March 27, 2024 • 47 mins
Your favorite hosts dive headfirst into the wild world of modern dating. They offer you their best dos and don'ts of navigating the treacherous waters of online dating, decoding cryptic emoji messages and the art of crafting the perfect icebreaker question for a first date.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Okay, settle in, settle in. Welcome to the Super Secret
bestI Club Dating Academy. Lesson one, kiss it through the pants.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Don't like putting things in your mouth or the taste
of latex?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
No, okay, all right, don't you get out of Curly
got Sorry everyone one second? Curly, What the heck?
Speaker 2 (00:20):
I thought that we agreed that you shouldn't put things
that you don't know in your mouth.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
No, no, no, it's putting things in your mouth that
we enjoy. That's the second lesson.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
But it's not about it's not what you eat, it's
what it's No.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
No, no, no, that's that's less than three. Sorry everyone here.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
My name is Curly and I'm Maya, and welcome to
the Super Secret Bestie Clubs Podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
A super secret club where we talk about super secret things.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Yeah, like secrets that are super That's what it is.
In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreas men,
and of course our favorite secrets. Get in here.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Welcome to another episode of the Super Secret Bestie Club Podcast.
This is the last episode. This is season WHOA this
season two. This is episode fifty.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Episode fifty of season two, but also, as Kbot pointed,
out our centennial episode, our one hundred episode.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
This is crazy. How do you feel?
Speaker 2 (01:31):
It's kind of wild? Because my spirit's good. It's an
interesting place, but it's very good. It's wild because like, remember,
like our first episode, we had so many difficulties. I
was talking like way too fast. We have to do
it again. It was just so messy. I was congested,
I was sniffing like extra. I had to like blow
(01:52):
my nose like a bunch of times. It was just
so messy. And now it just feels so natural. Now
I have you can't see anything, but now in front
of me, I have three nasal sprays, so I won't
be snipping as hard, and I think I talk a
lot more slower. In general.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
You've been mindful of it. But what's crazy is that
I've been friends with you for so long that it
just sounds normal to me at this point. And it
like when other people would be like whoa, whoa slow down,
I'd be like, what didn't you hear him? He said
he wanted chickennuggas boush to sauce. You know, let TikTok.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Yeah, it's so funny.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
It's it's like a SoundBite that's like can I get a?
And they're like, sorry, what did you say? Didn't you
hear him? He said he want a chickennugga with bousta sauce.
H yeah, and I cann't get a. Didn't you hear him?
It's like it's like translating for him from Clarence.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Oh, Clarence a cartoon. Oh my god, I couldn't stand
that cartoon. I was like, it was so weird to me. Well, well, zero.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Spirit, my spirit's good. I'm recording this in Arizona. Phoenix,
Arizona six two six oh three four eight oh five
two zero, what's up? Phoenix? Getta here, Phoenix, Chicana here
representing my people, and yeah, I'm here for my birthday.
(03:25):
When you're listening to this, my birthday's already passed, So
thank you for not saying happy birthday to me. At
this point, nobody used an happy birthday to me.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Happy birthday to you, thank you.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Thank you, thank you, to you. It is on Monday,
it's on the twenty fifth, So I'm spending my birthday
here in Arizona and then I'll be back in La
for another little party I made. It's also airy season
one second, what sorry, I had to do our war cry.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I know, happy Birthday Ari season.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Yes, so it's airy season. Feeling literally so good vibes
and I'm gonna be thirty one. I'm excited. There's a
lot of freaky shit happening within the planets and astrology.
There's a lunary clips on my birthday, and then there's
big solar eclips and then there's retrogrades. So we'll get
(04:18):
into that when we talk about astrology. But I'm definitely
feeling all of it, so really taking it easy and
taking it slow, low and slow. Anyway. So this episode,
we are going to give you guys some tips and
tools and tricks on how to nail the first date
(04:42):
and get a second date. These are tips that Curly has.
He's made his own list of tips. I've made my own.
We have not seen each other's lists before, and we
are going to be live, live, reacting as you will,
but also giving you our lovely loyal listener a little
(05:04):
bit of a you know, something to take with you
on your next first date.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Yep, absolutely so. Here we are imagine yourselves. You match
with somebody on one of the apps, everything goes well.
You've been texting well your phone calls are going great.
You've made a plan to hang out and go on
a date, and now big days here. What do you do?
What's going on? First? Advice number one if you're a bottom,
(05:30):
if you're a gay bottom. I've heard this. I've never
done it, but supposedly it's like, and I'm not a
proponent of like sleeping around, but if you are going
to see around with somebody, you eat gummy bears all
day long, and now you're ready for penetration at some point, maya.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Space the way that your fade, just like at sixteen
different like looks.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
You're like gummy bears?
Speaker 1 (05:58):
What all day? Sometimes you say say things and I
don't know where it's going and it surprises me, which
I think is good in a in a you know, friendship.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Somebody told me that, like and like, if you're a bottom,
like bottoms have to should eat gummy bears the day
that they're planning to have sex all day long so
they don't have to worry about any sort of messy messes.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Gummy bears.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Yeah, what are you going to do? Like let out
a gummy?
Speaker 1 (06:27):
I see, I see? I thought, well, I thought the
gummy bears were supposed to like make your booty like
a little bit more relax. Yeah, I'm like, oh, is
it like the consistency of it that like puts a
coating around it, that is acts like a lubricit, like
you know, coating. Yeah, that's what I thought. That's what
(06:47):
I was thinking. But you're just saying not to eat
like a heavy meal exactly. What if like what if
you're on the day and you're eating food like.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
See that's yeah, Well, I don't sleep on the I
don't seek for anybody on the first date, and that'll
be one of my rules later. But yeah, I fucking
I don't follow the company of a rule. I'm like,
what I've a.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
Well, my number one affirmations. You're gonna look in them
freaking mirror and you're gonna say, verbatim, I'm a cutie
with a little bit of an attitude and I deserve
some booty. That could be now, that could be metaphorical booty,
hypothetical booty, energetic booty, you know what I'm saying. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
(07:31):
it's not as I mean, it could be if you
want to get some booty tonight. But I'm a cutie
with a little bit of an attitudey as in like
you'll never catch me slipping.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yeah yeah, and I deserve some boody no one's matter
your affirmations. That is so good? Do you? Is that
what you say to yourself when you're.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Like, I do mantras. I definitely do mantras in the
in the mirror, like right before the date. And I
have to lock eyes with myself because this is an
experience that I feel like sometimes you could feel like
not connected with your body, like seriously, like you know
what I'm saying, like not grounded. So that's how I'll
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ground myself and be like, hey girl, we are having
me and you are having this experience. I want to
remind you and remind my body because sometimes I'll show
up in my body posture and everything will be a
little bit like sunken or hunged over because I'm shy
and I want to make myself small. Saying this shit
or saying any type of affirmation reminds me to put
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my shoulders back, let the titty meat out, you know,
let the little curvatures do its thing, and and walk
with your head how high.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Did you say titty meat?
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Yeah, it's my it's my new thing. Because like I
got it from Michelle Buteau. Buteau, She's the Yeah, Survival
of the Thickest is her show.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
Oh, okay, titty meat, titty meat because on the Oscars
remember Oscars night, I have my titty meat out, okay,
and she had her titty meat out and she said,
tonight's look titty meat and I said me too.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Ititch literally quote you treated her same.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
Well. My first tip of going on a successful first
day is please shower, shower, shower, shower, like wash down
all the pheromones that are on you. Scent is so important.
It's so important, more than you think. Wash that hair
the day before, wash it the day of in the morning. Shower,
wash the cahun hoon and your poon poon put.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Lotions shower on, shower, but like, yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Put on like Brazilian bumbum oil all over your body.
Put it on your on your ass, put on your ass,
craft put it on your fucking ankle. Scent travels upwards,
so you want to put spray like on your ankles,
behind your knees, anything, it could be anything, and then
save like your expensive perfume for like a little bit
more higher, like on your chest, behind your ears in
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your hair brush those goddamn tastes, those.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Tooths and flash probably huh floss.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Scrub that tongue.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
Scrub that the tongue, the tongue.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Tongue, and put pop some mintce in that musty ass
golt mouth of yours. My friend says, your your baby
goat mouth.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
I like baby goat pop.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Pop some listerine strips and that baby goat mouth of
yours and and be ready for the world when they
get in your car or you get in their car.
I don't want to smell your closet on your musty clothes.
I'm not trying to smell your dusty hair. I don't
want smell not. I want to be like, that's personal.
(10:55):
Air out your clothes before you go on a day.
Please set them out on.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
So that's personal.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Don't cook around these clothes either. Don't tips Virgo tips.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Oh that's a yeah, that's a Virgo tip out.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Yeah, don't definitely don't, like, just let the clothes set out.
I think that like, you know, showing up in your
best way. If you want to get a new shirt,
if you want to get a new sweater, something that
makes you feel like good when you're on it. I
think it is a good tip too.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
What if your faux leather smells like your closet and
you can't you can't wash that, you wipe it down.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
I would air I would air it out. I would
air it out.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
How do you air it out?
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Like put it like like lay it out in the bed,
like lay it on your bed, you know, put it
out on the on the sofa in your living room.
