possibility space, because
we can't figure out that out where we want to
go next from the stock space. But the more that
we repeat this, so the more you practice this, the
quicker you will be able to hit the reset button
and find your clarity, which is resilience. And that hits
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home with a lot of people is feeling resilient because
we're all struggling with burnout, not feeling connected, the overwhelm
of the holidays and what you're sharing right now, it's
like the stresses and pressures you're feeling, well, guess what
they double down for all most of us, all of
us me included during the holidays, and it's the end
(12:37):
of the year. So automatically we say, oh, my gosh,
what have I accomplished this year? I thought I was
going to fulfill my hopes, wishes and dreams. Or I
haven't made enough money, or I haven't healed this, And
then we automatically feel like we're running out of time,
which goes back to that sense of urgency that you're
already experiencing, and you're right on time for that. By
the way, you know, even when I look at your numerology,
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you're in a nine year, and the inner of the
nine automatically creates a sense of urgency.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Because it pushes you to go higher.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
The heaviness you have right now, Greg is not just
about what's going on in your day. Your soul is
trying to connect and wake you up to your passions
and your purpose, and you're searching for that.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
You've been doing the.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
Work, but now it's letting it flow in. So creating
that space helps it flow in. And repeating that just
it's like tilling the garden. You know, you're getting little
weeds out and you're just weeding the garden. And for
most of us, I'm not a big gardener, so that's
not my thing, you know, but I have I've gotten
better with my plants, and really I have some plants
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that are thriving. But I'm not a big gardener. But
what I do know is weeds pop up. You know,
even like after you've weeded the garden, weeds continue to
pop up. So it's not like this is a one
and done exercise. These are things that we get to
add into our spiritual and personal toolkit. In addition to
that and talking about clearing your purpose and taking action
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around it. But yet being in the job you're in
and suiting up, showing up doing a good job. You know,
you're on commission. That's already stressful. I have been on
commission before. I know many people that are, and it's
always like you're chasing, you know, because it's like, well, yes,
I might have had this big windfall, but I already
have to get ready for the next one. You know,
I think about realtors sometimes, and you know, I know
(14:25):
some amazing realtors, but it's like they can sell a
big house and they're already looking for the next listing,
and that it can just feel like this cycle that
never ends. So you already have a job that breeds
that urgency cycle. And guess what the clarity in that is.
And I'm laughing a little bit about it because it's
(14:45):
it's simple, yet it's a big thing. Is your soul
very clearly is saying I don't want to be in
that cycle of urgency. You know, get one commission and
move on to the next. I'm craving stability. I'm craving
something like something in your soul is saying I want
a solid foundation.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
I want stability.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
Does that resonate, okay, because that way we can build
on that like that one, you know, And I was
like I just realized what it just came to me.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
I could see it.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Like your soul was like, yeah, stability. He's craving he's
tired of the chase. You know, he can do the
chase because he can hack it and he's proficient and
he can hustle. You know, he's he's got it. I
know you've got the skills, but you're like, but I don't.
That's not what I want to be when I grow up.
I want stability. I want to be able to be
flexible and take vacation. I want to know that I
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have a steady income stream coming in. And then on
top of it, you want to love what you do.
So you got two big things going on. I want
to love what I do and I want to feel stability.
And then also there's a third thing your soul is laughing,
is I want to feel seen. I want to feel recognized.
And I mean, like, I know people resonate with that.
(15:57):
I want to feel useful, but I want to feel
recognized in what I do. And you know, for me,
I resonate with that very clearly because it goes back to.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
Am I enough?
Speaker 3 (16:08):
You know?
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Am I making people proud? You know that's the little
voice in me. Am I making people proud? Are they
proud of me? And I mean, like that's a big thing.
So also I had a really good friend reflect this
back to me recently, and what she said was, what
did you do in your childhood when you played by yourself?
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Do you remember like when you were not playing with
your siblings, like when you were out on your own, Like,
what did you love to do by yourself where you
could totally entertain your yourself? What did you do in
your childhood when you played by yourself? Do you remember,
like when you were not playing with your siblings, like
(16:51):
when you were out on your own, Like, what did
you love to do by yourself where you could totally
entertain your.
Speaker 3 (16:57):
Yourself some sort of sport or it was like a
video game of some sort one or the other.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
Okay, well this tracks with what I know personally about you,
So this, okay, these things track. So what she reflected
back to me, which I thought was so wise, was
the things that we did when we were younger, that
we were able to entertain ourselves and feel right sized
and have fun. But especially in a solitary moment, that
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is a reflection of what we're craving sometimes as an adult.
So you being active in your physical body or competing
or out there, you know, being pumped up and motivated
where you're physically using your body, you're interacting with people,
and even you know, like playing some sort of sport
where you are on a team. There's this element of teamwork.
(17:47):
And isn't that funny that that's what you and I
talked about before we got on.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
The call, is teamwork.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
So we'll we'll share that in a minute, because that's
not what you're feeling necessarily right now in.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Work or who are my people at work?
Speaker 1 (17:59):
Like I don't feel like I have, you know, certain
people that I can go to with my challenges or
strategize with. But being on a team playing sports, you
got to relet you you are just one of many.
So the things that you're experiencing right now and your
inner child are trying to connect and right now they're disconnected.
Is that?
Speaker 3 (18:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 3 (18:21):
Yeah? Yeah, I want to do like a marathon or
something like something challenging that like it's going to push
me to my physical and mental limits.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (18:29):
And I think it goes back to like that feeling
of like I'm just like feeling like way down. And
when you said that, I kind of thought of like
like me being like pushed down into a trampoline and
I'm like I'm ready to catapult, but I don't know
where to put the energy necessarily.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Yeah, you know, And that's such a great analogy because
it's also so playful, and we can all imagine jumping
on a trampoline, whether we're adults or when we're little.
I felt so freaking free on the trampoline. I would
turn music on and jump on the trampoline forever. And
my neighbors. I wasn't allowed to get a trampoline, but
our neighbors had one and they let us come over
and jump on it. And I would go and I
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would bring my little jam box and I would turn
music on and jump on the trampoline. So that is
one thing that I did when I was little, And
now I'm thinking, gosh, how do I jump on the
trampoline today? Well, maybe I need to get one, you know,
maybe I get a trampoline, And that's a gateway to
me creating clarity. But what's interesting for you is talking
about getting unstuck. Guess what you could do. You could
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train for a marathon. I mean, you have to decide
you want to do it, but you don't have to
go like that much.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
In excess, you could.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
Train for, you know, a ten k and find people
to train with. Because that was your other question, and
I want to come back to that that This is
what Greg and I were talking about before we got
on the call, is you know, who are the people
that I can go to that feel like my team,
that I feel like a sense of camaraderie and connection.
And we were talking about not necessarily going to people
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at work and not necessarily going to our family. Who
do we have that creates communit unity for us, that
pumps us up and motivates us. So for you right now,
it is finding some sort of sport or team or
challenge or goal that you're working towards and then not
just training for it by yourself, but finding a crew
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to start running with or start doing your training with.
And I know it's cold, getting colder because it's the winner,
But that's totally something that you could do. Is you
could figure out, Okay, I want to train for something.
Let me start doing some research. And I will tell
you this. The simplest thing you could do around that
right now is set the intention is, Hey, I don't
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know where to start in this, but I'm ready to
train for something. I'm ready to springboard off that trampoline
because all this energy is compressed in me, So put
it out there and then I guarantee you because I
can feel it and see it. But I just this
is the way that this stuff works is somebody will
say to you, oh, yeah, hey, we've got a running
group or we've got a triathlone. Yet somebody will be
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doing some sort of training in the next week or
so in your periphery, and you're gonna say, no kidding.
I was just thinking I wanted to do something. How
do I join? Is it too late for me to join?
When is the race? When is whatever it is? So
be on the lookout for that, but set the intention
because that will give you something that starts to motivate
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your energy field and obviously move your body, which is
a great component of that, but it'll also give you
new people, places and energies to connect with that ignite
your spirit.
Speaker 3 (21:37):
Yeah. I'm just noticing a lot of things clicking for
me right now throughout this conversation. But that kind of
relationship with a friend or even a stranger, I just know,
like in my heart that conversations that come up in
those moments when you're with a team or when you're
training for something with somebody else is much healthier or
deeper than just calling your friend and just being like,
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oh my gosh, horrible day of work. This thinks I'm
not happy with this, blah blah blah. Right, Yeah, there's
a different type of conversation that happens within a team
or if there's like a similar goal in line, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
Yeah, And I know you and I have talked about
things that are in your heart around fulfilling your meaning
and your purpose, and you know it focuses on physical fitness, teamwork, leading, coaching.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
There's a there's an element to that. So what you
do is you live as.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
If, which means okay, then I need to join something
right now and train for it. You know, months ago
I started doing pilates. I got your sister to start
doing pilates too. She's on the bandwagon, but you know
she so she and I both thought, she's like, I
love plates.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
I was like, I know me too.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
But what I love about pilates is two things, well
three things, but the main things are one, I have
to drive there, and it's a little bit of a
trek for me, so I have the time to and
from in the car that is MySpace my time, and
whether I listen to a podcast or I turn the
radio on in the car, I find so much mad that,
and I will I will do breath exercises through my
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heart like we were talking about, while I pay attention
to the road. And there's something about that energy and
trainment that is very highly vibrational and healing for me.
