February 14, 2024 • 37 mins
Whether you're happily single, hopelessly romantic, or somewhere in between, come have a date with our hosts while they share their unfiltered opinions on the greatest (or cheesiest?) day of the year to celebrate love.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Maya, will you be by Valentine?
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Curly, I thought you never asked No?
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Well, who should I ask? Then?
Speaker 3 (00:10):
What about that guy? Your sleeprousses demon?
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Yeah? What about me? Well, I guess you've already been
on top of me sponce or twice before ask me,
will you be my Valentine? No? Here, my name is.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Curly and I'm Maya And welcome to the Super Secret
Prestie Cloud Podcast. A super secret club where we talk
about super secret things.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Yeah, like secrets that are super That's what it is.
In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets. Get any well, Maya,
Here we are another episode of the Super Secret Bestie Club.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
On Valentine's Days.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Valentine's Day, It's Valentine's Day, It's Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Hopefully this is the first thing you're listening to today
to get your Valentine's Day studied. Hopefully it's exactly and
the little maybe you got.
Speaker 3 (01:22):
A little kiss kiss in the morning.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
If not, maybe you kiss kiss yourself.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Oh wait, we were saying that this is supposed to
be like a date with us. Oh, get the kiss,
the lights.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
To the music, to the cue the romantic music. Well, well, well,
it looks like you're invited on a Valentine's date with us,
Maya and Curly.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
On the menu tonight is spaghetti.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Oh oh, spaghetti is bad to eat on a first day, right,
isn't it messy?
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Less?
Speaker 3 (01:53):
You want?
Speaker 1 (01:54):
The y is the not.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Us Maya let me finish it, and they all and.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
I killed that ship.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Fuck dude, I'm a fucking well. You know, today's kind
of like a triggering day for a lot of people,
and we figured like so many of us, uh, you know,
who don't have a Valentine today. Welcome to the show.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
Welcome we with all.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Wild We take you in. That's Dixie Chicks. That was good.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
I didn't know you were. I didn't know you were
also a musical guest. That's crazy. No one told me.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
I made them. I'm wearing the chef's outfit right now,
just the apron and a giant hat.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Oh, it's a singing restaurant. We're at a singing restaurant,
got it?
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Got it. We also have the three mice from Babe
here because we're vegan.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Oh oh that's so cute. So how are we feeling
on this Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
You know, it's interesting for me because this time last year,
I was in a relationship situationship and I did situationship,
and so I had I had a Valentine, and it
was really like, you know, we'll get into that too,
because it was kind of like an interesting Valentine for me.
But I feel fine, Like I don't feel I don't
I never feel weird on this day. If I'm honest,
(03:26):
for you, I'm always like Valentine, Valentine. I just said
one thing about that Valentine's Day. It was the way
that it was asked. The way that they asked me
to be their Valentine's was, yeah, the sweetest ways ever.
It was super sweet. There was a really cute video
about it. There was I was very confused. I thought
it was for someone else, but it was actually for me.
(03:49):
So the video is me being genuinely being like, oh
my god, we I walked in on someone else's surprise,
and then us laughing at like, no, it was for
it's for you. We'd know. So it's very sweet. The
way that it ended not so sweet.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
The actual day, because what is Valentine like be my Valentine?
What does that really mean, if you're if I'm not
your girlfriend, I'm your Valentine. I should be your girlfriend
and your Valentine.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Yeah, well, I don't know. For me, Valentine is like
to me, Valentine is a day to celebrate love, But
a lot of people see it as like romantic love,
like you're romantic person. But for me, you could celebrate
with somebody that you love, somebody who's your best friend,
a close friend.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Yeah for sure, for sure. But if if my situationship
is doing all that, why not ask me to be
I'm just triggered by it anyway. That's how I'm feeling.
That's how I'm That's how I'm feeling.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
A little rocked, little rock and roll.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Yeah, I mean, I think it's this weird time that
people think that I Actually I have been in relationships
before during Valentine He's Day, and I'm not very good
at it. Like I think I had one boyfriend who
brought like flowers and we had like a really sweet,
like dinner in my apartment, candlelit like they brought all
the I wasn't good at it. I didn't know what
(05:14):
to do. And then the other boyfriend we were like,
well we are rare, romantic all the time, and we
go to dinner all the time. We do a lot
of sweet things all the time. Do you want to
just stay home and we can have a Valentine's dinner
like on a night where the restaurants aren't packed. So
it's kind of like if my idea of Valentine is
to be like, hey, do you want to throw a party?
(05:35):
Do you want to have a big dinner and celebrate
with our people that we love and really just celebrate
love in general, that would be like so sexy to me.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
Our current relationship status this year is single for me?
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Single? Yes, single too.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Where were we last year on Valentine's Day?
Speaker 1 (05:58):
You go first?
Speaker 3 (06:00):
Going to be a short story.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Valentine's Day every year is always a little bit of
a sore day for me.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
I think because I have a lot of expectation.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
I've never had like a Valentine before, or a Valentine
date or any I've always been single on Valentine's Day.
All of my relationships usually end before the holidays, sad
I know, or they've been like off and on during
the holidays. How convenient, How convenient.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
I feel the same way about Christmas. I'm usually out
of a relationship by Christmas, and I'm like, oh, how
convenient I don't have to get them a gift.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Yeah, yeah, that's great. It's good.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Last year I was definitely, Yeah, I was sad about
it a little bit, and I was like, next year,
I'm going to have a Valentine But this year, I'm
just kind of like, I don't feel as sad as
I was last year. I think I'm more so like
I was gonna be in Nashville for Valentine's Day, but
I don't know. I still might be, but I don't know.
(07:05):
I think I feel more in control now of like
this is just a day, like people are usually stressed
out or have big expectations. A lot of scorpios are
being made tonight on Valentine's Day, so yeah, there's a
lot of energy, so I feel okay. But yeah, last
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year was I didn't really do anything. I think I
ordered like pasta and and like went to like a
work out with my personal trainer and that was it,
you know.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
But I was a little sad about it.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
I was definitely sad because I think my mind goes
to like my exes are with their partners and they're
having such a great life on Valentine's Day and yeah
I'm not. I'm still single.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
So they won. That's where my mind goes.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Yeah, yeah, I can see that. I can understand how people.
A lot of people think in that way, like oh
they want, and even sometimes you look at somebody else
and you go, well, I have somebody and they don't,
so I want. Like I think just being in a
relationship is like that you want, but.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
They kind of are a little bit you know, it's
not really me.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
I feel like, who's the who's the happiest? Right? Like
for me, I could feel I I honestly am Valentine's Day.
I'm just never I'm not bothered by it, Like I'm
truly like I actually do have Valentine's this year, but
it's a really close friend of mine. It's a best friend,
and I'm like, what are we gonna do? That's so cool.
It's so sweet to me.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
You know, that's great you have that.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
I'm happy for you.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
No, No, I'm happy for you. No, that's so awesome.
