July 10, 2024 • 51 mins
Join Curly and Maya as they dive into the treacherous waters of social media romance. Should you flaunt your #relationshipgoals or keep your love life under wraps?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, did you see and beep beep broke up?
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Oh? Yes, wait, how did you know?
Speaker 3 (00:06):
I don't really know for sure, but they stopped posting
photos together and the old ones are gone gone.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Do you think that she left him for Beep? Because
remember they were sitting together at Beepe's wedding and Beep
saw them and beep beep, so that beat beep beep.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Get out of the way.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Sorry, I'm in traffic.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Is that you behind me?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Oh? Get out of the way.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Oh, get in here.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
My name is Curly and I'm Maya, and welcome to
the Super Secret Bestie Clubs Podcast.
Speaker 4 (00:40):
A super secret club where we talk about super secret things.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Yeah, like secrets that are super That's what it is.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
In each episode we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreaks, men,
and of course our favorite secrets.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Get in here.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
You know the level of which we create these skits
on the fly, right, surprised?
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Oh yeah, literally on the fly day of right when
we are like about to Yes, yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
We hope you enjoy our opening skits because there really
are ADHD brains.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
They really are. They are potent. No one ever gets
to see that side of us except for you guys. Yeah,
exactly Welcome to another episode of The Super Secret Bestie
Club Podcast. We are so excited to be here. We've
been on a little bit of a break. We like
really a block shoot or how do you say that?
(01:37):
We like, we built up a lot of O. I
like your mug all made that. Oh oh my god,
I know those strokes. I know the I know the
painting strokes.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Yeah, I have a larger, taller one that's a cup
of this version that is your.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Dad made all cute.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Curly is also going to come spend the night at
my parents' house.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Yeah, first time.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
First time. I told them it's a privilege and everyone
should experience it once in their lives. And we're at
that point in our friendship where you you're overdue.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
Yeah, She's like it's time. I mean, I'm pretty like
chill to have sleepover. To be honest, I don't really
I don't really take up much room.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
It's an experience. It's an experience because we do karaoke,
we do gummy nights. But I'm excited to be back
with you, Curls, because we've been kind of like all
over the place. I know. I was like, we were
prepping for this episode yesterday and I was like, my
soul is getting agitated that we have not physically seen
each other. I have not hugged you. Not that I'm
(02:45):
mad at you, but my soul is agitated that I
have not had well, I know, a curly experience.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
We are overdue for sure. And I was like, well,
you've been like on a world tour.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Should be on a woad tour.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
She's been like in New York, Spain, Arizona, like all
over and you know. So it's like it's not like
because we don't want to, it's just because she's literally
been like on her.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Yeah, it's been busy season on her.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
What do I what could I? What could yours be?
I just told somebody.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
I was talking to one of my friends who's Dominican
and he's been on a world tour and I was like,
you've been on your little AV world tour. He was like,
dk av's so funny.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Yep, yep, you know what.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Okay, wait quick, sidewark, can I tell you two things?
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (03:37):
That goes in accordance with like, how's my spirit? Well,
just one thing?
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Okay, So this weekend my dad brought this, calls me
in the morning. He's like where are you. I'm like,
I'm in bed. He's like facetimeing. I'm like, this man
doesn't believe me that I'm in bed. Like what does
he need to face time me for? So I FaceTime
him and he shows me this giant dog sitting behind
him in car, and he's like, I've just found this piple.
(04:03):
It was wondering by itself, basically like not what do
I do?
Speaker 1 (04:07):
But like and of course me, I'm.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
A big animal lover, like I love all animals, so
I was like, pick me up that I'm looking, pick
me up, let's go.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Well that's how the it happened with Chloe, right, No,
you guys were driving together together, like you guys together though, yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
We're big animal lovers.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
And then I get like, anyways, so he brings his
dog over and the dog is just phenomenal. He reminds
me so much of Frankie, my piple. He's way bigger
than Frankie. He has to be close to eighty ninety pounds,
Like he's big, like really big.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
But I've been like kind of like, you know, when
when you.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Find these animals, you have to like gain their trust,
you have to rehabilitate them in a lot of ways,
and like, you know, he didn't know how to get
into a car, he didn't know how to walk up
the stairs. He doesn't know. I just taught him how
to sit. It's been day three and like I taught
he learned how to sit. So I'm really excited. I've
been crying for like a bunch because you know, he
reminds me so much of Frank, and it hurts my
(05:07):
heart to think that I don't have Frank with me anymore.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Even now.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
I'm like, but like, we have n't been sleeping because
he has fleas, and I finally got him fleet medication,
and yesterday I showered him for the first time, and
I noticed that he had like a discharge coming out
of his He had something coming out of his penis,
and so I was like, oh my god, I hope
(05:29):
that's just soap and water, Like I hope that's not
actual discharge. Like I don't want to have to take
him to the VAT right away because I don't know
if I'm going to keep him and I don't know.
Like so this morning, I wake up and I'm like,
you know, petting him, and I noticed this like goo
like drip out of his penis and it's it's gooey,
it's a lot, it's green. And then I see more
(05:51):
of like the tip of his dick and I'm like,
oh no, like he's he has an infection, Like that's okay,
like something else I have to like handle. So I
wipe it down and I fucking like I'm touching it
with my fingers by the way, because I'm trying to
see like if it's like if it's the soap in
the water, like I couldn't tell, right, And I'm like, no,
it's pretty like it's like kind of consistent with like pus,
(06:14):
Like it's gooey, it's mucusy. So I'm sitting here and
I'm thinking, oh, let me just look up on TikTok,
like what dog discharge is, right, it's basically dogma dogs.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Megma, which is just a fancy word for dick cheese.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Okay, if anyone's eating breakfast.
Speaker 3 (06:41):
Sorry, I was just like not me fucking fucking like
having this dick cheese. So it comes to those colors,
it comes in like green, yellow, but it's fairly normal
with dogs who are not fixed, with dogs who's so happy. Yeah,
(07:02):
And I've never had a dog that wasn't fixed, so
I don't I didn't recognize it.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Well, that's my dick cheese moment. Thank you.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
You were like, I have a story to tell you
and I'll wait for the podcast. I'm like, okay, yeah,
for sure, I'm very excited that I got to hear that.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
I think you for you and the listeners who are
listening to that. I mean, look, it wouldn't be the
first time that I've had dick cheese between my fingers.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
But anyway, is that how your spirit is? How's your spirit?
Speaker 1 (07:31):
But it's great.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
I mean I was a little sleepy this morning, so
I was that was basically like the highlight of my
morning where I was like, you know, I kind of
live for moments like that where I'm like, of course
it would be me. Of course I would fucking be
like right, it's the worst, and then being like oh okay.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Right, yeah, you need you need these moments to I
feel like it's that would be very humbling for me. Yeah,
but I had like or I could not wake up
this morning. I kept having you know, when you have
like a really good dream that's super vivid and like
when you practice like staying in your dreams and controlling
your dreams. It's like, you know you're in this world.
(08:08):
And I kept waking up having to go to the
bathroom and I'm like, you know, if I open my
eyes all the way, then I know that I'm awake,
So I would like go to the bathroom in my eyes, Like, oh, so,
like I do I keep the dream? And yeah? I
Like it was like about this guy that he like
kept coming like back, and I kept being like, every
(08:29):
single time you come back and like, you come into town,
I fall in love with you all over again. And
then every single time that you leave, I have like
it opens the wound up, and I'm like, what if
next time you come back and come into town, I'm married,
Like just so dramatic. Oh yeah. And then he was like, well,
are you going to be married? I'm like no, He's like,
(08:51):
do you want to be married? I'm like no, but
like what if what if it happens? What if the
next time you come back, I'm pregnant with somebody else's bait?
Well are you seeing anyone? No? Like, I'm like, the
boys in my dreams need to get their shit together.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Okay, boys in the world need to get their shit together.
I'm just like, I don't I don't understand. I keep
like more and more like as I get older. I'm like,
I think and I hear I've heard you say this,
I've heard Shaki say this. I've heard so many people
say this for their like I think I'm just gonna
be single for the rest of my well.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
I was also like, I've just been having such a
weird moment with men lately that I'm like, you know what,
maybe it's just time we fully focus on like women
and just dating like people who aren't cisheit men, because
it just is like there's a disconnect there that my
it agitates and irritates my spirit really bad. And so
(09:46):
I'm like that's not for nothing, like not that I
just want to be like, Okay, I'm moving on, Like
I know I need to, like, you know, unveil what
that means. And but I'm just kind of like, did
you see what it.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
Came on about, like becoming more lesbian and not?
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Yes, I did. I thought that was a lot of
those experiences. I'm like, that is exactly the download that
I got the other day. And then I will like
I think maybe my phone is listening to me too,
but it's I think I've talked about on the podcast too.
It's like, how much of how much of my experience
liking men is about validation and about like I should
(10:24):
be with the protector or I should be when it's
like I can protect myself and I could validate myself.
But how much of that is actual attraction? How much
of that is just like validation from societal, cultural, whatever
it is. And it's also kind of you know, transitioning
to the topic that we are going to talk about today,
(10:45):
it's like sharing your relationship online, how much of my
experience dating men also is for validation to show like
the world like, look, I'm worthy of like you know,
being with somebody or like somebody finally, like you know,
because that's the thing that I think a lot of
people on my social media is like I talk about
(11:06):
dating a lot and being single a lot. So sometimes
they're like, how are you single? Or how are you
blah blah blah or how are you know? So I'm like,
the day they do a hard launch, which will never
be the day, I think I will lose a lot
of followers.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Really, you know what, I used to think that too.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Like we're gonna because mostly of men.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Oh you know what, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
I don't know because I remember, like Selena, they used
to say like Selena needed to look single because a
lot of celebrities.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Like will do that back in the day that if.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
People thought that they were single, they could like, you know,
other fans thought that they could have like a chance
with them, so they were more likely to like still
be there.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
And you know what Selena said, and my.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Husband during her yeah thankful her thanked her gratitude speech
for an award. Yeah, she got booed basically, so like,
you know, it's an interesting thing.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
But what did you say? After though, she was like
she goes.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
Don't boo because if she said, you all wouldn't be
booing if one of y'all was my husband or something
like yeah literally aries, which is so also very charming
for her to say. I think, like, yeah, you got
me again, Like I was angry at you were having
a boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
But you're right, you're not lying, you know.
