February 28, 2024 • 47 mins
Oh what would we do without a good crush? It's been some time since our dynamic duo talked about their irl and fictional crushes, so in this episode we'll dive into blurring the lines between reality and fantasy. From Curly's hilarious attempt at flirting through Instagram to Maya's new infatuation with an actor!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Alert Alert, Stop.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Brought there, ma'am. Can I see your super Secret bestI
license and registration?
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Yep, it looks expired to me. Looks like we're gonna
have to take you into the station.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Okay, you're not actually in trouble. We just have a
crush on you. We didn't know how to say it.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Yeah, but you're actually under arrest. Letting a fire in
my fan h.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Oh, somebody get the fire extinguished in here.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
My name is Curly and I'm Maya, and welcome to
the Super Secret Bestie Club Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
A super secret club where we talk about super secret things.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Yeah, like secrets that are super That's what it is.
In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets. Get in here. Not
a fire in my parents? Who wrote that?
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Not a fire in your pants? You wrote that? Written
and directed by Curly.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
It's like, oh my god, the new Jalo movie that's
out film Bye j Loo, written by Jlo, starring Jlo
and j Loo as well.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
It's like Beyonce.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Renaissance just beating motherfucking limping and then Jay But that.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Was the promo. That was the promo for Beyonce's Renaissance.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
True, but Jlo's this is me now is like, this
is me now. I need my money back because I
can't be Did you see it? Did you you watched it?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
I did it. My mom's like, definitely watch it. When
you take an.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Edible literally okay, maybe like definitely take that edible, put
your phone away, pay attention it just like you know what,
it feels like. It just feels like this is what
happens when you're surrounded by so many yes, people who
can kill you, yeah, who can't be Like, you know what,
(02:06):
this is a great idea, It's a great project. Can
we please tweak it here and there? Because I actually
think that the concept of the movie would have been
a great concept if it wouldn't have been like that.
I was in space and then fat Joe was the therapist.
I'm not a matter of fact, Joe is the therapist.
But you know, it could have been set in like
New York. It could have been set in like The Bronx,
(02:29):
The Bronx, It could have been set in a real
world thing. You know. It's a story about how she
basically is just so in love with love and she's
kind of messy with it and then at the end
she realizes what we all need to realize. It's yes,
it's all about the cell.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Didn't I make a video about that? She copied me.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Huh yeah, She's all remember what she's saying for the president.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
She's like, let's get.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Oh yes, yeah, year ago. Anyways.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Yeah, so light j Lo Chiese Smith for you. I
thought that was your friend. Isn't that your friend?
Speaker 1 (03:13):
So I love you and I'm saying this with love, like,
just check in with me next time. You don't have
you don't have a virgo best friend for nothing.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
J Lo I have Well, she doesn't have any virgos
right in her life. She's like virgos.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Oh that's right, Yeah, I remember she did.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Like a that's why. That's why I have a virgo bestie.
You have to have a virgo bestI. You have to
have your heartbroken by a virgo. You have to fall
in love with a virgo to sustain living this life.
Y'all are the freaking gatekeepers of happiness for us. Oh man,
(03:50):
But I do just want to say one thing, like,
is there room for like being weird? Again? Was it was? It?
Is it okay that she's like being a little bit weird,
like or was it just bad?
Speaker 1 (04:01):
I just felt like it wasn't that she was being weird.
It just felt like it was a little too. Here's
my thing when it comes to being weird or aesthetic,
it's all about the edit. The edit is the most
edit your looks, edit things do. Yeah, to carve things away.
You can have a beautiful piece of marble, but you're
(04:22):
going to carve at it and make something really beautiful.
I think that this project just needed some editing.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
We didn't need to throw okay, okay, we.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Didn't need to throw everything and the kitchen sink at it.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
It was very much everything everywhere, all at once. But
like the bootleg, the what is it, the I don't know,
the whatever version, No, the wish version of everything everywhere
all at once. Oh I haven't seen it. Okay, So
(04:52):
today today we're not talking about Jayla. We're actually talking
about crushes. Two point h are very episode on The
Super Secret Beesti Club Season one. We went back and
listened to it a little bit and it was about crushes.
And first of all, like my voice sounded so freaking high.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
I know, we sound like little kids.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
We sound like little kids, and It's crazy when I
look back at my older BuzzFeed videos when I'm like
twenty something and I sound even younger, and I'm like,
what the freaking heck, Like I feel gravity, you know
what I'm saying. Gravity Anyway, So we're talking about Crushes
two point zero. This is an updated version of Crushes,
(05:32):
and we're gonna be talking about all of it everywhere,
all at once. Not the wish version, the designer version.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
Absolutely. I just got a.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
DM that said, Hi, miss Maya, respectfully asking if I
can buy foot picks from you?
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Well, what are you gonna say?
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Five K a foot?
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Oh yeah, I like that. Okay, tell them, tell.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Them five five toes, five a thousand for each show.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Answer them, and and let's see what they say by
the end of the episode. Let's keep getting updated. This
is the new Crush, Okay.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Okay, yeah, this is all right here.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Okay. So my spirit is basically I'm okay, Like there's
been a lot of things happening, and it's made me
kind of more focus on the things that actually matter,
which is just have fun as much as you can
in life. We're not here forever. We're just here to
have a little giggle. Eat a good meal, call it
a day, and go home. What about you? How's your spirit? Hello?
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Everyone? My spirit is Yeah, it's spiriting. You know, it's
Spirit Day. It's it's yeah, it's okay, it's good. You
know what it is? I think because I don't, I'm
like in between crushes right now, I like don't have one.
But then I feel like I kind of do. I
feel like I kind of don't crushes give me life. Yeah,
(06:51):
crushes make me like want to just scream from the rooftops,
you know, And yeah, my spirit is in need of
a crush. Do you have any current crushes.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
I'm always kind of lucky crushing on people. I mean
I still have like the same crushes that I had
in the third grade.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
William ran.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
That's from mayor right or Yeah. I don't think my
crushes ever really like go away. But I do have
a new one who will talk about later that I
was like, I ran into at this event and I thought,
I think he's really beautiful, and I was like, oh, hey,
what's up. And we talked and we already follow each
other on Instagram, and we shantedo phone numbers and we
(07:37):
kind of talked and texted a little bit, and then
when I started flirting like nothing happened with it, and
I think he kind of was like, oh, like, I
think he's just like a friend zone with me, which
is okay, we'll talk about that too. But yes, I
do have a lot of different crushes right now.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
But what can I ask? How did you flirt? I
can read you, like, what did you do? Yeah, let's
read it.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
I can read you the text message? Okay, he said, oh,
because it was on Valentine's Day and let.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Me find perfect day to flirt.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Yeah, so I said, I was hanging out with chunty,
so it was queer approved. Okay, So I go. He goes,
what'd you do for Valentine's Day? And I go, I
was with one of my best ties. We made vegan food.
I think. I think my ask for you must have
(08:32):
been lost in the mail, right, And so he goes,
what was your ask? Did I miss something? And I wrote,
I was trying to make a joke about asking you
to be my Valentine, but alas I am awkward as usual.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Right, Oh, yeah, you know I will say the delivery
I would get confused too.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Well, that's fine. I didn't really care about how he took.
I didn't care how he took it. I was hoping
that he was more charmed by, like, oh, he's not
like smooth and weird. He's kind of awkward, do you
know what I mean? Because that's how it is to
date me, not like hey, are you new around here?
Mine is like, oh.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
You can still appreci Yeah, he can still appreciate that
you were trying to be exactly exactly.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
So he goes, oh lol. Then I go, he goes,
I missed grade school days with all the Valentine cars.
I don't know. He's probably gonna kill me for you
and those grams that people would send to each other
swear yeah. So I was like when mine were always
ex men, our sailor moon, I had to throw them
off the set and me being a gay boy, and
so it kind of just wasn't like reciprocated. But usually,
(09:35):
you know, I would be kind of like weird about that.
I would be like, oh damn, like what's wrong with me?
What's going on? But lately I'm kind of just like
mm no, like you would you would not hit him.
He's very handsome, but I would just like people in general,
like I'm a fun boyfriend. I would be fun to
be with if some guy was like, you know, a
(09:59):
hitting on me in a really I'm cheesy where I
think I'd be more charmed by it than I would
be like weird.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Now interesting, Yeah, I thought of you for putting, but
still you put yourself out there. You know, you shot
your shot. As we'll get into later. I don't have
any current crushes right now. I feel like I'm in
between crushes where I'm like, I'm I don't really I
(10:26):
think because I don't go out a lot. Maybe I'm
going on tonight god willing, yeah, and hopefully meeting some
people because I just feel like my world is dry
without some relationship drama, you know, not drama, but like cute, flirty,
(10:46):
like oh my god, fun stuff. Yeah, I want to
be worried about it. Is you getting text me back
or not? I'm just kidding. I don't wish that on anyone.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
I mean, we talk about crushes all the time, but
the last time we touched up on these topics was
like in twenty twenty.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
One, twenty twenty one.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Yeah, do you feel like your type of crushes is
the same or has it changed at all?
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Or it is I am completely. I feel different because
I was totally a big blind spot of mine. Was like,
I mean not that I don't think. I don't think
anything's wrong with shooting or shot. I just think that
I was stepping into my masculine so much. What do
(11:30):
you thake of Curly's taking off ism his uh, his jacket?
It was the slowest, like what it was the slowest,
just I was trying to look at your muscle, any.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Words off every but I was trying to not disturb
your story and take my headphones out and miss the beat.
So I had to like put my head to inside
my slater in my hoodie and then it was it
was a long.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Time, rustles, let me see, let me see, give something
from mama, you have something for.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Today?