Like It's okay if it has a scent to it,
but like I shouldn't be able to like smell and
we all do it. Like I feel like I smell
like Dorthias, like I swear tobout it. I feel like
I smelled like Dorthias when I go into like anyone's
(11:59):
house because like even when I'm here at my mom,
she's always making like or if I'm at my place,
I probably smell like stage and incense. I always smell
like something, but smell like what they're gonna smell when
they're with you.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
Basically number two outfit. That was my number two too,
No freaking way mm hmm, okay, okay, well my things
is more of like question outfit, how much are we
liking this person? Do we show all out or do
we keep it cute? Like think about the weather. Will
(12:35):
the wind expose my lading bit lady bits? Am I
okay with that?
Speaker 4 (12:39):
Like?
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Am I sitting down? Is it gonna be? Are we
gonna at a restaurant? Is this is sitting down outfit?
Is standing up outfit? Only? Like basically for me, I'm like,
this is the first day, so I want to show
something that's like gonna show off my body a little bit,
not not too too too much, you know what I'm saying.
I want to like keep it a little mysterious. Those
(13:00):
are my questions to ask yourself. You know, if I
really really like this person, then I feel like I'm
a I'm ana show up.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
You're gonna show up, show up, show up, show up.
I feel like for me, I would say so my
first my number two was like pick a neutral outfit.
Pick an outfit that is like not too too much
of anything. But at the same time, if your usual
is to dress up a lot and to dress up big,
and that's your norm, dress your norm. Like if you're
like I'm always in a white T shirt and some
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sort of like navy khaki or denim, right, like that's
my norm, so I'm probably more than likely going to
show up in that if I want to kind of
like if I'm feeling a little sexy, my T shirt
might be a little bit tighter. But also if it's
kind of a little impromptu, might be a little loose,
but like kind of like you know, show up a
little bit, show them what you're working with. If you're
(13:54):
if you want to give like fashion, like give fashion,
like let the person decide, like be yourself, is what
I'm saying, Like, don't feel like you need to hide,
but I think that for the best thing that you
could do is like I would just come like neutral,
because like if you're, I don't know, you want to
wear like a velvet blazer or something, I might be
(14:14):
like a velvet blazer to the CPK, you know what
I mean. Like I'm already adding kind of a little
bit more judgment.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
Versus California Peacha Kitchen.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Pecha Kitchen, Yeah, like PA Kitchen. I honestly wouldn't nobody
has ever taken me on on a date to CPK.
It wouldn't be like my first thing. But I also
would would think that that's kind of cute and funny
but yeah, my so I would say pick something neutral.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Well, I agree about the neutrality of it. I think
neutral and comfort especially as well and as long as
you can feel like you're being yourself. But yeah, exactly
what you said. If if like dressing up is something
that is going to represent you, and and you know,
because I think the best thing for dates and dating
(15:04):
is what I've learned is just to be yourself because
and if they don't like that, I don't think it's
anything you did wrong. I think they just did not
like that velvet laser.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
I agree Number three, this is safety for me. It's
(15:40):
I you know, usually date well, I feel like with anyone,
either drive your own car or uber, but always there's
no brainer. Share your location with at least three friends
and your mom and tell them where you're going, send
them the guy profile. I would even send the guy's number.
(16:02):
This is what I do when I'm on date.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
Photos.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Yes, send photos, and I I like, there should be
a plan if you need to get out of the date.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
I literally wrote that too, really, but it's one of
it's one of my later steps too. Have an exit plan.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Yeah, I don't really have. I don't have that on
my list, but that's just a thing where like make
sure they know like, Okay, I really like this guy.
Make sure you're setting updates, but always like make sure
you feel secure with your how you're getting there and
(16:41):
how you're leaving, who you know around that area, because
sometimes we can be a little delusional and be like,
oh my god, this date is going so well, and
then they like make you feel there's always that one
question or that one answer that you're like, oh, yeah,
this is not going at all.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Yeah. My number three was pick a like a restaurant
that won't be too smelly. Don't pick anything that might
rearrange your guts, because you want to get your guts
rearranged in a good way, not in like a weird way.
Like maybe don't do seafood the first day. Like if
you're not good with dairy, maybe don't go have ice cream.
(17:22):
Like try to also keep your something like whatever your
restaurant you're going to, I try to keep that neutral
as well. I always say, like eat something with a fork,
Like pick something on the menu that you can eat
with the fork, Like I don't care if that's like
steak and veggies. I don't care if that's like a
salad steak and cheese. I think I said steak and veggies.
(17:45):
Oh oh you probably I probably broke up and said sak.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
I'm not I'm not judging.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Steak and cheese sounds gross.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
I'm like, where's the cheese? Is it on top? On
the side?
Speaker 2 (17:59):
But like I I always say that, like I don't
do anything too messy unless that's part of the fun, right,
Like you're both gonna get messy. You're gonna get like
crawfish or some ship you might burp the rest of
the night. So maybe don't. Maybe don't crawfish crawl fish?
Speaker 1 (18:13):
Whoa crawfish?
Speaker 2 (18:15):
Crawlfish? What is it?
Speaker 1 (18:16):
Yeah, crawfish. It's it's like I would never. I'm sure
it's really tasty, but I could never. Like you basically
are like eating the insides, like yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
Like yeah, don't if you if it's if that's the thing,
do it. But like, don't eat anything that's too crazy
or too messy.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Like crab.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
Like yeah, like I don't like to open up my
mouth that big when I'm eating stuff because I would
drip everywhere. I get all crazy. I don't have I have,
like I guess I have like an advertised mouth. But
I would say it's like maybe I'm the bigger.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
And you also don't want to you want to if
you want to be a little mysterious, Yeah, I want.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
To be a little mysterious. Yeah, unless that's what you're
trying to do and you want to show them how
much you can fit in.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
There, like then order a big burger.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
Then order like yeah, exactly burger, Like do the thing.
But I would say, try not to go too wide,
too soon. And the other thing two is I would say,
like go on a date that's in activity, like show
how competitive you are, like show how much fun you
can be on these things, show like your sense of humor.
It's good to do things on a date that like
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you both might suck at, like you know, ceramics or
painting or baking, or you can be playful with each other.
I will say my advice is don't go for drinks.
That's so fucking boring, that's so like I like I
could talk to a fucking wall on drinks, like who
gives a shit? Like you're not gonna know if you
have real chemistry if you're drinking, like get to know
(19:40):
them and make it through the awkwardness.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
Yeah, because then you're also relying on the alcohol to
help you. You want them sober and raw, Yeah, you
want I definitely agree with the location. The best date
that I've ever been on was planned by a virgo
and we went to Huntington Library Gardens and he had
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not been there in like years, but I've never been there,
and it was something that we were experiencing together and
you know, like it was like different where we were
walking and it was like a chill walk. And you
could also people watch. I think people watching is very
good for first dates because you can kind of like write,
like you can kind of be like, oh my god,
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like did you see them, and like you can kind
of like bond that way. My number four is when
it comes down to the conversation, like be very playful,
be open, ask questions, but you're there to see if
you vibe and see if you're somewhat compatible, not for
them to answer all of your questions or to know
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every last single little detail that you want to know,
because you want that to unfold. And people are on
their best fucking behavior on first dates and you don't
want them to say some shit that sounds good, you
know what I'm saying. So here's some question that I
have collected from TikTok and from the internet and chat jibut.
Do you believe in second chances? This one is really
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good because you hear their expectations on if they believe,
you know, in second chances within the relationship and if
it comes down to you if like, like, do you
believe in second chances?
Speaker 2 (21:20):
I was going to ask you, do you believe in
second chances?
Speaker 3 (21:22):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Of course, hello, yeah, hello, I believe in second, third, fourth, six.
I don't discriminate when it comes to.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
Numbers is so big?
Speaker 1 (21:35):
Yeah, absolutely, yeah, I don't discriminate. I allow all numbers
all time. No, but I do believe in second chances.
And depends on the situation, right, but yeah, I think
we all like fuck up at one point and we
are We deserve the grace to learn and to come
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back from that. Somebody said on TikTok, if I were
to be arrested, what would I be arrested for?
Speaker 2 (22:03):
You're asking the person on a date, or you're asking
to say like you.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Tell me, yes, you're asking them. If I were to
be arrested, if the police were to like knock down
my door and put like, so you're under arrest. What
would I be arrested for? This is like supposed to
reveal their first impressions of you.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
Damn, I don't know. I feel like I would be
like offensive to somebody. I feel like I'd be like you.
Speaker 1 (22:24):
Would say, for being too cute.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Oh yeah, I mean that's on the roof. That's so easy.
This is exactly because I'm like, I would be like,
that's such a dumb answer.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
Oh my god, you would fall in love. You would
fall in love to look up.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
For being so cute.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
I'd be like for being a cutie Petuti.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
Kot said. K Bot said for studying fires, for being so.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
Hot Riz that Gemini Riz.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
My next one too would also be like ask questions.
That was my number four. I think if I'll just
go into my number five because that's kind of like
the thing. So my number four is like ask questions,
but my number five is like definitely feel okay with
talking about issues that are important to you and expectations
like yeah, it's so it's good to have fun questions
to ask, but like also don't be afraid to get
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into your politics, right away, right, Like, at least for me,
I want to know, can I bring you around my friends?
I have a very beautiful, unique and diverse group of
friends and family and community, and I want to know,
Like I want to partner who is an extension of
me in a lot of ways, right, like not a mirror,
not somebody who has to agree with me completely. But
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I want to know about certain things like how do
you feel about like communities that are being oppressed, how
do you feel about trends rights, like how do you
feel about pronouns? Like all those things are very important
to me, And if we do get to a point
where we do get married, there will be a lot
of people who also think those are important as well.
