April 24, 2024 • 38 mins
With so much disaster and heartbreak going on in the world, Iyanla welcomes a woman to share the story of how recent events have taken a toll on her mental health. As Iyanla explores the idea that the world around you reflects people’s internal struggles, the caller learns to let go of things she cannot control.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Iami, Yamla. I had a baby daddy relationship. I spent
time in a relationship with a married man. I had
to learn the skills and tools required to make my
relationships healthy, fulfilling and loving. Welcome to the r Spot,
a production of shondaland Audio in partnership with iHeartRadio. Welcome,
(00:36):
Welcome to the art Spot, the place we come to
discuss all things relationship and all relationships. I am Miamla,
your host, your guide, your facilitator, your support system as
you take a deeper look into the relationships in your life.
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And boy, do we have a top today. Earlier this week,
one of my former students wrote me a very interesting email,
and in that email, he asked me, Mama, ear how
should I be with pain? How should I be with pain?
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You know, with everything that's going on in the world today,
a lot of people are in pain. Some because they're
impacted directly, some because of the way they think about
what's going on, Some because they feel the energy of
what's going on, Some because they feel hopeless, some feel helpless.
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But a lot of people are in pain. One of
the things that I said to my students was, what
is your relationship with disaster. What is your relationship with disaster?
Even if it's not your disaster. Do not rush in
to fix it or to run away from the sadness
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of the moment, trying to escape the moment and bypass
the gift that the pain is offering you. When you're
in pain pain, pay attention inward. Now. The first thing
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to do is go in and identify what that pain is.
Is it a pain of fear? Is it a pain
of sadness? Is it a pain because of what you're thinking,
what you're feeling? What is the pain? When pain is present,
it really is a source of deep knowing. What do
you know? What do you know? Not what do you think?
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But what do you know about what you're experiencing? You see,
when we're in pain about what's going on in the world,
it's because we know that we are connected to each other,
to everyone, to everything. But are we acting like that?
Are you acting like you're connected to the person you're
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cussing out on the freeway because they cut you off,
You're connected to that they cut you off. You don't
know if they're rushing to pick up a sick child
or if they're on their way to the doctor. Or
if they're just mindlessly driving, bless them, don't cuss them. No,
you're connected to that person and the cuss you send
out to them today is going to come back to
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you tomorrow. Pain is a source of deep knowing. Pain
offers us critical information about something within us that may
needs to be balanced, that may needs to be brought
into alignment, something that we need to be accountable for,
but also something that we are responsible for. Pay attention
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inward now. Sometimes pain is teelling us that we need
to do something different. There are so many people upset
about the political landscape who are saying that they're not
going to vote. Really, you're upset about what's going on
and you're not going to participate in it. And I
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heard I think his name was Big Mike. He said
something very interesting. He said, don't vote personality, vote policy,
and vote the policies that serve you the best. So
when you're looking out on the political landscape, don't look
at personality, don't look at age, don't look at race.
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What is this person saying and how is what they're
saying gonna serve me? And the minute they start talking
about againstness, then you need to look inside and say, okay,
who and what am I against? And why is this
againstness lining up with me? Pay attention inward. Now, yes,
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there is a lot going on in the world, But
I lean into a course in miracles, and I say,
I don't know what anything is for. I don't know
what anything is for, and I give meaning to everything
that I see. So if what I see is causing
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me disturbance, distress, upset, frustration, concern, all the words my
guests used today, if what I see is giving me
causing me to have those experiences, then let me look
at the meaning that I'm given this stuff, let me
look at the judgments I have about it, and then
forgive myself so that I can be accountable for my
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own thoughts and feelings and become responsible for how I
respond to them. I think our relationship with the world
gives us a powerful, powerful starting point for building a
better and deeper relationship with what we think, why we
think it, how we think it, what we feel, and
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how we process those feelings. And if you're really having
a hard time, make a god job, turn it over,
give it to something higher and greater than you. Get
a map of the world, get a globe I have
a globe, and sometimes in my prayer I'll just rub
my hands all over that globe and let those prayers
fall where they need to fall. It's not my business
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where they go, but I'm sending it out to the world.
Get a map of the United States, put your finger
on a particular state or county or area and pray
light there, Send love there, send compassion there. May Ohio
no peace, May everyone in Ohio have what they need.
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And don't listen to the news or social media that
says this happened, that happen. And just know that your prayers,
your good thoughts, are like a pebble in the ocean
of humanity, and it will ripple out and it will
have an impact. I think I have another caller. Let's
see where they are in their relationship. Do what you
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can where you are, without expectation of reward or recognition.
Don't toot your own horn, don't pray on the corner
for other people to hear you and see you. Pray
silently and send the light out. Greetings and welcome to
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the art Spot. We're talking today about our relationship with
the world, our relationship in the world, and how it
impacts our relationship with ourselves. So, as the beloved Wendy
Williams would say, how you doing in the world.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I'm coping and and trying to stay hopeful and doing
my best.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Okay, tell more coping. What does that mean?
Speaker 2 (08:07):
I think in life to thrive, you have to be hopeful.
You have to be you know, in a place where
you feel like will kind of prevail. In the past
couple of years have just been very challenging from everything
with presidential elections and COVID and just seeing social injustice
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be so rampant. I think it's taking its toll on
my nervouses. I know it's taking its toll on my
nervous system. And you know, I'm a person who does
the work, you know. I meditate, I pray, I encourage
other people. I try to believe and be optimistic. But
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it's been challenging. I just think with the current state
of affairs and seeing things play out the way they've
played out, it's taken in such a toll on my
nervous system. I am an African American woman, so it's
been very challenging, I must say, and not just from
on all planes, so not just you know, with where
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we are with the inflation and things costing more and
making things more challenging on the home front to just
kind of, you know, be in a place I'm making
ends meet or feeling like you did good for yourself,
and then seeing that it's not worth what it once
was worth, and then dealing with the fact of safety,
and dealing with the fact of you know, corporate greed
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and all of these things. It has really taken its toll.
And even when I'm telling myself that hey, right now,
in and now in the present, you're good, your needs
are met, you have what you need, my nervous system
is still rilling from the effects of all of the trauma.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Wow, that's interesting. Where are you with inflation? Because I
I really didn't know there was no inflation. I really didn't.
