August 21, 2024 • 49 mins
In this episode our hosts attempt to crack the code of finding true love with none other than the fabulous Chiquis! Will our hosts finally learn what it takes to find 'the one'?
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
There's a lot of bees in here.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Hey.
Speaker 3 (00:07):
Oh, hi, cheekys.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Hi, Oh are you guys? Did you just kill a
little bee?
Speaker 3 (00:12):
No?
Speaker 2 (00:13):
She's okay, okay, okay, good. Can I join your club?
Speaker 3 (00:17):
Oh my gosh, Well, what's what's the password?
Speaker 2 (00:21):
I need a password. Hello, it's me.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Here.
Speaker 4 (00:28):
My name is Curly and I'm Maya and welcome to
the Super Secret PST Club podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
A super secret club where we talk about super secret things.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Yeah, like secrets that are super That's what it is.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
She guys, I'm like very nervous and excited and okay.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Like banger really hard. So okay, we've been preparing for
this day for a long time.
Speaker 4 (01:03):
And then as I put my head on the pillow
last night, I was like when I went, Geez is
coming tomorrow, like full of panic.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
And I was like, just chill, Like just chill.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
But we are excited that you're here to see us
in the world that you come.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Thank you, thank you guys for inviting me. I'm excited.
I'm loving being part of the club. Hopefully it won't
be the first or the last.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Oh, my God, we just put your poster up in
the back.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
Gee a super Beast club now, so we always ask
how's your spirit?
Speaker 2 (01:36):
My spirit today because it changes every day. Today it
is bright. I feel very good. I woke up very early.
I didn't want to get out of bed though, and
I got my workout in and I just I feel
really good. I feel it's nice. I think if I
had it like in a color, i'd probably say it's
yellow today.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
Yellow, yes, sunny and bright, and that's how I feel.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
I'm feeling like I'm having a really good day.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
To think there, would you work out today?
Speaker 2 (02:03):
You mean like a body? Okay? I did legs. She's
so powerful.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
I feel like girls like leg day.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Yes. I used to do leg Day once a week
because it's tough. Now with the trainer that I have,
he's making me do leg Day three times a week.
I do legs like every time I see him. I'm
doing something with my legs. I got some big ones,
so I have to bring down, shrink them day not.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
But I have really juicy legs. But I don't have
a kulo, so you don't. I mean I have like
somebody somebody once said that I had an extended back
with the hole on it.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Who said that.
Speaker 5 (02:44):
Me?
Speaker 1 (02:47):
But we just saw that you just got married. Amazing. Yeah,
I went, how long was the wedding now?
Speaker 2 (02:55):
It was, oh my gosh, a month ago.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
Wow?
Speaker 2 (02:59):
The verse there you go?
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Was it a lot to plan? Like? Was it crazy?
Speaker 2 (03:03):
You know what I was in the middle of, like
starting the tour and finishing my album and promoting it
all that. I just knew I would have eloped. I
would have been like, hey, let's just go to Vegas.
And that's how the whole Vegas thing happened because we
got married in Vegas because I said, you know, let's
just get married. Let's just fly over there and just
get it done. You know, I just want to marry you.
But this is his first wedding. It was his first
(03:23):
wedding so and hopefully his last, his last, his only
wife than ever so much.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
So I was like, He's like, no, I want to
give you a nice wedding, like I want I want
a wedding. I'm like okay. So I just left it
in his hands. I said, look, you deal with everything.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I'm not.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
I'm not a bridezilla. He was more of a groomzilla
to be honest, he wanted things a certain way. I'm like,
I just wanted to be simple, clean and that's it,
and he took care of everything. Actually, my sister, he
is a gem a Gemini.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
Oh well, cancers and geminis are good together.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
I wasn't sure, really good geminized.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, because I used to have like this.
I didn't really know much about gemini's. How I heard
before was like, oh, they're two face and all this stuff.
But that's not true. It's not true at all.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Yeah, fun, yeah, faceted.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
And I feel like, to me, I feel like geminizer,
Like where I see the quote two face is like
with our best friend Joyce, who like, if you're on
the phone with Joyce, she gets really deep and emotional,
and then you take her to a party and she's
more like what.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Like the multidimensional? Yeah, and they changed their opinion a lot,
And I feel like people don't like that that they
don't have like the same opinion like all the time.
But I like that because they're able to transition into
all these different like things.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
And I feel like he's pretty stable. Someone just told
me that they get bored quickly. Is that true?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
That kind of word me dating Gemini men. I'm like, oh,
We're talking for a week and then I don't hear
from them ever again. I'm like, okay, so they left
God the big ghosters. But I'm also on airy, so
I don't know if they were like I'm scared of
my fire.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Okay, I don't know, Yeah, okay, I was. I was like,
I was wondering. They just literally told me that like
a couple of days ago.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
But anyway, did you guys meet each other? Huh? Why
did you guys meet each other?
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Well, we have a common friend someone, Yeah, and her
name is Becky g w.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
We met through because he came to a thing that
we did and she we played with her and she
said and for like six years straight.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
We were just like okay, so like that's amazing Bey
g Yes.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
So Becky and Emilio is my husband's name. They grew
up together. They're like cousins. So, and then I met
Becky through the industry through social media and we just
became friends, her and I and we did a song
named Joline, which I'm sure you guys know. I did
the Spanish version of Joline by Dolly Parton. I love
that song, so Anyways, we did a song together and
(05:58):
it was during COVID and she was very I think
we all were very scared, and she has lime disease,
so we had to be very very careful. So she said, hey,
I'm going to feel comfortable if we use my photographer.
He already got tested and I trust him, and you know,
to go to your home. So that's how I met him.
And I was going through a separation at that time,
(06:20):
so I was I had no business like talking to anyone,
but I just remember his face. I was like, dude,
like I told him that. Dale was like, you have
very nice eyeballs and you have very beautiful eyeballs.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
I'm going to use that one.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
Ball eyeballs exactly.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I was like, your eyeballs very nice.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
What what made his eyeballs better than most?
Speaker 2 (06:44):
He has hazel eyes, but he has this thing like
that is beautiful, but it also worries me because like
he looks at you very deep. I don't know, and
he was like, look at me. He had a look
at me. Because I had to do all these weird
movements and they were the weirdest thing because it was
an animated video, so I had to do weird positions,
so he was just like staring. I was like, oh
my god, it's very pretty. I So I told him
(07:05):
and I was went through separation, but I was like, okay,
I'm I'm not emotionally available. So I just left it
at that, and he followed me and I didn't follow
him back, so then he unfollowed me this whole thing.
I never even realized he had followed me. Yes, yeah,
he had followed you.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
Because I realized he was like she could to my eyeballs.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
I thought we were feeling each other, Like.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
So what are we now? You complimented my eyeballs?
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Get married and that dude. That's what he told me. Basically,
He's like, you were like kind of like we were
feeling each other, and then towards the end of the
day you were like whatever. And I'm like, well, because
I remembered, I'm like I am going through a situation.
So anyways, that happened, and then fast forward to like
eight months later, we threw Becky a party at my house,
a surprise party, and he was an invite. So then
(07:51):
that's where I we just it was like out of
the movies. We saw each other and I'm like, oh
my gosh, the guy with the nice eyeballs, you know.
And then we just started flirting and then I pulled
another when I said, hey, can I poke? He has
really nice simples? I want your dimple. You could do
whatever she wants. What I want girls at this age
where I was if I want it, I'm gonna get it.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Absolutely, I was also like, can I poke your dimples?
Like that's it was.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Already buzzing in my defense buzzy and be.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
Like, what else do you want to pull?
Speaker 2 (08:24):
What I was like when he answered me that way,
I was like, oh, okay, wow, he went in for
a kiss and that's.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
All When he went in for the kiss, first.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
He did he I was going to like another part
of the house, and he followed me. He says. I
know that was a big risk because I don't know
if you were going to slap me, but I was like,
kind of, I'm gonna follow me, yeah, And then he
just rushed me, gave me a kiss, and we kissed
for like an hour.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
Okay, I love this because rushing is very two thousand
and five.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
I love that. I love being rushed, But now I
feel like it's like can I kiss you? And I'm
like don't, don't, don't, just do it? Yeah, handle me,
handle me?
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Yes, exactly what exactly?
Speaker 3 (09:06):
So not only did we bring you on as a
guest because you're amazing, but like we're bold single right, yeah,
and obviously you're an excellent flirter. You are married and
you gotta going on?
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Yeah, dimples the eyeball.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
We just have some like questions when you advice.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
I got you. I will give you the best advice
that I can possibly give you.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
We we wrote down a lot already led to the
first one.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
Yes, I feel like you were talking about that you
were getting out of a separation and maybe not necessarily
ready for the next relationship, but somehow here the universe
opens up for you, Like how do you get over
something like that?
Speaker 1 (09:47):
Like how do you get over the heartbreak and stay open?
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Oh my gosh, that was I think one of the
worst experiences of my life, getting married and then knowing
I probably shouldn't marry this person. It's like, don't ignore
that gut feeling, guys, and I did it for the
sake of Okay, Well, the wedding's already planned. The world knows,
like I just how am I going to do this?
And Anyways, it was I think the most devastating thing
(10:12):
for me. I just gave myself time. And I'm lying
because I did jump. I tried to do that whole
like you know that that Spanish saying that, and I
tried that, and it just slapped me in the face
and I was like, it shook me. I said, you
know what, I need to give myself time to heal.
I need to embrace this pain instead of trying to
(10:33):
just like, oh, let me just you know, brush it
under the rug and find someone else. And I did
that so much in my life. I didn't really know
how to be alone. And so I said, I have
to fall in love with myself. If what am I
doing to attract these same type of men, I need
(10:53):
to fix myself instead of being you you you. I
went here and I said, oh shit, I got to
do something that's growth.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
That's literally like a signs of a good person. If
you're in that place in your life where you're just
like trying to just get under what is it in
English they stay to get over a man, you gotta
get under another one, yes, like if you're there, like
but if you're where you were at, that to me
is like, oh, that's a sign of growth. That is
somebody who was like spiritually growing, mentally growing and being
(11:21):
like and it's.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
Hard to look at yourself and be like, girl, we
got some stuff to work on. Like it is so
hard to like turn the flashlight on you and and
kind of look at your shadow self and your shadow
side absolutely and be like, I'm also responsible for absolutely
like the toxicity that this person had because we're all
mirrors of each other, you know, so, And it took
(11:43):
me that relationship to say where it was like he did,
he did things and he wasn't the best, but also
I I did things to trigger it or I was
insecure and I was a little controlling because I was insecure,
And then I'm like, that's not I don't want to
live that type of relationship because he felt like I
was maybe in a way choking him where he's like,
(12:07):
you're not allowing me to be myself, so it would
make him want to rebel more so, I can't be
that type of girlfriend because it was fear of abandonment absolutely,
and I had to.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
I had to.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
I that was tough and like a little bit of
like anxious attachment style to like co dependency, codependency, people
bring out those sides of you, like you bring out
these these sides that are just like.
Speaker 4 (12:29):
Well they say, like one of the things that they
say when you go on your first date, like they
call it the post eight the post date eight, right,
And one of the questions is like, what did you
feel when you're around that person? And what do they bring?
What side of you do they bring out? Because that
side never leaves? So are are you more anxious? Are
you more like do you become the paternal figure? Do
you do you become a little bit of a child
like And then you have to decide is that where
(12:51):
you want to say? Is that where you want to
like live in the relationship?
