December 29, 2021 • 22 mins
On this episode Curly and Maya discuss first times. They rewind back to special moments like the first time they fell in love, had sex or ate their first solid food. Ok, not the last one.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey, what are you doing here? Is this your first time?
Oh my god, congrats. The password is on us. Get
in here. My name is Curly and I'm Maya and
Welcome to the Super Secret Bestie Club podcast, a super
secret club where we talk about super secret things a
super secret more time. In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendships, heartbreaks, men,
(00:27):
and of course our favorite secrets. Welcome to the new
game show First Times Unplugged. So this episode is a
little bit less. I guess, like, what was structure structured?
I was going to say construction, but structure is good.
We're calling this episode unplugged because we just want to
(00:49):
have a little bit of banter. Maya uses banter different
time than anyways, um, but we just wanted to just
chat it up and just talk about our first times
and listen, this is going to be a grab bag
of first time our first kiss, not mine and his.
Oh that's me. A second, I was like, wait, what
(01:11):
first crushes? Um, first time juicy stories about our first time,
So that are a little bit similar. And sometimes you
don't even know that it's your first time until you've
had your first time and you're like, yep, that was
my first time. I was very confused. So we're going
to talk about the first time we got our period? Yeah,
how was your wish? Oh my god? Well, you know,
(01:32):
I thought it was a little girl. When I was
younger side was waiting, truly waiting for the little side
gender dysmorph not gender dysmarphip, but just the gender identity stuff.
I literally waited for my period for a long time.
How was your first period? I thought I wanted my
period so bad. Also because I read the book Are
you there, God, It's me Margaret? Have you heard of that?
Of course, And at the end of the book spoiler,
(01:54):
she says, oh my god, and that's it because she
got her period. And so every single time I would
this is gonna be tm I, but you know, I
would look at the underwear and I'd be like looking
for a little red something. They're pearing it's me maan
and nope. And my first time I got it at
(02:16):
my parents used to do a bunch of art festivals
for festivals for a day of the dead season. My
parents are obviously like Mexican American folk artists, and growing
up we would go to the her Museum in Phoenix
and Botanical Garden to sell art and just be a
part of the festivities. So one year I went to
(02:36):
the bathroom there at the her no, it was at
Botanical Gardens, and boop, I said, did that poop myself?
Oh my god? I was going to ask you, what
does it feel like? Does it feel like pooping or
peeing yourself? It's not, you don't feel anything. It's just
a look. It's just you know, what do you mean?
Look know when you look at your your Chinese and
(02:56):
it's brown. And I was like, did I shoot myself? Yes?
I'm like really, And then we went out to dinner
after to celebrate, and then so were you like, I
guess I did, and you just like didn't do anything
about it. I went to my mom, I said, guess
went little lady shut up? I guess he was put
of the club. And when did she say? She's like,
(03:17):
oh my god. And then I think she some of
her friends would walk by, she'd be like, w had
just started her period. I hated it. I hated it
because I was like, I don't know this lady, Like,
who are you? Oh my god, I've known you since
you're a baby. I don't know you. I don't know
you but I just got my period. Yes, that's exactly
how it was. But like, I want to talk about
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first times and how special they are, but also how
much expectation we put on first times for them to
be good or magical, and sometimes they're not curly. Do
you remember your first crush? Oh, my god, my first crush.
I don't know if you know this, but when I
was in preschool, I used to run around and tell
the pre school to tell the little boys. They would
chase me and try to me, and I would run
(04:00):
around and like, you can kiss me, pick up um
and like my very first crushes my friend he was
hot and he was living it up. We've talked about
crushes before. I told you about my cartoon crush. I okay,
I had this crush. And this is going to lean
into the next topic, which is kisses. First kisses. I'm
(04:21):
not going to say his name because he doesn't even
deserve He was a Capricorn. He doesn't deserve the time
of Dike. But kissed me in kindergarten. What did you
think when you were a kid er, were you like,
oh my god, this is so amazing, I'm having my
fresh cash. I felt nothing. I felt nothing. I felt nothing,
and then like um, like me and a lot of
the men that I kissed now well, and then later
(04:42):
on we grew up because he was like a childhood friend.
What age is grown up? Out of high school? Eighteen?