I go to the store with my list, and I
try very hard to stay till on my list. If
I get off my list, I've never had to put
anything back, so I'm good. I didn't know there was
inflation until they told me.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
Yes. It's very especially for the quote unquote yet, but
it used to be the middle class. It's very challenging
our middle class.
Speaker 1 (10:25):
Don't don't get a twisted baby, I am middle class.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
I've been a relatory for twenty years. Housing prices at
an all time high. We basically had four hundred years
of inflation in four years. You know in my area
where you used to could buy a beautiful home for
a bedroom, too, too bath home for your family that
used to run one sixty eight two hundred thousand. Those
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are now six hundred thousand. But the salaries have gone up.
Even rent rates are now. You know where you used
to corn a three room apartment for twelve hundred dollars,
That apartment is now twenty eight hundred dollars in four
years time.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
When I was little, my mom would send me to
the store with a dollar. With a dollar, I could
get bread, milk, and fifty cent worth of bologne, and
sometimes have three or four cents left over to buy
some bazooka bubblegum. Things have really changed, having.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
It it really changed.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
Do you remember when you could get can you you
could get three pounds of chicken wings for five Oh no,
it's five pounds of chicken wings for three dollars? Do
you remember that?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
That might have been before my time?
Speaker 1 (11:33):
On what you try to say, I'm old. Prices are rising,
But I bet you what, do you have an iPhone
or an Android?
Speaker 2 (11:43):
I have a very very old iPhone. I'm not one
of those people that try to keep it. As a
matter of fact, I'm still in the single digits with
my iPhone, So I'm not one of those people that
try to keep up with transit.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
No, maybe not to keep up with it, but I'm
going to. I just want to offer people are screaming
about the price of eggs that they're looking at on
their thousand dollars iPhone. Yes, things have increased, but we
have different means of transportation, the supply chain where we're
getting it from, manufacturing costs, all of those things have changed.
(12:18):
They've changed, They've changed with the times, and that's just
what happens.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
They should have changed to go down, though, Ayana. I
mean with all of the technology and all of the improvements,
you know, you can now you don't have to have
as much movement in it because they have things like
three D printing and such. There's no reason for inflation
to be at this all time high. That and it's
really taking its toll on people's mental it's really taking
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its toll on people's physical and you know, and it's
a lot to process, and so you really don't know.
People want to be aware, and they want to be
in and now, and they want to be a part
of the process, but they're also have to protect their
own peace and their own you know, mental and physical
well being, and so it's hard to know when you
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should be clocked in and when and when you have
to clock out, and when you have to clock out,
how long can you be clocked out because you still
have to be a part of this machine, and the
bills still have to get paid, and you still have
to show up for work, and the cycle still has
to continue on. So being in the world right now
is an odd place to be. And you know, with
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all of the decades that I've seen, I've just never
seen a time where it was just taking such a
toll on people's mental and physical well being. You know,
when a couple of years back in the nineties, in
the early two thousands, you didn't hear a lot of
the terminology that you hear now around you know, people
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really being mentally broken, you know, about their emotional well
being and all of this. And not to say that
they didn't have their own struggles then, but this is
just it's been a lot to mentally process covid alone.
Covid alone did a number on people, you know, the isolation,
the uncertainty, the not knowing if you're ever going to
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be in the presence of people that you love again,
the loved one's lost. Covid alone did a whole mental
number on people. And then coming out of that and
things just jumping right back in into warp speed because
of those two years that were lost, the supply chain
that's messed up, and now, like I said, with the
inflation toppled, with the social injustice you know, I mean,
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no one ever thought in your lifetime that you would
see what happened on Capitol to Hell, you know, and
things of that nature in our country, Like no one thought, hey,
you know, our own democracy would see an attack on
this land. And so it's a lot to process emotionally,
and that emotional trauma will take its toll on your
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nervous system. And your nervous.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
System is nervous system, not mine, not my nervous system.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
My question for you when your nervous system where you're
a fight a flight, it is saying danger, danger, danger,
you know, and you're trying to talk yourself off that
ledge and saying, hey, it's not that bad. It doesn't
have to be in that space. Because of this state
of all these things and how people are processing these things,
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whether people are paying attention to it, we're paying too
much attention to it. And another thing I want to
hold in on that, I think why a lot of
people are struggling so much is because they're so tuned
into social media. And social media can be very polarizing
with painting the very one sided picture of you know,
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the state of affairs. But most people aren't really so
reliant on television or newscasting as much as they are
about getting that delivered to them via social media. And
we do know that those algorithms and everything are programmed
to overstimulate and so in that even though you know,
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like you can say, hey, in my personal space, within myself,
everything is okay, calm down, but d're in your fight
a flight of saying no, it's not okay, it's not okay.
How do you deal with that battle?
Speaker 1 (16:24):
How do I deal with it? Or how should you
deal with it? Because I don't have that battle.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
How should I do then? Or people who do have
that battle? How should they deal with it. People's emotional
and mental states and will being all functioned on a
different accord. So people process trauma differently.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
We're all traumatized. We are all traumatized. We're all traumatized.
You got your trauma, I got my trauma. We are
all traumatized. I am a trauma specialist. Trust me in
both experiencing it and working through it. First of all,
thank you for sharing, because I think that you have
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demonstrated a very common problem, a very common issue that
many people care front. We'll talk about that when we
come back. Welcome back to the R spot. Let's pick
up where we left. Are you speak externally? You speak
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about how do you? And most people and people and
that has nothing to do with you, You nosy, You
all up in other people's business. How about you? How
do you experience it? Because I heard you say you pray,
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you meditate, and what do you get out of that?
Because see when I go in and I pray and
I meditate, you know what I hear, I got you.
That's what I hear. I got you. And so when
somebody comes to me like you do, saying and what
do you tell most people? I say, no, that God's
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got you, and it don't matter what's going on, You're
gonna have what you need and what you can do
to support others. If that's a concern to you, pray
for constantly, send prayers out, send light out. You be
as joyful and peaceful as you can. You call in
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what you need, you know for yourself, so that you
can be a demonstration to others of what's possible. We're
looking at the world and all of the wahala and
the against us and the upset and upheaval, and we're saying,
we're judging it. We're saying it should not be, but
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it is. So what do you think, in the highest
realm could possibly be the reason, could be the purpose
of everything that's going on in the world. What could
it possibly be? Have you ever thought about that?