And I'm not going to marry somebody who is bigoted
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in any sort of way. So I think that asking
about politics like future plans financial stuff don't be like
how much do you make for a living? That's like dumb,
But I think like kind of dropping little things about like, yeah,
you know, I'm really good at my ED saving. Sometimes
I do like a little bit of a splurge, but
you know, I also make sure that I put in
my savings account. You can offer that information. Maybe don't
(24:30):
ask them, but maybe through offering it up, they will
also open up as well. I do feel like even
talking about your family, like what's your dynamic like with
your family and do you have plans? Because sometimes when
people are like, oh I don't get along with my
family or this and this and that, I'm like, yikes,
Like that's not good, right, It's okay, it happens. It's
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normally who don't get it along with their family. But
I also want to hear what the reason is too,
Like if you're like, oh, we don't get along because
I'm gay, that's your thing.
Speaker 1 (25:01):
Yeah, I was gonna say it's like chosen family.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
Yeah, Like it's like chosen Yeah, talk to me about
chosen family. But also like what are your plans in
the future, Like do you want to have a family,
do you want to have kids? Is that something that is.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
That's all on the first date?
Speaker 2 (25:15):
I think so, I you know, I want to be
like what do you think about kids? Like do you
like about kids? Like do you like the idea of kids?
And if but here's the thing, like I don't think
that they should be deal breakers, Like there's some things
that shouldn't be deal breakers, like if you're like, I
don't know if I want kids, Like, Okay, let's see
what happens. Maybe they might change later on, maybe they won't.
(25:35):
You get to decide what's a deal breaker for you.
But those are a lot of things that I think
are really important for me to talk about, because you know,
I do want somebody who was getting especially at my age,
like I'm a little bit older, like I'm in like
my mid thirties, right, like my mid to latest thirties,
and so I do want to meet men who are
kind of slowing down, they're getting ready to put their
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roots deeper into the ground. I'm not necessarily looking for
somebody who's like, I don't know, I'm thinking about like
learning how to I don't know do this. I want
somebody who's talking to me about real, like rooted things.
Not that those aren't rooted things, but yeah, what's your
number five?
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Well, I was going to say I had on my list,
like thoughts on therapy, are your parents still together? There's
this other question if you could instantly become an expert
in something, what would it be? But I feel like, yeah,
I agree, like not getting deep on the first or
not not afraid to don't be afraid to get deep
(26:37):
on the first date question wise too, you know I
don't no no, no, no, no, no, no, yes.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
When you said when you.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Said that, they say that Beyonce destroyed her career. Why,
I think it was Beyonce or j Low. It was
like one of them.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Yeah, I think those are great. I I like to
ask do you like what you do? Like, do you
enjoy what you do? Because that'll tell me everything. If
they're like no, not really, then I say like, well,
what do you like to do? I'm basically trying to ask,
are you like, are you at least like working towards
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something you that makes you very happy or passionate, because
I can't be with somebody who is like, doesn't like
what they do. I mean, there's it's I I don't
I feel like nowadays, maybe sometimes for some people it's
a luxury to enjoy what you do, you know, but
it's also like there I want people who don't think
that way. I want people who are like, no, I've
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manifested a life like no matter what, I worked very
hard to love my job or to be very passionate
about what I do. I think that is like, one
of the most important things for me on a date
is to know that they're at least passionate about something,
because it lets me know that, like they're not just
going to be focusing on me all the time, you
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know what I'm saying, Like they have a purpose to
do something else other than like whatever the fuck, and
they're that they're happy people like you don't have to
be like super super happy or positive all the time,
but at least like, yeah, you know, so my I
only have one left. Okay, Okay, So let's say it's
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like nearing the end of the date, if you're at
a restaurant, I would go to the bathroom. I would
look in the mirror and have a check in with yourself,
another little check in, and you know, I always like
when I see myself in the mirror after like when
I've been on a date, sometimes I'm like, oh, if
I see that excited face, and I'm like, oh, it's
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going good. If I see a face that I'm like,
usually I'm like, I don't know. You know, that's kind
of like the game time where yeah, what time I
was like on a date and I went to the
bathroom and I was like it was a relief to
get to the bathroom, and my face was like, oh girl,
And I was like, I know that was a lot.
How are you gonna get out of this?
Speaker 2 (29:12):
You know?
Speaker 1 (29:13):
So I think, go to the bathroom, have a little
check in, ask yourself, do I could I imagine myself
holding their hand? Or do I have enough information to
like see where this goes towards the end of the night.
Do I just want to like cut it short? Do
we want to go somewhere after? Like start to kind
of like have those feelings by yourself so you can
(29:36):
cause I feel like a lot of the times I
get in my head and I'm like, yeah, let's just
do whatever, let's just go with whatever, and I don't
check in with myself, and then I end up feeling like,
oh did I really like him or did I really
like that situation? Or you know, so I feel like
having a little check in moment. Go to the bathroom,
go bee, begle patty, put little potter on your nose,
(29:58):
Maybe call your mom or call somebody, have a little
check in, tell them like how the day is going,
and then assess see.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
I would be like, damn, is she taking a dump
in there? What the fu.
Speaker 1 (30:10):
Yeah, I'm just like in the mirror, like, well if
I get what if it's an anxiety Like she is
dropping a Yeah what if I was? And what if
I was? And I have.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
Maybe the crab legs was not a good idea. Maybe
the crab like ice creaming flavor was not. Yeah, is
she on the phone? Oh, she's talking to herself in.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
The I'm allowed as fuck, Like I don't know. He
like says something really weird about dolphins, and you know,
dolphins are kind of like assholes. He said that sharps
are the apex predator of the ocean knife scene and
I said no, it was Orca's and he got mad
at me.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
But I'm right, I'd be like, what the hell is
going on in there? I would be like, definitely go
to the bathroom to check to see how your hair
is doing, how's your teeth doing, how your buggers and
how your ches? How's your makeup doing?
Speaker 1 (31:20):
Yeah, that's good, but this is if the date's going good.
With the day's not going good, put some listick on
your teeth.
Speaker 2 (31:27):
Yeah, eat some of.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
The garlic you have in your bag. Put the whole
garlic in your mouth.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
Oh see here's my thing, like, it's going to be
a good date with me. It's gonna be a good date.
Like I'm you know, so I'm not going to be
all gross and you're gonna walk away being like what
a what a lovely human? You know, everything was good.
So my number six is talking about all that, ask
all the questions. But also I will say, try to
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limit how much you're talking. Oh yes, you can talk
about it. Try to listen more and ask more questions.
I think that being a little bit more quieter than
you usually are is actually more to your benefit because
you will learn more about them. But you also leave
a little bit of mystery, because that's where you get
people right, Like, you get them a little bit with
(32:14):
the mystery of what is left, what is there's more
to discover. I'm so curious about this person. Then going
on to other steps, I would say light flirtation, light touching.
I think the triangle thing that you do with like
the what is its lips mouth, I'm sorry, eyes mouth
eyes right, yes, yeah, eye's mouth eyes, Like I think
(32:36):
I love that trick so much. I think the idea
of kind of like lightly touching their arm if you
think something's funny. If the date is going well, right,
like you think something's funny, I will say, and maybe
the rest of it I'll just kind of like put
all together. But like, I don't think you should sleep
with any of it in your first date. That is
(32:57):
my personal opinion, because I think that you can be sexual.
I think you can grind, you can make out, you
can like kiss on each other's like ear lobes, like
kiss on their neck, like scratch their head, cuddle like
whatever the fuck you want to do, do it. Don't
put nothing in your mouth, don't put nothing in your coon,
(33:18):
hon don't stick anybody, don't like for me in my
in my I might be like a little yeah, he
thought at this point. But it's just like there's something
really powerful about not being intoxicated by like sex or alcohol,
Like you really just get to know the individual for
who they are, because I don't care who you are.
(33:40):
If the sex is bombed in the beginning of the relationship,
I don't care who you are. The sex part doesn't
last forever. It's real, it's going through really like the relationship, Yeah,
it's going to be the relationship.
Speaker 1 (33:52):
If I could a little side note chemically, if you're dating.
If you're a woman dating a man, Women chemically bond
with men faster and harder when you do have sex,
and the men do the opposite. And I've seen that.
But if you want to get off, get off, you know,
get off.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
Yeah, I mean, look, if just be ready and willing
to deal with whatever, whatever, whatever. And I've heard a
lot of people being like, well, you got to test
drivee the car before you take it off the lot.
I'm like, wonderful, I'm not. I'm not the car for you.
Like I just I'm just not, like I don't want
to do it, and it's it's I will do heavy petting,
i will make out, I'll do all the fun stuff.
I just won't fuck. And especially if I'm gonna have
(34:32):
if I have the steak and veggies at dinner and
making cheese, steak and cheese, I'm not letting anything near
my powtering.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
You're Pooter, you're Cooter, you're Coucci, your tanute chi chunk
or your chunk, the nothing, your cookie thank you.
Speaker 2 (34:51):
Yeah, Like I'm not doing that. Like and that goes
back to like kiss it through the pants, kiss it
through the pants, put it in your mouth through the pants,
you know, if you need to put your hot breath
on it, like, let them feel it, vibrate, say their
name on that thing. Oh God, don't hum your favorite song?
