July 6, 2022 • 31 mins
On this episode the Besties enter the multiverse and start with the incredible movie "Everything, Everywhere, All at Once" and they get philosophical.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey, where are we Are We in an interdimensional rapture
which unravels reality and we have to channel our newfound
powers to fight bizarre and bewildering engaging No, no, we're
just in our clubhouse. Maya, Oh, get in here. My
name is Curly and I'm Maya And welcome to this
(00:24):
super secret Bestie Club podcast, A super secret club where
we talk about super secret things, a super secret, more
time secret. In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendships, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets. Well, well we meet again.
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Welcome back to the Treehouse clubhouse. I always picture like
we're inside of a treehouse in my head. Did you
ever have a treehouse? Or have you ever been inside
of a tree house? I? You know what? My my
backyard neighbors, like the house behind us had a big
tree house that I always wanted to be friends with
them and like go into, but they were mean and weird.
Um I never did. I never had like a proper treehouse.
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I had like one of those things that you can
get at costco, like those like how do you say is?
Like I don't know how to say that any Like um,
like a playground place that kind of a thing, and
it had kind of like this like place that we
used to call a treehouse, but it wasn't really a
tree house, but I used to like go up there
and like take um rocks and clean rocks with soap
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and be like, that's the most like baby virgo thing ever.
I was like, in my head mirror, you already gether
like up here, like in the treehouse that I from
my childhood. Oh, I love that. I love being in
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your treehouse of child Well, everybody welcome. This episode is
about a kind of like a concept that I've been
pointing a lot in my life. And um, I've actually
been thinking about this concept. I wrote it down in
my notes on my phone, and Maya and I recently
went away for the weekend. We had like a wonderful
little bestie trip with two of our other good good friends. Um,
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and we watched this movie that is currently like the
talk of the town. It's called Everything Everywhere All at Once.
It's actually, uh, this is a new movie that I
was reading the intro for. It's about ah here. This
is the summary, by the way, if you google it, um,
this is the summary that it'll this is yeah, but
also like spoiler alert, Um, if you want nothing to
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do with what we're going to talk about right now,
go watch the movie. Come back and let's discuss m
When an interdimensional rapture Okay, wait, you have to read it.
My dyslexia is on fire today. Okay, clear to turn
down the lights, draw back the curtains, and take a
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seat in those uncomfortable When an interdimensional rapture unravels reality
and unlikely hero almost channel her newfound powers to fight
bizarre and bewildering dangers from the multiverse as the fate
of the world hangs in the balance. Yes, and this movie,
Like I actually had to sell it to my Latino
parents because I was just like, oh my god, guys,
you have to watch this movie. And my parents were like,
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what are we gonna watch? And I was like, it
is because my dad honestly like didn't understand it that much.
And I was like, it's it's so good that everyone's
talking about it. It's everyone everyone's into stories, and so
it is, and it actually is. As of today, the
headlines are reading that everything everywhere, all at once is
a twenty four's, which is the production company that made
the film, is a highest grossing movie ever at a
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global box office, so like people are talking about it
because I do think that it resonates and I do
believe that it might kind of be like the new
the new version of the Secret in my opinion, UM,
which is something that I've kind of have discovered. UM,
so basically the thing that I want to touch up upon.
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In the movie, there is a line where, uh, there's
a line and arcte who says it, But it's basically
nothing matters. And when you come to terms with the
idea of nothing matters, UM, it's almost can feel it
can feel like a daunting idea that nothing matters, but
it's also like super liberating and it's kind of like
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a lesson that UM I have learned watching my grandmother
go through her dementia. It's this lesson of being like
whoa like nothing really matters. But I wanted to ask you,
my what did you take away from that quote? And
what did you take away from the movie? In a
hole as a whole, not in a hole or maybe
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there's a hole there is a hole in the movie.
Who's Mad at a Hole? Oh? Yeah, there is a
hole in the movie. Here's a whole in the movie. Um,
I feel like in context to the movie and no spoilers,
just like there's two different ways that they talk about
nothing matters. And I think I look at it because
I've had some friends that very much are like nothing matters,
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So like what's the point who cares in a negative way?
Where like why even try to better yourself when we're
all going to die anyway? Why even try to like
accomplish your dreams when like they'll probably like somebody else
is already doing them. Like then like a very pessimistic
way of viewing it. And so I get a little
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bit my mind goes there. First of like, we know
a lot of things matter, like I matter, you matter,
we all matter. Um. But in the other way that
you were thinking about it is that nothing matters, as
in like you know, I think in also context of
our reality in our career, when something bad happens quote
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unquote bad, where like we, um, you know, don't get
this part that we wanted, or if we go to
an event and somebody was being a little bit weird
to us or whatever, like it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter,
Like yeah, it just and it's it's hard to get there.
It's hard to convince somebody who sees it the other
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way it was weird because it doesn't matter. But it doesn't. Yeah,
I feel like for me. So basically my original idea
for the way that I kind of came to this
conclusion of like nothing matters is you know, I visit
my agualita a lot, and if you follow me on
social media, actually post about her a lot. She's kind
of what I've been posting the most about as of recently,
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because I don't um everything else, whether I've been on
the red carpet or whether I've had like some really
cool level of success, Like, it's not as important to
me currently in my life UM or like me at
the gym or me first trapping. Like to me, the
most important thing right now are the life lessons that
I'm learning through my auita. UM. My mother is kind
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of like in maybe like three quarters of the way
into her journey of dementia UM, which is like a
condition that kind of hinders your ability to make decisions,
remember things, and kind of like live your life by
yourself right the way that we're used to as adults,
to the way that we're used to doing things as adults. UM.
