October 9, 2024 • 35 mins
In this hilarious episode, your favorite hosts dive into the age-old question: What even is reality? Armed with pop culture references, questionable science, and way too much coffee, they explore the possibility that we're all living in a simulation—or maybe just a really vivid dream!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, Oh my god, where am I?
Speaker 2 (00:04):
You're in the ether of the Super Secret Bestie Club Podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
What is that like dial up?
Speaker 2 (00:14):
No, it's you're this is your new reality. Oh we're
stuck here forever Endev and dev.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Oh, actually that's not a bad idea.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
I like it here really. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
I like that little pink unicorn drinking cotton candy from
that river over there, and then over here there's like
a mermaid and oh you seem so nice?
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Can I sit here?
Speaker 2 (00:38):
They were booting you out of the system. Sorry, this
was a mistake. I just boot him out.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Get in here.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
My name is Curly and I'm Maya, and welcome to
the Super Secret Besty Cloud Podcast, a super secret club
where we talked about super scencare things.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Yeah, like secrets that are super That's what it is.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
In each episode we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets. Get in here.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Welcome to another episode of the Thing Bestie Club Podcasts
with your house Curly.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
But that's crazy, mariillio. Maya, how's your spirit?
Speaker 2 (01:37):
My spirit is good. I just fluffed my bangs, so
the bangs are banging.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Let's ask my magic apall if your bangs are in
fact training.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
I was done.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Go ahead, sorry, Maya's getting apell are Maya's bangs in
fact banging.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
You may rely on it.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Because that's what my reality.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
It's ban Let me get rid of it.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
What about you?
Speaker 3 (02:09):
My reality is pretty hectic but also super comedic. I
woke up two nights ago at three am to my
ninety pound people shitting all over the apartment. I think
I said this to you over our phone call that
I was like my others. It was like a Selena.
There was Gota everywhere moment, you know, life everywhere Selena,
(02:30):
there was got go everywhere you left. April in the shower,
fucking blew blew it up.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
And as he should. If I was blue, I would
blow it up every day and be like and give
me cuddles, bitch.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
I just don't understand how he literally ate one thing
and he gave me six days worth of like Trisarah tops, brontosaurs,
t rex, looking at it, sit.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
And sup your hand in it, and like test did
you test like in Jurassic Park.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Well, what's interesting is that when you're walking your dog
and you have like the little poop bags, you kind
of like put the poop bag around your hands, like
and you kind of like pick it up. But when
the dog shits on wooden floors, you kind of have
to get So I had to put like medicinal gloves on,
and his.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
DNA is forever ingrained in that wood and.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Like cup cup, this poop like one big, one big
chunk after another big chunk.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
So you know, I lost some sleep. That's my life.
I'm I'm a dad, I'm a single dad.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Probably for this episode and for every episode from now
you will hear updates on how tough it is to
just kind of be a single dad once.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Again, a single mom? Who are so hard? Who else
keiths no stuffs?
Speaker 1 (03:53):
But today's episode is on reality. What is reality?
Speaker 2 (04:00):
We have two chunks of information we would like to
input upload download to your guys's brains today, and it's
about how we view our reality. Is reality actually real?
And also like being delusional is not enough, we have
to be absolutely dumb. So take it away with what
(04:23):
is reality? Carly Well.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
Reality is an interesting thing because if you look it
up on the dictionary, it's defined as like a lot
of different ways. Like consciousness is also something that baffles scientists,
Like I heard somewhere that like, there's a lot of
things that scientists have figured out, right gravity, different laws
of physics. They are laws that have existed for years,
but consciousness continues to baffle people in terms of understanding
(04:47):
what it is that you are looking at in real time.
And one of the things that I found really interesting
that I watched recently is there's this amazing taed talk.
It's called Your Brain Hallucinates Your Conscious Reality. It's by
a neuroscientist named and Neil Seth, and he talks about
how like do you know how like sometimes you look
at an optical illusion and you'll see something and then
(05:08):
you're like, no, it's really this, and you're like, oh shit,
I didn't see that before.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
You need to see an elephant or a cat.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
And he uses an example of like using an audio
and he goes listen to it and you're and you
hear a noise like and then he's like, now listening
to it again, and he says, they slow it down
and it goes what I really really want and he goes,
now listen to the other sound again.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
It's like, that's bad.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
I don't listen to any audio that's sped up or
slowed down.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
I don't do you.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
Sound like my parents? So, you know, they start to
talk about like what really is consciousness? Like your brain
based off of different things that it's working with the
way that light hits something, what you already have in
your brain, you kind of create your own reality in
real time. You're hallucinating, right, And so one of the
things too that we were talking about is like optical
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illusions will fuck you up, and you know you can
use it in real life, like what is the brain
and what is the brain doing? And your brain determines reality?
But then you think about I was talking to Chantell
about this and she was like, well, what about jellyfish,
like who don't have brains? Like what the fuck is
their reality?
Speaker 1 (06:23):
So even when you.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
Go like the reality is determined by your brain and
by consciousness, I don't.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Believe that they don't have brains though, because how do
they know to like sting someone when they're in danger.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
So they have what they call like a decentralized nerve system,
and so they can still react to things, they can
still feel things, but they don't have brains necessarily, and
so then it kind of brings up the question in
terms of like what how are we learning from things?
It's a mixture of our nervous system and our brain
system that's fucked up.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
To basically call jellyfish that they have no brain right now,
and I've heard what you said about jellyfish. That's really
fucked up, and I would be telling their leader.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Yeah, it's like you know when it comes to jellyfish, algae,
other organisms in this world, like they don't.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Have the consciousness though.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Well there that that that kind of goes into like
how do you determine consciousness?
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Right? Like?
Speaker 3 (07:26):
Consciousness is like and what is considered the highest form
of consciousness? Because humans understand their consciousness as being the
highest form. But you could say like your dog is conscious.
You could say your cat is conscious. You could say
a little ants. You could say a plant is conscious
to some degree, like anything that has ever been alive
can be.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
And I think that kind of goes into like are
they sentient? You know?
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Can they sense like emotions? Like can they feel all
these things? Are they able to like perceive and feel things.
That goes into ai AI able to perceive things? I
mean technically they are, but can they feel it? Is
it a matter of like zeros and ones and coating
making them react and they think that they're reacting for real,
(08:11):
and is that not what The brain is just a
pish posh, a mixed mash of chemical reactions telling you
that you're sad.
Speaker 4 (08:26):
Ja uh yeah, what's happening in your reality right now?