Speaker 2 (19:11):
I have I tried to, you know, identify and be
okay with circumstances and and things that are out of
my control. I have no control over those things, so
they're out of my hands generally, and that and on
a very personal level, you know, when I am praying,
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I'm only me. I only know my space, I only
know my emotions and my feelings regarding you. Know that circumstance.
But when I do pray, I do hear that God's
got me and it has carried me. And not only that,
you know, just from personal experiences of me, not fully
understanding you know, everything that's moving or on around me,
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but you know, seeing when when when all the parts
and the pieces come together, and see that final outcome,
seeing that, okay, all was good, this is why things
were moving around, or this is why things have happened,
or the calm after the storm, you know, when the
winds are blowing and you know, and it's storm and
it's scary and it's uncertain, but that that first sunshine
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that breaks, everything is clean, everything is beautiful, you know,
So it comes full circle. So I do understand the
balance of that.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Have you asked in your prayer and meditation what is
the purpose of going everything that's going on? Have you
asked that question in your prayer in your meditation? Do
you think that Do you think that God is with
the people in Ukraine?
Speaker 2 (20:42):
I think I think God is with all things. You know,
in my belief system, I believe that God is in
the midst of all things. You know, God is all.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
If God is in the midst of Ukraine. Do you
think God was on the capitol on January sixth, because.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
I think there were some things that needed to be exposed.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Uhhah. And do you think God is in Israel, Gaza,
Palestine with the Palestinian people right now?
Speaker 2 (21:11):
Yeah, it's in all places.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
I remember I was in New York when the Twin
Towers fell, when they were attacked and they fell, and
I remember just weeping, weeping, weeping, weeping when I saw
that second plane hit. And immediately after I finished weeping,
I started praying for those who were in the tower,
those who were who were affected by it, the family members,
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because that's what I could do, That's what I could do.
And I don't need to know the result of it.
I don't need to know, but I know my prayer
was like a pebble in the pond and it rippled
out and it had an impact to those closest to me,
to those in the next rain and the next ring
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and the next ring and the next ring. Okay, so
then what's going on in your nervous system if you're
looking at these things and you say you know that God, source, Creator,
higher mind, infinite intelligence, whatever you want to call it
is in all of this, why is a nervous system
destroy upset or imbalance.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
I think that trauma can start self in your body.
I think you know, a lot of times we pay
a lot of attention to our spirit selves. We pay
a lot of attention to our mental, but we don't
really pay as much attention to the physical. And I
think the trauma does store itself in your body. And
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I think we have to focus on the tryheart figures
that in contents are being and where I have done
well with two, maybe lacked in the third or you know,
physically big going to work out those type of things
you know on it, but the component of you know,
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fully engaging and understanding that I have to take the
time to work on relaxing and healing my nervous system
as well.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
I think it's in your sense I hear I don't
even think I hear it in your speaking, because I
started counting, I'm up to nine times you've said I think,
I think, I think, I think, and thought is energy
and energy can never be destroyed. It can be transformed,
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but it can't be destroyed. So for you, for all
folk who are experiencing the impact of what we could
call trauma or whatever we want to call it. It's
lodged in our thoughts. See, because if I know that
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God is in the midst of us, if I know
all things are working out for the good, if I
know God's source, Creator is sovereign and present and in everything.
While I may not understand what I'm seeing healing experiencing,
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I know that something greater and grander is going on.
And I'm going to stick with what I know as
opposed to what I think, because the judgment could be
I don't know this to be true, that this is wrong,
this isn't right, This shouldn't be going on. You said it.
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Things shouldn't be as high as they are now, but
they are. So I have to know God is in that.
God is in these high prices. God is in the
rising hole housing prices. God is in corporate greed. Now,
what the purpose of it is I may not recognize,
but I know God has a plan. I know that,
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so I don't have to think about it. Do I
like what I see? I wouldn't prefer it. It's very unpreferred,
But I'm not going to condemn it either, because there's
something greater than me going on and all I can
ask for. God, give me understanding, give me discernments, give
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me discernment, Tell me what it is I must do,
how I can do, how I can be of greater service,
And let me take the emphasis off. Because your central
nervous system is governed by your will. Your will is
lodged in your solar plexus, in the center of your being.
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So when our will is either the suppressed depressed, when
our will is not being mad, then we have to
unite our will with divine will. Does that make sense
to you, just ma'am? Okay, So how can you get
in greater alignment with divine will? We'll talk about that
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right after this break. Welcome back to the R spot.
Let's get back to the conversation. You said you're a realtor.
Have you affirmed that. I know these are difficult, challenging
These may look like difficult and challenging times, but every
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single one of my clients is going to find the
perfect home and the perfect financing for that home. Thank
you God, just ma'am. As opposed to going into a
potential sale with oh my god, I know this price
is high. Ten years ago they could have got this house.
No No, this is my client. My client is surrounded
by goodness and they're going to find the home. They're
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going to get the financing because that's God's will.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
Yes, ma'am. And you know, and I am very optimistic
with my clients, you know. I feel like, you know,
it's one of those things where it will, it will
resolve itself. It's not the first time we've faced, you know, inflation.
It's not the first time we've heard rumors or even experience,
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you know, what people would call a recession. And you know,
and the years I've been on this planet, things are
work themselves out. And so yeah, that's really what keeps
me going is that you know, we're resilient people, you know,
and that it's a resilient planet and things will work
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itself out.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
I want you to get more into your being because
you're talking about your central nervous system and your well being,
and you continue to externalize we are resilient people. We are,
you know, we we we How about I am a
resilient being. I am you know, grounded and centered in
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truth and light because if you get it cleared up
in you, you can be such a powerful demonstration for others.
But you keep externalizing talking in the third person as
opposed to the first person. Are you aware of that.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
As you point it out? And I find and I
gather strength, and you know, and seeing helping other people
to win, and seeing other people you know do good
and celebrating other people. So I do I do too,
I do too.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
But you know what, here's my principle. My cup runneth over.
But what's in the cup is mind. I've got to
keep my cup full. So my cup has to be
full in order for me to be able to clearly
serve and support and be a benefit to other people.
And if my central nervous system is shot the hell
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because of trauma and upset, I'm my cupping full. Keep
your cup full? Start with you. How do we clean
up your central nervous system? What is going on that?