Speaker 3 (12:23):
I guess Today we're talking about people who show their
relationships online, people who parade them, people who create content
with their significant others, people who post their date nights,
people who post their fun little outfits, Like what does
it mean to share your relationship? I've actually had one
relationship who he and I would have a lot of
(12:45):
we would get upset with each other. Well, yeah, because
we couldn't agree on the fact of whether or not
to post content about each other. I never my entire life,
I have never shared anything about any boyfriend. I never
used to back in the day, on back in the night,
back in the day, on my Space and Facebook, you
could change your status from single taking.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
In a relationship relationship.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
Yeah, like in a relationship with exactly or it's complicated,
And I remember that people used to take that very
seriously and change that and according to what their life
was at.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Oh, I like this little tiny side note is like
when I was dating someone, when I was like fresh
out of high school, I was like, can we now
change a relationship status in a relationship with And he
didn't want to, And I'm like, it's just something that
But I was like because he had just got out
of relationship with someone and so he didn't want to.
It was so different. I'm like, but this is my
first time like with like a boyfriend. I don't even
(13:41):
know if Yeah, we were he was my boyfriend. Yeah,
and we changed it and I was like I felt
so like I felt powerful that would have the fuck
about him?
Speaker 1 (13:50):
What is that feeling though, Like what is that emotion that?
Speaker 2 (13:55):
And this is what I'm saying. It's very much cultural
because a lot of the the toxicity from my lineage
of like the women in my family is that like,
you know, you are not they care I mean ivy
with every Latine family, right, it's like, where's your boyfriend?
Aren't you married yet? Do you want me to hook
you up with someone? Like That's just kind of the
(14:17):
thing where it's like you obviously are lacking something and
that means I need to help you. Like and that's fine,
It's it's okay to want to you know, hook your
friends up or your cousin or whatever. But when it
becomes something like you think there's something wrong with them.
So for me, I had not dated pretty much my
whole life, and then the moment that I got like
(14:37):
a boyfriend, it was something to show my family like
a badge of honor, like look, I'm finally worthy, like
somebody likes me, or I'm not just like an ugly duckling,
or I'm not a fuck up. Yeah, like and that's
kind of fucked up.
Speaker 3 (14:52):
So it's more for like your family, you would say.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
It's more for like for everyone for that like you know, oh,
I'm with somebody, and you know, it just was every
single time I would see somebody like in a relationship
with them, like, oh they have their shit together.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
Yeah yeah, yeah, that's real when that's real because you
think that people who are in a relationship like it's
they have their shit together. They have found some there's
nothing wrong with them, right because they have found someone
to like coexist with, Versus when you're single, you're kind
of like, what's wrong with me? Or what that person's
been single for a long time, what's wrong with them?
Like oh something, they must be crazy, you know what
(15:31):
I mean?
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Like or then you talk shit if they're in a
relationship with the name constantly changes, you know, and you're
and then you're like, oh my god.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
Well I never changed mine because I guess I have
different layers where I'm kind of like I won't.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
I never wanted to.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
Change my status until I was with somebody for a
long time. I never wanted to introduce them to my
family until I was with them for a long time.
I never wanted to engage with them sexually until I
was with them for a.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Few weeks or something.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
Right, But by the way, Blue is the name of
the pipol I named him Blue from Jungle Book.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
But it sounds like blue.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
He is very vocal, so you might actually hear him
a lot in this episode, like crying and he's fine.
He's just looking out the window and he wants he
sounds like a flock of birds. So I mean the
other thing too, is like I remember those things being
super socially important to change the status right to It's
(16:32):
kind of like the top eight on your face on
your MySpace back in the day, it was all the
popular kids had all the other popular kids on their
top eight, and you just knew who was part of
the plastics, and you know, like who was popular.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
In that way.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
I get it. I never was a part of it.
I never wanted to do it. I didn't want to
do that. I didn't want people because I've always been
the Chiese Mosa. I've always been like the like, oh,
Maya has a new boyfriend, Okay, let me go look,
and then what do you always do? You go creep
on his page? Because you see and then what do
you do you critique?
Speaker 2 (17:01):
You're like, oh, and that's energy you're giving to them
and their relationship and that person and your friend like that.
I don't ever want.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
Well, I mean, like you know you what I mean,
you kind of always do it right, Like you go
and look and you're like oh, stef and.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Or you're like damn, like what the fuck?
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Like he does have her life together?
Speaker 1 (17:44):
Yeah, like how did like for me?
Speaker 3 (17:46):
You know, like not you as an example, but I'll
look at somebody and be like, how the fuck did
that guy get this guy?
Speaker 1 (17:52):
You know?
Speaker 3 (17:52):
I'm like, or if they're both like kind of copy
and paste of each other, I'm like, yeah, they would
of course the dating each other, you know, like where
do y'all find each other in the.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
Fucking like.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
So it's like no, no, no, that's we go back
to our like what is it our petty what do
we call bitter bitches? We go back to our bitter bitches.
So we were like, oh, where did you guys find
each other?
Speaker 1 (18:19):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (18:19):
Probably in line at Trader Jos and you guys are
both buying the same like bland vegan food. Oh, because
you guys care about your bodies because you're both vegan. No,
that's good that you care about your bodies, because then
you care about each other. No, that's really good. And
so like you know, it just goes into it makes
you kind of spiral. We all like affect each other,
and so I feel like we put down like why
(18:40):
is this important to people? I think there's different layers
of like you know, we're going to talk about all
this stuff about like hard launch, when is it okay?
What's the pro? What is like the kind of like
pros and cons of sharing your relationship online? Like what's
the pro?
Speaker 3 (18:57):
I mean, I think it goes back to what you said, right,
like you're like, look at me, like I'm desirable, right,
look at me like I finally got it together, I
finally found happiness.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
I finally did it.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Like somebody wants me, somebody sees me as worthy and
enough and attractive to date, because then that means But
I think it goes back to like the status too.
If we're talking like bridgertonera, right, it's like who you're
associated with, we still kind of have that now.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
Absolutely.
Speaker 3 (19:31):
I also think that it's a little bit of like
a rebound, right, Like you're like I want all my exes.
I want everybody who ever dated me, everybody who said.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
No to me.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
Finally, you and me are the lucky ones this time.
Speaker 3 (19:45):
As LNA's already says, but like you know, you kind
of go like fuck all, y'all, Like I finally found
the one. I found happiness. I found somebody who's sexy.
I found someone who's sexy. You're like all these different
things that I think kind of get answered with you hosting.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
Like this is my man, this is my bull or
like yeah, there's like a sense of pride to it
and like I feel like it's something you can be Like,
I mean, I have never shown anyone that I have
dated or had a situationship anybody since probably when I
(20:24):
dated somebody in Arizona, like and that was a long
time ago, when I was like living back home because
I I mean, I wanted to write. But I even
had somebody that I was dating being like.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Are you going to show me on social media?
Speaker 2 (20:40):
And this was we were like two months dating, and
I was like, you're thinking about like you're having anxiety
already about if I were, Like I even we went
to go get soup and I took a picture I
took a video of like our two soups and maybe
it showed his hands and I posted on Twitter and
it was like this vivid soup that was so good
(21:01):
and people were like, oh my god, this soup is
so good.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
He's like, oh, people saw my hands. And then I'm like, you.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Think people are going to recognize your hands?
Speaker 1 (21:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (21:09):
Yeah, I think people have like like what, like should
I go? Should I take it down? He's like no, no,
it's just yeah, I don't know. I'm like, I think
he was more obsessed with his image of being with
me than actually being with me, you know what I'm saying,
which is so that's why it's real. And I understand
that that stuff gives people like anxiety, especially with like
(21:32):
the platforms that we have, but sometimes it just feels
good to show off like the person that you're with.
But I'm also like, there's some hating ass bitches there.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
Yeah, so I think that it can also activate. Like
for me, it activates it invites too many people into
the kitchen of my relationship.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
It's how I feel, you know what.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
I mean, when you're still cooking, We're still cooking.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
I mean, the thing is like my last relationship. Like
we did share stuff on social media. I was making
little videos of us, I was posting, you know, and and.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
There we did have a hard launch. Many we kept.
Speaker 3 (22:14):
Breaking up, get it, we kept because we kept anyway,
and we did do that.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
And I think that, like, oh I get it.
Speaker 2 (22:21):
A hard launch.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Yeah yeah, like did we did?
Speaker 2 (22:26):
We like do like a difficult lune.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
What were our reasons for doing it? You know?
Speaker 3 (22:34):
I think we were doing it because we felt like
this was something that we were excited about.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
We felt like.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
This was you feel excited about each other and you want.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
To found the one, yes, and.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
Do you like wanted to be able to share that
purely not out of like uh any I mean sometimes
you know it's a little bit out of like ego,
but it's just out of pure like I'm so excited
about this person, Like when you in a new place,
you're traveling, you want to like share.
Speaker 1 (23:02):
It about the person. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Yeah, that's a good segue into the hard launch. The
hard launch is when you are there's a soft launch
and a hard launch. Soft launch is like I'm posting
a picture with somebody and it's a guy and somebody.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
Might get with the soup. I think that to me
is a soft lunch.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
Oh yeah, it might be a soft launch launch hands
and his hands and soup.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
Yeah, because you're like, oh, there's somebody in there's somebody there.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
I took a video of like me at the beach.
You can see a little my friend's foot yesterday. But
he's gay as fuck.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
So a soft launch, I would say, yes.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
Real, okyes, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, but that was the
only time. That was the only time, and I didn't
do it after that because he was like, so, a
hard launch is like picture a post a video of
like you guys clearly hugging or kissing. At the bottom
it says hard launch, or at the bottom it says
(24:05):
like this is my boyfriend or something. It is a
statement to the world that Jesus brought me someone.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
I thought you were gonna say that Jesus has risen
and I finally have a boy briend.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
That too, that too, that too, Yeah, that's what a
hard launch is. And you said that you huh.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
So for me, I feel like a hard launch can
also be like a photo with you and somebody, and
it can be like you can have like a very
subtle caption, right, like yeah, you know, it's just it's
just very I.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
Wasn't breathing until I met you, so you were so
you were dead, So you have asthma?
Speaker 3 (24:52):
Yeah, like or like he likes when I scratch his back,
and that's like the caption, you know, like find somebody
who will also scratch your back or something like find
somebody who likes to cuddle as much as you do
or something like that.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
But I think that just.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
Having very much clear photos, clear content with each other
is very much.
Speaker 2 (25:09):
Of it, where it's like that is your Yeah, but
I think.
Speaker 3 (25:12):
You know, going back to like what you know, I
I don't really regret because a lot of people regret it.
A lot of people don't do it or they do it.