I'm just gonna I was gonna ask, like my celebrity neighbor, so.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
But you know, last year, for me, it's it's kind
of an interesting story and we'll get into it, you know,
in a future episode, but like I actually consider it
my first Valentine's Day and a relationship where we wanted
to try something where it was like, Okay, let's see
if I can do something. And I remember I went
to the market and I bought like I threw down
(09:13):
like four hundred and something dollars to like create like
a personal charcuterie thing, like one of those like cool
table charcuteries you know that you see on like Instagram
and TikTok. And I bought like a bunch of flowers,
and I got like a picnic basket from my mom,
and I made this like really pretty like decor. I
(09:35):
got like special jellies and all these different things, and
so I set up this like charcuterie picnic looking thing
on the table with and you know, I like put
I put like flowers amongst the food. I put leaves.
It was really beautiful and it was kind of it
was kind of met with like, uh, the person liked it,
(09:56):
but also because I didn't really understand and what Valentine's
Day meant to them, I had invited somebody else to
join us aka like somebody in their life who was
very special to them, And I thought, well, you don't
have a Valentine today, why not join us on our
Valentine's Day? Like it doesn't mean the same thing to me.
(10:18):
To me, it's like the way that I kind of
treated it was like, I'm once this day is over,
I'm going to go back to bed with this person.
I have my person, I have my partner. Why not
share something that already feels weird with somebody else that day?
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Because I feel like you were so filled up with
love that you had loved to share.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Absolutely, that's how, and that's how I think it should be.
Like I get it if you're like, oh, it's our anniversary,
or it's something that's really personal, or you want like
a lone time, And it's okay because the person I
was with didn't like it and they were a little
upset by it, which is okay because their feelings are valid.
Everyone's emotions are valid in a relationship. But I think
that for me, I I still and I think that's
(11:01):
what keeps me from being sad today is that I
don't see it as something that is a day for
a partner. It's a day to go. We have so
much love all around us, how can we include the
people around us? How do we make something of it?
And how do we just enjoy ourselves and have some
you know good, I'm vegan now, but you know, at
(11:23):
the time, I'm not sure if you guys know, Yeah,
I'm vegan. I'm vegan for I've been vegan for thirteen
days and yeah, like nothing wrong with enjoying little snacks
here and there.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
I would say I was scrowling on TikTok and I
saw a lot. There's like different TikTok challenges or like
trends and stuff about partners asking to be asking their
partners to be Valentines, And some people are like, you know,
like why do I have to ask you when we're
(11:58):
ready together? Like do you think that's like you're together,
you're in a relationship, Like are you now with all
of your knowledge of having a very successful, loved up, beautiful,
fulfilling like Valentine's Day even though it didn't turn out
so great at the end, but you still like, you know,
(12:18):
you got that, you felt that, would you now if
you were in a relationship kind of like do that
same thing for your partner or ask them set up
this beautiful thing for them.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Yeah, I mean, look, you know me, I'm such a romantic.
I love that shit. I love the idea of being
like we're ten years deep and he always asked me
to be.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
His Valentine's right, Like that is so cute.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
It's so cute, and I like I like, like, for example,
I tend to date taller guys, and I'm usually like
the smaller one. You know how sometimes girls get behind
their boyfriends and they play hump them, or girls of
do things that are kind of like seen as more
manly with their guys. I like when you kind of
get to like treat your guy a little bit like
a lady, Like you know, when you're like, let me
(13:23):
doll you up, let me get you the flowers, let
me fucking like get you something really sweet and be like,
will you be my Valentine? Like I think, if you
want your man to do that, or you want your
partner to do that, great, but also if you want
to be the one that does it too, Like that's
so cute. Why wouldn't you.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
I would for sure ask my partner to be my valentine,
as I expect them to ask me. You know because
I could ask them, but they could have a Valentine
of their own, and you know, like you have.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
To secure that shit, like, especially.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
With my history of not having any like traditional Valentine's Day,
Like I would go freaking hard on that. I don't
care if it's I don't care if it seems more
like in my masculine energy, I'm like, this is like
I'm a I'm a lover girl, you know. And I also,
I think I said this last year for Valentine's Day.
(14:15):
One year, I sang over two hundred love songs, customized
love songs for people on fiver dot com back in
the day when it was when the site first came out,
and it was very special to people. But I never
got a love song on my own.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Like, you know, that's a love song right there.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
A love song. How I've never got a love song
I have? I have made a love song. That's it's
called the love song girl.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Oh yeah, it sounds like a song to be like,
I've written two hundred love songs in five long days
and now it to me and in the in three
small words. Well wait, oh that's.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
You can't see that on the walls.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
Such a good song By the way, I'm a punk
rock prom queen. Okay, speaking of what is your idea
of a perfect Valentine's date, though, I would love.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
Something that's just like chill, that's just us. I don't like,
really I don't want to like go out anywhere. I
feel like it's going to be too chaotic, and you know,
unless it was like a trip, if we did a
trip where it was like Valentine's Day weekend. I'm a
very much like an Airbnb girl, where like, surprise me
with a trip like on a cliff somewhere where it's
(15:35):
just us, like near the ocean, or like in like
in Ohi or something like, yeah, something cute where it's
just us and we can just like play and chill.
That to me would be so so so cute. I'm
not like a presence girl, are you? Do you like
to get presents?
Speaker 1 (15:57):
No, because usually people don't get my taste right is
like and I have you know, I'm going more and
more minimalist now. I'm like no, if it's not like,
if it's not like a rock that you found in
like a lake somewhere, I want it.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
I love flowers. Oh, I love time the day any kind.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Of flowers me too, anything, me too.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
I love that shit.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
For me, I think the Perfectvalentine's Day would be I've
always been this way, like, no matter what boyfriend I've had,
I always like to include people with us, Like, you know,
I had a boyfriend one who's his sister lived nearby,
and I loved when she would come around. I'd be
like invite her, like, let's go take her out for dinner,
like Joyce was, you know what, and one of my relationships,
(16:41):
she would be there with us all the time where
we would like be like, do you want to Let's
take Joyce out for dinner, you know, Like it was
just something that I just enjoy doing in relationships where
I go, let's bring someone in our love with us,
let's invite people to share in our relationship. I always
think it's kind of cool because you know, I'm a
gay man. I date other gay amen. I think it's
cool when there's a girl with us because I feel
(17:02):
like we're kind of like her boyfriends. Let's treat her
like she's our girlfriend, Like let's have fun in that way.
So for me, I like the idea of like going places,
Let's go on a picnic, like Sinespia outdoor movie, like
a uh you know when people do like the outdoor things.
There's like a table and like the candles and you're
(17:23):
at the beach somewhere here you see those how like
people will you know what I'm talking about. My cousin
does that. My cousin will like set up a table
for you and like get the charcuterie and the cake
and the and the champagne and set up a thing
for you at the beach shout out. I think it's
called the Anaesthesia's Bridle or something like that. Hit her
up if you want that. But yeah, so she's pretty.
(17:44):
It's pretty dope. Like I just love the idea of
being like, why don't we make this something that is
a fun manifestation of what our love is and not
necessarily like we're gonna go to the olive I'm gonna
bring you the flowers, unlimited brow.
Speaker 3 (18:05):
Going with flowers.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Oh my god, it sounds like a good time.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
If my boyfriend would be like, let's go to the
olive garden, I'd be like, babe, can we I'm done.
Speaker 3 (18:16):
That would be.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
If if me and him were to uber and we
would get drunk off. If we get drunk at the
at the Olive Garden, then that I love that.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
My point exactly, you have to be drunk to get
the Olive Garden and I can't drink. So you know,
it would depend like if it was something that I
found fun too, Like you know how I find the
cheesecake factory fun. Like if you'd be like, Babe, remember
the cheesecake Factory. I know it's super corny, super fun.