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Yeah, I think I'm less like uh, because I would
always like ask them out or give them my number,
Like I was always stepping into that space because I
felt so anxious, And now I'm that is actually unattractive
to me if they're not putting in the equal amount
of effort. Because there's no shame in shooting or shot
at all. But it's like, what are the circumstances is
(12:35):
that you making the first move after they like it's
because here's the thing too, is that they would be like, yeah,
we should hang out sometime. They would be like, yeah,
we should hang out sometime. I'm like yeah when yeah,
And you know I would try to set up the date.
I would no, no, no no no no no no
no no. So that is something that I'm not attracted
to anymore, is complacency. It's like, if you want to
(12:57):
come get me, come and get me.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Can I tell you? Though, Like as somebody on the
other side of all that, like I genuinely want to
hang out with guys that asked me to hang out,
and I want to do all these things, but sometimes,
like the world, I just feel like the world has
made it kind of harder to even engage with other people.
Like I have this one guy who we were dating,
and then we decided to just be friends. But when
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we were dating, like it was hard for us to
schedule stuff because we were booked months in advance, like, oh,
I'm going to be flying out here, Oh I have
this gig here, Oh I work that day, Oh I
have a business dinner here, Like it was really hard,
And then when we became friends, it was still really hard.
It was still like, well are you in town here?
And what are you doing here? Da da da da?
So like it mad for me, I go like, it's
(13:42):
hard because let's just say you meet like a base level.
Let's just say there's three people, right and you like
them and they're there's something that makes you curious about them,
but you're not necessarily like, oh my god, I have
to meet them right now, and there's not like this
like crazy desperation, and you kind of let it go,
so you get kind of distracted. What I have found, though,
is that those people, the ones that you're like, not
(14:03):
the most excited about, tend to be the ones that
you have a lot of fun with when you meet
them in person. It's it's been wild that that has
been my experience. Like I'll meet someone I'm like so
excited to meet I meet him, it's kind of boring,
and then I go out with someone that I'm like, eh,
that's mine, I don't really care, and then it's so dope.
But in saying that, like, there's no rush, I feel
(14:24):
there's no like I feel like I don't I'm not
rushed to meet people, if that makes sense, which is
kind of answering your thing, like what I think might
be happening on your end, But and also like where
I'm at too with crushes, where I'm like, I just don't.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
But I'm the easiest person to talk to, you know,
Like I'm the easiest person to like flirt with or
hang out with like and to make plans with like.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
But see, it's it's not that, it's more like, let's say,
it's more about convenience, like are they in your vicinity?
Like do you run into them at the office? Are
that your best friend's friend? Where you're going to see
them somewhere? Anyways, That's what I think.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
I mean. But it doesn't matter if you if you
really want to meet someone and see someone, you will
make you will. Like I dated someone who lived like
an hour away, and they would come to me every
single time, like clockwork baby, like clockwork baby.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
I agree, because I used I used to do that too.
For my last boyfriend. I would drive an hour to
go see him. But I guess what I'm saying is
it was after I knew him, right, it was after
the initial Like I think I went to go see
him an hour ago, I mean an hour away because
I was like, well, fuck it, I'm not doing anything else,
I might as well go on an adventure and drive
to a fucking Orange county. You know.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Well, when people want you, they have they have no issue.
Take a couple freeways over there.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
That's I mean, look and that's real, and that's the
that's like the that's true, you know, but it is
like I do think that they have to get to
know you or there has to be like none of
this suspasian, but like something that is moving you in
that way. You know.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Do we have any celebrity crushes? I have celebrity crush.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
Who's your celebrity crush?
Speaker 2 (16:26):
I just finished the L word. I listen. I stopped
watching it at season three spoiler if you haven't seen,
it's been like close to like fifteen years. They kill
off one of the most beloved characters season three. So
I well, when she first got diagnosed, I was like,
(16:48):
fuck this storyline, fuck this shit. Because I am very
well versed in television in the early two thousands, Like
not only did I watch consume a bunch of it
during that time in time, yeah, but I also would
go back and have watched these things, So I know
that was a trend to kill off beloved characters to
(17:09):
make a statement. And I understand the statement was important.
It was about breast cancer, and I get it, but
they didn't need to do all that, And so I
got mad and I stopped watching, and I skipped all
the way to season six, the last episode of season six,
and then I watched a little bit of the L
(17:29):
Word generation Q was mad.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Uh huh, Yeah, I was.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
Mad because the Kit Porter, which was Bette Porter's sister,
apparently overdosed on heroin when she was doing so good
and season six and had her life together, like there's
just a couple of things. I was like, okay, you guys.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
Yeah, you're pulling my leg.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
And grown hair in my I.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Love to hear this opinion because I lived through that
trauma in real time, in real life with wait, what
was her name that died?
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Dana?
Speaker 1 (18:13):
Dana that Dana Jana died? Remember, Okay, I don't know
if you remember. There's a song that plays when she's
sang it's like any time sad. Oh my god, it's
the saddest song. Oh it's one of my favorite songs too.
I'll send it to you so you can hear.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
I think emotionally unavailable, So I think this way, Can
I watch it?
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Yeah, it's really sad. And then at the end they
play what's that song about? Damn Okay, none of that.
It's basy spider. It's like about the sun sunshine, you
are my sunshine? Oh god? So anyway, my yeah, so
they just make it like really sad. Anyways, I agree
with you, it's yeah, how do we get there?
Speaker 2 (18:51):
With Shane? Shane is my crush?
Speaker 1 (18:54):
Oh my god, Jay, everyone's crushed since ninety four.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
I'm basic. I'm basic. Shane is just the most like
she just has a swag to her that is so attractive,
even like I follow her Kate and Lesia who played
Oh my god, who's Alice? She played Alice? I follow
(19:22):
them both. They have a podcast and like they're they're
both hot. Both of them are so hot. But there's
just something about Shane.
Speaker 3 (19:30):
Did you know?
Speaker 2 (19:31):
And Shane? Actually, I mean she says that. Kate says
that she as an actor as a person, she wasn't
out yet. She was straight at first and it wasn't
until she did more seasons of The l Worth that
she came out as.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
You know what it is Shane, by the way. I'm
sorry if you guys don't know how we're talking about,
but I'm gonna use this actor or this character that
was played kind of gives to me pothead skater boy,
that's chill about everything, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (20:04):
Like she's.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
But you know, you know that there's always that guy
in your life. There was a guy in our life
we were growing up shows. I love Oreo was the
cutest boy from Inglewood in the early two thousands. He
would hang out with us. He's still beautiful, shout out
to Oreo. And he was that like little pothead skater
boy who was always like, yeah, bro, totally that's cool, beautiful, smile, gorgeous.
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Like it was like that kind of vibe. You're like, whatever,
you're chilling. I'm over here freaking out and you're chilling
in life.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
It's just like the mysterious part of it, you know, Like,
and I think maybe it's unavailable, like you want to
be you want to be Carmen for her Carmen. Yeah,
I know. But besides that, I'm so attracted to Shane.
There was a couple of girls on there that I
was like, I'm not straight, Like I thank you Jesus
(20:58):
for the show because it made me all. I still
want to start dating more girls, but I don't have
my dating apps. I don't have my dating apps, which
is fine because I think one of my biggest fears
with all that stuff is I don't want to see
anyone that I know on there because that I am
not friends with, because I'm like, I just I just don't.
(21:19):
I don't want. I don't want that jump scare. But
Shane is my celebrity crush right now. Love you, baby girl.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
Sidebar in real time. You have your thing, and I
have my thing. You have your foot fetish guy, and
I just got my lab results for any sti's and
HIV and all that stuff and everything is negative.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
So oh my god, that's great.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Anyways, Okay, so we were talking any updates about foot
guy Foot Fetish Guy.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
I have a messaged him back.
Speaker 1 (21:56):
Oh send it, Let's see what he says. Let's make
some money, okakay, and for you listeners will send you
a dollar. You're like my feet for your anyways. You know,
one of the things, though, I will say is that
I think that what people fear a lot about when
it comes to crushes and talking about crushes is the
fear of rejection. Will I get rejected? What will happen?
(22:16):
I do feel like ninety nine percent of the time,
maybe of the people that you shoot your shot with
might actually reject you, right, I think that's what makes
that one percent that person. And I could be wrong
with statistics, and I'm not a mathematpt I just feel
like that one percent is what makes it so special,
right that you can engage with someone who actually doesn't
(22:36):
reject you, who's actually, like I am interested in seeing
what happens. I really believe that the and we'll talk
about this later in the future episode Apason, but I
think that, like the art of rejection is such an
important skill to learn, whether that's in your career and
your love and your friendships, because you kind of have
(22:59):
to learn how to take those blows. Know that it's
not always personal. Sometimes it's personal because you've got to
get your shit together, or your bread smells, or you're
an asshole. But you know, for the for the majority
of it, you're you're not, so get with it. Pust
yourself off and try again.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Try again, and her name.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
Jage it, thank you.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
Jenkin chink. Okay, have you flirted with anyone recently. I
know you just told us about that flirtation. I have
a little plane story. So recently I was coming back
to LA and I was on a plane and this guy.
I see this guy sit next to me because I
(23:44):
was also like, I was gonna change my plane seat
and then I couldn't, and I was like, Okay, there's
a reason why I'm sitting here. And so I was like,
hopefully it's a long plane ride. Hopefully that people sitting
next to me are like, because sometimes I like to
talk and sometimes I don't like to talk. Hope they're nice.