Speaker 2 (08:38):
In my reality, I'm like, I mean, my rules in
my reality are like, everything has feeling, everything can feel,
everything has consciousness. Everything has a brain, not necessarily like
a brain that looks like ours, but is like knows
their purpose, especially natured knows their purpose and what they're
(09:01):
meant to do. And isn't that a form of like,
I mean, they have nerves, but at the beginning of
nerves is an E and what is neural is n E.
You are oh so is that not a part of
the brain then yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Yeah, yeah, yeah absolutely.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
But then it goes kind of harder, right, Like you
start to think in terms of our own realities when
we are in their relationships and we argue with people,
right like when you and I, for example, when we
get mad at each other, we believe that our own reality,
the way that we see the story, the way that
it happened, Like we are so rooted in that reality
that it's hard for us to see the other person's perspective, right,
(09:45):
And then you kind of go at it like, well,
what really happened?
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Like how do you begin?
Speaker 3 (09:51):
Like when I'm talking to my therapist and I'm like, oh,
I got into an argument with this person or my
ex boyfriend or whatever boyfriend I have, I try to
tell the story and the most neutral way that I
can tell it, because I'm like I in my reality,
I was.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
They taxed me, they tached me, they hit me, they
scratched my eyeball, and we actually do that. Well, I
felt it with like their emotions. I wanted to their words.
Did their words?
Speaker 1 (10:18):
For sure? Did?
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Yeah? That's that's wild. And I know it's made up
of our own traumas, our own concoction of feelings and
emotions and past and future and present. And like I
feel like I I feel like we're just watching different movies.
We're maybe on the same channel or on the same network,
(10:41):
but we're watching different movies.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Yeah. I always quote you when you say that.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
I'm always like Maya always says, like we are all
in our own movies. You know, we're all watching our
own thing. We're all there's a whole different soundtrack going on.
There's a whole you know, And it's true. We all
are we all live in our own reality.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Now.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
What this doctor also talks about too, is that he
says that, like, when all of us agree on a
set reality, that's what we call reality. So you and
I can look at the sky and everybody else kbot
in Mexico people listening right now, we can look at
the sky and we can say it's blue, therefore it
(11:38):
must be reality. But what gets weird is like, are
we all seeing the same color to begin with? How
do I know that? Like what you're really seeing is purple?
But in your world?
Speaker 2 (11:50):
And what if your color blind.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Seeing what reality exactly? And that's their reality? Like, so
what is real? You know?
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Like that's what my brain is like when things challenge
when people challenge me with that stuff, I'm like, I
will spiral into the abyss and be like, this is true?
Speaker 1 (12:16):
What is true?
Speaker 2 (12:18):
What is real?
Speaker 3 (12:19):
Well, because you were going into talking about something that
you saw on TikTok, which is kind of like a
little bit of a playoff of the de Lulu trend, which,
for those who don't know, it's like Delulu, you kind
of just believe it and it becomes reality, no matter
how far fetched.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
It might be.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Creative burnout, getting lost in your purpose in comparison.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
When will it end?
Speaker 2 (12:41):
So I saw this video from the Spiritual Cowboy on
TikTok and Instagram. They're so great at challenging these kind
of like ideas and coming from a very very spiritual place.
They do readings, they read cards and like all this
other stuff in astrology, and I really like their content
because they provide the information in a way that's like, hey, like,
(13:05):
are we kind of too smart? Are we too smart
for our creative endeavors? Like Spiritual Cowboys suggests, you cannot
be analytical when it comes to creativity. You have to
let it flow. And she was talking about this other
creator who just knows who they are and just makes content.
(13:25):
And there's something about just doing stuff from your own
authenticity and being a little dumb about it, shutting off
the world and the comparisons, and it's like, yes, this
is kind of like delusion.
Speaker 4 (13:41):
But she was.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
Saying as in, you get a thought, and I guess
it's kind of the same thing. But she said, reversing
your thought reversing your brain. So if I'm like, oh,
why am I gonna post this video? Nobody's gonna watch
it because I'm chubby, like challenge that and say, likely
everybody's gonna watch it because I'm not only beautiful and chubby,
(14:05):
but I'm also blah blah blah. What does that even mean?
Like challenging those thoughts, which is like delusion is like
I'm getting everything I want and everything, but you're not
really challenging those like inner conflict things, you know. I
think it's a combination of being delusional and being dumb,
which is also challenging your reality, because what are you
(14:26):
really saying. You're creating your reality by saying nobody is
gonna watch my videos because of X, Y and Z,
and that's just it, Like that is something you are creating.
Nobody else is creating it, and if you are truly
believing it, then that is your reality versus challenging it
and changing it and saying, actually, maybe you're coming from
(14:49):
a place of like I love doing this and I'm
just gonna do this because I want to do it
in my reality. Like I I'm constantly saying that's not
my reality. Like when people are like, oh my god,
like you know whatever, like the industry right now, I'm like, well,
that's not my reality. My reality is that and it's worked.
It's for sure it worked. We're using too much of
(15:11):
our brains, which leads to overthinking. And she said to
let that hoe rest. And I saw in the comments
it's like having childlike faith. So as we're talking about reality,
like what are some things in our lives that we
know one hundred percent we have created, we have manifested
that we cannot blame on anyone else but ourselves. And
(15:34):
we're not blaming. It's more so of like how can
we take responsibility for those things? You know, if it's
like who you're surrounding yourself with, what you're choosing to
talk about every day with those people, what you're choosing
to invest in, what energy you're choosing to invest in,
like and you feel like you can feel it at
(15:55):
the end of the day, you can feel it after
hanging out with someone, you know, Oh, that didn't feel
good because like we not like you're venting is fine,
but like, man, yeah, we definitely did some shit talking
and that had no like purpose other than just to
like talk about other people. You know, like that's definitely
something in high school that I felt like that was
(16:16):
the only purpose of the friend group was just to
like who do we not like today? Like who can
we be a mean girl about today? So that's the
little thing that I saw on TikTok. Her name is
the Spiritual Cowboy on TikTok. It was so insightful. Yeah,
and I think just be dumb.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Yeah, I think that's kind of like what that kind
of dips into a lot of different things, right, like
just creating your own reality, which sometimes kind of like
manifests itself in a different way entirely.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Right, Like this is going to sound really really really dumb.
Speaker 3 (16:54):
But for my whole life, like I always felt like
I wasn't attractive, right, Like I always was like I'm
not attractive. I don't And when I would gas myself up,
I'd look in the mirror and go like, okay, like
I am attractive. I would go out into the world,
and my reality was that people did not treat me
as I was an attractive gay man, right, And so
(17:14):
as I got older, I started to kind of like
manipulate the way that I looked kind of like pay
for different things like when I you know, I had
like a note shop like different things like get a
little bit of filler, and I feel like it manipulated
the way that I looked in a lot of ways,
which now when I go out, like I do get
a fair amount of male attention, which is really nice.
