October 27, 2021 • 22 mins
Curly and Maya discuss flirting, dos and donts and even break out some "pickup" lines.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey, what are you doing here? Are you flirting with? Maya? Stop?
What's a past word? It's a king here. My name
is Curly and I'm Maya. And welcome to the Super
(00:22):
Secret Best Club podcast, a super secret club where we
talk about super secret things, super secret, more time super secret.
In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendships, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets. Well, well, well we
(00:43):
got another topic for you guys today. That's gonna be
a little flirtatious. I think, Oh my god, I'm so excited.
I love talking about flirting. I love flirting. Sometimes I
don't even know what I'm flirting. Sometimes I don't even
mean to be flirting all the time flirting. Sometimes I'm
just asking somebody how they are, and they're like, you're blaring.
(01:05):
What's the way you ask? Is? Like, it's I imagine
like some smooth jazz is on, And they're like, do
you know where the bathroom? Do you know what the
weather is going to be like? And I'm standing next
to you, like, um, I think everyone else is thinking
the same thing. Okay. According to Google, definition for flirting
(01:28):
says it behaviors though attracted to or trying to attract someone,
but for amusement rather than with serious intentions. I don't
know about that amusement. I never flirt to be well, okay,
might do I love to flirt. Do you feel like
you have a certain way of flirting when you flirt
with somebody? Yeah? I do it. I mean that was
(01:49):
an example. I make fun of them. Oh my god.
But listen, sometimes I do a mixture of like what
is that where you just like play fight? I'm also
an aries so with an aries venus, so we love
to play fight, you know, and so, but it's it's
really like when I'm like, you're dumb. That doesn't mean
(02:10):
I think you're like not smart. It's like you're dumb,
like you're stupid, Like it's endearment. So I feel like
that's kind of when I flirt, and how I flirt
is is very much like joking. You know what. The
other day I was on set for something, no bigie.
I was in New York on set for something. It
(02:31):
was negrat. Oh it was like really cool and this
guy was so cute and man, I was making everyone
laugh on that set. This is I'm in my prime,
Like this is prime time. Maya flirting and guess what
he did. He came up to me after asked for
my Instagram and we're friends, so it freaking worked. My
(02:56):
charm is my comedy. I love I already know flirting
with the fire sign because there is this very sharp
wit but also like kind of a little mean and
you're just like yep, I like this. This is gonna
be fun because it just makes the bands are easier.
I feel like and when I flirt, I'm very much
like I'm going to tease you. I'm gonna make fun
(03:16):
of you. And if you can hang, you can also
hang on this. I want to reiterate to that, like
it's not teasing Raminez and like we're being actually mean.
It's like you know we're teasing. We're like like like
I do this thing when I flirt, I will kind
of blink a little slower, I like lower my chin,
(03:40):
my voice gets a little bit more like breath. Oh
my god, how it'll be like um when I see
it happen, it's like slow motion. Like I said before,
there's like smooth jazz on somehow. There's candles everywhere, like
Curly's in a satin red dress with like a little
cleveland showing and I'm like, still in my normal clothes,
(04:01):
and I'm like, there's somehow good lighting on his face too,
But we were saying that it only looks good from
the front because the side. So he for a description,
he lowers his head, lower my chin likesten to my neck.
This is a TikTok thing where like you lower your
head and your eyes are a little lower, and then
you drop your speech slower and smoother, and then you
(04:24):
make some sort of contact where you touch their arm
or something. This is all like from the front. Yes, yes,
shut up. Who was stealing my flirting, my plortation? Girl,
I'm not even good at common I invented that. I
invented that. I need to be paid for that, Thank
you very much. Um. But there's like an eye thing too,
(04:45):
where you look at their lips, you look at their nose,
and then you look to the side, and then you
do it again. You look to the side, you look
at their lips, look at their nose, and then you
look to the other side. Oh my god, but that
makes people help us up conscious. I feel like people
look at my nose or my lips or anything like that.
I'm like, and maybe that how they get you because
you make them feeling secure about themselves. Are you staring
at me because you like me? Are you staring at me?
(05:05):
I don't know. It's just like a thing. I don't
I do not break eye contact. I will look you
in the eye and I blink and I laugh and
I'm like, he's so funny. Where from from the front,
right from the profile. From the side, my chin has
disappeared into my neck. You know, I love a double chin.
I love my double chin. I love her. She's been
(05:26):
with me since the beginning of my life. And it's amazing.