So I love the trip there and back and making
the time for it. But when I get to pilates,
I enjoy the people around me. I love going to
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my plates class and knowing that, you know, I can say,
oh my gosh, I'm exhausted from my morning. I'm so
glad to be here, and the person next to me
to be like, I'm glad you're here too, or I
had a rough day, or you know what, I'm having
a good day.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Let's make it a great day.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
And we laugh and we make jokes and we grunt
together and breathe and all the things. And the third
thing I love about the pilates for me is I
have to be centered. I have to sit there and
use my breath or else I'm gonna do something funky
on the reformer and fall off. I mean, I have
to be in my body and focusing my energy, and
I can't be you know, back in the emails that
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I was sending earlier the call that I was on
or what I have in two hours. I have to
be present, so we get very present and focused and transcendent,
which helps us intuitively. So your homework is one hundred percent.
Find your goal, your team goal, and join up, sign
up and start training because those people. And what's interesting
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about that is I feel very deeply for you that
those people that you begin to connect with are going
to become some of your really good friends. You're ready
for new friendships. That's another thing they're showing me, and
I think that resonates with a lot of people. It's
not that we're leaving our old friends behind, but sometimes
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we need new people and their energy to motivate us
and inspire us or show us parts of ourselves that
might be dormant or compressed, like on the trampoline what
you were talking about.
Speaker 3 (24:51):
Yeah, I think I've been feeling that for the past
few months. Actually, yeah, and not something that's been necessarily conscious,
But when you say it, it's like, yeah, that makes.
Speaker 1 (24:59):
Perfect what I'm thinking about personally for me, and how
this can expand your network of influence, your tribe of people,
and create healthier connections that.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
Also help us reach the ladder up.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
That's a saying your sister told me we were kind
of in the Shoots and Ladders analogy. It's like we
get to reach the ladder up and we get to
reach it down. But this reaches the ladder up sometimes.
But by me going to pilates, building some new community there,
looking forward to it being present, all of the energy
that that has created has also encouraged me to reach
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out and network and connect with people that I might
have been afraid of rejection from before, or procrastinated around
or been lazy around. And that didn't happen overnight, But
I will tell you over the last eight months, six
eight months, the Pilates and that community and engagement has
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given me more motivation to reach out and connect with
people that inspire me, people I want to network with
and get to know that I'm curious to share ideas
with or get their feedback. And I've been networking more
as a result of partly the Pilates and building that
new community. So it's like you're taking one step at
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a time and you don't have to see what's what's
up at the top of the stairs, but it's doing something,
creating traction and knowing that it's building momentum or energy.
I think that that is going to be really helpful
over the next few months. And because it's winter, and
you know how we get kind of hibernating and dormant
over winter and we might gain weight or you know,
(26:42):
it gets so muggy and dark and gloomy outside. And
it's the holidays, so you know, we can just you know,
eat more than we normally do with parties and obligations,
but actually joining up and doing something right now with
a team, you'll even feel better about yourself and and
even more.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
Like you, you.
Speaker 1 (27:03):
Know, that beautiful version of you that is in there
with the compressed trampoline image when you show up for family,
when you show up for the holidays and events and connecting.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
I do want to go back to a.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Question you asked me that we touched on a little
bit before the call, But you were asking me about
you know, I have people at work, I'm connected, I've
got my team, but I also feel like an island
and I don't really have people to talk to.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
Let's talk about that a minute, and we can walk
through some ways to shift that.
Speaker 3 (27:38):
Sure. Yeah, so I feel like a lot of times
I will go to family or friends and then you know,
they're great and always supportive, but sometimes they're reaffirming what
might not be what you feel like. They might say
you're doing a great job, right, You're like, look at
all these things that you've done, and it doesn't really
feel good to me because I'm like feeling that compressed
(28:01):
state that we talked about. So and I know there's
more right, But then at work, I don't feel like
that I can really talk deeply with certain people because
it's my manager, or it's a coworker that I don't
really trust fully, or you know, they just don't see
how to eye with me on certain things. I can
just feel that or they don't see it the way
(28:23):
I do. So just maybe you could walk me through
some ways to find ways that I can help myself
in finding purpose within work or just finding ways to
help myself in general, like mentally getting through the days right.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
Absolutely, and again, the holidays tend to exacerbate these feelings
more and people out there are experiencing that disconnect or
that isolation and work, even on a team and especially
you know with people who work remotely or if you
don't necessarily feel comfortable sharing with your boss or seeing
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eye to eye with someone. That's life. We get those
experiences in life. So finding ways to fill your cup
up in other areas for me, I have found actually
helps me to be more authentic and connected in a
workspace where I already may feel disconnected. So yes, going
(29:19):
back to what we talked about about you joining a
team finding something, I think that is going to be
a huge catalyst for your energy field, revitalizing and feeling
and experiencing that sense of connection, and then it will
overflow into work scenarios. So that is one aspect that
will already help. But additionally, with family, I want to
talk about family first and then we'll talk about work.
(29:42):
One of the things I learned a long time ago
is my family, my family of origin, they know a
certain dance with me, and we have a certain dynamic,
We have a history all.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Of those aspects of ourselfs. So a lot of.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
Times they enable us. And it's not that you know,
and we enable them. You know, it goes that street
goes both ways.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
We do this old.
Speaker 1 (30:05):
Dance, you know, And it's not that anybody doesn't love
us or see us or want us to feel better.
But usually when we're stuck or upset or aggravated, we'll
pick up the phone and call a family member. My
mom is now deceased, but I can remember a long
time ago when I was really in my lower places,
the first phone call would be my mom, and as
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much as she loved me and wanted me to be
out of that, she would commiserate with me or enable me.
And it wasn't that she was trying to do it.
It just we had been doing that same dance. And
I had a very wise mentor say to me, Amanda,
the next time you're stuck, you're frustrated, you don't know
what to do, you know, and you want to go
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and first pick up the phone and call or text
your mom, do.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
Not do it. And I was like, what do you mean,
don't do it?
Speaker 1 (30:53):
And she said no, because if you do what you did,
you're gonna get what you got. You're gonna get that
same response. You're gonna create that same energy loop, the
same information. It's going to feel the same in your body.
You're gonna even you could be triggered or it exacerbates it.
It's not going to create new solutions. And she said,
call me. She says, you call me first, whether you've
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had something joyful happen or you are losing your you
know what, And she said, you call me, and you
will talk through it. We will process, it will clarify,
it will either celebrate the win or we will walk
through the struggle and find new tools, new solution, new
ways to see what's going on. And then you get
to share it with your mom, Then you get to
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share it with your sister, whatever it may be. And
it's not that we don't lean on and rely on family,
because I am all about finding ways of healthily building
and healing and growing our family relationships. But when I
am in a gross spurt and you're in a growth
spurt like you are, you're in a nine personal year
in your numerology, which is all about closure and completion
(31:56):
before you bust through into your one year, which is
going to feel like over lap for a while, Like
it just is. So you've got a lot of like
eclipse kind of changeover energy. But you're in a gross
spurt and your soul is all this like compressed energy,
just like you're trampoline, Which is the most brilliant, brilliant
analogy you could have given. And it also relates to,
you know, childhood feelings of not being able to burst
(32:20):
up and really jump up and be bright and shine.
So let me ask you this who And if the
answer is no one, that's okay too.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
Who in your life?
Speaker 1 (32:29):
Do you have someone in your life who feels like
that person you can pick up the phone and connect
with and share the higher the low and they can
really healthfully hold space.
Speaker 3 (32:41):
Yeah, I mean they're probably one or two people I
feel like I could do that way.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
Yeah, okay, So here's the deal with that.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
And if you're out there and you're like, I don't
know who I would call, I don't know who to call,
because that is you know, some people will have a
person or two that they know can hold space for them.
And if you don't have some on a hold space
for you, start to pray about it because that person
will appear and they may be in your periphery. You
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just may not be ready to ask them for help
or share vulnerably from your heart. So that is something
to set intentions around and put out there. I need
someone who is safe. I need someone who helps me
be more clear in my mind, body, spirit and how
I'm growing how I'm healing. But what you can do, Greg,
is with those couple of people like today, and this
(33:29):
is an action item. Today is later this afternoon, reach
out to one or both of them. So between today
and tomorrow, reach out to one or both of them
and say, hey, I just want you to know that
I appreciate you for these things in my life.
Speaker 2 (33:44):
So, and I've talked.
Speaker 1 (33:46):
A lot about appreciation versus gratitude this month. That is
a big theme of really tapping into this higher vibrational
frequency of appreciation. So reach out to them and tell
them why you appreciate them, so that way you're clear
on why they hold safe space for you and what
they reflect back that you're craving. And then also say
to them, hey, I'm going through a growth spurt right
(34:08):
now in life, and I'm struggling in these areas that
you may know, and I'm feeling, you know, uncomfortable in
my own skin. Would it be okay from time to
time when I have stuff going on, I pick up
the phone and if you have time, we make space
to problem solve and troubleshoot this stuff like ask them
to be your space, you know, and it's invite someone
(34:30):
in because that's also endearing, and endearment is a very
high vibrational energy, and if anything, you're a very endearing human.
I know that about you, and you and I share
this like innate kindness where we're sensitive and we don't
want to let people down. But it also when we
feel that we are endeared to and buy someone, it
is brilliant heart space energy of true connection. So you
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endear them by being vulnerable but saying, hey, will you
be this person for me? I'm not going to abuse
that privilege, you know, but will you be there for me?
And also will you be there for me when some
something really good happens so I can call you and
tell you something good happened.
Speaker 3 (35:09):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (35:10):
Yeah, that's so simple, but it's sometimes so hard for
us to pick up a thousand pound phone.