(17:37):
And I'm not saying that like I'm not saying that.
Oh I said it enough times. I woke up really
feeling me in a vault like that's not the thing,
because it was. I don't know how that happened. It
just kind of happened in its own way. But like
my reality at the time was that I didn't go out.
I didn't feel attractive when I went out, like nobody.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
You know. I always tell that story about how like.
Speaker 3 (18:02):
People would come up to me and bet Yuga and
Michael and offer them to buy them drinks, and then
they'd get to me and be.
Speaker 1 (18:08):
Like, it's a sunny day in la isn't it.
Speaker 3 (18:12):
And I'd be like, well, I don't drink, but I'd
still like a soda, you know, or at least offered
to soda. But it's another It's an interesting thing because
I do feel like in one side too, you know,
the talk of manifestation and creating our own reality kind
of becomes like a thing of like privilege sometimes, right
Like I was talking to somebody the other day and
(18:33):
they were like, Yeah, that's so crazy that we get
to sit in la and be like I'm going to
manifest this, you know, and other people's realities are like
someone's dying or someone or they have an illness or
they're doing all these things, and so it kind of
goes into like even deeper, right like where you start
to think, what is like my aunt just passed away,
(18:57):
somebody that I like truly just loved and adored, somebody
that is like she was a Leo, an absolute Leo,
like just a ray of light like in all in
all the ways that you could think of that, and
to think that she's not here in this form, and
my reality is that she's not here in this form.
(19:19):
Where is she? And what's real? And is she in
a better reality? And what does that mean? And what
is death? And what is life? And what is beauty?
And all these things? Like you start to kind of
question all everything, you know, Like you live long enough,
you do things. Let's I always give the example, like
(19:41):
you go and you take a shit in five pm
traffic in LA and middle of the freeway and everybody,
you're on the five o'clock news. But you will inevitably die,
We will all die. That will be forgotten. People won't
There might be a record.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
Of I will make sure people don't forget that you shoit. Ever,
one will never let you forget. You can you can?
Speaker 3 (20:04):
You can? Yes, I will never let anybody, never let
anyone forget any shit. But just kind of like even that, right,
like what is the reality like this human life has
not existed on earth as long as the earth has
been alive, like there really is, And so to your point,
why not be de lulu about it? Why not be
kind of dumb about it?
Speaker 2 (20:25):
Why not be like, well, it's the thing of like
you know, with your when there's death in the family,
or when you know somebody passes away, or when something
really tragic happens, or when something it's like we get
to create how we feel about it because it's we're
our own survival system, you know. So if it makes
you feel better to think of you know whoever it
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is as yes, they're peaceful, like who who gets to
challenge that? Like other than you? Like you're you're the
one operating your life. And and that's why when it
comes to like I don't know, I don't want to
get to like religion, religion, but when they're like God
is or you have to repent for your sins or
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you know, your sinner and Jesus and all this stuff,
and I'm like, would God or Jesus want to make
me feel like I've done something wrong? Like would make
me feel like I'm such a sinner that I have
to like dedicate my entire life. I feel like I
am dedicating my entire life by like or honoring them
and whatever it is, by living a fruitful life with
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the gifts that they gave me. Like that's my reality,
is to really create something to where I feel proud
and like you know what I'm saying. It's like it's
those kind of things where it's like I think that's
where we get lost with like in other people's input
or how we should feel, how we should view our lives.
(21:54):
And you know, that's where it gets a little bit like, yeah,
we need to be dumb, need to be done, We
need to be delusional about it because the alternative is
we feel like shit because we're not. We're not. We're
we feel like we're behind because we should have a house,
we should like have you know, kids by now, we
(22:15):
should have whatever, And who is deciding that for us society?
That's based on the patriarchy, capitalism, misogyny, all this shit,
and I just don't want to subscribe to that. So, like,
is my reality that I'm single and I'm living in
LA and I'm I don't have any kids, I'm thirty
one years old, like I'm a size sixteen, you know,
(22:40):
I like, who the fuck cares?
Speaker 3 (22:43):
Yeah, who the fuck cares? Yeah? I do love the
idea of like, no, in my reality, it's this and
(23:04):
my reality like I am beautiful. And by the way,
the guy who didn't want to get us a drink
that one day, or didn't want to get me a
drink that one day, hideous.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
Man rejection is protection.
Speaker 3 (23:15):
By the way, I need to also, like next, now
that I told that story, I have to also keep
in mind that this was like an old white man
that was like crusty as fuck trying to like totally
objectify me and my two other Latino queer friends.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
But you're right, I think that there is a thing
of like on.
Speaker 3 (23:34):
One end, you could be dumb and delulu and not
kind of give a fuck and kind of just go
with the flow. And on the other end, where you
can consider all the different quotes, facts and realities and
all these different things, and it might still leave you
feeling dumb and delulu anyway, So you might as well
just like play it up and have a lot of
fun inside of the world where you get to create
(23:54):
your own reality. I think that when it comes to
certain life events, you know, like like I said before,
money stuff, death stuff, things like that, like it's hard
to stay in that space for.
Speaker 2 (24:08):
Sure, for sure, absolutely, because it's it is something bigger
than us. It's something that are the rules of this plane,
are the rules of this like uh dimension of this
earth that we can't bypass, Like we were not that
power and we are very powerful, but when this shit happens,
(24:29):
it's like we have no choice but to you know,
react how we react to it.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
But the other thing too, is like you just said,
like the rules right, Like the rules are always changing, right,
Like even when you go somebody, it's your brain doing
these things. You find out the fucking jellyfishes don't have
brains and you're like, wait, do the same rules apply
to the jellyfish as they are to me, because.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
Jellyfish real, they don't have any brains.
Speaker 1 (24:54):
Oh my god, sidebar.
Speaker 3 (24:55):
I just saw this TikTok of these rats that we're
learning how to drive. But did you see that? They
were like their owners are like they give them treats
and they showed them how to drive. And there's one
little rat. She's so cute. She knows how to like
back up, she knows how to hit it reverse, she
knows k said.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
Rats are so smart. Yeah. Absolutely, I'm like, are they
also like us?
Speaker 3 (25:17):
Are they gonna think things like this homegirl rat low
home rat girl Like she was like, I'm gonna make
a lust. She made a lush. She's like, I'm gonna
make a right. She knew how to like navigate. The
boy they were saying, he he just likes the bulldoz
and shit, he's just like fuck it up and he
just dragged.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
Ratituy Remy the ratituey Remy the rat. He oh Ko said.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
Scientists have proven that rats can create friendships well.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Absolutely also have friends. By the way, rats back to
the most famous rat of ours generation century, Remy from
Ratituey befriended a lonely boy and used manipulated him, if
you will, his own reality into making it look like
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he can cook. And you know, anyone can cook. At
the end of the day, he wrote his own cookbook too.