I graduated high school and he kissed me in front
of my house And how do you do it? Did
you like lean in and go? Yeah, it was like
a little just a peck. But to me, no, not
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even I thought, because I picked multiple times. I was like, whoa,
I went crazy there, like a three peck whoa, And
I was like sorry. I texted him. I was like, sorry,
I got a little crazy there. He's like, oh, that
was nothing. But yeah, so you're decorating your door. I
(05:27):
take it. We have a door decoration contest and I
got my supplies. Also I got my costume. Anyway, yeah,
I thought it was like going crazy, but it didn't.
I don't know. It was not as magical. Honestly. I
think the story of like he was my first kiss
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when I was little and now he was my first
kiss when I'm out of high school was cute, but
he was not. What about yours? I do remember my
first queer kiss. It was this guy I think it
was the time, like junior year, senior year where there's
a bunch of proms and dan answers and winter formals,
and I went to this winter formal and somebody else
took a gay guy, and so we were the gay guys.
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I do not condone underage drinking, but this is my life.
I basically we were drinking and I rushed him. I
don't know if it's a term that people use now,
but it's basically like in the movies, or you're just
eyeing someone and you just go for the kiss. And
so we were walking up the stairs and I basically
just went for the kiss. We had been flirting all night,
we had had this energy, and then we just made
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out for the rest of the night. And my best
friend Christie's mom's bathroom we literally locked and we didn't
let anybody use the bathroom the whole night. It was
kind of cool. It was kind of amazing, like young
queer kids just being like, that's so cute. But I
feel like it's always kind of messy, even down to
the first time that I had sex. But we're gonna
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talk about it. If you have kids in the room,
tell them to shut the freaking door. Give the shepisode
for them, but or just tell them. So, okay, we're
going to talk about our first times. And I'm really nervous,
but I've told this story before, but we're part of
the car cloth. Yes, oh my god, in the high
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virtual high five, virtual high fi? Are you having me?
I thought I had it up right now. My hand
is up, my hand is up, thank you. And that
was my first high five and your hand with it.
My hand is up, It is up first time. So
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how old were you? I was eighteen. I was a
little bit older when I lost it. Okay, I was
like eighteen nineteen, and I hate that. I felt old.
I hate that. Yes, I cannot imagine losing your virginity
as a teenager. Like I mean, well, technically I guess
we did because we're still in the teens. But like,
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I could not have pulled that off at all because
I didn't drive it until I was like twenty one.
It's kept failing. My written test failed it three times,
but got the driving test on the first time. Oh
my god, how did you get it in your cutter?
In the car? This? This? It was blue? So okay,
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picture this. The Titanic is sinking. We find an abandoned car,
We get in it, We get in the back seat.
It's a little steamy. He puts his hand. Do you
know what I'm doing? No, you haven't seen Wow. I
was like, are you really going to tell us where
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he put his hand? He put his hand on the window,
and then got it was Rose's hand. I don't know
that that was Jack's hand. Well, I put my hand
on the window. This was the only time in my
life that I was problematic to my family, and it
was probably two three years where I was like this whatever.
But like, my dad did not like this guy, so
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he would not allow him in the house at all
because he knew what kind of guy he was. But
I don't think he knew what kind of daughter he
had because you gave him the house basically in the
backseat of his buick. Okay, so one night, um, I
mean every single night he would come over, but in
the front of the house. We would lay a blanket
down in the front and like watch the stars make
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out whatever. And obviously I was like, it's go time.
He's like what. I'm like, Yeah, it's go time. He's like,
are you serious. He's like, where I'm like, I don't
know you have a car, so he was his grandma's car.
It's go time. I'm more said in the back that
he said it's go time, and say it's go time.
I was like, I forgot what I said. I forgot
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what I said. But it was basically like, wouldn't he
like ignored me the first time? I'm like, hello, it's time,
the moment is now, it's ready. And so yeah, we
just went to the back of a cark and we
had no idea what we were doing because guess what.
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My mom grew up with a very Catholic mother and
I'm sorry to call you all like this mom, but
she's apologized for this. But she didn't tell me about
anything like that where it goes. No, she did not
tell me anything about my period either. I think a
lot of people have this experience too. I could not
wear tampons until I was married because it had to
do with sex. I actually didn't even know how sex
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worked for a long time because I was young and
also very oblivious to the way that queer gay sex worked. Um,
I was a little bit more and I was like,
I guess I can put it in my belly button.
