January 15, 2025 • 57 mins
Eddie and Edwin share what they’re looking forward to in 2025.
Hear how Edwin plans to bounce back from the toughest year of his life yet.
Plus, Eddie’s outlook on this year may surprise you.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is The EDS with Eddie Judge and Edwin aro Jave.
Welcome back to The Ed's podcasts.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
I'm Eddie and I am Edwin.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Today's episode is about the New Year, twenty twenty five,
but before we get into it, we want to really
acknowledge the devastating fires that are happening in La right
now and really thank the first responders of firefighters and
everybody who's out there really trying to save as much
as they can and do as much as they can. Also,
(00:31):
I want to give a big shout out to everyone
who's really helping out by bringing water and support and
you know, socks and underwear for all the people that
have lost everything. It's really devastating. You're in La, Edwin, Yeah,
how is it going for you?
Speaker 2 (00:52):
So the main house that we have, luckily we didn't
have to deal with that. There's another how that we
have in Hollywood Hills that we had to evacuate from,
and that even though we rent that house now, it
was still tough. But like at the end of the day,
we didn't really have any belongings there. When there was
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a part there where it looked like it was going
to get close to our main house, and I mean,
I can only imagine what people what they went through,
because just the thought of losing everything in a matter
of minutes is really heartbreaking. You know, the other day
I was going through just like pictures of my last
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sixteen years, and I was like, I want to keep
this somewhere, right, like, these are awesome memories. And I
can only imagine like me feeling that way now about
you know, these pictures that I've had for sixteen years.
I can only imagine people that you know, are you know,
(02:01):
thirty forty years and out of nowhere it comes right yeah,
where they can't even see it coming. It's just all
of a sudden, they pick up your bags and they
got to go, and they got to leave everything behind.
I mean, the thought of that is just devastating. And
but yeah, shout out to you know, the first responders
and all the work they've been putting in and just
(02:22):
seeing the city come together has been great.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Yeah. Yeah, I've never seen anything like it.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
It looks like an apocalypse movie and it's it's very real,
and it gets really real once you know, it comes
close to you as well, you know, when it really
gets close to you, that's when you're like, whoa this is?
This is nuts?
Speaker 1 (02:42):
And are you close enough that you can smell the smoke?
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Oh? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Oh wow? Okay, all right, Oh deary man, Well I'm
glad you're okay.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
I think no matter where you're at in LA, I mean,
especially if you're pretty close to the west side, there's
just no denying it. You're gonna you're gonna see it
and you're gonna smell it.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Yeah, that's very sad to see that happening. I know,
we in Orange County had our share of fires last
year and it didn't get too close, but close enough
that you could see it and smell it. And that's
scary in and of itself to think that a fire
can come in and take everything and turn your life
upside down. Really, so we wish those folks the best.
(03:22):
And you know, LA and Orange County, I think we
all come together and San Diego, everybody in California is
coming together to help any way we can to help people,
you know, get through this devastating moment. So one unders Okay,
let's switch gears now, let's try to anyways, let's talk
about twenty twenty five the New Year resolutions. Resolutions what's
(03:49):
your thoughts on resolutions? Do you do annual resolutions? Do
you subscribe to that or do you think it's just
the end of the day.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
I mean, I've always had goal goals, right, So I've
always I've always been big on goals. You know, what
am I trying to accomplish this year? What am I doing?
I mean resolutions? I mean I like calling them goals, right.
I think resolutions sort of have this stigma to them
that it's just everybody says they're going to do something,
and then two weeks into it, they don't.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
You know.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
One of the one of the things I hate the
most about New Year's is how packed the gyms are
and how packed the fitness classes that I go to are.
And it's like I got to deal with it for
at least a month, but then I know, once February
comes back, it's like, you know, half the people are gone.
But it's always interesting to me how you know the
(04:41):
first two weeks are always packed. I mean you can't.
I mean, you got to get there early, you got
to sign up like two days before, and sure enough,
a month later, it's it's back to normal, you know,
And it's it's it just goes back to like, it's
not that hard to be successful if you're just consistent, right, Like,
(05:04):
I think consistency will transansform average into excellence. But most
people have problems with consistency. Most people have a problem
with like repetition, you know. But I think, I think
if you're just consistent and you stick to it, and
(05:24):
consistency is not always about being perfect. It's just about
progression as long as you're getting a little better and
you're consistent with getting better. As you know, Eddie, just
from all your background, you get really good at things
if you can, you know, do it for three months,
do it for six months, do it for a year.
And I think a lot of people can do things
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for maybe a week, some people can do it for
a month, some people can do it for three months.
And but really it's can you do it for a year?
Can you do it for two and three? And compound
that consistency and then again it'll transform average into excellence.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Y My take on Year's resolutions is that it's sort
of a way to set up society to fail, meaning
it gives people the excuse to start over every year.
(06:21):
And then my experience with my life and you know,
everything I've accomplished and everything I've observed as success is
that starting over is hard and it sets you back.
But if you keep going and keep that consistency, like
you said, and just consider January first another day, you're
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more likely to reach your goal because it takes years.
Specifically in business, I don't know any successful company that
has been like top of mind, top of like Apple, Google, Nvidia,
you know, Amazon. It took them ten plus years to
be what they are. So to think that, oh, I'm
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just gonna make quick rich money, you know, in one year,
I'm going to set a goal this year, I'm going
to make a million dollars. Well, how much are you
making now? Is it nine hundred and ninety nine thousand
dollars or is it one hundred thousand? And how the
hell are you going to go from one hundred thousand
to a million dollars. It's sort of setting you up
for failure, right right, So I don't I don't subscribe
(07:30):
to New Year's resolutions. It might be a good time
for us, you know, for us to just check in
on our on our goals and our achievements, but to
set new goals could be very distracting to set you know, new,
to engage in new desires when you haven't accomplished your
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past goals or your resolutions you've had last year, or
the year before or five years ago. It really that's
why I say, it kind of sets you up for failure.
There's so many people in the world that I've met,
you know, that say I'll start tomorrow, I'll start Monday,
or you know what, I'll start my goal in January,
(08:11):
first of such and such year, right, and it inevitably
it always ends up failing because, like you said, the
first two weeks of the year, everybody's at the gym.
Through week three, what happened to everybody? Week four, it's
back to being empty, and you still have eleven more months.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
And you know it's interesting, Eddie, Like it's funny. For me,
New Year's has always been fourth quarter. My New Year's
I've always looked at. It starts in October. The reason
why I make the last quarter of the years so
important to me is because I often say that you
could only receive what your mind can accept. Right. If
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your mind can't accept something, it's never going to get it.
So what are you doing that makes you think that
you can get better. So for me, in four order,
that's when most people are sort of packing it in
and they start to sort of get lazy and they
stop working and they not wanting to and they stop
(09:10):
wanting to do they stop doing all the things that
you know, they worked hard for in the first you know,
eight months, nine months, right, So if you can do
well in the last quarter, stay disciplined in the last quarter,
then what will happen is you'll start off the year
with full momentum and by the time people are barely
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you know, recovering from the last three months where they've
basically just chilled for three months, right, especially sales people, right,
real estate people, alarm sells people, like most of those industries,
like they start hanging it up in the fourth quarter.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Yeh.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
And I've always been about like, no, this is when
I'm going to freaking slam on the gas. And now
I start succeeding at things that most people can't succeed at,
and then it gets my mind to accept, wait, I
do deserve more because I'm doing things that most people
aren't doing.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Right.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
So the whole idea is, you know, yeah, New Year's
has loosen everybody's doing it right. It's like, no start
before starting the fourth quarter, build momentum, and then once
the new year comes, you're just flying, you know. And
so I've always been very intentional about starting in the
fourth quarter and then, like the other thing that I
would say about, you know, goals is obviously you want
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big goals, you want big, god sized dreams, you want
a dream big. But what most people don't tell you is,
you know, when you go after big dreams, big goals,
a lot of times you'll get discouraged because they seem
so far away.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Right.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
So the idea is, yes, have big dreams, have big goals,
but I like to put targets for those goals. So
I want to hit targets that eventually will make me
hit those goals. You know. An example for me, when
I was fifteen years old, I gave myself a goal
that by twenty one years old, I was going to
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make one hundred and fifty grand, right, one hundred grand. Actually,
I also envisioned myself living the life I live today.
I envisioned that at fifteen years old. Now did I
believe it, Heck no, but I knew it was going
to happen. Somehow, some way. And that's why I often
(11:21):
say that we all have this unlimited potential, but it
is limited to where you're at today. So because of that,
you have to put targets that will help you get
to your major goal, because every target you accomplish will
now unlock a new level of belief. See, I'm a
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firm believer that in life, it's all about belief. Right,
you have to have conviction, you have to believe that
it could happen, but you have to take steps, and
every step that you accomplish will now unlock a new
level of belief. So again, when I was fifteen years old,
I said, Okay, I'm going to make one hundred grand
by the age of twenty one years old. So I
said to myself, well, I guess I got to become
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the manager of this place by eighteen. That way I
can start making at least sixty grand. And instead of
focusing on all the reasons why I couldn't, I was
just like, I don't know how I'm gonna do it,
but I'm gonna figure it out. I'll control the two
things that I can control, which is my activity and
my attitude in some way, somehow, I'm gonna make one
hundred grand by the time I'm twenty one, and then
sure enough at eighteen years At sixteen years old, I
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became the supervisor, started making like thirty grand a year.
By the time I was eighteen, I became the manager.
Now I started making like sixty grand a year. But
every step unlocked a new level of belief. And then
sure enough, at twenty one years old, I made one
hundred and fifty grand and I was like whoa, And
then that unlocked a new level of belief, and then
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every step you keep rising unlocks a new level of belief.
But if I would have been like, man, I want
to live like the life I live today, if I
wouldn't have gone through those steps, I would have never
got there because I just would have got discouraged. So again,
we all have this unlimited potential, but it is limited
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to where you're at today, and each new accomplishment that
you try to get is always going to come with
it set of fears. That's why your trust has to
be bigger than your fear. You're always going to be
scared when you're going after something big, and that's where
you have to be courageous. You can't have courage without fear.
And for me, that's always been very important to me
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is breaking down getting a goal, breaking it down to
the ridiculous. And the reason you want to break it
down to the ridiculous, which is are the targets, is
because that makes it realistic and that makes it attainable.
Because what causes you to take action towards something is
your ability to think you can get a result. If
you don't think you can get a result, you'll never
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do it. But that's why breaking it down to the
ridiculous will make you think that you could make it happen,
and every target unlocks a new level believe. So that's
that's what I've always done about goals. I'd love to
hear what you do ready as well, because you've always
been very gold driven, very disciplined, and obviously I think
you've made a lot of New Year's resolutions happen.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
I do no, I do recall. You know, when I
first got introduced to making resolutions as an exciting thing
to do. You know, everybody's doing it, everybody's setting new
goals on January first, I am going to do this,
And there was a time period where January first was
a fresh start. And I am not opposed to fresh
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starts and starting over and doing new things, especially doing
new things that's exciting, right, But there was a time
period where I'm like, I don't need another resolution when
I haven't accomplished my last three years of resolutions, right,
And it really taught me like, Okay, it's good to
set these goals and have a time stamp of January first,
(15:00):
kind of like a fresh start. I get that concept,
but knowing that, you know, life and success is a
game of endurance. Not a lot of people can handle endurance.
