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Speaker 1 (00:01):
The best bits of the week with Morgan. It's Listener
Q and day time.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
We're Morgan in a show member answer almost all your questions.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
What's up everybody?
Speaker 3 (00:10):
We are here for listener Q and A.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Abby is with me this weekend. You're alive over there, Abbey.
Speaker 4 (00:16):
I am. Do I look alive?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Are you warm?
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (00:19):
I have warmed up. I was so cold, but yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Studio well shout outs to start.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Laurie wanted to say she loves us both, and then
we also got another one that said no question, just
wanted to say loving the new podcast. So that's cool too.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
I love that.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Yeah, some good little shout outs to start.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Okay, we're diving in. I like to say that a lot,
and I realize I'm trying to take that back, so
we are. Don't ask me.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
I find filler words because I get nervous.
Speaker 4 (00:48):
I've never noticed it.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
Yeah, I do it on.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
The just on the podcast when I'm recording by myself,
I'm trying to not that and say the word like
and uh, that's hard. Words are hard. They just need
to go silent. So if you sure me, just is okay,
I'm not gonna I don't know though, has a double
date be planned. Love you girls here work. It talked
(01:10):
about a little bit on part one.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
It's been talked about, it's been talked about. You know,
we have been really busy. I will say our schedules,
and then on the weekends we just I don't know, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
We're chilling.
Speaker 4 (01:22):
I just when I'm done, like here for the weekend,
I just kind of go off of my own world.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
I'm the same way.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
And like I said, I'm not good at initiating with
people because I just kind of get caught up at
home and I don't really want to get out. I
don't know if that that sounds bad, but probably just
come tired and so.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
No, I think understandably.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
So Abby and I have incredibly busy stuff going on
right now, so it's been a little difficult to even
have personal lives, I know, outside of work.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
But we have it planned now. We have what we're
gonna do.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Yeah, I always have to choose the date. The date.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
Yeah, we're gonna go to dueling pianos, Well, buy you
keys in Laney Wilson's.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Bar, and we're gonna make sure our songs get played. Yes,
just the date, and we do extensively talk about calendar.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
Where is it?
Speaker 1 (02:09):
We will?
Speaker 3 (02:09):
We will?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
We need to do that before you leave.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Yeah, are you writing? And he love songs? Now that
you've got a great guy.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
This is from Leah in Pennsylvania, who loves us both.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Honestly, I haven't really written any Nope, he hasn't inspired any.
He has inspired him. I guess I'm just waiting for
this next one to come out that's more sassy, that
is anti love. So I'm in that head space. I'm
trying to do one thing at a time because I
get overwhelmed easily, and I'm trying to work on the
(02:40):
balance that we were talking about and the other one,
like balance, because right now it's like I focus on
Bobby Bone Show and then the podcast stuff and then
I forget that. It's like, oh, I need to focus
on me too, and so I kind of put that
on the back burner, which is not good. I'm still
playing guitar. I'm practicing that.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
But writing I think you're doing the guitar like a week.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
Oh my gosh. So my boyfriend started playing now and
he's almost better than me, and I'm actually annoyed.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Are you for real? Yes?
Speaker 4 (03:06):
Like he picks it up, so fast, like my brain
just won't pick it up. And I've said that from
the very beginning. That's why I haven't like played guitar
because I get frustrated and he's actually like better and.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
I'm like, oh my gosh, he's just your permanent guitar player.
I know.
Speaker 4 (03:18):
It's what I was thinking, Like, you don't have to
pay him.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Yeah, I give you a case every night exactly, this
is what you get.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Right.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
So when when we're together, he's always picks up a guitar,
He's like, okay, let's play, let's play. And I'm like, okay, fine,
Like he's good at fingerpicking. I'm like it's so hard
and he came out of nowhere. Yes, yes, I'm actually
I'm really annoying. He's very competitive and so am I,
and so he wants to be better than me.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
And I'm like, oh day, so you got this is
also going on right now? Yeah, a lot of things
happening in Atty's brain. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
So no writing, no, but that's next. That's my next song.