Speaker 3 (35:15):
Yeah, no, it definitely is difficult, even for someone like me,
who I would say is like pretty vulnerable. And I'm
okay doing that, especially with friends and family. But I
really like the way you put it, like, hey, I'm
going through a growth spurt, because that kind of like
sets the stage for yourself and you're just like putting
it out there in the world. But then also it
shows them like, hey, things are gonna be a little
(35:35):
bit different here, right, And I need you to continue
to show up for me the way you have. But
I'm going somewhere and I need your support in this
way and that way, right, And it's not going to
be the old song and dance that you talked about, right, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
And in the end my last episode, I talked about
just what are the dreams and beliefs that you're just
reaching up for it like you're standing on your tippy
toes reaching for And what this is doing towards a
belief and a dream is I want connection. I want
meaningful connections and support and I want to grow and
(36:11):
hold that space. Who can I just reach up for
and ask to help me do that. It's a little
bit of a reach because it means being vulnerable, but
it's also saying I'm going through a gross burt and
I can't do this alone. I need somebody to help
me be accountable, help me when i'm a rational you know,
or I can't think clearly or I'm in a tailspin.
And I also want you to be there because this
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is the important part of it that I think adds
so much value is I also want you to be
there for me when really good things happen too.
Speaker 3 (36:42):
Yeah, that's perfect.
Speaker 1 (36:43):
And then it'll in turn help you on a professional
level with communicating where you may not see eye to eye,
or you may not feel appreciated or valued in a
work scenario, or you may not be thinking and strategizing
the same way as another coworker. So I think that
that's an easy place to start. And on top of that,
(37:04):
from an energetic or a spiritual place, the one thing
I know that works best, and I've used this many
times throughout the years, is when I go to bed
at night, I will say things like, hey, soul, hey,
higher self, connect me with so and so, so and
so and so and so's higher self, like in your
you know, at work, connect me with their higher selves
(37:25):
for our most optimal outcomes, to create greater teamwork and cohesion,
for abundance and you know, creativity and outcomes that beyond
my belief. So literally, what you're doing is you're talking
to your higher self and you're also connecting with their
higher selves, and you're not intervening with their free will.
(37:48):
You're just saying, hey, while I'm sleeping tonight, strategize can
you connect my soul with their soul so we can
formulate some ideas and do something that's going to be
for the greatest good, something that it's going to have
unlimited potential, that's going to create more cohesion and teamwork.
Show me, help me. Can you do that, soul? Okay,
thank you, I'm going to go to sleep. And that
(38:08):
way it takes some of the human stress and pressure
off of you, Greg, And also it develops intuition further
because you're using your higher consciousness. You're engaging your higher consciousness,
you're engaging the higher consciousness of the people around you.
So you're starting to think, believe, dream bigger. That's that
(38:30):
reaching up in the closet on your tippy toes, Like
it's just reaching up and it's not stressful. It's like,
let me just give this to God, or let me
give this to my soul. Hey, can you figure out
in troubleshoot this for me? Because I want it to
be brilliant. And one of the things that they're showing
me your soul is making the decision today right now
(38:51):
while we're on this call, to want it to be better,
because I know that's not where you want to be
in two years. I know you want you have new horizons,
new things coming for you, and those things will start
to come about into next year. But right now, why
not say, Okay, this is not the job that I
want forever, but I want to go out with a bang,
(39:13):
and I actually want to feel so freaking you know,
muscled up and great in where I leave this job.
So come on, because God hadn't taken that job off
of your plate yet, so there's lessons still to learn.
So it's it's just shifting your perspective and saying, hey,
you know what, today, going forward, I'm going to make
the decision that there's going to be some new beginnings,
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new opportunities and work, new teamwork that's going to come
out of nowhere that I don't expect, and I'm ready
to believe for that versus believing the same day in
and day out.
Speaker 3 (39:45):
Yeah that's huge. Yeah, what's a perspective switch that I
could have about like of phone calls coming in, like
not another phone call right, rather than that, but like,
how can I look at it where it's like I
can shift those kind of feelings into like, no, this
could be an opportunity, right, you.
Speaker 2 (40:03):
Know, that's a question.
Speaker 1 (40:04):
It's a great question, and I know it resonates with people,
and it resonates with me because I will sometimes say, oh,
not another text message, you know, or oh my gosh,
don't they know what I'm doing right now?
Speaker 2 (40:15):
I get really self important. And here's the deal.
Speaker 1 (40:19):
First of all, I'm being really blatantly honest about that,
and I'm laughing at it, and I'm not dismissing it
because I laugh at myself that way, because sometimes that
is the ego, the small voice saying I don't have
enough time, I don't have enough space. Look at what's
on my plate, and it's fear. It's straight up fear.
Speaker 2 (40:37):
It's not love. So when my first initial gut.
Speaker 1 (40:42):
Response is from fear, I laugh at it because I'm like, yep,
there's she goes again, trying to run the world, you know,
and thinking she's the most important and in charge. So
I notice that very quickly. I laugh at it, and
then I look at wherever the incoming phone call is is,
or the text message that's come in or the email,
(41:03):
and I just say, you know, may I respond to.
Speaker 2 (41:06):
This with an open heart. I should be so grateful
that this.
Speaker 1 (41:08):
Person is reaching out or appreciative that they're wanting my support,
or they want to invite me to this, or they
want to share X y Z with me. It's making
the decision to really be honest about the little fear
based ugly reaction that we first have. So that part
right there is where the treasure is, is really noticing
(41:30):
how ugly we can be sometimes, and that's the small
voice in the head, and then saying, hey, help me
do this with an open heart. Help me do this
with an open mind. Take a breath, and if the
phone is ringing and you can answer it, even though
you've had a long day, even though you're tired, answer it.
And this is really important, and I think this is
(41:51):
great for the holidays, and this will help everyone. Setting
a boundary with your conversations if you need to, meaning
whether you're calling a friend back or supporting someone or
it's a work call. You know, being able to say
I'm available from two thirty to three o'clock hard stop
(42:12):
and hold your own boundaries and honor those boundaries because
that's the energy that you have to give the time
in your calendar and your space. And I know, for me,
like at night with my husband, I've gotten really good.
I mean about I'm not on the phone late at night.
I haven't really done that much for years because that
(42:33):
time for me is sacred.
Speaker 2 (42:34):
I have the phone is down, I'm just not on
the phone.
Speaker 1 (42:38):
But every now and then there's a phone call I
need to take, or a friend is really struggling, and
I notice that, and I'm able to say to my husband,
you know, when it's our quality time, Hey, I need
to take this phone call because so and so, you know,
needs a little bit of support for me.
Speaker 2 (42:57):
It's that work for you, you know, And.
Speaker 1 (42:59):
Not that I need his permission, but I do it
because it also honors my home life and my personal
and professional life in a multitude of ways. So I'm
communicating with my spouse, and I'm then saying to the
person on the phone, Hey, I'm available for the next
thirty minutes.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
What do you need? You know?
Speaker 1 (43:20):
And I don't always I don't really say I'm available
for this many minutes, but sometimes I will, depending on
who who the person is, I will sometimes that's necessary
because I can talk a lot they can.
Speaker 3 (43:33):
So yeah, I mean a lot of times, you give
a client an inch and I'll take a mile, right
so I think, and I'm setting those boundaries is super important.
Speaker 1 (43:42):
So yeah, and I mean, I tell you what last night,
and like just full disclosure, it was I don't know
it was. It was late and I had just gotten home.
It had been a really long day, and I mean
my day had been full professionally, me doing the service
work that I do, showing up, I did my pilates,
all the.
Speaker 2 (44:01):
Things happened in a day.
Speaker 1 (44:02):
And come eight thirty eight forty five, my husband Dennis
and I are about to watch something on TV and
chill out with the dogs, and a text message came
through and my first response was, Oh, my gosh, don't
they know this is my time? Like this is after hours,
you know, don't they know what I did in my day?
(44:23):
And I'm reiterating this because the more clear I get
about that energy in my response, because I felt myself
pick up the phone and then get really self important
and really protective over my boundaries. Well, guess what, Amanda,
If I'm that protective, I didn't need to pick up
the phone to read the text message in the first place.
But what I did was I picked up the phone.
(44:45):
I saw it, and I decided, you know what this person.
I need to respond to them. I would like to
respond to them. And I said to my husband, I said, hey,
I need to respond to this text message. Can we
start this show? Of course we were watching something on TV.
Can we start this show in five minutes. Let me
have this text conversation so I can respond because I
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didn't do this before, and they had texted me back
about something and I had dropped the ball. So I
made the decision and he was like, yeah, no problem,
but deciding when those boundaries can be a little fluid,
but also still communicating my.
Speaker 2 (45:19):
Boundaries to my husband.
Speaker 1 (45:20):
Does that make sense when I'm talking about, yeah, being
flexible in my boundaries, like this is my sacred time,
but also I wanted to respond to this person because
I cared about them, But then also communicating the boundary
to my husband, like there's something about communication and this
also will support you and anybody out there. The more
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we clarify our voice telling people what we need, asking
people for what we need, communicating clearer and better, the
more unstuck we get, and especially in our hopes, wishes
and dreams and manifesting those into reality.
Speaker 3 (45:57):
That really hits home for me because and I sometimes
feel like I'm in like a gross spurt. Then I
can get that self important feeling you kind of described, right,
And then the first thing that goes out the window
for me is like communication and with my wife or
with friends, I'm like, I don't have time for that.
I don't even say why. Yeah. Yeah, And you mentioned
(46:17):
the thing about asking if I can do that. I
just thought it was so good, like your self important
self will will say, well, why do I have to
ask permission? Right? But when really like, it's just it's communication.