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It has been apparent to me that you know, all
of our lives, we try to give everything meaning, right, so, oh,
I didn't get the job because of this, or I
got hurt because of this, or this happened because of this,
and everything has a reason, and yes it absolutely does. Right, Like,
you walk away with these lessons and it makes you
a better person, and it makes you kind of like
the person that you are today sitting sitting there listening
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to this right now. Um, But in the context of
looking at my Bulita, who doesn't remember even so much
as who she is sometimes or who I am, it
becomes interesting because I go, how does she then remember
all of the life lessons that she was supposed supposedly
apparent at least supposed to have learned up until this point. Right,
So I think, like, um, when I keep going back
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to her, and I keep going, wow, like I feel
and I've said this to you. Every time I leave
her house, I'll call you and sometimes I'm crying and
I'm like, I feel like I see the universe in her,
Like some days I'm her lover, like not really her lover,
but she sees me as her lover, right, she sees
me as her husband. The other days she sees me
as her best friend mit Alicia. Other days I'm her nephew.
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I'm not really her grandson, uh that often, but I am.
And so it's interesting to think of the concept of
how everything is kind of like a blur at the
end of the day. It's almost like this energy. The
lines are blurred, the universes are blurred. My grandmother is
traveling through time, space and time every single day, right,
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And so I've come to the conclusion that and the
other part of this is that my grandmother wasn't the
best human being. And I've always joked that you know
when she when when this life is over, I know
she's going to come back because she has some karma
to fulfill. And so a lot of people that I
have watched that she is hurt in life have actually
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come back to nurture her, to love her. My mother
being one of those people that she heard, and she
like comes to braid my grandmother's hair and feed her
and bathe her. And so it's interesting to kind of
see this roll out because then I go at the
end of the day, when all is said and done,
if you aren't somebody who dies young or at an
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early age and you make it to being like of
an older age, and you hit dementia, or you hit something,
you hit something that changes your mind, it doesn't really matter.
What matters is kind of like the present moment, and
so that for me makes it so that you can
live more freely in the moment. You can you know, Maya,
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in the moment, you can um wear dress however you
want to dress, do your hair, your makeup like, um
come off exactly how you want to come off. Because
people who know you you will eventually die, which is
part of the thing that you have just mentioned. You
will eventually die. People who know you will eventually die.
What I'm hearing is when people say, like, you know,
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things do matter, like you matter, like all the different
aspects of your life matter. Is your actions are not
free from consequence. So I'm saying, like, why I love
this idea so much was because it has liberated me
into looking at life as a series of decisions that
can just open up different multi versus different um levels
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of the universe and you can constantly be surprised every
single day. I took a different turn today. I always
take the same route when I go from my parents
house to like my apartment. I took a different route
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today and I was like, let me go to a
different Starbucks. Let me get out of my car and
and walk into the different Starbucks. And their system was down,
and I was like, okay, it's fine. Like I waited
in line and I like ordered my whole thing, only
to find out that their systems down, Like totally okay,
let me go and um go to the other Starbucks.
I go to the other Starbucks. I arrive at eleven eleven.
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I'm like, perfect, I get there. I wait in line,
I order to get the whole thing, and the same thing.
They're like, it's down, like the systems down. Sorry, it's
gonna take a minute. But I already was such and
such a giggle with where the universe had taken me.
I was already in such like, oh my god, this
is so weird that I like would be here at
eleven and eleven the systems are down. So I'm just
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cracking up and enjoying life and being Yeah. I think
it's like it's like being in the moment and then
the present is such an important thing because so often
I get stuck in the future thinking about things that
have not happened at all, and worrying about them and
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and things that might not happen, like just creating stories
and then being stuck in the past, and like feeling
sad or feeling mad about something that has already happened.
So both of these things are not reality. They're like
I would say in other dimensions, like that it already happened.
So yeah, it already happened. So I feel like in
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this movie it really without really try not to say
any spoilers, but you know it. The description is like
interdimensional rapture on unravels reality, which is like I feel
like sometimes I can get stuck in these like mundane
everyday things that are like not productive to my overall
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spiritual self or higher self because I'm worrying about like, um,
you know, back in the day, I feel like I
would worry about how, oh the system didn't work at Starbucks,
and that would like ruin my entire day versus now
it's like, yeah, we can just laugh about it because
it doesn't matter. Like it, I feel like your energy,
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our energy is like it's it's so valuable and it's
so precious that like I don't want to say precious,
but like it's like kind of like currency, you know,
and you can I can run out real quick, Like
I didn't get enough sleep. I mean, I feel like
I got too much sleep these past couple of days
because I didn't get enough sleep, and I feel like
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very discomb discombobulated, discomb um and you know, I just
I feel like so many things can throw you off
if you're not if you don't ground yourself and remind
yourself of where you're at in the present, like all
these things don't it doesn't matter. Like I feel like
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a lot of people put so much meaning when things
go wrong, like when the tiniest things go wrong, I'm like,
damn um, Like I I understand, like that's important to you,
but like you know, like what what even? Like somebody
cutting you off in traffic, like you know, unrequited love,
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somebody interrupting you, somebody not hearing you, like the way
when you're talking to them, Like the way that certain
things can activate, like certain triggers like inside of you,
like I can determine how you look at life, how
you move through the world. And to me, I'm like,
oh my god, if you can't laugh at the ridiculousness
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of this life. Like today, I like my dog, my Pippo,
was in the back, like literally in the days, watching
squirrels and the squirrels are watching him. And he was
watching squirrels and I like walked up to him, and
I was like trying to avoid the squirrels because I
don't know if you've read any articles, but in New York,
the scorls are going crazy. Squirrels are attacking people and
killing people. Not killing people, but they're literally like out
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here splicing bitches. And so I don't with squirrels. I'm
actually convinced that squirrels will take over the world after
the raptures. Squirrels an octopus occupied octopuses. Octopuses will take
over the world, and so I don't I go to it.