I'll do a love song.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
I love song.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
Maybe he can write it with you with his guitar skills.
Speaker 4 (03:55):
I know.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
Laurie from Massachusetts.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
She was to know. Do you have any more shows
planned for this year?
Speaker 4 (04:03):
Nope, none planned, They're none planned.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Just in her basement while boyfriend's playing guitar. Yeah, she's practicing.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
My gosh, dang it. What is a song title?
Speaker 4 (04:15):
Either?
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (04:15):
No for a material?
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Boy for a material?
Speaker 4 (04:18):
Huh? I sing in the car a lot and the showers.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
Because that's my singer, isn't that?
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Yeah, I'm working lay because I'm a singer.
Speaker 4 (04:31):
Yep, that's me.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
What helped you in your single phase while everyone around
you was in a relationship love y'all and she would
like no name or he would like no name. Uh,
I'm not sure where it came from.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
So I feel like I've lived my whole life being
that girl, you know. And like when I go home
every year to Kansas, everybody was married, All my friends
are married, and then I'd be the only one there
with no plus one, you know, And so they're asking
how to deal with that?
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yeah, like what how during the single phase when everybody
else was in love?
Speaker 4 (05:09):
I would say, just like embracing the single and seeing
all the good parts of it, you know, like you're
not tied down to anybody, You can do whatever you want.
You can like go out of town, you can go
out with your friends. You don't have to ask anybody,
you don't have to check with anybody else. So I
think I did that a lot, and like focused on
I had a lot of time more to just focus
on me because I was home alone or whatever, and
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what I want to do and what I want to accomplish.
And when you're dating someone, you're just kind of like,
oh wow, you kind of forget some of that. I
feel like, because you just want to spend time together
and watch.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
Movies, you know. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
I think embrace being single in that season of your life,
because it will come, but just embrace what you have
right now.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
It's really good advice. I the same thing happened to me.
I was I learned to embrace it and take it in.
But I'll also say very genuinely that there were days
where I was so sad and so alone and I
was like, this is never gonna happen for me. I'm
not gonna find this, and I would almost be a
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little bit pessimistic when I'm normally a pretty optimistic, hopeful person.
I'm like, there's no way this is just not gonna happen.
So I think as you embrace because that's the best
thing that you can possibly do for yourself, and take
yourself out on dates and go try and learn some
new things. Because to Happy's point, once you do date someone,
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all that's gonna be gone. The autonomy and getting to
do everything that you want when you want to do
it at that time on your own schedule is gone.
You do have to start considering somebody else. And so
I think doing all the things that you want to
do for yourself is something to focus on and it
allows you to kind of come out of that focusing
on everybody else, but at the same time embracing that
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there's gonna be really crappy days. There are going to
be days you're gonna be sad in days where it's
gonna frustrating, and you just have to let it ride,
like literally let those emotions ride and face them instead
of running away from them because it's only going to
make your experience and all of that worse.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
But also not like drowning them, because I used to
do that and like kind of throw pity parties for
myself sometimes and like you know, I'd be like, oh
my gosh, I would pray and I'd be like why
why can't I have someone like that? Like why when
is it going to be my turn to find somebody
good for me?
Speaker 1 (07:26):
You know?
Speaker 4 (07:26):
And I would just get so mad and like be
crying and stuff. And it's like you can do that,
but don't do that for like weeks at a time,
you know, Like how you can have your moment, have
your day where you're just like, Okay, this is my
day to feel this way, but just try not to
get caught up in it. Try to just like you know,
go go to the gym or do something that you
know is good for you, like good for your.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Soul, like find a counterbalance to that.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
So, say you had that day because.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
It's gonna come out of nowhere and you're just gonna
be in it, or you're gonna get invited to eighty
weddings and you have to go by yourself. You're gonna
have that day, and once you have it, be like, Okay,
I'm in this right now. Tomorrow morning, I'm waking up,
I'm gonna take myself to breakfast, just me myself, and
I'm gonna go to breakfast. And there's a very empowering
feeling about that when you start taking care of yourself,
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so it helps lift those feelings naturally. And also I
learned speaking of like that the new podcast that I dropped,
I learned through one of the guests that's coming on,
you can train your brain to get over things. And
the only way to do that is by like learning
something new and treating your brain like it's a muscle
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that you're trying to exercise. And so if you're really sad,
and you keep being really sad and you get stuck
in it, like Abby, pick yourself up. Say I'm gonna
go teach myself to play pickleball today. I mean I
want to. It's gonna suck to start, but then your
brain's gonna naturally start to shift and say, Okay, I'm
gonna pick up new things. This is what's gonna happen.