Then we're gonna go see a movie and we're gonna
do this, I'd be like, Okay, I get it. It's
it's kind of like.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
The cheesecakey is top tier. You take me cheesecake factory.
You better give me a ring.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
She will eat your ass to give me a ring.
And by a ring, she means the ring of your anus.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Oh wait, hold on, our waiter wants to take our orders. Oh,
I'll do the unlimited breadsticks and soup and salad.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
What about you.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
Do? You guys have been doing the mining. That's vegan.
I'm vegan now, I've been vegan for thirteen years.
Speaker 3 (19:15):
It's vegan.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Yeah, everyone clean, cling, clink clank, I'm vegan and the
rest of you are monsters. Yes, I'm a virgo hence
I'm I'm perfect.
Speaker 3 (19:24):
And Scorpio moon.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
Don't forget about born at eleven eleven? Thank you? And
when was I born on the fourth of July?
Speaker 2 (19:35):
Eait?
Speaker 3 (19:35):
What about our listeners? What do you guys want?
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Yeah, just say it out loud in your car.
Speaker 3 (19:39):
That's a good choice. Yeah, say it out loud. That's
a good choice.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
I got sometime in some pepsida c too, So don't worry. Yeah,
you're taking care of girl.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
It's clear that you're not vegan and you don't care
about the animals. I can smell it in your breath. Oh,
I'm sorry, I'm close to you again. I wish I
thought we were gonna kiss.
Speaker 3 (19:58):
Sorry, Oh should I leave?
Speaker 1 (20:04):
What's like your like, what's something that is like your
go to? Okay, so, like, since we're both single this year,
what are some things that you would do solo on
your Valentine's Day?
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Well, it seems currently we're recording this February eighth, I
amp mess in hardcore. I almost cried five times during
recording this episode because I'm like, right now, yeah, dude,
this is triggering. I think I'm probably gonna be alone again.
Of Valentine's Day, which is fine. I like, so I
(20:36):
maybe I I don't know to figure out, but I
like comfort movie activity.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
Can I ask you, like, what does Valentine's Day mean?
That it would be something that is triggering, like what
is the underlying guess?
Speaker 2 (20:51):
Because I had such a like an intense memory with
Valentine's Day of like when I had broken up with
someone and my parents were like, you're crying too much,
Like go do something for other people. So the love
song stuff. I sang love songs for a year and
then love songs for you know people. It just felt like, yes,
I was giving love out, but I had no love
(21:13):
for myself to give. You know, I felt empty. I
felt depleted. So I think there's some maybe I'll do
some healing work on that day and like go inward
and go to that version of myself because I feel like,
you know, we all need to be reminded that, like
we honor our inner child a lot, but like what
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about the version of ourselves like five years ago or
a year ago, or a month ago or yesterday. You know, Like,
so I think there's some definite like healing I need
to do, because that for me is like means that
there's some unresolved sadness there for sure, because I think
I was I never really got to like sit with
(21:55):
my emotions or feel justified in being sad. It was
always like you too sad, like you know, instead of
like hey, maybe you should go to therapy, you know,
or like maybe we should like maybe we should take
you to see someone like, it was just like be
creative with it, and it helped a lot because it actually,
like one of the people who booked me on a show,
(22:18):
I got booked on like three news shows to sing
for them. One of them ended up working at BuzzFeed,
who later later hired me to be a resident there.
So yeah, you know, not for nothing. But I think
it's still like the unresolved thing of like singing all
those love songs for other people, and I think it's
the narrative that I need to change for sure. Yeah,
(22:41):
so yeah, yeah, I think as far as a movie
or activity.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
Oh wait, can I say something, huh, I feel like
for a lot of people, I think that this day
almost can feel like a reminder of like not feeling
chosen or desired, or it can act as like something
that makes you feel like, well, why not me. I
think it makes you kind of not you. But I
think it makes a lot of people kind of come
face to face with the desire and the need to
(23:09):
want to be connected to somebody, And it kind of
can act as a day where people are like suddenly
having to confront that part of their lives. Right, And
so it's almost like it can feel, at least for me,
that it's like it's it's almost like if everybody had
like like one hundred dollars and you were like broke,
you had zero dollars, and it was the day that
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everybody with one hundred dollars celebrated, and you're like, no, no, no,
not you, because you don't have a hundred dollars, you
have zero, And so of course you're going to feel
this sort of like deficit in where people are at.
So I can understand how it can be like triggering
for a lot of people or people who you know,
I will see how I feel on that day, because
(23:51):
I could very easily be like, damn this day. Last year,
I thought I would be celebrating year number two, right,
and now I'm I'm not. I'm celebrating with another friend,
which is great and amazing but you know all these
things that can just kind of bubble to the top
because of this one D this one d this one
(24:12):
day that has a lot of sentiment behind it.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
I don't know what movie or activity I would do.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
What about you?
Speaker 1 (24:36):
Okay? So for me solo, what would I do solo?
I don't think I would be. I just don't care.
I just don't care. Like for me, I'm like this,
the day just feels again like another day to just
make money for the world, to sell shit with hearts
on it, to give somebody a card. I truly, truly,
truly live my life in ways that it's like if
(24:59):
you and you know this, like if we go eat,
I will probably pay for it and be like, oh
I love you like I want to pay for dinner.
That's my love language, right you and I will text
people and be like thinking of you. I love you.
You're important to me. You mean d da da da?
We have hearts all over? Are you have hearts literally
behind you all over? It's not something that you have
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around you once a year. It's part of your life,
right like hearts? How many hearts? Right? Like? I just
am like I feel like whatever Valentine's Day is supposed
to represent. I truly feel like I live it every
day and so when the day comes when everyone's cramming
into a restaurant or trying to like figure out what
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they're gonna do, I just don't feel bothered by it.
You know, I'm just like not but in saying that,
our rom coms are my favorite genre and my favorite.
One of my favorite love songs is by the Carpenters.
It's called a Song for You. Amy wine House also
it too. There was a line where Amy and Karen
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Carpenter they say, I love you in a place where
there's no space or time. I love you for in
my life. You are a friend of mine. And then
they go and when my life is over, remember when
we were together, we were alone and I was singing
this song to you, and I love that. I think
that's my favorite. It'd be a romance, a romantic.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
Welcome to the astrology portion of the podcast. Who do
you think is the most romantic sign? Probably a water
sign or a.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
Fire sign the most romantic signs? Who do you think?
Speaker 2 (26:43):
I think? I think definitely like water signs. I think
cancers can be pretty romantic. I think because they're really mushy.
I think scorpios can be really romantic, like it scorpios
give me like the Adams Family kind.
Speaker 3 (27:02):
Of love, like yeah, yeah, for sure. Yeah, I mean
I think, uh, I don't know air Scignce.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
I guess.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
I think libras can be very romantic. Geminised. I think
can be romantic. But I think they're also like they're
thinking about one hundred million things too, so they're like,
do I want to be.
Speaker 3 (27:20):
Romantic for this person? Is this the person I got
to pick? Which person? You know?
Speaker 1 (27:26):
Is it you? Is it you? Is it you?