Frankie and um, as I'm walking to him, I like
bang the ship out of my shoulder on this like
ladder hanging from the wall, and instead of getting mad,
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I literally start cracking up because I'm like, oh, of course,
I'm like, of course, Frankie, I will get hurt trying
to get your ass away from the squirrels, you know. So,
like I noticed that that's actually a practice that a
lot of people don't do everything makes people grumpy. Yeah,
I'm I can be a very grumpy person sometimes sometimes not.
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I've probably been grumpy once in my life, my whole
entire life. Um, I'm just kidding. Would you say that
I'm a grumpy person? Uh No, I'm moody. Well I'm moody. Okay,
So you're a moody what am I? I'm like your
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your moody too, but you you have this ability to
just like take yourself out of it real quick and
laugh at at things like like like that in me,
it takes me, Like it takes me a couple of
days too, because I feel like I need to be
like today after this podcast, I'm going to like set
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up my gaming PC and just play since all day
and clean a little bit. But like that's what I
need to do to come back to feel like myself.
After I feel like I'm moody. Um, and that's okay,
because that's what I need to do to be more.
Maybe it's escaping. Maybe I'm escaping, which is like literally okay,
like that's the whole thing. Like if you need to escape,
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however you need to escape, it's fine because nothing matters.
But it's like yeah, go ahead. Well no, it's just
like at the end of the day, like everybody is
going to the same place, right, everyone will in navitably
pop off of this earth, end up in the ground
or burnt up. Or it's just like how do you
want to spend your life? Like do you want the
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majority of your days to be annoyed by tiny little things?
Or like because I think and and like I want
to also know, like why do you think people get
caught up in mundane things like that or just a
little like inconveniences. I think it's because like it's it's
a little bit more comfortable to be in that spot
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of like, oh no, this went wrong today, and almost
like a little tiny bit of like victim mode where
it's like, yes, it goes wrong and it sucks, but
it's like I think ship has just gone I mean
haywire since the pandemic and everything, and I'm just kind
of like, pick and choose, pick and choose, what do
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you get what you're gonna get upset about? Because there's
a lot to be upset about. And if I'm going
to spend every single day being upset about all these things,
like then when when am I going to be happy.
When is there going to be room for like, there
has to be a balance. Absolutely, I always I think
I'm telling you this too, that I believe that people
who are optimists and people who are pessimists they both
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believe that they are seeing life without in its true form.
They both believe that they're seeing They're the smart ones
in the situation, right, Like you talk to a pessimist
and they're like, have you read the news today? Have
you seen life? Have you woken up into the world.
It fucking sucks out here and you are obnoxiously oblivious
to everything, and you are you must be a terrible
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person because you're not understanding what's happening in the world,
because things are happening and you're out here worrying about
like gonna go get boba, you know. And then on
the flip, I think that the optimists can be like, look,
I feel and I see all these things, but I
have a hope and I have um the the understanding,
right because we both feel like we have an understanding
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of the universe that things will get better and that
good will prevail at the end of the day, and
we and good will have the final words. And so
I think that we look at each other like you're
looking crazy, No, you're crazy. That we can view life
in like you said, like in different ways and feel
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like that is the truest, like that is the real
version of life, and other people see it completely different.
And once I realized that, I was like, you can
you can never please anyone. Everyone is going to have
their own perception because based on whatever trauma they've been
through and whatever survival techniques and and what's in there
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like emotional toolbox, Like I will never know fully like
how somebody feels about something because I can only know
about myself. I can only you know. So I think
it's like I think if people were to do way
more self reflection and take accountability and responsibility for the
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energies that they bring into friendships, relationships, conversations, they will
start to see that, oh, like not only is this
my energy, but also you have yours too, and like
it's just so beneficial because like I just want to
talk about how we had like a big talk, like
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we're sitting in this dark room, meditation music was on,
like sitting in this bed in the woods. I literally
will play meditation music and I'm just like rying like
like you know, and but it was a very powerful
conversation because we were both able to put our egos
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in the corner and like really be truthfully, raw, honest
with ourselves of like this makes me feel this way
when you said this, and this, this is why this
made me feel this way. Oh my gosh, I didn't
know that. Like it is so beneficial living in different
realities essentially that are true to us in our heads. Yes,
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and it doesn't take away from each other's reality. It's
just how do you connect them and how do you
go Like I never saw myself like that. I don't know,
like you know, you were like when you say things,
it's actually more hurtful because we look up to each other, right,
And I'm like, I never thought that you looked up
to me. So I didn't realize that when I say
things that people can take them a certain type of
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way because to me, in my head, I'm always that
kid in the kitchen. I'm always the kid that was
sweeping and serving food and who cares about my opinion.