It goes pretty I always thought that I was going
to have to give it up with my belly button.
That's weird. That's what I thought when I was younger.
I was like, I guess, so I can put it
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there also, I'm sure it would have been a great
place to put it, equally seem me anti, I'm sure. Yeah,
I want that SoundBite to just go viral on the internet.
Or you just spit between your thighs and just let
him stick it between your currently, which is, by the way,
a good trick when you're not in the mood with
your boyfriend or your significant other, let him stick it
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in your thighs. They don't know their difference. We're going
to leave all of that. I loved my first time
because I was scared. It was unprotected, and I don't
nothing really happened. I mean, we obviously did the deed,
but we didn't really do it fully because we didn't
know what we were doing. And so when I got back,
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when I got inside of my house after the deed
was done, and I walked in and I went to
my room, and then I went to my mom's room,
and she looked at me and she said, you had sex,
and not because we were parked outside of the house.
I forgot that detail were parked right outside of my house.
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Not because she had no idea, but she just could.
She knew, She just knew, and she was trying to
communicate with me, like, um, so what where did he
put it? I was like, um, yeah, she had to
like walk it through with me, and she was like,
I'm like, nobody talked to me about this, like even
(12:27):
in school they're they're just like, um, this is a video, okay.
But I think that is so dangerous. That is like
a generational thing. And I don't blame my mom because
it's like a stereotypical Latin, a Catholic thing that happens
where it's a taboo topic. But what happens when it's
so taboo that you don't know what you're doing? And
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then but I also think it's funny that she or
that parents might not be open to talking to you
about it before, but after they're like, word, yeah, it
was graphic after because she had to be like, well,
did anything happen? And then birth control after that, And
then I learned from my friends first and foremost how
to protect yourself. And I think That's my stance on
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that whole thing is like you need to know what
is doing, what where things are going, and what's happening,
and teach your not teach your kids, but you need
to educate your kids because it's biology, it's our bodies.
I mean, there's a lot of different things in this
episode is a little little graphic, but like, you know,
the first time I ever gave, like or participated in
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oral sex was weird for me because I didn't know
what the funk I was doing. I like, I thought
a blowjob involved actually blowing and it was like no, ye,
I was sorry if that's horrible to hear, Oh my god.
And then you know, the first time I ever had actual,
like penetrative sex, I was also in the car. I
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was in the front seat because I'm a little risk
ay and I want people to share what I'm doing.
I didn't know I autom that didn't know that I
had to like clean out a certain type of way
and handle my stuff a certempare. When we engaged, I
remember that, you know, things got a little funky, and
he would like that's literally he goes, it's the smell
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of a virgin, And I was like oh, thinks, and
so how did you feel? I just remember, Okay, I
guess for next time. But I remember thinking like, whoa,
I guess that's sex. Like I guess I just had sex,
But were you excited? I kind of grew up a
little bit more and it kind of part of who
I am now as an adult queer person. I'm a
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little bit more traditional in the sense of how I
engage sexually. I was, honestly like, I was one of
those people that I was like, I'm going to save
myself till marriage. I wanted to be in love. I
wanted to find somebody that we could explore sexually and
kind of be together for the rest of our lives.
And I didn't find that early on as a queer person,
so I lost it to an older individual. I was
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eighteen years old and he was like late thirties. Yeah,
and I was like, okay, this is what we're doing,
um and it was like definitely mind changing. And then
after that I just want him. I mean, it's like,
once you know where all the plugs go, right, and
how to plug things and how to turn it on,
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how to clean things on. I don't regret my first
time or the person. It was ten years later that
me and him talked about all that stuff and we
were both like, that was a great experience, Like I
was very grateful that he was very kind and we
were both very patient. It was magical in its own realm.