She's a part of my flirtation. She's part of your
flirtation act she is. And no shame, but you know
it's a different I will say, it's not worse from
the side, it's a different experience from the side. Yes,
I don't think I've ever asked you this before. What Yes,
(05:48):
anything turned inappropriate for you when flirting. I think I've
heard some stuff, but not really back in the day
when we were in the late nineties and the early
two thousands. Um, the way that men kind of hit
on I'm sorrying about sistt men hitting on a lot
of my girls. When queer people flirted back. It was
almost like we were evening the odds right, like we
(06:10):
were making it kind of like, oh, well, you're making
her feeling comfortable, I'm gonna make you feel uncomfortable, you know.
And so now it's really weird because for so long
queer people have been almost able to flirt in a
way that is kind of like they get a free pass. Well, yeah,
they're gay, who cares, you know. And so it's interesting
because now in today's day it can also be predatory,
(06:31):
and so you have to be really careful because sometimes
I say things where I'm like, oh, I was just saying, like,
not thinking anything of it. I was just making a comment,
but I told some guy like, oh if I was
if you were gay, I would totally date you. But
I also say that to my girls, like I'm like,
oh my god, if I was straight, I would totally
date you, you know. Um, And I don't think anything
of it. But I've had guys be like you're flirting
(06:51):
with me, and I'm like, am I flirting with this?
Kind of hard nowadays has especially like you don't know
what anyone's situation is. You don't know, like people don't
know I don't want to offend you. So how do
you flirt? How do you kind of get into that
whole thing. Well, listen, I do pick up lines. We're
just gonna do a little segment here where we're just
(07:12):
going to go back and forth, um with a pickup line,
duel battle royale. Okay. The way that I hit on
guys is like, are you free for the rest of
your life? Because I'm ready to get married? Can I
get a boo sound effect on math? Please? Oh? They
hate it? They run. This is why I'm saying. Mine
is I'm pregnant. I saw you and then I realized,
(07:37):
why are you adding to and I was pregnant. I'm
trying to help it a little bit, trying to take
it to the I'm just kidding. I'm not pregnant. Um.
That is if I want them to run away. Okay,
that's a different section I had that in. What I
say is I don't have any pickup lines. You know
what I love? I love so much when guys. Okay,
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so back in the day. Don't do this now. And
this is not a recommendation, but feel free to do
it to me. If I used to go to this
club out here called Circus, and arena predominantly Latino black
black Latino, like it was Asian. Everybody is pretombly POC.
But I'm really hip hop culture. And the way that
guys would hit on you is when you walk by them,
they would grab you by the wrist. I guess like
the way for me that I like to be hit
on even now, back in the day, so I would
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like when they would grab like they would literally had
walked by them, they would grab my wrists and I
would be like, I love it. It's look, it is
so different for straight people of course, or like masculine
people and feminine people, but I think in the queer
world that was very like, you know, we don't get
to experience a lot of those heteronormative things. So when
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you kind of do, you're like me like, oh, yes,
I'm not saying but that's just me. And then they
pull you to dance and you're in the center and
there's statisco ball. They danced with you and they said,
what you smells so good? Yes, But I also like
when people text me and they flirt with me and
they're like, do you want me to spit on it
or lick it? And I'm just like that is. That
(09:05):
is how I like to be flirted with. Like, I'm like,
that's flirting already. On the second, how long have you
guys been talking? That is poetry to me, Like, oh,
that's just but that everybody has their thing, everybody has
their way of being. How do you like to be? Really?
I like when people are they give me the same
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energy that I'm giving back, like be silly, be like,
tease me a little bit, but like, I freaking love
when so many is funny. You know, that is something
that man, it's problematic, but I'm like, you could totally
be not the one, but I would stay with you
because you're funny. I would make funny yes, even like
(09:47):
honestly though, because I feel like I like when I
laugh in a relationship. I like I like when I'm
laughing with partners and we're having sex, Like if you
can giggle and it makes it so much fun. Yeah.
I love when they're just serving the same energy back
to me. It's like a different language, as they say
on the island Banta. If that banter is there, it's
(10:09):
just confirmation for me. But it's also do I like
them because they're funny? Or do I like them because
I think we're a good match. I think that's the
thing with flirting too, is like you don't even know
why you're flirting sometimes, so people don't know. I think
that's why it makes it so hard to know if
someone's flirting with you. I don't know, Yeah, like are
(10:30):
they flirting? Am I tripping? Or are they flirting with me?
We're always together when people flirt with us, and we're like,
is he flirting with you or me? I know which?