But like for me, I when I broke up with
my last partner the first time, the amount of people
that came out of the woodworks to give me their
(25:33):
opinions on what they thought about us being together, Like,
oh man, I thought this ceasing, Like.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
How did they know that you guys broke up because.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
We weren't posting anymore?
Speaker 2 (25:44):
You were posting any more? Did you delete photos?
Speaker 3 (25:47):
I never so, So there was just different things where
I was like, you're not I felt like stories were
kind of like, Okay, we're working our way. There was
never anything like on my grid that I remember, and
so I didn't have to delete anything. It was like,
either you watch my stories or you don't. There were
some that lived on my TikTok grid, but that's also
(26:07):
just a different audience that hasn't grown up with me
for like more over a decade at this point, right,
So I didn't It wasn't that, but like a lot
of people are coming up to me saying, like, oh,
rumors that they heard about, said individual things that they
thought about the relationship, you know, between he and I
a family coming out and being like oh yeah, we
(26:29):
saw that, and blah blah blah blah, and you're kind
of just like, oh my god. So many people had
opinions that I just would never have known any of
these opinions have. We just kept it to ourselves, you know,
And it didn't matter at that point because we weren't
together anymore. But let's just say I would have like
heard those and we were still together, it still would
have kind of fucked me to a certain extent.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
I think, Yeah, so how do you feel now, Let's
say you're dating someone, would you do a hard launch
with them?
Speaker 3 (26:59):
I don't think that I would do a hard launch
because it was never my if I'm honest with you,
it's never been my style. I've only done it once
with this other partner. It's never been my style. I'm
a big believer that there are just some things that
are meant for you. I think specifically like for you
and I like we are creators. We are what people
call influencers.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
We create.
Speaker 3 (27:17):
We're writers, where producers, we're actors, we're personalities, like we
share a lot of ourselves like all the time, and
I just kind of feel like there are just some
things that I want to keep safe until until it's
strong enough to have eyes on it, until it's strong
enough to have like people's energy on it and opinions.
(27:38):
It's like when they tell you, like, oh, you have
a new opportunity for something, don't tell too many people
because you don't want their energy on it.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
Right.
Speaker 3 (27:46):
So that's how I feel about relationships, Like I want
to get it so that it's a strong, sturdy tree
and it can withhold and withstand critique an opinion and
people being like you guys got together, or like.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
Like they could be doing better.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
I oh, you sound like when my own a writer
at the end of Edwards's her hands when she's like
eighty years old and she's.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
Like, I just the love Edward. She's dancing in the snow,
and the way she.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
Talks is like kind of annoys me because she's like,
I good girl.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
Like that. Yeah, God bless my nowna.
Speaker 2 (28:34):
Let you go, I say with my chest. Would never
do a hard launch. Yeah, ever in my life, because
I have heard so Like I've heard so many horror
stories of like Teffie who's on TikTok and Instagram. When
(28:58):
she was dating someone said that girls used to message
her her boyfriend at the time. Hey, like save my
profile for when you guys break up. Yeah, Like I don't.
I don't I trust. I mean, I'm how do I
say this? I don't trust anyone I love, like I
(29:22):
am very much like love women and females everything, like
the femme everything. But I don't trust all of you.
Speaker 5 (29:30):
Some of you are not some of you you know,
like everything, Like like I don't want that energy because
if I'm still figuring this person out in our relationship,
why would I want your judgment on it?
Speaker 2 (29:50):
Or like you know it just as like and pust.
People love to ruin when people are happy, you know,
like people love to to hate or they love to
like snoop And I get it, like I get it
Shee May's life and.
Speaker 1 (30:05):
It's super dark. Question.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
Sure, have you ever seen a couple online, Like let's
say the girl is kind of similar to you or
something like that, like and you looked at the man
or you look at the party, and you'll be like,
they'd be cute with.
Speaker 2 (30:20):
Me, of course, yeah, for sure?
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Where you going? Oh man, you picked the wrong friend.
Speaker 2 (30:28):
Yeah damn, this is the wrong timeline. This was miscast.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Yeah yeah, Like but I'm.
Speaker 3 (30:40):
I'll see someone and be like, man, you could be
dating me, but you're dating that one, Like all right,
go off.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
I guess yeah, I guess no, but yes, no, yes,
no respectfully, but I just I know how toxic we
have experienced, how toxic this like parasocial world can be.
And I even like with online shipping and stuff for people,
and this shipping is kind of like an older term,
(31:07):
but like when we were coming up, like at BuzzFeed,
people would ship whoever. I would whatever guy I was
in a video with so like Gattiel, uh Eli, Aria,
Yvonne and like I'm like, I have no those are
like my siblings, Like those are my brothers. I love
them like my cousins. I would never absolutely not like
(31:31):
And I don't like that people it's fun for them,
but I don't like that. It become you become like
a character. You don't become human anymore. You become like
somebody that they're able to just like like they wrote
fan fiction about like me and Aria one time, me
and Gottiel and you and Gottiell. There's fan fiction about
(31:52):
you and Gottiell, like and that is like you know whatever,
like do do what you're gonna do. But it's just yeah,
you about this a long time ago. Yeah, there's fanfic
about you and like somebody else. There's fan fiction about
(32:13):
like the Watcher Boys, but the Unsolved Boys, like in Love. Yes,
there's fan fiction about me and Ryan. Like I'm like you,
it just is it It feels invasive. Yeah, And I understand.
It's just like a part of the Internet and it's
a creative outlet for people, and I understand, but I
(32:34):
don't want it, Like I don't want people to treat
me as if like I'm just you know, I'm online
and they can do whatever because I'm online, you know,
So I just would never do a hard launch because
I don't want anyone that I don't trust or know
their spirit would have good intentions for me.
Speaker 3 (33:13):
Yeah, And I think the thing is is that you
will inevitably have a little bit of both, right, Like
I think that you sharing your relationship if you guys
are one of those couples, Like let's say I do
meet somebody that me and him are just vibing and
we just have a good time with one another, and
we are a mixture of being lovers and best friends
and we love to share our relationship with each other,
(33:35):
like we're gonna have both people who are envious and
also people who want to be like, oh damn, that's
so cool. Like back in the day, like my favorite couple,
My favorite couple was Calise, you know, like mad Nook
Strenk Wings on the board and nas Nas was you know,
a really he's like a virgo. He's considered one of
(33:58):
the best rappers of all time. And he was married
to Chalice, who was like this eccentric Afro Latina Afro
Asian Latina who would sing and she was so cool
and like when they got married, like he was hella swaggy.
She wore a green wedding dress like big curly hair,
and I was like, damn, like I want to, like
(34:20):
that's what I want. I want to get married to,
like somebody who is super smart, acclaimed in his field,
hella chill, and I want to it's yeah, And I'm
like and I want to be like with big wild
hair and not wear green, but you know, be the
fun one too. I guess I'm both of them in
this thing. So when they broke up, it really was hard.
(34:44):
It was like not hard, but it was kind of
like it made me really sad because I felt like
if they could find love with each other, being that
they're so different, or being that they were so whatever
I thought they were, it kind of gave me hope
in my own relationship. So I think that when they
up it saddened me. So I can understand why certain
people have emotions.
Speaker 2 (35:04):
Attachments, because they do they see themselves in us, or
they see like they would want to be friends with us,
or they would want to think, you know, and that's beautiful.
And I think that's when the Internet is doing, Like
the best work is when we're able to have that connection.
But I think it just when it starts to lean
(35:25):
on getting a little more possessive. That's where it's kind
of like you actually don't know me, like you actually
don't know this person, like you know, it's it's I
think it's a distraction for some people sometimes. But when
is it okay to actually post about your partner like
(35:46):
I would For me, I would say I would post
when I'm maybe have been married with this person for
five years, uh and we have a baby together, But
not even that, Like I think I would not even
post like his face. I think I would post my
hard launch if I would ever do one would be
like me holding hands with this I already thought about it,
(36:08):
me holding hands with this person. Them they're back to
the camera, them looking out and then me turning to
the side and looking at the camera like got it girl,
you know, yeah, so you don't see their face, you
just kind of see like I love that.
Speaker 3 (36:23):
You know, like Charlie, Like they're like that character that
you just never see, but you know they're there.
Speaker 2 (36:28):
Yes, And yeah, I would definitely that I would be
okay with that. But like when is it okay?
Speaker 3 (36:35):
I feel like exactly what you just said milestones right,
like we just bought a house together or even that
to me is kind of ick because I'm like, in
today's economy, like there's so many people who can't afford
to like do certain things that when I'm like, you're
giving me a face? Is it somebody that puts something
and I didn't okay me for example, Like it's just
(36:57):
me and this is very virgo. By the way, right,
I drove the same car, a beat up PC Cruiser,
Like no, I see, it would break down on me,
the paint was coming off. I drove it for like
over ten years. I would say, when I finally could
afford a better car. I did not post it. Nobody
does not. People do not know about it. I don't
(37:17):
need people to know about it. Like part of me
is because I'm like I want you want what am
I going? What does that do?
Speaker 2 (37:24):
Like?
Speaker 1 (37:25):
Who gives a shit? You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (37:26):
Like, yeah, I think it's different that there's like a
story behind it.
Speaker 3 (37:30):
Or yeah, yeah, people can do whatever really want to say,
Like you know, I could be like, look, I had
eighty seven cents on my account at some point.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
Oh, I had a PC Cruiser. That's all I could afford.
Speaker 2 (37:39):
Okay, this is crazy because when I got my car
in like twenty right before I left to go to BuzzFeed,
I posted about it. The next day or that night,
somebody egged my car and I knew it was these
girls who I was not friends with anymore and they
hated me.
Speaker 1 (37:59):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (38:00):
Yeah, I posted about it.
Speaker 1 (38:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (38:04):
I think the thing is for me is like even
with like houses or like new things or family, Like
I get it. I get that you want to post
about it and it's it's okay, but I just for me,
I personally don't have the need to do that.
Speaker 1 (38:19):
You know.
Speaker 3 (38:19):
If it was something like I go, like, damn, this
year was really intense. I had this, I had this,
but along the way I met this amazing man. I'm
so thankful for him, like you know, and and we
had a photo in our new house or whatever. I
think that's okay, But I just feel like, I guess
intention behind it is what I'm asking, Like, if it's
(38:40):
a thing to celebrate the person that you're with or
celebrating you know, who they are and the accomplishments that
you have done, the things that you've done together.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
It's different than.
Speaker 3 (38:51):
Like wanting people to look at your content, because we
know people who create content, relationship content.