Is respecting yourself, is respecting your spouse or friend, and
it's also respecting the.
Speaker 1 (46:36):
Work, right, Yeah, And communication is something I know that
we all work on and we can be better at.
So it's listening to our inside voice, getting very clear
with that, and especially those first reactions of don't you
know this is my time, because that's also emotional, it's
a very defensive energy. It's a self important It's just
(46:58):
this inflamed ego. And for you or for me or
any of us out there to be able to notice
the inflammation of the ego versus the inflammation of the soul,
because those two things are diabolically opposed, they are different forces,
because when my ego is inflamed, I'm thinking small, I'm
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limiting my perception. I'm playing a finite game. I am
blocking all of this abundance, infinite possibility and energy of
the spirit that is quantum. So conversely, noticing when someone text,
someone reach out, reaches out, you get an email and
(47:45):
you're excited about it. Oh my gosh, I've been waiting
for this to come through. I was just thinking about
this client the other day, or I.
Speaker 2 (47:53):
Can't believe you just called. I was just talking about you,
you know. So the opposite of.
Speaker 1 (47:58):
That is this, oh my gosh, which is this expansion
of spirit and it's creativity and it's passion, and it's
inclusive and it's whole and it's not lonely.
Speaker 2 (48:12):
It's connected. So on the opposite side of that, notice.
Speaker 1 (48:17):
When your first response is expansive, joyful, connective, because that's
where you want to marinate for a minute and to
close that out. The cool thing is when I have
somebody who reaches out to me, sends an email, or
you know, I run into somewhere in life and I'm
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excited to see them, and there's that kind of animation
and burst of joy from my heart. I take note
of those people, and a lot of times I'll say,
what was it about them that I enjoyed interacting with?
Why did my spirit light up around them? And I'll
notice about myself, Oh, it's because every time I see them,
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they hold space and are quiet and still, you know.
I mean, there are people that I'm so animated. Sometimes
I love people who are just nurturing, calm and grounded
because I can be you know, up in the air
and all over the place, I can be a lot, right,
and they gently hold space. Yeah right, I have this Wait,
(49:24):
I have this woman in pilates that I who I love.
Her name is Tara, and she's so she's such a badass.
She's so cool, and she happens to be a reiki
master and she's just and she's like a mom and
both of her boys are in college and she's she's
just amazing and she's just so gentle and strong and wise.
(49:45):
And we were talking after a class one day and
I'm like animated about something and she's like, Amanda, let's
go outside the whole studio can hear us, you know?
And it was so gentle and it was her way
of saying, come on Amanda, like, let me at you outside,
so you're not disturbing, you know, being the center of
attention and disturbing everybody's piece.
Speaker 2 (50:05):
And I wasn't looking for attention.
Speaker 1 (50:06):
I just mean it was like, yeah, but she had
this gentle way and we had the best conversation. I
look forward to seeing her. But when I got in
the car, I thought, gosh, that was that was so
organic And that's one of the things I love about her.
She feels organic to me, And what does that show me?
I'm craving more organic relationships in my life, organic experiences.
Speaker 2 (50:29):
So the clues to.
Speaker 1 (50:30):
The people that lift your spirit and light you up,
the interactions are clues to what you're craving in connection,
community relationships.
Speaker 2 (50:38):
I hope it's helpful.
Speaker 1 (50:39):
Was there anything else that you wanted to ask or
cover before we wrap up?
Speaker 3 (50:44):
No, I think there's like a lot for me to
work on, and there were just so many things that
just kind of clicked for me, and like I just
feel lighter and I feel like excited. So I want
to say thank you.
Speaker 2 (50:56):
Yeah, you're welcome.
Speaker 1 (50:57):
And I know that this resonates with other people and
hopefully you all out there are feeling lighter and excited
and can put these practices into play, especially that breathing
exercise of stilling yourself with your breath and then beginning
to imagine that you're breathing through your heart space. So
you're using the imagination with your breath and creating this
(51:19):
infinite synchronicity to put you in that quantum space to
move forward and to get unstuck. But through your breath
and imagination first versus you know, jumping into busyness and
the things we do. I think that's very helpful at
any time, but during the holidays, especially with family and responsibilities.
(51:40):
So thank you so much for Greg for coming on today,
being so candid and forthcoming, and the questions you ask
were they were universal questions that are really I know
they're personal to you, but they I'm sure they were
universal to everyone out there.
Speaker 2 (51:58):
So thank you.
Speaker 3 (52:00):
Thanks for having me. I really appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (52:02):
Okay, everyone, thank you for joining me on Soul Sessions,
and a big thanks to Greg Fazzio again. Reach out,
share any feedback, any synchronicities, any AHA moments, and take care,
be well and happy holidays.
Hi, everyone, It's Amanda Rieger Green. Welcome to Soul Sessions.
I am thrilled to introduce my guest today, Greg Fozzio.
He is a friend, a client, and he happens to
be my executive producer, Elizabeth's brother. And the cool thing
about that for me is oftentimes I get the ability
(00:32):
to connect with multiple people in a family and do
sessions and hold space, get to know them, read for them,
and it's amazing the synergies, energies, lessons that come through.
And it was very divine when we connected. Greg, and
I remember when we first met, we just had this
(00:52):
kindred energy. Yet you also really reminded me of your sister,
and it was like all the divine puzzle pieces and
the human puzzle pieces we're coming together.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
So welcome Greg.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Thank you for having me. It's seriously a pleasure to
be here. And you know, since I met you and
you kind of came into my life the Elizabeth and
listening to your podcast, I just really feel like things
have just been slowly but surely like going in a
better direction in my life. And I just want to
say how grateful I am here.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
So thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
I'm looking at Greg on the screen right now, and
I just keep seeing his sister Elizabeth, because they totally
resemble each other, and I'm just getting some dea ja vus.
So they have these amazing smiles and just really bright spirits.
One of the things Greg and I were talking about
as we were setting up and prepping for the podcast
(01:46):
is questioning where we're supposed to be and when we
have a passion in our heart, when we're searching and
seeking for our meaning, our purpose, and everything in life
may feel either out of whack or alignment or contrary
to our purpose, like being in a job because yes,
(02:08):
we need to pay the bills, we have responsibilities, but
there are other dreams that are seated in our heart
and we can't just jump off the deep end and
fulfill those because we have practical responsibilities.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Do you want to speak a little bit to that
to start out?
Speaker 3 (02:24):
I think you nail on the head, Like a lot
of times I feel like I'm stuck in the position
that I'm in, and you know, my job is one
hundred percent commission and I have the stressors of paying
the bills, paying my mortgage, putting food on the table,
but also having this like deep sense of feeling like
I'm meant for something more and not really knowing where
to go. Talking to friends, family, that sort of thing
(02:45):
can help, but just kind of figuring out in my
own mind where I can go to find a deeper
sense of purpose or you know, is it a completely
different job. I don't know, you know, and it's kind
of hard to find my way.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Thank you for sharing because it resonates with me certainly.
And I think back personally to when I was in
healthcare years ago and some of my intuitive gifts were
coming through, and I had this deep passion and purpose
that was growing within me, this call, this call of
the soul. And I was starting to feel not right sized,
(03:22):
you know, in my job. And it wasn't that I
wasn't doing a good job or putting my heart and soul,
but there was a discomfort because I felt like, gosh,
am I letting myself down? Am I letting my soul down?
Am I not fulfilling my God given talents? So instead
of me just being hard on myself, like we all
can be super self critical and hard on ourself, it
(03:45):
was like, wait a minute, am I letting my soul down?
Am I missing my purpose? So it goes and when
I hear you talking, that's what I feel in you.
Is not just the judgmental, self critical stuff, the chatter
in the head, the mind, but like this feeling in
your heart that something is empty or unfulfilled and you
(04:07):
have to figure it out and you have to figure
it out now or else you're running out of time.
So it's urgency, and it's urgency combined with what's on
your plate today? Does that resonate?
Speaker 3 (04:19):
I feel like the mindless chatter that's going on, and
like the you know, negative self talk, it tends to
want leave me, to want to escape, and whether it's
scrolling social media or Netflix or whatever it may be,
it's just breeding this kind of like mind mus chatter.
I just feel like time's passing by, you know, and
I just I want I want to find some answers
(04:40):
and like push myself out of this right, Yeah, of
this feeling of being lost almost you know.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Yeah, thank you, because it does feel like we can
be lost or super uncertain and in the void. I
have a good friend and she calls that being in
the hallway when it's like you're in this hallway and
there's all these doors, and one of them are open yet,
but you have these hopes and wishes and dreams that
are on the other side of the doors. The door
has yet to even crack open or unlock, and it's
(05:08):
like you're pacing the hallway. And that is this place
of getting comfortable in uncertainty. And when we come into
those places where we feel stuck, one of the greatest
things that I know to do is to get really
comfortable being stuck, because there are times in life to
stand still and yes, you show up for work, Yes
(05:29):
you do your job, you get the day to day
life stuff done, but when you feel that overwhelming heaviness
that is almost deep in the soul. It's kind of
an irritability or pervasive feeling which is in the unconscious
and the subconscious, but it's bubbling up. A lot of
times we feel it in our heart and evens as
I'm talking to you, it's like I've got a little heartburn,
(05:50):
and I'm like, I don't think I ate anything that
would cause that, but I can feel it in your
heart space.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Your heart feels restricted.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
And one of the things that I know about you
is you are kind, You are giving, and there is
this energy that wants to share and connect with other people.