A perfect example would be like a sprinter versus a
marathon runner. Right. The marathon runner is gonna certainly achieve more,
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have more time spent into it because they will take
their time getting to the goal, versus a sprinter. The
sprinter wants to get it done now and quickly and
not work, you know, twelve months to get to the goal.
So the point of resolutions has been, you know, can
you set realistic goals and can you keep that momentum going?
(15:44):
Because it applies to everything, not just business, I mean
it applies to relationships. And it definitely stood out for
me in the fitness business. When I had the gym,
you know, everybody's excited. Everybody comes to the gym and
starts working out, and we have some great success for
the first three four months of the year. And I
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made it a goal of mine to keep people engaged
throughout the entire twelve months, not just the first three months,
you know, not just the summer bod. Let's work on
your summer bod. You know, well, what happens after your
summer bod. You just let it go right, and if
you do, you're essentially starting over. And to add to
(16:25):
your point about the fourth quarter in October, I think
if you can do exactly what you're talking about, staying focused,
having the faith, and moving through all the noise and
distractions that the last quarter had, I think it's the
hardest time of the year to be accomplishing anything because
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a everybody tends to make it look like the world
kind of slows down. People are taking more time off,
there's more parties. We got to celebrate life, and that's
where the problem happens. To start October thirty first, with
all the sugar, all the candy, all the distractions. And
you know, I'm not saying that Halloween is not fun.
(17:07):
It is fun, but it's also a good excuse to
just eat like shit and drink like you know, to
to no end and just start hurting your health. Come Thanksgiving,
which is one of my favorite holidays, as you know,
and it used to be I could eat all kinds
of food on Thanksgiving and it's so much fun. It's
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it's in you're with family and everything is happening, and
how could you not look forward to that?
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Right?
Speaker 1 (17:35):
And then there's December and we got Christmas and.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
All parties that party.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
So I used to tell all my clients like, if
you can really put the pedal to the metal on
the last three months of the year, you're going to
be successful. In fact, I used to hold a lot
of challenges at the last quarter of the year, and
I even went as far one year, which I lost
my ass on, but I was happy. I said, for
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all you guys who can work out thirty days in
the thirty one days of December, I will waive your
membership for the next you know, for the next month.
And a lot of people were motivated. It's amazing how
people are motivated by your little one hundred and twenty
dollars one hundred and forty dollars a month membership, and
it motivated everybody not to you know, ruin their health
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journey and their fitness journey. And at the end of
the day, I ended up, you know, with very low
revenue on January, you know, first because there were so
many successful customers or clients that that achieve that. But
I truly believe that that is the heart. That's where
people really gain the most weight, where people lose the
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most traction on their goals, and certainly where people get
the most distracted. You know, there's there's holidays leading up
to that, but the fourth quarter is the game changer. Like,
like you said, I agree with you one hundred percent, and.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
That's why I think they call it separation season, right,
That's where you get to separate yourself from everybody else.
And again, more importantly, it gets your mind to accept
that you do deserve more because you're different. Right, Like
when you get to go to the gym and now
instead of or a fitness class, there used to be
forty people there and now there's ten. You're like, okay,
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I'm a little different, you know, and I think you know,
at the end of the day, what I've seen from
just average and elite people. Is elite people can get
things done even when they don't feel like it. They
don't work off how they feel, They work off their discipline.
And you know, during the fourth quarter, like you mentioned,
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there's a lot of distractions, right, but if you can
still get things done while those distractions are happening, or
while there's a lot of chaos, that's what separates average
from elite, right, because anyone can do thing things when
your life is great and when things are going well
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and when you have no distractions, Like, yeah, you're supposed
to do well, right, but it's can you do well
when there's a bunch of distractions? Can you do well
when there's a bunch of chaos around you, when you're
when your life is falling apart? Can you still get
things done right?
Speaker 1 (20:19):
Right?
Speaker 2 (20:19):
That is that's the definition of grit, right you figure
out how to resolve during chaos, right. Fortitude, resiliency. You know,
my favorite three skill sets are fortitude, grit, and resiliency.
And those things can't be caught taught. They can't. They
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can't be taught. You have to You're not born with them.
You have to experience them. And the only way you
experience them is by continuing to push forward against all
the resistance. And you know that's why in life, I
don't think you want it to be easy. You want
it to be hard because if things aren't hard, you
know we were talking about pain earlier, right, if things
aren't hard, you'll never build the muscles that you need
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to sustain success for a long time. Because what's gonna
happen is life's going to punch you in the face.
It's inevitable. Life and pain are inseparable. And when life
punches you in the face, if you don't, if you
haven't built that muscle of being able to take that punch,
you'll get knocked out. But that's why when you're but
the only way to build that muscle is through those
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tough times. So if you can embrace you know, this
year as you're going through the pain of going through
that goal, and instead of quitting when the pain comes,
because if you quit, you never get to build the muscle.
But if you just continue to push forward, focusing on
the things that you can control, you'll start to build
that endurance. You'll start to build that grit, that resiliency,
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that fortitude, and the reason they are my three favorite
skill sets to have because no one could ever take
them away from you. Like, no matter what you do,
you'll kick apps because when life punches you, you'll spring
back up and you'll continue to push forward. Right, Whereas
most people, because we all get knocked down, right, we
all be knocked down. Yeah, the difference is how fast
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do you get back up? You know? And most people, unfortunately,
they stay on the floor for like freaking months, whereas
you know, the people that do pretty well for themselves,
they spring back up and they're like, yep, I got
knocked down, I'm springing back up and I'm pushing forward.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Yeah. I think another way of putting that is, you know,
it's easy to experience the good times in life, you know,
and even the good times in life don't have longevity
because they get boring. Right. It's like driving the same
car for ten years. Well, I had a heart on
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when I bought my Ferrari, but ten years later, I'm
want a different one. Three years later, I want a
different one. Right. So to build resilience, unfortunately, you're going
to have to go through some pain. You're going to
have to go through some discomfort and you're going to
have to experience it. Nobody can teach you. You cannot
read it in a book, and you cannot learn it
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from somebody else going through the pain. In order for
someone to really understand resilience, they have to go through it.
And unfortunately, sometimes life just throws it at you. Right,
people like you and I tend to go out looking
for it. You know, we want the challenging, we want
the obstacles, but it's the people that you know are
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through are just for lack of better examples, a car accident,
you know, you cannot see that coming, and shit like
that happens. So or even this fire us happened in La.
Who would have ever thought that it was going to
flatten out the whole city of Palisades, Right, you would
never have thought that. But now that you are going
through it, this is going to have to be your experience.
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If you haven't already experienced resilience. This is where you
learn how resilience works and what you can do to
get through it.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
And then it allows you to be more. You know,
when the next problem comes, it's as big as more
because you've gone through so many. Right, so someone it
might be a big problem. But because you've already gone
through a lot of tough times in your life, the
next problem that comes isn't that big anymore, and you
get a bunch of those you continue to, you know,
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build that muscle. The other cool thing that happens when
you kind of are going through a tough situation is
you're also building a story that you when you overcome
and you do well for yourself again, it now creates
a loyal following because people want to follow somebody that's
got a great story of overcoming and obviously the only
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way to do that is through go through through pains.
It's kind of like you have to embrace the suck,
you know. And whenever you have goals, those goals are
going to come with problems. That New Year's resolution, whatever
we want to call it, is going to come with
a bunch of problems and challenges, and you know your
job is to solve those challenges and when you do,
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you're going to get that new level of belief and
then it's okay, what's the next purpose, what's the next goal?
And every time you do, you start adding to that belief.
And it really just comes down to if you're able
to again, I've been talking a lot about a belief.
Belief is confidence. Confidence comes from keeping the promises that
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you make to yourself, which is you got to be
about truth. And most people when they think about truth
and integrity, they're thinking about keeping the promises that they
make to other people. Well, that should be a given right.
Where most people mess up is they don't keep the
promises that they make to themselves. And the problem and
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the reason they do the reason they don't keep the
promises they make to themselves is they think no one
is looking. But there is someone looking, which is your
subconscious mind. And every time you don't keep a promise
to yourself, your subconscious mind keeps saying, Yep, you did
it again. You never keep your word. Oh, you said
you were going to go to the gym all year, Yep,
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you lasted three weeks this time, check jack. And then
that's where you start losing the belief. You start losing
the confidence because your subconscious mind doesn't believe you anymore.
Sub Consciously, you'll say, I'm going to be the top
sales guy at this company. But the problem is your
subconscious mind says, nap, I don't believe you. And the
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reason I don't believe is because I got a history
of you never coming through on your promises. So, because
your subconscious mind doesn't want to see you get hurt,
it will literally self sabotage yourself to come back down
to what it really thinks you're worth. So it'll start
making excuses for you to start quitting. Even though everything's
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going great. You're on your way to making your goal.
But because you have this history of never keeping the
promises you make to yourself, you will begin to self
sabotage yourself to come back down to what you really
think you're worth. See, your subconscious mind is always going
to prove itself correct.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
So do you think the people that can't commit to
their commitments, you know, because their subconscious is telling them
I don't believe you. Do you believe that's because of
the people that are experiencing that never experience real challenges.
You know, it's always been and Dad get me out
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of it, or Dad will just pay somebody and fix
my problems, or for that matter, our government will fix
this and I don't have to do anything.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
Right.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
Are those the people that have that subconscious that makes
them insecure and unresilient? If you will.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
I think it's the lack of awareness, because you can't
change something you're not aware of what happens when you
stop keeping the promises you make to yourself. You don't
even realize you're doing it anymore. It just becomes a habit,
like you don't even again, you don't even realize you're
doing it. It's just part of your lifestyle. So really
the question is, well, how do I start building my
confidence right? How do I start truly to believe in myself?
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And it really just comes down to, no matter how big,
no matter how small, you keep the promise that you
make to some to yourself, you know, and then every
little win starts building that belief level. And again we
talked about it earlier, Eddie, it's consistency is not about perfection.
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It's just about progression. And as long as you're getting
a little better, like that's all you, that's all that matters.
But eventually you can stay consistent for a long time.
Now you start making some leaps, But it's all about consistency.
Most people can't deal with consistency. And the other beautiful
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thing about consistency, consistency is what establishes a habit, and
what happens is you're not always going to be motivated.