Speaker 2 (39:03):
I lived with a couple content creators and it was
so fucking annoying, and I'm not friends with either of them,
thank you Jesus. Won't he do it? It was just
like and that those are the only videos that would
do good for them were and then they broke up.
They broke up, and now none of their videos by
(39:25):
themselves do well at all. So it's kind of like
a lot I would. You will never catch me doing
that shit at all, unless we're fifty years old. At
fifty years old, I will be revealing the identity of
my partner.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
Fifties, not even that old. Twenty years say, seventy.
Speaker 2 (39:46):
Two, okay, okay, at eighty nine, No, at sixty nine,
I will be revealing the identity of my partner.
Speaker 3 (39:55):
You kind of look at somebody like Dolly Parton, right,
Dolly Parton has had her husband for they have been
married for years, and you don't know what the man
looks like. There's very rare photos. I mean, like Dolly,
you just she doesn't have to parade her husband around
and they have been together for years, like and she
goes on tour. She talks about she goes on tour
a lot, and that's why she doesn't see him. They
have a good relationship, but like you know, people you
(40:19):
can be in the in the public eye and not
have to share your relationships in that way. The other
thing too, is that, uh it does crack me up though,
because there is this thing and we were talking about
it last night. It's it's called like the curse, and
it's like the curse of the man who says he
loves his wife too much.
Speaker 2 (40:34):
Like or post wife content.
Speaker 3 (40:36):
There's a lot of wife content that like they kind
of end up being a little shady.
Speaker 2 (40:40):
They kind of end up cheating.
Speaker 3 (40:42):
What being a little shady cheating they I always look
at I always look at Jay Sheddy. Have me on
your show, Jayshetty. But I do kind of always have
my little eye, my little one.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
Eyeball, Like.
Speaker 2 (40:55):
I don't trust any man who gets into the life
I'm light. Uh, Like, I don't know, it just is
they all there's always something that happens, like they they
get they finally get their ego pumped, and then like
some of them, some of them then feel like they're too.
Speaker 1 (41:18):
What I'm just making a friense because of thinking about
these men.
Speaker 2 (41:22):
Oh and then they you know, they get they get
an ego boost. Finally they feel confident, they get fit,
they get you know, redone, and then they like some
of them like ditch the wife that just truly love
them for them and then go with like somebody fifteen
to twenty years younger than them.
Speaker 1 (41:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (41:40):
And by the way, we're not insinuating about anything that
we know, because we did have stuff like that happened
in our own universe, by the way, So I'm not insinuating,
not talking what do you mean any that I know
when I bring up the curse of the man who
says he loves his wife, Like, I'm not, Oh.
Speaker 2 (41:55):
I mean who I say, if you think you know,
if you yeah, I mean when I say that.
Speaker 1 (42:00):
I'm not talking about that.
Speaker 2 (42:01):
I'm just kidding, just kidding. No, just in general, you
can see anyone, you can see the Yeah, whenever any
of these reality TV shows, any of these like actors
or whatever, you've seen it before, You've seen them totally. Uh,
what's his face?
Speaker 1 (42:18):
Chris Pratt, Chris Pratt, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (42:21):
Prime example, Anna Faris is Hello, she is like the
dream girl.
Speaker 1 (42:29):
I know, she's so funny.
Speaker 2 (42:40):
Welcome to the astrology portion of the podcast. Which signs
would share their relationship online and which signs would not.
Speaker 3 (42:49):
I definitely think that, of course the signs that would, Yeah,
I never shared, Burgos would not.
Speaker 1 (42:57):
Scorpios probably wouldn't either. Uh. I feel like.
Speaker 2 (43:05):
Libras would, Libris would, but they would be very protective
about it.
Speaker 1 (43:12):
I feel like Libras would.
Speaker 3 (43:14):
Yeah, Jazz shares her relationship online. I think, okay, wait,
let's do aries like aries?
Speaker 1 (43:24):
I feel like half and half Yeah, I feel like.
Speaker 2 (43:28):
Yeah, I think they would tease. I think like we
would definitely tease or like, you know, be a little
playful with it. Or maybe he's you've actually seen their
partner in a video already, you just don't know that
it's actually their partner. That's that would kind of be
a thing that would be like you just would never know.
Speaker 3 (43:48):
I feel like Leo's would share this absolutely if their
partner did first. So I feel like a partner would
be like you like you, and then they'll be like okay,
I guess.
Speaker 1 (44:01):
And I feel like a.
Speaker 3 (44:03):
Leo would only do it if they felt like it
was something that they were like kind of proud of,
you know, like like excited about.
Speaker 2 (44:12):
And Aquarius, Yes, Aquarius, I feel like would just not
even you wouldn't even know as a friend or as
a family member or as a close close bestI you
would not even know if they're dating someone.
Speaker 3 (44:24):
I Yeah, I feel like Aquarius, like would you wouldn't
know until the wedding day.
Speaker 2 (44:27):
I feel you wouldn't known to the wedding.
Speaker 1 (44:29):
Yeah, Aquarius would be like or.
Speaker 2 (44:31):
Like I'm getting I'm getting married, like at the courthouse
come yeah yeah.
Speaker 3 (44:35):
Same with like Gemini, I feel like I don't know
that a Gemini would necessarily a Gemini would only post
if they were in something that they were kind of
like not sure about. Like I feel like Geminis would
be like he's like I hate to say it, but
maybe they would post a toxic relationship fast and than
(44:56):
they would post somebody who's like ready to.
Speaker 2 (44:58):
Marry them so because they're like, hey, you got to work.
Speaker 3 (45:03):
For it, Like yeah, I feel like air Signs are
like I don't know, Taurus, I feel like would post
the kids fast as they post the husband. I feel
like TOAs are like my husband's like wild'ing out over there.
Let me just post my beautiful kid.
Speaker 2 (45:19):
Capricorn has been in like a five year relationship and
they nobody knows about it. I mean, you're the family
and friends know about it, but nobody knows about it.
But they're still acting single because business first.
Speaker 1 (45:35):
I feel like Capricorn.
Speaker 2 (45:36):
Unless it's a business opportunity, then they'll show them.
Speaker 1 (45:39):
See what I feel like Capriquins would.
Speaker 3 (45:41):
I think Capraquins would post their significant other, but I
think that they would still be like cirtatious, like I
don't know, I think Capricorns.
Speaker 2 (45:49):
I have a Capricorn who she's been together with somebody
for like maybe ten years now, and she still puts
him on her close friends. I love that, which I'm like,
that's so sweet to me because she only shares like
cute moments with him on her close friends. And I'm like,
I love that I'm able to see that, and I
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love that you also are like being very sweet and
protective even though it's been ten years and you guys
are probably gonna get married, you know, adorable, Oh Pisces,
oh cancer would.
Speaker 1 (46:21):
Post on the trigger.
Speaker 2 (46:24):
They would post on the first Yeah, yeah, they docs.
Speaker 1 (46:27):
I feel like are a little bit less than clients
to as well.
Speaker 3 (46:30):
I think pisces get really into the idea of wanting
to have that relationship.
Speaker 1 (46:35):
They want the happily ever after.
Speaker 2 (46:37):
They're excited for it the already. But they have yes,
they do. They do. They have an album already of
like they have drafts, Like everything is in their drafts
and it's just yeah, waiting to to for the green light.
Speaker 1 (46:54):
I feeling cancers would be saarious.
Speaker 3 (46:57):
Oh yeah, but I feel like cancers are like they
will be open about it, but I think they will
kind of also go with the flow in terms of
what their partner wants.
Speaker 1 (47:06):
But I think that cancers.
Speaker 3 (47:09):
My boyfriends who were cancers were upset that I wouldn't
show them off that, you know.
Speaker 1 (47:13):
They were very like, why wouldn't you post us?
Speaker 3 (47:15):
And I'm like, well, we've only been together for a
few months, you know, sages girl, So I just lost
their phone.
Speaker 1 (47:24):
No. I feel like.
Speaker 2 (47:24):
They're posting about every single person, like every single week,
like a new person a week, and so it kind
of confuses people. So you never know of like are
they your boyfriend or are they like you guys together
or not? No, that's just my friend. Oh yeah, well no,
we did hook up, so no, oh yeah, no, we
tried out the boyfriend thing, but I don't know, it
just it just didn't work out. So you're still posting
(47:46):
about him, yeah, because it's like whatever, Yeah, this's this
new guy. Oh, that's his boyfriend.
Speaker 3 (47:51):
We're kind of dating, we're kind of oh, I feel
like in my head like sages will post, but they
wait also to like they wait a very long time
to post, you know, and then they're like, we've been
together for three decades, right, you know.
Speaker 2 (48:08):
And that concludes the astrology portion of the podcast.
Speaker 1 (48:13):
Well, Maya, we've had a very eventful day so far.
That's included dog Dick Cheese, and oh Lucid dreams and I'm.
Speaker 2 (48:24):
Going to Disneyland right after we finish these.
Speaker 1 (48:26):
So how do you plead?
Speaker 2 (48:30):
I would listen, like, do what you want to do.
Just if you want to post your relationship or your partner,
I would put a little protection of a like visual
protection bubble around the relationship that you know where it's
what your feelings and stuff stay inside of that bubble
(48:52):
because you are experiencing this person in real time, like
only you guys know the relationship. When you do open
up to different energies. You're gonna get different energies, you know,
and you're gonna kind of feel that. So I like
put a protection bubble around that relationship or just so
that people can't like, I mean, shit's gonna happen anyway,
(49:13):
But I think it's it's like having your guard up
a little bit when you post about these things, because
people can get really really like obsessive and weird because
it's you know, loneliness is tough, and I feel like
people will project. But also love always wins and love
(49:35):
always prevails and love is always stronger than hate. So
maybe we maybe somebody needs There have been times when
I've seen a couple and I'm like, that makes me
feel better, Like that person looks like me, or that
person is like me. That person is like a bigger
body than me, or have the same body, and she's
with somebody Like that stuff is so healing and so good,
(49:59):
and I think there should be more of that for sure.
Speaker 1 (50:03):
So yeah, yeah, about you, I feel like, do whatever
you want.
Speaker 3 (50:07):
Just everything that you do has a consequence, right, and
everything that you do just like you want to put
it out there. Great, but you're gonna have a lot
of eyes on you. You want to like, you have a
lot of opinions, do it. I think it is really
cool when you do see couples that you don't think
you would expect to be together, because it does you
do go oh wow, that's so cool that they're together.
Maybe I can have that too. Like sharing your love
(50:28):
shouldn't be a bad thing. I think living in your
own glow shouldn't be a bad thing if those are
your intentions to just celebrate each other.