So when our hearts feel restricted, and when our soul
feels like it is not out there to play and
free and shine, we can feel the tightness in our hearts.
(06:18):
So just to go very simply and metaphysically. When you
notice that you're feeling irritable or stuck or alone, any
of those experiences you express, take a moment and literally
use your breath. Just breathe, Just pause whatever you're doing. Breathe,
(06:39):
but breathe into your like your heart and lungs. Breathe
fully and let your chest expand exhale and let the
oxygen run through. And after you do a couple of
rounds of breath and begin to settle into your body,
focusing on the heart and actually imagining that you're breathing
(06:59):
through your heart. So this forces you to stop the
active mind. It begins to calm the physiological aspects of
anxiety and nerves and frustration. The emotional body balances out
a little bit. But what happens is you're tapping into
your imagination. You're tapping into another muscle, and you're focusing
(07:22):
on the heart. So imagine as your chest rises and
falls that almost there is this cord of light through
the center of your chest and right into your heart.
And if you want to actually imagine what a heart
looks like, what your heart looks like beating in your chest.
We've seen enough medical shows on TV that we all
pretty much know what the heart looks like as an organ.
(07:44):
So imagine the heart in whatever way it comes to you,
and imagine you are breathing through your chest space. And
you can do this pretty rapidly and it actually will
recenter you and retrain your head and your heart because
there's about eighteen inches between the head and the heart,
(08:05):
and usually those two things are not interconnected. So by
breathing into the heart, you're just inviting in more space,
more clarity. But the breath is inviting in organic movement,
not you trying to get unstuck. Well, go let me
go make this phone call, let me reach out to
this person. Okay, I'll go do the laundry. You know
(08:25):
where we want to distract by being busy. I mean
I do that? Do you do that?
Speaker 3 (08:30):
Yeah? All the time.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Like, if I'm feeling not enough or stuck or uncomfortable,
my first go to is, well, let me go do
something and be productive. You know, it doesn't matter if
it is the laundry or I'm responding to an email
rather than just saying, oh shoot, I feel stuck, I
feel uncertain, I feel frustrated, and just going into it
(08:52):
for a few moments, and it's kind of amazing.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
What will happen.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Let's say you do that for one minute, and then
once you do it for one minute, you kind of
want to do it for two minutes. I will tell
you this, because it starts to actually feel really good
in the body and you start to feel lighter and
more spacious and more aware. But your imagination pulling the
imagination because right now, what's going on with you and
so many people out there, because I can see it
(09:17):
and feel it is we are using all of our
senses on overdrive, the natural senses, so our voice, our
ability to listen, our taste, our touch, you know, all
of our sensory abilities, but we forget to tap into
the imagination as this this extra sensory ability that is
(09:39):
the gateway to the clarity, the intuition, the still small
voice within, and that's what you're tapping into by doing that.
So using that as a practice when you are consciously
aware that you're feeling that. And what the other thing
that that does is it brings you into conscious awareness.
It gets you very present, and then you do something
productive that is also tapping into a higher frequency. It's
(10:04):
not just something in the third dimension. You're actually tapping
into the fourth, fifth, and sixth dimensions. So the fourth
dimension being this universal consciousness, the fifth dimension being of
the heart, and the sixth dimension being that which builds
new worlds. I mean, there's there's so much to it
to think about, but that practice, the in and of itself,
(10:26):
takes you from a very grounded space, so from the
first dimension all the way to the sixth dimension, which
is revolutionary. And you're doing it through the heart, which
is your place of unconditional love, your place of peace,
which is all the things that you're not feeling when
you're in the stuck place in our human body.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. And two things
in particular, like finding the peace first and then comes
the clarity, Like those two words in my mind just
kind of length right, finding the peace through breath or
however you do it, and then comes the clarity for
you to say, Okay, now this is like where I'm
actually feeling this is where I want to go and
this is this is the next step for me to
(11:08):
take right.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
So, and what you just said is so wise because
what I heard you say is finding the piece, then
comes the clarity. Well, the piece is like that quantum field,
the zero point field of anything is possible, unlimiting possibilities.
So you've automatically in a very succinct way. So this
is quality over quantity stuff, guys, in a very succinct way.
(11:32):
You've reset your nervous system, You've re entrained your head
and your heart. You've moved through dimensions. You know you're
doing all. You're tapping into the imagination, the intuition. But
you've gone from this place of stuck and frustration into
peace and clarity, which opens you up to what comes next.
(11:54):
And it creates that space, the infinite possibility space, because
we can't figure out that out where we want to
go next from the stock space. But the more that
we repeat this, so the more you practice this, the
quicker you will be able to hit the reset button
and find your clarity, which is resilience. And that hits
(12:16):
home with a lot of people is feeling resilient because
we're all struggling with burnout, not feeling connected, the overwhelm
of the holidays and what you're sharing right now, it's
like the stresses and pressures you're feeling, well, guess what
they double down for all most of us, all of
us me included during the holidays, and it's the end
(12:37):
of the year. So automatically we say, oh, my gosh,
what have I accomplished this year? I thought I was
going to fulfill my hopes, wishes and dreams. Or I
haven't made enough money, or I haven't healed this, And
then we automatically feel like we're running out of time,
which goes back to that sense of urgency that you're
already experiencing, and you're right on time for that. By
the way, you know, even when I look at your numerology,
(12:57):
you're in a nine year, and the inner of the
nine automatically creates a sense of urgency.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Because it pushes you to go higher.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
The heaviness you have right now, Greg is not just
about what's going on in your day. Your soul is
trying to connect and wake you up to your passions
and your purpose, and you're searching for that.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
You've been doing the.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
Work, but now it's letting it flow in. So creating
that space helps it flow in. And repeating that just
it's like tilling the garden. You know, you're getting little
weeds out and you're just weeding the garden. And for
most of us, I'm not a big gardener, so that's
not my thing, you know, but I have I've gotten
better with my plants, and really I have some plants
(13:42):
that are thriving. But I'm not a big gardener. But
what I do know is weeds pop up. You know,
even like after you've weeded the garden, weeds continue to
pop up. So it's not like this is a one
and done exercise. These are things that we get to
add into our spiritual and personal toolkit. In addition to
that and talking about clearing your purpose and taking action
(14:02):
around it. But yet being in the job you're in
and suiting up, showing up doing a good job. You know,
you're on commission. That's already stressful. I have been on
commission before. I know many people that are, and it's
always like you're chasing, you know, because it's like, well, yes,
I might have had this big windfall, but I already
have to get ready for the next one. You know,
I think about realtors sometimes, and you know, I know
(14:25):
some amazing realtors, but it's like they can sell a
big house and they're already looking for the next listing,
and that it can just feel like this cycle that
never ends. So you already have a job that breeds
that urgency cycle. And guess what the clarity in that is.
And I'm laughing a little bit about it because it's
(14:45):
it's simple, yet it's a big thing. Is your soul
very clearly is saying I don't want to be in
that cycle of urgency. You know, get one commission and
move on to the next. I'm craving stability. I'm craving
something like something in your soul is saying I want
a solid foundation.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
I want stability.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
Does that resonate, okay, because that way we can build
on that like that one, you know, And I was
like I just realized what it just came to me.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
I could see it.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Like your soul was like, yeah, stability. He's craving he's
tired of the chase. You know, he can do the
chase because he can hack it and he's proficient and
he can hustle. You know, he's he's got it. I
know you've got the skills, but you're like, but I don't.
That's not what I want to be when I grow up.
I want stability. I want to be able to be
flexible and take vacation. I want to know that I
(15:36):
have a steady income stream coming in. And then on
top of it, you want to love what you do.
So you got two big things going on. I want
to love what I do and I want to feel stability.
And then also there's a third thing your soul is laughing,
is I want to feel seen. I want to feel recognized.
And I mean, like, I know people resonate with that.
(15:57):
I want to feel useful, but I want to feel
recognized in what I do. And you know, for me,
I resonate with that very clearly because it goes back to.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
Am I enough?
Speaker 3 (16:08):
You know?
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Am I making people proud? You know that's the little
voice in me. Am I making people proud? Are they
proud of me? And I mean, like that's a big thing.
So also I had a really good friend reflect this
back to me recently, and what she said was, what
did you do in your childhood when you played by yourself?
(16:29):
Do you remember like when you were not playing with
your siblings, like when you were out on your own, Like,
what did you love to do by yourself where you
could totally entertain your yourself? What did you do in
your childhood when you played by yourself? Do you remember,
like when you were not playing with your siblings, like
(16:51):
when you were out on your own, Like, what did
you love to do by yourself where you could totally
entertain your.
Speaker 3 (16:57):
Yourself some sort of sport or it was like a
video game of some sort one or the other.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
Okay, well this tracks with what I know personally about you,
So this, okay, these things track. So what she reflected
back to me, which I thought was so wise, was
the things that we did when we were younger, that
we were able to entertain ourselves and feel right sized
and have fun. But especially in a solitary moment, that
(17:24):
is a reflection of what we're craving sometimes as an adult.
So you being active in your physical body or competing
or out there, you know, being pumped up and motivated
where you're physically using your body, you're interacting with people,
and even you know, like playing some sort of sport
where you are on a team. There's this element of teamwork.
(17:47):
And isn't that funny that that's what you and I
talked about before we got on.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
The call, is teamwork.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
So we'll we'll share that in a minute, because that's
not what you're feeling necessarily right now in.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Work or who are my people at work?
Speaker 1 (17:59):
Like I don't feel like I have, you know, certain
people that I can go to with my challenges or
strategize with. But being on a team playing sports, you
got to relet you you are just one of many.