Speaker 3 (27:29):
Very much that?
Speaker 1 (27:30):
What do you think? Well? Movie is that from? Oh
it's from Ellen? Oh no, it's from Margaret Show. I
feel like I know everything I know about romance and
love because of water signs, like I just had no idea,
Like the airy I mean, the Pisces. You know, Ariel
taught me compassion at such an early age. You know,
(27:51):
people that I've dated cancers, my past beautiful partners who
were cancers that really taught me how to be caring
and loving in ways that I didn't know how. And
other partners who have been scorpios who have been very
patient with me in terms of like love making and
teaching me how to like really connect to a partner
and learning how to be passionate in sexual circumstances. Love
(28:19):
Water signs just so like m the best, you know,
They're like they're like spiritual lubricant. They're just really good
with the love, you know. I feel like fire signs
are too scared, they're too like, and Earth signs, fire
signs are just forever like. And then I feel like
(28:41):
Earth signs like they they're they're they're a little rough,
the frictions a little. What do you get when when
two earth pieces of earth rub against each other, you
get a massive earthquake, like just and it's not good
for anyone, you know, So me, my virgo, I think
I like I like water science. Who would plan the
(29:03):
best Valentine's date?
Speaker 2 (29:04):
I think I think virgos would listen. I've dated a
couple of virgos and they have definitely planned some of
the best dates I've ever been on. For sure, wrote
like romance, but they were also a little afraid of
the romance. They let the location do the romance for them.
I would fill in the rest, you know, how like
(29:27):
you have your little virgo set it up and then
the fire sign will fill in the rest.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
Yeah, I will say I'm not really good at that,
like that part. Like with the person that I'm kind
of seeing right now, they've been very helpful with like
planning things for us, like we do it together. But
they're but they're amazing at like finding things and being like, hey,
I found this in the area. I taught them how
(29:52):
to do it, by the way, but they are very
like they'll pick and they'll help me pick things. So
it's pretty dope. The last thing we do that was
pretty cool was we went to see this like virtual reality.
By the way, if you're looking for something to do,
TikTok is just truly Google search engine rival. Like I
(30:15):
now never use Google to find anything anymos. I literally
go on TikTok Y. Yeah, TikTok Just type in date
night Los Angeles Vegan Animal Friendly. If you want to
bring the dogs with you experience wherever you are in
the world, type this in. It will populate exactly what
you're looking for. So me and the person I'm seeing
(30:37):
right now, he's we put up date night in LA
and we found either we could go to a cake
decorating thing where you could decorate cakes. Or we could
go to like this like virtual reality thing where you
put on these like VR glasses and you can like
experience like dinosaurs. We chose the dragon experience when they're
(30:58):
going for this one to It lasted ten minutes. I'm sorry,
it lasted maybe five minutes. It was like twenty five
dollars a person. It was an air sign.
Speaker 3 (31:12):
Ohign libra.
Speaker 1 (31:16):
So much fun. We laughed about it because we were like, damn,
we really thought we were going to have like this
wild experience and it was like five minutes long. You
are in this virtual world, which feels really cool with dragons.
You get splashed, you get bumped, you like are moving,
and then you take off your glasses and it's a
tiny little fan in front of you that splits water
at you.
Speaker 2 (31:36):
So it's like a forty kind of experience.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
Yeah, it's like yeah, and you can move your hands
and you can see your hands in like the technical world.
It's pretty dope, wow, or the virtual world. But yeah,
so air signs, I guess are pretty fun.
Speaker 2 (31:54):
And that concludes the astrology portion of the podcast.
Speaker 3 (32:00):
Well, Maya, how do you plead have fun today?
Speaker 2 (32:04):
I loved everything you said, like love is an everyday thing.
It's all around us. It's so easy to get lost
in the sauce of this capitalistic and commercialize.
Speaker 3 (32:18):
Like way of this holiday.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
It's a holiday, it's a consumer holiday for sure. For
those who feel a little sensy like I do, what
helps me a lot is that these feelings are temporary
and their feelings they'll go away, like let the feelings
feel their feelings are not fact. And I'm not gonna
(32:42):
throw myself a little pity party because it's a habit,
because you know, when you throw yourself a pity party,
like you're benefiting from it in some way. Because it's
easier for me, speaking for myself, it's easier to be
in a pity party and a low frequency thing because
it's like, well, of course no one wants to hang
out with me, or of course nobody asked me, or
of course bah blah blah, like you're you're feeling a
(33:05):
little bit in your victim mode era and you know
it's it's about acknowledging it and seeing what you could
do with that. It brings up a lot. I feel
like Valentine's Day brings up a lot of different things
for so many people. Even when you're in a relationship,
I imagine that it's super stressful because it's a lot
of expectations, Like I bet a lot of people are
(33:25):
expecting to get proposed to, you know, or like or
maybe not proposed to, like don't you dare propose to me.
Speaker 3 (33:32):
On Valentine's Day or something?
Speaker 2 (33:34):
So yeah, I think, yeah, remember the core of love,
of what the meaning is and yeah, I feel like
you have like better words for sure, because I'm like,
after this, I'm done going to cry.
Speaker 1 (33:50):
I literally, I literally was just going to quote the
great poet slash prophetess slash icon but York she has
a song called is Full of Love and she's like,
you'll be given love, like you will be taken care of.
You have to trust that you will be. Yeah, but
I like the part where she goes, maybe not from
the sources you have poured yours into, Maybe not from
(34:13):
the directions that you are staring at. All you have
to do is twist your head around and it's and
see that it's all around you. And so I think that,
like in days where you want to think about love,
remember that love doesn't look the way that you think
it needs to. Sometimes it doesn't look like you know
the person who you're going to spend it with and
(34:34):
who might cheat on you later. Listen to the episodes
coming out next week. You know, it's not about the
person that you're going to hang with or do whatever.
It literally can be the sun finding you. It can
be the universe, the world for once in perfect harmony.
As Siana Ross once said, just waiting to hold you
(34:55):
and love you. And you know.
Speaker 3 (35:00):
She can keep talking.
Speaker 1 (35:04):
You know, and as we go down this road of life,
you will find alone, and you'll go out in this
world alone. So just enjoy your time and live your
best life.
Speaker 2 (35:16):
Divaes enough making shame.
Speaker 1 (35:22):
We're a bones, ma'am. The restaurant is closing. Oh well
I'm paying Oh I think we left the besties back there.
Speaker 3 (35:36):
They're paying for it anyway. Thank you so much for listening.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
Thank you so much for listening to another episode of
The Super Secret Bestie Club podcast, Valentine's Day edition. Curly
How Can They Find You on Social Media?
Speaker 1 (35:50):
You can find me on Instagram or TikTok at the
Curly V show. Maya, Where can People Find You?
Speaker 2 (35:56):
You can find me at Maya in the Moment, m
A y a in the moment all over the internet
except for only fans.
Speaker 1 (36:05):
Can you feel the love tonight?
Speaker 2 (36:15):
Just like when he goes king shins.
Speaker 1 (36:19):
Do you think that was his favorite part too? Yeah,
that's where he really he really put his foot. Yeah, bagaballa,
that's my favorite part. Did you hear the part where
I said, bagaball favorite back? I love you? Oh, don't worry.
What'll be your Valentine's Day today? Nope?