But you know, never talk to me again if you're
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listening to this, never talked to me again, or thank
you curly? What about like the first time you ever
found love it was with him? I know I told
you about this. It was one of those things that
really took over my life and to go over my family,
like it caused a huge fight with me my dad,
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but me and my mom got closer, and then after
we broke up, we got closer. He came back around
ten years later and was like, you're the one. I
always knew it. I'm like, oh, is that why you
have a baby? Am I the one like? Uh, is
that why you have a baby? And was willing to
move in with me. Remember this time, it was literally
like in December. Yeah, of course, I remember being like,
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uh yeah, he wanted to move in with me. I
was like, what about your child? What about? What about
what about us? He wasn't very responsive to the child part,
and that was unattractive anyway, and that wasn't attractive, I mean,
look for good reason. I think the first time I
ever fell in love was with William Moran in the
third grade, who I still love so much. I didn't
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know about William third grade. Oh yeah, William Moran. I
love him so so much. I used to write him
shout out to his beautiful family, like he is now
has a gorgeous wife and beautiful children. One of the
things I actually texted him. I remember being like I
used to write him a lot of love letters and
he never made me feel weird or bullied me or
I don't know if he showed his friends. He probably did,
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and he was cool, like he was buying with it,
Like he was like totally supportive. And now as adult,
he'll be like, oh, happy birthday to your grandma. Um.
He has the same birthday as my grandma, so he remembers.
And I'm always like, you were always sound like you
were a great human, um, because you kind of allowed
me to be able to express myself in that way
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where I, as a young queer kid, was kind of
allowed to be an experience and live in that moment.
Of course, unrequited love, but still it was like, Wow,
I love this person. Experiencing things for the first time
can make you feel like you're truly human, Like I'm
very appreciative for all the first times and for the
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second time. Sometimes the second times are better than the
first times, honestly, I mean true. Welcome to the incutrology
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portion of the podcast. We're gonna be talking about the
signs of our first loves, first kisses, first things. Yeah,
I mean, what was was a Capricorn? My first love
was an Aquarius. And I think it's very interesting to
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see like us younger and not really knowing about astrology,
but knowing later on, like, oh that was Capricorn. That's
why I didn't vibe with them, or oh that was
that was an Aquarious, that's why they talked like that.
You know that is so true. Yeah, my first crush,
he is a Leo, and I get it. I'm like,
of guards, I would be attracted to the fire sign.
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Even as a little kid. There was just like fire signs.
I think that I was like, yep, this is a
fire sign. Standing podcast fire Signs. I think I haven't
had a lot of interactions with air signs except for
like that one Aquarius, but everything else has been honestly
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Earth signs. It's been a lot of virgos. I feel
like I have been fallen in love with a lot
of Earth signs. I'm like, I've got enough of that
trudition in my life. Get away from me. Interesting, do
you kind of lean towards fire signs more now? Yes?
I fucking love fire signs? But would you date another
virgo um? A lot of my boyfriends have been virgos
to to be honest, most of my actual boyfriends who
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are great at commitment have been virgos and cancers. I
just wonder what that says about us that, Like, I
don't know, our preferences now are very much different than
when we were younger. I feel like fire signs like
to be free, and they also like drama. I think
fire signs and drama. What, yes, I think the fire
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sounds like the day people who bring a little bit
of drama. Yeah. Yeah, that Aquarius was very He was
a rebel. That's why I liked him, because use a
rebel and Earth Sounds are not like that. Earth Sounds
are very pragmatic. The only drama that you'll get from
us is why didn't you take the trash out. But
you know what, this Aquarius was whacked because his venus
(20:20):
was Pisces, and when you're venuses and Pisces, you drown
people with your love. Drown Also, you know, the first
time I ever touched a dick, I thought it felt
like those rubber plate toys that you can buy like
a toy store that has like gel and water in
It was like you thought about that right now, Yeah,
that's on your brain. Well, my to recap this episode.
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First times are spectacular, they are amazing. I remember the
first time I tried for the first time. I remember
the Yeah, we could totally gone into like when's the
first time you remember eating solid food? Yeah, it's like
so many different things. First time they're always amazing. The
first time I tried X, he was amazing. First my
head a drink. It was so good. I think the
second times can sometimes be better, but I think that
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first time have a special place in my heart. They do.
But you know, if it's not good the first time,
it's fine, it's okay. Like there's a lot of expectation
for things, and exactly if you don't if it doesn't
meet your expectation, it's Okay, try it the second time.
Try putting it in your belly button. That's not what
you know. I wanted to hear it again. Where can
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people find you on social media? You can find me
at Maya in the Moment and in the Moment on
all platforms. And you can find Curly at Instagram and
take at the Curly v show. V as in Victor,
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thank you so much for listening to the podcast. Guys,
feel free to send his comments d MS messages about
any topics that you think we should cover and we'll
see you soon. And if this was your first time,
please come back. Yeah, this is your first time. I promised,
we um and ended right there. Thank you by Super Secret.