Speaker 2 (50:35):
Okay, thank you so much for listening to another episode
of the Super Secret Bestie Club podcast. Curly, How can
we find you? On social media?
Speaker 3 (50:42):
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Hey, did you see and beep beep broke up?
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Oh? Yes, wait, how did you know?
Speaker 3 (00:06):
I don't really know for sure, but they stopped posting
photos together and the old ones are gone gone.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Do you think that she left him for Beep? Because
remember they were sitting together at Beepe's wedding and Beep
saw them and beep beep, so that beat beep beep.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
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Speaker 2 (00:23):
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My name is Curly and I'm Maya, and welcome to
the Super Secret Bestie Clubs Podcast.
Speaker 4 (00:40):
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In each episode we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreaks, men,
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You know the level of which we create these skits
on the fly, right, surprised?
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Oh yeah, literally on the fly day of right when
we are like about to Yes, yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
We hope you enjoy our opening skits because there really
are ADHD brains.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
They really are. They are potent. No one ever gets
to see that side of us except for you guys. Yeah,
exactly Welcome to another episode of The Super Secret Bestie
Club Podcast. We are so excited to be here. We've
been on a little bit of a break. We like
really a block shoot or how do you say that?
(01:37):
We like, we built up a lot of O. I
like your mug all made that. Oh oh my god,
I know those strokes. I know the I know the
painting strokes.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Yeah, I have a larger, taller one that's a cup
of this version that is your.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Dad made all cute.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Curly is also going to come spend the night at
my parents' house.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Yeah, first time.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
First time. I told them it's a privilege and everyone
should experience it once in their lives. And we're at
that point in our friendship where you you're overdue.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
Yeah, She's like it's time. I mean, I'm pretty like
chill to have sleepover. To be honest, I don't really
I don't really take up much room.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
It's an experience. It's an experience because we do karaoke,
we do gummy nights. But I'm excited to be back
with you, Curls, because we've been kind of like all
over the place. I know. I was like, we were
prepping for this episode yesterday and I was like, my
soul is getting agitated that we have not physically seen
each other. I have not hugged you. Not that I'm
(02:45):
mad at you, but my soul is agitated that I
have not had well, I know, a curly experience.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
We are overdue for sure. And I was like, well,
you've been like on a world tour.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Should be on a woad tour.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
She's been like in New York, Spain, Arizona, like all
over and you know. So it's like it's not like
because we don't want to, it's just because she's literally
been like on her.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Yeah, it's been busy season on her.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
What do I what could I? What could yours be?
I just told somebody.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
I was talking to one of my friends who's Dominican
and he's been on a world tour and I was like,
you've been on your little AV world tour. He was like,
dk av's so funny.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Yep, yep, you know what.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Okay, wait quick, sidewark, can I tell you two things?
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (03:37):
That goes in accordance with like, how's my spirit? Well,
just one thing?
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Okay, So this weekend my dad brought this, calls me
in the morning. He's like where are you. I'm like,
I'm in bed. He's like facetimeing. I'm like, this man
doesn't believe me that I'm in bed. Like what does
he need to face time me for? So I FaceTime
him and he shows me this giant dog sitting behind
him in car, and he's like, I've just found this piple.
(04:03):
It was wondering by itself, basically like not what do
I do?
Speaker 1 (04:07):
But like and of course me, I'm.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
A big animal lover, like I love all animals, so
I was like, pick me up that I'm looking, pick
me up, let's go.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Well that's how the it happened with Chloe, right, No,
you guys were driving together together, like you guys together though, yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
We're big animal lovers.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
And then I get like, anyways, so he brings his
dog over and the dog is just phenomenal. He reminds
me so much of Frankie, my piple. He's way bigger
than Frankie. He has to be close to eighty ninety pounds,
Like he's big, like really big.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
But I've been like kind of like, you know, when
when you.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Find these animals, you have to like gain their trust,
you have to rehabilitate them in a lot of ways,
and like, you know, he didn't know how to get
into a car, he didn't know how to walk up
the stairs. He doesn't know. I just taught him how
to sit. It's been day three and like I taught
he learned how to sit. So I'm really excited. I've
been crying for like a bunch because you know, he
reminds me so much of Frank, and it hurts my
(05:07):
heart to think that I don't have Frank with me anymore.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Even now.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
I'm like, but like, we have n't been sleeping because
he has fleas, and I finally got him fleet medication,
and yesterday I showered him for the first time, and
I noticed that he had like a discharge coming out
of his He had something coming out of his penis,
and so I was like, oh my god, I hope
(05:29):
that's just soap and water, Like I hope that's not
actual discharge. Like I don't want to have to take
him to the VAT right away because I don't know
if I'm going to keep him and I don't know.
Like so this morning, I wake up and I'm like,
you know, petting him, and I noticed this like goo
like drip out of his penis and it's it's gooey,
it's a lot, it's green. And then I see more
(05:51):
of like the tip of his dick and I'm like,
oh no, like he's he has an infection, Like that's okay,
like something else I have to like handle. So I
wipe it down and I fucking like I'm touching it
with my fingers by the way, because I'm trying to
see like if it's like if it's the soap in
the water, like I couldn't tell, right, And I'm like, no,
it's pretty like it's like kind of consistent with like pus,
(06:14):
Like it's gooey, it's mucusy. So I'm sitting here and
I'm thinking, oh, let me just look up on TikTok,
like what dog discharge is, right, it's basically dogma dogs.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Megma, which is just a fancy word for dick cheese.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Okay, if anyone's eating breakfast.
Speaker 3 (06:41):
Sorry, I was just like not me fucking fucking like
having this dick cheese. So it comes to those colors,
it comes in like green, yellow, but it's fairly normal
with dogs who are not fixed, with dogs who's so happy. Yeah,
(07:02):
And I've never had a dog that wasn't fixed, so
I don't I didn't recognize it.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Well, that's my dick cheese moment. Thank you.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
You were like, I have a story to tell you
and I'll wait for the podcast. I'm like, okay, yeah,
for sure, I'm very excited that I got to hear that.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
I think you for you and the listeners who are
listening to that. I mean, look, it wouldn't be the
first time that I've had dick cheese between my fingers.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
But anyway, is that how your spirit is? How's your spirit?
Speaker 1 (07:31):
But it's great.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
I mean I was a little sleepy this morning, so
I was that was basically like the highlight of my
morning where I was like, you know, I kind of
live for moments like that where I'm like, of course
it would be me. Of course I would fucking be
like right, it's the worst, and then being like oh okay.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Right, yeah, you need you need these moments to I
feel like it's that would be very humbling for me. Yeah,
but I had like or I could not wake up
this morning. I kept having you know, when you have
like a really good dream that's super vivid and like
when you practice like staying in your dreams and controlling
your dreams. It's like, you know you're in this world.
(08:08):
And I kept waking up having to go to the
bathroom and I'm like, you know, if I open my
eyes all the way, then I know that I'm awake,
So I would like go to the bathroom in my eyes, Like, oh, so,
like I do I keep the dream? And yeah? I
Like it was like about this guy that he like
kept coming like back, and I kept being like, every
(08:29):
single time you come back and like, you come into town,
I fall in love with you all over again. And
then every single time that you leave, I have like
it opens the wound up, and I'm like, what if
next time you come back and come into town, I'm married,
Like just so dramatic. Oh yeah. And then he was like, well,
are you going to be married? I'm like no, He's like,
(08:51):
do you want to be married? I'm like no, but
like what if what if it happens? What if the
next time you come back, I'm pregnant with somebody else's bait?
Well are you seeing anyone? No? Like, I'm like, the
boys in my dreams need to get their shit together.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Okay, boys in the world need to get their shit together.
I'm just like, I don't I don't understand. I keep
like more and more like as I get older. I'm like,
I think and I hear I've heard you say this,
I've heard Shaki say this. I've heard so many people
say this for their like I think I'm just gonna
be single for the rest of my well.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
I was also like, I've just been having such a
weird moment with men lately that I'm like, you know what,
maybe it's just time we fully focus on like women
and just dating like people who aren't cisheit men, because
it just is like there's a disconnect there that my
it agitates and irritates my spirit really bad. And so
(09:46):
I'm like that's not for nothing, like not that I
just want to be like, Okay, I'm moving on, Like
I know I need to, like, you know, unveil what
that means. And but I'm just kind of like, did
you see what it.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
Came on about, like becoming more lesbian and not?
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Yes, I did. I thought that was a lot of
those experiences. I'm like, that is exactly the download that
I got the other day. And then I will like
I think maybe my phone is listening to me too,
but it's I think I've talked about on the podcast too.
It's like, how much of how much of my experience
liking men is about validation and about like I should
(10:24):
be with the protector or I should be when it's
like I can protect myself and I could validate myself.
But how much of that is actual attraction? How much
of that is just like validation from societal, cultural, whatever
it is. And it's also kind of you know, transitioning
to the topic that we are going to talk about today,
(10:45):
it's like sharing your relationship online, how much of my
experience dating men also is for validation to show like
the world like, look, I'm worthy of like you know,
being with somebody or like somebody finally, like you know,
because that's the thing that I think a lot of
people on my social media is like I talk about
(11:06):
dating a lot and being single a lot. So sometimes
they're like, how are you single? Or how are you
blah blah blah or how are you know? So I'm like,
the day they do a hard launch, which will never
be the day, I think I will lose a lot
of followers.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Really, you know what, I used to think that too.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Like we're gonna because mostly of men.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Oh you know what, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
I don't know because I remember, like Selena, they used
to say like Selena needed to look single because a
lot of celebrities.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Like will do that back in the day that if.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
People thought that they were single, they could like, you know,
other fans thought that they could have like a chance
with them, so they were more likely to like still
be there.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
And you know what Selena said, and my.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Husband during her yeah thankful her thanked her gratitude speech
for an award. Yeah, she got booed basically, so like,
you know, it's an interesting thing.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
But what did you say? After though, she was like
she goes.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
Don't boo because if she said, you all wouldn't be
booing if one of y'all was my husband or something
like yeah literally aries, which is so also very charming
for her to say. I think, like, yeah, you got
me again, Like I was angry at you were having
a boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
But you're right, you're not lying, you know.
