September 21, 2022 • 39 mins
It's time to share our super secrets. Drumroll, please... Maya and Curly are telling you what makes a super bestie and how you can be one too as they celebrate their season finale!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey, what are you doing in here? Wait, Curly, it's
our bestie. Yes, we have we love you best Sie.
You get in here. My name is Curly and I'm
Maya and welcome to The Super Secret Bestie Club podcast,
a super secret club where we talk about super secret things,
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super secret, more time secret. In each episode, we'll talk
about love, friendships, heartbreaks, men, and of course our favorite secrets. Well, guys,
welcome back. It's another episode of The Super Secret bestI Club.
Today we're gonna be talking about something very special because
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it's actually the last episode of our season. I love
recording this every week so much. I love listening to it.
Sometimes I stay away really late on Tuesdays so I
can like listen to it twelve exactly. On Wednesdays, I
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listened half of it because then I'm like, Curly, you've
got to go to sleep. And then I wake up
and I listened to UM the other half hour. And
sometimes when I get lonely, I listened to old episodes. Yeah, yes,
I was going to say no, but the truth is yes,
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because you missed my voice. Because we have some good
combos and usually each other down, so it's like, you know,
I've loved doing this podcast a lot. It's been definitely
a labor of love because I have not done anything
like this before. Oh well, there's been some labor for
me because behind the scenes trying to get curly wrangled
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into being focused. Like, but honestly, I feel like throughout
this podcast and behind the scenes of it, we have
definitely gotten closer and we know. I feel like I
know how to speak to you in a way that's
not like, how would you describe having to rangble me in?
It's like I'm like a jellyfish. Well, at first, it
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would make me a little bit mad because I I'm
always the one who has to pull people in and
I always get upset, and so it was a lot
of my own trauma, being like I'm always the one
to bubble blah blah, you know, versus like you just
need to be told three words and then you got it. Yeah.
I wonder what it says about your spirit that you're
surrounded by people who needs to be frankled. It means
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that I need new friends, looking for a new bestie.
I will say that me being a little what people
might call flighty, I'm super smart, super intelligent, but I
think people might sometimes see this, flighty. I think it's
why I'm so happy all the time. I think it's
why I have I struggle with my happiness sometimes. I
always like, I think it's because literally I'm not because
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of you love me so much that I can't. That's
so much fun. Like even if I'm eating my Cristal
at the wrong time and I'm upsetting, people are like,
I'm just doing the wrong thing, Like I'm happy I'm
having my coffee. How inconsidering. But I also give people
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the same space, by the way, to do whatever. I
never get mad at people. I don't really get mad
at people. To be honest, I feel like I've pushed
you to get mad at people. I don't really when
it's necessary because I don't really get mad at people.
I like whatever, Like live your best life, Diva. Anyways,
we've come here today to discuss basically being best sees.
What makes a good best friend? How do you find
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a good best friend? Maybe like and by the way,
we're not talking about like this is my best friend.
We do everything together. Yeah, like none of this like
toxic best friend stuff where you're like you didn't do
this for me, or I haven't heard from you, like,
it's like, how do you just have a beautiful soulmate
friendship with somebody where there's solid communication and talk about boundaries.
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If you don't talk for three days, it's not a
big deal. You're just like, oh, I missed you. W
have you been? Oh my god? We went three days
and talking. That's weird, you know. Yeah, Like when I
was in Arizona for two weeks, I feel like we
know when we're with family, we give each other's space, yes,
but then we're still like, I miss Like, how do
we become besties? I think I was like I don't.
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There was just something about you that I was like,
He's fun, Like I think I could joke around with you,
and we would we would pick at each other and
like like you would treat me like a little sister
a lot where um and I think, Um, I just
liked your energy and your vibe and like, I think
the biggest part of it was that we would laugh,
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were like we Um. I understand a lot of your
references because a lot of your references are very similar
to the girls that I grew up with, So like
my best friends that I've been best friends was I
was eight years old, they'll reference SpongeBob all the time.
So when I come to work in your referencing referencing
SpongeBob too, I'm just an eight year old girl stuck
in your body. Well, some of my best sees right,
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like back in the day of what used to They
used to always be like, um, what is the east?
I thought you said west, And so when you would
come and quote a SpongeBob thing, I would be like absolutely,
like I already know, no, this is Patrick's is an instrument.
But I feel like we became tight because we had
similar humor. And I also very early on got very
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protective of you because you were alone and you were young.
So like early on, I think that I would be
like I would ask my mom to make you extra
food and I would take into I would be like, um,
oh mayas alone, or even like um, during the pandemic,
I would like call and check up on you and
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make sure you're okay. Like the truth is that I
do get very like I want to bring everybody into
my space, like oh, you're so loved. And I think
that's how we got tight originally because that was the energy,
but then we ended up just it was the humor, like,
and I think we worked at such a stressful job
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even though it was so much fun, Like it was
still every single day we were with each other constantly.
I've always sat near Curly my entire for five years.
So think about like spending every single day together and
even the weekends. We spend the weekends together. Sometimes it's
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um about time and time. And we saw each other
through a lot of hard things and a lot of
celebrations and a lot of a lot of like heartbreaks
and and new loves and don't get it twisted that
we do fight. Oh yeah, we definitely yeah, And it
could happen at any moment. Yeah, And I don't think
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we've ever thought about big things. There has been some
big things. I think the biggest one that I'm thinking
about is in Texas. That was that was a shift.
Those aren't big for me. Those are like we have
different things on what is big and what is not
because that was big for me. So basically, like long
story short, um, we went to Texas. We got invited
to shoot videos in Texas to promote the city of Houston,
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which was super amazing. We had to do a thing
where we were going to get a makeover, a big
Texas makeover, and I went in and people washed my hair.
And the thing with curly hair is that you can't
break the curls. Like you can't. That is like and
they were just like like dry, like just destroying my curls.
And so the thing is is that when you look
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like you're when you don't have curls, you just look
like you know, when you're in the shower and all
your hair is falling out and you roll it up
into a little ball. That's what my hair looks like.
Roll the ball and put on the top of my head. Yeah,
it glued on top of my head. Yeah, And they
like and then we got dressed. Well no, so then okay,
So then I cried because I was like, I don't
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want to be on camera like that. I've never cried
in my entire life. I'm very professional. I don't look
around when it comes to work. Put me on stage,
and I think that was the only time ever to
be honest, and I haven't done it since where I cried.
I didn't want to be on camera. So they were like,
do you want them to do it again? And I
said yes, please, and they did it again. Literally they
did it the exact same thing to my hair again,
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and then I think you got your hair braided so
your hair looked beautiful. You can't a brain, you can't,
but like you know, they just and then Claudia got
her hair blow dry and straighten like a country country stars.
I have very thick, coarse, curly hair, like you have
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to treat it differently than you would somebody who were
not feeling. I was not feeling on point. I was
super emotional. I felt ugly, and so then we went
to get like our clothes it and but then I
think I had calmed down. I think I was like,
you are very hyper, very hyper, and then um, you
went so chin your stuff. And I was producing this video.
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This was like my video. It was I think it
was like me and Claudia were producing a video, and
so mine was like we get a Texas makeover. So
I was not only filming everything and planning everything, and
then I had to like they didn't. We went to
this store to get fitted for like cowboy clothes are
like you know, horse riding clothes, and they did not
have plus sized clothes at all. And it was hot
and we were trying to film things and they're like,
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and it was at night, like we were driving, We're tired. Um,
we were. And we had also spent a lot of days.