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Absolutely? Yes, And that's where I with this relationship, I
saw the difference because I was being more maternal in
my I was being motherly and he felt smothered and
he felt that way. And now it's like, no, we're
two individuals coming together. You are responsible for your feelings.
I'm responsible for my own and we both have to
do our work individually so that we're stronger for each other.
(13:14):
It took me so freaking long account it's like, also,
like the other person to have the time.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Knowledge of accountability too, not just like sometimes I feel
like the way I've dated is so like I have
all this knowledge, like big brain energy of like accountability
and knowing like what is mine and what is and
then the other person doesn't know that at all and
has zero awareness of how they're coming off. Like so
you feel like now both sides are equal, and now
(13:44):
it's just easier. Do you feel like you can breathe easier?
Speaker 2 (13:46):
I feel like you can breathe. I don't feel I
don't feel anxious, I don't feel depressed. I crazy. I
started losing a lot of weight after I let that
relationship go, like physically because I I think just all
that stress and and I released a lot of cortisol
and I was just like, I don't know it was
(14:07):
it was it just and I think the universe. And
I thank God for that experience because it prepared me
for this. I don't regret it, you know, but I
did have to look within and say, what am I
going to change this? I don't want to go through
this again. I don't want to have relationship after relationship.
I want to have something stable. I want emotional stability.
So that's what I did. And I just did a
(14:27):
lot of a lot more therapy, and I spent times
alone and I cried a lot. I cried so much
by myself, my dog and I and I just went
through it. I endured the damn pagne. I endured it.
Speaker 4 (14:39):
What would you say to somebody who is like kind
of at that place in their life. I don't know
if you remember if you ever read or watched the
movie with Julie Roberts e Pray Love Yes, But in
the book they talk about she was talking about how
she would wake up the middle of the night married
to her first husband and go into the bathroom and
just sob on the bathroom floor.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
That was me, just.
Speaker 4 (14:56):
Cry And she's like, I didn't know what my next
movie was. Like, what would you say to somebody who
was doing that, like going into the bathroom or just
having those moments being like I don't know what my
next move should be.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
First of all, don't ignore that feeling that is your spirit,
that is your gut again, that gut feeling, which is
like that intuition that we all have, you know, don't
ignore it. There is something off. There is something off,
and you need to figure out where that comes from
and why if you're feeling like that, those are that's
that's that is anxiety, that is something that those are
(15:29):
not good feelings that are going to allow the relationship
to flourish. I'm not saying that that's not the person
for you. What I'm saying is more of like if
it's therapy, do it together. You have to talk about it.
But I ignored it for so long and I thought, Okay,
I'm just gonna because I'm very ter. I'm like, I'm
gonna make this work.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
I want to make it work.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
It's like, no, there's no reason why I'm laying in
bed right next to you and I'm crying and I
just feel so alone. But you're right next to me,
you know, And it's you have to address it. You
have to.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
And I feel like as women too, we will take
on that maternal side sometimes to and feel completely responsible
to fix it. Yes, And like, what do you say
about like the misogyny of it all of like you
being responsible for like how do you kind of like
when you want to move on from someone or break
up from someone, how do you kind of like clear
(16:36):
your mind of of of.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
That, clear your mind of of the sorry.
Speaker 3 (16:45):
Yeah, just just like how do you like?
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Not?
Speaker 3 (16:47):
I guess I'm like, like, there's so much I want
to say.
Speaker 4 (16:50):
How do you clear the slate?
Speaker 3 (16:53):
How do you like? Because I feel like as women
as like, you know, you got married, you brought all
your fans into it, and your family has a relationship
with this person, and I feel like it's always up
to us to be like sorry, everyone like this is happening,
Like how do you just focus on yourself? Yeah, and
like kind of silence the noise and just like like
(17:15):
what do you say to yourself?
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Had a I was very afraid of that. I was
afraid of because it was a very public relationship and
I didn't know what my next move was. I just said,
I am a risk taker. I I depend on God
and I leave my life in his hands. And I
just took a leap of faith. I said, I don't
know what I'm going to do. I know this is
going to hurt so much because I let him go.
Being in love, I thought I was well because now
(17:38):
that I know what love is really, it's so different.
But I was in love. I was I think infatuated,
to be honest. So I think what I had to
do is I had to zone everything out and everyone
I could not care about what the world is going
to say. I was like, I am not happy, I
am not at peace. I am also not I have
to let him go and be who he's meant to
(17:59):
be because he's not the person for me, because if
he was, it wouldn't it doesn't have to be this hard,
doesn't have to be this painful. And I did. Like
one of my uncles wasn't okay with it. He's like,
you're gonna get divorced, like you shouldn't you You need
to be there for him if he has this addiction
or whatever. I might. No, I see, That's why.
Speaker 3 (18:19):
That's what I'm saying, is like there's a lot of misogyny,
misogyny around that is that like, why does the woman
have to be in control of like fixing this person's
you know, issue with addiction or something that's a lot
to carry.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
I feel like, you know, you see it in our
family where like the women stick around with the husbands
no matter what, you.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
Know, Like, and that's what I saw. That's exactly what
you're saying is I'm like, wait, I've seen it with
my grandmother. I see it with some of my aunts
I saw even with my mom, where I'm like, no,
this is not right and I need to just have
the courage to let it go. And that's I think
where a lot of the issues started with this particular
uncle was because I decided to divorce him and leave him.
(19:00):
It's like, how dare you? Like, Oh, you're just going
to give up It hasn't even been a year. I
was like, yeah, this dude, you have no idea what
he's doing.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Though. Yeah, it's like I don't.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
Have no Like, you're not married to him. You're literally
not in the relationships, not in a relationship.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
And it's not my responsibility. It's now I know I
have to carry my own weight and take accountability and
be responsible for my own feelings and actions. And so
does he absolutely, And if he doesn't want to change,
I can't force it. And I thought I could change him.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
That was what you date him then exactly with him,
you do all that for real.
Speaker 4 (19:30):
It reminds me of like when I worked at Forever
twenty one for three days and then I quit and
then they were like, he only lasted for three days.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
I was like, I got smart enough the two days
not hitting on forever twenty one.
Speaker 4 (19:38):
But it was like a lot, like I have to
do go back to forever twenty one require a lot.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
I'd be true with that because I used to work
at kmart for four hours four hours.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
I worked him at once.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
For four hours. I said, Oh, I'm not doing this.
My mom last hime me. She's like, what's wrong. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (19:56):
I wanted to work there, but I would get in
trouble because then I would talk to all the people
and I'd be like, oh my god, yes, you have
a waiting to go to. Come on, let's go figure
out you're gonna wear. And they were like, you can't
do that. You just started. You have to You're a greeter.
That is your job.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
And I was like, but I want to help everybody made.
Speaker 4 (20:11):
My posts as the greeterer, and then they were like
annoyed with me. They're like, you gotta now you've got
to be in the bag and take out the trash.
And I was like, I'm out.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
I'm trying to make this place better.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
And that's taking back your power and breaking generational curses.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
It's also being like and letting you go. I'm loving
mass like Jo.
Speaker 4 (20:34):
Not see what og jojo, but like, so then you're
there and you kind of make this big decision to
move on and let me take that big step, which
is hard.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
You know, it's hard to do it on.
Speaker 4 (20:48):
Your own, but you are doing it in the public eye,
and you're taking time to kind of like find yourself
now and figure things out. And you see these beautiful
shaped eyes looking at you. Yes, eyeballs, that's the social.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Media clip right there. Oh yeah, yeah, good drinking game.
Speaker 4 (21:14):
So you see these beautiful hazel eyeballs, and you have
this feeling and a lot of people talk about how
when you meet the one that's going to be for
you, you feel the oots. You feel like a little bit
of that energy, like they.
Speaker 3 (21:27):
Say when you know, you know what is it that
you know?
Speaker 2 (21:31):
It felt familiar. I can't even explain it. I can't
express it, like I I just remember we looked at
each other in my living room and he said that
I came out of like my I was getting ready
in my glamor room like this, just like oh like
a and I felt like, oh, it's that guy. And
it just felt it felt so comfortable, like I just
(21:52):
felt immediate peace and just calmness. And I said, oh
my god, I like this feeling to the point where
I wanted to spend We spent the next freaking four
or five days together every day. Wow, Like it was
like we were just together and say, hey, you're out
of work, come on.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Four days now.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
Yeah, And it was just it just felt I can't
even explain it. It just felt different from everything else.
But I had prayed for that. I had prayed for
that feeling. I'm like, I cannot wait to fall out
of love from this person and find I just I
want the next person to be the person God please,
And I just want the next person to be the
person please like and and show me what I need
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to do. And it was tough. The first year was tough.
It was me. I had a lot of things I
had to work on and I didn't realize it.
Speaker 3 (22:43):
Speaking of things to work, we have you know the
term ick. When you get the ick. Yes, it's like
when you get like turned off by somebody. But it
could be the smallest little thing. Sometimes not me, but
maybe him. He's a virgo. Everything we want to know.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
I'm also diagnosed with OCD by.
Speaker 3 (23:02):
The way, right right and ADHD, And yeah, we want
to know, like if our X are valid or if
his X are valid. Okay, so we have a list
or are we just immature? Number one? You said posture
on a first date? Can you set up that?
Speaker 5 (23:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (23:19):
I just like, I think that it's sexy when you
see a man with good posture, and if he has
bad posture, I'm like, I'm out.
Speaker 1 (23:24):
I agree, thank you.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
You're bored.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
You don't want to be here?
Speaker 4 (23:30):
Like, come on, you know tire problematic? Tire banks once said,
put your shoulders up to your ears, pull.
Speaker 3 (23:37):
Back to the wall and drops them down.
Speaker 1 (23:39):
Yeah, and in the air exactly. That's how I want
to see. Titties and dimples.
Speaker 4 (23:43):
Yeah, dimples the second one. And this is these are
my real eggs. Why I've left? Why I didn't call it?
Speaker 1 (23:49):
Some people back on the first date? An ugly laugh,
an ugly laugh.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
I like ugly laws.
Speaker 3 (23:56):
I have an ugly so immature you, I think something.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
I like things that are different, so unique, So I
don't mind.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
Yes, I think an ugly laugh is kind of cute, entertaining.
I mean, like, what can you demonstrate what an ugly laugh?
Speaker 4 (24:09):
I have a really loud, loud laugh. My mouth gets
really big. You'll hear me laugh. I'm probably the first
of the person you'll hear laughing at a restaurant. But
I like it because it's me and I think it's
cute because it's me. But if I see somebody else
in it, I'm like, calm down.
Speaker 3 (24:23):
So it's a projection.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
It is a.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
Projection, which too, I have a crazy ass laugh too.
Speaker 4 (24:28):
But yeah, I mean, and then the other one is
like bad breath, bad hygiene.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
I can't with that. I'm sorry.
Speaker 4 (24:35):
I once saw somebody have a little bit of like
tartar like on their teeth and I was like, I
can't do it.
Speaker 2 (24:40):
I can't, I cannot. I'm sorry. I'm all about hygiene,
you know, healthy bo And it's just you're gonna kiss me,
and I'm I feel like I want to, you know,
attract what you know what I mean, I want to
hear myself yourself.
Speaker 3 (24:57):
You probably have some virgo in your chart.
Speaker 1 (24:59):
I know.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
Yeah, no I think I have. I don't know that cancer.
I don't know if it's arising. It's libra and then scorpio,
one of those I have to figure out where. Yeah,
that's hot.
Speaker 4 (25:11):
So you have yeah, you have like uh double water
and air right water air, You're like steam you're steamy.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
I'm usually yeah, I'm pretty seem I think that.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Like, so then I feel like a lot of people go.