He had made his own restaurant. So yeah, rats are rats.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
Are helpful to the delulu of it all? Yes, what
was I gonna say to you about the Oh? But
yeah I did want to say too, like, yeah, with
rats and cows and all these things, all these different
animals that can feel rather a two, we can write
a cookbook like all these people, like I mean, all
these animals.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
That is the manager of a five star restaurant in Paris.
I saw him. I saw him one time.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
Just remember.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
Welcome to the Zone the section of the podcast which
signs are just constantly in their own reality, and like
which signs are good at playing dumb? Like which signs
are just kind of good at. I think the number
one person, the number one sign Aquarius, Aquarius are always
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they're on a different planet. They're having so much fun.
I have two little nephews who are Aquarius's QUERYI, and
they are just in their own world. They're in their
own world and we just follow suit, you know. I
know they're like little aliens, little beings from another planet
(27:42):
who just happened to happen to be humans, And I
will follow anything that they say. Now, my ex boyfriend
who's an Aquarius, fuck you.
Speaker 3 (27:54):
And to my ex boyfriend who's an Aquarius. My dad's
an Aquarius. One of my good, good soul friends is
an Aquarius.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
My grandpa was an Aquarius.
Speaker 1 (28:03):
I love them so much.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
I don't I do think that they do live in
their own reality, but I like the reality.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
They're always like fuck it up, keep going.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
And they're always like fuck the system. They're always challenging, Yeah,
the realities, and they're challenging everything constantly all the time.
And I think it's we need them in this world.
I think another I think Virgos are in their own realities. Capricorns.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
I think Earth signs, Earth signs are in I feel like,
in a very grounded reality. To be honest, we can
kind of be a little bit of like realists and pessimists.
Speaker 1 (28:45):
Sometimes. I feel like.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
Virgos can be a little lighter because we're considered the
air sign of the of the Earth signs. But so
we can be a little like DTT, sometimes in a
fun way. But I do find that earth signs are
a little like I feel like fire signs are great
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at living in their own realities too, Like everything to
me earth science means like what do you mean it?
Speaker 1 (29:16):
To know? Not in my world? You know what I mean?
Like like my Grandma's like, what do you mean my thea?
Speaker 3 (29:23):
What do you mean? All these leos that I knew,
they're very like, no, no, you don't mean me. Oh,
those rules don't apply to me.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
My dad is a leo, my brother's a leo, and
very much so where you're like, what are you talking
about now? No, I'm just not Yeah, I'm not gonna
do it. That doesn't apply to me.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
The rules don't apply to them.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Yeah, okay, no, yeah, my mad.
Speaker 3 (29:47):
Yeah, Like, oh you didn't mean me versus me. I
think every rule applies to me. And I'm like, oh shit,
I can't jay walk because then I might get somebody
in trouble, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (29:54):
Like, Yeah, I feel like I have too much equal
parts of water and fire in my chart, and I
think I can. I'm in two different realities constantly, but
never in the one that I need to be in
you know.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
You know, you know what I also wish to sidebar.
Speaker 3 (30:10):
I wish that there was more talk about the signs
that raised you and how that informs how you are too,
because like I'm a Virgo, but I was surrounded by
a lot of fire, you know what I mean? Like
most people in my life were like fire signs and
a little bit of earth sprinkled in. But most of
the people that I was raised with are like earth.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
And fire really yeah, hot, hot, dry heat.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Yes, my parents are both fire signs. So my dad's
in August Virgo or well August Leo August first. My
mom is December December tenth Sagittarius, and my grandma Capricorn,
other grandma cancer, grandpa Aquarius, and the other grandpa non existent.
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So a lot of fire and earth but mostly just
fire fire.
Speaker 1 (31:11):
It sounds like global warming.
Speaker 2 (31:13):
Absolutely did we cause it?
Speaker 1 (31:16):
Maybe? Who? I feel like?
Speaker 3 (31:19):
My favorite though, would have to say, like, I like
the Pisces reality. Every time I go to a Pisce's,
cancers give it to me a little too hard. I
feel like they're like, this is the reality Pisces. I
feel like are like they're in the dream with you.
I had this one thing where I was like going
through it about a certain thing and I was like,
I don't know, it feels like it was all fake.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
It feels like a lie. And my Pisces Bessie was like, no,
it was real.
Speaker 3 (31:46):
I was there, like I witnessed it, so yeah, and
you're like it was real thing you Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
And pieces are very very psychic, and so they're able
to dip into other people's realities as well and kind
of see that's why they get lost sometimes because my
Rising pieces, my Mercury's Pisces, so like you know, Pisces
placements get lost in the sauce because they're kind of
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sometimes outwardly experiencing other people's emotions when they should be.
It's like the whole I'm an inpath thing, but it's
like girl like it'sic toxic sometimes.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
Yeah, you know, they're like they're like the rats of
the zodiac.
Speaker 2 (32:29):
They're like the rats of the zodiac exactly.
Speaker 3 (32:32):
Yeah, they're like really smart rats that can go in
reverse flip it and reverse it. And that concludes the
Zodiac section.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
How do you plead?
Speaker 2 (32:45):
What is reality? Are you? Where are we? Who cares?
I like we I think we need to listen to
ourselves more. I think we need to stop gaslighting ourselves.
And it's great to have self awareness and how you
are making others feel. But at a certain point, you know,
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some of these people don't give a fuck, So give
a little, give a little less.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Of a fuck.
Speaker 3 (33:13):
Yeah, because I think that I think the takeaway from
all this should be that it doesn't matter. The matters
for real, everything, all, everything, everywhere, all at once, like
it doesn't nothing really, mads Lepe is a we need
look the real. The reality is the moment that you
have found yourself in right now, smells around you, the
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things that you're looking at, the people that love you,
the things that you love, and that's all you have
is the moment.
Speaker 1 (33:43):
And then when that moment's.
Speaker 3 (33:44):
Gone, you cheat on it with the next moment until
you have no other moments left over, and then you die.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
Thank you so much for listening to the Super Secret
Best in Club podcast, Curly. How can people find you
on social media?
Speaker 1 (34:00):
You could find my dark ass?
Speaker 3 (34:04):
I mean, why would I say that, like you, you
could find my I wanted to say, like my, it's
not dirty.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
Like wash your ass, dark death, heavy.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
Gothic ass, you're very gothic, very very gothic.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
I'm so goth.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
On The Curly Show, Double Scorpio, Hello, we've been talking
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Speaker 3 (34:27):
Love scorpios. I haven't think that's say about scorpios. I
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Hello, Oh my god, where am I?