So the things that you're experiencing right now and your
inner child are trying to connect and right now they're disconnected.
Is that?
Speaker 3 (18:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 3 (18:21):
Yeah? Yeah, I want to do like a marathon or
something like something challenging that like it's going to push
me to my physical and mental limits.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (18:29):
And I think it goes back to like that feeling
of like I'm just like feeling like way down. And
when you said that, I kind of thought of like
like me being like pushed down into a trampoline and
I'm like I'm ready to catapult, but I don't know
where to put the energy necessarily.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Yeah, you know, And that's such a great analogy because
it's also so playful, and we can all imagine jumping
on a trampoline, whether we're adults or when we're little.
I felt so freaking free on the trampoline. I would
turn music on and jump on the trampoline forever. And
my neighbors. I wasn't allowed to get a trampoline, but
our neighbors had one and they let us come over
and jump on it. And I would go and I
(19:03):
would bring my little jam box and I would turn
music on and jump on the trampoline. So that is
one thing that I did when I was little, And
now I'm thinking, gosh, how do I jump on the
trampoline today? Well, maybe I need to get one, you know,
maybe I get a trampoline, And that's a gateway to
me creating clarity. But what's interesting for you is talking
about getting unstuck. Guess what you could do. You could
(19:24):
train for a marathon. I mean, you have to decide
you want to do it, but you don't have to
go like that much.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
In excess, you could.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
Train for, you know, a ten k and find people
to train with. Because that was your other question, and
I want to come back to that that This is
what Greg and I were talking about before we got
on the call, is you know, who are the people
that I can go to that feel like my team,
that I feel like a sense of camaraderie and connection.
And we were talking about not necessarily going to people
(19:54):
at work and not necessarily going to our family. Who
do we have that creates communit unity for us, that
pumps us up and motivates us. So for you right now,
it is finding some sort of sport or team or
challenge or goal that you're working towards and then not
just training for it by yourself, but finding a crew
(20:16):
to start running with or start doing your training with.
And I know it's cold, getting colder because it's the winner,
But that's totally something that you could do. Is you
could figure out, Okay, I want to train for something.
Let me start doing some research. And I will tell
you this. The simplest thing you could do around that
right now is set the intention is, Hey, I don't
(20:39):
know where to start in this, but I'm ready to
train for something. I'm ready to springboard off that trampoline
because all this energy is compressed in me, So put
it out there and then I guarantee you because I
can feel it and see it. But I just this
is the way that this stuff works is somebody will
say to you, oh, yeah, hey, we've got a running
group or we've got a triathlone. Yet somebody will be
(21:02):
doing some sort of training in the next week or
so in your periphery, and you're gonna say, no kidding.
I was just thinking I wanted to do something. How
do I join? Is it too late for me to join?
When is the race? When is whatever it is? So
be on the lookout for that, but set the intention
because that will give you something that starts to motivate
(21:25):
your energy field and obviously move your body, which is
a great component of that, but it'll also give you
new people, places and energies to connect with that ignite
your spirit.
Speaker 3 (21:37):
Yeah. I'm just noticing a lot of things clicking for
me right now throughout this conversation. But that kind of
relationship with a friend or even a stranger, I just know,
like in my heart that conversations that come up in
those moments when you're with a team or when you're
training for something with somebody else is much healthier or
deeper than just calling your friend and just being like,
(21:59):
oh my gosh, horrible day of work. This thinks I'm
not happy with this, blah blah blah. Right, Yeah, there's
a different type of conversation that happens within a team
or if there's like a similar goal in line, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
Yeah, And I know you and I have talked about
things that are in your heart around fulfilling your meaning
and your purpose, and you know it focuses on physical fitness, teamwork, leading, coaching.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
There's a there's an element to that. So what you
do is you live as.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
If, which means okay, then I need to join something
right now and train for it. You know, months ago
I started doing pilates. I got your sister to start
doing pilates too. She's on the bandwagon, but you know
she so she and I both thought, she's like, I
love plates.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
I was like, I know me too.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
But what I love about pilates is two things, well
three things, but the main things are one, I have
to drive there, and it's a little bit of a
trek for me, so I have the time to and
from in the car that is MySpace my time, and
whether I listen to a podcast or I turn the
radio on in the car, I find so much mad that,
and I will I will do breath exercises through my
(23:03):
heart like we were talking about, while I pay attention
to the road. And there's something about that energy and
trainment that is very highly vibrational and healing for me.
So I love the trip there and back and making
the time for it. But when I get to pilates,
I enjoy the people around me. I love going to
(23:24):
my plates class and knowing that, you know, I can say,
oh my gosh, I'm exhausted from my morning. I'm so
glad to be here, and the person next to me
to be like, I'm glad you're here too, or I
had a rough day, or you know what, I'm having
a good day.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Let's make it a great day.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
And we laugh and we make jokes and we grunt
together and breathe and all the things. And the third
thing I love about the pilates for me is I
have to be centered. I have to sit there and
use my breath or else I'm gonna do something funky
on the reformer and fall off. I mean, I have
to be in my body and focusing my energy, and
I can't be you know, back in the emails that
(23:58):
I was sending earlier the call that I was on
or what I have in two hours. I have to
be present, so we get very present and focused and transcendent,
which helps us intuitively. So your homework is one hundred percent.
Find your goal, your team goal, and join up, sign
up and start training because those people. And what's interesting
(24:20):
about that is I feel very deeply for you that
those people that you begin to connect with are going
to become some of your really good friends. You're ready
for new friendships. That's another thing they're showing me, and
I think that resonates with a lot of people. It's
not that we're leaving our old friends behind, but sometimes
(24:41):
we need new people and their energy to motivate us
and inspire us or show us parts of ourselves that
might be dormant or compressed, like on the trampoline what
you were talking about.
Speaker 3 (24:51):
Yeah, I think I've been feeling that for the past
few months. Actually, yeah, and not something that's been necessarily conscious,
But when you say it, it's like, yeah, that makes.
Speaker 1 (24:59):
Perfect what I'm thinking about personally for me, and how
this can expand your network of influence, your tribe of people,
and create healthier connections that.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
Also help us reach the ladder up.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
That's a saying your sister told me we were kind
of in the Shoots and Ladders analogy. It's like we
get to reach the ladder up and we get to
reach it down. But this reaches the ladder up sometimes.
But by me going to pilates, building some new community there,
looking forward to it being present, all of the energy
that that has created has also encouraged me to reach
(25:38):
out and network and connect with people that I might
have been afraid of rejection from before, or procrastinated around
or been lazy around. And that didn't happen overnight, But
I will tell you over the last eight months, six
eight months, the Pilates and that community and engagement has
(25:59):
given me more motivation to reach out and connect with
people that inspire me, people I want to network with
and get to know that I'm curious to share ideas
with or get their feedback. And I've been networking more
as a result of partly the Pilates and building that
new community. So it's like you're taking one step at
(26:22):
a time and you don't have to see what's what's
up at the top of the stairs, but it's doing something,
creating traction and knowing that it's building momentum or energy.
I think that that is going to be really helpful
over the next few months. And because it's winter, and
you know how we get kind of hibernating and dormant
over winter and we might gain weight or you know,
(26:42):
it gets so muggy and dark and gloomy outside. And
it's the holidays, so you know, we can just you know,
eat more than we normally do with parties and obligations,
but actually joining up and doing something right now with
a team, you'll even feel better about yourself and and
even more.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
Like you, you.
Speaker 1 (27:03):
Know, that beautiful version of you that is in there
with the compressed trampoline image when you show up for family,
when you show up for the holidays and events and connecting.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
I do want to go back to a.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Question you asked me that we touched on a little
bit before the call, But you were asking me about
you know, I have people at work, I'm connected, I've
got my team, but I also feel like an island
and I don't really have people to talk to.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
Let's talk about that a minute, and we can walk
through some ways to shift that.
Speaker 3 (27:38):
Sure. Yeah, so I feel like a lot of times
I will go to family or friends and then you know,
they're great and always supportive, but sometimes they're reaffirming what
might not be what you feel like. They might say
you're doing a great job, right, You're like, look at
all these things that you've done, and it doesn't really
feel good to me because I'm like feeling that compressed
(28:01):
state that we talked about. So and I know there's
more right, But then at work, I don't feel like
that I can really talk deeply with certain people because
it's my manager, or it's a coworker that I don't
really trust fully, or you know, they just don't see
how to eye with me on certain things. I can
just feel that or they don't see it the way
(28:23):
I do. So just maybe you could walk me through
some ways to find ways that I can help myself
in finding purpose within work or just finding ways to
help myself in general, like mentally getting through the days right.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
Absolutely, and again, the holidays tend to exacerbate these feelings
more and people out there are experiencing that disconnect or
that isolation and work, even on a team and especially
you know with people who work remotely or if you
don't necessarily feel comfortable sharing with your boss or seeing
(28:57):
eye to eye with someone. That's life. We get those
experiences in life. So finding ways to fill your cup
up in other areas for me, I have found actually
helps me to be more authentic and connected in a
workspace where I already may feel disconnected. So yes, going
(29:19):
back to what we talked about about you joining a
team finding something, I think that is going to be
a huge catalyst for your energy field, revitalizing and feeling
and experiencing that sense of connection, and then it will
overflow into work scenarios. So that is one aspect that
will already help. But additionally, with family, I want to
talk about family first and then we'll talk about work.
(29:42):
One of the things I learned a long time ago
is my family, my family of origin, they know a
certain dance with me, and we have a certain dynamic,
We have a history all.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Of those aspects of ourselfs. So a lot of.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
Times they enable us. And it's not that you know,
and we enable them. You know, it goes that street
goes both ways.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
We do this old.