It's like a.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
Pattern, a pattern of behavior.
Speaker 4 (08:53):
Oh my gosh, because yeah, that used to happen to
me all the time, because when I'd go to concerts,
I would always notice the couple's holding hands, always notice
that that was the one thing. And it's like, why
am I noticing in this? Probably because I was thinking
about it.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
You know.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
It's like when you think of a yellow car. You
start seeing a yellow car like on the road. Yeah,
because you're thinking about it. And I was like, just
stop like thinking about that, you know, just realize that
it's not your time now.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
I don't know, We're not trying to say down another
path in your brain and say, Okay, nope, I'm going
to focus on the singer in this moment, like for
Abby with the concert, I'm gonna focus on the artist,
or I'm going to focus.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
On how many red boots there are. Anything.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
It could be the stupidest thing, but if it helps
you get through it, then it helps you get through it, right,
So find your coping skills and lean into them.
Speaker 4 (09:39):
Yeah, I mean that's great. That is weird. I used
to think that all the time and be like, why
are they couples here? There's all couples, And I'm like, Abby,
just stop thinking about it.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
Just oh.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
I would go to weddings and be so depressed.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Afterwards, I would put on my smile and be a
great you know, guests or part of the wedding party,
but watching people interact because I was the last one
in so many cases, I just was like, Okay, here
we go.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
Smile because there's love in the room.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
And everybody's so happy, but I am miserable and this
sucks for me. Yeah, you know, I like, it's not fun,
it's it. And there's never gonna be someone who can
say this is how you're gonna get through it, because
it really just genuinely you gotta feel all the things
that you're feeling and be sad sometimes and be happy
sometimes and go through it. But I do think Abby's
point is great of like really embracing that time in
(10:32):
your life because it doesn't come back. No, you know,
I hope that tomorrow you'll meet the person that you're
gonna spend the rest of your life with. But until tomorrow,
you better live it up because when that person comes
and you're like, dang, I should have lived up my
single life a little bit more, you know. Yeah, there's
always regrets somewhere. So you're totally right spot on. All right,
We're gonna take a quick break, will be right back.
(10:57):
I think this came from Sadie, But my can eater
like stick correct people's names. What are some of your
favorite places in Nashville like to eat? I didn't even
prepare you for this. I know you didn't, or I'll
just like look at my email and I'll think of something. Yeah,
do anything, activities, bars, I think the list could go on.
Speaker 4 (11:17):
Okay, Broadway, I love going to the stage. That's one
of my favorites because they play more like nineties country music.
I love that. Let's see and then I've already mentioned
this before, but Lanny Wilson's Bar in the Dueling Pianos
super good, so good. I love the diner for food.
Downtown has the best like late night food.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
I don't think I've eaten there. For the late night foods.
Speaker 4 (11:38):
Oh my gosh, you have to go. They have like
a full menu and it is delicious. I get the
pretzel It's like these pretzel sticks, like a big pretzel
and you dip it in beer cheese.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
I love a pretzel cheese delicious.
Speaker 4 (11:49):
And then the chicken strips and fries so good. We
uhould go there after, but no fry butts if you know.
Oh my gosh, I've been doing that, like and he
hasn't noticed. I didn't tell them either. I still haven't
told him. Huh. I think I like distract him.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
I need you to like report back, like I need
you to actually ask him if he's noticed.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
And he just ignores it and he loves you no
matter what, because that's.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
Probably what it is.