Speaker 2 (00:04):
You're in the ether of the Super Secret Bestie Club Podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
What is that like dial up?
Speaker 2 (00:14):
No, it's you're this is your new reality. Oh we're
stuck here forever Endev and dev.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Oh, actually that's not a bad idea.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
I like it here really. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
I like that little pink unicorn drinking cotton candy from
that river over there, and then over here there's like
a mermaid and oh you seem so nice?
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Can I sit here?
Speaker 2 (00:38):
They were booting you out of the system. Sorry, this
was a mistake. I just boot him out.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Get in here.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
My name is Curly and I'm Maya, and welcome to
the Super Secret Besty Cloud Podcast, a super secret club
where we talked about super scencare things.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Yeah, like secrets that are super That's what it is.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
In each episode we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets. Get in here.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Welcome to another episode of the Thing Bestie Club Podcasts
with your house Curly.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
But that's crazy, mariillio. Maya, how's your spirit?
Speaker 2 (01:37):
My spirit is good. I just fluffed my bangs, so
the bangs are banging.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Let's ask my magic apall if your bangs are in
fact training.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
I was done.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Go ahead, sorry, Maya's getting apell are Maya's bangs in
fact banging.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
You may rely on it.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Because that's what my reality.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
It's ban Let me get rid of it.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
What about you?
Speaker 3 (02:09):
My reality is pretty hectic but also super comedic. I
woke up two nights ago at three am to my
ninety pound people shitting all over the apartment. I think
I said this to you over our phone call that
I was like my others. It was like a Selena.
There was Gota everywhere moment, you know, life everywhere Selena,
(02:30):
there was got go everywhere you left. April in the shower,
fucking blew blew it up.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
And as he should. If I was blue, I would
blow it up every day and be like and give
me cuddles, bitch.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
I just don't understand how he literally ate one thing
and he gave me six days worth of like Trisarah tops, brontosaurs,
t rex, looking at it, sit.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
And sup your hand in it, and like test did
you test like in Jurassic Park.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Well, what's interesting is that when you're walking your dog
and you have like the little poop bags, you kind
of like put the poop bag around your hands, like
and you kind of like pick it up. But when
the dog shits on wooden floors, you kind of have
to get So I had to put like medicinal gloves on,
and his.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
DNA is forever ingrained in that wood and.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Like cup cup, this poop like one big, one big
chunk after another big chunk.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
So you know, I lost some sleep. That's my life.
I'm I'm a dad, I'm a single dad.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Probably for this episode and for every episode from now
you will hear updates on how tough it is to
just kind of be a single dad once.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Again, a single mom? Who are so hard? Who else
keiths no stuffs?
Speaker 1 (03:53):
But today's episode is on reality. What is reality?
Speaker 2 (04:00):
We have two chunks of information we would like to
input upload download to your guys's brains today, and it's
about how we view our reality. Is reality actually real?
And also like being delusional is not enough, we have
to be absolutely dumb. So take it away with what
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is reality? Carly Well.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
Reality is an interesting thing because if you look it
up on the dictionary, it's defined as like a lot
of different ways. Like consciousness is also something that baffles scientists,
Like I heard somewhere that like, there's a lot of
things that scientists have figured out, right gravity, different laws
of physics. They are laws that have existed for years,
but consciousness continues to baffle people in terms of understanding
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what it is that you are looking at in real time.
And one of the things that I found really interesting
that I watched recently is there's this amazing taed talk.
It's called Your Brain Hallucinates Your Conscious Reality. It's by
a neuroscientist named and Neil Seth, and he talks about
how like do you know how like sometimes you look
at an optical illusion and you'll see something and then
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you're like, no, it's really this, and you're like, oh shit,
I didn't see that before.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
You need to see an elephant or a cat.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
And he uses an example of like using an audio
and he goes listen to it and you're and you
hear a noise like and then he's like, now listening
to it again, and he says, they slow it down
and it goes what I really really want and he goes,
now listen to the other sound again.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
It's like, that's bad.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
I don't listen to any audio that's sped up or
slowed down.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
I don't do you.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
Sound like my parents? So, you know, they start to
talk about like what really is consciousness? Like your brain
based off of different things that it's working with the
way that light hits something, what you already have in
your brain, you kind of create your own reality in
real time. You're hallucinating, right, And so one of the
things too that we were talking about is like optical
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illusions will fuck you up, and you know you can
use it in real life, like what is the brain
and what is the brain doing? And your brain determines reality?
But then you think about I was talking to Chantell
about this and she was like, well, what about jellyfish,
like who don't have brains? Like what the fuck is
their reality?
Speaker 1 (06:23):
So even when you.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
Go like the reality is determined by your brain and
by consciousness, I don't.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Believe that they don't have brains though, because how do
they know to like sting someone when they're in danger.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
So they have what they call like a decentralized nerve system,
and so they can still react to things, they can
still feel things, but they don't have brains necessarily, and
so then it kind of brings up the question in
terms of like what how are we learning from things?
It's a mixture of our nervous system and our brain
system that's fucked up.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
To basically call jellyfish that they have no brain right now,
and I've heard what you said about jellyfish. That's really
fucked up, and I would be telling their leader.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Yeah, it's like you know when it comes to jellyfish, algae,
other organisms in this world, like they don't.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Have the consciousness though.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Well there that that that kind of goes into like
how do you determine consciousness?
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Right? Like?
Speaker 3 (07:26):
Consciousness is like and what is considered the highest form
of consciousness? Because humans understand their consciousness as being the
highest form. But you could say like your dog is conscious.
You could say your cat is conscious. You could say
a little ants. You could say a plant is conscious
to some degree, like anything that has ever been alive
can be.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
And I think that kind of goes into like are
they sentient? You know?
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Can they sense like emotions? Like can they feel all
these things? Are they able to like perceive and feel things.
That goes into ai AI able to perceive things? I
mean technically they are, but can they feel it? Is
it a matter of like zeros and ones and coating
making them react and they think that they're reacting for real,
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and is that not what The brain is just a
pish posh, a mixed mash of chemical reactions telling you
that you're sad.
Speaker 4 (08:26):
Ja uh yeah, what's happening in your reality right now?
Speaker 2 (08:38):
In my reality, I'm like, I mean, my rules in
my reality are like, everything has feeling, everything can feel,
everything has consciousness. Everything has a brain, not necessarily like
a brain that looks like ours, but is like knows
their purpose, especially natured knows their purpose and what they're
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meant to do. And isn't that a form of like,
I mean, they have nerves, but at the beginning of
nerves is an E and what is neural is n E.