Speaker 3 (36:40):
Cut.
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Maya, will you be by Valentine?
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Curly, I thought you never asked No?
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Well, who should I ask? Then?
Speaker 3 (00:10):
What about that guy? Your sleeprousses demon?
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Yeah? What about me? Well, I guess you've already been
on top of me sponce or twice before ask me,
will you be my Valentine? No? Here, my name is.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Curly and I'm Maya And welcome to the Super Secret
Prestie Cloud Podcast. A super secret club where we talk
about super secret things.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Yeah, like secrets that are super That's what it is.
In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets. Get any well, Maya,
Here we are another episode of the Super Secret Bestie Club.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
On Valentine's Days.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Valentine's Day, It's Valentine's Day, It's Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Hopefully this is the first thing you're listening to today
to get your Valentine's Day studied. Hopefully it's exactly and
the little maybe you got.
Speaker 3 (01:22):
A little kiss kiss in the morning.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
If not, maybe you kiss kiss yourself.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Oh wait, we were saying that this is supposed to
be like a date with us. Oh, get the kiss,
the lights.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
To the music, to the cue the romantic music. Well, well, well,
it looks like you're invited on a Valentine's date with us,
Maya and Curly.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
On the menu tonight is spaghetti.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Oh oh, spaghetti is bad to eat on a first day, right,
isn't it messy?
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Less?
Speaker 3 (01:53):
You want?
Speaker 1 (01:54):
The y is the not.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Us Maya let me finish it, and they all and.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
I killed that ship.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Fuck dude, I'm a fucking well. You know, today's kind
of like a triggering day for a lot of people,
and we figured like so many of us, uh, you know,
who don't have a Valentine today. Welcome to the show.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
Welcome we with all.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Wild We take you in. That's Dixie Chicks. That was good.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
I didn't know you were. I didn't know you were
also a musical guest. That's crazy. No one told me.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
I made them. I'm wearing the chef's outfit right now,
just the apron and a giant hat.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Oh, it's a singing restaurant. We're at a singing restaurant,
got it?
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Got it. We also have the three mice from Babe
here because we're vegan.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Oh oh that's so cute. So how are we feeling
on this Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
You know, it's interesting for me because this time last year,
I was in a relationship situationship and I did situationship,
and so I had I had a Valentine, and it
was really like, you know, we'll get into that too,
because it was kind of like an interesting Valentine for me.
But I feel fine, Like I don't feel I don't
I never feel weird on this day. If I'm honest,
(03:26):
for you, I'm always like Valentine, Valentine. I just said
one thing about that Valentine's Day. It was the way
that it was asked. The way that they asked me
to be their Valentine's was, yeah, the sweetest ways ever.
It was super sweet. There was a really cute video
about it. There was I was very confused. I thought
it was for someone else, but it was actually for me.
(03:49):
So the video is me being genuinely being like, oh
my god, we I walked in on someone else's surprise,
and then us laughing at like, no, it was for
it's for you. We'd know. So it's very sweet. The
way that it ended not so sweet.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
The actual day, because what is Valentine like be my Valentine?
What does that really mean, if you're if I'm not
your girlfriend, I'm your Valentine. I should be your girlfriend
and your Valentine.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Yeah, well, I don't know. For me, Valentine is like
to me, Valentine is a day to celebrate love, But
a lot of people see it as like romantic love,
like you're romantic person. But for me, you could celebrate
with somebody that you love, somebody who's your best friend,
a close friend.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Yeah for sure, for sure. But if if my situationship
is doing all that, why not ask me to be
I'm just triggered by it anyway. That's how I'm feeling.
That's how I'm That's how I'm feeling.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
A little rocked, little rock and roll.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Yeah, I mean, I think it's this weird time that
people think that I Actually I have been in relationships
before during Valentine He's Day, and I'm not very good
at it. Like I think I had one boyfriend who
brought like flowers and we had like a really sweet,
like dinner in my apartment, candlelit like they brought all
the I wasn't good at it. I didn't know what
(05:14):
to do. And then the other boyfriend we were like,
well we are rare, romantic all the time, and we
go to dinner all the time. We do a lot
of sweet things all the time. Do you want to
just stay home and we can have a Valentine's dinner
like on a night where the restaurants aren't packed. So
it's kind of like if my idea of Valentine is
to be like, hey, do you want to throw a party?
(05:35):
Do you want to have a big dinner and celebrate
with our people that we love and really just celebrate
love in general, that would be like so sexy to me.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
Our current relationship status this year is single for me?
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Single? Yes, single too.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Where were we last year on Valentine's Day?
Speaker 1 (05:58):
You go first?
Speaker 3 (06:00):
Going to be a short story.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Valentine's Day every year is always a little bit of
a sore day for me.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
I think because I have a lot of expectation.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
I've never had like a Valentine before, or a Valentine
date or any I've always been single on Valentine's Day.
All of my relationships usually end before the holidays, sad
I know, or they've been like off and on during
the holidays. How convenient, How convenient.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
I feel the same way about Christmas. I'm usually out
of a relationship by Christmas, and I'm like, oh, how
convenient I don't have to get them a gift.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Yeah, yeah, that's great. It's good.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Last year I was definitely, Yeah, I was sad about
it a little bit, and I was like, next year,
I'm going to have a Valentine But this year, I'm
just kind of like, I don't feel as sad as
I was last year. I think I'm more so like
I was gonna be in Nashville for Valentine's Day, but
I don't know. I still might be, but I don't know.
(07:05):
I think I feel more in control now of like
this is just a day, like people are usually stressed
out or have big expectations. A lot of scorpios are
being made tonight on Valentine's Day, so yeah, there's a
lot of energy, so I feel okay. But yeah, last
(07:27):
year was I didn't really do anything. I think I
ordered like pasta and and like went to like a
work out with my personal trainer and that was it,
you know.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
But I was a little sad about it.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
I was definitely sad because I think my mind goes
to like my exes are with their partners and they're
having such a great life on Valentine's Day and yeah
I'm not. I'm still single.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
So they won. That's where my mind goes.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Yeah, yeah, I can see that. I can understand how people.
A lot of people think in that way, like oh
they want, and even sometimes you look at somebody else
and you go, well, I have somebody and they don't,
so I want. Like I think just being in a
relationship is like that you want, but.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
They kind of are a little bit you know, it's
not really me.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
I feel like, who's the who's the happiest? Right? Like
for me, I could feel I I honestly am Valentine's Day.
I'm just never I'm not bothered by it, Like I'm
truly like I actually do have Valentine's this year, but
it's a really close friend of mine. It's a best friend,
and I'm like, what are we gonna do? That's so cool.
It's so sweet to me.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
You know, that's great you have that.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
I'm happy for you.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
No, No, I'm happy for you. No, that's so awesome.
I'm just gonna I was gonna ask, like my celebrity neighbor, so.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
But you know, last year, for me, it's it's kind
of an interesting story and we'll get into it, you know,
in a future episode, but like I actually consider it
my first Valentine's Day and a relationship where we wanted
to try something where it was like, Okay, let's see
if I can do something. And I remember I went
to the market and I bought like I threw down
(09:13):
like four hundred and something dollars to like create like
a personal charcuterie thing, like one of those like cool
table charcuteries you know that you see on like Instagram
and TikTok. And I bought like a bunch of flowers,
and I got like a picnic basket from my mom,
and I made this like really pretty like decor. I
(09:35):
got like special jellies and all these different things, and
so I set up this like charcuterie picnic looking thing
on the table with and you know, I like put
I put like flowers amongst the food. I put leaves.