And so it was this guy and it looked like
his brother. At first, I kind of thought that they
(24:04):
were like queer, a queer couple, that they were together,
and so I was like, hey, you know, just like
talking and I was not thinking that this guy was
straight at all. Like and so my riz just for
friendship charisma stuff is like off the freaking charts. Okay,
I can smoothe wine and dying you girl, like it's yeah,
(24:30):
especially when it's by myself. And so he started to
like asking more questions and then I was like, oh,
this guy is definitely straight, and I was like, Okay,
he's kind of cute, like, and then I got nervous
and then I didn't talk to him for the whole
plane ride until later. I was like, I don't know,
my ribs was too strong. And then he like asked
(24:52):
for my number or he asked for my Instagram, my TikTok,
and you know, we started talking and he was like
really cool, and but I was just like, dang, my
riz is crazy. When I'm not threatened or nervous by
a straight.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
Man, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
And he ended up being straight.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
Oh have you guys like kept talking or has there
been more contact?
Speaker 2 (25:18):
Yeah, a little bit. I like popped on his live
but I you know, he's like super super religious, so
I'm like, not, I'm more spiritual, and I feel like
it would not work, but he's super kind and nice.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Yeah. I don't know. I feel like I like, like,
for me, I kind of I think if I were
to date a religious man or a spiritual man, it
would look different in a queer relationship. So I feel
like I'm okay with somebody being into Jesus and stuff
like that, but as long as he's respectful.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
And yeah, the religion stuff, because it's mostly it feels like, uh,
you know, I don't know. I just have my different
opinions about of course I've dated, I've dated those types
of people who are like super super super Christian. Yeah
and yeah. It just it just feels more so like
(26:08):
controlling the women, or like the women should be acting
like a certain type of way, or the woman should
be doing X, Y and Z, And I didn't like that.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
I mean, I'm not yumming. I'm not yumming. You'r yuck.
You know, I'm like.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
I hate that. What did you just say?
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Have you ever heard that when people go, don't yuck
my yum? But I just switched it. You don't heard
that before.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
A little bit.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
It's like if you go like, yeah, if you're like,
oh my god, I love fish and you go ill,
they go, don't yuck my yum.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
Oh, it's not a yum or it's not a yum
at all. It's a yuck, yuck, yuck.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
I do feel like sometimes when I'm actually better at
flirting when I'm a little uncomfortable, because when I'm a
little uncomfortable, I'm kind of more aware of what I'm saying.
I'm a little bit slower with my words. Which means
I'm a little bit slower with my actions. I'm not
prone to kind of like give you my all and
then what happened? Because who I look curly with my
(27:08):
girls is different than the curly as the boyfriend. Do
you know what I mean? Like, I feel like I
told Chantelle all the time that I can hear myself
when I talk to you and when I talk to
Shanty like or when I talk to like the ups
I get, I can hear it that I go what
with Shaunty, Oh my god, Like I just go like,
(27:30):
oh my god, like I have crazy vocal fry with her.
But that's what I do when I'm really comfortable. Right.
So I've been on two dates where I got too
comfortable too quickly and I literally was like, what like
just not just not kind of like being giving them
the mystery that I think is really important with first dates.
(27:53):
When it comes to first dates and it comes to flirting,
you definitely want to have an air of mystery around you.
I'm part of the team that says, you know, people
like be yourself. I'm part sayings like don't be yourself
with something.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
I'm par team be yourself.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Oh my god, girl, if you can.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
Team be your fucking self.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
This is a good but not but not.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
All at once, I agree, not all at once. You
don't want to you don't want to be like you
don't want to be like where like right out of
the gate, like, oh god, and this is me like
you want to be. If there's a way that you talk,
I would talk like that. If there's a way that
you like are normally like, I would be. I would
(28:33):
be like that. I wouldn't. I don't think there's a
lot of things. I think you still need a type
of like a wall and protection that I feel like
they both need to earn on both sides.
Speaker 1 (28:44):
But I think I do that with men anyways, or
I feel like with women, I can kiki with them,
right and the same way that you felt comfortable with
that guy because you thought he was queer. Great. I
know I do that with women where I can kiki
with them and it's fine and ill like gate up
so that we both But.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
That's not how you talk to someone in a romantic relationship.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
That's how I have somebody in relationship. Yeah, and so,
but sometimes with some gay guys when you meet them,
you are kikying with them. You are like, oh my god, god, no,
one only think of money, like and so I sometimes
will forget that this is a date, this is not
You're not here to KICKI you know what I mean.
I know lesbian has had the same problem too, where
(29:21):
they'll be like, damn, okay, don't go into like friend mode,
which happens to a lot of lesbians really fast, because
you're I feel like them sometimes are so quick to
build bonds and relationships that it gets a little difficult to.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
Be like, see, but that's a thing of tone. Yeah.
I think it's tone right, because you're not going to
go up to someone and be like, hey girl, how
are you you want to make out in the bathroom?
Like you have to sweat to it? You know what
I'm saying, Like I get it, so yes, or no,
(29:56):
like I get it yeah, So definitely for sure.
Speaker 3 (30:01):
Do you have many like nervous.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
Sense of ward Oh my god, no, my risk In
the beginning, I think it's just being gentle and like listening.
My riz later is when I think they realize how
weird I am. Like they're like, you're so like you're
kind of weird, like you the way.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
That you're you're kuirky, kirky.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
I have a quirky girl for sure. I went to
I was on a date and I went to watch
a movie and there was a guy who was like,
we're gonna kill you because you stole two million dollars,
and that was the whole movie. And I was like,
who gives a ship about two million dollars? It's literally
a house in North Hollywood? But who cares? You know,
like right right? And the guy was like, what the fuck?
(30:41):
Why are you thinking about? Like who gives a ship
that's like a two bedroom in North Hollywood? Who cares
about two million dollars?
Speaker 2 (30:47):
Yeah? Who cares about two million? Who cares about million dollars?
Am I right? It's like jump change right.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
It's because it kind of is, and in these days
should say a lot about where we're at.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
This is a lot about where you're at.
Speaker 3 (31:04):
Sister, give me that two dollars.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
I mean, look, even just like the way that people
are flirting on social media. We were just talking about this,
the lawsuit that was coming with those dating apps that
you brought up.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
Right, Yes, so there is a class action lawsuit against
match Group, which is match dot Com, Tender and Hinge
for they're being accused of their apps being designed to
addict users to stay on the app longer for money.
(31:56):
And you know they put your that your actual matches,
and the who you're supposed to be with or whatever
behind a paywall, even though you're already paying for a subscription.
It's ridiculous. So that's the thing that's happening. I'm not
on any apps. Are you on any apps right now?
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Oh? I'm on all the apps, but I stopped paying.
The only one I pay for now is Raya. I'm
not on Bumble either.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
I don't pay for anything. But I know a lot
of my friends who have met people they have dated
long term on new apps. There's a high on Grinder
and there's scruffs and sniff their sniff or something.
Speaker 1 (32:33):
That's where I tried to join. But I was looking
for love and all the wrong places. I was looking
for love and all the wrong places.
Speaker 2 (32:42):
WOA do you think? Do you think people like potential
crushes liking your stories, sending you emojis or you know whatever,
like responding to your stories? Is that a form of flirting?
Speaker 1 (32:54):
Oh that's the worst, Yeah, don't you What do you.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
Think do you do that as a foremn flirting.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
Yeah, but I stay flirting. I'm very like I send flames,
I send, I send like the open.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
Mouth, like, oh, so you're a slat.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
I mean, look, I love to celebrate people, so I
say it to guys and the internet, so you can
be seeing you can be seeing that as like flirting
or just me celebrating people, which I think is just
a bit of both.
Speaker 2 (33:23):
I do that. I do it. I do it holding
my hands up.
Speaker 1 (33:27):
Yeah, yeah, you know what I don't. I don't know
if girls do this. I don't think girls do this,
but guys a guy hits on the guy, they always
go like, damn looking buck, and the guy always replies,
just trying to get on your level. Literally, everyone says,
just trying to look like you. Girls do that so weird.
Speaker 2 (33:44):
I like that. I like that. That's cute.
Speaker 1 (33:47):
It's so dumb.
Speaker 2 (33:50):
But whenever I see somebody liking my stories or responding
to it, like last year, there was like one person
I spent the entire half of the year like because
it took me half of the year to realize that
this is not it and yeah, and because he just
stayed in the freaking DMS and would respond to my
stories like so much would like my stories, like do
(34:13):
all this stuff, and there was no follow through at
all for anything. So I'm a little jaded by whenever
I see that and now there's like you know people
here and there that I'm like, oh, you liked my story.
I'm not going to take that as you like me
or you're interested at all. That means nothing to me.
And I even talked to Gutiyell about it, and gutt
(34:35):
Yeall was like, yeah, it's kind of our way of
like being like, hey, hey, what's up, but not really
doing anything.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
Yeah, I agree with that. I feel like that's the
same thing. To be honest, though, I think everybody has
a different Different things mean different Different things mean different things,
Different actions mean different things to different people.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Different things mean different things.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
Like if somebody sends me a flame on on Instagram, like,
I'm not sitting here thinking about it, do you know
what I mean? If they send me like a text
message being like oh looking good, I don't sit here
and think about it. If they if they go, oh
let me get your number, can I text you? Then
I'm like okay, Like this person is a little bit
more serious in terms of how they want to communicate
(35:18):
with me, and then you know, it grows from there.
So when I send those flames or when I send
those messages to people social media, because I don't take
it seriously, I expect them to not take it seriously.
So you know, I have to be mindful as well
that I know that I might be tripping some guys
up because I might be doing to them what is
(35:38):
happening or what was happening in your mind? You know,
like what the fuck does it matter? You know? There
was actually two guys, by the way, beautiful Latin men,
absolutely fucking beautiful, that I just kind of was like,
I don't know what I was doing. I can't even
tell you what do.
Speaker 2 (35:54):
You mean you don't know what you're doing?