How can you shift your perspective? What judgments do you
need to release? What is How do you get deeper
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into your knowing and lessen your thinking? How can we
do that? I serve other people all day long. I
was up at six thirty this morning serving people after
I went to bed at three twenty. How can you
do that?
Speaker 2 (29:53):
I guess you know I have to continue to just
do the work and give myself the space to focus
on myself.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
Yeah, you don't sound too happy about that. Could you
say that with a little more joy?
Speaker 2 (30:10):
Isolation is not a strong suit for me, you know,
I think, Yeah, isolation.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Is not like isolation? Where where are you hearing isolation?
Where are you hearing that in my communication? Is that
what you're hearing I'm asking you to do.
Speaker 2 (30:27):
When I'm focusing on myself, I generally do tend to isolate.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
That's interesting, So you mean tell me what that looks
like when you're focusing on yourself and you're isolating. Tell
me how that works.
Speaker 2 (30:40):
Well, when I'm focusing on myself, like I really go
in work and so you know, it's like if I
feel like, you know, I want to process the feelings.
I want to know that these are my feelings that
they're you know, not. I don't like a lot of
outside chatter or or noise. So yeah, I generally do
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tend to just get still and you know, get to
myself and isolate. But how long set out a lot
of outside sometimes for short periods of time, sometimes for
long periods of time. It just kind of all depends
on you. Know, once I feel whatever turmoil or conflict
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that's been resolved, then you know, I feel like, okay,
now I can go back and present myself. But it's
been long periods of time. Sometimes sometimes it's it may
just be for a couple of hours. It may just
be for a day. Sometimes it might be for weeks.
Sometimes it might be for months. But yeah, I generally
tend to isolate.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Do you have a god jar? Do you know what
a god jar is? I do not? Or god box?
Do you know what that is? Okay, I used to
have a god jar. I got an old man aged
jar and I cleaned it out and I decorated mine.
Because I'm a vergo, I gotta do some glitter. I
gotta do it. I have to do some bling on everything. Okay.
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So I got this old man aged jar and I
blined it out. I mean, I put a little skirt
on it with a rubber band and put some glitter
on it, and I put a name on it, Godja.
Every time, any time anything would come up to disturb
or disrupt my piece, I would write it down on
a piece of paper and put it in the god jar.
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And if it came up again, literally on the spot,
I would say, oh, that's in the godjar. It's not
my job, that's a god job. And I had to
literally walk around with a little pad of paper and
I'd write stuff down and fold it up. When I
got back home, I'd put it in the god jar.
I still have it. I still have my godjab. That
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might be something you want to work with. And if
you don't want to do it at the physical level,
do it in your mind. Create a box of light
or a holy what ever in your mind. And when
things are disturbing you, distressing you, upsetting it, put it
in the god jar. And the intention of the god
jar is to take it off your plate and put
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it in God's hands. I don't care inflation, political corruption,
which you said, social injustice. Put it in the god jar.
And those are things that you can also include in
your prayer. You can lift them up. So that's one
thing that you can do so that you're doing your work,
taking care of yourself, inviting God into the process, and
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taking some things off your mind. Because like I said,
you say I think a lot as opposed to I know.
Does that make sense to you? Yes, you might want
yeah it does, Okay, Well make you a godjar.
Speaker 2 (33:51):
I would definitely do that.
Speaker 1 (33:53):
Okay, all right, my love.
Speaker 2 (33:54):
I could sit here and listen to you all day,
but I have to return to work. Thank you so much.
Put it in the God jar now you supposed it.
Speaker 1 (34:05):
Okay, Bye bye. I wonder how many of us out
there need a God jar where we can put our concerns,
our worries, our troubles, our judgments are against this about
what we see in the world. We can put it
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in the God jar and understand it's a God job
and there's nothing we need to do about it. I
know that may sound silly, but sometimes to have a
physical representation of it helps us to process through it.
I can now do it in my mind. I have
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a purse in my brain. This is the Holy Spirit purse,
and I'm putting this in the Holy Spirits purse. I'm
filling your purse up, Holy Spirit. I'm hearing this thing,
you know for me right now. It's about Haiti. Every
day I've got some you know, traumatic thought about Haiti,
and every day I put it in the Holy Spirits purse.
Feed the babies, calm the streets down, make sure the
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pregnant women have food. Today, Holy spirit and I put
that in the in the holy spirits person, I don't
think about it, but for years I had a god
jar where I would write stuff down on my little
sticky notes and put it in the god jar. Yes,
there is a lot going on in the world and
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it does impact us, and we owe it to ourselves.
You owe it to yourself. I owe it to myself
to take care of me first, because some of what's
going on with people, it's none of my business. My
business is to be as strong and it's centered, as
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grounded as I possibly can be, moment by moment, so
that if some one shows up in my life that
needs help, support, encouragement, that I can be a great
Bible for them to read in the moment. And some
of us don't even have the problems and the concerns,
but we're worrying about it for other people, not knowing
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that all things are working out toward good. I don't
understand what good is going to come out of Ukraine
and Russia or Israel and Gaza. I don't understand who's
in the Hamas and do they have mothers and did
their mother teach a manners? You know, I don't understand that.
But I can put that in the Holy Spirit's purse
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and ask for understanding, Ask how I should be with it.
Ask here's my prayer about it. And it's because everybody thinks,
as a lowly human being that they have control, that
they're in charge, and that the way they see it
and the way they want it is the way it is.
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So if ten people do it, it's one thing. If
twenty people do it, it's another thing. But when thousands
of people are each holding the same idea, if things
are the way I see them, things have to be
the way I want them. Things have to be done
the way I think they should be done. Well, now
we've got the world that we're in, you know, I
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think what's going on in the world can give us
the invitation and the opportunity to be more conscious and
purposeful and selective about what we take on, how we
take it on, and what we do with it. Yeah.
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So I hope you've heard something today that you can
use in your own life and that you will put
it to practice. Because we're in this world together. The
beloved philosopher Algiau told us that we're in the this
world together. He said, in this love, we're in this
love together in a time that will last forever. Know
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that I love you today and I really invite you
to stay in peace and not pieces. I'll see you
next time. Bye, favor. The R Spot is a production
of Shondaland Audio in partnership with iHeartRadio. For more podcasts
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Iami, Yamla. I had a baby daddy relationship. I spent
time in a relationship with a married man. I had
to learn the skills and tools required to make my
relationships healthy, fulfilling and loving. Welcome to the r Spot,
a production of shondaland Audio in partnership with iHeartRadio. Welcome,
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Welcome to the art Spot, the place we come to
discuss all things relationship and all relationships. I am Miamla,
your host, your guide, your facilitator, your support system as
you take a deeper look into the relationships in your life.