Speaker 1 (35:18):
That's your favorite song Kelly Kelly Clarkson Kelly Clarkson song
on a first date. Yeah, I would be like a
late inn't I? When not?
Speaker 2 (35:31):
How dare you? She doesn't mean it?
Speaker 1 (35:34):
SA, she's a care it's her season too, it's our season.
You can't say anything, get it.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
That's true. And then I would say, but I would
say this, no matter what happens, wrap it up in
a timely way. Get them out the door before twelve.
Speaker 1 (35:51):
They're coming back to your house.
Speaker 2 (35:53):
Well whatever, get them out the door, get them out
of your car, get whatever.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
However long the date, do they usually come back to
your house.
Speaker 2 (35:58):
No, I usually will like unless I'm really comfortable. But
I would say, like, end it in a timely way
where you leave feeling like, whoa, we both had so
much fun. I can't wait to get a little bit more.
You want to be left wanting more. You want them
to be wanting more. They will be like, damn, they're
a good kisser. They had good breath. The whole damn time.
(36:20):
They smelled so fucking good that lotion, that fucking Brazilian
bumbum cream. I'm telling you.
Speaker 1 (36:27):
Yeah, no, yeah, it's intoxicating.
Speaker 2 (36:29):
Amazon it on Amazon.
Speaker 1 (36:33):
And shave your lower back. Shave your lower back. If
you're making out with them, do okay, shave your lower back.
Put the bumbum cream there, and I swear to God,
their hand will be there sometime and they'll be like,
oh my god, your back. Yeah, back is so soft.
I've had that before. And put on a little Shrek two.
(36:53):
Shrek two is the best movie to make out to
period dot com.
Speaker 2 (36:57):
You know, usually I would be like what, but I
did just see this guy who I think is so
cute and he was watching Shrek the Musical and he
was like cute.
Speaker 1 (37:08):
Oh now it's cute.
Speaker 2 (37:10):
Well only because you know, no, I mean, I whatever, questionable.
But like I would say, overall, going into dates are
kind of like anxiety and doucing. You're putting yourself on
the line in a lot of ways, like you're kind
of making yourself into a show pony. It's an interview.
It feels really weird. I think going into something knowing
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what you offer, knowing what you're bringing to the table
really is important to lean into because sometimes there's just
it's just not there, and it will be mostly a
reflection on what's going on with them unless to do
about you. So as long as you have fun, as
long as you felt that everything that you did was
like your presentation was good. Just and above all else
(37:57):
have a good time. If you have a good time,
it'll show, the vibes will feel good. You'll inevitably get
out us out on another date for sure, for sure.
Speaker 1 (38:08):
And be yourself. Make shuld so big, you save, make
shure so.
Speaker 2 (38:19):
Yes, unless it's oversharing about.
Speaker 1 (38:23):
Unless it's oversharing about well certain, And you know, get
your rocks, get your rocks off if you want, kick
them all over the place, kick your bra live it up,
you know, like where where that underwear that's like you're like,
I'm wearing it, but they don't know, but only you know.
(38:55):
Welcome to the astrology portion of the podcast.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
Yay our fifty or one hundredth astrology.
Speaker 1 (39:03):
Yes, I have a lot to say, so by now
let's see. Okay, retrograde hasn't started yet. When this episode
drops retrograde, we're actually in the shadow period still there's
a shadow period before and after. There was a lunary
clipse on March twenty fifth. There's going to be a
(39:24):
solar eclipse on on's the solar eclipse.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
Like April something, right, April eight or something like that.
Speaker 1 (39:31):
Yes, there is a super eight. Yes, wow, there's a
we started sending there's a solar eclipse on April eighth,
and retrograde starts April first. So this is my advice
for everyone and anyone is slow down, slow down, Do
(39:52):
not make any impulsive decisions at all based on your emotions.
Make their calculated decisions that you've thought through. Do not
think twice before you talk to somebody, Like I would
definitely be mindful of conflict there. I feel like there's
(40:13):
gonna be a lot of uh, misinterpretations and miscommunications with things.
As always literally slow down your speech and think about
everything that is coming out of your mouth, like and
just breathe. You know what I'm saying, Yeah, because it's
gonna get a little It's already gotten chaotic for me.
(40:33):
Like I was driving the other day and it was
the first day of metro or metro grade of retrograde
shadow period. The wind was crazy, the cars on the
road were freaking crazy, Like everyone on the road was
like it was wild. And then my friend texted me
(40:53):
that like their ex texted them an apology. And then
something happened within my family where somebody got accepted into
this like wild ast program and let just like rocked everyone.
Like everything happened like so randomly and chaotically that day
that I was like I could cry about all of
these things that are happening. However, yeah, I'm going to
(41:17):
actually let it flow, let it flow, and let it
go float above it, as my mom says, she always
tells me to float above it. And as soon as
I hear that, I literally feel myself floating above it
because it's like we can't control everything, you know, and
as much as we want to. And I think there's
gonna be a lot of because I not only is
(41:37):
the sun in aries right now, but this eclipse one second,
I think there's something in Libra, which areas in Libra
are opposites, so and they they are like they rub
against each other, not in the good way. So that's
my little takeaway is to really and if you want
more information, there's this are one of our favorite astrologers,
(42:02):
Melissa stars on Instagram. There's also Channey, she has the
Channy app, and then there is Astra a s t
r A And there's also a bunch of information on
TikTok as well. And you can see where this solar
eclipse and the lunary clips and the retrograde is going
to affect your specific chart. For me, it's going to
be affecting my finances. So there's something about my finances
(42:26):
that I need to and and the thing with these
retrogrades and the eclipses and everything actually in the future
is that we get these little mini downloads that we
choose to either ignore and then they'll pop up later
and surprise us in a way we don't like, you know,
kind of like when we wait for the last minute
on something on a deadline. Whether it's like like for me,
(42:49):
it's my passport, like I need to I need to
get my passport together because I'm like, watch, there's gonna
be a trip where they're gonna be like, can you
fly out to London next week? And I'm gonna be like, fuck,
I don't have, Like I need to get my passport renewed.
Things like that where they kind of make you slow
down get the ship prepared beforehand so you're not surprised
later on. So yeah, you can look up on pretty
(43:13):
much TikTok or anywhere where this retrograde is going to
affect you, where the eclipses are going to affect you,
so you can get prepared and don't get scared because
sometimes it just is like a tiny little thing, and
sometimes it affects people differently. So that's my little download takeaway.
Speaker 2 (43:28):
So just try to stay positive, say a prayer to
whoever your higher power is, and buckle up, sweet angel.
It's going to be a bumpy rag. It already is
a bumpy ride. So just you're you know how to
do this already. You've if you're listening to this, you've
come so far already, you know how to do this.
Don't worry, You'll be fine. Just talk to the Lord, yeah.
Speaker 1 (43:49):
And talk to them and be like, hey, what's going
on with these things?
Speaker 2 (43:55):
Yeah? I have been talking out loud. I'm like, Lord
Jesus up in the sky.
Speaker 1 (44:02):
Let me get help in that conclusive astrology portion. Well,
maya do you plead do what feels comfortable on this date.
I'm so excited for you girl. Make sure you if
you need anyone to text or to like follow along
the date, please text us, please call us, beat us
(44:23):
if you want to reach us. And I think go
with your intuition. And I think at the end of
the day and at the end of the date, it
is about did you like them? Not did they like you.
There are a lot of things that I feel like
you could everyone can improve on with dates. Like, you know,
I feel like sometimes I definitely talk too much on dates,
(44:46):
and I could be mindful of that because you're trying
to get to know them and listen to them to
gain enough information. It's not about, like you know, it's
not an audition, even though sometimes feels like it. But
just be comfortable And the biggest thing is just to
be yourself because ultimately, like if you start this facade
(45:09):
that you'll you're like, if you do the whole like
mysterious thing too much, then it's something that you have
to kind of keep up with because if you're not
mysterious one day, then they're like, who is this? Like
I would just be consistent like the entire time and
just show up and show out. And you know, I
(45:30):
feel like you can be a little mysterious here and there.
But if it's like you're gonna be your whole thing,
then that's a whole personality change and I'm too lazy
for that, And I.
Speaker 2 (45:37):
Say be yourself, have fun. Remember though, that you're not
you know, this is the first time that you're meeting somebody,
So try to be ticket. Be cool about it, be
smooth about it, and not saying that to be fake.
But taket slow, you know, like think about things just
as a Virgo double scorpio who observes more of an observer.
(46:01):
Just observe and enjoy it, enjoy the day and have
a good giggle. Well, Maya, where can people find you
on social media?
Speaker 1 (46:07):
You can find me at my in the Moment, m
a ya in the moment, all over the internet. What
about you?
Speaker 2 (46:13):
You can find me at the Curly v Show, on
TikTok and Instagram. But I post a little bit more
on TikTok, So if you want to hang out with
me on TikTok, come hang with me there.
Speaker 1 (46:22):
Thank you so much again for listening to the last
episode of The Super Secret Vestie Club season two. We're
so excited to see you in season three. We have
a lot in store for season three. I feel like
it's going to I mean, every single season of this
podcast is always amazing, but we're excited to really kicking whoa.
(46:45):
We're excited to really kick it up in the next
season with a lot of little surprises and a lot
of like star studded guests.