Speaker 1 (35:57):
I wish that, I think with like one of them,
he was just so like so like they're just so
beautiful that I think I was a little intimidated by
the lifestyle, right, Like that tends to happen to me
because I'm not a drinker. So when I see people
who like kind of live a life of going traveling, drinking,
like really kind of going in on life in that way,
(36:17):
I get a little intimidated because I'm like oh, like,
how what would I do? I'd be like on the
trip with you, but I'd be like, oh, kind of boring.
I don't know, I feel like I'm boring. So then
I kind of intimidate myself out of dating people like that,
so I don't really pursue it, even though I do
feel stuff for it, you know. So in saying all that,
there could be a bunch of reasons for why somebody
(36:38):
might not kind of like interact with you in the
way that they would like to. And again, like we
always say, it doesn't always have to do with you,
it has to do with me. It's not that guy's
fault that he's gorgeous and like he travels and he
enjoys a drink every now and then he has a
shit together, you know. It's my fault for being like
should eliminate him my? You know.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
So when we do have a crush, what is our
updated kind of like flirtation irl thing? I did use
the three point system the other day.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
Did it work?
Speaker 2 (37:11):
Yes, it worked? It worked, and then I felt him
doing the same thing to me, and I was like, oh,
like I kind of didn't have a backup plan for
like when it's done to you, Yeah, and like it's
hard to for me. It's hard to hold my gaze
from being like, you know, super fem and like I'm
a goddess and I'm this and the this and that,
(37:33):
because I can slip very easily into like nerd girl
and be like, oh my god, did you what he.
Speaker 1 (37:39):
Just did right now?
Speaker 2 (37:41):
You know, Like it's hard for me to like hold both,
and so that's why I'm like doing the three point
system is cute. So basically I don't know, I think
it's it's definitely like you go from the eyes to
the lips to the nose or from the eyes, so
then yeah, it's deef like you like look at them,
(38:02):
like there's their eyes and then you look at their lips,
and you look at their nose and then you look
at them and that shit works. That shit works.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
Does that work on somebody who like already likes you,
because it could be creepy if you're doing it to
someone that you're.
Speaker 2 (38:15):
Like, well, we're saying in a situation of like flirtation
with your crush, when you're with someone who you know,
you guys have established a basic level of like I
know they like me in some sense, you know, okay
a romantical.
Speaker 1 (38:31):
Way, yeah, because they do wonder if like, you know,
it's just it's somebody that I like and they're looking
at me and they're looking at.
Speaker 2 (38:38):
My eyes, my mouth, right, is there something I do?
Speaker 1 (38:42):
Yeah, or I'd be like this like yeah, absolutely, I
think And I think that's the key, if I'm honest
with you. There's something about looking at somebody's face and
the details of their face and their eyeballs that make
you insecure. And I think that's where people fall in
love because because you're.
Speaker 2 (39:01):
Making them insecure.
Speaker 1 (39:02):
Oh my gosh, that's what I think. Like I went
out somewhere and I could feel this girl staring at
my hair, like just just staring, like she could not
look away. And I finally looked at her and I
was like, she was like, oh, your hair is so nice,
And I knew she was talking about the silver, but
I was just like, girl, I literally can look at
you and it's it's off putting, you know, but you
(39:24):
don't really forget it. So imagine you're like on a
date and this person is just literally just staring you
in the fucking eyeball. But I was listening to this
podcast like Diary of a CEO. Yeah, what it is called?
Didn't we call it How to Be a Bilater? There
was a girl on there and I can't this is terrible,
but there was something about the way that she was.
So she was saying that the way that mothers look
at their babies when they're when they're burthing, not breathing them,
(39:47):
when they're like breastfeeding them, or they're taking care of them,
that sort of eye contact builds a certain amount of trust.
So we still hold a lot of that in our
minds as we get older through evolution. And so I
forget which I think it was the right to right eye,
but it could also be the left to left eye.
I forget which position it was. Look it up. Look
(40:09):
it up best. But basically, when you want to build
trust with somebody, you have to look at their eyeball,
like just one eyeball and try to do it with
the same I believe it's the same one. So try
to do it. And the guy was like, how do
you do that? She's like, you can do it, Like
you just use one eyeball to like look at them,
you know, and it builds.
Speaker 2 (40:28):
This like level like this you close one eyeball.
Speaker 1 (40:30):
I was thinking one eye, like, oh, the thing wrong
with my eye? And I just blocked one eyeball. But
you know, there's all these like weird It's like we're
teaching people how to hypnotize.
Speaker 2 (40:42):
We're What I'm gathering from what I said is that
we're teaching people how to make other people insecure so
that they fall in love with us because they're insecure.
Never doing the three point system again, babes.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
I will say that I do think that the top
the best thing that you can do when it comes
to somebody that you have a crush on is voice
that you like them, let them know what's up, because
I think that there's nothing worse than living in the
world where you're like, oh my god, but who cares
no Big d Like you're like no, just get in there,
like go say hi, and then if it happens, it happens,
(41:16):
and if it doesn't, it doesn't. And then I would
say this as like I always say it, porting to
your own cup. Get into the best version of you,
because when you shine, you will certainly attract the attention
of either the person you like or the attention of
somebody else who might be equally as dope or even better.
So you know, just do you.
Speaker 2 (41:42):
Welcome to the astrology portion of the podcast, which signs
do we still have crushes on?
Speaker 1 (41:48):
Oh my god?
Speaker 3 (41:51):
Scorpios scorvios?
Speaker 1 (41:53):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (41:56):
What was that side?
Speaker 1 (41:58):
I was making out with a Scorpio and he goes
and I was like okay, and he goes, when you
kiss me? Kiss me? And I was like, I kissed
him and I was like, so now that's how I
kiss everyone.
Speaker 2 (42:15):
A we woo we woo.
Speaker 1 (42:21):
So Scorpios like forever, the legend of the scorpio is true.
They are the best lovers. Truly, They're just the best lovers.
Speaker 2 (42:32):
Hmm, I'm not sure. I think I think I like
a little bit of a Gemini. I think there's like
something about Geminis that I'm like, I want to find
out why. I want to find out why people don't
like you.
Speaker 1 (42:48):
Didn't you tell me sideboards, didn't you tell me that
I should consider dating a Gemini this year?
Speaker 2 (42:54):
Yeah? Because it was in your It's in like your
seventh or eighth house.
Speaker 1 (42:58):
So I went on a date with this guy. He's
a Gemini and as a Taurus moon, which is the
direct opposite of my moon, which is supposedly really good
for the charts. Huh, so he's a tourists.
Speaker 2 (43:16):
I thought it was. I thought it was the rising.
If the rising is opposite, then it's good. If your
moon is the same sign, it's good.
Speaker 1 (43:24):
Oh I could be wrong, you know more than I do.
So we're so that we're not meant to be is
what I'm here?
Speaker 2 (43:29):
No, but it's it could be. Maybe that's because it
depends also on what else you have in your chart.
Oh yeah, in your eighth house you have Gemini, seventh house,
you have Taurus. All right, thank you so much. It
(43:51):
means it makes sense why you would be gravitate towards
more Taurus energy. But your eighth houses also you also
have your chiron in Wait a second, yeah, wait a second, yeah,
Taurus Gemini cancer. Yes, you also have your chiron in
your eighth house, and your chiron is stuff is kind
(44:16):
of stuff that you have to learn in sort of
a hard way, and Gemini it being in Gemini eight
houses relationships, partnerships, that kind of means that there's a
duality within that aspect of your of your world that
it Yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:37):
Baby, tell me where did you have a learned defind
with the else saying a word and.
Speaker 2 (44:44):
The astrology portion of the podcast, maya, how.
Speaker 1 (44:50):
Do you plead crushes? Two point zero? We kind of
went all over the place today, we did well.
Speaker 2 (44:55):
You went out of the gate with j Lo, and
you know, you can't a lot to say about j.
Speaker 1 (45:01):
Lo and Shane, j Loo and Shane and Shane.
Speaker 2 (45:06):
I love Shane an.
Speaker 1 (45:07):
Apologies Shane is go look them up on Google and
also fall in love with.
Speaker 2 (45:11):
Them and watch The l Word for sure, not with
your family, but maybe with your family.
Speaker 1 (45:16):
My mom loved the Lward. My mom's whatever. Anyways, lesbian, Okay,
keep going, how do you plead? Oh?
Speaker 2 (45:26):
I love Shane Shane l Ward. And that's I mean
for crushes two point zero? Like what I'm doing is
kind of like less is more type of thing. I'm
super trying to be in my divine feminine where I
don't have to do much. I hold literally my uterus
(45:47):
is connected to the cosmos. So why am I going
to be sad over someone who doesn't want to come
all the way over from Long Beach to hang out
with me?
Speaker 1 (45:56):
Yep? I want my uterus to be connected to the
con to the cosmos. Cosmos, is it Okay, wait, how
do I plee? Okay. Look, if you have a crush,
a crush should be a fun thing. A crush should
be something that you're excited about. A crush should be
not something that is making you depressed or weird. If
you find that you're getting into that space where you
can be sad about it or weird about it, just
(46:17):
leave it alone. Move on, get into the crash, do
the thing. There's no reason to waste your time over
somebody who doesn't want you. There's no reason to stay stuck.
Look into and as words, looking to their good eye,
and this is a good eye. Look into their good
eye and say good eyebrow, baby good.
Speaker 2 (46:41):
Close to me, and like my mother close to me,
and like my phone.
Speaker 1 (46:46):
Can find you on social media.
Speaker 2 (46:48):
You can find me at Mine in the Moment, Andy
min in the moment, anywhere on the internet, what about you.
Speaker 1 (46:54):
You can find me at the Curly v Show on
Instagram and TikTok TikTok is where I'm posting a lot
more so you can hut me out.