Not only were we spending a lot of time together
during work, but now we're on this like three day
trip in Texas working, you know, and I think we
were sad in our personal lives because of like breakups
and people not with you with us, Yeah, we were.
The vibe was very interesting. I think Claudia was feeling
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some type of way too. Um. So the energy was different.
And then I was trying on some cloth those and
I think at this time, if you were to do
that now, I wouldn't I don't think I would care. Um.
But like Curly peeked over into my changing stone was
like what are you doing it? And it and like
you know, just being silly and sunshine, and I was
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like I snapped at him and I was like like
get out of here, like what are you doing? Like
it just kind of caught me off guard because like
I didn't really see like who it was, but then
I was like I could hear your voice and I
just was very like I was like, don't do that,
and like that like makes me feel like I've had
experiences before where people have tried to get into my
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dressing room and tried to peek or whatever, like, and
it just like I got triggered. And I come from
the world of like where I grew up with all women,
so I didn't know that boundary. I had never experienced
that boundary with any of my girlfriends because I'm just
the gay guy, um, and so it was new for us.
But we did end up talking about it. We cried
about it, and like that was kind of like one
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of the first times that we were like, oh, boundaries.
But I don't even think back then we knew that
word or even how because it took us a long
time to see eye to eye. I remember like it
it was like, you know, I think we made that
night though we did, but it took a couple of
days because I think it was still like, what like
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a couple of days for you made because I was like, yeah,
because you you get over things really quick and I
have to, like I really have to see the energy
out and like drain myself of all of what was,
you know, everything. But I feel like that was a
big shift because we got You get closer when you
have conflict absolutely every relationship as well. And I always
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tell people that like best friends and relationships, it's not
about how good or perfect it is. It's always like
how much can you all overcome? How much can have
y'all seen together and been like, yeah, we really made
it over that hump. The other fight we had was
like the Mountain, an one which we told we talked
about that one's good. That one was so good because
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it was like we evolved Maya and curly like a
conversation that like I think it changed other people in
our lives. But like I think that when in terms
of you listener, our friends are besties out there when
you're looking for your best friend, like you should be
able to have those conversations with them. You should be
able to tell them when you're hurt, tell them that
you're sensitive, like without judgment. Like nobody in your life
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should be telling you like, well, you're too sensitive or
you're like and they should. You should feel comfortable to
express yourself in that way without feeling like, um, you
are going to be put down in that way or
not hurt and the other person, like you also have
to be understanding that even though you were really hurt
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in the situation they were hurt. Yeah, so it's like
there's too hurt people and like you just want the
end result to be like you each got something, you
got to say what you want to say, and you
are you both understand each other absolutely. When people love
each other, like, no matter what kind of relationship, family, friendship, relationships,
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I think the goal is always how do you get
to a place of making the other person feel safe? Right,
Like I'm still the person you love, I'm still the
person that loves you. We're just disagreeing on something. How
do we get to like safety? And so I think
that like talking about your emotions and talking about these
different things. Um, it's a two like part thing. It's
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a two part dance, Like we both have to be
ready to be like hold each other and ourselves accountable
or just and the aftermath of like when you like
how when we make up and when everything is like
good again, Like I need my space after I've had
discussions and I've had a lot of people in my
life who are no longer in my life who would
not give me that space, And because of that, I
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don't want to be I don't want to be around
them because you're disrespecting me. I think that's the most
important part, is like you know, after you've had all
of these discussions, like allow people to have space so
that they can come back to you, because I love
somebody allowing me to come back to them when I want.
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I also think that the beauty of our relationship and
best friends is giving each other the tools. We will
give each other tools to really use in our lives.
Like you know, for example, Chantell is a good friend
of mine. I used to clown Chantell so hard from
lady like um Shantell Houston, and I would be like, hey,
if I ever get to be annoying, just say something
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so our code word with spaghetti, you know, like with
me and you like we have squishy vibes. Like squishy
vibes is something that I've taken to other relationships, like
the guy that I'm dating right now, where I'm like, hey,
I'm not in the mood to be t s made
fun of I'm I'm feeling squishy. And I've also opened
the doors to be like, are your squishy vibe is
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too big? Even when other people don't see that they
are squishy like, so it's allowed to you know, it's
given us tools to kind of take over into other spaces.
So for me, it's like that also means that a
best friend allows you to grow. A best friend allows
you to be human human, to make human errors and
to not be punished for that because nobody is better
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than anyone else. Nobody's perfect, and best friends are happy
for you. Best friends want to see you thrive. Like,
I think that part of the thing too about what
I've learned as well of just being friends or best
these with people who are also in the same business
as me, is like it is human to have these
moments of like what did I do? Or like, well,
why not me in certain aspects of things, And it's
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okay to have that feeling for an individual like well,
why don't I have a boyfriend? Or why don't I
have that career thing? Or why am I not? Because
we're also like kind of still coworkers a little bit,
but I think that we're human, right, And so I
feel like, but if you can get to the point
where you go, oh, shoot, why don't have a boyfriend,
but you know what, you do serve a fucking boyfriend,
Like I fucking I love you that you have a
boyfriend and or you're getting married, or you just got
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paid a million dollars, like I can't wait for my turn.
And I think that's the best way to get in
your head. And that's how you know you have a
really good best you're a good partner when you can
overcome that very human instinct of self doubt and self
deprecation and get to the point of, like, I feel
nothing but excitement to see you thrive like that thing.
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I have to learn that at a very young age,
and it's been practiced now as an adult, where like
you'll tell me I just landed this thing, and I'm like,
fuck yes. But I think twenty year old Curly told
Curly would have been very like, well, where is my thing?
I had? I grew up with a lot of my
best friends who I'm not best friends with anymore, and maybe,
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like I have one or two who I would. I mean,
at a very young age, I started like doing all
of this stuff like video content creation, and yeah, a
lot of my high school and elementary school best for
ends were very jealous and I'd like, and I don't
mean that it's like they're jealous of me, But I
was doing so much because I felt like being creative
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and all this stuff, and they were not doing that,
and they would they like would stop talking to me
because they're like, man, is just all about her career.
It's just all I'm like, right the way, one of
the best things that you can do when you're jealous
of your best friend is tell them most of my
friends and most of my best these have been like
what no, Like they're so ridiculous sometimes to work your
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way through those things together that you're like, I think
you're equalist, talented, and like, let me know if I
can be an out like that's that's yeah. We each
see each other in a different light, and we put
ourselves on a platform like higher than each other, higher
than ourselves. So it's like when we hear that kind
of language, it were like I'm like what huh, Yeah, yeah,
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because I have people that sends of like, well, do
you seem like you have an easy life because you're
doing this, you're doing that, And I'm like, I would
love to be able to not have to sing and
dan for my penny, you know what I mean, like
deep Millennial, Millennial or where everyone that song. When that
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song came out, I was not a part of that,
he did, even no, can you have more than one
best friend? Yes? I look at best friends as like
a spiral, So I look at like I look at
like the spiral like a shell like a hurricane. Right,
I look at it like it's like who is the
closest to proximity and it can move around because we're
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also so complex in in a positive way where there's
different parts of us, Like I feel like Ben is
like my Broadway bestie, where we're very like and I
don't know anything about Broadway. You don't. I'm you know,
I'll walk away, Yeah, you'll walk away, like and just
let us do our thing, but you don't get jealous
of like the fig ship part, and like I think
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the same thing with like, um, any of your best
you've had, you know, your best friends for a long time,
like coming into that, like there's some sort of thing
of like they know him, like you respect them. They've
like I mean, I've had the same best friends as
eight years old. The city in Hollywood, we grow up
and like, you know, that's another one of the things
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that we decided early on we were like eleven or twelve,
was that we always make up, like even if we fight,
we always knew that, like the next day we were
going to talk. There was never we have never had
to fight any one of us that has been like
more than a day or two. Actually there was sometimes
when we would fight and we didn't talk for a
long time, but we always knew that the goal was
to get back to being together. And even as we
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got older, but we started to have differences in opinion
about a lot of things. Um, we kind of decided
early on that like it was gonna we were going
to maintain the friendship and the love and the connection
in that regardless of what we felt about certain things. Um,
we were going to kind of keep our mind and
keep our eye on the fact that we're best friends. Yeah.