You're not always going to be inspired, right Like, we
don't always like I've never always inspired and motivated. But
my habits will get me through those days where I
don't feel like going to the gym or I don't
feel like going to work. I've made it such a
habit that even though I don't feel like it, I
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still get it done. And it's why consistency is so important.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
So tell me a little bit about your experience, since
you have plenty of with salespeople. You know, you have
your salespeople that are just go getters, have experienced hardship
in life, and I think on the surface, we all
know that the person that has suffered the most pain
usually is the most motivated, versus a person you know
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that grew up with the silver spoon in their mouth
and you know they just don't know what to do
with their life. So they come to you and you
give them an opportunity, and then they're like, eh, not
for me. What is the differentiating factor when you have
those two polar opposite people that you're training, and how
do you guide them so that they're both successful if
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that is possible.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
I think, to me, what I've seen the biggest is
just the some people are consistent and some people aren't.
And I've seen people from that are successful that already
have you know, rich parents become very successful as well.
And I obviously i've seen the opposite, right, and I've
seen people that come from nothing make it. But what
they all sort of have in common is just this
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commitment to consistency. They do the commitment to repetition.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
Right.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
They like to do all the boring stuff that no
one else wants to do, like the gym. Like the gym,
it's I mean, the life is like that, right, Like
they show up just winning in life. It's just showing
up every day. Like I think back to myself when
I was fifteen years old. I was shy, I was timid,
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but I got obsessed with repetition. I started I wanted
to do all the boring shit that no one else
wanted to do. Part of that was just showing up
every day. I showed up six days a week. People
that were way more talented than me only showed up
four days out of the week. I showed up to
every leadership development class they had the people that were
way more talented than me never showed up to those
classes because they weren't mandatory. I got obsessed with role playing.
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I went to the top guy in the entire company
and I said, hey, can you record your presentation for me?
And then I wrote that thing word for word and
I must have said it a thousand times, and I
started to feed up. I started to copy his tonality,
the way he spoke, I started walk like him. I
basically just mimicked everything he did. But then I sort
of got to rob his confidence from him because I'm like, well,
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he is the top guy in the company. I'm doing
it just like he's doing it. I must be pretty
good and happen is once I started getting the results,
I started to believe it right, because you don't believe
something in your heart until you experience it. Right. When
you have that conviction, it's because in some way, somehow
you've experienced it. And that's really when I started to
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really believe, like, wait a minute, I could really do this.
But I was doing again all the boring stuff that
really no one wanted to do. And I think, as you,
you know, if you want to be successful, if you
want to make sick. Whatever you define success is right.
You know you want to make six figures a year,
seven figures a year, It's actually not that hard. Number
one is first rule is you have to find an
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opportunity that allows you to be successful, that allows you
to make that kind of money. If you want to
make a million dollars, but you're in an industry that
or in a position where there's no way in hell
that you're going to make a million dollars, then how
are you going to make it? So you have to
you have to find you have to find an industry
that will allow you to be as successful as you want, right,
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an opportunity. But the second one is the hardest one.
You have to find someone who's done it before, who's
got a best at interest in your success that's going
to help you do it. And if you could find
those two things, you should be pretty successful unless you
just don't start applying the things that you're being taught.
But yeah, that's that's what I've seen over and over.
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It's just the consistency is again, consistent consistency will take
average to excellence. I mean, here's a perfect example, Addie.
It's funny I was talking to Teddy the other day
and she was making fun of a picture I post
that She called it a thirst trap, and that's why
I was showing my abs. Right, And I do the
same boring ass workout that I've been doing since I
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was at eighteen years old. Nothing special about it, nothing
sexy about it. But it's just the consistency over the years.
I don't even have to work out on it as hard.
You know, I maybe do abs once a week now.
Back then I used to do them like or five
times a week, and it's it's like the same. It's
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just the consistency. And then I'll see dudes in the
gym doing all kinds of you know, crazy ab workouts
and they're nowhere, dear what you know where I'm at
right And here I am with my boring ass freaking
four step AB workout. Nothing special about it other than
I've just been consistent.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
Consistency really plays a big role in every aspect of life,
which you know, just brought up another point leading into
it's not just about making money, because the reality is
not every single person in this world can apply these
rules and be a six figure a year earner. Right,
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There's other aspects involved such as opportunity and relationships and
of course timing. So let's shift a little bit off
of the financial business, you know, consistency, purpose and think
about our personal lives, you know, because money ultimately doesn't
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buy you happiness, it's it's who you are as a
person and your relationship. So are you I know you're
struggling right now and you're living through a really challenging
time with your relationship. What part of consistency has been
applicable to what you've done in your relationship for all
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these years? And how are you handling these challenges today?
Speaker 2 (35:32):
Yeah? Well so I think again, So your goes back
to your habits, right, I think your character will be
revealed under pressure, right, it's under pressure, your character will
be revealed. Right. And you know, for me, I've always
leaned on faith, you know, whether that's business, whether that's family,
whether that's my health. It's just always leaning on faith first,
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always having hope, something that you're looking forward to. You know.
That's that's been huge for me.
Speaker 1 (35:59):
Right, That's part of your consistency, right, yes, okay?
Speaker 2 (36:04):
And and in fact, the more successful I got, the
more I wanted to lean into faith, right, Right, Because
you know, the more success comes, the more sometimes problems comes.
And you know, right now I'm dealing with another set
of problems, but it's really my faith that's kind of
carrying me through that. Also, you know, the discipline of
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still like, hey, even though all this stuff is going on, like,
you still have to get there's still a lot of
people that are depending on you. You got to get the
job done right. And and then gratitude, you know, that's
that's a big one. Gratitude is And it's not easy.
You have to cultivate gratitude because we're already pre programmed
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to worry all the time. So if you're grateful, you
won't see like failure as permanent because there's so many
things that you're grateful for. So that's that's been huge,
you know. And and you know obvious tell people if
you're if you're struggling with faith, increase your gratitude. And
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if you increase your gratitude, you'll automatically have you know, faith,
you know. So so yeah, it's just uh doing the
doing the things that you're that you're supposed to be doing,
you know, and and just continuing to push I think,
continue to push forward, right because I think what what
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happens with most people is when that fear comes, they
sort of get paralyzed and they don't move, and then
from there comes procrastination. You know, you need to do stuff,
but you don't do it, and then from there you
become paranoid. And then that's when you get in your
head about things, and then that's when that anxiety really
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starts to creep in, because it's just a bunch of
thoughts in your mind. I mean, think about it. When
have you overthought good thoughts? Every time you overthink something,
it's bad thoughts.
Speaker 1 (38:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (38:07):
Yeah, And and what happens when you have a lot
of thought in your head when you have a lot
of clutter, you're at a low frequency. What you want
to be is at a high frequency. And you could
only get a high frequency when you have clarity. You
don't even have time to think because you have you're
so clear on everything that you want.
Speaker 1 (38:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
So you know that's why, Like for me, one of
the ways I do that is just by staying productive.
You know, I always say execute being overwhelmed by overwhelming execution,
and that for me has always helped me out quite
a bit, you know, because Otherwise if you just sit
around and think, mine'll go wild on you.
Speaker 1 (38:48):
You know, going back to the consistency, that's I think
a big part of being in control, right, Self control,
self discipline is one of the biggest factors that's made
me successful. And I've had moments where, you know what,
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I don't want any self control. I just want to
relax and not think about anything, right. But I also
know that when you get to a point where you've
been consistent with life and everything in your life, you're
essentially in control of your life. And I know that
when you can't control something, that's when chaos ensues, and
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that's when your mind gets clouded, and that's when feelings
that you get distort you, and then you start doing
shit that you shouldn't be doing and you regret later
on saying things. You know, and that's typical in any
kind of disagreement, whether it's business or personal family. Right,
do you feel like you're in control right now going
through what you're going through with Teddy? Or are you
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depending relying on faith to manage it for you? I mean,
how are you going to get through? This is really
the question I'm asking, Do you know?
Speaker 2 (40:06):
Yeah, I think you have to let A big part
of it is faith, right, because I think what robs
you of your inner piece is you trying to control
something that you cannot control. There's just certain like I'm
big on controlling what I can control, but there's certain
things that you can't control. And that's kind of where
the faith comes in, Yeah, because when you try to
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control something you can't control, then that's where you rob
yourself of the inner piece. And I think more than
anything like inner piece joy are probably two of the
best things you could ever have. And you know, I'm
not going to sit here and say that every day
is perfect. It's just it's ups and downs. And sometimes
I feel great and I'm like, yeah, this is things
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are going to be great, and then then the next day,
I'm like, what the F is going on in my life? Right? Like,
So it's just knowing, Yeah, it's just knowing that. Look,
it's not about perfection. It's about progression and taking one
day at a time. Know that you're going to have
bad days, like it's part of life, Like we're not
always going to be feeling great, and and don't beat
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yourself up when you have those bad days. And you know,
and it's it's it's the only way that that that
you can do it. I think is just acknowledging that
it's going to be tough putting one keep progressing right,
because the only way you're going to get out of
that dark valley is like continue to push. If you
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just stop and sit around, you're never going to get
out right. So you just got to progress every day.
Know that it's you know, you're gonna get knocked down.
Sometimes you're gonna get back up, and it's just it's
a it's a journey and then hope for for you know,
for the best.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
Another thing is, you know that keeps us kept me
and some of my clients motivated is doing something that's
bigger than yourself. And and this was applicable during our
Spartan training. You know, when you're doing an obstacle and
it's the the why, you know what what is your why?
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What is your reasoning? And how are you gonna empower
yourself to get through it? And sometimes I had to
talk to clients and say, I think about something that's
bigger than you and decide if it's powerful enough to
get you through the hardest times, the hardest obstacles. And
I had a client that actually found me through Spartan
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race research, and he said he was going to do
a Spartan race with his son, and his son ended
up passing away from some cancer or something like that,
and he was determined to do a Spartan because that's
what he was going to do with his son. And
he's like, gosh, I think he was pushing seventy years old.
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And the guy was motivated, and he was you know,
he was he was there because of the power he
had from his son. You know, he was doing it
not for himself, but for the power of, you know,
making his son proud, who isn't around. I mean, that's
a very powerful tool, right right. And and what I'm
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getting at I think is, you know, I think part
of what your struggle is you're going through can be
empowered by thinking about the kids. You know, thinking the
kids first. Anytime it comes to a divorce or separation
of two people that you know have something in common,
I think it's important to think about what that was
that you have in common in how to protect that.
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So I think I think if you really use that tool,
I think you'll be able to enhance and and and
you know ten x your faith and power to get
through this hard time in your life. You know, I
know it's not easy, you know, but I just want
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you to be, you know, as successful and as happy
as you can be going through this time of your life.
Speaker 2 (44:03):
Bro, I appreciate it, man. And you just reminded me
of one of my favorite quotes, which is courage is
not the absence of fear, it's the absence of self.
And it's typically you know, if you live for yourself,
you can settle for less, but if you live for others,
that require all of who you are. And that's exactly
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what you said. It's just it's a big driver, you know,
seeing you know, things aren't taught, they're caught. And your
kids see how you handle yourself during a pressure situation.