I'm just the sassy person in the kitchen. And it
was like, I feel like the pine the girl in
the pineapple shirt and the and the flats exactly, Like,
so it's this whole thing. And I think that like,
you know, kind of going back to the topic at
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hand of like the nothing matters and kind of the
different realities that we exist. In the movie is about
how you know, you can jump through multiverses and how
there's not just one universe. And I really believe that
if you are in you are essentially the center of
your own universe. You walk up to you wake up
to yourself every single day, you wipe your own ask
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several times a day. You know everything about yourself only,
and everybody else's perception of you is exists only in
those few moments, in those few minutes that they spend
with you throughout the day, right, And so I think
that with if you're like a pessimist or an optimist
or whatever it is, you can literally jump into entirely
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new universes just by making small changes in your life
every single day. That was a part of the movie
that like, and this isn't spoiling anything, but she just,
like a lot of people in the movie just had
a hard time like viewing um outside of themselves and
and and like also viewing inside of themselves like it
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was just this kind of middle ground where they were
only existing on this plane, which is Earth, like this
one versus like, I hope this isn't two. Who would
to say, but you have to exist in multiple different
like dimensions in order to understand people, because like it's
it's very I mean, I have some friends that I'm like, girl,
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I don't even know how we're friends, but like somehow
we are because we're connected on this one thing at
the end of the day. The concept for me of
nothing matters means get messy, you know, get your heartbroken,
try with the soul mate, and if it doesn't work,
who cares? You know, Like me, how many in the
time that you've known me? How many times have I
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changed my style? Have I changed the way that I move,
like the way that I do things? Because it's like
who cares? You want to wear giant fucking bowling hats
and then the next day be like now I'm good,
I'm going to just oh, yeah, your bowling bowler hat.
I'm gonna get my heads hatted, or I'm going to
do this like or I think I want to sing today,
or like oh I want to try writing a book,
like have no expectations, Go make decisions. Don't order what
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you always order at the rest on jump into another
universe and order the fucking steak or the or the
vegan meal. Like change it up. Welcome to the astrology
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portion of the podcast today. We're going to talk about
how even in an astrology, I mean it kind of
makes sense in astrology that there are multiverses. For example,
we are reading our charts right now on the tropical
side because of where we are on the planet versus
other people. I mean, there's there's also like in India,
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they have a different system of how they read astrology,
which I would love to get a reading over there someday.
Like nothing they do. It's without like checking if the
date is going to be fine, like when should we
get married? Okay, let me look at your guys to
chart this day is good? When should we like buy
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a house? Okay, this date is good. I truly believe
that that stuff matters. You talk about what matters that matters.
Dates matter um versus like um sidarial is like the
other side. So it's like it moves you move one sign,
so I would be oh, let's see I move one
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sign backwards? Right, Yeah, I think it's backwards because it's
also the added sign in it the newest sign or
something you move backwards. Um. So sometimes when people read charts,
they will read both and take both into consideration. Um.
So I'm like a Pisces, My moon would be tourists,
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I think, um, and then my rising would be oh,
what's before let's see what's before Pisces Aquarius. Yes, mine
would be so and that makes sense to me. Both
both like makes sense because I know there's a lot
of people who look at their charts or look at
their signs and they're like, I do not resonate at
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all with this, which makes them believe that astrology is
not real. Whereas there's different ways to read your chart.
And I bet you anything they read the sudarial chart,
they'll feel more like like it's them. Yeah, I mean
we were talking about like, so for me, I'm looking up,
by the way, just to make sure that you You're
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sign is Aquarius before? Yes, So I'm just saying like,
you're right, Um, can we edit that part? I was
just making sure, Um, but yeah, like mine are you know,
I'm a virgal double scorpios, so mine would be leo
double libra. You know that makes a lot of I
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would say both can exist, both can exist at the
same time. It's like these different multiverses, even within your
own identity that exists at the same time, you know,
thinking about the top three and the houses that you're
born in and all these different things. By the way,
this is your first time hearing about this, definitely go
and check out sign would be um and read up
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on that as well. It's super interesting. And I also
want to say about astrology, my like, she doesn't want
me to call her therapist. She's a holistic counselor. Um.
She she was like, do not hold so much matter
in like your signs, Like, don't take on their characteristics
and be like, oh my god, this is the reason
why I'm this way. I'm like too late, it's too late. Um.
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But like just as much as we're like, oh my god,
I'm an aries or I'm a pisceser on whatever, and
you look at this other chart and you're like, I
can't be that, then everything I know, everything that I
believe that I was is a lie. It's like I
think very much, So look at everything very loosely and
be open to the fact that you do have this
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other side to you. Yeah, and maybe exactly no. And
I was gonna say what we're gonna say, and maybe
what I don't know. You were nodding your head like
you're gonna say something. I was agreeing with you. I
was like, yeah, absolutely, take everything loosely, take everything with
a grain of salt. Everything in life, have a good lap,
have a go, have a google, have a giggle at it.
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You have to laugh at it. That's that whole thing
of like you have to laugh at life because we
all end up dying anyways, Like who cares um? But
it goes back to because nothing matters everything everywhere all
and wants everything. Well, it's nothing matters. And that's the
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end of the astrology portion. And make sure to read
up on your sidarial stuff because it's very interesting. Absolutely
all right, my, how do you plead like this? Please?
Don't please? Nothing matters everything everywhere all at once. Remember
I was like, Oh, there's gonna be other movies like
based off of this movie. That's going to be like
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a lot of things in a lot of places at
the same time. I guess in conclusion, for me, it's
just about make life exciting for you again. It's becoming
mundane and boring. Take a different route, you know, order
something different at a restaurant, react differently to the current
situation in front of you, and really truly go into
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a different universe today. Yeah. Um, But in conclusion, watch
the movie. It's really really good and who cares? Um?