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I do think that you can have different best friends
for different ocasions. Different is your best that you can
go out and get drunk with, Who is your best
you can go like be quiet with on a meditation thing.
Who's the best thie that you like just admire and
love so much. I like, I brought that up to
one of the guys I was dating. I'm like, I
think I have a lot of besties best friends and
for like different things, And He's like, that's kind of
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weird that you have, Like you can just pick one
who are like throw away one. I'm like, no, he
was very much that was his perspective. It's like and
they're all they can all be together to like I
can have everyone all in one place and no one's
going to feel some type of way about each other.
One is like connected to you and like loves each
other because of you. M I think that, like, for me,
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what makes an important friendship truly best friends as somebody
who is like most of my best friends that I've
had my entire life, they're still all in my life,
Like all of them are still all in my life.
Like I'm very good at keeping people around, and I
think part of it is like very big on talking
about boundaries and very big on talking about celebrations, and
I want to hear about them, and I want to
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hear about how they're growing and how they're moving. And
I'm just always so happy. And I think that if
you can stay happy for people and stay in a
place of happiness, the relationships just keep growing and growing.
Like that's not to say that you can't critique them,
where you can't be like, hey, I think you're doing this,
you're doing that. But I think staying in the space
of celebration, celebrate your best friends. I think that is
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the Yeah, what does it feel like to be my
best knee? I love it. Yeah, it's fine. I love
it because like we kind of give each other like
we're in our own version of therapy, and we'll talk
on the phone for like long time. I literally we
talked to them for an hour before I got here.
We didn't talk for twenty minutes and I got here,
We're talking for two hours. Yeah, we're going to hang
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out up to this. Um, what about me? You? It
feels very like, um, stable and solid, and I know
that I can be very vulnerable with you. Um, I
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can be very goofy, like, UM, I can also show
my ugly and I know you're not going to be like,
you know, running away or whatever, which is a lot
of the time, I feel like I'm a very moody person.
I think that's hard. Yeah, I think we have different
levels of our moodiness sometimes. And UM, I think like
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one of the fights that we had where I was like,
I just think I need to take a break from
our friendship. You started crying and I was in front
of a store by pants, by dickies and socks, and
I'm like, I like, if you're going to do that,
so fuck up. I know. I was like, if you're
going to ask me a break? After so long? It
was like one I was like one thing it was.
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It was just like I felt like, I, um, I
had never been this close with somebody before. I mean
I have, but they kind of like would critique the
ship out of me and made me feel so competitive,
and like, you know, it was just like it, you know.
So I think when I had issues, I felt like
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a little broken bird where I didn't really know how
to communicate other than like either being silent or passive,
aggressive or holding a grudge. So then when I would
express those things, I think I went into panic mode
and was like they're going to leave because you're saying X,
Y and Z. So I'm like, let me take a
break and leave before they do or whatever. And it's
like yeah, but but we always come back to each other.
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We always give each other's space. And so I think
that's what is very important is that you're You're very
mature in so many different ways as far as like communicating.
And then also there's some moments where we can just
be like eight year old, you know, And I think
that's so important in a friendship where you can go deep,
deep with something. Tell them you're ugly, show them you're ugly,
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talk about your booty holes, talk about like. I think
that in terms of like you're looking for a best
friend and you're wanting it. I think that it is work.
It is emotional labor, it's physical labor. It's boundaries. I
told talk to you for six hours about anything you
want to, but I will not help you move, and
I know that. But I will pitch in, I will
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put in money towards your go fund me to hire
people to help you move because I will not. Or
I'll show up and move two boxes and I'm out,
Like I just I'm not good to physical labor. You
will do things, but I do show up in other
ways to show up very much like I'll talk to
you for six hours about the same thing, or I'll
like remember certain things where I'm very emotionally available up
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to I drive a lot. Yeah, but I will not.
Don't ask him to move. Don't don't ask him. I
just don't do well with physical labor. I feel like
I paid my dues in the early twenties. I just
I'm like, I'm good, that's fair. Do we know each
other's boundaries like as of right now? I think so.
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I think I know like a lot of your boundaries,
like certain things like certain triggers that would like upset
you or certain things that I'm like, she's not going
to like that, like what well I feel like in
terms of like how we look, for example, we record
each other on camera, Like, I think we know each
other's like things that we don't like. So if we're
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like I don't think she'll like that shot, or I
don't think you're like that shot. Anytime someone's like, you
know who you look like? Oh I hate look like
like things like that. Um, for me, it's my intelligence, Like,
don't insult my intelligence. Do you know my middle name? Monica? Monique?
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Wait are you? I thought that was like that was
an easy one. Oh and helica sorry, thank you? Okay,
I go maya a helica modio in my head so
my brain just what kind of foods don't I like,
you can't you can't eat tomatoes and I think you
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don't do anians right? What kind of foods do the mushrooms.
What kind of foods do I know? What kind of
food I don't like? You like everything, like everything everything altogether.
You love um sema the little thing with a bunch
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of shrimping it c boba, a little dessert. I love,
like are eating thing. This is how we go to
a restaurant. It's like Curly will order a water, um
or sometimes a coffee. I will order a water, sometimes
a order soda or something um, and then you know
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we'll eat. I order like five place explains usually yeah
and then um, but we always get something sweet. We're
very much like an old married couple was like traveling.
We're like, should we get there? Like, do you guys
have room for dessert? We're like, just give us any yes,
always yet, but I think that we feel bad like
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to that. We're not. We don't want to overdo us.
We're like, we'll share it. We share, but sometimes we'll
maybe get two desserts and then we want to both
like the chocolate cheesecake and the regular cheesecake. We'll try both. Yeah,
and I love that about us. That's who and now
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welcome to our zodiac section. Will we will be discussing
which signs are better at being BFFs with us are
compatible compatible BFFs. It's so And I want to compare
our chart to like I wonder what it is about
our chart that makes this compatible. And my node is
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north no Aries, that's like what you learn, like that's
the sign that you learned from minus Sagittarius. So that's
nothing to do well. I just feel like for me,
I think that's why I love Aries so much, because
I'm constantly in awe, like how do they do that?
Why do they? I will say my seventh and eighth
house is in Virgo partnerships, So yeah, so that's why
I like a lot of Virgos, like romantically, because I
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like that kind of energy and I think I might
end up with the virgo. Wow. I learned a lot
about life through air with Aries, Like I'm always like
like fire signs for me, Aries, Leo sadges um to me.