Speaker 3 (12:13):
It's because like I'll ask, I'll be like, you didn't
figure that out? He's like, yeah, no, I did for sure,
like right away.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (12:19):
People, if you don't know, like I leave the ends
of my fries, I still do it. What the part
I bite down on? I pick the end I don't
want to bite down on, like a crispy end or something.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Yeah, let you leave it, which is why I dubbed
them fry butts, and Abby will always have a plate
if she gets fries of fry butts at the end.
That's funny that he hasn't said anything I know.
Speaker 4 (12:39):
Isn't that crazy?
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (12:40):
Oh my gosh, Okay, let's see. In Midtown I love
Hopsmith Tavern. I love eating there.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
Oh good brunch too.
Speaker 4 (12:47):
Oh yeah, it's fun there. They do have a really
good brunch. And then I like in twelve South area,
I love this store I love going to and has
good gifts. It's called like serendipitous. Oh yeah, yeah, it's
kind of by yes, is.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Sara, Well that's the word. I don't know if it's
called serendipity here I'll look at up while you're talking
about it.
Speaker 4 (13:06):
Okay. Yeah, it's on twelve South area, which is really
cool to walk around. I also love at Least barbecue.
It is so delicious. It's my favorite barbecue place. But
that whole area is just a street with like shops
and restaurants. Yeah, and that's my favorite place to get serendipity. Okay,
they have like jewelry and cute clothes.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
And have you gone to Fonda over there? It's the
new Mexican restaurant. No, it's really good.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
Yeah, I'm with you. I love that whole area.
Speaker 4 (13:31):
Too, Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Yeah. But fondas a good little Mexican spot over there,
Except that's the one that lunchboxs ond me I gave
a bad review of.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
So whatever, what in the world?
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Well he went, He's like it's horrible, And I was like, dude,
you're you want to talk about foody.
Speaker 3 (13:45):
Lunchbox is the foody of all foody is. And he's
so he's like a critic is he foody?
Speaker 1 (13:50):
Yeah? Oh, I'm like simple, I'm like that great guacamole.
I'm also like he hated the guacamole. I was like, well,
that's your fault because you ate three pounds. I'm pretty
sure you're gonna hate guacamoy forever, right.
Speaker 4 (14:01):
I was like that, Yeah, that was your problem or
your fault for ordering that crazy.
Speaker 3 (14:05):
Oh my gosh, Okay, any others you want to add
to your list?
Speaker 4 (14:08):
I don't think so. That whole area you really can't
miss with that. I like Frothy Monkey for coffee.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
It is really a good breakfast too.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
Oh yeah they do. Oh my gosh. One of my
favorite places, okay, it's on Charlotte Avenue. It's called Weird
Stuff Cool Things, and they have all these like awesome
like there's a Nashville sign with lights on it. That's
where I got it, and it's in my house. But
it's just it's kind of like a fancy thrift store.
I'm like hiding found and I haven't gone, gou you
need to go. And then the coffee place right next
to it is Headquarters Coffee, Best Coffee.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
I love it.
Speaker 4 (14:36):
It's like a cute. It's literally a hole in the wall.
I love but it's so great local.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
Have you got into the street car taps right next
to that in that same area, because they have a.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
Loaf of bread and butter.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
That's amazing. What it's also just really good. They good
food and drinks and stuff on Charlotte. I've never heard
of that right in that same little area.
Speaker 4 (14:55):
Oh my gosh. Yeah, that's awesome.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
The next time you go thrifting and you get your
just pop over and gets a food.
Speaker 4 (15:02):
Okay, I'm gonna do that.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
I didn't know that.
Speaker 4 (15:04):
I love that. Thanks.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
Is your neighbor's dog still messing up your yard? No?
Speaker 4 (15:09):
Oh my gosh, so awkward.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
You know.
Speaker 4 (15:11):
I put that note on his door. It was really nice.