I love? Like, oh my god, I love that. I
actually really do love it because it does happen to
us a lot where we'll be at a restaurant or
we'll go somewhere and the waiter will be like kind
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of flirtations with both of us and we're kind of
like hold up, like you or me, And it's usually
not people who are visibly queer or like giving us there.
It kind of give us like neutral vibes and you're
like it's like do you want a good tip or
do you want the tips? Or do you want this tip?
I said it first? Or do you want it first?
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I got you? You know why, because I'm cool. This
is the thing people think that maya is not dirty
and there she is thinking about the tip. I was
talking about the monetary tip of like do you want
you know, tips, or do you want the gussie or
the ussy or that's its own thing, that's its own organism.
(11:36):
Like if you give a hand job with your neck,
just the neck anything, anyway, we don't worry. We'll have
a whole segment, a whole episode about the neck. Do
you have trouble reading flirtation? I excuse me, yeah, because
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sometimes I have to tell you, oh my god, that
was totally flirting. You're like it. I know, I'm a nerd.
I'm such a nerd dork girl. Oh my god, I'm
so quicky. No, honestly because growing up like I was
like an ugly duckling where nobody would flirt with me
at all. So I just never really knew if somebody
(12:22):
was flirting back it was. It was not until I
grew up and actually moved to l A that I
was like, Okay, you know what we can distinguish when
we're flirting and when somebody else is flirting with us.
And I've had experiences where I'm like, they were not
flirting with me, or we're flirting with me, and I
messed it up because I ignored them. I ignore people. Yeah,
(12:44):
I mean me too. And sometimes the thing is too
is they can't read the signs or they don't know.
Like I have one friend who's an actor and I
we always joke because I was like, I had such
a crush on you. I would flirt with you so hard.
I had no idea. I'm like, are you serious? Like
you had no idea that I liked. You were like,
all right, whatever, and then it passes and you're right,
So they keep that like it just goes away. I
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don't know what it is. I think I need to
flirt more. I just get shy. They can't tell if
I like them or not because I just am very
like I guess, a little bit closed off, right. I
don't know how to fix that. Is there this type
of flirtation that makes you uncomfortable? I guess, or I
don't like cat calling at all? That I mean, nobody
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really do it is to them honestly, because it's like,
what are they expecting out of it? I like found
out on TikTok how to um turn it on its head.
And you just kind of like when they flirt with
you or when they can't call you. When they can't
call you. I think I've said this before and then um,
you just say what and then they repeat it and
then you go what, and then they repeat it and
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then you go, oh, I'll know you walk away because
it makes them feel dump. I mean, we love manipulate. Jane.
I just heard this thing, so I'm high. I give
an interview on Oprah and she just said like a
laugh like laugh at that, Yeah, yeah, that's what you
told me. Yeah, but I don't know. She said that's
not really good advice, So I don't know if it's
good advice here either. But it's just some does. And
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it's also like I don't want to get murdered, so
I just don't say anything. But I don't like cat calling.
I don't think when people are like, who are you single?
So tell me why are you? Why is a beautiful
girl like you single? It's like, what do you say
to that? I say, funk off? Really Bee would destroy
you that. I like just that question. Oh man, I
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don't even care if you're so cute, like I just can't.
There's some like are you about it? Question? Honest, it
gives me an indication that like people who ask that
question think that they're coming at it a different way,
but it comes off completely different way. That's the consensus. Yeah,
that I Sometimes I'll be like, why are you single?
Like what's I hate it? Don't freaking ask me that.
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I'm very much like you want to know the answer.
The real answer is what am I going to say?
I'm going to say like I've been focusing on my
career here, or like I tell them about my last
therapy session. I'm like, oh, I'm dealing with a lot
of self love and learning about worthiness and trying to
figure out where I'm at. Okay, yes, yeah, I'll answer
like that. But I just like it's not creative, is
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what I'm trying to say. I don't like when people
try to flirt and they're not creative with it when
it's just textbook. I'm probably very stingy with that, but
that's where it gives me the ick. And if you
don't know what the ick is, it is like a
turn off. It's like, once I have the I I'm out.
And I know that's like very harsh, but let's be
more creative. I love like good old fashioned compliments. I
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love somebody being like dang like you are finest buck,
or like you look beautiful, or like you are so pretty,
you are so handsome. So now let's shift into like
virtual digital flirting. Do you like when people comment or
send you d m s like that, like that live
for it? Last week, this is gonna make me so horribles,
probably be horrible for my game. But like last week,
I think four people hit me up and they were like,
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I have been dreaming of fucking you for so long.