Speaker 1 (30:05):
Dance, you know, And it's not that anybody doesn't love
us or see us or want us to feel better.
But usually when we're stuck or upset or aggravated, we'll
pick up the phone and call a family member. My
mom is now deceased, but I can remember a long
time ago when I was really in my lower places,
the first phone call would be my mom, and as
(30:26):
much as she loved me and wanted me to be
out of that, she would commiserate with me or enable me.
And it wasn't that she was trying to do it.
It just we had been doing that same dance. And
I had a very wise mentor say to me, Amanda,
the next time you're stuck, you're frustrated, you don't know
what to do, you know, and you want to go
(30:47):
and first pick up the phone and call or text
your mom, do.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
Not do it. And I was like, what do you mean,
don't do it?
Speaker 1 (30:53):
And she said no, because if you do what you did,
you're gonna get what you got. You're gonna get that
same response. You're gonna create that same energy loop, the
same information. It's going to feel the same in your body.
You're gonna even you could be triggered or it exacerbates it.
It's not going to create new solutions. And she said,
call me. She says, you call me first, whether you've
(31:14):
had something joyful happen or you are losing your you
know what, And she said, you call me, and you
will talk through it. We will process, it will clarify,
it will either celebrate the win or we will walk
through the struggle and find new tools, new solution, new
ways to see what's going on. And then you get
to share it with your mom, Then you get to
(31:36):
share it with your sister, whatever it may be. And
it's not that we don't lean on and rely on family,
because I am all about finding ways of healthily building
and healing and growing our family relationships. But when I
am in a gross spurt and you're in a growth
spurt like you are, you're in a nine personal year
in your numerology, which is all about closure and completion
(31:56):
before you bust through into your one year, which is
going to feel like over lap for a while, Like
it just is. So you've got a lot of like
eclipse kind of changeover energy. But you're in a gross
spurt and your soul is all this like compressed energy,
just like you're trampoline, Which is the most brilliant, brilliant
analogy you could have given. And it also relates to,
you know, childhood feelings of not being able to burst
(32:20):
up and really jump up and be bright and shine.
So let me ask you this who And if the
answer is no one, that's okay too.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
Who in your life?
Speaker 1 (32:29):
Do you have someone in your life who feels like
that person you can pick up the phone and connect
with and share the higher the low and they can
really healthfully hold space.
Speaker 3 (32:41):
Yeah, I mean they're probably one or two people I
feel like I could do that way.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
Yeah, okay, So here's the deal with that.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
And if you're out there and you're like, I don't
know who I would call, I don't know who to call,
because that is you know, some people will have a
person or two that they know can hold space for them.
And if you don't have some on a hold space
for you, start to pray about it because that person
will appear and they may be in your periphery. You
(33:07):
just may not be ready to ask them for help
or share vulnerably from your heart. So that is something
to set intentions around and put out there. I need
someone who is safe. I need someone who helps me
be more clear in my mind, body, spirit and how
I'm growing how I'm healing. But what you can do, Greg,
is with those couple of people like today, and this
(33:29):
is an action item. Today is later this afternoon, reach
out to one or both of them. So between today
and tomorrow, reach out to one or both of them
and say, hey, I just want you to know that
I appreciate you for these things in my life.
Speaker 2 (33:44):
So, and I've talked.
Speaker 1 (33:46):
A lot about appreciation versus gratitude this month. That is
a big theme of really tapping into this higher vibrational
frequency of appreciation. So reach out to them and tell
them why you appreciate them, so that way you're clear
on why they hold safe space for you and what
they reflect back that you're craving. And then also say
to them, hey, I'm going through a growth spurt right
(34:08):
now in life, and I'm struggling in these areas that
you may know, and I'm feeling, you know, uncomfortable in
my own skin. Would it be okay from time to
time when I have stuff going on, I pick up
the phone and if you have time, we make space
to problem solve and troubleshoot this stuff like ask them
to be your space, you know, and it's invite someone
(34:30):
in because that's also endearing, and endearment is a very
high vibrational energy, and if anything, you're a very endearing human.
I know that about you, and you and I share
this like innate kindness where we're sensitive and we don't
want to let people down. But it also when we
feel that we are endeared to and buy someone, it
is brilliant heart space energy of true connection. So you
(34:54):
endear them by being vulnerable but saying, hey, will you
be this person for me? I'm not going to abuse
that privilege, you know, but will you be there for me?
And also will you be there for me when some
something really good happens so I can call you and
tell you something good happened.
Speaker 3 (35:09):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (35:10):
Yeah, that's so simple, but it's sometimes so hard for
us to pick up a thousand pound phone.
Speaker 3 (35:15):
Yeah, no, it definitely is difficult, even for someone like me,
who I would say is like pretty vulnerable. And I'm
okay doing that, especially with friends and family. But I
really like the way you put it, like, hey, I'm
going through a growth spurt, because that kind of like
sets the stage for yourself and you're just like putting
it out there in the world. But then also it
shows them like, hey, things are gonna be a little
(35:35):
bit different here, right, And I need you to continue
to show up for me the way you have. But
I'm going somewhere and I need your support in this
way and that way, right, And it's not going to
be the old song and dance that you talked about, right, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
And in the end my last episode, I talked about
just what are the dreams and beliefs that you're just
reaching up for it like you're standing on your tippy
toes reaching for And what this is doing towards a
belief and a dream is I want connection. I want
meaningful connections and support and I want to grow and
(36:11):
hold that space. Who can I just reach up for
and ask to help me do that. It's a little
bit of a reach because it means being vulnerable, but
it's also saying I'm going through a gross burt and
I can't do this alone. I need somebody to help
me be accountable, help me when i'm a rational you know,
or I can't think clearly or I'm in a tailspin.
And I also want you to be there because this
(36:33):
is the important part of it that I think adds
so much value is I also want you to be
there for me when really good things happen too.
Speaker 3 (36:42):
Yeah, that's perfect.
Speaker 1 (36:43):
And then it'll in turn help you on a professional
level with communicating where you may not see eye to eye,
or you may not feel appreciated or valued in a
work scenario, or you may not be thinking and strategizing
the same way as another coworker. So I think that
that's an easy place to start. And on top of that,
(37:04):
from an energetic or a spiritual place, the one thing
I know that works best, and I've used this many
times throughout the years, is when I go to bed
at night, I will say things like, hey, soul, hey,
higher self, connect me with so and so, so and
so and so and so's higher self, like in your
you know, at work, connect me with their higher selves
(37:25):
for our most optimal outcomes, to create greater teamwork and cohesion,
for abundance and you know, creativity and outcomes that beyond
my belief. So literally, what you're doing is you're talking
to your higher self and you're also connecting with their
higher selves, and you're not intervening with their free will.
(37:48):
You're just saying, hey, while I'm sleeping tonight, strategize can
you connect my soul with their soul so we can
formulate some ideas and do something that's going to be
for the greatest good, something that it's going to have
unlimited potential, that's going to create more cohesion and teamwork.
Show me, help me. Can you do that, soul? Okay,
thank you, I'm going to go to sleep. And that
(38:08):
way it takes some of the human stress and pressure
off of you, Greg, And also it develops intuition further
because you're using your higher consciousness. You're engaging your higher consciousness,
you're engaging the higher consciousness of the people around you.
So you're starting to think, believe, dream bigger. That's that
(38:30):
reaching up in the closet on your tippy toes, Like
it's just reaching up and it's not stressful. It's like,
let me just give this to God, or let me
give this to my soul. Hey, can you figure out
in troubleshoot this for me? Because I want it to
be brilliant. And one of the things that they're showing
me your soul is making the decision today right now
(38:51):
while we're on this call, to want it to be better,
because I know that's not where you want to be
in two years. I know you want you have new horizons,
new things coming for you, and those things will start
to come about into next year. But right now, why
not say, Okay, this is not the job that I
want forever, but I want to go out with a bang,
(39:13):
and I actually want to feel so freaking you know,
muscled up and great in where I leave this job.
So come on, because God hadn't taken that job off
of your plate yet, so there's lessons still to learn.
So it's it's just shifting your perspective and saying, hey,
you know what, today, going forward, I'm going to make
the decision that there's going to be some new beginnings,
(39:35):
new opportunities and work, new teamwork that's going to come
out of nowhere that I don't expect, and I'm ready
to believe for that versus believing the same day in
and day out.
Speaker 3 (39:45):
Yeah that's huge. Yeah, what's a perspective switch that I
could have about like of phone calls coming in, like
not another phone call right, rather than that, but like,
how can I look at it where it's like I
can shift those kind of feelings into like, no, this
could be an opportunity, right, you.
Speaker 2 (40:03):
Know, that's a question.
Speaker 1 (40:04):
It's a great question, and I know it resonates with people,
and it resonates with me because I will sometimes say, oh,
not another text message, you know, or oh my gosh,
don't they know what I'm doing right now?
Speaker 2 (40:15):
I get really self important. And here's the deal.
Speaker 1 (40:19):
First of all, I'm being really blatantly honest about that,
and I'm laughing at it, and I'm not dismissing it
because I laugh at myself that way, because sometimes that
is the ego, the small voice saying I don't have
enough time, I don't have enough space. Look at what's
on my plate, and it's fear. It's straight up fear.
Speaker 2 (40:37):
It's not love. So when my first initial gut.