It's just like, hey, could you please pick up your
dog's pooh? If this isn't you just ignore this. And
I was walking down the street and I saw him
and I was like, oh shoot, this is awkward. He's
with the dog too, and I was like, oh no,
and he's like, are you abby?
Speaker 3 (15:24):
I was like, yeah, hey, yeah, he wrote your name
on the note.
Speaker 4 (15:27):
Yeah yeah, Because I just was like, you're not gonna, yeah,
I put what I lived in. It's gonna be passive aggressive,
and you're it's not going to get handled right if
I just put this note, because he's not going to
know whose house it was. And then he's two doors down,
so like I was like, to avoid any future awkwardness,
I'll just put my name and I was like.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Yeah, yeah, there's future awkwardness.
Speaker 4 (15:48):
I was like, yeah, I'm Abby, and yes I did
put the note on your door. And he's like, I'm
so sorry, Like my roommate had been letting him out.
He kind of blamed the roommate. I was like, I
don't know, but anyway, roommate, do you know there is
I was like, yeah, I don't think you can fully
blaming the roommate for like one hundred percent of this,
but anyway, he was like, my roommate's been letting him
out and he didn't he didn't know he was going
in your yard. And I was like, oh, no, totally fine,
you're good. And the next day he picked all of
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it up. He like, I'm like, I seriously think it
would have been like two grocery bags full of pooh
oh my god. It was a lot. I mean, it
was every step. If it was like one or two,
I wouldn't have cared literally every step.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
There could be some roommate involvement there, but he also
probably was just like nobody's gonna.
Speaker 3 (16:26):
Care, you know, but if you have a big drunk.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
It's a lot like its ritt me.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
He's like ten tiny like they.
Speaker 4 (16:33):
Pile up, okay, because I have a tiny yard, so
it's like there's there's not much room and I always
take my trash and I was just walking on it
and I was like, oh my god, this needs is stop.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
So yeah, he has it stopped completely.
Speaker 4 (16:44):
Then yeah, they take him out on a leash. It's
really awkward. I see him all the time and I'm
so awkward. I'm just like, hey, you probably secretly hate me.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Well, but you know what, at least you figured it
out and at least the person was nice, and I
would be like, you know, even if he like took me,
he probably took the awkwardness out of it by blaming
it on the roommate, right, and at least he's now
doing it.
Speaker 4 (17:04):
No, I have no shit. Yeah, like we handled it great.
It went awesome.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
I've lost some very nice adults me too. Great interactions.
Speaker 4 (17:12):
I mean it works when you're nice, you just ask
something to it. I think it works.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
So it's true it was good.
Speaker 3 (17:17):
It could have gone worse. You could end up having
like poop on your doorsteps.
Speaker 4 (17:19):
So exactly. Well, the things that, like Lunchbox is telling
me to do I don't even know what he was
saying to do, but I'm glad I didn't do whatever
he wanted me to do.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
That's true. What is your most rewarding thing about being
on the radio, Ronnie of Maryland.
Speaker 4 (17:32):
I would say I even had someone call me today
and they're just like me doing the half marathon, like
my story of saying it like inspired her to do
like a marathon. I think stuff like that when they
say you inspired them. I love getting messages like that,
like me starting guitar, Like they're like, oh, you know,
I just tried something I never thought I would ever
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be able to do. So I think I think that
would be it.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Yeah, the connectivity, yes with people.
Speaker 4 (17:58):
Yeah, like knowing that you can do anything. I guess
you think you can't, like I didn't have you did
any Yeah, like I didn't. I just didn't ever think
i'd be able to play guitar or you know, record
a song, like I didn't think I would do that.
I wasn't good enough being in Nashville. Everybody's so good
that I just I wasn't good enough. But that doesn't matter.
You don't have to be the best, to do what
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you want to do, and like reach growing because of radio.
Look at me, Wow, so proud.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
That was not sarcastic that I was serious. I'm proud
of you. You are growing. I'm pretty sure you would
have came on Best Bits three years ago and we're
like a lot more timid and not as confident in
any of that. Look at you now, Yeah, I would have.
