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Speaker 1 (00:00):
First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys
online at Advocateslaw dot com.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Gabe is on the phone today for a first day
follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Harper.
So in a few minutes we'll call her and see
if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe
get him a second date. But first, Gabe, how long
has it been since you heard from.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
Harper's In like a week? And I think I know
why I was ghosted?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Oh really?
Speaker 3 (00:26):
Oh sure?
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Yeah, Well, tell us about the date first, and then
tell us why you think you're getting ghosted.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
I mean, for well, first of all, it was late
to the date, so right there. Oh yeah, like thirty
minutes late. And I know that's bad. But so I
was helping my neighbor move a couch and the whole
morning just slipped away, like I just lost a sense
of my sense of time. But I texted her. I
told her what was going on, and I apologized. And
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when I ran to get there, like as soon as
I realized what the.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Time was, So okay, did she wait for you?
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (01:01):
She waited, which I did not expect. I don't know
if I would have done that.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
Half hour.
Speaker 5 (01:07):
But yeah, but okay, so you're trying to make up
for being late, and she waited for you.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Yeah, she waited and she stayed and we had uh
so the day was we had we had coffee this
cute little spot, and then after that she says she
wanted to hit up this ping pong bar nearby, and
she's so into ping pong, Like I didn't even know
that was a thing. I think I had never heard
of ping pong bar. Like she lit up when we
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got there. We played a few games and we got
some prize, and honestly, I thought we were vibing, like
she was laughing.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
She was.
Speaker 4 (01:41):
She was so cute, she was trash talking.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
It was really really cute. She was cool.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
She's really cool, And I was trying to redeem myself
for being late, you know, like trying to make up
for it, right.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
I thought I did.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
I don't know, though, because now she's not answer me,
and I can't stop thinking about her, because it's like
it's rare that I meet someone like her, Like she
has this great energy, she's smart.
Speaker 6 (02:09):
She didn't make me.
Speaker 4 (02:09):
Feel like I had to be anything. I'm not, Like,
I was just who I was, which is so comfortable as.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Being late the reason you think you're getting ghosted.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
Yeah, I did, I just blow it beyond repair. Or
maybe she was just busy, Like I don't like, I
was helping my friend and I just lost track of time.
That's kind of careless. But I felt like I explained
it all well.
Speaker 5 (02:31):
So then what else happened? So you guys played ping pong? Like,
did you guys kiss? Did you guys decide that you're
going to have another date?
Speaker 3 (02:39):
No, was sort of just like talk to you soon?
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Like did it end like you thought maybe she was
like upset or didn't really have a good time.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
No, I don't. I didn't think she was upset. Like
if she did, it wasn't into me. Why would we
go to the pink pong bar and like we hung
out there for a while.
Speaker 5 (02:57):
I mean, unless I just used her to take her
to a ping pong because she really likes ping pong. Way,
this guy doesn't know how to be on time, but
I'm gonna get some ping pong out of it.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
Maybe maybe I didn't say that, though I don't know.
I just don't not like even if I don't know,
it's been maybe she's busy. But that's also why I'm
calling you, guys, is like I just want to know,
because it's the hard part about being ghosted is not
knowing totally.
Speaker 5 (03:23):
But did you reach out to her then, so like
this is an obvious ghosting? Or was the last time
you talked to her on the date?
Speaker 3 (03:29):
That is, the last time I talked to her was
on the date.
Speaker 4 (03:31):
Okay, it's been over a week, just over and the
last time I text him was yesterday.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Well, we'll see if we can figure it out for you. Okay,
play a song, come back, and then call her and
see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you and
maybe get you a second date.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Thank you?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
All right, we'll get your first day follow up, next.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
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Speaker 2 (03:56):
Right in the middle of today's first day follow up,
And if you're just joining us, Gabe is on the
phone and we're about to call Harper who's ghosting him,
and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him
and maybe get him a second date. But first, Gabe,
why don't you refresh our memory and your situation real quick.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
So I went out on a day with this awesome person.
She's super cool, she's super sweet.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
I thought we vibed, but I was late to the date.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
Like half an hour, and I felt bad about that,
and I felt like I tried to make up for it,
but we hung out for a while, and now she
won't answer my text. So I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Okay, now you ready? Yeah? All right, here we go. Hello, Hi, man,
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I speak to Harper. Please.
Speaker 6 (04:55):
Hi.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
This is hey Harper. How are you? This is a
radio show. It's called The Jubile Show.
Speaker 5 (04:59):
H I'm Nina.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is Jubal. How are you.
Speaker 6 (05:04):
I'm good, I'm confused, I'm good.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Have you ever listened to The Jubil Show before?
Speaker 6 (05:11):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Oh cool?
Speaker 6 (05:14):
And I'm like, I don't know what you could be
calling me for.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Well, we do a segment on the show called the
First Date follow Up, where if you go out with
somebody and then you end up ghosting them, that person
can email us. Familiar with that, I've heard it, yeah,
oh yeah, So is there anybody you can think of
that would email us about you?
Speaker 6 (05:35):
Unfortunately? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (05:37):
What's their name?