You are oh so is that not a part of
the brain then yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Yeah, yeah, yeah absolutely.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
But then it goes kind of harder, right, Like you
start to think in terms of our own realities when
we are in their relationships and we argue with people,
right like when you and I, for example, when we
get mad at each other, we believe that our own reality,
the way that we see the story, the way that
it happened, Like we are so rooted in that reality
that it's hard for us to see the other person's perspective, right,
(09:45):
And then you kind of go at it like, well,
what really happened?
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Like how do you begin?
Speaker 3 (09:51):
Like when I'm talking to my therapist and I'm like, oh,
I got into an argument with this person or my
ex boyfriend or whatever boyfriend I have, I try to
tell the story and the most neutral way that I
can tell it, because I'm like I in my reality,
I was.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
They taxed me, they tached me, they hit me, they
scratched my eyeball, and we actually do that. Well, I
felt it with like their emotions. I wanted to their words.
Did their words?
Speaker 1 (10:18):
For sure? Did?
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Yeah? That's that's wild. And I know it's made up
of our own traumas, our own concoction of feelings and
emotions and past and future and present. And like I
feel like I I feel like we're just watching different movies.
We're maybe on the same channel or on the same network,
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but we're watching different movies.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Yeah. I always quote you when you say that.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
I'm always like Maya always says, like we are all
in our own movies. You know, we're all watching our
own thing. We're all there's a whole different soundtrack going on.
There's a whole you know, And it's true. We all
are we all live in our own reality.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Now.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
What this doctor also talks about too, is that he
says that, like, when all of us agree on a
set reality, that's what we call reality. So you and
I can look at the sky and everybody else kbot
in Mexico people listening right now, we can look at
the sky and we can say it's blue, therefore it
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must be reality. But what gets weird is like, are
we all seeing the same color to begin with? How
do I know that? Like what you're really seeing is purple?
But in your world?
Speaker 2 (11:50):
And what if your color blind.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Seeing what reality exactly? And that's their reality? Like, so
what is real? You know?
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Like that's what my brain is like when things challenge
when people challenge me with that stuff, I'm like, I
will spiral into the abyss and be like, this is true?
Speaker 1 (12:16):
What is true?
Speaker 2 (12:18):
What is real?
Speaker 3 (12:19):
Well, because you were going into talking about something that
you saw on TikTok, which is kind of like a
little bit of a playoff of the de Lulu trend, which,
for those who don't know, it's like Delulu, you kind
of just believe it and it becomes reality, no matter
how far fetched.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
It might be.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Creative burnout, getting lost in your purpose in comparison.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
When will it end?
Speaker 2 (12:41):
So I saw this video from the Spiritual Cowboy on
TikTok and Instagram. They're so great at challenging these kind
of like ideas and coming from a very very spiritual place.
They do readings, they read cards and like all this
other stuff in astrology, and I really like their content
because they provide the information in a way that's like, hey, like,
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are we kind of too smart? Are we too smart
for our creative endeavors? Like Spiritual Cowboys suggests, you cannot
be analytical when it comes to creativity. You have to
let it flow. And she was talking about this other
creator who just knows who they are and just makes content.
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And there's something about just doing stuff from your own
authenticity and being a little dumb about it, shutting off
the world and the comparisons, and it's like, yes, this
is kind of like delusion.
Speaker 4 (13:41):
But she was.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
Saying as in, you get a thought, and I guess
it's kind of the same thing. But she said, reversing
your thought reversing your brain. So if I'm like, oh,
why am I gonna post this video? Nobody's gonna watch
it because I'm chubby, like challenge that and say, likely
everybody's gonna watch it because I'm not only beautiful and chubby,
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but I'm also blah blah blah. What does that even mean?
Like challenging those thoughts, which is like delusion is like
I'm getting everything I want and everything, but you're not
really challenging those like inner conflict things, you know. I
think it's a combination of being delusional and being dumb,
which is also challenging your reality, because what are you
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really saying. You're creating your reality by saying nobody is
gonna watch my videos because of X, Y and Z,
and that's just it, Like that is something you are creating.
Nobody else is creating it, and if you are truly
believing it, then that is your reality versus challenging it
and changing it and saying, actually, maybe you're coming from
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a place of like I love doing this and I'm
just gonna do this because I want to do it
in my reality. Like I I'm constantly saying that's not
my reality. Like when people are like, oh my god,
like you know whatever, like the industry right now, I'm like, well,
that's not my reality. My reality is that and it's worked.
It's for sure it worked. We're using too much of
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our brains, which leads to overthinking. And she said to
let that hoe rest. And I saw in the comments
it's like having childlike faith. So as we're talking about reality,
like what are some things in our lives that we
know one hundred percent we have created, we have manifested
that we cannot blame on anyone else but ourselves. And
(15:34):
we're not blaming. It's more so of like how can
we take responsibility for those things? You know, if it's
like who you're surrounding yourself with, what you're choosing to
talk about every day with those people, what you're choosing
to invest in, what energy you're choosing to invest in,
like and you feel like you can feel it at
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the end of the day, you can feel it after
hanging out with someone, you know, Oh, that didn't feel
good because like we not like you're venting is fine,
but like, man, yeah, we definitely did some shit talking
and that had no like purpose other than just to
like talk about other people. You know, like that's definitely
something in high school that I felt like that was
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the only purpose of the friend group was just to
like who do we not like today? Like who can
we be a mean girl about today? So that's the
little thing that I saw on TikTok. Her name is
the Spiritual Cowboy on TikTok. It was so insightful. Yeah,
and I think just be dumb.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Yeah, I think that's kind of like what that kind
of dips into a lot of different things, right, like
just creating your own reality, which sometimes kind of like
manifests itself in a different way entirely.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Right, Like this is going to sound really really really dumb.
Speaker 3 (16:54):
But for my whole life, like I always felt like
I wasn't attractive, right, Like I always was like I'm
not attractive. I don't And when I would gas myself up,
I'd look in the mirror and go like, okay, like
I am attractive. I would go out into the world,
and my reality was that people did not treat me
as I was an attractive gay man, right, And so
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as I got older, I started to kind of like
manipulate the way that I looked kind of like pay
for different things like when I you know, I had
like a note shop like different things like get a
little bit of filler, and I feel like it manipulated
the way that I looked in a lot of ways,
which now when I go out, like I do get
a fair amount of male attention, which is really nice.
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And I'm not saying that like I'm not saying that.
Oh I said it enough times. I woke up really
feeling me in a vault like that's not the thing,
because it was. I don't know how that happened. It
just kind of happened in its own way. But like
my reality at the time was that I didn't go out.