And that's why I say your character will be revealed
under a pressure situation. And habits are reflexive, and if
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you have good habits, that's what's going to come out.
That's the kind of person you are. So I think
for me and to your point, when you change your
life for the better and you start doing better, you
give people hope and faith that their life can change too.
And it could be a major inspiration for people as well.
So you know, I think what I'd say to everybody listening.
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If you're going through tough times, you know know that
when you overcome it, when you change, it's you're going
to inspire many people. And in life. I know sometimes
people don't think this, but you know a mantra that
I love is I exist, Therefore I will impact. And
it's just a reminder to yourself, I exist, therefore I
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will impact. No matter who you are, You're going to
impact this world, and it's either going to be positive
or negative because your decisions are going to impact this world.
And I've just always chosen to do it in a
positive way, right And you're either inspire, you're going to expire.
And the thing about it is, no matter who you are,
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I promise you you can inspire someone because there's someone
that is just like you that when they see you
do better, it gives them faith and hope that their
life can change.
Speaker 1 (46:03):
Absolutely. Absolutely, And coming full circle, because we started this
conversation about resolutions, I think that's a mindset. What do
you think your mindset is for twenty twenty five? Are
you optimistic about what this year brings.
Speaker 2 (46:19):
Or yeah, I'm very optimistic. I mean, I think twenty
twenty four was probably my toughest year in life. Everything
that could have gone wrong in business kind of went
wrong in business obviously, you know the news at the
end of the year with my relationship wasn't a good
one either. But again, hopefully this gives people a lot
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of hope. Is when you know you're doing the right things,
there's always going to be a reaction, right, So for
every action, there's a reaction, right, And what happens a
lot of times is when you're doing the right things,
it takes about six months to a year, sometimes two
years to see it just skyrocket. And what happens is
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most people, when they don't see the results in three months,
they quit. When they don't see the result in six months,
they quit. But if you can just stay consistent like,
it's gonna come. And I've seen this over and over
in my life, and that's where I think twenty twenty
five is going to be a great year for us.
For me, i should say, and that I've been putting
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in so much work that it's just part of the
resistance that you have to go through when you're gonna
do some great and so I'm really optimistic on twenty five.
Not because I'm just like thinking and hoping, and it's
I know, I put in the work and I haven't quit,
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and I'm continuing to put the work. So I'm expecting
to have my biggest comeback here and a very successful one.
So you know, God willing that's what's gonna happen. But
I truly believe it in my heart.
Speaker 1 (48:00):
That's awesome. I got to be honest with you, though
I didn't come into this new year with big goals
in mine and I think we talked about that earlier
in our conversation, but I do have a sense of optimism,
like this is going to be a big year of change,
a positive year of change, because not just you know
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what's going on to you with you and you know
other people in the world, and gosh, what's happening already
in twenty twenty five is devastating in LA But I
realized that I just I operate so much better when
I'm optimistic, and whatever that brings for me, I'm gonna
cherish and you know, take in with open arms. But
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my goal for twenty twenty five is to make some
great positive changes and I don't know what those changes
are yet, but it's going to be a year of
change for me, whatever that is.
Speaker 2 (48:56):
I love what you just said there, Eddie, because honestly,
ninety percent winning in life is just being positive. If
you can take a negative and turn it into a positive.
And here's a quick formula for you to do that.
So your life is a series of events, and based
on the interpretation that you give that event, that's going
to give you a feeling. That feeling is going to
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cause you to take action, and that action is going
to take you give you the result. So if you
don't like the result, you have to change the action,
which means you have to change the meaning, which means
you have to change the interpretation. But if you become
really good at the interpretation of that thing that happened
in your life, you'll now get that feeling. That feeling
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will cause you to take a certain type of action
and that'll give you a result. Now easier said than done, right,
So sometimes you won't be as great at interpreting that
event in your life. And a reminder is just because
you feel some way, let's say it's a bad way
that you feel doesn't mean you have to act on it.
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Just a little reminder on that as well. You don't
have to act on everything you feel and you know,
because sometimes you're not going to have the greatest feelings.
Speaker 1 (50:07):
Right, It's just part of life.
Speaker 2 (50:10):
Life.
Speaker 1 (50:11):
So let's do a quick speed round for what we're
looking forward to in twenty twenty five. We have some
questions here and then we'll wrap this up. Let's say
a place you want to visit this year? Is there
any specific place you want to see this year that
you've always wanted to see that you haven't seen for
whatever reason?
Speaker 2 (50:30):
Abiza? What about you?
Speaker 1 (50:32):
Oh, Abiza, that's good. I always wanted to see that
when I was younger in my party days. Today I
would feel like an old man there.
Speaker 2 (50:39):
Yeah, well I might be that old man there, but
I think I'm going to check out Abiza. By the way,
I heard it's a great place to take your kids too.
Apparently it's apparently it's like it's it's people from France
that's like their Mexico.
Speaker 1 (50:53):
Yeah yeah, I mean it's the party island. But it's
a gorgeous place and you know, you don't have to
go there to party, but it's it's a beautiful place.
That's awesome. A place I want to sit this year
is actually Zion. I've been wanting to go to Utah
and visit just you know, just something here that I've
never seen, the red rocks, the hiking trails, the beautifulness
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of our beautiful country. So that's one of my goals
is to visit Zion this year. Is there a skill
you want to learn this year? A new skill?
Speaker 2 (51:26):
I'm either I'm either going to take dancing lessons, although
I like to think I'm a really good dancer, but
I want to take it up to another level. What
kind of I think a little bit soalsis a little
hip hop like I want to start doing all that
just but I want to do with my kids too.
I think it'll be pretty fun to do with my kids.
And the other one is cooking. I think that's a
new skill set that I want to develop.
Speaker 1 (51:48):
Yeah, what about you new skill set? I think I
want to learn everything I can possibly about AI. You know,
to me, that seems to be the next good inner, right,
So I I really am curious. I avoided it for
the last two years, but I think it will be
a big deal for the for the rest of our life.
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So I'm going to learn everything I can about AI.
Do you have any predictions for this year in general?
Nothing specific.
Speaker 2 (52:19):
That one. I don't know. I'm not really that good
at predicting there. I mean, well, you're going to get going.
Speaker 1 (52:28):
Going back to my positive thinking, I predict this is
going to be a great year for the United States.
You know, it's I just I predict that it's going
to be a good year. So is there anything you
want to do for someone this year? Anything or anyone?
Speaker 2 (52:44):
You know, my dad? You know, the World Cup is coming,
so I'm I My dad's getting older, so I definitely
want to spend more time with my dad, but also
just kind of start lining up that big trip that
I want to do for him for the World Cup.
You know, I've never taken more than ten days off
in a row, and I want to just take off
thirty days in a row for that and just experience
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that with him. I mean that that's that's that's what
what what comes to mind and travel?
Speaker 1 (53:15):
Yeah, yeah, I want to have a hundredth year birthday
for my grandmother. She's going to be one hundred in September,
but I want to have it six months before that,
because you know, I just don't know if she's going
to make it or not. I mean, she's doing great,
she's all there, firing on all eight but you know,
I don't I don't want to wait. So that's what
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I want to do for someone, which is my grandmother,
is have a nice hundred year of birthday parties. So
and what is your word for this year?
Speaker 2 (53:50):
Relentless consistency.
Speaker 1 (53:52):
Relentless consistency?
Speaker 2 (53:55):
What about you?
Speaker 1 (53:58):
I would say probably Sarah anddipity. That's my word, serendipity.
Speaker 2 (54:04):
There you go.
Speaker 1 (54:05):
I don't know how to apply it, but that's the
first word that came to my head right now.
Speaker 2 (54:09):
Same thing, that's the first thing I just when you
said it, I was just like, leveless consistency.
Speaker 1 (54:13):
That's awesome, awesome, Well, happy to year, great catching up
with you.
Speaker 2 (54:19):
Yeah, was always a message for you for the listeners
for twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1 (54:23):
Oh yeah, I forget that we had a message for
you listeners. What is the message? The message I think
I want to I want to give our listeners is
stay positive, stay positive, think positive. Even during the hardest
times in life, in what life throws at you, try
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to stay as positive as possible, because that's where you'll
be able to see through all the noise and garbage
and distractions that happen in your head. With me, I've
always used positivity as sort of the servile silver silver lining.
You know, why is this happening? And what's the lesson?
(55:07):
And ah, where's my path to get through this? You know,
so positivitally, it's always helped me think I don't care
how hard this is. I don't care if I'm you know,
so far behind or I've lost it all. I am
looking for the pop, for the path that's going to
get me out of this. And if I think positive,
I will find that path. If I think negative, I
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won't see anything, and I would just be blinding and
and and never get out of that hole or never
get out of that situation. So I'd say stay positive
for for as much as you can, even on the hardest,
worst times of your life. For illustration purposes, let's say
again you are in a car accident. You're you're upside
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down in the car, and you're looking around and you're dizzy,
and and you think, oh my god, this is the
end of my life. If you switch gears and think positive,
I'm going to get out of this, I'm going to
get that out of this alive, and I'm going to
get back to my life. It's a better way to
get out of a situation than to think, oh no,
I'm never going to be able to walk, or oh no,
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I just lost my arm, or you know whatever. You
know negative thought comes into your head. Switch it to
a positive.
Speaker 2 (56:18):
Love that I would say, you know, most people are
waiting to know before they go, and you have to
go before you know. And you have to go before
you know. Most people are waiting to know before they go.
But in reality, you have to go before you know.
And that's really another way of saying you have to
take action before you have what you need. To wait
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until you have what you need to actually start taking
action towards it. Whatever your goal is, as crazy as
it sounds, is you know, non realistic as it sounds,
Just start taking action towards it and you'll start seeing
how the stars will start aligning to you. But you
have to go before you know. The house like the
Killer of All Dreams. Sometimes we're waiting for the perfect time.
(57:04):
It's never gonna have a perfect time. You got to
just go to go after it. Yeah, so go after
it in twenty twenty five. That's all five twenty five.
I love it.
Speaker 1 (57:15):
Awesome. Thank you so much for listening, and please remember
to share our podcast, talk to your friends about it
if you feel you got anything from it, and please
any feedback. We Edwin and I love feedback. It's not
to buff our ego or you know, you know, make
us feel better. We really do gauge what we're doing
(57:38):
based on our listeners. If you guys can enjoying us,
or if you think it's just we're full of shit,
so tell us the truth. I appreciate it all, and
Happy New Year.
Speaker 2 (57:49):
Happy New Year,
This is The EDS with Eddie Judge and Edwin aro Jave.