Thank you so much for listening to another episode of
The Super Secret Best Club Podcast. Curly Health, can they
find you on social media? You can find me on
social media on Instagram and TikTok at the Curly b
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Show and let's be as in Belasquez, what about you
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in the moment, m a y a in the moment,
on every platform, everywhere, every time, all at once. I
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Hey, where are we Are We in an interdimensional rapture
which unravels reality and we have to channel our newfound
powers to fight bizarre and bewildering engaging No, no, we're
just in our clubhouse. Maya, Oh, get in here. My
name is Curly and I'm Maya And welcome to this
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super secret Bestie Club podcast, A super secret club where
we talk about super secret things, a super secret, more
time secret. In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendships, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets. Well, well we meet again.
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Welcome back to the Treehouse clubhouse. I always picture like
we're inside of a treehouse in my head. Did you
ever have a treehouse? Or have you ever been inside
of a tree house? I? You know what? My my
backyard neighbors, like the house behind us had a big
tree house that I always wanted to be friends with
them and like go into, but they were mean and weird.
Um I never did. I never had like a proper treehouse.
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I had like one of those things that you can
get at costco, like those like how do you say is?
Like I don't know how to say that any Like um,
like a playground place that kind of a thing, and
it had kind of like this like place that we
used to call a treehouse, but it wasn't really a
tree house, but I used to like go up there
and like take um rocks and clean rocks with soap
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and be like, that's the most like baby virgo thing ever.
I was like, in my head mirror, you already gether
like up here, like in the treehouse that I from
my childhood. Oh, I love that. I love being in
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your treehouse of child Well, everybody welcome. This episode is
about a kind of like a concept that I've been
pointing a lot in my life. And um, I've actually
been thinking about this concept. I wrote it down in
my notes on my phone, and Maya and I recently
went away for the weekend. We had like a wonderful
little bestie trip with two of our other good good friends. Um,
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and we watched this movie that is currently like the
talk of the town. It's called Everything Everywhere All at Once.
It's actually, uh, this is a new movie that I
was reading the intro for. It's about ah here. This
is the summary, by the way, if you google it, um,
this is the summary that it'll this is yeah, but
also like spoiler alert, Um, if you want nothing to
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do with what we're going to talk about right now,
go watch the movie. Come back and let's discuss m
When an interdimensional rapture Okay, wait, you have to read it.
My dyslexia is on fire today. Okay, clear to turn
down the lights, draw back the curtains, and take a
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seat in those uncomfortable When an interdimensional rapture unravels reality
and unlikely hero almost channel her newfound powers to fight
bizarre and bewildering dangers from the multiverse as the fate
of the world hangs in the balance. Yes, and this movie,
Like I actually had to sell it to my Latino
parents because I was just like, oh my god, guys,
you have to watch this movie. And my parents were like,
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what are we gonna watch? And I was like, it
is because my dad honestly like didn't understand it that much.
And I was like, it's it's so good that everyone's
talking about it. It's everyone everyone's into stories, and so
it is, and it actually is. As of today, the
headlines are reading that everything everywhere, all at once is
a twenty four's, which is the production company that made
the film, is a highest grossing movie ever at a
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global box office, so like people are talking about it
because I do think that it resonates and I do
believe that it might kind of be like the new
the new version of the Secret in my opinion, UM,
which is something that I've kind of have discovered. UM,
so basically the thing that I want to touch up upon.
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In the movie, there is a line where, uh, there's
a line and arcte who says it, But it's basically
nothing matters. And when you come to terms with the
idea of nothing matters, UM, it's almost can feel it
can feel like a daunting idea that nothing matters, but
it's also like super liberating and it's kind of like
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a lesson that UM I have learned watching my grandmother
go through her dementia. It's this lesson of being like
whoa like nothing really matters. But I wanted to ask you,
my what did you take away from that quote? And
what did you take away from the movie? In a
hole as a whole, not in a hole or maybe
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there's a hole there is a hole in the movie.
Who's Mad at a Hole? Oh? Yeah, there is a
hole in the movie. Here's a whole in the movie. Um,
I feel like in context to the movie and no spoilers,
just like there's two different ways that they talk about
nothing matters. And I think I look at it because
I've had some friends that very much are like nothing matters,
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So like what's the point who cares in a negative way?
Where like why even try to better yourself when we're
all going to die anyway? Why even try to like
accomplish your dreams when like they'll probably like somebody else
is already doing them. Like then like a very pessimistic
way of viewing it. And so I get a little
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bit my mind goes there. First of like, we know
a lot of things matter, like I matter, you matter,
we all matter. Um. But in the other way that
you were thinking about it is that nothing matters, as
in like you know, I think in also context of
our reality in our career, when something bad happens quote
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unquote bad, where like we, um, you know, don't get
this part that we wanted, or if we go to
an event and somebody was being a little bit weird
to us or whatever, like it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter,
Like yeah, it just and it's it's hard to get there.
It's hard to convince somebody who sees it the other
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way it was weird because it doesn't matter. But it doesn't. Yeah,
I feel like for me. So basically my original idea
for the way that I kind of came to this
conclusion of like nothing matters is you know, I visit
my agualita a lot, and if you follow me on
social media, actually post about her a lot. She's kind
of what I've been posting the most about as of recently,
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because I don't um everything else, whether I've been on
the red carpet or whether I've had like some really
cool level of success, Like, it's not as important to
me currently in my life UM or like me at
the gym or me first trapping. Like to me, the
most important thing right now are the life lessons that
I'm learning through my auita. UM. My mother is kind
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of like in maybe like three quarters of the way
into her journey of dementia UM, which is like a
condition that kind of hinders your ability to make decisions,
remember things, and kind of like live your life by
yourself right the way that we're used to as adults,
to the way that we're used to doing things as adults. UM.