And I'm like, I'm a quick block for me, a
block with I put quick like I didn't reply, actually
I didn't reply to somebody like some of them where
people that actually knew, And I was like, that is
the best compliment to me. Oh my god, for me
a quick block, and I'm like, ill disgusting. It's different.
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It's different because of like you know, gender roles like that,
because I'm a masculine presenting individual who dates other masculine
presenting individuals. Of course, it's different. Like if a man
is sending you a DM and it's like I want
to I jack off to you, You're of course you're
going to be because you probably get that so much,
and you're like, what the funk. That's disgusting. But on
my end, like if somebody says I jack off to you,
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I'm like poetry to my ears, thank you? What was
the load? Like I want to hear all the details. Also,
I have like a document here that has like the episode,
and I've been staring at the word flirting for so
long that it doesn't look like a word anymore. Flirting.
It's an unattractive word. It is, yes, alright, And now
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for the astrology section of who we think is the
best part. Oh, I think we already freaking no, you
know what, week after a week it's just about the
areas signs. But now I'm like, you're right, we have
a week after week. I'm like blowing smoke up an
aries app because we deserve it. I saw this thing
that said aries don't like fire signs don't crave attention.
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Earth signs do, but they act like it's whatever, and
air signs are even Capricorns would be like, I don't care,
I don't want it, but secretly they want it. Burgos
are like, please tell me I'm smart. Yes, I love validation,
but I actually hate attention, Like I don't like attention,
but I love validation, like if it's like um okay,
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it's like sidebar, it's speaking of flirtation. So I walk
into this bar as a virgo. I walk in and
I'm with my two beautiful queer friends and there is
this less than attractive individual who comes up to my friend, uh,
friend number one, and it's like, you are so beautiful
so much they are scorpio, and the scorpio was like,
I'm a bottom. Get away from me, and so he
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was like, okay, moving on, friend number two, you are
so beautiful. I love you. Friend number two was like
I have a boyfriend and I verse get away from me.
And then he was like came to me and I
was like yes, hello, and he's like your friends are
very beautiful. I was like, what what about am I?
And like I would never get with him. I just
wanted my opportunity to be like get away from me.
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I'm whatever. And I will say, Virgos are very good
at flirting, like, oh my god, I freaking hate Virgos
are really good. I hate it. It's because we cut
you a little bit, we hurt you a little bit.
Scorpios too, scorre fields are really good. It's like you
gotta sometimes you gotta starve me of attention, and I'm like,
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I think I like them. You're gonna freaking ignore me.
Fire signs are really good ignoring people because they're so busy,
like doing their own and so I'm so I'm really busy.
My like me ignoring people as an aries is me
having severe anxiety and overthinking. But also just like I
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don't care and move on. I wonder like, okay, like,
what would it be like to flirt with aquaria? Aquaries?
That was my first love. Shout out and not shout out.
Don't ever talk to me ever again. My mouth's just watered.
I don't know why aquaries are just so charming, They're
so like emotionally, they are just emotionally unavailable in the
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best way that I like them to be. Just play
with my emotions. Hit me with the toxicity. You're tooxica.
I think, you know, I think I am too. I
think we've exposed ourselves on this podcast as foxicas. But
that was the ideology section. Well, we talked about flirtation,
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and I think my recap of all this is, you know,
I think how to get really good at flirting is
just to continue doing it. But also make sure you
know or you just have a sense of the other
person's comfortability and even though you can't really know, but like,
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if you notice them kind of not responding, read the signs.
If they're not present for your flirtation, just to move
on and flirt with somebody else. Also, like, this is
very much our own experiences, like my own experience and
what I like. I'm not speaking for anybody. I'm not
saying this is what go go and do this. I'm
not saying this is what people like. I'm just saying
that if you want to flirt with me, if you
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want to be my lover. Yes, they're knocking on the
door for the van has been here and they're about
to leave for your retiring. What was my favorite song?
That was a good old man voice. Wow. Well, thank
you guys so much for listening. Make sure to hit
us up on our social media to just give us
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some ideas about future episodes that you want us to
talk about. Curly how can they find you on social media?
You can find me on Instagram and TikTok at the
Curly V Show and my where can they find you?
That's vias in Victors and Victor and abusing boy. You
can find me at Maya in the Moment, m A
y A in the Moment, on every social media platform,
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and probably on other planets to I imagine if there's
another another me out there doing the same thing who's
maybe spectacular or worse at flirting. Mine is probably a
hoe in everything. Okay, I thought you were done. Okay.