(00:57):
And boy, do we have a top today. Earlier this week,
one of my former students wrote me a very interesting email,
and in that email, he asked me, Mama, ear how
should I be with pain? How should I be with pain?
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You know, with everything that's going on in the world today,
a lot of people are in pain. Some because they're
impacted directly, some because of the way they think about
what's going on, Some because they feel the energy of
what's going on, Some because they feel hopeless, some feel helpless.
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But a lot of people are in pain. One of
the things that I said to my students was, what
is your relationship with disaster. What is your relationship with disaster?
Even if it's not your disaster. Do not rush in
to fix it or to run away from the sadness
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of the moment, trying to escape the moment and bypass
the gift that the pain is offering you. When you're
in pain pain, pay attention inward. Now. The first thing
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to do is go in and identify what that pain is.
Is it a pain of fear? Is it a pain
of sadness? Is it a pain because of what you're thinking,
what you're feeling? What is the pain? When pain is present,
it really is a source of deep knowing. What do
you know? What do you know? Not what do you think?
(02:49):
But what do you know about what you're experiencing? You see,
when we're in pain about what's going on in the world,
it's because we know that we are connected to each other,
to everyone, to everything. But are we acting like that?
Are you acting like you're connected to the person you're
(03:09):
cussing out on the freeway because they cut you off,
You're connected to that they cut you off. You don't
know if they're rushing to pick up a sick child
or if they're on their way to the doctor. Or
if they're just mindlessly driving, bless them, don't cuss them. No,
you're connected to that person and the cuss you send
out to them today is going to come back to
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you tomorrow. Pain is a source of deep knowing. Pain
offers us critical information about something within us that may
needs to be balanced, that may needs to be brought
into alignment, something that we need to be accountable for,
but also something that we are responsible for. Pay attention
(03:55):
inward now. Sometimes pain is teelling us that we need
to do something different. There are so many people upset
about the political landscape who are saying that they're not
going to vote. Really, you're upset about what's going on
and you're not going to participate in it. And I
(04:17):
heard I think his name was Big Mike. He said
something very interesting. He said, don't vote personality, vote policy,
and vote the policies that serve you the best. So
when you're looking out on the political landscape, don't look
at personality, don't look at age, don't look at race.
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What is this person saying and how is what they're
saying gonna serve me? And the minute they start talking
about againstness, then you need to look inside and say, okay,
who and what am I against? And why is this
againstness lining up with me? Pay attention inward. Now, yes,
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there is a lot going on in the world, But
I lean into a course in miracles, and I say,
I don't know what anything is for. I don't know
what anything is for, and I give meaning to everything
that I see. So if what I see is causing
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me disturbance, distress, upset, frustration, concern, all the words my
guests used today, if what I see is giving me
causing me to have those experiences, then let me look
at the meaning that I'm given this stuff, let me
look at the judgments I have about it, and then
forgive myself so that I can be accountable for my
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own thoughts and feelings and become responsible for how I
respond to them. I think our relationship with the world
gives us a powerful, powerful starting point for building a
better and deeper relationship with what we think, why we
think it, how we think it, what we feel, and
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how we process those feelings. And if you're really having
a hard time, make a god job, turn it over,
give it to something higher and greater than you. Get
a map of the world, get a globe I have
a globe, and sometimes in my prayer I'll just rub
my hands all over that globe and let those prayers
fall where they need to fall. It's not my business
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where they go, but I'm sending it out to the world.
Get a map of the United States, put your finger
on a particular state or county or area and pray
light there, Send love there, send compassion there. May Ohio
no peace, May everyone in Ohio have what they need.
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And don't listen to the news or social media that
says this happened, that happen. And just know that your prayers,
your good thoughts, are like a pebble in the ocean
of humanity, and it will ripple out and it will
have an impact. I think I have another caller. Let's
see where they are in their relationship. Do what you
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can where you are, without expectation of reward or recognition.
Don't toot your own horn, don't pray on the corner
for other people to hear you and see you. Pray
silently and send the light out. Greetings and welcome to
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the art Spot. We're talking today about our relationship with
the world, our relationship in the world, and how it
impacts our relationship with ourselves. So, as the beloved Wendy
Williams would say, how you doing in the world.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I'm coping and and trying to stay hopeful and doing
my best.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Okay, tell more coping. What does that mean?
Speaker 2 (08:07):
I think in life to thrive, you have to be hopeful.
You have to be you know, in a place where
you feel like will kind of prevail. In the past
couple of years have just been very challenging from everything
with presidential elections and COVID and just seeing social injustice
(08:32):
be so rampant. I think it's taking its toll on
my nervouses. I know it's taking its toll on my
nervous system. And you know, I'm a person who does
the work, you know. I meditate, I pray, I encourage
other people. I try to believe and be optimistic. But
(08:52):
it's been challenging. I just think with the current state
of affairs and seeing things play out the way they've
played out, it's taken in such a toll on my
nervous system. I am an African American woman, so it's
been very challenging, I must say, and not just from
on all planes, so not just you know, with where
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we are with the inflation and things costing more and
making things more challenging on the home front to just
kind of, you know, be in a place I'm making
ends meet or feeling like you did good for yourself,
and then seeing that it's not worth what it once
was worth, and then dealing with the fact of safety,
and dealing with the fact of you know, corporate greed
(09:37):
and all of these things. It has really taken its toll.
And even when I'm telling myself that hey, right now,
in and now in the present, you're good, your needs
are met, you have what you need, my nervous system
is still rilling from the effects of all of the trauma.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Wow, that's interesting. Where are you with inflation? Because I
I really didn't know there was no inflation. I really didn't.
I go to the store with my list, and I
try very hard to stay till on my list. If
I get off my list, I've never had to put
anything back, so I'm good. I didn't know there was
inflation until they told me.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
Yes. It's very especially for the quote unquote yet, but
it used to be the middle class. It's very challenging
our middle class.