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Hey, what are you doing here? Is this your first time?
Oh my god, congrats. The password is on us. Get
in here. My name is Curly and I'm Maya and
Welcome to the Super Secret Bestie Club podcast, a super
secret club where we talk about super secret things a
super secret more time. In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendships, heartbreaks, men,
(00:27):
and of course our favorite secrets. Welcome to the new
game show First Times Unplugged. So this episode is a
little bit less. I guess, like, what was structure structured?
I was going to say construction, but structure is good.
We're calling this episode unplugged because we just want to
(00:49):
have a little bit of banter. Maya uses banter different
time than anyways, um, but we just wanted to just
chat it up and just talk about our first times
and listen, this is going to be a grab bag
of first time our first kiss, not mine and his.
Oh that's me. A second, I was like, wait, what
(01:11):
first crushes? Um, first time juicy stories about our first time,
So that are a little bit similar. And sometimes you
don't even know that it's your first time until you've
had your first time and you're like, yep, that was
my first time. I was very confused. So we're going
to talk about the first time we got our period? Yeah,
how was your wish? Oh my god? Well, you know,
(01:32):
I thought it was a little girl. When I was
younger side was waiting, truly waiting for the little side
gender dysmorph not gender dysmarphip, but just the gender identity stuff.
I literally waited for my period for a long time.
How was your first period? I thought I wanted my
period so bad. Also because I read the book Are
you there, God, It's me Margaret? Have you heard of that?
Of course, And at the end of the book spoiler,
(01:54):
she says, oh my god, and that's it because she
got her period. And so every single time I would
this is gonna be tm I, but you know, I
would look at the underwear and I'd be like looking
for a little red something. They're pearing it's me maan
and nope. And my first time I got it at
(02:16):
my parents used to do a bunch of art festivals
for festivals for a day of the dead season. My
parents are obviously like Mexican American folk artists, and growing
up we would go to the her Museum in Phoenix
and Botanical Garden to sell art and just be a
part of the festivities. So one year I went to
(02:36):
the bathroom there at the her no, it was at
Botanical Gardens, and boop, I said, did that poop myself?
Oh my god? I was going to ask you, what
does it feel like? Does it feel like pooping or
peeing yourself? It's not, you don't feel anything. It's just
a look. It's just you know, what do you mean?
Look know when you look at your your Chinese and
(02:56):
it's brown. And I was like, did I shoot myself? Yes?
I'm like really, And then we went out to dinner
after to celebrate, and then so were you like, I
guess I did, and you just like didn't do anything
about it. I went to my mom, I said, guess
went little lady shut up? I guess he was put
of the club. And when did she say? She's like,
(03:17):
oh my god. And then I think she some of
her friends would walk by, she'd be like, w had
just started her period. I hated it. I hated it
because I was like, I don't know this lady, Like,
who are you? Oh my god, I've known you since
you're a baby. I don't know you. I don't know
you but I just got my period. Yes, that's exactly
how it was. But like, I want to talk about
(03:39):
first times and how special they are, but also how
much expectation we put on first times for them to
be good or magical, and sometimes they're not curly. Do
you remember your first crush? Oh, my god, my first crush.
I don't know if you know this, but when I
was in preschool, I used to run around and tell
the pre school to tell the little boys. They would
chase me and try to me, and I would run
(04:00):
around and like, you can kiss me, pick up um
and like my very first crushes my friend he was
hot and he was living it up. We've talked about
crushes before. I told you about my cartoon crush. I okay,
I had this crush. And this is going to lean
into the next topic, which is kisses. First kisses. I'm
(04:21):
not going to say his name because he doesn't even
deserve He was a Capricorn. He doesn't deserve the time
of Dike. But kissed me in kindergarten. What did you
think when you were a kid er, were you like,
oh my god, this is so amazing, I'm having my
fresh cash. I felt nothing. I felt nothing. I felt nothing,
and then like um, like me and a lot of
the men that I kissed now well, and then later
(04:42):
on we grew up because he was like a childhood friend.
What age is grown up? Out of high school? Eighteen?