Speaker 2 (46:53):
Yeah, we're so excited. We're actually going to be bringing
it hard and heavy with more guests and more fun
things to talk about. Thank you so much for supporting
and we love you and you are definitely a part
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Okay, settle in, settle in. Welcome to the Super Secret
bestI Club Dating Academy. Lesson one, kiss it through the pants.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Don't like putting things in your mouth or the taste
of latex?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
No, okay, all right, don't you get out of Curly
got Sorry everyone one second? Curly, What the heck?
Speaker 2 (00:20):
I thought that we agreed that you shouldn't put things
that you don't know in your mouth.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
No, no, no, it's putting things in your mouth that
we enjoy. That's the second lesson.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
But it's not about it's not what you eat, it's
what it's No.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
No, no, no, that's that's less than three. Sorry everyone here.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
My name is Curly and I'm Maya, and welcome to
the Super Secret Bestie Clubs Podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
A super secret club where we talk about super secret things.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Yeah, like secrets that are super That's what it is.
In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreas men,
and of course our favorite secrets. Get in here.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Welcome to another episode of the Super Secret Bestie Club Podcast.
This is the last episode. This is season WHOA this
season two. This is episode fifty.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Episode fifty of season two, but also, as Kbot pointed,
out our centennial episode, our one hundred episode.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
This is crazy. How do you feel?
Speaker 2 (01:31):
It's kind of wild? Because my spirit's good. It's an
interesting place, but it's very good. It's wild because like, remember,
like our first episode, we had so many difficulties. I
was talking like way too fast. We have to do
it again. It was just so messy. I was congested,
I was sniffing like extra. I had to like blow
(01:52):
my nose like a bunch of times. It was just
so messy. And now it just feels so natural. Now
I have you can't see anything, but now in front
of me, I have three nasal sprays, so I won't
be snipping as hard, and I think I talk a
lot more slower. In general.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
You've been mindful of it. But what's crazy is that
I've been friends with you for so long that it
just sounds normal to me at this point. And it
like when other people would be like whoa, whoa slow down,
I'd be like, what didn't you hear him? He said
he wanted chickennuggas boush to sauce. You know, let TikTok.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Yeah, it's so funny.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
It's it's like a SoundBite that's like can I get a?
And they're like, sorry, what did you say? Didn't you
hear him? He said he want a chickennugga with bousta sauce.
H yeah, and I cann't get a. Didn't you hear him?
It's like it's like translating for him from Clarence.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Oh, Clarence a cartoon. Oh my god, I couldn't stand
that cartoon. I was like, it was so weird to me. Well, well, zero.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Spirit, my spirit's good. I'm recording this in Arizona. Phoenix,
Arizona six two six oh three four eight oh five
two zero, what's up? Phoenix? Getta here, Phoenix, Chicana here
representing my people, and yeah, I'm here for my birthday.
(03:25):
When you're listening to this, my birthday's already passed, So
thank you for not saying happy birthday to me. At
this point, nobody used an happy birthday to me.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Happy birthday to you, thank you.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Thank you, thank you, to you. It is on Monday,
it's on the twenty fifth, So I'm spending my birthday
here in Arizona and then I'll be back in La
for another little party I made. It's also airy season
one second, what sorry, I had to do our war cry.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I know, happy Birthday Ari season.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Yes, so it's airy season. Feeling literally so good vibes
and I'm gonna be thirty one. I'm excited. There's a
lot of freaky shit happening within the planets and astrology.
There's a lunary clips on my birthday, and then there's
big solar eclips and then there's retrogrades. So we'll get
(04:18):
into that when we talk about astrology. But I'm definitely
feeling all of it, so really taking it easy and
taking it slow, low and slow. Anyway. So this episode,
we are going to give you guys some tips and
tools and tricks on how to nail the first date
(04:42):
and get a second date. These are tips that Curly has.
He's made his own list of tips. I've made my own.
We have not seen each other's lists before, and we
are going to be live, live, reacting as you will,
but also giving you our lovely loyal listener a little
(05:04):
bit of a you know, something to take with you
on your next first date.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Yep, absolutely so. Here we are imagine yourselves. You match
with somebody on one of the apps, everything goes well.
You've been texting well your phone calls are going great.
You've made a plan to hang out and go on
a date, and now big days here. What do you do?
What's going on? First? Advice number one if you're a bottom,
(05:30):
if you're a gay bottom. I've heard this. I've never
done it, but supposedly it's like, and I'm not a
proponent of like sleeping around, but if you are going
to see around with somebody, you eat gummy bears all
day long, and now you're ready for penetration at some point, maya.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Space the way that your fade, just like at sixteen
different like looks.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
You're like gummy bears?
Speaker 1 (05:58):
What all day? Sometimes you say say things and I
don't know where it's going and it surprises me, which
I think is good in a in a you know, friendship.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Somebody told me that, like and like, if you're a bottom,
like bottoms have to should eat gummy bears the day
that they're planning to have sex all day long so
they don't have to worry about any sort of messy messes.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Gummy bears.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Yeah, what are you going to do? Like let out
a gummy?
Speaker 1 (06:27):
I see, I see? I thought, well, I thought the
gummy bears were supposed to like make your booty like
a little bit more relax. Yeah, I'm like, oh, is
it like the consistency of it that like puts a
coating around it, that is acts like a lubricit, like
you know, coating. Yeah, that's what I thought. That's what
(06:47):
I was thinking. But you're just saying not to eat
like a heavy meal exactly. What if like what if
you're on the day and you're eating food like.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
See that's yeah, Well, I don't sleep on the I
don't seek for anybody on the first date, and that'll
be one of my rules later. But yeah, I fucking
I don't follow the company of a rule. I'm like,
what I've a.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
Well, my number one affirmations. You're gonna look in them
freaking mirror and you're gonna say, verbatim, I'm a cutie
with a little bit of an attitude and I deserve
some booty. That could be now, that could be metaphorical booty,
hypothetical booty, energetic booty, you know what I'm saying. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
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it's not as I mean, it could be if you
want to get some booty tonight. But I'm a cutie
with a little bit of an attitudey as in like
you'll never catch me slipping.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yeah yeah, and I deserve some boody no one's matter
your affirmations. That is so good? Do you? Is that
what you say to yourself when you're.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Like, I do mantras. I definitely do mantras in the
in the mirror, like right before the date. And I
have to lock eyes with myself because this is an
experience that I feel like sometimes you could feel like
not connected with your body, like seriously, like you know
what I'm saying, like not grounded. So that's how I'll
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ground myself and be like, hey girl, we are having
me and you are having this experience. I want to
remind you and remind my body because sometimes I'll show
up in my body posture and everything will be a
little bit like sunken or hunged over because I'm shy
and I want to make myself small. Saying this shit
or saying any type of affirmation reminds me to put
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my shoulders back, let the titty meat out, you know,
let the little curvatures do its thing, and and walk
with your head how high.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Did you say titty meat?
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Yeah, it's my it's my new thing. Because like I
got it from Michelle Buteau. Buteau, She's the Yeah, Survival
of the Thickest is her show.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
Oh, okay, titty meat, titty meat because on the Oscars
remember Oscars night, I have my titty meat out, okay,
and she had her titty meat out and she said,
tonight's look titty meat and I said me too.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Ititch literally quote you treated her same.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
Well. My first tip of going on a successful first
day is please shower, shower, shower, shower, like wash down
all the pheromones that are on you. Scent is so important.
It's so important, more than you think. Wash that hair
the day before, wash it the day of in the morning. Shower,
wash the cahun hoon and your poon poon put.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Lotions shower on, shower, but like, yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Put on like Brazilian bumbum oil all over your body.
Put it on your on your ass, put on your ass,
craft put it on your fucking ankle. Scent travels upwards,
so you want to put spray like on your ankles,
behind your knees, anything, it could be anything, and then
save like your expensive perfume for like a little bit
more higher, like on your chest, behind your ears in
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your hair brush those goddamn tastes, those.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Tooths and flash probably huh floss.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Scrub that tongue.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
Scrub that the tongue, the tongue.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Tongue, and put pop some mintce in that musty ass
golt mouth of yours. My friend says, your your baby
goat mouth.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
I like baby goat pop.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Pop some listerine strips and that baby goat mouth of
yours and and be ready for the world when they
get in your car or you get in their car.
I don't want to smell your closet on your musty clothes.
I'm not trying to smell your dusty hair. I don't
want smell not. I want to be like, that's personal.
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Air out your clothes before you go on a day.
Please set them out on.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
So that's personal.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Don't cook around these clothes either. Don't tips Virgo tips.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Oh that's a yeah, that's a Virgo tip out.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Yeah, don't definitely don't, like, just let the clothes set out.
I think that like, you know, showing up in your
best way. If you want to get a new shirt,
if you want to get a new sweater, something that
makes you feel like good when you're on it. I
think it is a good tip too.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
What if your faux leather smells like your closet and
you can't you can't wash that, you wipe it down.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
I would air I would air it out. I would
air it out.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
How do you air it out?
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Like put it like like lay it out in the bed,
like lay it on your bed, you know, put it
out on the on the sofa in your living room.