I learned like how to live life with a little
bit more like like a little bit more like just
go for it. Like both of my were Leo's and
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my would think that these like I did not give up.
Fuck Like she was like almost like I fucking you
are you to get in my way, you know, and
I think like for me, Virgos teach us how to
fire signs, how to like process and and really slow
down and certain things and take things with a little
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bit more like effort and quality and um yeah, like
there's a little bit I think being around you, I've
upped my style a lot with my poses. Um yeah,
there's just those things that like help you be more
attentive to your self care and your parents and helping
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yourself feel a little bit more like. Yeah, Pisces, I
feel like, are really good for advice. If you ever
need advice, go to a pisces. Love being around pi.
Just go to a pisces, ask them what they think.
They will always be fair, They will always be calm
about it. Pisces are are amazing until you piste them off,
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of course, but they may Pisces have both where the
opposite sign of Virgo, so they probably could be. I
know that me and Arial, my best he was a Pisces.
We do really well because we balance each other out,
Like we're not afraid of each other, We're not intimidated
by one another. We am one of my other best
das Lula like also as you also have a lot
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of water in your chart. You have scorpio, have a
lot of scorpio Scorpio. Yeah, I have a lot of
Pisces in my chart, so I love piscey. Scorpios are good.
Scorpios are very protective for their friends and specifically with virgos,
because I feel like virgos were like, I don't know babies. Also,
you're double protective of yourself. That makes sense. Scorpios are like,
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I'll fucking kill a bit for you, I'll blow up,
and argos are like which weapon? I think the knife
is more efficient. Had a Scorpio friend that was like,
who funk with you? And I was like, it doesn't matter.
She's like, should we go poison their dog? And we're
not going to poison the dog. I love when somebody
gets protective of me. But I was like, what the
fun did the dog do it to? Anybody? Know? It
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was just a dog? Throw them out. This was like
twenty fifteen years ago, by the way, and the dog
has I'm sure lived a long, beautiful life. Peter, Yeah,
and um, I protected that dogs. By the way, Sagittarius
and Aries get along really well. Any fire sign, they're
they're great together. My parents are both fire signs Sagittarius
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and Leo. My brother married and Aries. He's a Leo.
Um Hi, I don't. I do have other aries who
are yeah, like Adriana's and Aries and um you know,
I have a lot of other like fire sign besties.
And I think it's a level of like we get it,
we understand each other, like the chaos like, and we
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enhance it. I also think like air signs and fire
signs are good together too, because we both have that chaos.
I like Earth Signs because we have a lot of
we have very chill energy, even though when it gets
wild for us, we always know, like I just trust
Earth Signs, like I feel like Earth signs are just
trying to figure we're so stuck in our own heads
that we don't even think about how can I use
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this person? Like we're just like I'm doing my ship.
You want to come along? Yeah, you would be great?
Like yeah. I think sometimes with Earth Signs to get
critiqued a little bit like being an aries, because I
feel like aries are sometimes we can be a little
bit like you know, rough around the edges in terms
of like we color outside the lines. And sometimes I've
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had other Virgos or like fires other Earth signs be like,
are you sure about that? We're by the book, and
then I'm very much like, oh now I'm going to
do it double like worse because you said that we're
very by the Virgo. Who else does the earth sign
Virgo tourists and Capricorn. Capricorns are the earth yes, because
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the air signs Aquarious, Libra, Gemini, Aquarius are so fun friends.
That is, they're just like they don't give a funk
about anything. They're so flirty. They're flirty and they just
I just feel like everything is lighter and everything is
just like not until they get moody. And yeah, I
felt my first love was an Aquarious and it was
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so much fun until like my first less too. I
think we knew that already. I didn't know that. Yeah,
I love aquary eyes. Um Geminis are perfect libras, you know.
I have like a couple of exceptions with libras who
are like amazing and beautiful and perfect. I don't vibe
with a lot of libras. I'm going to say it.
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I have one Libra friend that I just and she's
one of my closest friends. And Jazz Yeah, that's what
I'm saying. Like Jazz and like Lilian, and like I
have a couple of other people who have different things
in their chart, but like I lived with the Libra
before and it was just like she just kissed, try
to kiss my ass constantly, and I was like stop,
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like I'm kissing. To be fair, a lot of people
kiss your ass. That's so nice. Well you kind of
group didn't Earth Science tourists. Tourists just kind of I
think they're very selective on who they want to be around.
And sometimes I'm like, do I want to be that person?
Do I want to make the effort? And I always
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said that I was going to marry tour us. That's
really weird that I'm dating in tourist right now. I've
always in my whole life, and like I just have
this sneaking suspicion that I'm going to marry a tourists
and like here we are. I'm like, and look at it,
We're coming dinner tonight. I'm excited. Are you getting kissed
on the mouth? You have a crush on him? I
do have a crush one a cush on you, he says,
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he did. Oh my god, do you like like him.
Do I look like him? Do you like like him? Oh? Yeah,
I like like him people. But somebody did ask me
because we were matched. I put up a video of
us on the internet and somebody was like, are you
studying to morph into your boyfriend? And I'm like, because
you guys were matching outfits, we were, I will say
those a little. You know how it happened sidebar. It
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happened because I was at his house and I had
anything to where and I was like, can I borrow?
And then you guys just came out worrying. Sure. And
then I was in Denham and then his roommate was like,
you're going to be hot out there. Usually put shorts on,
and he was like, which of my shorts you want
to wear? And then I just picked it. And then
it just happened that we were both in half. Sometimes
you're just on the same frequencies, you know. But it
was weird. I look like Danny DeVito and Arnold Switchenager
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and that one movie. You know, I'm Danny DeVito. I'm
Danny DeVito, cultural icons Danny that could Closer's Joy portion
of the podcast, Thank you so lunch, Well, Maya here
we are again, maybe for the last time, the rest
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time for now? How do you plead like this? Oh? Please,
oh please, never stop being my best friend? Yeah, don't
touch me? Oh yeah, that's all right. For what was
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the thing I want to say? Oh? Look, okay, guys,
final thing. If you're looking for a best friend, don't
force it. It'll flow naturally. Anybody that you love, that
you meet in your life, that you love, it will
come natural to want to do the emotional work. And
if you both share the same goal of wanting to
see them do well, rive and be the best version
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of themselves, you will innavitably get there. And I think
that don't stress. Sometimes you will fight with your best friend.
It's okay to fight. So I feel like I'm going
to cry like hard flutters from that. It's so true.
It's so rare, honestly, unfortunately, to like have to be
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super close to somebody like this, you know, and a
platonic friendship even though he still has a crush on
me a week like it's I think we don't value
platonic friendship I love as much as we do to
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romantic and it is so important because it will help
you in romantic relationships too, um and I think like
I love that people love our friendship because we're honestly
so genuine and that we do love each other. We
are like this all the time, all the time, and
we want people to be in the mix with us.
We love you and we're so thankful to everybody who
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so much again for listening to the Super Secret Bestie
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Hey, what are you doing in here? Wait, Curly, it's
our bestie. Yes, we have we love you best Sie.
You get in here. My name is Curly and I'm
Maya and welcome to The Super Secret Bestie Club podcast,
a super secret club where we talk about super secret things,
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super secret, more time secret. In each episode, we'll talk
about love, friendships, heartbreaks, men, and of course our favorite secrets. Well, guys,
welcome back. It's another episode of The Super Secret bestI Club.
