March 9, 2023 • 11 mins
Drake's "Over My Dead Body" inspires Dramos to talk about looking at all the blessings around us and how to avoid falling into the comparison trap.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Yes, Yes, I am Dramas And this is the Street
Stoic Podcast, bringing you your daily dose of time the
Stoic philosophy remix for the hip hop generation. Now, with
(00:27):
that in mind, let's get things started with your daily
shot of inspiration. Now today we are going to be
focusing around with the Stoic idea of gratitude, but more
specifically when it comes to the topic of jealousy, right,
(00:49):
and we've all been there before, and I specifically wanted
to kind of talk about gratitude as something that combats
and pushes against us being jealous of others. So u
lyric that came to my mind when I was thinking
about this concept, and it's from Drake on the record
over My Dead Body, and Drake says, jealousy is just
(01:11):
love and hate at the same time. And I found
this to be, you know, really profound in various ways
because I think it's so true, right, like when we're
when we're jealous of what somebody else has or what
they're doing. You know, of course there's a level of
(01:32):
sort of hate that is going on inside of us.
But if we're being honest with ourselves, it's also because
we'd love to be doing what they're doing, or we'd
love to be in the position that they are in. Right,
And that is obviously a big thing to be aware
of when you are in fact feeling jealous of others
or other particular situations. Right, It's being able to kind
(01:55):
of slow down in that moment and really analyze it
from that perspective, you know, like what am I What
am I kind of telling myself? And and what is
this feeling telling me? More so? Right? And I think
that's what Drake is kind of talking about, is you know,
those feelings of jealousy. It's not just you hating somebody,
it's not just anger, but there definitely is something in
it that you're actually appreciating. And of course he's probably
(02:18):
talking about the haters, and of course, you know, if
you're in a situation like that, feel free to interpret
it that way. But I think it's also more important,
you know, in that the topic of conversation of gratitude
to kind of recognize the emotions that we're feeling when
when jealousy does come up for us, you know, and
speaking of kind of how to counteract being jealous, you know,
I found this really good quote from Marcus Cerelius, one
(02:40):
of the Stoics, and he says, don't set your mind
on things you don't possess, but count the blessings you
actually possess, and think how much you would desire them
if they weren't already yours. And I think the moral
of this is, like, of course we all take things
for granted, right, I think that that's human nature. I'm
(03:00):
not above that. I don't think anybody is. But a
surefire way to begin to kind of quiet those feelings
of jealousy, I think, is to remember what you have
and how you'd feel if it was all taken away,
you know, because that that's something that can easily happen
to any one of us. If we take our job
for granted, the people in our lives for granted, you know,
(03:22):
our current situation, we take it for granted. Those things
are those people can easily be taken from our lives,
you know, and us not understanding that, realizing it, appreciating it,
you know, that is that is us not existing in
a place of gratitude, you know. And that's what's incredibly important.
And as I've said, I'm not speaking from a place
(03:44):
of being holier than that, like I was recently on
Instagram and I saw a former co worker of mine
in the world of radio, and there's someone who is
currently like really killing it and they're doing the thing,
you know, and to be honest, they're doing things that
I dreamed about for a long time, and they're doing
it at a much younger age than myself. And in
viewing this, I found myself getting jealous, right, I found
(04:06):
myself hating and coming up with excuses and then even
you know sort of you know, talking about how they
had it much easier than I did, you know, and
how these things just kind of came to them, and
then you know, making myself feel bad, like, look, how
much you know, more they accomplished than you at their
(04:26):
age type shit, right, And you know, that's something that
was sitting with me for a little while, you know,
And of course, you know, as with anything, I had
to check myself. One night, I was I was looking
around at my studio, right, the studio that I just
recently you know, finished building out, and it's one that
I own, and it was like, Damn, I'm so worried
(04:47):
about this other person that I'm not taking the time
to appreciate a huge moment, you know, in my life
and a huge accomplishment that I had just gotten through,
you know, Like I've dreamed of having my own studio
since I was a teenager, and now not only do
I have it, but I own the building that like
(05:09):
houses it, you know what I mean. Like that's even
far more than I could have ever imagined as a teenager.
You know, Like I've come a very long way, and
I need to be, you know, grateful for that. I
need to start having regular gratitude for how far I've come.
You know, Jealousy was coming up for me because I'm
(05:30):
not being grateful for all that I do have. Right again,
I'm existing in this place of like lack and ignoring
all of the beautiful things that I get to experience
on a regular basis and all of the incredible accomplishments
that I've gotten to do. And my journey is going
to be different than someone else's, you know, And if
I'm concerning myself with all of the details of theirs,
(05:53):
I'm not being grateful for the journey that I'm currently on,
right and all the blessings that have come along with it.