Speaker 1 (10:25):
Don't don't get a twisted baby, I am middle class.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
I've been a relatory for twenty years. Housing prices at
an all time high. We basically had four hundred years
of inflation in four years. You know in my area
where you used to could buy a beautiful home for
a bedroom, too, too bath home for your family that
used to run one sixty eight two hundred thousand. Those
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are now six hundred thousand. But the salaries have gone up.
Even rent rates are now. You know where you used
to corn a three room apartment for twelve hundred dollars,
That apartment is now twenty eight hundred dollars in four
years time.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
When I was little, my mom would send me to
the store with a dollar. With a dollar, I could
get bread, milk, and fifty cent worth of bologne, and
sometimes have three or four cents left over to buy
some bazooka bubblegum. Things have really changed, having.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
It it really changed.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
Do you remember when you could get can you you
could get three pounds of chicken wings for five Oh no,
it's five pounds of chicken wings for three dollars? Do
you remember that?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
That might have been before my time?
Speaker 1 (11:33):
On what you try to say, I'm old. Prices are rising,
But I bet you what, do you have an iPhone
or an Android?
Speaker 2 (11:43):
I have a very very old iPhone. I'm not one
of those people that try to keep it. As a
matter of fact, I'm still in the single digits with
my iPhone, So I'm not one of those people that
try to keep up with transit.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
No, maybe not to keep up with it, but I'm
going to. I just want to offer people are screaming
about the price of eggs that they're looking at on
their thousand dollars iPhone. Yes, things have increased, but we
have different means of transportation, the supply chain where we're
getting it from, manufacturing costs, all of those things have changed.
(12:18):
They've changed, They've changed with the times, and that's just
what happens.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
They should have changed to go down, though, Ayana. I
mean with all of the technology and all of the improvements,
you know, you can now you don't have to have
as much movement in it because they have things like
three D printing and such. There's no reason for inflation
to be at this all time high. That and it's
really taking its toll on people's mental it's really taking
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its toll on people's physical and you know, and it's
a lot to process, and so you really don't know.
People want to be aware, and they want to be
in and now, and they want to be a part
of the process, but they're also have to protect their
own peace and their own you know, mental and physical
well being, and so it's hard to know when you
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should be clocked in and when and when you have
to clock out, and when you have to clock out,
how long can you be clocked out because you still
have to be a part of this machine, and the
bills still have to get paid, and you still have
to show up for work, and the cycle still has
to continue on. So being in the world right now
is an odd place to be. And you know, with
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all of the decades that I've seen, I've just never
seen a time where it was just taking such a
toll on people's mental and physical well being. You know,
when a couple of years back in the nineties, in
the early two thousands, you didn't hear a lot of
the terminology that you hear now around you know, people
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really being mentally broken, you know, about their emotional well
being and all of this. And not to say that
they didn't have their own struggles then, but this is
just it's been a lot to mentally process covid alone.
Covid alone did a number on people, you know, the isolation,
the uncertainty, the not knowing if you're ever going to
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be in the presence of people that you love again,
the loved one's lost. Covid alone did a whole mental
number on people. And then coming out of that and
things just jumping right back in into warp speed because
of those two years that were lost, the supply chain
that's messed up, and now, like I said, with the
inflation toppled, with the social injustice you know, I mean,
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no one ever thought in your lifetime that you would
see what happened on Capitol to Hell, you know, and
things of that nature in our country, Like no one thought, hey,
you know, our own democracy would see an attack on
this land. And so it's a lot to process emotionally,
and that emotional trauma will take its toll on your
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nervous system. And your nervous.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
System is nervous system, not mine, not my nervous system.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
My question for you when your nervous system where you're
a fight a flight, it is saying danger, danger, danger,
you know, and you're trying to talk yourself off that
ledge and saying, hey, it's not that bad. It doesn't
have to be in that space. Because of this state
of all these things and how people are processing these things,
(15:27):
whether people are paying attention to it, we're paying too
much attention to it. And another thing I want to
hold in on that, I think why a lot of
people are struggling so much is because they're so tuned
into social media. And social media can be very polarizing
with painting the very one sided picture of you know,
(15:47):
the state of affairs. But most people aren't really so
reliant on television or newscasting as much as they are
about getting that delivered to them via social media. And
we do know that those algorithms and everything are programmed
to overstimulate and so in that even though you know,
(16:09):
like you can say, hey, in my personal space, within myself,
everything is okay, calm down, but d're in your fight
a flight of saying no, it's not okay, it's not okay.
How do you deal with that battle?
Speaker 1 (16:24):
How do I deal with it? Or how should you
deal with it? Because I don't have that battle.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
How should I do then? Or people who do have
that battle? How should they deal with it. People's emotional
and mental states and will being all functioned on a
different accord. So people process trauma differently.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
We're all traumatized. We are all traumatized. We're all traumatized.
You got your trauma, I got my trauma. We are
all traumatized. I am a trauma specialist. Trust me in
both experiencing it and working through it. First of all,
thank you for sharing, because I think that you have
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demonstrated a very common problem, a very common issue that
many people care front. We'll talk about that when we
come back. Welcome back to the R spot. Let's pick
up where we left. Are you speak externally? You speak
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about how do you? And most people and people and
that has nothing to do with you, You nosy, You
all up in other people's business. How about you? How
do you experience it? Because I heard you say you pray,
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you meditate, and what do you get out of that?
Because see when I go in and I pray and
I meditate, you know what I hear, I got you.
That's what I hear. I got you. And so when
somebody comes to me like you do, saying and what
do you tell most people? I say, no, that God's
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got you, and it don't matter what's going on, You're
gonna have what you need and what you can do
to support others. If that's a concern to you, pray
for constantly, send prayers out, send light out. You be
as joyful and peaceful as you can. You call in
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what you need, you know for yourself, so that you
can be a demonstration to others of what's possible. We're
looking at the world and all of the wahala and
the against us and the upset and upheaval, and we're saying,
we're judging it. We're saying it should not be, but
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it is. So what do you think, in the highest
realm could possibly be the reason, could be the purpose
of everything that's going on in the world. What could
it possibly be? Have you ever thought about that?
Speaker 2 (19:11):
I have I tried to, you know, identify and be
okay with circumstances and and things that are out of
my control. I have no control over those things, so
they're out of my hands generally, and that and on
a very personal level, you know, when I am praying,
(19:31):
I'm only me. I only know my space, I only
know my emotions and my feelings regarding you. Know that circumstance.