Welcome back to The Ed's podcasts.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
I'm Eddie and I am Edwin.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Today's episode is about the New Year, twenty twenty five,
but before we get into it, we want to really
acknowledge the devastating fires that are happening in La right
now and really thank the first responders of firefighters and
everybody who's out there really trying to save as much
as they can and do as much as they can. Also,
(00:31):
I want to give a big shout out to everyone
who's really helping out by bringing water and support and
you know, socks and underwear for all the people that
have lost everything. It's really devastating. You're in La, Edwin, Yeah,
how is it going for you?
Speaker 2 (00:52):
So the main house that we have, luckily we didn't
have to deal with that. There's another how that we
have in Hollywood Hills that we had to evacuate from,
and that even though we rent that house now, it
was still tough. But like at the end of the day,
we didn't really have any belongings there. When there was
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a part there where it looked like it was going
to get close to our main house, and I mean,
I can only imagine what people what they went through,
because just the thought of losing everything in a matter
of minutes is really heartbreaking. You know, the other day
I was going through just like pictures of my last
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sixteen years, and I was like, I want to keep
this somewhere, right, like, these are awesome memories. And I
can only imagine like me feeling that way now about
you know, these pictures that I've had for sixteen years.
I can only imagine people that you know, are you know,
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thirty forty years and out of nowhere it comes right yeah,
where they can't even see it coming. It's just all
of a sudden, they pick up your bags and they
got to go, and they got to leave everything behind.
I mean, the thought of that is just devastating. And
but yeah, shout out to you know, the first responders
and all the work they've been putting in and just
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seeing the city come together has been great.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Yeah. Yeah, I've never seen anything like it.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
It looks like an apocalypse movie and it's it's very real,
and it gets really real once you know, it comes
close to you as well, you know, when it really
gets close to you, that's when you're like, whoa this is?
This is nuts?
Speaker 1 (02:42):
And are you close enough that you can smell the smoke?
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Oh? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Oh wow? Okay, all right, Oh deary man, Well I'm
glad you're okay.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
I think no matter where you're at in LA, I mean,
especially if you're pretty close to the west side, there's
just no denying it. You're gonna you're gonna see it
and you're gonna smell it.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Yeah, that's very sad to see that happening. I know,
we in Orange County had our share of fires last
year and it didn't get too close, but close enough
that you could see it and smell it. And that's
scary in and of itself to think that a fire
can come in and take everything and turn your life
upside down. Really, so we wish those folks the best.
(03:22):
And you know, LA and Orange County, I think we
all come together and San Diego, everybody in California is
coming together to help any way we can to help people,
you know, get through this devastating moment. So one unders Okay,
let's switch gears now, let's try to anyways, let's talk
about twenty twenty five the New Year resolutions. Resolutions what's
(03:49):
your thoughts on resolutions? Do you do annual resolutions? Do
you subscribe to that or do you think it's just
the end of the day.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
I mean, I've always had goal goals, right, So I've
always I've always been big on goals. You know, what
am I trying to accomplish this year? What am I doing?
I mean resolutions? I mean I like calling them goals, right.
I think resolutions sort of have this stigma to them
that it's just everybody says they're going to do something,
and then two weeks into it, they don't.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
You know.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
One of the one of the things I hate the
most about New Year's is how packed the gyms are
and how packed the fitness classes that I go to are.
And it's like I got to deal with it for
at least a month, but then I know, once February
comes back, it's like, you know, half the people are gone.
But it's always interesting to me how you know the
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first two weeks are always packed. I mean you can't.
I mean, you got to get there early, you got
to sign up like two days before, and sure enough,
a month later, it's it's back to normal, you know,
And it's it's it just goes back to like, it's
not that hard to be successful if you're just consistent, right, Like,
(05:04):
I think consistency will transansform average into excellence. But most
people have problems with consistency. Most people have a problem
with like repetition, you know. But I think, I think
if you're just consistent and you stick to it, and
(05:24):
consistency is not always about being perfect. It's just about
progression as long as you're getting a little better and
you're consistent with getting better. As you know, Eddie, just
from all your background, you get really good at things
if you can, you know, do it for three months,
do it for six months, do it for a year.
And I think a lot of people can do things
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for maybe a week, some people can do it for
a month, some people can do it for three months.
And but really it's can you do it for a year?
Can you do it for two and three? And compound
that consistency and then again it'll transform average into excellence.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Y My take on Year's resolutions is that it's sort
of a way to set up society to fail, meaning
it gives people the excuse to start over every year.
(06:21):
And then my experience with my life and you know,
everything I've accomplished and everything I've observed as success is
that starting over is hard and it sets you back.
But if you keep going and keep that consistency, like
you said, and just consider January first another day, you're
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more likely to reach your goal because it takes years.
Specifically in business, I don't know any successful company that
has been like top of mind, top of like Apple, Google, Nvidia,
you know, Amazon. It took them ten plus years to
be what they are. So to think that, oh, I'm
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just gonna make quick rich money, you know, in one year,
I'm going to set a goal this year, I'm going
to make a million dollars. Well, how much are you
making now? Is it nine hundred and ninety nine thousand
dollars or is it one hundred thousand? And how the
hell are you going to go from one hundred thousand
to a million dollars. It's sort of setting you up
for failure, right right, So I don't I don't subscribe
(07:30):
to New Year's resolutions. It might be a good time
for us, you know, for us to just check in
on our on our goals and our achievements, but to
set new goals could be very distracting to set you know, new,
to engage in new desires when you haven't accomplished your
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past goals or your resolutions you've had last year, or
the year before or five years ago. It really that's
why I say, it kind of sets you up for failure.
There's so many people in the world that I've met,
you know, that say I'll start tomorrow, I'll start Monday,
or you know what, I'll start my goal in January,
(08:11):
first of such and such year, right, and it inevitably
it always ends up failing because, like you said, the
first two weeks of the year, everybody's at the gym.
Through week three, what happened to everybody? Week four, it's
back to being empty, and you still have eleven more months.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
And you know it's interesting, Eddie, Like it's funny. For me,
New Year's has always been fourth quarter. My New Year's
I've always looked at. It starts in October. The reason
why I make the last quarter of the years so
important to me is because I often say that you
could only receive what your mind can accept. Right. If
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your mind can't accept something, it's never going to get it.
So what are you doing that makes you think that
you can get better. So for me, in four order,
that's when most people are sort of packing it in
and they start to sort of get lazy and they
stop working and they not wanting to and they stop
(09:10):
wanting to do they stop doing all the things that
you know, they worked hard for in the first you know,
eight months, nine months, right, So if you can do
well in the last quarter, stay disciplined in the last quarter,
then what will happen is you'll start off the year
with full momentum and by the time people are barely
(09:31):
you know, recovering from the last three months where they've
basically just chilled for three months, right, especially sales people, right,
real estate people, alarm sells people, like most of those industries,
like they start hanging it up in the fourth quarter.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Yeh.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
And I've always been about like, no, this is when
I'm going to freaking slam on the gas. And now
I start succeeding at things that most people can't succeed at,
and then it gets my mind to accept, wait, I
do deserve more because I'm doing things that most people
aren't doing.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Right.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
So the whole idea is, you know, yeah, New Year's
has loosen everybody's doing it right. It's like, no start
before starting the fourth quarter, build momentum, and then once
the new year comes, you're just flying, you know. And
so I've always been very intentional about starting in the
fourth quarter and then, like the other thing that I
would say about, you know, goals is obviously you want
(10:26):
big goals, you want big, god sized dreams, you want
a dream big. But what most people don't tell you is,
you know, when you go after big dreams, big goals,
a lot of times you'll get discouraged because they seem
so far away.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Right.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
So the idea is, yes, have big dreams, have big goals,
but I like to put targets for those goals. So
I want to hit targets that eventually will make me
hit those goals. You know. An example for me, when
I was fifteen years old, I gave myself a goal
that by twenty one years old, I was going to
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make one hundred and fifty grand, right, one hundred grand. Actually,
I also envisioned myself living the life I live today.
I envisioned that at fifteen years old. Now did I
believe it, Heck no, but I knew it was going
to happen. Somehow, some way. And that's why I often
(11:21):
say that we all have this unlimited potential, but it
is limited to where you're at today. So because of that,
you have to put targets that will help you get
to your major goal, because every target you accomplish will
now unlock a new level of belief. See, I'm a
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firm believer that in life, it's all about belief. Right,
you have to have conviction, you have to believe that
it could happen, but you have to take steps, and
every step that you accomplish will now unlock a new
level of belief. So again, when I was fifteen years old,
I said, Okay, I'm going to make one hundred grand
by the age of twenty one years old. So I
said to myself, well, I guess I got to become
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the manager of this place by eighteen. That way I
can start making at least sixty grand. And instead of
focusing on all the reasons why I couldn't, I was
just like, I don't know how I'm gonna do it,
but I'm gonna figure it out. I'll control the two
things that I can control, which is my activity and
my attitude in some way, somehow, I'm gonna make one
hundred grand by the time I'm twenty one, and then
sure enough at eighteen years At sixteen years old, I
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became the supervisor, started making like thirty grand a year.
By the time I was eighteen, I became the manager.
Now I started making like sixty grand a year. But
every step unlocked a new level of belief. And then
sure enough, at twenty one years old, I made one
hundred and fifty grand and I was like whoa, And
then that unlocked a new level of belief, and then
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every step you keep rising unlocks a new level of belief.
But if I would have been like, man, I want
to live like the life I live today, if I
wouldn't have gone through those steps, I would have never
got there because I just would have got discouraged. So again,
we all have this unlimited potential, but it is limited
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to where you're at today, and each new accomplishment that
you try to get is always going to come with
it set of fears. That's why your trust has to
be bigger than your fear. You're always going to be
scared when you're going after something big, and that's where
you have to be courageous. You can't have courage without fear.
And for me, that's always been very important to me
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is breaking down getting a goal, breaking it down to
the ridiculous. And the reason you want to break it
down to the ridiculous, which is are the targets, is
because that makes it realistic and that makes it attainable.
Because what causes you to take action towards something is
your ability to think you can get a result. If
you don't think you can get a result, you'll never
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do it. But that's why breaking it down to the
ridiculous will make you think that you could make it happen,
and every target unlocks a new level believe. So that's
that's what I've always done about goals. I'd love to
hear what you do ready as well, because you've always
been very gold driven, very disciplined, and obviously I think
you've made a lot of New Year's resolutions happen.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
I do no, I do recall. You know, when I
first got introduced to making resolutions as an exciting thing
to do. You know, everybody's doing it, everybody's setting new
goals on January first, I am going to do this,
And there was a time period where January first was
a fresh start. And I am not opposed to fresh
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starts and starting over and doing new things, especially doing
new things that's exciting, right, But there was a time
period where I'm like, I don't need another resolution when
I haven't accomplished my last three years of resolutions, right,
And it really taught me like, Okay, it's good to
set these goals and have a time stamp of January first,
(15:00):
kind of like a fresh start. I get that concept,
but knowing that, you know, life and success is a
game of endurance. Not a lot of people can handle endurance.