Speaker 2 (47:00):
You said, I'm gen z. He said, fuck you guys
are all Oh.
Speaker 1 (47:04):
My god, seriously, I'm so mad. On Instagram anyways, Bye.
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Alert Alert, Stop.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Brought there, ma'am. Can I see your super Secret bestI
license and registration?
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Yep, it looks expired to me. Looks like we're gonna
have to take you into the station.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Okay, you're not actually in trouble. We just have a
crush on you. We didn't know how to say it.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Yeah, but you're actually under arrest. Letting a fire in
my fan h.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Oh, somebody get the fire extinguished in here.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
My name is Curly and I'm Maya, and welcome to
the Super Secret Bestie Club Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
A super secret club where we talk about super secret things.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Yeah, like secrets that are super That's what it is.
In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets. Get in here. Not
a fire in my parents? Who wrote that?
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Not a fire in your pants? You wrote that? Written
and directed by Curly.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
It's like, oh my god, the new Jalo movie that's
out film Bye j Loo, written by Jlo, starring Jlo
and j Loo as well.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
It's like Beyonce.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Renaissance just beating motherfucking limping and then Jay But that.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Was the promo. That was the promo for Beyonce's Renaissance.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
True, but Jlo's this is me now is like, this
is me now. I need my money back because I
can't be Did you see it? Did you you watched it?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
I did it. My mom's like, definitely watch it. When
you take an.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Edible literally okay, maybe like definitely take that edible, put
your phone away, pay attention it just like you know what,
it feels like. It just feels like this is what
happens when you're surrounded by so many yes, people who
can kill you, yeah, who can't be Like, you know what,
(02:06):
this is a great idea, It's a great project. Can
we please tweak it here and there? Because I actually
think that the concept of the movie would have been
a great concept if it wouldn't have been like that.
I was in space and then fat Joe was the therapist.
I'm not a matter of fact, Joe is the therapist.
But you know, it could have been set in like
New York. It could have been set in like The Bronx,
(02:29):
The Bronx, It could have been set in a real
world thing. You know. It's a story about how she
basically is just so in love with love and she's
kind of messy with it and then at the end
she realizes what we all need to realize. It's yes,
it's all about the cell.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Didn't I make a video about that? She copied me.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Huh yeah, She's all remember what she's saying for the president.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
She's like, let's get.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Oh yes, yeah, year ago. Anyways.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Yeah, so light j Lo Chiese Smith for you. I
thought that was your friend. Isn't that your friend?
Speaker 1 (03:13):
So I love you and I'm saying this with love, like,
just check in with me next time. You don't have
you don't have a virgo best friend for nothing.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
J Lo I have Well, she doesn't have any virgos
right in her life. She's like virgos.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Oh that's right, Yeah, I remember she did.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Like a that's why. That's why I have a virgo bestie.
You have to have a virgo bestI. You have to
have your heartbroken by a virgo. You have to fall
in love with a virgo to sustain living this life.
Y'all are the freaking gatekeepers of happiness for us. Oh man,
(03:50):
But I do just want to say one thing, like,
is there room for like being weird? Again? Was it was? It?
Is it okay that she's like being a little bit weird,
like or was it just bad?
Speaker 1 (04:01):
I just felt like it wasn't that she was being weird.
It just felt like it was a little too. Here's
my thing when it comes to being weird or aesthetic,
it's all about the edit. The edit is the most
edit your looks, edit things do. Yeah, to carve things away.
You can have a beautiful piece of marble, but you're
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going to carve at it and make something really beautiful.
I think that this project just needed some editing.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
We didn't need to throw okay, okay, we.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Didn't need to throw everything and the kitchen sink at it.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
It was very much everything everywhere, all at once. But
like the bootleg, the what is it, the I don't know,
the whatever version, No, the wish version of everything everywhere
all at once. Oh I haven't seen it. Okay, So
(04:52):
today today we're not talking about Jayla. We're actually talking
about crushes. Two point h are very episode on The
Super Secret Beesti Club Season one. We went back and
listened to it a little bit and it was about crushes.
And first of all, like my voice sounded so freaking high.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
I know, we sound like little kids.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
We sound like little kids, and It's crazy when I
look back at my older BuzzFeed videos when I'm like
twenty something and I sound even younger, and I'm like,
what the freaking heck, Like I feel gravity, you know
what I'm saying. Gravity Anyway, So we're talking about Crushes
two point zero. This is an updated version of Crushes,
(05:32):
and we're gonna be talking about all of it everywhere,
all at once. Not the wish version, the designer version.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
Absolutely. I just got a.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
DM that said, Hi, miss Maya, respectfully asking if I
can buy foot picks from you?
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Well, what are you gonna say?
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Five K a foot?
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Oh yeah, I like that. Okay, tell them, tell.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Them five five toes, five a thousand for each show.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Answer them, and and let's see what they say by
the end of the episode. Let's keep getting updated. This
is the new Crush, Okay.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Okay, yeah, this is all right here.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Okay. So my spirit is basically I'm okay, Like there's
been a lot of things happening, and it's made me
kind of more focus on the things that actually matter,
which is just have fun as much as you can
in life. We're not here forever. We're just here to
have a little giggle. Eat a good meal, call it
a day, and go home. What about you? How's your spirit? Hello?
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Everyone? My spirit is Yeah, it's spiriting. You know, it's
Spirit Day. It's it's yeah, it's okay, it's good. You
know what it is? I think because I don't, I'm
like in between crushes right now, I like don't have one.
But then I feel like I kind of do. I
feel like I kind of don't crushes give me life. Yeah,
(06:51):
crushes make me like want to just scream from the rooftops,
you know, And yeah, my spirit is in need of
a crush. Do you have any current crushes.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
I'm always kind of lucky crushing on people. I mean
I still have like the same crushes that I had
in the third grade.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
William ran.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
That's from mayor right or Yeah. I don't think my
crushes ever really like go away. But I do have
a new one who will talk about later that I
was like, I ran into at this event and I thought,
I think he's really beautiful, and I was like, oh, hey,
what's up. And we talked and we already follow each
other on Instagram, and we shantedo phone numbers and we
(07:37):
kind of talked and texted a little bit, and then
when I started flirting like nothing happened with it, and
I think he kind of was like, oh, like, I
think he's just like a friend zone with me, which
is okay, we'll talk about that too. But yes, I
do have a lot of different crushes right now.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
But what can I ask? How did you flirt? I
can read you, like, what did you do? Yeah, let's
read it.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
I can read you the text message? Okay, he said, oh,
because it was on Valentine's Day and let.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Me find perfect day to flirt.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Yeah, so I said, I was hanging out with chunty,
so it was queer approved. Okay, So I go. He goes,
what'd you do for Valentine's Day? And I go, I
was with one of my best ties. We made vegan food.
I think. I think my ask for you must have
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been lost in the mail, right, And so he goes,
what was your ask? Did I miss something? And I wrote,
I was trying to make a joke about asking you
to be my Valentine, but alas I am awkward as usual.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Right, Oh, yeah, you know I will say the delivery
I would get confused too.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Well, that's fine. I didn't really care about how he took.
I didn't care how he took it. I was hoping
that he was more charmed by, like, oh, he's not
like smooth and weird. He's kind of awkward, do you
know what I mean? Because that's how it is to
date me, not like hey, are you new around here?
Mine is like, oh.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
You can still appreci Yeah, he can still appreciate that
you were trying to be exactly exactly.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
So he goes, oh lol. Then I go, he goes,
I missed grade school days with all the Valentine cars.
I don't know. He's probably gonna kill me for you
and those grams that people would send to each other
swear yeah. So I was like when mine were always
ex men, our sailor moon, I had to throw them
off the set and me being a gay boy, and
so it kind of just wasn't like reciprocated. But usually,
(09:35):
you know, I would be kind of like weird about that.
I would be like, oh damn, like what's wrong with me?
What's going on? But lately I'm kind of just like
mm no, like you would you would not hit him.
He's very handsome, but I would just like people in general,
like I'm a fun boyfriend. I would be fun to
be with if some guy was like, you know, a
(09:59):
hitting on me in a really I'm cheesy where I
think I'd be more charmed by it than I would
be like weird.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Now interesting, Yeah, I thought of you for putting, but
still you put yourself out there. You know, you shot
your shot. As we'll get into later. I don't have
any current crushes right now. I feel like I'm in
between crushes where I'm like, I'm I don't really I
(10:26):
think because I don't go out a lot. Maybe I'm
going on tonight god willing, yeah, and hopefully meeting some
people because I just feel like my world is dry
without some relationship drama, you know, not drama, but like cute, flirty,
(10:46):
like oh my god, fun stuff. Yeah, I want to
be worried about it. Is you getting text me back
or not? I'm just kidding. I don't wish that on anyone.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
I mean, we talk about crushes all the time, but
the last time we touched up on these topics was
like in twenty twenty.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
One, twenty twenty one.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Yeah, do you feel like your type of crushes is
the same or has it changed at all?
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Or it is I am completely. I feel different because
I was totally a big blind spot of mine. Was like,
I mean not that I don't think. I don't think
anything's wrong with shooting or shot. I just think that
I was stepping into my masculine so much. What do
(11:30):
you thake of Curly's taking off ism his uh, his jacket?
It was the slowest, like what it was the slowest,
just I was trying to look at your muscle, any.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Words off every but I was trying to not disturb
your story and take my headphones out and miss the beat.
So I had to like put my head to inside
my slater in my hoodie and then it was it
was a long.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Time, rustles, let me see, let me see, give something
from mama, you have something for.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Today?