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Hey, what are you doing here? Are you flirting with? Maya? Stop?
What's a past word? It's a king here. My name
is Curly and I'm Maya. And welcome to the Super
(00:22):
Secret Best Club podcast, a super secret club where we
talk about super secret things, super secret, more time super secret.
In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendships, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets. Well, well, well we
(00:43):
got another topic for you guys today. That's gonna be
a little flirtatious. I think, Oh my god, I'm so excited.
I love talking about flirting. I love flirting. Sometimes I
don't even know what I'm flirting. Sometimes I don't even
mean to be flirting all the time flirting. Sometimes I'm
just asking somebody how they are, and they're like, you're blaring.
(01:05):
What's the way you ask? Is? Like, it's I imagine
like some smooth jazz is on, And they're like, do
you know where the bathroom? Do you know what the
weather is going to be like? And I'm standing next
to you, like, um, I think everyone else is thinking
the same thing. Okay. According to Google, definition for flirting
(01:28):
says it behaviors though attracted to or trying to attract someone,
but for amusement rather than with serious intentions. I don't
know about that amusement. I never flirt to be well, okay,
might do I love to flirt. Do you feel like
you have a certain way of flirting when you flirt
with somebody? Yeah? I do it. I mean that was
(01:49):
an example. I make fun of them. Oh my god.
But listen, sometimes I do a mixture of like what
is that where you just like play fight? I'm also
an aries so with an aries venus, so we love
to play fight, you know, and so, but it's it's
really like when I'm like, you're dumb. That doesn't mean
(02:10):
I think you're like not smart. It's like you're dumb,
like you're stupid, Like it's endearment. So I feel like
that's kind of when I flirt, and how I flirt
is is very much like joking. You know what. The
other day I was on set for something, no bigie.
I was in New York on set for something. It
(02:31):
was negrat. Oh it was like really cool and this
guy was so cute and man, I was making everyone
laugh on that set. This is I'm in my prime,
Like this is prime time. Maya flirting and guess what
he did. He came up to me after asked for
my Instagram and we're friends, so it freaking worked. My
(02:56):
charm is my comedy. I love I already know flirting
with the fire sign because there is this very sharp
wit but also like kind of a little mean and
you're just like yep, I like this. This is gonna
be fun because it just makes the bands are easier.
I feel like and when I flirt, I'm very much
like I'm going to tease you. I'm gonna make fun
(03:16):
of you. And if you can hang, you can also
hang on this. I want to reiterate to that, like
it's not teasing Raminez and like we're being actually mean.
It's like you know we're teasing. We're like like like
I do this thing when I flirt, I will kind
of blink a little slower, I like lower my chin,
(03:40):
my voice gets a little bit more like breath. Oh
my god, how it'll be like um when I see
it happen, it's like slow motion. Like I said before,
there's like smooth jazz on somehow. There's candles everywhere, like
Curly's in a satin red dress with like a little
cleveland showing and I'm like, still in my normal clothes,
(04:01):
and I'm like, there's somehow good lighting on his face too,
But we were saying that it only looks good from
the front because the side. So he for a description,
he lowers his head, lower my chin likesten to my neck.
This is a TikTok thing where like you lower your
head and your eyes are a little lower, and then
you drop your speech slower and smoother, and then you
(04:24):
make some sort of contact where you touch their arm
or something. This is all like from the front. Yes, yes,
shut up. Who was stealing my flirting, my plortation? Girl,
I'm not even good at common I invented that. I
invented that. I need to be paid for that, Thank
you very much. Um. But there's like an eye thing too,
(04:45):
where you look at their lips, you look at their nose,
and then you look to the side, and then you
do it again. You look to the side, you look
at their lips, look at their nose, and then you
look to the other side. Oh my god, but that
makes people help us up conscious. I feel like people
look at my nose or my lips or anything like that.
I'm like, and maybe that how they get you because
you make them feeling secure about themselves. Are you staring
at me because you like me? Are you staring at me?
(05:05):
I don't know. It's just like a thing. I don't
I do not break eye contact. I will look you
in the eye and I blink and I laugh and
I'm like, he's so funny. Where from from the front,
right from the profile. From the side, my chin has
disappeared into my neck. You know, I love a double chin.
I love my double chin. I love her. She's been
(05:26):
with me since the beginning of my life. And it's amazing.