I graduated high school and he kissed me in front
of my house And how do you do it? Did
you like lean in and go? Yeah, it was like
a little just a peck. But to me, no, not
(05:03):
even I thought, because I picked multiple times. I was like, whoa,
I went crazy there, like a three peck whoa, And
I was like sorry. I texted him. I was like, sorry,
I got a little crazy there. He's like, oh, that
was nothing. But yeah, so you're decorating your door. I
(05:27):
take it. We have a door decoration contest and I
got my supplies. Also I got my costume. Anyway, yeah,
I thought it was like going crazy, but it didn't.
I don't know. It was not as magical. Honestly. I
think the story of like he was my first kiss
(05:47):
when I was little and now he was my first
kiss when I'm out of high school was cute, but
he was not. What about yours? I do remember my
first queer kiss. It was this guy I think it
was the time, like junior year, senior year where there's
a bunch of proms and dan answers and winter formals,
and I went to this winter formal and somebody else
took a gay guy, and so we were the gay guys.
(06:08):
I do not condone underage drinking, but this is my life.
I basically we were drinking and I rushed him. I
don't know if it's a term that people use now,
but it's basically like in the movies, or you're just
eyeing someone and you just go for the kiss. And
so we were walking up the stairs and I basically
just went for the kiss. We had been flirting all night,
we had had this energy, and then we just made
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out for the rest of the night. And my best
friend Christie's mom's bathroom we literally locked and we didn't
let anybody use the bathroom the whole night. It was
kind of cool. It was kind of amazing, like young
queer kids just being like, that's so cute. But I
feel like it's always kind of messy, even down to
the first time that I had sex. But we're gonna
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talk about it. If you have kids in the room,
tell them to shut the freaking door. Give the shepisode
for them, but or just tell them. So, okay, we're
going to talk about our first times. And I'm really nervous,
but I've told this story before, but we're part of
the car cloth. Yes, oh my god, in the high
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virtual high five, virtual high fi? Are you having me?
I thought I had it up right now. My hand
is up, my hand is up, thank you. And that
was my first high five and your hand with it.
My hand is up, It is up first time. So
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how old were you? I was eighteen. I was a
little bit older when I lost it. Okay, I was
like eighteen nineteen, and I hate that. I felt old.
I hate that. Yes, I cannot imagine losing your virginity
as a teenager. Like I mean, well, technically I guess
we did because we're still in the teens. But like,
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I could not have pulled that off at all because
I didn't drive it until I was like twenty one.
It's kept failing. My written test failed it three times,
but got the driving test on the first time. Oh
my god, how did you get it in your cutter?
In the car? This? This? It was blue? So okay,
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picture this. The Titanic is sinking. We find an abandoned car,
We get in it, We get in the back seat.
It's a little steamy. He puts his hand. Do you
know what I'm doing? No, you haven't seen Wow. I
was like, are you really going to tell us where
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he put his hand? He put his hand on the window,
and then got it was Rose's hand. I don't know
that that was Jack's hand. Well, I put my hand
on the window. This was the only time in my
life that I was problematic to my family, and it
was probably two three years where I was like this whatever.
But like, my dad did not like this guy, so
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he would not allow him in the house at all
because he knew what kind of guy he was. But
I don't think he knew what kind of daughter he
had because you gave him the house basically in the
backseat of his buick. Okay, so one night, um, I
mean every single night he would come over, but in
the front of the house. We would lay a blanket
down in the front and like watch the stars make
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out whatever. And obviously I was like, it's go time.
He's like what. I'm like, Yeah, it's go time. He's like,
are you serious. He's like, where I'm like, I don't
know you have a car, so he was his grandma's car.
It's go time. I'm more said in the back that
he said it's go time, and say it's go time.
I was like, I forgot what I said. I forgot
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what I said. But it was basically like, wouldn't he
like ignored me the first time? I'm like, hello, it's time,
the moment is now, it's ready. And so yeah, we
just went to the back of a cark and we
had no idea what we were doing because guess what.
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My mom grew up with a very Catholic mother and
I'm sorry to call you all like this mom, but
she's apologized for this. But she didn't tell me about
anything like that where it goes. No, she did not
tell me anything about my period either. I think a
lot of people have this experience too. I could not
wear tampons until I was married because it had to
do with sex. I actually didn't even know how sex
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worked for a long time because I was young and
also very oblivious to the way that queer gay sex worked. Um,
I was a little bit more and I was like,
I guess I can put it in my belly button.
It goes pretty I always thought that I was going
to have to give it up with my belly button.