I didn't feel attractive when I went out, like nobody.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
You know. I always tell that story about how like.
Speaker 3 (18:02):
People would come up to me and bet Yuga and
Michael and offer them to buy them drinks, and then
they'd get to me and be.
Speaker 1 (18:08):
Like, it's a sunny day in la isn't it.
Speaker 3 (18:12):
And I'd be like, well, I don't drink, but I'd
still like a soda, you know, or at least offered
to soda. But it's another It's an interesting thing because
I do feel like in one side too, you know,
the talk of manifestation and creating our own reality kind
of becomes like a thing of like privilege sometimes, right
Like I was talking to somebody the other day and
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they were like, Yeah, that's so crazy that we get
to sit in la and be like I'm going to
manifest this, you know, and other people's realities are like
someone's dying or someone or they have an illness or
they're doing all these things, and so it kind of
goes into like even deeper, right like where you start
to think, what is like my aunt just passed away,
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somebody that I like truly just loved and adored, somebody
that is like she was a Leo, an absolute Leo,
like just a ray of light like in all in
all the ways that you could think of that, and
to think that she's not here in this form, and
my reality is that she's not here in this form.
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Where is she? And what's real? And is she in
a better reality? And what does that mean? And what
is death? And what is life? And what is beauty?
And all these things? Like you start to kind of
question all everything, you know, Like you live long enough,
you do things. Let's I always give the example, like
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you go and you take a shit in five pm
traffic in LA and middle of the freeway and everybody,
you're on the five o'clock news. But you will inevitably die,
We will all die. That will be forgotten. People won't
There might be a record.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
Of I will make sure people don't forget that you shoit. Ever,
one will never let you forget. You can you can?
Speaker 3 (20:04):
You can? Yes, I will never let anybody, never let
anyone forget any shit. But just kind of like even that, right,
like what is the reality like this human life has
not existed on earth as long as the earth has
been alive, like there really is, And so to your point,
why not be de lulu about it? Why not be
kind of dumb about it?
Speaker 2 (20:25):
Why not be like, well, it's the thing of like
you know, with your when there's death in the family,
or when you know somebody passes away, or when something
really tragic happens, or when something it's like we get
to create how we feel about it because it's we're
our own survival system, you know. So if it makes
you feel better to think of you know whoever it
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is as yes, they're peaceful, like who who gets to
challenge that? Like other than you? Like you're you're the
one operating your life. And and that's why when it
comes to like I don't know, I don't want to
get to like religion, religion, but when they're like God
is or you have to repent for your sins or
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you know, your sinner and Jesus and all this stuff,
and I'm like, would God or Jesus want to make
me feel like I've done something wrong? Like would make
me feel like I'm such a sinner that I have
to like dedicate my entire life. I feel like I
am dedicating my entire life by like or honoring them
and whatever it is, by living a fruitful life with
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the gifts that they gave me. Like that's my reality,
is to really create something to where I feel proud
and like you know what I'm saying. It's like it's
those kind of things where it's like I think that's
where we get lost with like in other people's input
or how we should feel, how we should view our lives.
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And you know, that's where it gets a little bit like, yeah,
we need to be dumb, need to be done, We
need to be delusional about it because the alternative is
we feel like shit because we're not. We're not. We're
we feel like we're behind because we should have a house,
we should like have you know, kids by now, we
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should have whatever, And who is deciding that for us society?
That's based on the patriarchy, capitalism, misogyny, all this shit,
and I just don't want to subscribe to that. So, like,
is my reality that I'm single and I'm living in
LA and I'm I don't have any kids, I'm thirty
one years old, like I'm a size sixteen, you know,
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I like, who the fuck cares?
Speaker 3 (22:43):
Yeah, who the fuck cares? Yeah? I do love the
idea of like, no, in my reality, it's this and
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my reality like I am beautiful. And by the way,
the guy who didn't want to get us a drink
that one day, or didn't want to get me a
drink that one day, hideous.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
Man rejection is protection.
Speaker 3 (23:15):
By the way, I need to also, like next, now
that I told that story, I have to also keep
in mind that this was like an old white man
that was like crusty as fuck trying to like totally
objectify me and my two other Latino queer friends.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
But you're right, I think that there is a thing
of like on.
Speaker 3 (23:34):
One end, you could be dumb and delulu and not
kind of give a fuck and kind of just go
with the flow. And on the other end, where you
can consider all the different quotes, facts and realities and
all these different things, and it might still leave you
feeling dumb and delulu anyway, So you might as well
just like play it up and have a lot of
fun inside of the world where you get to create
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your own reality. I think that when it comes to
certain life events, you know, like like I said before,
money stuff, death stuff, things like that, like it's hard
to stay in that space for.
Speaker 2 (24:08):
Sure, for sure, absolutely, because it's it is something bigger
than us. It's something that are the rules of this plane,
are the rules of this like uh dimension of this
earth that we can't bypass, Like we were not that
power and we are very powerful, but when this shit happens,
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it's like we have no choice but to you know,
react how we react to it.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
But the other thing too, is like you just said,
like the rules right, Like the rules are always changing, right,
Like even when you go somebody, it's your brain doing
these things. You find out the fucking jellyfishes don't have
brains and you're like, wait, do the same rules apply
to the jellyfish as they are to me, because.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
Jellyfish real, they don't have any brains.
Speaker 1 (24:54):
Oh my god, sidebar.
Speaker 3 (24:55):
I just saw this TikTok of these rats that we're
learning how to drive. But did you see that? They
were like their owners are like they give them treats
and they showed them how to drive. And there's one
little rat. She's so cute. She knows how to like
back up, she knows how to hit it reverse, she
knows k said.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
Rats are so smart. Yeah. Absolutely, I'm like, are they
also like us?
Speaker 3 (25:17):
Are they gonna think things like this homegirl rat low
home rat girl Like she was like, I'm gonna make
a lust. She made a lush. She's like, I'm gonna
make a right. She knew how to like navigate. The
boy they were saying, he he just likes the bulldoz
and shit, he's just like fuck it up and he
just dragged.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
Ratituy Remy the ratituey Remy the rat. He oh Ko said.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
Scientists have proven that rats can create friendships well.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Absolutely also have friends. By the way, rats back to
the most famous rat of ours generation century, Remy from
Ratituey befriended a lonely boy and used manipulated him, if
you will, his own reality into making it look like
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he can cook. And you know, anyone can cook. At
the end of the day, he wrote his own cookbook too.