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Yeah, I think I'm less like uh, because I would
always like ask them out or give them my number,
Like I was always stepping into that space because I
felt so anxious, And now I'm that is actually unattractive
to me if they're not putting in the equal amount
of effort. Because there's no shame in shooting or shot
at all. But it's like, what are the circumstances is
(12:35):
that you making the first move after they like it's
because here's the thing too, is that they would be like, yeah,
we should hang out sometime. They would be like, yeah,
we should hang out sometime. I'm like yeah when yeah,
And you know I would try to set up the date.
I would no, no, no no no no no no
no no. So that is something that I'm not attracted
to anymore, is complacency. It's like, if you want to
(12:57):
come get me, come and get me.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Can I tell you? Though, Like as somebody on the
other side of all that, like I genuinely want to
hang out with guys that asked me to hang out,
and I want to do all these things, but sometimes,
like the world, I just feel like the world has
made it kind of harder to even engage with other people.
Like I have this one guy who we were dating,
and then we decided to just be friends. But when
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we were dating, like it was hard for us to
schedule stuff because we were booked months in advance, like, oh,
I'm going to be flying out here, Oh I have
this gig here, Oh I work that day, Oh I
have a business dinner here, Like it was really hard,
And then when we became friends, it was still really hard.
It was still like, well are you in town here?
And what are you doing here? Da da da da?
So like it mad for me, I go like, it's
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hard because let's just say you meet like a base level.
Let's just say there's three people, right and you like
them and they're there's something that makes you curious about them,
but you're not necessarily like, oh my god, I have
to meet them right now, and there's not like this
like crazy desperation, and you kind of let it go,
so you get kind of distracted. What I have found, though,
is that those people, the ones that you're like, not
(14:03):
the most excited about, tend to be the ones that
you have a lot of fun with when you meet
them in person. It's it's been wild that that has
been my experience. Like I'll meet someone I'm like so
excited to meet I meet him, it's kind of boring,
and then I go out with someone that I'm like, eh,
that's mine, I don't really care, and then it's so dope.
But in saying that, like, there's no rush, I feel
(14:24):
there's no like I feel like I don't I'm not
rushed to meet people, if that makes sense, which is
kind of answering your thing, like what I think might
be happening on your end, But and also like where
I'm at too with crushes, where I'm like, I just don't.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
But I'm the easiest person to talk to, you know,
Like I'm the easiest person to like flirt with or
hang out with like and to make plans with like.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
But see, it's it's not that, it's more like, let's say,
it's more about convenience, like are they in your vicinity?
Like do you run into them at the office? Are
that your best friend's friend? Where you're going to see
them somewhere? Anyways, That's what I think.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
I mean. But it doesn't matter if you if you
really want to meet someone and see someone, you will
make you will. Like I dated someone who lived like
an hour away, and they would come to me every
single time, like clockwork baby, like clockwork baby.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
I agree, because I used I used to do that too.
For my last boyfriend. I would drive an hour to
go see him. But I guess what I'm saying is
it was after I knew him, right, it was after
the initial Like I think I went to go see
him an hour ago, I mean an hour away because
I was like, well, fuck it, I'm not doing anything else,
I might as well go on an adventure and drive
to a fucking Orange county. You know.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Well, when people want you, they have they have no issue.
Take a couple freeways over there.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
That's I mean, look and that's real, and that's the
that's like the that's true, you know, but it is
like I do think that they have to get to
know you or there has to be like none of
this suspasian, but like something that is moving you in
that way. You know.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Do we have any celebrity crushes? I have celebrity crush.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
Who's your celebrity crush?
Speaker 2 (16:26):
I just finished the L word. I listen. I stopped
watching it at season three spoiler if you haven't seen,
it's been like close to like fifteen years. They kill
off one of the most beloved characters season three. So
I well, when she first got diagnosed, I was like,
(16:48):
fuck this storyline, fuck this shit. Because I am very
well versed in television in the early two thousands, Like
not only did I watch consume a bunch of it
during that time in time, yeah, but I also would
go back and have watched these things, So I know
that was a trend to kill off beloved characters to
(17:09):
make a statement. And I understand the statement was important.
It was about breast cancer, and I get it, but
they didn't need to do all that, And so I
got mad and I stopped watching, and I skipped all
the way to season six, the last episode of season six,
and then I watched a little bit of the L
(17:29):
Word generation Q was mad.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Uh huh, Yeah, I was.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
Mad because the Kit Porter, which was Bette Porter's sister,
apparently overdosed on heroin when she was doing so good
and season six and had her life together, like there's
just a couple of things. I was like, okay, you guys.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
Yeah, you're pulling my leg.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
And grown hair in my I.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Love to hear this opinion because I lived through that
trauma in real time, in real life with wait, what
was her name that died?
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Dana?
Speaker 1 (18:13):
Dana that Dana Jana died? Remember, Okay, I don't know
if you remember. There's a song that plays when she's
sang it's like any time sad. Oh my god, it's
the saddest song. Oh it's one of my favorite songs too.
I'll send it to you so you can hear.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
I think emotionally unavailable, So I think this way, Can
I watch it?
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Yeah, it's really sad. And then at the end they
play what's that song about? Damn Okay, none of that.
It's basy spider. It's like about the sun sunshine, you
are my sunshine? Oh god? So anyway, my yeah, so
they just make it like really sad. Anyways, I agree
with you, it's yeah, how do we get there?
Speaker 2 (18:51):
With Shane? Shane is my crush?
Speaker 1 (18:54):
Oh my god, Jay, everyone's crushed since ninety four.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
I'm basic. I'm basic. Shane is just the most like
she just has a swag to her that is so attractive,
even like I follow her Kate and Lesia who played
Oh my god, who's Alice? She played Alice? I follow
(19:22):
them both. They have a podcast and like they're they're
both hot. Both of them are so hot. But there's
just something about Shane.
Speaker 3 (19:30):
Did you know?
Speaker 2 (19:31):
And Shane? Actually, I mean she says that. Kate says
that she as an actor as a person, she wasn't
out yet. She was straight at first and it wasn't
until she did more seasons of The l Worth that
she came out as.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
You know what it is Shane, by the way. I'm
sorry if you guys don't know how we're talking about,
but I'm gonna use this actor or this character that
was played kind of gives to me pothead skater boy,
that's chill about everything, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (20:04):
Like she's.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
But you know, you know that there's always that guy
in your life. There was a guy in our life
we were growing up shows. I love Oreo was the
cutest boy from Inglewood in the early two thousands. He
would hang out with us. He's still beautiful, shout out
to Oreo. And he was that like little pothead skater
boy who was always like, yeah, bro, totally that's cool, beautiful, smile, gorgeous.
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Like it was like that kind of vibe. You're like, whatever,
you're chilling. I'm over here freaking out and you're chilling
in life.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
It's just like the mysterious part of it, you know, Like,
and I think maybe it's unavailable, like you want to
be you want to be Carmen for her Carmen. Yeah,
I know. But besides that, I'm so attracted to Shane.
There was a couple of girls on there that I
was like, I'm not straight, Like I thank you Jesus
(20:58):
for the show because it made me all. I still
want to start dating more girls, but I don't have
my dating apps. I don't have my dating apps, which
is fine because I think one of my biggest fears
with all that stuff is I don't want to see
anyone that I know on there because that I am
not friends with, because I'm like, I just I just don't.
(21:19):
I don't want. I don't want that jump scare. But
Shane is my celebrity crush right now. Love you, baby girl.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
Sidebar in real time. You have your thing, and I
have my thing. You have your foot fetish guy, and
I just got my lab results for any sti's and
HIV and all that stuff and everything is negative.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
So oh my god, that's great.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Anyways, Okay, so we were talking any updates about foot
guy Foot Fetish Guy.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
I have a messaged him back.
Speaker 1 (21:56):
Oh send it, Let's see what he says. Let's make
some money, okakay, and for you listeners will send you
a dollar. You're like my feet for your anyways. You know,
one of the things, though, I will say is that
I think that what people fear a lot about when
it comes to crushes and talking about crushes is the
fear of rejection. Will I get rejected? What will happen?
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I do feel like ninety nine percent of the time,
maybe of the people that you shoot your shot with
might actually reject you, right, I think that's what makes
that one percent that person. And I could be wrong
with statistics, and I'm not a mathematpt I just feel
like that one percent is what makes it so special,
right that you can engage with someone who actually doesn't
(22:36):
reject you, who's actually, like I am interested in seeing
what happens. I really believe that the and we'll talk
about this later in the future episode Apason, but I
think that, like the art of rejection is such an
important skill to learn, whether that's in your career and
your love and your friendships, because you kind of have
(22:59):
to learn how to take those blows. Know that it's
not always personal. Sometimes it's personal because you've got to
get your shit together, or your bread smells, or you're
an asshole. But you know, for the for the majority
of it, you're you're not, so get with it. Pust
yourself off and try again.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Try again, and her name.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
Jage it, thank you.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
Jenkin chink. Okay, have you flirted with anyone recently. I
know you just told us about that flirtation. I have
a little plane story. So recently I was coming back
to LA and I was on a plane and this guy.
I see this guy sit next to me because I
(23:44):
was also like, I was gonna change my plane seat
and then I couldn't, and I was like, Okay, there's
a reason why I'm sitting here. And so I was like,
hopefully it's a long plane ride. Hopefully that people sitting
next to me are like, because sometimes I like to
talk and sometimes I don't like to talk. Hope they're nice.
And so it was this guy and it looked like
his brother. At first, I kind of thought that they
(24:04):
were like queer, a queer couple, that they were together,
and so I was like, hey, you know, just like
talking and I was not thinking that this guy was
straight at all. Like and so my riz just for
friendship charisma stuff is like off the freaking charts. Okay,
I can smoothe wine and dying you girl, like it's yeah,
(24:30):
especially when it's by myself. And so he started to
like asking more questions and then I was like, oh,
this guy is definitely straight, and I was like, Okay,
he's kind of cute, like, and then I got nervous
and then I didn't talk to him for the whole
plane ride until later. I was like, I don't know,
my ribs was too strong. And then he like asked
(24:52):
for my number or he asked for my Instagram, my TikTok,
and you know, we started talking and he was like
really cool, and but I was just like, dang, my
riz is crazy. When I'm not threatened or nervous by
a straight.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
Man, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
And he ended up being straight.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
Oh have you guys like kept talking or has there
been more contact?