Today we're gonna be talking about something very special because
(00:44):
it's actually the last episode of our season. I love
recording this every week so much. I love listening to it.
Sometimes I stay away really late on Tuesdays so I
can like listen to it twelve exactly. On Wednesdays, I
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listened half of it because then I'm like, Curly, you've
got to go to sleep. And then I wake up
and I listened to UM the other half hour. And
sometimes when I get lonely, I listened to old episodes. Yeah, yes,
I was going to say no, but the truth is yes,
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because you missed my voice. Because we have some good
combos and usually each other down, so it's like, you know,
I've loved doing this podcast a lot. It's been definitely
a labor of love because I have not done anything
like this before. Oh well, there's been some labor for
me because behind the scenes trying to get curly wrangled
(01:45):
into being focused. Like, but honestly, I feel like throughout
this podcast and behind the scenes of it, we have
definitely gotten closer and we know. I feel like I
know how to speak to you in a way that's
not like, how would you describe having to rangble me in?
It's like I'm like a jellyfish. Well, at first, it
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would make me a little bit mad because I I'm
always the one who has to pull people in and
I always get upset, and so it was a lot
of my own trauma, being like I'm always the one
to bubble blah blah, you know, versus like you just
need to be told three words and then you got it. Yeah.
I wonder what it says about your spirit that you're
surrounded by people who needs to be frankled. It means
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that I need new friends, looking for a new bestie.
I will say that me being a little what people
might call flighty, I'm super smart, super intelligent, but I
think people might sometimes see this, flighty. I think it's
why I'm so happy all the time. I think it's
why I have I struggle with my happiness sometimes. I
always like, I think it's because literally I'm not because
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of you love me so much that I can't. That's
so much fun. Like even if I'm eating my Cristal
at the wrong time and I'm upsetting, people are like,
I'm just doing the wrong thing, Like I'm happy I'm
having my coffee. How inconsidering. But I also give people
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the same space, by the way, to do whatever. I
never get mad at people. I don't really get mad
at people. To be honest, I feel like I've pushed
you to get mad at people. I don't really when
it's necessary because I don't really get mad at people.
I like whatever, Like live your best life, Diva. Anyways,
we've come here today to discuss basically being best sees.
What makes a good best friend? How do you find
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a good best friend? Maybe like and by the way,
we're not talking about like this is my best friend.
We do everything together. Yeah, like none of this like
toxic best friend stuff where you're like you didn't do
this for me, or I haven't heard from you, like,
it's like, how do you just have a beautiful soulmate
friendship with somebody where there's solid communication and talk about boundaries.
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If you don't talk for three days, it's not a
big deal. You're just like, oh, I missed you. W
have you been? Oh my god? We went three days
and talking. That's weird, you know. Yeah, Like when I
was in Arizona for two weeks, I feel like we
know when we're with family, we give each other's space, yes,
but then we're still like, I miss Like, how do
we become besties? I think I was like I don't.
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There was just something about you that I was like,
He's fun, Like I think I could joke around with you,
and we would we would pick at each other and
like like you would treat me like a little sister
a lot where um and I think, Um, I just
liked your energy and your vibe and like, I think
the biggest part of it was that we would laugh,
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were like we Um. I understand a lot of your
references because a lot of your references are very similar
to the girls that I grew up with, So like
my best friends that I've been best friends was I
was eight years old, they'll reference SpongeBob all the time.
So when I come to work in your referencing referencing
SpongeBob too, I'm just an eight year old girl stuck
in your body. Well, some of my best sees right,
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like back in the day of what used to They
used to always be like, um, what is the east?
I thought you said west, And so when you would
come and quote a SpongeBob thing, I would be like absolutely,
like I already know, no, this is Patrick's is an instrument.
But I feel like we became tight because we had
similar humor. And I also very early on got very
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protective of you because you were alone and you were young.
So like early on, I think that I would be
like I would ask my mom to make you extra
food and I would take into I would be like, um,
oh mayas alone, or even like um, during the pandemic,
I would like call and check up on you and
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make sure you're okay. Like the truth is that I
do get very like I want to bring everybody into
my space, like oh, you're so loved. And I think
that's how we got tight originally because that was the energy,
but then we ended up just it was the humor, like,
and I think we worked at such a stressful job
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even though it was so much fun, Like it was
still every single day we were with each other constantly.
I've always sat near Curly my entire for five years.
So think about like spending every single day together and
even the weekends. We spend the weekends together. Sometimes it's
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um about time and time. And we saw each other
through a lot of hard things and a lot of
celebrations and a lot of a lot of like heartbreaks
and and new loves and don't get it twisted that
we do fight. Oh yeah, we definitely yeah, And it
could happen at any moment. Yeah, And I don't think
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we've ever thought about big things. There has been some
big things. I think the biggest one that I'm thinking
about is in Texas. That was that was a shift.
Those aren't big for me. Those are like we have
different things on what is big and what is not
because that was big for me. So basically, like long
story short, um, we went to Texas. We got invited
to shoot videos in Texas to promote the city of Houston,
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which was super amazing. We had to do a thing
where we were going to get a makeover, a big
Texas makeover, and I went in and people washed my hair.
And the thing with curly hair is that you can't
break the curls. Like you can't. That is like and
they were just like like dry, like just destroying my curls.
And so the thing is is that when you look
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like you're when you don't have curls, you just look
like you know, when you're in the shower and all
your hair is falling out and you roll it up
into a little ball. That's what my hair looks like.
Roll the ball and put on the top of my head. Yeah,
it glued on top of my head. Yeah, And they
like and then we got dressed. Well no, so then okay,
So then I cried because I was like, I don't
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want to be on camera like that. I've never cried
in my entire life. I'm very professional. I don't look
around when it comes to work. Put me on stage,
and I think that was the only time ever to
be honest, and I haven't done it since where I cried.
I didn't want to be on camera. So they were like,
do you want them to do it again? And I
said yes, please, and they did it again. Literally they
did it the exact same thing to my hair again,
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and then I think you got your hair braided so
your hair looked beautiful. You can't a brain, you can't,
but like you know, they just and then Claudia got
her hair blow dry and straighten like a country country stars.
I have very thick, coarse, curly hair, like you have
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to treat it differently than you would somebody who were
not feeling. I was not feeling on point. I was
super emotional. I felt ugly, and so then we went
to get like our clothes it and but then I
think I had calmed down. I think I was like,
you are very hyper, very hyper, and then um, you
went so chin your stuff. And I was producing this video.
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This was like my video. It was I think it
was like me and Claudia were producing a video, and
so mine was like we get a Texas makeover. So
I was not only filming everything and planning everything, and
then I had to like they didn't. We went to
this store to get fitted for like cowboy clothes are
like you know, horse riding clothes, and they did not
have plus sized clothes at all. And it was hot
and we were trying to film things and they're like,
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and it was at night, like we were driving, We're tired. Um,
we were. And we had also spent a lot of days.
Not only were we spending a lot of time together
during work, but now we're on this like three day
trip in Texas working, you know, and I think we
were sad in our personal lives because of like breakups
and people not with you with us, Yeah, we were.
The vibe was very interesting. I think Claudia was feeling
(09:55):
some type of way too. Um. So the energy was different.
And then I was trying on some cloth those and
I think at this time, if you were to do
that now, I wouldn't I don't think I would care. Um.