Speaker 4 (25:26):
When I write tell people about my ex, They're like,
you don't like him that much then, because when you
do like them, you're like, I don't care if you
have plaque on your teeth, baby, get in here.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
Yeah, I don't know about plaque, y'all. I mean, Or
maybe if you really like it, be like, hey, let's
go to the dentist, Like, let's look.
Speaker 3 (25:41):
If you want to.
Speaker 4 (25:44):
It's like, what does it bring out in me? I'm like,
now making your appointments for a dental hygiene.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
Like I can't.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
But I think sometimes if it's if you feel that
everything else is good, maybe it's take you should like
build up the courage to say, hey, dude, like I
really am feeling you, but this really bugs me because
I did that in my relationship. There's certain things like
before when I was younger, I was like, I want
like a taller guy and this and that and all
that ship went out.
Speaker 3 (26:10):
Yeah I know I want a taller guy. I'm like,
maybe they can just get like knee surgery or something.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Just get a knee surgery.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
Send their legs or something like get platform shoes.
Speaker 5 (26:21):
Right.
Speaker 4 (26:21):
Yeah, so now you're like, what now, I don't know
how tall? Then your current husband.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
He says he's five to seven. I think he's seven
five seven. I'm five two. I'm a short, so I
don't mind. I'm like, you know, but before it was like,
you know, five eleven, and I'm like, now I'm like, okay,
I mean there's there's not a lot of things that
bothered me about him, to be honest.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
See, and that's how you know that you like them.
Speaker 4 (26:45):
Suppose that's what they say, because I'd be like, I
don't know, like I'll lead people who are too messy
if they like do like if they don't like clean.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Up after themselves.
Speaker 4 (26:54):
I'm like, I always picture because I also come from
family borders, right, and I'm like, I don't want to
grow into being so if I'm like, if you're not
picking up your shoes and you're underwent throwing your trash
away right now, And.
Speaker 2 (27:04):
That's just a lot of dudes though, because he can
be like that the sort of the NATO a little bit,
and I have to tell him, like I'm not I'll
pick him up once in a while. Because I want
the house, but you have to. I'll tell him like, Babe,
your shoes. And the good thing is he's intentional. Anything
that I tell him that bothers me and vice versa.
We try to fix for each other because you just
want the relationship to do or I think it just
you get to that point where it's like maturity, where like, Okay,
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I want the relationship to work. We have to compromise.
I'm gonna do my part.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
How do you resolve conflict?
Speaker 2 (27:32):
We have very good communication, sometimes not the best, especially
the first year me more than anything, I was quick
to just put my guards up and be like, oh
f this. You know, I was a runner. He wasn't,
which kind of helped out. But now we communicate about everything.
There's something that bothers us and we other. We can
be in the same room like this and he'll text me,
you know what, this really bothered me what you said
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and this there's other people wow yeah, and I'm like
stake ady breath. I'm like, well, I understand, and uh huh.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
Flings are valid.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
Feelings are valid because it's like, who am I to
tell him that his feelings aren't? Like it's like even
though I'm like, dude, I think you took it the
wrong way. You don't know. I just take deep breaths now,
and now I'm like, okay, can we go into the
other room and talk? And we do that.
Speaker 4 (28:17):
I love that I'm to be like in bed with
you and be like like getting ready to see I
just think it's funny that, yeah, I'm the.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
Person who they're like, are you mad? I'm like I'm good. No,
I'm okay, okay. And then later you'll get a long
text of like earlier today, I just want to say
start this. We always say like because Curly and I
will have some fights sometimes, Like we've been best friends
for a long time. We started as like work besties
first and then later on just like I r L besties.
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And you know, it's like a different transition too. And
and we come from different generations.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
We do, yes, I'm a millennial.
Speaker 3 (28:59):
I'm I'm I'm a millennial to yeah, but yeah, and
and so we had to learn how to like kind
of like handle conflict and and I think the most
important thing for me was like we're having two completely
different experiences because we have lived different lives. So you're
watching a different movie than I am. That's what like
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I always say, And so I can't expect you to
fully understand my brain. I have to like communicate like, well,
this is why it triggered me or and activated me.
And I hope that you would do the same for me.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
How we deliver our message, how we deliver it, it's
absolutely that and and I think knowing that, and I
think for me too is knowing people their love language.
Knowing their love language has helped me quite a bit.
But yeah, I mean, I'm I words of affirmation for me,
and yeah, I have wars affirmation.
Speaker 3 (29:59):
Help me every day.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
I'm pretty Tell.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
Me why you like me? And like what why what
about me? You like me today?
Speaker 2 (30:06):
Today? Exactly? You can tell me I'm pretty shay.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
Yeah, I can buy myself my own ship.
Speaker 4 (30:11):
I don't need to do anything my own I'm an
independent person. But tell me I'm sexy.
Speaker 3 (30:15):
Tell me that I was telling you that I was
really funny today and you laughed at all my jokes.
You know you have to laugh at all my jokes. Yeah,
if not, you don't like me.
Speaker 1 (30:23):
You don't like me as much as you say you do. Yeah,
oh my god, you did? I mean kind of my.
Speaker 4 (30:28):
Little cheese mosa yours where when you were like that,
you said that you were like had things to work
on in yourself, Like, yeah, if you feel so inclined,
I feel like that's something that a lot of people,
even I have trouble understanding. We all have trouble understanding
what are the things that we can work on on ourselves,
because we're so quick to be like, no, but you
did this, and you did this, and this is how
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you hurt me, Like what are what's like one thing
that you feel like you really had to go? I
didn't know I did that and I'm working on that
and now I can.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
Now I can be better.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
I would take things very personal, you know, like he would.
He was telling me something straight up and not in
a mean way, but I feel like you're being mean
or you don't think that I like, I just felt
always very like offended. And I realized I'm like I
caused these things, these stories in my head that I'm
like why, And it's all insecurity. It just came into
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being like I'm insecure of either looking dumb to you
or I don't know. It was just it was that.
It was that, and then I had a lot of
abandonment issues, like I just I'm like, I'm gonna let
you go before you let me go, because you're not
gonna hurt me. And it's like, that's not that's I'm
always on defense mode. That's freaking exhausting, and I'm like, dude,
(31:43):
I'm just gonna let everything. After I did that, I
felt so much better. But it was just really we
all have insecurities, and it was just me saying, Okay,
what are my insecurities And I'm going to work on
them because again, I don't want to keep going through
this vicious cycle and these generational courses because I have
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intentionally working on them, you know, every day. It's in
everyday thing. It's something that I have to like quiet
down every day.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
And you can feel your lineage healing when you kind
of break away from those like toxic habits that you have,
like not taking things so personal. I'm still working on
that because I'm like, what did you mean by that? Yeah,
like my head will stop, like.
Speaker 2 (32:41):
What it's only with him though with everything else, I'm
not like that. It's just in a relationship, I get
very like.
Speaker 3 (32:45):
Because they're so intimate and it's and it's they see
literally everything you know, and you're showing you're showing up
so vulnerable and hoping that yeah, and you're hoping that
they will accept you, and and.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Exactly like this is this is who I am, Like,
this is my love, curity, my heart.
Speaker 1 (33:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (33:05):
And I think it's also just like we do as
a society, put a lot of expectations on our partner.
I think they always say that with best friends, you're like,
I have the homie I party with, I have the homie.
I can go to a museum with, have the homie
I call to cry with. But with relationships, they have
to be all of those right, and we don't allow
them to be like, oh, it's okay if I don't
want to like cry with you, like I cry better
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with my gay friend. Your mom the other day we
went to like a shop and she's like, oh, it's
so fun hanging with you, not like my husband like this.
Speaker 1 (33:32):
We went to like like look at smell candles, got
a bracelet, and I was like, well, I'm gay.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
Like this girl, I don't. I don't want to.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
That's a good thing.
Speaker 4 (33:43):
Your husband doesn't want to walk around and get bracelets
and friends bracelets and smoke candles.
Speaker 3 (33:47):
Yeah, we all got permanive bracelets.
Speaker 2 (33:49):
That is so cute. I want one.
Speaker 1 (33:50):
I want to get so cute.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
They're so adorable.
Speaker 3 (33:56):
We'll go to the zodiac section of the podcast. Cheeky
you are cancer A June cancer, Happy belated birthday. How
do you feel about being a cancer?
Speaker 2 (34:09):
Like?
Speaker 3 (34:09):
What is it? How do you feel like? You kind
of like gel with it?
Speaker 2 (34:13):
I love it. I love being a June cancer, not
a July cancer was a very different and extremely different so,
you know, yes, I don't know saw some I really
like it. I love that I'm very nurturing, a very
like you know, I love a very very intuitive. What
I don't really like about it is that I'm very
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lunatica like I could be completely fine and then if
the freaking moon is I don't know more to the
laughter or whatever, it changed, and I'm very like that.
I that's why I have to meditate every day, uh huh,
because if I do meditate, I could be a very
unhealthy cancer.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
Okay, you know, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (34:51):
I always make jokes that cancers don't know how to
fight on topic, like all like three of my ex
boyfriends were all cancers, which amazing.
Speaker 1 (34:58):
I learned how to love. I learned how to be
a boyfriend because of them. Yeah, y'all are healers. Men.
Speaker 2 (35:03):
Cancer are very different. I dated one, oh almost each other,
just like.
Speaker 4 (35:08):
I feel like for me, I always say that virgos
when I fight, like my words are very precise. So
I fight with like a surgeon's knife, and I'm like
cancers fight with like the dullest butter knife that they
found in the back, like they just are like, oh
my god.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (35:22):
Cancer. So in astrology, you have your sun sign, which
is your foundation. Yes, your moon sign kind of represents emotions.
Rising sign is kind of like who you are when
you first appeal to people at first. Okay, yeah, but
it's kind of like it's an important part of your
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like chart too, because it's like where everything was kind
of like rising when you were first born. And then
you have like your mars, which is conflict. My mars
is in cancer. So when I get upset, it's because
I and how I get upset is very cancer in,
which is like exactly how you describe it. If I
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don't breathe, if I don't take time to like it,
just it feels like you're bubbling up. It feels like
you're even then it just fills out and you're like, oh,
I'm sorry, like I didn't mean to say that, or
did I mean to say that. I'm also aries as well,
So what are some like you mentioned a little bit
of like some toxic traits, Like what are some toxic
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traits or misconceptions that like people kind of say talk
about cancers.
Speaker 2 (36:30):
Damn because they say we're emotional.
Speaker 3 (36:33):
Or passive aggressive?
Speaker 2 (36:35):
People say passive. I used to be very passive aggressive.
Speaker 3 (36:37):
Cancer. My grandma's a cancer.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Give it.
Speaker 4 (36:40):
Give me an example, how hogs?
Speaker 1 (36:44):
What?
Speaker 2 (36:44):
Yeah, I had like a best friend back in the
days for like ten years and everything. We just call
each other sisters. And it's like one day she's like,
you're just so passive aggressive. It's like, what does that
even mean? I cooled it and I was like, ah,
she's right, I'm not going to forget sate it. It's
like I want I tell you like they I am
like very calm about it right out. And I used
to do this a lot, like now I'm now I'm
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aware of it. So I'm like, Okay, I don't want
to be that way. I'm gonna be just direct. Like
it's like here I'm I don't want to be aggressive.
I don't want to be as aggressive. I'm just gonna
be straight to the point. Yeah, But before I used
to be like, oh well, oh it's okay, it's it's fine.
It doesn't bother It didn't bother me. But I don't know,
I can't even think of something.