Like It's okay if it has a scent to it,
but like I shouldn't be able to like smell and
we all do it. Like I feel like I smell
like Dorthias, like I swear tobout it. I feel like
I smelled like Dorthias when I go into like anyone's
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house because like even when I'm here at my mom,
she's always making like or if I'm at my place,
I probably smell like stage and incense. I always smell
like something, but smell like what they're gonna smell when
they're with you.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
Basically number two outfit. That was my number two too,
No freaking way mm hmm, okay, okay, well my things
is more of like question outfit, how much are we
liking this person? Do we show all out or do
we keep it cute? Like think about the weather. Will
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the wind expose my lading bit lady bits? Am I
okay with that?
Speaker 4 (12:39):
Like?
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Am I sitting down? Is it gonna be? Are we
gonna at a restaurant? Is this is sitting down outfit?
Is standing up outfit? Only? Like basically for me, I'm like,
this is the first day, so I want to show
something that's like gonna show off my body a little bit,
not not too too too much, you know what I'm saying.
I want to like keep it a little mysterious. Those
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are my questions to ask yourself. You know, if I
really really like this person, then I feel like I'm
a I'm ana show up.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
You're gonna show up, show up, show up, show up.
I feel like for me, I would say so my
first my number two was like pick a neutral outfit.
Pick an outfit that is like not too too much
of anything. But at the same time, if your usual
is to dress up a lot and to dress up big,
and that's your norm, dress your norm. Like if you're
like I'm always in a white T shirt and some
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sort of like navy khaki or denim, right, like that's
my norm, so I'm probably more than likely going to
show up in that if I want to kind of
like if I'm feeling a little sexy, my T shirt
might be a little bit tighter. But also if it's
kind of a little impromptu, might be a little loose,
but like kind of like you know, show up a
little bit, show them what you're working with. If you're
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if you want to give like fashion, like give fashion,
like let the person decide, like be yourself, is what
I'm saying, Like, don't feel like you need to hide,
but I think that for the best thing that you
could do is like I would just come like neutral,
because like if you're, I don't know, you want to
wear like a velvet blazer or something, I might be
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like a velvet blazer to the CPK, you know what
I mean. Like I'm already adding kind of a little
bit more judgment.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
Versus California Peacha Kitchen.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Pecha Kitchen, Yeah, like PA Kitchen. I honestly wouldn't nobody
has ever taken me on on a date to CPK.
It wouldn't be like my first thing. But I also
would would think that that's kind of cute and funny
but yeah, my so I would say pick something neutral.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Well, I agree about the neutrality of it. I think
neutral and comfort especially as well and as long as
you can feel like you're being yourself. But yeah, exactly
what you said. If if like dressing up is something
that is going to represent you, and and you know,
because I think the best thing for dates and dating
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is what I've learned is just to be yourself because
and if they don't like that, I don't think it's
anything you did wrong. I think they just did not
like that velvet laser.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
I agree Number three, this is safety for me. It's
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I you know, usually date well, I feel like with anyone,
either drive your own car or uber, but always there's
no brainer. Share your location with at least three friends
and your mom and tell them where you're going, send
them the guy profile. I would even send the guy's number.
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This is what I do when I'm on date.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
Photos.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Yes, send photos, and I I like, there should be
a plan if you need to get out of the date.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
I literally wrote that too, really, but it's one of
it's one of my later steps too. Have an exit plan.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Yeah, I don't really have. I don't have that on
my list, but that's just a thing where like make
sure they know like, Okay, I really like this guy.
Make sure you're setting updates, but always like make sure
you feel secure with your how you're getting there and
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how you're leaving, who you know around that area, because
sometimes we can be a little delusional and be like,
oh my god, this date is going so well, and
then they like make you feel there's always that one
question or that one answer that you're like, oh, yeah,
this is not going at all.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Yeah. My number three was pick a like a restaurant
that won't be too smelly. Don't pick anything that might
rearrange your guts, because you want to get your guts
rearranged in a good way, not in like a weird way.
Like maybe don't do seafood the first day. Like if
you're not good with dairy, maybe don't go have ice cream.
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Like try to also keep your something like whatever your
restaurant you're going to, I try to keep that neutral
as well. I always say, like eat something with a fork,
Like pick something on the menu that you can eat
with the fork, Like I don't care if that's like
steak and veggies. I don't care if that's like a
salad steak and cheese. I think I said steak and veggies.
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Oh oh you probably I probably broke up and said sak.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
I'm not I'm not judging.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Steak and cheese sounds gross.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
I'm like, where's the cheese? Is it on top? On
the side?
Speaker 2 (17:59):
But like I I always say that, like I don't
do anything too messy unless that's part of the fun, right,
Like you're both gonna get messy. You're gonna get like
crawfish or some ship you might burp the rest of
the night. So maybe don't. Maybe don't crawfish crawl fish?
Speaker 1 (18:13):
Whoa crawfish?
Speaker 2 (18:15):
Crawlfish? What is it?
Speaker 1 (18:16):
Yeah, crawfish. It's it's like I would never. I'm sure
it's really tasty, but I could never. Like you basically
are like eating the insides, like yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
Like yeah, don't if you if it's if that's the thing,
do it. But like, don't eat anything that's too crazy
or too messy.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Like crab.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
Like yeah, like I don't like to open up my
mouth that big when I'm eating stuff because I would
drip everywhere. I get all crazy. I don't have I have,
like I guess I have like an advertised mouth. But
I would say it's like maybe I'm the bigger.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
And you also don't want to you want to if
you want to be a little mysterious, Yeah, I want.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
To be a little mysterious. Yeah, unless that's what you're
trying to do and you want to show them how
much you can fit in.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
There, like then order a big burger.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
Then order like yeah, exactly burger, Like do the thing.
But I would say, try not to go too wide,
too soon. And the other thing two is I would say,
like go on a date that's in activity, like show
how competitive you are, like show how much fun you
can be on these things, show like your sense of humor.
It's good to do things on a date that like
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you both might suck at, like you know, ceramics or
painting or baking, or you can be playful with each other.
I will say my advice is don't go for drinks.
That's so fucking boring, that's so like I like I
could talk to a fucking wall on drinks, like who
gives a shit? Like you're not gonna know if you
have real chemistry if you're drinking, like get to know
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them and make it through the awkwardness.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
Yeah, because then you're also relying on the alcohol to
help you. You want them sober and raw, Yeah, you
want I definitely agree with the location. The best date
that I've ever been on was planned by a virgo
and we went to Huntington Library Gardens and he had
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not been there in like years, but I've never been there,
and it was something that we were experiencing together and
you know, like it was like different where we were
walking and it was like a chill walk. And you
could also people watch. I think people watching is very
good for first dates because you can kind of like write,
like you can kind of be like, oh my god,
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like did you see them, and like you can kind
of like bond that way. My number four is when
it comes down to the conversation, like be very playful,
be open, ask questions, but you're there to see if
you vibe and see if you're somewhat compatible, not for
them to answer all of your questions or to know
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every last single little detail that you want to know,
because you want that to unfold. And people are on
their best fucking behavior on first dates and you don't
want them to say some shit that sounds good, you
know what I'm saying. So here's some question that I
have collected from TikTok and from the internet and chat jibut.
Do you believe in second chances? This one is really
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good because you hear their expectations on if they believe,
you know, in second chances within the relationship and if
it comes down to you if like, like, do you
believe in second chances?
Speaker 2 (21:20):
I was going to ask you, do you believe in
second chances?
Speaker 3 (21:22):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Of course, hello, yeah, hello, I believe in second, third, fourth, six.
I don't discriminate when it comes to.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
Numbers is so big?
Speaker 1 (21:35):
Yeah, absolutely, yeah, I don't discriminate. I allow all numbers
all time. No, but I do believe in second chances.
And depends on the situation, right, but yeah, I think
we all like fuck up at one point and we
are We deserve the grace to learn and to come
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back from that. Somebody said on TikTok, if I were
to be arrested, what would I be arrested for?
Speaker 2 (22:03):
You're asking the person on a date, or you're asking
to say like you.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Tell me, yes, you're asking them. If I were to
be arrested, if the police were to like knock down
my door and put like, so you're under arrest. What
would I be arrested for? This is like supposed to
reveal their first impressions of you.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
Damn, I don't know. I feel like I would be
like offensive to somebody. I feel like I'd be like you.
Speaker 1 (22:24):
Would say, for being too cute.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Oh yeah, I mean that's on the roof. That's so easy.
This is exactly because I'm like, I would be like,
that's such a dumb answer.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
Oh my god, you would fall in love. You would
fall in love to look up.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
For being so cute.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
I'd be like for being a cutie Petuti.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
Kot said. K Bot said for studying fires, for being so.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
Hot Riz that Gemini Riz.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
My next one too would also be like ask questions.
That was my number four. I think if I'll just
go into my number five because that's kind of like
the thing. So my number four is like ask questions,
but my number five is like definitely feel okay with
talking about issues that are important to you and expectations
like yeah, it's so it's good to have fun questions
to ask, but like also don't be afraid to get
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into your politics, right away, right, Like, at least for me,
I want to know, can I bring you around my friends?
I have a very beautiful, unique and diverse group of
friends and family and community, and I want to know,
Like I want to partner who is an extension of
me in a lot of ways, right, like not a mirror,
not somebody who has to agree with me completely. But
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I want to know about certain things like how do
you feel about like communities that are being oppressed, how
do you feel about trends rights, like how do you
feel about pronouns? Like all those things are very important
to me, And if we do get to a point
where we do get married, there will be a lot
of people who also think those are important as well.