And again, it's it's not just pure hate for that person.
I don't even dislike that person really, you know, it's
it's again seeing something that they have, that they're doing
that I too would have liked to have done at
some point. You know, there's like that again, that that
(06:14):
bit of love that Drake is talking about. I would
have loved to have been doing what they're currently doing.
And then that caused me to mix it with hate
and become jealous. But again, all of that starts, and
all of that begins to fester and spread when you
are not practicing gratitude on a regular basis. And that's
something I've had to check myself on, and you know,
(06:35):
we're all going to have to continuously do as we
go on in this life. Right now, we have heard
from Drake, We have heard from Marcus Surrealius, one of
the Stoics. I've talked about how this has recently been
something I've been kind of struggling with. Now let's talk
about how how you can make it your mantra for today, right,
the idea of gratitude. But first let's take a quick
(06:56):
break and then we'll be back. All right, So we
have heard the words of Drake, we have heard from
one of the stoics markets surreally is I have given
you a personal insight into how I struggle with this
idea of practicing gratitude, but specifically in the face of jealousy. Now,
(07:20):
let's talk about how you can make it your mantra
for today. Now, First and foremost, I think it starts
with accepting the fact that jealousy is just a part
of human nature, right, Like, we're not doing ourselves any
favors by shaming ourselves, by beating ourselves up because we're
feeling jealous in a particular moment, you know, And things
like social media are literally created to make us feel
(07:42):
that way. And it's inevitable that we are going to
look at Instagram and look at somebody's highlight reel and
feel some type of way about ourselves at times. Right,
But I think we have to dig a bit deeper
and see the message behind the jealousy, you know what
I mean, Like, what is it trying to tell us?
You know? And it's like Drake said again, a part
of jealousy is also love. So that means that there's
(08:04):
something that we want or desire in the thing or
person that we are becoming jealous of. And I think
slowing down and recognizing that and seeing the message in it,
you know, I think allows us to begin to kind
of maybe take action, you know, towards Hey, I want
this thing, you know, I'm recognizing it now because I'm
(08:25):
viewing this person and I'm feeling some type of way
about it. How do I go about getting that thing?
And then the next step is, of course gratitude. Right,
I was talking about in my own story, I'm sitting
here being jealous of this other person while while sitting
in the studio of my dreams, right, Like, all I
(08:45):
had to do is look up from my phone and
just take a quick look around me and pause for
a second and just realize how good I had it. Right.
But again, at times that that jealousy will will blind
you and it will take us away from those moments,
and it's important to to kind of have, you know,
reminders in place that when jealousy does begin to hit,
(09:06):
you train your mind to then go into a place
where it's looking for something to be grateful for. Right.
That's something that snapped me out of kind of this
little funk that I was in for a week or so,
you know, was when I actually sat down, paused for
a second and had a moment to, you know, just
quietly reflect on where I am and what I'm doing,
(09:26):
and and and just how lucky I am to be
in this position. And that's what inevitably kind of snapped
me out of that funk of of you know, being
jealous of what someone else has or someone else is doing.
And again, I think that is the key to this.
It's gratitude will always kind of bring us back to
the present moment and let us know that, you know,
while of course we can be striving for more and
(09:48):
that's an admirable thing to do, it can't be at
the expense of taking for granted all the things that
we have, all that we've accomplished, and all the things
that we get to do on a regular basis. So
to summarize, you have Drake talking about basically the recipe
for jealousy. It is both love and hate at the
same time. And it's important to recognize all of those
elements because you're, you know, subconscious is trying to tell
(10:11):
you something. It's giving you a message, you know, and
if you recognize that there is some sort of love
in the thing that you're getting jealous of, maybe you
can recognize, you know, an area of your life that
is lacking that you can now address, that you can
take action. And speaking of taking action, you know, the
other part of combating jealousy, as Marcus Aurelius says, is
remembering all of the blessings that you currently possess, you know,
(10:32):
and think about how you would feel if they were
all stripped away from you right now. That is again
having gratitude for all that you have and remembering how
empty life would be if those things, or people or
opportunities were no longer a part of your life as
a result of you obsessing over what someone else has.
And that's all something to keep in mind, and again
it starts with gratitude. Now, with that in mind, thank
(10:55):
you so much for checking out the Street Stoic podcast.
Do your best to apply these concepts that we've discussed
into your everyday life and I'll catch you next time.