Speaker 3 (37:24):
But you know what I mean, Like, yeah, because passive aggressiveness,
when it shows up with cancers, it there's like low
vibrational cancers like kind of unhealthy. I don't like to
say unhealthy, because it's all health, it's all good, it's unhealthy,
but like the low vibrational means like you're just learning
how to communicate cancers. I feel like they are so
watery and they're the crab, right, and their shells are
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like they're tough, but they're not that tough, and they're
very goody on the inside.
Speaker 5 (37:52):
Yes, yeah, they're so delicious, delicious crabs, but they it's
just about learning your communications style, you know.
Speaker 3 (38:04):
And it's it's just because, like I said, you just
have so much emotion there that you have to kind
of like separate it from like what is actually me
and my emotions and what is just like out outer
source stuff exactly.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
And it took me a long time to become like
emotional intelligent, like emotionally emotionally intelligent, where it's like, this
is what I'm feeling, How am I going to communicate it?
Let me sort it out, let me breathe instead of
being impulsive, because that's another thing that cancers are very
can be very impulsive, especially the jily cancers. And I've
learned to just because I want to grow. I every day.
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I'm like, I want to be better. And I asked myself.
I'm like, did I react in a certain way? And
I like asking, I'm like, hey, do you think I
was wrong with doing that? Like I don't. I have
no issue with being vulnerable. And also I try my
best not to be impulsive, which is why I got
to think through it and there was something else that
completely I was gonna say something else about cancers.
Speaker 4 (39:00):
Anyways, you can also always check in with the GC,
the group chat, okay, like all the people that you
love and like I call them the committee.
Speaker 1 (39:08):
I bring it before the committee and I'm like, what
does the team think?
Speaker 4 (39:12):
What do we think? Like did I overreact? Or I
have a game show in my head?
Speaker 1 (39:16):
Called am I tripping?
Speaker 4 (39:19):
And there's lights, there's audience, and they're like on today's show,
today's episode we have.
Speaker 2 (39:26):
It's very helpful.
Speaker 3 (39:27):
No, I'm always like, no, I'm going to do that.
Speaker 2 (39:29):
I'm going to take it to the committee. Yes, yeah, yeah,
but I do, but I do that. Iis like asking me.
I ask people. I'm like, hey, did I overreact?
Speaker 5 (39:38):
Like?
Speaker 2 (39:38):
Am I being emotional? And because I think now that
I'm aware and I want to like intentionally be a
better person, Like I know that I have to meditate.
I know what I have to do to be a
healthy cancer or.
Speaker 3 (39:50):
High vibrating high vibrating.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
Cancer where I'm centered, I'm aligned, because when I don't
do that, I'm ready to chat up with aassles. You
know what I mean, right, yeah, yes, yes, yeah.
Speaker 3 (40:03):
And you're also like your borderline of CUSP cancer Gemini
cancer because cancer or Gemini ends on the twenty first
and your birthdays of twenty six of June, yes, June, yes, yeah,
So it's like there's a little do you feel a
little tiny influence of like Gemini? And that would be
why like you get along so well with your husband too.
Speaker 2 (40:25):
I hadn't even thought about that. To be honest, I
don't know. I guess I don't know. I should because
I'm married to one, but I don't know much about
geminis to say that maybe, like like tell me some
stuff and I'll tell you, like, like, what are some
things besides the ones that we already mentioned.
Speaker 3 (40:40):
June June cancers are different from July cancers because July
cancer is like I'm a March Aries. I'm not like
in April aries, so I'm closer to Pisces than i am.
So I'm a little less like fiery and more hot
tub you know, okay, versus like I know, July cancers
are like very fiery, very fiery and very like you know,
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So there's there's a balance. And I like always mentioning that,
like even though people say the cusps don't exist, they
do exist because you feel different than like love all aries,
but I'm like, I'm not an April Aris.
Speaker 2 (41:17):
I'm a cancer, but I'm not cancer. I tell people
that all the time. I love Okay, very passionate.
Speaker 3 (41:26):
We were kind of dragging cancers this season just because
season well off and on off and on. What signs
do you get along with or do you like the
most or do you gravitate towards.
Speaker 2 (41:38):
Libras and Taurus. Yeah, I have a lot of Tauruses
around me and Libra's, Like, I love Libra's. I don't know,
like I just feel like they're balanced, are just like
level headed. They're very straightforward. Caim look at her, my
assistant over there. Makes sense that you're to.
Speaker 3 (41:58):
I love that they are.
Speaker 4 (42:00):
Last episode, I was saying they need to like up
the toxicity. They're just so nice.
Speaker 2 (42:04):
Yeah, she's so chill. I think I love Aquarius. I
love Capricorns. We get along very well. I think Pisces
worry me a little bit. Yeah, and and for sure
like can be like bitch, we can't hear.
Speaker 1 (42:21):
O cool exactly. That is so funny though, just imagining
being at your interview, it is lying.
Speaker 4 (42:27):
I'm not like, which signs do you say you're in
a birth certificate?
Speaker 1 (42:31):
I mean in your resume that you are July cancer.
Speaker 2 (42:34):
Like no, I know, because yeah, it'd be too hard.
Speaker 1 (42:39):
Libs are great, toys are a little wild, but.
Speaker 2 (42:42):
M I just have a lot of them around me,
which is like I know how to deal with them.
But yeah, I'm actually having a little issue with the
toryst right now a lot.
Speaker 1 (42:52):
My mom's when the toys, this is the tourist. It's
just I'm always You're stubborn, right, They're so stubborn and.
Speaker 4 (42:58):
Not in the way that you think, like not in
the way of like a regular yeah, like the regular stubborness.
They're just stubborn and like, hey, it's okay to say
you're wrong.
Speaker 2 (43:06):
Yes, yeah, okay, it's just take a little bit of accountablity.
It's okay, it's okay. You know what. Hey, instead of
lying about you being laid, you know, just I woke up, you.
Speaker 1 (43:21):
Know, yes, that's it and it's no.
Speaker 4 (43:26):
Yeah, like Broco would be like, it's not that I'm late,
you just chose a really bad time.
Speaker 1 (43:31):
So that's my toxic.
Speaker 3 (43:32):
I like was I late or were you just early?
Speaker 5 (43:38):
I would like, damn it.
Speaker 1 (43:42):
Yeah, that concludes our zodiac section.
Speaker 2 (43:45):
It was fun.
Speaker 4 (43:46):
Well, we usually say may We always say like how.
Speaker 1 (43:50):
Do you plead?
Speaker 4 (43:51):
Like what would be like your overall message like learning
of today?
Speaker 1 (43:54):
Like how do you plead?
Speaker 2 (43:55):
Just in general?
Speaker 1 (43:57):
It could be like like do you want us to
go first?
Speaker 3 (43:59):
Or well, I know, like if we wrote down like
like what is your interpretation or definition of love? Like
true love. Wow, true love your experience now being married?
Speaker 2 (44:12):
Yeah, well, love is the moving force of the universe,
first of all, and I've learned to embrace it in
every way. But love to me is and it's gonna
sound so cliche, but it definitely is unconditional. And I
mean this because it's not about finding the perfect person.
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It's about finding the perfect person for you, someone that
is willing to make the changes necessary. Because I at
first thought that it wasn't going to work with him
and I but he is on the path of wanting
to be his best self and matching that, and I
think that's what love is all about. It's really finding
that like compromise and being willing to just let your
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guard down. And it took me a long time. Now
I'm like, okay, I have to sometimes remind myself, Hey, chill,
there's no You're in a safe place. Love is safe.
Love feels just like a reath of fresh air, Like
you don't feel like we were talking about anxious. It just
feels safe. It feels just and not easy, because no
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relationship is easy. Marriage is not easy, but it just
it should not be like you're trying to break through
a freaking wall. You know it should be okay, I'm
here and you go around it versus I'm trying to
break through, you know what I mean, Like it's it's
I don't know, it just feels safe, feels peace, guys,
like I don't know if it's safe. It's safe. It
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is safe, and you feel okay with being completely like
vulnerable with the person and you're not going to be judged.
That was all in my head, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (45:53):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (45:55):
Yes, And also do you have anything coming up, like
what's going on in your.
Speaker 2 (46:00):
Oh my goodness. Right now, I'm preparing for the second
leg of my tour, which starts in September.
Speaker 3 (46:08):
Yeah, we're going please come.
Speaker 2 (46:10):
Please come. I'm going to have a show out here,
I think in December. I believe things are changing, but
I am starting it up again in September. I'm already
starting to record the second part of the album. My
first album was not Yeah, yeah, month is the first part.
And now we're going to do VVS one, which is
diamond esque, you know, And that's it right now. And
(46:32):
we're just working on making kids making trying to you know,
figure that out.
Speaker 5 (46:38):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (46:41):
Yes, and yeah, I'm excited for all of that stuff too.
I'm excited for the baptism.
Speaker 3 (46:46):
And yes, I will be there at the baptism baby shower.
Speaker 4 (46:52):
Yeah, you know, I'll just hang out and wherever you
have the snacks and stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (46:57):
I do have a question. Yes, I don't know if
people who asked you guys this before, but is it
called the Super bestI Club because of the Babysitters Club
or no.
Speaker 1 (47:05):
It's a player on all that.
Speaker 3 (47:07):
Yeah, it's like super secret best.
Speaker 2 (47:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (47:10):
We feel like very nineties, like yes, exclusive, I love it.
Speaker 1 (47:15):
Yes, like we're just chilling the plastic phones, fake boys.
Speaker 2 (47:19):
Just yes, okay, yes, okay perfect. I was like, I
just I love the Babysitters Club. So it's just anyway,
we love you so much.
Speaker 4 (47:26):
I do want to say that we've been in this
for so long and you truly are one of the
kindest people in the business.
Speaker 1 (47:32):
You were just such a human being.
Speaker 4 (47:33):
Like it's crazy how you uplift a lot of people
in the community as well. Like you're not the type
of entertainer or creative who is like me and me,
You're very like come with me. And I just want
people to know that too. That so not that you
can see that you can feel it, and we're so
thankful that you be here with them.
Speaker 2 (47:52):
Yes, guys about to cry cry.
Speaker 1 (47:58):
We knew we were going to get guys.
Speaker 2 (48:02):
I love this. I want to come back. I love
the energy. I'd love like it's it's beautiful, it's it's
a nice balance. It's just I really enjoyed it.
Speaker 3 (48:11):
Thank you so much, and thank you guys for watching
and listening to another episode of the super SECA Best
Club podcast Curly. How can I Find you? On social media?
Speaker 4 (48:21):
You can find me on Instagram or TikTok at the
Curly V show.
Speaker 1 (48:25):
Why where can people find you?
Speaker 3 (48:26):
You can find me at Maya in the Moment, m
a y n m A y a in the moment,
anywhere where you scroll.
Speaker 2 (48:35):
You can find me on Instagram as cheeky c h
I q u I s because people do k not
a k a q there you go.
Speaker 3 (48:41):
I know somebody was like, how do you spell chee
cheese and the like it's I.
Speaker 4 (48:45):
Got some cheese, we were like, Or you can literally
just google her.
Speaker 3 (48:52):
Yeah, she's a pop star.
Speaker 1 (48:53):
She's a pop star.
Speaker 2 (48:54):
A right, guys.
Speaker 1 (48:55):
You know I'm gonna try to wake that be up earlier.
Speaker 3 (48:59):
Oh yeah, if you Wake.
Speaker 1 (49:00):
Up, Wake Up, Bye Bye.
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Speaker 4 (49:16):
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There's a lot of bees in here.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Hey.