And I'm not going to marry somebody who is bigoted
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in any sort of way. So I think that asking
about politics like future plans financial stuff don't be like
how much do you make for a living? That's like dumb,
But I think like kind of dropping little things about like, yeah,
you know, I'm really good at my ED saving. Sometimes
I do like a little bit of a splurge, but
you know, I also make sure that I put in
my savings account. You can offer that information. Maybe don't
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ask them, but maybe through offering it up, they will
also open up as well. I do feel like even
talking about your family, like what's your dynamic like with
your family and do you have plans? Because sometimes when
people are like, oh I don't get along with my
family or this and this and that, I'm like, yikes,
Like that's not good, right, It's okay, it happens. It's
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normally who don't get it along with their family. But
I also want to hear what the reason is too,
Like if you're like, oh, we don't get along because
I'm gay, that's your thing.
Speaker 1 (25:01):
Yeah, I was gonna say it's like chosen family.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
Yeah, Like it's like chosen Yeah, talk to me about
chosen family. But also like what are your plans in
the future, Like do you want to have a family,
do you want to have kids? Is that something that is.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
That's all on the first date?
Speaker 2 (25:15):
I think so, I you know, I want to be
like what do you think about kids? Like do you
like about kids? Like do you like the idea of kids?
And if but here's the thing, like I don't think
that they should be deal breakers, Like there's some things
that shouldn't be deal breakers, like if you're like, I
don't know if I want kids, Like, Okay, let's see
what happens. Maybe they might change later on, maybe they won't.
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You get to decide what's a deal breaker for you.
But those are a lot of things that I think
are really important for me to talk about, because you know,
I do want somebody who was getting especially at my age,
like I'm a little bit older, like I'm in like
my mid thirties, right, like my mid to latest thirties,
and so I do want to meet men who are
kind of slowing down, they're getting ready to put their
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roots deeper into the ground. I'm not necessarily looking for
somebody who's like, I don't know, I'm thinking about like
learning how to I don't know do this. I want
somebody who's talking to me about real, like rooted things.
Not that those aren't rooted things, but yeah, what's your
number five?
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Well, I was going to say I had on my list,
like thoughts on therapy, are your parents still together? There's
this other question if you could instantly become an expert
in something, what would it be? But I feel like, yeah,
I agree, like not getting deep on the first or
not not afraid to don't be afraid to get deep
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on the first date question wise too, you know I
don't no no, no, no, no, no, no, yes.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
When you said when you.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Said that, they say that Beyonce destroyed her career. Why,
I think it was Beyonce or j Low. It was
like one of them.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Yeah, I think those are great. I I like to
ask do you like what you do? Like, do you
enjoy what you do? Because that'll tell me everything. If
they're like no, not really, then I say like, well,
what do you like to do? I'm basically trying to ask,
are you like, are you at least like working towards
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something you that makes you very happy or passionate, because
I can't be with somebody who is like, doesn't like
what they do. I mean, there's it's I I don't
I feel like nowadays, maybe sometimes for some people it's
a luxury to enjoy what you do, you know, but
it's also like there I want people who don't think
that way. I want people who are like, no, I've
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manifested a life like no matter what, I worked very
hard to love my job or to be very passionate
about what I do. I think that is like, one
of the most important things for me on a date
is to know that they're at least passionate about something,
because it lets me know that, like they're not just
going to be focusing on me all the time, you
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know what I'm saying, Like they have a purpose to
do something else other than like whatever the fuck, and
they're that they're happy people like you don't have to
be like super super happy or positive all the time,
but at least like, yeah, you know, so my I
only have one left. Okay, Okay, So let's say it's
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like nearing the end of the date, if you're at
a restaurant, I would go to the bathroom. I would
look in the mirror and have a check in with yourself,
another little check in, and you know, I always like
when I see myself in the mirror after like when
I've been on a date, sometimes I'm like, oh, if
I see that excited face, and I'm like, oh, it's
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going good. If I see a face that I'm like,
usually I'm like, I don't know. You know, that's kind
of like the game time where yeah, what time I
was like on a date and I went to the
bathroom and I was like it was a relief to
get to the bathroom, and my face was like, oh girl,
And I was like, I know that was a lot.
How are you gonna get out of this?
Speaker 2 (29:12):
You know?
Speaker 1 (29:13):
So I think, go to the bathroom, have a little
check in, ask yourself, do I could I imagine myself
holding their hand? Or do I have enough information to
like see where this goes towards the end of the night.
Do I just want to like cut it short? Do
we want to go somewhere after? Like start to kind
of like have those feelings by yourself so you can
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cause I feel like a lot of the times I
get in my head and I'm like, yeah, let's just
do whatever, let's just go with whatever, and I don't
check in with myself, and then I end up feeling like,
oh did I really like him or did I really
like that situation? Or you know, so I feel like
having a little check in moment. Go to the bathroom,
go bee, begle patty, put little potter on your nose,
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Maybe call your mom or call somebody, have a little
check in, tell them like how the day is going,
and then assess see.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
I would be like, damn, is she taking a dump
in there? What the fu.
Speaker 1 (30:10):
Yeah, I'm just like in the mirror, like, well if
I get what if it's an anxiety Like she is
dropping a Yeah what if I was? And what if
I was? And I have.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
Maybe the crab legs was not a good idea. Maybe
the crab like ice creaming flavor was not. Yeah, is
she on the phone? Oh, she's talking to herself in.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
The I'm allowed as fuck, Like I don't know. He
like says something really weird about dolphins, and you know,
dolphins are kind of like assholes. He said that sharps
are the apex predator of the ocean knife scene and
I said no, it was Orca's and he got mad
at me.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
But I'm right, I'd be like, what the hell is
going on in there? I would be like, definitely go
to the bathroom to check to see how your hair
is doing, how's your teeth doing, how your buggers and
how your ches? How's your makeup doing?
Speaker 1 (31:20):
Yeah, that's good, but this is if the date's going good.
With the day's not going good, put some listick on
your teeth.
Speaker 2 (31:27):
Yeah, eat some of.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
The garlic you have in your bag. Put the whole
garlic in your mouth.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
Oh see here's my thing, like, it's going to be
a good date with me. It's gonna be a good date.
Like I'm you know, so I'm not going to be
all gross and you're gonna walk away being like what
a what a lovely human? You know, everything was good.
So my number six is talking about all that, ask
all the questions. But also I will say, try to
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limit how much you're talking. Oh yes, you can talk
about it. Try to listen more and ask more questions.
I think that being a little bit more quieter than
you usually are is actually more to your benefit because
you will learn more about them. But you also leave
a little bit of mystery, because that's where you get
people right, Like, you get them a little bit with
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the mystery of what is left, what is there's more
to discover. I'm so curious about this person. Then going
on to other steps, I would say light flirtation, light touching.
I think the triangle thing that you do with like
the what is its lips mouth, I'm sorry, eyes mouth
eyes right, yes, yeah, eye's mouth eyes, Like I think
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I love that trick so much. I think the idea
of kind of like lightly touching their arm if you
think something's funny. If the date is going well, right,
like you think something's funny, I will say, and maybe
the rest of it I'll just kind of like put
all together. But like, I don't think you should sleep
with any of it in your first date. That is
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my personal opinion, because I think that you can be sexual.
I think you can grind, you can make out, you
can like kiss on each other's like ear lobes, like
kiss on their neck, like scratch their head, cuddle like
whatever the fuck you want to do, do it. Don't
put nothing in your mouth, don't put nothing in your coon,
(33:18):
hon don't stick anybody, don't like for me in my
in my I might be like a little yeah, he
thought at this point. But it's just like there's something
really powerful about not being intoxicated by like sex or alcohol,
Like you really just get to know the individual for
who they are, because I don't care who you are.
(33:40):
If the sex is bombed in the beginning of the relationship,
I don't care who you are. The sex part doesn't
last forever. It's real, it's going through really like the relationship, Yeah,
it's going to be the relationship.
Speaker 1 (33:52):
If I could a little side note chemically, if you're dating.
If you're a woman dating a man, Women chemically bond
with men faster and harder when you do have sex,
and the men do the opposite. And I've seen that.
But if you want to get off, get off, you know,
get off.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
Yeah, I mean, look, if just be ready and willing
to deal with whatever, whatever, whatever. And I've heard a
lot of people being like, well, you got to test
drivee the car before you take it off the lot.
I'm like, wonderful, I'm not. I'm not the car for you.
Like I just I'm just not, like I don't want
to do it, and it's it's I will do heavy petting,
i will make out, I'll do all the fun stuff.
I just won't fuck. And especially if I'm gonna have
(34:32):
if I have the steak and veggies at dinner and
making cheese, steak and cheese, I'm not letting anything near
my powtering.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
You're Pooter, you're Cooter, you're Coucci, your tanute chi chunk
or your chunk, the nothing, your cookie thank you.
Speaker 2 (34:51):
Yeah, Like I'm not doing that. Like and that goes
back to like kiss it through the pants, kiss it
through the pants, put it in your mouth through the pants,
you know, if you need to put your hot breath
on it, like, let them feel it, vibrate, say their
name on that thing. Oh God, don't hum your favorite song?
Speaker 1 (35:18):
That's your favorite song Kelly Kelly Clarkson Kelly Clarkson song
on a first date. Yeah, I would be like a
late inn't I? When not?