It was really beautiful and it was kind of it
was kind of met with like, uh, the person liked it,
(09:56):
but also because I didn't really understand and what Valentine's
Day meant to them, I had invited somebody else to
join us aka like somebody in their life who was
very special to them, And I thought, well, you don't
have a Valentine today, why not join us on our
Valentine's Day? Like it doesn't mean the same thing to me.
(10:18):
To me, it's like the way that I kind of
treated it was like, I'm once this day is over,
I'm going to go back to bed with this person.
I have my person, I have my partner. Why not
share something that already feels weird with somebody else that day?
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Because I feel like you were so filled up with
love that you had loved to share.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Absolutely, that's how, and that's how I think it should be.
Like I get it if you're like, oh, it's our anniversary,
or it's something that's really personal, or you want like
a lone time, And it's okay because the person I
was with didn't like it and they were a little
upset by it, which is okay because their feelings are valid.
Everyone's emotions are valid in a relationship. But I think
that for me, I I still and I think that's
(11:01):
what keeps me from being sad today is that I
don't see it as something that is a day for
a partner. It's a day to go. We have so
much love all around us, how can we include the
people around us? How do we make something of it?
And how do we just enjoy ourselves and have some
you know good, I'm vegan now, but you know, at
(11:23):
the time, I'm not sure if you guys know, Yeah,
I'm vegan. I'm vegan for I've been vegan for thirteen
days and yeah, like nothing wrong with enjoying little snacks
here and there.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
I would say I was scrowling on TikTok and I
saw a lot. There's like different TikTok challenges or like
trends and stuff about partners asking to be asking their
partners to be Valentines, And some people are like, you know,
like why do I have to ask you when we're
(11:58):
ready together? Like do you think that's like you're together,
you're in a relationship, Like are you now with all
of your knowledge of having a very successful, loved up, beautiful,
fulfilling like Valentine's Day even though it didn't turn out
so great at the end, but you still like, you know,
(12:18):
you got that, you felt that, would you now if
you were in a relationship kind of like do that
same thing for your partner or ask them set up
this beautiful thing for them.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Yeah, I mean, look, you know me, I'm such a romantic.
I love that shit. I love the idea of being
like we're ten years deep and he always asked me
to be.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
His Valentine's right, Like that is so cute.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
It's so cute, and I like I like, like, for example,
I tend to date taller guys, and I'm usually like
the smaller one. You know how sometimes girls get behind
their boyfriends and they play hump them, or girls of
do things that are kind of like seen as more
manly with their guys. I like when you kind of
get to like treat your guy a little bit like
a lady, Like you know, when you're like, let me
(13:23):
doll you up, let me get you the flowers, let
me fucking like get you something really sweet and be like,
will you be my Valentine? Like I think, if you
want your man to do that, or you want your
partner to do that, great, but also if you want
to be the one that does it too, Like that's
so cute. Why wouldn't you.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
I would for sure ask my partner to be my valentine,
as I expect them to ask me. You know because
I could ask them, but they could have a Valentine
of their own, and you know, like you have.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
To secure that shit, like, especially.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
With my history of not having any like traditional Valentine's Day,
Like I would go freaking hard on that. I don't
care if it's I don't care if it seems more
like in my masculine energy, I'm like, this is like
I'm a I'm a lover girl, you know. And I also,
I think I said this last year for Valentine's Day.
(14:15):
One year, I sang over two hundred love songs, customized
love songs for people on fiver dot com back in
the day when it was when the site first came out,
and it was very special to people. But I never
got a love song on my own.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Like, you know, that's a love song right there.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
A love song. How I've never got a love song
I have? I have made a love song. That's it's
called the love song girl.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Oh yeah, it sounds like a song to be like,
I've written two hundred love songs in five long days
and now it to me and in the in three
small words. Well wait, oh that's.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
You can't see that on the walls.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
Such a good song By the way, I'm a punk
rock prom queen. Okay, speaking of what is your idea
of a perfect Valentine's date, though, I would love.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
Something that's just like chill, that's just us. I don't like,
really I don't want to like go out anywhere. I
feel like it's going to be too chaotic, and you know,
unless it was like a trip, if we did a
trip where it was like Valentine's Day weekend. I'm a
very much like an Airbnb girl, where like, surprise me
with a trip like on a cliff somewhere where it's
(15:35):
just us, like near the ocean, or like in like
in Ohi or something like, yeah, something cute where it's
just us and we can just like play and chill.
That to me would be so so so cute. I'm
not like a presence girl, are you? Do you like
to get presents?
Speaker 1 (15:57):
No, because usually people don't get my taste right is
like and I have you know, I'm going more and
more minimalist now. I'm like no, if it's not like,
if it's not like a rock that you found in
like a lake somewhere, I want it.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
I love flowers. Oh, I love time the day any kind.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Of flowers me too, anything, me too.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
I love that shit.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
For me, I think the Perfectvalentine's Day would be I've
always been this way, like, no matter what boyfriend I've had,
I always like to include people with us, Like, you know,
I had a boyfriend one who's his sister lived nearby,
and I loved when she would come around. I'd be
like invite her, like, let's go take her out for dinner,
like Joyce was, you know what, and one of my relationships,
(16:41):
she would be there with us all the time where
we would like be like, do you want to Let's
take Joyce out for dinner, you know, Like it was
just something that I just enjoy doing in relationships where
I go, let's bring someone in our love with us,
let's invite people to share in our relationship. I always
think it's kind of cool because you know, I'm a
gay man. I date other gay amen. I think it's
cool when there's a girl with us because I feel
(17:02):
like we're kind of like her boyfriends. Let's treat her
like she's our girlfriend, Like let's have fun in that way.
So for me, I like the idea of like going places,
Let's go on a picnic, like Sinespia outdoor movie, like
a uh you know when people do like the outdoor things.
There's like a table and like the candles and you're
(17:23):
at the beach somewhere here you see those how like
people will you know what I'm talking about. My cousin
does that. My cousin will like set up a table
for you and like get the charcuterie and the cake
and the and the champagne and set up a thing
for you at the beach shout out. I think it's
called the Anaesthesia's Bridle or something like that. Hit her
up if you want that. But yeah, so she's pretty.
(17:44):
It's pretty dope. Like I just love the idea of
being like, why don't we make this something that is
a fun manifestation of what our love is and not
necessarily like we're gonna go to the olive I'm gonna
bring you the flowers, unlimited brow.
Speaker 3 (18:05):
Going with flowers.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Oh my god, it sounds like a good time.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
If my boyfriend would be like, let's go to the
olive garden, I'd be like, babe, can we I'm done.
Speaker 3 (18:16):
That would be.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
If if me and him were to uber and we
would get drunk off. If we get drunk at the
at the Olive Garden, then that I love that.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
My point exactly, you have to be drunk to get
the Olive Garden and I can't drink. So you know,
it would depend like if it was something that I
found fun too, Like you know how I find the
cheesecake factory fun. Like if you'd be like, Babe, remember
the cheesecake Factory. I know it's super corny, super fun.