Speaker 4 (18:40):
Been like, I don't know, I'm bad at everything.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
I'm just kidding, but not anymore not bad. If you
could live anywhere besides Nashville, where would you live? This
is one of our last questions. Haley in Wisconsin.
Speaker 4 (18:51):
Oh my gosh, I think I would say like Denver
or somewhere in Colorado. I think it's so pretty there.
I love Mountain so much. But I also love the beach.
So this is very hard because I honestly do think
of this beach.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Girl.
Speaker 4 (19:05):
You think I am. Yeah, I know that's the thing,
but I don't really want to live in California. And
I like the West Coast beaches. They're so pretty.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
They are so pretty, but so are Florida beaches.
Speaker 4 (19:16):
I don't know. I think about this all the time.
So this is a great question, because.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
I don't think all the time. It does not have
an answer for you.
Speaker 4 (19:23):
I don't I wonder this. I'm like, wait, maybe I
could split up, like, you know, do Colorado for five
years retirement.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
You know, like where you live one year half of
the year, and then you move down to Florida for
the other half.
Speaker 4 (19:34):
That's what I'm gonna do. That's exactly what I'm gonna do.
So I will do Colorado early. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
Okay, so Colorado half the year, Florida the other half.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
Love it.
Speaker 3 (19:45):
Yeah, Abby's retiring really.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
In the beach. All right, we're wrapping up here. Abby,
thank you for coming on, answering our listener questions, hanging
out with me for a little bit.
Speaker 4 (19:58):
Yeah, it's been fun. On more of my dms or
I had one of my DM's.
Speaker 3 (20:02):
Oh yeah, what is it?
Speaker 4 (20:03):
Do you want to answer that?
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Yeah? Give it to me.
Speaker 4 (20:05):
Okay, Oh, let's see.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
If you're okay. I should have had right away right
now you're not. It's fine. I kind of threw it
out there.
Speaker 4 (20:13):
Oh here we go. Okay. So Lil Lily in North
Carolina said, I'm thirty two and having a hard time dating.
I'm just so tired and done with people. How do
you suggest getting over dating dating burnout? And also how
involved on dating apps? Like were you before you were
in your relationship? Hmmm, that's a tough one dating burnout.
(20:34):
Oh I remember that so much. That's why I limited
mind to an hour per date and just do like
a coffee date. Don't make it this whole grand thing.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
Yeah. Well, and I think you should allow the burnout
to exist, Like if you're done with dating for a while,
be done with dating for a while. There is no
requirement of you to go on a date every single
nat or every single week, like, do.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
It as your mood flows.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
Because if you go on dates when you are miserable
and you're tired of this and you're tired of saying
this is my favorite color, this is where I'm fun
and you're just bored of it, you're you're not even
gonna give a chance to the person you're on a
day with. M So, if you're burnt out, take a break,
like genuinely take a break and just hang out for.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
A few days or a few weeks or whatever it
is you need.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
And then when you jump back in, I think Abby
has your best advice is like don't go so hard
if you are going hard, like keep it short, keep
it sweet and simple.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
Like people do all.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
These elaborate big first dates, and they never make sense,
especially in the dating age today, because you're probably not
gonna go on a second day with them, probably like
the chances are less to go on a second date
at this point. So I think Abby's advice is great
if you're experiencing burnout with the dates and then taking
(21:52):
your breaks where you need them. For me, for meeting
a man in uniform, I had just actually gotten off
the apps for a while because I had had my
burnout face and was tired of them. Got back on,
but actually I had I think I've talked about this
a little bit where I really revamped my hinge to
(22:14):
be very intentional. I realized that I was given off
too fun like let's hang out vibes, where I wanted
to be giving off I want to date and marry somebody.
Actually it's what I want to do, and so I
revamped my whole hinge to be very just more serious, engaged.