But like Curly peeked over into my changing stone was
like what are you doing it? And it and like
you know, just being silly and sunshine, and I was
(10:16):
like I snapped at him and I was like like
get out of here, like what are you doing? Like
it just kind of caught me off guard because like
I didn't really see like who it was, but then
I was like I could hear your voice and I
just was very like I was like, don't do that,
and like that like makes me feel like I've had
experiences before where people have tried to get into my
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dressing room and tried to peek or whatever, like, and
it just like I got triggered. And I come from
the world of like where I grew up with all women,
so I didn't know that boundary. I had never experienced
that boundary with any of my girlfriends because I'm just
the gay guy, um, and so it was new for us.
But we did end up talking about it. We cried
about it, and like that was kind of like one
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of the first times that we were like, oh, boundaries.
But I don't even think back then we knew that
word or even how because it took us a long
time to see eye to eye. I remember like it
it was like, you know, I think we made that
night though we did, but it took a couple of
days because I think it was still like, what like
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a couple of days for you made because I was like, yeah,
because you you get over things really quick and I
have to, like I really have to see the energy
out and like drain myself of all of what was,
you know, everything. But I feel like that was a
big shift because we got You get closer when you
have conflict absolutely every relationship as well. And I always
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tell people that like best friends and relationships, it's not
about how good or perfect it is. It's always like
how much can you all overcome? How much can have
y'all seen together and been like, yeah, we really made
it over that hump. The other fight we had was
like the Mountain, an one which we told we talked
about that one's good. That one was so good because
(12:04):
it was like we evolved Maya and curly like a
conversation that like I think it changed other people in
our lives. But like I think that when in terms
of you listener, our friends are besties out there when
you're looking for your best friend, like you should be
able to have those conversations with them. You should be
able to tell them when you're hurt, tell them that
you're sensitive, like without judgment. Like nobody in your life
(12:28):
should be telling you like, well, you're too sensitive or
you're like and they should. You should feel comfortable to
express yourself in that way without feeling like, um, you
are going to be put down in that way or
not hurt and the other person, like you also have
to be understanding that even though you were really hurt
(12:48):
in the situation they were hurt. Yeah, so it's like
there's too hurt people and like you just want the
end result to be like you each got something, you
got to say what you want to say, and you
are you both understand each other absolutely. When people love
each other, like, no matter what kind of relationship, family, friendship, relationships,
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I think the goal is always how do you get
to a place of making the other person feel safe? Right,
Like I'm still the person you love, I'm still the
person that loves you. We're just disagreeing on something. How
do we get to like safety? And so I think
that like talking about your emotions and talking about these
different things. Um, it's a two like part thing. It's
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a two part dance, Like we both have to be
ready to be like hold each other and ourselves accountable
or just and the aftermath of like when you like
how when we make up and when everything is like
good again, Like I need my space after I've had
discussions and I've had a lot of people in my
life who are no longer in my life who would
not give me that space, And because of that, I
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don't want to be I don't want to be around
them because you're disrespecting me. I think that's the most
important part, is like you know, after you've had all
of these discussions, like allow people to have space so
that they can come back to you, because I love
somebody allowing me to come back to them when I want.
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I also think that the beauty of our relationship and
best friends is giving each other the tools. We will
give each other tools to really use in our lives.
Like you know, for example, Chantell is a good friend
of mine. I used to clown Chantell so hard from
lady like um Shantell Houston, and I would be like, hey,
if I ever get to be annoying, just say something
(14:39):
so our code word with spaghetti, you know, like with
me and you like we have squishy vibes. Like squishy
vibes is something that I've taken to other relationships, like
the guy that I'm dating right now, where I'm like, hey,
I'm not in the mood to be t s made
fun of I'm I'm feeling squishy. And I've also opened
the doors to be like, are your squishy vibe is
(14:59):
too big? Even when other people don't see that they
are squishy like, so it's allowed to you know, it's
given us tools to kind of take over into other spaces.
So for me, it's like that also means that a
best friend allows you to grow. A best friend allows
you to be human human, to make human errors and
to not be punished for that because nobody is better
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than anyone else. Nobody's perfect, and best friends are happy
for you. Best friends want to see you thrive. Like,
I think that part of the thing too about what
I've learned as well of just being friends or best
these with people who are also in the same business
as me, is like it is human to have these
moments of like what did I do? Or like, well,
why not me in certain aspects of things, And it's
(15:43):
okay to have that feeling for an individual like well,
why don't I have a boyfriend? Or why don't I
have that career thing? Or why am I not? Because
we're also like kind of still coworkers a little bit,
but I think that we're human, right, And so I
feel like, but if you can get to the point
where you go, oh, shoot, why don't have a boyfriend,
but you know what, you do serve a fucking boyfriend,
Like I fucking I love you that you have a
boyfriend and or you're getting married, or you just got
(16:05):
paid a million dollars, like I can't wait for my turn.
And I think that's the best way to get in
your head. And that's how you know you have a
really good best you're a good partner when you can
overcome that very human instinct of self doubt and self
deprecation and get to the point of, like, I feel
nothing but excitement to see you thrive like that thing.
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I have to learn that at a very young age,
and it's been practiced now as an adult, where like
you'll tell me I just landed this thing, and I'm like,
fuck yes. But I think twenty year old Curly told
Curly would have been very like, well, where is my thing?
I had? I grew up with a lot of my
best friends who I'm not best friends with anymore, and maybe,
(16:48):
like I have one or two who I would. I mean,
at a very young age, I started like doing all
of this stuff like video content creation, and yeah, a
lot of my high school and elementary school best for
ends were very jealous and I'd like, and I don't
mean that it's like they're jealous of me, But I
was doing so much because I felt like being creative
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and all this stuff, and they were not doing that,
and they would they like would stop talking to me
because they're like, man, is just all about her career.
It's just all I'm like, right the way, one of
the best things that you can do when you're jealous
of your best friend is tell them most of my
friends and most of my best these have been like
what no, Like they're so ridiculous sometimes to work your
(17:29):
way through those things together that you're like, I think
you're equalist, talented, and like, let me know if I
can be an out like that's that's yeah. We each
see each other in a different light, and we put
ourselves on a platform like higher than each other, higher
than ourselves. So it's like when we hear that kind
of language, it were like I'm like what huh, Yeah, yeah,
(17:53):
because I have people that sends of like, well, do
you seem like you have an easy life because you're
doing this, you're doing that, And I'm like, I would
love to be able to not have to sing and
dan for my penny, you know what I mean, like
deep Millennial, Millennial or where everyone that song. When that
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song came out, I was not a part of that,
he did, even no, can you have more than one
best friend? Yes? I look at best friends as like
a spiral, So I look at like I look at
like the spiral like a shell like a hurricane. Right,
I look at it like it's like who is the
closest to proximity and it can move around because we're
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also so complex in in a positive way where there's
different parts of us, Like I feel like Ben is
like my Broadway bestie, where we're very like and I
don't know anything about Broadway. You don't. I'm you know,
I'll walk away, Yeah, you'll walk away, like and just
let us do our thing, but you don't get jealous
of like the fig ship part, and like I think
(18:58):
the same thing with like, um, any of your best
you've had, you know, your best friends for a long time,
like coming into that, like there's some sort of thing
of like they know him, like you respect them. They've
like I mean, I've had the same best friends as
eight years old. The city in Hollywood, we grow up
and like, you know, that's another one of the things
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that we decided early on we were like eleven or twelve,
was that we always make up, like even if we fight,
we always knew that, like the next day we were
going to talk. There was never we have never had
to fight any one of us that has been like
more than a day or two. Actually there was sometimes
when we would fight and we didn't talk for a
long time, but we always knew that the goal was
to get back to being together. And even as we
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got older, but we started to have differences in opinion
about a lot of things. Um, we kind of decided
early on that like it was gonna we were going
to maintain the friendship and the love and the connection
in that regardless of what we felt about certain things. Um,
we were going to kind of keep our mind and
keep our eye on the fact that we're best friends. Yeah.