Speaker 3 (00:07):
Oh, hi, cheekys.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Hi, Oh are you guys? Did you just kill a
little bee?
Speaker 3 (00:12):
No?
Speaker 2 (00:13):
She's okay, okay, okay, good. Can I join your club?
Speaker 3 (00:17):
Oh my gosh, Well, what's what's the password?
Speaker 2 (00:21):
I need a password. Hello, it's me.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Here.
Speaker 4 (00:28):
My name is Curly and I'm Maya and welcome to
the Super Secret PST Club podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
A super secret club where we talk about super secret things.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Yeah, like secrets that are super That's what it is.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
She guys, I'm like very nervous and excited and okay.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Like banger really hard. So okay, we've been preparing for
this day for a long time.
Speaker 4 (01:03):
And then as I put my head on the pillow
last night, I was like when I went, Geez is
coming tomorrow, like full of panic.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
And I was like, just chill, Like just chill.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
But we are excited that you're here to see us
in the world that you come.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Thank you, thank you guys for inviting me. I'm excited.
I'm loving being part of the club. Hopefully it won't
be the first or the last.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Oh, my God, we just put your poster up in
the back.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
Gee a super Beast club now, so we always ask
how's your spirit?
Speaker 2 (01:36):
My spirit today because it changes every day. Today it
is bright. I feel very good. I woke up very early.
I didn't want to get out of bed though, and
I got my workout in and I just I feel
really good. I feel it's nice. I think if I
had it like in a color, i'd probably say it's
yellow today.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
Yellow, yes, sunny and bright, and that's how I feel.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
I'm feeling like I'm having a really good day.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
To think there, would you work out today?
Speaker 2 (02:03):
You mean like a body? Okay? I did legs. She's
so powerful.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
I feel like girls like leg day.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Yes. I used to do leg Day once a week
because it's tough. Now with the trainer that I have,
he's making me do leg Day three times a week.
I do legs like every time I see him. I'm
doing something with my legs. I got some big ones,
so I have to bring down, shrink them day not.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
But I have really juicy legs. But I don't have
a kulo, so you don't. I mean I have like
somebody somebody once said that I had an extended back
with the hole on it.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Who said that.
Speaker 5 (02:44):
Me?
Speaker 1 (02:47):
But we just saw that you just got married. Amazing. Yeah,
I went, how long was the wedding now?
Speaker 2 (02:55):
It was, oh my gosh, a month ago.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
Wow?
Speaker 2 (02:59):
The verse there you go?
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Was it a lot to plan? Like? Was it crazy?
Speaker 2 (03:03):
You know what I was in the middle of, like
starting the tour and finishing my album and promoting it
all that. I just knew I would have eloped. I
would have been like, hey, let's just go to Vegas.
And that's how the whole Vegas thing happened because we
got married in Vegas because I said, you know, let's
just get married. Let's just fly over there and just
get it done. You know, I just want to marry you.
But this is his first wedding. It was his first
(03:23):
wedding so and hopefully his last, his last, his only
wife than ever so much.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
So I was like, He's like, no, I want to
give you a nice wedding, like I want I want
a wedding. I'm like okay. So I just left it
in his hands. I said, look, you deal with everything.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I'm not.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
I'm not a bridezilla. He was more of a groomzilla
to be honest, he wanted things a certain way. I'm like,
I just wanted to be simple, clean and that's it,
and he took care of everything. Actually, my sister, he
is a gem a Gemini.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
Oh well, cancers and geminis are good together.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
I wasn't sure, really good geminized.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, because I used to have like this.
I didn't really know much about gemini's. How I heard
before was like, oh, they're two face and all this stuff.
But that's not true. It's not true at all.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Yeah, fun, yeah, faceted.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
And I feel like, to me, I feel like geminizer,
Like where I see the quote two face is like
with our best friend Joyce, who like, if you're on
the phone with Joyce, she gets really deep and emotional,
and then you take her to a party and she's
more like what.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Like the multidimensional? Yeah, and they changed their opinion a lot,
And I feel like people don't like that that they
don't have like the same opinion like all the time.
But I like that because they're able to transition into
all these different like things.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
And I feel like he's pretty stable. Someone just told
me that they get bored quickly. Is that true?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
That kind of word me dating Gemini men. I'm like, oh,
We're talking for a week and then I don't hear
from them ever again. I'm like, okay, so they left
God the big ghosters. But I'm also on airy, so
I don't know if they were like I'm scared of
my fire.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Okay, I don't know, Yeah, okay, I was. I was like,
I was wondering. They just literally told me that like
a couple of days ago.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
But anyway, did you guys meet each other? Huh? Why
did you guys meet each other?
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Well, we have a common friend someone, Yeah, and her
name is Becky g w.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
We met through because he came to a thing that
we did and she we played with her and she
said and for like six years straight.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
We were just like okay, so like that's amazing Bey
g Yes.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
So Becky and Emilio is my husband's name. They grew
up together. They're like cousins. So, and then I met
Becky through the industry through social media and we just
became friends, her and I and we did a song
named Joline, which I'm sure you guys know. I did
the Spanish version of Joline by Dolly Parton. I love
that song, so Anyways, we did a song together and
(05:58):
it was during COVID and she was very I think
we all were very scared, and she has lime disease,
so we had to be very very careful. So she said, hey,
I'm going to feel comfortable if we use my photographer.
He already got tested and I trust him, and you know,
to go to your home. So that's how I met him.
And I was going through a separation at that time,
(06:20):
so I was I had no business like talking to anyone,
but I just remember his face. I was like, dude,
like I told him that. Dale was like, you have
very nice eyeballs and you have very beautiful eyeballs.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
I'm going to use that one.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
Ball eyeballs exactly.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I was like, your eyeballs very nice.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
What what made his eyeballs better than most?
Speaker 2 (06:44):
He has hazel eyes, but he has this thing like
that is beautiful, but it also worries me because like
he looks at you very deep. I don't know, and
he was like, look at me. He had a look
at me. Because I had to do all these weird
movements and they were the weirdest thing because it was
an animated video, so I had to do weird positions,
so he was just like staring. I was like, oh
my god, it's very pretty. I So I told him
(07:05):
and I was went through separation, but I was like, okay,
I'm I'm not emotionally available. So I just left it
at that, and he followed me and I didn't follow
him back, so then he unfollowed me this whole thing.
I never even realized he had followed me. Yes, yeah,
he had followed you.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
Because I realized he was like she could to my eyeballs.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
I thought we were feeling each other, Like.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
So what are we now? You complimented my eyeballs?
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Get married and that dude. That's what he told me. Basically,
He's like, you were like kind of like we were
feeling each other, and then towards the end of the
day you were like whatever. And I'm like, well, because
I remembered, I'm like I am going through a situation.
So anyways, that happened, and then fast forward to like
eight months later, we threw Becky a party at my house,
a surprise party, and he was an invite. So then
(07:51):
that's where I we just it was like out of
the movies. We saw each other and I'm like, oh
my gosh, the guy with the nice eyeballs, you know.
And then we just started flirting and then I pulled
another when I said, hey, can I poke? He has
really nice simples? I want your dimple. You could do
whatever she wants. What I want girls at this age
where I was if I want it, I'm gonna get it.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Absolutely, I was also like, can I poke your dimples?
Like that's it was.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Already buzzing in my defense buzzy and be.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
Like, what else do you want to pull?
Speaker 2 (08:24):
What I was like when he answered me that way,
I was like, oh, okay, wow, he went in for
a kiss and that's.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
All When he went in for the kiss, first.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
He did he I was going to like another part
of the house, and he followed me. He says. I
know that was a big risk because I don't know
if you were going to slap me, but I was like,
kind of, I'm gonna follow me, yeah, And then he
just rushed me, gave me a kiss, and we kissed
for like an hour.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
Okay, I love this because rushing is very two thousand
and five.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
I love that. I love being rushed, But now I
feel like it's like can I kiss you? And I'm
like don't, don't, don't, just do it? Yeah, handle me,
handle me?
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Yes, exactly what exactly?
Speaker 3 (09:06):
So not only did we bring you on as a
guest because you're amazing, but like we're bold single right, yeah,
and obviously you're an excellent flirter. You are married and
you gotta going on?
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Yeah, dimples the eyeball.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
We just have some like questions when you advice.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
I got you. I will give you the best advice
that I can possibly give you.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
We we wrote down a lot already led to the
first one.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
Yes, I feel like you were talking about that you
were getting out of a separation and maybe not necessarily
ready for the next relationship, but somehow here the universe
opens up for you, Like how do you get over
something like that?
Speaker 1 (09:47):
Like how do you get over the heartbreak and stay open?
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Oh my gosh, that was I think one of the
worst experiences of my life, getting married and then knowing
I probably shouldn't marry this person. It's like, don't ignore
that gut feeling, guys, and I did it for the
sake of Okay, Well, the wedding's already planned. The world knows,
like I just how am I going to do this?
And Anyways, it was I think the most devastating thing
(10:12):
for me. I just gave myself time. And I'm lying
because I did jump. I tried to do that whole
like you know that that Spanish saying that, and I
tried that, and it just slapped me in the face
and I was like, it shook me. I said, you
know what, I need to give myself time to heal.
I need to embrace this pain instead of trying to
(10:33):
just like, oh, let me just you know, brush it
under the rug and find someone else. And I did
that so much in my life. I didn't really know
how to be alone. And so I said, I have
to fall in love with myself. If what am I
doing to attract these same type of men, I need
(10:53):
to fix myself instead of being you you you. I
went here and I said, oh shit, I got to
do something that's growth.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
That's literally like a signs of a good person. If
you're in that place in your life where you're just
like trying to just get under what is it in
English they stay to get over a man, you gotta
get under another one, yes, like if you're there, like
but if you're where you were at, that to me
is like, oh, that's a sign of growth. That is
somebody who was like spiritually growing, mentally growing and being
(11:21):
like and it's.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
Hard to look at yourself and be like, girl, we
got some stuff to work on. Like it is so
hard to like turn the flashlight on you and and
kind of look at your shadow self and your shadow
side absolutely and be like, I'm also responsible for absolutely
like the toxicity that this person had because we're all
mirrors of each other, you know, so, And it took
(11:43):
me that relationship to say where it was like he did,
he did things and he wasn't the best, but also
I I did things to trigger it or I was
insecure and I was a little controlling because I was insecure,
And then I'm like, that's not I don't want to
live that type of relationship because he felt like I
was maybe in a way choking him where he's like,
(12:07):
you're not allowing me to be myself, so it would
make him want to rebel more so, I can't be
that type of girlfriend because it was fear of abandonment absolutely,
and I had to.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
I had to.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
I that was tough and like a little bit of
like anxious attachment style to like co dependency, codependency, people
bring out those sides of you, like you bring out
these these sides that are just like.
Speaker 4 (12:29):
Well they say, like one of the things that they
say when you go on your first date, like they
call it the post eight the post date eight, right,
And one of the questions is like, what did you
feel when you're around that person? And what do they bring?
What side of you do they bring out? Because that
side never leaves? So are are you more anxious? Are
you more like do you become the paternal figure? Do
you do you become a little bit of a child
like And then you have to decide is that where
(12:51):
you want to say? Is that where you want to
like live in the relationship?
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Absolutely? Yes, And that's where I with this relationship, I
saw the difference because I was being more maternal in
my I was being motherly and he felt smothered and
he felt that way. And now it's like, no, we're
two individuals coming together. You are responsible for your feelings.
I'm responsible for my own and we both have to
do our work individually so that we're stronger for each other.