But when I do pray, I do hear that God's
got me and it has carried me. And not only that,
you know, just from personal experiences of me, not fully
understanding you know, everything that's moving or on around me,
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but you know, seeing when when when all the parts
and the pieces come together, and see that final outcome,
seeing that, okay, all was good, this is why things
were moving around, or this is why things have happened,
or the calm after the storm, you know, when the
winds are blowing and you know, and it's storm and
it's scary and it's uncertain, but that that first sunshine
(20:18):
that breaks, everything is clean, everything is beautiful, you know,
So it comes full circle. So I do understand the
balance of that.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Have you asked in your prayer and meditation what is
the purpose of going everything that's going on? Have you
asked that question in your prayer in your meditation? Do
you think that Do you think that God is with
the people in Ukraine?
Speaker 2 (20:42):
I think I think God is with all things. You know,
in my belief system, I believe that God is in
the midst of all things. You know, God is all.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
If God is in the midst of Ukraine. Do you
think God was on the capitol on January sixth, because.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
I think there were some things that needed to be exposed.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Uhhah. And do you think God is in Israel, Gaza,
Palestine with the Palestinian people right now?
Speaker 2 (21:11):
Yeah, it's in all places.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
I remember I was in New York when the Twin
Towers fell, when they were attacked and they fell, and
I remember just weeping, weeping, weeping, weeping when I saw
that second plane hit. And immediately after I finished weeping,
I started praying for those who were in the tower,
those who were who were affected by it, the family members,
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because that's what I could do, That's what I could do.
And I don't need to know the result of it.
I don't need to know, but I know my prayer
was like a pebble in the pond and it rippled
out and it had an impact to those closest to me,
to those in the next rain and the next ring
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and the next ring and the next ring. Okay, so
then what's going on in your nervous system if you're
looking at these things and you say you know that God, source, Creator,
higher mind, infinite intelligence, whatever you want to call it
is in all of this, why is a nervous system
destroy upset or imbalance.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
I think that trauma can start self in your body.
I think you know, a lot of times we pay
a lot of attention to our spirit selves. We pay
a lot of attention to our mental, but we don't
really pay as much attention to the physical. And I
think the trauma does store itself in your body. And
(22:43):
I think we have to focus on the tryheart figures
that in contents are being and where I have done
well with two, maybe lacked in the third or you know,
physically big going to work out those type of things
you know on it, but the component of you know,
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fully engaging and understanding that I have to take the
time to work on relaxing and healing my nervous system
as well.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
I think it's in your sense I hear I don't
even think I hear it in your speaking, because I
started counting, I'm up to nine times you've said I think,
I think, I think, I think, and thought is energy
and energy can never be destroyed. It can be transformed,
(23:37):
but it can't be destroyed. So for you, for all
folk who are experiencing the impact of what we could
call trauma or whatever we want to call it. It's
lodged in our thoughts. See, because if I know that
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God is in the midst of us, if I know
all things are working out for the good, if I
know God's source, Creator is sovereign and present and in everything.
While I may not understand what I'm seeing healing experiencing,
(24:24):
I know that something greater and grander is going on.
And I'm going to stick with what I know as
opposed to what I think, because the judgment could be
I don't know this to be true, that this is wrong,
this isn't right, This shouldn't be going on. You said it.
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Things shouldn't be as high as they are now, but
they are. So I have to know God is in that.
God is in these high prices. God is in the
rising hole housing prices. God is in corporate greed. Now,
what the purpose of it is I may not recognize,
but I know God has a plan. I know that,
(25:11):
so I don't have to think about it. Do I
like what I see? I wouldn't prefer it. It's very unpreferred,
But I'm not going to condemn it either, because there's
something greater than me going on and all I can
ask for. God, give me understanding, give me discernments, give
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me discernment, Tell me what it is I must do,
how I can do, how I can be of greater service,
And let me take the emphasis off. Because your central
nervous system is governed by your will. Your will is
lodged in your solar plexus, in the center of your being.
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So when our will is either the suppressed depressed, when
our will is not being mad, then we have to
unite our will with divine will. Does that make sense
to you, just ma'am? Okay, So how can you get
in greater alignment with divine will? We'll talk about that
(26:21):
right after this break. Welcome back to the R spot.
Let's get back to the conversation. You said you're a realtor.
Have you affirmed that. I know these are difficult, challenging
These may look like difficult and challenging times, but every
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single one of my clients is going to find the
perfect home and the perfect financing for that home. Thank
you God, just ma'am. As opposed to going into a
potential sale with oh my god, I know this price
is high. Ten years ago they could have got this house.
No No, this is my client. My client is surrounded
by goodness and they're going to find the home. They're
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going to get the financing because that's God's will.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
Yes, ma'am. And you know, and I am very optimistic
with my clients, you know. I feel like, you know,
it's one of those things where it will, it will
resolve itself. It's not the first time we've faced, you know, inflation.
It's not the first time we've heard rumors or even experience,
(27:30):
you know, what people would call a recession. And you know,
and the years I've been on this planet, things are
work themselves out. And so yeah, that's really what keeps
me going is that you know, we're resilient people, you know,
and that it's a resilient planet and things will work
(27:53):
itself out.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
I want you to get more into your being because
you're talking about your central nervous system and your well being,
and you continue to externalize we are resilient people. We are,
you know, we we we How about I am a
resilient being. I am you know, grounded and centered in
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truth and light because if you get it cleared up
in you, you can be such a powerful demonstration for others.
But you keep externalizing talking in the third person as
opposed to the first person. Are you aware of that.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
As you point it out? And I find and I
gather strength, and you know, and seeing helping other people
to win, and seeing other people you know do good
and celebrating other people. So I do I do too,
I do too.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
But you know what, here's my principle. My cup runneth over.
But what's in the cup is mind. I've got to
keep my cup full. So my cup has to be
full in order for me to be able to clearly
serve and support and be a benefit to other people.
And if my central nervous system is shot the hell
(29:16):
because of trauma and upset, I'm my cupping full. Keep
your cup full? Start with you. How do we clean
up your central nervous system? What is going on that?