She's a part of my flirtation. She's part of your
flirtation act she is. And no shame, but you know
it's a different I will say, it's not worse from
the side, it's a different experience from the side. Yes,
I don't think I've ever asked you this before. What Yes,
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anything turned inappropriate for you when flirting. I think I've
heard some stuff, but not really back in the day
when we were in the late nineties and the early
two thousands. Um, the way that men kind of hit
on I'm sorrying about sistt men hitting on a lot
of my girls. When queer people flirted back. It was
almost like we were evening the odds right, like we
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were making it kind of like, oh, well, you're making
her feeling comfortable, I'm gonna make you feel uncomfortable, you know.
And so now it's really weird because for so long
queer people have been almost able to flirt in a
way that is kind of like they get a free pass. Well, yeah,
they're gay, who cares, you know. And so it's interesting
because now in today's day it can also be predatory,
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and so you have to be really careful because sometimes
I say things where I'm like, oh, I was just saying, like,
not thinking anything of it. I was just making a comment,
but I told some guy like, oh if I was
if you were gay, I would totally date you. But
I also say that to my girls, like I'm like,
oh my god, if I was straight, I would totally
date you, you know. Um, And I don't think anything
of it. But I've had guys be like you're flirting
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with me, and I'm like, am I flirting with this?
Kind of hard nowadays has especially like you don't know
what anyone's situation is. You don't know, like people don't
know I don't want to offend you. So how do
you flirt? How do you kind of get into that
whole thing. Well, listen, I do pick up lines. We're
just gonna do a little segment here where we're just
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going to go back and forth, um with a pickup line,
duel battle royale. Okay. The way that I hit on
guys is like, are you free for the rest of
your life? Because I'm ready to get married? Can I
get a boo sound effect on math? Please? Oh? They
hate it? They run. This is why I'm saying. Mine
is I'm pregnant. I saw you and then I realized,
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why are you adding to and I was pregnant. I'm
trying to help it a little bit, trying to take
it to the I'm just kidding. I'm not pregnant. Um.
That is if I want them to run away. Okay,
that's a different section I had that in. What I
say is I don't have any pickup lines. You know
what I love? I love so much when guys. Okay,
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so back in the day. Don't do this now. And
this is not a recommendation, but feel free to do
it to me. If I used to go to this
club out here called Circus, and arena predominantly Latino black
black Latino, like it was Asian. Everybody is pretombly POC.
But I'm really hip hop culture. And the way that
guys would hit on you is when you walk by them,
they would grab you by the wrist. I guess like
the way for me that I like to be hit
on even now, back in the day, so I would
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like when they would grab like they would literally had
walked by them, they would grab my wrists and I
would be like, I love it. It's look, it is
so different for straight people of course, or like masculine
people and feminine people, but I think in the queer
world that was very like, you know, we don't get
to experience a lot of those heteronormative things. So when
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you kind of do, you're like me like, oh, yes,
I'm not saying but that's just me. And then they
pull you to dance and you're in the center and
there's statisco ball. They danced with you and they said,
what you smells so good? Yes, But I also like
when people text me and they flirt with me and
they're like, do you want me to spit on it
or lick it? And I'm just like that is. That
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is how I like to be flirted with. Like, I'm like,
that's flirting already. On the second, how long have you
guys been talking? That is poetry to me, Like, oh,
that's just but that everybody has their thing, everybody has
their way of being. How do you like to be? Really?
I like when people are they give me the same
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energy that I'm giving back, like be silly, be like,
tease me a little bit, but like, I freaking love
when so many is funny. You know, that is something
that man, it's problematic, but I'm like, you could totally
be not the one, but I would stay with you
because you're funny. I would make funny yes, even like
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honestly though, because I feel like I like when I
laugh in a relationship. I like I like when I'm
laughing with partners and we're having sex, Like if you
can giggle and it makes it so much fun. Yeah.
I love when they're just serving the same energy back
to me. It's like a different language, as they say
on the island Banta. If that banter is there, it's
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just confirmation for me. But it's also do I like
them because they're funny? Or do I like them because
I think we're a good match. I think that's the
thing with flirting too, is like you don't even know
why you're flirting sometimes, so people don't know. I think
that's why it makes it so hard to know if
someone's flirting with you. I don't know, Yeah, like are
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they flirting? Am I tripping? Or are they flirting with me?
We're always together when people flirt with us, and we're like,
is he flirting with you or me? I know which?