A perfect example would be like a sprinter versus a
marathon runner. Right. The marathon runner is gonna certainly achieve more,
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have more time spent into it because they will take
their time getting to the goal, versus a sprinter. The
sprinter wants to get it done now and quickly and
not work, you know, twelve months to get to the goal.
So the point of resolutions has been, you know, can
you set realistic goals and can you keep that momentum going?
(15:44):
Because it applies to everything, not just business, I mean
it applies to relationships. And it definitely stood out for
me in the fitness business. When I had the gym,
you know, everybody's excited. Everybody comes to the gym and
starts working out, and we have some great success for
the first three four months of the year. And I
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made it a goal of mine to keep people engaged
throughout the entire twelve months, not just the first three months,
you know, not just the summer bod. Let's work on
your summer bod. You know, well, what happens after your
summer bod. You just let it go right, and if
you do, you're essentially starting over. And to add to
(16:25):
your point about the fourth quarter in October, I think
if you can do exactly what you're talking about, staying focused,
having the faith, and moving through all the noise and
distractions that the last quarter had, I think it's the
hardest time of the year to be accomplishing anything because
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a everybody tends to make it look like the world
kind of slows down. People are taking more time off,
there's more parties. We got to celebrate life, and that's
where the problem happens. To start October thirty first, with
all the sugar, all the candy, all the distractions. And
you know, I'm not saying that Halloween is not fun.
(17:07):
It is fun, but it's also a good excuse to
just eat like shit and drink like you know, to
to no end and just start hurting your health. Come Thanksgiving,
which is one of my favorite holidays, as you know,
and it used to be I could eat all kinds
of food on Thanksgiving and it's so much fun. It's
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it's in you're with family and everything is happening, and
how could you not look forward to that?
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Right?
Speaker 1 (17:35):
And then there's December and we got Christmas and.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
All parties that party.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
So I used to tell all my clients like, if
you can really put the pedal to the metal on
the last three months of the year, you're going to
be successful. In fact, I used to hold a lot
of challenges at the last quarter of the year, and
I even went as far one year, which I lost
my ass on, but I was happy. I said, for
(18:01):
all you guys who can work out thirty days in
the thirty one days of December, I will waive your
membership for the next you know, for the next month.
And a lot of people were motivated. It's amazing how
people are motivated by your little one hundred and twenty
dollars one hundred and forty dollars a month membership, and
it motivated everybody not to you know, ruin their health
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journey and their fitness journey. And at the end of
the day, I ended up, you know, with very low
revenue on January, you know, first because there were so
many successful customers or clients that that achieve that. But
I truly believe that that is the heart. That's where
people really gain the most weight, where people lose the
(18:44):
most traction on their goals, and certainly where people get
the most distracted. You know, there's there's holidays leading up
to that, but the fourth quarter is the game changer. Like,
like you said, I agree with you one hundred percent, and.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
That's why I think they call it separation season, right,
That's where you get to separate yourself from everybody else.
And again, more importantly, it gets your mind to accept
that you do deserve more because you're different. Right, Like
when you get to go to the gym and now
instead of or a fitness class, there used to be
forty people there and now there's ten. You're like, okay,
(19:18):
I'm a little different, you know, and I think you know,
at the end of the day, what I've seen from
just average and elite people. Is elite people can get
things done even when they don't feel like it. They
don't work off how they feel, They work off their discipline.
And you know, during the fourth quarter, like you mentioned,
(19:41):
there's a lot of distractions, right, but if you can
still get things done while those distractions are happening, or
while there's a lot of chaos, that's what separates average
from elite, right, because anyone can do thing things when
your life is great and when things are going well
(20:02):
and when you have no distractions, Like, yeah, you're supposed
to do well, right, but it's can you do well
when there's a bunch of distractions? Can you do well
when there's a bunch of chaos around you, when you're
when your life is falling apart? Can you still get
things done right?
Speaker 1 (20:19):
Right?
Speaker 2 (20:19):
That is that's the definition of grit, right you figure
out how to resolve during chaos, right. Fortitude, resiliency. You know,
my favorite three skill sets are fortitude, grit, and resiliency.
And those things can't be caught taught. They can't. They
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can't be taught. You have to You're not born with them.
You have to experience them. And the only way you
experience them is by continuing to push forward against all
the resistance. And you know that's why in life, I
don't think you want it to be easy. You want
it to be hard because if things aren't hard, you
know we were talking about pain earlier, right, if things
aren't hard, you'll never build the muscles that you need
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to sustain success for a long time. Because what's gonna
happen is life's going to punch you in the face.
It's inevitable. Life and pain are inseparable. And when life
punches you in the face, if you don't, if you
haven't built that muscle of being able to take that punch,
you'll get knocked out. But that's why when you're but
the only way to build that muscle is through those
(21:24):
tough times. So if you can embrace you know, this
year as you're going through the pain of going through
that goal, and instead of quitting when the pain comes,
because if you quit, you never get to build the muscle.
But if you just continue to push forward, focusing on
the things that you can control, you'll start to build
that endurance. You'll start to build that grit, that resiliency,
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that fortitude, and the reason they are my three favorite
skill sets to have because no one could ever take
them away from you. Like, no matter what you do,
you'll kick apps because when life punches you, you'll spring
back up and you'll continue to push forward. Right, Whereas
most people, because we all get knocked down, right, we
all be knocked down. Yeah, the difference is how fast
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do you get back up? You know? And most people, unfortunately,
they stay on the floor for like freaking months, whereas
you know, the people that do pretty well for themselves,
they spring back up and they're like, yep, I got
knocked down, I'm springing back up and I'm pushing forward.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Yeah. I think another way of putting that is, you know,
it's easy to experience the good times in life, you know,
and even the good times in life don't have longevity
because they get boring. Right. It's like driving the same
car for ten years. Well, I had a heart on
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when I bought my Ferrari, but ten years later, I'm
want a different one. Three years later, I want a
different one. Right. So to build resilience, unfortunately, you're going
to have to go through some pain. You're going to
have to go through some discomfort and you're going to
have to experience it. Nobody can teach you. You cannot
read it in a book, and you cannot learn it
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from somebody else going through the pain. In order for
someone to really understand resilience, they have to go through it.
And unfortunately, sometimes life just throws it at you. Right,
people like you and I tend to go out looking
for it. You know, we want the challenging, we want
the obstacles, but it's the people that you know are
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through are just for lack of better examples, a car accident,
you know, you cannot see that coming, and shit like
that happens. So or even this fire us happened in La.
Who would have ever thought that it was going to
flatten out the whole city of Palisades, Right, you would
never have thought that. But now that you are going
through it, this is going to have to be your experience.
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If you haven't already experienced resilience. This is where you
learn how resilience works and what you can do to
get through it.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
And then it allows you to be more. You know,
when the next problem comes, it's as big as more
because you've gone through so many. Right, so someone it
might be a big problem. But because you've already gone
through a lot of tough times in your life, the
next problem that comes isn't that big anymore, and you
get a bunch of those you continue to, you know,
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build that muscle. The other cool thing that happens when
you kind of are going through a tough situation is
you're also building a story that you when you overcome
and you do well for yourself again, it now creates
a loyal following because people want to follow somebody that's
got a great story of overcoming and obviously the only
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way to do that is through go through through pains.
It's kind of like you have to embrace the suck,
you know. And whenever you have goals, those goals are
going to come with problems. That New Year's resolution, whatever
we want to call it, is going to come with
a bunch of problems and challenges, and you know your
job is to solve those challenges and when you do,
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you're going to get that new level of belief and
then it's okay, what's the next purpose, what's the next goal?
And every time you do, you start adding to that belief.
And it really just comes down to if you're able
to again, I've been talking a lot about a belief.
Belief is confidence. Confidence comes from keeping the promises that
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you make to yourself, which is you got to be
about truth. And most people when they think about truth
and integrity, they're thinking about keeping the promises that they
make to other people. Well, that should be a given right.
Where most people mess up is they don't keep the
promises that they make to themselves. And the problem and
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the reason they do the reason they don't keep the
promises they make to themselves is they think no one
is looking. But there is someone looking, which is your
subconscious mind. And every time you don't keep a promise
to yourself, your subconscious mind keeps saying, Yep, you did
it again. You never keep your word. Oh, you said
you were going to go to the gym all year, Yep,
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you lasted three weeks this time, check jack. And then
that's where you start losing the belief. You start losing
the confidence because your subconscious mind doesn't believe you anymore.
Sub Consciously, you'll say, I'm going to be the top
sales guy at this company. But the problem is your
subconscious mind says, nap, I don't believe you. And the
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reason I don't believe is because I got a history
of you never coming through on your promises. So, because
your subconscious mind doesn't want to see you get hurt,
it will literally self sabotage yourself to come back down
to what it really thinks you're worth. So it'll start
making excuses for you to start quitting. Even though everything's
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going great. You're on your way to making your goal.
But because you have this history of never keeping the
promises you make to yourself, you will begin to self
sabotage yourself to come back down to what you really
think you're worth. See, your subconscious mind is always going
to prove itself correct.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
So do you think the people that can't commit to
their commitments, you know, because their subconscious is telling them
I don't believe you. Do you believe that's because of
the people that are experiencing that never experience real challenges.
You know, it's always been and Dad get me out
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of it, or Dad will just pay somebody and fix
my problems, or for that matter, our government will fix
this and I don't have to do anything.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
Right.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
Are those the people that have that subconscious that makes
them insecure and unresilient? If you will.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
I think it's the lack of awareness, because you can't
change something you're not aware of what happens when you
stop keeping the promises you make to yourself. You don't
even realize you're doing it anymore. It just becomes a habit,
like you don't even again, you don't even realize you're
doing it. It's just part of your lifestyle. So really
the question is, well, how do I start building my
confidence right? How do I start truly to believe in myself?
(28:21):
And it really just comes down to, no matter how big,
no matter how small, you keep the promise that you
make to some to yourself, you know, and then every
little win starts building that belief level. And again we
talked about it earlier, Eddie, it's consistency is not about perfection.
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It's just about progression. And as long as you're getting
a little better, like that's all you, that's all that matters.
But eventually you can stay consistent for a long time.
Now you start making some leaps, But it's all about consistency.
Most people can't deal with consistency. And the other beautiful
(29:02):
thing about consistency, consistency is what establishes a habit, and
what happens is you're not always going to be motivated.
You're not always going to be inspired, right Like, we
don't always like I've never always inspired and motivated. But
my habits will get me through those days where I
don't feel like going to the gym or I don't
feel like going to work. I've made it such a
habit that even though I don't feel like it, I
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still get it done. And it's why consistency is so important.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
So tell me a little bit about your experience, since
you have plenty of with salespeople. You know, you have
your salespeople that are just go getters, have experienced hardship
in life, and I think on the surface, we all
know that the person that has suffered the most pain
usually is the most motivated, versus a person you know
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that grew up with the silver spoon in their mouth
and you know they just don't know what to do
with their life. So they come to you and you
give them an opportunity, and then they're like, eh, not
for me. What is the differentiating factor when you have
those two polar opposite people that you're training, and how
do you guide them so that they're both successful if
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that is possible.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
I think, to me, what I've seen the biggest is
just the some people are consistent and some people aren't.