Speaker 1 (40:42):
Response is from fear, I laugh at it because I'm like, yep,
there's she goes again, trying to run the world, you know,
and thinking she's the most important and in charge. So
I notice that very quickly. I laugh at it, and
then I look at wherever the incoming phone call is is,
or the text message that's come in or the email,
(41:03):
and I just say, you know, may I respond to.
Speaker 2 (41:06):
This with an open heart. I should be so grateful
that this.
Speaker 1 (41:08):
Person is reaching out or appreciative that they're wanting my support,
or they want to invite me to this, or they
want to share X y Z with me. It's making
the decision to really be honest about the little fear
based ugly reaction that we first have. So that part
right there is where the treasure is, is really noticing
(41:30):
how ugly we can be sometimes, and that's the small
voice in the head, and then saying, hey, help me
do this with an open heart. Help me do this
with an open mind. Take a breath, and if the
phone is ringing and you can answer it, even though
you've had a long day, even though you're tired, answer it.
And this is really important, and I think this is
(41:51):
great for the holidays, and this will help everyone. Setting
a boundary with your conversations if you need to, meaning
whether you're calling a friend back or supporting someone or
it's a work call. You know, being able to say
I'm available from two thirty to three o'clock hard stop
(42:12):
and hold your own boundaries and honor those boundaries because
that's the energy that you have to give the time
in your calendar and your space. And I know, for me,
like at night with my husband, I've gotten really good.
I mean about I'm not on the phone late at night.
I haven't really done that much for years because that
(42:33):
time for me is sacred.
Speaker 2 (42:34):
I have the phone is down, I'm just not on
the phone.
Speaker 1 (42:38):
But every now and then there's a phone call I
need to take, or a friend is really struggling, and
I notice that, and I'm able to say to my husband,
you know, when it's our quality time, Hey, I need
to take this phone call because so and so, you know,
needs a little bit of support for me.
Speaker 2 (42:57):
It's that work for you, you know, And.
Speaker 1 (42:59):
Not that I need his permission, but I do it
because it also honors my home life and my personal
and professional life in a multitude of ways. So I'm
communicating with my spouse, and I'm then saying to the
person on the phone, Hey, I'm available for the next
thirty minutes.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
What do you need? You know?
Speaker 1 (43:20):
And I don't always I don't really say I'm available
for this many minutes, but sometimes I will, depending on
who who the person is, I will sometimes that's necessary
because I can talk a lot they can.
Speaker 3 (43:33):
So yeah, I mean a lot of times, you give
a client an inch and I'll take a mile, right
so I think, and I'm setting those boundaries is super important.
Speaker 1 (43:42):
So yeah, and I mean, I tell you what last night,
and like just full disclosure, it was I don't know
it was. It was late and I had just gotten home.
It had been a really long day, and I mean
my day had been full professionally, me doing the service
work that I do, showing up, I did my pilates,
all the.
Speaker 2 (44:01):
Things happened in a day.
Speaker 1 (44:02):
And come eight thirty eight forty five, my husband Dennis
and I are about to watch something on TV and
chill out with the dogs, and a text message came
through and my first response was, Oh, my gosh, don't
they know this is my time? Like this is after hours,
you know, don't they know what I did in my day?
(44:23):
And I'm reiterating this because the more clear I get
about that energy in my response, because I felt myself
pick up the phone and then get really self important
and really protective over my boundaries. Well, guess what, Amanda,
If I'm that protective, I didn't need to pick up
the phone to read the text message in the first place.
But what I did was I picked up the phone.
(44:45):
I saw it, and I decided, you know what this person.
I need to respond to them. I would like to
respond to them. And I said to my husband, I said, hey,
I need to respond to this text message. Can we
start this show? Of course we were watching something on TV.
Can we start this show in five minutes. Let me
have this text conversation so I can respond because I
(45:06):
didn't do this before, and they had texted me back
about something and I had dropped the ball. So I
made the decision and he was like, yeah, no problem,
but deciding when those boundaries can be a little fluid,
but also still communicating my.
Speaker 2 (45:19):
Boundaries to my husband.
Speaker 1 (45:20):
Does that make sense when I'm talking about, yeah, being
flexible in my boundaries, like this is my sacred time,
but also I wanted to respond to this person because
I cared about them, But then also communicating the boundary
to my husband, like there's something about communication and this
also will support you and anybody out there. The more
(45:41):
we clarify our voice telling people what we need, asking
people for what we need, communicating clearer and better, the
more unstuck we get, and especially in our hopes, wishes
and dreams and manifesting those into reality.
Speaker 3 (45:57):
That really hits home for me because and I sometimes
feel like I'm in like a gross spurt. Then I
can get that self important feeling you kind of described, right,
And then the first thing that goes out the window
for me is like communication and with my wife or
with friends, I'm like, I don't have time for that.
I don't even say why. Yeah. Yeah, And you mentioned
(46:17):
the thing about asking if I can do that. I
just thought it was so good, like your self important
self will will say, well, why do I have to
ask permission? Right? But when really like, it's just it's communication.
Is respecting yourself, is respecting your spouse or friend, and
it's also respecting the.
Speaker 1 (46:36):
Work, right, Yeah, And communication is something I know that
we all work on and we can be better at.
So it's listening to our inside voice, getting very clear
with that, and especially those first reactions of don't you
know this is my time, because that's also emotional, it's
a very defensive energy. It's a self important It's just
(46:58):
this inflamed ego. And for you or for me or
any of us out there to be able to notice
the inflammation of the ego versus the inflammation of the soul,
because those two things are diabolically opposed, they are different forces,
because when my ego is inflamed, I'm thinking small, I'm
(47:21):
limiting my perception. I'm playing a finite game. I am
blocking all of this abundance, infinite possibility and energy of
the spirit that is quantum. So conversely, noticing when someone text,
someone reach out, reaches out, you get an email and
(47:45):
you're excited about it. Oh my gosh, I've been waiting
for this to come through. I was just thinking about
this client the other day, or I.
Speaker 2 (47:53):
Can't believe you just called. I was just talking about you,
you know. So the opposite of.
Speaker 1 (47:58):
That is this, oh my gosh, which is this expansion
of spirit and it's creativity and it's passion, and it's
inclusive and it's whole and it's not lonely.
Speaker 2 (48:12):
It's connected. So on the opposite side of that, notice.
Speaker 1 (48:17):
When your first response is expansive, joyful, connective, because that's
where you want to marinate for a minute and to
close that out. The cool thing is when I have
somebody who reaches out to me, sends an email, or
you know, I run into somewhere in life and I'm
(48:39):
excited to see them, and there's that kind of animation
and burst of joy from my heart. I take note
of those people, and a lot of times I'll say,
what was it about them that I enjoyed interacting with?
Why did my spirit light up around them? And I'll
notice about myself, Oh, it's because every time I see them,
(49:02):
they hold space and are quiet and still, you know.
I mean, there are people that I'm so animated. Sometimes
I love people who are just nurturing, calm and grounded
because I can be you know, up in the air
and all over the place, I can be a lot, right,
and they gently hold space. Yeah right, I have this Wait,
(49:24):
I have this woman in pilates that I who I love.
Her name is Tara, and she's so she's such a badass.
She's so cool, and she happens to be a reiki
master and she's just and she's like a mom and
both of her boys are in college and she's she's
just amazing and she's just so gentle and strong and wise.
(49:45):
And we were talking after a class one day and
I'm like animated about something and she's like, Amanda, let's
go outside the whole studio can hear us, you know?
And it was so gentle and it was her way
of saying, come on Amanda, like, let me at you outside,
so you're not disturbing, you know, being the center of
attention and disturbing everybody's piece.
Speaker 2 (50:05):
And I wasn't looking for attention.
Speaker 1 (50:06):
I just mean it was like, yeah, but she had
this gentle way and we had the best conversation. I
look forward to seeing her. But when I got in
the car, I thought, gosh, that was that was so
organic And that's one of the things I love about her.
She feels organic to me, And what does that show me?
I'm craving more organic relationships in my life, organic experiences.
Speaker 2 (50:29):
So the clues to.
Speaker 1 (50:30):
The people that lift your spirit and light you up,
the interactions are clues to what you're craving in connection,
community relationships.
Speaker 2 (50:38):
I hope it's helpful.
Speaker 1 (50:39):
Was there anything else that you wanted to ask or
cover before we wrap up?
Speaker 3 (50:44):
No, I think there's like a lot for me to
work on, and there were just so many things that
just kind of clicked for me, and like I just
feel lighter and I feel like excited. So I want
to say thank you.
Speaker 2 (50:56):
Yeah, you're welcome.
Speaker 1 (50:57):
And I know that this resonates with other people and
hopefully you all out there are feeling lighter and excited
and can put these practices into play, especially that breathing
exercise of stilling yourself with your breath and then beginning
to imagine that you're breathing through your heart space. So
you're using the imagination with your breath and creating this
(51:19):
infinite synchronicity to put you in that quantum space to
move forward and to get unstuck. But through your breath
and imagination first versus you know, jumping into busyness and
the things we do. I think that's very helpful at
any time, but during the holidays, especially with family and responsibilities.
(51:40):
So thank you so much for Greg for coming on today,
being so candid and forthcoming, and the questions you ask
were they were universal questions that are really I know
they're personal to you, but they I'm sure they were
universal to everyone out there.
Speaker 2 (51:58):
So thank you.
Speaker 3 (52:00):
Thanks for having me. I really appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (52:02):
Okay, everyone, thank you for joining me on Soul Sessions,
and a big thanks to Greg Fazzio again. Reach out,
share any feedback, any synchronicities, any AHA moments, and take care,
be well and happy holidays.
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