Speaker 3 (12:23):
I guess Today we're talking about people who show their
relationships online, people who parade them, people who create content
with their significant others, people who post their date nights,
people who post their fun little outfits, Like what does
it mean to share your relationship? I've actually had one
relationship who he and I would have a lot of
(12:45):
we would get upset with each other. Well, yeah, because
we couldn't agree on the fact of whether or not
to post content about each other. I never my entire life,
I have never shared anything about any boyfriend. I never
used to back in the day, on back in the night,
back in the day, on my Space and Facebook, you
could change your status from single taking.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
In a relationship relationship.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
Yeah, like in a relationship with exactly or it's complicated,
And I remember that people used to take that very
seriously and change that and according to what their life
was at.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Oh, I like this little tiny side note is like
when I was dating someone, when I was like fresh
out of high school, I was like, can we now
change a relationship status in a relationship with And he
didn't want to, And I'm like, it's just something that
But I was like because he had just got out
of relationship with someone and so he didn't want to.
It was so different. I'm like, but this is my
first time like with like a boyfriend. I don't even
(13:41):
know if Yeah, we were he was my boyfriend. Yeah,
and we changed it and I was like I felt
so like I felt powerful that would have the fuck
about him?
Speaker 1 (13:50):
What is that feeling though, Like what is that emotion that?
Speaker 2 (13:55):
And this is what I'm saying. It's very much cultural
because a lot of the the toxicity from my lineage
of like the women in my family is that like,
you know, you are not they care I mean ivy
with every Latine family, right, it's like, where's your boyfriend?
Aren't you married yet? Do you want me to hook
you up with someone? Like That's just kind of the
(14:17):
thing where it's like you obviously are lacking something and
that means I need to help you. Like and that's fine,
It's it's okay to want to you know, hook your
friends up or your cousin or whatever. But when it
becomes something like you think there's something wrong with them.
So for me, I had not dated pretty much my
whole life, and then the moment that I got like
(14:37):
a boyfriend, it was something to show my family like
a badge of honor, like look, I'm finally worthy, like
somebody likes me, or I'm not just like an ugly duckling,
or I'm not a fuck up. Yeah, like and that's
kind of fucked up.
Speaker 3 (14:52):
So it's more for like your family, you would say.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
It's more for like for everyone for that like you know, oh,
I'm with somebody, and you know, it just was every
single time I would see somebody like in a relationship
with them, like, oh they have their shit together.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
Yeah yeah, yeah, that's real when that's real because you
think that people who are in a relationship like it's
they have their shit together. They have found some there's
nothing wrong with them, right because they have found someone
to like coexist with, Versus when you're single, you're kind
of like, what's wrong with me? Or what that person's
been single for a long time, what's wrong with them?
Like oh something, they must be crazy, you know what
(15:31):
I mean?
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Like or then you talk shit if they're in a
relationship with the name constantly changes, you know, and you're
and then you're like, oh my god.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
Well I never changed mine because I guess I have
different layers where I'm kind of like I won't.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
I never wanted to.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
Change my status until I was with somebody for a
long time. I never wanted to introduce them to my
family until I was with them for a long time.
I never wanted to engage with them sexually until I
was with them for a.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Few weeks or something.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
Right, But by the way, Blue is the name of
the pipol I named him Blue from Jungle Book.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
But it sounds like blue.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
He is very vocal, so you might actually hear him
a lot in this episode, like crying and he's fine.
He's just looking out the window and he wants he
sounds like a flock of birds. So I mean the
other thing too, is like I remember those things being
super socially important to change the status right to It's
(16:32):
kind of like the top eight on your face on
your MySpace back in the day, it was all the
popular kids had all the other popular kids on their
top eight, and you just knew who was part of
the plastics, and you know, like who was popular.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
In that way.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
I get it. I never was a part of it.
I never wanted to do it. I didn't want to
do that. I didn't want people because I've always been
the Chiese Mosa. I've always been like the like, oh,
Maya has a new boyfriend, Okay, let me go look,
and then what do you always do? You go creep
on his page? Because you see and then what do
you do you critique?
Speaker 2 (17:01):
You're like, oh, and that's energy you're giving to them
and their relationship and that person and your friend like that.
I don't ever want.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
Well, I mean, like you know you what I mean,
you kind of always do it right, Like you go
and look and you're like oh, stef and.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Or you're like damn, like what the fuck?
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Like he does have her life together?
Speaker 1 (17:44):
Yeah, like how did like for me?
Speaker 3 (17:46):
You know, like not you as an example, but I'll
look at somebody and be like, how the fuck did
that guy get this guy?
Speaker 1 (17:52):
You know?
Speaker 3 (17:52):
I'm like, or if they're both like kind of copy
and paste of each other, I'm like, yeah, they would
of course the dating each other, you know, like where
do y'all find each other in the.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
Fucking like.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
So it's like no, no, no, that's we go back
to our like what is it our petty what do
we call bitter bitches? We go back to our bitter bitches.
So we were like, oh, where did you guys find
each other?
Speaker 1 (18:19):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (18:19):
Probably in line at Trader Jos and you guys are
both buying the same like bland vegan food. Oh, because
you guys care about your bodies because you're both vegan. No,
that's good that you care about your bodies, because then
you care about each other. No, that's really good. And
so like you know, it just goes into it makes
you kind of spiral. We all like affect each other,
and so I feel like we put down like why
(18:40):
is this important to people? I think there's different layers
of like you know, we're going to talk about all
this stuff about like hard launch, when is it okay?
What's the pro? What is like the kind of like
pros and cons of sharing your relationship online? Like what's
the pro?
Speaker 3 (18:57):
I mean, I think it goes back to what you said, right,
like you're like, look at me, like I'm desirable, right,
look at me like I finally got it together, I
finally found happiness.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
I finally did it.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Like somebody wants me, somebody sees me as worthy and
enough and attractive to date, because then that means But
I think it goes back to like the status too.
If we're talking like bridgertonera, right, it's like who you're
associated with, we still kind of have that now.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
Absolutely.
Speaker 3 (19:31):
I also think that it's a little bit of like
a rebound, right, Like you're like I want all my exes.
I want everybody who ever dated me, everybody who said.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
No to me.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
Finally, you and me are the lucky ones this time.
Speaker 3 (19:45):
As LNA's already says, but like you know, you kind
of go like fuck all, y'all, Like I finally found
the one. I found happiness. I found somebody who's sexy.
I found someone who's sexy. You're like all these different
things that I think kind of get answered with you hosting.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
Like this is my man, this is my bull or
like yeah, there's like a sense of pride to it
and like I feel like it's something you can be Like,
I mean, I have never shown anyone that I have
dated or had a situationship anybody since probably when I
(20:24):
dated somebody in Arizona, like and that was a long
time ago, when I was like living back home because
I I mean, I wanted to write. But I even
had somebody that I was dating being like.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Are you going to show me on social media?
Speaker 2 (20:40):
And this was we were like two months dating, and
I was like, you're thinking about like you're having anxiety
already about if I were, Like I even we went
to go get soup and I took a picture I
took a video of like our two soups and maybe
it showed his hands and I posted on Twitter and
it was like this vivid soup that was so good
(21:01):
and people were like, oh my god, this soup is
so good.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
He's like, oh, people saw my hands. And then I'm like, you.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Think people are going to recognize your hands?
Speaker 1 (21:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (21:09):
Yeah, I think people have like like what, like should
I go? Should I take it down? He's like no, no,
it's just yeah, I don't know. I'm like, I think
he was more obsessed with his image of being with
me than actually being with me, you know what I'm saying,
which is so that's why it's real. And I understand
that that stuff gives people like anxiety, especially with like
(21:32):
the platforms that we have, but sometimes it just feels
good to show off like the person that you're with.
But I'm also like, there's some hating ass bitches there.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
Yeah, so I think that it can also activate. Like
for me, it activates it invites too many people into
the kitchen of my relationship.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
It's how I feel, you know what.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
I mean, when you're still cooking, We're still cooking.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
I mean, the thing is like my last relationship. Like
we did share stuff on social media. I was making
little videos of us, I was posting, you know, and and.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
There we did have a hard launch. Many we kept.
Speaker 3 (22:14):
Breaking up, get it, we kept because we kept anyway,
and we did do that.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
And I think that, like, oh I get it.
Speaker 2 (22:21):
A hard launch.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Yeah yeah, like did we did?
Speaker 2 (22:26):
We like do like a difficult lune.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
What were our reasons for doing it? You know?
Speaker 3 (22:34):
I think we were doing it because we felt like
this was something that we were excited about.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
We felt like.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
This was you feel excited about each other and you want.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
To found the one, yes, and.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
Do you like wanted to be able to share that
purely not out of like uh any I mean sometimes
you know it's a little bit out of like ego,
but it's just out of pure like I'm so excited
about this person, Like when you in a new place,
you're traveling, you want to like share.
Speaker 1 (23:02):
It about the person. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Yeah, that's a good segue into the hard launch. The
hard launch is when you are there's a soft launch
and a hard launch. Soft launch is like I'm posting
a picture with somebody and it's a guy and somebody.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
Might get with the soup. I think that to me
is a soft lunch.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
Oh yeah, it might be a soft launch launch hands
and his hands and soup.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
Yeah, because you're like, oh, there's somebody in there's somebody there.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
I took a video of like me at the beach.
You can see a little my friend's foot yesterday. But
he's gay as fuck.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
So a soft launch, I would say, yes.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
Real, okyes, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, but that was the
only time. That was the only time, and I didn't
do it after that because he was like, so, a
hard launch is like picture a post a video of
like you guys clearly hugging or kissing. At the bottom
it says hard launch, or at the bottom it says
(24:05):
like this is my boyfriend or something. It is a
statement to the world that Jesus brought me someone.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
I thought you were gonna say that Jesus has risen
and I finally have a boy briend.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
That too, that too, that too, Yeah, that's what a
hard launch is. And you said that you huh.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
So for me, I feel like a hard launch can
also be like a photo with you and somebody, and
it can be like you can have like a very
subtle caption, right, like yeah, you know, it's just it's
just very I.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
Wasn't breathing until I met you, so you were so
you were dead, So you have asthma?
Speaker 3 (24:52):
Yeah, like or like he likes when I scratch his back,
and that's like the caption, you know, like find somebody
who will also scratch your back or something like find
somebody who likes to cuddle as much as you do
or something like that.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
But I think that just.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
Having very much clear photos, clear content with each other
is very much.
Speaker 2 (25:09):
Of it, where it's like that is your Yeah, but
I think.
Speaker 3 (25:12):
You know, going back to like what you know, I
I don't really regret because a lot of people regret it.
A lot of people don't do it or they do it.
But like for me, I when I broke up with
my last partner the first time, the amount of people
that came out of the woodworks to give me their
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opinions on what they thought about us being together, Like,
oh man, I thought this ceasing, Like.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
How did they know that you guys broke up because.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
We weren't posting anymore?