And I've seen people from that are successful that already
have you know, rich parents become very successful as well.
And I obviously i've seen the opposite, right, and I've
seen people that come from nothing make it. But what
they all sort of have in common is just this
(30:40):
commitment to consistency. They do the commitment to repetition.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
Right.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
They like to do all the boring stuff that no
one else wants to do, like the gym. Like the gym,
it's I mean, the life is like that, right, Like
they show up just winning in life. It's just showing
up every day. Like I think back to myself when
I was fifteen years old. I was shy, I was timid,
(31:08):
but I got obsessed with repetition. I started I wanted
to do all the boring shit that no one else
wanted to do. Part of that was just showing up
every day. I showed up six days a week. People
that were way more talented than me only showed up
four days out of the week. I showed up to
every leadership development class they had the people that were
way more talented than me never showed up to those
classes because they weren't mandatory. I got obsessed with role playing.
(31:32):
I went to the top guy in the entire company
and I said, hey, can you record your presentation for me?
And then I wrote that thing word for word and
I must have said it a thousand times, and I
started to feed up. I started to copy his tonality,
the way he spoke, I started walk like him. I
basically just mimicked everything he did. But then I sort
of got to rob his confidence from him because I'm like, well,
(31:55):
he is the top guy in the company. I'm doing
it just like he's doing it. I must be pretty
good and happen is once I started getting the results,
I started to believe it right, because you don't believe
something in your heart until you experience it. Right. When
you have that conviction, it's because in some way, somehow
you've experienced it. And that's really when I started to
(32:17):
really believe, like, wait a minute, I could really do this.
But I was doing again all the boring stuff that
really no one wanted to do. And I think, as you,
you know, if you want to be successful, if you
want to make sick. Whatever you define success is right.
You know you want to make six figures a year,
seven figures a year, It's actually not that hard. Number
one is first rule is you have to find an
(32:39):
opportunity that allows you to be successful, that allows you
to make that kind of money. If you want to
make a million dollars, but you're in an industry that
or in a position where there's no way in hell
that you're going to make a million dollars, then how
are you going to make it? So you have to
you have to find you have to find an industry
that will allow you to be as successful as you want, right,
(33:00):
an opportunity. But the second one is the hardest one.
You have to find someone who's done it before, who's
got a best at interest in your success that's going
to help you do it. And if you could find
those two things, you should be pretty successful unless you
just don't start applying the things that you're being taught.
But yeah, that's that's what I've seen over and over.
(33:21):
It's just the consistency is again, consistent consistency will take
average to excellence. I mean, here's a perfect example, Addie.
It's funny I was talking to Teddy the other day
and she was making fun of a picture I post
that She called it a thirst trap, and that's why
I was showing my abs. Right, And I do the
same boring ass workout that I've been doing since I
(33:43):
was at eighteen years old. Nothing special about it, nothing
sexy about it. But it's just the consistency over the years.
I don't even have to work out on it as hard.
You know, I maybe do abs once a week now.
Back then I used to do them like or five
times a week, and it's it's like the same. It's
(34:03):
just the consistency. And then I'll see dudes in the
gym doing all kinds of you know, crazy ab workouts
and they're nowhere, dear what you know where I'm at
right And here I am with my boring ass freaking
four step AB workout. Nothing special about it other than
I've just been consistent.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
Consistency really plays a big role in every aspect of life,
which you know, just brought up another point leading into
it's not just about making money, because the reality is
not every single person in this world can apply these
rules and be a six figure a year earner. Right,
(34:45):
There's other aspects involved such as opportunity and relationships and
of course timing. So let's shift a little bit off
of the financial business, you know, consistency, purpose and think
about our personal lives, you know, because money ultimately doesn't
(35:06):
buy you happiness, it's it's who you are as a
person and your relationship. So are you I know you're
struggling right now and you're living through a really challenging
time with your relationship. What part of consistency has been
applicable to what you've done in your relationship for all
(35:26):
these years? And how are you handling these challenges today?
Speaker 2 (35:32):
Yeah? Well so I think again, So your goes back
to your habits, right, I think your character will be
revealed under pressure, right, it's under pressure, your character will
be revealed. Right. And you know, for me, I've always
leaned on faith, you know, whether that's business, whether that's family,
whether that's my health. It's just always leaning on faith first,
(35:53):
always having hope, something that you're looking forward to. You know.
That's that's been huge for me.
Speaker 1 (35:59):
Right, That's part of your consistency, right, yes, okay?
Speaker 2 (36:04):
And and in fact, the more successful I got, the
more I wanted to lean into faith, right, Right, Because
you know, the more success comes, the more sometimes problems comes.
And you know, right now I'm dealing with another set
of problems, but it's really my faith that's kind of
carrying me through that. Also, you know, the discipline of
(36:26):
still like, hey, even though all this stuff is going on, like,
you still have to get there's still a lot of
people that are depending on you. You got to get the
job done right. And and then gratitude, you know, that's
that's a big one. Gratitude is And it's not easy.
You have to cultivate gratitude because we're already pre programmed
(36:50):
to worry all the time. So if you're grateful, you
won't see like failure as permanent because there's so many
things that you're grateful for. So that's that's been huge,
you know. And and you know obvious tell people if
you're if you're struggling with faith, increase your gratitude. And
(37:14):
if you increase your gratitude, you'll automatically have you know, faith,
you know. So so yeah, it's just uh doing the
doing the things that you're that you're supposed to be doing,
you know, and and just continuing to push I think,
continue to push forward, right because I think what what
(37:35):
happens with most people is when that fear comes, they
sort of get paralyzed and they don't move, and then
from there comes procrastination. You know, you need to do stuff,
but you don't do it, and then from there you
become paranoid. And then that's when you get in your
head about things, and then that's when that anxiety really
(37:55):
starts to creep in, because it's just a bunch of
thoughts in your mind. I mean, think about it. When
have you overthought good thoughts? Every time you overthink something,
it's bad thoughts.
Speaker 1 (38:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (38:07):
Yeah, And and what happens when you have a lot
of thought in your head when you have a lot
of clutter, you're at a low frequency. What you want
to be is at a high frequency. And you could
only get a high frequency when you have clarity. You
don't even have time to think because you have you're
so clear on everything that you want.
Speaker 1 (38:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
So you know that's why, Like for me, one of
the ways I do that is just by staying productive.
You know, I always say execute being overwhelmed by overwhelming execution,
and that for me has always helped me out quite
a bit, you know, because Otherwise if you just sit
around and think, mine'll go wild on you.
Speaker 1 (38:48):
You know, going back to the consistency, that's I think
a big part of being in control, right, Self control,
self discipline is one of the biggest factors that's made
me successful. And I've had moments where, you know what,
(39:10):
I don't want any self control. I just want to
relax and not think about anything, right. But I also
know that when you get to a point where you've
been consistent with life and everything in your life, you're
essentially in control of your life. And I know that
when you can't control something, that's when chaos ensues, and
(39:31):
that's when your mind gets clouded, and that's when feelings
that you get distort you, and then you start doing
shit that you shouldn't be doing and you regret later
on saying things. You know, and that's typical in any
kind of disagreement, whether it's business or personal family. Right,
do you feel like you're in control right now going
through what you're going through with Teddy? Or are you
(39:54):
depending relying on faith to manage it for you? I mean,
how are you going to get through? This is really
the question I'm asking, Do you know?
Speaker 2 (40:06):
Yeah, I think you have to let A big part
of it is faith, right, because I think what robs
you of your inner piece is you trying to control
something that you cannot control. There's just certain like I'm
big on controlling what I can control, but there's certain
things that you can't control. And that's kind of where
the faith comes in, Yeah, because when you try to
(40:27):
control something you can't control, then that's where you rob
yourself of the inner piece. And I think more than
anything like inner piece joy are probably two of the
best things you could ever have. And you know, I'm
not going to sit here and say that every day
is perfect. It's just it's ups and downs. And sometimes
I feel great and I'm like, yeah, this is things
(40:47):
are going to be great, and then then the next day,
I'm like, what the F is going on in my life? Right? Like,
So it's just knowing, Yeah, it's just knowing that. Look,
it's not about perfection. It's about progression and taking one
day at a time. Know that you're going to have
bad days, like it's part of life, Like we're not
always going to be feeling great, and and don't beat
(41:09):
yourself up when you have those bad days. And you know,
and it's it's it's the only way that that that
you can do it. I think is just acknowledging that
it's going to be tough putting one keep progressing right,
because the only way you're going to get out of
that dark valley is like continue to push. If you
(41:29):
just stop and sit around, you're never going to get
out right. So you just got to progress every day.
Know that it's you know, you're gonna get knocked down.
Sometimes you're gonna get back up, and it's just it's
a it's a journey and then hope for for you know,
for the best.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
Another thing is, you know that keeps us kept me
and some of my clients motivated is doing something that's
bigger than yourself. And and this was applicable during our
Spartan training. You know, when you're doing an obstacle and
it's the the why, you know what what is your why?
(42:07):
What is your reasoning? And how are you gonna empower
yourself to get through it? And sometimes I had to
talk to clients and say, I think about something that's
bigger than you and decide if it's powerful enough to
get you through the hardest times, the hardest obstacles. And
I had a client that actually found me through Spartan
(42:30):
race research, and he said he was going to do
a Spartan race with his son, and his son ended
up passing away from some cancer or something like that,
and he was determined to do a Spartan because that's
what he was going to do with his son. And
he's like, gosh, I think he was pushing seventy years old.
(42:53):
And the guy was motivated, and he was you know,
he was he was there because of the power he
had from his son. You know, he was doing it
not for himself, but for the power of, you know,
making his son proud, who isn't around. I mean, that's
a very powerful tool, right right. And and what I'm
(43:15):
getting at I think is, you know, I think part
of what your struggle is you're going through can be
empowered by thinking about the kids. You know, thinking the
kids first. Anytime it comes to a divorce or separation
of two people that you know have something in common,
I think it's important to think about what that was
that you have in common in how to protect that.
(43:36):
So I think I think if you really use that tool,
I think you'll be able to enhance and and and
you know ten x your faith and power to get
through this hard time in your life. You know, I
know it's not easy, you know, but I just want
(43:58):
you to be, you know, as successful and as happy
as you can be going through this time of your life.
Speaker 2 (44:03):
Bro, I appreciate it, man. And you just reminded me
of one of my favorite quotes, which is courage is
not the absence of fear, it's the absence of self.
And it's typically you know, if you live for yourself,
you can settle for less, but if you live for others,
that require all of who you are. And that's exactly
(44:24):
what you said. It's just it's a big driver, you know,
seeing you know, things aren't taught, they're caught. And your
kids see how you handle yourself during a pressure situation.