Was still some flirty, like, still my personalities in it,
(22:35):
but it was really intentional of what I was putting
on there versus it being just like, oh a throwaway, Okay,
I'm on the dating apps, this is how I might
meet somebody. I was really intentional about it, and then
a few days later we matched. So I credit that
to that specifically because of just the way that my
situation changed, I think in a way in my headspace
of where I was at, I think that's what happened
(22:57):
in mind.
Speaker 4 (22:58):
Yeah, I think that is the key. Yeah, like putting
exactly what you're looking for, because then you're not going
to have all these the ones that you're tired of.
They're not going to be coming at you. They're gonna
actually be probably decent or have similar goals or relationship
goals or whatever. If you just have like not looking
for a hookup, you know, Like I think I put that.
I was so tired of it. I was just like,
(23:18):
not looking for hookup. Now, I'm not like, so I
stop asking me. I was really irritated, and I was
just like, that's what I did. I made it very clear.
So those guys and SIP left and you're not even
gonna come across them.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
So and even just putting in your little relationship part
where it's like, what are you looking for by saying
I literally said I was looking for my partner and
people would still come on our thing and I was looking.
Speaker 3 (23:37):
For fun, and I was like, where did these signals
get crossed?
Speaker 1 (23:41):
So not even just doing that is enough, Like you
have to be so intentional with your prompts and everything.
And don't get me wrong, there's a way to be
overly serious. If you're like I need this, this and
this and this is all I want. Yeah, that's going
to be a turn off. I just mean be like, hey,
I'm looking for somebody who really loves his dog and
he likes to eat. Dude. I just specifically what you're
(24:02):
looking for, and I think that will help in narrowing
down who you're going on dates with and then hopefully
in turn, also avoid some of that burnout because you're
just going on dates with the wrong people. Right, it
is a numbers game. Though. Dating is a numbers game.
There's no doubt about that.
Speaker 4 (24:19):
Yeah, looking back, I didn't even try. I really did
not try. I was so over it, Like I just
be like, hey, that was like my opening line. I
was just like, I'm not even gonna get creative anymore.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
But you don't deserve my creativity.
Speaker 4 (24:31):
Yeah, I don't know. But then it worked because he
was like, do you want to go out with me?
Or will you go out with me this Friday? Like
what are you doing? And he made a plan, and
I'm like, that's how it works. That's how they get you.
They make a plan. And I was like, okay, make
it plan.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
But also I don't know about for yours, but for ours,
we maybe exchanged like two or three messages back and
it was like we were already going out.
Speaker 4 (24:50):
Huh.
Speaker 3 (24:50):
I didn't like messaging all that.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
There were so many pin pals, so many pinpals on
the dating mapp who were like they just wanted to
sit there and chat with you, and I'm like, I,
if we're meeting, let's do let's.
Speaker 4 (25:01):
Not don't waste time.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
So if you run into those, maybe just don't, like,
don't engage with him and try and find one who's
really genuinely intentional about meeting you. On the other side too,
hmm yep, because the burnout also comes and just sending
on the messages and having endless empty conversations for no reason.
Speaker 4 (25:18):
Right, That's what it was like. You would just open
up your app and I'm like, oh, my gosh, another
how are you today? Like, no, let's just let's go.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
Let's just say favorite color is blue.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
I am the youngest of four, I'm a vegetarian. It's like,
do I have to tell you all this anymore?
Speaker 3 (25:33):
I'll something original and then be like, let's go on
a date.
Speaker 4 (25:36):
Cool exactly.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
That's great And that's literally what man in uniform did
and it sounds like that's what yours is. Did your
have a nickname? Is he still?
Speaker 4 (25:43):
She said cheese head?
Speaker 1 (25:44):
Okay, that's what cheesehead did too, So yeah, you know,
do that.
Speaker 4 (25:49):
Do that.
Speaker 1 (25:49):
That's all we got.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
We're getting out of here.
Speaker 4 (25:53):
Tell me where they can find you on Instagram at
Abbey Lee Anderson, on x at Singing Abbey.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
All right, and I am at web Girl Morgan. Please
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up there. All right.
Speaker 3 (26:09):
That is all peace, goodbye everybody.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
Hie.
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