How can you shift your perspective? What judgments do you
need to release? What is How do you get deeper
(29:36):
into your knowing and lessen your thinking? How can we
do that? I serve other people all day long. I
was up at six thirty this morning serving people after
I went to bed at three twenty. How can you
do that?
Speaker 2 (29:53):
I guess you know I have to continue to just
do the work and give myself the space to focus
on myself.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
Yeah, you don't sound too happy about that. Could you
say that with a little more joy?
Speaker 2 (30:10):
Isolation is not a strong suit for me, you know,
I think, Yeah, isolation.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Is not like isolation? Where where are you hearing isolation?
Where are you hearing that in my communication? Is that
what you're hearing I'm asking you to do.
Speaker 2 (30:27):
When I'm focusing on myself, I generally do tend to isolate.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
That's interesting, So you mean tell me what that looks
like when you're focusing on yourself and you're isolating. Tell
me how that works.
Speaker 2 (30:40):
Well, when I'm focusing on myself, like I really go
in work and so you know, it's like if I
feel like, you know, I want to process the feelings.
I want to know that these are my feelings that
they're you know, not. I don't like a lot of
outside chatter or or noise. So yeah, I generally do
(31:02):
tend to just get still and you know, get to
myself and isolate. But how long set out a lot
of outside sometimes for short periods of time, sometimes for
long periods of time. It just kind of all depends
on you. Know, once I feel whatever turmoil or conflict
(31:24):
that's been resolved, then you know, I feel like, okay,
now I can go back and present myself. But it's
been long periods of time. Sometimes sometimes it's it may
just be for a couple of hours. It may just
be for a day. Sometimes it might be for weeks.
Sometimes it might be for months. But yeah, I generally
tend to isolate.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Do you have a god jar? Do you know what
a god jar is? I do not? Or god box?
Do you know what that is? Okay, I used to
have a god jar. I got an old man aged
jar and I cleaned it out and I decorated mine.
Because I'm a vergo, I gotta do some glitter. I
gotta do it. I have to do some bling on everything. Okay.
(32:07):
So I got this old man aged jar and I
blined it out. I mean, I put a little skirt
on it with a rubber band and put some glitter
on it, and I put a name on it, Godja.
Every time, any time anything would come up to disturb
or disrupt my piece, I would write it down on
a piece of paper and put it in the god jar.
(32:30):
And if it came up again, literally on the spot,
I would say, oh, that's in the godjar. It's not
my job, that's a god job. And I had to
literally walk around with a little pad of paper and
I'd write stuff down and fold it up. When I
got back home, I'd put it in the god jar.
I still have it. I still have my godjab. That
(32:50):
might be something you want to work with. And if
you don't want to do it at the physical level,
do it in your mind. Create a box of light
or a holy what ever in your mind. And when
things are disturbing you, distressing you, upsetting it, put it
in the god jar. And the intention of the god
jar is to take it off your plate and put
(33:11):
it in God's hands. I don't care inflation, political corruption,
which you said, social injustice. Put it in the god jar.
And those are things that you can also include in
your prayer. You can lift them up. So that's one
thing that you can do so that you're doing your work,
taking care of yourself, inviting God into the process, and
(33:34):
taking some things off your mind. Because like I said,
you say I think a lot as opposed to I know.
Does that make sense to you? Yes, you might want
yeah it does, Okay, Well make you a godjar.
Speaker 2 (33:51):
I would definitely do that.
Speaker 1 (33:53):
Okay, all right, my love.
Speaker 2 (33:54):
I could sit here and listen to you all day,
but I have to return to work. Thank you so much.
Put it in the God jar now you supposed it.
Speaker 1 (34:05):
Okay, Bye bye. I wonder how many of us out
there need a God jar where we can put our concerns,
our worries, our troubles, our judgments are against this about
what we see in the world. We can put it
(34:27):
in the God jar and understand it's a God job
and there's nothing we need to do about it. I
know that may sound silly, but sometimes to have a
physical representation of it helps us to process through it.
I can now do it in my mind. I have
(34:47):
a purse in my brain. This is the Holy Spirit purse,
and I'm putting this in the Holy Spirits purse. I'm
filling your purse up, Holy Spirit. I'm hearing this thing,
you know for me right now. It's about Haiti. Every
day I've got some you know, traumatic thought about Haiti,
and every day I put it in the Holy Spirits purse.
Feed the babies, calm the streets down, make sure the
(35:12):
pregnant women have food. Today, Holy spirit and I put
that in the in the holy spirits person, I don't
think about it, but for years I had a god
jar where I would write stuff down on my little
sticky notes and put it in the god jar. Yes,
there is a lot going on in the world and
(35:34):
it does impact us, and we owe it to ourselves.
You owe it to yourself. I owe it to myself
to take care of me first, because some of what's
going on with people, it's none of my business. My
business is to be as strong and it's centered, as
(35:54):
grounded as I possibly can be, moment by moment, so
that if some one shows up in my life that
needs help, support, encouragement, that I can be a great
Bible for them to read in the moment. And some
of us don't even have the problems and the concerns,
but we're worrying about it for other people, not knowing
(36:18):
that all things are working out toward good. I don't
understand what good is going to come out of Ukraine
and Russia or Israel and Gaza. I don't understand who's
in the Hamas and do they have mothers and did
their mother teach a manners? You know, I don't understand that.
But I can put that in the Holy Spirit's purse
(36:39):
and ask for understanding, Ask how I should be with it.
Ask here's my prayer about it. And it's because everybody thinks,
as a lowly human being that they have control, that
they're in charge, and that the way they see it
and the way they want it is the way it is.
(37:00):
So if ten people do it, it's one thing. If
twenty people do it, it's another thing. But when thousands
of people are each holding the same idea, if things
are the way I see them, things have to be
the way I want them. Things have to be done
the way I think they should be done. Well, now
we've got the world that we're in, you know, I
(37:24):
think what's going on in the world can give us
the invitation and the opportunity to be more conscious and
purposeful and selective about what we take on, how we
take it on, and what we do with it. Yeah.
(37:46):
So I hope you've heard something today that you can
use in your own life and that you will put
it to practice. Because we're in this world together. The
beloved philosopher Algiau told us that we're in the this
world together. He said, in this love, we're in this
love together in a time that will last forever. Know
(38:09):
that I love you today and I really invite you
to stay in peace and not pieces. I'll see you
next time. Bye, favor. The R Spot is a production
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