Speaker 2 (25:44):
You were posting any more? Did you delete photos?
Speaker 3 (25:47):
I never so, So there was just different things where
I was like, you're not I felt like stories were
kind of like, Okay, we're working our way. There was
never anything like on my grid that I remember, and
so I didn't have to delete anything. It was like,
either you watch my stories or you don't. There were
some that lived on my TikTok grid, but that's also
(26:07):
just a different audience that hasn't grown up with me
for like more over a decade at this point, right,
So I didn't It wasn't that, but like a lot
of people are coming up to me saying, like, oh,
rumors that they heard about, said individual things that they
thought about the relationship, you know, between he and I
a family coming out and being like oh yeah, we
(26:29):
saw that, and blah blah blah blah, and you're kind
of just like, oh my god. So many people had
opinions that I just would never have known any of
these opinions have. We just kept it to ourselves, you know,
And it didn't matter at that point because we weren't
together anymore. But let's just say I would have like
heard those and we were still together, it still would
have kind of fucked me to a certain extent.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
I think, Yeah, so how do you feel now, Let's
say you're dating someone, would you do a hard launch
with them?
Speaker 3 (26:59):
I don't think that I would do a hard launch
because it was never my if I'm honest with you,
it's never been my style. I've only done it once
with this other partner. It's never been my style. I'm
a big believer that there are just some things that
are meant for you. I think specifically like for you
and I like we are creators. We are what people
call influencers.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
We create.
Speaker 3 (27:17):
We're writers, where producers, we're actors, we're personalities, like we
share a lot of ourselves like all the time, and
I just kind of feel like there are just some
things that I want to keep safe until until it's
strong enough to have eyes on it, until it's strong
enough to have like people's energy on it and opinions.
(27:38):
It's like when they tell you, like, oh, you have
a new opportunity for something, don't tell too many people
because you don't want their energy on it.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
Right.
Speaker 3 (27:46):
So that's how I feel about relationships, Like I want
to get it so that it's a strong, sturdy tree
and it can withhold and withstand critique an opinion and
people being like you guys got together, or like.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
Like they could be doing better.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
I oh, you sound like when my own a writer
at the end of Edwards's her hands when she's like
eighty years old and she's.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
Like, I just the love Edward. She's dancing in the snow,
and the way she.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
Talks is like kind of annoys me because she's like,
I good girl.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
Like that. Yeah, God bless my nowna.
Speaker 2 (28:34):
Let you go, I say with my chest. Would never
do a hard launch. Yeah, ever in my life, because
I have heard so Like I've heard so many horror
stories of like Teffie who's on TikTok and Instagram. When
(28:58):
she was dating someone said that girls used to message
her her boyfriend at the time. Hey, like save my
profile for when you guys break up. Yeah, Like I don't.
I don't I trust. I mean, I'm how do I
say this? I don't trust anyone I love, like I
(29:22):
am very much like love women and females everything, like
the femme everything. But I don't trust all of you.
Speaker 5 (29:30):
Some of you are not some of you you know,
like everything, Like like I don't want that energy because
if I'm still figuring this person out in our relationship,
why would I want your judgment on it?
Speaker 2 (29:50):
Or like you know it just as like and pust.
People love to ruin when people are happy, you know,
like people love to to hate or they love to
like snoop And I get it, like I get it
Shee May's life and.
Speaker 1 (30:05):
It's super dark. Question.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
Sure, have you ever seen a couple online, Like let's
say the girl is kind of similar to you or
something like that, like and you looked at the man
or you look at the party, and you'll be like,
they'd be cute with.
Speaker 2 (30:20):
Me, of course, yeah, for sure?
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Where you going? Oh man, you picked the wrong friend.
Speaker 2 (30:28):
Yeah damn, this is the wrong timeline. This was miscast.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Yeah yeah, Like but I'm.
Speaker 3 (30:40):
I'll see someone and be like, man, you could be
dating me, but you're dating that one, Like all right,
go off.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
I guess yeah, I guess no, but yes, no, yes,
no respectfully, but I just I know how toxic we
have experienced, how toxic this like parasocial world can be.
And I even like with online shipping and stuff for people,
and this shipping is kind of like an older term,
(31:07):
but like when we were coming up, like at BuzzFeed,
people would ship whoever. I would whatever guy I was
in a video with so like Gattiel, uh Eli, Aria,
Yvonne and like I'm like, I have no those are
like my siblings, Like those are my brothers. I love
them like my cousins. I would never absolutely not like
(31:31):
And I don't like that people it's fun for them,
but I don't like that. It become you become like
a character. You don't become human anymore. You become like
somebody that they're able to just like like they wrote
fan fiction about like me and Aria one time, me
and Gottiel and you and Gottiell. There's fan fiction about
(31:52):
you and Gottiell, like and that is like you know whatever,
like do do what you're gonna do. But it's just yeah,
you about this a long time ago. Yeah, there's fanfic
about you and like somebody else. There's fan fiction about
(32:13):
like the Watcher Boys, but the Unsolved Boys, like in Love. Yes,
there's fan fiction about me and Ryan. Like I'm like you,
it just is it It feels invasive. Yeah, And I understand.
It's just like a part of the Internet and it's
a creative outlet for people, and I understand, but I
(32:34):
don't want it, Like I don't want people to treat
me as if like I'm just you know, I'm online
and they can do whatever because I'm online, you know,
So I just would never do a hard launch because
I don't want anyone that I don't trust or know
their spirit would have good intentions for me.
Speaker 3 (33:13):
Yeah, And I think the thing is is that you
will inevitably have a little bit of both, right, Like
I think that you sharing your relationship if you guys
are one of those couples, Like let's say I do
meet somebody that me and him are just vibing and
we just have a good time with one another, and
we are a mixture of being lovers and best friends
and we love to share our relationship with each other,
(33:35):
like we're gonna have both people who are envious and
also people who want to be like, oh damn, that's
so cool. Like back in the day, like my favorite couple,
My favorite couple was Calise, you know, like mad Nook
Strenk Wings on the board and nas Nas was you know,
a really he's like a virgo. He's considered one of
(33:58):
the best rappers of all time. And he was married
to Chalice, who was like this eccentric Afro Latina Afro
Asian Latina who would sing and she was so cool
and like when they got married, like he was hella swaggy.
She wore a green wedding dress like big curly hair,
and I was like, damn, like I want to, like
(34:20):
that's what I want. I want to get married to,
like somebody who is super smart, acclaimed in his field,
hella chill, and I want to it's yeah, And I'm
like and I want to be like with big wild
hair and not wear green, but you know, be the
fun one too. I guess I'm both of them in
this thing. So when they broke up, it really was hard.
(34:44):
It was like not hard, but it was kind of
like it made me really sad because I felt like
if they could find love with each other, being that
they're so different, or being that they were so whatever
I thought they were, it kind of gave me hope
in my own relationship. So I think that when they
up it saddened me. So I can understand why certain
people have emotions.
Speaker 2 (35:04):
Attachments, because they do they see themselves in us, or
they see like they would want to be friends with us,
or they would want to think, you know, and that's beautiful.
And I think that's when the Internet is doing, Like
the best work is when we're able to have that connection.
But I think it just when it starts to lean
(35:25):
on getting a little more possessive. That's where it's kind
of like you actually don't know me, like you actually
don't know this person, like you know, it's it's I
think it's a distraction for some people sometimes. But when
is it okay to actually post about your partner like
(35:46):
I would For me, I would say I would post
when I'm maybe have been married with this person for
five years, uh and we have a baby together, But
not even that, Like I think I would not even
post like his face. I think I would post my
hard launch if I would ever do one would be
like me holding hands with this I already thought about it,
(36:08):
me holding hands with this person. Them they're back to
the camera, them looking out and then me turning to
the side and looking at the camera like got it girl,
you know, yeah, so you don't see their face, you
just kind of see like I love that.
Speaker 3 (36:23):
You know, like Charlie, Like they're like that character that
you just never see, but you know they're there.
Speaker 2 (36:28):
Yes, And yeah, I would definitely that I would be
okay with that. But like when is it okay?
Speaker 3 (36:35):
I feel like exactly what you just said milestones right,
like we just bought a house together or even that
to me is kind of ick because I'm like, in
today's economy, like there's so many people who can't afford
to like do certain things that when I'm like, you're
giving me a face? Is it somebody that puts something
and I didn't okay me for example, Like it's just
(36:57):
me and this is very virgo. By the way, right,
I drove the same car, a beat up PC Cruiser,
Like no, I see, it would break down on me,
the paint was coming off. I drove it for like
over ten years. I would say, when I finally could
afford a better car. I did not post it. Nobody
does not. People do not know about it. I don't
(37:17):
need people to know about it. Like part of me
is because I'm like I want you want what am
I going? What does that do?
Speaker 2 (37:24):
Like?
Speaker 1 (37:25):
Who gives a shit? You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (37:26):
Like, yeah, I think it's different that there's like a
story behind it.
Speaker 3 (37:30):
Or yeah, yeah, people can do whatever really want to say,
Like you know, I could be like, look, I had
eighty seven cents on my account at some point.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
Oh, I had a PC Cruiser. That's all I could afford.
Speaker 2 (37:39):
Okay, this is crazy because when I got my car
in like twenty right before I left to go to BuzzFeed,
I posted about it. The next day or that night,
somebody egged my car and I knew it was these
girls who I was not friends with anymore and they
hated me.
Speaker 1 (37:59):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (38:00):
Yeah, I posted about it.
Speaker 1 (38:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (38:04):
I think the thing is for me is like even
with like houses or like new things or family, Like
I get it. I get that you want to post
about it and it's it's okay, but I just for me,
I personally don't have the need to do that.
Speaker 1 (38:19):
You know.
Speaker 3 (38:19):
If it was something like I go, like, damn, this
year was really intense. I had this, I had this,
but along the way I met this amazing man. I'm
so thankful for him, like you know, and and we
had a photo in our new house or whatever. I
think that's okay, But I just feel like, I guess
intention behind it is what I'm asking, Like, if it's
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a thing to celebrate the person that you're with or
celebrating you know, who they are and the accomplishments that
you have done, the things that you've done together.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
It's different than.
Speaker 3 (38:51):
Like wanting people to look at your content, because we
know people who create content, relationship content.
Speaker 2 (39:03):
I lived with a couple content creators and it was
so fucking annoying, and I'm not friends with either of them,
thank you Jesus. Won't he do it? It was just
like and that those are the only videos that would
do good for them were and then they broke up.