The Street Stoke podcast is a production of Ihearts Michael
Plura Podcast Network.
Yes, Yes, I am Dramas And this is the Street
Stoic Podcast, bringing you your daily dose of time the
Stoic philosophy remix for the hip hop generation. Now, with
(00:27):
that in mind, let's get things started with your daily
shot of inspiration. Now today we are going to be
focusing around with the Stoic idea of gratitude, but more
specifically when it comes to the topic of jealousy, right,
(00:49):
and we've all been there before, and I specifically wanted
to kind of talk about gratitude as something that combats
and pushes against us being jealous of others. So u
lyric that came to my mind when I was thinking
about this concept, and it's from Drake on the record
over My Dead Body, and Drake says, jealousy is just
(01:11):
love and hate at the same time. And I found
this to be, you know, really profound in various ways
because I think it's so true, right, like when we're
when we're jealous of what somebody else has or what
they're doing. You know, of course there's a level of
(01:32):
sort of hate that is going on inside of us.
But if we're being honest with ourselves, it's also because
we'd love to be doing what they're doing, or we'd
love to be in the position that they are in. Right,
And that is obviously a big thing to be aware
of when you are in fact feeling jealous of others
or other particular situations. Right, It's being able to kind
(01:55):
of slow down in that moment and really analyze it
from that perspective, you know, like what am I What
am I kind of telling myself? And and what is
this feeling telling me? More so? Right? And I think
that's what Drake is kind of talking about, is you know,
those feelings of jealousy. It's not just you hating somebody,
it's not just anger, but there definitely is something in
it that you're actually appreciating. And of course he's probably
(02:18):
talking about the haters, and of course, you know, if
you're in a situation like that, feel free to interpret
it that way. But I think it's also more important,
you know, in that the topic of conversation of gratitude
to kind of recognize the emotions that we're feeling when
when jealousy does come up for us, you know, and
speaking of kind of how to counteract being jealous, you know,
I found this really good quote from Marcus Cerelius, one
(02:40):
of the Stoics, and he says, don't set your mind
on things you don't possess, but count the blessings you
actually possess, and think how much you would desire them
if they weren't already yours. And I think the moral
of this is, like, of course we all take things
for granted, right, I think that that's human nature. I'm
(03:00):
not above that. I don't think anybody is. But a
surefire way to begin to kind of quiet those feelings
of jealousy, I think, is to remember what you have
and how you'd feel if it was all taken away,
you know, because that that's something that can easily happen
to any one of us. If we take our job
for granted, the people in our lives for granted, you know,
(03:22):
our current situation, we take it for granted. Those things
are those people can easily be taken from our lives,
you know, and us not understanding that, realizing it, appreciating it,
you know, that is that is us not existing in
a place of gratitude, you know. And that's what's incredibly important.
And as I've said, I'm not speaking from a place
(03:44):
of being holier than that, like I was recently on
Instagram and I saw a former co worker of mine
in the world of radio, and there's someone who is
currently like really killing it and they're doing the thing,
you know, and to be honest, they're doing things that
I dreamed about for a long time, and they're doing
it at a much younger age than myself. And in
viewing this, I found myself getting jealous, right, I found
(04:06):
myself hating and coming up with excuses and then even
you know sort of you know, talking about how they
had it much easier than I did, you know, and
how these things just kind of came to them, and
then you know, making myself feel bad, like, look, how
much you know, more they accomplished than you at their
(04:26):
age type shit, right, And you know, that's something that
was sitting with me for a little while, you know,
And of course, you know, as with anything, I had
to check myself. One night, I was I was looking
around at my studio, right, the studio that I just
recently you know, finished building out, and it's one that
I own, and it was like, Damn, I'm so worried
(04:47):
about this other person that I'm not taking the time
to appreciate a huge moment, you know, in my life
and a huge accomplishment that I had just gotten through,
you know, Like I've dreamed of having my own studio
since I was a teenager, and now not only do
I have it, but I own the building that like
(05:09):
houses it, you know what I mean. Like that's even
far more than I could have ever imagined as a teenager.
You know, Like I've come a very long way, and
I need to be, you know, grateful for that. I
need to start having regular gratitude for how far I've come.
You know, Jealousy was coming up for me because I'm
(05:30):
not being grateful for all that I do have. Right again,
I'm existing in this place of like lack and ignoring
all of the beautiful things that I get to experience
on a regular basis and all of the incredible accomplishments
that I've gotten to do. And my journey is going
to be different than someone else's, you know, And if
I'm concerning myself with all of the details of theirs,
(05:53):
I'm not being grateful for the journey that I'm currently on,
right and all the blessings that have come along with it.