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It has been apparent to me that you know, all
of our lives, we try to give everything meaning, right, so, oh,
I didn't get the job because of this, or I
got hurt because of this, or this happened because of this,
and everything has a reason, and yes it absolutely does. Right, Like,
you walk away with these lessons and it makes you
a better person, and it makes you kind of like
the person that you are today sitting sitting there listening
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to this right now. Um, But in the context of
looking at my Bulita, who doesn't remember even so much
as who she is sometimes or who I am, it
becomes interesting because I go, how does she then remember
all of the life lessons that she was supposed supposedly
apparent at least supposed to have learned up until this point. Right,
So I think, like, um, when I keep going back
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to her, and I keep going, wow, like I feel
and I've said this to you. Every time I leave
her house, I'll call you and sometimes I'm crying and
I'm like, I feel like I see the universe in her,
Like some days I'm her lover, like not really her lover,
but she sees me as her lover, right, she sees
me as her husband. The other days she sees me
as her best friend mit Alicia. Other days I'm her nephew.
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I'm not really her grandson, uh that often, but I am.
And so it's interesting to think of the concept of
how everything is kind of like a blur at the
end of the day. It's almost like this energy. The
lines are blurred, the universes are blurred. My grandmother is
traveling through time, space and time every single day, right,
(08:47):
And so I've come to the conclusion that and the
other part of this is that my grandmother wasn't the
best human being. And I've always joked that you know
when she when when this life is over, I know
she's going to come back because she has some karma
to fulfill. And so a lot of people that I
have watched that she is hurt in life have actually
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come back to nurture her, to love her. My mother
being one of those people that she heard, and she
like comes to braid my grandmother's hair and feed her
and bathe her. And so it's interesting to kind of
see this roll out because then I go at the
end of the day, when all is said and done,
if you aren't somebody who dies young or at an
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early age and you make it to being like of
an older age, and you hit dementia, or you hit something,
you hit something that changes your mind, it doesn't really matter.
What matters is kind of like the present moment, and
so that for me makes it so that you can
live more freely in the moment. You can you know, Maya,
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in the moment, you can um wear dress however you
want to dress, do your hair, your makeup like, um
come off exactly how you want to come off. Because
people who know you you will eventually die, which is
part of the thing that you have just mentioned. You
will eventually die. People who know you will eventually die.
What I'm hearing is when people say, like, you know,
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things do matter, like you matter, like all the different
aspects of your life matter. Is your actions are not
free from consequence. So I'm saying, like, why I love
this idea so much was because it has liberated me
into looking at life as a series of decisions that
can just open up different multi versus different um levels
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of the universe and you can constantly be surprised every
single day. I took a different turn today. I always
take the same route when I go from my parents
house to like my apartment. I took a different route
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today and I was like, let me go to a
different Starbucks. Let me get out of my car and
and walk into the different Starbucks. And their system was down,
and I was like, okay, it's fine. Like I waited
in line and I like ordered my whole thing, only
to find out that their systems down, Like totally okay,
let me go and um go to the other Starbucks.
I go to the other Starbucks. I arrive at eleven eleven.
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I'm like, perfect, I get there. I wait in line,
I order to get the whole thing, and the same thing.
They're like, it's down, like the systems down. Sorry, it's
gonna take a minute. But I already was such and
such a giggle with where the universe had taken me.
I was already in such like, oh my god, this
is so weird that I like would be here at
eleven and eleven the systems are down. So I'm just
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cracking up and enjoying life and being Yeah. I think
it's like it's like being in the moment and then
the present is such an important thing because so often
I get stuck in the future thinking about things that
have not happened at all, and worrying about them and
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and things that might not happen, like just creating stories
and then being stuck in the past, and like feeling
sad or feeling mad about something that has already happened.
So both of these things are not reality. They're like
I would say in other dimensions, like that it already happened.
So yeah, it already happened. So I feel like in
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this movie it really without really try not to say
any spoilers, but you know it. The description is like
interdimensional rapture on unravels reality, which is like I feel
like sometimes I can get stuck in these like mundane
everyday things that are like not productive to my overall
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spiritual self or higher self because I'm worrying about like, um,
you know, back in the day, I feel like I
would worry about how, oh the system didn't work at Starbucks,
and that would like ruin my entire day versus now
it's like, yeah, we can just laugh about it because
it doesn't matter. Like it, I feel like your energy,
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our energy is like it's it's so valuable and it's
so precious that like I don't want to say precious,
but like it's like kind of like currency, you know,
and you can I can run out real quick, Like
I didn't get enough sleep. I mean, I feel like
I got too much sleep these past couple of days
because I didn't get enough sleep, and I feel like
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very discomb discombobulated, discomb um and you know, I just
I feel like so many things can throw you off
if you're not if you don't ground yourself and remind
yourself of where you're at in the present, like all
these things don't it doesn't matter. Like I feel like
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a lot of people put so much meaning when things
go wrong, like when the tiniest things go wrong, I'm like,
damn um, Like I I understand, like that's important to you,
but like you know, like what what even? Like somebody
cutting you off in traffic, like you know, unrequited love,
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somebody interrupting you, somebody not hearing you, like the way
when you're talking to them, Like the way that certain
things can activate, like certain triggers like inside of you,
like I can determine how you look at life, how
you move through the world. And to me, I'm like,
oh my god, if you can't laugh at the ridiculousness
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of this life. Like today, I like my dog, my Pippo,
was in the back, like literally in the days, watching
squirrels and the squirrels are watching him. And he was
watching squirrels and I like walked up to him, and
I was like trying to avoid the squirrels because I
don't know if you've read any articles, but in New York,
the scorls are going crazy. Squirrels are attacking people and
killing people. Not killing people, but they're literally like out
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here splicing bitches. And so I don't with squirrels. I'm
actually convinced that squirrels will take over the world after
the raptures. Squirrels an octopus occupied octopuses. Octopuses will take
over the world, and so I don't I go to it.