They broke up, and now none of their videos by
(39:25):
themselves do well at all. So it's kind of like
a lot I would. You will never catch me doing
that shit at all, unless we're fifty years old. At
fifty years old, I will be revealing the identity of
my partner.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
Fifties, not even that old. Twenty years say, seventy.
Speaker 2 (39:46):
Two, okay, okay, at eighty nine, No, at sixty nine,
I will be revealing the identity of my partner.
Speaker 3 (39:55):
You kind of look at somebody like Dolly Parton, right,
Dolly Parton has had her husband for they have been
married for years, and you don't know what the man
looks like. There's very rare photos. I mean, like Dolly,
you just she doesn't have to parade her husband around
and they have been together for years, like and she
goes on tour. She talks about she goes on tour
a lot, and that's why she doesn't see him. They
have a good relationship, but like you know, people you
(40:19):
can be in the in the public eye and not
have to share your relationships in that way. The other
thing too, is that, uh it does crack me up though,
because there is this thing and we were talking about
it last night. It's it's called like the curse, and
it's like the curse of the man who says he
loves his wife too much.
Speaker 2 (40:34):
Like or post wife content.
Speaker 3 (40:36):
There's a lot of wife content that like they kind
of end up being a little shady.
Speaker 2 (40:40):
They kind of end up cheating.
Speaker 3 (40:42):
What being a little shady cheating they I always look
at I always look at Jay Sheddy. Have me on
your show, Jayshetty. But I do kind of always have
my little eye, my little one.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
Eyeball, Like.
Speaker 2 (40:55):
I don't trust any man who gets into the life
I'm light. Uh, Like, I don't know, it just is
they all there's always something that happens, like they they
get they finally get their ego pumped, and then like
some of them, some of them then feel like they're too.
Speaker 1 (41:18):
What I'm just making a friense because of thinking about
these men.
Speaker 2 (41:22):
Oh and then they you know, they get they get
an ego boost. Finally they feel confident, they get fit,
they get you know, redone, and then they like some
of them like ditch the wife that just truly love
them for them and then go with like somebody fifteen
to twenty years younger than them.
Speaker 1 (41:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (41:40):
And by the way, we're not insinuating about anything that
we know, because we did have stuff like that happened
in our own universe, by the way, So I'm not insinuating,
not talking what do you mean any that I know
when I bring up the curse of the man who
says he loves his wife, Like, I'm not, Oh.
Speaker 2 (41:55):
I mean who I say, if you think you know,
if you yeah, I mean when I say that.
Speaker 1 (42:00):
I'm not talking about that.
Speaker 2 (42:01):
I'm just kidding, just kidding. No, just in general, you
can see anyone, you can see the Yeah, whenever any
of these reality TV shows, any of these like actors
or whatever, you've seen it before, You've seen them totally. Uh,
what's his face?
Speaker 1 (42:18):
Chris Pratt, Chris Pratt, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (42:21):
Prime example, Anna Faris is Hello, she is like the
dream girl.
Speaker 1 (42:29):
I know, she's so funny.
Speaker 2 (42:40):
Welcome to the astrology portion of the podcast. Which signs
would share their relationship online and which signs would not.
Speaker 3 (42:49):
I definitely think that, of course the signs that would, Yeah,
I never shared, Burgos would not.
Speaker 1 (42:57):
Scorpios probably wouldn't either. Uh. I feel like.
Speaker 2 (43:05):
Libras would, Libris would, but they would be very protective
about it.
Speaker 1 (43:12):
I feel like Libras would.
Speaker 3 (43:14):
Yeah, Jazz shares her relationship online. I think, okay, wait,
let's do aries like aries?
Speaker 1 (43:24):
I feel like half and half Yeah, I feel like.
Speaker 2 (43:28):
Yeah, I think they would tease. I think like we
would definitely tease or like, you know, be a little
playful with it. Or maybe he's you've actually seen their
partner in a video already, you just don't know that
it's actually their partner. That's that would kind of be
a thing that would be like you just would never know.
Speaker 3 (43:48):
I feel like Leo's would share this absolutely if their
partner did first. So I feel like a partner would
be like you like you, and then they'll be like okay,
I guess.
Speaker 1 (44:01):
And I feel like a.
Speaker 3 (44:03):
Leo would only do it if they felt like it
was something that they were like kind of proud of,
you know, like like excited about.
Speaker 2 (44:12):
And Aquarius, Yes, Aquarius, I feel like would just not
even you wouldn't even know as a friend or as
a family member or as a close close bestI you
would not even know if they're dating someone.
Speaker 3 (44:24):
I Yeah, I feel like Aquarius, like would you wouldn't
know until the wedding day.
Speaker 2 (44:27):
I feel you wouldn't known to the wedding.
Speaker 1 (44:29):
Yeah, Aquarius would be like or.
Speaker 2 (44:31):
Like I'm getting I'm getting married, like at the courthouse
come yeah yeah.
Speaker 3 (44:35):
Same with like Gemini, I feel like I don't know
that a Gemini would necessarily a Gemini would only post
if they were in something that they were kind of
like not sure about. Like I feel like Geminis would
be like he's like I hate to say it, but
maybe they would post a toxic relationship fast and than
(44:56):
they would post somebody who's like ready to.
Speaker 2 (44:58):
Marry them so because they're like, hey, you got to work.
Speaker 3 (45:03):
For it, Like yeah, I feel like air Signs are
like I don't know, Taurus, I feel like would post
the kids fast as they post the husband. I feel
like TOAs are like my husband's like wild'ing out over there.
Let me just post my beautiful kid.
Speaker 2 (45:19):
Capricorn has been in like a five year relationship and
they nobody knows about it. I mean, you're the family
and friends know about it, but nobody knows about it.
But they're still acting single because business first.
Speaker 1 (45:35):
I feel like Capricorn.
Speaker 2 (45:36):
Unless it's a business opportunity, then they'll show them.
Speaker 1 (45:39):
See what I feel like Capriquins would.
Speaker 3 (45:41):
I think Capraquins would post their significant other, but I
think that they would still be like cirtatious, like I
don't know, I think Capricorns.
Speaker 2 (45:49):
I have a Capricorn who she's been together with somebody
for like maybe ten years now, and she still puts
him on her close friends. I love that, which I'm like,
that's so sweet to me because she only shares like
cute moments with him on her close friends. And I'm like,
I love that I'm able to see that, and I
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love that you also are like being very sweet and
protective even though it's been ten years and you guys
are probably gonna get married, you know, adorable, Oh Pisces,
oh cancer would.
Speaker 1 (46:21):
Post on the trigger.
Speaker 2 (46:24):
They would post on the first Yeah, yeah, they docs.
Speaker 1 (46:27):
I feel like are a little bit less than clients
to as well.
Speaker 3 (46:30):
I think pisces get really into the idea of wanting
to have that relationship.
Speaker 1 (46:35):
They want the happily ever after.
Speaker 2 (46:37):
They're excited for it the already. But they have yes,
they do. They do. They have an album already of
like they have drafts, Like everything is in their drafts
and it's just yeah, waiting to to for the green light.
Speaker 1 (46:54):
I feeling cancers would be saarious.
Speaker 3 (46:57):
Oh yeah, but I feel like cancers are like they
will be open about it, but I think they will
kind of also go with the flow in terms of
what their partner wants.
Speaker 1 (47:06):
But I think that cancers.
Speaker 3 (47:09):
My boyfriends who were cancers were upset that I wouldn't
show them off that, you know.
Speaker 1 (47:13):
They were very like, why wouldn't you post us?
Speaker 3 (47:15):
And I'm like, well, we've only been together for a
few months, you know, sages girl, So I just lost
their phone.
Speaker 1 (47:24):
No. I feel like.
Speaker 2 (47:24):
They're posting about every single person, like every single week,
like a new person a week, and so it kind
of confuses people. So you never know of like are
they your boyfriend or are they like you guys together
or not? No, that's just my friend. Oh yeah, well no,
we did hook up, so no, oh yeah, no, we
tried out the boyfriend thing, but I don't know, it
just it just didn't work out. So you're still posting
(47:46):
about him, yeah, because it's like whatever, Yeah, this's this
new guy. Oh, that's his boyfriend.
Speaker 3 (47:51):
We're kind of dating, we're kind of oh, I feel
like in my head like sages will post, but they
wait also to like they wait a very long time
to post, you know, and then they're like, we've been
together for three decades, right, you know.
Speaker 2 (48:08):
And that concludes the astrology portion of the podcast.
Speaker 1 (48:13):
Well, Maya, we've had a very eventful day so far.
That's included dog Dick Cheese, and oh Lucid dreams and I'm.
Speaker 2 (48:24):
Going to Disneyland right after we finish these.
Speaker 1 (48:26):
So how do you plead?
Speaker 2 (48:30):
I would listen, like, do what you want to do.
Just if you want to post your relationship or your partner,
I would put a little protection of a like visual
protection bubble around the relationship that you know where it's
what your feelings and stuff stay inside of that bubble
(48:52):
because you are experiencing this person in real time, like
only you guys know the relationship. When you do open
up to different energies. You're gonna get different energies, you know,
and you're gonna kind of feel that. So I like
put a protection bubble around that relationship or just so
that people can't like, I mean, shit's gonna happen anyway,
(49:13):
But I think it's it's like having your guard up
a little bit when you post about these things, because
people can get really really like obsessive and weird because
it's you know, loneliness is tough, and I feel like
people will project. But also love always wins and love
(49:35):
always prevails and love is always stronger than hate. So
maybe we maybe somebody needs There have been times when
I've seen a couple and I'm like, that makes me
feel better, Like that person looks like me, or that
person is like me. That person is like a bigger
body than me, or have the same body, and she's
with somebody Like that stuff is so healing and so good,
(49:59):
and I think there should be more of that for sure.
Speaker 1 (50:03):
So yeah, yeah, about you, I feel like, do whatever
you want.
Speaker 3 (50:07):
Just everything that you do has a consequence, right, and
everything that you do just like you want to put
it out there. Great, but you're gonna have a lot
of eyes on you. You want to like, you have a
lot of opinions, do it. I think it is really
cool when you do see couples that you don't think
you would expect to be together, because it does you
do go oh wow, that's so cool that they're together.
Maybe I can have that too. Like sharing your love
(50:28):
shouldn't be a bad thing. I think living in your
own glow shouldn't be a bad thing if those are
your intentions to just celebrate each other.
Speaker 2 (50:35):
Okay, thank you so much for listening to another episode
of the Super Secret Bestie Club podcast. Curly, How can
we find you? On social media?
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