Speaker 2 (35:31):
How dare you? She doesn't mean it?
Speaker 1 (35:34):
SA, she's a care it's her season too, it's our season.
You can't say anything, get it.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
That's true. And then I would say, but I would
say this, no matter what happens, wrap it up in
a timely way. Get them out the door before twelve.
Speaker 1 (35:51):
They're coming back to your house.
Speaker 2 (35:53):
Well whatever, get them out the door, get them out
of your car, get whatever.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
However long the date, do they usually come back to
your house.
Speaker 2 (35:58):
No, I usually will like unless I'm really comfortable. But
I would say, like, end it in a timely way
where you leave feeling like, whoa, we both had so
much fun. I can't wait to get a little bit more.
You want to be left wanting more. You want them
to be wanting more. They will be like, damn, they're
a good kisser. They had good breath. The whole damn time.
(36:20):
They smelled so fucking good that lotion, that fucking Brazilian
bumbum cream. I'm telling you.
Speaker 1 (36:27):
Yeah, no, yeah, it's intoxicating.
Speaker 2 (36:29):
Amazon it on Amazon.
Speaker 1 (36:33):
And shave your lower back. Shave your lower back. If
you're making out with them, do okay, shave your lower back.
Put the bumbum cream there, and I swear to God,
their hand will be there sometime and they'll be like,
oh my god, your back. Yeah, back is so soft.
I've had that before. And put on a little Shrek two.
(36:53):
Shrek two is the best movie to make out to
period dot com.
Speaker 2 (36:57):
You know, usually I would be like what, but I
did just see this guy who I think is so
cute and he was watching Shrek the Musical and he
was like cute.
Speaker 1 (37:08):
Oh now it's cute.
Speaker 2 (37:10):
Well only because you know, no, I mean, I whatever, questionable.
But like I would say, overall, going into dates are
kind of like anxiety and doucing. You're putting yourself on
the line in a lot of ways, like you're kind
of making yourself into a show pony. It's an interview.
It feels really weird. I think going into something knowing
(37:33):
what you offer, knowing what you're bringing to the table
really is important to lean into because sometimes there's just
it's just not there, and it will be mostly a
reflection on what's going on with them unless to do
about you. So as long as you have fun, as
long as you felt that everything that you did was
like your presentation was good. Just and above all else
(37:57):
have a good time. If you have a good time,
it'll show, the vibes will feel good. You'll inevitably get
out us out on another date for sure, for sure.
Speaker 1 (38:08):
And be yourself. Make shuld so big, you save, make
shure so.
Speaker 2 (38:19):
Yes, unless it's oversharing about.
Speaker 1 (38:23):
Unless it's oversharing about well certain, And you know, get
your rocks, get your rocks off if you want, kick
them all over the place, kick your bra live it up,
you know, like where where that underwear that's like you're like,
I'm wearing it, but they don't know, but only you know.
(38:55):
Welcome to the astrology portion of the podcast.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
Yay our fifty or one hundredth astrology.
Speaker 1 (39:03):
Yes, I have a lot to say, so by now
let's see. Okay, retrograde hasn't started yet. When this episode
drops retrograde, we're actually in the shadow period still there's
a shadow period before and after. There was a lunary
clipse on March twenty fifth. There's going to be a
(39:24):
solar eclipse on on's the solar eclipse.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
Like April something, right, April eight or something like that.
Speaker 1 (39:31):
Yes, there is a super eight. Yes, wow, there's a
we started sending there's a solar eclipse on April eighth,
and retrograde starts April first. So this is my advice
for everyone and anyone is slow down, slow down, Do
(39:52):
not make any impulsive decisions at all based on your emotions.
Make their calculated decisions that you've thought through. Do not
think twice before you talk to somebody, Like I would
definitely be mindful of conflict there. I feel like there's
(40:13):
gonna be a lot of uh, misinterpretations and miscommunications with things.
As always literally slow down your speech and think about
everything that is coming out of your mouth, like and
just breathe. You know what I'm saying, Yeah, because it's
gonna get a little It's already gotten chaotic for me.
(40:33):
Like I was driving the other day and it was
the first day of metro or metro grade of retrograde
shadow period. The wind was crazy, the cars on the
road were freaking crazy, Like everyone on the road was
like it was wild. And then my friend texted me
(40:53):
that like their ex texted them an apology. And then
something happened within my family where somebody got accepted into
this like wild ast program and let just like rocked everyone.
Like everything happened like so randomly and chaotically that day
that I was like I could cry about all of
these things that are happening. However, yeah, I'm going to
(41:17):
actually let it flow, let it flow, and let it
go float above it, as my mom says, she always
tells me to float above it. And as soon as
I hear that, I literally feel myself floating above it
because it's like we can't control everything, you know, and
as much as we want to. And I think there's
gonna be a lot of because I not only is
(41:37):
the sun in aries right now, but this eclipse one second,
I think there's something in Libra, which areas in Libra
are opposites, so and they they are like they rub
against each other, not in the good way. So that's
my little takeaway is to really and if you want
more information, there's this are one of our favorite astrologers,
(42:02):
Melissa stars on Instagram. There's also Channey, she has the
Channy app, and then there is Astra a s t
r A And there's also a bunch of information on
TikTok as well. And you can see where this solar
eclipse and the lunary clips and the retrograde is going
to affect your specific chart. For me, it's going to
be affecting my finances. So there's something about my finances
(42:26):
that I need to and and the thing with these
retrogrades and the eclipses and everything actually in the future
is that we get these little mini downloads that we
choose to either ignore and then they'll pop up later
and surprise us in a way we don't like, you know,
kind of like when we wait for the last minute
on something on a deadline. Whether it's like like for me,
(42:49):
it's my passport, like I need to I need to
get my passport together because I'm like, watch, there's gonna
be a trip where they're gonna be like, can you
fly out to London next week? And I'm gonna be like, fuck,
I don't have, Like I need to get my passport renewed.
Things like that where they kind of make you slow
down get the ship prepared beforehand so you're not surprised
later on. So yeah, you can look up on pretty
(43:13):
much TikTok or anywhere where this retrograde is going to
affect you, where the eclipses are going to affect you,
so you can get prepared and don't get scared because
sometimes it just is like a tiny little thing, and
sometimes it affects people differently. So that's my little download takeaway.
Speaker 2 (43:28):
So just try to stay positive, say a prayer to
whoever your higher power is, and buckle up, sweet angel.
It's going to be a bumpy rag. It already is
a bumpy ride. So just you're you know how to
do this already. You've if you're listening to this, you've
come so far already, you know how to do this.
Don't worry, You'll be fine. Just talk to the Lord, yeah.
Speaker 1 (43:49):
And talk to them and be like, hey, what's going
on with these things?
Speaker 2 (43:55):
Yeah? I have been talking out loud. I'm like, Lord
Jesus up in the sky.
Speaker 1 (44:02):
Let me get help in that conclusive astrology portion. Well,
maya do you plead do what feels comfortable on this date.
I'm so excited for you girl. Make sure you if
you need anyone to text or to like follow along
the date, please text us, please call us, beat us
(44:23):
if you want to reach us. And I think go
with your intuition. And I think at the end of
the day and at the end of the date, it
is about did you like them? Not did they like you.
There are a lot of things that I feel like
you could everyone can improve on with dates. Like, you know,
I feel like sometimes I definitely talk too much on dates,
(44:46):
and I could be mindful of that because you're trying
to get to know them and listen to them to
gain enough information. It's not about, like you know, it's
not an audition, even though sometimes feels like it. But
just be comfortable And the biggest thing is just to
be yourself because ultimately, like if you start this facade
(45:09):
that you'll you're like, if you do the whole like
mysterious thing too much, then it's something that you have
to kind of keep up with because if you're not
mysterious one day, then they're like, who is this? Like
I would just be consistent like the entire time and
just show up and show out. And you know, I
(45:30):
feel like you can be a little mysterious here and there.
But if it's like you're gonna be your whole thing,
then that's a whole personality change and I'm too lazy
for that, And I.
Speaker 2 (45:37):
Say be yourself, have fun. Remember though, that you're not
you know, this is the first time that you're meeting somebody,
So try to be ticket. Be cool about it, be
smooth about it, and not saying that to be fake.
But taket slow, you know, like think about things just
as a Virgo double scorpio who observes more of an observer.
(46:01):
Just observe and enjoy it, enjoy the day and have
a good giggle. Well, Maya, where can people find you
on social media?
Speaker 1 (46:07):
You can find me at my in the Moment, m
a ya in the moment, all over the internet. What
about you?
Speaker 2 (46:13):
You can find me at the Curly v Show, on
TikTok and Instagram. But I post a little bit more
on TikTok, So if you want to hang out with
me on TikTok, come hang with me there.
Speaker 1 (46:22):
Thank you so much again for listening to the last
episode of The Super Secret Vestie Club season two. We're
so excited to see you in season three. We have
a lot in store for season three. I feel like
it's going to I mean, every single season of this
podcast is always amazing, but we're excited to really kicking whoa.
(46:45):
We're excited to really kick it up in the next
season with a lot of little surprises and a lot
of like star studded guests.
Speaker 2 (46:53):
Yeah, we're so excited. We're actually going to be bringing
it hard and heavy with more guests and more fun
things to talk about. Thank you so much for supporting
and we love you and you are definitely a part
of our journey, So back by.
Speaker 1 (47:08):
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