That's weird. That's what I thought when I was younger.
I was like, I guess, so I can put it
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there also, I'm sure it would have been a great
place to put it, equally seem me anti, I'm sure. Yeah,
I want that SoundBite to just go viral on the internet.
Or you just spit between your thighs and just let
him stick it between your currently, which is, by the way,
a good trick when you're not in the mood with
your boyfriend or your significant other, let him stick it
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in your thighs. They don't know their difference. We're going
to leave all of that. I loved my first time
because I was scared. It was unprotected, and I don't
nothing really happened. I mean, we obviously did the deed,
but we didn't really do it fully because we didn't
know what we were doing. And so when I got back,
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when I got inside of my house after the deed
was done, and I walked in and I went to
my room, and then I went to my mom's room,
and she looked at me and she said, you had sex,
and not because we were parked outside of the house.
I forgot that detail were parked right outside of my house.
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Not because she had no idea, but she just could.
She knew, She just knew, and she was trying to
communicate with me, like, um, so what where did he
put it? I was like, um, yeah, she had to
like walk it through with me, and she was like,
I'm like, nobody talked to me about this, like even
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in school they're they're just like, um, this is a video, okay.
But I think that is so dangerous. That is like
a generational thing. And I don't blame my mom because
it's like a stereotypical Latin, a Catholic thing that happens
where it's a taboo topic. But what happens when it's
so taboo that you don't know what you're doing? And
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then but I also think it's funny that she or
that parents might not be open to talking to you
about it before, but after they're like, word, yeah, it
was graphic after because she had to be like, well,
did anything happen? And then birth control after that, And
then I learned from my friends first and foremost how
to protect yourself. And I think That's my stance on
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that whole thing is like you need to know what
is doing, what where things are going, and what's happening,
and teach your not teach your kids, but you need
to educate your kids because it's biology, it's our bodies.
I mean, there's a lot of different things in this
episode is a little little graphic, but like, you know,
the first time I ever gave, like or participated in
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oral sex was weird for me because I didn't know
what the funk I was doing. I like, I thought
a blowjob involved actually blowing and it was like no, ye,
I was sorry if that's horrible to hear, Oh my god.
And then you know, the first time I ever had actual,
like penetrative sex, I was also in the car. I
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was in the front seat because I'm a little risk
ay and I want people to share what I'm doing.
I didn't know I autom that didn't know that I
had to like clean out a certain type of way
and handle my stuff a certempare. When we engaged, I
remember that, you know, things got a little funky, and
he would like that's literally he goes, it's the smell
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of a virgin, And I was like oh, thinks, and
so how did you feel? I just remember, Okay, I
guess for next time. But I remember thinking like, whoa,
I guess that's sex. Like I guess I just had sex,
But were you excited? I kind of grew up a
little bit more and it kind of part of who
I am now as an adult queer person. I'm a
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little bit more traditional in the sense of how I
engage sexually. I was, honestly like, I was one of
those people that I was like, I'm going to save
myself till marriage. I wanted to be in love. I
wanted to find somebody that we could explore sexually and
kind of be together for the rest of our lives.
And I didn't find that early on as a queer person,
so I lost it to an older individual. I was
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eighteen years old and he was like late thirties. Yeah,
and I was like, okay, this is what we're doing,
um and it was like definitely mind changing. And then
after that I just want him. I mean, it's like,
once you know where all the plugs go, right, and
how to plug things and how to turn it on,
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how to clean things on. I don't regret my first
time or the person. It was ten years later that
me and him talked about all that stuff and we
were both like, that was a great experience, Like I
was very grateful that he was very kind and we
were both very patient. It was magical in its own realm.