Speaker 6 (05:40):
Gabe?
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Right, Yes it is. Gabe emailed us, told us a
little bit about your date and says that he's very confused.
He liked you a lot. I thought you guys had
a great time. Would you mind telling us why you're
ghosting him?
Speaker 7 (05:54):
I mean, yeah, I ghosted him, like I don't want
to be rude, but like, honestly, I didn't know what
else to do like this, the whole situation just seemed
really scammy scammy. Yeah, I mean okay, So first he
showed up thirty minutes late, which like rude, but I
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can deal with it.
Speaker 6 (06:17):
I get it.
Speaker 7 (06:18):
I run late sometimes too, and like if the vibes
are there, it's fine. Whatever. And so we were hanging
out and then we decided to go play.
Speaker 6 (06:29):
King Pong and then we get there, oh my goodness,
surprised he lost his wallet trying to get to this
day again. I don't mind, king, I.
Speaker 7 (06:43):
Just just be upfront about it, be like I you
know it, don't like make it like I lost it,
Be like, oh, I you know, like I'm was running late.
I left it behind and it mean too, or like
just be like can you pay? You know, don't make
a thing about it, and so fine, whatever I paid
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for everything because he didn't have any money on him,
which is not the deal breaker, the deal breaker.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Wise, I mean it could be, but yeah, no.
Speaker 6 (07:14):
No, no, there's more.
Speaker 7 (07:17):
On the way out, we're like saying goodbye, and then
he's like, oh my gosh, don't have any groceries at home?
Speaker 6 (07:24):
Can can you be one hundred dollars.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Dollars for groceries?
Speaker 7 (07:31):
And he was like, I gotta feed myself and my cat.
I didn't even know that he had a cat. First off,
didn't mention the cat beats time we were together, but
also like, what what can I use from a grocery store?
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Like if you know, did you give him the money?
Who asks for that?
Speaker 7 (07:52):
I didn't give him one hundred dollars. I'm not stupid.
But I also was like I need to get out
of this situation, and like he's not gonna let up.
Speaker 6 (08:01):
So it was like, I don't one hundred dollars, so
like I have fifty.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
You cave him fifty.
Speaker 7 (08:07):
I had to get away. I had to get away. Okay,
you do what you gotta do.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Oh wow? Ok.
Speaker 7 (08:13):
On the way home, like I just kept replaying everything,
I was like, are you serious? He's wait he doesn't
have his wallet. He asks for money like, now, I'm
an ATM for a stranger in there.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Yeah. I've been used a lot for money in relationships. Yeah,
and I've never had anybody just ask for it on
the first date. It's a long game, you know. Then
you realize they're just they're just here. Something gets tough, my.
Speaker 6 (08:41):
Cat, you can't need the groceries.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
I'm like, no, wow, okay, well, thank you for telling us.
I'm sorry. And I don't know if you forgot or not,
but Gabe is on the phone and wants to talk
to you.
Speaker 7 (08:52):
Oh I would love to hear what he has to say.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
A harper I okay, so that all sounds bad.
Speaker 7 (09:04):
Like no, Harbor, No, I'm sorry, Okay, no, don't harper me, Like,
come on, I just told Harbor.
Speaker 4 (09:12):
I told you i'd pay you back with interest. I
was just I was like in a pinch, and you
were like this angel who shows up at.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
The right time?
Speaker 6 (09:20):
An angel? Wow? What a like?
Speaker 7 (09:22):
What a beautiful, like literally sparkly way to say manipulation?
Speaker 4 (09:27):
Come on, No, I just needed help. I even borrowed
money from my neighbor after that. I swear it was
not a setup. Okay, here's the thing. Like you could
have gone home and gotten your wallet.
Speaker 7 (09:40):
You could have gone like you could have used Apple pay,
Like there were other options that you could have done
other than asking a woman that you literally just met.
Speaker 6 (09:50):
Were you minding?
Speaker 4 (09:51):
Like, come on, wow, Harper, I guess I just didn't
realize you're so materialistic, care so much about money.
Speaker 7 (10:01):
I don't care about money, but I care about like
I don't respect and like basic human.
Speaker 6 (10:06):
Decency like I don't.
Speaker 7 (10:09):
I don't understand why that's the hard I said I
would pay you back.
Speaker 3 (10:12):
Isn't that decent?
Speaker 7 (10:15):
I don't need you to pay me back. Actually, you
can keep the money.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
I just want to make sure, Harper, would you like
another day with Gabe and we will pay for it.
Speaker 7 (10:25):
You get no, no, no, save your money, Save your money.
You can keep the fifty dollars. It's a donation to
the chaos that you have going on.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
Oh my god, we'll find my Harper.
Speaker 7 (10:42):
To get out of having to deal with that again.
So it's it's money well off?
Speaker 3 (10:48):
All right?
Speaker 4 (10:49):
Well fine, Harper, I was gonna pay you back to
fifty bucks, but you gave me.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
But good luck finding you're mister rich man. Or whatever
you're looking for. Okay, it even want like a bank account.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Person bank account, people that have money in it. Yeah.
Speaker 6 (11:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
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