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I do think that you can have different best friends
for different ocasions. Different is your best that you can
go out and get drunk with, Who is your best
you can go like be quiet with on a meditation thing.
Who's the best thie that you like just admire and
love so much. I like, I brought that up to
one of the guys I was dating. I'm like, I
think I have a lot of besties best friends and
for like different things, And He's like, that's kind of
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weird that you have, Like you can just pick one
who are like throw away one. I'm like, no, he
was very much that was his perspective. It's like and
they're all they can all be together to like I
can have everyone all in one place and no one's
going to feel some type of way about each other.
One is like connected to you and like loves each
other because of you. M I think that, like, for me,
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what makes an important friendship truly best friends as somebody
who is like most of my best friends that I've
had my entire life, they're still all in my life,
Like all of them are still all in my life.
Like I'm very good at keeping people around, and I
think part of it is like very big on talking
about boundaries and very big on talking about celebrations, and
I want to hear about them, and I want to
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hear about how they're growing and how they're moving. And
I'm just always so happy. And I think that if
you can stay happy for people and stay in a
place of happiness, the relationships just keep growing and growing.
Like that's not to say that you can't critique them,
where you can't be like, hey, I think you're doing this,
you're doing that. But I think staying in the space
of celebration, celebrate your best friends. I think that is
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the Yeah, what does it feel like to be my
best knee? I love it. Yeah, it's fine. I love
it because like we kind of give each other like
we're in our own version of therapy, and we'll talk
on the phone for like long time. I literally we
talked to them for an hour before I got here.
We didn't talk for twenty minutes and I got here,
We're talking for two hours. Yeah, we're going to hang
(21:51):
out up to this. Um, what about me? You? It
feels very like, um, stable and solid, and I know
that I can be very vulnerable with you. Um, I
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can be very goofy, like, UM, I can also show
my ugly and I know you're not going to be like,
you know, running away or whatever, which is a lot
of the time, I feel like I'm a very moody person.
I think that's hard. Yeah, I think we have different
levels of our moodiness sometimes. And UM, I think like
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one of the fights that we had where I was like,
I just think I need to take a break from
our friendship. You started crying and I was in front
of a store by pants, by dickies and socks, and
I'm like, I like, if you're going to do that,
so fuck up. I know. I was like, if you're
going to ask me a break? After so long? It
was like one I was like one thing it was.
(22:56):
It was just like I felt like, I, um, I
had never been this close with somebody before. I mean
I have, but they kind of like would critique the
ship out of me and made me feel so competitive,
and like, you know, it was just like it, you know.
So I think when I had issues, I felt like
(23:18):
a little broken bird where I didn't really know how
to communicate other than like either being silent or passive,
aggressive or holding a grudge. So then when I would
express those things, I think I went into panic mode
and was like they're going to leave because you're saying X,
Y and Z. So I'm like, let me take a
break and leave before they do or whatever. And it's
like yeah, but but we always come back to each other.
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We always give each other's space. And so I think
that's what is very important is that you're You're very
mature in so many different ways as far as like communicating.
And then also there's some moments where we can just
be like eight year old, you know, And I think
that's so important in a friendship where you can go deep,
deep with something. Tell them you're ugly, show them you're ugly,
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talk about your booty holes, talk about like. I think
that in terms of like you're looking for a best
friend and you're wanting it. I think that it is work.
It is emotional labor, it's physical labor. It's boundaries. I
told talk to you for six hours about anything you
want to, but I will not help you move, and
I know that. But I will pitch in, I will
(24:24):
put in money towards your go fund me to hire
people to help you move because I will not. Or
I'll show up and move two boxes and I'm out,
Like I just I'm not good to physical labor. You
will do things, but I do show up in other
ways to show up very much like I'll talk to
you for six hours about the same thing, or I'll
like remember certain things where I'm very emotionally available up
(24:46):
to I drive a lot. Yeah, but I will not.
Don't ask him to move. Don't don't ask him. I
just don't do well with physical labor. I feel like
I paid my dues in the early twenties. I just
I'm like, I'm good, that's fair. Do we know each
other's boundaries like as of right now? I think so.
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I think I know like a lot of your boundaries,
like certain things like certain triggers that would like upset
you or certain things that I'm like, she's not going
to like that, like what well I feel like in
terms of like how we look, for example, we record
each other on camera, Like, I think we know each
other's like things that we don't like. So if we're
(25:27):
like I don't think she'll like that shot, or I
don't think you're like that shot. Anytime someone's like, you
know who you look like? Oh I hate look like
like things like that. Um, for me, it's my intelligence, Like,
don't insult my intelligence. Do you know my middle name? Monica? Monique?
(25:53):
Wait are you? I thought that was like that was
an easy one. Oh and helica sorry, thank you? Okay,
I go maya a helica modio in my head so
my brain just what kind of foods don't I like,
you can't you can't eat tomatoes and I think you
(26:13):
don't do anians right? What kind of foods do the mushrooms.
What kind of foods do I know? What kind of
food I don't like? You like everything, like everything everything altogether.
You love um sema the little thing with a bunch
(26:34):
of shrimping it c boba, a little dessert. I love,
like are eating thing. This is how we go to
a restaurant. It's like Curly will order a water, um
or sometimes a coffee. I will order a water, sometimes
a order soda or something um, and then you know
(26:56):
we'll eat. I order like five place explains usually yeah
and then um, but we always get something sweet. We're
very much like an old married couple was like traveling.
We're like, should we get there? Like, do you guys
have room for dessert? We're like, just give us any yes,
always yet, but I think that we feel bad like
(27:16):
to that. We're not. We don't want to overdo us.
We're like, we'll share it. We share, but sometimes we'll
maybe get two desserts and then we want to both
like the chocolate cheesecake and the regular cheesecake. We'll try both. Yeah,
and I love that about us. That's who and now
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welcome to our zodiac section. Will we will be discussing
which signs are better at being BFFs with us are
compatible compatible BFFs. It's so And I want to compare
our chart to like I wonder what it is about
our chart that makes this compatible. And my node is
(28:09):
north no Aries, that's like what you learn, like that's
the sign that you learned from minus Sagittarius. So that's
nothing to do well. I just feel like for me,
I think that's why I love Aries so much, because
I'm constantly in awe, like how do they do that?
Why do they? I will say my seventh and eighth
house is in Virgo partnerships, So yeah, so that's why
I like a lot of Virgos, like romantically, because I
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like that kind of energy and I think I might
end up with the virgo. Wow. I learned a lot
about life through air with Aries, Like I'm always like
like fire signs for me, Aries, Leo sadges um to me.
I learned like how to live life with a little
bit more like like a little bit more like just
go for it. Like both of my were Leo's and
(28:53):
my would think that these like I did not give up.