(13:14):
It took me so freaking long account it's like, also,
like the other person to have the time.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Knowledge of accountability too, not just like sometimes I feel
like the way I've dated is so like I have
all this knowledge, like big brain energy of like accountability
and knowing like what is mine and what is and
then the other person doesn't know that at all and
has zero awareness of how they're coming off. Like so
you feel like now both sides are equal, and now
(13:44):
it's just easier. Do you feel like you can breathe easier?
Speaker 2 (13:46):
I feel like you can breathe. I don't feel I
don't feel anxious, I don't feel depressed. I crazy. I
started losing a lot of weight after I let that
relationship go, like physically because I I think just all
that stress and and I released a lot of cortisol
and I was just like, I don't know it was
(14:07):
it was it just and I think the universe. And
I thank God for that experience because it prepared me
for this. I don't regret it, you know, but I
did have to look within and say, what am I
going to change this? I don't want to go through
this again. I don't want to have relationship after relationship.
I want to have something stable. I want emotional stability.
So that's what I did. And I just did a
(14:27):
lot of a lot more therapy, and I spent times
alone and I cried a lot. I cried so much
by myself, my dog and I and I just went
through it. I endured the damn pagne. I endured it.
Speaker 4 (14:39):
What would you say to somebody who is like kind
of at that place in their life. I don't know
if you remember if you ever read or watched the
movie with Julie Roberts e Pray Love Yes, But in
the book they talk about she was talking about how
she would wake up the middle of the night married
to her first husband and go into the bathroom and
just sob on the bathroom floor.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
That was me, just.
Speaker 4 (14:56):
Cry And she's like, I didn't know what my next
movie was. Like, what would you say to somebody who
was doing that, like going into the bathroom or just
having those moments being like I don't know what my
next move should be.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
First of all, don't ignore that feeling that is your spirit,
that is your gut again, that gut feeling, which is
like that intuition that we all have, you know, don't
ignore it. There is something off. There is something off,
and you need to figure out where that comes from
and why if you're feeling like that, those are that's
that's that is anxiety, that is something that those are
(15:29):
not good feelings that are going to allow the relationship
to flourish. I'm not saying that that's not the person
for you. What I'm saying is more of like if
it's therapy, do it together. You have to talk about it.
But I ignored it for so long and I thought, Okay,
I'm just gonna because I'm very ter. I'm like, I'm
gonna make this work.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
I want to make it work.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
It's like, no, there's no reason why I'm laying in
bed right next to you and I'm crying and I
just feel so alone. But you're right next to me,
you know, And it's you have to address it. You
have to.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
And I feel like as women too, we will take
on that maternal side sometimes to and feel completely responsible
to fix it. Yes, And like, what do you say
about like the misogyny of it all of like you
being responsible for like how do you kind of like
when you want to move on from someone or break
up from someone, how do you kind of like clear
(16:36):
your mind of of of.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
That, clear your mind of of the sorry.
Speaker 3 (16:45):
Yeah, just just like how do you like?
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Not?
Speaker 3 (16:47):
I guess I'm like, like, there's so much I want
to say.
Speaker 4 (16:50):
How do you clear the slate?
Speaker 3 (16:53):
How do you like? Because I feel like as women
as like, you know, you got married, you brought all
your fans into it, and your family has a relationship
with this person, and I feel like it's always up
to us to be like sorry, everyone like this is happening,
Like how do you just focus on yourself? Yeah, and
like kind of silence the noise and just like like
(17:15):
what do you say to yourself?
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Had a I was very afraid of that. I was
afraid of because it was a very public relationship and
I didn't know what my next move was. I just said,
I am a risk taker. I I depend on God
and I leave my life in his hands. And I
just took a leap of faith. I said, I don't
know what I'm going to do. I know this is
going to hurt so much because I let him go.
Being in love, I thought I was well because now
(17:38):
that I know what love is really, it's so different.
But I was in love. I was I think infatuated,
to be honest. So I think what I had to
do is I had to zone everything out and everyone
I could not care about what the world is going
to say. I was like, I am not happy, I
am not at peace. I am also not I have
to let him go and be who he's meant to
(17:59):
be because he's not the person for me, because if
he was, it wouldn't it doesn't have to be this hard,
doesn't have to be this painful. And I did. Like
one of my uncles wasn't okay with it. He's like,
you're gonna get divorced, like you shouldn't you You need
to be there for him if he has this addiction
or whatever. I might. No, I see, That's why.
Speaker 3 (18:19):
That's what I'm saying, is like there's a lot of misogyny,
misogyny around that is that like, why does the woman
have to be in control of like fixing this person's
you know, issue with addiction or something that's a lot
to carry.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
I feel like, you know, you see it in our
family where like the women stick around with the husbands
no matter what, you.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
Know, Like, and that's what I saw. That's exactly what
you're saying is I'm like, wait, I've seen it with
my grandmother. I see it with some of my aunts
I saw even with my mom, where I'm like, no,
this is not right and I need to just have
the courage to let it go. And that's I think
where a lot of the issues started with this particular
uncle was because I decided to divorce him and leave him.
(19:00):
It's like, how dare you? Like, Oh, you're just going
to give up It hasn't even been a year. I
was like, yeah, this dude, you have no idea what
he's doing.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Though. Yeah, it's like I don't.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
Have no Like, you're not married to him. You're literally
not in the relationships, not in a relationship.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
And it's not my responsibility. It's now I know I
have to carry my own weight and take accountability and
be responsible for my own feelings and actions. And so
does he absolutely, And if he doesn't want to change,
I can't force it. And I thought I could change him.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
That was what you date him then exactly with him,
you do all that for real.
Speaker 4 (19:30):
It reminds me of like when I worked at Forever
twenty one for three days and then I quit and
then they were like, he only lasted for three days.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
I was like, I got smart enough the two days
not hitting on forever twenty one.
Speaker 4 (19:38):
But it was like a lot, like I have to
do go back to forever twenty one require a lot.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
I'd be true with that because I used to work
at kmart for four hours four hours.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
I worked him at once.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
For four hours. I said, Oh, I'm not doing this.
My mom last hime me. She's like, what's wrong. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (19:56):
I wanted to work there, but I would get in
trouble because then I would talk to all the people
and I'd be like, oh my god, yes, you have
a waiting to go to. Come on, let's go figure
out you're gonna wear. And they were like, you can't
do that. You just started. You have to You're a greeter.
That is your job.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
And I was like, but I want to help everybody made.
Speaker 4 (20:11):
My posts as the greeterer, and then they were like
annoyed with me. They're like, you gotta now you've got
to be in the bag and take out the trash.
And I was like, I'm out.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
I'm trying to make this place better.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
And that's taking back your power and breaking generational curses.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
It's also being like and letting you go. I'm loving
mass like Jo.
Speaker 4 (20:34):
Not see what og jojo, but like, so then you're
there and you kind of make this big decision to
move on and let me take that big step, which
is hard.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
You know, it's hard to do it on.
Speaker 4 (20:48):
Your own, but you are doing it in the public eye,
and you're taking time to kind of like find yourself
now and figure things out. And you see these beautiful
shaped eyes looking at you. Yes, eyeballs, that's the social.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Media clip right there. Oh yeah, yeah, good drinking game.
Speaker 4 (21:14):
So you see these beautiful hazel eyeballs, and you have
this feeling and a lot of people talk about how
when you meet the one that's going to be for
you, you feel the oots. You feel like a little bit
of that energy, like they.
Speaker 3 (21:27):
Say when you know, you know what is it that
you know?
Speaker 2 (21:31):
It felt familiar. I can't even explain it. I can't
express it, like I I just remember we looked at
each other in my living room and he said that
I came out of like my I was getting ready
in my glamor room like this, just like oh like
a and I felt like, oh, it's that guy. And
it just felt it felt so comfortable, like I just
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felt immediate peace and just calmness. And I said, oh
my god, I like this feeling to the point where
I wanted to spend We spent the next freaking four
or five days together every day. Wow, Like it was
like we were just together and say, hey, you're out
of work, come on.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Four days now.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
Yeah, And it was just it just felt I can't
even explain it. It just felt different from everything else.
But I had prayed for that. I had prayed for
that feeling. I'm like, I cannot wait to fall out
of love from this person and find I just I
want the next person to be the person God please,
And I just want the next person to be the
person please like and and show me what I need
(22:35):
to do. And it was tough. The first year was tough.
It was me. I had a lot of things I
had to work on and I didn't realize it.
Speaker 3 (22:43):
Speaking of things to work, we have you know the
term ick. When you get the ick. Yes, it's like
when you get like turned off by somebody. But it
could be the smallest little thing. Sometimes not me, but
maybe him. He's a virgo. Everything we want to know.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
I'm also diagnosed with OCD by.
Speaker 3 (23:02):
The way, right right and ADHD, And yeah, we want
to know, like if our X are valid or if
his X are valid. Okay, so we have a list
or are we just immature? Number one? You said posture
on a first date? Can you set up that?
Speaker 5 (23:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (23:19):
I just like, I think that it's sexy when you
see a man with good posture, and if he has
bad posture, I'm like, I'm out.
Speaker 1 (23:24):
I agree, thank you.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
You're bored.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
You don't want to be here?
Speaker 4 (23:30):
Like, come on, you know tire problematic? Tire banks once said,
put your shoulders up to your ears, pull.
Speaker 3 (23:37):
Back to the wall and drops them down.
Speaker 1 (23:39):
Yeah, and in the air exactly. That's how I want
to see. Titties and dimples.
Speaker 4 (23:43):
Yeah, dimples the second one. And this is these are
my real eggs. Why I've left? Why I didn't call it?
Speaker 1 (23:49):
Some people back on the first date? An ugly laugh,
an ugly laugh.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
I like ugly laws.
Speaker 3 (23:56):
I have an ugly so immature you, I think something.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
I like things that are different, so unique, So I
don't mind.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
Yes, I think an ugly laugh is kind of cute, entertaining.
I mean, like, what can you demonstrate what an ugly laugh?
Speaker 4 (24:09):
I have a really loud, loud laugh. My mouth gets
really big. You'll hear me laugh. I'm probably the first
of the person you'll hear laughing at a restaurant. But
I like it because it's me and I think it's
cute because it's me. But if I see somebody else
in it, I'm like, calm down.
Speaker 3 (24:23):
So it's a projection.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
It is a.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
Projection, which too, I have a crazy ass laugh too.
Speaker 4 (24:28):
But yeah, I mean, and then the other one is
like bad breath, bad hygiene.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
I can't with that. I'm sorry.
Speaker 4 (24:35):
I once saw somebody have a little bit of like
tartar like on their teeth and I was like, I
can't do it.
Speaker 2 (24:40):
I can't, I cannot. I'm sorry. I'm all about hygiene,
you know, healthy bo And it's just you're gonna kiss me,
and I'm I feel like I want to, you know,
attract what you know what I mean, I want to
hear myself yourself.
Speaker 3 (24:57):
You probably have some virgo in your chart.
Speaker 1 (24:59):
I know.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
Yeah, no I think I have. I don't know that cancer.
I don't know if it's arising. It's libra and then scorpio,
one of those I have to figure out where. Yeah,
that's hot.
Speaker 4 (25:11):
So you have yeah, you have like uh double water
and air right water air, You're like steam you're steamy.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
I'm usually yeah, I'm pretty seem I think that.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Like, so then I feel like a lot of people go.
Speaker 4 (25:26):
When I write tell people about my ex, They're like,
you don't like him that much then, because when you
do like them, you're like, I don't care if you
have plaque on your teeth, baby, get in here.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
Yeah, I don't know about plaque, y'all. I mean, Or
maybe if you really like it, be like, hey, let's
go to the dentist, Like, let's look.