Speaker 2 (25:18):
Yeah, a little bit. I like popped on his live
but I you know, he's like super super religious, so
I'm like, not, I'm more spiritual, and I feel like
it would not work, but he's super kind and nice.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Yeah. I don't know. I feel like I like, like,
for me, I kind of I think if I were
to date a religious man or a spiritual man, it
would look different in a queer relationship. So I feel
like I'm okay with somebody being into Jesus and stuff
like that, but as long as he's respectful.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
And yeah, the religion stuff, because it's mostly it feels like, uh,
you know, I don't know. I just have my different
opinions about of course I've dated, I've dated those types
of people who are like super super super Christian. Yeah
and yeah. It just it just feels more so like
(26:08):
controlling the women, or like the women should be acting
like a certain type of way, or the woman should
be doing X, Y and Z, And I didn't like that.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
I mean, I'm not yumming. I'm not yumming. You'r yuck.
You know, I'm like.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
I hate that. What did you just say?
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Have you ever heard that when people go, don't yuck
my yum? But I just switched it. You don't heard
that before.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
A little bit.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
It's like if you go like, yeah, if you're like,
oh my god, I love fish and you go ill,
they go, don't yuck my yum.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
Oh, it's not a yum or it's not a yum
at all. It's a yuck, yuck, yuck.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
I do feel like sometimes when I'm actually better at
flirting when I'm a little uncomfortable, because when I'm a
little uncomfortable, I'm kind of more aware of what I'm saying.
I'm a little bit slower with my words. Which means
I'm a little bit slower with my actions. I'm not
prone to kind of like give you my all and
then what happened? Because who I look curly with my
(27:08):
girls is different than the curly as the boyfriend. Do
you know what I mean? Like, I feel like I
told Chantelle all the time that I can hear myself
when I talk to you and when I talk to
Shanty like or when I talk to like the ups
I get, I can hear it that I go what
with Shaunty, Oh my god, Like I just go like,
(27:30):
oh my god, like I have crazy vocal fry with her.
But that's what I do when I'm really comfortable. Right.
So I've been on two dates where I got too
comfortable too quickly and I literally was like, what like
just not just not kind of like being giving them
the mystery that I think is really important with first dates.
(27:53):
When it comes to first dates and it comes to flirting,
you definitely want to have an air of mystery around you.
I'm part of the team that says, you know, people
like be yourself. I'm part sayings like don't be yourself
with something.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
I'm par team be yourself.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Oh my god, girl, if you can.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
Team be your fucking self.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
This is a good but not but not.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
All at once, I agree, not all at once. You
don't want to you don't want to be like you
don't want to be like where like right out of
the gate, like, oh god, and this is me like
you want to be. If there's a way that you talk,
I would talk like that. If there's a way that
you like are normally like, I would be. I would
(28:33):
be like that. I wouldn't. I don't think there's a
lot of things. I think you still need a type
of like a wall and protection that I feel like
they both need to earn on both sides.
Speaker 1 (28:44):
But I think I do that with men anyways, or
I feel like with women, I can kiki with them,
right and the same way that you felt comfortable with
that guy because you thought he was queer. Great. I
know I do that with women where I can kiki
with them and it's fine and ill like gate up
so that we both But.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
That's not how you talk to someone in a romantic relationship.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
That's how I have somebody in relationship. Yeah, and so,
but sometimes with some gay guys when you meet them,
you are kikying with them. You are like, oh my god, god, no,
one only think of money, like and so I sometimes
will forget that this is a date, this is not
You're not here to KICKI you know what I mean.
I know lesbian has had the same problem too, where
(29:21):
they'll be like, damn, okay, don't go into like friend mode,
which happens to a lot of lesbians really fast, because
you're I feel like them sometimes are so quick to
build bonds and relationships that it gets a little difficult to.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
Be like, see, but that's a thing of tone. Yeah.
I think it's tone right, because you're not going to
go up to someone and be like, hey girl, how
are you you want to make out in the bathroom?
Like you have to sweat to it? You know what
I'm saying, Like I get it, so yes, or no,
(29:56):
like I get it yeah, So definitely for sure.
Speaker 3 (30:01):
Do you have many like nervous.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
Sense of ward Oh my god, no, my risk In
the beginning, I think it's just being gentle and like listening.
My riz later is when I think they realize how
weird I am. Like they're like, you're so like you're
kind of weird, like you the way.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
That you're you're kuirky, kirky.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
I have a quirky girl for sure. I went to
I was on a date and I went to watch
a movie and there was a guy who was like,
we're gonna kill you because you stole two million dollars,
and that was the whole movie. And I was like,
who gives a ship about two million dollars? It's literally
a house in North Hollywood? But who cares? You know,
like right right? And the guy was like, what the fuck?
(30:41):
Why are you thinking about? Like who gives a ship
that's like a two bedroom in North Hollywood? Who cares
about two million dollars?
Speaker 2 (30:47):
Yeah? Who cares about two million? Who cares about million dollars?
Am I right? It's like jump change right.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
It's because it kind of is, and in these days
should say a lot about where we're at.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
This is a lot about where you're at.
Speaker 3 (31:04):
Sister, give me that two dollars.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
I mean, look, even just like the way that people
are flirting on social media. We were just talking about this,
the lawsuit that was coming with those dating apps that
you brought up.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
Right, Yes, so there is a class action lawsuit against
match Group, which is match dot Com, Tender and Hinge
for they're being accused of their apps being designed to
addict users to stay on the app longer for money.
(31:56):
And you know they put your that your actual matches,
and the who you're supposed to be with or whatever
behind a paywall, even though you're already paying for a subscription.
It's ridiculous. So that's the thing that's happening. I'm not
on any apps. Are you on any apps right now?
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Oh? I'm on all the apps, but I stopped paying.
The only one I pay for now is Raya. I'm
not on Bumble either.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
I don't pay for anything. But I know a lot
of my friends who have met people they have dated
long term on new apps. There's a high on Grinder
and there's scruffs and sniff their sniff or something.
Speaker 1 (32:33):
That's where I tried to join. But I was looking
for love and all the wrong places. I was looking
for love and all the wrong places.
Speaker 2 (32:42):
WOA do you think? Do you think people like potential
crushes liking your stories, sending you emojis or you know whatever,
like responding to your stories? Is that a form of flirting?
Speaker 1 (32:54):
Oh that's the worst, Yeah, don't you What do you.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
Think do you do that as a foremn flirting.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
Yeah, but I stay flirting. I'm very like I send flames,
I send, I send like the open.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
Mouth, like, oh, so you're a slat.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
I mean, look, I love to celebrate people, so I
say it to guys and the internet, so you can
be seeing you can be seeing that as like flirting
or just me celebrating people, which I think is just
a bit of both.
Speaker 2 (33:23):
I do that. I do it. I do it holding
my hands up.
Speaker 1 (33:27):
Yeah, yeah, you know what I don't. I don't know
if girls do this. I don't think girls do this,
but guys a guy hits on the guy, they always
go like, damn looking buck, and the guy always replies,
just trying to get on your level. Literally, everyone says,
just trying to look like you. Girls do that so weird.
Speaker 2 (33:44):
I like that. I like that. That's cute.
Speaker 1 (33:47):
It's so dumb.
Speaker 2 (33:50):
But whenever I see somebody liking my stories or responding
to it, like last year, there was like one person
I spent the entire half of the year like because
it took me half of the year to realize that
this is not it and yeah, and because he just
stayed in the freaking DMS and would respond to my
stories like so much would like my stories, like do
(34:13):
all this stuff, and there was no follow through at
all for anything. So I'm a little jaded by whenever
I see that and now there's like you know people
here and there that I'm like, oh, you liked my story.
I'm not going to take that as you like me
or you're interested at all. That means nothing to me.
And I even talked to Gutiyell about it, and gutt
(34:35):
Yeall was like, yeah, it's kind of our way of
like being like, hey, hey, what's up, but not really
doing anything.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
Yeah, I agree with that. I feel like that's the
same thing. To be honest, though, I think everybody has
a different Different things mean different Different things mean different things,
Different actions mean different things to different people.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Different things mean different things.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
Like if somebody sends me a flame on on Instagram, like,
I'm not sitting here thinking about it, do you know
what I mean? If they send me like a text
message being like oh looking good, I don't sit here
and think about it. If they if they go, oh
let me get your number, can I text you? Then
I'm like okay, Like this person is a little bit
more serious in terms of how they want to communicate
(35:18):
with me, and then you know, it grows from there.
So when I send those flames or when I send
those messages to people social media, because I don't take
it seriously, I expect them to not take it seriously.
So you know, I have to be mindful as well
that I know that I might be tripping some guys
up because I might be doing to them what is
(35:38):
happening or what was happening in your mind? You know,
like what the fuck does it matter? You know? There
was actually two guys, by the way, beautiful Latin men,
absolutely fucking beautiful, that I just kind of was like,
I don't know what I was doing. I can't even
tell you what do.
Speaker 2 (35:54):
You mean you don't know what you're doing?
Speaker 1 (35:57):
I wish that, I think with like one of them,
he was just so like so like they're just so
beautiful that I think I was a little intimidated by
the lifestyle, right, Like that tends to happen to me
because I'm not a drinker. So when I see people
who like kind of live a life of going traveling, drinking,
like really kind of going in on life in that way,
(36:17):
I get a little intimidated because I'm like oh, like,
how what would I do? I'd be like on the
trip with you, but I'd be like, oh, kind of boring.