Frankie and um, as I'm walking to him, I like
bang the ship out of my shoulder on this like
ladder hanging from the wall, and instead of getting mad,
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I literally start cracking up because I'm like, oh, of course,
I'm like, of course, Frankie, I will get hurt trying
to get your ass away from the squirrels, you know. So,
like I noticed that that's actually a practice that a
lot of people don't do everything makes people grumpy. Yeah,
I'm I can be a very grumpy person sometimes sometimes not.
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I've probably been grumpy once in my life, my whole
entire life. Um, I'm just kidding. Would you say that
I'm a grumpy person? Uh No, I'm moody. Well I'm moody. Okay,
So you're a moody what am I? I'm like your
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your moody too, but you you have this ability to
just like take yourself out of it real quick and
laugh at at things like like like that in me,
it takes me, Like it takes me a couple of
days too, because I feel like I need to be
like today after this podcast, I'm going to like set
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up my gaming PC and just play since all day
and clean a little bit. But like that's what I
need to do to come back to feel like myself.
After I feel like I'm moody. Um, and that's okay,
because that's what I need to do to be more.
Maybe it's escaping. Maybe I'm escaping, which is like literally okay,
like that's the whole thing. Like if you need to escape,
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however you need to escape, it's fine because nothing matters.
But it's like yeah, go ahead. Well no, it's just
like at the end of the day, like everybody is
going to the same place, right, everyone will in navitably
pop off of this earth, end up in the ground
or burnt up. Or it's just like how do you
want to spend your life? Like do you want the
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majority of your days to be annoyed by tiny little things?
Or like because I think and and like I want
to also know, like why do you think people get
caught up in mundane things like that or just a
little like inconveniences. I think it's because like it's it's
a little bit more comfortable to be in that spot
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of like, oh no, this went wrong today, and almost
like a little tiny bit of like victim mode where
it's like, yes, it goes wrong and it sucks, but
it's like I think ship has just gone I mean
haywire since the pandemic and everything, and I'm just kind
of like, pick and choose, pick and choose, what do
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you get what you're gonna get upset about? Because there's
a lot to be upset about. And if I'm going
to spend every single day being upset about all these things,
like then when when am I going to be happy.
When is there going to be room for like, there
has to be a balance. Absolutely, I always I think
I'm telling you this too, that I believe that people
who are optimists and people who are pessimists they both
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believe that they are seeing life without in its true form.
They both believe that they're seeing They're the smart ones
in the situation, right, Like you talk to a pessimist
and they're like, have you read the news today? Have
you seen life? Have you woken up into the world.
It fucking sucks out here and you are obnoxiously oblivious
to everything, and you are you must be a terrible
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person because you're not understanding what's happening in the world,
because things are happening and you're out here worrying about
like gonna go get boba, you know. And then on
the flip, I think that the optimists can be like, look,
I feel and I see all these things, but I
have a hope and I have um the the understanding,
right because we both feel like we have an understanding
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of the universe that things will get better and that
good will prevail at the end of the day, and
we and good will have the final words. And so
I think that we look at each other like you're
looking crazy, No, you're crazy. That we can view life
in like you said, like in different ways and feel
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like that is the truest, like that is the real
version of life, and other people see it completely different.
And once I realized that, I was like, you can
you can never please anyone. Everyone is going to have
their own perception because based on whatever trauma they've been
through and whatever survival techniques and and what's in there
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like emotional toolbox, Like I will never know fully like
how somebody feels about something because I can only know
about myself. I can only you know. So I think
it's like I think if people were to do way
more self reflection and take accountability and responsibility for the
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energies that they bring into friendships, relationships, conversations, they will
start to see that, oh, like not only is this
my energy, but also you have yours too, and like
it's just so beneficial because like I just want to
talk about how we had like a big talk, like
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we're sitting in this dark room, meditation music was on,
like sitting in this bed in the woods. I literally
will play meditation music and I'm just like rying like
like you know, and but it was a very powerful
conversation because we were both able to put our egos
(20:39):
in the corner and like really be truthfully, raw, honest
with ourselves of like this makes me feel this way
when you said this, and this, this is why this
made me feel this way. Oh my gosh, I didn't
know that. Like it is so beneficial living in different
realities essentially that are true to us in our heads. Yes,
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and it doesn't take away from each other's reality. It's
just how do you connect them and how do you
go Like I never saw myself like that. I don't know,
like you know, you were like when you say things,
it's actually more hurtful because we look up to each other, right,
And I'm like, I never thought that you looked up
to me. So I didn't realize that when I say
things that people can take them a certain type of
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way because to me, in my head, I'm always that
kid in the kitchen. I'm always the kid that was
sweeping and serving food and who cares about my opinion.