Fuck Like she was like almost like I fucking you
are you to get in my way, you know, and
I think like for me, Virgos teach us how to
fire signs, how to like process and and really slow
down and certain things and take things with a little
(29:15):
bit more like effort and quality and um yeah, like
there's a little bit I think being around you, I've
upped my style a lot with my poses. Um yeah,
there's just those things that like help you be more
attentive to your self care and your parents and helping
(29:37):
yourself feel a little bit more like. Yeah, Pisces, I
feel like, are really good for advice. If you ever
need advice, go to a pisces. Love being around pi.
Just go to a pisces, ask them what they think.
They will always be fair, They will always be calm
about it. Pisces are are amazing until you piste them off,
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of course, but they may Pisces have both where the
opposite sign of Virgo, so they probably could be. I
know that me and Arial, my best he was a Pisces.
We do really well because we balance each other out,
Like we're not afraid of each other, We're not intimidated
by one another. We am one of my other best
das Lula like also as you also have a lot
(30:19):
of water in your chart. You have scorpio, have a
lot of scorpio Scorpio. Yeah, I have a lot of
Pisces in my chart, so I love piscey. Scorpios are good.
Scorpios are very protective for their friends and specifically with virgos,
because I feel like virgos were like, I don't know babies. Also,
you're double protective of yourself. That makes sense. Scorpios are like,
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I'll fucking kill a bit for you, I'll blow up,
and argos are like which weapon? I think the knife
is more efficient. Had a Scorpio friend that was like,
who funk with you? And I was like, it doesn't matter.
She's like, should we go poison their dog? And we're
not going to poison the dog. I love when somebody
gets protective of me. But I was like, what the
fun did the dog do it to? Anybody? Know? It
(31:03):
was just a dog? Throw them out. This was like
twenty fifteen years ago, by the way, and the dog
has I'm sure lived a long, beautiful life. Peter, Yeah,
and um, I protected that dogs. By the way, Sagittarius
and Aries get along really well. Any fire sign, they're
they're great together. My parents are both fire signs Sagittarius
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and Leo. My brother married and Aries. He's a Leo.
Um Hi, I don't. I do have other aries who
are yeah, like Adriana's and Aries and um you know,
I have a lot of other like fire sign besties.
And I think it's a level of like we get it,
we understand each other, like the chaos like, and we
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enhance it. I also think like air signs and fire
signs are good together too, because we both have that chaos.
I like Earth Signs because we have a lot of
we have very chill energy, even though when it gets
wild for us, we always know, like I just trust
Earth Signs, like I feel like Earth signs are just
trying to figure we're so stuck in our own heads
that we don't even think about how can I use
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this person? Like we're just like I'm doing my ship.
You want to come along? Yeah, you would be great?
Like yeah. I think sometimes with Earth Signs to get
critiqued a little bit like being an aries, because I
feel like aries are sometimes we can be a little
bit like you know, rough around the edges in terms
of like we color outside the lines. And sometimes I've
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had other Virgos or like fires other Earth signs be like,
are you sure about that? We're by the book, and
then I'm very much like, oh now I'm going to
do it double like worse because you said that we're
very by the Virgo. Who else does the earth sign
Virgo tourists and Capricorn. Capricorns are the earth yes, because
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the air signs Aquarious, Libra, Gemini, Aquarius are so fun friends.
That is, they're just like they don't give a funk
about anything. They're so flirty. They're flirty and they just
I just feel like everything is lighter and everything is
just like not until they get moody. And yeah, I
felt my first love was an Aquarious and it was
(33:09):
so much fun until like my first less too. I
think we knew that already. I didn't know that. Yeah,
I love aquary eyes. Um Geminis are perfect libras, you know.
I have like a couple of exceptions with libras who
are like amazing and beautiful and perfect. I don't vibe
with a lot of libras. I'm going to say it.
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I have one Libra friend that I just and she's
one of my closest friends. And Jazz Yeah, that's what
I'm saying. Like Jazz and like Lilian, and like I
have a couple of other people who have different things
in their chart, but like I lived with the Libra
before and it was just like she just kissed, try
to kiss my ass constantly, and I was like stop,
(33:52):
like I'm kissing. To be fair, a lot of people
kiss your ass. That's so nice. Well you kind of
group didn't Earth Science tourists. Tourists just kind of I
think they're very selective on who they want to be around.
And sometimes I'm like, do I want to be that person?
Do I want to make the effort? And I always
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said that I was going to marry tour us. That's
really weird that I'm dating in tourist right now. I've
always in my whole life, and like I just have
this sneaking suspicion that I'm going to marry a tourists
and like here we are. I'm like, and look at it,
We're coming dinner tonight. I'm excited. Are you getting kissed
on the mouth? You have a crush on him? I
do have a crush one a cush on you, he says,
(34:35):
he did. Oh my god, do you like like him.
Do I look like him? Do you like like him? Oh? Yeah,
I like like him people. But somebody did ask me
because we were matched. I put up a video of
us on the internet and somebody was like, are you
studying to morph into your boyfriend? And I'm like, because
you guys were matching outfits, we were, I will say
those a little. You know how it happened sidebar. It
(34:57):
happened because I was at his house and I had
anything to where and I was like, can I borrow?
And then you guys just came out worrying. Sure. And
then I was in Denham and then his roommate was like,
you're going to be hot out there. Usually put shorts on,
and he was like, which of my shorts you want
to wear? And then I just picked it. And then
it just happened that we were both in half. Sometimes
you're just on the same frequencies, you know. But it
was weird. I look like Danny DeVito and Arnold Switchenager
(35:19):
and that one movie. You know, I'm Danny DeVito. I'm
Danny DeVito, cultural icons Danny that could Closer's Joy portion
of the podcast, Thank you so lunch, Well, Maya here
we are again, maybe for the last time, the rest
(35:39):
time for now? How do you plead like this? Oh? Please,
oh please, never stop being my best friend? Yeah, don't
touch me? Oh yeah, that's all right. For what was
(36:01):
the thing I want to say? Oh? Look, okay, guys,
final thing. If you're looking for a best friend, don't
force it. It'll flow naturally. Anybody that you love, that
you meet in your life, that you love, it will
come natural to want to do the emotional work. And
if you both share the same goal of wanting to
see them do well, rive and be the best version
(36:22):
of themselves, you will innavitably get there. And I think
that don't stress. Sometimes you will fight with your best friend.
It's okay to fight. So I feel like I'm going
to cry like hard flutters from that. It's so true.
It's so rare, honestly, unfortunately, to like have to be
(36:45):
super close to somebody like this, you know, and a
platonic friendship even though he still has a crush on
me a week like it's I think we don't value
platonic friendship I love as much as we do to
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romantic and it is so important because it will help
you in romantic relationships too, um and I think like
I love that people love our friendship because we're honestly
so genuine and that we do love each other. We
are like this all the time, all the time, and
we want people to be in the mix with us.
We love you and we're so thankful to everybody who
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listened to us. Thank you for hanging out. Thank you
so much again for listening to the Super Secret Bestie
Club podcast. If you listen to all fifty episodes, let
us know on our social media because we want to
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(37:47):
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let us know. How can they find you on social media? Curly, Well, Maria,
you can find me on tik talk and Instagram at
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How can people find you? You can find me on
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the moment because people will spell my name y a,
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much for all fifty episodes Curly that's dedicated episodes, and
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