And that's why I say your character will be revealed
under a pressure situation. And habits are reflexive, and if
(44:45):
you have good habits, that's what's going to come out.
That's the kind of person you are. So I think
for me and to your point, when you change your
life for the better and you start doing better, you
give people hope and faith that their life can change too.
And it could be a major inspiration for people as well.
So you know, I think what I'd say to everybody listening.
(45:05):
If you're going through tough times, you know know that
when you overcome it, when you change, it's you're going
to inspire many people. And in life. I know sometimes
people don't think this, but you know a mantra that
I love is I exist, Therefore I will impact. And
it's just a reminder to yourself, I exist, therefore I
(45:29):
will impact. No matter who you are, You're going to
impact this world, and it's either going to be positive
or negative because your decisions are going to impact this world.
And I've just always chosen to do it in a
positive way, right And you're either inspire, you're going to expire.
And the thing about it is, no matter who you are,
(45:52):
I promise you you can inspire someone because there's someone
that is just like you that when they see you
do better, it gives them faith and hope that their
life can change.
Speaker 1 (46:03):
Absolutely. Absolutely, And coming full circle, because we started this
conversation about resolutions, I think that's a mindset. What do
you think your mindset is for twenty twenty five? Are
you optimistic about what this year brings.
Speaker 2 (46:19):
Or yeah, I'm very optimistic. I mean, I think twenty
twenty four was probably my toughest year in life. Everything
that could have gone wrong in business kind of went
wrong in business obviously, you know the news at the
end of the year with my relationship wasn't a good
one either. But again, hopefully this gives people a lot
(46:43):
of hope. Is when you know you're doing the right things,
there's always going to be a reaction, right, So for
every action, there's a reaction, right, And what happens a
lot of times is when you're doing the right things,
it takes about six months to a year, sometimes two
years to see it just skyrocket. And what happens is
(47:05):
most people, when they don't see the results in three months,
they quit. When they don't see the result in six months,
they quit. But if you can just stay consistent like,
it's gonna come. And I've seen this over and over
in my life, and that's where I think twenty twenty
five is going to be a great year for us.
For me, i should say, and that I've been putting
(47:27):
in so much work that it's just part of the
resistance that you have to go through when you're gonna
do some great and so I'm really optimistic on twenty five.
Not because I'm just like thinking and hoping, and it's
I know, I put in the work and I haven't quit,
(47:47):
and I'm continuing to put the work. So I'm expecting
to have my biggest comeback here and a very successful one.
So you know, God willing that's what's gonna happen. But
I truly believe it in my heart.
Speaker 1 (48:00):
That's awesome. I got to be honest with you, though
I didn't come into this new year with big goals
in mine and I think we talked about that earlier
in our conversation, but I do have a sense of optimism,
like this is going to be a big year of change,
a positive year of change, because not just you know
(48:23):
what's going on to you with you and you know
other people in the world, and gosh, what's happening already
in twenty twenty five is devastating in LA But I
realized that I just I operate so much better when
I'm optimistic, and whatever that brings for me, I'm gonna
cherish and you know, take in with open arms. But
(48:46):
my goal for twenty twenty five is to make some
great positive changes and I don't know what those changes
are yet, but it's going to be a year of
change for me, whatever that is.
Speaker 2 (48:56):
I love what you just said there, Eddie, because honestly,
ninety percent winning in life is just being positive. If
you can take a negative and turn it into a positive.
And here's a quick formula for you to do that.
So your life is a series of events, and based
on the interpretation that you give that event, that's going
to give you a feeling. That feeling is going to
(49:18):
cause you to take action, and that action is going
to take you give you the result. So if you
don't like the result, you have to change the action,
which means you have to change the meaning, which means
you have to change the interpretation. But if you become
really good at the interpretation of that thing that happened
in your life, you'll now get that feeling. That feeling
(49:40):
will cause you to take a certain type of action
and that'll give you a result. Now easier said than done, right,
So sometimes you won't be as great at interpreting that
event in your life. And a reminder is just because
you feel some way, let's say it's a bad way
that you feel doesn't mean you have to act on it.
(50:01):
Just a little reminder on that as well. You don't
have to act on everything you feel and you know,
because sometimes you're not going to have the greatest feelings.
Speaker 1 (50:07):
Right, It's just part of life.
Speaker 2 (50:10):
Life.
Speaker 1 (50:11):
So let's do a quick speed round for what we're
looking forward to in twenty twenty five. We have some
questions here and then we'll wrap this up. Let's say
a place you want to visit this year? Is there
any specific place you want to see this year that
you've always wanted to see that you haven't seen for
whatever reason?
Speaker 2 (50:30):
Abiza? What about you?
Speaker 1 (50:32):
Oh, Abiza, that's good. I always wanted to see that
when I was younger in my party days. Today I
would feel like an old man there.
Speaker 2 (50:39):
Yeah, well I might be that old man there, but
I think I'm going to check out Abiza. By the way,
I heard it's a great place to take your kids too.
Apparently it's apparently it's like it's it's people from France
that's like their Mexico.
Speaker 1 (50:53):
Yeah yeah, I mean it's the party island. But it's
a gorgeous place and you know, you don't have to
go there to party, but it's it's a beautiful place.
That's awesome. A place I want to sit this year
is actually Zion. I've been wanting to go to Utah
and visit just you know, just something here that I've
never seen, the red rocks, the hiking trails, the beautifulness
(51:15):
of our beautiful country. So that's one of my goals
is to visit Zion this year. Is there a skill
you want to learn this year? A new skill?
Speaker 2 (51:26):
I'm either I'm either going to take dancing lessons, although
I like to think I'm a really good dancer, but
I want to take it up to another level. What
kind of I think a little bit soalsis a little
hip hop like I want to start doing all that
just but I want to do with my kids too.
I think it'll be pretty fun to do with my kids.
And the other one is cooking. I think that's a
new skill set that I want to develop.
Speaker 1 (51:48):
Yeah, what about you new skill set? I think I
want to learn everything I can possibly about AI. You know,
to me, that seems to be the next good inner, right,
So I I really am curious. I avoided it for
the last two years, but I think it will be
a big deal for the for the rest of our life.
(52:10):
So I'm going to learn everything I can about AI.
Do you have any predictions for this year in general?
Nothing specific.
Speaker 2 (52:19):
That one. I don't know. I'm not really that good
at predicting there. I mean, well, you're going to get going.
Speaker 1 (52:28):
Going back to my positive thinking, I predict this is
going to be a great year for the United States.
You know, it's I just I predict that it's going
to be a good year. So is there anything you
want to do for someone this year? Anything or anyone?
Speaker 2 (52:44):
You know, my dad? You know, the World Cup is coming,
so I'm I My dad's getting older, so I definitely
want to spend more time with my dad, but also
just kind of start lining up that big trip that
I want to do for him for the World Cup.
You know, I've never taken more than ten days off
in a row, and I want to just take off
thirty days in a row for that and just experience
(53:09):
that with him. I mean that that's that's that's what
what what comes to mind and travel?
Speaker 1 (53:15):
Yeah, yeah, I want to have a hundredth year birthday
for my grandmother. She's going to be one hundred in September,
but I want to have it six months before that,
because you know, I just don't know if she's going
to make it or not. I mean, she's doing great,
she's all there, firing on all eight but you know,
I don't I don't want to wait. So that's what
(53:38):
I want to do for someone, which is my grandmother,
is have a nice hundred year of birthday parties. So
and what is your word for this year?
Speaker 2 (53:50):
Relentless consistency.
Speaker 1 (53:52):
Relentless consistency?
Speaker 2 (53:55):
What about you?
Speaker 1 (53:58):
I would say probably Sarah anddipity. That's my word, serendipity.
Speaker 2 (54:04):
There you go.
Speaker 1 (54:05):
I don't know how to apply it, but that's the
first word that came to my head right now.
Speaker 2 (54:09):
Same thing, that's the first thing I just when you
said it, I was just like, leveless consistency.
Speaker 1 (54:13):
That's awesome, awesome, Well, happy to year, great catching up
with you.
Speaker 2 (54:19):
Yeah, was always a message for you for the listeners
for twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1 (54:23):
Oh yeah, I forget that we had a message for
you listeners. What is the message? The message I think
I want to I want to give our listeners is
stay positive, stay positive, think positive. Even during the hardest
times in life, in what life throws at you, try
(54:46):
to stay as positive as possible, because that's where you'll
be able to see through all the noise and garbage
and distractions that happen in your head. With me, I've
always used positivity as sort of the servile silver silver lining.
You know, why is this happening? And what's the lesson?
(55:07):
And ah, where's my path to get through this? You know,
so positivitally, it's always helped me think I don't care
how hard this is. I don't care if I'm you know,
so far behind or I've lost it all. I am
looking for the pop, for the path that's going to
get me out of this. And if I think positive,
I will find that path. If I think negative, I
(55:29):
won't see anything, and I would just be blinding and
and and never get out of that hole or never
get out of that situation. So I'd say stay positive
for for as much as you can, even on the hardest,
worst times of your life. For illustration purposes, let's say
again you are in a car accident. You're you're upside
(55:49):
down in the car, and you're looking around and you're dizzy,
and and you think, oh my god, this is the
end of my life. If you switch gears and think positive,
I'm going to get out of this, I'm going to
get that out of this alive, and I'm going to
get back to my life. It's a better way to
get out of a situation than to think, oh no,
I'm never going to be able to walk, or oh no,
(56:11):
I just lost my arm, or you know whatever. You
know negative thought comes into your head. Switch it to
a positive.
Speaker 2 (56:18):
Love that I would say, you know, most people are
waiting to know before they go, and you have to
go before you know. And you have to go before
you know. Most people are waiting to know before they go.
But in reality, you have to go before you know.
And that's really another way of saying you have to
take action before you have what you need. To wait
(56:41):
until you have what you need to actually start taking
action towards it. Whatever your goal is, as crazy as
it sounds, is you know, non realistic as it sounds,
Just start taking action towards it and you'll start seeing
how the stars will start aligning to you. But you
have to go before you know. The house like the
Killer of All Dreams. Sometimes we're waiting for the perfect time.
(57:04):
It's never gonna have a perfect time. You got to
just go to go after it. Yeah, so go after
it in twenty twenty five. That's all five twenty five.
I love it.
Speaker 1 (57:15):
Awesome. Thank you so much for listening, and please remember
to share our podcast, talk to your friends about it
if you feel you got anything from it, and please
any feedback. We Edwin and I love feedback. It's not
to buff our ego or you know, you know, make
us feel better. We really do gauge what we're doing
(57:38):
based on our listeners. If you guys can enjoying us,
or if you think it's just we're full of shit,
so tell us the truth. I appreciate it all, and
Happy New Year.
Speaker 2 (57:49):
Happy New Year,
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