He had made his own restaurant. So yeah, rats are rats.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
Are helpful to the delulu of it all? Yes, what
was I gonna say to you about the Oh? But
yeah I did want to say too, like, yeah, with
rats and cows and all these things, all these different
animals that can feel rather a two, we can write
a cookbook like all these people, like I mean, all
these animals.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
That is the manager of a five star restaurant in Paris.
I saw him. I saw him one time.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
Just remember.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
Welcome to the Zone the section of the podcast which
signs are just constantly in their own reality, and like
which signs are good at playing dumb? Like which signs
are just kind of good at. I think the number
one person, the number one sign Aquarius, Aquarius are always
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they're on a different planet. They're having so much fun.
I have two little nephews who are Aquarius's QUERYI, and
they are just in their own world. They're in their
own world and we just follow suit, you know. I
know they're like little aliens, little beings from another planet
(27:42):
who just happened to happen to be humans, And I
will follow anything that they say. Now, my ex boyfriend
who's an Aquarius, fuck you.
Speaker 3 (27:54):
And to my ex boyfriend who's an Aquarius. My dad's
an Aquarius. One of my good, good soul friends is
an Aquarius.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
My grandpa was an Aquarius.
Speaker 1 (28:03):
I love them so much.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
I don't I do think that they do live in
their own reality, but I like the reality.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
They're always like fuck it up, keep going.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
And they're always like fuck the system. They're always challenging, Yeah,
the realities, and they're challenging everything constantly all the time.
And I think it's we need them in this world.
I think another I think Virgos are in their own realities. Capricorns.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
I think Earth signs, Earth signs are in I feel like,
in a very grounded reality. To be honest, we can
kind of be a little bit of like realists and pessimists.
Speaker 1 (28:45):
Sometimes. I feel like.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
Virgos can be a little lighter because we're considered the
air sign of the of the Earth signs. But so
we can be a little like DTT, sometimes in a
fun way. But I do find that earth signs are
a little like I feel like fire signs are great
(29:10):
at living in their own realities too, Like everything to
me earth science means like what do you mean it?
Speaker 1 (29:16):
To know? Not in my world? You know what I mean?
Like like my Grandma's like, what do you mean my thea?
Speaker 3 (29:23):
What do you mean? All these leos that I knew,
they're very like, no, no, you don't mean me. Oh,
those rules don't apply to me.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
My dad is a leo, my brother's a leo, and
very much so where you're like, what are you talking
about now? No, I'm just not Yeah, I'm not gonna
do it. That doesn't apply to me.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
The rules don't apply to them.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Yeah, okay, no, yeah, my mad.
Speaker 3 (29:47):
Yeah, Like, oh you didn't mean me versus me. I
think every rule applies to me. And I'm like, oh shit,
I can't jay walk because then I might get somebody
in trouble, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (29:54):
Like, Yeah, I feel like I have too much equal
parts of water and fire in my chart, and I
think I can. I'm in two different realities constantly, but
never in the one that I need to be in
you know.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
You know, you know what I also wish to sidebar.
Speaker 3 (30:10):
I wish that there was more talk about the signs
that raised you and how that informs how you are too,
because like I'm a Virgo, but I was surrounded by
a lot of fire, you know what I mean? Like
most people in my life were like fire signs and
a little bit of earth sprinkled in. But most of
the people that I was raised with are like earth.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
And fire really yeah, hot, hot, dry heat.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Yes, my parents are both fire signs. So my dad's
in August Virgo or well August Leo August first. My
mom is December December tenth Sagittarius, and my grandma Capricorn,
other grandma cancer, grandpa Aquarius, and the other grandpa non existent.
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So a lot of fire and earth but mostly just
fire fire.
Speaker 1 (31:11):
It sounds like global warming.
Speaker 2 (31:13):
Absolutely did we cause it?
Speaker 1 (31:16):
Maybe? Who? I feel like?
Speaker 3 (31:19):
My favorite though, would have to say, like, I like
the Pisces reality. Every time I go to a Pisce's,
cancers give it to me a little too hard. I
feel like they're like, this is the reality Pisces. I
feel like are like they're in the dream with you.
I had this one thing where I was like going
through it about a certain thing and I was like,
I don't know, it feels like it was all fake.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
It feels like a lie. And my Pisces Bessie was like, no,
it was real.
Speaker 3 (31:46):
I was there, like I witnessed it, so yeah, and
you're like it was real thing you Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
And pieces are very very psychic, and so they're able
to dip into other people's realities as well and kind
of see that's why they get lost sometimes because my
Rising pieces, my Mercury's Pisces, so like you know, Pisces
placements get lost in the sauce because they're kind of
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sometimes outwardly experiencing other people's emotions when they should be.
It's like the whole I'm an inpath thing, but it's
like girl like it'sic toxic sometimes.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
Yeah, you know, they're like they're like the rats of
the zodiac.
Speaker 2 (32:29):
They're like the rats of the zodiac exactly.
Speaker 3 (32:32):
Yeah, they're like really smart rats that can go in
reverse flip it and reverse it. And that concludes the
Zodiac section.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
How do you plead?
Speaker 2 (32:45):
What is reality? Are you? Where are we? Who cares?
I like we I think we need to listen to
ourselves more. I think we need to stop gaslighting ourselves.
And it's great to have self awareness and how you
are making others feel. But at a certain point, you know,
(33:07):
some of these people don't give a fuck, So give
a little, give a little less.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Of a fuck.
Speaker 3 (33:13):
Yeah, because I think that I think the takeaway from
all this should be that it doesn't matter. The matters
for real, everything, all, everything, everywhere, all at once, like
it doesn't nothing really, mads Lepe is a we need
look the real. The reality is the moment that you
have found yourself in right now, smells around you, the
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things that you're looking at, the people that love you,
the things that you love, and that's all you have
is the moment.
Speaker 1 (33:43):
And then when that moment's.
Speaker 3 (33:44):
Gone, you cheat on it with the next moment until
you have no other moments left over, and then you die.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
Thank you so much for listening to the Super Secret
Best in Club podcast, Curly. How can people find you
on social media?
Speaker 1 (34:00):
You could find my dark ass?
Speaker 3 (34:04):
I mean, why would I say that, like you, you
could find my I wanted to say, like my, it's
not dirty.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
Like wash your ass, dark death, heavy.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
Gothic ass, you're very gothic, very very gothic.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
I'm so goth.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
On The Curly Show, Double Scorpio, Hello, we've been talking
about scorpios.
Speaker 3 (34:27):
Love scorpios. I haven't think that's say about scorpios. I
love them too much. At the Curly v Show. On
Instagram and TikTok, where can you find you?
Speaker 2 (34:35):
You can find me at my in the Moment, m
A y A in the Moment anyway where you scroll,
Thank you again and hit us up on our social
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