I love? Like, oh my god, I love that. I
actually really do love it because it does happen to
us a lot where we'll be at a restaurant or
we'll go somewhere and the waiter will be like kind
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of flirtations with both of us and we're kind of
like hold up, like you or me, And it's usually
not people who are visibly queer or like giving us there.
It kind of give us like neutral vibes and you're
like it's like do you want a good tip or
do you want the tips? Or do you want this tip?
I said it first? Or do you want it first?
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I got you? You know why, because I'm cool. This
is the thing people think that maya is not dirty
and there she is thinking about the tip. I was
talking about the monetary tip of like do you want
you know, tips, or do you want the gussie or
the ussy or that's its own thing, that's its own organism.
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Like if you give a hand job with your neck,
just the neck anything, anyway, we don't worry. We'll have
a whole segment, a whole episode about the neck. Do
you have trouble reading flirtation? I excuse me, yeah, because
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sometimes I have to tell you, oh my god, that
was totally flirting. You're like it. I know, I'm a nerd.
I'm such a nerd dork girl. Oh my god, I'm
so quicky. No, honestly because growing up like I was
like an ugly duckling where nobody would flirt with me
at all. So I just never really knew if somebody
(12:22):
was flirting back it was. It was not until I
grew up and actually moved to l A that I
was like, Okay, you know what we can distinguish when
we're flirting and when somebody else is flirting with us.
And I've had experiences where I'm like, they were not
flirting with me, or we're flirting with me, and I
messed it up because I ignored them. I ignore people. Yeah,
(12:44):
I mean me too. And sometimes the thing is too
is they can't read the signs or they don't know.
Like I have one friend who's an actor and I
we always joke because I was like, I had such
a crush on you. I would flirt with you so hard.
I had no idea. I'm like, are you serious? Like
you had no idea that I liked. You were like,
all right, whatever, and then it passes and you're right,
So they keep that like it just goes away. I
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don't know what it is. I think I need to
flirt more. I just get shy. They can't tell if
I like them or not because I just am very
like I guess, a little bit closed off, right. I
don't know how to fix that. Is there this type
of flirtation that makes you uncomfortable? I guess, or I
don't like cat calling at all? That I mean, nobody
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really do it is to them honestly, because it's like,
what are they expecting out of it? I like found
out on TikTok how to um turn it on its head.
And you just kind of like when they flirt with
you or when they can't call you. When they can't
call you. I think I've said this before and then um,
you just say what and then they repeat it and
then you go what, and then they repeat it and
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then you go, oh, I'll know you walk away because
it makes them feel dump. I mean, we love manipulate. Jane.
I just heard this thing, so I'm high. I give
an interview on Oprah and she just said like a
laugh like laugh at that, Yeah, yeah, that's what you
told me. Yeah, but I don't know. She said that's
not really good advice, So I don't know if it's
good advice here either. But it's just some does. And
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it's also like I don't want to get murdered, so
I just don't say anything. But I don't like cat calling.
I don't think when people are like, who are you single?
So tell me why are you? Why is a beautiful
girl like you single? It's like, what do you say
to that? I say, funk off? Really Bee would destroy
you that. I like just that question. Oh man, I
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don't even care if you're so cute, like I just can't.
There's some like are you about it? Question? Honest, it
gives me an indication that like people who ask that
question think that they're coming at it a different way,
but it comes off completely different way. That's the consensus. Yeah,
that I Sometimes I'll be like, why are you single?
Like what's I hate it? Don't freaking ask me that.
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I'm very much like you want to know the answer.
The real answer is what am I going to say?
I'm going to say like I've been focusing on my
career here, or like I tell them about my last
therapy session. I'm like, oh, I'm dealing with a lot
of self love and learning about worthiness and trying to
figure out where I'm at. Okay, yes, yeah, I'll answer
like that. But I just like it's not creative, is
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what I'm trying to say. I don't like when people
try to flirt and they're not creative with it when
it's just textbook. I'm probably very stingy with that, but
that's where it gives me the ick. And if you
don't know what the ick is, it is like a
turn off. It's like, once I have the I I'm out.
And I know that's like very harsh, but let's be
more creative. I love like good old fashioned compliments. I
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love somebody being like dang like you are finest buck,
or like you look beautiful, or like you are so pretty,
you are so handsome. So now let's shift into like
virtual digital flirting. Do you like when people comment or
send you d m s like that, like that live
for it? Last week, this is gonna make me so horribles,
probably be horrible for my game. But like last week,
I think four people hit me up and they were like,
(15:58):
I have been dreaming of fucking you for so long.