Speaker 3 (25:41):
If you want to.
Speaker 4 (25:44):
It's like, what does it bring out in me? I'm like,
now making your appointments for a dental hygiene.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
Like I can't.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
But I think sometimes if it's if you feel that
everything else is good, maybe it's take you should like
build up the courage to say, hey, dude, like I
really am feeling you, but this really bugs me because
I did that in my relationship. There's certain things like
before when I was younger, I was like, I want
like a taller guy and this and that and all
that ship went out.
Speaker 3 (26:10):
Yeah I know I want a taller guy. I'm like,
maybe they can just get like knee surgery or something.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Just get a knee surgery.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
Send their legs or something like get platform shoes.
Speaker 5 (26:21):
Right.
Speaker 4 (26:21):
Yeah, so now you're like, what now, I don't know
how tall? Then your current husband.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
He says he's five to seven. I think he's seven
five seven. I'm five two. I'm a short, so I
don't mind. I'm like, you know, but before it was like,
you know, five eleven, and I'm like, now I'm like, okay,
I mean there's there's not a lot of things that
bothered me about him, to be honest.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
See, and that's how you know that you like them.
Speaker 4 (26:45):
Suppose that's what they say, because I'd be like, I
don't know, like I'll lead people who are too messy
if they like do like if they don't like clean.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Up after themselves.
Speaker 4 (26:54):
I'm like, I always picture because I also come from
family borders, right, and I'm like, I don't want to
grow into being so if I'm like, if you're not
picking up your shoes and you're underwent throwing your trash
away right now, And.
Speaker 2 (27:04):
That's just a lot of dudes though, because he can
be like that the sort of the NATO a little bit,
and I have to tell him, like I'm not I'll
pick him up once in a while. Because I want
the house, but you have to. I'll tell him like, Babe,
your shoes. And the good thing is he's intentional. Anything
that I tell him that bothers me and vice versa.
We try to fix for each other because you just
want the relationship to do or I think it just
you get to that point where it's like maturity, where like, Okay,
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I want the relationship to work. We have to compromise.
I'm gonna do my part.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
How do you resolve conflict?
Speaker 2 (27:32):
We have very good communication, sometimes not the best, especially
the first year me more than anything, I was quick
to just put my guards up and be like, oh
f this. You know, I was a runner. He wasn't,
which kind of helped out. But now we communicate about everything.
There's something that bothers us and we other. We can
be in the same room like this and he'll text me,
you know what, this really bothered me what you said
(27:54):
and this there's other people wow yeah, and I'm like
stake ady breath. I'm like, well, I understand, and uh huh.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
Flings are valid.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
Feelings are valid because it's like, who am I to
tell him that his feelings aren't? Like it's like even
though I'm like, dude, I think you took it the
wrong way. You don't know. I just take deep breaths now,
and now I'm like, okay, can we go into the
other room and talk? And we do that.
Speaker 4 (28:17):
I love that I'm to be like in bed with
you and be like like getting ready to see I
just think it's funny that, yeah, I'm the.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
Person who they're like, are you mad? I'm like I'm good. No,
I'm okay, okay. And then later you'll get a long
text of like earlier today, I just want to say
start this. We always say like because Curly and I
will have some fights sometimes, Like we've been best friends
for a long time. We started as like work besties
first and then later on just like I r L besties.
(28:51):
And you know, it's like a different transition too. And
and we come from different generations.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
We do, yes, I'm a millennial.
Speaker 3 (28:59):
I'm I'm I'm a millennial to yeah, but yeah, and
and so we had to learn how to like kind
of like handle conflict and and I think the most
important thing for me was like we're having two completely
different experiences because we have lived different lives. So you're
watching a different movie than I am. That's what like
(29:21):
I always say, And so I can't expect you to
fully understand my brain. I have to like communicate like, well,
this is why it triggered me or and activated me.
And I hope that you would do the same for me.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
How we deliver our message, how we deliver it, it's
absolutely that and and I think knowing that, and I
think for me too is knowing people their love language.
Knowing their love language has helped me quite a bit.
But yeah, I mean, I'm I words of affirmation for me,
and yeah, I have wars affirmation.
Speaker 3 (29:59):
Help me every day.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
I'm pretty Tell.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
Me why you like me? And like what why what
about me? You like me today?
Speaker 2 (30:06):
Today? Exactly? You can tell me I'm pretty shay.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
Yeah, I can buy myself my own ship.
Speaker 4 (30:11):
I don't need to do anything my own I'm an
independent person. But tell me I'm sexy.
Speaker 3 (30:15):
Tell me that I was telling you that I was
really funny today and you laughed at all my jokes.
You know you have to laugh at all my jokes. Yeah,
if not, you don't like me.
Speaker 1 (30:23):
You don't like me as much as you say you do. Yeah,
oh my god, you did? I mean kind of my.
Speaker 4 (30:28):
Little cheese mosa yours where when you were like that,
you said that you were like had things to work
on in yourself, Like, yeah, if you feel so inclined,
I feel like that's something that a lot of people,
even I have trouble understanding. We all have trouble understanding
what are the things that we can work on on ourselves,
because we're so quick to be like, no, but you
did this, and you did this, and this is how
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you hurt me, Like what are what's like one thing
that you feel like you really had to go? I
didn't know I did that and I'm working on that
and now I can.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
Now I can be better.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
I would take things very personal, you know, like he would.
He was telling me something straight up and not in
a mean way, but I feel like you're being mean
or you don't think that I like, I just felt
always very like offended. And I realized I'm like I
caused these things, these stories in my head that I'm
like why, And it's all insecurity. It just came into
(31:22):
being like I'm insecure of either looking dumb to you
or I don't know. It was just it was that.
It was that, and then I had a lot of
abandonment issues, like I just I'm like, I'm gonna let
you go before you let me go, because you're not
gonna hurt me. And it's like, that's not that's I'm
always on defense mode. That's freaking exhausting, and I'm like, dude,
(31:43):
I'm just gonna let everything. After I did that, I
felt so much better. But it was just really we
all have insecurities, and it was just me saying, Okay,
what are my insecurities And I'm going to work on
them because again, I don't want to keep going through
this vicious cycle and these generational courses because I have
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intentionally working on them, you know, every day. It's in
everyday thing. It's something that I have to like quiet
down every day.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
And you can feel your lineage healing when you kind
of break away from those like toxic habits that you have,
like not taking things so personal. I'm still working on
that because I'm like, what did you mean by that? Yeah,
like my head will stop, like.
Speaker 2 (32:41):
What it's only with him though with everything else, I'm
not like that. It's just in a relationship, I get
very like.
Speaker 3 (32:45):
Because they're so intimate and it's and it's they see
literally everything you know, and you're showing you're showing up
so vulnerable and hoping that yeah, and you're hoping that
they will accept you, and and.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Exactly like this is this is who I am, Like,
this is my love, curity, my heart.
Speaker 1 (33:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (33:05):
And I think it's also just like we do as
a society, put a lot of expectations on our partner.
I think they always say that with best friends, you're like,
I have the homie I party with, I have the homie.
I can go to a museum with, have the homie
I call to cry with. But with relationships, they have
to be all of those right, and we don't allow
them to be like, oh, it's okay if I don't
want to like cry with you, like I cry better
(33:25):
with my gay friend. Your mom the other day we
went to like a shop and she's like, oh, it's
so fun hanging with you, not like my husband like this.
Speaker 1 (33:32):
We went to like like look at smell candles, got
a bracelet, and I was like, well, I'm gay.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
Like this girl, I don't. I don't want to.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
That's a good thing.
Speaker 4 (33:43):
Your husband doesn't want to walk around and get bracelets
and friends bracelets and smoke candles.
Speaker 3 (33:47):
Yeah, we all got permanive bracelets.
Speaker 2 (33:49):
That is so cute. I want one.
Speaker 1 (33:50):
I want to get so cute.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
They're so adorable.
Speaker 3 (33:56):
We'll go to the zodiac section of the podcast. Cheeky
you are cancer A June cancer, Happy belated birthday. How
do you feel about being a cancer?
Speaker 2 (34:09):
Like?
Speaker 3 (34:09):
What is it? How do you feel like? You kind
of like gel with it?
Speaker 2 (34:13):
I love it. I love being a June cancer, not
a July cancer was a very different and extremely different so,
you know, yes, I don't know saw some I really
like it. I love that I'm very nurturing, a very
like you know, I love a very very intuitive. What
I don't really like about it is that I'm very
(34:34):
lunatica like I could be completely fine and then if
the freaking moon is I don't know more to the
laughter or whatever, it changed, and I'm very like that.
I that's why I have to meditate every day, uh huh,
because if I do meditate, I could be a very
unhealthy cancer.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
Okay, you know, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (34:51):
I always make jokes that cancers don't know how to
fight on topic, like all like three of my ex
boyfriends were all cancers, which amazing.
Speaker 1 (34:58):
I learned how to love. I learned how to be
a boyfriend because of them. Yeah, y'all are healers. Men.
Speaker 2 (35:03):
Cancer are very different. I dated one, oh almost each other,
just like.
Speaker 4 (35:08):
I feel like for me, I always say that virgos
when I fight, like my words are very precise. So
I fight with like a surgeon's knife, and I'm like
cancers fight with like the dullest butter knife that they
found in the back, like they just are like, oh
my god.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (35:22):
Cancer. So in astrology, you have your sun sign, which
is your foundation. Yes, your moon sign kind of represents emotions.
Rising sign is kind of like who you are when
you first appeal to people at first. Okay, yeah, but
it's kind of like it's an important part of your
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like chart too, because it's like where everything was kind
of like rising when you were first born. And then
you have like your mars, which is conflict. My mars
is in cancer. So when I get upset, it's because
I and how I get upset is very cancer in,
which is like exactly how you describe it. If I
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don't breathe, if I don't take time to like it,
just it feels like you're bubbling up. It feels like
you're even then it just fills out and you're like, oh,
I'm sorry, like I didn't mean to say that, or
did I mean to say that. I'm also aries as well,
So what are some like you mentioned a little bit
of like some toxic traits, Like what are some toxic
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traits or misconceptions that like people kind of say talk
about cancers.
Speaker 2 (36:30):
Damn because they say we're emotional.
Speaker 3 (36:33):
Or passive aggressive?
Speaker 2 (36:35):
People say passive. I used to be very passive aggressive.
Speaker 3 (36:37):
Cancer. My grandma's a cancer.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Give it.
Speaker 4 (36:40):
Give me an example, how hogs?
Speaker 1 (36:44):
What?
Speaker 2 (36:44):
Yeah, I had like a best friend back in the
days for like ten years and everything. We just call
each other sisters. And it's like one day she's like,
you're just so passive aggressive. It's like, what does that
even mean? I cooled it and I was like, ah,
she's right, I'm not going to forget sate it. It's
like I want I tell you like they I am
like very calm about it right out. And I used
to do this a lot, like now I'm now I'm
(37:07):
aware of it. So I'm like, Okay, I don't want
to be that way. I'm gonna be just direct. Like
it's like here I'm I don't want to be aggressive.
I don't want to be as aggressive. I'm just gonna
be straight to the point. Yeah, But before I used
to be like, oh well, oh it's okay, it's it's fine.
It doesn't bother It didn't bother me. But I don't know,
I can't even think of something.