I'm just the sassy person in the kitchen. And it
was like, I feel like the pine the girl in
the pineapple shirt and the and the flats exactly, Like,
so it's this whole thing. And I think that like,
you know, kind of going back to the topic at
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hand of like the nothing matters and kind of the
different realities that we exist. In the movie is about
how you know, you can jump through multiverses and how
there's not just one universe. And I really believe that
if you are in you are essentially the center of
your own universe. You walk up to you wake up
to yourself every single day, you wipe your own ask
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several times a day. You know everything about yourself only,
and everybody else's perception of you is exists only in
those few moments, in those few minutes that they spend
with you throughout the day, right, And so I think
that with if you're like a pessimist or an optimist
or whatever it is, you can literally jump into entirely
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new universes just by making small changes in your life
every single day. That was a part of the movie
that like, and this isn't spoiling anything, but she just,
like a lot of people in the movie just had
a hard time like viewing um outside of themselves and
and and like also viewing inside of themselves like it
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was just this kind of middle ground where they were
only existing on this plane, which is Earth, like this
one versus like, I hope this isn't two. Who would
to say, but you have to exist in multiple different
like dimensions in order to understand people, because like it's
it's very I mean, I have some friends that I'm like, girl,
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I don't even know how we're friends, but like somehow
we are because we're connected on this one thing at
the end of the day. The concept for me of
nothing matters means get messy, you know, get your heartbroken,
try with the soul mate, and if it doesn't work,
who cares? You know, Like me, how many in the
time that you've known me? How many times have I
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changed my style? Have I changed the way that I move,
like the way that I do things? Because it's like
who cares? You want to wear giant fucking bowling hats
and then the next day be like now I'm good,
I'm going to just oh, yeah, your bowling bowler hat.
I'm gonna get my heads hatted, or I'm going to
do this like or I think I want to sing today,
or like oh I want to try writing a book,
like have no expectations, Go make decisions. Don't order what
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you always order at the rest on jump into another
universe and order the fucking steak or the or the
vegan meal. Like change it up. Welcome to the astrology
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portion of the podcast today. We're going to talk about
how even in an astrology, I mean it kind of
makes sense in astrology that there are multiverses. For example,
we are reading our charts right now on the tropical
side because of where we are on the planet versus
other people. I mean, there's there's also like in India,
(24:42):
they have a different system of how they read astrology,
which I would love to get a reading over there someday.
Like nothing they do. It's without like checking if the
date is going to be fine, like when should we
get married? Okay, let me look at your guys to
chart this day is good? When should we like buy
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a house? Okay, this date is good. I truly believe
that that stuff matters. You talk about what matters that matters.
Dates matter um versus like um sidarial is like the
other side. So it's like it moves you move one sign,
so I would be oh, let's see I move one
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sign backwards? Right, Yeah, I think it's backwards because it's
also the added sign in it the newest sign or
something you move backwards. Um. So sometimes when people read charts,
they will read both and take both into consideration. Um.
So I'm like a Pisces, My moon would be tourists,
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I think, um, and then my rising would be oh,
what's before let's see what's before Pisces Aquarius. Yes, mine
would be so and that makes sense to me. Both
both like makes sense because I know there's a lot
of people who look at their charts or look at
their signs and they're like, I do not resonate at
(26:12):
all with this, which makes them believe that astrology is
not real. Whereas there's different ways to read your chart.
And I bet you anything they read the sudarial chart,
they'll feel more like like it's them. Yeah, I mean
we were talking about like, so for me, I'm looking up,
by the way, just to make sure that you You're
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sign is Aquarius before? Yes, So I'm just saying like,
you're right, Um, can we edit that part? I was
just making sure, Um, but yeah, like mine are you know,
I'm a virgal double scorpios, so mine would be leo
double libra. You know that makes a lot of I
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would say both can exist, both can exist at the
same time. It's like these different multiverses, even within your
own identity that exists at the same time, you know,
thinking about the top three and the houses that you're
born in and all these different things. By the way,
this is your first time hearing about this, definitely go
and check out sign would be um and read up
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on that as well. It's super interesting. And I also
want to say about astrology, my like, she doesn't want
me to call her therapist. She's a holistic counselor. Um.
She she was like, do not hold so much matter
in like your signs, Like, don't take on their characteristics
and be like, oh my god, this is the reason
why I'm this way. I'm like too late, it's too late. Um.
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But like just as much as we're like, oh my god,
I'm an aries or I'm a pisceser on whatever, and
you look at this other chart and you're like, I
can't be that, then everything I know, everything that I
believe that I was is a lie. It's like I
think very much, So look at everything very loosely and
be open to the fact that you do have this
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other side to you. Yeah, and maybe exactly no. And
I was gonna say what we're gonna say, and maybe
what I don't know. You were nodding your head like
you're gonna say something. I was agreeing with you. I
was like, yeah, absolutely, take everything loosely, take everything with
a grain of salt. Everything in life, have a good lap,
have a go, have a google, have a giggle at it.
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You have to laugh at it. That's that whole thing
of like you have to laugh at life because we
all end up dying anyways, Like who cares um? But
it goes back to because nothing matters everything everywhere all
and wants everything. Well, it's nothing matters. And that's the
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end of the astrology portion. And make sure to read
up on your sidarial stuff because it's very interesting. Absolutely
all right, my, how do you plead like this? Please?
Don't please? Nothing matters everything everywhere all at once. Remember
I was like, Oh, there's gonna be other movies like
based off of this movie. That's going to be like
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a lot of things in a lot of places at
the same time. I guess in conclusion, for me, it's
just about make life exciting for you again. It's becoming
mundane and boring. Take a different route, you know, order
something different at a restaurant, react differently to the current
situation in front of you, and really truly go into
(29:33):
a different universe today. Yeah. Um, But in conclusion, watch
the movie. It's really really good and who cares? Um?
Thank you so much for listening to another episode of
The Super Secret Best Club Podcast. Curly Health, can they
find you on social media? You can find me on
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Show and let's be as in Belasquez, what about you
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