I don't know, I feel like I'm boring. So then
I kind of intimidate myself out of dating people like that,
so I don't really pursue it, even though I do
feel stuff for it, you know. So in saying all that,
there could be a bunch of reasons for why somebody
(36:38):
might not kind of like interact with you in the
way that they would like to. And again, like we
always say, it doesn't always have to do with you,
it has to do with me. It's not that guy's
fault that he's gorgeous and like he travels and he
enjoys a drink every now and then he has a
shit together, you know. It's my fault for being like
should eliminate him my? You know.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
So when we do have a crush, what is our
updated kind of like flirtation irl thing? I did use
the three point system the other day.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
Did it work?
Speaker 2 (37:11):
Yes, it worked? It worked, and then I felt him
doing the same thing to me, and I was like, oh,
like I kind of didn't have a backup plan for
like when it's done to you, Yeah, and like it's
hard to for me. It's hard to hold my gaze
from being like, you know, super fem and like I'm
a goddess and I'm this and the this and that,
(37:33):
because I can slip very easily into like nerd girl
and be like, oh my god, did you what he.
Speaker 1 (37:39):
Just did right now?
Speaker 2 (37:41):
You know, Like it's hard for me to like hold both,
and so that's why I'm like doing the three point
system is cute. So basically I don't know, I think
it's it's definitely like you go from the eyes to
the lips to the nose or from the eyes, so
then yeah, it's deef like you like look at them,
(38:02):
like there's their eyes and then you look at their lips,
and you look at their nose and then you look
at them and that shit works. That shit works.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
Does that work on somebody who like already likes you,
because it could be creepy if you're doing it to
someone that you're.
Speaker 2 (38:15):
Like, well, we're saying in a situation of like flirtation
with your crush, when you're with someone who you know,
you guys have established a basic level of like I
know they like me in some sense, you know, okay
a romantical.
Speaker 1 (38:31):
Way, yeah, because they do wonder if like, you know,
it's just it's somebody that I like and they're looking
at me and they're looking at.
Speaker 2 (38:38):
My eyes, my mouth, right, is there something I do?
Speaker 1 (38:42):
Yeah, or I'd be like this like yeah, absolutely, I
think And I think that's the key, if I'm honest
with you. There's something about looking at somebody's face and
the details of their face and their eyeballs that make
you insecure. And I think that's where people fall in
love because because you're.
Speaker 2 (39:01):
Making them insecure.
Speaker 1 (39:02):
Oh my gosh, that's what I think. Like I went
out somewhere and I could feel this girl staring at
my hair, like just just staring, like she could not
look away. And I finally looked at her and I
was like, she was like, oh, your hair is so nice,
And I knew she was talking about the silver, but
I was just like, girl, I literally can look at
you and it's it's off putting, you know, but you
(39:24):
don't really forget it. So imagine you're like on a
date and this person is just literally just staring you
in the fucking eyeball. But I was listening to this
podcast like Diary of a CEO. Yeah, what it is called?
Didn't we call it How to Be a Bilater? There
was a girl on there and I can't this is terrible,
but there was something about the way that she was.
So she was saying that the way that mothers look
at their babies when they're when they're burthing, not breathing them,
(39:47):
when they're like breastfeeding them, or they're taking care of them,
that sort of eye contact builds a certain amount of trust.
So we still hold a lot of that in our
minds as we get older through evolution. And so I
forget which I think it was the right to right eye,
but it could also be the left to left eye.
I forget which position it was. Look it up. Look
(40:09):
it up best. But basically, when you want to build
trust with somebody, you have to look at their eyeball,
like just one eyeball and try to do it with
the same I believe it's the same one. So try
to do it. And the guy was like, how do
you do that? She's like, you can do it, Like
you just use one eyeball to like look at them,
you know, and it builds.
Speaker 2 (40:28):
This like level like this you close one eyeball.
Speaker 1 (40:30):
I was thinking one eye, like, oh, the thing wrong
with my eye? And I just blocked one eyeball. But
you know, there's all these like weird It's like we're
teaching people how to hypnotize.
Speaker 2 (40:42):
We're What I'm gathering from what I said is that
we're teaching people how to make other people insecure so
that they fall in love with us because they're insecure.
Never doing the three point system again, babes.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
I will say that I do think that the top
the best thing that you can do when it comes
to somebody that you have a crush on is voice
that you like them, let them know what's up, because
I think that there's nothing worse than living in the
world where you're like, oh my god, but who cares
no Big d Like you're like no, just get in there,
like go say hi, and then if it happens, it happens,
(41:16):
and if it doesn't, it doesn't. And then I would
say this as like I always say it, porting to
your own cup. Get into the best version of you,
because when you shine, you will certainly attract the attention
of either the person you like or the attention of
somebody else who might be equally as dope or even better.
So you know, just do you.
Speaker 2 (41:42):
Welcome to the astrology portion of the podcast, which signs
do we still have crushes on?
Speaker 1 (41:48):
Oh my god?
Speaker 3 (41:51):
Scorpios scorvios?
Speaker 1 (41:53):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (41:56):
What was that side?
Speaker 1 (41:58):
I was making out with a Scorpio and he goes
and I was like okay, and he goes, when you
kiss me? Kiss me? And I was like, I kissed
him and I was like, so now that's how I
kiss everyone.
Speaker 2 (42:15):
A we woo we woo.
Speaker 1 (42:21):
So Scorpios like forever, the legend of the scorpio is true.
They are the best lovers. Truly, They're just the best lovers.
Speaker 2 (42:32):
Hmm, I'm not sure. I think I think I like
a little bit of a Gemini. I think there's like
something about Geminis that I'm like, I want to find
out why. I want to find out why people don't
like you.
Speaker 1 (42:48):
Didn't you tell me sideboards, didn't you tell me that
I should consider dating a Gemini this year?
Speaker 2 (42:54):
Yeah? Because it was in your It's in like your
seventh or eighth house.
Speaker 1 (42:58):
So I went on a date with this guy. He's
a Gemini and as a Taurus moon, which is the
direct opposite of my moon, which is supposedly really good
for the charts. Huh, so he's a tourists.
Speaker 2 (43:16):
I thought it was. I thought it was the rising.
If the rising is opposite, then it's good. If your
moon is the same sign, it's good.
Speaker 1 (43:24):
Oh I could be wrong, you know more than I do.
So we're so that we're not meant to be is
what I'm here?
Speaker 2 (43:29):
No, but it's it could be. Maybe that's because it
depends also on what else you have in your chart.
Oh yeah, in your eighth house you have Gemini, seventh house,
you have Taurus. All right, thank you so much. It
(43:51):
means it makes sense why you would be gravitate towards
more Taurus energy. But your eighth houses also you also
have your chiron in Wait a second, yeah, wait a second, yeah,
Taurus Gemini cancer. Yes, you also have your chiron in
your eighth house, and your chiron is stuff is kind
(44:16):
of stuff that you have to learn in sort of
a hard way, and Gemini it being in Gemini eight
houses relationships, partnerships, that kind of means that there's a
duality within that aspect of your of your world that
it Yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:37):
Baby, tell me where did you have a learned defind
with the else saying a word and.
Speaker 2 (44:44):
The astrology portion of the podcast, maya, how.
Speaker 1 (44:50):
Do you plead crushes? Two point zero? We kind of
went all over the place today, we did well.
Speaker 2 (44:55):
You went out of the gate with j Lo, and
you know, you can't a lot to say about j.
Speaker 1 (45:01):
Lo and Shane, j Loo and Shane and Shane.
Speaker 2 (45:06):
I love Shane an.
Speaker 1 (45:07):
Apologies Shane is go look them up on Google and
also fall in love with.
Speaker 2 (45:11):
Them and watch The l Word for sure, not with
your family, but maybe with your family.
Speaker 1 (45:16):
My mom loved the Lward. My mom's whatever. Anyways, lesbian, Okay,
keep going, how do you plead? Oh?
Speaker 2 (45:26):
I love Shane Shane l Ward. And that's I mean
for crushes two point zero? Like what I'm doing is
kind of like less is more type of thing. I'm
super trying to be in my divine feminine where I
don't have to do much. I hold literally my uterus
(45:47):
is connected to the cosmos. So why am I going
to be sad over someone who doesn't want to come
all the way over from Long Beach to hang out
with me?
Speaker 1 (45:56):
Yep? I want my uterus to be connected to the
con to the cosmos. Cosmos, is it Okay, wait, how
do I plee? Okay. Look, if you have a crush,
a crush should be a fun thing. A crush should
be something that you're excited about. A crush should be
not something that is making you depressed or weird. If
you find that you're getting into that space where you
can be sad about it or weird about it, just
(46:17):
leave it alone. Move on, get into the crash, do
the thing. There's no reason to waste your time over
somebody who doesn't want you. There's no reason to stay stuck.
Look into and as words, looking to their good eye,
and this is a good eye. Look into their good
eye and say good eyebrow, baby good.
Speaker 2 (46:41):
Close to me, and like my mother close to me,
and like my phone.
Speaker 1 (46:46):
Can find you on social media.
Speaker 2 (46:48):
You can find me at Mine in the Moment, Andy
min in the moment, anywhere on the internet, what about you.
Speaker 1 (46:54):
You can find me at the Curly v Show on
Instagram and TikTok TikTok is where I'm posting a lot
more so you can hut me out.
Speaker 2 (47:00):
You said, I'm gen z. He said, fuck you guys
are all Oh.
Speaker 1 (47:04):
My god, seriously, I'm so mad. On Instagram anyways, Bye.
Speaker 2 (47:09):
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