Speaker 3 (37:24):
But you know what I mean, Like, yeah, because passive aggressiveness,
when it shows up with cancers, it there's like low
vibrational cancers like kind of unhealthy. I don't like to
say unhealthy, because it's all health, it's all good, it's unhealthy,
but like the low vibrational means like you're just learning
how to communicate cancers. I feel like they are so
watery and they're the crab, right, and their shells are
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like they're tough, but they're not that tough, and they're
very goody on the inside.
Speaker 5 (37:52):
Yes, yeah, they're so delicious, delicious crabs, but they it's
just about learning your communications style, you know.
Speaker 3 (38:04):
And it's it's just because, like I said, you just
have so much emotion there that you have to kind
of like separate it from like what is actually me
and my emotions and what is just like out outer
source stuff exactly.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
And it took me a long time to become like
emotional intelligent, like emotionally emotionally intelligent, where it's like, this
is what I'm feeling, How am I going to communicate it?
Let me sort it out, let me breathe instead of
being impulsive, because that's another thing that cancers are very
can be very impulsive, especially the jily cancers. And I've
learned to just because I want to grow. I every day.
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I'm like, I want to be better. And I asked myself.
I'm like, did I react in a certain way? And
I like asking, I'm like, hey, do you think I
was wrong with doing that? Like I don't. I have
no issue with being vulnerable. And also I try my
best not to be impulsive, which is why I got
to think through it and there was something else that
completely I was gonna say something else about cancers.
Speaker 4 (39:00):
Anyways, you can also always check in with the GC,
the group chat, okay, like all the people that you
love and like I call them the committee.
Speaker 1 (39:08):
I bring it before the committee and I'm like, what
does the team think?
Speaker 4 (39:12):
What do we think? Like did I overreact? Or I
have a game show in my head?
Speaker 1 (39:16):
Called am I tripping?
Speaker 4 (39:19):
And there's lights, there's audience, and they're like on today's show,
today's episode we have.
Speaker 2 (39:26):
It's very helpful.
Speaker 3 (39:27):
No, I'm always like, no, I'm going to do that.
Speaker 2 (39:29):
I'm going to take it to the committee. Yes, yeah, yeah,
but I do, but I do that. Iis like asking me.
I ask people. I'm like, hey, did I overreact?
Speaker 5 (39:38):
Like?
Speaker 2 (39:38):
Am I being emotional? And because I think now that
I'm aware and I want to like intentionally be a
better person, Like I know that I have to meditate.
I know what I have to do to be a
healthy cancer or.
Speaker 3 (39:50):
High vibrating high vibrating.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
Cancer where I'm centered, I'm aligned, because when I don't
do that, I'm ready to chat up with aassles. You
know what I mean, right, yeah, yes, yes, yeah.
Speaker 3 (40:03):
And you're also like your borderline of CUSP cancer Gemini
cancer because cancer or Gemini ends on the twenty first
and your birthdays of twenty six of June, yes, June, yes, yeah,
So it's like there's a little do you feel a
little tiny influence of like Gemini? And that would be
why like you get along so well with your husband too.
Speaker 2 (40:25):
I hadn't even thought about that. To be honest, I
don't know. I guess I don't know. I should because
I'm married to one, but I don't know much about
geminis to say that maybe, like like tell me some
stuff and I'll tell you, like, like, what are some
things besides the ones that we already mentioned.
Speaker 3 (40:40):
June June cancers are different from July cancers because July
cancer is like I'm a March Aries. I'm not like
in April aries, so I'm closer to Pisces than i am.
So I'm a little less like fiery and more hot
tub you know, okay, versus like I know, July cancers
are like very fiery, very fiery and very like you know,
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So there's there's a balance. And I like always mentioning that,
like even though people say the cusps don't exist, they
do exist because you feel different than like love all aries,
but I'm like, I'm not an April Aris.
Speaker 2 (41:17):
I'm a cancer, but I'm not cancer. I tell people
that all the time. I love Okay, very passionate.
Speaker 3 (41:26):
We were kind of dragging cancers this season just because
season well off and on off and on. What signs
do you get along with or do you like the
most or do you gravitate towards.
Speaker 2 (41:38):
Libras and Taurus. Yeah, I have a lot of Tauruses
around me and Libra's, Like, I love Libra's. I don't know,
like I just feel like they're balanced, are just like
level headed. They're very straightforward. Caim look at her, my
assistant over there. Makes sense that you're to.
Speaker 3 (41:58):
I love that they are.
Speaker 4 (42:00):
Last episode, I was saying they need to like up
the toxicity. They're just so nice.
Speaker 2 (42:04):
Yeah, she's so chill. I think I love Aquarius. I
love Capricorns. We get along very well. I think Pisces
worry me a little bit. Yeah, and and for sure
like can be like bitch, we can't hear.
Speaker 1 (42:21):
O cool exactly. That is so funny though, just imagining
being at your interview, it is lying.
Speaker 4 (42:27):
I'm not like, which signs do you say you're in
a birth certificate?
Speaker 1 (42:31):
I mean in your resume that you are July cancer.
Speaker 2 (42:34):
Like no, I know, because yeah, it'd be too hard.
Speaker 1 (42:39):
Libs are great, toys are a little wild, but.
Speaker 2 (42:42):
M I just have a lot of them around me,
which is like I know how to deal with them.
But yeah, I'm actually having a little issue with the
toryst right now a lot.
Speaker 1 (42:52):
My mom's when the toys, this is the tourist. It's
just I'm always You're stubborn, right, They're so stubborn and.
Speaker 4 (42:58):
Not in the way that you think, like not in
the way of like a regular yeah, like the regular stubborness.
They're just stubborn and like, hey, it's okay to say
you're wrong.
Speaker 2 (43:06):
Yes, yeah, okay, it's just take a little bit of accountablity.
It's okay, it's okay. You know what. Hey, instead of
lying about you being laid, you know, just I woke up, you.
Speaker 1 (43:21):
Know, yes, that's it and it's no.
Speaker 4 (43:26):
Yeah, like Broco would be like, it's not that I'm late,
you just chose a really bad time.
Speaker 1 (43:31):
So that's my toxic.
Speaker 3 (43:32):
I like was I late or were you just early?
Speaker 5 (43:38):
I would like, damn it.
Speaker 1 (43:42):
Yeah, that concludes our zodiac section.
Speaker 2 (43:45):
It was fun.
Speaker 4 (43:46):
Well, we usually say may We always say like how.
Speaker 1 (43:50):
Do you plead?
Speaker 4 (43:51):
Like what would be like your overall message like learning
of today?
Speaker 1 (43:54):
Like how do you plead?
Speaker 2 (43:55):
Just in general?
Speaker 1 (43:57):
It could be like like do you want us to
go first?
Speaker 3 (43:59):
Or well, I know, like if we wrote down like
like what is your interpretation or definition of love? Like
true love. Wow, true love your experience now being married?
Speaker 2 (44:12):
Yeah, well, love is the moving force of the universe,
first of all, and I've learned to embrace it in
every way. But love to me is and it's gonna
sound so cliche, but it definitely is unconditional. And I
mean this because it's not about finding the perfect person.
(44:33):
It's about finding the perfect person for you, someone that
is willing to make the changes necessary. Because I at
first thought that it wasn't going to work with him
and I but he is on the path of wanting
to be his best self and matching that, and I
think that's what love is all about. It's really finding
that like compromise and being willing to just let your
(44:58):
guard down. And it took me a long time. Now
I'm like, okay, I have to sometimes remind myself, Hey, chill,
there's no You're in a safe place. Love is safe.
Love feels just like a reath of fresh air, Like
you don't feel like we were talking about anxious. It just
feels safe. It feels just and not easy, because no
(45:20):
relationship is easy. Marriage is not easy, but it just
it should not be like you're trying to break through
a freaking wall. You know it should be okay, I'm
here and you go around it versus I'm trying to
break through, you know what I mean, Like it's it's
I don't know, it just feels safe, feels peace, guys,
like I don't know if it's safe. It's safe. It
(45:44):
is safe, and you feel okay with being completely like
vulnerable with the person and you're not going to be judged.
That was all in my head, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (45:53):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (45:55):
Yes, And also do you have anything coming up, like
what's going on in your.
Speaker 2 (46:00):
Oh my goodness. Right now, I'm preparing for the second
leg of my tour, which starts in September.
Speaker 3 (46:08):
Yeah, we're going please come.
Speaker 2 (46:10):
Please come. I'm going to have a show out here,
I think in December. I believe things are changing, but
I am starting it up again in September. I'm already
starting to record the second part of the album. My
first album was not Yeah, yeah, month is the first part.
And now we're going to do VVS one, which is
diamond esque, you know, And that's it right now. And
(46:32):
we're just working on making kids making trying to you know,
figure that out.
Speaker 5 (46:38):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (46:41):
Yes, and yeah, I'm excited for all of that stuff too.
I'm excited for the baptism.
Speaker 3 (46:46):
And yes, I will be there at the baptism baby shower.
Speaker 4 (46:52):
Yeah, you know, I'll just hang out and wherever you
have the snacks and stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (46:57):
I do have a question. Yes, I don't know if
people who asked you guys this before, but is it
called the Super bestI Club because of the Babysitters Club
or no.
Speaker 1 (47:05):
It's a player on all that.
Speaker 3 (47:07):
Yeah, it's like super secret best.
Speaker 2 (47:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (47:10):
We feel like very nineties, like yes, exclusive, I love it.
Speaker 1 (47:15):
Yes, like we're just chilling the plastic phones, fake boys.
Speaker 2 (47:19):
Just yes, okay, yes, okay perfect. I was like, I
just I love the Babysitters Club. So it's just anyway,
we love you so much.
Speaker 4 (47:26):
I do want to say that we've been in this
for so long and you truly are one of the
kindest people in the business.
Speaker 1 (47:32):
You were just such a human being.
Speaker 4 (47:33):
Like it's crazy how you uplift a lot of people
in the community as well. Like you're not the type
of entertainer or creative who is like me and me,
You're very like come with me. And I just want
people to know that too. That so not that you
can see that you can feel it, and we're so
thankful that you be here with them.
Speaker 2 (47:52):
Yes, guys about to cry cry.
Speaker 1 (47:58):
We knew we were going to get guys.
Speaker 2 (48:02):
I love this. I want to come back. I love
the energy. I'd love like it's it's beautiful, it's it's
a nice balance. It's just I really enjoyed it.
Speaker 3 (48:11):
Thank you so much, and thank you guys for watching
and listening to another episode of the super SECA Best
Club podcast Curly. How can I Find you? On social media?
Speaker 4 (48:21):
You can find me on Instagram or TikTok at the
Curly V show.
Speaker 1 (48:25):
Why where can people find you?
Speaker 3 (48:26):
You can find me at Maya in the Moment, m
a y n m A y a in the moment,
anywhere where you scroll.
Speaker 2 (48:35):
You can find me on Instagram as cheeky c h
I q u I s because people do k not
a k a q there you go.
Speaker 3 (48:41):
I know somebody was like, how do you spell chee
cheese and the like it's I.
Speaker 4 (48:45):
Got some cheese, we were like, Or you can literally
just google her.
Speaker 3 (48:52):
Yeah, she's a pop star.
Speaker 1 (48:53):
She's a pop star.
Speaker 2 (48:54):
A right, guys.
Speaker 1 (48:55):
You know I'm gonna try to wake that be up earlier.
Speaker 3 (48:59):
Oh yeah, if you Wake.
Speaker 1 (49:00):
Up, Wake Up, Bye Bye.
Speaker 3 (49:04):
Make sure to hit that subscribe button to hear more
episodes every single week. The Super Secret Bestie Club podcast
is a production of Sonodo in partnership with iHeartRadio's michaela
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Speaker 4 (49:16):
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