And I'm like, I'm a quick block for me, a
block with I put quick like I didn't reply, actually
I didn't reply to somebody like some of them where
people that actually knew, And I was like, that is
the best compliment to me. Oh my god, for me
a quick block, and I'm like, ill disgusting. It's different.
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It's different because of like you know, gender roles like that,
because I'm a masculine presenting individual who dates other masculine
presenting individuals. Of course, it's different. Like if a man
is sending you a DM and it's like I want
to I jack off to you, You're of course you're
going to be because you probably get that so much,
and you're like, what the funk. That's disgusting. But on
my end, like if somebody says I jack off to you,
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I'm like poetry to my ears, thank you? What was
the load? Like I want to hear all the details. Also,
I have like a document here that has like the episode,
and I've been staring at the word flirting for so
long that it doesn't look like a word anymore. Flirting.
It's an unattractive word. It is, yes, alright, And now
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for the astrology section of who we think is the
best part. Oh, I think we already freaking no, you
know what, week after a week it's just about the
areas signs. But now I'm like, you're right, we have
a week after week. I'm like blowing smoke up an
aries app because we deserve it. I saw this thing
that said aries don't like fire signs don't crave attention.
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Earth signs do, but they act like it's whatever, and
air signs are even Capricorns would be like, I don't care,
I don't want it, but secretly they want it. Burgos
are like, please tell me I'm smart. Yes, I love validation,
but I actually hate attention, Like I don't like attention,
but I love validation, like if it's like um okay,
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it's like sidebar, it's speaking of flirtation. So I walk
into this bar as a virgo. I walk in and
I'm with my two beautiful queer friends and there is
this less than attractive individual who comes up to my friend, uh,
friend number one, and it's like, you are so beautiful
so much they are scorpio, and the scorpio was like,
I'm a bottom. Get away from me, and so he
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was like, okay, moving on, friend number two, you are
so beautiful. I love you. Friend number two was like
I have a boyfriend and I verse get away from me.
And then he was like came to me and I
was like yes, hello, and he's like your friends are
very beautiful. I was like, what what about am I?
And like I would never get with him. I just
wanted my opportunity to be like get away from me.
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I'm whatever. And I will say, Virgos are very good
at flirting, like, oh my god, I freaking hate Virgos
are really good. I hate it. It's because we cut
you a little bit, we hurt you a little bit.
Scorpios too, scorre fields are really good. It's like you
gotta sometimes you gotta starve me of attention, and I'm like,
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I think I like them. You're gonna freaking ignore me.
Fire signs are really good ignoring people because they're so busy,
like doing their own and so I'm so I'm really busy.
My like me ignoring people as an aries is me
having severe anxiety and overthinking. But also just like I
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don't care and move on. I wonder like, okay, like,
what would it be like to flirt with aquaria? Aquaries?
That was my first love. Shout out and not shout out.
Don't ever talk to me ever again. My mouth's just watered.
I don't know why aquaries are just so charming, They're
so like emotionally, they are just emotionally unavailable in the
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best way that I like them to be. Just play
with my emotions. Hit me with the toxicity. You're tooxica.
I think, you know, I think I am too. I
think we've exposed ourselves on this podcast as foxicas. But
that was the ideology section. Well, we talked about flirtation,
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and I think my recap of all this is, you know,
I think how to get really good at flirting is
just to continue doing it. But also make sure you
know or you just have a sense of the other
person's comfortability and even though you can't really know, but like,
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if you notice them kind of not responding, read the signs.
If they're not present for your flirtation, just to move
on and flirt with somebody else. Also, like, this is
very much our own experiences, like my own experience and
what I like. I'm not speaking for anybody. I'm not
saying this is what go go and do this. I'm
not saying this is what people like. I'm just saying
that if you want to flirt with me, if you
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want to be my lover. Yes, they're knocking on the
door for the van has been here and they're about
to leave for your retiring. What was my favorite song?
That was a good old man voice. Wow. Well, thank
you guys so much for listening. Make sure to hit
us up on our social media to just give us
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some ideas about future episodes that you want us to
talk about. Curly how can they find you on social media?
You can find me on Instagram and TikTok at the
Curly V Show and my where can they find you?
That's vias in Victors and Victor and abusing boy. You
can find me at Maya in the Moment, m A
y A in the Moment, on every social media platform,
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and probably on other planets to I imagine if there's
another another me out there doing the same thing who's
maybe spectacular or worse at flirting. Mine is probably a
hoe in everything. Okay, I thought you were done. Okay.
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