And again, it's it's not just pure hate for that person.
I don't even dislike that person really, you know, it's
it's again seeing something that they have, that they're doing
that I too would have liked to have done at
some point. You know, there's like that again, that that
(06:14):
bit of love that Drake is talking about. I would
have loved to have been doing what they're currently doing.
And then that caused me to mix it with hate
and become jealous. But again, all of that starts, and
all of that begins to fester and spread when you
are not practicing gratitude on a regular basis. And that's
something I've had to check myself on, and you know,
(06:35):
we're all going to have to continuously do as we
go on in this life. Right now, we have heard
from Drake, We have heard from Marcus Surrealius, one of
the Stoics. I've talked about how this has recently been
something I've been kind of struggling with. Now let's talk
about how how you can make it your mantra for today, right,
the idea of gratitude. But first let's take a quick
(06:56):
break and then we'll be back. All right, So we
have heard the words of Drake, we have heard from
one of the stoics markets surreally is I have given
you a personal insight into how I struggle with this
idea of practicing gratitude, but specifically in the face of jealousy. Now,
(07:20):
let's talk about how you can make it your mantra
for today. Now, First and foremost, I think it starts
with accepting the fact that jealousy is just a part
of human nature, right, Like, we're not doing ourselves any
favors by shaming ourselves, by beating ourselves up because we're
feeling jealous in a particular moment, you know, And things
like social media are literally created to make us feel
(07:42):
that way. And it's inevitable that we are going to
look at Instagram and look at somebody's highlight reel and
feel some type of way about ourselves at times. Right,
But I think we have to dig a bit deeper
and see the message behind the jealousy, you know what
I mean, Like, what is it trying to tell us?
You know? And it's like Drake said again, a part
of jealousy is also love. So that means that there's
(08:04):
something that we want or desire in the thing or
person that we are becoming jealous of. And I think
slowing down and recognizing that and seeing the message in it,
you know, I think allows us to begin to kind
of maybe take action, you know, towards Hey, I want
this thing, you know, I'm recognizing it now because I'm
(08:25):
viewing this person and I'm feeling some type of way
about it. How do I go about getting that thing?
And then the next step is, of course gratitude. Right,
I was talking about in my own story, I'm sitting
here being jealous of this other person while while sitting
in the studio of my dreams, right, Like, all I
(08:45):
had to do is look up from my phone and
just take a quick look around me and pause for
a second and just realize how good I had it. Right.
But again, at times that that jealousy will will blind
you and it will take us away from those moments,
and it's important to to kind of have, you know,
reminders in place that when jealousy does begin to hit,
(09:06):
you train your mind to then go into a place
where it's looking for something to be grateful for. Right.
That's something that snapped me out of kind of this
little funk that I was in for a week or so,
you know, was when I actually sat down, paused for
a second and had a moment to, you know, just
quietly reflect on where I am and what I'm doing,
(09:26):
and and and just how lucky I am to be
in this position. And that's what inevitably kind of snapped
me out of that funk of of you know, being
jealous of what someone else has or someone else is doing.
And again, I think that is the key to this.
It's gratitude will always kind of bring us back to
the present moment and let us know that, you know,
while of course we can be striving for more and
(09:48):
that's an admirable thing to do, it can't be at
the expense of taking for granted all the things that
we have, all that we've accomplished, and all the things
that we get to do on a regular basis. So
to summarize, you have Drake talking about basically the recipe
for jealousy. It is both love and hate at the
same time. And it's important to recognize all of those
elements because you're, you know, subconscious is trying to tell
(10:11):
you something. It's giving you a message, you know, and
if you recognize that there is some sort of love
in the thing that you're getting jealous of, maybe you
can recognize, you know, an area of your life that
is lacking that you can now address, that you can
take action. And speaking of taking action, you know, the
other part of combating jealousy, as Marcus Aurelius says, is
remembering all of the blessings that you currently possess, you know,
(10:32):
and think about how you would feel if they were
all stripped away from you right now. That is again
having gratitude for all that you have and remembering how
empty life would be if those things, or people or
opportunities were no longer a part of your life as
a result of you obsessing over what someone else has.
And that's all something to keep in mind, and again
it starts with gratitude. Now, with that in mind, thank
(10:55):
you so much for checking out the Street Stoic podcast.
Do your best to apply these concepts that we've discussed
into your everyday life and I'll catch you next time.
The Street Stoke podcast is a production of Ihearts Michael
Plura Podcast Network.
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