Then we're gonna go see a movie and we're gonna
do this, I'd be like, Okay, I get it. It's
it's kind of like.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
The cheesecakey is top tier. You take me cheesecake factory.
You better give me a ring.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
She will eat your ass to give me a ring.
And by a ring, she means the ring of your anus.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Oh wait, hold on, our waiter wants to take our orders. Oh,
I'll do the unlimited breadsticks and soup and salad.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
What about you.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
Do? You guys have been doing the mining. That's vegan.
I'm vegan now, I've been vegan for thirteen years.
Speaker 3 (19:15):
It's vegan.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Yeah, everyone clean, cling, clink clank, I'm vegan and the
rest of you are monsters. Yes, I'm a virgo hence
I'm I'm perfect.
Speaker 3 (19:24):
And Scorpio moon.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
Don't forget about born at eleven eleven? Thank you? And
when was I born on the fourth of July?
Speaker 2 (19:35):
Eait?
Speaker 3 (19:35):
What about our listeners? What do you guys want?
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Yeah, just say it out loud in your car.
Speaker 3 (19:39):
That's a good choice. Yeah, say it out loud. That's
a good choice.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
I got sometime in some pepsida c too, So don't worry. Yeah,
you're taking care of girl.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
It's clear that you're not vegan and you don't care
about the animals. I can smell it in your breath. Oh,
I'm sorry, I'm close to you again. I wish I
thought we were gonna kiss.
Speaker 3 (19:58):
Sorry, Oh should I leave?
Speaker 1 (20:04):
What's like your like, what's something that is like your
go to? Okay, so, like, since we're both single this year,
what are some things that you would do solo on
your Valentine's Day?
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Well, it seems currently we're recording this February eighth, I
amp mess in hardcore. I almost cried five times during
recording this episode because I'm like, right now, yeah, dude,
this is triggering. I think I'm probably gonna be alone again.
Of Valentine's Day, which is fine. I like, so I
(20:36):
maybe I I don't know to figure out, but I
like comfort movie activity.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
Can I ask you, like, what does Valentine's Day mean?
That it would be something that is triggering, like what
is the underlying guess?
Speaker 2 (20:51):
Because I had such a like an intense memory with
Valentine's Day of like when I had broken up with
someone and my parents were like, you're crying too much,
Like go do something for other people. So the love
song stuff. I sang love songs for a year and
then love songs for you know people. It just felt like, yes,
I was giving love out, but I had no love
(21:13):
for myself to give. You know, I felt empty. I
felt depleted. So I think there's some maybe I'll do
some healing work on that day and like go inward
and go to that version of myself because I feel like,
you know, we all need to be reminded that, like
we honor our inner child a lot, but like what
(21:34):
about the version of ourselves like five years ago or
a year ago, or a month ago or yesterday. You know, Like,
so I think there's some definite like healing I need
to do, because that for me is like means that
there's some unresolved sadness there for sure, because I think
I was I never really got to like sit with
(21:55):
my emotions or feel justified in being sad. It was
always like you too sad, like you know, instead of
like hey, maybe you should go to therapy, you know,
or like maybe we should like maybe we should take
you to see someone like, it was just like be
creative with it, and it helped a lot because it actually,
like one of the people who booked me on a show,
(22:18):
I got booked on like three news shows to sing
for them. One of them ended up working at BuzzFeed,
who later later hired me to be a resident there.
So yeah, you know, not for nothing. But I think
it's still like the unresolved thing of like singing all
those love songs for other people, and I think it's
the narrative that I need to change for sure. Yeah,
(22:41):
so yeah, yeah, I think as far as a movie
or activity.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
Oh wait, can I say something, huh, I feel like
for a lot of people, I think that this day
almost can feel like a reminder of like not feeling
chosen or desired, or it can act as like something
that makes you feel like, well, why not me. I
think it makes you kind of not you. But I
think it makes a lot of people kind of come
face to face with the desire and the need to
(23:09):
want to be connected to somebody, And it kind of
can act as a day where people are like suddenly
having to confront that part of their lives. Right, And
so it's almost like it can feel, at least for me,
that it's like it's it's almost like if everybody had
like like one hundred dollars and you were like broke,
you had zero dollars, and it was the day that
(23:30):
everybody with one hundred dollars celebrated, and you're like, no, no, no,
not you, because you don't have a hundred dollars, you
have zero, And so of course you're going to feel
this sort of like deficit in where people are at.
So I can understand how it can be like triggering
for a lot of people or people who you know,
I will see how I feel on that day, because
(23:51):
I could very easily be like, damn this day. Last year,
I thought I would be celebrating year number two, right,
and now I'm I'm not. I'm celebrating with another friend,
which is great and amazing but you know all these
things that can just kind of bubble to the top
because of this one D this one d this one
(24:12):
day that has a lot of sentiment behind it.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
I don't know what movie or activity I would do.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
What about you?
Speaker 1 (24:36):
Okay? So for me solo, what would I do solo?
I don't think I would be. I just don't care.
I just don't care. Like for me, I'm like this,
the day just feels again like another day to just
make money for the world, to sell shit with hearts
on it, to give somebody a card. I truly, truly,
truly live my life in ways that it's like if
(24:59):
you and you know this, like if we go eat,
I will probably pay for it and be like, oh
I love you like I want to pay for dinner.
That's my love language, right you and I will text
people and be like thinking of you. I love you.
You're important to me. You mean d da da da?
We have hearts all over? Are you have hearts literally
behind you all over? It's not something that you have
(25:20):
around you once a year. It's part of your life,
right like hearts? How many hearts? Right? Like? I just
am like I feel like whatever Valentine's Day is supposed
to represent. I truly feel like I live it every
day and so when the day comes when everyone's cramming
into a restaurant or trying to like figure out what
(25:41):
they're gonna do, I just don't feel bothered by it.
You know, I'm just like not but in saying that,
our rom coms are my favorite genre and my favorite.
One of my favorite love songs is by the Carpenters.
It's called a Song for You. Amy wine House also
it too. There was a line where Amy and Karen
(26:03):
Carpenter they say, I love you in a place where
there's no space or time. I love you for in
my life. You are a friend of mine. And then
they go and when my life is over, remember when
we were together, we were alone and I was singing
this song to you, and I love that. I think
that's my favorite. It'd be a romance, a romantic.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
Welcome to the astrology portion of the podcast. Who do
you think is the most romantic sign? Probably a water
sign or a.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
Fire sign the most romantic signs? Who do you think?
Speaker 2 (26:43):
I think? I think definitely like water signs. I think
cancers can be pretty romantic. I think because they're really mushy.
I think scorpios can be really romantic, like it scorpios
give me like the Adams Family kind.
Speaker 3 (27:02):
Of love, like yeah, yeah, for sure. Yeah, I mean
I think, uh, I don't know air Scignce.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
I guess.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
I think libras can be very romantic. Geminised. I think
can be romantic. But I think they're also like they're
thinking about one hundred million things too, so they're like,
do I want to be.
Speaker 3 (27:20):
Romantic for this person? Is this the person I got
to pick? Which person? You know?
Speaker 1 (27:26):
Is it you? Is it you? Is it you?
Speaker 3 (27:29):
Very much that?