But you know, never talk to me again if you're
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listening to this, never talked to me again, or thank
you curly? What about like the first time you ever
found love it was with him? I know I told
you about this. It was one of those things that
really took over my life and to go over my family,
like it caused a huge fight with me my dad,
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but me and my mom got closer, and then after
we broke up, we got closer. He came back around
ten years later and was like, you're the one. I
always knew it. I'm like, oh, is that why you
have a baby? Am I the one like? Uh, is
that why you have a baby? And was willing to
move in with me. Remember this time, it was literally
like in December. Yeah, of course, I remember being like,
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uh yeah, he wanted to move in with me. I
was like, what about your child? What about? What about
what about us? He wasn't very responsive to the child part,
and that was unattractive anyway, and that wasn't attractive, I mean,
look for good reason. I think the first time I
ever fell in love was with William Moran in the
third grade, who I still love so much. I didn't
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know about William third grade. Oh yeah, William Moran. I
love him so so much. I used to write him
shout out to his beautiful family, like he is now
has a gorgeous wife and beautiful children. One of the
things I actually texted him. I remember being like I
used to write him a lot of love letters and
he never made me feel weird or bullied me or
I don't know if he showed his friends. He probably did,
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and he was cool, like he was buying with it,
Like he was like totally supportive. And now as adult,
he'll be like, oh, happy birthday to your grandma. Um.
He has the same birthday as my grandma, so he remembers.
And I'm always like, you were always sound like you
were a great human, um, because you kind of allowed
me to be able to express myself in that way
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where I, as a young queer kid, was kind of
allowed to be an experience and live in that moment.
Of course, unrequited love, but still it was like, Wow,
I love this person. Experiencing things for the first time
can make you feel like you're truly human, Like I'm
very appreciative for all the first times and for the
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second time. Sometimes the second times are better than the
first times, honestly, I mean true. Welcome to the incutrology
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portion of the podcast. We're gonna be talking about the
signs of our first loves, first kisses, first things. Yeah,
I mean, what was was a Capricorn? My first love
was an Aquarius. And I think it's very interesting to
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see like us younger and not really knowing about astrology,
but knowing later on, like, oh that was Capricorn. That's
why I didn't vibe with them, or oh that was
that was an Aquarious, that's why they talked like that.
You know that is so true. Yeah, my first crush,
he is a Leo, and I get it. I'm like,
of guards, I would be attracted to the fire sign.
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Even as a little kid. There was just like fire signs.
I think that I was like, yep, this is a
fire sign. Standing podcast fire Signs. I think I haven't
had a lot of interactions with air signs except for
like that one Aquarius, but everything else has been honestly
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Earth signs. It's been a lot of virgos. I feel
like I have been fallen in love with a lot
of Earth signs. I'm like, I've got enough of that
trudition in my life. Get away from me. Interesting, do
you kind of lean towards fire signs more now? Yes?
I fucking love fire signs? But would you date another
virgo um? A lot of my boyfriends have been virgos
to to be honest, most of my actual boyfriends who
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are great at commitment have been virgos and cancers. I
just wonder what that says about us that, Like, I
don't know, our preferences now are very much different than
when we were younger. I feel like fire signs like
to be free, and they also like drama. I think
fire signs and drama. What, yes, I think the fire
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sounds like the day people who bring a little bit
of drama. Yeah. Yeah, that Aquarius was very He was
a rebel. That's why I liked him, because use a
rebel and Earth Sounds are not like that. Earth Sounds
are very pragmatic. The only drama that you'll get from
us is why didn't you take the trash out. But
you know what, this Aquarius was whacked because his venus
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was Pisces, and when you're venuses and Pisces, you drown
people with your love. Drown Also, you know, the first
time I ever touched a dick, I thought it felt
like those rubber plate toys that you can buy like
a toy store that has like gel and water in
It was like you thought about that right now, Yeah,
that's on your brain. Well, my to recap this episode.
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First times are spectacular, they are amazing. I remember the
first time I tried for the first time. I remember
the Yeah, we could totally gone into like when's the
first time you remember eating solid food? Yeah, it's like
so many different things. First time they're always amazing. The
first time I tried X, he was amazing. First my
head a drink. It was so good. I think the
second times can sometimes be better, but I think that
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first time have a special place in my heart. They do.
But you know, if it's not good the first time,
it's fine, it's okay. Like there's a lot of expectation
for things, and exactly if you don't if it doesn't
meet your expectation, it's Okay, try it the second time.
Try putting it in your belly button. That's not what
you know. I wanted to hear it again. Where can
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people find you on social media? You can find me
at Maya in the Moment and in the Moment on
all platforms. And you can find Curly at Instagram and
take at the Curly v show. V as in Victor,
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thank you so much for listening to the podcast. Guys,
feel free to send his comments d MS messages about
any topics that you think we should cover and we'll
see you soon. And if this was your first time,
please come back. Yeah, this is your first time. I promised,
we um and ended right there. Thank you by Super Secret.
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