Speaker 1 (27:30):
What do you think? Well? Movie is that from? Oh
it's from Ellen? Oh no, it's from Margaret Show. I
feel like I know everything I know about romance and
love because of water signs, like I just had no idea,
Like the airy I mean, the Pisces. You know, Ariel
taught me compassion at such an early age. You know,
(27:51):
people that I've dated cancers, my past beautiful partners who
were cancers that really taught me how to be caring
and loving in ways that I didn't know how. And
other partners who have been scorpios who have been very
patient with me in terms of like love making and
teaching me how to like really connect to a partner
and learning how to be passionate in sexual circumstances. Love
(28:19):
Water signs just so like m the best, you know,
They're like they're like spiritual lubricant. They're just really good
with the love, you know. I feel like fire signs
are too scared, they're too like, and Earth signs, fire
signs are just forever like. And then I feel like
(28:41):
Earth signs like they they're they're they're a little rough,
the frictions a little. What do you get when when
two earth pieces of earth rub against each other, you
get a massive earthquake, like just and it's not good
for anyone, you know, So me, my virgo, I think
I like I like water science. Who would plan the
(29:03):
best Valentine's date?
Speaker 2 (29:04):
I think I think virgos would listen. I've dated a
couple of virgos and they have definitely planned some of
the best dates I've ever been on. For sure, wrote
like romance, but they were also a little afraid of
the romance. They let the location do the romance for them.
I would fill in the rest, you know, how like
(29:27):
you have your little virgo set it up and then
the fire sign will fill in the rest.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
Yeah, I will say I'm not really good at that,
like that part. Like with the person that I'm kind
of seeing right now, they've been very helpful with like
planning things for us, like we do it together. But
they're but they're amazing at like finding things and being like, hey,
I found this in the area. I taught them how
(29:52):
to do it, by the way, but they are very
like they'll pick and they'll help me pick things. So
it's pretty dope. The last thing we do that was
pretty cool was we went to see this like virtual reality.
By the way, if you're looking for something to do,
TikTok is just truly Google search engine rival. Like I
(30:15):
now never use Google to find anything anymos. I literally
go on TikTok Y. Yeah, TikTok Just type in date
night Los Angeles Vegan Animal Friendly. If you want to
bring the dogs with you experience wherever you are in
the world, type this in. It will populate exactly what
you're looking for. So me and the person I'm seeing
(30:37):
right now, he's we put up date night in LA
and we found either we could go to a cake
decorating thing where you could decorate cakes. Or we could
go to like this like virtual reality thing where you
put on these like VR glasses and you can like
experience like dinosaurs. We chose the dragon experience when they're
(30:58):
going for this one to It lasted ten minutes. I'm sorry,
it lasted maybe five minutes. It was like twenty five
dollars a person. It was an air sign.
Speaker 3 (31:12):
Ohign libra.
Speaker 1 (31:16):
So much fun. We laughed about it because we were like, damn,
we really thought we were going to have like this
wild experience and it was like five minutes long. You
are in this virtual world, which feels really cool with dragons.
You get splashed, you get bumped, you like are moving,
and then you take off your glasses and it's a
tiny little fan in front of you that splits water
at you.
Speaker 2 (31:36):
So it's like a forty kind of experience.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
Yeah, it's like yeah, and you can move your hands
and you can see your hands in like the technical world.
It's pretty dope, wow, or the virtual world. But yeah,
so air signs, I guess are pretty fun.
Speaker 2 (31:54):
And that concludes the astrology portion of the podcast.
Speaker 3 (32:00):
Well, Maya, how do you plead have fun today?
Speaker 2 (32:04):
I loved everything you said, like love is an everyday thing.
It's all around us. It's so easy to get lost
in the sauce of this capitalistic and commercialize.
Speaker 3 (32:18):
Like way of this holiday.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
It's a holiday, it's a consumer holiday for sure. For
those who feel a little sensy like I do, what
helps me a lot is that these feelings are temporary
and their feelings they'll go away, like let the feelings
feel their feelings are not fact. And I'm not gonna
(32:42):
throw myself a little pity party because it's a habit,
because you know, when you throw yourself a pity party,
like you're benefiting from it in some way. Because it's
easier for me, speaking for myself, it's easier to be
in a pity party and a low frequency thing because
it's like, well, of course no one wants to hang
out with me, or of course nobody asked me, or
of course bah blah blah, like you're you're feeling a
(33:05):
little bit in your victim mode era and you know
it's it's about acknowledging it and seeing what you could
do with that. It brings up a lot. I feel
like Valentine's Day brings up a lot of different things
for so many people. Even when you're in a relationship,
I imagine that it's super stressful because it's a lot
of expectations, Like I bet a lot of people are
(33:25):
expecting to get proposed to, you know, or like or
maybe not proposed to, like don't you dare propose to me.
Speaker 3 (33:32):
On Valentine's Day or something?
Speaker 2 (33:34):
So yeah, I think, yeah, remember the core of love,
of what the meaning is and yeah, I feel like
you have like better words for sure, because I'm like,
after this, I'm done going to cry.
Speaker 1 (33:50):
I literally, I literally was just going to quote the
great poet slash prophetess slash icon but York she has
a song called is Full of Love and she's like,
you'll be given love, like you will be taken care of.
You have to trust that you will be. Yeah, but
I like the part where she goes, maybe not from
the sources you have poured yours into, Maybe not from
(34:13):
the directions that you are staring at. All you have
to do is twist your head around and it's and
see that it's all around you. And so I think that,
like in days where you want to think about love,
remember that love doesn't look the way that you think
it needs to. Sometimes it doesn't look like you know
the person who you're going to spend it with and
(34:34):
who might cheat on you later. Listen to the episodes
coming out next week. You know, it's not about the
person that you're going to hang with or do whatever.
It literally can be the sun finding you. It can
be the universe, the world for once in perfect harmony.
As Siana Ross once said, just waiting to hold you
(34:55):
and love you. And you know.
Speaker 3 (35:00):
She can keep talking.
Speaker 1 (35:04):
You know, and as we go down this road of life,
you will find alone, and you'll go out in this
world alone. So just enjoy your time and live your
best life.
Speaker 2 (35:16):
Divaes enough making shame.
Speaker 1 (35:22):
We're a bones, ma'am. The restaurant is closing. Oh well
I'm paying Oh I think we left the besties back there.
Speaker 3 (35:36):
They're paying for it anyway. Thank you so much for listening.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
Thank you so much for listening to another episode of
The Super Secret Bestie Club podcast, Valentine's Day edition. Curly
How Can They Find You on Social Media?
Speaker 1 (35:50):
You can find me on Instagram or TikTok at the
Curly V show. Maya, Where can People Find You?
Speaker 2 (35:56):
You can find me at Maya in the Moment, m
A y a in the moment all over the internet
except for only fans.
Speaker 1 (36:05):
Can you feel the love tonight?
Speaker 2 (36:15):
Just like when he goes king shins.
Speaker 1 (36:19):
Do you think that was his favorite part too? Yeah,
that's where he really he really put his foot. Yeah, bagaballa,
that's my favorite part. Did you hear the part where
I said, bagaball favorite back? I love you? Oh, don't worry.
What'll be your Valentine's Day today? Nope?
Speaker 3 (36:40):
Cut.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
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Speaker 1 (37:01):
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